Self Care School's Spam Filter for Your Brain: Recent Episodes
Anna HeardinLondon
Short weekly tips and tricks to apply to every day life from HeardinLondon and SelfCareSchool.co.uk
I'm Anna, a mindset coach, empowerment photographer, feminist, Buddhist and circus expert with a strong focus on social justice and how to find creative solutions to help people reclaim their bodies and minds.
I am on a fierce mission to equip people with the mindset tools they need to break through their own self-sabotage and live their wildest dreams.
And I don't think we should all just magically know how to manage our minds, if no one ever teaches us.
Managing Other People's Emotions - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 96
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at activism and anger and how you can channel the rage without burning out.
Key Themes:
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Dealing with others' emotions
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Managing personal reactions
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Emotional autonomy
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/managing-other-people-s-emotions
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How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Passion, Politics and Self-Care - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 95
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at activism and anger and how you can channel the rage without burning out.
Key Takeaways:
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The impact of individual actions on the world
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Where you fit into that picture
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Channeling anger as a force for change
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Why so many people who care end up burning out
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/passion-politics-and-self-care
✨ SelfCareSchool Membership ✨
Weekly group coaching and access to over 30 courses
www.selfcareschool.co.uk
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Don’t trust me (trust Tony Benn) - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 94
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at why I think it is really healthy to be suspicious of people who claim to get things right.
Key Takeaways:
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Being suspicious of anyone claiming to have all the answers
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Encouraging self-empowerment and problem-solving
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Not relying on others to determine your destiny
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Caution against trusting those who claim to have all the solutions
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The importance of learning to find your own answers
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/don’t-trust-me-trust-tony-benn
✨ SelfCareSchool Membership ✨
Weekly group coaching and access to over 30 courses
www.selfcareschool.co.uk
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Is Self Sabotage Exhausting You? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 93
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at why self-sabotage is suck an energy drain (and why there is probably nothing wrong with you)
Key Takeaways:
- Self-sabotage might be draining your energy
- How being unkind to oneself can impact your overall energy levels
- Redefining self-care and kindness as essential, not frivolous
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/is-self-sabotage-exhausting-you
✨ SelfCareSchool Membership ✨
Weekly group coaching and access to over 30 courses
www.selfcareschool.co.uk
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Why Am I So Frightened All the Time? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 92
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at why fear is completely normal (and why there is probably nothing wrong with you)
Key Takeaways:
- We are all scared of being rejected
- There is historical context for all of this Reframing fear as a mechanism which has kept us pretty safe up until now
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/why-am-i-so-frightened-all-the-time
✨ SelfCareSchool Membership ✨
Weekly group coaching and access to over 30 courses
www.selfcareschool.co.uk
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Where am I already an example of what’s possible? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 91
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at remembering that sometimes our dream goal is not the final destination
Key Takeaways:
- Striving to be an example of where love is possible
- Looking for rest
- How we mark and celebrate our progress
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/where-am-i-already-an-example-of-what’s-possible
✨ SelfCareSchool Membership ✨
Weekly group coaching and access to over 30 courses
www.selfcareschool.co.uk
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Someone hurt me - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 90
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at how the stories we tell ourselves influence how we feel.
Key Takeaways:
- The concept of external factors causing internal emotions
- Exploring how our thoughts, not others' actions, generate our feelings
- How internal narratives shape our emotions
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com › post › someone-hurt-me
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
Who am I talking to? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 89
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at our tendency to blame others and what we can do about it.
Key Takeaways:
- How to stop pointing the finger at everyone else
- How to reclaim agency
- How to take responsibility and get your story back out of other people's business.
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com › post › who-am-i-talking-about
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
The Not Good Enough Noise - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 88
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I look at what else could be possible.
Key Takeaways:
- Feeling like we don't have enough time for self-care and personal growth
- Feeling overwhelmed with too many thoughts and emotions
- Resistance to trying something new and why that makes perfect sense
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/the-not-good-enough-noise
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
You don’t have too many feelings, you have too much resistance - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 87
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I teach a simple method to find ease in discomfort of big emotions.
Key Takeaways:
- An invitation to pause and describe the emotion
- Describing emotions to an outsider or in terms of physical sensations
- Bringing a different part of the brain online
- Applying the same technique to physical ailments and pain
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com › post › you-don-t-have-too-many-feelings-you-have-too-much-resistance
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
What makes you happy (is it apple crumble)? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 86
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I uncover some the surprising sources (and sauces?) of happiness in our life and how you can expand upon them.
Key Takeaways:
- Importance of noticing the things that bring happiness
- Exploring the thoughts associated with things that make you happy
- Understanding that it's the thoughts about something that provide happiness And there is a free gift.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/what-makes-you-happy-is-it-apple-crumble
FREE Positive Thoughts Journal: https://heardinlondon.myflodesk.com/positivethoughts
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
Intellectualising Your Emotions - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 85
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) looks at how to acknowledge your feelings with compassion.
Key Takeaways:
- Impact of Suppressing Emotions
- Suppressed fear leading to generalised anxiety and agitation
- How so many of us feel like having emotions isn't safe
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/intellectualising-your-emotions
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
You Can’t Bully Yourself Better - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 84
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) looks at how to find self-compassion in these modern times.
Key Takeaways:
- Reacting to uncomfortable emotions by judging ourselves
- Instinct to get rid of uncomfortable emotions
- Negative impact of acting like our own personal school bully
Full transcript:https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/you-can-t-bully-yourself-better
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
For the “I’m not good enough” people - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 83
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) offers a practical guide to neutralising self-criticism.
Key Takeaways:
- Inner self-criticism and negative thoughts
- The commonality of feeling not good enough despite individuality
- Reframing self-assessment and beliefs
- The standards we set for ourselves (and others)
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/for-the-i-m-not-good-enough-people
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
I would never speak to someone else like that - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 82
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at the impact of self-criticism on the world around us and why those self-deprecating jokes may not actually be so funny.
Key Takeaways:
- A Reflection on Self-Talk and Unkindness
- Unraveling the Power of Our Words
- Recognising the Choices in Our Self-Talk
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/i-would-never-speak-to-someone-else-like-that
SelfCareSchool Beach Break
🏝️ https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/beach-break
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
Face Filters are Trolling Yourself - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 81
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at the impact of face filters on self-perception and identity (and why those AI selfies might not be quite as fun as they seem)
Key Takeaways:
- Are You Trolling Yourself Unknowingly?
