Habit Your Way with Dean: Recent Episodes
Deandra Serrano
Hello and Welcome to the Habit Your Way With Dean podcast! Where you will learn to transform into the best version of yourself, become a self-love expert, shift your mindset. and build new habits to help you cultivate a life of freedom. On this podcast, expect vulnerability as I too am growing on this long- beautiful journey with you. If you have not yet done so, hit the subscribe button so you never miss an episode.
Me gusta creer que Dios está obrando entre bastidores para que yo no tenga que hacerlo. Él está moldeando mi futuro a la perfección y tiene un plan, y yo puedo confiar en ese plan. Mi tarea es tener fe en que mis circunstancias actuales no son el objetivo final de Dios y que hay algo mucho más grande que se revelará a su debido tiempo.
Ve el episodio aqui: https://youtu.be/GGw3pr-Cuas
I like to believe God is working behind the scenes so I don't have to. He is perfectly molding my future and has a plan and I get to trust his plan. My job is to have faith that my current circumstances are not God's end goal and there is something so much bigger that will be revealed in his time.
Watch here: https://youtu.be/WdCzFA2Qx6E
La disonancia cognitiva es el resultado de una falta de coherencia entre nuestros valores y nuestras acciones; esto disminuye nuestra autoestima y nuestra confianza. En este episodio aprenderás:
1. Cómo influyen la autoestima y la confianza en nuestra vida
2. La importancia del autoconocimiento
3. Dos métodos para aumentar tu autoestima y tu confianza
Ve el episodio aqui: https://youtu.be/Ycl5AcHkvxQ
Cognitive dissonance is the outcome of misalignment between our values and our actions; it decreases our self- esteem and confidence. In this episode you will learn:
1. How self- esteem and confidence impact our life
2. the importance of knowing oneself
3. two methods to increase your self- esteem and confidence
Watch the episode here: https://youtu.be/8Mf79Rw1Dyg
El factor que mejor predice la felicidad es la calidad de nuestras relaciones. En este episodio, profundizamos en los miedos que nos mantienen aislados y aprendemos formas de construir relaciones desde el desapego. Aprenderás:
-qué son el aislamiento social y la soledad
-los peligros del aislamiento social
-sobre nuestra necesidad fundamental de pertenencia
-a construir conexiones basadas en la autenticidad
escucha el episodio aquí: https://youtu.be/Qvz0m1HOtFo
ve el episodio de la comunicación asertiva aquí: https://youtu.be/cutv14-O2ZQ?si=twgHHSEs2vm1ds8b
The #1 predictor of happiness is the quality of their relationships. In this episode, we dive deep on the fears that keep us isolated and learn ways to build relationships with detachment. You will learn:
-what social isolation and loneliness are
-the dangers of social isolation
-you will learn about our fundamental need to belong
-you will learn to build connection rooted in authenticity
Watch here: https://youtu.be/har6XnjK1IY
El escapismo y la disociación no son algo malo; son la forma que tiene tu cuerpo de afrontar el estrés. En este episodio:
-Aprenderás qué son el escapismo y la disociación
-Comprenderás por qué surgen estos patrones
-Aprenderás nuevas formas de afrontarlos utilizando la Ventana de Tolerancia
Ve el episodio aqui: https://youtu.be/CQdSTKo-fj4
El episodio sobre la regulación hacia la conexión de mente y cuerpo: https://youtu.be/QHg3d3w2_z0?si=1-HpwUV2dZ-jmm1j
Escapism and dissociation are not bad, they are your body's way of coping with stress. In this episode you will:
-Learn what escapism and dissociation are
-Understand why these patterns come up
-Learn new ways to cope by using the Window of Tolerance
Watch here: https://youtu.be/0Z9O6r03vt0
En este episodio reflexionaras sobre tu estilo de comunicación y si esta dañando tus relaciones. También aprenderás a comunicarte de una manera asertiva para tener mejor relaciones. Hablaremos sobre la comunicación pasiva, comunicación agresiva, comunicación pasiva- agresiva y la
comunicación asertiva
ve el episodio aqui: https://youtu.be/cutv14-O2ZQ
Do you feel unheard and unseen in your relationships? This episode will help you understand your communication style (passive, aggressive, assertive) and whether it's working for you + what you can do to communicate assertively.
Watch the episode here:
https://youtu.be/aYjglssZVc4
Te has estado reprimiendo a la hora de compartir tu pasión con el mundo por miedo a ser visto y rechazado? En este episodio, profundizamos en el acto de compartir nuestro talento desde un lugar de servicio y autenticidad. En este episodio aprenderás:
-los beneficios de ayudar a los demás
-los miedos que nos impiden compartir nuestra pasión
-a ganar claridad sobre tus pasiones
-a desapegarte del resultado
Ve el episodio aqui:
https://youtu.be/SeEIO36AY_s
It's my 25th birthday and I would love to share the wisdom I have learned thus far.
Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/sN10lU2g5OM
Have you been holding back on sharing your passion with the world due to fear of being seen and rejected? In this episode we dive into sharing our talent from a place of servitude and being. In this episode, you will learn:
-the benefits of helping others
-the fears that stop us from sharing our passion
- gain clarity on your passions
- to detach from outcome
Watch on YouTube here:
https://youtu.be/ryu7ut21vzk
La regulación emocional es la respuesta a muchos de nuestros problemas.
En este episodio aprenderás:
-Cuánto duran las emociones y la razón por la que se quedan atascadas
-Que las emociones son energía en movimiento
-Formas de mantener la energía en movimiento y soltarla cuando esta estancada
-Y a integrar la conexión mente-cuerpo para generar una sensación de seguridad.
Ve el episodio aqui: https://youtu.be/hIUusd16FzY
Emotional Regulation is the answer to many problems.
In this episode you will learn:
-How long emotions last and the reason they stay "stuck"
-About emotion's as fleeting energy
-Ways to keep overwhelming energy moving when stuck
-Integrating the mind- body connection to create safety
You could watch the episode here: https://youtu.be/QHg3d3w2_z0
Emotion Chart link: https://www.etsy.com/listing/4416064175/understanding-my-emotions-chart-kids?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_-paper_and_party_supplies-other&utm_custom1=_k_Cj0KCQjw2MbPBhCSARIsAP3jP9yIaBaR1wi0zZ1Pc9ArgTSoG7neGGLyXUQba0jRFS5UD6VRCXchgMaAm5sEALw_wcB_k_&utm_content=go_15222226012_129278854013_560419012958_aud-2079782229334:pla-2313314655801_c__4416064175_12768591&utm_custom2=15222226012&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=15222226012&gbraid=0AAAAADtcfRL5PTGQ6ZgJTQMwRVmSfh0if&gclid=Cj0KCQjw2MbPBhCSARIsAP3jP9yIaBaR1wi0zZ1Pc9ArgTSoG-7neGGLyXUQba0jRFS5UD6VRCXchgMaAm5sEALw_wcB
La comunidad se construye a través de inconveniencias ocasionales. En este episodio aprenderás:
•La importancia de la comunidad y sus beneficios
•La importancia de la soledad y sus beneficios
•Cómo encontrar el equilibrio entre la comunidad y la soledad
•Y cómo construir comunidad
Ve el episodio aqui: https://youtu.be/IcpIJXkVjQQ?feature=shared
Community is built through occasional inconvenience. In this episode you will learn:
-The importance of Community and its benefits
-The importance of solitude and its benefits
-Finding balance between community and solitude
-And how to build community
Want to watch the video on YouTube? Here is the link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2_jSnmDLuc
El hecho de “ser” tiene que ver con sentir las emociones. Cuando dejas que existan sin justificarlas, sientes paz aún cuando hay dolor por qué no estás peleando contra ti. El pensar cuando sientes emociones no significa que estás sanando, solo déjate sentir las emociones y ten la experiencia humana que todos tenemos.
Es muy facil el abrir redes sociales, la cerveza, el refri etc.. en momentos de dolor. En este episodio, te invito a sentarte con el dolor y aumentar tu capacidad de sentirlo. Al hacer esto, sentirás una urgencia de correr hacia los comportamientos mencionados arriba pero tú tienes la capacidad de sobrepasar to dolor de una forma más atenta.
Bienvenidos al Effortless Being Podcast. Se que es differente, pero los cambios aveces son buenos. Espero y puedan seguir apoyando el podcast y creando la vida que quieren con despego.
Welcome to the effortless being podcast, (formerly known as the "habit your way with Dean" podcast) where being and love are a default. I am grateful for your support in the Habit your way with Dean podcast and am excited to grow with you through the Effortless Being podcast.
Are you relying on motivation to do the thing you said you were going to do? The thing with motivation is that it leaves you a victim of life because it’s a feeling that comes and goes. Discipline on the other hand, takes accountability and creates the life they want. You’re not lazy! You are simply waiting for a new condition (feel happy, joy, inspired) to happen before you show up for yourself . Whether this is about finding peace, losing weight, bettering your relationship with food, starting a business, or unlearning unhelpful habits, you are worthy and you are capable of building the life you desire.
You're always one decision away from the life you want. What does this mean? Wherever you are in life, whether that is where you want to be or not, you are there because of the decisions you have made in the past. In order to get to where you want to be, you have to make different decisions- you have to choose to show up for yourself. Life will always let you decide and the decision you choose will always either stray you away from what you want or bring you closer.
