Coffee in the Corral: Recent Episodes
Abigail
A window into my journey of learning to be authentic and live my life wholeheartedly and un-apologetically. I do not have all the answers but I do know that it's important for us to know that we are not alone. Life is unpredictable and messy, but it is also a beautiful opportunity for us to "seize the day" and stop believing all the lies that we have been told. My hope is that through my stories people will feel seen and empowered to build the life that they want.
This is not my favorite episode. I tried to find a way to avoid talking about a recent horrific situation with AirBnb and one of their hosts, but my brain has been stuck on it.
So I showed up anyway. In the middle of the mess. And shared my story.
Life is complicated, hard, and often sucky. It’s so important that we continue building moments of joy and delight into our life.
For those that make it to the end of today’s difficult conversation, you will find a delightful video of me and my family all riding horses together. These are the moments that keep me going. ♥️
This week, I am delighted to share with you…
- My new favorite book in the whole wide world
- Our wonderful experience at a recent Pridefest
- The lessons that I am learning while building a roof with Nate
- The incredible science behind the design of a “truss”
- Why I believe there is a missing truth to “strength in numbers”
- How we can “bridge the gap”
- The 3 most important traits we must learn if we want to be effective world-changers
The book I highly recommend:
“The House In The Cerulean Sea” by T.J. Klune
The YouTube link about the design of a truss! (From someone who actually knows what they are talking about! 😀)
How Trusses Work! (Structures 5-1)
Today's episode is a little different. After seeing so much disdain, hate, and negativity online, I spent several hours writing this song. It helped me process my feelings and find what I wanted to say. So instead of talking about the current social climate, I decided to sing about it. :)
I hope this song reminds you to value all humanity, no matter what. The ecosystems that thrive are the ones that are diverse! And this includes the truth that it's good for us to have people that disagree with us. We need many perspectives!
Boxes and Lines - by AJ
9/23/25
I am right and you are wrong
And this is why I write this song
All the fighting drives me crazy
If I am pink and you are blue
What the hell does that even do
Except to separate the babies?
Boxes and lines need redesigns
And I don't need you to define
What kind of label to slap on me
If rules make laws and laws are cruel
Who do you think your gonna fool?
You're only filling up your belly
If one makes two and two makes four
Then each should get to choose their door
It's not a matter of religion
Time is short and life goes by
And I don't need to know the why
Everyone has their own opinion
A heart that beats is theirs to keep
No one wins when we all bleed
We need a thriving ecosystem
No red or blue is always true
The color pallet must include
A celebration to be human
A celebration to be human
Let's all remember we are human.
I am so excited to bring this episode to you all this week!
What started as a simple question that popped in my mind during meditation quickly turned into a three and a half hour research dive that has me delighted to share my findings with you!
In this episode you will hear about:
- My morning meditation
- My desire to find others who experienced failure but did not quit
- Some very incredible humans who changed our world
- The definitions and my thoughts on the words - failure, attempt, and success
- The inspiration and takeaway I got from doing this research
These are the people I share a little about:
- Thomas Edison
- Henry Ford
- Alexander Graham Bell
- Stephanie Kwolek
- Bette Nesmith Graham
- Alan Turing
Recently my family attended the Japanese Festival held in the Japanese Garden at Nathanael Greene/Close Memorial Park. Not only was it a gorgeous festival with incredible performances, it was also life changing. I walked into it knowing very little about the culture, but I walked out with a deep sense of respect and gratitude for the beautiful humans I encountered.
Words hardly describe the feelings our family had while we enjoyed this tiny glimpse into the culture of Japan but afterwards we all agreed that we loved the Japanese people and were all wishing we were Japanese.
Also, today I present a new event that Freedom For The Taking is going to start hosting, called “Campfire Stories”. Listen to the end for details and how you can sign up! Please share this information with your friends or anyone you think may
benefit from this new event that is a support group for those who have experienced religious trauma, high-control environments, or are cult survivors.
If you head to freedomforthetaking.org you can click the banner at the top of the webpage to sign up for “Campfire Stories”!
Interested in how our truple relationship thrives?
This week I have a delightful, belly-laughing episode to share! My two darling daughters, Tanaya and Avriella, join as the hosts to interview and find out how well Nate, Jenna and I know each other. 😎
For this unique episode, Coffee in the Corral becomes “Cider in the Dining Room” and it’s sure to bring a smile to your face!
Life is too hard to not build meaningful, fun moments in between the shit. I encourage you to have a family conversation like this one!
It's a tough one for me today.
Being a parent who loves their kids as deep and as wide as possible and watching your kids grow up and struggle might be one of the hardest parts of parenting I have yet experienced.
Today I share about how I am learning to let go of my need to make my kids happy and learn to let them have their own experiences. Somedays I feel so heavy hearted for them and wish so bad that I could make it all better.
This episode is for those parents going through the season of their kids getting older. I see you. I feel you. We must remember that this too shall pass. And if you need an excellent book to remind you to stay in your lane, check out this book.
"Too Much - A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency."
by Terri Cole
This week I am excited to talk about a recent job I did with Nate and how learning to install a chain link fence fascinated my brain!
(Also, due to a heat advisory, I was truly in the “hot seat” today. Youch!! ;)
I share:
- My new appreciation for baristas
- Why I juggle everyday for a minute or two
- How my horse, Skye, demonstrates the gift of asking for something
- The genius but simple design of the chain link fence and what we can learn from it!
Hello friends! This week I am so excited to share about why I decided to make a documentary of my story and how the filming process is helpng me heal on a deeper level!
In this episode I discuss:
- Why I feel passionate to tell my story
- How the filming process brought up a lot of difficult feelings
- Who I chose to make the documentary and why
- How seeing my story through the eyes of an adult instead of being a child caught me off guard
- Why I believe we all deserve freedom
- We all have a story and we all need each other's stories To learn more about the marketing company I hired check out
frequencymarketingteam.com
Or find them on Instagram and Facebook at frequencymarketingteam
This week I talk about something that makes me very uncomfortable to talk about.
Discussing my weight feels embarrasing but I also felt it was important to share. We are all tempted to struggle with our weight and some of us, (I’m talking about me), can get hyperfixed on a certain number. But we don’t have to stay stuck in that shame-filled space.
Today I share:
-The reason I weighed myself
-The slippery slope afterwards
-How 5lbs hijacked my brain
-The tools I used to return to a healthy mindset
-My committment to myself
-My new favorite podcast! (see link at the bottom)
-Realizing I am a horrible friend to myself
-What if we already won?
-Happiness is a choice
Here is the link for the Simon Sinek interview!
Click below or find it on the podcast, Modern Wisdom #964 Simon Sinek
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7jymUFu6DpeQQHuNvvU6rh?si=Nx9YaBymSRaLw4shGGCrMw
This week I am incredibly excited to share this beautiful, vulnerable conversation I was honored to have with the incredible Amy Temple!
In this episode we discuss:
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Why Amy stopped at Ash Grove Pharmacy and how her willingness to be vulnerable created a connection
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The struggle to find what was real in the religious environment she grew up in as she endured constant rejection from her family
-Amy's determination to be true to herself
-How trauma pushed her to look for help back inside the Christian system but eventually once again proved that they did not practice what they preached
-What Adam and Eve have in common with Brittany Spears ;)
-How we are all trying to mask and why it's so important to have space to be our authentic selves
-The Colorado "brain breaking" story
-How our healing helps increase our capacity - the Pendulum Effect
-Learning to not be a perfectionist
-Acknowledging significant moments
Find and follow Amy at:
Facebook - Amy Temple
Instagram - amytempletime
Anxiety, panic, and chaos have taken our country by storm right now. It can be so difficult to find ways to step outside the constant turmoil.
Today I will give you some practical, simple ways to ease your anxiety and return to a peaceful place inside your body.
We all deserve to feel tranquil. It's time to take our power back and not let the chaos rule our everyday lives.
We make the most progress when we move from a grounded, peaceful place! Who knew chickens could be so empowering?!
The name of Martha Beck's new book that I mention in this episode, is "Beyond Anxiety". :)
Feeling anxious?
Feeling frustrated or stuck in your life?
Join me today as I take a walk on Freedom For The Taking's special nature trail. There are five stops along the way where we will take a few moments to reflect and reconnect with ourselves.
Today's walking meditation is created to help you dig deep within yourself and find a way forward to a truer version of who you are today.
Struggle with anxiety? This week's episode demonstrates one simple activity you can do to lower your stress hormones. It's easy, cheap, and even holds the potential to bring you giggles!
Painting!
No need to paint anything in particular! You can paint what you feel!
Join me and my partner Jenna as we throw perfection to the wind and just paint from the heart. There is nothing quite as calming as watching the sunrise and painting beside one of the loves of my life!
Hey there!
Today's episode is a fun grooming session with my horse, Zelle, while I chat about interesting things on my mind.
If you enjoy fun facts that will inspire you, then you're sure to enjoy this conversation!
I chat about:
-what my morning meditation taught me
-my new appreciation for my rib cage
-why some trees grow thorns
-and how all these things can teach us healthy ways to navigate our lives during this horrific time in our country right now
Ever wonder what trimming a horse's hooves is like?
Well, wonder no more! In today's episode I bring you along with me on the journey to correct some serious flaring/overgrowth issues on my pony, Fay.
I explain:
- why I chose to learn how to trim my own horses
-the tools I use
-the importance of hoof care
-what can happen if you wait longer in between trimming
-the basic science of a horse's hoof
-how to "bring the hoof back together"
-what I do when I get tired during a trim
-how incredible the horse hoof design is
This week I share about our recent experience of attending the Ozark's Pridefest in Springfield, MO.
What an incredible event and beautiful opportunity to connect with so many amazing people!!!!
There was one specific moment during the event where a man was marching around the square with a toxic sign. Listen to this episode to hear about how the pride community handled it!
If you love nature and music, then you will love today's episode!
It's important that we take time to do things in our lives that bring us delight. Yes, digging deep and processing difficult things is a part of the healing process, but making space for play is also just as important.
By definition, play is about engaging in an activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose. This reminds us that it's NOT about being practical.
Play and perfection do not go together. You will notice me making "mistakes" while I play my instruments today. But that's okay!
I hope you make some time this week to do something that makes you laugh and become immersed in the present moment!
Life is what we make of it. Let's worry less about being perfect and spend more energy being playful!
It’s true. And now I am officially a giraffe geek.
Tune in today to hear about my giraffe, Aammina, and the delight I am having from tracking her over in Africa! Scroll below to find details of how you can get your own animal to track while helping preserve our incredible kingdom of animals.
I am fucking excited to share about how the limitations of my current situation is helping me find even more freedom from toxic mindsets!
I discuss:
- The wonderful bracelet my friend, Faith, sent me, and how you can get involved with this cool opportunity
- Cool facts about giraffes you probably didn’t know
- My transition from Abby, to Abigail, to AJ
- How my motorcycle accident gave me important insight
- The unhealthy beliefs I want to release
- The beautiful truths I want to embrace
Check out Fahlo to see how you can buy a beautiful bracelet and track your own animal!
Fahlo partners with numerous conservation projects, and you can check out each website depending on the animal you choose. For giraffes, you can visit somaligiraffe.org to read about their amazing work.
My current book recommendation!
“Too Much - A guide to breaking the cycle of high-functioning codependency” by Terri Cole
Today I am joined by my beautiful partner, Jenna, as she shares the frustrating situation of buying a new car only to have the transmission die within a few weeks.
Jennifer walks us through:
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Her decision to buy Kolbie
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The unfortunate diagnosis
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Finding a doctor for Kolbie
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The best transmission place ever
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Learning to let go
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The best auto repair shop ever
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There is no "right or wrong" decision
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AJ's new saying to replace the "everything happens for a reason" bullshit
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Opportunities to grow during the crappy seasons
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Why adopting a puppy when your partner has a broken ankle isn't the best idea ;)
If you live in the Springfield area, we HIGHLY recommend these two auto shops:
American Transmissions
T&B Auto
Last week was difficult. My recent motorcycle accident left me with a smashed ankle and a concussion. After two doctor visits, multiple x-rays and still no answers, I started feeling hopeless.
We all go through tough times. Life is packed full of ups and downs. I hope today's episode encourages you that nothing is wrong with you, you are not alone and empowers you with some tools to manage the struggle.
Today I talk about:
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How I ended up in a dark place
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My struggle to get out
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Why uncertainty is difficult on the human brain
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The mother robin who taught me to notice beauty
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The gamble of life
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3 things that hurt me and 3 things that helped me
Last week I had a wreck on my motorcycle. Thankfully my gear saved my life and I just have to recover from a concussion and a severely swollen ankle. I’ve had a lot of time to think about my accident and work through my big feelings. Although I am extremely bummed about my situation, there has been some really valuable insight that has come to me in the midst of it.
This week I share:
- The story of how I wrecked
- My struggle of shame
- Statistics of vehicle accidents that occur close to home
- Why this is such a common occurrence
- The shocking resemblance and statistics of child abuse
- How we can protect our children better
- Why our comfort zone is actually the most dangerous place to be
If you are interested in healing herbs and an incredible woman to help you find just what you need, please check out:
agapeapothecary.com
Or email Kit Creemer at:
kit@agapeapothecary.com
Does our current political climate have you tied up in fear?
Are you overwhelmed with all the issues and unsure of where to start?
Do you feel stuck in constant panic?
Chances are, if you are human, you have/are experiencing a lot of feelings about the scary things happening right now in our country.
From my own life experiences and learning, I have found 4 simple steps that I share with you today, to help you move out of fear and into a grounded confidence.
- Accept reality
- Acknowledge the suck
- Search for sunshine
- Ask yourself, “What is mine to carry?”
