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Fope Nkwocha
Hey 👋🏾, I’m Fopsy, YouTube creator and Podcaster sharing relationship principles & life stories that help us feel equipped for the journey of life together & less alone. I’ve been told I’m relatable, that the way I share my career journey and life advice feels approachable. Tune in for new episodes on Friday on Spotify, Apple & Google Podcasts + on YouTube.com/FopeNkwocha
One moment, life is chaotic, but going okay, you think. The next, your husband is asking for a divorce out of the blue. Discover how this experience shaped Natalie and propelled her toward seeking a well-rounded life, while helping other ambitious yet stressed women do the same.Dear Fopsy is back with new episodes! Make sure to subscribe here and follow on podcast platforms.If any part of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you in a comment.Get in touch with our guest Natalie Mullin Here’s her website https://www.nataliemullin.com/ Her Podcast: From a Full Cup https://from-a-full-cup.captivate.fm/ Find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nataliemullin/🤝🏽 Here's how to support & get in touch with me: ⭐ Follow the podcast here & please leave a review Subscribe on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@FopsyTheGreat 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @fopsythegreat - https://www.instagram.com/fopsythegreat 📒 Buy My Book on ➡️ ➡️ https://fopsy.ca/store 📧 Email me for sponsorships dearfopsy@gmail.comChapters: 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:58 “How Are You” Should We be Honest in our Responses? 00:03:20 Meet Natalie 00:04:33 If You’re At Rock Bottom, Yoga Won’t Fix It 00:14:26 Is Wellness a Privileged Conversation? 00:20:15 Natalie’s Story: Accomplished but Almost Divorced 00:30:52 How to Create Balance and Build the Life YOU want 00:42:00 Social Media and Wellness 00:50:24 Wellness without the Family Support to Help 00:57:45 Hold your Well-being Just as High as You Hold Your Goals 01:00:07 Support Our Work
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According to Tobi Oluwole, here's the #1 formula to remember:
- Content = Attention
- Attention = Traffic
- Traffic = Revenue
- Revenue = Freedom
And he knows what he's talking about. From a boss who didn't like that, he was doing so much on Linkedin to another company where his content accelerated his career - he got promoted because of his visibility, got to speak at events, and more to now being able to earn (a really good) full-time income from his content.
In this episode: How to accelerate your growth as a content creator, expert, or influencer. Tobi shares the early signs he saw, what he studied and replicated, and more to get to millions of impressions in the first six months and now over 100M impressions.
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What would happen if you stopped being afraid of looking stupid? If you just expressed your gifts and talents fully and showed up as your full self.
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Navigating Purity and Boundaries in Dating Relationships. Join us as we discover what purity means beyond saving sex for marriage and explore the importance of honouring God, disciplining yourself, and honouring your partner.
We'll address real questions like dealing with discomfort when your husband has a female friend, navigating physical touch as your love language while abstaining from sex, and managing the attention your partner receives from others.
Tune in for practical advice, tips on setting boundaries, and insights on fostering a thriving relationship grounded in faith.
- Get my book here: Situationship: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart https://www.dearfopsy.com/store
- How to Express Love in the 5 Love Languages https://www.dearfopsy.com/store/p/5lovelanguages
- A Girl's Guide to marrying well & A Guy's Guide to Marrying Well (download for free): https://www.boundless.org/guides-to-marry-well/
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How to know you're ready to date as a Christian.
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This is the continuation to a series on How to date as a Christian. It'll be based on boundless.org's guides: A Girl's Guide to marrying well & A Guy's Guide to Marrying Well (download here for free).
- POV: You're Bold About Your Desire for Marriage
In today's episode, we covered part of "Intentionality", and what it means to prepare to date in a godly way, how to pick a person to date, how to learn to be a godly spouse, why it's important to have leaders and people you're accountable to and so much more.
