Unshackled Love: Parenting in Faith: Recent Episodes
Bruce and Kaila
From Growing Paynes Family Ministry, Bruce and Kaila, parents of 9, talk about parenting a large family, the importance of a faith centered marriage as you lead your family, and what it means to set Biblical boundaries for your children, raising them to live counter-culture for Jesus.
After our serious conversation in the podcast, Bruce decided to lighten the mood with a little spontaneous Bible Trivia with the Teens. Listen in as Bruce puts them on the spot, asking them to sing songs, name the books of the Bible, and more. As we like to say, a little friendly competition is good for the soul. These few minutes together brought smiles and giggles, despite a sneaky wrong answer that slipped by unnoticed. Tune in and see if you can catch the mistake!
In this special episode of the Unshackle Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne are joined by their daughters Zoe and Gabby, along with Gabby's boyfriend Gabe, to gain insight into their perspective on the climate of America today. The conversation covers the importance of their personal faith journeys, the role of parents in guiding their children's spiritual growth, and the moral and political state of America. These teens share personal stories and challenges, reflecting on how their faith has helped them navigate difficult times, the impact Charlie Kirk has had both before and after his death, while also reflecting on God's call for their lives. The episode emphasizes the necessity for parents to be actively involved in their children's lives and understand the cultural influences shaping their beliefs.
In this episode, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the emotional toll of a challenging week marked by the commemoration of 9/11 and the martyrdom of Charlie Kirk. They reflect on the importance of unity and servant leadership, inspired by Simon Sinek's book 'Leaders Eat Last.' The conversation extends to the broader disunity in America, attributing current societal issues to a spiritual battle. They emphasize the need for individuals and the nation to turn towards faith and Biblical principles, rather than politics, for true guidance. The episode concludes with a prayer for unity and healing in America.
In this episode of the Unshackled Low Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the challenges and necessities of parental control as children grow into adulthood. They share personal stories and biblical insights, emphasizing the importance of gradually releasing control and allowing children to develop independence. They illustrate this with Bruce's decision to let his daughters spend quality time together without him, reflecting on the natural progression of children leaving their parents to form their own families, as designed by God. The episode also touches on the impact of play-based development and the need for parents to create a balance between guidance and freedom for their kids. Ultimately, they encourage parents to trust in God's plan and to embrace the transition, allowing their children the space to grow into resilient and independent adults.
In this episode of the Unshackled Love podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne share their journey as parents of nine children and how they manage the daily challenges of parenting. They discuss the importance of being firm, fair, and consistent in raising children, emphasizing the need to set boundaries and enforce consequences. The conversation covers practical tips, personal anecdotes, and biblical insights on disciplining children with love and guiding them towards becoming responsible adults. Join them as they reflect on insights from their own parenting experiences and offer encouragement to other parents navigating the ups and downs of raising kids.
Leave a comment sharing how you handle parenting challenges and the role faith plays in your journey!
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In this episode of the Unshackle Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the significance of intentional parenting through the concept of 'dating' your children, spouse, and God. They emphasize the importance of quality time, setting examples for respect and communication, and the spiritual connection that comes from dedicating time to God. The conversation highlights practical experiences and insights from their journey as parents of nine children, aiming to inspire listeners to foster deeper relationships within their families.
In this episode of the Unshackled Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila dive into the concept of FOMO, or the Fear of Missing Out. As parents of nine children, they explore how this modern anxiety affects both kids and adults, fueled by the endless options and social media highlights. Join them as they share personal stories, insights, and a faith-based perspective on finding contentment and purpose amidst life's many distractions. Tune in to discover how letting go of FOMO can lead to a more fulfilling and intentional life.
We're back!
Our first episode in over two years, and there is a lot to talk about, but this episode focuses on Radical Obedience and the importance of following when God is guiding us to uncharted territory or asking us to make a change in our lives.
What change is God putting on your heart today in which you need to be Radically Obedient?
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In this episode, Bruce is reflecting on Fatherhood and what it means to him. He invites you to their dining room table as all NINE little Paynes join the conversation to reflect on their favorite family traditions and give some honest feedback to their dad about areas he can grow.
Scripture References:
- "As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him." (Psalms 103:13)
- "Endure suffering as discipline: God is dealing with you as sons. For what son is there that a father does not discipline?" (Hebrews 12:7)
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila address their children's many accomplishments and the drive for wanting to be the best by giving your best and, as parents, the importance of having expectations for effort.