- How Face Filters Distort Self-Perception and Identity
- The Psychological Effects of AI-Altered Selfies on Self-Esteem
Full transcript:
www.heardinlondon.com/post/face-filters-are-trolling-yourself
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
Fear of Success - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 80
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) I talk about fear and self doubt. Fun times.
Key Themes:
- How fear of success manifests as self-sabotage
- Why stepping out of our comfort zone feels so damn awful
- Recognising the tendency to play small and stay hidden is probably very normal and you can probably stop being so mean to yourself about it
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com//post/fear-of-success
🌯 Takeaways:
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Historical Context: Learn why comparison was essential for our ancestors’ survival and how these ancient mechanisms still influence us today.
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Comparison in the Modern World: Understand how platforms like Instagram leverage our innate tendency to compare, often to sell products.
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Self-Reflection: Discover how acknowledging your feelings of comparison can be a powerful tool for self-improvement rather than self-criticism.
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Self-Care Strategies: Gain practical advice on how to transform feelings of inadequacy into actions that promote a sense of security, comfort, and happiness in your own life.
🔑 Key Quotes:
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"Our brain's primary job is to keep us alive, and comparison has been a vital tool in that mission."
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"Rather than shaming ourselves for comparing, we should recognise it as a natural response and a chance to learn about our deepest needs."
✨ SelfCareSchool Membership ✨
Weekly group coaching and access to over 30 courses
www.selfcareschool.co.uk
How to Feel Your Feelings (without feeling like shit): www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
If you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work, please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail
Brain Chatter Does Not Mean You Are Weird or Broken - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 79
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at understanding our common inner critic.
Key Takeaways:
- Recognition of the inner critic and its impact on daily life
- Realising how exhausting it is
- Understanding your inner critic is a survival mechanism
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/brain-chatter-does-not-mean-you-are-weird-or-broken
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
Get the Damn Thing Done Workshop
www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/get-it-done
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
When You Want It All To Stop Spinning - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 78
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at what to do when everything feels overwhelming
Key Takeaways:
- Finding Your Focus
- Listening to your heart
- Doing a body scan
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/when-you-want-it-all-to-stop-spinning
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
Get the Damn Thing Done Workshop
www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/get-it-done
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
You Can't Make Other People Love You - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 77
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at the the link between thoughts, emotions, and actions and decoding love.
Key Takeaways:
- Love, emotions, thoughts, and relationships
- Choosing love for self and others.
- Giving and receiving love
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/you-can-t-make-other-people-love-you
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
Get the Damn Thing Done Workshop
www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/get-it-done
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
Why Mindset is Key - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 76
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at the the link between thoughts, emotions, and actions
Key Takeaways:
- The Influence of Mindset on Daily Life
- Exploring the complexity of human emotions and mindset
- And why you are probably right to be sceptical. I was.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/why-mindset-is-key
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
If you'd like to know more, and like to see more incredible humans, please do hop on to social media, HeardinLondon, Instagram and on Facebook.
And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at www.selfcareschool.co.uk
If you have any questions about anything I mentioned this week, please do drop me an e-mail.
What happens when you tell yourself you’re not good enough - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 75
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at the impact on your brain and actions.
Key Takeaways:
- Tackling Feelings of Inadequacy
- How Self-Talk Affects Your Motivation and Productivity
- The Power of Neutralising Self-Doubt
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/what-happens-when-you-tell-yourself-you-re-not-good-enough
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
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Confidence and Love - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 74
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes looks at the fact that confidence and self-love are the same thing.
Key Takeaways:
- The relationship between self-love and confidence
- Identifying personal values and needs
- Aligning actions with personal values
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/confidence-and-love
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How do you climb the Himalayas? - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 73
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes the phrase of one step at a time who a whole new level.
Key Takeaways:
- Doing things because we said we would
- Setting goals
- Giving up
- And how to choose which you want to do
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-do-you-climb-the-himalayas
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Money Worries - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 72
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) discovers the key emotions that create a sense of belonging and how to build them in your relationships.
Key Takeaways:
- Confronting Financial Stress
- Practical Strategies for Self-Care
- Financial anxiety, seeking support, and managing resources.
- Confronting fears and seeking solutions through action.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/money-worries
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When Things Should Have Been Different - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 71
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) discovers the key emotions that create a sense of belonging and how to build them in your relationships.
Key Takeaways:
- Accepting What Is and Creating What Can Be
- Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
- How to not pressure the hell out of ourselves with unrealistic fantasies.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/when-things-should-have-been-different
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Tough Relationship Questions - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 70
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) discovers the key emotions that create a sense of belonging and how to build them in your relationships.
Key Takeaways:
- How Our Inner Dialogue Shapes Our Relationships
- How We Speak to Ourselves Affects Those Around Us
- How Self-Talk Impacts Relationships, Money, and Time
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/tough-relationship-questions
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A Sense of Belonging - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 69
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) discovers the key emotions that create a sense of belonging and how to build them in your relationships.
Key Takeaways:
- Identifying emotions
- Looking at root causes
- Transposing positive stories and copying and pasting them into other areas of our life.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/a-sense-of-belonging
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Navigating Hurtful Remarks (without getting all defensive) - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 68
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) takes a deep dive into self-reflection and the realisation that seeking validation can hinder personal growth.
Key Takeaways:
- Fear of rejection
- When to take on other people's judgements and when to let them go
- The stories we tell ourselves.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/navigating-hurtful-remarks-without-getting-all-defensive
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I might be completely wrong. And so might you - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 67
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at getting comfortable with not getting things right.
Key Takeaways:
- Acknowledgement of their own fallibility (always fun)
- A few ideas about living a more joyful and less stressful life.
- Continuously learning from various sources, including other teachers, thought leaders, and personal experiences.
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/i-might-be-completely-wrong-and-so-might-you
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Why Toxic Positivity Doesn't Work - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 66
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at why toxic positivity fails to deliver happiness, and what you can do about it.
Key Takeaways:
- The concept of toxic positivity
- The effects of negative self-talk
- The power of thought neutrality
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/why-toxic-positivity-doesn-t-work
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Being in a hurry and avoidance mode - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 65
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at how to learn how to embrace discomfort and gain valuable insights about yourself.
Key Takeaways:
- Trying to escape from uncomfortable emotions
-
When we pause and reflect and often why we don't Fear, shame, resentment, jealousy, discomfort: the buffet ever
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How to make more conscious choices
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/being-in-a-hurry-and-avoidance-mode
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When you are willing to feel rejected - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 64
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at what happens when you are willing to experience rejection.
