I’m all for conversations about the hustle, striving to new levels, and adding more letters behind our name. But I also want to discuss things we typically don’t mention like juggling goals along with spouse and parental duties, battling imposter syndrome, struggling with survivor’s remorse, feelings of self-doubt, and other emotions we encounter on our journey. This podcast isn’t to glorify those things, but it is here to bridge experiences. Join me as I connect with some dope people who share their stories, moments of self-discovery, and personal experiences... this is beyond the resume.
Welcome to another episode of Beyond the Resume. Today we are pulling from the book of Life, chapter 2024 Visions. Before you break out those vision board kits consisting of scissors, magazines, glue sticks, and the white 12 X 12 cardboard piece,let's ensure we are focusing on the right thing. Over the years I've learned firsthand the difference between being influenced and inspired. Inspiration typically drives me to dive deeper into my endeavors. However, influences tend to pull me away and cause distractions.
As we embark on 2024 and build out our 2024 goals and aspirations, let's make sure we are following these 2 principles:
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This week's conversation is from the Book of Business. This is one I had to pull from the archives. This isn't your typical real estate success story. I had the pleasure of sitting down with a good friend of mine Deontae Posley aka @theroommateinvestor. Deontae breaks down how at age 31 he created a multi-million real estate business by literally renting out single bedrooms. And how he manages it while still working a 9 to 5. He also speaks to this principle he called "the natural progression". As defined by me, Natural Progression is the concept of how things naturally unfold when you commit to something. If you stay in your lane and follow your conviction, you will inevitably succeed.
The key is to commit, keep your head down, and just move. His goal is to help others get into real estate and be smart in the beginning. Whether you are interested in getting involved with real estate, or just looking for overall gems, this episode is for you.
I am positive you will gain some real insight from this conversation.
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This week's conversation is from the Book of Life, and I am pulling from the chapter "How to be focused aka God's cheat code for productivity". In recent weeks, I made a very tough decision to hyper-focus on one part of Beyond the Resume. At one point, I was trying to build everything in a day but grew more frustrated as I headed down that path. One of my gifts is that I am hardworking and anything I focus on, I typically see it through. Whether it was earning my master’s in 18 months while taking care of a family of 4, moonlighting as a realtor and getting my first transaction within monthswhile working my engineering job, pledging my fraternity Alpha Phi Alpha during my undergrad years, and so on - I typically accomplish what I put my mind to. However, this last season taught me a few things about not relying on my natural abilities. This season I have learned a deeper meaning of not leaning on our understanding and how we can create false idols aka big egos. Now I understand what it means to go at the speed of peace. It is better to focus on one thing and hear the words well done, versus work on 5 things and never meet the finish line. - - - - Who is Patrick Croffie? I am a father, a husband, a son, a friend, a certified life coach, an encourager, a teacher, and above these things – a believer. I want to help you, the listener, to understand your gifts and the purpose God has for you. He has a plan for everyone. God designed us to have complete dominion on this earth, but the only way to do this is to fully understand the call he has on your life. - - - - -For More Dope Podcasts: Check out our projects on www.manna365.co.- - - - - YOU CAN ALSO FOLLOW THE SOCIALS: Instagram: @beyondtheresume.pod Tik Tok: @beyondtheresume.pod
In today's episode, I want to remind you that you possess everything you need to move into the next season but there are things we must shed. We must shed fear. We need to understand the perfect will of God is already in works and there is nothing we need more. And lastly, we need to know we do not need permission to move forward.
One of my favorite coaching moments in the Bible is between God and Moses. In Exodus chapter 14: 15, Moses for a split second forgot about all the power God equipped himwith. In this scene, Moses is stuck between the Egyptians who are looking to harm the people of Israel, and the Red Sea. As the Egyptians are approaching, Moses turns to the sky and calls on God. But in this moment God didn’t respond with "my faithfulservant" or "my most devoted", he responded with a question andcommand " Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on."
Like Moses, I believe God is telling many of us to Just Move! There is a season for fasting and praying, and there is a season for action. I believe many of us are in the season for action but are waiting for permission. I submit to you that this next season isGreen Light Season. Just move until God says otherwise.