In this episode, I unpack these 4 steps.
It’s not about having a plan for everything that could/might go wrong.
It’s about being prepared and aware.
“Lasting change doesn’t come from reaction - it comes from response.” -AJ
Ever feel like your life is like a roller coaster?
Are you spending all your energy trying to find a way off?
Me too.
Recently, we went on a trip and came home with the stomach bug. As I spent the next couple of days caring for my family, I had some important realizations. Join me today as I share my experience and my new plan for navigating life’s roller coaster.
Today you will learn:
- The truth about life
- My plan to go “pro”
- The 4 steps to becoming an expert roller coaster rider
- 4 Fun Facts about roller coasters
- How yelling “Rock on” can help us move from fear to adventure
An interview with Avriella!
This week’s episode features one of my favorite podcast guests, Avriella, who comes back to the show to share her valuable perspectives on what she is learning in life. I am again amazed and grateful for this young woman's insight and wisdom. I may be slightly partial, but just take a listen and see for yourself. I don’t think you will regret it!
Today we discuss:
- A traumatizing experience at the vet
- Why Avriella doesn’t like the book I just read
- How she chooses to think about all the parts of herself
- What she does when she learns about new things
- How our brains help us escape cults
- Why we shouldn’t believe everything we read
After a pretty shitty week trying to problem solve and coming up with nothing but frustration, I finally turned to a book I recently got at the library.
“Don’t Believe Everything You Think” by Joseph Nguyen.
He explains why our thinking is the beginning and end of suffering.
Honestly, I am not even sure if it works, but in today’s episode, I share my new experiment of trusting divine intuition to send me answers.
Being in a state of panic and stress has never helped me find clarity. I believe there HAS to be a better way. Religion wrecked my life, but I believe that we are all intrinsically connected through nature and that the answers are inside us, waiting for us to be quiet and listen.
I highly recommend the book! Reading it brought me such peace, and where peace is, that is always where I want to be.
After 41 years and a lot of pain, there are a few things I have learned:
- Not everyone is going to like me
- Speaking up for the vulnerable will always piss off the bullies
- It’s not worth being silent just to be accepted by others
- I get to choose how to spend my time and what matters to me
- Nature never apologizes
- My life is too precious to waste on caring about what others think about me.
“I would rather be blinded by the light than run into something trying to see in the dark.”
This episode is an eclectic combination of events that happened and things I have been pondering. From nature and its uncontrollable habits to my first experience drinking a martini, there is a little bit of something in this podcast for everyone!
Listen to learn more about:
- The sentence that Martha Beck finally found that resonates with every human being she has coached
- Wind wind go away… come again… a never day. Do we really need all this wind?
- Are your fucks being used responsibly?
- Is the goal of not wasting… wasting our one precious life?
- If mockingbirds can sing over 150 different songs maybe we can do one thing today that makes our hearts sing.
Click here to read the full article on how wind is helpful to our environment:
https://www.canr.msu.edu/news/wind_is_essential_to_natural_processes
Check out the TedTalk by Sarah Knight:
The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove
This week I share about a disturbing, recent situation with our local school. After my daughter brought home a horrific story of unacceptable behaviour from her PE coaches, I set out to bring things to the light. The response from the principal shocked me.
Listen here for the whole story and how after almost forty years of not valuing my voice, I am finally taking my power back. From here on out, I will not only speak up for myself and my family but also for those who are not listened to.
It’s time for this small, close-minded town to wake up and get out of their ruts.
We always have choices. They may not be our favorite choices, but we always have choices to speak up and make the changes that will best honor ourselves and our family. NEVER settle for less.
If you enjoyed the quotes I share today, check out the book at your local library - “No Fucks Given” by Sarah Knight
This week I discovered something interesting about myself. It all started with a gentle yoga session led by the incredible YouTube yoga teacher, “Yoga With Adriene.” The 26 minutes I spent caring for my body opened my heart and led me to a podcast episode by Martha Beck that brought me enlightenment and healing.
It’s beautiful - important - and worth listening to.
Here is the yoga session I joined in case you need some self-care:
Yoga For Comfort And Nourishment | 25-Minute Yoga Practice | Yoga With Adriene
Here is the Martha Beck podcast episode I highly recommend:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3bG3S8abXLHtsl0Iq1JAlX?si=aH08ucw7RoG4nRGzMtJkow
Also, I confirm that Martha Beck’s most recent book is “Beyond Anxiety”.
Hello lovelies! This week’s episode is a delightful, light-hearted exploration of the Red-winged Blackbird and why I now aspire to be like them. 🙂 Although this bird is one of the most widely spread birds in North America, I was amazed to learn how incredibly amazing this little creature is.
Sometimes I think it’s easy to think that a part of nature that is extremely common is just kind of boring - but oh would that be a mistake!
When we take time to slow down and zoom in, nature reminds us that life is beautifully complex. Red-winged Blackbirds aren’t boring blackbirds…just as you my dear friend, are not just a boring human.
You are unique, capable, amazing, and talented beyond your imagination. It’s time for us to take our power just like the blackbirds have taken theirs!
Hello friends. In this episode I share an extremely disheartening, disturbing story of a conversation I heard this week. I do not have the answers and I am extremely upset about the dehumanizing happening in our world right now. It’s unacceptable.
I also take a few minutes at the end of the episode to honor my two beloved horses that passed away several years ago.
Shiloh continues to remind me to “Never Give Up.” Though my heart is heavy and horrified, I refuse to be paralyzed with frustration. I will keep showing up. I will not quit.
Here is a song my daughter showed me that lifted my spirits after I was finished podcasting. It’s a a beautiful reminder to live in the moment, today, and not allow ourselves to get stuck in the past or yanked to the fearful future. I encourage you to have a listen!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ynli8GlJZvguk0Jduu15v?si=vPRJF9KFQOKQjmThFFiRKg
In honor of today’s topic, I took a walk in the woods and found a peaceful spot in the forest to podcast. I’d love for you to come along with me!
Most of us know that getting out in nature is good for us. Nature is associated with increases in happiness, subjective well-being, positive affect, positive social interactions, and a sense of meaning and purpose in life, as well as decreases in mental distress.
Today I share some interesting studies that caught my attention and gave me an even deeper understanding of how incredible nature is. Scientists continue to study this subject because there seems to be an endless wealth of benefits.
I love nature and I love learning about it! This episode inspires and encourages you to find ways to rejuvenate your soul with this beautiful, free gift - just outside your door.
We need nature because we are a part of nature. It’s time for us to come home.
Listen to the end to hear my crazy running story and how I became a professional stunt actor through simple meditation. (Please do not try this at home. Coffee in the Corral is not responsible for anyone who attempts to do meditation while running. 😆)
Here is the link to the article I read that includes the stories shared here:
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/04/nurtured-nature
Here is the podcast episode talking about how “awe” helps heal heartbreak:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4L6gpZmCV8TPgU6j7e06Br?si=n6bgONCCSBaFUHFhBRRI2A
Here is the fucking awesome podcast by Martha Beck that got me so zen I stopped watching where I was going. 🙃
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ynli8GlJZvguk0Jduu15v?si=vPRJF9KFQOKQjmThFFiRKg
Unpacking Negative Self-Talk - And Why We Should Stop Trying To Get Rid Of It #128
This week I share two stories.
- My first experience and encounter with our local vet. It’s a bit alarming but stick with me because it turns out pretty good.
- How a discouraging yoga session turned out to be an enlightening moment and important insight into the negative voices in my head.
In this episode, I discuss:
- How a rude vet situation pushed me to stand up for myself finally
- Why I care more about what my horses think than humans
- My very interesting journaling experience and what I discovered
- Who is this negative voice in my head?
- The story it shared with me
- How I am integrating and caring for it instead of banishing it
Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D - is the author and creator of Internal Family Systems. I recommend all of his books!
If this episode brought you some understanding and compassion for yourself, please share it with someone you think would benefit from it!
Super stoked and freaking grateful to record this week’s podcast as the sun rises! It’s something I have always wanted to do and nature brought in some gorgeous warm weather right in the middle of winter so I jumped at the opportunity!
Watch the sunrise with me as I discuss:
- Why sometimes I wish I could be an animal who spends their whole life outside
- What would it be like to have the ultimate temperature all the time?
- How our brain notices when things are present but has a hard time noticing the absence of things
- Viewing trains as living history
- My heroes Rayna and Makai and why
- Why I recently chose to leave social media
- The email list you will WANT to be a part of!
- How considering what is still going right in our lives at the current moment is the key to not living in constant stress and panic
The amount of beauty and the many gorgeous animal sounds that accompany this episode are breath-taking!
You won’t want to miss this! Send this episode to your animal/nature-loving friend!
Today I share an article I read recently that is extremely helpful for navigating these chaotic times.
The Trump administration has been throwing so much shit at this country that it feels like drowning. The waves keep coming.
If this is the way you feel, this episode is for you. This important discussion not only defines the situation but also gives us some efficient tools to help us know what to do next.
I discuss:
- How a 7-hour campfire helped me reconnect to myself
- The article written by sociologist Jennifer Walter (see link below)
- Can we problem-solve when we are scared?
- The science of our amygdala and prefrontal cortex
- How to “feel” afraid but not let fear paralyze us
- Using our talents to bring creative solutions
Podcast Edit Note: I quote Martha Beck as saying “The opposite of anxiety is creativity,” but this is incorrect. She says that curiosity is the opposite of anxiety.” Listen to her two recent interview episodes below to learn more.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ouixsfyR2HA7otWqo3060?si=2PbiiOqJTeWcXOOEQZu23w
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3fceqKcfNuppqgzmaJ9t42?si=OV2qyXvXQPO5d5xv_sJY5g
FB Link for the article written by Jennifer Walter:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19xEiBxgbE/?mibextid=wwXIfr
Regardless of the 16-degree weather, I still recorded this week’s episode out in my corral. After watching the inauguration of Donald Trump, I knew I needed to get out of my head and into my body. Nature does this for me.
Today I share what I am doing to stay grounded amidst a lot of chaos unfolding in America.
- What is in my control?
- What doesn’t change?
- What robs me of my peace?
I encourage all my listeners to make their own lists and put them up as daily reminders. 🙂
I feel like this week’s podcast episode is an important reminder that there is still a lot within our control. There is still hope. Not all is lost. We will not be silenced. We will not be put in boxes. We are powerful. Fucking powerful.
It all starts right inside our bodies. It starts with self-love and the knowledge that we still have the most important choices right in front of us.
I love ya. I got ya. And more importantly, you got you. ❤️
Today I was delighted and honored to have my beautiful partner, Jenna Gael, join me on this week’s podcast episode! With the help of mascot Zelle who tried VERY hard to be involved in this conversation, Jenna and I discussed a recent experience I had with anxiety.
Today we talked about:
- The straw that broke the camel’s back
- The lesson that Zelle taught me on the walk we took together
- How Martha Beck’s saying can bring us to the present moment
- Jennifer’s journey of learning to feel safe with herself
- Our reaction to trauma can also be a trauma response
- Learning to have compassion with ourselves
- What NOT to say to your partner when they are struggling;)
Today’s podcast episode is recorded in the middle of a winter storm, 17 degrees outside with a wind chill of 4 degrees. Burrrr! Nevertheless, every day is an opportunity to show up and shine even when it’s fucking cold!
Today I am stoked to share with my listeners about my goal for 2025 and how I am going to manifest a whole new life.
Sound impossible? Maybe. But then again, maybe it’s time for us to stop believing things that do not get us to our desired destination.
Join me today to find out how you can find fresh opportunities and unlimited possibilities for your life. If you are like me, tired of living with a limited, scarcity mindset, then this episode is for you.
Get ready to take the reins to change your brain, and then watch your brain help you change your life!
Here is the book I am reading, and so far, I highly recommend it! 😀
“Becoming Flawesome” by Kristina Mand-Lakhiani
Also, this is the excellent article I read:
Strategiccoach.com
Mindset Matters: Abundance Mindset Vs. Scarcity Mindset
This week I share about:
- My struggle with being sick during Christmas break and how a creative, silly painting session helped me break free
- How healing and building new pathways takes time and lots of repetition
- A favorite show our family is watching right now…
- My firm opinion about the job of a therapist and why some therapists make me angry
- Why my sister is basically the best counselor ever and why she should be getting paid for the work she is doing
If you want to see the silly pictures I painted make sure to check out my socials at
Instagram: @freedomzebracoach
FB: Freedom For The Taking
TikTok: @zebra.coach
This week on Coffee in the Corral I invite you to sit with Abigail as she shares with courage and vulnerability. If you desire to know what true authenticity and deep, life-changing healing look like, today’s your day. This gem is the real deal and this front-row seat in her corral is an honor.
-Jenna
This week I had jury duty.
I was not prepared for what I would experience inside that courtroom.
I don’t suppose we are ever truly prepared for the things that trigger us.
This episode I share:
- My experience inside the courtroom
- The moment that triggered me
- The internal struggle
- My decision to speak up
- The unstoppable tears
- Taking my power back
- How I am finally learning to listen to my gut
Be ready for a delightful, fun-filled conversation that is sure to spark your curiosity and take you as deep as your water trough goes. 😉
Tanaya shares with us a recent experience she had while doing outside chores. The awareness she has developed is quite impressive for a 16-year-old and she challenges the rest of us to pay more attention to our bodies.
Listen to this week’s episode to learn how to not only notice the messages you tell yourself but also how to find a better way forward.
I may be partial, but I’m pretty sure Tanaya is one of the wisest 16-year-olds I have ever known. I guess you will have to listen and find out for yourself! 🙂
It’s a chilly day here at the ranch and Vallie Ren joins me for snuggles as I podcast behind the barn.
