Better Relationships After Baby: Recent Episodes
Chelsea Skaggs
Had two babies. Didn't divorce my husband in the process. Here to help you realize that you CAN have a stronger relationship than ever after having a baby. Life and relationship coach Chelsea Skaggs is knowledgeable, relatable, and fun when it comes to how to improve your marriage or relationship as new parents. We cover topics around stronger communication, meaningful connection, and growing your confidence as new parents together...with less fights and even better intimacy. Show notes and more: https://thewtftrimester.com/podcast/ Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thewtftrimester/support
In this second part of The Stories We Tell Ourselves series, Chelsea and Mike get into how the stories we carry in early parenthood shape connection, intimacy, and identity.
They unpack why emotional disconnection and constant stress make couples feel distant, how to rebuild psychological safety, and why nervous-system regulation is key to closeness.
You’ll learn:
- How to externalize negative stories and stop the spiral of resentment
- What “matrescence” and “patrescence” really mean for your identity as parents
- Why emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy after a baby
- Practical ways to reconnect and repair when you’re both running on empty
Whether you’re feeling stuck in survival mode or missing the spark in your marriage, this episode offers real talk and practical tools to help you feel like a team again.
Keywords: emotional disconnection after baby, intimacy after baby, postpartum marriage help, matrescence, new parent identity, nervous system regulation, relationship coaching, postpartum relationship advice
Mentioned past episodes and links:
Regulation and the Nervous System
Emotional or Physical Connection, Which Comes First?
Matresence
Book a connection call with us here to learn more about how we support pregnant, postpartum, and current parents in their relationships.
Conflict after a baby is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to break your relationship. In this episode, Chelsea and Mike go deeper than their Babies & Bumps workshop to unpack the real difference between couples who thrive and those who drift apart: Repair.
You’ll hear:
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- Why conflict itself doesn’t predict divorce, but failure to repair does (thanks, John Gottman).
- How rupture in relationships is like a muscle tear — painful, but with repair, it builds strength.
- The dangerous stories we tell ourselves about our partners and the antidote of curiosity.
- Practical tools like code words, repair steps, and “the story I’m telling myself…” to stop resentment from spiraling.
- Why humility and vulnerability matter more than being right. If you’ve ever felt like parenting is heavier because you’re not on the same team or you want to make sure your teamwork is solid before the baby arrives, this episode is for you.
🔗 Links & Resources Mentioned:
- The Invisible Load: How to See it, Share it + Stop Resentment Before it Starts
- You Can't Fix a Relationship From Fight or Flight: Conflict, Co-Regulation + Repair
- Prep for Us Coaching — October Cohort Interest Call
When your newborn goes to the NICU, nothing feels “normal.” In this honest conversation, author and creative director Emily Rosen shares the 16-day NICU journey with her son Max, the grief of leaving the hospital without your baby, and the small lifelines that help you keep going. We talk day-to-day NICU rhythms, supporting partners, what friends can actually do, and why Emily wrote Waiting for Max—a children’s book that helps siblings (and grown-ups) understand NICU life with hope, not fear. If you’re in it now or love someone who is, this one’s for you.
Preorder: Waiting for Max
Connect with Emily: Instagram @EmilyRosenCreative
TikTok @Emily.Rosen.Creative
Guest: Emily Rosen — author of Waiting for Max, creative director, mom of two.
Topics we cover:
- The moment plans change: premature labor, fast decisions, and naming later
- What a “normal” NICU day looks like (feeds, skin-to-skin, rounds, notes)
- The partner dance: care, tears, pancakes, and trying to sleep
- What to say (and not say) to NICU parents
- Tiny practical love: Venmo, freezable food, pump-part help
- Self-compassion after birth trauma + letting go of “should”
- How Waiting for Max helps siblings process scary environments
- Hope for the mom in the uncomfortable hospital chair
- Book launch details + why representation of NICU stories matters
Timestamps
00:39 Intro + Chelsea’s NICU story
02:19 Meet Emily + family
03:49 Max’s birth + 16 days in NICU (SVT, feeding/growing)
06:39 Why write Waiting for Max + who it’s for
10:27 What those early hours really felt like
14:09 A “typical” NICU day: feeds, hand-washing, rounds
16:29 Partnering through stress, pancakes, and naps
19:38 How friends can help (specifics that matter)
21:32 Therapy, self-blame, and compassion
23:39 Deciding to write the book
26:46 The lobby moment + grief of not going home together
31:38 A message to the mom in the chair
33:33 Sunshine, short walks, tiny resets
34:30 Where to find the book + who it helps
39:15 Max today: DJ, dance parties, tender big brother
40:34 What’s next: a “Waiting for…” series (surrogacy story)
Schedule a connection call with Chelsea: Calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-call
Ever feel like your brain has 27 tabs open—and none of them can close?
That’s the invisible load of parenthood: The endless mental and emotional labor that keeps a family running but often falls on one parent without ever being named.
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down:
- What the invisible load actually looks like in early parenthood (hint: it’s more than chores)
- Why it so often falls unequally, even in good partnerships
- The cycle of resentment it creates when it stays hidden
- A simple 3-step framework—See it. Say it. Slay it.—to start redistributing the weight today
Whether you’re pregnant and wondering how to prepare, or already in the thick of diapers and daycare forms, this conversation will help you shift from scorekeeping to true teamwork.
👉 Listen in, grab our free Mental Load Brain Dump Template (your new reset button), and if you’re ready to go deeper, book a Connection Call with us to talk about the kind of relationship you want to build.
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Tired of having the same fight on repeat with your partner?
One of you wants to hash it out right now, the other goes silent, and suddenly you’re not even arguing about the actual issue anymore.
You’re arguing about how you argue.
Sound familiar?
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down processing styles in marriage after baby—external vs. internal processors—and why these differences get louder when you’re tired, stressed, and stretched thin as new parents.
You’ll hear how this dynamic showed up in their own relationship, why stress and flooding make small clashes spiral, and the simple tools couples can use to break the demand–withdraw cycle.
Whether you’re an exhausted parent feeling stuck in the same arguments or a couple who wants to grow stronger after baby, this conversation will help you:
- Understand your own processing style (and your partner’s).
- Recognize the nervous system’s role in miscommunication.
- Use 4 practical tools to calm conflict and reconnect as a team.
Because your baby deserves parents who don’t just survive parenthood, but thrive together.
Book an connection call with us: Calendly
Get our go to questions for a 5-min daily check-in: 5 Questions to Stay Connected to Your Partner — Chelsea Skaggs Coaching
👉 Tune in now and start building healthier communication in your marriage after baby.
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Early parenthood has a way of putting every crack in your relationship under a spotlight. In this candid conversation, Chelsea and Mike pull back the curtain on the pain points they faced after having kids and the lessons they wish they’d learned sooner.
From buried baggage that resurfaces under pressure to communication breakdowns and the mental load that nearly pulled them apart, they share the struggles, the breakthroughs, and the hope that comes with learning to work as a team.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why didn’t anyone tell us it would be this hard?” this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with real-life insights and tools to help you save some heartache and start building the kind of connection that lasts through sleepless nights, identity shifts, and big transitions.
Resources
- Learn more about our 6-Week Relationship Coaching Program: postpartumtogether.com/welcome
- Grab your free Postpartum Planning Checklist: postpartumtogether.com/postpartum-planning
- Book a Connection Call with Chelsea: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-call
PS: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who’s in the trenches of early parenthood. And if you loved it, please take a moment to leave a 5-star review — it helps more couples find the support they need to thrive, not just survive, after baby.
Are you constantly saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”?
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get honest about people-pleasing, the “eldest daughter” martyr mindset, and how overstuffed calendars and invisible expectations quietly drain your marriage and family life.
Together, they share how learning to set boundaries, stop overscheduling, and get clear on your values (instead of everyone else’s rules) can completely change the tone of your home. You’ll hear real stories about:
- Why saying no feels impossible (and why it matters for your marriage)
- How filling every blank space on your calendar sabotages connection
- What happens when you stop living by other people’s rules and start living by your family values
- Simple practices that help couples create more rest, joy, and clarity
If you’ve ever felt stretched thin, stuck in “good mom” or “good spouse” mode, or unsure how to align as a family, this episode will give you a refreshing and practical perspective.
✨ Want to go deeper? Join Chelsea and Mike’s Rewrite the Rules Workshop — a live, donation-based virtual event designed to help you uncover your core family values and use them as your compass for time, energy, and money decisions. Reserve your spot in the next workshop here: Postpartum Together Events
Learn more about Postpartum Together Coaching
On this off-the-cuff parenting podcast episode, Chelsea and Mike get real about fatherhood, parenting grief, and the pressure to be present.
From crying at the bus stop to reflecting on kids growing up and what it means for your marriage, this conversation covers micro-griefs in parenting, dads and emotions, and communication in parenting.
If you’re a mom or dad navigating parenting transitions and wanting to build stronger parent connection in your relationship, you’ll find yourself nodding along.
🔗 Book your free parent connection call here: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-call
🎥 And here’s the Kitty High Five we mention: Kitty High Five
Motherhood was never meant to be a solo act.
In this episode, Chelsea sits down with Stephanie Fornaro, founder of Hello Nanny, to talk about why accepting help isn’t a weakness, it’s wisdom.
We explore the emotional, relational, and practical layers of building your support system, from financial independence and partnership dynamics to the difference between nannies and family assistants. Stephanie shares her personal journey of overcoming guilt around getting help, and how her mission is empowering parents to thrive, not just survive.