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Welcome to Beyond the Resume. When I kickstarted this project, I didn’t necessarily know the path I wanted to take. I started and stopped more times than I can honestly count. But as time continued, I realized exactly what Beyond the Resume truly was, more so what it is. I realized it was a mirror of my life as I re-aligned my identity – an identity defined by my creator and not by man-made objects. I help professional millennials find fulfillment beyond titles and status by sharing faith and life lessons. I want to teach people how God views themI want to show people how valuable they areI want to show people that their value is beyond a title or profession, but that it is tied to exactly who they are. I want people to understand the power they have within. I want people to dare to be different.I want people to feel so confident they don’t have time to compare themselves to anyone else. - - - - - Who is Patrick Croffie? I am a father, a husband, a son, a friend, a certified life coach, an encourager, a teacher, and above these things – a believer. I want to help you, the listener, to understand your gifts and the purpose God has for you. He has a plan for everyone. God designed us to have complete dominion on this earth, but the only way to do this is to fully understand the call he has on your life. - - - - -For More Dope Podcasts: Check out our projects on www.manna365.co. - - - - - YOU CAN ALSO FOLLOW THE SOCIALS: Instagram: @beyondtheresume.pod Tik Tok: @beyondtheresume.pod
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Do you sometimes get frustrated and anxious that the ideasyou are working on are not progressing at your speed? What are you holding on to that’s not allowing you to change or grow? As the seasons change, so must you. God will only increase where there’s patience and faith; you must surrender your timeline to the Holy Spirit for things to change.
In this episode of Beyond the Resume, Patrick talks abouthis own frustrations and questions and how he’s learning to act in patience and faith. He explains the difference between a season and a pattern and why a pattern can hold you from changing.
Listen in to learn to ask the Holy Spirit to examine yourheart if you’re frustrated to start operating from a place of faith.
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I had the pleasure of catching up with my boy, Akiem Jones. Akiem is not only a father and husband but also an entrepreneur and business owner. He's my go-to person when it comes to financial literacy. His entire platform is dedicated to teaching financial literacy to those who are often overlooked. You can find more information about his platform at @thesolutionsgroup_.
Akiem truly embodies the principle of sharing wisdom gained through personal experience. I think you will appreciate this conversation. We get into the nitty-gritty on the following:
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This was recorded earlier in the year but the message still holds true. I was able to connect with my right hand, Apollos Hall, and we rapped about how important the right community is for personal and spiritual growth. Apollos is someone I consider part of my wise counsel so me keeping this in the archive was disrespectful. :) hope y'all enjoy. In this conversation, we connect on the following:
- Why it is so important to find your community- Why authentic and healthy are two different approaches when searching for community.- How a community isn't just having "yes" people around you?- How a community that promotes growth is a community that challenges you?- How stress is actually a tool- What word can you use to describe your community?
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In this episode, I dive deeper into the wisdom of Genesis 1:26, where God declared, "Let us make mankind in our image, according to our likeness, and let them have dominion..." This verse reveals a powerful truth: identity is directly tied to authority. To put it plainly, you can't have true authority unless you grasp a deep understanding of who you are. Identity goes far beyond mere appearances and physical attributes; it's about finding your place of belonging and connecting with the source.
I know this journey personally. During the first seasonof the podcast, you were witnessing a live unfolding of this part of my journey. Unbeknownst to me, the evolution of self-awareness and discovery would lead to a desire to help others through their version.
So, with that said…. I have some news! I am hosting afree workshop this December. (Sign up here.) This workshop is designed to be your roadmap to achieving your ultimate goals. During the workshop, we will guide you through threecritical areas:
In other words, once you grasp your gifts, you'll embark on a journey to discern how to leverage them for a purposeful and impactful life. Don't miss out on this opportunity to uncover your identity and find your path to authority and purpose.
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Is your purpose tied to your obedience? In other words, is a simple "Yes" delaying you from unfolding the plans God has for you? Whether we read the story in the Bible or through the Disney special, we know that Moses did amazing things. Through the power of God, he performed miraculous events. He showed the might of God through the 10 plagues, Moses led the Israelites from bondage, he led them through the wilderness for 40 years, and of course - before any of those things, he parted the Red Sea. However, when you do further research, his story grows and becomes fuller. Not only did he do the things mentioned above, he did so much more. Moses would be the same person tasked to deliver the first set of laws that future nations and generations would adopt and follow. He would also be the builder and caretaker of the Ark of Covenant. Later Moses along with his father-in-law would be the ones to articulate and build the same leadership structure that we use today in corporate America.When I trace his story, I realize all those things are just the byproducts of one thing... a simple "Yes". If he didn't say "Yes" at the burning bush, his story would have been different. Moses and the Burning Bush: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus%203&version=NIV- - - - -
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Who is Patrick Croffie? I am a father, a husband, a son, a friend, an encourager, a teacher, and above these things – a believer. I want to help you, the listener, to understand your gifts and the purpose God has for you. He has a plan for everyone. God designed us to have complete dominion on this earth, but the only way to do this is to fully understand the call he has on your life.