Today I discuss:
- How I am learning to take responsibility for my boundaries instead of blaming others.
- The calf roping competition that broke my daughter’s heart and opened my eyes.
- Why I believe “blending in” is ruining our society.
You can listen to the “We Can Do Hard Things” episode I mentioned by clicking this link below:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0i9Odjqyl9i4od2V53zC73?si=95546e36bd92423f
This week Nate and I are celebrating our 20th anniversary! Listen to this week’s episode to hear about our cheap getaway and why we are happier now than we have ever been.
I want everyone to know:
It’s never too late to restructure your relationships.
It’s never too late to rebuild your life.
It’s never too late to revisit your past and find healing.
I also share about my new adventure of becoming a substitute teacher and how I am using it as an opportunity to be an undercover Zebra Coach!
Lessons learned from an avid, adventure queen!
And she’s back folks! A fan favorite, and delightful friend of mine, Allison Short, comes back on the podcast this week to share about her recent cycling adventure! If you love a good challenge, love trying new things, or are trying to learn how to get out of your comfort zone, this episode is for you!
Today Allison shares with us:
Her preparation and plan for a cross-country cycling trip
The unexpected, challenging aspects of long-distance cycling
When and why she finally decided to pivot
The beauty of knowing what feels best to you
Are we making the choice or are we just choosing what we are programmed to do?
Allison’s discovery of a new exercise routine
How different people nod their heads…
The cool way bikers respect and encourage cyclists!
I could chat with Allison all day. She always brings such great stories and lessons we can all relate to and learn from. She is fucking cool, super funny, beautifully genuine, and badass as shit! I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. I’m sure you will.
Check out some of Allison’s adventures at:
Instagram - @ayfosho
YouTube - TimberAPS
Hey! I am back home from my solo motorcycle trip and eager to share some things I learned!
This episode I discuss:
- The delights and challenges of a road trip on my motorcycle
- The book I want to write titled, “How to take an exhausting motorcycle trip in 3 easy steps.”
- My question to the residents of East TN
- The biggest lesson this trip taught me
- How people-pleasing still sneaks it’s way into my life
- Why pausing is helping me honor my internal world
- The magnificent mountains right in front of my face
This is the guest that I have been dying to have on my podcast since I started podcasting two years ago!
My dearest friend and lifetime mentor, Rayna Granger, joins me this week to share her story but instead of being in my corral, I got to join Rayna in her corral along with her lovely animals!
Rayna is a highly accomplished horsewoman who has spent her life learning how to be a beautiful partner for her horses while also generously sharing her wisdom with others. I met Rayna 14 years ago at one of her horsemanship clinics, and since then we have become very close friends.
Today Rayna shares:
How she learned to protect her peace due to a childhood filled with turmoil
Her first experience on a horse
Her many learning opportunities with multiple, well-known trainers and what she learned
How horsemanship has shaped her into the woman she is today
The beauty of flowing with the lesson that comes
The way Rayna sets boundaries and knows when it’s time to let go of relationships
“It’s okay to be selective”
Why we don’t have to be afraid of being selfish
How to honor your path
The answer Rayna responds with when someone asks her, “What do you do?”
How Rayna’s dad taught her to have unlimited thinking
This conversation meant SO much to me. Rayna has been inspiring and encouraging me for many years and I am so delighted that I finally get to share her with my podcast peeps. Her calm, wise, beautiful demeanor will fill your soul while her witty, joyful self is sure to have you smiling up a storm.
She’s the real deal folks. Genuine as they come. I am deeply grateful for her friendship.
One of the books Rayna mentions that she loves:
“Who Moved My Cheese?” by Dr. Spencer Johnson
A reconnecting and insightful conversation with my dear friend, Faith Lee.
I am so delighted to bring you this beautiful conversation with the beautiful Faith Lee! Faith and I go back a LONG way. When she was 14 years old, her family lived in community with my family inside the religious cult, Rose Creek Village.
Now, almost 16 years later, we finally had the opportunity to reconnect. It was a wonderful reunion and Faith was brave and kind enough to join me on my podcast to share her story. Faith shares her journey to adulthood which eventually led to her discovery of being queer. Each of us has our own important, unique story but we can all relate to the difficulty of truly finding ourselves.
Faith is gentle, strong, wise, and knows her worth. Don’t let her soft voice fool you. Through life’s struggles, she has learned well how to love herself. Faith is another beautiful badass out there doing her work. She’s exactly the kind of person we all need on our team!
Check out her favorite song: “Maybe I Don’t Know” - Jon Bellion
Check out one of her favorite films: “Everything, Everywhere, All At Once”
Today I find comfort in podcasting with my favorite 3 C’s of life:
- Coffee
- Corral
- Campfire
This episode I discuss a recent bad luck situation that triggered my trauma and threw me into a bit of a tail spin. But instead of shaming myself and shoving downt the uncomfortable feelings, I tried something different.
I tried feeling them.
And I learned something valuable.
- Maybe rushing to find the “good” in a situation, or be grateful, or reframe it, or refocus, or make meaning of the shit, maybe we should wait…and give our body some space to work through the feelings.
I hope this episode gives you permission to be angry - to be disappointed - to be pissed - to be frustrated - to be hurt.
Remember, “We cannot heal what we cannot feel.”
I will be hopefully be on my motorcycle freedom trip next week so feel free to browse and listen to past episodes of Coffee in the Corral.
And please share with another human if this episode was helpful to you!
Hello my lovelies! This week I share about my struggle with living in constant stress due to my unrealistic To-Do List that only grows longer each day.
I discuss:
How my mum flowers are teaching me to pay attention to where my energy is going
The unrelenting To-Do List that becomes a tsunami
A heartbreaking lesson I learned from a little horse rider in tears
Why we are all like that little girl
My upcoming motorcycle adventure and why I’m excited but terrified
Next week I will be gone so there will not be an episode coming out. Please feel free to circle back to a favorite of yours or try out some of my favorite podcasts listed below!
“We Can Do Hard Things” -Glennon Doyle (I always learn a lot from this podcast. Sometimes it’s hard stuff and sometimes it has me laughing out loud!)
“The Gathering Room” - Martha Beck (So helpful in rewiring my brain. I love all her stuff!)
“Getting Curious” - Jonathan Van Ness (Definitely challenges me to learn new things, get out of my comfort zone, and value true authenticity!)
“Handsome” - Tig Nataro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin (I love this one for light entertainment although sometimes they go deep and I always love that.)
Or you can just search for any interviews with Britt Frank or Richard Schwartz. These two are amazing experts in their field and you cannot help but learn some cool shit from them!
Here is the Martha Beck interview that I mentioned at the end of my podcast:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4sdaikKgmJeJhxBP1UV46r?si=WzQRi3sZSqqJa34Cj_Dksg&t=2354
-the journey of L.A. model and business entrepreneur Aubrey Cooke
This week I had the honor of having a delightful conversation with the one and only, Aubrey Cooke! Besides being an absolute badass, Aubrey is an inspiration, and her life story reminds us to keep chasing our dreams. Oh my gosh did I enjoy this interview!
In this episode, Aubrey shares about the experiences and events that brought her to where she is today. You will hear a little about:
- Where she got her love for modeling
- How she managed to chase her dream
- L.A. and the lessons she learned there
- Some of the negative messages religion instilled in her
- The struggle she experienced in the modeling industry
- Hitting rock bottom
- Why she moved back to Joplin, MO.
- How it all came together
- Her passion for helping women gain confidence
- The businesses she now owns and runs
Please make sure you check out all the links below! Aubrey is an extremely talented artist! Be sure to follow her and visit her websites to see all the empowering talent she has to offer!
Instagram:
@losthollywoodvintage
@aubreyscooke
Facebook:
Aubrey Cooke
Websites:
www.aubreycookemakeup.com
www.losthollywoodvintage.com
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A challenging and enlightening conversation with Keisha Messina
This week I was incredibly honored to have Keisha Messina come on my podcast and share how the past few years have opened her eyes to the importance of living life in full authenticity.
She bravely shares the very personal story of her partner transitioning to female and how that challenged Keisha to grow. I am so grateful for Keisha’s willingness to share what she has learned so that the rest of us can become more educated and learn how to be true allies.
Keisha talks about:
-the struggles trans people experience
-the importance of understanding and supporting the trans community
-her passion and how she got to work for the S.T.A.R.T. nonprofit
-why we need to live authentically
-the need for spouses of transitioning partners to also have support
-the two big events that S.T.A.R.T. puts on every year
-why Keisha will NOT be voting for Trump
-how just going and having those conversations can enlighten us
I loved this conversation so much. I learned a shit ton. I think you will too.
Please go check out S.T.A.R.T., (Springfield Transgender and Ally Resources) and find out how you can learn more and support this important organization.
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089029249854&mibextid=LQQJ4d
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Today it’s just me sitting with my flowers, processing some hard, but important realizations.
Last week I took a walk in my back field and learned valuable things that are helping me move forward. Although this was a vulnerable and emotional episode for me, Zelle brought comedic relief by coming over at one point to share my coffee, scratching her butt on the post behind me, and then blowing her nose on the back of my head. Gotta love that horse. ;)
Here are a few things I shared:
- Remembering to celebrate what we have already done
- Giving myself permission to design something that fits the present me
- Comparison blocks creativity
- Letting go of the “old me” in order to reach for the “new me”
- Honoring our past roles and achievements
- It’s okay to grieve the loss
- Our power is in knowing that we have choices
- It’s awesome to change and continue changing
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A podcast fan favorite and beloved friend of mine, Taylor Brown, is back today to answer some hard questions about religion. Taylor is such a kind, compassionate soul with a very different understanding of God than I have ever heard. Though I do not subscribe to Christianity, I do want to remain open-minded and continue to surround myself with humans who challenge me and help me not become judgemental towards others who believe differently.
*If religion has traumatized you this episode may trigger you. Still, I encourage you to be curious; this episode may help you realize that not all Christians are hateful. Taylor shows us a different way to think about it all, and he is a beautiful example of someone who loves God and also truly loves people. He isn’t interested in trying to change people or convince them to believe what he believes.
During this episode, we discuss:
- Why does living inside boxes feel safe
- Is it possible for a world to exist where there is a space for everyone to find what feels right to them instead of all the judging and thinking there is a right and wrong?
- Taylor talks about his thoughts on these three concepts:
- Being made in the image of God
- Love the sin - not the sinner
- Hell
- Why the word acceptance feels patronizing
- The story of how religion scared my mom into being responsible for other’s salvation
- Why it’s important to Taylor to continue to speak up about controversial, religious topics on social media
- Jesus never called anyone broken
- How do we disagree with others without ending the relationship?
- The most important thing Taylor wants his kids to learn from
I believe that valuing diversity is the key component to creating a better world. I purposefully seek out others with different experiences so that I don’t become narrow-minded. This conversation, though a bit triggering at times, also brought me some much-needed healing.
For me, Taylor is a beacon of hope. I hope this episode refreshes and reminds you that there are still some amazing humans in this world.
Learn more and follow Taylor at:
Instagram: g_taylor_brown
TikTok: g_taylorbrown
Also, make sure to check out Taylor’s business at:
Frequencymarketingteam.com
Instagram: frequencymarketingteam
Here is the book that Taylor recommended during this episode:
“Four Views On Hell” second edition
And don't forget to check out Aubrey's online clothing business on Instagram, YouTube, or Threads at:
Lost Hollywood Vintage
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- A conversation with my beloved partner Jennifer Gael about how we are learning to care for ourselves -
This episode my partner and I discuss:
- My recent triathlon experience and the strange but awesome conversation I had with my body
- How I am reframing the way I exercise
- Jennifer’s fun idea for how we should pick the winners of a race ;)
- The complicated relationship Jennifer has with anxiety and how she is finding the balance of allowing herself to feel but not become consumed with her feelings
- Jennifer’s newly discovered tool to help ground herself
- Why it is so important to not compare ourselves
I love this conversation so much - not just because it is with one of my favorite people, but because this subject is so important and we all need support in the area of self-care.
I love having practical applications and ideas of how to better care for myself and if that’s you too, then this episode is definitely for you.
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I am incredibly honored to bring to you a deeply important and meaningful conversation with Michelle Cramer, Founder & Executive Director of “On Angels’ Wings”, a nonprofit that offers ongoing support and grief recovery services for families with medically-fragile children or who lose a child at birth.
This conversation is something that needs to be heard all over the world. Michelle dives into why and how she ended up starting her nonprofit and how working with these precious families has shaped her life for the better. She shares some of her personal experiences in her beautiful, authentic style. Her honesty is refreshing and her heart is pure gold. You are going to fall in love with her.
Please share this episode with as many people as possible and help us spread the word about the support and services that “On Angels’ Wings” provides and the deeply important work they are doing.
Also, go check out the stunning website and make sure to follow “On Angels’ Wings” on their social media!!
oawphoto.org
Follow us on: Facebook / Instagram / LinkedIn
Charity Tax ID: 46-3112100
(417) 834-3670
(Mailing Address) 4319 S. National Ave, #218
Springfield, MO 65810
Michelle L. Cramer
Founder & Executive Director of On Angels' Wings
- Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist
- Author of Unshattered Grief, now available on Amazon
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In today’s podcast, I share a little about some of the things I have been wrestling to figure out in my own life.
With my girls returning to public school for their second year, I am left with some sadness and uncertainty about navigating this new season.
I discuss some things that Nate and I have been talking about as we continue to evolve in our relationship.
Here are some things I am asking myself:
What if I could reimagine every single area of my life?
What would I change if I allowed myself the freedom to think outside the box?
How can I leave guilt and fear behind and discover my truest self instead of returning to what is familiar?