Whether you’re navigating postpartum, juggling toddlers, or simply craving more presence in your parenting, this conversation is your permission slip to drop the “do it all” mindset and start creating your own village.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why accepting help is a strength, not a failure
- How financial independence impacts your relationship
- The difference between a nanny and a family assistant (and why it matters)
- How to build a support system that fits your family’s values
- The role of one-on-one time with your kids in a busy season
- Overcoming the guilt of asking for help
Resources & Links:
- Connect with Stephanie on the Hello Nanny site
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Follow Hello Nanny on Instagram: @hellonannydotcom
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- Learn more about relationship coaching after baby with Chels + Mike at Postpartum Together
- Follow Postpartum Together on Instagram: @postpartumtogether
Is your stress response a sign you're failing, or a sign you're human?
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get real about what stress is actually trying to tell us and how it impacts connection in relationships. We'll explore how everyday tension can become a source of strength if we know how to come back to safety, together.
You’ll hear:
- The psychology of rupture and repair—and why it matters more than “getting it right”
- Why we break down when one person tries to carry the emotional load for both
- How friendship, co-regulation, and nervous system safety are deeply linked
Plus, the one question that can transform your relationships:
“Do you have the capacity for this?”
If you’ve been stuck in reactive conversations, missed signals, or simmering resentment, the first step back to each other might be simpler than you think.
🎁 Download the Reconnection Kit—with 8 free communication scripts—to make your next hard conversation easier (and more productive).
Learn more about working with us here.
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- co-regulation in relationships
- stress and resilience psychology
- why community matters for mental health
- postpartum nervous system
- repair after relationship conflict
“Let’s just figure it all out right now…”
You’ve said it. Or your partner has. And before you know it, it’s 10:30pm, you’re in survival mode, and the ‘solution’ turns into another fight.
In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea and Mike get honest about why trying to fix your relationship during fight-or-flight doesn’t work and what to do instead.
You’ll learn:
- What happens in your brain and body during conflict
- Why “just talking it out” often backfires
- The neuroscience behind repair and regulation
- How to pause a fight without ignoring it
- Tools you can use to come back together in a healthier, more connected way
This is the next step after last week’s viral episode on feeling touched out. Together, they unpack what stress really does to our relationships and how to build safety, repair, and teamwork in the hard moments.
“You can’t fix a relationship in fight-or-flight. But you can come back stronger.”
- 🎧 Missed last week’s episode? Listen to: Touched Out: What Your Nervous System Is Trying to Tell You
- 🔄 Reconnection Kit for Couples: Download Here
- 💬 Work with Chelsea & Mike: Coaching Options
References:
- Gottman Institute: Physiological Self-Soothing During Conflict
- NIH Study: Stress and Marital Communication
Keywords:
- fight or flight in relationships
- relationship repair after conflict
- nervous system and conflict resolution
- postpartum relationship struggles
- co-regulation for couples
- how to stop fighting with your partner
- stress and communication in marriage
- parenting and relationship stress
- emotional disconnection in relationships
- nervous system dysregulation and intimacy
Ever felt like you want a connection, but the thought of one more person touching you makes your skin crawl?
You’re not cold. You’re not broken. You might just be touched out.
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike dig into what’s really happening when physical affection feels like too much, especially in the postpartum season. Using Polyvagal Theory as a framework, they explore how your nervous system responds to chronic stress, the mental load, and overstimulation.
They talk about:
- Why being touched out is not just a mom thing (though it hits moms hard)
- The science behind why your body says “no” even when your heart says “yes”
- How to recognize when your nervous system is in shutdown or high alert
- The power of co-regulation (and why it’s more effective than just pushing through)
- Tools that help you reconnect even if you only have five minutes
This isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding yourself, offering compassion, and having new language to break old cycles.
Want to dive deeper into the science?
👉 Link to Dr. Sarah’s podcast with Dr. Stephen Porges's team
Ready for simple ways to rebuild connection at home?
👉 Link to the Reconnection Kit for Couples
Curious about the card deck we mentioned?
👉 Link to Love Lingual Cards
This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt close, but also miles apart, and wants a better way back to each other.
You’re in the same room, but it feels like miles apart.
You love your partner, but you feel more like co-managers than a couple.
Sound familiar?
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get real about the signs of emotional disconnection that show up after having a baby, often quietly and gradually. From scorekeeping and silence to intimacy struggles and the nervous system overload no one warns you about, they unpack what drifting apart really looks like and why it’s not a sign you’re broken.
If you’re sitting on opposite ends of the couch, wondering how you got here—or how to get back—this episode is for you.
You’ll hear:
- How emotional disconnect shows up in everyday life
- Why resentment and avoidance don’t mean you’ve “fallen out of love”
- Tools to start reconnecting without pressure or blame
- A powerful reframe: “The story I’m telling myself is…”
📥 Grab the free Conversation Starters for Tired Parents:
https://postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
💬 Want our help rebuilding together? Join our 6-week couples coaching program: https://postpartumtogether.com/welcome
You’re not alone. And you don’t have to stay disconnected.
Tell us what you thought of the episode: chelsea@postpartumtogether.com
When the world feels like it’s burning politically, socially, & emotionally, what do we do as parents?
In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get honest about what it means to raise kids in today’s tense climate and why your home might just be the most powerful place of resistance.
From stress-induced doomscrolling to boundary-setting in your own house, they unpack how overwhelmed couples can protect their peace, raise emotionally intelligent kids, and reclaim joy as an act of radical parenting.
This conversation explores:
- The hidden toll of always being “informed”
- How to parent with purpose when you're burned out
- Why joy and connection are survival tools for families
- What it means to use your privilege without burnout
- Real talk on relationship tension, social media pressure, and choosing fun on purpose
Whether you’re at a protest or simply trying to keep your home a refuge, this episode is your reminder: You are doing something powerful just by raising kind kids in a heavy world.
💬 Let us know what resonated most. And if you're looking for tools to lighten the load, grab our Mental Load List Template.
If you're wanting to create a home environment of refuge, but your tension with your partner is getting in the way, let's talk about how our guided couples' support can help you make it a reality.
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Once we learned about the mental load, we thought we were on the same page. But that first conversation? It brought up more frustration than clarity. In this episode, we share how our first attempt to talk about the mental load went sideways, the common mistakes couples make in these moments, and the small shifts that helped us move from blame to real teamwork.
Whether you're just learning about the mental load or you've tried bringing it up (and hit a wall), this episode gives you real talk, relatable moments, and practical ways to start the conversation again — with more connection and less conflict.
This episode is audio from a live chat between Chels + Mike. Should we start a "Mornings with Chels and Mike" segment? Let us know!
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For the first 4 years of our parenting journey, we didn’t know what the mental load was, let alone how deeply it was impacting our connection, our communication, and our resentment.
In this honest conversation, we share what our relationship looked like before we had the words, how the invisible labor kept building tension, and what shifted when we finally named it.
Whether you're new to the idea of the mental load or you're trying to help your partner understand it, this episode gives you language, validation, and a behind-the-scenes look at how one small vocabulary change can create big relational shifts.
🔗 Mentioned in this episode:
- Our Reconnection Kit for Couples
Reconnect in Just 10 Minutes a Day * Pre-Baby Relationship Bluepring Coaching
Relationship Coaching for Expecting Parents: Prepare to Stay Connected After Baby
Let’s talk about the invisible work, the unspoken pressure, and how to stop acting like roommates.
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From postpartum rage to career stress to spiritual deconstruction, we’ve walked through some serious identity earthquakes and nearly walked away from our marriage.
We know what it’s like to sit in silence at the end of a long day, feeling more like roommates than partners. To wonder if things will ever feel good again. To carry the mental load, the emotional labor, and the resentment that builds when no one talks about what’s really going on after the baby.
This conversation kicks off a new chapter in our marriage, in our business, and on this podcast. We’re sharing the honest truth about the hard seasons, the awkward conversations, the near misses... and the daily work it took to move from disconnection to reconnection.
Whether you’re in the newborn fog, navigating toddler chaos, or just feeling like the spark is gone, this episode is your reminder that you’re not alone, and it is possible to find your way back.
💡 Inside this episode:
- What nearly ended our marriage — and what helped us stay
- How spiritual and identity shifts reshaped our relationship
- Why we’re no longer afraid of the messy middle
- The power of rebuilding teamwork and intimacy — even years later
✨ NEW: Get our free Reconnection Kit for Couples — practical tools to help you rebuild emotional intimacy and get on the same page again (without needing hours of free time or a perfect mood).
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/spark-cards
🎉 Meet Mike: This episode also marks the official welcome of Mike as a business partner at Postpartum Together and co-leader of our mission to help couples create better relationships after baby. You’ll hear more from both of us on this show and in our coaching work as we serve couples who are ready to stop surviving and start growing again.
🔔 Follow for more: Subscribe to the Better Relationships After Baby podcast and follow us @PostpartumTogether for weekly tools, convos, and connection to support your real-life relationship.
📩Get on our email list for weekly tips: https://chelseaskaggs.kit.com/74eecf429d
If your emotional hangover keeps crashing your good days, or your confidence lives and dies by your partner’s mood… we need to talk.
This one’s coming in hot with equal parts spicy and supportive. In this tough love episode, I'm channeling my no-BS grandma to call out three common ways women self-sabotage in relationships and life:
- Expecting the good to fall apart
- Handing your power over to your partner
- Hiding your insecurity behind "busy"
If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop of doing the same things and expecting different results, this episode is your wake-up call and your warm hug. We’re not here to stay small. We’re here to break cycles and expand our capacity for more joy, connection, and confidence. Let’s go.
If you recognized yourself in any of this, it’s time to stop circling the same drain. Book a clarity coaching call and let’s get you unstuck, because the patterns aren’t going to change unless you do something different.
www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
Feel like you're the only one trying to keep the conversation (and the relationship) alive? In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs breaks down how to get your partner to open up and communicate—without nagging, resentment, or repeating yourself 100 times. We’ll talk about why your partner may be emotionally shut down, how gender conditioning plays a role in communication breakdowns, and how to use curiosity, timing, and real-life scripts to shift the dynamic in your relationship.
If you’re craving deeper connection, less defensiveness, and way fewer one-sided convos—this episode is for you.
