The Excellent Life Podcast: Recent Episodes
Abolanle Matel-Okoh
The Excellent Life podcast is for anyone looking to live life to the fullest and be the very best version of themselves. The show will inspire, motivate as well as challenge listeners to avoid mediocrity and be determined to live their very best life.
Episode 32
Excelling in Marriage
🎯Love is not just a feeling, it is a commitment - 4:05
🎯It is more important to be happy than being right - 5:23
🎯There is no perfect marriage - 6:53
🎯Marriage is sustained by friendship - 8:12
🎯Love and Romance sometimes require effort, but true friendship is effortless - 9:07
🎯Forgiveness is a vital ingredient for a healthy marriage - 9:19
🎯Your mindset is key to excelling in marriage - 10:57
🎯A united front is key in marriage - 12:40
🎯One area I have found to be vital to maintaining a united front is Parental Decision Making - 13:33
🎯The grass is not always greener on the other side - 14:17
🎯Never second-guess who you chose - 15:58
🎯Marriage is about adjustment - 16: 32
🎯It takes the grace of God to excel in marriage - 17:16
Pastor Toluwani Odukoya is a multifaceted individual, serving as a pastor, mother, worship leader, recording artist, and marketing professional. Pastor Toluwani received her ordination in June 2016 at The Fountain of Life Church, mentored by her late parents, Pastors Taiwo and Bimbo Odukoya. In 2018, she was appointed as the Music Director at The Fountain of Life Church. Her passionate worship, spirit-filled teachings, and dedication to the Gospel have garnered a widespread following extending beyond Nigeria’s borders. Renowned for crafting authentic songs and messages rooted in her genuine relationship with Jesus Christ and her love for the Holy Spirit, she is committed to helping fellow children of God find their place as sons and daughters of God in various aspects of life, including their homes, neighborhoods, workplaces, businesses, churches, and communities. Her ultimate dream is to witness the full transformation of individuals into Christ’s image, igniting their passion for Jesus and, consequently, leading more souls into the Kingdom. My special guest has a special affinity for women and established a women's online prayer platform in 2016, where thousands of women from around the world gather weekly for prayer. After seven years of leading this initiative, she stepped back in 2022 to prioritize her family responsibilities. She recognizes the pivotal role women play, especially within their homes and in shaping the lives of their children, who, in turn, influence the world. Her career spans various industries, including technology, finance, FMCG, food and beverage, and electronics. She has held significant positions and achieved prominence in her career while continuing to shine as a light in the marketplace. She holds a Master of Arts degree in Advertising from Buckinghamshire New University in Buckinghamshire, UK, and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Government Pre-Law, with a minor in Public Relations and Advertising, from Oral Roberts University in Oklahoma, United States of America. Additionally, she serves as a board member for the Bimbo Odukoya Foundation.
Izehi Anuge is an exceptional values educator and transformative leader dedicated to instilling and reintegrating values into young minds and society as a whole. Her decade-long journey has been focused on developing values-based resources and frameworks that empower current and future leaders and learners to align their character development goals with global participation, 21st Century Skills, and SDG Goals.
As the visionary founder and managing director of Shape A Child, Izehi plays an integral role in ensuring revolutionized character and behavioral transformation in children from early years to young adulthood. Through Shape A Child, individuals, parents, and educational institutions achieve exceptional results by integrating values and 21st-century skills into their daily lives.
Izehi has authored the captivating children's book series "Captain Excellence," a catalyst for cultivating a Values-Based consciousness in young readers. She has also developed innovative resources, including the first values-based children's jigsaw puzzle and discussion cards, accompanied by an engaging animated series. For teenagers, she has crafted the Gen Z Personal & Creative Excellence workbook. Izehi has also donated her books to over 13,000 underprivileged children and conducted community-based sensitization programs for leaders.
Izehi has earned numerous accolades and recognition from local and global entities. She has been honored with a Recognition Award from Lagos State, an Outstanding Philanthropic Award from SHE Global 2022, and inclusion in the prestigious list of the 100 Most Impactful African Changemakers by the 2022 Humanitarian Awards Global. She proudly serves as a school ambassador for World Values Day and represents education delegates as part of the Values 20 Group at the G20 leaders' summit. Through her ambassadorship, Izehi is actively raising awareness for an education system that transcends traditional academic subjects, placing emphasis on values, equity, community culture, holistic well-being, and the development of 21st-century skills.
Izehi Anuge stands at the forefront of a transformative movement, leveraging values-based education to empower minds, transform communities, and shape the future.
Topic: Legacy of Excellence🎯 Legacy is the mark you leave on the wall when you die - 2:54
🎯 The concept of legacy is much larger than the value of the estate you leave behind, it is about the richness of the life you lived, what you accomplished and the impact you had on people and places - 3:06
🎯The story of your life reflects your individual legacy - 3:22
🎯 Your legacy of accomplishment is not just about winning awards and coming out ahead, it includes things like successfully overcoming adversity, excelling as a leader, creating innovation, and much more - 3:28
🎯 What you do and achieve throughout your lifetime forms a powerful legacy that others will remember you by - 3:46
🎯 Everything you do in life works together to create the overall mark you leave on the world - 4:17
🎯 When making choices between right and wrongdoing, what is right is forming a positive legacy, while doing something wrong is laying the groundwork for a negative legacy - 4:27
🎯 Be mindful of leaving a positive legacy marked by excellence - 5:27
🎯 Building a legacy is the only way to build a lasting footprint - 6:06
🎯 Failing to target a specific group can result in your message being diluted to having little or no impact - 8:19
🎯 When defining your legacy, you have to look at the bigger picture and ponder how your legacy will impact people - 9:19
🎯 Without purpose life is like a sheep with no sales moving aimlessly without any specific intention to guide the decision - 10:06
🎯 Your internal purpose is what guides you, meaning what fulfills you. Your external purpose is how you deliver it to the world - 11:24
🎯 Your legacy is largely determined by the values that guide you - 12:14
🎯 If you don't like where you are, it is never too late to put yourself on your desired part - 12:39
🎯 There is no merit in good intentions unless they are accepted upon - 13:42
🎯 A legacy-driven mindset also helps you to be more strategic in your legacy journey - 15:01
🎯 A legacy-driven mindset can also help you to be more resilient in your legacy journey -15:01
🎯 Seek opportunities to learn and acquire knowledge to expand your capabilities. -16:47
🎯 Integrity is the foundation of a lasting legacy. - 17:50
🎯 Align your actions with your values even in the face of adversities -18:38
🎯 Your legacy is your story waiting to be told - 18:58
🎯It’s Never too late or too early to think about the legacy you want to leave behind - 19:20