Scripture Citations
- “A slacker’s craving will kill him because his hands refuse to work.” (Proverbs 21:25 CSB)
- “There is profit in all hard work, but endless talk leads only to poverty.” (Proverbs 14:23 CSB)
- “Don’t you know that the runners in a stadium all race, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way to win the prize. Now everyone who competes exercises self-control in everything. They do it to receive a perishable crown, but we an imperishable crown.” (1 Corinthians 9:24-25 CSB)
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In this episode, to commemorate Mother's Day, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of the role of moms in a family, the impact their moms have made in their lives, and Kaila shares her purpose as a mom raising her children into adults.
Scripture Citations
- “About this time, a man and woman from the tribe of Levi got married. The woman became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She saw that he was a special baby and kept him hidden for three months. But when she could no longer hide him, she got a basket made of papyrus reeds and waterproofed it with tar and pitch. She put the baby in the basket and laid it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile River.” Exodus 2:1-3 NLT
- ““Sir, do you remember me?” Hannah asked. “I am the very woman who stood here several years ago praying to the Lord. I asked the Lord to give me this boy, and he has granted my request. Now I am giving him to the Lord, and he will belong to the Lord his whole life.” And they worshiped the Lord there.” 1 Samuel 1:26-28 NLT
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila answer some of their most frequently asked questions by others and give a little bit of insight into their lives as parents of nine and how they have had to adapt to meet the needs of their family.
[01:45] What kind of car do you drive?
[04:09] Did you always want a lot of kids?
[07:59] When do you get "you" time?
[12:34] How do you do vacation?
[18:38] How do you cook/grocery shop?
[24:17] How do you manage everyone's schedules?
[29:06] Matthew 6 and closing prayer
Scripture Reference:
“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today." Matthew 6:32-34
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the busyness of their schedule and open up about the vulnerability that comes from being busy and tired, when you feel like you’re running on fumes and have very little to give. Life can weigh you down, but it doesn't have to if you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus who rejuvenates our souls.
Episode 10: Q&A Form
[01:06] Intro: Busy Schedules
[04:32] Being Obedient when Tired
[06:48] Elijah at Mt. Carmel
[09:53] The Crash
[16:42] Refueling with Jesus
[21:00] Praying God's Word (Psalm 23)
[24:10] Episode 10 Preview
[26:15] Thank you & Prayer
Scripture Citations
- 1 Kings 18
- 1 Kings 19:1-13
- Psalms 23
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about how they have shifted their perspective on parenting to reflect God’s love for sinners as they raise children who are being tempted by the devil and the cravings of the world. They talk about the importance of keeping your own spiritual walk strong, how to show God’s love and grace through patience and understanding, while making sure that we are being a living example of what it means to have a relationship with Jesus.
[01:45] Parenting through the ages
[03:42] Perception Change
[10:20] Dead to Sin
[15:30] Craving God vs the world
[20:00] Be Intentional
[23:13] Connect and Pray
Scripture Citations
- “Once you were dead because of your disobedience and your many sins. You used to live in sin, just like the rest of the world, obeying the devil–the commander of the powers in the unseen world. He is the spirit at work in the hearts of those who refuse to oven God. All of us used to live that way, following the passionate desires and inclinations of our sinful nature. By our very nature we were subject to God’s anger, just like everyone else. But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, He gave us life when He raised Christ from the dead. (It is only God’s grace that you have been saved!) -Ephesians 2:1-5 NLT
- “For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and prine in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.” -1 John 2:16-17 NLT
- “Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into His glorious presence without a single fault. All glory to Him who alone is God, our SAvior through Jesus Christ our Lord. All glory, majesty, power, and authority are His before all time, and in the present, and beyond all time! Amen.” -Jude 1:24-25 NLT
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila are joined by their 16 year old daughter, Zoe, to talk about how people use their words, including cursing and putting others down, but how God wants us to use words to build up others, share our testimony, and give life to those around us.
[01:27] Intro to Topic
[03:24] Meet Zoe & talk about cursing
[07:55] Accountability
[15:14] "Shut your mouth"
[21:00] Good vs Bad consequences
[22:43] Zoe's Testimony
[26:55] Closing Prayer
Scripture References:
- “People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right!” (James 3:7-10)
- “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” (Proverbs 4:23)
- “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.” (Luke 6:45)
- “The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” (Proverbs 18:21)
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of setting a personal growth plan so that we can reach our full potential as individuals, which allows us to pour into our children, helping them to grow into productive adults who value a growth mindset, create measurable goals, and value learning from mistakes.