💬 Topics include:
- Why your partner might be shutting down emotionally
- How to stop the resentment spiral before it starts
- What actually works to create real, honest conversation
- Easy scripts you can try today
- And how curiosity can totally change your dynamic
Grab Chelsea’s free Communication Scripts for Couples here: Communication Upgrade Scripts | Enhance Communication Today — Chelsea Skaggs Coaching
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Feeling touched out as a mom is so real — and so under-talked about.
In this episode, we’re diving into what it means to feel touched out, how overstimulation affects your connection in marriage and motherhood, and what to do when your nervous system is begging for a break.
Host Chelsea Skaggs (mom, relationship coach, and author of upcoming release: Talk Like a Team) shares her personal story of being physically and emotionally maxed out after baby #2, the guilt she had around asking for space, and the empowering communication shifts that helped her find herself again.
You'll learn:
- What "touched out" really means — and why it’s more than just being tired
- How sensory overload impacts intimacy, connection, and mental health
- Ways to set physical boundaries without shutting your family out
- Language upgrades that help you advocate for your needs without guilt or blame
- Why this isn’t a sign of failure — but a powerful cue for self-care
Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, working mom, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you name what you’re feeling, normalize the need for space, and give you tools to reconnect with yourself and your people.
💬 Plus, don’t miss the FREE Communication Upgrade Scripts to help you express your needs clearly and kindly. Get the link in the show notes.
https://postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
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You planned the trip. Packed the bags. Hoped for rest.
But somehow, you’re still managing tantrums, tracking snacks, and wondering why your partner is chilling while you're losing it in the hotel bathroom.
Sound familiar?
In this episode, I’m breaking down why so many family vacations leave one parent drained (usually you), and how to shift the dynamic before, during, and after the trip — so both of you get a break, feel seen, and actually enjoy your time away.
We’ll talk about:
- The pre-vacation convo every couple needs (and why it’s not about the itinerary)
- Real-life rhythms that help you tag-team instead of keeping score
- Phrases to use when things get tense — so you reset instead of explode
- How to stop feeling like the vacation manager and start feeling like a team again
Because vacation should be a break for both of you.
Let’s make it happen.
💬 Want to go deeper? Learn more about Relationship Blueprint Mapping — my private session for couples ready to ditch autopilot and build a rhythm that actually works.
Catch the blog post (with the questions you need to be asking before your trip) here: www.postpartumtogether.com/blog/why-your-vacation-feels-like-more-work-and-how-to-fix-it-as-a-team
In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, we’re not just opening the windows and scrubbing baseboards—we’re clearing out the emotional dust bunnies that quietly build up in your relationship. Inspired by a junk drawer declutter (spoiler: it wasn’t even my stuff), I’m diving into the invisible messes—like unspoken expectations, unchosen roles, and the quiet resentment that chips away at your connection.
You'll hear real talk about:
- How the default parent role might be wearing you down
- Why unspoken expectations create lingering tension
- And how to name the needs that are currently going unmet
Plus, I’ll walk you through 3 core emotional blocks and give you reflective questions to get honest about what’s taking up space in your relationship.
💬 Want to do a little spring cleaning of your own? Download the free Spring Cleaning for Your Relationship Checklist in the show notes—your permission slip to reset, reconnect, and release what’s no longer working.
This isn’t just about feeling less stressed—it’s about feeling more like a team.
🧼 Let’s clean house—emotionally speaking.
Arguments happen. Misunderstandings are inevitable. But what separates thriving couples from those who grow distant isn’t how often they argue—it’s how they repair after a fight.
In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs dives into why your arguments aren’t the real problem in relationships, and how emotional repair can strengthen your bond. She breaks down how your body and brain store emotional memories (hello, Inside Out fans!), and shares simple but powerful ways to create deeper connection after difficult conversations.
Chelsea also opens up about a personal story of a recent tearful moment with her husband and how it unexpectedly became an opportunity for deeper intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship is "normal" because you argue, this episode is for you. It’s not about perfection—it’s about learning to heal and grow together.
Key Takeaways:
- Why arguments aren’t the problem; it’s the repair that matters
- How emotional memories are stored in your brain (and how to work with them)
- Simple ways to reconnect after a fight and strengthen intimacy
Ready to build a relationship that stores more joy than resentment? Let’s dig in.
Communication Tip:
Want a tool to help you repair more effectively after a fight? I’ve created a free Communication Script to guide you through tough conversations and help you rebuild connection after conflict. It’s perfect for couples who struggle to find the right words when things get heated. Grab it here:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Want to learn more about repairing and strengthening your relationship?
Book a free consultation call with me here:
👉 www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
Is your relationship feeling “fine” but not exactly thriving? Relationship drift is real, and it can happen to even the strongest couples. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea Skaggs breaks down the differences between relationship coaching and therapy, explaining why coaching might be the proactive solution your relationship needs to get back on track.
From feeling disconnected after having kids to craving better communication, intimacy, and emotional connection, Chelsea shares how relationship coaching focuses on moving forward, rather than just delving into the past.
You’ll learn why emotional intelligence is critical for building lasting relationships, how creating a personalized Relationship Blueprint can reignite your bond, and why waiting until things fall apart isn’t the only option for getting support.
Key Takeaways:
- Understanding relationship stagnation and overcoming the “in-between” feeling
- Therapy vs. coaching: How to choose the right support for your relationship
- Building a Relationship Blueprint to reconnect and grow together
- The role of men and emotional leadership in building strong partnerships
- Why proactive support can prevent emotional burnout and strengthen your relationship
- How modeling healthy partnerships positively impacts your kids
This episode is a must-listen for couples navigating the challenges of parenting, emotional labor, or those who simply want to cultivate a deeper connection. If you’re ready to move from survival mode to thriving partnership, tune in now!
Bonus Resource:
Ready to start making shifts in your relationship right away? Grab my free Relationship Communication Scripts—they’ll help you navigate tough conversations and create deeper connection, even during stressful times. Download them here:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Want personalized support to rebuild your relationship?
Book a free Relationship Coaching Meet-and-Greet Call today:
👉 www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
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In this powerful and raw conversation, Chelsea sits down with Fred Van Riper, a Fair Play facilitator and men’s relationship coach, to explore the invisible forces shaping modern partnerships. Together, they dive deep into the impact of patriarchy, gendered expectations, and the emotional labor that often goes unrecognized in relationships.
They explore how societal norms influence both men and women, why emotional labor and vulnerability are often avoided in conversation, and what true partnership requires for growth and equality. From reframing the role of provider to dismantling shame and stepping into emotional ownership, Fred and Chelsea share real, actionable steps toward building a more equitable, empowered relationship.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in traditional roles or unsure how to create a truly balanced partnership, this episode is for you.
Topics Covered:
- Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness
- The hidden cost of patriarchy for both men and women
- How men can lead the charge in dismantling toxic societal norms
- The blame-shame loop and its impact on relationships
- How to build emotional safety and community in your partnership
Key Takeaway:
This episode isn’t about placing blame; it’s about taking responsibility. We don’t need perfect solutions, but we do need committed partners who are ready to do the inner and relational work to create real change.
Bonus Resource:
Looking to break free from gendered expectations in your own relationship? Download my Relationship Communication Scripts to help you have more honest, effective conversations around tough topics like emotional labor and vulnerability.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Connect with Fred:
Fred’s coaching for high-achieving men: Transform Your Life | Seat at the Table
Connect with Chelsea:
Chelsea Skaggs Coaching: www.postpartumtogether.com/services
Has your relationship felt heavier lately? You’re not alone.
In this episode, we’re tackling the rising tension many couples are facing, especially during this emotionally charged election season. Whether you’re in a marriage, co-parenting partnership, or navigating family and friendships, political conversations are starting to feel like landmines.
I’m not here to tell you who to vote for—I’m here to help you protect your relationship while honoring your values, even when you and your partner see the world differently.
In this episode, you'll hear:
- Why political talk feels so personal (spoiler: it’s not just about policies)
- How mismatched views can trigger identity-level conflict in relationships
- The 3 most common tension patterns couples fall into—and how to shift them
- Why your home needs to be a “safe landing place” now more than ever
- Encouragement to turn toward each other instead of away—even when you disagree
This is real-talk, empathy, and empowerment—the things that make me your big sister voice in modern parenting and relationships. If you’re wondering how to keep your connection strong through disagreement—and even grow because of it—this episode is for you.
Ready to strengthen your relationship and communicate better?
Grab my FREE Communication Scripts to help you navigate tough conversations:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Ready to do the deeper work together?
Coaching spots are open:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/services
Share this episode with your partner or your favorite group chat—especially the ones avoiding political talk at the dinner table.
Ever feel disconnected from your partner—even when you’re spending time together? You’re not alone.
In this episode, I’m diving into the quiet loneliness that can settle into long-term relationships. We’ll talk about why emotional distance creeps in, how love and loneliness can coexist, and—most importantly—how to rebuild a sense of connection with your partner.
I’m sharing personal experiences, insights from working with couples, and practical steps to break out of the “roommate” cycle. If you’re craving deeper conversations, emotional closeness, and more intentional moments with your partner, this episode has something for you.
What you’ll learn:
- Signs you may be stuck in a loneliness cycle
- Small shifts to create deeper daily connection
- How to respond to your partner’s bids for attention
- My 4-month Relationship Roadmap Coaching for couples
If this resonates, take a moment to reflect—and if you’re ready for more support, let’s talk!
🎁 Grab my FREE Spring Cleaning Your Relationship Guide:
👉 Spring Cleaning Your Relationship
📲 Interested in working together?
