This podcast is for women who are ready for more and want to burn the rule book that’s kept them from getting it. Join me on my mission to redefine the world ‘selfish’ and prove that when women make themselves their number one priority, it will catapult them into the adventure of a lifetime, one that will leave them breathless with excitement, astonished at what they’re capable of, and in awe of the magic that life holds for them. I’m Val Jones, Certified Professional Coach, and in each episode I’ll give you strategies and inspiration to create the life you want, increase your impact, and connect with other badass women who are doing the same. Subscribe and tune in weekly! Real, fun and inspirational, my goal is to have you saying ‘hell yes’ to being a selfish woman.
What if the biggest challenges in your life weren't meant to break you....but to relaunch you?
In today's episode, I sit down with Hilary DeCesare - coach, speaker, and creator of the 3HQ Method - for a deeply honest conversation about what it really takes to rise again in midlife.
From her own vulnerable story of starting over to the tools she uses to help women reconnect with their power, Hilary brings both heart and fire.
She even takes me through her signature 'Tune-In' process live on the podcast - and yes, it works.
If you've ever felt stuck, lost, or like you're getting in your own way, this episode is your sign. There's a path forward, and it doesn't require perfection - just presence, alignment, and a little courage.
Plus, Hilary is offering listeners an exclusive 50% off code to her Relaunch Into A Rich Life Event, happening this September! Details inside the episode and linked below.
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You fed up yet?
Good. That means the fire's here.
In this solo episode, I take you deep into a recent moment where I finally said enough - and buried the version of me who kept mothering everyone but herself.
I walk you through the raw energy behind my new free live event, Fed Up to On Fire, and I soft launch the mantra that's reshaping my movement:
Thank You. Fuck You. I'm Free.
You'll learn how to alchemize frustration into fuel, how to ride the wave of your own rage without drowning in it, and why being fed up isn't a breakdown - it's the beginning of your rise.
If you've been swallowing your truth, people-pleasing your way into exhaustion, and waiting for permission to be selfish, this is your invitation.
Let it burn.
CLICK HERE to join Fed Up to On Fire. June 19th.
This isn't a wellness chat about sobriety.
This is a full-body transmission from inside The Altared State - my 30-day ritual of choosing presence over performance, power over numbing, and pleasure that doesn't need permission.
In this unfiltered episode, I walk you through Days 1 to 6 of the journey. From moss to molasses, from mocktails to jalapeno clarity. I talk about the shame women carry around craving intoxication, and the radical act of becoming the substance we've been reaching for.
If you're tired of outsourcing your aliveness, if you're ready to burn the rules, feel the power, and live at full volume - this one's for you.
It's raw. It's real. It's a little unhinged.
Welcome to The Altared State.
I want to hear what stirred in you.
Email me at valerie@valeriejonescoach.com and tell me what this brought up.
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Hey Selfies,
This one's for the woman who stayed too long.
The woman who confused disappearing with devotion.
The woman who swallowed her truth and called it maturity.
In today's episode, I'm not holding back. I'm calling out the lie we were sold about love, and what it means to reclaim every wild, holy, selfish part of you.
We're talking:
This episode might hurt a little. And then it will free you.
Hit play. Then share it.
Because we don't gatekeep liberation around here.
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In this week's episode I'm joined by feminine business coach and founder of the Earth Flow Method, Jennifer Whitaker, for a grounded, soul-shifting conversation about coming home to your feminine energy.
We explore why so many women stay stuck in their masculine - pushing, hustle, productivity, responsibility - and what becomes possible when we slow down, sync with nature, and allow the wild abundance that's been waiting for us.
Jennifer shares how the rhythms of the Earth are more than metaphors, they're a direct line to your magnetism, your wisdom, and your wealth. She breaks down what seasonal living looks like, how to get out of hustle mode, and offers daily practices that reconnect you to your feminine flow.
If you've ever felt burned out, overextended, or disconnected from yourself - this conversation will feel like a breath of forest air.
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One hundred episodes ago, I hit record.
I didn't know where it would lead - only that something in me had to break free.
Today, it's not a celebration.
It's a summoning.
This episode is the line in the sand.
The mirror.
The match.
The moment everything changes - not just for me, but for you.
Inside this transmission, I speak to the woman who's ready to stop shrinking, stop performing, and stop waiting for someone else to give her permission.
Because you were never broken.
You were just buried.
And now...you're being called back.
The Summons begins May 19.
Seven sacred transmission. My voice in your ear. No fluff. No formulas. Just the truth your soul remembers.
You don't need more information.
You need initiation.
The portal opens soon.
But you already feel it, don't you?
Answer The Summons
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Claim your space. Burn the rulebook. Become the woman your past self never saw coming.
If you feel drained, depleted, and like no matter how much rest you get, you're still exhausted....you're not alone!
You're not tired because life is hard.
You're tired because you're stuck performing.
Performing as the nice girl.
Performing as the easygoing woman.
Performing to keep the peace and please everyone.
This is women's burnout hiding in plain sight - and nobody's talking about it.
In this episode, I reveal the real reason you're so exhausted (spoiler alert: it's not your to-do list), how 'being nice' is slowly draining your energy, and how to stop people pleasing so you can reclaim your power.
You'll learn:
If you're exhausted and over it, this episode will show you how to break free and start living for YOU.
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In this bonus episode, I'm coming to you with sand in my suitcase and rebellion in my bones.
Let's talk about the guilt we feel when we rest. The fear that if we stop, everything will fall apart. The lie that our worth is tied to our productivity.
For years, I couldn't stop.
Raising kids. Building a business. Surviving heartbreak. Rebuilding after divorce (twice). Hustling for my worth every damn day.
And when I finally had space? I didn't know how to exist inside it.
I'm sharing the truth behind what it took for me to feel safe doing less, and why my vacation isn't just a 'break'...it's a power move.
This isn't just a vacation. It's what happens when a woman heals.
So pour yourself a drink, get cozy, and join me for a conversation about reclaiming your time, your peace, and your power.
Leave a review and share this with a woman who never stops. She needs to hear this.
In this fiery sermon of an episode, I'm pulling no punches. We're talking about the invisible leash of patriarchal conditioning and how it keeps powerful women small. I'm not here to make you comfortable. I'm here to remind you who the hell you are.
If you've ever felt like you were too much, too emotional, too ambitious, too independent....guess what? You're not the problem. The system is.
Let this episode be your invitation to remember your power, own your desires, and stop apologizing for who you are. We're not here to play by their rules. We're here to write our own.
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You said you were done.
You blocked them. You deleted the photos.
You told yourself, "I've moved on"
But if you're still feeling the ache, still replaying the memories, still carrying that weight....you're not crazy. You're still tethered.
In this raw and real episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible cords that keep us bound to the past long after we've walked away. This is for the woman who's doing all the 'right' things - healing, journaling, rising - and still feels stuck in the heaviness of what was.
We talk about:
If you've ever felt like you're doing all the work but still can't shake the past, this one's for you. It's not your fault - but it IS your time.
And if this episode speaks to your soul, join me for Untethered, my workshop on April 19 where I will teach you everything you need to know about what's keeping you tied to the past, and guide you through a powerful visualization that will energetically free you.
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What if the reason you feel stuck, numb, or unfulfilled isn't because you're broken, but because the 'good girl' inside you needs to die?
In this fiery and vulnerable episode, I'm inviting you to take a brutally honest look at your life and ask yourself:
What would your eulogy say, if you died today?
This is a wake-up call for every woman who's been trying to do it right, play it safe, be nice, be liked, and perform maturity while secretly suffocating under the weight of it all.