Combine a Marketing, Branding, and Communications Expert, a Feminine Leadership Coach, and an Author, and you have the Extraordinary Visionary that is Lady Bodam Taiwo. During her impressive career spanning 15+ years, she has been instrumental in starting new businesses across Africa and building Luxury and Premium Brands across Western Africa. She has also managed the operations and performance of sales teams in the Fast- Moving Consumer Goods (FMCG) Industry. She currently serves as the Head of Portfolio, Bond & Connect, Western Africa at Pernod Ricard where she plays a major role in creating and driving the execution of the long-term strategy for sustainable and profitable top and bottom-line growth of the portfolio across 22 African markets with a focus on 5 Key Markets. Bodam is the Visionary behind The Refined Lady Movement which equips ladies with the tools to grow impact, influence, and authority and distinguish themselves as Leaders by discovering and leaning into their innate femininity. Through The Refined Lady School, she offers Signature Courses and Masterclasses covering various aspects of Executive Presence, Etiquette, Protocol, Grooming, Diplomacy, Communication, and Hospitality among others. She also trains organizations on Leadership, Corporate Ethics, and Business Etiquette. She is also the host of The Refined Lady’s Summit – an annual conference on feminine leadership, elegance, and culture. In 2022, Bodam was recognized as one of the Top 100 Career Women in Nigeria by 9-to-5 Chick. She was also awarded the Distinct Positive Values Award of the Year by The Iconic Brand Awards (TIBA) for her positive impact on society. In 2021, Bodam was named one of The Top 100 Most Inspiring Women in Africa by Leading Ladies Africa. She was also honored as one of twelve extraordinary Visionary Women of African Descent in the 2021 Future-Forward Female Folio. Bodam holds a B.Eng in Electronics Engineering from the University of Reading and an M.Sc in Mobile and Satellite Communications from the University of Surrey. She currently serves as a Volunteer Mentor in both institutions. In 2022, she also served as a mentor in Women In Business, Management and Politics (WIMBIZ) and the Academy for Women Entrepreneurs (AWE). She has a certification in Luxury Spirits Marketing from a collaboration program run by INSEAD Business School for Diageo Brands Ltd. She is also an Associate Member of the Chartered Institute of Marketing, United Kingdom.
Kemi Oye is an Executive and Career Coach, TEDx Speaker, Trainer, and Human Resource Expert.
Known as The Career Doctor and founder of The Career Fitness™ Inc, a company that is committed to helping people attain career fitness by helping them get clarity on the right type of work that fits their innate abilities, strengths, talents, and passion so that they are fulfilled, thrive in the workplace, and transform organizations.
She is an accredited practitioner of the Global Discovery Insights and DISC personality profiling tools, a Chartered member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development, and a privileged alumnus of the Olusola Lanre Coaching Academy (OLCA) and an Emotional Freedom Technique and Matrix Reimprinting (EFT) Practitioner. She holds several other certifications in Leadership and Management.
She is authoritatively positioned in her career with over two decades of experience in the Human Resource Management space. She currently consults with one of the top 5 largest employers of labor - NHS England. She works as Head of Strategic Human Resource & Organisational Development with the responsibility for driving the People Strategy, the NHS Long Term Plan, the delegation of commissioning services, and the creation of the New NHS England Merger Project involving 22k employees.
In her capacity as an Associate Integrative Coach of The Catalyst, she currently serves as a mentor and coach on The Catalyst Integrative Coaching Mentorship Programme (CICMP), an annual program that facilitates all-round transformation and growth in the personal, professional, and spiritual lives of a select group of coaches through mentorship.
Her passion for helping individuals enjoy a fulfilling career to the end of transforming organizations and the world of work makes her run these masterclasses that are becoming increasingly popular:
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Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 30 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication among others, she started her career at The United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well-trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
With an intense desire to be a beacon of hope globally, She attended the GEMSTONE Leadership Institute’s, Executive Coaching Certificate Program where she became a certified Executive coach.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 30 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication among others, she started her career at The United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
With an intense desire to be a beacon of hope globally, She attended the GEMSTONE Leadership Institute’s, Executive Coaching Certificate Program where she became a certified Executive coach.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Excellence in Service
🎯 The quality of our service (the excellence in the way we serve) is equal to the kind of doors that will open to us - 8:39
🎯 The harvest that comes back is the function of the quality of the service - 10:03
🎯 The work is doing it, discipline is doing it every day, diligence is doing it well every day - 10:18
🎯 It is not just about showing up every day, it is about showing up excellently every day - 10:35
🎯 People who have a mindset of excellence are driven not necessarily because of the reward but because it is their persona - 11:05
🎯 We can cultivate the spirit of excellence - 11:42
🎯 The people that distinguish themselves and excel are the people that receive the mindset that we are all capable of having - 12:03
🎯 The first step to excel is the determination to excel - 12:44
🎯 A major part of it starts with your mind and your perspective of how you see service - 13:08
🎯 Work can give you opportunities for growth - 14:13
🎯 The mindset is knowing that you are serving and serving wholeheartedly because it is coming back to you - 14:34
🎯 For excellent service, you have to understand that it is not about you - 15:03
🎯 Do not serve because you are in a hurry to be at the top or always want to be the person that the spotlight is on, serve because that is who you are - 15:58
🎯 Be your best in all that you do - 16:10
🎯 Many times, people feel like you have to be in a particular position to serve, but, when you have a mindset of service, it does not matter who/where you are - 17:05
🎯 Service is about wanting to be your best no matter what it is - 18:53
🎯 People are watching the way you are serving, somebody somewhere is watching it, so be diligent at all times and not just when it’s convenient - 22:08
🎯 When you are in a space of obscurity, and you serve excellently, there is a way that God will bring you out of the obscurity into the limelight - 24:05
🎯 When we have the mindset that whatever we are doing is service for the Lord and also look up to him for our reward, then we should know that it is okay and our reward will come - 25:04
🎯 There is nothing wrong in expecting a reward for service, though it might not be why we are serving, but we should trust God that the reward will come - 26:23
Simisola Agunbiade is a Vision Execution Coach, Projects Administrator, Public Speaker, and Author. She currently serves as the Chief Operating Officer of The GEMSTONE Group, Chief of Staff to Founder - Fela Durotoye; (Executive Coach, Leadership Expert & Global Speaker), and CEO of Simi Consults, a recruitment & training firm for Executive Assistants. At the core of her heart, Simi describes herself as a “MIDWIFE” and she has displayed extraordinary prowess in birthing and executing the dreams and visions of her current principal through the GEMSTONE Group as well as worked with numerous Impact & Business Leaders to accomplish their desired goals. With over 15 years of experience in active corporate service, Simisola's skill set is derived from professional experiences; a plethora of abilities that she hones from every position she occupies; from the Banking industry to Non-Profit, Nation Building, Politics Consulting & Leadership Development industries, her core strengths are Strategy, Project/Program Management & Execution. Simi has been privileged to speak on various platforms across the global stage mostly centered on Service and Project Execution and as a result of her consistent impact & commitment through the years, Simi has been recognized on several notable platforms, including the Richer Woman, one of the 100 most impactful women in 2022. She recently released her first book, SERVE YOUR WAY TO THE TOP; a book where she shares her personal experiences through the journey of service and provides readers with practical tips and
CELEBRATING A TRULY EXCELLENT LIFE
IN THIS SPECIAL EPISODE OF THE EXCELLENT LIFE PODCAST, I PAY TRIBUTE TO MY BELOVED MOM WHO PASSED AWAY EARLIER THIS YEAR. BELOW IS THE A-Z OF THE TRULY EXCELLENT LIFE SHE LIVED.
