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Chaos caused by a mental disorder.
Symptoms: Inattentiveness, impulsivity, hyperactivity.
Medical Claims: No cure.
Serp? â the Culprit.Â
A little back story here
SERP is the cousin of AD (someone you will meet later).
SERP isnât someone you can see. Some will tell you that it is all in your head. Others will tell you heâs an excuse because you need something to blame things on.
But what is about the things that you feel that you canât see that feel the most real?
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Your New Journey Begins
After those initial birth pains, a new energy arises.
A Life of Continual Newness Do you not skimp on our time together. Resist the temptation to make excuses as to why you canât spend time with me. This sacrifice of time pleases me and strengthens you.
Daily Routine with Scripture provides â Truthful instruction
â Strengthens your faith
â Prepares you to live a godly lifestyle
â Allow Godâs word to bless you as it becomes part of who you are⊠Blessed.
You get a new God-given energy that propels you forward and propels you along the path.
A Desire for More
Do not cling to old ways
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Godâs will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will. - **Romans 12:2**
Prayer l Faith over Fear
My Prayer today God is that from this day forward your spirit enables me to choose faith over fear. Instead of holding back I ask that your spirit enables me to move forward. God I ask that you help me believe you are working things out for my good. Letâs begin this together. Even when I knowing else, this I do know that he who started this work in me shall be faithful to complete it. As you lead me forward with your Spirit God I know that I am truly blessed.
In Jesus Name, I Pray.
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What we speak, we create.
Our words are only the beginning.
Words should be followed with action.
Taking it from what yousayto what you cansee.
Again and again, day after day.
Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. **James 1:12**
Prayer l Building the Character to sustain
God, I pray a bold prayer in asking you to work through me. I want to see, feel and hear you in everything. I thank you for the opportunities you provide. I thank you for new relationships and friendships. Jesus help me develop the character to sustain and maintain the new things you are brining into my life. Give me the wisdom and understanding I need to have to take care of what you have entrusted me with. Empower me to do all that you are calling me to do. Thank you for Newness. â Jesus in your powerful name I pray.
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The beginning of becoming great starts withâŠ
How else will I know unless I find out?
Faith is one of those things where many people could say they have, but when it comes to putting the things that really matter to us on the line that is where our Faith gets put to the test. Sink or swim right?
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There were two paths.
It was never easy to be chosen. Having to choose between easy and stagnant or hard and impossible⊠she chose.
The writing was on the wall.
But not in your strength but by my favor on you.
The price was sacrifice.
Grain of sand
Thatâs what you have. But give me your sacrifice and what you choose to subtract, I wonât just add⊠I will multiply. I am a God of multiplication. You will have a beach full of sand and that is a promise. That is what you have to look forward to. So donât take your focus off.
And itâs just the beginning
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Letters to God
If you can remember where you laid it down Iâll show you how to take it up again. Iâll give you the power to take it up again when you it lay down!
There is a version of you that I want to prove to you exists but you canât see it unless you sacrifice.
Sacrifice changes things. Shifts things.
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đ” Tell your heart to beat again She realized what makes people sick is it starts from the heart. If your heart is sick the rest will be sick. She had asked God to take her heart but she never asked him to heal her heart.
What she thought were trust issues was really a heart issue.
So she gave it up.
It was beautiful to find out that God only wanted her heart all along.
âThatâs the sacrifice, I wantâ
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart - Psalm 37:4
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Beauty in the Struggle Not wanting to ask for help. Not wanting to be vulnerable. This weight that she had been caring, she just couldnât carry it anymore. So she gave it to God and he took it. He knew what she needed and he was there so she wasnât in this alone. She wasnât by herself. She had only felt she was.
If only she could remember that in her weakest moments then they wouldnât make her feel like she was drowning.
She was starting to see that she still wasnât ready and maybe she wouldnât be for a while. Or did this mean that she was actually getting closer? This was actually the first time that she was even brave enough to even consider trying again.
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Itâs funny how in the end you begin to think about the beginning. She began to remember the exact moment she knew she was going to allow that walking red flag turn into a walking regret.
What are you doing?
Making decisions Siren.
Iâm deciding on you.
There were layers to a statement like that.
Back then⊠she knew what she was thinking and her mind told her exactly why settling had been better for her all those years. The highest of the highs only brought the lowest of the lows. Jumping from high to high only worked for so long. Eventually that approach took a turn and everything she ever tried to bury re-surfaced with Siren and now her emotions felt like they were beginning to seep out of her skin.
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After years of shunning love she had given it another try. She wasnât counting on old pain coming back and she definitely wasnât counting on it coming back this strong.
If only she could get out of her head long enough to be still. Still enough to feel her heart again.
Hurt. She was feeling hurt.
She paused.
She remembered that in quietness and trust was her strength.
Why canât I let this go?
The enemy never moves in a moment of strength, he moves in a moment of weakness. When youâre at your weakest.
10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full - John 10:10
You keep wearing anger to cover up your sadness.
Iâm waiting on you to ask me to give you your heart back. I can heal the hurt. I can give you you back.
I can show you how to forgive. I can show you how to let go of that bitterness weighing you down. I can show you how to stop blaming people in offense.
I want to teach you how to speak in truth and grace.
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She caught wind. She exhaled everything negative and could feel all the bad blowing away. She inhaled Gods breathe.
He must increase, but I must decrease - John 3:30
If youâre going to give back something. Give back love.
Less of her meant, meant more of him. When she let out her breathe, she took in his. I am not going to keep living this way.
I am not going to keep questioning my worth. I am not going to keep putting myself on clearance. God is calling me out of this cycle. Out of this depression. Out of this brokenness.
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Siren, I donât think you know who you really are. Itâs who you think you are that makes you do things you later regret. You give sweet nothings because deep down you feel you canât keep up. Youâre not yet a man, youâre a scared little boy in a grown manâs uniform.
Coquette, I donât think you realize how powerful your words are.
I do realize.
You say it all but give nothing at all.
Like clouds and wind without rain is a man who boasts of a gift he does not give - Proverbs 25.14
Youâre acting crazy again
I might be a lot of things but a babysitter for a grown man is not one of them. So go disappoint the next girl, or the next few.
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She preferred tequila, clear tequila. It was better for. It went down a lot smoother. Sure it made her a little crazy but she knew what she was going to get and she knew how to handle her shots. Lucky for her, he was tequila and she didnât need salt and a lime to take him.
But chances were that the faster she drank it, the sooner she would run out.
The crazy that tequila brought on was always a good time and a good story.
She knew she liked it better and preferred it so why would she ever go for whiskey?
Oh yeah she remembered. Tequila had a way of coming on strong and although she loved it when it was gone it left a nasty hangover.
Coquette how about leaving whiskey and tequila behind?
She had been wondering where he had been. The days had turned into weeks and this whole time she had been drowning.
Wine. I want to turn you into wine.
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland â Isaiah 43:19
Liquor was the only thing that she had ever known.
She had a choice to make. She could keep trying to find her answers at the bottom of every bottle she chose to have or she could choose to drink from a fresh well- a well that never ran out of water. A well that would forever quench her thirst.
If you give it up I will give you better than you can even ask for. Give me what you have in your hand and I will release what is in mine.
Divine exchange.
Coquette was about to find out that God was taking her in as a seed form.
And if you let patience perfect the work in you, you will become wine.
4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing - James 1:4
Youâre strongest when you are wine. Youâll be most effective. Instead of you being consumed youâll be doing the consuming. Wine changes the spirits of those who drink it.
But first you will be under foot.
But when your time comes to come out from under foot, youâll be what God had in mind.
God hadnât left. She just couldnât see him.
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They were all hers now.
These whiskey stones were going to turn into her stepping stones
The problem was that she never did like the taste of whiskey or hard things.
Whiskey burned and stones hurt.
Whiskey had a way of being so inconsistent. She never knew if she was going to get sick or have a great time with it. She could never really tell what feeling it was going bring.
How about another round?
No. I think my last dance with the devil was the last one.
She knew that the fake sugar in whiskey had a way of making her crash. She knew that kind of sugar would deplete her later and for the first time⊠it wasnât worth having.
Whiskey would never give her a headache again.
She had had enough whiskey stones. She didnât need anymore. She decided she was going to put her history in writing and even better on stone tablets. Written in stone and built from the hard stuff.