Here's what we dive into:
You don't need more advice. You need to follow your own truth.
This episode will crack you open - and set you free.
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This episode is for every woman who's ever felt guilty about putting herself first.
I'm calling out the 'selfless' lie we've been sold, and the emotional, physical and spiritual cost of people-pleasing your way through life.
If you've been told your worth is in your service, your silence, your sacrifice - this episode is your permission slip to burn that shit down.
I'm sharing the truth about what being selfish really means, how it saved me, and how it can save you too.
Tune in and start choosing yourself - without apology.
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Are you ready to step into the next chapter of your life with confidence, power and purpose?
In this episode I sit down with Lata Hamilton, a Change Leadership and Confidence Expert who went from marketing to leading massive transformations in some of Australia's biggest companies - all while tripling her salary in just three years.
Lata and I dive into the mindset shifts and strategies that help women embrace change, own their worth, and create a life on their terms.
We discuss:
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Fear and self-doubt have been running the show for too long. They keep you stuck second-guessing yourself, and playing small. But what if you could finally break free?
In this episode, we're diving deep into the root causes of fear and self-doubt, why they keep showing up, and - most importantly - what to do about it.
If you're tired of feeling like you're standing in your own way, this episode is your wake up call.
You'll learn:
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Divorce isn't just an ending - it's a transition, and how you navigate it can set the stage for the rest of your life. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Karen Covy, a powerhouse Divorce Coach, lawyer, mediator, author and speaker, who helps high-achieving professionals take control of their divorce like a CEO.
Karen and I dive deep into:
Whether you're in the middle of divorce, considering one, or just want to be prepared for any life transition, this episode is packed with wisdom you won't want to miss.
Listen now and take control of your future!
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Are you ready to make 2025 the year you fully step into your power, prioritize your happiness, and create the life you truly desire? I'm diving into why The Selfish Year is the ultimate reset button you've been waiting for. We'll explore what it really means to choose yourself, and how to start making powerful shifts today. If you've spent years putting everyone else first, this is your invitation to change that - without guilt, without hesitation, and with full confidence in the vibrant, joyful life that's waiting for you.
What you'll learn in this episode:
Ready to make 2025 your Selfish Year?
This is just the beginning. Stay tuned as we'll be diving deep into strategies, mindset shifts, and real-life tools to help you fully embody the Selfish Woman energy.
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COMING SOON: The Selfish Year: The Power of Putting Yourself First publication launches this September! Stay tuned for details on how you can claim your best year yet.
This week's episode is for you, if you're considering divorce or navigating through the process, and the very idea of finances gives you anxiety!
We've got you covered because Jennifer Lee, founder of Modern-Wealth is here!
Jennifer's financial firm focuses on helping individuals navigate transition.
Here's a few of the topics we cover:
Jennifer has over 27 years of experience in the financial services industry and is the author of Squeeze the Juice: Live with Purpose, then Leave a Legacy.
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As we head into the holiday season, you might be feeling like you're hanging on by a thread, holding it together for the family, and wondering if you might be ready to get a divorce.
There's a reason January is called 'Divorce Month'. Once you get through the holidays, you're ready to start asking yourself the hard questions about your relationship and decide if you are going to keep trying, or end it.
In this episode, I'm breaking down the Top Ten reasons for divorce, and what lies behind each of them.
If you're on the fence in your relationship, or you're wondering if you made the right decision to end it, this episode is for you.
Please share this with women in your life who need to hear it. And if you would be so kind as to subscribe that would really help get this podcast out to those who need it!
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Continuing from the previous episode when I talked about Hurricane Helene wrecking my plans, I dive deeper into my life mantra "everything works out" and what that really means when bad things happen.
How is life 'working out' for you, even when bad things happen? Even when the very worst happens?
I'm giving you insight into where your power lies, what your choices are, and how to turn even the biggest, scariest challenges into triumphs.
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Do you feel confused, frustrated or discouraged because you're not seeing the results you want yet?
If so, this episode is for you!
I'm sharing my story about how I've been feeling this way, and why I know it's a sign that the next big level is close!
I'm also giving you the 3 steps you need to take right now, that will get you to that next level faster, and why being selfish is the key to it all.
If you're a regular around here, I know you have big goals and dreams, so you need to listen to this one!
And if you're new, welcome!
Got a question you want me to answer on the pod? Email me!
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There's one thing I know for sure: anyone who's ever gone through transformational change, first had to get tired of their own bullshit.
If you're tired of getting the same results, and you don't want your future to look just like your past, then you need to listen to this episode.
I'm getting real about what my bullshit was that I had to get tired of, and I'm talking about what just might be on your bullshit list that needs to go!
My signature program, Women Rising, is open for enrollment! We begin on September 16, and I want you there!
Check out all the details, payment options and success stories of past participants:
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And if you pay in full before September 9, you can use the code GLOWUP to receive $400 off enrollment, PLUS three 1:1 sessions with me!
Questions? Want to chat? Email me! Valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Commit to yourself and I promise you, by the end of 2024 you will be transformed!
xo
Are you ready for your Inner Glow Up?
If you're tired of feeling lacklustre, bored, overwhelmed, and just going through the motions in your life....
And you long to feel excited, fired up, proud of yourself, successful, and inspired....
And you're ready to chase your dreams, level up, and build the life you deserve....
This episode is for you!
I'm sharing all about why you need an Inner Glow Up first, and then the external glow up happens.
Register for my free Masterclass: The Ultimate Glow Up on August 26/24!
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xo
Have you ever looked back on a relationship and thought to yourself, 'well that was crazy'? And wondered what you were thinking, and what you could possibly learn from it?
In this episode, I'm talking to WOMEN author Chloe Caldwell about the relationship she experienced that led her to write the book, and how the craziness of it all led to her biggest success.
To celebrate the ten-year re-release of WOMEN, we talk about all things love, breakups, divorce, healing and more!
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Our very first man is on the pod!!!
In this episode, I sit down with Katie and Jay Fillmore, and discuss the latest viral debate that's got everyone talking:
If you were alone in the woods, would you rather encounter a man or a bear?
I love how Katie and Jay discuss this on their TikTok account! Jay processes in real time, the awakening to a woman's lived experience, and offers insightful and intelligent commentary.
I know you're going to enjoy this conversation!
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Do you feel stuck, trapped, frustrated in life? Do you know what you need to do, but you're not doing it?
Do you feel confused by all the chatter in your mind, keeping you in fear, doubt and worry?
If so, this episode is for you.
I'm sharing one big reason why you're feeling this way, and what to do about it.
Listen to the end for my challenge for you!
One of the questions I get asked the most, is this:
How do I stop caring what people think???
I'm bringing some tough love, so put on your big girl pants and let's go!
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Who knew that a three minute video could create such a heated debate between the sexes....about sex!
My TikTok video that went viral a couple of weeks ago has resonated with women and angered men.
Why? What is it about women being honest about the reasons they've lost interest in sex that is so polarizing?
Join me for a deep dive!
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How do you heal?
The journey of healing is a deeply personal one that requires trial and error, willingness to fail, and finding your guides along the way.
Crystal Allon has been documenting her healing journey on Tik Tok and inviting her community into the process in real time.
Her vulnerability, realness and curiosity are refreshing and I know you will relate to her story on many levels.
TW: suicide, abuse, substance use
Some of the topics we discuss:
Settle in and enjoy this deeply real conversation!
You know that bitch inside your head that keeps telling you to stay quiet, be nice, don't rock the boat and DEFINITELY don't say no if it's gonna upset someone else?
Yeah, you know.
Well today, it's time to learn what's really going on, why you even have an inner bitch, and what to do about it.