Learn more about my Relationship Coaching and The Confident Mom Reset:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/services
- Relationship loneliness
- Emotional disconnection
- Feeling lonely in marriage
- Marriage struggles
- Relationship connection
- Communication in relationships
- Rebuilding intimacy
- Marriage support
- Relationship coaching
- Emotional intimacy
- Feeling like roommates
- Strengthening your marriage
- Improving communication
- Relationship advice for couples
New parents often feel the weight of doing it all—managing the baby, the house, the career—without asking for help. But the cost of that is high.
In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I sit down with Nicole Buckley, a licensed perinatal therapist and the voice behind Raising Good Parents, to talk about why so many new parents, especially moms, feel like they have to do it all alone.
We dive into the barriers that keep us stuck in burnout, the mindset shifts necessary to ask for help, and how doing so can positively impact your well-being and relationship. Nicole shares practical strategies and real-life examples to help you move from survival mode to a more supported, balanced version of motherhood.
Plus, we chat about the pandemic’s long-term effects on today’s parents and how to set healthier expectations moving forward.
What you’ll learn:
- The hidden cost of trying to do it all on your own
- How to reframe asking for help as a strength, not a weakness
- Practical mindset shifts and strategies to get more support
- The impact of the pandemic on parental expectations and well-being
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed and unsure how to ask for help, this episode is a must-listen.
🎁 Need help starting those tough conversations?
Download my FREE Communication Scripts to get started with asking for what you need:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
📌 Learn more about Nicole and her upcoming self-care workshop at: https://www.nicolebuckleylpc.com/
📌 Follow Nicole on Instagram: @RaisingGoodParents
📌 Tell me what you thought of this episode or ask more about coaching with me by sending me a message on Instagram
- Maternal gatekeeping
- Mental load in motherhood
- Overwhelmed moms
- Asking for help as a mom
- Parenting partnership
- Sharing household responsibilities
- Marriage after baby
- Mom burnout
- Delegating as a parent
- Work-life balance for moms
- Resentment in motherhood
- Postpartum relationships
- Communication after baby
- Parenting teamwork
- Letting go of control as a mom
- Perfectionism in parenting
- Stay-at-home vs. working mom struggles
- Balancing motherhood and marriage
- Emotional labor in relationships
- Breaking gender roles in parenting
Do you find yourself stuck in the same argument loop? One of you gets louder, pushing for resolution, while the other shuts down, emotionally withdrawing. It’s frustrating, but this cycle is more about your nervous system than personality differences.
In this episode, we dive into why this common dynamic happens and how you can break the cycle. You’ll learn practical tools to shift the way you communicate, repair faster, and actually solve issues without the emotional shutdowns.
What you’ll learn:
- Why one person gets louder while the other shuts down
- The role your nervous system plays in arguments
- How to communicate more effectively and avoid the same old fights
- Tips to repair faster and strengthen your relationship
If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same argument patterns, getting the right words can make a huge difference. Download my FREE Communication Scripts to help you navigate those tough conversations without escalating the tension.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Ready to take control of your relationship and enjoy life more?
Schedule a free meet-and-greet with me to discuss coaching options:
👉 www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review—it means so much to me!
Your relationship doesn’t crumble in one dramatic moment—it’s the small, everyday fractures that weaken the foundation. In this episode, we’re breaking down how to build a relationship that can withstand stress, conflict, and the inevitable hard times.
You’ll learn:
- Why couples don’t fall apart in explosive arguments—but in unnoticed moments of disconnection
- How 30-second check-ins can change everything
- The power of repairing quickly instead of letting resentment build
- One thing you and your partner can turn to when things get tough
Hard times are coming—it’s not a matter of if, but when. The strongest couples aren’t avoiding the storm; they’re building a foundation that can handle it. Let’s talk about how to do that, together.
🎧 Listen now & start strengthening your relationship today!
If you’re ready to turn things around and build a relationship that lasts, grab my FREE Communication Scripts to help you navigate tough conversations and get back on the same page:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Ready to get serious about enjoying your relationship (and your roommate)?
Schedule a free meet-and-greet call with me to learn about relationship roadmapping:
👉 www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner keep arguing over the tiniest things—like chores, schedules, or who forgot to buy the milk—this episode is for you.
Chelsea dives into the hidden force behind those “small” arguments: the mental load. This is the often-invisible labor of planning, anticipating, and managing the needs of a home and family—work that disproportionately falls on women. And when it goes unacknowledged, it leads to resentment, burnout, and constant tension.
Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why small fights often stem from unspoken emotional and cognitive labor
- How the mental load shows up in modern partnerships (and why it's so hard to talk about)
- Real, no-fluff strategies for redistributing responsibilities without micromanaging
- How weekly check-ins can prevent resentment from building over time
If you’re ready to shift from quiet frustration to collaborative conversations, this episode will help you take the first step toward a more balanced and connected partnership.
🎁 Grab my free Relationship Jumpstart Bundle
Includes conversation starters to address the mental load and open up deeper connection:
👉 chelseaskaggs.kit.com/relationship-jumpstart
Tune into tomorrow's episode to learn what you CAN DO to stop arguing over "nothing" and address the common struggles in your relationship.
Feeling overwhelmed but nervous to ask your partner for more help? You’re not the only one. Many of us worry that asking for support will be taken as nagging—or that it somehow cancels out our appreciation.
In this episode, Chelsea breaks down how gratitude and asking for help can coexist—and why they must in a healthy relationship. You'll learn why appreciation actually boosts follow-through (yes, it’s backed by research) and how to communicate your needs without resentment or tension.
What you’ll learn:
- A step-by-step framework for asking for help clearly and kindly
- The science behind why appreciation increases cooperation
- Word-for-word phrases to help keep conversations productive
- Tools to navigate defensiveness or pushback from your partner
You don’t have to keep carrying more than your share. This episode will give you the tools to speak up and strengthen your connection at the same time.
💬 Want to feel more confident in these conversations?
Grab my FREE Communication Scripts designed to help you ask for what you need—without guilt or shutdowns:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Let’s keep the convo going! DM me on Instagram @chelseabrookeskaggs and share your biggest takeaway.
Interested in coaching? Email me at chelsea@postpartumtogether.com to explore what support could look like for you.
Feeling like you carry the mental and emotional weight of your home while your partner coasts? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to keep doing it all.
In this episode, Chelsea is joined by Sandi Konta, certified Fair Play facilitator and founder of Done Being Good, to explore how couples can create more equity at home. Together, they break down the ways women often become unintentionally complicit in imbalance—and how the Fair Play method helps reset expectations, roles, and communication without nagging or scorekeeping.
You’ll learn:
- Why stepping back is often the first step to your partner stepping up
- How to shift household dynamics without resentment
- Tools for redistributing the mental load with clarity and compassion
- Small but powerful changes that lead to more connection and partnership
Whether you're parenting, partnering, or just plain tired of doing it all—this conversation will help you move from overload to shared ownership.
🎁 Want help navigating these convos at home?
Download Chelsea’s free Communication Scripts to get the words for those hard-but-important talks:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
🎧 Grab Sandi’s Free Fair Play Workshop:
👉 donebeinggood.com/fairplay
📲 Follow Sandi on Instagram: @donebeinggood
Does it feel like you and your partner are just running the house and raising kids… but missing the connection you once had? You’re not broken—this “roommate phase” is incredibly common after baby. But you don’t have to stay stuck there.
In this episode, I’m breaking down:
- Why so many couples shift into logistics mode
- What causes the distance (and how to name it without blame)
- Simple ways to bring back curiosity, play, and real connection
- How to create small, intentional moments that help you feel like partners again
You deserve more than tag-teaming diapers and dishes. Let’s rebuild the relationship you want—without needing a week away or fancy plans.
✨ Grab the free 50 At-Home Date Ideas download and start reconnecting today:
www.postpartumtogether.com/at-home-date-download
🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe and share this with someone else who’s craving more than just “co-parenting.” 💛
This isn’t just another episode—it’s a heart-to-heart invitation. 💛
Becoming a mom shifts everything: your routines, your relationships, your identity. It’s no wonder so many women say, “I don’t feel like me anymore.” If you’re feeling stretched thin, lost in the shuffle, or just not as confident as you once were, this space is for you.
I'm inviting you to The Confident Mom Reset—a small, intimate group coaching experience for new and seasoned moms alike. Together, we’ll explore how to:
- Rebuild your confidence in who you are
- Set boundaries without guilt
- Redefine balance for this season
- Speak up for your needs in motherhood and partnership
This is your chance to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and be surrounded by women who get it. 🌿
✨ Want a free resource while you consider joining? Download the 3 Days to Better Communication audio series—because confidence and communication go hand in hand:
www.postpartumtogether.com/audio-series
🎧 Tune in for all the details, and if this speaks to you, let’s talk. Email me at chelsea@postpartumtogether.com or send me a DM on Instagram. Spots are limited and your reset starts here. ✨
Mom rage is real—and you're not the only one feeling it. 😔
If you've ever slammed a cabinet, yelled louder than you meant to, or felt so overwhelmed it scared you, this episode is for you.
In this honest conversation, we're unpacking what mom rage really is, where it comes from, and why it deserves so much more compassion and understanding. Mom rage isn't about being a bad mom. It's often about untreated exhaustion, unmet needs, unprocessed grief, and invisible emotional labor. You’re not failing—you’re under-supported.
I’m sharing my personal experience with mom rage—how it caught me off guard, the shame spiral that followed, and what I’ve learned about managing these big feelings with more grace (and fewer outbursts). Let's bring this out of the shadows and give it language, tools, and space.
🎧 What You’ll Learn:
- What mom rage actually is (and what it’s not)
- How fear, grief, and sadness often wear the mask of anger
- Why your unmet needs are valid and important
- The connection between rage and the mental load of motherhood
- How to start releasing guilt and finding real support
You’re not broken—you’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, and carrying more than one human should. Let’s talk about it and start to shift the cycle.
