Words with myself: Recent Episodes

Luke Rixson

An introspective deep dive into the void by Luke Rixson

After a short break, we return.

Learning is more than just obtaining information, as is healing.

What matters is what we do with the information we obtain.

I talk a lot about personal responsibility, accountability, doing the work, taking your power back. All of it.

But I also think it’s important to understand the world you’re doing that work inside of.

Because you don’t exist in isolation. You exist inside a society, inside a system, inside laws, expectations, habits, incentives, pressures, and all these things that are constantly shaping you. And while that can’t become an excuse, it does need to be understood.

This episode is about that.

It’s about the way modern life keeps us distracted, dependent, isolated, comfortable, and cut off from each other. It’s about alcohol, work, land, ownership, community, nature, freedom, and the fact that so much of what we think is normal has just been slowly taught to us.

And I don’t want this to just be another episode pointing at the problem.

Because I think we have to build something else. Something real. Something rooted in community, autonomy, self-sufficiency, connection, and actual life.

It has to start somewhere. And maybe it starts with us.

Why not here? Why not now? Why not us?

What if being a “master manipulator” isn’t about being cruel, but about trying to keep everyone okay so you can finally feel safe?

In this episode, I talk about people pleasing, control, codependency, childhood trauma, emotional exhaustion, boundaries, and the mask we wear when we’ve spent our lives managing other people’s emotions.

If you grew up around chaos, instability, or emotional outbursts, you may have learned to fix, appease, perform, and hold everything together. But what once protected you might now be poisoning your relationships.

You are not responsible for keeping everyone okay.

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You have made contracts in your life that you probably don’t even remember.

Not the kind you sign on paper, but the promises you made to yourself when you were younger. The things you swore you would become. The people you said you would always be there for. The dreams, ambitions, fears, and protections that once made sense, but might now be quietly ruling your life.

In this episode, I talk about the soul contracts we carry without realising it. The childhood vows, the old relationships, the pursuit of money, the need to never be hurt again, and the versions of ourselves we’re still trying to honour even though we’ve completely outgrown them.

Some contracts deserve renewing. Others need to be ended with intention.

This is about noticing what no longer serves you, letting it go, and making space for commitments that actually align with who you are now.

We often ask for more.

More money.
More time.
More energy.
More space.
More freedom.

But before asking for more, maybe we have to look at what we’re already doing with what we have.

This episode explores the uncomfortable gap between desire and action. The way we say we want a different life, while spending our time, money, energy, and attention in ways that keep us exactly where we are.

It isn’t about guilt. It isn’t about never resting, enjoying yourself, or wanting better.

It’s about honesty.

If you want more, are you actually using what you already have? Are your choices aligned with the life you say you want? Or are you waiting for more resources before you start becoming the person who would know what to do with them?

Maybe the answer isn’t more.

Maybe the answer is using what’s already in your hands.

this whole idea that “communication is key”
is kind of misunderstood

because most people think it just means
“say how you feel”

but that’s not really it

you can talk all day
and still not be honest

still not be real

because the real problem isn’t communication
it’s that we’re not being ourselves when we communicate

we’re filtering
adjusting
trying to be liked

so instead of connection
you get distance

and the worst part is
you don’t even realise you’re doing it

what happens when you stop hiding?

This one’s about the difference between being alive and actually living.

How you can follow the path, do everything right, build a life that looks fine from the outside and still feel like something is missing. Like your life isn’t really yours.

To some degree, everything is in relationship.

But when it comes to personal relationships, what we are really talking about is closeness. Proximity. How much space exists between you and somebody else, and how much of that space is being created by what you are unwilling to reveal.

In this episode I talk about the distance we create in relationships, how that distance is built through fear, shame, self-judgment, and the need to control how other people see us.

I get into openness, honesty, vulnerability, self-acceptance, and why so many relationships feel close on the surface but still aren’t truly intimate.

Because if you cannot be fully yourself with somebody, if you cannot say what you feel, think, or fear, then the relationship is always going to be limited by that.

This is really about learning to accept yourself enough to be seen, and understanding that real relationship can only exist where there is openness.

There’s a good chance that who you think you are isn’t actually who you are.

Most of us build this identity from selective experiences and then just stick to it. We pick a version of ourselves that makes sense and say “this is me” and then we try to be consistent with that.

But it’s not real. You’re not just one thing. You’re not just a good person or a bad person or a confident person or an introvert or whatever label you’ve given yourself. You’re a mix. You’re constantly changing.

In this episode I talk about how we create these identities, why we hold onto them, and how they can actually limit us without us realising it.

Also get into the fear of changing, the pressure to stay the same for other people, and why it feels so uncomfortable to show up differently even when you want to.

It’s basically just about letting go of this fixed idea of who you are and realising you don’t actually have to be that person if it’s not working anymore.

We all want purpose. We all want something that feels meaningful.

But not everyone has that thing. And when you don’t, it can feel like something is wrong with you. Like you’re missing something that everyone else seems to have.

I’ve spent a lot of time in that space. Not really knowing what I wanted to do, trying different things, not connecting with anything deeply, and feeling like I needed to figure it out.

In this episode I talk about that feeling of being directionless, what actually happens when you don’t have a clear purpose, and why searching for meaning can sometimes be the thing that stops you from finding it.

We get into chasing feelings, having too many options, being a generalist, and why comfort on its own isn’t enough.

And also what actually creates meaning, or at least what I’ve come to understand about it.

This isn’t really a “here’s how to find your purpose” episode.
It’s more just an honest look at what it feels like when you don’t have one, and what to do with that.

Who’s actually keeping score in your life?

In this episode, we talk about success, failure, and how easily we label ourselves based on a few moments. The truth is, nothing is that fixed. You can feel lost one minute and everything can change the next.