Amy Green Smith is here to rock your world and set you straight about how to get your power back, communicate with clarity, and have big fucking boundaries.
Not only that, she's giving you specific, real life examples of what to say in those situations where you don't know what to say!
We also chat about:
Amy is the compassionate voice of truth that we all need in our lives!
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One year ago I got my divorce papers in the mail.
At the time it was a monumentous occasion! I celebrated big time!
Now, one year later, it's a distant memory.
I'm in a completely different place and the struggle, heartbreak, grief and fear are a thing of the past.
In this episode, I'm sharing four big lessons I learned about going through a big life transition, and why they're critical for you as you face life's challenges.
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"I sure hope this year will be better than last year!"
Sound familiar?
If so, you're leaving your life to fate. Hoping that some external force will intervene on your behalf and magically make your problems disappear and bring you what you want.
Not gonna happen!
It's time to take fate into your own damn hands!
Your dream life will NOT just land in your lap, and this year it's time to make it happen, and I'm here to support you!
So instead of leaving your life to fate, I'm telling you what you need to do instead.
FATE - reinvented.
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If you want 2024 to be YOUR year for a big breakthrough, you've gotta fight for it! And I'm here to help you get it!
Don't leave this year to chance and just accept whatever comes your way.
Get clear on what you want, why you want it, and how you're going to get it.
In this episode, I'm giving you straight talk (as always) about what's required to get the breakthrough you need to get what you want.
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Are you just holding on, waiting for the holidays to be over so that you can restart in January?
Life is challenging, painful, and difficult, and you're feeling discouraged and wondering when it will be YOUR turn to get what you want.
Maybe you're holding on to hope that things will get better.
Or maybe you're holding on to the threads of your sanity!!!
Whatever's going on for you, if you're struggling or feeling challenged in life these days, I have a message for you.
I'm sharing - from my heart to yours - what I want you to know that will give you strength, change your perspective on your situation, and remind you that you will be not only okay, but you will soar!
Love you! xo
She's baaaack!!!!!
Kate Anthony is back and bringing the truth bombs in this incredible episode!
You may remember Kate from Episode 39 (if not, make sure to listen!), and now she's back because her new book, The D Word, is hitting the shelves, and we have much to discuss!
The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage is Kate's incredible book, all about divorce and navigating the choppy waters of this enormous decision. It's a user's guide to divorce...before, during and after.
We talk, laugh and commiserate on so many topics, including:
Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide and creator of the groundbreaking online program Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives. Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate, a Co-Parenting Specialist, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach.
You can find Kate at www.kateanthony.com
The relationship is over and before you can even change your status on Facebook to 'single', you see it....the picture of him with someone new. Your heart drops into your stomach, tears fill your eyes, and rage makes your head feel like it's going to explode.
How could he move on so fast???
Why? What does it mean? How do you process this?
Grab a drink, settle in and let's get you sorted!
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If your life is spinning out of control, everything is moving fast, and you wonder, 'What's the point?' this episode is for you!
It can be hard to connect to your purpose when life moves so fast. The days fly by; you're going through the motions, getting things done, but why? What's it all for?
This episode will revolutionize your perspective on finding and living your purpose!
I talked with Candis Williams about her Slow Year and how it changed her life. She shares her story of slowing down and the dramatic and powerful shifts that allowed her to find her purpose and passion in unexpected ways.
At the end of 2021, Candis embarked on a year of profound transformation that she dubbed The Slow Year and now shares the stories, principles and practices that underpinned this life-changing year through her speaking and coaching programs.
Candis currently hosts a travel show for Carnival Cruise Line, where she explores local culture, cuisine and experiences at various cruise destinations in the Caribbean Sea.
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I spent two weeks in Italy this summer, travelling alone, and I learned so many lessons about myself, and about life. I'm sharing my biggest take aways with you, because I know you'll be able to relate! Settle in, get cozy and let's chat!
(sorry about the terrible audio, I had to record this on my phone)
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Sometimes you just need a little magic.
That's exactly what today's guest, NYT best selling author Anna Kloots, discovered when her marriage ended and she found herself alone and struggling to start over.
Don't miss this poignant, vulnerable and heart felt conversation with Anna as we dive into her latest book, My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act.
We discuss:
Anna Kloots is a New York Times bestselling author who always dreamed of being a Disney princess. Her writing candidly reflects on her travels, relationships, failures, and fantasies, and it may inspire you to move to Paris, like she did.
https://www.annakloots.com/
Sexual dynamics between men and women are complicated! It can seem like one big cosmic joke when we try to figure out how to have a healthy, thriving, mutually satisfying sex life.
If you're in a heterosexual relationship, or you would like to be, this episode is going to change your life!
I talk with Irene Fehr about why so many women believe they are 'broken' and need to 'fix themselves' when it comes to sex, and what is really going on in the bedroom that leads to a breakdown in intimacy.
We get into all the juicy details, including:
Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, SEP, is a Sex & Intimacy Coach who helps couples make love and sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into a sexless one. Irene's views on women's libido and intimacy have been featured in HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Refinery29, ScaryMommy, Elite Daily and Bustle. She is no stranger to her client's issues, having recovered from the all-too-common story of 'happy marriage turned sexless' when she lost her libido - all before turning 30.
https://www.irenefehr.com
If your fear of failing is keeping you playing small in your life, this episode is for you!
Failure is part of the equation of success and if you're not willing to fail you will never get the success you want and deserve. Life is asking you to swing for the fences and get messy!
I'm taking you through my own experience of 'failing' in real time, and sharing my strategies for using failure as fuel to live an intuitive, passionate life.
I'm also giving you my one, simple strategy to use when you fail, that will shift the energy around it and allow your subconscious mind to release the fear and resistance, so you can continue to take the action you know you need to be doing!
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It's time to become the Queen of your life, especially with money!
Becoming empowered with money requires you to change your inner relationship with money first. That's where it all starts. Your energy, your beliefs, your feelings around money....I'm talking about it all!
Let's do this!
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This is one of the most requested topics I get asked to speak about, so let's do this!
Imposter Syndrome is inevitable if you're going for more, breaking the rules, rocking the boat and getting out of status quo. And, if you're a woman, you are twice as likely to experience it.
So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome rears it's head and has you staying small and running for the hills?
Here's what I'm getting into:
Stop allowing Imposter Syndrome to keep you from your purpose and destiny. It's time to rise up and become the woman you are meant to be, so you can create the life you are meant to live!
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Are you sitting on the fence in some area of your life?
Stuck in indecision? One foot in, one foot out, and waiting for something to happen that will kick you into action?
Sitting on the fence can seem like the safest choice, but let's face it, it sucks and it hurts your ass!
You are getting nowhere fast.
It's time to get off the f**king fence and take action!
I'm bringing you my Top Ten List for getting off the fence.
Bring your journal, it's go time!
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I'm coming in hot off the Midlife Reinvention Workshop, and sharing some of the questions the women brought to the call because I know you'll be able to relate!
What does it look like to be a Selfish Woman every day?
I'm giving you two practical ways you can do this!
Here are all the links to the resources I mention on this episode:
June 2023 Women's Retreat
My free FB Community:
Audacity Monthly Membership
Check out my website for Boundaries Bootcamp and all other links and resources!
WTF is inner child work...and why does it matter?
There's a lot of confusion around the term 'inner child'. It can seem 'woo woo', weird, mysterious, or intimidating to consider that you have a little kid inside of you somewhere!
Add in things like 'healing' or 'work' and it gets even weirder!
Whether you're familiar with it or have never heard of it, I'm getting into what it's all about and why it matters to you.
Let's get into it!