Can I survive the discomfort long enough to find out what is beyond my comfort zone?
What do I believe just because it is what I have been the most exposed to?
I hope this episode encourages and inspires you to be curious about your own life. You deserve it!
If you enjoyed this podcast please share it with a friend!
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Today I have a special guest; my daughter Avriella Hobbs! This was a fun conversation that was both delightful and offers some great advice for tweens and teens heading back into the school year.
Avriella talks about:
-what she is nervous about
-what she is excited about
-her mindset for this first year in junior high
-why she loves learning about history
-how she deals with bullies
-her daily tip for seeing the beauty in yourself
-an 11 year old’s perspective on Kamala Harris for president!
We wrap this special episode up with Avriella’s talented barrel walking
(watch the video for this part)
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Today I share the frustrating story of my search for answers with my hurting hip and aching back.
I have been managing pain for the past year and a half and haven’t had much luck; until now.
Moving is hard. Change is hard - and getting myself to find a new chiropractor was no easy task. But pain finds a way to push us out of our comfort zones in search of relief.
I hope my story reminds you to keep advocating for yourself until you find the answers. You are not crazy. You are in pain - and you deserve to be invested in and cared for. Inside and out.
I love ya.
👉Check out Britt Frank’s Book: “The Science of Stuck”.
It’s a read that is pretty certain to change your life.
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This week I was so grateful and honored to have my friend, Larra Alford, on my podcast to share some of her story.
Larra is the real deal. She has lived through some very difficult situations, and she has come out the other side. Now, she is bravely stepping into her power and finding ways to help others who are struggling. She knows the struggle - she loves people- and she doesn't mince words.
I love this woman and I know you will too. Hold on tight as Larra shares some of her traumatic childhood stories and how she made it to where she is today as founder and president of her nonprofit Missouri Passion House Project.
*Trigger Warning: drugs/alcohol/rape
Please make sure you take a moment to check out the Passion House Project and see how you can support this very important, incredible organization. And don't forget about "Not Your Grandma's Bingo Fundraiser" coming up on October 6th, 2024, from 5-10 pm.
Go to the events page on their website, MoPHP.org to learn more about it!
FB: @passionhouseproject
Instagram: Passionhouseproject
Contacts: Larra@passionhouseproject.org
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This week I was overjoyed to be joined by my new friend, Karen Nordstrom. You all are going to love this woman!
Karen shares some of her life story with us:
- How she is walking with grief
- The challenging story of building her beautiful family
- The heartbreaking truth of moving across the US and not feeling accepted
- How she ended up owning her own insurance business along with her son and some of the difficult life events that led to this new part of her journey
- How Karen gets through difficult things in life - “You can sit and wallow and get nowhere, or you can say “Hey, this is a challenge!”
- And last but not least, why Karen loves her job!!!!!
I was deeply honored and grateful that Karen pushed herself outside her comfort zone to come to share her passion and life experiences with all of us! I felt inspired and refreshed afterward and I know you will too!!
Karen is a true testimony that you don’t have to stay stuck in your life if you don’t want to be. I’m so glad this world has Karen Nordstrom in it to remind us that it’s never too late to pursue your dreams.
Whether you have insurance or need insurance, everyone should go check Karen out! She is a delight…AND she knows a fucking LOT about insurance!
Visit insurancehouse417.com to learn more!
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Today marks podcast episode #100 for Coffee in the Corral!!!
This episode there are a couple surprises right at the beginning that you won’t want to miss… (For one, I announce the official name of our new ranch!)
I was honored and excited that Jeff Brossard-Sims agreed to join me for an interview which turned out to be the PERFECT way to celebrate episode one hundred! To top it off, Jeff was our realtor and he is the one who helped us buy our new home!
I had so much fucking fun talking with Jeff and hearing about some of his experiences and what he has learned along the way.
- Join me to hear Jeff’s story and how he has gotten to where he is today as Realtor Sales Associate/Casa Lead Advocate Supervisor/Future Sales Director at Mary Kay.
- Even though his story has plenty of challenges and pain along the way, Jeff overflows with joy and it is so apparent in this interview. You won’t be able to help but smile and laugh along with us!
- But most importantly you will hear how Jeff found his community and how he is making huge impacts in the Springfield community.
Check out all the opportunities Jeff Brossard-Sims has to offer!
https://jeffbrossardsims.reecenichols.com/
https://casaswmo.org/
https://www.marykay.com/jbrossard-sims
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Today Jade Miller, an experienced coach herself, joins me in a Zoom conversation about an area in which she has been wanting more clarity and freedom.
You guys get a front-row seat into what a coaching session with me, (Abigail Hobbs), might be like as we dive into the meaning of “play” and our beliefs about it.
I absolutely enjoyed this conversation and Jade’s willingness to ask questions, and be vulnerable and open to new ways to think about “play”.
If you find it hard to be “playful” or you compare yourself and feel like you probably don’t know how to play, this episode is for you!!
Jade Miller is a delightful human who is doing wonderful things! She runs her own successful coaching business, “Peer Support For Multiples” on top of also being a published author of several books and a mother of three children.
Her work is extremely valuable and I am deeply grateful for what she bravely brings to this world.
Please check out her website below, follow her on social media - and share this episode with a friend! Let’s help each other get connected to these important resources!
www.peersupportformultiples.com
FB - peersupportformultiples
IG - @peersupportformultiples
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Oh my god, I love today’s episode because two of my favorite humans in the world join me!
Listen in to hear Jenna and Nate answer some deep questions and laugh with us as we discover the comical differences between us!
During this recording, I learned things about my partners that I had never quite understood. 🙂 I love learning more about the people I love and I think you too will enjoy this interview.
We touch on these questions:
- What helps you stay grounded?
- What is your goal for this year?
- What has been the hardest adjustment?
- How has letting go of religion changed your life?
Listen to the end to hear the delightful, rapid-fire questions!
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Today I take you on a little tour of our new place!
You will get to see:
- The corral that hosts this weekly podcast
- My lovely horses grazing nearby
- Our chickens peacefully snuggled in the shade
- The beautiful back acreage ready to be mowed
- The gross, muddy mess still in need of being reworked
- Our big barn currently being demolished by my favorite crew, Nate, Tanaya, and Avriella ;)
- The chewed-up wood from the former horses that will eventually be replaced
- The new arena spot
And last but not least, I share some important, “Hot off the Press” change that me and Nate are implementing. I am not going to spoil it. You need to listen to the episode!
Here is one of my favorite songs by Maddie and Tae:
Maddie & Tae - Fly (Official Audio)
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First podcast at our new place but let me warn you, it’s not all butterflies and rainbows. Change is hardNew is hardNew change is hard and scaryBut we are here and we are taking it one step at a time. Sometimes that’s the only way to keep your head above water. The messy middle sometimes looks like a swamp. And honestly, feels like a swamp. We got this. Together, we will remind each other that it won’t always feel this way. Xoxo.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/support
Today is the last episode I recorded at our farm LOL! Haven.
It’s a quick podcast today since I still have loads of packing
to do. 🙃
I wrote this song back in January.
I could feel it in my body.
I knew it was time.
Today I share my song as a way of saying goodbye to this
season and welcoming our next adventure.
Never get stuck.
Listen to your gut.
Stay wild!
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Are you smack dab in the middle of the stage where your kids are growing up and starting to take wing?
If so, this episode may be for you. I don't have the answers but I do understand the struggle.
Raising kids is no walk in the park. It's more like climbing Mt. Everest, except you have absolutely no training.
It can be so hard on our hearts.
Today I share the messy middle.
My current struggles with it all.
The unrelenting mom guilt.
How do I balance empowering with no expectations?
I don't know - but damn I love my kids.
I hope you find some comfort in knowing that it's all just a wild experiment we take when we become parents and there is no one "right" way to do it.
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- With only two weeks left till we move, I begin this episode with gratitude for this special place we have called LOL! Haven, for the last 5 years.
- After 19 years, I have finally figured out how I want to spend every Mother’s Day.
- Some people will not be friends for life and I have never really liked this fact. It is difficult to not take it personally when someone really likes you for years but suddenly finds you a threat when you take your freedom.
- Remembering my past is helping me have compassion and understanding for these people instead of hurt and frustration.
- Release others to be where they are. Everyone gets to choose.
- Use your energy for your life!
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Update on our crazy last week and some slight lamenting on how I do not want to live a life where “crazy” is my normal. 🤪
- Negative words/phrases I detest and would like to permanently remove from our language…such as
- “I’m not perfect”
- “Humans are flawed”
- “Trial and Error”
- “Mistakes and Failures”
- I discuss how we love variation and it’s ridiculous to even think that our goal should be attaining some rigid structure.
- Perfection should not be our goal - Growth should be our goal!
- What if our flaws were not flaws at all…
- I believe that life is all about learning, not about succeeding to one specific goal.
- What might happen if we remove the negative messages in our culture and start replacing them with the idea that it’s all a part of the life learning process? Might we become less afraid and more curious???
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Today I share about some of my recent struggles to understand myself and how I am learning to ask myself questions. Learning to figure out what I need and then make it priority to get my needs met is a new experience for me that's gonna take a lot of practice. ;)
Here is the book I am reading right now:
"You Are the One You've Been Waiting For" by Richard C. Schwartz, PhD
I highly recommend this book!
Dr. Schwartz also has another book that I want to read called "No Bad Parts".
At the end of this episode I share my most recent song that I wrote that was inspired by the book I am reading. The horses came over while I was singing. It was some cool moments. Make sure you watch the end of this video to see the beautiful shared connections.
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“Truple Conversation!” #90
Today I finally was able to coordinate a time that my partners could record an episode out in my corral with me!
We chat about:
- Our upcoming move and recent news on the house we want
- Why Jenna is so excited about it
- Learning to rewire the way we think about life
- Why I struggle with believing in myself
- How our growth causes some others to be uncomfortable
- The ingrained religious bullshit that is hard to undo
- Nate’s thoughts on why he doesn’t see a need to attach meaning to everything that happens in life
The animals were very interactive at the beginning of this episode, including our adopted, free-range goat that tried to sample Nate’s coffee. LOL!
Here is the link to listen to my interview with Christine Baird!
https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/episodes/Video--Interview-with-Christine-Baird---Entrepreneur--Childrens-Author--Early-Childcare-Advocate-e27te41
Have a listen! I think you will enjoy this fun conversation with my two incredible partners, Jennifer and Nate!
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Finally back in the corral this week but still struggling to recover from one of the worst flu’s our family has ever gotten.
This week I discuss:
- The flu I have unaffectionately named “the devil”
- The stress of putting our house on the market and constantly having it ready to show while also battling fevers raging in our family
- Finally getting an awesome offer on our house
- The arduous, exhausting task of searching for a new home
- Struggling to believe that there is another wonderful home just waiting for my family
- Learning to let go of what I have now so I can receive the next new thing
- The book I am reading now that is blowing my mind. You just need to get it and read it. It’s called, “The Jesus Mysteries - Was the “Original Jesus” a Pagan God?” by Timothy Freke and Peter Gandy
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Nothing can prepare you for tragedy.
It is unpredictable, unstoppable, and disastrous.
It knocks us off our feet.
Stops us in our tracks.
Forces us to face the naked truth that life is fragile and temporary.
Allison Short will walk us through this conversation today.
If you have not heard the interview with this incredible woman, go back to episode #79 “A Life of Adventure!” and listen to her story. You can click on the link below:
https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/episodes/A-Life-of-Adventure--79--Stories-from-hiking-extraordinaire-Allison-Short--e2f49d9/a-aatlem1
This episode is vital. Life is precious. Let love be your guide.
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“No story is good without a struggle to triumph over.”
Well, if that’s the case, then my story is getting better by the second. 🤣
Join me today as I hide in my barn from the treacherous winds outside and talk about our recent challenges of getting our house on the market and beginning the search for a new home.
Sometimes life is just the messy middle and the only thing we can do it continue showing up and believing the Universe will provide us with what we need.
It’s scary - as hell.
It’s frustrating.
It’s exhausting.
And it’s all part of this wild adventure we are on.
Join me as I process it all in real-time in hopes that it can encourage others who are in the middle of the struggle.
I got ya.
We got this.
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This week my partners, Nate and Jennifer, join me to talk about some big changes in the making. Moving is one of the scariest things we do as humans but it can also be one of the best things for you if you are trying to rebuild your life.
We discuss:
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why each of us felt it was time to move
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what is the thing we are most excited about and what part of it is hardest for us
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I share the story of how Shiloh spoke to me and helped me see that it was time to move on
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This week I enjoyed a lovely, laid-back check-in with my beautiful Jennifer!
We discuss:
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Jennifer's struggles with managing anxiety and learning to live life in a way that feels good to her instead of carrying everyone else's baggage.
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My recent "trailer loading" story that ended in a bit of a disaster and had me discouraged. Jenna helps me process it a little bit which helped me not spiral into utter frustration.
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We talk about why we love nonmonogamy, especially when it comes to running the household and not having to do it alone.
I think you will enjoy this conversation that is filled with laughter and even a hysterical story of when I compared Jennifer to our old pony which did not at all come out how I was hoping it would. ;)
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An inspiring conversation with my 15-year-old as she navigates public school for the first time
Ever feel scared to death but you really want to do something?
Tanaya joins me today to share some of her experiences of high school and how she is learning to make her way in an area that is completely foreign to her.
Tanaya discusses:
- How she first felt going to public school
- Her determination to keep looking for a connection until she found it
- How being brave helps her to add spice to what could be a very boring, dull school experience
- How Tanaya showed up all the boys in a pull-up competition
- You can’t assume someone isn’t worth becoming friends with just because they look disinterested on the outside
- Sometimes you just have to bulldoze to claim your space
- Tanaya’s advice to high schoolers (which is great advice for ANYONE!)