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Or as I like to say: "If you want to marry, say it with your chest". Get my book here: Situationship: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart https://www.dearfopsy.com/storeThis is the introduction to a series on How to date as a Christian. It'll be based on boundless.org's guides: A Girl's Guide to marrying well & A Guy's Guide to Marrying Well (download here for free).In today's episode we covered part of "Intentionality", what it means to live live you're planning to marry (instead of just hoping for it and "seeing if it comes") and a challenge not to prolong singleness unnecessarily.If you enjoyed this, be sure to follow the pod + Share! Thanks!Subscribe to my channel on Youtube--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dear-fopsy/message
Why are you having relationship drama with someone you're not even dating ?! In this episode we talk about situationships - kinda like a relationship but without the commitment of a title, and with a lot more stress. Then I answer 2 questions: one from someone getting over a 6-year relationship where he wasn't ready to settle down, and another where she wants to know early signs that he'll commit
Book Recommendations:Situationship*: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart : https://www.dearfopsy.com/storeThe Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller - https://amzn.to/3KbFGZG Preparing for Marriage: Help for Christian couples by John Piper: https://amzn.to/3BVEAwp Heal before you Deal by Kingsley Okonkwo- https://amzn.to/43ttCtGFREE guides: A guy’s guide to marrying well + A girl’s guide to marrying well https://www.boundless.org/guides-to-marry-well/
*Some of these are affiliate links
"Hello-to-I-do in a Year" Guide:
- 1/7 Biblical Dating: How It’s Different From Modern Dating https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-how-its-different-from-modern-dating/
- Biblical Dating: Men Initiate, Women Respond https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-men-initiate-women-respond/
- 3/7 Biblical Dating: Just Friends https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-just-friends/
- 4/7 Biblical Dating: Navigating The Early Stages of a Relationship https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-navigating-the-early-stages-of-a-relationship/
- 5/7 Biblical Dating: Principles for Drawing Boundaries https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-principles-for-drawing-boundaries/
- 6/7: Growing in Intimacy: https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-growing-in-intimacy/
- 7/7 Biblical Dating: From ‘Hi’ to ‘I Do’ in a Year: https://www.boundless.org/relationships/biblical-dating-from-hi-to-i-do-in-a-year/
0:00 : Situationships Suck.
2:23 What is a Situationship?
6:43 How to avoid Situationships
9:17 #1 Define the Relationship
9:34 #2 Involve an authority figure
11:20 #3 Prioritize Honouring God
11:41 #4 Treat Dating like Preparation for Marriage
12:47 Book Recommendations on Christian Dating
16:14 How to move on after 6 year Situationship
22:28 How to know he wants to marry you early in dating
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When it comes to money, most of us are figuring it out as we go. Do you know what else we're figuring out as we go? Marriage. So what's it like when you're figuring both out at the same time? Today, I'm joined by Fikayo Usman of @fixitfinance to talk about all things Money, Marriage and Mortality. It got so good, I already know Fikayo will be back to keep the conversation going. Listen for an honest conversation about paying off debt, learning about personal finance, book recommendations to get good with money, figuring out how to manage giving money to family- #blacktax, and so much more. And don't forget to share + leave a review when you're done :) Fikayo’s book recommendations for personal finance: Budgeting for dummies - https://amzn.to/3pSpEwe Total Money Make Over by Dave Ramsey- https://amzn.to/43bdL34 Clever Girl Finance: Learn How Investing Works, Grow Your Money by Bola Sokunbi https://amzn.to/42VMF08 Everyday Millionaires by Chris Hogan https://amzn.to/3Md4mRw The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America's Wealthy https://amzn.to/3MCSpGeThe provided links are affiliate links, which means I may earn a commission if you make a purchase through it. Thanks for your support.Money marriage and mortality 0:00 Intro 1:35 Her journey with personal finance2:57 Is finance knowledge easily accessible 12:05 How to be financially literate13:44 Personal Finance books to read 14:45 Where to start figuring out money21:18 When should couples talk about money in relationships 25:02 How to talk about money while dating31:18 Is it wise for couples to merge their finances while engaged?34:04 Why Money can cause issues in a marriage so 40:51 Should you get a prenup?45:37 Giving money to extended family 52:44 Why is Life Insurance Important1:01:11 What to do with your RRSP when you leave a job1:03:46 Top issues millennials have 1:06:00 Connect with fix with finance1:07:10 Fikayo’s money philosophy Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.comWant to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dear-fopsy/message
Talked to Abisola Shof from @theshofs on this episode! We discussed Marriage 10 Years Later, spouses going bald 👀, Family Finances when one spouse pursues a high-risk high reward dream, dealing with the different seasons of marriage, and keeping it fun when life is life-ing 🤩
The Shofs are not just fun on Instagram, but also inspirational and transparent about their marriage on YouTube. Don't sleep on their other content! Follow them around the web.