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Whatever's going on in your life, I know you will relate to this episode.
I'm sharing the top four reasons why I stayed ten years too long in my marriage.
These four reasons are why so many women tolerate situations that they know need to change but feel like it's impossible to imagine something different.
Maybe it's your relationship, your health, habits, patterns, family, friends, work, finances....
Where are you staying too long and why?
Then I'm sharing what you can do right now, to begin moving towards what you really deserve so you can create the life you're meant to be living!
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I'm all fired up about Miley Cyrus' new song, Flowers! (new anthem for the podcast?)
This song is resonating with women all over the world and it's evidence of the revolution of the Selfish Woman.
Women are waking up to their own power, independence and freedom.
It's time to step into the fullness of who you are and build your life from the inside out.
Please share this episode with as many women as you can!
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Freedom!!!
I talk to thousands of women, and when I ask them what they want the most, this is the resounding answer.
You want to be free!
Whatever freedom means to you, it's your birthright. It's yours for the taking.
But....your freedom isn't free.
There's a cost.
It won't just drop in your lap.
I'm talking about what it's really going to cost you to claim your freedom.
I'm telling you what you need to do to make this the year you set yourself free.
And I'm sharing one BIG way you can make this happen.
Get all the details on Audacity Membership right here!
Studies show that New Years resolutions don't work. I'm sharing a simple practice that I've been doing every year for awhile now, and how it's been a powerful tool to manifest what I want!
Ready to start the new year with vision, intention and alignment?
Grab your journal and let's go!
I am here to support you in 2023!
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I get a lot of SOS calls from clients as the holiday season approaches! Burn out, exhaustion, overwhelm, resentment, anger.....not exactly 'festive'!
Let's be real....a lot of women (moms especially) carry the emotional, physical and mental load over the holidays. It's up to you to create the 'magic' of the season.
This results in a lot of you feeling more naughty than nice!
Let's talk about it!
Do you ever feel like growth is 2 steps forward, 3 steps back? Like you're making headway, seeing results, and then whammo....you're right back where you started?
Good news....you're not!
I'm discussing one of the most common concerns my clients bring to me and why it's totally normal and not only that, it's actually evidence that you're making progress.
New level new devil!
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I lost my brand new phone last week and I just had to share the story with you!
Why was it the best thing ever?
Because it reminded me of three major life lessons that made all the difference in this experience.
I'm sharing these three lessons with you so that you can apply them to any situation life throws at you and create your own magic!
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Do you dream about making a big change? Wonder what it would be like to completely pivot your life, break free from everything familiar, and start fresh?
Stacey Birch did exactly that and is here to tell us all about it! She made a big midlife pivot and you're going to love her story of courage, hilarious adventures, saying 'fuck it' to rules, and the magic that happened along the way!
We also talk about:
How to find the confidence to make big changes when you have no idea what you're doing
Why you must be willing to suck at something
The journey from knowing what you DON'T want, to finding your purpose
The power of changing your mind!
Stacey Birch is a Canadian single mother and career bartender who turned her passion for pups, margaritas and the 'gram into a midlife career pivot! At age 50 she moved to Mexico, healed herself through dog rescue, and started a thriving social media business.
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You have an inner GPS and it's the key to creating what you want. But if you don't know how to find it, or how to use it, you're going to waste a lot of time traveling in circles, making U-turns, and ending up in ditches.
Don't sweat it....I'm giving you the User's Manual to your inner GPS!
Learn how to know your destination, listen for directions, and take action that actually gets you where you want to go.
Also, I'm explaining the major reason why you struggle to make changes and realize your dreams, and it may just blow your mind!
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You can't create an incredible life if you don't feel incredible now.
Waiting to 'feel' it? You'll be waiting forever.
You have to download the belief first. The feelings will come second.
In this episode I'm showing you the delusion you're already experiencing, and why you need to become delusional in a completely different way in order to experience lasting change and growth.
Change your beliefs about money right now with my course, Mindset, Manifestation & Money
We're all working on our healing and growth, and it sure can be lonely at times. But it doesn't have to be!
Leslie Saglio and I discuss why women have been programmed to be 'lone wolves' and believe that we have to do everything by ourselves and why it's so hard to ask for help.
She tells her own story of the turning point that catapulted her into healing and made her realize the power of community.
We talk about the 'Mother Wound' that all women must heal in order to be able to join together in safe spaces with other women.
If you've ever felt lonely, isolated, and like 'you're the only one', this conversation will heal, soothe, and nurture your soul and remind you that we are all walking each other home.
With expertise spanning nearly two decades, from Hollywood executive to startup co-founder, Leslie is a global expert in women's empowerment and embodied feminine leadership.
Leslie is a Tedx speaker, certified trauma-informed master coach, creator of the Feminine Power & Purpose Collective, and founder of the On Purpose Collective.
http://lesliesaglio.com/freegift
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesliesaglio
A special kind of magic happened when Jen and I sat together for this talk.
The kind of magic that occurs when women connect on so many levels and share their stories and truths.
I don't want to give too much away but here are some teasers!
we discuss our collective trauma from the pandemic and what we must do in order to heal and move forwards
we share our experiences of leaving marriages and moving out in the middle of the lockdown
how to forgive ourselves, so we can become whole
we develop our Apple Pie Theory on healing!
Settle in and share in the magic.
Presenter and author Jen Rafferty started her teaching career as a middle school teacher in Central New York for 15 years. She founded Empowered Educator in 2020 as a response to teacher burnout during the pandemic.
Since it's inception, Empowered Educator has reached teachers and school leaders all over the world. Jen has been featured in Authority Magazine, Thrive Global, and will be featured on the Tedx stage in October 2022. She is the author of the Amazon bestseller, A Place in the Staff: Finding Your Way as a Music Teacher.
https://empowerededucator.com
You're hungry for more.
You have longings, desires, dreams.
Your hunger may have been buried under obligation, responsibility, duty, people pleasing, and hurt.
But it's still there and I want you to tap into it.
Because that hunger is what's going to drive you to make all your dreams come true.
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Do you wish you could say out loud all the things you're thinking? But you hold it in because you've been raised to be the good girl, the nice one, the people pleaser?
Vivian Kaye is going to say it for you!
Vivian doesn't hold back and I've never laughed so hard as I do in this episode! Vivian tells the truth about all the things, from motherhood, dating, boundaries, empowerment and more and she tells it with humour, compassion and wisdom.
Prepare to become a big Viv fan!
Vivan Kaye is the founder and CEO of KinkyCurlyYaki, a premium textured hair extension brand for Black women that she bootstrapped to over $6 million in revenue as an immigrant, college dropout and single mom.
Vivian is also a business and empowerment expert, as well as a TV, radio and podcast personality
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Let's chat about 'success', shall we?
And how there's no such thing as 'an overnight success'.
Whatever your version of success looks like, in any area of your life, it requires you to be willing to dismantle the old you, strip away all the stuff that's been holding you back, and simmer in the goo of transformation.
I felt inspired to share a bit of my story with you because I believe we all need to remember the reality of what's required to get what we want.
No notes. No preparation.
Just you, me, and a good heart to heart chat.
Settle in, grab your favourite beverage, and stay awhile.
Love you xo
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Our stories are powerful. They inspire, uplift, give hope and remind us we're not alone.
This episode is all about the power and change that happens when women gather and tell our stories, and how important it is to give the spotlight to marginalized women so they can be seen, heard, celebrated and supported.
Join this riveting discussion with Amy & Nancy Harrington:
We talk about how two introvert sisters talk to people for a living!
I ask them about their most inspiring interviews
They share the magic that happened when they kept saying 'yes' even when they didn't know 'how'
What happens when we surround ourselves with inspiring, powerful women!