Key Takeaways:
- The importance of asking
- How to ask for what they you without guilt
- Why we feel the need for acceptance
- Why it is useful and how to get good at hearing no
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/when-you-are-willing-to-feel-rejected
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Self Love and Relationships - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 63
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at the ways we can reclaim Valentine's Day and a whole load of ourselves in the process.
Key Takeaways:
- The importance of noticing what you need
- Listening to your body's needs
- How to spot internalised capitalism
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/self-love-and-relationships
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Throwing yourself under the bus for other people’s validation - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 62
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at how to be your best advocate [spoiler, it is not by seeking external validation]
Key Takeaways:
- The never-ending search for external validation never fills you up
- There is a reason we do this, and it is not because of some innate personal failing
- Unlearning this stuff is a practice
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/throwing-yourself-under-the-bus-for-other-people-s-validation
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Why Disappointment is not the End of the World - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 61
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at why disappointment often feels like scary self-attack.
Key Takeaways:
- The impact of the wat we speak to ourselves
- Untangling the habit of self-judgment
- Not treating mistakes and disappointment with disdain
- Writing a new story and treating oneself with more humanity
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/why-disappointment-is-not-the-end-of-the-world
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Our brains are evidence collectors - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 60
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at my our brains are constantly making patterns
Key Takeaways:
- What we repeat grows stronger
- Why constant self-criticism is probably not that useful
- How we can make conscious choices about our experiences of the world
- Recognition of the potential impact of small changes.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/our-brains-are-evidence-collectors
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Podcast 59 - how to gain confidence and achieve big goals
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) l look at how to unlock your inner confidence: How to Achieve Big Goals with a Simple Mindset Shift
Key Takeaways:
- The concept of confidence
- Why failures are probably not the kryptonite you think they are
- How believing in oneself and one's abilities is more than just a cute idea on instagram
Full transcript:
https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-to-gain-confidence-and-achieve-big-goals
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More love in your life - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 58
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the most profound decision you could make for your year.
Key Takeaways:
- How love shows up for you
- Where you can create more of it
- Getting curious about what love could look like for you.
- Making love a core part of your year.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/more-love-in-your-life
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New Year and New Beginnings - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 57
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at the all new, all singing, all thought provoking www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk
Key Takeaways:
- Introduction to the New Version of www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk
- Transition from monthly themes to a mix of all classes, videos, workshops, and workbooks
- Availability of the back catalog of content
- Shift of focus to weekly group coaching calls
- Learning and connection, highlighting the value of learning from others' experiences and finding common ground
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/new-year-and-new-beginnings
Emotional Wellbeing Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
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You are already worthy - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 56
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at how we are all just looking for a sense of safety in world, and you don't need to change to be anything other than who you are.
Key Takeaways:
- Appreciating and experiencing sensations in life
- Creating a safe and kind space for oneself and others involves not speaking to yourself like you are a fool.
- People make good money out of you feeling rubbish, and you do not not have to buy into it.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/you-are-already-worthy
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How to set goals from a place of abundance - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 55
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) looks at why setting goals and being present are not contradictory.
Key Takeaways:
- There is not better than here.
- Scarcity is probably not the motivation you need
- Life just keeps on lifing
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-to-set-goals-from-a-place-of-abundance
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Why it's good to be sad sometimes - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 54
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at why sadness isn't always just awful.
Key Takeaways:
- Sadness as a normal part of the human existence
- Telling yourself it is going to last forever probably isn't helping
- The full range of emotions is kinda what being human is all about
- Sometimes we want to be sad.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/why-it-s-good-to-be-sad-sometimes
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The difference between the "Truth" and wanting to be right - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 53
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at why we look for evidence of what we already believe to validate our feelings. And what we can do about it.
Key Takeaways:
- The connection between our thoughts and our emotions.
- Learn how to choose thoughts which frankly, make you feel a bit better.
- Socialisation is the blurry flens you just can't wipe clean.
- Reclaiming our agency doesn't have to be as pious as it all sounds.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/the-difference-between-the-truth-and-wanting-to-be-right
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Easing the stress of overwhelm - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 50
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at why overwhelm is actually your brain's way of protecting you.
Key Takeaways:
- Overwhelm is a natural response (there is nothing wrong with you)
- Your brain is trying to keep you safe
- Surprise, surprise, self-compassion is probably going to come in handy.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/easing-the-stress-of-overwhelm
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
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Who Are You? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 51
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the power of redefining your identity beyond achievements and accomplishments.
Key Takeaways:
- Maybe tying our value and worth attached to our achievements is just internalised capitalism
- How our achievements form our identity
- Shifting focus from what we have done to who we could be
- Recognising the stories we tell ourselves about our achievements
- Exploring possibilities, potential, and growth, which, frankly, is always going to be more fun than capitalism.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/who-are-you
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
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The Emotional Map - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 52
Stay to the end for a real treat.
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at a short exercise to get those feelings out of your head and somewhere you can see what is going on.
Key Takeaways:
- How the stuff we worry about is not always awful
- How to map your emotions
- How to look at what is going on in your head
- How to decide which bits of your life you'd like to glow and grow
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/the-emotional-map
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/emotional-resilience-toolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/courses/how-to-make-time-for-youself
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Because happiness is not enough - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 41
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm.
Key Takeaways:
- The drawbacks of striving for happiness
- The importance of embracing all emotions
- Some weird analogies
- How we limit our own experiences
- The necessity of contrast and comparison
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/because-happiness-is-not-enough
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/maketime
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How to Make Decisions When You Do Not Know The Next Step - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 40
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at how to make decisions, one step at a time.
Key Takeaways:
- The challenge of decision-making.
- Feeling overwhelmed by options (anyone? 👋🏼)
- Finding the smallest possible step to move closer to your goal.
- How to stop telling yourself everything has gone wrong.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-to-make-decisions-when-you-do-not-know-the-next-step
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/maketime
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Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 39
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm.
Key Takeaways:
- How can we rely less on others and create our own emotional well-being?
- We want others to change their behaviour (so we can stop feeling rubbish)
- Working out what we are hoping to get from this.
- By identifying and creating emotions within our own lives, we can have more power to construct the well-being and life we desire.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/hidden-consequences-of-people-pleasing
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/maketime
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What people pleasing is not - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 38
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the possibility that putting everyone before us all the time can be exhausting.