A- SHE WAS AMAZING, AUTHENTIC, AND TOTALLY TRUE TO HERSELF
B. SHE WAS BEAUTIFUL OUTSIDE BUT EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE
C. SHE WAS CONSIDERATE TO ALL, REGARDLESS OF AGE OR POSITION
D. SHE WAS DEPENDABLE AND TOTALLY DEVOTED TO HER HUSBAND OF 63 YEARS AND HER FAMILY
E. SHE WAS EXCEPTIONALLY EXCELLENT IN LIVING A LIFE OF SERVICE TO OTHERS
F. SHE WAS FAVORED AND, IN TURN, SHOWED FAVOR TO EVERYONE SHE CAME IN CONTACT WITH
G. SHE WAS GRACEFUL AND GENEROUS TO A FAULT LIKE MY GRANDMOTHER ALWAYS USED TO SAY.
H. SHE WAS HARDWORKING AND ALWAYS WILLING TO LEND A HELPING HAND.
I. SHE WAS AND IS IRREPLACEABLE, AND WE FEEL THE VACUUM SHE HAS LEFT ALREADY
J. SHE WAS JUST, EQUITABLE, AND FAIR IN HER DEALINGS WITH ALL
K. SHE WAS KIND AND CAREFUL ABOUT HOW HER ACTIONS IMPACTED OTHERS.
L. SHE WAS LOYAL AND EXTREMELY LOVING EVEN WHEN SHE WAS NOT HAPPY WITH YOU
M. SHE WAS MAGNIFICENT AND MAGNANIMOUS
N. SHE WAS NOBLE AND NICE TO A TEE
O. SHE WAS OUTSTANDING AND STOOD OUT EFFORTLESSLY
P. SHE WAS PATIENT AND ENDURED MANY TRIALS THAT WOULD HAVE BROKEN LESSER WOMEN
Q. SHE WAS THE QUEEN OF HER HUSBAND’S HEART WHO AFFECTIONATELY CALLED HER “CARO”
R. SHE WAS REGAL AND CARRIED HERSELF WITH SUCH GRACE AND DIGNITY
S. SHE WAS SPECIAL AND WILL ALWAYS HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN OUR HEARTS
T. SHE WAS TRUSTWORTHY AND TEMPERATE IN WORDS AND DEED
U. SHE WAS AND IS UNFORGETTABLE, AND WE WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THE EXEMPLARY LIFE SHE LIVED
V. SHE WAS VALIANT AND WON MANY BATTLES ON HER KNEES, AND EVEN NOW HAS TRIUMPHED OVER DEATH
W. SHE WAS WONDERFUL AND WELCOMING TO FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND EVEN CASUAL ACQUAINTANCES
X.SHE WAS XTRAORDINARY WITH AN X
Y. SHE WAS YEYEMODE- MOTHER OF ALL, AS SHE WAS FONDLY CALLED
Z. SHE WAS ZEALOUS FOR GOOD WORKS, AND HER GOOD WORKS AND LEGACY WILL CONTINUE TO SPEAK FOR HER.
GIVING THANKS EXCELLENTLY
🎯 When you live a life of excellent Thanksgiving, you recognize that every day is a gift and wake up each day determined to see a reason to give thanks - 2:29
🎯 You may not be able to change the situation you find yourself in, but very often, your attitude will be the difference maker in navigating the challenges that life brings - 3:13
🎯 Serenity Prayer: God grants me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference - 3:32
🎯 Serenity is a state of mental calm and clarity when you feel at peace in the present moment, able to focus on what truly matters - 4:29
🎯 Being in a state of serenity is the opposite of anxiety - 4:40
🎯 Acceptance means letting go of things outside your control. Worrying about things outside your power does not help to solve the problem. Instead, it can further compound the situation by putting you in a state of anxiety rather than serenity - 5:00
🎯 Courage means strength and determination to do what is within your control - 5:21
🎯 Wisdom means knowing what is within your power and what is not within your control - 5:41
🎯 For Thanksgiving to be meaningful, excellent, and acceptable, it must be communicated with the right attitude and can not just be lip service- 6:18
🎯Your Thanksgiving can not be complete if the recipient does not know the depth of your gratitude and your appreciation - 6:36
🎯 It is well pleasing to give thanks - 6:57
🎯 Genuine Thanksgiving and appreciation are not only pleasing to the one receiving it but also motivate that person to do more - 7:19
🎯 A lack of gratitude and appreciation leaves you feeling unappreciated and provides little motivation to want to do more - 7:43
🎯 Thanksgiving is the Will of God, and when you give Him thanks, you please Him- 8:59
🎯 Training your heart to give thanks does many good things - 9:54
🎯 Thanksgiving gives the proper perspective; it allows you to look beyond your present circumstances, puts you in God’s Will for your life, and positions you to receive all God has in store for you - 10:12
🎯 When you understand that God controls your life, your first and natural impulse would always be thanksgiving even when things do not go the way you want them to - 11:11
🎯Thanksgiving gives peace of mind - 12:22
🎯 Thanksgiving is the voice of faith - 13:42
🎯 A grateful heart is a faith-filled heart - 14:00
🎯 Peace comes after thanksgiving and not before - 14:49
🎯 Thanksgiving deepens your faith - 15:22
🎯 Keeping a record of God’s past faithfulness is a faith boost when you face new difficulties -15:36
🎯 Thanksgiving has significant power to bring joy and to break the enemy’s strength - 16:12
🎯 Don’t compare yourself to others; comparison is a trap that you must avoid at all costs; it can only lead down the road of unhappiness and discontentment - 17:11
🎯 Thankfulness is a key that turns situations around because it changes us, our outlook, and our attitude - 17:37
🎯 Thanksgiving brings contentment - 17:48
🎯 Contentment does not come from getting more; it comes from being happy with what you already have - 18:57
COURAGE TO EXCEL IN YOUR NEXT CHAPTER
🎯 The one person you will take with you on your journey in life is you - 5:34
🎯 If everything around you keeps going wrong, you may want to check yourself. It might just be you - 5:54
🎯 Sometimes we disqualify ourselves from living our best life, we tiptoe through life like we are trying not to wake anyone up when in fact it is us who are sleeping - 6:23
🎯 If you feel that there has got to be more to life than what they are doing, chances are…there probably is - 16:05
🎯 If you feel you want to do something else out of what you are doing right now (maybe a 9-5 or running your own business) make sure to have a plan B - 16:14
🎯 You should wake up every morning looking forward to your day ahead no matter
what challenge life brings because you know you are going to grow and learn - 20:23
🎯 At different points in our lives, we have different assignments and different roles and it is when we don’t recognize this, that’s when you begin to lose ourselves - 21:43
🎯 22 Keys to help you obtain clarity on your new chapter - 25:14
Ene Obi is an International & TEDx Speaker, Executive Coach, and Best-selling Author who specializes in helping midlife, professional women seeking deeper personal fulfillment create a life with more meaning, impact, and significance.