In this episode, I am asking the question "Who are you?" If anyone were to ask you that same question, would you know how to answer? I read a CNN article that stated suicide deaths reached a record high in the US in 2022.
And earlier this year, the Surgeon General released a report stating Loneliness and Isolation was the new epidemic. I can't help but assume these two are closely related. In fact, I believe one leads to the other.
But instead of discussing the symptoms, we need to dive deeper into the root cause... lack of self-discovery, absence of personal growth, lost identity, and misplaced identity. So I submit to you again, if anyone were to ask you the question "Who are you?", how would you answer?
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03:40 Where do you put your joy?
05:55 Joshua & the Israelites
07:30 Your job isn't identity
Often, I find myself in conversations with people who have these game-changing ideas but feel as though they don’t have the necessary resources to turn those ideas into something tangible. If this sounds familiar, this 5-minute podcast episode is for you.
I submit to you, even if it doesn’t appear so, you already possess all the necessary resources to convert these ideas from thoughts to something real. In this episode, I focus on 3 key things anyone can leverage to build that new business. • Focusing on what you have right in front of you. • Leveraging your 9-5 for your next move• Finding your next business partner
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Okay - that is drastic but some of us need an intentional change. As technology advances and accessibility increases, we are more subject to distractions than ever before. This episode is specifically for those who have a desire to better understand God's purpose for their life, who need help focusing on their dreams and/or goals, or who are looking for a drastic change but aren't sure how to do that.
In this episode, I discuss the "law of use" as described in Matthew 25. This passage is titled the "Parable of Talents" and there are 2 key points from this message delivered by Jesus. You learn that we all have gifts and there is an expectation for us to use them. You also learn that God increases your responsibility when you properly manage what you currently have.
I am a firm believer that everyone has gifts but if you aren't sure you do, then you are blinded by distractions.
Here is my call to action: If need help removing distractions and want to understand how to discover your gifts, I submit the following
00:00 Intro
02:30 How to identify your gifts
03:50 Don't bury your talents
04:50 Lesson 1: God blesses you with more if you manage what you have
05:15 Lesson 2: There is an expectation to use your gifts
06:50 Identifying distractions
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Grateful and Growing: Celebrating Life on My Birthday! Join me on this trending podcast as we explore gratitude, personal growth, and the joy of embracing life. In this season, I am no longer comparing my path to anyone else. I can't give room for doubt, anxiety, or false narratives. #birthdaybliss #gratefulliving---Who is Patrick Croffie?I am a father, a husband, a son, a friend, an encourager, a teacher, and above these things – a believer. I want to help you, the listener, to understand your gifts and the purpose God has for you. He hasa plan for everyone. God designed us to have complete dominion on this earth, but the only way to do this is to fully understand the call he has on your life.
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01:45 Breaking Bad Habits
02:15 Comparing Steals Joy
03:45 Focusing on the Past
05:45 You Don't Need Permission From Anyone
08:00 Doing It For The Kingdom
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In this episode, I talk about how I use the power and purpose of the holy spirit to understand my direction. At age 36, I realize a lot of my 20s were my "figuring out" years. Though life is a constant journey, in this decade I am hyper-focused on understanding God's calling over my life. I now understand the urgency of purpose. I am not old, but I don't have time to waste.
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00:00 Intro
00:55 Having dominion on this earth
02:30 Enslaved mentally
03:50 Still living in captivity
06:00 Holy Spirit is our advocate
08:15 Walking in your truth
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If you are in a position where you are constantly thinking about what's next, or you are asking questions about discovering your purpose, or you are asking questions about identifying your gifts - this episode is for you. In this episode, I speak to my time in the wilderness where I was asking God these very same questions. I've since realized, that being in the wilderness journey is God's design and it is very intentional. This is a moment when God isolates you because he wants to prepare you for the next level. There are three things that are always consistent during this phase - he will purge you from things that hinder your growth, he isolates you because he needs to remove distractions, and he will test you to make sure you keep his commandments as he continues enlarging your territory.
