The Self-Love Journals Podcast: Recent Episodes
Trisha Baker
Since I was 9 years old, I started writing in a diary to figure out why I didn't love myself. 32 years later, I have 12 journals filled with heartache and hope that eventually grew to full, authentic self-love. Tune in weekly to The Self-Love Journals Podcast where I teach practical applications taken from my own insights to uncover your self-love.
After 3 attempts to pass my board examination, I finally did! I thought I would pass the first time 5 months ago, and that this would give me the confidence I needed to get through my divorce and get a job. Instead, I was forced to do it the other way around to learn this important lesson in life: You still can progress and grow without someone telling you that you've "passed" or that you are good enough. I got a job in my field and showed myself that I can create a life for myself amidst the changes and grow in self-confidence and self-trust. I guess it was worth the wait!
This week's episode focuses on how to think, feel, and behave the way you want to. Fear and anxiety may still be there, but you do not have to let them get in your way. Everything you need to manifest what you want can be created from within you. Learn to believe in yourself and manifest your wildest dreams!
Did you realize that you don't actually have to do anything you don't want to do? Really. You don't Have to get up, get dressed, go to work, to school, take care of kids etc. You are ultimately in charge of you and you Get to Decide to do these things each and every day. Now, there are consequences for not doing these thing for sure. But when you realize and Decide to do the things you do each and every day, the power and freedom comes to you and the dread and 'should' mentality goes away.
Today's journal entry comes from January 2019, at a time I was in great inner turmoil and confusion. Now in hindsight, I know my instincts were right and I am learning to trust myself first and foremost. Self-trust is an imperative self-love tool that you can learn to cultivate. Listen to this insightful episode to learn more how you can learn to trust you intuition and instincts.
I'm shifting gears with my podcast and sharing a more raw and simple perspective on life through my past journal entries. This week's entry I wrote in 2017 when I had the thought to "ask God not google". Listen in for a short and uplifting episode on how you can look deeper within yourself and a higher power to find out what's best for you.
Since beginning The Self-Love Journals Podcast I have shared many insights, daily practical applications, and models that have helped me. Today's episode focuses on applying one of my biggest models in my life right now. Now is the time for me to really practice what I preach and actually use these tools I have been sharing on these episodes.
If you find yourself playing the victim much of the time, you are only hurting yourself. Being Aware that you are victimizing yourself is the first step to undoing the false reality that something is always wrong with you and your life. There are other emotions that factor in on victimizing, but by realizing and turning around this way of thinking can prevent further self-destructing and negative thought patterns.
"Live in the moment!" "Seize the moment!", they say... but HOW? I have been searching my entire adult life for the magic "key" to unlock and live in the present moment. After decades of searching, I have discovered that living in the moment is something we all have inside of us now, and can do at any time. Listen in to learn the powerful gateways to be able to live in the present, and the mindset one must have and continually work towards. The ability to live in the moment is within you NOW!
I had the pleasure of being a guest on the Walk Fearlessly Podcast, with Sarah Matthews and Emily Mcallister. They interview people on how they are walking fearlessly through life. Although I can't say I'm not scared, I do continue to move forward as bravely as I can. Listen in for their great insight and discussion on walking fearlessly through life.
Does fear of failure keep you from really living life? I was always afraid of messing up, disappointing someone, or feeling too fatigued. When you focus on what could happen in the future, you are feeling fear. If you stay in the present, you cannot feel fear of failure but rather you are focused on what you are doing now. There's no fear of failure if you are truly present, and you are your most creative and intuitive in the present.
Do you often feel you need to please others at the expense of your own needs or desires? If so, then you may be a people pleaser. While this may sound kind and compassionate, it may be taking from your own much needed self-love. When we are always doing what others want, we are not able to be the best versions of ourselves and are often left feeling depleted. How then, can we care for others if we are constantly giving away what we truly need? Listen in to learn how I have changed my life-long habit of pleasing others to finally learn how to know what I want and need, and in turn give the very best of myself to serve others.
You can learn to root for yourself and be your own cheerleader, whenever life gets you down! I used to be my own bully, but through the years have learned to have my back and uplift myself. In this episode I remind you how to connect with your innate self-love, and the important steps to learn and practice to always cheer yourself on, and get what you need in life!
Did you know there is a difference between self-care and self-compassion? Most of my life I thought self-care was selfish, and that I wasn't worthy of self-compassion. This episode explains the difference between the two, and why we need both to thrive in our self-love!