For almost three decades Ene had a successful corporate career at global organizations including Visa, HSBC, AstraZeneca, and Goldman Sachs. With a deep desire to do something more personally meaningful, she set up Ziano Mindspa, where she uses her story, experience, and expertise to help career professionals develop the Clarity, Courage, Commitment, and Conviction to rediscover themselves, reimagine their lives and see more of their possibilities so they can birth new dreams as they create their Next Chapter. In her words, her mission is to ‘Go back and get the others.
Ene Obi has shared global stages with world-renowned speakers including Les Brown, Dr. Cheryl Wood, and Lisa Nichols.
She is married to Henry Obi, CBE, and they have two grown-up sons.
Ene Obi can be contacted via:
Website: www.ziano.co.uk
Instagram: ziano_mindspa
Facebook: zianomindspa
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 30 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication among others, she started her career at The United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
With an intense desire to be a beacon of hope globally, She attended the GEMSTONE Leadership Institute’s, Executive Coaching Certificate Program where she became a certified Executive coach.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Tonbra Nwosuagwu is a woman with a strong sense of responsibility to elevate people and a transformational coach who loves to nurture and help others see life through a completely new lens that gives them personal power. Known as The Activator, Tonbra is also the Founder of The More Collective, a catalytic community of women intentional about personal growth and inner fulfillment. Her relentless desire to help people accept themselves and rise to their full potential is fuelled by her experience of childhood adversity, which she overcame. Her strong sense of responsibility towards this cause has led her to birth several initiatives. These include her Identity Mastery Program (IMAP), her Voyage to Growth accountability program, and her recently launched Amazon bestselling book, How to be Unstoppable. Tonbra holds an MSc with distinction in Process Engineering from the University of Surrey, UK, and a BSc in Petroleum Engineering from the University of Port Harcourt, Nigeria. Apart from her work as a transformational coach, she is also an experienced program management consultant with over 12 years of experience across several industry sectors. And in this capacity, she has delivered Enterprise Level Agile Leadership Coaching to senior executives of top-tier organizations in the UK. Tonbra is a speaker and hosts the transformational Created for More podcast and has helped many birth their podcasts through her podcast boot camp. She has two beautiful daughters she shares the pleasure of raising with her husband in the UK, where they live
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 30 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication among others, she started her career at The United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
With an intense desire to be a beacon of hope globally, She attended the GEMSTONE Leadership Institute’s, Executive Coaching Certificate Program where she became a certified Executive coach.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Adesola (Sola) Adesakin, is a Personal/ Business Finance Coach and Chartered Accountant with over 20 years of hands-on experience. She is passionate about helping people at individual and business levels, understand the “make-manage-multiply money” message, maximize their resources, achieve their crucial financial milestones and build true wealth, through the concept of financial planning.
Through the Smart Stewards Financial Advisory Limited; a holding company that owns The Smart Investment Club, The Smart Stewards Academy, Booksmart Financial Solutions, and other subsidiaries, including the Smart Stewards Advisory LLC, registered in Delaware, USA, Sola has helped many people; young and old as well as businesses in over 25 countries, bounce back from financial stress to rest, from debt to wealth to living amazing lives.
As a financial enthusiast, Sola is an advocate for SDG5 and SDG10, with a firm belief for achieving gender equality and reducing inequality via financial literacy, financial technology, and access to funding, especially for women entrepreneurs and family units.
She is a Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria ( ICAN), a Fellow of the Association of Chartered Certified Accountants of the United Kingdom (ACCA), a Member of the Chartered Professional Accountants of Canada and she holds BSC and MBA degrees from the Oxford Brookes University and Edinburgh Business School, United Kingdom respectively
She is an Alumnae of the Academy for Women Entrepreneurs, an initiative of the US Embassy in Nigeria, an alumnae of Cherie Blair Foundation’s Road To Growth Program, as well as an alumnae of Goldman Sach’s 10000 Women Program. She is a member of the Select Global Women in Tech (SGWIT) Mentorship Network of The United States of America.
She is an author of 8 published books and several unpublished articles, in the public domain. Sola was recognized as one of Nigeria’s 100 most inspiring women in 2020 and has won many awards in recognition of her job in the Finance and Business Industry.
She was recently admitted into the Forbes Coaching Council, as she continues to leverage global alliances and partnerships to demystify and amplify the money message around the world.
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 30 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Eden Onwuka fondly called “The Sage” is a Relationship and Mindset Coach, trained as a Neuro-Linguistic Practitioner (NLP), and in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). She is a Maxwell Leadership Certified teammate and an official member of the Forbes Coaches Council.
As an Executive Coach, she helps high performing women build Relationship and Emotional harmony, so they can enjoy more productive lives, through her signature Coaching; A Woman And Half, USA. As a Trained Consultant, with a Fortune 500 company, she provides strategy and financial advisory to Small Business owners. Her corporate experience spans 17 years in Financial consulting and Client management. She currently serves as the President of the Board of Trustees for The Speak For Gold/Gemstone Leadership Academy founded by Fela Durotoye.
She describes herself as a Woman Driven By The Sole Purpose Of Seeing More Women, Become Driven By Purpose. And is a 4x Author of "The Power Of A Single Story", “Re-igniting Hope" and the widely acclaimed “A Woman And Half Affirmations”which is an impactful Book of 109 Affirmations Divinely curated for The Woman Who Wants To Be More And Won’t Settle For Less which has been translated to Spanish and French in her desire to serve more women.