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Today my youngest daughter joins me to talk about how she uses her imagination in her daily life to help bring fun to boring or challenging tasks.
We also discuss the recent “Revel”ution Campfire” event that we hosted and how I am starting a new movement that refuses to live stressed and unhappy by choosing playfulness over productivity. :)
We wrap this episode up with an impromptu game to tell each other an audiobook. We take turns and make up the story as we go and it involves lots of silliness and laughter - two of the things that we ALL could use a whole lot more of. ;)
Check out the book that I mention called “Play” by Dr. Stuart Brown!
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Oh my goodness. Today I was honored to have a very meaningful conversation with my dear friend, Eden Holt. She joined me in my corral to share her life story and how her experiences have shaped where she is today.
Eden doesn’t have an easy story. She shares with us how she grew up in the foster care system and the difficult challenges it created for her as an adult. Her healing journey is not complete, (none of us will be until we die), but it’s evident that Eden has done the work and she continues to do the work to keep walking towards deeper healing.
Eden has learned to embrace herself, rewrite her story, and build a life where she feels fulfilled. As a life coach with her own business now, she helps others achieve their goals by first digging in deep to help them work their way to healing, then they can begin to set goals and achieve their dreams.
The honesty and vulnerability that Eden so graciously embodies immediately gives space for listeners to “just be human”. This conversation even helped me rewire areas I felt stuck in my brain which allowed me to see things in a new light. It was incredibly refreshing and enlightening!
This woman is amazing, full of life and light, and she has beautiful, compassionate, wisdom that each of us can benefit from.
Go learn more about her and follow her at:
Website:
www.connectioneffect.com (this website is currently under construction for an update)
FaceBook:
@theconnectioneffect
Instagram:
@connection_effect
Contact Eden Holt-Ball:
417-597-3581
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Today is a FFT - “fucking first time” to do a podcast episode while it’s snowing. ❄️ 😊
Amidst a heavy snowfall and in between Zelle’s frequent interruptions, I share my blog entry from this week. I have recently been listening to Martha Beck and it is challenging me to look at how I go through my life. This blog talks about my thoughts and ponderings about humans and happiness and how I can not be so stressed out. 🤪
You can visit biketotype.com to read it for yourself if you would like!
I have been trying to learn how to live “IN” my life instead of “through” my life.
There are 5 questions you can ask yourself at any moment that help ground you and also remind you that feeling good doesn’t have to cost us a lot of money. Listen and participate in the 5 questions I ask today!
Gifting ourselves with things that make us happy doesn’t have to be complicated. Stay to the end of the episode to hear my campfire story!
Favorite podcast links that I am listening to right now:
Good Life Project - with Jonathan Fields and Leo Babautahttps://open.spotify.com/episode/0SalM45FtOQbnp1eHqYLcO?si=DM6OvCbZR4aTTlZvwnDrLA
BEWILDERED - With Martha Beck and Rowan Mangan
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0NYWmSA2Zdl7urbcD3Mlr2?si=MGh5ur50Qx6dXG04GGw30g
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Today I share my recent experience of how being interviewed on TV helped me see some progress in my healing journey.
Then I read an article on how our physical bodies heal.
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/how-wounds-heal
I share how learning these facts enlightened me to have compassion for my own healing journey.
These are my takeaways:
- You must have all the right components to start the process (enough blood)
- It takes a very specific balance of all the different factors for us to heal correctly (not too much or too little oxygen)
- It doesn’t look pretty (scabby, oozing fluids, inflammation, etc.)
- Trauma doesn’t heal and disappear (scars)
- It can be fucking uncomfortable (stretching, itching, puckering of the wound…)
- It takes a long time (story of my hand injury -torn ligament)
- Other life issues/experiences/things out of our control can interrupt the healing process
- If we are in circumstances that compromise our well-being, it can feel impossible to heal because our bodies are already in survival mode (chronic wounds).
- It’s important to reach out when things do not seem to be getting better. Sometimes we can care for our own wounds but there are times that it’s really important to get professional help.
Each step, every day is a success worth celebrating.
Healing doesn’t feel very healing but I promise you it’s worth it.
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This week I finally got to talk with my new, amazing friend, Allison Short! It was an absolute delight chatting with her and hearing about some of the things she has learned through her many adventures. Allison shares with us:
- The details of her accomplishments in obtaining the Triple Crown of Hiking
- Some of the important lessons hiking has taught her
- How dangerous situations have taught her a deeper gratitude for life
- How her creative/explorative childhood sparked a love for adventure
- The next adventure she is planning to embark on this summer
- How there is no “one way” to hike or how to live your life
- Her advice to “Not let time slip by”
You will love this episode. I promise. This woman is creative, positive, fun-loving, and full of adventurous spirit!!
Want to see what next adventure Allison is up to?
Follow Allison on Instagram @ayfosho
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Today was my record for the coldest podcast yet!
It was 2 degrees outside with a wind chill of -10. 😱
Good thing I love extreme challenges!
Join me in my barn, in front of my little propane heater while I discuss some of the recent struggles that I am working on.
- Why is it so HARD for me to tell people to call me my name?
- One of my biggest annoyances is not understanding my feelings
- One of the regular practices of the cult to help people “work things out” which traumatized me
- Struggling to be my own person and not feel guilty for having different needs than my partners
- Why and what I will be “escaping” the rest of my life
- My heroes on nature documentaries and how they inspire me
- Why freedom is worth pursuing
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Vulnerable EpisodeToday I read a letter that I wrote to myself. I was inspired by Glennon Doyle’s “We Can Do Hard Things” recent interview with Elizabeth Gilbert. I highly recommend listening to that interview before listening to my podcast today. It will help it all make more sense, plus, I’m hoping you feel empowered to try it yourself! Click on the links below to listen!Here is the first part of the interview:https://open.spotify.com/episode/47ZDTvAG9dGK1CMmL5Nekc?si=Q3l2kkLGQ4qvFSK5XWmRpwHere is the second part of the interview:https://open.spotify.com/episode/3bVpFZ7i76evvh13CsUuQj?si=3KGUovsRRDOgfC-jbupAVQ After I read the letter, I discussed some of my struggles with guilt. It’s fucking hard to watch your kids grow up and struggle. It’s hard to forgive ourselves. It’s just all hard sometimes with no easy answers and no quick way to ease the pain. Today was emotional for me, but I am committed to my healing - and I am committed to sharing my journey with all of you. I hope you feel seen, empowered, and loved. Here is the song that has been running through my mind these past couple of weeks.https://open.spotify.com/track/2J0TPWSux57fI7SnmroGxT?si=922bb893b2f74ee8--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/support
Happy New Year! Today I summarize my 2023 and share how I am reframing my perspective. It’s easy to see how many goals I didn’t reach and forget to acknowledge all the other things that I did accomplish.
We can plan for our year but we can never plan for all the shit that we don’t know is coming. It’s important that we recognize all the challenges we faced last year and the obstacles we overcame so we can celebrate our successes instead of just seeing what we failed to do.
- “What is the meaning of life?” is the question my son wrote on my whiteboard over Christmas break.
- What is the meaning of change?
- Is the pursuit of happiness too much pressure?
- How can we enjoy the moments of beauty between the struggles?
Listen to this episode to hear my thoughts on these questions!!
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Today I discuss my recent epiphany about a new kind of list that I am implementing into my life. We are usually pretty good at writing “To Do” lists but are we forgetting to write our “To Grow” lists?
- Join me as I share the things on my “To Grow” list and why I believe it’s so important that we are intentionally seeking growth.
- “If we don’t grow, we get left behind.”
For the second half of this episode, I pose the question, “How many summers do you have left?” and then we dive into the vital topic of not wasting our lives pleasing others.
- Dare to rewrite your holiday story
- Choose to say no to something this season that doesn’t feel good to you
- Create an “Honor Plan” and have it in place for those family get-togethers
I hope you all find moments of peace in the middle of this often chaotic, sometimes painful season. I love ya. I got ya.
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This episode is Part 2 of my conversation with Michelle Steverson. She shares the second half of her life story when she struggled for many years in search of connection.
Life is messy but Michelle's candor and openness bring a lighter note to what sometimes feels unbearable. Her shit honesty is refreshing and often comical. ;)
Michelle leaves us with the important reminder that "Nothing is wrong with us." Her tenacity to heal and continue sharing her story so that she can empower others is truly stunning.
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This week my friend Michelle Steverson came out to my horse corral and had a deeply vulnerable conversation with me as she shared her life story. I was very honored to hold space for Michelle as she told me about her different life experiences which held a lot of pain and hardship.
Listening to her I saw such beauty because even though things still feel very much like the messy middle, here she is, continuing to show up every day as she seeks healing and growth.
We all need to hear each other's stories. It helps us remember that we are not alone. Although each of our experiences is unique to our life, there is always a common thread of struggle and pain. I am so grateful that Michelle was willing to open up and continue sharing her story in hopes of encouraging someone else.
She is a rare jewel.
This is Part 1 of the conversation. Make sure you head to the next episode to hear the second half of her story and what she is working on in her current life.
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This week I bring my friend Kyle Tracy back onto my podcast to talk about what it's like being queer.
Kyle is the founder of the "Non Permitted Project" here in Joplin, MO, and this week I traveled to his office to have our conversation.
Kyle brings his honest, brave, authentic self to every conversation and it's always an honor to talk with him.
Kyle graciously takes us back to his childhood and shares what it was like for him growing up and discovering his queerness. I believe this is an important conversation that can give insight to others and act as a guide and reminder that those of us in the LGBTQIA+ community are not alone.
We also dive into what it is like for Kyle now as an adult who owns several businesses and is constantly doing things out in the community.
Kyle encourages all of us who might be struggling to accept ourselves and share our truth with the world, to "Set easy, attainable goals, and take it one step at a time."
Learn more about Kyle and The Non Permitted Project at:
Website:
thenonpermittedproject.com
FaceBook:
The Non-Permitted
Instagram:
the_non_permitted
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Today is a special day. I have two HUGE things that I’m really excited about!!!
First things first: I bought a MOTORCYCLE!!! I share a little about my purchase and the fucking scary ride bringing it home. 🙂
Secondly: I spend the rest of the podcast talking about my partner Nate and what I love about him. Why? Well, because he’s fucking awesome but specifically because the day I record this episode is me and Nate’s 19th wedding anniversary. I couldn’t help but spend this hour telling a few stories about our marriage and why we continue to keep choosing each other.
“Life with Nate is usually great .” 🤣
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Today I decided to “bust out of the corral” and take a walk around my property. Sometimes I like to take a stroll through nature as I process my thoughts.
Join me today as I share my musings on:
- Life is never-ending…until it is
- What I learned in motorcycle class about unintentional blindness
- Learning to ride as if I am invisible and how that got me thinking about my own life
- What Nate said about seeing life from a different perspective when a certain point of view makes us feel hopeless
- We don’t see things as they actually are. We see the world in a way that makes sense to us.
Happy Thanksgiving to all my listeners out there! I hope it’s a peaceful, fulfilling, enjoyable, holiday season for you my loves!
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Today I share about my recent adventure of taking a “New Rider’s Course” in order to learn how to ride a motorcycle. I rewind a little and explain how I got onto this crazy idea and then I explain what the motorcycle experience was like. 😎
I discuss:
- Rushing through life from thing to thing trying to be valuable
- Why isn’t my happiness a good enough reason?
- Getting out of my comfort zone
- Never feeling prepared for the next lesson
- Learning to trust the coach
- The huge surprise at the end of all my testing
- The 3 zones - Comfort/Learning/Panic
- The importance of having a support system in place
- Growth happens outside our comfort zone
- The lesson my daughters cat taught her
Homework: Listen to “Cookie Cutter” by Ivory Layne (My oldest daughter showed me this and said this is how she feels.
I. Love. This.
Please listen to this song and remember that “Life is an adventure; not a familiar parking space.”
Famous Quote: “There’s no growth in a comfort zone; there’s no comfort in a growth zone.”
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This week I share about the half marathon I just completed and how even though it was my slowest marathon in the last 3 years, it was a huge success to me in a whole new way! Recording in sweat pants with ice packs all over me, I talk about how I am finally learning to honor my body. 🙂Lastly, I share a recent conversation with my mentor about trips that went “south” and us trying to figure out what the hell it was all for. Here are some points I touch on: Why do we feel the need to attach meaning to everything? Is there always a lesson? Religion taught me that God was always trying to teach me things or punish me What my daughter’s struggles at public school taught me Some of our worst, most unexplainable stories are the most relatable Not wasting time trying to “figure life out” Live-Let go-Move on--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/support
Episode #67 - I am so honored to share this beautiful conversation that I got to have with Taylor Brown.Taylor bravely shares his life story with us and his struggle to find healing. We discuss:- The toxic messages that we learn in childhood- The things people get wrong about us- The loudest voice in our head- The 3 things that help Taylor out of a downward spiral- Is it realistic to think we will learn something and move on?- Taylor's passion and how his business has been built from his love for storytelling- Taylor's message to everyone - "Kindness for everyone and kindness for yourself. It's okay that life is hard. Everyone carries pain and we need to acknowledge that."Learn more about the amazing things that Taylor does by following him on social media!Instagram: g_taylor_brownfrequencymarketingteamTikTok:g_taylorbrownWebsite:Frequencymarketingteam.com--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/support
Today’s episode is a relaxed chat about our recent fall festival we put on here at our farm, LOL! Haven.