Chisel out two stone tablets like the first ones, and I will write on them the words that were on the first tablets, which you broke. Be ready in the morning, and then come up on Mount Sinai. Present yourself to me there on top of the mountain. - Exodus 34:1
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But she had to go back first.
Think back to the moment where you almost allowed your light to give out.
Flickering Light
She didnât want to think about that. It was too dark. Dark to experience and it was too dark to think about. That moment had come close to taking her out for good.
But it didnât. You had light. Remember the lesson, not the moment. What are you going to do with it?
Even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you - Psalm 139:12
Reluctantly Coquette went back to that day. The day she was hearing voices. Those voices.Voices that wouldnât ever leave her alone. But on that particular day they were a little louder⊠loud enough that they started to make sense and they started to sound right. It was too hard, it was too much and she could fix it if she just ended it.
It almost worked. She got up and said to herself⊠world have your things Iâd rather be with God.
But God had other plans.
You may not be with me but I am with you. Always.
âBe strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you or forsake youâ -Deuteronomy 31.6
Her light had started flickering that day â it almost gave out but it didnât and it wasnât going to now. Quite the opposite, it was getting brighter and brighter.
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As it turns out someone who loved her more than she could ever imaginealready had paid a price...a very high price, the ultimate price â he paid it for her.
18 And I pray that you and all Godâs holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christâs *loveâhow wide, how long, how high, and how deep that love is.* 19 Christâs love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you -Ephesians 3:18-21
Coquette loved red roses but there was some thing about white roses that really got to her. Red reminded her of passion but white reminded her of purity.
A song started playing in her head.
She started to change her mind on what she thought red roses meant.
đ¶ Your blood flowed red and made me white đ¶
It was Natalie Grant.
đ¶ Washed in the blood of your Sacrifice đ¶
Not only had he cleaned up the mess that she had made of her life but who could love you better than someone who sacrifices for you?
She was beginning to change her mind on who she thought she was.
God was creating in her a pure heart. He was making her new. He was making all things new again.
10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me â Psalm 51:10
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She was always reminded of that one promise. That one promise that got brought back to her mind when things started polluting her brain. When things started to get fuzzy. Whenever she wasnât sure of she was doing anymore. She knew where she had been but she didnât know where she was going. On this day in particular she was going around in circles. Literally! â She was driving around and trying to figure out what she wanted to eat. Before getting food she had to make a stop at the grocery store to buy alcohol for the concert she was going to be going to later on.
She always felt a little extra loved by God whenever she got the first parking lot. He knew how giddy it made her and he always seemed to get a kick out of it too. Thatâs the thing about living life with God. You begin to see and hear him in even the smallest of things â only the little things were always the big things for her.
Before walking in the store she heard music playing and saw a man playing music on a melodica. It was a beautiful song he was playing and she felt God tuck at her heart to give him some cash.
She was working on listening more to that quiet still voice that she only heard when she was still enough to hear it. She heard what she thought was five and as soon as she walked in, there was a big red sign with the number 5 on it. She picked up her 6-pk of white-claws â typical for the girl who grew up in Orange County. It was the thing to drink and it helped they were low cal.c
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PSL with a side of Lonely Itâs Friday morning 7:30 am. Fall was just starting and Coquette had been waiting for this day⊠Starbucks âïž had officially released their seasonal Pumpkin Spice Lattes âïž.
She grabbed what she had been waiting for all year long and headed back home. Her excitement wore off as she got back home. She had come back to an empty apartment. What use to feel like bliss was putting her in a mood lately and not one she liked.
Standing in her kitchen all she could manage to do was get lost in her thoughts. She was wondering how the life she use to dream of had found a way to be better in her imagination than in her reality.
Ever since her and Siren broken up she had learned to re-direct all of her energy back on herself.
But she was beginning to recognize that trying to get to this place where she didnât need anyone only left her shutting herself off and she had now become an island.
I am not meant to live out this life all by myself.
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There it was again â a moment of revelation. She had spent enough time with God to learn his voice so she was able to lean into what he was whispering into her heart.
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me - John 10:27
Sometimes itâs not the person youâre dealing with, itâs the spirit behind the person. Are all men really liars? Or is the same demon taunting you over and over because he knows your weakness? If only you would realize your worth. If only you could let me show you how I see you. Your worth is not up for debate.
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies - Proverbs 31:10
God telling her how valuable she was made her question herself. Â Why had she put herself on clearance? She acted as if going on sale would mean that whoever bought her was going to be the one who was going to give her a permanent home.
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Letters To God
Why does it feel like Iâm drowning now? Why now? Why is this all surfacing now?
22âThe eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. 23But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness! - Matthew 6:22-23 NIV
Coquette had spent 3 years of learning Godâs word and she was starting to see that he had been writing in her heart this whole time. He did always promise to never leave her and to always go before her. For a long time she couldnât grasp that truth because in the back of her mind she was still believing that men always lied.
I am not a man that shall lie
Here he was showing her that he was not going to change his mind about what he promised her. His word is never changing. He wasnât man but he had become one to do what she craved for someone to do for her⊠ to save her.
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She was so blinded by her need for love so much that she had failed to see the Devil in the details.
Itâs crazy how we choose to believe what we want, ignore what we know only to be surprised to get what we should have expected in the first place.
It had been a few days of conversation back and forth and now they were getting to the harder conversations. The ones she had spent so much time avoiding because years laterâŠit was still a hard pill to swallow. She learned that if she avoided any and all reminders of what that one year had brought her she could function fine. She could at least pretend she was- like there wasnât this deep hole in her heart.
She thought that was hard but being vulnerable with Siren was now stirring up something in her insides.
I donât know if I can trust this Siren. I donât trust men too easily. Iâve been here before and the last time that this happened.. errr ⊠everybody crashes and I know that living in the fast lane only makes the impact that much harder. I barely survived the last crash, I donât know what would happen or who I would turn into if I crashed again.
Iâm not 24 anymore.
What does that mean?
I used to run around and I loved the chase. Thatâs not the case anymore.
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Season: Fall
A smell of honeysuckle
Dating you was Coquetteâs favorite perfume to put on before seeing Siren.
Coquette wasnât your average prostitute. For her it had nothing to do with getting paid financially. Her form of payment was paid by how she felt emotionally.
[Prostitute: A person, in particular a woman, who engages in sexual activity for payment.]
They were walking by a homeless man and a second later he wrapped his arms around her walking behind her. She dated guys who would pay no mind or attention to whether she felt safe when she was with them and he was making sure that she felt safe. Without knowing that she had always been frightened of strangers only not homeless people.
She felt homeless people were the closest to God. Maybe it wasnât too far off. God did say in scripture that heâs close to the broken-hearted. Maybe there was a lot more to it than people would like to think or maybe they knew but it was easier to ignore. We all have battles⊠only theirs seem to be on display for the world to see. It seemed to her that hers were too. People knew what kind of girl she was. What people didnât know was there was much more to her then she would let them see. Still, she couldnât talk about God. If there was anyone qualified for that job it certainly couldnât be her.
It wasnât until after her last transaction that she was beginning to understand that although she believed in God â she didnât know God.
A part of her wondered if she still would let herself get walked all over.. if she still could.
It was as if she came with a price tag and the only time she would get bought was when she put herself on clearance.
It seemed as if it was only those kind of men who could afford her.
But how did I get here again?
What got to her that night was the thought of him wanting to make her feel safe and comfortable. Her favorite things in life were moments like these. Moments where she felt that someone musthave Godâs ear because only God can whisper the exact thing needed at that moment, moving hearts and creating a memory like this is what she believed had to have been sent from God.
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In this Messy Season
As she seeks me in her mess, she will show others how to find freedom from that weight showing that I am a good God.
Her gentleness will be her strength.
Her balance will be the beauty of her soul.
Her love will be the fiercest weapon.
She will be a learner and a lover of truth.
She will crave certainty. But people are unpredictable and circumstances will often cause her confusion.
These will be some of our closest times together, she and I. When she learns something while confused, she remembers it forever.
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Avoid sugar Sugar is a carbohydrate, and all carbohydrates, if consumed in excess can promote fluid retention.
Avoid dairy products Dairy products cause a lot of lymphatic congestion. Poor circulation & fluid retention, & dairy products aggravate this.