Key Takeaways:
- Why people pleasing does not feel very nice
- How prioritising everyone else above ourselves is probably not the flex you think it is
- Why this makes us tired all the time
- What else is possible
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/what-people-pleasing-is-not
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/maketime
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Emotional Rollercoaster - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 37
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm.
Key Takeaways:
- Self care is not all rainbows and daisies (in fact it is rarely rainbows and daisies)
- But not sorting this stuff out is no nicer
- It is always about how to stop being so self critical
- It is possible to not feel terrible all the time.
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/the-emotional-rollercoaster
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/maketime
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Why you need to stop being mean to yourself - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 36
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that trying to control other people, probably does not work.
Key Takeaways:
- Maybe your inner critic is not a reliable source of judgment
- Remembering we learnt all this stuff
- Why it is important to pause
- Exploring other possibilities and truths to counter negative self-talk
- Why this impacts the world
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/why-you-need-to-stop-being-mean-to-yourself-why-self-criticism-is-not-the-way-to-self-loveWhy you need to stop being mean
Emotional Wellbeing Kit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
How to Make Time for Yourself Replay: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/maketime
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When Your Heart Cannot Stop Being Tested - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 35
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon delves into the importance of embracing emotions – even the difficult ones – and how they can ultimately lead to personal growth and deeper connections with others. I look at the significance of practising empathy and compassion towards others, and finding moments of joy amidst challenging times. There are some tips for dealing with overwhelming emotions.
Key Takeaways:
- Big raw emotions are what life is all about, even the painful ones.
- Experiencing intense emotions enables us to empathise with others and connect on a deeper level.
- Going through tough moments can help with collective community healing
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/when-your-heart-cannot-stop-being-tested-by-big-emotions
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
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What to do when you cannot decide what to do - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 33
On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, we explore the idea of happiness and how constantly seeking it can actually make us unhappy. We explore emotions and self-awareness and intentional decision-making. I discuss the concept of escaping emotions and how society promotes a binary view of right and wrong, happy and unhappy, which can lead to self-criticism. We look at how to develop awareness and control over our preferences and responses to different experiences in life.
Key Takeaways:
- Why chasing happiness is not the cure-all we have been sold it to be
- Why trying to escape your emotions rarely works
- Why right or wrong or binary thinking makes us more judgemental and less happy or unhappy
Full transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-to-stop-chasing-happiness
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
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What to do when you cannot decide what to do - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 33
This week I am talking about how we can stop spinning in indecision and make decisions which always align with our values.
Key Takeaways:
- The wild notion that you cannot get things wrong
- Reminding yourself you have the power to choose how we feel about the decision we make
- Realising we have the ability to choose how to think about situations and how we treat ourselves
- Realising when we are dicks to ourselves it creates a fear of making mistakes
Blog on the Podcast: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-to-make-decisions
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
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For the ones who feel too much - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 32
This week I am talking about how to deal with big feelings in a healthy way. I'll share some tips for understanding your emotions, coping with them, and finding healthy ways to express them.
Key Takeaways:
- When we try to avoid our emotions, we're actually just making them worse
- Noticing the things we do to escape them.
- Observing where we are mixing up what an emotion feels like and what trying to escape it feels like.
- How, as with everything, telling yourself you're getting it wrong probably is not helping.
Blog on the Podcast: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/for-the-ones-who-feel-big-emotions
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
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What to do when you feel overwhelmed - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 31
This episode explores the topic of seeking external validation and the discomfort that comes with allowing others to have different opinions about us.
Key Takeaways:
- Seeking external validation is a common practice (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
- But it is probably worth thinking about whether you like it or not.
- There is enormous freedom in being willing to feel discomfort.
- Not everyone is going to like us, and we can save a lot of energy when we realise this
- It's important to include ourselves in the work we do towards creating a world where everyone feels welcome, loved, and safe.
Blog on the Podcast: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/what-to-do-when-you-feel-overwhelmed
Emotional Resilience Toolkit: https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/emotionaltoolkit
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The discomfort of other people’s opinions - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 30 - Show Notes:
In this episode, we are looking at the juicy topic of seeking external validation and the discomfort that comes with existing with other humans and their different opinions.
Key Takeaways:
- Seeking external validation is a common practice, so you probably don't need to keep giving yourself a hard time about it.
- Why it's important more reliable to find validation internally
- Life gets a lot more relaxed when we are open to the discomfort of having different opinions about us.
- Allowing ourselves to feel this discomfort can free up energy and time to focus on things we like
- It's a wild possibility, but maybe it's okay if not everyone likes us.
- Maybe, just maybe, not scrapping with people and their different opinions helps create a world where more people feel welcome
Blog on the Podcast: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/the-discomfort-of-other-people-s-opinions
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How inspirational memes can actually be useful - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 29 - Show Notes:
This week we are looking at:
Key Takeaways:
- Inspirational quotes and affirmations can feel disconnected from our reality and may not bring about immediate change.
- The emotional connection to these quotes is crucial in finding their value.
- Identifying the desired emotions behind the quotes helps us shape our own thoughts and beliefs.
- Incremental changes and alignment with personal values can lead to a happier life.
Segment 1: The Limitations of Inspirational Quotes
- The common experience of encountering inspirational quotes and affirmations that seem beneficial but feel distant from our own reality.
- The lack of belief and emotional connection to these quotes hinders their effectiveness in improving our lives.
- The challenges of embracing lofty ideals when facing practical concerns and responsibilities.
Segment 2: Extracting Value from Inspirational Quotes
- An approach to finding meaning in inspirational quotes by identifying the underlying emotions they aim to evoke.
- Identifying how those emotions could benefit our lives and what thoughts or beliefs can bring them closer to experiencing those emotions.
- How shifting thoughts and focusing on specific actions can cultivate desired emotions such as calm, mindfulness, and peace.
Segment 3: Incremental Changes and Personal Alignment
- The importance of making slight incremental changes rather than attempting drastic transformations.
- Using inspirational quotes as starting points can help identify emotions, values, and thought patterns.
- By aligning with personal values and thoughtfully shaping their own narratives, we can live a more authentic and fulfilling life right where we are.
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-inspirational-memes-can-actually-be-useful
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Manipulating people for love - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 28 - Show Notes
This week we are looking at:
- Manipulative behaviours in relationships we don't realise... anyone?
- Manipulating others is not conducive to a sense of self-worth.