Reference:
Kress, V. E., Seligman, L. W., & Reichenberg, L. W. (2020). Theories of Counseling and Psychotherapy (5th ed.). Pearson Education (US). https://bookshelf.vitalsource.com/books/9780134450193
This is the book I read for my class. Anyone has access to buy it, you do not have to be a student. You could also do your own research by searching "Existential Therapy"
Happy healing!
El día de hoy les traigo un invitado especial, Daniel Morales para tener una conversación sobre el amor. El amor propio, el amor hacia otros, y el miedo que aveces maneja nuestros comportamientos.
Pueden encontrar a Daniel en TikTok y Instagram como: Danielmorales776
Mis redes sociales: Instagram: oh_deandra Tiktok: Deandraserrano
We have learned that in order to be vulnerable we have to confess our deepest sorrows to the people around us. This is a way of being vulnerable and receiving and giving compassion. However, I invite you to look at vulnerability differently. You can be vulnerable by telling people the things that make you excited, the things you love, by saying "I love you" when saying bye to your loved ones You could be vulnerable by telling people the things that hurt you, and allowing them to tell you the things that hurt them, and simply give them the space and listen. You could be vulnerable by being your authentic self and allowing others to in turn be themselves around you. Vulnerability is love and it is compassion and we all deserve to be vulnerable and allow others to be vulnerable around us.
Anger is a secondary emotion. A lot of times we think we are angry, but we are really just in pain and scared. This episodes gives a deep dive on "anger" and how to heal it.
I always hear people complain about the winter coming and how they feel heavier during this time of year. As someone who sometimes feels heavy during this time of year as well, I am here to tell you that this is something that you could heal . I hope you find the awareness and tools necessary to heal this in this episode.
Some say Emotional Intelligence is more important than IQ for the overall success in ones life. I agree. I believe emotional intelligence itself can solve many of the lingering problems we face. This is your emotional intelligence guide.
What do you think would happen if one tall pillar began to lean on another pillar? Correct, both pillars might fall! The same happens in our relationships. If we lean too much on those we are in a relationship with, whether it's a friendship, romantic relationship, or a relationship with family members, the relationship might fall. This episode is a reminder that you only need yourself to be happy. Other people do not have the ability to make us happy. They can only add to our happiness, but you are your main source of happiness.
Muchas veces dejamos que nuestro pasado defina nuestro futuro "Hice esto por mucho tiempo, que me hace pensar que esta vez si voy a cambiar". Esto nos deja en un ciclo te hacer lo que realmente no queremos hacer. Pero es muy importante saber que eres de confianza y que siempre lo haz sido. Entonces si quieres cambiar algún habito que tienes, tu puedes tomar la decision para hacerlo no importa cuantas veces lo intentaron en el pasado y no funciono. Sigue perdonándotelos y confiando en tus habilidades. Tu pasado no tiene que definirte, tu puedes tomar las decisiones adecuadas para cambiar en cualquier momento incluso si cometiste errores en el pasado.
Most of the time we allow our past to dictate our lives. If I have been a certain way for years, what makes me think I am able to change all of a sudden? This episode is a reminder that you can make the decision to change whenever you want. You are to be trusted.
I know how powerless you may feel when overcoming things like addiction and an eating disorder. You may feel like you'll never be able to "stop" doing the thing you're doing, but I am here to give you more insight based on my experience as I overcame both,
Habrán veces cuando estaremos creciendo y tomando diferentes caminos que los que están alrededor de nosotros. En este momento, nuestros seres queridos alomejor no esten de acuerdo con nuestras decisiones. Y eso esta bien, alguien no necesita estar de acuerdo con las decisiones que tu tomas para hacerte crecer a ti mismo/a! Muchas veces sentimos culpa por que decepcionamos a los que mas queremos, pero esta bien sentir esa culpa (solo es una emoción). Es importante que al sentir esta culpa, estes firme en tus decisiones y tengas la confianza en ti mismo/a que tu tomaste la mejor decision para tu vida!
Have you ever felt such strong emotions after a situation and wanted to respond in that moment because you thought the feelings were due to that specific moment? Me too! However, this episode explains that if you are hysterical (in this case, have intense feelings), then you you are not being activated by what happed right in front of you rather than something that happened in the past.
I have had many ups and downs throughout my healing journey. I am constantly learning and evolving every second of every day and my healing journey looks completely different than it did a couple months ago. Here are four things I have learned as I have evolved in my journey!