Avoid certain foods if you have any allergies The congestion in your lymphatic system caused by allergies can also make you feel fatigued, depressed & give you a foggy head.
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100 times out of 100 I know what I am getting with him and that is both good and bad.
When I donât listen, although heâs forgiving, he doesnât bend on the rules. We can get into rules later but to explain a little bit of it.. the rules arenât for him to be happy about us following them, the rules are there to protect us.
Just like our fur babies canât have chocolate or walk freely in busy streets, God has given us rules to keep us out of danger.
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Anything that has ever shaken me, even if it was something others considered small. If it affected the way I would do things or how I would show up then it was something worth reflecting on. I first have to get fed up enough to finally create the changes necessary. I would hit a point where I would have to ask why am I here again? OMG. Iâm so tired of this! That was it! It was the line in sand that I would draw, saying "I don't go any lower than this."
After drawing the line, reflection and brainstorming would come and then a plan to change thing around. Feelings would have to go and action would have to happen.
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Recovery Protein after a workout and/or before bed will help maximize your recovery time #notimeforsoremuscleshere #recoverydrink #proteindrink #longdistancerunners #becausehealth
Protein Banana Shake
Stick to the ones that have no more than 120 calories per serving.
Almond milk.
Banana.
Nicole Wilkinâs Protein Powder (Vanilla)
Add ice blend.
One of my favorite smoothies to make after a late night run. I always sleep so good!
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I fast forward all the bad parts. I replay all the good ones. I rewind the beginning and ending over and over again. Maybe there was something I missed.
Started as a Mystery.
Added Fantasy. Thriller. Romance. Comedy. Action.
All categories I liked until it turned into Drama and ended in Horror.
Iâve always liked movies with happy endings and this didnât have one.
Iâll always look back and know that it was a great movie but not all great movies make it to the big screen.
Our movie is getting old now. It could only be played on a dvd player and movies are streamed now.
Streamed movies donât have to be kept or taken care of. Streamed movies require less effort.
Itâs time to find a new favorite.
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(By losing, I ended up gaining)May need to break-up with a few people.
(I became an island)May need to go into seclusion, counseling but I want to produce from an intentional core.
(God filled that void. Alone would never feel lonely again)I was lonley.
(I asked. God gave)I was ambitious but with no wisdom.
(Made knew. Never to be the same again)My default setting kept putting me back into my default setting.
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Hi Jesus,
Today I had this feeling that I hadnât had in a while. It was a great amount of gratitude in my heart. For one for everything I have. I am so blessed. It makes me sad that sometimes, well mostly if I am honest, I am the reason I lose my joy. I donât always want to live this way Jesus. I want to carry out the heart of joy that you so freely gave to me. You gave too much to me for me to do or feel so little.
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Sometimes things get too heavy and putting them down is smart. If it gets too heavy, thatâs when itâs time to lay whatever is overwhelming us down. Pray about it and then donât worry about it.
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- Heâs Not that into YouIf he canât lay this one brick down, you ainât never gonna have a house baby, and itâs cold outside.
There's a difference between someone telling you they love you and them actually loving you.
Tipping point = no more.
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All the beautiful things you created in life were made to capture our hearts when looking at them.
I stand in awe of your work. Flowers have veins⊠no one can figure out the science of the butterfly⊠the oceans have boundaries because that is where you told them they need to stop.. the details of a snowflake.
How much more did you put in us.
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It is what scares us anyway.
Giving our heart away isnât something we should take lightly. I let God fill my heart up until all his love and grace over pours and I am to be give kindness and love away to everyone I come across. Not all day, but everyday itâs important to show up kind in the world. I save the special things for those close to me that I trust.
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Iâm raising my own standard.
Iâm not going to just allow unrestricted of anything that wants to come into my space. My new standard is God fearing people. In friendships and relationships. To get access to me now, you have to be right with God. Of course, I stay kind and true to everyone I come across but I donât let things come and go to taint my heart.
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I spent years trying to pretend that the brokenness of my previous long-term relationship didnât hurt me anymore. It had been years and the people were quick to tell me to move on after just a few months of us breaking-up. So I learned to pretend. Pretend that it wasnât anything to me anymore. That I moved past it. That it was an old wound that healed but in reality, that break-up broke something inside of me.
Itâs called acting.
Always acting and pretending that I was better than I was. I left that in the dust. I was more interested in designing than acting anyway.
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If youâre lucky enough to experience life with humble beginnings, you are rich.
Honor. Humility. Humanity.
Honor in being able to experience life in multiple ways. Itâs like being able to change lenses because you arenât limited to one. Angles. Different angles.
Humility comes with humble beginnings. Stay humble and kind.
Humanity.
Rich for experiencing life this way.
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Giving me his love. Giving me his time. Giving me memories.
Now I know me. I give myself love. I give myself time. I give myself nice memories from the different things Iâm choosing.
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Thank you Jesus for showing me a great night out! If it wasnât for your grace and mercy, I wouldnât be here. If it wasnât for your love, I wouldnât want to. You truly are the perfect gentleman. I never have felt comfortable splurging on myself with foodâŠby myself.. and just because. Being a woman of God, you have shown me a life that I normally would feel guilty living but because I belong to a kingdom and Kings eat like, well Kings. It was a great experience. You knew exactly what my body and heart needed.
I was alone, only I wasnât alone, I was with my King and I was enjoying the night out. The place had pretty lights around. Aside from cute, it was a cozy cafe. Pretty lights and the heaters were on and the breeze wasnât too cold after a warm cup of coffee. Coffee that was brought out in a red mug.. my favorite!!! You never miss a detail.
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It was the wrong thing for you.
Hitting a crossroad where you can no longer ignore the reality that you were hoping you wouldnât have to confront kinda sucks.Sometimes we no longer have the excuse of not knowing. When the truths that confirm what we knew all along are now in our face we have to make the decision we were hoping to avoid. We are complex by nature and we feel things but feelings donât mean truth, they are just a way we convince ourselves that what we are feeling is true.
Losing what we hold onto just because the thought of having it makes us feel safer is only the cushion that we are hoping we can land on if we fall AND maybe it wonât hurt as much.
Too bad that what I was hoping would help break my fall was causing me to trip all along.
Suspicion was going up. Peace was going down. It was a lot harder to keep them around then to lose them. So I made a decision. Being loyal to a lie was never going to leave me with peace.
Truth in Hebrew = stability.
If a relationship gives you stability and it leaves, you will be undone.
The stability I will give you will never be taken way from you. â God.
The truth might hurt us but the truth will alsoâŠ
set you free from living in uncertainty.
set you free from having to wonder all the time.
That pain fuels your passion and will bring you to your purpose.
The truth is now letting you correct the mistakes you were making.
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âIn quiet and stillness shall be your strengthâ
That is where I had to go for a little while. I went into a quiet place alone with God. That is where I learned to be still. It seemed for a little while that it didnât matter how much I slept, I could never feel rested enough. Yet, I would go into this quiet place with him and I it wouldnât matter how much sleep I didnât get, I wouldnât feel weary. Tired, eventually yes and then I would sleep really well.
During my quiet time, I would put on a YouTube video and listen to his word or journal. It wasnât so much about having anything to say, it was more about calling onto him and he would take care of the rest.
I eventually wondered why was it that I was so tired before? What made me so tired that sleep couldnât fix it? It was my heart. My heart was sick and if your heart is sick it can affect the rest of your body. My heart wasnât sick on the outside but I feel after all it had been through, the fire kinda had been put out. No fire meant no passion. There was no drive.
When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and you cannot find your way out of darkness⊠Remember this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings.
Treating a symptom isnât the same as getting to the root of the problem. That explained why trying to get more sleep never worked. Our hearts can get so heavy with all that we carry in it. Sometimes it gets really heavy because of a who. I think we give people too much power when we give them a piece of our heart.
God comforted my heart. He also put it back together.
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My parents house was the nest that this bird came back to over and over. I use to joke with my family the first time I wanted to move out. My dad didnât think that was a good idea. I would answer, âBut Iâm a bird dad, you have to let me flyâ
The first time I came back, he was quick to say âbroken wing?â
The second time I thought that maybe I should stop trying to fly because coming back with a broken wing didnât make me feel good. I liked the idea of flying and Iâve never liked feeling like I was being held down, so flying equaled freedom to me. But no one ever tells you that flying feels a lot like falling.