00:00 Intro
1:05 Meet Abisola Shof
4:31 Marriage Models?
9:36 How the Shofs met
12:27 Has Marriage always been fun?
18:25 Exploring Personal Goals while Married
25:40 Going full-time with content creation
29:00 Enjoying Marriage with Kids
33:08 Body changes in marriage
39:58 Navigating Difficult seasons in marriage
46:03 Connect with the Shofs
47:22 Spicing Up Your Relationship
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David Ojeyinka has spoken to over 150 senior leaders of immigrant descent on his podcast about their journeys, but you haven't heard his story of resilience in moving from Nigeria to Canada. And what a story it is! I sat with my friend, an inspirational speaker and embodiment of resilience, to talk through the highs, lows, and lessons learned on his journey of building a fresh start in Canada. One of my favourite parts of this episode is where he credits his transformation from naivety to becoming wise and visionary to simply believing God. It sounds very ordinary but something about the child-like faith has stuck with me. There’s also the absolute doggedness it takes to keep going when no one else sees the vision for what you're building. Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.comWant to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dear-fopsy/message
Mrs. Busola Arimoro shares her story of life with Sickle Cell Disease - from her childhood and faith to living with chronic illness, finding love, and navigating marriage and childbearing with Sickle Cell Anaemia. I am honoured by Aunty Busola’s generosity in sharing her journey, and I know her story of resilience will inspire you.00:00 Intro1:30 Meet Aunty Busola2:19 Early Life11:13 Life with Sickle Cell Disease 19:54 The Financial Burden 💰of Sickle Cell Disease25:22 Life Expectancy with Sickle Cell - turning 5032:31 Believing God is a Healer - while living with a Chronic Illness48:15 Dating with Sickle Cell52:15 Marriage with Sickle Cell Disease 1:10:34 How Sickle Cell Affects You in School1:13:12 Having Children when you have Sickle cell disease 1:28:55 Encouragement for when life is hard #DearFopsy #podcast #sicklecellanaemia
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"With all the horror stories I keep hearing, I'm skeptical about marriage." So I was at @thebuilders.church a couple of weeks ago, and this question came up. I decided to dive deeper into this question in this episode.0:00 First Things First0:22 Speaking at Builders Church (@) 1:08 Learn the Principles2:54 Learn the Purpose of Marriage5:04 Yield to the Process10:01 Book Recommendations on Godly MarriageAnd yes, this is a bonus episode, because why not?🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.comWant to Support Even More?--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dear-fopsy/message
What happens when it's not happily ever after? Sometimes we act like relationships are formulaic- and I'm guilty of sharing lots of those formulas- but it's not always "do this, do that, and it'll be smooth sailing". Life happens, infertility happens, and past trauma pops up. So what do you do then? Today I'm sharing 2 stories of people navigating adversity and finding joy in spite of it
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My husband, Obi, and I have a candid chat about our cross-cultural Nigerian marriage, growing up, building confidence, and dealing with unexpected delays. He also dishes out advice to younger men and we share our favourite things about marriage. Don't miss out on this personal and entertaining conversation :)0:00 Let’s Get into it 1:25 Meet Obi3:08 He’s Igbo, I’m Yoruba 11:40 Growing Up18:21 Building Confidence & An unexpected Delay 26:35 What makes some men mature and others stuck in childhood 47:10 What Brought you to Canada 🇨🇦 54:19 Advice to Younger Men57:50 What’s the Best Part of Marriage
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On this episode, Kome & I chat about modern Christian dating. We talk about where “specs” come from (aka your list), unmarried Christian women having babies solo through IVF, the balancing act of settling for Mr. Good Enough, and the struggles of women wanting to be pampered but meeting great men who make less than them. Our guest, Kome, shares her insights and experiences. We also highlight the value of finding a supportive community. Tune in for this thought-provoking episode filled with advice and inspiration on navigating modern relationships.🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.comWant to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dear-fopsy/message
How to deal with the agonizing loneliness of singleness. This one’s for the days when you’re sick and tired of being single. Based on a real story from boundless.org & Candice Watters’ response.Listen for some encouragement.🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.comWant to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needsEpisode Based on https://www.boundless.org/advice/how-will-i-live-if-i-cant-marry/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dear-fopsy/message
How do you love your wife like Christ loved the church? In this episode, we talk through the practical ways that men can show love to their wives. We also address the difficult question of what to do when your wife doesn't respect you.