Te has sentido frustrado contigo mismo/a por sentir una emoción que te causa dolor? Las emociones como enojo, miedo, y tristeza son muy naturales y cada humano siente miles de emociones al día. Ser emocionalmente inteligente no significa que nunca vas a sentir estas emociones dolorosas. Al contrario, significa que sentirás las emociones, pero as a madurar en ellas. En vez de que la emoción te controle a ti, vas a poder ser el observador sin darle el poder y sin necesitar que se valla para ser feliz. Date el permiso de sentir estas emociones por que siempre van a pasar.
Growing up, a lot of people developed the belief that they have to work for rest. They believe that if they don't achieve a certain goal, then they are not able to rest. As adults, this manifests as overworking oneself to feel worthy of "a break" or rest. The truth is that rest isn't earned or achieved and despite those beliefs we learned as kids, we could develop new beliefs that align with who we want to become now. Give yourself the permission to rest. You might feel guilt and fear when allowing yourself to do this and that is okay! Remember to observe and let go of those uncomfortable feelings.
Do you ever find yourself asking why you're feeling a certain way? You may feel frustrated with yourself because you're feeling a certain feeling you thought you had mastered. If so, you are not alone! Up until a month ago, I thought I was a pro at feeling my emotions and I later found that I did not know as much as I thought I did. What I have come to learn is that just because I am feeling a certain feeling I thought I would NEVER feel again does not mean I am not healing, it just means I am human and need to mature in the feeling. In this episode, I will be teaching you some of the new things I have learned in my emotional intelligence journey.
This weeks episode is a bit different from my other episodes. I went on a retreat and in this episode I talk about my experience! Don't worry, if you are not religious, I think there are still many things you are able to take with you from this episode <3
We all have limiting beliefs, but if we don't become aware of them, they dictate our life. This episode is challenges you to become conscious of your limiting beliefs. With the simple awareness, these beliefs will no longer control your mind and will allow you to do and be what you actually want and not just live off the auto-piloted beliefs that were imposed on you in your childhood and throughout your life.
It is challenging for some to live in a household where family is unsupportive and even toxic. This episode helps you navigate through tough emotions that may come up when dealing with these types of family members.
Pasamos mucho tiempo viviendo nuestras vidas en piloto automático. Hacemos decimos cosas sin pensar y no disfrutamos el momento presente por estar pensando en el pasado o futuro. Vivir en el momento presente es una practica que podemos practicar para empezar a realmente vivir la vida y enfocarnos en lo que esta enfrente de nosotros. Este episodio te da las herramientas que te ayudaran a vivir en el momento presente.
We have been taught to carve out our future and focus on the future and past for much of our life. However, this episode talks about waking up from this autopilot and learning to live in the present moment.
This episode talks about how we often blame external circumstances such as events and people for our lack of inner peace. It is time we take responsibility and create our peace within instead of trying to control everything outside of us.
This episode talks about how sometimes we subconsciously take in other peoples feelings, thoughts, or behaviors as our own. This empathetic behavior leaves us feeling drained and makes us spiral. Learn to witness your outside and inside world without internalizing it.
This episode talks about how we don't trust in our abilities to make decisions for our life and often depend on others to make them for us. This leaves us thinking we are untrustworthy and lowers our self- confidence. It also tells you what to do instead.
In this episode, I want you to decide whether 2022 will be your year. Remember, we cannot control our circumstances, but we are able to make a conscious choice and choose our attitude in the new year.
This episode talks about why we compare ourselves to others and tools to help you stop doing this self-sabotaging behavior.
This episode talks about how we sometimes resist where we are in the moment because of our goals and aspirations and how to learn to accept where you are in the moment even if it is not where you want to be.
This episode talks about how most of us were taught that our needs did not matter and that other peoples needs were superior to ours. This episode teaches us how to set rules with ourselves to ensure we are able to cultivate inner peace by setting boundaries in our relationships and even in the workplace.
Este episodio habla sobre como nosotros mismos somos obstáculos en nuestras metas y como dejar este habito en el pasado
This episode talks about why we self- sabotage as human beings and how to stop. The reason we self- sabotage and hold ourselves back from reaching our goals is because we feel unworthy of reaching them and will therefore subconsciously do anything to stop us from reaching them.
Este episodio habla sobre las traumas que pasamos como niños y como sanar de eso. Aunque seamos adultos y seamos maduros, hay una niña o niño dentro de ti que necesita tu amor y compassion para ser feliz.
This episode talks about how we as human beings have a wounded inner child. This means that when we were kids, we did not always receive the love we needed as kids or our needs were not met. This has manifested in our adult lives when we have an emotional reaction to people, events, or things. It is our responsibility to then be the wise inner parents we needed as kids now and heal our inner child.