💬 Want a practical tool to communicate what you need before the boiling point? Grab my free Communication Scripts to handle hard conversations with more clarity and less blow-up:
www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
✨ When you're ready to go deeper, coaching is here to help you move through these big life shifts with more ease and emotional support. Schedule your free meet-and-greet here:
https://www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
rying to conceive can feel like a rollercoaster—filled with hope, pressure, and so many emotions. 🌀
And while everyone talks about ovulation trackers and timing, few talk about the relationship strain TTC can cause.
In this episode, I’m joined by Erin McCaffrey Crespo, a fertility expert and doula, for a raw and supportive convo about how to stay emotionally and physically connected with your partner when trying to conceive starts to feel more like a job than a joy.
Together, we unpack:
- How to maintain real intimacy when sex becomes scheduled
- The surprising myths about fertility—and what actually matters
- Practical ways to reconnect emotionally and sexually
- Why open communication is the relationship tool you can’t skip during TTC
Whether you're actively TTC, thinking about it, or supporting a partner or friend on the journey—this episode is filled with comfort, clarity, and no-BS support. 🤍
🎧 Listen in for insights that will help you protect your bond, preserve pleasure, and feel less alone in the process.
✨ BONUS: Get my 50 At-Home Date Ideas download for ways to reconnect with your partner beyond the fertility calendar.
www.postpartumtogether.com/at-home-date-download
Connect with Erin:
Website: https://www.thrive-doula-services.com
Instagram: @thrivedoulacolumbus
Use code CHELSEA for $50 off her services.
Ever feel like you're speaking a different language than your partner—especially in the thick of raising kids? 🙃
You're not alone. Misunderstandings in relationships after becoming parents are extremely common, but often go unspoken. This episode breaks down why it happens and what you can actually do about it.
We’ll dive into:
- The real reasons partners start to feel misunderstood (spoiler: it’s not just “bad communication”)
- How exhaustion, mental load, and assumptions build quiet resentment
- A personal story of how one tiny comment turned into a big argument—and what it taught me
- Three practical tools to reconnect without needing hours of therapy or a perfect schedule
You’ll walk away with tangible ways to feel seen, heard, and supported—even when parenting life is loud, messy, and overwhelming. 💬
✨ Want a simple way to start shifting the dynamic? Download my Communication Upgrade Scripts to feel more confident in everyday conversations:
www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
🎧 Press play and start bridging the gap between feeling misunderstood and feeling truly connected again.
Do you find yourself constantly justifying, explaining, or defending your choices in conversations—especially with your partner? That pattern has a name: JED (Justify, Explain, Defend), and it could be silently damaging your communication.
In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea breaks down what JED is, how it shows up in relationships, and why it often leads to frustration or disconnection. Inspired by insights from Dr. Elizabeth Winkler on The Shadow and the Light podcast, this episode offers a clear, compassionate look at what’s really going on when you feel the need to over-explain.
You'll learn:
🧠 Why JED is a defense mechanism rooted in fear and past experience
💬 How it fuels tension and misunderstanding in relationships
🛠️ Mindful strategies to shift your communication from defense to connection
Whether you’re tired of feeling like you have to prove yourself, or you just want to have more grounded, intentional conversations, this episode will help you take a powerful first step.
✨ Ready to ditch defensiveness and speak with confidence? Download my Communication Scripts to navigate tough conversations with more clarity and less conflict:
www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
🎧 Tune in now and start rewriting your communication patterns—without all the over-explaining.
What’s the real secret to deeper connection, lasting trust, and stronger intimacy with your partner? In this episode, we unpack the foundational role of emotional safety—what it is, how it breaks down, and how to rebuild it when things feel off.
We’ll talk about how common patterns like criticism, defensiveness, and emotional avoidance can quietly erode your connection—and what to do instead. I’ll walk you through simple, actionable strategies: how to practice active listening, why predictability builds trust, and how small habits like expressing gratitude can shift the dynamic between you and your partner.
You’ll learn:
- Why emotional safety is essential for meaningful connection
- How trust is built (and rebuilt) through consistency
- Ways to repair and strengthen intimacy after conflict
If you’re ready to feel more seen, heard, and supported in your relationship, this episode will meet you where you are—with tools you can use right away.
👉 Want help finding the right words in hard moments?
Download my free Communication Scripts to help you express your needs with clarity and confidence: www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Why does talking about money feel so hard—and why does it lead to so many fights in relationships?
In this episode, Chelsea is joined by money mindset coach and financial educator Shannon Brown Ward to unpack one of the most common relationship stressors: finances. From childhood beliefs to budgeting breakdowns, they explore how our earliest money experiences shape the way we communicate with our partner today.
You’ll hear practical tools for getting on the same page financially—whether you’re paying off debt, trying to align on future goals, or just want to stop the tension when the bills come up. Shannon and Chelsea share real-life strategies for things like:
- Creating a budget without shame or restriction
- Avoiding lifestyle creep as your income grows
- Prioritizing connection (yes, even budget-friendly date nights)
You’ll also hear why even small steps like saving $25/month can lead to major progress—and how to reframe money conversations so they’re grounded in teamwork, not tension.
Ready to make money a point of connection, not conflict?
Start with my free Communication Scripts to help you express financial needs and navigate tough conversations:
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Connect with Shannon:
Website
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Podcast - Middle Class to Millions
Feeling stuck in the cycle of information overload? You’re not alone—and it’s time to break free in 2025.
In this episode, we explore how embracing authenticity and letting go of external expectations can pave the way for real, impactful change.
Join me to learn and discuss the power of focused action, why identifying just one key change can spark a domino effect, and how limiting input sources reduces mental drain.
Whether you’re aiming to improve communication in your relationship, set realistic goals, or simply gain clarity in your personal growth journey, this episode will inspire you to take intentional steps toward lasting progress starting with the new year.
Ready to create a plan for meaningful growth? Tune in to learn how coaching and accountability can help you move from overwhelm to action.
Let’s simplify, focus, and grow—together.
Quiz mentioned:
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Learn about working with me: https://www.postpartumtogether.com/services
Timestamps:
- 00:00 – Embracing Authenticity in the New Year
- 02:51 – Overcoming Information Overload
- 06:05 – The Power of Focused Action
- 12:10 – Identifying Key Changes for Growth
- 17:48 – Creating a Supportive Environment for Change
In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, we’re flipping the script on holiday stress. If your calendar feels packed, your mind is racing, and your patience is thinning, this conversation is for you. Chelsea shares one powerful question that can help you shift from reactive mode to intentional living—so you can stop running on autopilot and start savoring the season.
You’ll learn how to identify the values that matter most, let go of performative pressure, and connect more deeply with your partner and family. This isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what matters, together.
💡 Want support realigning your relationship with more intention and teamwork? Download the Spring Clean Your Relationship free workbook and start the new year with clarity and connection: www.postpartumtogether.com/spring-clean-checklist
Is your relationship feeling off, but you’re not sure why? In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea breaks down three sneaky red flags that quietly chip away at connection, intimacy, and trust—especially during demanding seasons of life.
You’ll hear:
🚩 The subtle signs of emotional disconnection (and why they matter more than you think)
🚩 How resentment builds over unequal responsibilities—and how to finally address it
🚩 Why intimacy and quality time are not a luxury, but a necessity—and how to bring them back
These warning signs are common, but they don’t have to be your norm. Chelsea shares practical steps you can take today to start healing, reconnecting, and rebuilding a relationship that feels good again.
💬 Want to feel heard, seen, and supported in your partnership again? Download the Private Audio Series covering resentment, the mental load, and sex drive—a powerful, behind-the-scenes guide to the real relationship topics no one talks about:
👉 Top 3 Relationship Stressors (and Solutions) Audio Series
If sleep deprivation is straining your relationship, you’re not alone. In this powerful episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea chats with pediatric sleep consultant Alexa Lee about the hidden ways baby sleep impacts your connection, communication, and overall family dynamic.
You’ll hear:
🛏️ How unmet sleep needs can lead to conflict, resentment, and burnout in couples
🛏️ The most common sleep myths and why they’re adding pressure to parents
🛏️ How to build a shared approach to sleep that works for your child and your partnership
🛏️ How to navigate different sleep philosophies without constant arguments
This isn’t just a sleep episode—it’s a relationship episode. Because when one person isn’t sleeping, the whole relationship feels it. Learn how to protect your connection while supporting your child’s developmentally-appropriate sleep.
If you or someone you know is looking to improve sleep in your home, Alexa offers her services virtually and you can learn more about her offerings and approach to sleep at: www.alexaleesleep.net
✨ Want support for the sleep-related stress and teamwork gaps in your home?
Download the Communication Scripts for Couples—your go-to guide for handling the most common relationship hurdles (without starting another 10pm argument).
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Tired of being the default parent while your partner sips cocktails and chats it up at family gatherings? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to keep doing holidays that way. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea introduces the concept of “shift work” for parenting during the holidays—a simple, game-changing strategy that helps both partners feel seen, supported, and sane.
You’ll hear:
🎄 Why the holidays often amplify inequality in parenting roles
🎄 How shift work can reduce resentment and increase respect between you and your partner
🎄 Real-life examples of what this can look like at parties, family dinners, or full-day events
🎄 What to do if your partner resists the idea—and how to co-create a better plan
The goal? A holiday season that actually feels joyful, not just exhausting. This is the practical, relationship-centered parenting advice you didn’t know you needed.
✨ Want more tools to build a stronger, more balanced partnership? Download the Spring Clean Your Relationship guide and uncover the habits and patterns that need to go—so you can move into the new year feeling connected and aligned.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/spring-clean
Learn more about working with me as your coach on a free call: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
- Bringing a baby into a pet-loving home can be beautiful… and a little chaotic. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea teams up with pet expert McKenna to talk all things pets and parenthood. From managing dog anxiety to balancing your attention between baby and fur baby, this is your go-to guide for keeping the whole family—two-legged and four-legged—happy and safe.