Having survived cancer twice, in 2017 and 2022; Eden considers herself a Recipient of God’s Mercy and has turned her Survival into a Revival by channeling her experience into cancer Advocacy. She also encourages others to Shame their shame, by owning and empowering others with their unique stories. She is the recipient of several awards and has spoken on stages in different continents. She makes her home in Texas with her Husband and three Beautiful Children.
From Setback to Excellence
🎯 When you give your life to Christ, it doesn’t mean your life will change overnight - 21:17
🎯 Hunger for the word of God - 24:33
🎯 It is possible, no matter what you’ve been through, to move from a major setback to living a life of excellence, which is a life of purpose and fulfillment - 27:50
🎯 There are situations in your life where you need a higher power than yourself to help you but you also have to make the decision yourself that there’s something better for you than where you are - 33:55
🎯 Integrity is important, strong desire is important too - 34:10
🎯 Don’t think of yourself to be a victim, if you do, it’s going to be difficult to turn things around - 34:21
🎯 You can rise above any situation with the help of Christ - 34:33
🎯 God never gives up on anybody - 35:54
🎯 Every human being is a star but you need to believe that you are a star - 36:00
🎯 Be ready to do whatever it takes to shine - 36:09
🎯 Do not let your setback define your life - 36:22
🎯 What do you think about yourself? What is God thinking about you? Rise! - 36:36
🎯 If you fall, don’t just stand, pick up something - 36:46
🎯 Everyone of us has a responsibility, either you’re going to run that race or you’re just going to be a spectator - 36:56
🎯 There’s hope for every one of us - 37:39
🎯 The life of excellence is the life that God created each and every one of us for - 37:41
🎯 We were born to reign, along the line, the roads may be bumpy but don’t let those bumps stop you - 37:42
🎯 If you fall along the way, stand again - 37:44
🎯 People may say you’re a straggler, yes, you’re straggling towards your destiny - 37:48
🎯 Keep pushing towards it - 37:58
🎯 You can rise above that setback and begin to live the excellent life which is the life that God has created you to live - 38:14
Pastor Cal Lawanson (EMMD)is the Lead Pastor of Wisdom Assembly Family Church in Kansas City Missouri. He is a Certified John Maxwell Coach, Trainer, Teacher, and Speaker. He has trained in various leadership institutes, in the Bahamas and the USA. He is also the CEO of U2CAN (informing minds and transforming destinies) and CEO of Kingsman Investment LLC ( commodity trading, a real estate acquisition, and development company)
Pastor Cal is an avid reader and loves to engage with people.
He is married to Omorinola Cal-Lawanson and they are blessed with children.
Grace to Excel
🎯Sufficiency means competence. You can be sufficient in all things. 3:17
🎯 God is an excellent God and has called you out to be excellent. 3:43
🎯 God’s grace will take you from mediocrity to excellence. 4:10
🎯 Success means being the best while excellence means being your best. 5:00
🎯 Excellence is not a gift, it must be pursued and it must be sought after. 5:25
🎯 You cannot buy the grace of God, but you can ask God for it. 6:43
🎯 The grace of God is not an excuse to be lazy. 7:39
🎯 The grace of God is available for even the mundane of tasks. God cares about every single details of your life, nothing is too inconsequential to receive the grace of God 8:41
🎯 The grace to excel is limitless. 10:00
🎯 The grace to excel will always bring a sense of gratitude and humility. 11:40
🎯 Gratitude glorifies God, the giver of the gift. 12:26
🎯 Gratitude brings peace. 13:17
🎯 Gratitude brings contentment. 13:31
🎯 God’s grace is truly sufficient for you. 14:05
🎯 You are created for excellence, not mediocrity 15:20
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 30 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Excelling in Prayer
🎯 Prayer is a decision and a command from God, it’s not a choice. God wants us to pray and commune with Him- 3:51
🎯 One of the reasons why we pray is to foster intimacy and fellowship with Christ - 4:09
🎯 The essence of any prayer at all is results - 4:18
🎯 We pray so that we can be built up in the things of life - 4:51
🎯 Prayer is a matter of the heart - 6:54
🎯 To excel in prayers simply mean being exceptional and good at whatever you do - 7:02
🎯 Excelling in prayer is as a result of consistency - 7:14
🎯 Having an excellent prayer life is possible but it takes time, courage, commitment, discipline, obedience, sacrifice, the grace is God and the help of the Holy Spirit - 7:29
🎯 Prayer has two sides, the principles of prayer and the practice of prayer - 11:21
🎯 Your prayer place is your heart - 12:41
🎯 For you to pray effectively, you must bring the word of God into prayer, you must give God a place and a time - 12:50
🎯 Prayer is not just a one way street, it’s a two way street. It’s not just about talking to God, it’s about listening to God as well - 13:17
🎯 The place of prayer gives you an extensive range of God’s persona and God’s life - 13:53
🎯 Hearing from God is a practice - 15:08
🎯 When you have a relationship with God, you will, through consistency, through fellowship, you would have understood the voice of your Father - 15:41
🎯 You must identify the way God speaks to you and develop that particular pattern because it will help you in your journey of intimacy with Him - 18:07
🎯 Hearing God is about clarity - 18:25
🎯 The Will of God is the Word of God - 18:45
🎯 The time between when you pray and when you receive your answer is called the “Waiting Period” - 20:18
🎯 Prayer is your gateway to a deeper communion with God - 21:40
🎯 To start an effective prayer life, you need to first acknowledge that you want a relationship with God, you must also learn to enjoy your presence with God - 26:32
🎯 Approaching prayer from a place of love, intimacy and fellowship with God will help you develop a prayer life effortlessly- 27:25
🎯 It is important that your heart is void of offense towards God and man when you pray - 28:40
🎯 God will not answer the prayer of the wicked - 29:13
Taiwo Raji Rich is a wife, Mother and Economist. An ordained Minister of God, she is a Prophetic Intercessor, certified prayer minister, Trauma Coach, Author and Entrepreneur. She holds an honorary doctorate degree from The North Western University, Arizona USA. She is the host of the online prayer platform; When Women Pray God Answers.
An Associate Pastor of The Freedom Church, Breaking Free in Christ Ministries, Manilla Philippines. She is a Social Entrepreneur and sits on the board of Women in God Global Initiative that equips, empowers, mentors and provides opportunities and livelihood programs for women among the nations.
Taiwo is a dynamic woman of several parts fondly called Pastora Tai. She is married to Pastor Kemi Raji-Rich, a Church Planter, Pastor and Bible Teacher and they are blessed with two wonderful children.