I discuss:
- How the festival went
- What our set up was, including all the activities and games
- Why I love putting on events
- The celebration of Freedom For The Taking’s First Anniversary
- The difference between a wolf and a human’s brain
- The greatest gift of being a human
- The kind of people I want to have conversations with on my podcast
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Before I dive into the controversial subject of gender and add my own delicious confusion, I must first introduce a new member of our family. She is a tiny, grey, ball of fluffiness who insisted on belonging to us. Listen today to hear the story of our sweet Valentina Ren!After a bit of animal distractions, I bring up an important issue I have been contemplating since I was a child. Am I a boy or a girl?Gender is a complex, complicated subject and I am only beginning to scratch the surface of understanding myself, but I do have a new title to call myself. Listen to this episode to hear my new name epiphany and how I am rebelling against societal constraints. Here is the book I am listening to right now and LOVING SO MUCH!! “Gender Outlaw” by Kate BornsteinAs I finish up, I share my favorite podcasts and why! Here is the list of what I am listening to the most right now!"We Can Do Hard Things" - Glennon Doyle, Amanda Doyle, Abby Wambach"Unlocking Us" Brene Brown"The Mel Robbins Podcast" Mel Robbins"Good Life Project" Jonathon Fields"Sparked" Jonathon Fields"Good Inside" Dr. Becky KennedyAnd last but certainly not least... I have put together a playlist of the songs that have and continue to help me in my journey of self-exploration and discovery! I hope you enjoy it!https://open.spotify.com/playlist/08MQsVMs1UA7xfIefJnstQ?si=qWM1PoIbS6qzCN70Adpv5Q--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abigail980/support
*Trigger Warning: Mental Health/Suicide
Today I was honored to have a crucial conversation with Kyle Tracy to learn how he is working hard to reach out and support mental health in our community.
I absolutely loved talking with Kyle and his fiance' Quinn about their passion and what their "transitioning" nonprofit is all about.
Kyle shares some of his life story and experiences that led him to decide to reach out to help others.
He is an amazing, compassionate, kind, and extremely caring human doing wonderful and vital things for our world!
If you are looking for a good cause to support, I highly recommend checking this out!
Learn more or contact Kyle Tracy at:
Website:
thenonpermittedproject.com
FaceBook:
The Non-Permitted
Instagram:
the_non_permitted
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Today's episode is a bit challenging at the beginning due to the neighbor cows lamenting the loss of their babies, Zelle's determination to knock over the tripod, and every loud truck in MO driving past my house. Uge! Nevertheless, I persevered because I had a really important subject to talk about.
Today I dig in a little bit on the subject of being "triggered".
I share 3 helpful steps I experimented with this week when I had to work through some huge triggers:
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- Give yourself space
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- Be curious
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- Write
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Which leads us to the biggest step in our healing...learning to advocate for ourselves.
At the end of the episode, I read a letter that I wrote to myself in the midst of feeling scared and triggered.
Check out my blog biketotype.com to read the letter on my blog.
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Today's episode is a bit challenging at the beginning due to the neighbor cows lamenting the loss of their babies, Zelle's determination to knock over the tripod, and every loud truck in MO driving past my house. Uge! Nevertheless, I persevered because I had a really important subject to talk about.
Today I dig in a little bit on the subject of being "triggered".
I share 3 helpful steps I experimented with this week when I had to work through some huge triggers:
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- Give yourself space
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- Be curious
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- Write
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Which leads us to the biggest step in our healing...learning to advocate for ourselves.
At the end of the episode, I read a letter that I wrote to myself in the midst of feeling scared and triggered.
Check out my blog biketotype.com to read the letter on my blog.
If you struggle with being triggered, this episode is for you. It is a permission that we all deserve - Truth to help us understand and embrace every part of ourselves.
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This is my favorite podcast yet with my two partners, Nate and Jennifer, as we talk about how our relationship works.
We discuss:
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A recent article I read about when the term "heterosexual" was invented
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Why does it matter if we are queer or how we identify?
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The template we are handed when we marry as heterosexual
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The challenges and joys of being a non-monogamous "throuple"
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What really is normal?
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Are our thoughts really our own?
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Why Jennifer hates labels
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How have these changes affected how Nate perceives himself and has he been a bit "different" all along?
Click below to read the full article that I mentioned and shared some of in this episode!
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20170315-the-invention-of-heterosexuality
Click below to listen to a great episode that mentions the question I referenced "Are your thoughts really yours?"
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2xZTLknKv7UObRZ2kXTnfZ?si=k4W4e3-ZSrKWmEu5LgmMsg
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Today I take an uncommon approach for my podcast and I bring my electric piano into the corral to share a new song I wrote. :) I have never played piano for my horses so this episode is really special to see how much the horses loved the music. Definitely check out the video!!
But before I sing I talk a little about how the episode I wanted to record got sabotaged by my day turning upside down. I am learning a bit about "resiliency" from a recent podcast.
Check out the interview that Robin Douglass did with Resiliency coach Michelle Dickinson on the Coming Out Late Podcast episodes #98 and #99.
The phrase that keeps repeating in my head that Michelle said is "Challenges are opportunities for expansion."
"The Truth Awoke" by Abigail Hobbs
You showed up, and I shut out
The voices screaming deep inside
Betrayed by my own feelings
Religion stripped me of my rights
Years went by, I tried to cope
Convinced that it was I who was wrong
You played the game, played the part
And you strung my heart along
But the truth awoke: Time is up
Turns out, you are a fuck
And I won’t listen to your lies
You can’t fool me anymore
Gravity you can’t deny
Reality kicked down the door
Don’t show me your sad face
Cause I put your ass in its rightful place
Yeah don’t show me your sad face
Cause I put your ass in its place
Don’t tell me that you’re sorry
Forgiveness never did me well
You used your god to bring me shame
Poisoning me with fear of hell
Well, I’m done, and I don’t care
If you think that I’m a bitch
I found out, found my voice,
Stopped the train, made the switch
Cause the truth awoke, Time is up
Go pay the price to be a fuck
I’m no longer the me you brainwashed me to be
I locked you up, burned the key,
Now I’m living wild and free
Cause the truth awoke, Time is up
I am free and you are stuck
*"The Truth Awoke" is an original by Abigail Hobbs - please do not steal it
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Today I take an uncommon approach for my podcast and I bring my electric piano into the corral to share a new song I wrote. :) I have never played piano for my horses so this episode is really special to see how much the horses loved the music. Definitely check out the video!!
But before I sing I talk a little about how the episode I wanted to record got sabotaged by my day turning upside down. I am learning a bit about "resiliency" from a recent podcast.
Check out the interview that Robin Douglass did with Resiliency coach Michelle Dickinson on the Coming Out Late Podcast episodes #98 and #99.
The phrase that keeps repeating in my head that Michelle said is "Challenges are opportunities for expansion."
"The Truth Awoke" by Abigail Hobbs
You showed up, and I shut out
The voices screaming deep inside
Betrayed by my own feelings
Religion stripped me of my rights
Years went by, I tried to cope
Convinced that it was I who was wrong
You played the game, played the part
And you strung my heart along
But the truth awoke: Time is up
Turns out, you are a fuck
And I won’t listen to your lies
You can’t fool me anymore
Gravity you can’t deny
Reality kicked down the door
Don’t show me your sad face
Cause I put your ass in its rightful place
Yeah don’t show me your sad face
Cause I put your ass in its place
Don’t tell me that you’re sorry
Forgiveness never did me well
You used your god to bring me shame
Poisoning me with fear of hell
Well, I’m done, and I don’t care
If you think that I’m a bitch
I found out, found my voice,
Stopped the train, made the switch
Cause the truth awoke, Time is up
Go pay the price to be a fuck
I’m no longer the me you brainwashed me to be
I locked you up, burned the key,
Now I’m living wild and free
Cause the truth awoke, Time is up
I am free and you are stuck
*"The Truth Awoke" is an original by Abigail Hobbs - please do not steal it
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Today I talk about a recent podcast I listened to that has gotten me thinking about what it means to live satisfied.
Here are the things I discuss:
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Glennon Doyle's "We Can Do Hard Things" podcast episode #239 'Why are we never satisfied?'
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How our capitalist culture is designed to keep us always wanting more
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My struggles with being a goal-oriented person
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Simple things I have been noticing in my life that bring me full satisfaction
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Learning to not subscribe to the "hustle culture" or the "capitalist culture"
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3 questions to ask yourself this week...
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Comparing is one of the biggest reasons I feel dissatisfied
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5 ways I help myself stay grounded, grateful, and satisfied!!!!
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- Another beautiful day in my corral to talk about how I am feeling in my heart with all the recent big changes in our family. I also share a story about kayaking my ponds last week and how it turned into an amazing experience filled with beautiful lessons for me. I hope you enjoy the stories and are inspired to find ways to fill your soul and find the little gifts life has already waiting for you.
My pond take-a-ways:
- “It’s not what you saw that mattered; it was that you were looking.”
- “If you have a specific thing you are looking for, you will miss seeing all the other things.”
- Just look with an open heart. There are thriving opportunities everywhere.”
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- Another beautiful day in my corral to talk about how I am feeling in my heart with all the recent big changes in our family. I also share a story about kayaking my ponds last week and how it turned into an amazing experience filled with beautiful lessons for me. I hope you enjoy the stories and are inspired to find ways to fill your soul and find the little gifts life has already waiting for you.
My pond take-a-ways:
- “It’s not what you saw that mattered; it was that you were looking.”
- “If you have a specific thing you are looking for, you will miss seeing all the other things.”
- Just look with an open heart. There are thriving opportunities everywhere.”
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Today we shake things up and do an interactive walk around my front pasture with Zelle!
In this “Trek to Connect” I learned:
- To discard my fear of being messed up
- I have a hard time not micromanaging my kids and I need to let them find their way (I learned this by trying to help Zelle find the carrot 🙂)
- That my overthinking is making me tired
- To let go of my worry that I am not capable of handling all the big changes
- I need to take time to allow the answers to come
- How grateful I am for the things Zelle teaches me
- Zelle was my mirror today and I realized that I tend to burst from one thing to the next and carry stress and anxiety with me
- Taking time to be a” human-being” instead of a “human-doing” can help ground me and give me time for my fears to subside
- Balancing my life is not about not falling off; it's how I treat myself when I do lose my balance
Today’s session was really good for me. I hope you too find value in it.
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Today we shake things up and do an interactive walk around my front pasture with Zelle!
In this “Trek to Connect” I learned:
- To discard my fear of being messed up
- I have a hard time not micromanaging my kids and I need to let them find their way (I learned this by trying to help Zelle find the carrot 🙂)
- That my overthinking is making me tired
- To let go of my worry that I am not capable of handling all the big changes
- I need to take time to allow the answers to come
- How grateful I am for the things Zelle teaches me
- Zelle was my mirror today and I realized that I tend to burst from one thing to the next and carry stress and anxiety with me
- Taking time to be a” human-being” instead of a “human-doing” can help ground me and give me time for my fears to subside
- Balancing my life is not about not falling off; it's how I treat myself when I do lose my balance
Today’s session was really good for me. I hope you too find value in it.
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Today we shake things up and do an interactive walk around my front pasture with Zelle!
In this “Trek to Connect” I learned:
- To discard my fear of being messed up
- I have a hard time not micromanaging my kids and I need to let them find their way (I learned this by trying to help Zelle find the carrot 🙂)
- That my overthinking is making me tired
- To let go of my worry that I am not capable of handling all the big changes
- I need to take time to allow the answers to come
- How grateful I am for the things Zelle teaches me
- Zelle was my mirror today and I realized that I tend to burst from one thing to the next and carry stress and anxiety with me
- Taking time to be a” human-being” instead of a “human-doing” can help ground me and give me time for my fears to subside
- Balancing my life is not about not falling off; it's how I treat myself when I do lose my balance
Today’s session was really good for me. I hope you too find value in it.
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Today is a vulnerable episode of the significant changes happening in our family.
-My son heads off to college
-My girls start public school for the first time
My horses circled up to support me, (Zelle was basically trying to crawl in my lap), as I read my most recent blog post describing my feelings on all of it.
Change is difficult even when it's really good change.
My emotions spilled over today as the reality continues to hit me.
I hope this episode encourages others that it's never too late to make changes in your life once you realize you want to do something different.
You get to choose the life you live and you don't have to be stuck in one way even if you have done it for a long time.
Let's keep moving toward the things that bring us peace!
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Today is a vulnerable episode of the significant changes happening in our family.
-My son heads off to college
-My girls start public school for the first time
My horses circled up to support me, (Zelle was basically trying to crawl in my lap), as I read my most recent blog post describing my feelings on all of it.
Change is difficult even when it's really good change.
My emotions spilled over today as the reality continues to hit me.
I hope this episode encourages others that it's never too late to make changes in your life once you realize you want to do something different.
You get to choose the life you live and you don't have to be stuck in one way even if you have done it for a long time.
Let's keep moving toward the things that bring us peace!
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Today I talk about:
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My recent near-death experience when I ran in the heat of the day
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How being forced to rest made me realize the importance of being intentional to give my body what it needs
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My new favorite audiobook I’m listening to
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Why are we all so afraid to age?
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The unreality of being ageless
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Who are the happiest people?
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Conscience Contentment
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Age nonconforming and being “age queer” 🙂
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How growing older can gift us with a wealth of experience making us rich, deep, and invaluable
Check out Ashton Applewhite’s book “This Chair Rocks - A Manifesto Against Ageism” to learn more!!!
Happy aging my friends!! It’s worth celebrating!!
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Today I talk about:
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My recent near-death experience when I ran in the heat of the day
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How being forced to rest made me realize the importance of being intentional to give my body what it needs
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My new favorite audiobook I’m listening to
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Why are we all so afraid to age?