You’ll learn:
🐶 How to prepare your pet before baby arrives
🐶 What your pet’s body language is telling you—and how to respond
🐶 Ways to ease pet anxiety with desensitization and structured interaction
🐶 How to balance affection and avoid relationship strain as your household grows
🐶 The long-term benefits of raising kids with pets, including fewer allergies and more empathy
Whether you’re a dog mom, cat lover, or somewhere in between, this episode helps you feel more confident and connected as you grow your family.
✨ Feeling overwhelmed by all the transitions that come with new parenthood? Download my Spring Clean Your Relationship guide and clear out the patterns that aren’t working—so you can reconnect, reset, and grow together.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/spring-clean
Learn more about McKenna
Learn about working with Chelsea as your coach
Want to raise kind, aware, change-making kids? It starts with what happens under your own roof. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea breaks down why strong, connected family relationships are the real foundation for meaningful advocacy. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the state of the world but unsure where to start, this episode is your reminder that lasting impact begins at home.
You’ll learn:
🏡 How your family values shape your children’s empathy and awareness
🧠 Why emotional safety at home is essential for resilience and advocacy
🗓️ The power of weekly check-ins to build trust and shared goals
🪞 How children model their understanding of relationships and justice through what they see in you
💬 Tips for creating intentional connection and open communication
If you want to show up as a grounded, values-driven parent and partner—this episode is your roadmap.
✨ Want help aligning your family’s goals and values? Grab my 5 Ready-to-Use Communication Scripts—designed to help you ditch the disconnect and speak with clarity, even in tough conversations.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/communication-scripts
Interested in how coaching can help build your family foundation? Let's discuss! https://calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
Worried that dismantling the patriarchy means losing something? You’re not alone—but you might be asking the wrong question. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea dives into what’s actually at stake for men when we move beyond outdated gender roles—and what’s possible when we do.
Let’s talk about:
👥 How shedding toxic masculinity leads to deeper, more satisfying relationships
🧠 The mental health toll of rigid gender expectations—and how to break free
💬 How female partners can support men through this evolution with love and respect
🛠️ The real freedom found in shared power, vulnerability, and emotional expression
Whether you're a man ready for change or a woman hoping to support your partner through this shift, this episode will give you the language and tools to move forward together.
🎧 PLUS: Download my Private Audio Series on resentment, the mental load, and sex drive—three key areas impacted by gender roles and power dynamics in relationships.
👉 www.postpartumtogether.com/audio-series
After years of feeling unseen and carrying the emotional load in her marriage, Jenny asked for a separation. But then, one recommendation and a leap into coaching turned it all around.
In this episode, Chelsea speaks with a previous client, Jenny, who opens up about the key conversations that saved her relationship, how coaching helped her understand her partner in a new light, and why she now wishes she had started this work sooner.
This is a must-listen for anyone who feels like they’ve tried everything but still can’t seem to get through to their partner.
Learn more about coaching with me: chelseaskaggs.com/home
Grab my (free) Talk Like a Team guide:
https://chelseaskaggs.ck.page/communication
Connect with Jenny: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenny-gugliemotto-carl-9598709/
Change is hard—especially in relationships. Our brains are wired to crave certainty and familiarity, even if it’s not serving us anymore. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, we explore how to gently hack your mindset to allow growth and connection in your relationship, especially during the big identity shifts that come with parenthood.
You’ll learn:
Why your brain resists change—and how to work with it, not against it
How visualization and curiosity open the door to better connection
The role of clear communication and shared vision in transforming your partnership
How to stop clinging to the “old normal” and start co-creating something better
This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in old patterns but knows something more is possible. Change doesn’t have to feel impossible—it just needs the right mindset shift.
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Effective communication is the backbone of any healthy relationship. Without it, love, attraction, and shared goals can struggle to survive long-term. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I’m kicking off 30 Days of Better Communication with the essential foundation of it all.
Most of us weren’t taught how to communicate effectively—and that’s why so many relationships face conflict, misunderstandings, or a sense of disconnection. The good news? Communication is a skill that can be learned, and improving it can transform your relationship.
You’ll learn:
- Why communication is the most important factor in building a healthy relationship
- How poor communication leads to conflict, resentment, and intimacy issues
- Actionable steps to start improving communication in your relationship today
- How improving communication will strengthen your connection and partnership
This episode is the first step in building a stronger, more connected relationship—starting now.
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Hey friends, it’s Chelsea, and today on Better Relationships After Baby, we’re diving into a topic that hits hard this time of year: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). If you're already balancing new motherhood with the emotional rollercoaster of postpartum, adding winter's shorter days and colder weather can feel overwhelming. I get it—I've been there too.
In this episode, we’re exploring how to be proactive in managing mental health as we head into the colder months. We’ll talk about creating small, sustainable habits that help combat the effects of SAD, while also acknowledging the unique challenges new parents face. From getting outside for some natural light (yes, even when it’s freezing!) to mindful self-care practices, I’m sharing actionable tips to keep you feeling grounded and supported.
I’ll also touch on the importance of communication with your partner when it comes to winter precautions for your baby. It’s all about finding that balance between protecting your little one from germs and making sure you still get the fresh air and connection you need to avoid the winter blues.
So, if you’ve been feeling a bit nervous about the winter months ahead, grab your cozy blanket, tune in, and let’s talk about building healthy habits, supporting mental well-being, and keeping joy alive during this season!
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Hey friends, it’s Chelsea, and in today’s episode of *Better Relationships After Baby, we’re discussing the five must-have conversations every couple should have before bringing a baby into the world. Having a baby is one of the most life-changing experiences, but if you’re not communicating about the big stuff—division of labor, sleep schedules, finances, parenting philosophies, and even boundaries with family—it can bring unnecessary stress into your relationship.
I’m sharing my insights on why these talks are so essential, plus practical tips on how to approach them without feeling overwhelmed. Trust me, you don’t want to wait until you’re knee-deep in dirty diapers and sleepless nights to hash these things out!
If you’ve been feeling like you and your partner could use a little extra support in navigating these conversations, I also touch on how coaching can play a huge role in guiding you through it all. Remember, you don’t have to be 100% prepared to be great parents—you just need to open the door for clear communication and adaptability. Let’s talk about how to do just that.
So grab your partner and tune in, because these are the conversations you need to have before that baby arrives!
03:35 Preparing for Parenthood: Key Conversations
06:37 Division of Labor and Parenting Roles
09:18 Navigating Sleep Schedules and Nighttime Responsibilities
12:05 Exploring Parenting Philosophies
15:18 Financial Planning and Budgeting for New Parents
17:58 Setting Boundaries with Extended Family
21:04 The Role of Coaching in Parenting Conversations
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When was the last time you really, intentionally showed appreciation to your partner?
Are there times you ASSUME they know what you love and appreciate about them, but haven't displayed or talked about it?
In this episode, we'll explore how easily we can take our partners for granted and how learning to show appreciation, in our partner's preferred way, can shift the dynamic towards a more fulfilling connection. Chelsea breaks down the process of building a culture of appreciation, discussing the role of communication, love languages, and coaching in fostering emotional connection and personal growth within your marriage or relationship.
Listen in and reflect on your patterns, explore the balance between resentment and appreciation, and begin the journey towards a more intentional, joyful relationship.
Whether you're looking to improve communication or deepen your emotional connection, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps toward personal and relational fulfillment.
Chapters
00:00 The Gift of Journaling and Reflection
05:11 Appreciation in Relationships
09:50 Building a Culture of Appreciation
12:25 Navigating Resentment and Appreciation
14:29 The Journey to Self-Appreciation
16:37 Rediscovering Beauty in Everyday Moments
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In this episode, I dive into the importance of couples' friendships and how they can have a huge impact on both your individual well-being and the overall health of your relationship. I talk about how crucial community support is and the incredible value of having friends who are truly invested in your family. I also share practical tips for building those meaningful couples' friendships, like setting goals together, finding local networks, hosting gatherings, and showing genuine interest in getting to know other couples.
Whether you feel insecure about making new connections or you're not sure where to start, I encourage you to take small, intentional steps today. And if you need a bit more support along the way, I offer coaching to help you work through any feelings of insecurity or disconnection. It’s all about making the effort and embracing vulnerability to foster those meaningful connections that can enrich your life and your relationship.
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00:00 The Importance of Couples' Friendships
06:05 Building a Supportive Community
08:53 Positive Role Models for Your Children
11:41 Tips for Building Couples' Friendships
16:18 Taking Small Steps Towards Building Friendships
17:13 Coaching Support for Insecurity and Lack of Connection
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In this episode, I sit down with my eight-year-old son, Emerson, for an honest chat about family, business, and marriage. We dive into the ups and downs of being both a mom and a business owner, exploring how I’ve learned to set boundaries and prioritize what truly matters. I also share some personal insights from my journey and offer a free workshop on building a business that supports your marriage. We talk about finding the balance between chasing your dreams and being present for your family, and how to create a business that aligns with your values and strengthens your relationships.
Tune in to hear how we navigate the unique challenges of motherhood and entrepreneurship, and why making memories with your family is just as important as pursuing your passions.
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00:00Introduction and the Importance of Including Children in the Conversation
08:25The Challenges of Being a Mother and a Business Owner
09:49Chelsea's Journey and Lessons Learned
12:42Creating a Business that Supports Your Family
13:34Setting Boundaries and Knowing Your Values
14:32Join Chelsea's Workshop on Building a Business that Works for Your Marriage
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In this episode, I dive into the critical topic of parental stress and its profound impact on both individuals and families. Drawing attention to the U.S. Surgeon General's recent statement, I discuss why parental stress is recognized as a significant public health issue.
I've been there—feeling overwhelmed and constantly comparing myself to other moms online, which only fueled my stress and sense of inadequacy. Through my own experiences, I’ve learned the importance of prioritizing self-care and building a strong support network. Letting go of the unrealistic pursuit of perfection and instead embracing what truly works for your family is key to finding peace and joy in parenting.