Achieving Excellence in Governance
🎯 “ A government business is making his people happy” - Sheikh Al Maktoum - 5:03
🎯 Achieving excellence in governance is taking governance to a degree of best practice in the best possible environment in the best possible time - 5:49
🎯 Governance does not happen in a vacuum or all by itself, the people who govern the people come out of the people and most of the time, either by coercion or by assertion, the person accept the people who govern them even if it’s only temporarily - 9:24
🎯 People usually go in the direction in which they are persuaded or directed to go - 14:17
🎯 To get the people to work with government, you need 4 things; information, education and enlightenment, benefits, consequences - 15:21
🎯 The church is largely responsible for where Nigeria is today and there’s many reasons for that - 16:45
🎯 The role that the church has to play in governance is; - 16-56
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Hear from God and tell the government what God is saying by way of advice.
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The church is the grooming ground for capacity for leadership
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Support government in areas why government is not able to do everything
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Speak truth to power -criticize and tell governments when it has gone wrong/commend government when they have done right
🎯 - To establish an excellent government, we need a hard core of people who understand what good governance is and they need to demonstrate boldness, commitment, unity and almost new determined to lose their life for this - 22:58
Ituah Ighodalo is a Pastor, an Accountant, a Thinker, a Social Reformer and a Writer. He attended the prestigious Kings College Lagos, the International School University of Ibadan, and obtained a B.Sc combined honors degree in Economics and Accounting in 1982 from the University of Hull, England. He qualified as a Chartered Accountant in July 1986 and attended a Business Management Course at the Harvard Business School, Boston in 2011.
He commenced his professional career in September, 1982 at Pricewaters House now Price Waterhouse Coopers (PWC) and later founded Ighodalo & Co., a professional public Accounting firm in January 1987. In October 2004, Ighodalo & Co. merged with 3 other firms to form SIAO/RSM Nigeria becoming arguably the 5th largest accounting practice in Nigeria, today.
Pastor Ituah is a Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria and also a fellow of the Chartered Institute of Taxation Nigeria; he is a member of the Nigerian Institute of Management, a Member of the American Society of Industrial Security and a member of the American Institute of Management.
He has also sat on various government panels’ (State and Federal), and has been an adviser/consultant to government at different levels since 1991. He is on the Council of the Nigerian British Chamber of Commerce (NBCC), the Nigeria Employers Consultative Association (NECA), and he is on the Board of the National Council on Privatization (NCP/BPE).
He is the Pastor-in-Charge of Trinity House, a non-denominational free flowing International Christian Worship Center.
He was married to the late Ibidunni Ituah Ighodalo and they were blessed with two wonderful children
The Power of Vision and Imagination
🎯� Vision is the ability to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom - 2:11
🎯� Vision gives you direction and gives you a glimpse over your life to make your goals and purpose become a reality - 2:20
🎯� Once you understand that vision clarifies purpose, life would become simpler and more meaningful - 2:35
🎯� A vision board is a collage of images and words representing your wishes and goals intended to serve as inspiration or motivation - 3:09
🎯� “The first step towards creating an improved future is developing the ability to envision it” Tony Dungy - 3:57
🎯� Your vision is what you become in life - 4:26
🎯� Imagination is the tool your heart uses to get what it wants - 4:57
🎯� Vision gives you direction, it acts as a map guiding your life in the right direction - 5:30
🎯� 3 Elements to Vision - 6:24
🎯� Vision gives you passion, passion is a strong intense feeling or emotion that would push you to go after your most intimate desires - 7:54
🎯� Vision provides motivation, motivation is the reason/reasons why you behave a certain way. Generally, your desire to do something is fueled by your motivation and it’s a crucial element in attaining your goal in life - 10:29
🎯� Vision forms your priorities. When you have a clear vision, you are not easily distracted - 12:37
🎯� Your life is the sum total of the decisions you make every single day - 14:44
🎯� Vision puts substance behind your goals - 14:51
🎯� S.M.A.R.T Goals - Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely -16.30
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 20 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, and adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
In Episode 9 my guest and I discuss the topic "Maintaining Healthy Relationships". Below are the highlights of our discussion
🎯 In a healthy relationship, both parties are thriving and nobody is stifling the other - 5:25
🎯 A healthy relationship atmosphere fosters growth, openness, honesty, and open communication - 5:48
🎯 To keep our relationships from dying, it is important that they exist in a state of healthiness - 8:17
🎯 Everybody in the home functions more optimally when the environment is healthy - 9:00
🎯 It is important that we exist in healthy relationships because our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health depends on it - 10:48
🎯 A lot of times, things that people are going through in their current relationships is as a result of the dysfunctionality that existed in their family of origin that they haven’t dealt with - 13:17
🎯 For us in Africa, society has over the years built up this narrative of failure for a woman if you are not able to keep your home - 17:51
🎯 It’s more difficult for men to speak up because there’s even less support for them - 20:46
🎯 You can’t give from a place of emptiness, you can’t give what you don’t have - 22:49
🎯 If we are going to invest in our relationships, you must first invest in yourself - 22:58
🎯 It is important that we start with ourselves first, invest first in you and bring yourself first to a place where, if there are things you need to deal with, deal with them, work on yourself and become the best you before you connect with other people - 23:45
🎯 He who will have friends, must show himself friendly - 25:34
🎯 For marital relationships, values are more important than love - 27:52
🎯 - We might not always see eye to eye but we must respect our differences - 28:28
🎯 There’s a maturity level that you need to have to be able to relate with somebody that you are different from in a respectful manner - 28:52
🎯 Differences help us complement each other in relationships because what I don’t have, somebody else can bring into the relationship - 29:09
🎯 If you are struggling in a relationship, don’t isolate yourself, reach out and get help from professional counseling - 30:53
🎯 For people who want things to be better in their relationship, one important thing you can do is to appreciate one another, learn not to take anything for granted - 32:12
Taiye Aluko is a certified Relationship Counselor and Marriage Coach. She has a heart for teaching young couples how to enjoy and not endure marriage. She believes that there will be a decline in mental health issues when marriages work better.
She is the C.E.O of Rare Gems Counselling & Coaching and has over 16 years of experience in couple counseling, actively working in her local church as the Head of the Marriage Counselling Department. Taiye has worked with several couples over the years, helping them to get started in marriage with the right mindset and needed tools for success. She also volunteers at the Ikoyi Marriage Registry, where you will find her on Tuesday mornings, giving talks on principles for a successful marriage. Taiye graduated from the Obafemi Awolowo University in 1991 with a degree in Law and was called to the Nigerian Bar in 1992. She worked in leading law firms before starting an active career in banking, which spanned over 18 years. She left banking to follow her passion in counseling in 2013. Taiye holds an MBA from the PAN African University and certifications in Person-Centered Counselling, Relationship Counselling, Emotional Intelligence, and Psychology Counselling. She is a certified Prepare-Enrich Marriage Preparation facilitator and a Prepare-Enrich Mentor Couple. Taiye is an associate member of the Women in Business and Management and an NLP practitioner in training.