In flying there is power. Itâs a way of living life with everything placed under your feet and being so high up that snakes and traps canât reach you. They canât even touch you.
How do you learn to fly?
I can tell you from experience what you donât do.
You donât just try to add wings and call it flying.
Adding wings to caterpillars does not create butterflies. It creates awkward and dysfunctional caterpillars.
Birds learn to fly through training. Butterflies are created through transformation.
When birds are learning to fly they fall from the nest and make the long trip back to it (what I kept doing). They repeat the process until they get the strength and endurance to learn to use what they carry.
Butterflies grow into them. Blood is shed. They feel like theyâre dying but what feels like the end is only their new beginning.
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What do you do when the reality of what you fought so hard to not let happen happens? Like I knew he wasnât good for me. I knew God had better for me. I chose to hold on just a little bit longer. Maybe I was wrong. Maybe it was just a feeling but not a sure thing??
Why on earth did settling for safe feel better than being alone?
I was going to watch another lesson learned the hard way walk away from me. The pain only confirming the feeling I had, that I wasnât worth holding on to. I knew pretty was enough to get a man but it was never enough to keep one. The heart I had wasnât big enough either. The choices I made when it came to men showed what I thought of myself and Iâll tell you right now that there were a lot of questionable ones.
THAT WAS UNTILâŠ
âYouâre gonna have to let people walk away from you. Youâre gonna have to wave goodbye when when they do it and not hang onto the memory of who you wanted someone to be but let go so I can do a new thing â â God
As he is walking away, I need you to see it for what it is. A Divine Exchange.
Ok. God, I give this to you for a divine exchange and where there is fear, insecurity, anxiety touch it God and remove it, break this bad cycle of men that are no good for me and let these bad patterns break and bad habits of choosing what isnât good for me stop.
INPUT
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I had to believe God when he said to make room. I started letting go of old things I wanted to hold onto but didnât need to anymore. I decided to believe that what was coming was better and this divine exchange would prove to God what my mouth was saying.
Itâs like spring cleaning your emotions. What is it that YOU need to do right now to clean up the mess? What do you need to get rid of, so you can start seeing the things you want to keep, the things you like, the things that bring you joy, the things you canât see because all the things that are causing you stress and emotionally draining are on top of your now hidden treasures. So what do you want to keep and what donât you want anymore?
That very thing stressing you out is going to be beautiful, when it is all said and done.
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1 year later, I wasnât sure if it was something I kept wanting to do. I felt tired. I had had enough.
God was quick on this⊠But, look at who you are becoming?
I didnât see it or feel at all.
What God was really doing was teaching me to simplify. I quickly learned how elegance was attached to simplicity. Being mindful, having and choosing quality things felt so nice. I didnât realize how much I had changed. Making choices to let go of things that brought back memories was even harder.
When I first decided to get rid of things to make room for new things, I didnât get rid of much. When I moved back home for the last time, I was forcedto. Practice makes perfect right? I would need to do it a few more times before finding myself ruthlessly putting things into a blessing bin I created, where the stuff would soon be donated.
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Dear God,
You told us to stay sober minded for a reason. We are weak when we let alcohol change our state and when we are weak, we are vulnerable. Vulnerable to the attacks, the snares, the traps set upfor us by the enemy.
But recognizing where we are weak, picking it up and laying it down at your feet. That is the moment where your strengthen meets my weakness.
Understanding now the harm was what the enemy planned all along to try and bring me down.
Because when he didnât couldnât get me, he tried to come after my brother. My baby brothers but Father your Grace and your love not only rescued me over and over but you rescued my brother. Your divine interference was all that was needed.
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Father, when I was that lost and drunk girl. The day my family couldnât find me and I was found me non-coherent and vomiting. Weak and unable to care for myself. You sent someone. You rescued me. That day Father⊠it still does something to me to think that I was living a life that in my brokenness throwing away my life was easy for me to do. I now cherish it so much, for the reason alone that I am created by you. Nothing you have ever made to be something without purpose.
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Itâs time to stop adding salt to the wound and even though going through the process of having to clean it out will temporarily make the pain worst, it will eventually heal and the pain will stop for good.
What does it take? Focus on what is instead of what is not.
Itâs a wound and not yet a scar. So treat it as such and know that itâs a process. Wounds hurt in the present moment but once they become scars, they are only a memory of something that once hurt you.
One day it wonât be so fragile anymore and it wonât hold any power over you.
It was all in the healing process that I not only found what would become my saving grace but would also be the lamp to my feet.
Always shedding light on where to go.
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I was going to have to go without.
It was the right choice to decide to go without it. It was not worth it to poison myself for such a short lived feel-good moment. I might have stayed hungry for a little while longer but I wasnât going to starve (although it felt like it).
The amount of clarity you get after being full again is incredible. Those are always my âwhat was I thinking?â moments.
Losing base with reality is a thing and it happens.
When youâre hungry any food in front of you looks good. When your mind is clear you can see what isnât good for you and do without.
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I had to learn to focus on something other than how disappointed I was in him, in us, in the way things were turning out.
I had this thought
Maybe I was giving him too much credit?
Maybe I wasnât giving myself enough?
My gut would often tell me when things were off but after a while, your gut can betray you because you start to expect bad news. Things that are good canât be true.
Better question
Is lovesupposeto make you be at war with yourself?
Most times I could drown out the noise coming from my insides but sometimes I couldnât ignore it. This was not it. He wasnât it. I just wanted him to be.
I wasnât a bad cook. This was just a bad recipe and I had to know better. A good recipe leads to a good meal. This was not only bad but it was poisonous.
I felt the shift of change approach.
I was either going to go more insane trying to change enough ingredients to make a good meal out of thisORÂ I was going to go hungry.
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I remember always feeling like I wasnât good enough. Later I didnât feel energized enough to take control of the rollercoaster of emotions.
Kept hearing it but never seeing it.
You love them but they only know how to love themselves. A vicious cycle.
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I learned that for me to feel much better about my free time it would require more effort to achieve balance.
That balance was in learning to manage time better. It required boundaries and non-negotiables put in place so I could lose the irritation and angry outbursts that were stemmed from the guilt I felt for not following through on my needs and of the things that I knew would come to bear fruit.
It was like realizing why my plants kept dying, I kept not watering them! Growth required watering consistently. Every time I skipped on it, I was killing it.
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I share my stories because I want you to know that you are not alone in how you feel. I have been there, done that. I know what it feels like. I know exactly what itâs like to be the weird one. the odd one. the crazy one. the broken one. Stuck between doing too much and not enough. I want to let you know that you can come out on the other side and make it.
I became better because of it. Where I stand today is a really good place. Nothing and no one can take away the gems of knowledge and wisdom I have picked up along the way.
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When you no longer split your flow of energy with contradictory thoughts
I seeked God for years. I wasnât living in a way that would tell you that but there were moments where I cried out to him. I felt so far off from the picture of someone who loves God was suppose to look like but today I could tell you that he loved me anyway.
My faith is what had me call out to him but there were things I would do because of my fears. One of those fears was experiencing disloyalty again. I feared being lied to and what I call scammed.So I would try to control things. I would limit how much I invested and how much I believed someoneâs words. I never wanted to be blind sided again. When it came to do dating I would try and get answers anyway I could. Whatever they told me didnât count. I had made up my mind long ago that I wouldnât give anyone that much credibility.
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Today is a new day and I plan to take advantage of it
I woke up this morning with a grateful heart. Lately, Iâm remembering more and more to count my blessings which Iâm happy to say that it is making me realize more of what I have. One of my biggest fears has always been that I would realize it too late and I thank God for opening my eyes and making my heart desire things that I feel are better for me. Iâm learning to cherish people and things around me.
Right now I feel like Iâm getting closer and closer to the things I want. I just have had a few set backs which at times bother me a little bit. Today is a new day and I plan to take advantage of it. One of my goals is to stop giving negative things a voice. I feel I was starting to form a bad habit of that. At the end of the day, thatâs not who I want to be or what I want to represent.
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How many times do we say the things that we wish we could take back? Not so much what we say, but how we say them. In moments like that it seems to probably be the worst time to have said what we said. Maybe we were meaning to, but it just came out wrong. Said it wrong, wrong time, wrong way.