This is about zooming out, understanding the difference between what you're feeling right now and how your life is really unfolding over time. Most of what we call “failure” is just part of the process.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, behind, or unsure if things are working out, this episode is a reminder that not everything needs to make sense yet.

Just keep going.

Whether you’re in the thick of a hard chapter or standing at an unforeseen turning point, this episode invites you to reframe your pain as preparation, to accept that success and failure are not permanent verdicts, and to find steadiness in an unfolding journey. Stay with us — what looks like an ending may be the turning point you’ve been living toward. Thank you for listening.

Most people say they want freedom.

The freedom to live differently. To travel. To start something new. To walk away from the life that doesn’t quite feel like their own.

But when the moment comes, when there’s no clear plan, no guarantees, no structure, that same freedom becomes terrifying.

In this episode, we explore the strange tension between freedom, responsibility, and meaning. Why people often fear the very life they say they want. Why uncertainty feels so dangerous. And why the safest path can quietly turn into a life lived on autopilot.

We talk about risk, failure, responsibility, and the example we set for the people around us, especially the ones who look to us for guidance.

Because in the end, the only thing we truly lose is time.

And the real question is simple:

How do you want to spend yours?

Is it ever enough? The episode opens with that single, aching question—an ember that grows into a wildfire. You are pushed into a room with a mirror that only shows effort: long nights, missed dinners, the quiet calculus of what must be sacrificed to climb one rung higher. The narrator becomes your companion and your judge, tracing the familiar contours of perfectionism as if reading a ledger of losses.

We follow a scene of relentless motion—hands on a wheel, a stone in the palms, the grating repetition of trying. The Sisyphus story is more than myth here; it’s the daily commute, the bargaining with time, the split-second exchange where work wins and family sacrifices a piece of itself. You feel the tension of choices: do more at the cost of what you love, or step back and risk being labeled as not enough?

The narrative tilts from pressure to philosophy, folding in Buddhist whispers about suffering and sacrifice. Mortality arrives not as a lecture but as an unexpected ally: because everything ends, the tyranny of ‘‘more’’ loses its power. Loss becomes clarity. You begin to see the invisible price tags attached to every ambition and the narrowing tunnel vision that chasing one outcome creates.

Through confession and clarity, the episode interrogates the word ‘‘try’’—how it implies conditional worth and anchors us to outcomes we cannot control. Using vivid examples and honest admissions, the storyteller shows how trying can feed anxiety, while doing—without guarantee—radically frees you. Action divorced from outcome becomes a form of truth-telling; it is how you discover what matters, not how you prove your value.

Truth, here, is not tidy. It is a jagged, compassionate mirror that refuses the comfort of neat answers. The host invites you to notice your own lies: the stories you tell to avoid the sting of uncertainty, the cognitive dissonance between belief and behavior. These are the small betrayals that dull life. The alternative offered is not certainty, but attention—living with honest intention and the courage to adapt when reality demands it.

As the episode moves toward its emotional arc, fear loses its grip not by being silenced but by being seen. You are encouraged to stop bargaining with guarantees and instead to start participating in the experiment of your life. There is a paradoxical liberation in recognizing limits: because you cannot hold everything forever, you have nothing to lose by doing what truly matters to you.

By the final scene the voice is calmer, less demanding. You have been led from pressure to possibility—through sacrifice, truth, and the small act of choosing to do without expecting a trophy. The invitation is simple and stubborn: stop trying to prove your worth, and start living to experience it.

Set yourself free. Watch the show. Marvel at the ordinary miracle of being alive—you might discover that the only thing required for a meaningful life is the courage to act without the guarantee of victory.

Imagine a life built like a fortress, quiet, safe, and carefully arranged to keep every threat at bay. In this episode we follow a listener who realises their fortress is also a prison: every avoided conversation, every unspoken boundary, every friendship never pursued has been a brick in a wall that keeps them from real growth. The narrator pulls back the curtain on mainstream spirituality that feels like escape, revealing how comfort can be a sophisticated form of avoidance.

The story pivots into the painful mirror of self-examination. We walk through a raw, intimate scene where someone asks the hardest questions: Where did I permit harm? When did I stay silent? What shame, fear, or guilt have I buried to survive? Those moments of honesty are framed not as self-flagellation but as the courageous work of naming the truth, the only way to lift the weight of resentment and reclaim agency.

Through vivid examples: failed relationships, brittle boundaries, and the illusion of moral superiority. The episode stakes out what real strength looks like. Strength isn’t being untroubled by anger or upset; it’s sitting in those feelings, facing fear, and exposing yourself to the very things that once made you small. The narrative threads together how practicing boundaries, communicating clearly, and embracing shadow work stress-tests who we think we are.

The climax reframes suffering as a necessary passage, not punishment: growth happens on the other side of discomfort. The host urges listeners to stop preparing forever and to begin trying — to step into the uncomfortable, fail bravely, and learn through lived experience. This is a call to trade hollow safety for the messy, fierce work of becoming whole.

By the end, the episode leaves you with a hard promise: if you truly want change, you must be willing to be uncomfortable. It’s an invitation to start small, expose the fears you’ve hidden, and let the pressure of life reveal what’s real. Tune in to be guided through shame, discovery, and the gritty freedom that follows when you finally choose to feel.

Imagine a warm blanket and a crackling fire — safe, predictable, pleasant. Now imagine that same warmth wrapped around a life you accepted because the alternative felt unknown or lonely. This episode begins there, in the quiet deception of comfort: not always a blessing, but often a soft surrender to what is familiar.