It wasn't until I was 21 years old that I realized I was not being real and authentic in my life. I had grown up trying to please others and get validation from doing what I thought they wanted me to do. It has been a 40 year process to really uncover the real me, and each day I am discovering more of who I am meant to be.
Training for, and running multiple ultra trail races, I have learned the value of keeping an ultra endurance mindset in life too. Taking things one day at a time and continuing forward no matter what your circumstances are will get you through each day.
Do you find that you judge and compare yourself to others? Do you judge yourself or think others are judging you? These are traps of the ego and are definite self-love blockers. Listen in on this episode, where I divulge my vulnerable journal entries beginning at age 13 on how I began this detrimental cycle of judging and comparing. Through the years I discovered why I was doing this and figured out how to become aware of it and stop it.
Feeling positive and optimistic is a choice you can make every day. This was not always easy for me as I've struggled with loving and accepting myself, and believing that my circumstances had to change before I could feel positive. It wasn't until I made the choice a few years ago to be positive in my current circumstances, that I truly started feeling the benefits of daily optimistic outcomes.
Since last week's episode where I shared my current "life situation" of going through a divorce, I decided to create a segment called real-time talk. At the beginning of each episode, I will share how I am choosing to live in the present moment or "real-time", through this new chapter of my life. Our true lives are really only in the present, everything else is just "life situations". As I share the things I have learned through years of journaling, my models and applications are truly being put to the test now. I am so grateful I have developed these tools to help grow and guard my self-love, and to thrive while working daily to live in the present.
Are you a perfectionist? Do you set too high of expectations for yourself, or assume others have expectations of you? Perfectionism and expectations are huge self-love blockers and are done out of fear of failure. Trust in yourself and in your abilities without putting perfection and expectations in the way of your true strength and potential.
There sometimes is a stigma against therapy and medication, that it is bad or not needed. After almost 4 decades of neglecting my mental and emotional health by not talking to a therapist, my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. For me, the way out of anxiety and depression has been by seeking help through therapy and medication to get me to the stable place I am in today.
Depression is something I have dealt with since I was a teenager, but did not realize or acknowledge until I was 39 years old. My cycles of depression and mania, mixed with anxiety made it almost impossible for me to feel stable. But I kept moving forward and found a way out of the pit of despair I so often found myself in. If you suffer with clinical depression or deep sadness at times, this episode can offer some validation and relief. You are not alone.
Positive affirmations have the Power to re write old thought patterns, and claim new and empowering ones to replace them. Affirmations are a simple, yet highly effective tool to lead you in the direction you want to go to reach your highest potential that You set for yourself. In this episode, I share how I find and create affirmations for myself that manifest the absolute best possible outcomes.
For years I've fought against anxiety to try and keep it out of my life, but that resistance only led to more anxiety. Working thorough anxiety, depression, and paranoia, I have learned to approach anxiety from a different angle to where it does not rule my life. This episode is packed with different ways to stop letting anxiety rule your life and to be your strongest self.
In this episode, I share my highly effective models to help you Boost your self-love, and Block the things that get in the way of that. These Self-Love Booster and Blocker Buster Models I have created throughout my life to combat things like anxiety, depression, paranoia, compulsive thinking, self-loathing and many more. They are designed for quick reference to what you can do in moments where you need to boost or bust the things that block self-love.
If you think taking care of yourself is selfish, think again! Self-care is necessary not only to take care of yourself, but those you love. In this episode, I talk about all the ways you can intentionally create a self-care routine that molds with your changing life, and how to make sure you are doing things for the right reasons.
Listen to this meditation to get yourself into the present moment, where your true life is. In this 15 minute mediation, I guide you through simple breathing and relaxation techniques, and prepare your mind to watch your thoughts and enter the present. You CAN learn to enter the present at any moment, and this mediation will teach you how to do that.
Our life can only happen now, in the present moment. Most people are stuck in the the pain of living in past or future. In this episode, I go through the 3 main gateways to enter the present and where you can access your true self.
The ego thrives on compulsive thinking which creates a false sense of self. Roles and identities you may take on can cause you to think you are building up your self-esteem, but you may actually be covering up our true identity. In this episode, you will learn how to know if this is happening to you, and how to take back your power from the ego and thrive in the present moment.
Do you find it hard to stop compulsive thinking? Does continuous thought get in the way of finding peace in your life? In this episode, I will talk about how this happens and what you can do to stop compulsive thinking and be still.
Your innate self-love is already inside of you waiting to be uncovered. In this episode, I will talk about the many things in our lives that block and boost our self-love.