- Guess what does not depend on our actions or the opinions of others? Our worth
- How practicing self-kindness and respect is essential for creating a kinder, more respectful world. Which is probably what we woulc all do with a bit more of.
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/manipulating-people-for-love
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The Those People are Like That Drama - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 27 - Show Notes:
This week we are looking at:
- How our brains are wired for judgment
- The illusion of knowing what others are thinking, (nice try, but probably not that useful)
- The need for control, anyone?
- How you're probably rubbish at guessing others' thoughts
- Why you might want to reclaiming time and energy
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/the-those-people-are-like-that-drama
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Why Affirmations Did Not Work for You - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 26 - Show Notes:
This week we are looking at:
- How the popular notion of self-love as portrayed on social media might not be as useful as they think or as useless as you think.
- The Problem with Superficial Self-Love: how to watch out for unrealistic expectations and lack of practical guidance
- The Importance of Incremental Steps: How taking small, neutral steps towards a more positive self-image instead of trying to make a huge leap from negative self-talk to self-love.
- Humor as a Tool: Why bringing lightness to the process of self-improvement and avoid turning it into just another chore on a to-do list is probably going to make it more enjoyable
- Conclusion: Finding a self-love approach that works for each individual and not to believe everything you read (or listen to).
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/why-affirmations-did-not-work-for-you
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When Everyone Else Is Wrong - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 25 - Show notes
This week we are looking at:
- People often talk about politics in a good / bad binary.
- This kind of thinking can be harmful to guess who...? Yep.
- How black-and-white thinking probably is not that useful for you
- How focussing on your own story means you can create thigns you do want. rather than what you don't
- Wild as it may seem, there is probably nuance in situations
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/when-everyone-else-is-wrong
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We do not need another quick fix cure - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 24 - Show Notes
This week we are looking at:
- How instagram probably is not going to solve your emotional and mental health issues,
- Why we seek quick fixes because we believe that once the problem is solved, life will be stress-free
- How we miss out on most of our emotions
- How you don't get to dodge the difficult ones.
- How we can make big emotions less overwhelming
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/we-don-t-need-another-quick-fix-cure
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Whose Story Am I In? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 23 - Show Notes
This week we are looking at:
- The concept of radical responsibility as a way to get unstuck and move forward towards personal or professional goals.
- The dangers of outsourcing emotions to other people
- Why waiting for other people to change is one of the most boring choices you could make
- Why Blaming others can be pretty disempowering and probably not very successful
- Finding new ways to take radical responsibility.
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/whose-story-am-i-in
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You Take the Same Brain With You- Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 23
In this episode, I will be talking about:
- The general assumption is that boundaries mean someone else has done something we don't like.
- Changing your circumstances doesn't change how you feel about things.
- Redefining our understanding of what boundaries are allows us freedom.
- We need to identify our thoughts about boundaries if we are going to try and work out if they are useful or not.
- You get to set the standards for what is and isn't acceptable in your life. Wild as it may seem, but you get to define your own rules.
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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Better Boundaries - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 21
This week we are looking at:
- How boundaries are rarely defined.
- Debunking common misconceptions
- How to view boundaries as neutral
- How it is pretty unlikely you are going to change other people's behaviour
- Finding the rule book for the life you want to live.
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/better-boundaries
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Spam FIlter for Your Brain Podcast Episode 20: "But I don't have time" show notes:
This week we are looking at:
- One of the most common objections people have when it comes to taking on new things is "I don't have time."
- Managing your mindset and taking care of your emotional health can actually give you more time, as feeling overwhelmed and close to burnout can exhaust you and make everything take more effort.
- By giving yourself tools to filter your thoughts and emotions and ask yourself if they are serving you, aligning with your values, and getting you closer to where you want to be, you can start to make more strategic decisions ahead of time.
- Prioritising your emotional well-being can seem counterintuitive, but it can help you make more effective use of your time.
- By having a toolkit to lean on in times of stress, you can step back and take on more of an observer's viewpoint, which can help you make decisions that align with your values and goals.
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/spamfilterforyourbrainepisode12
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For the needy people - Spam Filter for Your Brain Podcast - Episode 19 show notes:
This week we are looking at:
- Why being called "needy" feels like the worst thing in the world
- How we shy away from getting our needs met
- The ways we try to diminish ourselves
- The fear of rejection.
- And I set you some homework
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/for-the-needy-people
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Performance anxiety - Spam Filter for Your Brain Podcast - Episode 18 show notes:
This week we are looking at:
- The importance of not outsourcing emotional well-being to others
- Identifying the emotion you are seeking
- And how to give them to yourself (this is always the key)
- Why external validation is probably not the flex your brain tells you it is
- Finding incremental steps to more kindness and authenticity
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/performance-anxiety
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How to Create Confidence - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 17 show notes
In this episode, I will be talking about:
- Inherent confidence is a myth
- Where do you externalise confidence
- Confidence is an emotion that comes from our thoughts.
- We have the power to change our thoughts and, in turn, our emotions and confidence levels.
- Practicing new thoughts is a practice and is does not have to be a boring one
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 16 - What does confidence feel like? What does confidence taste like? show notes
In this episode, I will be talking about:
- How confidence can mean different things to different people.
- How to build confidence
- Why it is important to define what it means to you personally.
- Identify tasks you boss it at
- Work out which thoughts work for you (yeah, we are back to mindset)
- Work out how making a cup of tea is linked to your greatest goals.
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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Podcast Episode 15: "A line in the sand" show notes
My name is Anna HeardinLondon and I am a confidence coach over at www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk who specialises In working with people, you hate having their photograph taken. I actively encourage people to question those voices which tell you that you are not good enough and to imagine a world where more of us feel more welcome.
In this episode I look at:
- Why New Year's resolutions might feel like a long way away
- I set you a challenge
- I point you towards some habits you may decide to change
- I dare you to challenge your negative self talk
- Encourage self-care as the secret formula
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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Podcast Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 14: "Why insults hang around longer than compliments" show notes
My name is Anna HeardinLondon and I am a confidence coach over at www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk who specialises In working with people, you hate having their photograph taken. I actively encourage people to question those voices which tell you that you are not good enough and to imagine a world where more of us feel more welcome.
In this episode we look at:
- Why our brains are wired to remember insults more than compliments
- Who has been more likely to survive out there
- Why hardwiring is not all it is cracked up to be
- How understanding this stuff can be useful if we want to change it
- What you can do with all this stuff
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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How to be an ally to your body - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 13 - Show Notes
This week we are looking at:
- What do your body politics say about you?