We walk with the narrator through the history of daily life, from hunting and preparing food to tending fires and mending tools, and feel what those tasks gave: purpose, skill, rhythm. Then the story shifts to the present — supermarkets, dishwashers, and instant entertainment — and a slow, stealthy theft takes place. Convenience removes the friction that taught us how to live well, leaving behind a hollow ease that masquerades as progress.

To make it personal, the voice paints a moment by a riverside in rural Thailand: a seven-year-old catching fish with practiced hands, a simple act that holds more survival knowledge and human meaning than entire cities. That image becomes a mirror. The narrator admits to envy — envy for those who can sleep inside the comforting illusion and for the innocence of people who don’t see the cracks. But once you see the illusion, you cannot unsee it.

We then travel into the quiet room of modern minds, where overthinking and anxiety are not diseases but symptoms: brains built for real problems left idle by convenience, creating their own turmoil. Technology becomes a double-edged sword — miraculous yet anesthetizing, a surrogate for intimacy, truth, and work. As AI and media bend reality into a maze of uncertainty, truth itself begins to feel like a needle in an ever-growing haystack.

The narrative becomes urgent. The narrator confesses a refusal to keep pretending, to keep participating in the mirage. That refusal is painful because it isolates: to leave the theater of convenience is to lose friends, routines, and the easy certainties of modern life. Yet the moral center of the episode is not solitary escape but collective rebuilding — the conviction that what’s lost must be reclaimed together.

By episode’s end, this is not just a lament but a plan and a promise: to create real communities where children learn by doing, where relationships are lived not curated, and where work is meaningful again. The narrator’s mission becomes yours to witness — a call to feel the world fully, to choose discomfort over lie, and to join in building a life that truly sustains.

Listen in for a candid, evocative journey from the warmth of the easy chair to the riverside and back, a story that asks hard questions and offers a fierce, hopeful answer: life regained through collective courage and real, messy living.

This episode opens with a dedication to Brenda Bude — a woman who taught the host what it means to live a spiritual life through living itself. Rather than a lecture on doctrines or a list of practices, the episode unfolds like a remembered conversation, full of small, human details that reveal a soul who loved loudly, failed bravely, and never mistook holiness for perfection.

We begin by confronting the image many of us carry of spiritual people: distant, immaculate, somehow above the messy realities of ordinary life. Through an evocative Alan Watts anecdote and the speaker’s own observations, the story pivots to a startling truth — spiritual leaders are, at their core, just human. They laugh, smoke, make mistakes, and crave surprise. The revelation is not a disappointment but an invitation: the spiritual life is not a clean escape from humanity, it is a deeper embrace of it.

Brenda’s life becomes the episode’s anchor. She did not advertise her spirituality; she embodied it. The narrative traces her through trials and joys, showing how endurance, curiosity, and a refusal to get stuck turned everyday living into a form of wisdom. Her faith was not a posture of denial but a practice of showing up: cooking, caring, arguing, loving, and getting back up again. That ordinary devotion, the episode argues, is more profound than most ceremonial claims to enlightenment.

The host then widens the lens, examining how modern convenience has quietly hollowed us out. Machines and comfort have freed time but also carved away meaning: chores, duty, and simple survival once held sacred weight; now they are dismissed as nuisances. The episode dramatizes this loss, painting a world where comfort breeds boredom, where the chase for milestone achievements leaves a lingering emptiness once the trophy is won.

Against that background, the podcast offers a counter-story: meaning is woven into the mundane. Washing dishes, preparing food, tending to relationships — these are not interruptions from life, they are the life. Listeners are guided to see ordinary labor, community care, and full-hearted presence as the very practices that stitch purpose into each day.

Risk and uncertainty are celebrated rather than feared. The episode borrows the logic of dreams and surprises to argue that a life tightly controlled is a life half-lived. The most spiritual people, it insists, are often those who do not label themselves spiritual at all; they are the ones who risk, love, fail, and keep moving forward, finding meaning in the unpredictable turns of existence.

The closing is a soft, urgent plea: stop playing at being less human and start living. Cherish the people and comforts you have without letting them anesthetize your wonder. Practice gratitude not as ritual but as action — as the ways you love and show up. In remembering Brenda, this episode becomes both eulogy and manifesto: a call to live fully, to embrace the messy work of being human, and to celebrate the surprising, imperfect path that leads to real spiritual depth.

We begin with a simple sentence: "The term be present gets thrown around a lot." It sounds familiar until you try to do it. In this episode, a voice takes you on a morning: the rushed shower, the half-eaten breakfast, the train that’s late, the inbox that never sleeps. You feel the pulse of a system that measures value by output, and suddenly presence is not a practice but a luxury you can’t afford.

Through concrete images—cheap new houses built from trees grown for speed, mass-produced shoes designed to break, spreadsheets slapped together to meet a deadline—the story reveals how urgency has seeped into everything we do. The narrator pulls you into the machinery of capitalism: the constant drive to make more, sell more, and become more productive until people themselves start to resemble machines.

Then the episode slows down. We follow a domestic scene: cooking in a hurry versus cooking with intention. The host confesses their own slapdash approach—max heat, dinner in ten minutes—then contrasts it with the deliberate precision of a sushi chef or the careful hands of an artisan chairmaker. The flavors, textures, and satisfaction that come from time and love become metaphors for a life lived fully present.

We meet paradoxes along the way: how efficiency can make life poorer, how convenience breeds constant replacement, how workplace pressure strips away aesthetic care. You hear the logic of profit explained plainly—the faster you churn, the more you sell—but you also hear the cost: homes without character, work without joy, a culture that equates worth with productivity.

The narrative widens to a historical glance: a farmer from centuries past who lived by the rhythm of the sun, intentional but not hurried. The contrast makes modern life look alien, revealing how comfort, distraction, and obligation have multiplied into an exhausting bubble of responsibilities that aren’t truly life’s necessities but the hallmarks of a system that wants you busy.