If you are in a position where you are constantly thinking about what's next, or you are asking questions about discovering your purpose, or you are asking questions about identifying your gifts - this episode is for you. In this episode, I speak to my time in the wilderness where I was asking God these very same questions. I've since realized, that being in the wilderness journey is God's design and it is very intentional. This is a moment when God isolates you because he wants to prepare you for the next level. There are three things that are always consistent during this phase - he will purge you from things that hinder your growth, he isolates you because he needs to remove distractions, and he will test you to make sure you keep his commandments as he continues enlarging your territory. -----
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00:00 Intro
01:25 Getting a System Reset
03:25 Community is Essential
04:20 Does any of this sound familiar?
06:15 Are you in the wilderness?
06:50 God will Isolate you
08:05 God will purge you
11:50 God will test you
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What's going on good people? In this episode, I dig deeper into the beginning thoughts of Beyond the Resume. Internally it has gone through many iterations but the problem I want to same remains the same. I built Beyond the Resume with me and other professional millennials in mind. I go back to 2017 when I started writing this book called The Millennial Memoir. No worries if you haven't heard of it - because it never surfaced. It was my attempt to articulate what I know now as a quarter-life crisis. By the grace of God, at age 26/27, by most standards, I accomplished a lot. On paper, everything looked good, yet I was stillunsatisfied. From there, I started this quest to find my task. Along the way, I had some wins, but I also took some losses. Despite this, it all leads me here. This is what I call the compound effect.
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01:45 The Compound Effect
03:50 Purpose of the Podcast
05:50 Gamifying Resumes
08:00 The Millennial Memoir
What's going on good people? I am excited to be back in the podcast world. While away, I had a lot of time to reflect and focus on where I want to spend my time and energy. The longer I stayed away from this platform, my desire to return grew - so here we are! In my return episode, I share how my travels to Africa and Netherlands completely shaped my path forward. Africa and Netherlands were equally impactful; however, different.
While in the Netherlands, time slowed down. It was almost as if I was detoxing from the grind and hustle of US culture. Africa is inexplainable; however, I will try my hardest. Africa showed me a deeper meaning of gratitude. While in Africa, I learned there are layers to thankfulness like when Paul summarizes in Philippians 4 do not worry about anything but in prayer give thanks. Being in Africa was a factory reset for me.
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00:00 Back In The Building
02:15 Career Change and Trips to Africa and Netherlands
06:05 Journey over Destination
10:30 Building a Podcast Network
I had the pleasure of interviewing my wife, Chanita Stone, (instagram: @writtenbystone_) for season 2 of her ministry project “Timeline Talks”. It was so good, I thought it would be unfair not sharing it on my platform as well. I am still in awe seeing her grow and utilize her gifts. We talked about:
I believe this is story about vulnerability, discovering and applying your gifts, operating in faith and how God is still in control even if you question things.
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Consider this episode my graduation! There were 3 (three) key things I wanted to achieve during my first run at this podcast. I wanted to challenge myself to focus on base hits versus home runs, as my boy Jay puts it. Focusing on base hits still advances me through the bases - maybe not as quick - but there is still progress.
Before even launching the first episode, I was in deep paralysis analysis and wanted to create this perfect roll out plan before officially announcing this project. Though honorable, it completely crippled me because nothing was ever good enough. With that said, I started to focus on the micro versus macro. I still have a vision for this project, but I am allowing the way I get there to be flexible i.e. giving myself grace and an opportunity to learn along the way.
With that said, these are the key take-aways from what I am considering my last episode of season 1:
Lastly and arguably the connection between all of these
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In this episode, I focus on two types of regrets: the action regret and the inaction regret. Action regrets are easier to identify. They are the regrets we can typically call-out after a moment of reflection. For example, instantly regretting saying something you shouldn’t have to a loved one or eating that piece of cake (or three) knowing you were working on summertime fine. Those regrets are quantifiable because we know what the impact is.
However, inaction regrets are those that haunt us. They are the regrets of not doing something we wish we had. This can be as simple as not applying to a new job because we were afraid of leaving a comfortable position or more complex like not pursuing a dream opportunity because we didn’t have all the details completely figured out. These are typically the regrets that force us to look back and ask “What if… What if I pursued my dream of being a doctor, going to law school, opening that cafe, writing that book, or (fill in the blank)?”
Lewis Carroll, author of “Alice’s Adventure in Wonderland” and its sequel “Through the Looking-Glass” wrote “In the end… we only regret the chances we didn’t take, and the decisions we waited too long to make”. And more famously, Mark Twain has a quote that reads “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail Away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade wings in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Influenced by Mark Batterson’s book titled “In a Pit With a Lion on A Snowy Day”, I recall my inaction regret. In this episode I dive deeper into a business idea my partner and I pursued. Though this idea was growing support, we ended it pre-maturely. Years later, I still regret not seeing it through.