Amy & Nancy Harrington founded The Passionistas Project to shine a light on women who are following their passions to inspire other women to do the same.
Before starting The Passionistas Project, Amy was VP of Visual Effects & Post Production for all feature films at Warner Bros. Nancy produced Academy Awards campaigns for Miramax. Together they founded The Pop Culture Passionistas and worked with The Television Academy Foundation, The Rock & Roll Hall of Fame and were hand picked to be part of an intimate digital press corps with Oprah's Lifeclass. They have conducted and/or produced over 1,400 interviews including over 60 one-on-one in depth oral histories and hundreds of red carpet interviews at the Emmys including Mick Jagger, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Deepak Chopra, Carol Burnett and more.
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How I reinvented myself...and how you can too.
Reinvent yourself at any age and any stage!
That woman who's living her best life, free to live authentically and walking in integrity - she's done some deep work to make it possible.
Because life has a way of stuffing women into boxes, ones that don't fit and you were never meant to be inside of.
And then one day you wake up and realize you've been trying to contort yourself into boxes that other people, society, or the patriarchy gave you and you're tired of living life for everyone else!
That's when a reinvention is required!
Are you ready to reinvent yourself? Don't miss this first episode of Season Two because I'm sharing stories of my own reinvention and introducing what I've created for you so that you can reinvent yourself too!
I dive into:
What it means to reinvent yourself & why it's so powerful
How to know if you're ready for a reinvention
2 questions to ask yourself around what you need to let go of so you can rise
Introducing my new program!
Check out all the details of Women Rising, my 3 month group program:
https://mailchi.mp/7ea27d014ec8/women-rising
Higher Self Meditation:
https://youtu.be/yg3CJ7Zb55o
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The end of summer is always bittersweet.
Take some time to mark the end of the season with me and then look ahead to what's next!
I'm giving you some powerful questions to journal about that will help you get all the learning and growth from your summer.
Then we're looking forward to what's next as the year draws to a close.
Women Rising 3 month group program:
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Facebook group:
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Summer is drawing to a close....it always zips by so fast, doesn't it?
All the more reason to practice being present so you don't miss the magical, tiny moments that make summer so special!
Being present is one of the key strategies to life....not only this summer, but every day. Practicing presence is what will allow you to connect with your people in more meaningful ways, feel and appreciate the deep beauty of your life as it unfolds, and stay grounded and connected to your power.
I'm giving you simple strategies that you can apply daily to grow your ability to be present!
Also if you're listening on August 22nd and you want in on Ditch the Drama Masterclass, here's the link to register:
https://mailchi.mp/ccf5e8cc8bf8/ditchthedrama
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Have you forgotten how to have fun? Do you feel like you've lost the 'fun you'?
It's easy for life to become all about the 'to-do list', responsibilities, and stress. Fun drops to the bottom of the laundry pile. You don't have time for fun! Gotta get shit done!
Problem is, without fun, life gets way too serious, you become mired down in 'adulting', and you lose the zestiness that makes each day feel special, magical, and connecting.
Fun is found in the small moments, when you're fully present. Not focused on the past or the future. And it requires intention.
I'm bringing you my strategies to create more fun in every day, and especially this summer!!
Consider this your permission slip to have fun!
Please subscribe, share and leave a review!
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Summer is a tricky season, isn't it? On the one hand we love the weather, vacations and everything that comes with it. On the other hand, we are dealing with swimsuits, exposing more of our bodies, and the inevitable comparison that comes with it.
Comparison sucks because it keeps you focused on what you don't like about yourself and this is NOT the vibe anymore! I want you to bust out of 'comparison-itis' so you can enjoy your summer, love yourself more, and wear the shorts!
I'm giving you my top 6 strategies to stop comparing and start accepting and loving yourself instead!
I'm also giving you my one Secret Super Power Strategy that's going to change everything for you when it comes to comparing yourself to others!
Email me with your burning questions!
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Let's be real, there's gonna be hard days this summer, just like any other season. And while you're on this journey of creating a Selfish Summer, the hard days may feel discouraging.
I'm giving you a fresh perspective on the hard days, so that you are equipped to deal with them and recover quickly back to joy!
I share about the hard days I experienced this week and what I did about it
my 4 step strategy for moving through the hard days, and the challenging emotions that come with them.
grab your journal, you're going to want to take notes!
Want to share your feedback? Your favourite take away? Got a question? Email me!
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Only a couple spots left for the Women's Retreat! Peek the details here:
https://mailchi.mp/946b099c65a1/womens-retreat-2022
You want to be happier! This is the universal desire of every human, and it's our birthright. So why is it so elusive? And how can you possibly feel happier, when you've got so much going on that's stressful, challenging or painful? Is it possible to feel happier when the news tells us to feel otherwise?
You deserve to be happy, and this summer is a great time to be intentional about cultivating more of it! You've got to fight for your happiness, and I'm giving you the strategies to do it!
Grab your journal, listen up, and get happy babe!
Want support to get happier? Join my Facebook Group, The Radical Women Collective!
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Email me with your comments & questions!
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Check out the Women's Retreat here:
https://mailchi.mp/946b099c65a1/womens-retreat-2022
If you've been feeling a little less than inspired these days, or you want to amp up your inspo this summer, I've got you covered!
Feeling inspired is essential to designing your life. Without it, your goals and desires will come from what you think you 'should' be doing, instead of what lights you up. And your cute little brain will try to figure it all out and keep you confused, or talk you out of it because it's too big and scary!
Summer is the best time to be inspired! It's the season of romance, heat, sexiness, fun, pleasure and dreams! (or at least, that's what we want it to be...am I right??)
I'm giving you some simple strategies that will get you inspired right now, and keep the momentum going all summer long, so that by the end of this season, you're going to be ready to go into the rest of the year with fresh, excited energy!
Email me your 'Power of 5'! (this will make sense after you listen)
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Keep the inspiration going and sign up for the Women's Retreat this fall! Peek all the details here:
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It's the Summer of Self Love!
How's your self love game? Does it seem elusive and confusing to 'love yourself'? Do you wonder what that really means, and how you're supposed to 'just love yourself more'?
I'm bringing you one powerful perspective that's going to be a game changer for you!
what self love really means
why self love is the key to everything
practical action steps to fall more in love with yourself this summer!
Grab your journal and get ready to fall in love!
Want me to answer your question on the pod? Email me!
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Welcome to Selfish Summer 2022!
All summer long I'm bringing you weekly mini episodes to keep you focused on showing up for yourself, finding moments of pleasure and joy, and continuing your growth journey!
This week I'm kicking things off by helping you set your intentions for the season. You don't need another 'to-do list', am I right?! So instead, I'm giving you your 'Hell Yes/Hell No List'!
Grab your journal and craft your summer intentions!
I'd love to know what you come up with....email me!
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Join my Facebook Group for more inspo and support this summer!
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There are so many times in life when we are called to start over. Sometimes it's the big stuff - relationships, career, health, finances, healing. And sometimes it's the small stuff - having another difficult conversation, setting a boundary, getting back to your morning routine, or cleaning that fucking garage one more time!
Starting over is hard, because change is hard.
I'm sharing my starting-over-stories and what I've learned along the way, and my top strategies to support you in starting over...yet again!
I share what I know now, that I wish I'd known when I started over and left my first marriage
why you need a tool kit for the journey and what to put inside!
what to do if you want to start over, but you can't see the way forwards
Bring your journal to this episode, you're going to want to take notes!
If you have a topic you'd love to hear me discuss, or a question you want me to answer, email me!