Why writing it out helps.
Youâre able to figure out patterns. Gives you data that you can measure. Helps you get past your perspective. Allows you to develop a new plan. Tracks it all. Creates awareness. Relieves stress. You could see patterns clearly. You can see how far you have come. Clarity.
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Iâve had my moments to say the least. Free bird. but all those moments came at a cost. Learning to count the cost of my decisions has been a journey. The things God shows me when there are lessons to be learned. So many things he teaches me along the way and I have found out that his way is always the better way.
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Order is never observed: it is disorder that attracts attention because it is awkward and intrusive â- Eliphas Levi
Yup. Black sheep.
Always drawing attention to myself for the wrong things.
Saying the wrong thing at the wrong time too often. Saying things I shouldnât have and doing things that a lot of people have labeled crazy or weird. That was me! Who I am now is far from that girl. I now have learned to choose my battles. Some things are just not worth it.
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With every trial, every error, every heartbreak, I let the parts in me that allowed it.. to die. I gave life to other things, better things. I wish I could say it came easy but the truth is that some of those times when I knew I needed to let go, I still wanted to hold on.
Remembering how God got me out the emotional mess that I was in was the process that helped me break through every time.
He showed me how to pick my life back up again but this time I was a different me. I am a little wiser, a little stronger, a little better because of it.
I think thatâs what he meant when said beauty for ashes.
``` To console those who mourn in Zion,
To give them beauty for ashes,
The oil of joy for mourning,
The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness;
That they may be called trees of righteousness,
The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified. Isaiah 61:3 NKJV ```
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When something ends and after I grieve it, I ask myself, I wonder who I am going to be after this? Until I can look back at this moment with strength, I wait it out.
Who I rise as is always worth the old me that I bury. Though I feel so deeply and when things end I feel like it kills me a little bit, re-building my world is my favorite thing to do.
After my ex, the girl he knew was no longer. I learned what loyalty means on a deeper level. Because of what I experienced, it gave me a new non-negotiable. If I canât trust you, I canât love you. After betrayal in friendships, I learned the art of privacy. Not everyone around me needs to know of the blessings that I hold dear to my heart. Somethings are worth keeping sacred. In giving too much, I learned to draw the line when my giving was being taken for granted. So I raised my standard for the person I was going to be and for the people I was going to keep around me.
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One lamp lights a whole room.
One sun warms up the whole world.
One moon illuminates all the cities at night.
What is suppose to be complete darkness isnât left without a light that he left on.
One line drawn in the sand and no further than that can the Ocean go.
One you can change peopleâs đ
One action is all it takes. â
I have always been the black sheep. Little did I know I was that one sheep that he would use đ
đAll he needed was for one to say yes. This one.. all the things he can do with one is more than enough.
Begin again.
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My life slowed down when Covid first happened but I was still feeling like I never had enough time in a day. I had a 9-5 and it just seemed that my weekends and my time after work were spent doing things that needed to be done but werenât exactly getting me anywhere.
Before COVID, I was always on the go. I had multiple bags in my car. A gym bag. A work bag. A beach bag. A just in case bag. (I strongly believe in mental health days.)
Then I didnât have a 9-5 and the gyms shut down. Now I had the time I needed right? Nope. âWhat I would accomplish if only I had the timeâ wasnât happening.
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I didnât and still donât love every song but it was in my nature to notice the things I loved. I always found the most pleasure in the smallest of details. I have always found the things that God made to be the most beautiful things.
God put so much detail in so many things and a lot of the time unless you slow down you miss it. One of my favorite country songs is âI saw God todayâ by George Strait. He talks about how Godâs fingerprints are everywhere but we donât look. My pastor covered this one time too. He said that God created beautiful things for us to capture our hearts. The proof is in the details.
Watching the sunrise, the ocean and its immensity, the sound of waves and the way I love to feel the sun on me. I really do feel sun-kissedbecause of how warm and fuzzy it feels to lay out in the sun. Summer is my favorite season.
Although I am able to tell you about these things now, I spent some time forgetting that all these things existed.My focus was not on the things that made me happy. My focus was on my insecurities and my fears.
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Growing pains. Experiencing heartbreak with lovers and friendships â let downs, disappointments, and trials didnât make it easy for me to hold on to joy. Eventually my feelings caught up with me. My emotions began to run the way I showed up at work, with friends, family and in life. What I was trying to suppress on the inside was showing on the outside. At work sometimes I didnât show up because I had been drinking the night before and I just couldnât make it to work the next day, not with the way I was feeling. It was a âjust canât, todayâ kind of day. Those kind of days were starting to be less rare. I started missing birthdays and other things that were important to my friends and family. A flake. I was becoming a flake.
I started living my day to day in survival mode. I had two moods â If I could just get through today or drinks tonight?! How could I show up for anyone else if I could barely show up for myself? The only way I showed up for myself was in the most selfish ways. To feel better, for a little bit at least.
The things that use to bring me joy, didnât anymore. Joy â the happiness that came when I truly felt content and at peace. I didnât feel peaceful enough to be still anymore. Describing me before the heartbreak would sound like this; she loves to go for late night runs and back home to shower, get ready for a show or a movie and bakes brownies because that is her perfect balance. Other nights she likes to read or scrapbook (they call her young grandma at work). She has a cleaning playlist and early morning playlist because early mornings are her favorite. She loves her dogs and dogs that are not her dogs, so all dogs. She loves candles andcountry music. People ask her, âwhat donât you loveâ because every song that plays she loves and every movie they watch, she loves!
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ON FEAR
On the other side of fear is your freedom.
The louder your fear gets, the busier you should get with creating, doing, and working on yourself.
It takes work. It takes time. It takes failing and not getting it done right the first time or the first couple of times. It will be lessons in learning to let go of old ways and old thinking patterns.
Eventually, you learn what old patterns and bad habits bring you and you'll choose better.
Sometimes you know better and don't do better until one day you do. Just keep trying to become it and eventually you will.
The intention set eventually becomes the action done.
Working out consistently is one of those things you say you'll do before you actually do. It takes time and when you finally stick with it there really is no going back -once youâve been exposed and accustomed to better.
Feeling and looking better makes the work worth it. Once you know what that feels like you don't just stop. So expose yourself to better so that feeling alone will keep you from falling back.
You might have fallouts but it's never the same if you get what I mean.
Skipping months of workouts are a thing of the past.
We get used to the better we expose ourselves to.
If you want better, expose yourself to better and watch yourself keep going up a few levels.
Winning!
You'll be too busy doing stuff to ever think of what you're not doing.
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TIME and FEAR have a way of keeping us from getting and doing what we want.
Avoiding offers comfort only for so long.
When fear is keeping you from making a life-changing decision it can seem like it's the path of least resistance but it's the opposite.
When you don't choose, you still choose and you're choosing to be in a limbo state (stuck in limbo; is to be unable to move from one position to another)and limbo state is torture.
It's not knowing if the light is green or red.
You make yourself sit at a broken light.
The only thing worst than spending so much of your time questioning your ability to make something happen is to later be too "behind" to even try.
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Life happens and there will always be something stealing our time.
I use to always say that if I didnât have to work a day job then I would have time to do the things I wanted when it came to organizing and business. Fast forward to me not having a day job and I came to learn the hard way that it wasnât how much time I had but how I badly I managed time.
Tell your time what to do
Do what you need to do to get the pressure off of you so you could get what needs to be done, done. Or else the excuses will be made (you know the ones that make us feel better about ourselves) and theyâll pile up. Once thatâs over. Get to work.
The feeling will pass, the time will too. Donât lose something permanent (action on that time that you will never get back) over something temporary (emotions).
Youâll be amazed at how much better you feel after you give yourself permission to let it all out.
Starting to win.
You managed your time, it didnât manage you. and if you chose to cry for 5 minutes (like I do) ⊠You get back to work refreshed.
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We can create an episode for you by automatically converting text to audio, or you can record yourself. âIf the person you love makes you question over and over if you are enough, only thing is certain â they arenâtâ (Beau,Taplin).
Things have never ended well with ANY guy where I felt confused over their feelings for me. Their mouths would say one thing but their actions would say another. The ending of those relationships would prove true of what I knew all along.