The episode turns intimate again as the narrator confronts a choice. To be present may require ripping apart the life you know—changing income, priorities, and habits—or finding small pockets of time and stubbornly infusing them with intention. Monasteries and monks become symbols of the radical step: withdrawal as a way to reclaim spiritual health and the quiet joys of being.

By the end, the tone is resolute rather than despairing. The narrator admits they choose not to raise their children in the world they describe; they want to build something different. Listeners are invited into that project—not with prescriptions, but with a livedexample: slow food, careful craft, and the deliberate choice to make presence a practice worth defending.

This episode is a call to attention: to taste your meals, to love the work you can, to notice the harm that hurry does—and to consider what you would have to change to live with intention in a world built for speed.

Stress gets a bad reputation. Like it’s only ever the villain in the story.

In this episode, it’s reframed as something far more honest: stress is currency.

Every demand you meet, every risk you take, every meaningful thing you build or love costs something. Your nervous system is the bank. Whether your life is quiet or chaotic, whether your baseline is high or low, you are always spending. On work, learning, relationships, ambition, survival.

The problem is not stress itself.

It is living like you have infinite funds.

When you spend more than you earn back through rest, stillness, play, and nourishment, you do not just get tired. You go into debt. And eventually the body starts collecting. Motivation fades. Sleep fractures. Energy drains. Life turns gray. Not as punishment, but as a signal. A reminder that biology always keeps the books.

This is a quiet conversation about balance. About overstress and under-stress. Burnout and atrophy. The cost of just keep going. And the warning signs we learn to laugh off until they become impossible to ignore.

If you have been running on borrowed time, consider this an invitation to check the account and start paying yourself back.

When it feels like the universe is out to get you, the question hangs in the air: Why me? This episode opens with that ache—the quiet, furious unfairness of bad things falling on good people—and follows it like a thread through a life that refuses tidy explanations.

We step into scenes of frustration and longing: the well-intentioned efforts that go unrewarded, the moral ledger that seems balanced against you, the sting of watching those who cheat or lie move ahead. These moments are rendered in vivid, honest detail so you can feel the weight of the question and why it refuses to be soothed by platitudes.

Then the narrative turns. What if the hardest truth is also the most freeing—that you chose this life? At first this sounds cruel or impossible, but the episode gently pulls you through that paradox, showing how accepting the choice can loosen the grip of victimhood and dissolve the expectation that life must be transactional.

Life is framed here not as an account to be settled but as a story to be lived. The painful chapters, the unanswered whys, the vanished certainties—each becomes part of your arc rather than proof of punishment. Rather than promising answers, the episode models a different way: to stop solving and start experiencing.

Through examples, quiet reflections, and a touch of wry observation—about plans that disappoint, desires that never fully satisfy, and even the hollow ache of having everything—you’ll be invited to see the paradox as the point. Contentment is reimagined not as absence of desire but as the ability to be present in the wanting.

This is a conversation for anyone tired of bargaining with the world. Listen in to be guided from resentment to curiosity, from expecting justice to embracing story, and to reclaim the simple, stubborn possibility of joy right where you are.

Press play and live the chapter you’re in—not because you must understand it, but because you chose it, and there is a strange freedom in that choice.

Imagine walking into a crowded restaurant, the clatter of plates like distant thunder, a laugh that should have been bright but felt dull in your chest. You describe the night in three tidy words—good atmosphere, cheap, friendly service—and tuck that snapshot into memory. This episode pulls that snapshot apart. It follows a listener who has spent a lifetime translating every tremor of the body into neat labels, and in doing so, has learned to live through sentences instead of raw sensation.

Through vivid scenes—the racing heart that could be excitement or panic, the numbing gray that follows protected living, the ache of grief that resists tidy explanations—this episode shows how language can be both a shelter and a theft. We meet the small misreadings that build into a life of half-experiences: the feeling that is named away before it can be felt, the apology offered as a sentence instead of as regret, the confession of love that remains a syllable.

But this is not a lament; it's a map. The episode follows a slow, courageous practice of refusing the first label, of waiting in the body, of letting emotion move without immediately explaining it away. You’ll be guided through simple, fierce acts—savoring a bite until gratitude surfaces, letting tears follow their own rhythm, sitting with discomfort without narrating it—that teach sensation how to be lived rather than summarized.

The story builds toward a sharp truth: meaning does not arrive because you name it; it arrives because you live it. By the end, listeners will feel invited to disarm the reflex to intellectualize, to lower the walls that blunt joy and dull pain, and to rediscover the textures of feeling that language cannot fully hold. It’s an intimate, urgent call to experience life more deeply—beyond the safety of words.

Listen closely. The next time your chest tightens or your hands tingle, don’t reach for the nearest label—stay, sense, and let the feeling teach you what words never could.

Picture a dinner table where voices rise and then retreat into separate rooms—one partner joins friends to complain, the other seeks kinship in a different circle—and the argument doesn't end, it multiplies. In this episode, we begin not with policy or pronouncements but with that private scene, the quiet echo of a dinner argument refracted back into the self.

Rather than debate what masculinity or femininity should be in the world, the narrator walks us inward, inviting us to meet two roommates inside each of us: a masculine and a feminine energy. With a storyteller's patience, he traces how these two parts either conspire or collide, how one can grow loud and exile the other, and how that internal conversation writes the script for our outer relationships.

Through vivid examples—one partner retreating to logic and problem-solving while the other seeks to be heard and held—you'll see how imbalance turns life robotic or chaotic. But this episode refuses tidy formulas. Balance is not a percentage to be measured; it’s a relationship to be tended. We hear how misalignment breeds the very drama we blame on ‘the other side,’ and how complementary dysfunctions can masquerade as stability.