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The unreality of being ageless
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Who are the happiest people?
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Conscience Contentment
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Age nonconforming and being “age queer” 🙂
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How growing older can gift us with a wealth of experience making us rich, deep, and invaluable
Check out Ashton Applewhite’s book “This Chair Rocks - A Manifesto Against Ageism” to learn more!!!
Happy aging my friends!! It’s worth celebrating!!
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Join me in a beautiful conversation with an incredible, vibrant, inspiring woman. If you struggle to pursue the things you are passionate about, this woman shares valuable advice from all of her experiences over the years.
Christine Baird is a one-of-a-kind gem. She is not the kind to settle. She has goals to change all of America for the better, and she's gonna do it. Listen here today to hear about all of her goals and how she is creating a safer environment for the next generation.
Christine talks about: - How to close the gap and reach your potential - Why she strongly believes everyone should always have many adventures :) - The important life lessons that being a softball pitcher taught her - How she balances her busy life - And why she encourages everyone to have mentors in their life
Her stories will make you laugh. Her candid humor and authenticity will make you smile. Her words of wisdom will inspire you to reach higher. You won't want to miss this episode. Make sure you send it to a friend too because everybody could use some Christine in their life!
You can visit Christine at her website abovethestands.com On her website, you can also buy her new book, "Scary Gary and the Super Sock." Follow Christine Baird at: FB business page - Above the Stands, LLC TikTok - @christinebairdcares TikTok - @cg_baird Instagram - abovethestands
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Join me in a beautiful conversation with an incredible, vibrant, inspiring woman. If you struggle to pursue the things you are passionate about, this woman shares valuable advice from all of her experiences over the years.
Christine Baird is a one-of-a-kind gem. She is not the kind to settle. She has goals to change all of America for the better, and she's gonna do it. Listen here today to hear about all of her goals and how she is creating a safer environment for the next generation.
Christine talks about:
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How to close the gap and reach your potential
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Why she strongly believes everyone should always have many adventures :)
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The important life lessons that being a softball pitcher taught her
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How she balances her busy life
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And why she encourages everyone to have mentors in their life
Her stories will make you laugh. Her candid humor and authenticity will make you smile. Her words of wisdom will inspire you to reach higher.
You won't want to miss this episode. Make sure you send it to a friend too because everybody could use some Christine in their life!
You can visit Christine at her website abovethestands.com
On her website, you can also buy her new book, "Scary Gary and the Super Sock."
Follow Christine Baird at:
FB business page - Above the Stands, LLC
TikTok - @christinebairdcares
TikTok - @cg_baird
Instagram - abovethestands
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This week I have a special guest, Adrienne Weston, join me today on Coffee in the Corral!!
Be ready to be inspired and amazed at the bravery of this woman as she talks about the trauma she experienced growing up and how she has taken her freedom.
Trigger Warning: Childhood sexual abuse
- Adrienne shares about her job and why she loves it so much. Her passion is almost palpable as she explains how meaningful it is.
- We hear about her best friend, her painful childhood, the dysfunctional family dynamics, and how it all turned into her being responsible for whether her dad went to prison or not. It’s a heart-wrenching story but I know there are many of us who can relate in some way.
- Then we get to hear about how Adrienne started taking her power back and finally deciding to say “Fuck No!” It’s so inspiring to hear how she is actively seeking healing and rewriting the story for her own kids.
- It’s a difficult listen sometimes but I promise you, it’s worth it. This lady is a shining example that nobody has to ever stay stuck in a toxic way of living when they decide they are done with it.
Adrienne is one badass woman with a vital message for the world. She is honest, brave, relatable, engaging and vibrant! She is an unstoppable force using her power to do great things for those in her life path. A huge thank you again to her for being so brave to share her life story with all of us!
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Today I share my exciting, new opportunity, “Movement Coaching”, that I am adding to my Freedom For The Taking organization.
But I am not perfect. I struggle. I have so many toxic thoughts about my body.
Today I read a letter that I wrote to my body after a frustrating experience. It is raw, honest, and covers the full range of emotions.
This episode reminds us how important it is to integrate all the parts of ourselves. Our bodies work so hard for us. I am learning to love mine and take better care of her.
I hope this episode encourages you to dig deep. Your body deserves all the love and care you can give it. hugs
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Today it was my delight and honor to interview the lovely Kristi Spencer and learn about her and her etiquette business The Polite Company!
Kristi talks about:
- Her life story and how she ended up changing her whole career during Covid to pursue a dream on her bucket list
- Her passion for teaching etiquette and the value that her company offers
- The misconceptions people often have when they hear about etiquette
- Why she can’t just run to the grocery store in her comfy clothes sometimes
- Her favorite ways to care for herself
- The message she would tell the world. She shares this at the end. It’s simple but profound and important. Don’t miss it!
I highly recommend everyone head right over to Kristi’s social media and check out all the value she has to offer!!
Find and connect with Kristi Spencer on Facebook and Instagram @thepolitecompanykristi
Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristi-spencer
Also, be sure to stop by and visit her website Thepolitecompany.com
Kristi says she loves hearing from people about their etiquette dilemmas and social snafus!
You can email her with your questions at thepolitecompany@gmail.com
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"Rebuilding isn't the hard part; The tearing out, getting rid of the old, that's the hard part." - Abigail Hobbs
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Story of doing a big siding job with Nate and how I was shocked to learn that it's the dismantling of the job that's the most difficult part.
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Story of my second job with Nate replacing rotten facia board and how I learned it takes a team to keep each other protected and safe.
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Story of how my "simple" recycling project turned into two days, a lot of work, and a lesson about why it's hard to rewire our minds.
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The negative messaging that I am working on deconstructing right now.
Here are some of the takeaways from today's episode:
- It takes a lot of time and effort to dismantle the old patterns and beliefs we have had our whole life.
- Our brains are designed for continual upkeep.
- Sometimes we need a professional to help us through really dangerous spaces.
"Deconstructing always happens before improvement." - Abigail Hobbs
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Oh, my goodness get ready for another fantastic interview on today's episode!
- My daughter Tanaya joins me to talk about her life experiences growing up and how things have changed in her world.
Hear about:
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The story of how Tanaya found and bought her first horse Rae-Ana
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Village life as a 7-year-old
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Moving away from all her friends and trying to adjust to Colorado
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The "Bapatised" story ;)
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The difference between how she was as a "good Christian kid" versus having the freedom to learn how to prioritize herself, use her voice, and listen to her body
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Allowing herself the space to process and have feelings in a way that feels right to her
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The challenge of being in a space of self-discovery
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Why do we picture our path through life to be straight????
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Why Tanaya's favorite change in our family is the freedom to be a part of the LGBTQIA+ community and how a simple trip to the Dollar Store turned into Tanaya allowing herself to be disappointed and discovering that she likes weird things!
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Listen to the end to hear Tanaya's message to the world. It isn't about being optimistic. You might be surprised to hear her take on optimism and what she has learned about it in her own personal experience. :)
Don't forget to subscribe and share this with your friends!! Thank you for being so supportive!!
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A VERY SPECIAL TREAT TODAY!
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Join me as I chat with my daughter this morning and she shares her valuable insight with us!
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Ava talks about how she used to view life and how the changes our family has made in the past 4 years have changed the way she now sees the world.
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Ava talks about her cat, shares some of her past fears, and even tells some personal stories of how she has learned to accept her big feelings.
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Her candidness, honesty, wisdom, and humor make this episode absolutely DELIGHTFUL!
Here is the song that Ava recommends everyone listens to this week: "The Fun in Life" - by Elton Castee, Pierre Bouvier, Scotty Sire
This episode is confirmation that kids have way more insight than we usually give them credit for :). Help us share the goodness by sharing this podcast with your friends and family! Even kids will benefit from listening to today's episode!
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I was so lucky to have this amazing woman at my farm to talk about her life experiences and why she's so passionate about mentoring students.
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Zelle loved Bri right off the bat and kept hugging her with her head. The horses made it very clear that they felt safe with her. That's always a good sign!
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Bri tells us:
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a little about her background and the event that helped her reshape her life and opened her mind to more possibilities.
- her thoughts on the upcoming generation and why she started her mentoring business "Elite Protege".
- why it's so important for students to have a mentor as they begin to navigate the hard decisions of college, or no college, and what kind of job they want to have.
- how people end up choosing things they don't want if they do not have the support they need.
- some behind-the-scenes insight about how she and her husband are being very intentional to raise their child in a way that will empower him as he grows up
- applies the things she learns in her job as a Chemical Engineer to her life and how she helps others in their journey. (Are we doing the same research experiments that have already been done before?)
You should connect with Bri Watts! Here is how:
Website
www.eliteprotege.com
YouTube Channel
https://m.youtube.com/@eliteprotegepodcast
https://m.facebook.com/eliteprotegementoring
Handle: eliteprotegementoring
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Today I bring to you an absolutely delightful conversation with Jennifer!
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How it feels to be half a century old :)
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What Jennifer would say to her 25-year-old self
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Getting stuck in guilt and how to combat the negative messages we tell ourselves
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What her therapist said to her about "second chances"
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How Jennifer fits into the LGBTQIA+ community and why she feels honored to belong to it
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Internal and external goals moving forward into this new and beautiful stage of life!
Jennifer's Bio:
Born and raised in California, Jennifer is a beach girl all the way. She moved to MO to attend Ozark Christian College where she got her degree in Biblical Literature and Psychology. She married young and after years of infertility, she and her husband adopted 3 children, one with special needs. Besides raising children, she also taught foster parenting and adoption classes and worked for Rapha House as International Director of Client Services including living in Cambodia for 2 years.
After almost 25 years of marriage, Jennifer began to realize she was in an abusive situation and did not want to spend the rest of her life trapped and unhappy. Through a strange turn of events, Jennifer discovered her queerness when she met and fell in love with Abigail. This was the beginning of Jennifer finding herself, and building a life she loved.
Jennifer offers life coaching to individuals struggling in their lives and needing someone to walk alongside them. She is a gem. Her life experiences give her the ability to understand the struggle but she also helps people discover their value and can empower them to pursue a life they desire.
You can contact her by email at talk2jenniferg@gmail.com
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Jaden's unique experience growing up in the village
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The exciting but lonely move to CO.
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Struggling in his junior year of homeschool
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The decision to go to public school for his senior year and what it was like for him
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The college Jaden plans to attend and why
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What starting to "adult" feels like for this graduated 17-year-old and how parents might help their young adults transition ;)
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How Jaden's view of what he wants to do has expanded since his parents are no longer religious
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Advice to teenagers!
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Update on Dayo and the things we take for granted... like couches
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Today I read my latest blog post which is a story of how turtles are teaching me to be a better mom. The blog is coming out on 5-23-23 and has my thoughts and feelings about my son graduating the day after I wrote it. Check out biketotype.com to read it for yourself or to share it with a mom who may be able to relate!
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It's hard letting go of our kids sometimes and trusting that they are ready to go adult on their own. This week I am realizing that my son is about to spread his wings and will be off to college in Illinois this fall. It's scary and I'll miss him like crazy. But it's time.
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This podcast episode is a vulnerable look into my heart as I reflect on the past 12 years and struggle to let my son go make his way in the world.
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FYI - I won't be back for two weeks due to taking my son on a graduation trip. If you miss me too bad, go back and listen to your favorite episode while I'm gone. 😊 Or email me with an idea of what you would like me to podcast about at zebracoach@freedomforthetaking.org
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Why Mother's Day is both hard and good for me
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The message I was raised with about the most important job in the world
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My first pregnancy and the truths I could never tell anyone for a very long time
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The conversations that I have with my kids now...
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You're never too old to pursue the things you love
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Why I do NOT think mothers are the most amazing people in the world
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This morning all my horses came over right away to check in and say hello:)
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I am tired of saying "It's been a week."
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Realizing I needed to stop and figure out where I had lost myself.
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"As different seasons come, the need to re-calibrate comes."
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The signs that it's time to relook, reaccess, and reset.
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"How can I keep doing all the things I love and not burn out?"
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Recognizing I had given my piece of the pie away...
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Story of trying to train for a half marathon and bring all of my life along with me ;)
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How my chickens are teaching me to look for another option
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Learning to find gratitude in the middle of all the shit that life throws my way
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I read the lyrics to one of my favorite songs in the history of songs
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Dance recital last weekend and some observations that Nate and I made
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Why I love this song and how it is helping me live my life in a way that makes me feel alive
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Finding the little things that I can do in my daily life that are honoring to who I am and who I want to be and the life I want to live
Now, everyone's homework is to go immediately and listen to the song "Chasing the Sun" by Sara Bareilles. Play it loud. Feel it in your bones. And if you dare...dance to it.
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Today's episode kind of surprised me and brought out some emotions. But it is an important part of my healing journey and I am learning to allow myself permission to feel :).
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How I plan to answer when someone says "So tell me about you..."
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Learning to separate "who" I am from "what" I do
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Digging into why I feel so driven always to accomplish
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The mean voice in my head that is scared of being lazy
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Learning to give love to myself as I struggle to make new pathways
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Listen to the end to find out what my tea bag is teaching me...
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Change of plans due to Zelle having a swollen eye
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Come alongside me as I groom Zelle and explain the use of each brush and how to properly use them
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Why you should groom your horse often and the benefits of it
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Finding ways to give back to our horses and how Zelle tells me she loves it
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Rewiring Zelle's brain about the mounting block and how I am teaching her that it's a good place to be
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A short lesson on desensitizing a horse using my training flag
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Story of the camouflaged bird
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How nature is teaching me to keep looking for the answers :)
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Last random thoughts about why I love nature and what a flock of crows is called...
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I discuss why it's a good idea to take small risks every day and how it can benefit you
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My frustration with learning to juggle online finances, moving money around, and keeping track of different accounts.