Previous episodes referenced:
- The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Man: Part 1
- How to Love Your Man: What They Don't Tell You About Loving Your Man - Part 2
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How do you actually show love and respect for your man? It feels weird to be taught how to love your husband because that's something that should come naturally, right? But, what if as a woman, your definition of love is so fundamentally different from what men want, that your acts of love aren't being translated accurately to him? This "How to Love Your Man" 2-part series is inspired by Pastor Godman Akinlabi's Mr & Mrs Better Half. I'm sharing his words (from his experience as a counsellor, pastor, and husband of 20 years) while reflecting on them as a millennial married woman. You'll get actionable, practical and biblical ways to learn to love your husband.
Here's Part 1:
- The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Man: Part 1
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It feels weird to be taught how to love your husband because that's something that should come naturally, right? But, what if as a woman, your definition of love is so fundamentally different from what men want, that your acts of love aren't being translated accurately to him? This "How to Love Your Man" 2-part series is inspired by Pastor Godman Akinlabi's Mr & Mrs Better Half. I'm sharing his words (from his experience as a counsellor, pastor, and husband of 20 years) while reflecting on them as a millennial married woman. You'll get actionable, practical and biblical ways to learn to love your husband.
Previous episodes referenced:
- Pod: 7 Lessons from the 5 Love Languages | & Youtube Video
- My video review of Preparing for Marriage: Help for Christian Couples by John Piper
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How far is too far when you're dating? Sure you have boundaries, but are they working? Here's an alternative to the "how far is too far" question that challenges you to rethink why you're dating for so long that you need to dance around sex for years. Also, a moment of vulnerability about the #real struggles when saving sex for marriage. Body no be firewood 😭
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Are you torn between two amazing people and don't know how to choose? In this episode, we'll go over some key points to consider as you navigate this difficult choice:
- Don’t String them along
- How to seek guidance from the Holy Spirit when deciding who to marry.
- How to gather enough information about each person you’re considering?
- Why there’s no such thing as “the one”
- How to actually decide between two great people you’re interested in?
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Re-connecting with family and friends during the holidays sometimes comes with awkward questions about your job, relationship status, weight, or plans for kids. It's best to be prepared. So you don't get caught off guard. Instead of choosing violence, here are some ways to navigate hard conversations with family and friends during your visits with family.
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Every time, you hear about relationship red flags 🚩 . How about Relationship green flags 💚? What are some early signs that you’ve met someone worth dating? Well, that’s what this episode is about. Listen, enjoy and share!
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Money should never be a taboo topic with anyone you are merging your life with 📢. Today, we're talking about how to talk about money in dating relationships + this 8-month relationship that ended because he wouldn't share his salary.
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If you're saving sex for marriage, how do you know that sex will be good with your partner? Is sexual compatibility a real thing, and how do you test for it if it is? Today's episode features a story from a Christian man who has a sexual history but is marrying a virgin. They're both Christians but he's concerned his fiancee might be asexual. In this episode, I respond to his question, share thoughts on counselling, purity culture, how to talk about your sex expectations and wrap with book recommendations. Enjoy & Share :)
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Introducing Dear Fopsy Reads: The one where I read and recap a love and relationship book. Today I share 7 lessons from the 30-year best seller: "The Five Love Languages". Download the guide to go with the episode at: https://www.dearfopsy.com/5lovelanguages
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“Dear Fopsy, I come from a line of divorced women, and I think I’m not meant to be happy in love. I’m 33, and I’ve been worried that if I ever get married, my relationship will end in a messy and bitter divorce. I’m engaged and getting married in 2024. “
Today, we’re talking about breaking the cycle of divorce. Overcoming the pain of growing up with divorced parents, breaking generational curses and creating generational joy!