- The disconnect between our political beliefs and the way we treat ourselves
- The negative impact of societal expectations
- The importance of being a good friend to yourself
- Acknowledging that our bodies are always trying to protect and support us
Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/how-to-be-a-body-ally
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And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at self careschool.co.uk. If you have any questions about anything I mention this week please do drop me an e-mail.
Free Body Image Workbook: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6390315244fd43768982b375
Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 12 - "Who is Profiting from me feeling like this?" show notes
In this episode, I will be talking about:
- How comparing yourself to others is hardwired in our brains and that does not mean it is any good for us
- How reducing the need to compare oneself to others is a skill we can practise
- Questioning profiteering from your insecurities
- Recognising and messing with societal beauty standards and pressures is the key to our liberation
- How treating your body with kindness and compassion is probably always the answer.
- How noticing all your body does for you is a good way of noticing how useful your knees are.
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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Podcast Episode 11: "How to Heal A Broken Heart" show notes
My name is Anna HeardinLondon and I am a confidence coach over at www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk who specialises In working with people, you hate having their photograph taken. I actively encourage people to question those voices which tell you that you are not good enough and to imagine a world where more of us feel more welcome.
In this episode, I talk about:
- Healing a broken heart is possible
- Closing off your heart is what causes suffering.
- Choosing to love someone is liberating
- We are the ones who get to feel it when we love
- Love is always an option
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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And if you would like to learn more about how you can embed this stuff into your life and would like to join something incredible coaching calls and the group work please do have a look at self careschool.co.uk. If you have any questions about anything I mention this week please do drop me an e-mail.
Podcast Episode 10: "Stop thinking of exercise as a weight loss tool" show notes
My name is Anna HeardinLondon and I am a confidence coach over at www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk who specialises In working with people, you hate having their photograph taken. I actively encourage people to question those voices which tell you that you are not good enough and to imagine a world where more of us feel more welcome.
In this episode I talk about:
- Long COVID and the changes in my body
- How I used to use exercise as a tool for body manipulation
- A desire to shift towards finding joy in movement
- Encouragement to find your personal movement joy
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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Podcast Episode 9: "What are you making that mean?" show notes
This is where it all begins, and how we can respond when we get something wrong.
My name is Anna HeardinLondon and I am a confidence coach over at www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk who specialises In working with people, you hate having their photograph taken. I actively encourage people to question those voices which tell you that you are not good enough and to imagine a world where more of us feel more welcome.
In this episode I will talk about:
- A key question to ask yourself
- Encourage you to pause and reflect on the meaning we assign to events or interactions
- Get curious about common narratives we tell ourselves,
- Notice the results of the actions we take
- Generate more self-awareness
Podcast Transcript: HeardinLondon
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I want to talk today about the benefits of feeling your feelings. Quite often when you hear the phrase "feeling your feelings", it sounds like hippie stuff that is all very well and good when you have the time for a bit of deep thought work, introspection. And I wanted to tell you a little story that happened to me yesterday about the practical uses of feeling your feelings and how, when we get our heads into this space of entwining our emotional well-being into our everyday life, the benefits of it.So yesterday I had an appointment with the optician. And my eyesight has changed a lot since my first bout of COVID. And now I've had COVID four times. My vision has changed considerably, and I'm struggling with balance and spatial awareness. And I'm very aware that I needed to get this looked into. So I made an appointment with the optician I've been with for 20 years, near my old workplace. So it's my old journey into work. It's a journey I've done hundreds, if not thousands, of times. And because of what my body's up to now, I don't leave the house very much. I spend a lot of time at home and rarely go into town. So it leaves me with tremendous fatigue and a set of all my symptoms when I get exhausted.So I went into town to go to the optician, and I arrived at the train station next to the City of London, a hectic rush hour. I'm already tired of walking with a mobility aide in a busy environment with lots of people and where people tend to barge into you you live in a larger body, people do that anyway. They think you can get through the same amount of space that they can and don't have that awareness of other people around them. I'm the only person wearing a mask because of my health and for the sake of the people. And I find myself in this hubbub, like a film scene of many exquisite people, all in their office attire, and I feel a little bit out of breath and exhausted and big and taking up a lot of room.And everyone's dashing around me, and I suddenly realise I don't know where the optician is anymore.And I don't mean I don't know where it is anymore like I need to figure out how to get there. I am cannot determine where I am. I know I'm meant to be going to this appointment, and my brain has just deleted that information. It's somewhere I have been so many times and it was really distressing.It was distressing to know that I knew that I was on two streets, in theory, away from somewhere. I didn't even know which direction to face. I got myself really confused, and the more I saw that I should know this, the more my brain started to spiral on other instances, I've recently had the information I should know about people I love, their names that have gone out of my head when I'm staring at them. And it isn't the tip of your tongue "I should know that", it's vital information. I lose my cognition and the ability to form words. And it's a very distressing thing. And what I could have chosen to do in this situation, and many previous mes would have chosen to do, is to get panicky and think about all the dire consequences of "the fear of losing my mind" or losing my way, quite literally, of not having the information and the cognitive function to keep me safe, in what suddenly felt like a very unsafe environment. And I could have just spiralled of from there and done a whole load of very unhelpful things. I probably former me, would have exhausted myself more, like determining that I was going to walk in any direction and I was going to damn well, I find it, but I don't have the ability to do that anymore. Or maybe I would have decided that I couldn't do it and it wasn't safe and gone home. Or maybe I would have this.... It's hard to imagine myself in a new, you know, a situation I've never faced before. But what I realised was going on for me was that I was frightened, and I checked in with myself. What I needed was to acknowledge quite how sad this all is. And I'm out there trying to get on with my life in this new bod