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Why I think it's healthy for us to push ourselves outside our comfort zones and be willing to learn something we suck at :)
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How being nonmonogamous has made me a better human and why I love it so much!
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You have the ability to not only change your life, but you can also literally change who you are. Never settle for a boring, dull, stagnant life.
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Zelle is very engaged with me for this episode and keeps coming back to be a part of it in her own, big toddler kind of way. You gotta watch the YouTube video to get the full experience and see her in all her glory:)!
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Why I am sitting on a huge stuffed brown bear to record this episode...
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The new way to respond to someone sneezing... (you must listen to the #weneedtolaughpodcast to fully understand this story:)
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Healing update - the ups and downs
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So many things that I juggle in life and how yoga got me thinking about how I can not lose my balance so much
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Our motto for this week is "Drink some coffee, put on some gangster rap, and handle it."
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More frustrating health issues that are almost driving me crazy
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It doesn't seem to matter how hard I try...
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The messy middle and feelings of hopelessness
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RaeAna attempts to dominate all the hay ;)
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A special visit with my pony Fay and her backstory
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Fay teaches me about why some people don't like people in their face and space
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Learning to love others in a way that feels loving to them
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Trying to not fuck it up with those I love
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Update on my ingrown toenail and the story of how I ended up at the doctor for it twice in one week
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My realization that I suck at valuing myself enough to ask for what I need
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Working through angry feelings at myself with the advice of my 10-year-old
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Struggling to understand myself
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Lessons from my toes about not taking small things for granted ;)
Learn more about me on my social media!
freedomforthetaking.org
biketotype.com
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087793158579&mibextid=LQQJ4d
Contact me!
freedomforthetaking@gmail.com
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Strange TMI intro about my ingrown toenail
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Jennifer talks about why she was too afraid to value herself enough to have boundaries for most of her life and her journey to how she now listens to her body and is learning to love herself enough to have them.
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We discussed why boundaries can be so difficult and some of the wiring we had to unlearn.
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My bizarre "Jump in the River" story
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Zelle joins us a couple of times to try out our tea and remind us that she too needs boundaries ;).
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Our experiences of how our bodies tell us when we need to have boundaries or when someone has bumped up against them.
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I believe that family is not the most important, but YOU are.
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Today you get a unique experience! This podcast was recorded while training my horse Zelle in the round pen :).
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Learn how I train my horses and why I do it the way I do.
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I start simple and small. I want Zelle to move out of confidence, not fear.
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Less is more.
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Learn the importance of feel, release, and softness.
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Today I introduce a little bit of round penning at liberty and the meaning of why I do it.
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Don't forget to check out the video of today's session on YouTube at freedomzebracoach
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Today is an emotional but important episode about grief. A year ago, I came home from a trip to my beloved Shiloh dying. Even though she was old and lived a beautiful and long life, I wasn't ready to say goodbye. I don't think we are ever prepared for the pain and grief of loss.
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Today I allow myself to feel and acknowledge the grief I carry every day.
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I also discuss a different kind of grief which is choosing to let go of people in your life that are toxic. It's okay to miss them still.
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Learning to make myself take time to feel the grief so that I can move on and not run from it until it builds up and overtakes me.
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Realizing that I cannot live a wholehearted life if I can't allow myself to have "all" of the human experience and feelings.
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Rainy day episode in the barn with Dayo as my companion.
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Quick catch-up on our fun and fast girls' weekend trip ;)
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This episode I talk about going to buy Zelle and my observations of her 30 days of training.
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My plan for how I am going to start training her from here on forward.
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The importance of taking the time to lay a good foundation with a horse.
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Why I believe we all deserve a good foundation and why we should never settle for a shitty, "Pallet House".
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Follow up on the "Horrific Theater Experience" episode
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Who is the most important person to love?
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Debunking the lie that self-love is selfish.
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Today I talked about my personal journey with self-love, the messages I was taught about it growing up, and how I have begun to implement it into my life.
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My "You're a good mom" story of the first time I can remember trying to love myself and how it has left a lasting impact on me.
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Simple ways I love myself.
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Permission to prioritize your needs over others and why it's so important.
Check out my podcast videos on YouTube at freedomzebracoach and stop by my FB page Freedom For The Taking to see pictures of the horses during podcasting!
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Disclaimer about Ayn Rand ;)
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My wonderful day of horse training
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Neurogenesis and the recent research that we can continue to grow new brain cells in our hippocampus!!!!
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What I am learning to be curious about
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Fixed mindset versus Growth mindset
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Find out the top 5 things you can do TODAY to grow new brain cells that benefit your body and your mood!!!!
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Check out the podcast video for today on YouTube at freedomzebracoach
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Good morning from a snowy corral! The first podcast to be fully videotaped. Check out youtube soon to watch the live show with horses milling about and stealing most of the show ;).
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Lies that I have believed for most of my life: 1. Be selfless. 2. Never trust yourself. 3. Being a mother is the most important job in the world. 4. Exercise is worldly. 5. You are born a sinner. 6. There are only two paths to follow.
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Truths I now embrace: 1. Selfish is not bad. 2. Trust your intuition. 3. It's essential for mothers NOT to give up themselves. 4. Exercise keeps us alive! 5. You are perfect. 6. There are as many paths as there are humans alive.
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Karen Young writes about 'intuition' and many other important topics. Check her out at heysigmund.com
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"The Virtue of Selfishness" by Ayn Rand is a book I am listening to that I'm fucking loving. Also, check out her website aynrand.org to read her other incredible articles.
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What life was like for me as a 14-year-old when I bought Shiloh
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Frustration with not knowing how to get Shiloh to walk peacefully
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Reading a Pat Parelli book and my world opening-up
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Realizing I had become too focused on the tasks and stopped focusing on the relationship
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The change from it being about "what" I could do with my horse to "who" I could be for my horse
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Story of how Shiloh told me it was time for her to go
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How Shiloh led me to start my nonprofit "Freedom For The Taking"
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"The near enemy of love is attachment...True love allows, honors, and appreciates; attachment grasps, demands, needs, and aims to possess." Brene Brown
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Windy welcome while huddled in the corner of the horse trailer
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Revelation from an impatient driver on the road
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Story of my friend who works miserably in exchange for a future she may never get
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Bumper sticker that sums it all up
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Why are we buying the lie that we have to hustle?
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Happiest countries in the world report and facts!
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Why Finns are so freaking happy
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Learning to cherish my son sleeping on my couch
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My "Slow Down Culture" list that I am implementing in my own life
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This episode was recorded while the local news station, KSN 4 States News, filmed me to use for my interview today!
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Today I read through my newly written list titled "Future Me" that I am going to use as my life guide from now on
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Here are the bullet points to my "Future Me" list. It is written as if I am talking to myself. I highly recommend writing up one for yourself!
I will always consider your needs first.
I will not put you in positions anymore that require you to suppress things that bother you.
You are not an endless source of energy.
If it's not a hell yes, then it's a hell no.
You have permission to show how you feel.
You are 100% responsible for your own happiness AND 100% NOT responsible for others'happiness.
Only you know what you truly "can" and "want" to handle.
Know who you are. Be realistic in your expectations of yourself.
Your full glass is ALL yours. Others get the overflow.
You get to use your voice. All the time. Every time.
You don't have to be everyone's best friend.
Fiercely guard the beautiful life you worked damn hard for.
Life is too short to spend on others' happiness.
Let go, move on and let others live how they want to.
The new you is the true you.
The best thing you can do for others is to stand 100% in your freedom.
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Happy New Year intro in the corral!
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How a wonderful gift quickly turned into a scary situation
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How each of us felt during the situation
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Jennifer takes action
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What each of us learned as we have been processing it afterwards
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The different ways each of us followed up
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The importance of standing up for ourselves, our families and not allow bullies to win
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The beauty and benefits of our non monogamous relationship!!
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Real life horse fight on set!
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Horse behavior/Our herd dynamics
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What our Christmas was like :)
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Our new family Christmas song
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Christmas card from my mom/Painful reminders
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Why it's hard for me to keep showing up
(WARNING: Due to new equipment this episode cuts out a few times. I am struggling to find portable, affordable equipment that I can use in my corral which apparently doesn't exist because people don't tend to record with their horses ;). Also, Zelle was VERY interested in being a part of the podcast today so she nuzzled me relentlessly and the fuzzy noises is her face all over mine and the mic. It's the real deal here people. So brace yourself if you're up for the adventure of today's random podcast that was, well, challenging.)
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A couple of my all time favorite original jokes ;)
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My extremely embarrassing "Back Hug" story
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3 super cute and shit funny moments with each of my kids
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Permission to HAVE FUN this holiday season
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Homework to listen to this awesome song "Larger than Life" by Pinkzebra (feat. Benji Jackson)
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How listening to Sarah Edmondson gave me more understanding of my experience
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Explaining what it was like when people came to visit the village
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Discussing our "need" for belonging and connection
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There is no magic pill and why that should be a red flag
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Exposing the legal name of the leader known as "Noah"
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My realizations that Noah is a fucker
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My thoughts on holiday family stress and what you can do
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"You choose you boo"
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Intro with Zelle and Fay
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Sad story about me accidentally cutting Skye :(
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Jennifer's childhood trauma/surgery/parents divorce
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Her learning to "hold everyone together"
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Her marriage and parenting challenges and struggles
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Incident in Jennifer's life that Abigail refused to be silent about
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Jen making the changes and embracing her freedom
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Jen's new favorite thing to say...
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Nate's perspective on being married in the village
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Nate's thoughts on a couple horsemanship situations and how he spoke out eventually
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Nate's story of deciding to move to CO
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The difference between how Nate interpreted people controlling us and how it felt to me ;)
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Nate explains why he changed the way he sees marriage and the reasons he enjoys it so much better now
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Short story about Zelle
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Laying immediate boundaries
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Completely re-looking at everything in our life
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You have permission to build your own life
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Allowing ourselves to explore
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Realizing and embracing that I am bisexual
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Wrapping up my story and looking forward to what lies ahead
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Morning coffee disaster
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Upside down world/life obliterated in a moment
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Finding support
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Boundaries/the real people will stick by you
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Pursuing justice/dad in prison
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The importance of ending the "Toxic cycle"
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Becoming a PATH Intl. certificed Therapeutic Riding Instructor
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Moving to MO.
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Horrific news of trauma to one of my children
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Reality of our life hits us for the first time
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Back tracking to tell some very painful stories
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Horrific news about my dad that I was told when we lived in the village
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Trying to cope when my body was screaming against it
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Horrible trauma done to my family by Nate's family
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Regrets/Pain/Resolving to never hide or protect perpetrators/Giving voice to the victims
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Nate's "epiphany" about moving
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Disappointed response from the village
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Taking the crazy leap to move to Colorado
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Joining a church
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Quitting the church
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Poem in honor of my friend Jeremiah
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Living with multiple families as a young couple
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Unprepared and inadequate to deal with traumatic/toxic/unhealthy situations
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Losing best friends/Cutting off those who left
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Could never get it right no matter how hard I tried
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Finally deciding to move into a place with just our family and how everyone saw it as selfish
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Surviving teen years
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Worldy, attention seeking, school teacher story
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Having crushes on guys and women but never acknowledging the "bad" part of me
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Getting married and rushed into community living as newly weds and our first baby
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The "Outside View" of our cult verses the "Inside Truth"
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Cult leader painting his bus in the barn and how everything was my selfishness
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The toxic environment and behaviors behind it all
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Moving to West Tn
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Living in Mash'Em Inn
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Saving for a horse
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Shiloh entering my life (One of the best gifts I could have ever asked for)
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Getting kicked off the property
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Life starting over on an abandoned cow pasture
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Living with multiple families in one home
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Conflicting emotions about my dad
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Going to visit my grandma
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My dad's repentance
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My parent's "real" wedding
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Moving to a new home
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Quote from Dr Edith Eva Eger about re-framing our trauma
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Meeting "The Group"
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My family dynamics
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My view of God
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My scary experience of my parents separation when I was 12
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The daily stress of the To Do List
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Learning to acknowledge and allow myself to have needs
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Why I wish I was an animal!
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Remembering that we have choices :)
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Re-framing how we think about "roots"
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Ava's view of how mistakes help us learn :)
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How I learned to see the voices of fear in my head as a little girl inside me that was just afraid
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What zebras have to do with my business...
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"Dare To Shine" poem
(This is a very special podcast in real time and real life. You will get to enjoy Zelle nibbling on my paper, our rooster crowing up a storm, a plane flying overhead, my daughters chatting, and my youngest singing in the background as she swings nearby. It's quite the "listening experience" LOL!!)
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Update on our schooling adventure
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All I know so far about life (Don't forget to listen to Pink's song "All I Know So Far")
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Story about horse training with my daughters mustang and how it taught me the importance of small steps in the right direction
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How horses see the world and how learning this gave me a deeper understanding of why they react the way they do.
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Learning to be curious and begin understanding why I react the way I do.
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Why connection to ourselves is so important and how to begin.
Imposter Syndrome - Your mind believes what you tell it - Backtracking bike story - Calling my mom - Accepting the hard truth
Update on our home schooling decision. My story of learning to ride with "clipless pedals" and what it taught me ;).
Realizing how stuck I feel in an area of my life brings me to read a recent blog post I wrote. Turns out I have been home schooling for 11 years and never felt the freedom to speak my truth. This episode is very vulnerable and raw and I don't have the answers. But I encourage everyone to not settle for anything less than what sets their soul free.
We put too much pressure on ourselves and our kids to figure out what we want to be when we grow up. Instead we can be the person we want to be TODAY by planning and taking small steps each day.