Happy 2 B Me Podcast: Recent Episodes
Barbara Stacey
Thoughts are powerful. They are what create results in our lives. Knowing that is one of the most liberating things I have ever learned!
What's the difference between fact and story? I give some examples in the hope that you can understand the difference between circumstances and thoughts. Listen in for the ah ha moment I had when criticizing my husband!
When you're looking at the facts of a circumstance, it helps to get specific about, time, place, words, details, etc. It helps take your mind from the thoughts or story that's creating emotion and lets you get curious about what it all means.
Today I use a metaphor of a gear shift in a car to talk more about how circumstances are neutral.
Circumstances, facts, situations, conditions, incidents occurrences, and reality are all neutral. See how your thoughts come into play.
Facts are just facts until we tell ourselves a story about them. What can you learn from the times I chose to dismount a moving horse?
People can say all kinds of strange things. Remember it's about them, not about you. When you feel hurt, it's helpful to ask yourself if you are safe and if you feel safe. If you aren't safe, get to a place of safety. If you are safe but don't feel safe it's a good time to look at where you feel unsafe in your body and give yourself some time to breathe into those places. Acknowledge them and give them space until you feel safe again.
What is justice? Is it punishment? Is it blind? Listen to the tale of two brothers and decide for yourself.
Books mentioned in this episode Dangerous Love: Transforming Fear and Conflict at Home, at Work, and in the World https://a.co/d/4fOvCuo
Bonds that Make Us Free: Healing Our Relationships, Coming to Ourselves https://a.co/d/1bLBoXI
Humans have the ability to choose our thoughts which allows us to choose our future. Listen in about this powerful concept.
Negative emotions are part of a healthy life. Learn how to embrace them.
Quote from Scientifc American Article May 2013 https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/negative-emotions-key-well-being/
What makes you unique? What is it about you that brings a special flavor into the world?
Nursing a grudge makes you a victim. Listen in to look at how that affects you and why neglecting a grudge is healthier for you.
Today we explore how people might be acting from fear pain or some other emotion. I offer you some tools to respond.
Sitting in children's church brought me to tears as they sang the song, "She Put the Music in Me" for various reasons. Find out how I opened the box of emotions and let them teach me. Then listen to the song and let me know what came to mind for you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mr8CGydPB5g
The idea of indulgent emotions has been playing around in my head. I've flipped the idea around. Take a listen and tell me what you think!
How accepting reality leads to greater peace and understanding. Control is an illusion.
Acceptance means to see things and people as they are, accepting them as they are and learning to love them in their current state. It's easier to move forward through acceptance than trying to control everything.
Did you know that criticism isn't helpful when you're suffering? It just creates more pain on top of what you already feel. Learn how to be gentle with yourself while you work on cleaning up thoughts that aren't helpful for you.
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There's enough suffering in the world without layering on judgment or thinking things "should" be different. Those trains of thought can cause optional suffering. It's not easy, but there's a better way. "When you argue with reality, you lose - but only 100% of the time." ~Byron Katie
This conversation with Diane Payne is a friendly exploration of dividing light from darkness. Listen for the epiphany Diane gives me!
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Separating fact from fiction in our own minds. Sometimes we tell ourselves stories that we believe are facts, when they are actually fiction. Stories like, I can't lose weight, I'm boring, or I'm overly sensitive.
Learn how to take these potentially harmful stories apart and see them for what they are. learning how to separate fact from fiction is one of the best ways to leap into a happier you!
When does "Be of Good Cheer" become toxic positivity? Have a listen and see if you agree or disagree.
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What if you had a different point of view? If you saw something from a different angle? How would that change things?
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Let's get curious about how other people experience the world. Fear of what other people think tends to run away in the face of curiosity.
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Sometimes all it takes is a shift in thinking to change your whole outlook. This faith filled Friday episode is all about stones and bread. Things we think might be stones are bread. Look for the bread when you see a stone.
References:
Exodus 16:15 (Manna)
1 Kings 17: 5-6 (Elijah fed by ravens)
1 Kings 17: 9-16 (Elijah fed by the widow of Zaraphath)
Matthew 7: 9-11 (Bread and stones)
Myth of Sysiphus
Exploring Edges by Travis Stephensen
S. Michael Wilcox says what I wanted to say, and he does it beautifully in this speech at BYU-Hawaii
In February we're talking about day 2 of the creation story in Genesis: dividing heaven from earth. Building a framework for creating the space to be happy to be me in 2023. I use running as an example of framework building, but it applies to everything.
Listen next week for Jyenny Babcock's experience building frameworks in her business, education, and her artistic endeavors.
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The man who ran a marathon without training
This week I interview Theresa Dobson, a friend and fellow coach about her journey to new beliefs. Theresa is an "avid explorer of all things to do with mindset (human thought) and happiness. Here's a nugget of wisdom from our conversation:
“Now I see happiness differently…If you build a sandcastle out of sand and the rain comes and washes the sandcastle down, or the wind blows the sandcastle down, you don’t lose the sand, you just lose the castle…I don’t think you can ever lose happiness. Happiness is always there it’s always accessible…you just have to go find it again and build. The grains are still there!”
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Thoughts are POWERFUL! Listen in and hear what ancient Chinese philosopher Confucius had to say about thoughts and how they can change the world.
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Link to Steven Pinker's Ted Talk "Is the World Getting Better or Worse?"
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Wondering why I'm happy to be me? It's a fun journey- take a listen!
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