[01:54] The Laws of Growth (John Maxwell)
[07:35] Planning ahead
[14:22] Step One: Reflection
[22:29] Step Two: Preparation
[27:12] Step Three: Action
[32:48] Good kids don’t just happen
[34:38] Connect with the Paynes
[36:35] Prayer
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila share their own Christmas message and a reminder that, regardless of the emotions felt during this season, Christmas is a time for redemption and a time for giving. As Bruce reflects on the story of Mary and Joseph, he shares of how God led the Paynes to Texas in an unlikely time and in unlikely circumstances only to bring blessings through faith and obedience.
[01:30] Into to Christmas Message
[02:24] A Redemption Story
[05:07] A Texas Calling
[08:24] Responding in Obedience
[13:31] Spirit of Giving
[20:24] Redeeming Difficult Times
[24:18] Let Go, and Let God
Scripture Citations
- “All right then, the Lord himself will give you a sign. Look! The virgin will conceive a child! She will give birth to a son and will all him Immanuel (which means ‘God is with us’).” (Isiah 8:14)
- “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)
- “”And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are allied according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28)
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila return, this week of thanksgiving, to offer their own thanks and talk about the importance of being thankful for all that God has provided for us, even in difficult times. Acknowledging the ways God is good allows us to have an attitude of gratitude, changing our perspective on current situations that may be bringing you down.
[00:42] Intro to Thanksgiving
[02:57] Reading of Psalms 100
[03:48] WHAT we need to do
[07:21] WHY we need to do it
[11:16] HOW we do it
[13:51] An important reminder
[16:49] Psalms 107/ Steadfast Love
[23:34] Connect with us
[25:39] Closing Prayer
Scripture Citations
- “Shout with joy to the Lord, all the earth! Worship the Lord with gladness. Come before him, singing with joy. Acknowledge that the Lord is God! He made us, and we are his. We are his people, the sheep of his pasture. Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise his name. For the Lord is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation.” (Psalms 100)
- Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever. Has the Lord redeemed you? Then speak out! Tell others he has redeemed you from your enemies. For he has gathered the exiles from many lands, from east and west, from north and south. Some wandered in the wilderness, lost and homeless. Hungry and thirsty, they nearly died. “Lord, help!” they cried in their trouble,and he rescued them from their distress. (Psalms 107:1-6)
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about anger and discipline, the importance of controlling our anger as parents, how to stop taking things so personally, and leading your children to better choices through gentleness and kind teaching.
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[00:46] Intro to Anger
[04:28] What gets under my skin (Kaila)
[06:59] What gets under my skin (Bruce)
[09:09] What God says about Anger
[14:07] How to Discipline “Difficult People”
[23:10] Consequences
[25:09] Pick your Battles
[27:41] Ways to Connect
[28:56] Prayer
Scripture Citations
- “Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper- it only leads to harm.” (Psalms 37:8)
- “Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.” (2 Timothy 2:23-26)
- “Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged” (Colossians 3:21)
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In this episode, Bruce and Kaila use scripture to define what unshackled is, what it means to us, and how we can show unshackled love as parents to our children.
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[02:22] Definition of Unshackled
[03:33] Unshackled Love for Bruce
[07:01] Unshackled Love for Kaila
[12:51] Genuine Love
[20:17] Love in Discipline
[27:51] Love in Conflict
Scripture Citations
Psalms 107:10-16 "Some sat in darkness and deepest gloom, imprisoned in iron chains of misery. They rebelled against the words of God, scorning the couple of the Most High. That is why he broke them with hard labor; they fell, and no one was there to help them. "Lord, help!" they cried in their trouble, and he saved the from their distress. He led them from the darkness and deepest gloom; he snapped their chains. Let them praise the Lord for his great love and for the wonderful things he has done for them. For he broke down their prison gates of bronze; he cut apart their bars of iron."
Romans 8:28 “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”2 Corinthians 5:17 “This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun.”
Romans 7:18-20 “And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong, it is the sin living in me that does it.”Luke 18:16 “Let the children come to me. Don't stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children'' Deuteronomy 8:5 “Think about it: Just as a parent disciplines a child, the Lord your God disciplines you for your own good.” Matthew 18:15 “If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.”
Welcome to the podcast!In this first episode, Bruce and Kaila take the time to introduce themselves, their family of eleven, and the ministry God has put on their heart to make an impact in the next generation by growing parents to be the spiritual leaders of their families.
Bruce and Kaila identify three non-negotiable responsibilities as parents that come straight from Scripture, and the importance of putting God at the center of you life, your marriage, and your family.