What if you couldn't get things wrong? It feels like quite a brain breaking question, doesn't it? Because it seems so obvious and logical to us that there's a right way to do things and a wrong way to do things, when actually these things are not empirical truths out there in the world. "There's the good stuff and the bad stuff." Because if it was an empirical truth, people wouldn't be able to have different opinions about them. And you can find for most outcomes for anything, there's someone with a contradictory opinion about it. What I invite you to get curious about with this episode, maybe this week, pondering as you go about your days, is what if the idea of getting something wrong was merely just another stick that we use to beat ourselves up with? It is something that we've been socialized into to constantly second guess ourselves, to try and make sure that we don't have enough courage or agency over our own decisions. And so we're constantly having to defer to other people to just check in, and validate us and make sure that everything that we're doing is okay. And really, what we're doing by this is we're handing over our power to other people in other people's opinions.I believe that whatever occurs and whatever decisions we are trying to make is because we're trying to seek out a feeling or an emotion to try and feel a particular way. So when we try and think about something in the past which may not have worked out according to plan or with a whole load more information, in hindsight, we wish they had unfolded in a different manner. What we are really saying to ourselves is if something else had occurred in the world, or I had made different choices, I would be able to feel a different emotion. And what I invite you to get a little bit curious about this week, as you bobbing along thinking about whether I'm right or wrong and, is to really think about actually what is the emotion that I was seeking and where is that available to me now? re there any places in my life that shows up? And are there any places in my life where that emotion is available to me that I could expand upon? Because the truth is that no matter what decisions we make, whether it is, I mean, I would use air quotes if I could use them on a podcast, but whether it is "right" or "wrong", what we actually are always seeking is an emotion and emotions are created by the thoughts that we have in our heads. Our emotions are not little puddles that we fall into as we splash about our day. Our emotions are created by the thoughts that we have about things. And so if this is a true thing, that we create our emotions with our thoughts, then no matter what decisions are made, we can choose how we feel about them because we can choose our thoughts.I know it's a bit of a brain breaking concept, but actually you can train your brain to think things which align you more with your values and more with your mission and more towards the goals that you want to seek out in life. And if it sounds like quite a strange concept to be able to train your brain how to think about things, it's how we learn everything that we've ever known. It's how you learn how to ride a bike, if you can. It's how you learn how to speak language, many of them, some of you. It's how you learned to jump in puddles. Let's stick with that analogy. It's how you learn that, you know, maybe that smile might be a flirt.It's all of the things that we have ever learned in our lives. It's because we've trained our brains to think particular thoughts. And some of those thoughts come from people around us. Some of them come from schools, have come from our families, some of them come from the times and the society that we live in. But we can take this concept of training our brain into believing particular things, and we can make this so that we are always striving towards building more of what we want and the values we want in our life.So next time something doesn't work out according t
Episode 6 - Spam FIlter for Your Brain - You are worthy, just as you are
This should have been podcast number one, but it's here, and it's here in the right place, and hopefully, you'll be listening to it at the right time for you. It's a really important message that you should try and remind yourself every opportunity you can and remind everyone you love every chance you get. And the news is that you don't have to be fixed to be worthy of love.
My programs, workshops, and coaching all run through self-care school and the idea of coaching people can often have is that you create better versions of yourself. You need to be improved, and you need to be fixed, and you need to change things about yourself to become better or better or more lovable or worthy.
And I have a great big spoiler for you that you are already worthy. You are worthy just because you exist. You are the most glorious bundle of unique human cells that the universe created in this great big rolling rock of water, dust, starlight, and magic. You are as incredibly valuable as the first daffodil you see, the rainbow that takes your breath away, and the crunch of autumn leaves.
You are made of the same stuff we are in this world for such a brief moment. It is a devastating shame that we spend so much time convincing ourselves that we are not precious and valuable. Because when you sink back into the realisation that all of us are just trying the best with what we know, we all are all as brilliant and as glorious and as messy and as confused and as fabulously irritating as everybody else on the planet.
It just frees up so much more time. And that time is when you can care for other people better. You can build your dreams so you can go puddle jumping, read books, do more meaningful work, and sit and pick your nose to the clouds if you want to. It allows you more life when you can loosen up that thought that something inherently broken about you has to be hidden, disguised or solved for you to be worthy of love.
You don't have to believe me that you are worthy and precious just as you are. But I invite you to get curious about the idea that what if it could be possible? What if it was possible that you're as brilliant as a sparkly scale? Maybe. No. The best analogy is that gasp you get in your belly when you see a shooting star, or like the twinkle in your eye when you spot two people floating on the tube.
Like all of this, life is life that you get to experience. And the more kindness you create for yourself, the more kindness there is in the world, the more compassion you create for yourself, the more compassion there is in the world, and the more respect you create for yourself. Not only the more respect there is in the world, but the more time you have to support other people to have their lives respected.
It's so important that we stop trying to undermine ourselves so that you can free up our time to do the really important stuff in life. And I'm here to champion you through the photo photoshoot. So the course is just my dolsot hackneyed tones in your ears. I'm here to be able to support you, and those doubts arise, and they will arise.
And that's okay. Does it mean anything is going wrong? Does it mean that suddenly you're a terrible person because you know this stuff on paper, but you don't feel it yet? So good. Whatever you're up to now, we're all trying our best. It's all good. Maybe, it's all going to be okay. This is my little missive to you this week.
I hope that it's useful.
Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 5 - The Art of Disappointment
What could you achieve in your life if you were willing to feel disappointed? But let's take a little step back. What does disappointment feel like to you? Where is it in your body? What kind of thoughts come up for you when you feel disappointed? Disappointment is this insidious emotion that convinces us that we are in danger and that we probably shouldn't try and that we you don't want to put all of your eggs in one basket.
And generally, if you can keep yourself in a mild state of anxiety and disappointment, you won't experience any disappointment or anxiety later. The way that we approach this feeling of disappointment, it's like a fire blanket to everything that lights your life up and puts that little sparkle into your days. We fear disappointment like it's poison in our lives.
And in many ways, it is. It's poison to you being able to take risks that stretch to a place where you can learn new things and experience new things and step out of your comfort zone, and stepping out of our comfort zone means that there might be a risk that we could get something wrong and our brains panic when we think that we might get something wrong.
And your brain is hardwired to try and keep our lives small, safe, and protected. Your brain's job is to try and keep you alive, not to be your friend. So we are genetically disposed to try and be as fearful as possible. And fear doesn't always arrive with hazard tape, flashing signs, and danger noises. Sometimes fear is very clever, and our brains are very clever at tricking us into trying to ensure that we don't do anything that will jeopardise our safety.
Like, I don't know, returning that text message or going to that party or asking for a pay raise or deciding that you're going to write a book or swim the channel or anything else that you feel might be slightly like, what do you what are your big goals that you're planning for the New Year? Quite often, you might have some burning desire that you used to have when you were a kid, and for some reason, namely, the fear of disappointment that's sidelined.
And we present it in very pragmatic terms, like, Oh, I need to be realistic when we're the ones who decide what is. We make all of this stuff up. We’re the grown-ups. We get to make the rules now, and so fear arrives in sneaky little ways. That's going to try and convince you that the thing that you're about to do is probably not a good idea, and fear might arrive for you in the shape of, Oh, I don't have enough time, or that's going to be a lot of effort, or I don't have the skills that other people are better than me.