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
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If you are ready to start over and learn how to set boundaries like a bad ass, take my course: Boundaries Bootcamp!
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Curious about this whole 'manifesting' thing? Wondering what the hell everyone's talking about? Or, have you been manifesting for awhile and not seeing results?
This week's episode is a deep dive into spirituality, manifesting and some real talk about what's actually required in order to design an authentic life!
Milli Fox shares her vulnerable and powerful story of how she became 'Manifesting Milli', and it may surprise you!
Milli shares so many powerful lessons with us:
What is spiritual bypassing?
How to develop spiritual practices that bring real results
Why eradicating shame is key to manifesting
The value of play and pleasure!
Milli Fox is obsessed with all things self-worth and manifestation. Think Brene Brown meets Gabby Bernstein with a sprinkle of goofy on top! She has a vision for each woman she works with and helps them manifest that vision. She aims to raise the collective consciousness and heal generational trauma through her programs and internet dance parties.
Grab her free 5 Minute Manifestation Method for Moms!
https://offers.millifox.com/5-minute-manifestation
Should you stay or should you go?
Kate Anthony is here to discuss this critical question that has many women stuck in limbo, wondering what to do when their marriage isn't working anymore. She brings her fiery truth telling to the table and holds nothing back in this funny, relatable and wisdom-packed conversation.
What keeps women staying in toxic relationships
Why marriage is set up to benefit men but not women
'Not your fucking job'....Kate tells us the truth we all need to hear!
Important things to consider when deciding to stay or go
Kate Anthony is the host of the New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide and creator of the groundbreaking coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work.
https://www.kateanthony.com
I'm talking with you about why 'being nice' isn't a great goal for yourself, and what is a better goal that will empower you and keep you showing up bigger in your life! So many women have been conditioned to be nice, and it's a big bunch of BS.
why nice isn't the goal anymore!
how 'nice' may be showing up in your life & relationships
I share a better goal that will serve your growth and authenticity
I'm telling a funny story about the moment I realized I'd overcome my own 'be nice' conditioning!
Connect with me on Instagram!
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And on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/radicalwomen
Join the Women's Retreat! Still a couple of spots left
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What is trauma? How do you know if you have it? And how do you heal and recover? Join this intimate & beautiful conversation with Sara Beth Wald as she walks us through the minefield of trauma and how we can heal ourselves and our relationships with others.
We discuss:
what is trauma...and what it isn't
the power of speaking about our trauma in safe spaces
why community is so important to our healing
the gift of conflict
her framework for Redefining Love: Boundaries, Authenticity & Grace
Sara Beth Wald is passionate about helping women overcome domestic violence, abuse, divorce and as a trauma survivor herself, believes in the healing power of truth telling. Through Boundaries & Trauma Coaching, she teaches people how to set boundaries and hold themselves and others accountable with love and grace.
https://www.redefine-love.com
In this episode, I'm talking about the stories you tell yourself (and everyone else) about what's going on in your life, and how it's not serving your growth. If you're stuck in the story, you're re-creating the same experience over and over, which keeps you from creating anything new. It's time to write a new story for your life! One that reflects the truth of who you are, the future you deserve, and the fabulousness that lies within!
I'm giving you one big assignment to do this week that will literally change your experience of yourself and your life. Grab your journal and join me!
Got a suggestion for a podcast topic? Let me know!
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Interested in the upcoming Women's Retreat? Check it out!
https://mailchi.mp/946b099c65a1/womens-retreat-2022
Find me on Instagram www.instagram.com/msvaljones
And TikTok!
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TW: Eating Disorder
Food. Weight. Body.
What do these words bring up for you? If you're like most women these are loaded words that trigger us into shame, guilt, and fear. Our relationship with food and our bodies is complex, and can feel overwhelming, hopeless and lonely.
Renae tells us the truth about it all, and gives us the hope and belief we need that freedom with food is completely possible! She brings a dose of real deal talk, laughter and understanding to this powerful conversation!
Renae shares her journey out of disordered eating, drinking & body shame into freedom and joy
Why it's so hard for women to get out of the diet mentality
What's possible when you get free of restriction and control
Renae Saager is a health and life coach and emotional eating expert who teaches go-getter women around the world how to live a powerful, authentic life free from food & weight obsession.
www.instagram.com/renaesaager
www.renaesaager.com
Do you struggle with self trust? Is it hard to make decisions, you get stuck in analysis paralysis, your fears keep you doubting yourself? Building self trust is the key to changing all of this. Learning to tune into your inner GPS unlocks your potential to realize your biggest dreams.
In today's episode I'm breaking this down and giving you guidance on the path back home to yourself.
how to know if you lack self trust!
I share a couple of my wake up calls that proved to me I didn't trust myself like I thought I did
What I did to rebuild trust
What to do right now to start building self trust
Join me on the Women's Retreat!
https://mailchi.mp/946b099c65a1/womens-retreat-2022
Today I talk with Lillian about how she lost everything and found herself.
how being selfish shows your kids what's really important
her biggest lesson in the loss was about herself
how to reverse engineer your life so that you can reach your biggest potential and create a legacy
Lillian Victoria is an Entertainment Executive turned High Power Coach. She works with high achievers who have experienced loss to help them see a clear path to their goals and turn them into reality.
www.awesomenesslifestyle.com
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Don't miss this very special episode with the fabulous Cara Alwill! Cara was my coach in 2021 and was instrumental in the birth of this podcast. I'm so excited to bring you this powerful conversation that will give you a mega dose of empowerment, inspiration and a kick in the ass to get out there and design life on YOUR terms! We talk about:
What got her through her darkest times
Why you need to be your own Sugar Daddy
How to stop being a bitch to yourself and start being your own hype squad
champagne & Chanel = self love
Cara Alwill is a NYC based creative entrepreneur who encourages women to live their most effervescent lives, celebrate themselves everyday, and make their happiness a priority. She is a bestselling author, mentor to women entrepreneurs, and creator of The Champagne Diet blog. Over 8 million listeners worldwide tune into Cara's podcast, Style Your Mind. Cara is the author of 9 bestselling books including the worldwide sensation, Girl Code.
www.thechampagnediet.com
www.instagramcom/thechampagnediet
Do you wish you could be more calm and trusting when life goes sideways?
Do you get stuck in overthinking, analysis paralysis, and 'what if'? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop?
In this episode, I'm going to help you tap into a mindset that will keep you calm and cool, even when shit hits the fan.
I'm sharing the #1 mindset hack I've been using for two years, and how it's changed my life on every level.
Get ready to take notes, because this is a good one!
I also share about the upcoming Women's Retreat on Vancouver Island, BC. I'd love to have you join us!
Click the link for all the details:
https://mailchi.mp/946b099c65a1/womens-retreat-2022
Got a big juicy goal that seems impossible? Keep putting it on the shelf because you can't see the path to making it real? Bring it to this episode because I'm talking about how you're going to get it and it all has to do with you....being more YOU!
why you may be living a watered down version of yourself
why it's keeping you from your full potential
what to do about it!
my experiment in being more ME and what happened
juicy journal prompts!
Practice being more YOU in a safe space....my FB group!
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Have you taken Boundaries Bootcamp yet?
https://mailchi.mp/1665c04c3591/boundariesbootcamp
Think you know pleasure? Think again! Julia Hollenbery takes us to pleasure school!
Julia shows us how pleasure can heal us and make every moment delicious. If you feel like life has gotten a little lackluster, dive into this episode and let Julia show you how every moment holds an abundance of pleasure!