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Dear Fopsy, Recently, the "good girl no dey pay" sentiment is loud - and seeping into my thinking. Plus it feels like unmarried Christian women are waiting for husbands into their 30s. Any encouragement for me & the community?
Tackling this question today on feeling like you're losing, despite doing everything right. Here's some encouragement for anyone who's feeling like life isn't fair right now. #dearFopsy
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What if knowing better about love and relationships could help us choose better partners and make us better lovers?
Dear Fopsy is a love and relationship blog & podcast that equips you to build thriving relationships! Hosted by Fope Nkwocha, aka Fopsy.
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What if friends, family, or paid matchmaking could help you find a date worth keeping? In this episode, I share 5 Reasons to Let Your Friends Play Matchmaker. Listen and come over to Youtube to join the conversation!
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So many red flags in dating that if you spot them, can save you a lifetime of stress. Today's #AskFopsy deals with a real Life financial abuse story - Her Husband Makes Her Pay His Debt. Listen and head over to YouTube to add your own advice in the comments: what would you advise her to do? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qChPrLojA6k
Your Complete Guide to knowing when to share details of your past with your partner. I know how daunting sharing your past can be, but it's an important part of getting to know each other. I share tips on how to decide if now is a good time to share, and guide you on how to do this with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
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Christian guys are boring, so your dating preference is "Christian, with a bit of hood". Let's talk about it real quick.
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How to ask to pick someone's brain, via DM, e-mail, and not get ignored. These are 7 tips to consider.
⏰Timestamps
- 00:00 7 Do’s and Don’ts of Networking
- 00:17 #1 Soften Them Up
- 1:50 #2 Get Specific
- 3:26 #3 Instead of “Can I Pick Your Brain”
- 4:10 #4 Make it Easy to Say “Yes”
- 4:57 #5 How to Bring Value to a Mentor
- 7:29 #6 Keep it Short and Sweet
- 8:02 #7 Be willing to Pay for Coaching Services
- 8:33 How to Thank Me 👏🏾
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Talking about money in marriage comes down to one question about your philosophy of what marriage is. Listen to this to help you answer: Should You Have Joint or Separate Accounts in a Marriage.
- 00:00 Money Should Not be Where we Draw The Line
- 00:51 Why Talking About Money is Hard
- 2:52 Joint and Separate Accounts? #SteveHarvey
- 3:57 What if one person makes more?
- 4:58 Other Questions to Consider
- 5:45 About “Oneness”
- 8:10 Ask this before you get married
- 8:46 Should you join your accounts when getting married?
- 9:42 Joint Accounts are Scary
- 10:12 Getting Help
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My counter question is Does it matter if He's Broke?
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- 0:00 She’s Always Attracting Broke Christian Men
- 2:44 A lot of us start out broke
- 3:13 Broke but not Vision-less?
- 5:31 My Husband and I’s Journey
- 8:00 How to Attract The Kind of Man You’re Looking For
- 9:34 More urgent things to consider
Here's the "Parole 101: A Christian Guide to Toasting" by Pastor Emmanuel Iren I referenced https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1-u_jqcldQ
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Looking for a new job but not sure what you want next? Here's a framework for figuring out what to do next when you're feeling stuck in your career or unsure of what's next. Inspired by this article from Harvard Business Review: https://hbr.org/2022/01/finding-a-job-when-you-dont-know-what-you-want-to-do-next
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Gauge my response to a real question from my DM about considering playing small because the guy thinks "his family" won't like her ambition. In this video, I share my advice on whether or not to compromise in a relationship. This is the launch of #AskFopsy ! You can e-mail me / DM your questions to fopsydee@gmail.com and I'll likely answer them live in an episode.
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This episode was inspired by lessons from 2021, Pastor Nomthi's life and mantra #EnjoyYourLife, as well as a video Tosin Alabi created. Listen and enjoy.