Taiye Aluko's mission is to help couples build solid foundations for healthy
In this special Mother's Day edition, my sister and I share fond memories to celebrate the excellent role model our Mom has been and the tremendous impact she has had upon our lives. See below for highlights of our conversation:
🎯 M. O. T. H.E.R - Manager. Outstanding. Trustworthy. Hardworking. Enterprising. Role Model - 3:57
🎯 A word that aptly captures what I think of MOM is devoted - 5:01
🎯 The one constant variable in my life over the years has been MOM, she is always there- 6:33
🎯 MOM was and is a woman of faith which I believe was a quality that was passed to her from her own mother and she made sure she passed on to her own children- 7:41
🎯 The building block, foundation and rock of my life is my relationship with God and I know it came from the example I saw in MOM - 8:39
🎯 MOM would not spare anything if she felt that someone needed something and she has the resources, she won’t even think twice before would extend her help - 12:28
🎯 I recently turned 50 and on my secondary school chat group, people were celebrating me and extending it to Mom as well, as few of my friends that were close to us then had a lot to say about what they learnt from Mom - 14:09
🎯 When people cam around her, the same values she was inputting in us, she was also extending to them as well - 14:39
🎯 Favorite memory about Mom - 16:20
🎯 She really laid an excellent example for us to follow - 20:14
🎯Closing thoughts to Mom - 20:25
Excellence versus Perfection
� Perfect/Perfection is the quality of being as good as it is possible for something or
someone to be - Collins English Dictionary - 1:40
� Living a life of perfection is a constant pursuit as long as you are alive, excellence is what
you achieve in the pursuit of perfection - 2:50
� Perfection believes that things can be better even when there is no logic basis for such a
belief but excellence is the recognition of your potential that leads you to believe that you
can indeed do your very best you know to do at any point in time and you have the ability to
do so - 3:01
� Don’t let perfection get in the way of excellence - 3:53
� Strive for excellence not perfection because we do not live in a perfect world - Joyce
Meyer - 4:01
� Don’t be so focused on perfection that you fail to attain excellence which is very much
within your power - 4:21
� The primary differences between excellence and perfection is the way making mistakes
and flaws is viewed. Perfection magnifies mistakes and shortcomings while excellence
paves the way for improvement - 5:58
� Excellence is pleasure while perfection is totally unnecessary pressure - 7:16
� Perfection will mostly lead to procrastination - 7:37
� Done is better than perfect because perfect never gets done - 8:50
� Done is not over, you can always go back to modify your ideas, tasks or projects. - 9:37
� Recognize and embrace your imperfections - 10:48
� Your imperfections makes you human, they give you character and make you authentic -
12:30
� It is important to surround yourself with positive minded people who truly accept you with
your flaws and shortcomings - 13:25
� The pursuit of perfection can be detrimental to your health and well-being - 14:11
� The person who pressures you the most is yourself - 16:15
� Focus on progress over perfection - 16:49
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 20 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
On episode six of The Excellent Life podcast, I am excited to have a conversation with my Husband, Father of my children, Pastor, Best friend and Business Partner to delve into the topic "Maximizing Relationships". We discuss our different relationships over the years and how we have been able to balance and maximize the different aspects of such relationships.
We discuss at length the order of priority as well as the advantages and disadvantages the different relationships we share have with each other if any.
We identify the husband and wife relationship as the foundation for every other relationship we share and getting it right as husband and wife makes it a lot of easier for the other relationships to succeed and thrive In other words it is the prototype for the other relationships that flow from the that primary relationship.
We examine the issue of conflict resolution and how to ensure that conflict in any particular relationship does not spill over and affect the other relationships in an adverse manner. We are totally in agreement that it takes love and commitment to develop a mature and satisfying relationship on every front.
We conclude that the key to maximizing relationships is a foundation rooted in God. A marriage relationship that has a foundation in God, is able to use the same foundation to raise godly children, function as Co-Pastors and have a trusting business partnership.
Pastor Matthew Matel-Okoh is a Pastor, Motivational Speaker and Entrepreneur. Called to the ministry in 1992, and has served as the Pioneering Pastor for parishes under the Redeemed ChristianChurch of God (RCCG) in Lagos, Nigeria and Kingston, Jamaica. He currently pastors Jesus House, New Jersey Family Church; a multicultural church where people’s minds are being renewed, and lives transformed for excellence. He is a man of great humility and has a servant heart. His passion is to encourage and motivate the body of Christ into maximizing their full potential by living a life of excellence through Christ. He is a visionary and uncompromising in his presentation of the word of God. He is currently the CEO of Paul Silas Communication Inc; Publishers of Inspiration Magazine.
Pastor Matel is married to Pastor Abolanle, a Lawyer by profession, and they are blessed with three children Daniel, David and Joseph.
On the fifth episode of The Excellent Life Podcast, I delve into the topic "Keys to Living an Excellent Life". I identify faith as The Master Key by which we are able to access the promises of God to live the excellent life He has created us to live. I define faith as simply trusting God to do the things He has promised.
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 20 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
In this episode of The Excellent Life Podcast, I discuss the topic "Excellence in Leadership" with my Coach and Mentor Ibukun Awosika. She describes a good leader as someone who is able to maximize the talents and the giftings of all the members of their team for the benefit of the institution, organization, or community. She shares in detail her leadership philosophy which has helped her to excel in the area of leadership.
She further enumerates the qualities that a good leader should possess which include humility and the willingness to be open to learn from anyone in your sphere of influence. She expresses the opinion that you do not have to be the smartest person in the room to be a good leader, but rather giving everyone on your team the opportunity to contribute their own quota to the team actually is an important leadership trait.
She is particularly passionate about inspiring women to attain the highest levels of leadership possible and we discuss her upcoming International Women's Conference coming up in Dubai from March 29th to March 31st, 2022.
I conclude this episode by sharing 10 affirmations of an excellent leader. You are sure to be inspired by this episode. You can follow Ibukun Awosika on Instagram @IbukunAwosika
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Ibukun Awosika is an entrepreneur, a business executive as well as an ordained Pastor. She is a graduate of Chemistry from The University of Ife (now Obafemi Awolowo University), Nigeria; an alumna of the Chief Executive Program of Lagos Business School; the Global Executive MBA of IESE Business School, Barcelona-Spain; and Global CEO Program of Wharton and China European International Business School (CEIBS). Ibukun Awosika is a co-founder and past chairperson of Women in Business, Management, and Public Service (WIMBIZ). She is the founder of the Christian Missionary Fund, a faith-based organization that works with hundreds of missionaries spread across Nigeria to change lives with the provision of medical, educational, and other supplies. A multiple award-winning entrepreneur and the first Nigerian recipient of the prestigious International Women Entrepreneurial Challenge (IWEC) Award as a nominee of the US Department of State in 2008. Ibukun Awosika is the first female and immediate past Chairman of First Bank Nigeria. She has spoken at numerous world conferences and platforms where she shares her knowledge on several economic and faith-based topics. In 2018, she worked as the executive producer of the movie “God’s Calling” and has also authored several books including: “The Girl Entrepreneurs and Business His Way.” She is happily married to Abiodun Awosika, and they are blessed with three wonderful sons.