The heart of the episode is a simple, transformative invitation: listen to the parts of you that disagree. Learn to let the feminine be felt and the masculine be trusted. The narrator shows that healing a relationship often begins by harmonizing the small domestic dramas inside your own psyche, then letting those inner changes ripple outward.

By the end you’ll be left with an image that stays with you—a pair of dancers learning each other’s steps inside your chest—and a practical, gentle challenge: notice the conflict, make space for the opposite, and choose to grow toward the center rather than away. This episode is a quiet map for anyone tired of combat, ready instead for a duet.

Step into a conversation that quietly pulls the rug out from under everything you think you know about strength. In this episode of Words With Myself, the host sits with a simple but radical idea: strength is not measured in muscle or menace, but in the steady courage of the gentle. Through vivid contrasts and intimate reflections, the episode opens with the image of the loud, imposing figure—someone who looks strong until you see the fear that fuels that posture.

What follows is a story of reversals: the bully who bristles to hide insecurity, the person who seeks applause for toughness, and the surprising hero—the one who answers aggression with care. You’ll meet the quiet scenes where real strength reveals itself: a hand extended to someone in pain, a calm voice offered to a frightened stranger, a refusal to escalate when everything in you wants to retaliate. These moments are painted not as softness that invites harm, but as deliberate acts of bravery that cost something real.

As the narrative unfolds, the episode explores the paradox that being kind often feels like weakness—yet it demands more courage than posturing ever will. It distinguishes between being “nice” to avoid discomfort and being “good” at great personal cost: the sacrifice, the risk, the lonely choices that build an inner backbone. Boundaries are honored; softness is chosen, not surrendered.

Listeners are invited into a moral reckoning: to choose the difficult path of integrity over the easy comforts of approval, to accept that strength is a practiced discipline forged by hardship, not a state granted by appearance. The host offers tough love—reminding us that real strength requires risk, that comfort breeds complacency, and that an easy life rarely produces courage.

The episode closes like a quiet dare: will you take the road that asks more of you? It leaves you with the image of strength as a commitment—an ongoing choice to be good, honest, and courageous when it matters most. Tune in and let this gentle but insistent narrative reshape how you see power, kindness, and what it truly means to be strong.

Imagine waking one morning and realizing you are not where you thought you’d be. That small misstep — a lost job, a harsh word, an unexpected grief — nudges a scale that keeps tipping. In this episode, we follow a life tilted by momentum: how one event becomes a cascade, how decisions made from pain deepen the fall, and how that same force can lift you back, stronger than before.

Through vivid examples — the unemployed person who loses confidence, the relationship that frays as sorrow grows, the holiday indulgences that drown a year’s progress — the story reveals the invisible physics of our days. Momentum doesn’t shout; it creeps. You don’t notice it until you’re pulled so far that the climb feels impossible. And yet those who recover do so not by magic, but by small, deliberate choices that reverse the direction.

We meet the protagonist of the piece: someone who learns that stability isn’t a perfect life but a resilient response. Stability is adaptability — the ability to get up quickly, to course-correct before the drop becomes a chasm. Using the image of an upside-down pyramid, the episode traces how tiny habits at the base — sleep, food, a workout — stack into confidence, energy, and the courage to take chances again.

The narrative turns to the intimate moments when people hit rock bottom and, paradoxically, begin to rebuild. It’s not about rushing grief or faking courage; it’s about recognizing triggers, avoiding self-sabotage, and choosing the habits that set the upward spiral in motion. A candid holiday-and-birthday anecdote shows how harmless exceptions compound into months of delay — until someone decides to start tiny, again.

By the end, the episode offers more than insight: it hands you a map. Identify the small actions that create upward momentum for you, protect them during hard times, and learn to reset quickly when you slip. The story closes on a hopeful note — momentum is always moving; the question is which way will you nudge it?

This episode explores how meaningful progress takes time but can be undone in an instant by impatience and self-sabotage.

It examines habits and fears that secretly destroy our efforts and offers a clear call to recognize and address those patterns so you can move forward and protect what you've built.

This episode examines why people avoid suffering and how trying to eliminate pain by hardening ourselves can create new problems. It advocates for balance, being strong when needed and soft when appropriate.

Instead of controlling outcomes, the host urges living in the present, accepting uncertainty, taking risks without attachment, and trusting that you can endure and thrive no matter what happens.

This episode explores whether our feelings truly belong to us or are often inherited from others, especially for empaths. The host discusses mirroring, social anxiety, and how external emotions shape our identity.

By recognizing how we pick up and return emotions, the episode shows how awareness and small changes can transform your life and help you reclaim who you are.

This episode explores where feelings come from, how they differ from identity, and why emotions are not absolute truth but valid signals about our experience.

It examines how perspectives, empathy, and past stories shape emotions, and why empaths may struggle to separate their own feelings from others'.

Ultimately it offers a reminder that feelings are temporary and you can choose who you are by changing the narrative and how you respond.

This episode explores what true acceptance really means, not merely acknowledging trauma but fully integrating it into who you are so it no longer controls you.

It examines how anger can consume life, the difficult work of forgiveness and processing, and offers encouragement to make space, grieve, and grow toward freedom.

This episode explores how the Dunning-Kruger effect and self-deception lead us to overestimate abilities and build fragile identities. It explains why projecting an idealized self creates anxiety, depression, and a fear of being exposed.

The host argues that real confidence comes from honesty and alignment between who you are and how you act, not from maintaining flattering illusions. Authentic change requires deep introspection, time, and the willingness to lose what was built on inauthenticity.