In this episode, I encourage open conversations about the real challenges we face and advocate for a much-needed cultural shift that values and supports parents, recognizing the vital role we play in society.
https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/parents/index.html
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Surprise Surprise! I asked my husband, Mike, to join me for this episode as we discuss modern masculinity.
In this episode, we discuss the topic of masculinity and its portrayal in society. We explore how masculinity has evolved over time and the differing opinions on what it means to be a man.
We also discuss the impact of societal expectations on relationships and families, and how they navigate their own roles as parents. Mike shares his personal journey of self-discovery and how he has learned to embrace his true nature and be a gentle and supportive father.
03:12 Exploring the Changing Definition of Masculinity
10:25 The Impact of Politics on the Perception of Masculinity
20:40 Navigating Societal Expectations in Relationships
21:08 Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Children
35:25 Embracing Self-Discovery and Personal Growth
40:02 Reviving the Value of Family and Connections
Do you and your partner need to improve how you work together as parents and partners? Do you want to explore more about how societal expectations like masculinity are impacting you?
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In this episode, we will discuss the power of personal values in relationships. I'll let you in on a personal story about my husband stepping in for me at a speaking event.
I will highlight the importance of values in co-creating a fulfilling life together and just how to do that.
Be ready to learn about how values shape our behavior, expectations, and reactions, and when both partners are aware of and honor each other's values, it creates a foundation of mutual understanding and respect. I'll also provide examples of how values can be used to resolve conflicts, make joint decisions, and prioritize resources in a relationship so you can apply today's episode right away!
00:00Introduction and Personal Experience
05:26The Power of Personal Values in Relationships
12:07Using Values to Resolve Conflicts
15:26Making Joint Decisions Based on Values
17:22Prioritizing Resources with Values
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Sound Bites
Have you ever found yourself wanting to have a serious conversation with your spouse, your partner, but the moment you start, you feel flustered and the words come out all wrong?
Our brains bless them, but our brains are perceiving the situation as a threat. So then we go into this fight or flight response, making it harder to think rationally, making it more difficult to articulate our thoughts.
If you are having the same arguments, the same conversation over and over again without resolution, something has to change. This episode will help you do just that.
00:00 Introduction
03:24 Understanding the Impact of the Stress Response on Communication
07:11 Creating a Filter for Urgent Issues
10:06 The Importance of Regular Check-ins
18:27 Navigating Communication Styles and Tendencies
21:42 Practical Tips for Effective Communication
27:14 The Benefits of Coaching Support for Communication
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Hey mamas! In this episode, I'm diving into something close to my heart: the importance of modeling healthy relationships and communication for our little ones.
From the moment they're born, our kid are like sponges, soaking up everything they see and hear. Did you know that even newborns can mimic our facial expressions and gestures? It's wild! As parents, we have this amazing opportunity to shape their future interactions by intentionally modeling healthy communication, emotional regulation, and problem-solving. By doing this, we're helping them develop essential skills for effective communication and better social interactions.
I'll be sharing insights on how conflict resolution and repair in our relationships can positively impact our children's emotional intelligence and their ability to manage their own conflicts. Let's get into how we can invest in our children's futures by showing them what strong, loving relationships look like!
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 - Investing in Our Children's Futures: Modeling Healthy Relationships
04:20 - The Power of Observation: Children Learn Through Modeling
11:53 - Intentional Modeling: Healthy Communication and Emotional Regulation
16:04 - Conflict Resolution and Repair: Building Strong Relationships
Tune in, and let's chat about how we can be the best role models for our kids!
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In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs discusses the concept of identifying glass and plastic balls in the context of managing responsibilities and tasks as parents. Glass balls represent crucial tasks that have significant consequences if dropped, while plastic balls are less important and can be put aside or dropped without major issues. Chelsea emphasizes the importance of prioritizing and working together with your partner to determine what truly matters. By distinguishing between glass and plastic balls, couples can reduce stress, improve communication, and create a more balanced and resilient partnership.
02:28 Identifying Glass and Plastic Balls
04:17 Examples of Glass and Plastic Balls
06:14 Prioritizing Glass Balls
10:03 Working Together to Prioritize
18:02 Regular Check-Ins and Reevaluation
22:44 ConclusionLearn more about working with me:
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In this "off the cuff" episode, I'm walking you through a personal practice I did recently to evaluate why helping moms become less overwhelmed really matters. We're talking about the immediate and long-term impact of women's leadership and how a healthier distribution of the mental load would be better for society as a whole.
This method I used with myself is one I also use with clients to make sure they're living in line with their values and goals.
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Go beyond the "bounce back" narrative and explore how societal expectations have shaped our understanding of women's worth and identity. We'll discuss the physical changes that occur during pregnancy and postpartum, and how these changes can affect intimacy and connection with your partner.
What You'll Learn:
- Societal Influence: How historical and modern-day societal pressures impact women's body image, especially after childbirth.
- Body Changes Education: Detailed insights into the physical changes that happen to your body during and after pregnancy, including breasts, belly, skin, and pelvic floor.
- Healing Steps: Practical steps to improve your body image, such as educating yourself about postpartum changes, finding clothes that fit and make you feel confident, and communicating openly with your partner.
- Intimacy Tips: Strategies for maintaining and enhancing intimacy with your partner by fostering a supportive and understanding environment.
Tune in for an empowering conversation that will help you embrace your postpartum body, heal your self-image, and strengthen your relationship. Whether you're a new mom or supporting one, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable advice.
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While I'm chasing my children around on vacation (basically parenting in a prettier place,) I am digging back into season 1 with the most popular episode of the podcast.
If you feel like becoming a mom is a lot like puberty, find out why in this episode!
And if you listen and realize you want to work through the changes motherhood has brought you and get to know yourself again, I help moms do just that with coaching.
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In this episode, we discuss the physical, emotional, and mental challenges that new parents face, including hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, and evolving identities. We discuss the importance of understanding your unique turn-on needs and offer practical tips for introspection and reflection.
Listen in to learn:
- The impact of childbirth and parenting on libido and intimacy
- How to identify and understand your mental, emotional, and physical needs
- Effective strategies for communicating your needs to your partner
- Practical tips for reigniting physical and emotional intimacy
- The significance of self-care and addressing body image after baby
Whether you're a new mom or dad, or you've been at this parenthood thing for years, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable advice to help you reconnect with your partner and navigate the beautiful yet challenging transition into parenthood. Tune in and take the first step towards reigniting the spark in your relationship.
Learn more about how you and your partner can work with me to take these lessons and apply them in ways that bring you back together on the same team and stronger than ever. Book a free consult call.
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Do you ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages when it comes to intimacy? One of you might need to feel emotionally close to engage physically, while the other feels the need for physical connection to open up emotionally. This dynamic is especially common in the postpartum and parenthood period and can lead to misunderstandings and frustration. In this episode, we'll explore:
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The science behind emotional and physical connection in relationships.
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Real-life examples of how these dynamics play out and create tension.
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Actionable steps for balancing emotional and physical needs in your relationship.
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Strategies to communicate effectively and find a satisfying compromise.
Join us as we dive deep into the world of intimacy and provide you with the tools to strengthen your bond with your partner.
Ready to take your relationship to the next level? Join our free Better Relationships After Baby Facebook group for more tips and support from a community of parents like you. Or, book a call with me to learn more about personalized relationship coaching and how we can work together to enhance your connection.
Tune in now and start your journey towards a more balanced and fulfilling postpartum relationship!
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In this episode, we dive into the often overlooked experience of being "touched out"—when the constant physical demands of parenting leave you feeling overwhelmed and disconnected.
Discover how touch out can impact your mental, emotional, and physical well-being, and learn practical strategies to manage these feelings. We’ll explore expert insights, personal stories, and actionable advice on reclaiming your body autonomy and rebuilding intimacy with your partner. Join us for an empathetic and informative discussion on how to find balance and joy in your life as a new mom.
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The podcast for expecting, new, and seasoned parents to stay connected and grow their teamwork.
In this episode, you'll learn:
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How to identify your core needs using the Enneagram as a tool
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The core needs of each Enneagram type and how they show up in relationships
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Exercises and strategies to improve communication and connection with your partner
Join the Free Facebook group for resources and monthly workshops, including 3 Days to Fighting Better.
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In this episode, you'll learn:
- How to identify your core needs using the Enneagram as a tool
- The core needs of each Enneagram type and how they show up in relationships
- Exercises and strategies to improve communication and connection with your partner
Join the Free Facebook group for resources and monthly workshops, including 3 Days to Fighting Better.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/better.relationships.after.baby
Ready to understand yourself better and deepen your connection with your partner? I can help. Schedule a free call with me here to discuss your goals and how coaching can help you get there:
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In this episode you'll learn:
-How to manage defensiveness in relationships, especially for new parents
-Why and when defensiveness comes up
-Examples and strategies to build a more supportive partnership without the drama
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Recently, I was working with a few new parents who were feeling overwhelmed by the disconnect and misunderstandings that often arise when a new baby enters the picture. It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in the stories we tell ourselves—stories based on our fears, assumptions, and limited perspectives.
The thing is… those stories might not be true.
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They might make you feel unwanted or unloved.
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They might make you doubt your partner’s commitment.
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They might make you avoid important conversations and misunderstand each other's actions.
Not every story we tell ourselves accurately reflects our partner's feelings or intentions.
The more we let these false narratives guide our feelings and reactions, the more complicated our relationships become—and the worse off we are as partners and parents.
In today’s episode of the Better Relationships After Baby podcast, we’re diving into “The Story I’m Telling Myself.” We’ll explore how these stories form, how they impact our relationships, and practical steps to align our narratives with reality.
YOU’LL LEARN:
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Why we often live in different narratives than our partners
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How these mismatched stories can build unnecessary resentment and negative feelings
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Practical tools to start conversations with clarity and align on values
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Real-life examples of how these narratives play out and how to address them
Join me as we uncover the stories we tell ourselves and learn how to create a more honest, connected, and understanding relationship.