Julia is a spiritual therapist and author of The Healing Power of Pleasure: Seven Medicines for Rediscovering the Innate Joy of Being. She is your guide to feeling at home in your self, your body and your life.
https://universeofdeliciousness.com
Embrace your inner narcissist!
WTF? Listen and find out!
Antia Boyd is in the house, and she's bringing the fire in this discussion about men, dating, relationships and how we can step into our power and get what we want!
We talk about:
how being selfish gets us the relationship we deserve
the difference between being 'liked' and being 'respected'
the B.I.T.C.H. Code!
And of course we have lots of fun and share our own stories of dating & relationships!
Antia was born in communist East Germany before the wall came down, and was single her entire life before she discovered the 'Magnetize Your Man' Method and attracted her husband. She now helps women attract a loving, long term relationship ASAP!
https://magnetizeyourman.com
B.I.T.C.H. Code Breakdown!
Boundaries, Intuition, Trust, Confidence, Harmony
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Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on the planet! It can be full of anxiety, worry and frustration for parents, not to mention confusing....like, where's the parenting manual?? Have no fear, Kim Muench is here to walk us through the parenting minefield. She is the voice of reason and calm guidance every parent needs! Kim brings her deep wisdom, raw vulnerability and expertise to this conversation that will remind you that you're not alone in this journey of raising the next generation.
Kim shares:
the real 'parenting manual'
her amazing story of guiding her children through major challenges
how to not parent like your parents!
real talk about what we are modelling in our parenting styles
Kim Muench is the author of Becoming Me While Raising You - a mother's journey to herself. Kim is passionate about educating and supporting her clients to raise their children with intention and guidance rather than fear and control. Kim's experience raising five children and years of coaching other parents empowers her to lead her clients with compassion and without judgement into healthier, happier, more functional relationships.
www.reallifeparentguide.com
Is it hard to say no? Do you find yourself in overwhelm, resentment, or feeling taken advantage of? Do you struggle with people pleasing? If so, you're going to LOVE this episode, because it's all about boundaries!
I'm sharing some key principles from my new course, Boundaries Bootcamp! It's a self study video series that gives you everything you need to know to become a boundaries bad ass!
how to know if you need to work on your boundaries
how to enforce a boundary!
the payoff of doing the work to incorporate healthy boundaries in ALL your relationships
(these strategies don't apply if you are in an abusive relationship. If you are, please contact your local DV hotline for support)
Boundaries are essential for a healthy relationship! Get your booty into Boundaries Bootcamp!
https://mail.chimp/1665c04c3591/boundariesbootcamp
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You've read all the self help books. Maybe you've gone to therapy. You have a good understanding of why you struggle in certain areas or find yourself in patterns and limiting experiences.
Now what the hell do you do about it?
I'm breaking down what I call, 'the work', and what it really requires to achieve your goals and dreams, and finally be free of what holds you back.
Ready to do the work?
Book a consultation with me to discuss working together!
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Join this dynamic conversation with Corrie as she shares her journey out of traumatic & pivotal life events into becoming a successful entrepreneur with a TedX Talk and building a family. She will inspire you to go for your dreams with gusto, courage and tenacity! We talk about:
how her failures led to her biggest success
the truth about getting confident
how to find your purpose and live it with grace, courage & balance
Corrie LoGiudice helps people recognize and capitalize on their talents, no matter their circumstances. As a business strategist, high performance coach and professional keynote speaker, Corrie has been featured in major media outlets such as TedX, Girlboss, Business Insider, Thrive Global, and the Mighty.
www.corrielo.com
www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo
If you've ever found yourself in a dark place, where it felt like you had no options, and you couldn't see the way out, this episode will speak to you! Karen and I go deep into the trap of being selfless and the pain it creates in our lives. We also talk about the amazing possibilities and miracles that happen when women choose to be selfish. - Karen shares the 'diet' that helped her lose 100 pounds (hint: it's not about the food!) - she gives us real time solutions for changing your self talk (bring your journal!)
Karen is a retired nurse who struggled for 30 years with food and weight, trying diet after diet and failing every time. At 42, she was burned out, physically and mentally unwell, and had thoughts of ending her life. When she finally got the help she needed, she realized that if she couldn't change her circumstances, she had to change her thoughts and emotions and take back control of her life. She found the confidence and self-worth to leave her unhealthy marriage, lose 100 pounds, and change her life. Karen's passion is helping others find this same freedom.
https://karenschaible.com
Jene' and I take a rip roaring ride through her powerful life story and the lessons she's learned along the way, that she wrote about in her book, The Oat Project: How I Faced My Fear & Came of Age In One Wild Summer.
she shares her journey out of religion and into personal freedom
we talk about having grace and compassion for ourselves, even when it feels like we don't deserve it
Jene will keep you laughing as she shares stories of getting wild
Jene Jackson is the author of The Oat Project, a memoir about how she finally sowed her wild oats, doing 25 things her preacher's daughter upbringing never allowed, at the ripe age of 37 and a mother of three. Jene can be found photographing, belly laughing with friends, making art, singing jazz, or squeezing words from her teenage children while driving them around.
https://www.jenejackson.com
If you feel stuck in a hamster wheel, doing the same things day after day, and you want more but can't imagine anything different, let alone creating a big vision for what's possible for you....I've got you!
I'm talking about one major thing that's keeping you from being able to have vision, dreams and goals, and what you can do about it.
why you're stuck in old thinking, emotions and behaviours
what needs to happen first so you can feel inspired & see possibility
journal time! One powerful tool I give to all my clients!
Curious about what working with me would be like? Reach out to schedule a complimentary consultation
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
A magical life is available to everyone, if you want it. Whatever 'magic' means to you, the only thing standing your way of experiencing it in your reality....is you.
I share the one powerful phrase I live by and give to all of my clients that shifts your perspective about what's possible for you
how I've brought more magic into my life than ever before
journal prompts for you to design your magical life and begin creating it, right now!
If you want a life that lights you up, turns you on and excites the F out of you, don't miss this episode!
This was such a beautiful and deep conversation with Kylie!
Kylie was my coach in the middle of my Selfish Experiment of 2020. She played an integral role in my transformation and gave me incredible guidance during some of my darkest times, most of which she had no idea I was going through!
Kylie teaches us about Human Design, what it is, and how powerful it can be in our lives.
I tell the story of a session with Kylie that changed my life
She shares the biggest way we hold ourselves back
Kylie shares her darkest moment that led to a huge turning point
Kylie is a Human Design and Energetics Business Mentor. Her focus is on helping spiritual leaders and visionary women connect with their soul gifts, create a hot AF relationship with money and authentically show up online with soulful launching and selling.
www.instagram.com/kylie_nel
Join us for this deep dive into divorce as we explore the complexities of this major life transition. Leah shares her own experience of divorce and how she navigated leaving, healing and finding love again. She offers deep wisdom, advice and hope for all women who may be considering divorce, going through it, or trying to recover on the other side.
why women initiate divorce far more than men
I share my own experiences of two divorces
what women need the most when they are going through it
the incredible opportunity that waits on the other side!
Leah Marie is a Certified Divorce Coach for women who specializes in helping them recover and heal after divorce.
https://www.mindfullyready.com
https://www.instagram/mindfullyready
We've been given SO many rules, as women, that are running in our subconscious and determining our actions. In order to become free, empowered and impactful, we need to burn the rulebook and start living from the inside out.
what's in YOUR rulebook?
how have the rules kept you caged?
grab a match and start the fire!
I share some of the rules I've burned and the results!