Other people might laugh at me. How does fear show up for you? Because when it is a feeling of disappointment, it sneaks around the edges like a little bit of an oil slick. And you notice that maybe you're not taking any actions towards the things that really could put a sparkle in your eye and fill your soul.
We have so many opportunities during this New Year period to reflect on the things we want to create and craft and bring into our lives for the coming New Year. And this is a fantastic opportunity for you to pause and think about if you knew that you could survive feeling disappointed. What would you choose to do next year?
What would your big goals be? And when I say you're willing to feel disappointed, that might feel icky to you. But if you think about what disappointment feels like in your body, when you name the physical sensations that alert you to the fact that it is the emotion that's going on, somehow all the fire and the heaviness of it is slightly reduced.
Learning how to let boundaries for yourself and others.
'Tis the time of year when people pleasing comes to the fore. This time of year, there is so much obligation from work, colleagues, friends, and family. So many different angles that everybody else has a clear expectation of what everybody else should do that may not align with what you want to do. So this Christmas, I have a little dare for you: to put yourself on the list.
It is to centre your own needs and ensure that you look after your own well-being. So what is it that you'll need to take me through this period to make sure that you feel safe, looked after, heard, loved, and respected? And what could make it joyful for you?
I think quite often, we all put into situations, especially people who are socialised as women, come across situations where we can believe that if we do enough things and we behave in a certain way, we are nice enough that we put everybody else first, that we don't consider our own needs, that other people will think a particular way about us.
They might think that we are a nice, obliging, kind, all of the niceties that big blue and sage, as women, are often to is the object of our respect in society, and often historically has been the way that it has kept us safe within any kind of social dynamic. And I invite you this year to look at ways that you ignore your own needs and ignore your body's needs, ignore your rest needs, ignore your emotional well-being, needs to prioritise somebody else's.
Because if you are not looking after yourself, there will be less of you to go policing those other people in the first place. But most importantly, when we cut through all of this, hoping that our behaving in a particular way can make another person feel a particular thing. I'd really like you to look at the reality of what people-pleasing is.
Sadly, people pleasing is not the flex we think this is because people pleasing is going out of our way to try and manipulate how another person feels about us by doing things that we quite often don't want to do. It's stretching ourselves beyond our limits, beyond our measures, to try and make sure that someone else thinks we are incredibly kind and generous.
We are incredibly gracious. Whatever it is that we are hoping someone else to think about us. We're trying to make them think that by doing something that we don't want to do and this behaviour can come out so prevalently at Christmas. It can mean that at the end of the holidays, quite often you are left needing a holiday, and that doesn't have to be the case if you put yourself on the list, if you look after your wellbeing, if within any dynamic or any circumstances if it starts to feel a bit scratchy or a bit uncomfortable, check in with yourself and see where you're not having your own back, where you're not looking after your wellbeing, where you haven't prioritised or even asked yourself what you need here. This is the best gift that you could give yourself this Christmas. That feeling of safety and that feeling of well-being is what gives us space to feel joy. This season, and without looking after yourself, joy is not centered. And this is what I wish for you.
For you to have a peaceful, joyful time where you listen to yourself, and you are definitely top of your own Christmas list. I hope you manage to survive this week with loads of self-care, and I look forward to seeing you next week.
The powerful question you can ask yourself to stop things spiralling.
Self Care School's January 2023 Course: Pleasure, Possibilities an Potential - https://www.selfcareschool.co.uk/p/possibilities
In this episode we talk about why it is important to show up for yourself and others, why it can feel intimidating to have your photograph taken and why that is ok. And let's do it anyway.
It seems apt that the first thing that I speak about on this podcast is the idea of showing up for yourself.
I'm a photographer who works to help people get their sense of self back; to help them see their bodies as worthy, to see themselves as worthy of taking up space, and to be able to see themselves through the eyes of someone who sees him with respect and compassion and see all of their magic.
If I was to summarise my capacity as a photographer, it is to be able to look at someone in a room and see them as the most incredible, amazing human being. And because that is how I see people as I walk through the world, obviously holding a very expensive bit of glass and aluminium in front of my face and clicking a button and capturing that comes easily to me- because that's how I view people.
Seeing yourself looked at with that amount of respect and love and compassion is such a different story than the story that a lot of us tell ourselves when we look into the mirror. And the reason it is really important about having photographs of yourself taken by someone who is showing you respect is that you see so many different facets of yourself. We are very prone to looking in the mirror with a particular mindset, with a particular set of judgments, with a particular story that we attach to it. And what we don't see is all of the other angles with our face and all of the other things that probably all the people who know and love us know well. Like seeing those little expressions they might catch, or those little mannerisms that you've never even noticed about yourself, because we don't observe ourselves that much.
And I have a very unscientific view of world that people are able to make slightly more confident life choices when they have photographs of themselves where they think they look a bit hot.
I urge you to create more visions of yourself, where you're able to look at yourself with respect. Obviously if you're in London come and have a photoshoot with me, but wherever you are in the world, wherever you are in in your life, if there are people around you who see you with the kind of love and compassion that you would wish to see yourself, ask them to take some pictures of you. See what they can see that you can't. Because the more of us that show up for ourselves, the more of us that allow ourselves to be seen, the more of ourselves, the more of us who are willing to put ourselves out there the more people who look a little bit like us might have a chance of feeling like they are seen and like they're worthy of taking space.
I'm sure nearly everybody listening to this would definitely have benefited from someone who looked a bit like them being in a prominent position of respect and adoration and love and care when they were growing up. When you were growing up and formulating your own opinions about what the world looked like. Imagine if there was just a huge variety of people who were able to feel welcome and cherished and worthy of respect and how different the world would look.
And I want you to take accountability for your place in that, because if this big old variety of people who are out there being seen, whether it is on billboards, or on television, or showing up on social media, or just being welcome on the cover of books, wherever they are. If that doesn't include you, you are excluding an element of faces, body shapes, abilities, skin tones. And maybe insecurities from the bigger picture.
This is where it all begins, and how we can respond when we get something wrong.
My name is Anna HeardinLondon and I am a confidence coach over at www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk who specialises In working with people, you hate having their photograph taken. I actively encourage people to question those voices which tell you that you are not good enough and to imagine a world where more of us feel more welcome.