Ultimately, the episode calls listeners to take personal responsibility for their inner work: face your truth, become more authentic, and accept the difficult but necessary process of real growth.

This episode explores why change is hard and how treating symptoms never solves the real issue. It explains the need to bring buried fears, shame, and habits into awareness, confront your inner 'monster', and accept all parts of yourself.

Through honest self-inquiry and difficult choices you can replace harmful patterns with supportive habits and relationships, building a foundation for lasting change and true healing.

This episode explores how severe depression and suicidal thoughts often come from a longing for spiritual or ego death rather than a wish to end life. It explains how rigid identities, shame, and unprocessed trauma can trap people and make suffering feel permanent.

The host argues that simply telling someone "don't kill yourself" is not enough and offers a path forward: face the darker parts of yourself, understand and forgive the past, let go of fixed identities, and allow change to create space for healing and renewal.

This episode uses the coin-toss scene from No Country For Old Men to explore how every day we unconsciously stake everything on our choices and how fear of loss can lead to a lifeless comfort.

It argues for intentional, present living: accept risk, be fully engaged in your actions, experiment to find what matters, and choose meaningful experiences over passive safety.

Do you believe that magic is real? Do you believe that God is real? Do you believe that numerology is real? Whether you believe all of those things or none of those things, what you decide your belief is, is what will dictate what you perceive.

Target fixation is a term used to describe when you focus on a certain point and it draws you closer towards it. If you focus on the negative, you will perceive the negative; if you focus on the positive, you will perceive the positive. Your beliefs control and impact your perception, creating momentum that compounds over time.

Changing your perception starts by eliminating negative input, practicing radical honesty, and stepping away from self-deception. By shifting your focus and being open to evidence, you can transform your life and start seeing the signs that lead you toward growth, meaning, and connection.

In this episode the host explores how every word we speak influences our beliefs, emotions, and how others perceive us, tracing language’s power from historical control to today’s everyday speech. The episode argues that words carry vibration and meaning, shaping reality both internally and externally, and encourages listeners to become more mindful and intentional with their language.

In this episode of Words With Myself, the host explores why change often leads to loss, the fear of being rejected for setting boundaries, and how trying to force others to change rarely works. The episode emphasizes accepting the sacrifice that comes with self-improvement, distinguishing between voluntary suffering for growth and remaining a victim, and trusting that the right people will stay in your life while others may fall away.

This episode explores how we take everyday blessings for granted, why grounding yourself in gratitude matters, and how noticing your baseline can bring perspective and calm.

It also explains that wanting more or aiming for change doesn’t make you ungrateful—gratitude and ambition can coexist and both help attract abundance and presence.

This episode explores the belief that our traits are either fixed or changeable, and argues we have the power to change our perspective and habits. It examines confidence, self-ownership, and how reframing choices can help you grow.

Listeners are encouraged to take responsibility for their decisions, notice limiting beliefs, and use practical steps—like exposure and inner work—to become the person they want to be.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore why adults often struggle to imagine what they truly want, arguing that fear, ingrained defense mechanisms, and responsibilities suppress our dreams. Listeners are encouraged to dream without limitations while also realistically considering the full experience—the joys and hardships—of their desires. Through introspection and shadow work, the episode guides listeners to unearth buried aspirations, question automatic beliefs, and find a balanced life that blends freedom with meaningful responsibility.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we discuss quality vs quantity. Many of us pursue longevity and forgo experience quality for safety and comfort, but why live longer in a life you aren't happy with?

In this thought-provoking episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the intricacies of the human ego and the identities we construct. Through deep reflection, we explore how our perceptions often lead us to view the world through limited lenses, resulting in absolute beliefs about fairness, justice, and happiness.

We discuss the dynamics of optimism and pessimism, and the complex interplay between fate and personal agency. By examining how our thoughts shape our realities, this episode encourages listeners to embrace life's complexity and let go of the desire to control every outcome.

Ultimately, the conversation leads to a powerful conclusion: in a world where not all experiences can be labeled as purely positive or negative, finding peace in acceptance and living in the present moment can transform our perceptions and enrich our lives.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we delve into the intricate nature of human desires, distinguishing between short-term and long-term wants, and the surprising juxtapositions that can exist between them. We explore how our perceived wants often overshadow our true needs and the importance of specificity in understanding what we truly seek. Through personal anecdotes and reflective insights, we invite listeners to question their desires, explore unrecognized wants, and discover a harmonious balance in life.

Join us in this thoughtful introspection that challenges the conventional perception of desire and invites a deeper self-awareness to guide us towards genuine fulfillment.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore the impact of globalisation on the sense of community, particularly in the West. We discuss how traditional familial and communal roles have been monetized, leading to a significant loss of genuine relationships and support systems.

Join us as we delve into the challenges of modern isolation, where individuals often find themselves disconnected from larger social fabrics. We examine how the shrinking of communities affects personal and collective growth, and how children today are growing up without the strong community bonds seen in previous generations.

We also take a look at alternative lifestyles and societies, discussing how smaller, self-governed communities might offer a path forward. The episode highlights the importance of rebuilding connections and fostering a collaborative spirit for a more fulfilling and resilient way of life.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the often misunderstood concept of personal alignment. Learn how to bridge the gap between what you know to be true and what you choose to believe, and how the ego plays a pivotal role in this discrepancy. Discover why listening to your intuition is crucial for true alignment, and how it can steer you away from making choices that do not serve your higher self. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, we explore the importance of trusting your instincts and the dangers of disregarding them. Start your journey to inner harmony and listen to your intuition today. Join us and learn how to trust yourself and make choices that truly align with your authentic self.