When it comes to dating I have learned not to trust a walking contradiction. To only trust people whose mouths and actions speak the same language. No point to keep on hearing it and not seeing it.
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How is it you claim that I mean so much to you but yet I feel the opposite is true. I donât feel like a good thing in your life. You say I am, but your actions betray your words.
He tells you things to make you feel loved and more secure but it doesnât. While your ears heard what they wanted to hear, your gut wasnât convinced. It doesnât make you feel what you were hoping to feel and while you know why, you donât really know how to communicate it.
They can tell you youâre wrong in feeling a certain way and they can get real logical about it so anything you say that goes against their perception of reality isnât going to get very far in the conversation. Recognizing that someone isnât going to change what theyâre too busy denying will help. First it hits your mind and eventually your heart will follow.
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Wasted.
I didnât want to have wasted my life being wasted.
Wasted time. Wasted life. Wasted potential.
I started cleaning up my life not because of a choice to follow through on it but because the pain and the emotions I felt when it came to my ex were already strong enough on their own and when I drank they became something I couldnât handle.
Drunk me could not handle the heaviness of the pieces I was left with to pick back up.
I would drink enough in hopes of leaving his memory at the bar. I would end up losing everything but the memories. I went from wanting to canât live without it.
But who I am now doesnât need the drink or the man.
I wrote this â letter to God because my emotions finally got the best of me or you could say worst. The messiest moments of my life came from the times I had a little too much to drink.
December 5th, 2017
Dear God, Iâm sorry for not listening and for falling again. I know you love me and you want to protect me and I know you wonât force me to do anything I donât want to do. I hope God that you could help me not keep falling for this temptation that is getting me in these situations. I donât want to want to drink anymore and I donât want to want all the bad things that I do anymore.
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When there is gratitude in my heart and Iâm feeling truly grateful I respond to life with my heart and other people around me benefit from it.
So thankful I am, thankful to have lost what wasnât serving me at all. I learned every time I lost something. One of the biggest things I am grateful for was the ability to grasp the idea that by losing, I ended up gaining. When there is gratitude in my heart and Iâm feeling truly grateful I respond to life with my heart and the people around me benefit from it. I come from a much more centered place. I donât allow it to take away from me because I donât allow its toxicity.
This is where the subtracting has come in handy, by losing people and things, I have found SO much more! The best part of not having toxic things or toxic people in your life is that you donât have constant smoke in your eyes blocking your clear vision and then having to question YOUR OWN eyes and wonder why everything looks so blurred. We lose sight of the real problem. Pro tip: itâs not always us, itâs what we choose to keep around.
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It all starts with awareness. For me, it was learning to leave my âfriendsâ because I didnât want to have people in my life that were constantly bringing up things just to make me feel bad and make themselves look better. I didnât know then, but when you have people who are always bringing up the negative things in your life just know that it is NOT a dig at you as much as it is their insecurities talking out loud. In that case, it is perfectly ok to be alone rather than in bad company.
Yes, we all have insecurities but we donât need to hang out with anyone who points them out constantly. All that does is bring toxicity into your life and to be clear
Toxicity: The degree to which a substance (a toxin or poison) can harm humans.
I had friends that werenât really my friends by definition and they didnât even seem to reflect any of the same core values I had, yet I allowed them to become part of my world. I felt the need to constantly watch my back around them and looking back Iâm not sure why I even called them my friends.
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A lot of people will do it just to avoid the hard places in between their mistakes and passions.
Releve We have a tendency to focus more on what is missing than what we have. The reality is that we see the potential in our minds of what our life could be with a little more of(insert whatever you need more of).
However, we will fog that vision right up with the things we crowd it with. Between the bad and the good, we fill in the gaps with things that sometimes take us backward instead of forward. A lot of people will do it just to avoid the hard places in between their mistakes and passions. Itâs a comfort most settle for. What we should learn to do is embrace the space especially when we feel we are coming up short. A little white space never hurt anyone.
White Space; Condition/s when your physical, mental, emotional states are liberated from unnecessary restrictions/limitations so that you can function at your best.
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The hardest part of life is having to filter out and cut people out of your life is that you never think you will have to. People who you arenât sure of, I now know to cut them out immediately!
To me, it isnât worth the time and energy to figure out the person in question and if it werenât for me double guessing myself in the past those people would have been gone and I wouldnât have had the experiences that I had. Trust me, I could have done without.
Mentally, emotionally, and even financially it cost me. It was a growth moment for me. I realized how little I wanted to be part of a superficial world. My energy couldnât stand being around so much negativity. At least that was my take away from my last experience. BUT here is the best thing about it all. I didnât give a sh& in the end and when it was all said and done, I felt it was necessary. For someone who has as much empathy towards others as I do, burning bridges does a better job at making sure I donât keep repeating the same mistake. It ensures it is done and over with for good.*
Yup. Too much, too far. K. Time to move on with life.. without (insert person).
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God is known as the Prince of Peace! But before you can fully understand how it works you have to live it yourself and before we experience the peace of God, we must experience peace with God. God will cover you in peace when you seek him. When you look for his truth. Youâll find his truth in the bible. Some people call it the book of life. I never understood it until I lived it. Everything and I mean everything he covers and the way he can make it so you can understand because itâs alive. He will send you the right words at the right times. Sometimes all we need is a now word.
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Tomorrow is never promised. It is something most of us donât like to think about but unlike other realities in my life that I choose to avoid, this is not one of them. Forgetting what and who is important in life is not worth the temporary comfort that can bring a lifetime of regret.
Real change happens on the level of a gesture. Doing one thing differently than before.
Start
If you are a detailed-oriented person, create a list of ideas and use it as a reminder or leave yourself a random note that youâll find later. Leaving myself notes and finding them later helped my attitude adjust when my mind started to keep score of peoples wrongs.
Take care of what you have while you have it
Family, friends, lovers, and pets because they are precious gifts. We are only borrowing them. It brings a warm feeling when you take care of things with love.
Learning to be loving sits well with your spirit. It brings a calm and peaceful feeling and with that comes power.
A power that canât be taken from you. A power that will give you the ability to pull people into your peace instead of them pulling you into their storm.
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I donât remember the details, but I remember the feeling. The feeling always comes with this urge to hold on and itâs followed by words that tell me to let go. The day he left was the same day I let the dream of us die. When he left he took a part of me that I will never get back but no one said that the price you pay for lessons learned didnât come at a price. If in closing the door to my pain, it opened the door to my purpose then I could only assume that nothing ever went right because itwasnât right.
Loving and leaving donât go together. Neither did we.
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Losing him helped me grow so much. As a person, in relationships, in general. I stopped and reflected on what I wanted and needed in my life. Also, the kind of woman I wanted to be. I canât give him all the credit because I had a lot of growing up to do. I learned to not play games. Iâll never know because I played too much with fire not realizing how much it would burn me. All the games we played⊠they taught me that in winning, I lost.
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Problems can bring pain and pain develops strength and strength develops character.suffering produces perseverance;perseverance, character; and character, hope. Roman 5:3
Your goal is to not lose the dream.
The way to do that is to keep our eyes on your North Star. Itâs the map that was given to you to help you get to your destination.
The place only YOU were made to arrive to.
That God-given dream. It was planted in your heart on purpose and for a purpose
and it was planted only in yours.
If you are confused or unsure of what it is you were made forâŠ
Ask yourself this. In an ideal world how would you be living your life?
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Has is it ever crossed your mind that the enemy doesnât want you to be confident in yourself so he finds ways to keep you insecure?
It recently occurred to me that the enemy doesnât want people who were born to lead to be confident and secure. He finds ways to keep you insecure because if he can keep you so self-focused on the abilities you lack to do what you are here to do, you wonât be much of a threat to him and you definitely wonât be of any help to others. Serving others is a big part of the reason we are here.
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I learned to let go of some things. I learned to give someone else a chance to what made me happy once. I felt God put it in my heart because there are some things/ gifts that continue to give. The gift that keeps on giving. I do believe that in letting things go, you can bless someone else. Knowledge, introductions, and exposure are things that I feel continue to bless people. That is why I could never bring myself to throw a book away. Iâm thankful for the wisdom it brought me or perspective and I like to see it continue to do what it was meant to do. In the process of clearing out things and making room for the new things that I felt God was preparing me for, I learned what a privilege it is to be of service and be able to bless someone else(My blessing box).