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Moms, this one's for you! Sasha Morozov and I discuss why it's so hard for busy moms to find time for themselves, and how to create a home life that not only functions well but feels peaceful...yes, it's possible!! And finding time for yourself too....is it a dream? Not when you have Sasha here to tell you how! She's a dynamo, so buckle up and get ready for a dose of energy, wisdom and fun!
the world needs happier moms and so do our families. We get into how that can happen
super simple hacks to make your home life run smoother and give you more time to have fun
the crazy ways moms stress themselves out and what to do about it!
Sasha Morozov is a former executive and founder of Sasha x Home.
Sasha helps women have more time, less clutter, and systems for a peaceful life. She's developed a 4 step method that focuses on Self, Home, Relationships & Systems to help moms hit start on the life they've put on pause.
https://www.sashaxhome.com
If you feel like fear is running your life, and you really want to go for your goals & dreams BUT feel paralyzed with fear, (and honestly who can relate??) listen up!!!
why fear is so powerful
it's not the enemy, but actually you're biggest ally!
a couple of stories about my own experience with fear and the massive transformation that happened when I used fear for my growth!
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valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Just in time for Valentines Day! Christine and I have a LOT of laughs and fun as we discuss how being selfish can help us find love!
how do independent women navigate the dating world and stay sane?
why doing our work to heal is the #1 way to have a healthy relationship
how we are sabotaging our success in finding 'THE ONE'
I share some of my dating stories from the last year!
Christine Chang is a bestselling author and speaker based in Los Angeles. Her book, 'Show Up: Finding Love for Independent Women' has helped thousands of professional women all over the world create the relationship of their dreams. Christine brings calmness, ease, humour and simplicity to relationships.
https://www.instagram.com/cchangandco
What does an uplevel look like? How do you know when it's coming, and what do you do to keep moving forwards and gaining momentum? I'm getting into all of it!
life is like a video game...here's why
why the last 2 years have you in the perfect place to experience major growth this year!
don't stop, don't quit, keep going!
Interested in working with me 1:1? Let's talk about it! Email me to set up a free consultation:
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You've got dreams. What's it going to take to make them a reality?
This ain't Disney, and we don't have a magic wand.
Are your dreams sitting on the 'someday shelf'?
The difference between passive change & intentional change
Being selfish means sometimes doing hard things!
Are we besties on IG yet?
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Join my talk with Larissa Nicole as we discuss women's complicated relationship with food, diets and...yes, BREAD! She teaches us how to create healthy habits while still enjoying the F*ck out of life, trusting ourselves instead of meal plans, and 'leaping before you look.' - why are we always looking for the next diet?
weight loss is the 'happy by-product' of loving ourselves
the tough love we need to hear about creating lasting change
Larissa Nicole is the founder/CEO of Larissa Nicole Fitness, a certified personal trainer, nutrition coach, metabolism expert and food blogger. Having lost over 60 pounds and overcome body dysmorphia and disordered eating, she merges her Italian roots and love of food with her professional background to teach other female foodies how they can sustainably build their dream bodies without having to diet or eliminate foods they love.
https://www.larissanicolefitness.com
https://www.instagram/larissanicolefitness
Free Masterclass "The Three Keys to Building A Bulletproof Metabolism"
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If you worry that putting yourself first means you're a narcissist, or that OTHERS will think you're a narcissist, you're not alone!
I'm going to prove to you that it's not only not true, but why you never have to ask yourself this question again.
why you're worried that being selfish is narcissistic
what a true narcissist is
grab your journal, because I'm going to give you some BETTER questions to ask yourself
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TW: Eating Disorders
Join Rory Sadoff as we have a raw honest talk about recovery, healing & relationships, and improving our experience of being human.
what's in the way of our ability to feel happy and powerful
how to process emotions safely
a powerful story about anger
relationship struggles & gifts
About Rory:
Rory Sadoff is a Functional Health Coach & Somatic Practitioner whose main focus is nourishing the mind, body & soul as one connected system. Rory provides clients with the tools, support, techniques & exercises needed to radically shift their human experience, navigate the ins & outs of the world and step into their most embodied self. She helps clients discover sustainable results whether it's health, nervous system or emotional resiliency.
https://www.rcscoach.com
https://www.instagram.com/rory_cassandra
We are busy women with a LOT on our plates! Add in a pandemic and we are stressed!
How do we care for ourselves through it all.....and maybe more importantly, WHY does it matter?
Join this inspiring and information-packed conversation with Dr. Tamara Beckford as we discuss:
Why self care matters when it's so easy to put it on the last of our to-do list
How she had a calm and peaceful 2021, when it was also her busiest and most stressful year.
Why our excuse about 'not having enough time' to care for ourselves is not true, and what we can do instead
If you're a mom of young kids, you'll love hearing how Dr. Beckford prioritizes herself while raising two young children, being a full time ER doc, an entrepreneur, wife and supportive colleague and friend.
About Dr. Beckford:
Dr. Tamara Beckford is a wife, mother and board-certified emergency physician. Dr. Beckford has more than a decade of experience working in emergency rooms across the US. She is the founder and CEO of UR Caring Society where she helps busy professional women put self care & wellness first for two hours per month without feeling guilty. Dr. Beckford is the host of the Docs Who Care podcast where she interviews doctors from all over the world and discusses common medical conditions in a fun and easy-to-understand way. Recently, she has been on the frontlines battling the rise of Covid in the community.
Connect with Dr. Beckford:
https://urcaringdocs.com
https://link.tree/URcaringdocs
How does putting ourselves first help us achieve our goals?
Jenny Ambrose, founder & CEO of award winning design science & strategy studio, Puree Fantastico, is here to tell us how. She is a walking example of how to be successful, create amazing opportunity and go for your dreams by being selfish.
We discuss:
how to be relentlessly joyful
why the things that bring us pleasure and happiness are what the world needs
how the hardest times in our lives can be the doorway to magic
what it means to give ourselves extravagant permission to be our full selves
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I'm calling bullshit on 'New Year New You'! You don't need to become a new you because who you are right now is perfect, you're not broken!!!
Instead, let's embrace 'New Year, Same You'
You just need to clear out some of the shit that's covering up the magnificence of who You are. Your Inner Being holds everything you need to have everything you desire.
I get into:
why the idea of a 'new you' is tempting but doesn't work.
why YOU are not broken & don't need fixing
what is really holding you back from reaching your goals (hint: it's not because you're lazy or lack discipline!)
how to bring forth the real YOU this year!
Want to create a powerful, magical year?? Ready to clear what's holding you back, connect to your power and blow the doors off 2022? Here's how to work with me!
My private coaching practice is the container for unleashing your magic. It's a 6 month one-on-one experience where we work together to bring clarity to what's been holding you back, clear it out, create a deeper connection to your self, and build practices that sustain lasting growth. My clients say it's "life changing" and "transformational", and have said that I am a "modern day Shaman". If you are interested, I would love to chat with you on a complimentary consultation to see if we are a good fit to work together. You can book your free call right here!
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Here's to a magical year! xo
Why do we 'should' on ourselves??
I share a couple stories from my own 'should-ing' and what I learned!
Grab your journal, I've got some questions for you to help you move out of the 'should' place and into freedom, joy and authenticity!
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Are you a people pleaser?
I call myself a RPP (Recovering People Pleaser) and I'm getting into it!
What is people pleasing anyways?
Why you struggle with it
The shocking realization I had that changed everything
What's on the other side of recovery
Let's go!
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Welcome to the pilot episode of The Selfish Woman! I'm so glad you're here with me. Join me today as I share why I call it The Selfish Woman, a bit about my own journey to discovering the power of putting myself first, and why it matters!
This episode is for you if you want to know:
Why selfish is the key to everything
What buying into the selfless belief has cost us as women
Why I began experimenting with being selfish, and what happened
Let's do this!
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