In this thought-provoking episode of "Words With Myself," we delve deep into the misconceptions surrounding mental health diagnoses. Many view conditions like ADHD, depression, and anxiety as roots of their struggles, yet they may merely be symptoms of deeper issues. The discussion highlights how trauma and a lack of emotional development can manifest in various mental health challenges, casting light on the importance of developing suitable coping mechanisms and emotional tools.

The episode challenges the idea that our mental conditions define us, urging listeners to take responsibility for their choices and change their life narratives. Explore the concept of comfort in discomfort and the reluctance to embrace radical change, which often inhibits true healing and growth. Discover powerful insights into shifting perspectives, taking ownership of personal choices, and breaking free from the identity traps that bind us to our struggles.

Join us as we explore the transformative power of accountability, and learn how embracing change and personal responsibility can lead to a more empowered and liberated life. This episode is a call to action for those feeling stuck in the cycle of survival, offering hope and strategies for moving towards a life aligned with true self-awareness and intentional living.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore the misconceptions about the perceived ease of doing the right thing. Often, doing what is best for us doesn't immediately feel good, underscoring the importance of pushing through discomfort as a natural part of personal growth. The conversation delves into the qualities of true strength, contrasting it with false strength marked by aggression and hostility.

We explore the notion that true strength comes from balancing kindness with the ability to set and maintain boundaries. This episode challenges the audience to break free from binary thinking—being either overly nice or overly harsh—and instead find empowerment in being assertive without aggression.

Listeners are encouraged to seek balance and own their choices, realizing that strength involves accountability and the courage to embrace challenges. By facing fears and discomfort, the journey to personal growth and change becomes not just possible, but rewarding.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of 'Words With Myself.' In a world that often confines our beliefs to what is provable, this episode challenges listeners to free themselves from judgment and observe the universe with an open mind. By embracing intuition and signs, we can realise the magic inherent in our existence.

Explore the conflict between science and spirituality, and understand how both have been used as tools of control. While science is often manipulated, it holds valuable lessons, just like religion. It's crucial to discern personal truths and behold the world for what it offers.

This episode invites you to trust your gut feelings and intuition, to observe without criticism, and recognise the beauty and signs the universe unfurls. Reclaim the power to interpret these signs, liberate yourself from external expectations, and discover the true magic of your existence.

In this episode of "Words With Myself," we explore the transformative concept that weakness and strength are choices we make in daily life. By acknowledging our own power to choose courage, honesty, and integrity, we can overcome inherent fears and societal pressures.

This discussion dives deeply into how our reactions are shaped by choices and are not forced by external circumstances. Additionally, we examine the importance of standing by our beliefs and actions, even when faced with external disapproval or challenges.

The episode further addresses how true confidence and healing require internal assurance and self-accountability, rather than relying on the validation of others. It highlights the significant role of self-trust and maintaining integrity in realizing personal growth and achieving alignment with one's core values.

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of "Words With Myself." Today, we delve into the profound concept of certainty—or rather, the lack thereof. In a world where everyone seems absolutely sure of their opinions and beliefs, we explore the idea that true wisdom lies in accepting that we know nothing for certain.

Through a reflection on famous philosophical insights and personal anecdotes, we challenge the listener to reconsider entrenched beliefs and embrace the complexities and paradoxes of life. How can letting go of the ego and the need to be right lead to a more peaceful and open-minded existence?

Join us as we navigate the intricacies of truth and perception, inviting you to a journey of introspection and freedom from the constraints of absolute certainty.

In this episode of "Words of Myself," we delve into the profound significance of presence in our lives. Presence, often oversimplified, is about more than just being in the moment; it's a journey of self-awareness and intentional living. We explore the challenges of breaking free from habitual behaviors and understanding the discrepancy between who we believe we are and our true selves. By confronting these inner conflicts, we learn how to step into the present moment, shedding illusions and embracing the truth of who we are. This episode guides you towards recognizing and dismantling the comforting but deceptive grip of the ego, empowering you to align your actions with genuine intentions and live more consciously.

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Words With Myself, where we challenge conventional views on success and failure. In this episode, we delve into the idea that failure is not just an obstacle but a necessary part of the journey to success.

Through captivating stories, like that of a master swordsmith learning to work with new materials, we explore how embracing failure leads to innovation and growth. Discover why even the most successful individuals must continually pursue failure to remain at the top of their game and why stagnation is often the result of avoiding failure.

Join us as we reframe failure as an integral part of the success process, encouraging experimentation, adaptation, and lifelong learning.

In this thought-provoking episode of Words With Myself, we delve deep into the concept of reality and the illusions we face every day. Our journey explores how we as humans often align our lives with ego and material wealth, mistaking these for true value. This conversation seeks to challenge the norms of society by questioning the intrinsic worth of money and the structures that define our world, encouraging listeners to shift their focus to what truly matters.

The discussion highlights the temporary nature of life, comparing it to the envy of Greek gods who saw meaning in humanity's fleeting moments. We examine the manipulation of the financial system, the role of major conglomerates, and the illusion of ownership and security, urging a collective awakening to reclaim meaningful living. The episode calls for community building and sovereignty, advocating for real connections and values beyond consumerism and superficial gains.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the intricate patterns of behavior that define our lives and decisions. We explore the importance of showing up even when conditions aren't perfect and how persevering through discomfort can foster growth and consistency. On the flip side, we examine the dangers of over-reliance on resilience, where ignoring genuine needs for rest and health can be detrimental.

The podcast also highlights how childhood experiences and unmet needs shape our adult motivations, creating deeply ingrained patterns that often act as defense mechanisms. Through introspection, we can begin to understand these patterns, acknowledge their protective roles, and make conscious choices aligned with our present desires and values.