Ready to stop the miscommunication and strengthen your relationship? Join my FREE Fighting Better Challenge inside my Facebook group, Better Relationships After Baby. We’ll tackle the top reasons new parents fight and develop strategies to fight with more respect and solutions.
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You wouldn't wait until the car is on the side of the road to get an oil change would you? And if you're on a long trip, you would stop to get food so you could enjoy the journey.
What about your relationship? Will you go until you're on E and unsure of whether you can continue on or will you invest in learning how to grow together and improve the relationship during pivotal moments of your life?
To learn more about working with me visit: www.postpartumtogether.com/services or book a call with me here: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
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Today we tackle the often-taboo topic of mom jealousy, exploring its roots in social media pressures, identity shifts in motherhood, and the diversity of parenting styles.
Discover practical strategies to combat jealousy, foster a supportive community, and reclaim joy in your motherhood journey.
Remember, comparison steals joy, but embracing your unique path allows you to find fulfillment and connection with other moms.
Join the conversation in the comments below and share your experiences to uplift and support each other.
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In this episode, join me, Chelsea, as we ask and answer the question: Can I Change My Partner?
We'll discuss strategies for communicating effectively, nurturing growth, and cultivating mutual support in your relationship. From understanding expectations to fostering positive change, we explore the realities of parenthood while offering actionable advice and empowering mantras.
Whether you're a new mom or a seasoned parent, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to navigate the joys and challenges of parenthood with grace and growth.
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The goal isn't to never have an argument or hurt in your relationship with your partner or with your child. The goal is to create a safe place to repair with intentional communication, connection, and confidence building.
If you and your partner want to improve these skills and strengthen your foundation and teamwork, I can help. Learn more about working with me: https://postpartumtogether.com/services/
Note: This does not apply to abusive situations and relationships. If you find yourself in a cycle of abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/
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Where have your expectations come from? Are they serving you? Are you carrying dead weight? Today Chelsea talks about how you can evaluate your motherhood expectations and find more joy and ease by understanding what truly matters to you. Links: Crafting Your Motherhood Vision: https://chelseaskaggs.ck.page/b122b308a8Work with Chelsea: https://calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/lifestyle-coaching-exploration?month=2024-03
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In today's episode, I'm sharing where I would have put more time and energy if I went back to being a brand new mom. We talk about the power of meaningful connections during early motherhood, and the challenges to forming those!
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Whether you're a new mom experiencing the weight of the mental load or a partner seeking to better understand and support your loved one, this episode of Motherhood Unlocked offers insights, empathy, and practical advice for reclaiming balance and finding peace in the early parenting years.
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Being a stay-at-home mom or parent doesn't mean you are on call for everything 24/7. So what exactly is your job role? Have you agreed with your partner on what being the at-home parent means and what roles and responsibilities fit within your work day?
In today's episode, I'm sharing with you:
-How a stay-at-home mom job description can alleviate overwhelm and resentment
-Steps for outlining the logistical, mental, and emotional needs of a baby and a home
-Talking to your partner about realistic expectations
-Creating your stay-at-home mom job description.
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Discover the power of crafting a unique motherhood vision and breaking free from societal expectations. In today's episode, the first of Season 2, Chelsea shares with you the benefits of having a motherhood vision and 3 areas of your life you can start to craft your vision.
Get the Vision Guide along with dozens of other resources in the Motherhood Unlocked: Your First Year community.
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Postpartumtogether.com
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Every mom needs to know this: How and why the brain literally re-wires through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.
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What would it be like to be in a supportive, normalizing, encouraging group of women who just GET YOU and are there to grow and thrive together?
There is tremendous power in groups and in today's episode I'm telling you why groups are so powerful and how you can be part of the next group coaching program designed for women 4-24 months after having a baby.
Motherhood Uncovered is for you if you want:
To be heard
To be respected
To have the load shared
To break from unrelenting societal pressures
To make and use and respect boundaries
To have authentic connection
To let down your walls and just breath and be
To have other women championing you, not competing with you
To feel less overwhelm and more support
To have guidance on where to start
To have wisdom and insight without judgement and forceful advice
To let the walls of taboo conversation be broken down so you can truly connect with others who get you.
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Warning: Opening the door of healing as a new mom may bring unexpected twists, turns, frustrations, sadness, joy, satisfaction, and growth!
In today's episode Chelsea talks with mother and RN, Jordan Laux, to discuss what she's discovered about herself and her inner child as she entered motherhood. We discuss how we give and receive love, what it's like navigating growth in yourself and in your partner as you become parents together, and tips for communicating and staying connected through the changes.
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About our guest:Jordan is a pediatric and perinatal nurse whose heart has always been with mothers and children. After having a child of her own in 2019 and experiencing both birth trauma and the lack of support in postpartum from healthcare and our culture at large, a spark was lit in her heart to educate, and empower mothers in the postpartum period.
American culture leaves mothers isolated and unprepared for the intense holistic changes motherhood brings. In the last three years this radical transformation of identity, relationship reorganization, body image struggles, and priority shifts has fanned this spark into a flame to create a supportive community for mothers because it’s something greatly lacking in her own life. Jordan is trying to manifest this community of support and education with The Supported Parenthood RN.
By day Jordan is reheating her coffee 27 times while being bossed around by her toddler daughter, and by night she’s either working in the hospital or dreaming of ways to connect with other mothers.
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Trust me on this one-- you want less arguments, more connection, better teamwork. THIS STRATEGY will help you achieve those goals by spending intentional time on the important logistics of your home with your partner.
If you've ever worked with a coworker on a project (or even think back to group projects in college or school), then you can use this to up-level your teamwork and enjoy the fruits of communicated expectations, roles, and collaboration. Give me 20 minutes to convince you that you need a business meeting in your home... and I'll tell you how to get started with it!
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Taking control of THIS might be the key to more sexy connection with your partner and a happier YOU overall.
In today's episode Chelsea talks with body positivity advocate, Kristyn Dingman, to discuss how she made peace and JOY from the changes in her body after having babies. We talk about what to STOP doing, what to START doing, and how to talk to your partner about your changed body. Plus, the benefits of SEXY TIME that come from bringing your sexy back as a mom.
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From Kristyn:
My name is Kristyn Dingman and I am so much more than a stay at home mother. I struggled with body image my entire life. I constantly compared myself to the people on TV or the women on magazine covers and wondered why I didn’t look like them or why I wasn’t as pretty as they were. I was insecure and always felt like I was being judged by my looks. As long as I can remember, I was always stepping on a scale to see what the numbers read or compared my waist size to my friends. It wasn't until I got pregnant with my first son that my entire world was flipped onto its head. I saw my body go through drastic changes in such a short period of time that I didn't really have time to see and appreciate my body and all it was going through. Once my son was born, I was bombarded with diet cultures, MLM schemes and plenty of 'bounce back' businesses who constantly pressured me into getting my pre baby body back. I was so lost and felt so alone. I had enough. I decided to make some changes and decided to put my mental health first. This was a whole new concept to me. I had never been the one to care my myself. I spent years at war with my body and decided to put an end to the battle. I started blogging and sharing my story with the world and wanted to create a place where others who struggle with body image and negative diet culture could come and feel represented. I wanted to show the real and raw sides of motherhood and what positive body image could look like from someone who struggled their entire life. Here I am today with an amazing community of people who follow along and have a safe place to feel loved regardless of their body, size, color or gender.
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More proactive communicaiton== more resolution and less fights.
In today's episode, Chelsea breaks down what it means to have proactive communication, reactive communication, and the outcome of both. We will explore what these different types of communication sound and feel like as well as how to move the needle.
If you want to have more teamwork and productive communication with your partner, this episode is for you!
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You might think your confidence is just what goes on in your own mind, but the truth is, your confidence impacts ALL the other areas of your life.
In today's episode Chelsea talks with confidence coach Alisha Skeel to discuss the ways our confidence journey impacts our motherhood and our intimate relationships. If you're experiencing a disconnect from your partner, THIS could have something to do with it.
Alisha Skeel (she/her) is a self-discovery and confidence coach to over-burdened, do-it-all millennials who feel like they've lost themselves along the way. Her mission is to support you in getting back in touch with who you really are, so that you can confidently live a life that lights you up.
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In his book, The Big Leap Gay Hendricks discusses the Upper Limit and how it impacts us in different facets of our lives. In today's episode Chelsea shares an overview of:
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An overview of what the Upper Limit is as described by Gay Hendricks
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Ways I see the Upper Limit impact relationships with my clients
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Ways you can minimize the impact of the Upper Limit in your life and relationship so that you can experience more joy and connection.
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In today's episode, Chelsea speaks with a guest mother, Mallorie as they work through an argument pattern and how to disrupt the escalation. Listen in as we work through the decisions you make together as a couple, and the ways processing styles impact personal and relational needs.
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In today’s episode we discuss the five love languages, how to use them, and why misunderstandings may be causing tension in your relationship.
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Frustrated that your partner isn't stepping up to the plate to help more? Are you feeling like EV.ERY.THING falls on your plate? Listen in as we discuss the #1 reason I hear from partners that they aren't helping as much as you'd like. Learn why this happens and what you can do to have stronger teamwork and a better relationship.
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In todays episode, we dig into processing styles and how the impact your relationship after a baby. I'll tell you about internal processors, external processors, and how to navigate conversations if you and your partner are different. Plus, I give you my top tip to help increase teamwork in your communicate and decrease fights and resentment.
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In this introduction episode, Chelsea shares more about what you can expect from the Better Relationships After Baby Podcast and why it exists. Get pumped up for the topics you will hear on this podcast and listen in as Chelsea describes WHY this podcast and her coaching business was started... and it's not because it has been an easy road all along.
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