A few weeks ago, I set up an in-home date night for my wife and me. The date was simple. I wrote out 10 questions to draw at random for us to share and answer. One of the questions was “What’s a deep longing or dream for you?” I drew the question, so my wife had to answer first. When she answered, it struck a chord because in that moment we realized that we’ve allowed so many things to take priority. Consequently, our dreams have been reduced and put on the back burner. Towards the end of that conversation, we looked at each other and vowed to own our dreams and not let anything hinder us from achieving them.
This episode serves as a call-to-action. For the 20-something year old, I want to encourage you to try new things. Don’t be afraid to fail because in those failures are priceless lessons. For the 30-something year old [my peers], I completely understand how difficult it is to work a 9 to 5 and carry the responsibilities of a household. In plain terms, it’s exhausting. But you can never forget or let go of the things you truly want.
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There are hundreds of phrases around the pursuit of perfection. Mark Cuban says “ Perfection is the enemy of success”. There’s one that says “Perfection is the enemy of good”, another that goes “perfection is overrated”, and my personal favorite “perfection is the enemy of done”. Though I like it, I would challenge this and go further and say “Perfection is the enemy of even starting”. [Give me credit if this is your first time hearing that]. I am guilty of this and I know others are as well. We allow the self invoked idea of perfection to stifle us which leads to never writing those books, never launching those new products, never starting that blog, or never giving birth to those life altering ideas.
Believe me, I fall victim to it but I am a firm believer that when you allow the enemy of perfection to take control you will never reach your full potential. And I am not dismissive to it being risky, scary even - but with risk comes reward. With risk comes invaluable lessons that will reshape your thinking, which will consequently reshape your life.
In this episode I speak to my personal battles with perfection and the mental gymnastics I go through between these episode. These conversations are to drive further conversation but also let you know that I am also in the trenches. This isn’t from a place of retrospect where I can now wear the “been there, done that” t-shirt. It’s quite the opposite. But I share my own dealings because I know others will benefit and that is what truly matters.
I leave with this powerful quote from Les Brown:
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”
Imagine how many dreams were deferred because of the hunt for perfection.
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In my household, the phrase “Lean in” has been circulating for months. It’s a simple phrase that speaks volumes. During a “timeline talk” interview my wife Chanita (IG:@writtenbystone_) was hosting, she mentioned she kept getting this push from God to “lean in”. And ever since that first mention, it has stuck with us. In today’s episode I really wanted to have a conversation with kindred spirits who are also defining their path. Though this episode is short, I wanted to focus on the following mental models that I am building, and I hope they benefit others listening.
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Funny enough I still haven’t shared that I am doing a podcast, but thanks to the algos that power IG, my page populated on a few “suggested friends list”. Though initially apprehensive - which I share in this episode- I am truly grateful for the conversations the first episode drove. The support was amazing and transcended numbers. Beyond listenership, the discussions were rich and proved how relatable this podcast is. In episode 2 I focus on the following:
I share my initial apprehension with launching this podcast. How I am in the "garage day" phase The power I am beginning to see in being transparent and discussing things that are typically taboo.
If you're reading this, thank you for listening to the first episode of Beyond the Resume.
With this being the 1st release, I thought it best to discuss the following 3 points:
The more concise answer is that I genuinely love podcast. I love the creation, the production, the craft and I'm learning to appreciate the business part as well. In addition, I believe content creators build legacies. My intent is to build a body of work that encourages people long after I am gone and I pray my kids learn more about their dad through these episodes. * New book , who dis?
I am legit in "betting on myself" mode. I am in a new environment, being exposed to new cultures, and living through new experiences. I’ve completely reshaped what I find important. I feel as though the cliche' "new chapter" doesn't suffice. For the past few years, I’ve been chasing my version of success but now I am chasing purpose. Sounds corny but it leads to my 3rd point. * What is “Beyond the Resume”?
Yes, it’s another podcast but I want to discuss things other than profit and losses, growing businesses, and making millions by age 20. I love and subscribe to those categories, but I want to bring light to other conversations. Conversations around parenting/spouse, unlearning things, or things that tend to follow success - imposter syndrome, self doubt, and survivor's remorse.
So with that said, I am grateful you are here and hope you stay for the journey.