On the third episode of The Excellent Life Podcast, I look into the topic "Living Your Best Life". I share that it is God's desire for you to live your very best life and that you were blessed at creation with everything needed to do just that. I define living your best life to mean living the best possible life that you were created to live and living up to your God-given potential. It is a life that is purpose-driven and not possession-driven. I emphasize how living your best life is the most important journey in life.
I identify five things to be mindful of in your journey of life in the pursuit of your best life. They are; avoiding the trap of discontentment, avoiding the temptation to compare, recognizing that everybody's timing is different, true fulfillment only comes from within, and living in the present moment.
I conclude that your very best life is a life of gratitude, contentment, and satisfaction for where you are today and the faith and confidence that you have within you what it takes to be the very best version of yourself every day for the rest of your life.
I end the show with some powerful affirmations to inspire you to live your very best life.
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 20 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
In this episode of The Excellent Life Podcast, I discuss the topic "Living A Maximized Life with my Coach and Mentor Fela Durotoye. He describes A Maximized Life as the best kind of life that you can live, it is a life that is lived intentionally to the fullness of its possibilities. It is a life that is lived to its best capacity in every area. He outlines seven dimensions of life that you should attempt to give your best to live your best in. They are your emotional dimension, your physical dimension, your relational dimension, your professional dimension, your financial dimension, your social dimension, and most importantly your spiritual dimension.
We shed light on the fact that everyone has within them what it takes to live a maximized life and how it's not about what you have but what you do with what you have. Fela shares extensively from his own life experience how he was able to build a successful career with the barest minimum of resources. You will be inspired by his journey from humble beginning to being recently admitted into The Forbes Coaching Council (An invitation-only community for senior-level executives in the global coaching industry). He concludes by emphasizing the benefits of Living a Maximized Life and the joy and fulfillment that comes from doing so.
We conclude by affirming the 10 Values Statements framed in The GEMSTONE Personal Creed that inspire you to live a maximized life. You can follow Fela Durotoye on Instagram @feladurotoye
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Fela Durotoye is an Executive Coach, Leadership Expert, Global Speaker & Nation Builder. He is the Founder/CEO of The GEMSTONE Group, a Leadership Development Institution comprising The GEMSTONE Leadership Institute, The GEMSTONE Leadership Network, and The GEMSTONE Nation Builders Foundation.
He is highly regarded as one of Africa’s leading Executive Coaches. He is an official member of the Forbes Coaches Council (an invitation-only community for senior-level executives in the global coaching industry).
Sir FD, as he is fondly called, is renowned for his unique style of blended mentoring and coaching to help business and impact leaders achieve exponential growth in their key success parameters. His technique of inspirational leadership enables even the most successful executives & workforce of organizations to aspire to exceed their collective goals and to go beyond their perceived boundaries of possibilities.
As a leadership expert, he is currently on a mission to help 1 million people develop their leadership capacity and connect them with opportunities for exponential growth so that they can achieve excellent results and outstanding success in their personal and professional lives as they positively impact their communities, nation, continent, and the world at large. Perhaps his greatest contribution to Leadership Development & National Transformation is his Values Infusion Program through which he has been able to get over a million people to commit to living an exemplary lifestyle of Leadership & Excellence as defined by a set of 10 Values Statements framed in The GEMSTONE Personal Creed that is now being widely adopted by families, corporate organizations, schools & educational institutions, professional associations and state governments in Nigeria and across the globe. He is also an Alumnus of the Kennedy School of Government Executive Education program of the prestigious Harvard University. He has also attended the High impact Leadership for a Better Society program at the prestigious Yale University. He is a certified leadership coach of the John Maxwell Team, and is happily married to Tara Fela-Durotoye, a renowned Beauty Entrepreneur and Chief Executive Officer of the House of Tara International; together, they have 3 sons.
On this very first episode of The Excellent Life Podcast, I look into the topic "Created For Excellence". I share how God's desire when He created man was for man to excel in every area of life. I define excellence as doing the absolute best with the divine ability that God has given you, and how the pursuit of excellence becomes easy when you know that you have what it takes within you to excel.
I shed light on the fact the seed of greatness in you must be nurtured and outline some of the things you can do in this regard. They include living a life of purpose, developing a mindset of excellence, Living life intentionally, and the power of visualization.
I end the show with some powerful affirmations and inspire, challenge, and motivate you to live the excellent life you were created to live.
Let's continue the conversation on Instagram and Facebook. Use the #TheExcellentLife. Thank you for subscribing, reviewing, and rating this podcast.
Abolanle Matel-Okoh is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and Pastor. An attorney with over 20 years of experience in Nigeria and the United States of America, she is a member of the Nigerian Bar as well as the New York State Bar.
With experience in diverse areas of judicial science encompassing legal research, investigation, adjudication amongst others, she started her career in United Commercial Bank as a Legal Officer in 1992. Over the next 20 years, she gained relevant experience in legal practice and the real estate business in various firms based in Nigeria and the USA.
She sits on the board of Wema Bank Nigeria PLC and is well trained in the effectiveness of corporate boards, risk management, and advanced strategy for Directors. She is the CEO of Havilah Ventures an entrepreneurial outfit that encompasses businesses in real estate, corporate branding, and the health and wellness sector. She also sits on the board of a number of non-profit organizations and is a budding philanthropist of “The Excellent Life Foundation”.
She is the Associate Pastor at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House, New Jersey. Pastor B as she is fondly called is a woman of great passion and tenacious spirit. She is committed to encouraging women and challenging them to live up to their God-given potential. She is a firm believer that the excellence of God should be reflected in every area of our lives and constantly strives to attain this in everything she does. She is married to Pastor Matel Okoh and they are blessed with three sons.
Introducing The Excellent Life Podcast. Are you looking to live life to the fullest and be the very best version of yourself? Then this is definitely for you. On the show, my desire is to inspire, motivate and challenge you to refuse mediocrity and be full of determination to live the excellent life that you were created to live. The show will cover topics like "created for excellence", "how to live your best life", "keys to living an excellent life" and "the power of vision and imagination". You do not want to miss a single episode so be sure to subscribe to the show!