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I still believe that you were just a taste of what God wants to bring me. I envision a Godly man with a heart like yours but that is made to love me.
It couldnât have been you because we were completely on different pages and God doesnât work like that. You would be happy to know heâs been working on me. He is not a man that shall lie. He never has and he never will. You were the lesson but not my life.
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With no boundaries given, you have less control of your life than you maybe realize. No one knows when to stop asking or requesting because they donât know how much you can and are willing to take on? So they test it and as long as you keep doing it, they will too.
You may not even know your limits until you feel you are drowning. Frustrated and over-whelmed 24/7 is what my life was for that season of my life.
Finding what your boundaries are is knowing what you are willing to do for others without feeling uncomfortable or resentful for having to do it. Knowing where to place your boundaries begins with what you can do for others in authenticity.Meaning you should do the things people ask of you or want from you while feeling like you are showing up as your authentic loving self. Do it with love or not at all. Doing things for the people we have in our life is a great way to show up as someone who is there to serve others and not just for themselves. But just remember that you canât manage what you canât measure. You wonât know if you are serving too much or too little and you will only know when you come out empty.
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At some point, I felt like one more little thing added would be the end of me. I couldnât control my dog, let alone my own LIFE. Itâs like the more I tried to find balance in my life, the more out of balance it got. It wasnât until I stopped trying to balance it all that I finally got control of my life again. I once heard my pastor say that God gave the ocean and mountains their boundaries. Boundaries because without them, they wouldnât know where to stop.
In one split second, I decided that I was going to give some things in my life some much long overdue boundaries. I didnât want to do damage control because it meant possible confrontation with people I loved. Iâve come to realize that Iâm a control freak who never seems to have control, well any REAL control. Wanting to be in control of my own life, but what I had was a lot of people in my life that were controllingme.
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It started with âIâm going to stay hereâ or âNo itâs ok I donât want you to be part of this stressful environmentâ to âIâm sorry, I forgot to tell youâ The apologies kept piling up. Not long after that, I got close to the final âIâm sorryâ This time it was âIâm sorry, I forgot it was your birthdayâ The understanding me was gone. I allowed the space I so freely gave to be so big that after those years spent together, someone would so easily forget to celebrate my birthday?
He wasnât needing or wanting my help. I couldnât label it back then but what I was feeling was rejection â Over and over again. Every conversation was a reminder of how not needed I was. Every excuse was a reminder of shifted priorities. After my birthday incident, I made everything a big deal, even if it wasnât. Call it misplaced anger. I let nothing go without putting up a fight. I showed anger, but I was feeling hurt. I learned that a manâs ability to pursue you or not has little to nothing to do with you.
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Iâll never forget the day I was in Target looking at high -lighters and realizing that I had to change the plan I had envisioned.
It was like a domino effect. His world changed. He changed. I changed. Your hands can only catch so much before getting too full â Things have a way of snowballing in your life. The little space between us ended up being two worlds apart.
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If we go back to the beginning, it started like this⊠I was young, always have been full of spirit, naive you could say and what I thought was in-love. You are a giant in your own world, so to me life was this, I was in college, had my family and friends, and a boyfriend that I was sure I was going to marry. Was great to me, until he wasnât. He hit a rough patch with family and shortly after we did too. I thought that when he hit this rough patch, I would support him. Instead of running to me, he chose to run away from me instead of to me. That was the start of the storm. Like most people I denied the fact that my insides were screaming that something was really off. I canât say I understood what exactly happened until it was all said and done with.
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When I think back to those moments, I have to say that even I wonder what the hell was I thinking. But the fact that I know what I was feeling tells me more than anything I could try and reason with. I know Iâm not the first person to feel things deeply. I also know that the majority of people who get hurt the way I did donât necessarily make their exit strategy a dramatic one.
In fact, I would say I know plenty of people who have left a painful break-up with out so much commotion and dealt with the pain a lot less external. Why did I feel the need to make a show of it? I honestly to this day donât knowâŠexcept⊠I doâŠ. rejection.
The pain associated with rejection is our emotional world and physical world meeting each other. Managing your emotions well is considered being emotionally intelligent. Accessing a situation and acting accordingly. Well, not I. Never have I been that good at handling my emotions. Something about this tipping point I allow myself to get to and there it goes, a ticking time bomb all along.
Iâve always been emotionally driven and even though I could at times stop myself before itâs too late, itâs not always the case. Itâs not even the most likely to happen. What was more likely to happen was that I would end things ungracefully and dramatically.
I donât know a grey area, never have. Itâs black or itâs white â Two major extremes! I surprised myself at how far I could take things. My white space was backing off and allowing too much distance and my black was allowing my emotions to be so involved that it would make everyone question my sanity.
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Letters to God about the sticky situations that I have gotten myself in. Relating with you through it all. Love, relationships, betrayals, heartbreak, fall outs and finding the light at the end of the tunnel.
To ask God to help you say and do the right things because you canât keep playing the same game. Always trying to protect your feelings and ending up hurting yourself or others in the process.
Because I get wanting to show and give the love that you know youâre capable of giving but when youâre running on empty the idea of it is a bit of a reach.
Because I donât always know what the right thing to do is so I pray about the decisions that are needed to make. I donât pray to inform God! I pray to involve God.
The crazy part of feeling worthy of Gods love is that even though we feel we need to be better or behave better to be in his presence, the opposite is true. The worst we are, the more we should come to him⊠eventually our love for him will keep us from steering too far off.
Not knowing what to do but knowing who to go to can be the reason that you donât stay down when you fall down.
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If you find yourself in a situation where you are constantly stressing over problems that are not directly tied to you, itâs time for an adjustment. If you are taking on the burdens of others, you need to come up with an escape plan. Start taking yourself out of their problems and out of their life. Once you take yourself out, you will begin to see the things you couldnât see before.
Itâs hard to see clear when you are in the middle of an emotional storm. Certain people have a certain way of getting us caught up in one.
A problem with the potential to be avoided.
How is it that someone can claim that you mean so much to them yet can do so much to make you feel just the opposite? I read this quote one time that really stuck with me.
âIf the person you love makes you question over and over if you are enough, only thing is certain â they arenâtâ (Beau,Taplin).
It takes a little stepping back to start to see things clearly. Stepping back creates space and space allows you to see you things more logically and not emotionally. Trying to see things when youâre full of emotions will always leave you confused. One thing about emotions is that they never make sense. So it doesnât make sense to try and make sense of something in that state, youâre really just setting yourself up for failure. But sometimes we just have to see that when we canât make sense of something â we need to drop it right there and then.
Instead, what does make sense in this moment and time? The one thing that will always make sense when nothing else does is eliminating all that doesnât. Itâs like spring cleaning your emotions. What is it that YOU need to do right now to clean up the mess?What do you need to get rid of, so you can start seeing the things you want to keep, the things you like the things that bring you joy, the things you canât enjoy anymore because too many emotions are clouding your vision, causing you stress and emotionally draining you?
INPUT
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God knew when I would meet him. He allowed me to experience the world first. He patiently waited for me to come to him for help. Maybe you have met him already. Maybe you havenât yet. Just know that his timing is always perfect. With his loving nature you canât help but love him. I didnât know how but he showed me how.
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When I was younger my dad told me something that caught me by surprise.He said most of my problems were originating from the fact that I didnât love myself.
I was confused.. Â of course I loved myself. âBut if you love yourself, why do you treat yourself that way?â â Dad. Before I got a chance to answer, he said âIâm careful with the food I choose and things I listen to because I love myself and taking care of yourself is part of loving yourself.â
Because of how selfish I was back then, I felt I loved myself a little too much.
Turns out my selfishness stemmed from lack not love.
Running on empty or trying to find fulfillment in the wrong things will leave you in constant struggle.Selfishness is really a void that is trying to be filled.
Trying to find fulfillment in the short term things will leave you repeating things full circle and wondering how you got there again.
Like fast food, it will only leave you trying to figure out a way to get rid of it.
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My first heartbreak wasnât a secret to anyone because it was quite eventful â sometimes I found myself blabbing about it. Drunk weekend nights ended in letting half the bar know what had happened in my life.
I felt I broke my own heart by ruining us and I couldnât talk about it. I couldnât misplace the hurt and be angry at him. I felt the void and it hurt too much. I would get upset if people brought him up. It bothered me to hear anything that had to do with him or about him because I felt the sting as if it was a fresh wound.
I didnât make sense of it until it we were over. Wondering at times what was I thinking? â Too many games⊠I couldnât even keep track of them. I was hot and cold. I would say one thing but mean another.
Back then I was hoping I could act that insane and do everything to push him away and he somehow could look past it and make it work. I was hoping he could see through it all and know that I was just scared. But instead he wished me the best. So many conversations of the same thing â he was trying to let me know where his head and heart were at and how he wanted it to workout but all the things I was doing⊠he didnât say it, but I knew.. who would put up with it? Iâll never forget the look he gave me when I disappointed him. It was this softness mixed with hurt but understanding all at the same time. He had lived this already but wild nights out with friends werenât him so much anymore.
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Itâs never been too out of reach for me to see God work in my life like this. I have always seen his hand in my life. Sometimes we go through things that blur our vision and yes emotions or relationships could get so messy that they blind you and fog up everything but looking back, I bet if you ask yourself where God was at the time you will see his hand in it. Sometimes we canât see or feel him in the middle of the storm but once the storm passes we can.
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For the longest time I felt like I ruined us. The version of me you were getting wasnât even half of who I am now. We were in two different chapters of our lives. You wanted commitment, I didnât know what I wanted. I know now that I was provoking you- trying to get a reaction from you because that was proof to me that you cared. I didnât understand back then how love worked. With love you donât play any of those games. I felt you knew that. You were calm. You were understanding. You were set in your career and clear on your priorities. You wanted to be with me. You said it and you showed it. I was a hot mess back then. I was unsure. I was unstable. I was inconsistent. I was insecure. I was crazy. I didnât know what I wanted back then in my career and my priorities were not clear. I wanted to be with you too. I said it but I didnât show it.
After us, my outlook on life changed. Nothing specific but the experience made me want to rise. You made me want to be better.
I envisioned us together. I felt I didnât have to try with you, you got me so well. I never knew that doing nothing with someone who could feel joyful. Iâm not the type to not voice my needs and requirements but I felt different about you and I wanted to take you as you were.
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wasn't even half of who I am now. We were in two different chapters of our lives. You wanted commitment, I didn't know what I wanted. I know now that I was provoking you, trying to get a reaction from you because that was proof to me that you cared. I didn't understand back then how love worked. With love, you don't play any of those games. I felt you knew that. You were calm. You were understanding. You were set in your career and clear on your priorities. You wanted to be with me. You said it and you showed it. I was a hot mess back then. I was unsure. I was unstable. I was inconsistent. I was insecure. I was crazy. I didn't know what I wanted back then in my career and my priorities were not clear. I wanted to be with you too. I said it but I didn't show it.
After us, my outlook on life changed. Nothing specific but the experience made me want to rise. You made me want to be better.
I envisioned us together. I felt I didn't have to try with you, you got me so well. I never knew that doing nothing with someone who could feel joyful. I'm not the type to not voice my needs and requirements but I felt different about you and I wanted to take you as you were.
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After you I couldnât even pretend with anyone else. Trying to replace you didn't work and it only highlighted all the things I missed about you. You were loving and you were good but you werenât a doormat and it was just another thing I wasnât used to. An adult addressing things gracefully. When I felt and knew I had done enough to push you away, I knew that I wasnât going to be able to replace you anytime soon. No one else could take up that space. I know because I tried.
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I never got to say this but I am sorry for choosing to keep around the more toxic things in my life. I reached back to something I knew that wasnât good for me instead of facing my fear and trying a new thing. Thereâs a comfort in the things that are familiar, even if they arenât good even if it is living in dysfunction. I didnât need to worry about anyone breaking my heart because I was doing a good enough job of it
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The minute I realized how much I liked you, I did everything I possibly could to ruin it. I didn't know how tainted I was. Feeling too much scared me and in my mind I knew how it would end so I did everything I could to speed it up. I wanted it to end before I could get caught by surprise and risk having my heart broken because it felt too good to be true. I didnât think twice. You touched my heart too much and I wasn't going to risk my sanity again. I already knew what that felt like. So keeping you at arms length and not giving you the power to catch me by surprise was my way of burning the bridge so I wouldnât have to cross it twice.
Before you, dating was something I did but things never were that serious because I never wanted to date in the first place. I had been with someone for a long time and what was supposed to have been marriage turned out to be betrayal and it almost cost me my life, quite literally. 20 stitches and a lesson of a lifetime. It was a horrible experience that I would, could never relive.
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You know the one thing I can't see myself forgetting was the way I felt when you looked at me. In your eyes, I could see your sincerity and I could feel you were an honest man. I know you cared about me. Like you weren't trying to save me but you would try to help me and you kept trying until you couldnât. You came along when I least expected you to and even though I never told you, I fell in-love with you and all the little moments. I could look back at some of those moments and smile. I felt really happy. I hadn't experienced that level of genuine happiness with anyone else. The kind where we didnât have to try and have a good time but just did. Doing nothing felt like something with you.
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A serious health issue could force us into finally making that diet change or finding time to exercise. Letâs not forget the investment that comes with planning and prepping and now we are also talking about a change in our habits but sometimes a little is just enough.
I was forced to change my bad habit of drinking coffee on an empty stomach when I got an ulcer and had a cyst on my uterus rupture, sending me to the emergency room. Now I just make sure to add a banana or something light with my morning espresso. âïž
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The funny thing about serial dating and flings is that if youâre not healed or whole all by yourself being with others will only make you feel more alone than actually being alone does. The fear of being alone was always much bigger in my head. The fear was highlighted by moments when I was alone and my thoughts would get to be too much and I wanted to find a quick distraction to avoid feeling like that. I now see that feeling stemmed from avoiding something in the first place.
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Iâve always felt that having something half-way is a lot harder than not having it all. Choosing to keep something "kinda" around is choosing to keep constant reminders of the disappointing choices we sometimes make.
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Itâs great if we love our life and are living a good life but what if you donât like the life youâre living? For some itâs not so much physical as it is emotional or a mindset andperception is reality.
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Everything that happened is now a blur except what I was feeling. The confusion was only the beginning of a very long healing process. Twenty stitches on my arm and sitting in the emergency room couldn't make time seem any slower. Talk about a time to reflect.
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My boss never gave it a second thought to overload and overwhelm me. People asked me to do a million things and my phone was constantly going off. I felt I already had too much to do, so to me, pointless chit-chat was a waste of my time.
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Too much or too little of anything is NEVER good. There is beauty in balance! But how do you find balance? Well, it starts with BOUNDARIES.
Giving the right things and people a limit to what lines they can NOT cross is the first step to learning to live a beautifully balanced life.
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Books. I had tons of them. Really, they took SO much room! I started going through them. I accepted that they served their purpose and that I could let go and better yet, why not let it bless someone else? I found comfort in that. I made two piles. Pile one was - TO READ pile, I had yet still to read or maybe I wanted to read a second time before putting it in the other pile. My other pile was my DONE WITH pile. A couple of boxes were put in my trunk and donated at the local library. Petite person over here who struggled to carry each box over. Itâs ok because the physical strength I lost there was gained in emotional strength. My will power was getting stronger.
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In the middle of trying to figure my life out (for the millionth time).. in the middle of chaos, I rolled up my sleeves and decided I was going to get to work. I was going to start again but this time I was going to follow God and do it his way. I couldn't do it and he do it at the same time so I could continue to do it my way or I could learn to do things his way.
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"She chose to delight in God"
She overcame everything that was meant to destroy her. She had a superpower no one knew she had, including her. It wasn't until she tapped into the promises of God, she would soon find out how much she could really do. With him going ahead of her, nothing was impossible.
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There have been times when I have been in situations where Grace is the last thing I would imagine I would have. Yet, somehow it was all I had. The things God has done for me and the times he has filled in all the gaps of what I was missing couldnât be counted because I have lost count of all the times.
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Release it. Release your gift. Release your wisdom. Release those things that once made you happy.
Youâre making room for better things now. Let them make someone else as happy as it once made you : Let those things teach someone else the way they taught you. Let someone else know what you learned the hard way. Let someone else know what you wish someone would have told you. That gift was meant to gift not only you, but others.
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