Join us as we discuss the journey of recognizing and releasing outdated habits and patterns to embrace a life of freedom and authenticity.

In this episode of Words With Myself podcast, we explore the intricate dance between patience and action in the pursuit of our goals. Discover how striking the right balance between waiting for the right moment and taking purposeful steps can lead to success.

Through thoughtful insights, mindfulness and self-Awareness, we discuss the importance of knowing when to act decisively and when to exercise patience, drawing parallels with life’s everyday balancing acts. Learn why perfecting this balance is essential for both personal growth and achieving dreams.

Tune in for a journey towards mastering the art of doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, without the stress of forcing outcomes, and embracing the power of patience at the right moments.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore the true essence of living in the present moment beyond the clichéd "live today like it's your last day." We discuss how being present is not about neglecting the future but focusing fully on the task at hand. We delve into how intentional living can break us free from mindless routines and guide us towards our goals while staying truly engaged in the here and now.

We look at how activities, especially those requiring intensity and focus, foster a state of presence and how this applies to everyday tasks. Listeners will learn strategies for remaining intentional and focused on their current actions, turning routine moments into meaningful experiences, and understanding the importance of a clear vision for the future while being anchored in the present.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the complexities of fear and avoidance following deep trauma and suffering. The discussion highlights the challenges of rebuilding trust and the tendency to avoid painful experiences. However, this avoidance can also lead to missing out on the beautiful and joyful moments of life.

Listeners are encouraged to confront their fears and take risks, recognizing that pain and suffering are inevitable parts of life. Ultimately, the episode inspires individuals to live boldly and embrace the full spectrum of life's experiences, understanding that both highs and lows are inseparable and essential for true fulfillment.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the complexities of modern attention economies and the rise of extremism. As globalism takes hold, our world is inundated with information, leading to a heightened desire for sensational and dramatic content. This creates an environment where polarization thrives, particularly in politics, resulting in the marginalization of centrist voices.

Explore how media and capitalist structures manipulate public focus, distracting us from the underlying issues in society. We discuss the importance of remaining grounded in our own realities and finding balance to counteract the chaos. By understanding both sides and adopting a balanced perspective, we can achieve peace and harmony in our own lives amidst the noise of the world.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore the impact of early trauma on personal development and the two distinct paths individuals might take: one of anger and resentment, or one of protection and guardianship. As we delve deeper, we discuss how neither extreme is ideal, emphasizing the importance of achieving a balanced approach to life.

We also shed light on the common confusion between being nice and being genuinely good, highlighting the necessity of setting boundaries and listening to one’s intuition. The discussion extends to the concept of selfishness, urging listeners to prioritize self-care to truly be capable of helping others effectively.

The episode concludes with a focus on rebuilding trust in oneself by aligning actions with personal beliefs and feelings, and underscores the significance of fostering a strong relationship with oneself to lead a fulfilling life. Join us as we navigate the complexities of emotions and actions, seeking harmony and self-respect along the way.

Welcome to another insightful episode of Words With Myself. In this session, we explore how people often define themselves through the lens of their most painful relationships, frequently swinging between extremes in an attempt to escape their pasts. This episode delves into the psychological patterns stemming from trauma, offering guidance on finding balance and harmony in life. By embracing all aspects of ourselves, including those we tend to repress, we can arrive at a more integrated and empowered existence. Join us as we learn to navigate conflict with compassion and composure, moving beyond the simplistic flight-or-fight response to achieve a deeply fulfilling sense of self-awareness.

In this episode of "Words With Myself," we delve into the overwhelming nature of our information-rich society and the pressure to keep up with the constant influx of trends. The conversation explores how this frantic pace disconnects us from meaningful experiences and creates a sense of perpetual dissatisfaction.

We discuss the impact of modern living on mental health, emphasizing the artificial divide between humanity and the natural world, and the importance of reclaiming our connection with nature and our true selves. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on societal norms and consider living in harmony with their inner values rather than succumbing to the pressures of external expectations.

Welcome to this insightful episode of Words With Myself, where we delve into the importance of experimentation and play in the learning process. Many adults feel trapped by the pressure to succeed on the first try, avoiding new challenges and experiences due to fear of failure or fear of mistakes' repercussions. This episode challenges that mindset, advocating for a playful approach to learning, where making mistakes is seen as a stepping stone to success rather than a deterrent.

We explore how children naturally embrace experimentation and learn rapidly because they are not burdened by the weight of getting it right the first time. Adults, on the other hand, often lose confidence in their ability to learn new skills, feeling confined by what they can presently do. The conversation shifts the focus from the nebulous concept of success to the attainable and measurable goal of constant progress, emphasizing the value of getting just 1% better each day.

This episode invites listeners to redefine their understanding of achievement, focusing on personal growth and everyday improvement rather than a fixed, often elusive, definition of success.

In this episode of 'Words With Myself,' we explore the delicate balance between self-perception and personal growth. Understanding how we often misjudge our capabilities, this discussion delves into human tendencies to evaluate ourselves inaccurately, leading to self-fulfilling prophecies.

You’ll discover the importance of finding a middle ground – a harmony between being consistent and adaptable in daily life, and the role it plays in shaping a fulfilling lifestyle. Through a reflective lens, we examine the survival instincts behind our ingrained patterns and the comfort zones that hold us back.

Ultimately, this episode invites you to take ownership of your life journey. Learn to ask the right questions to redefine your relationship with yourself and make intentional decisions that align with your true desires and purpose. Embrace change, pursue meaningful risks, and craft your own unique path in the ever-changing landscape of life.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Words With Myself, where we delve into the transformative power of self-love and respect. Discover how the age-old maxim, "treat others how you want to be treated," can be flipped to empower your self-worth and establish boundaries that reflect true respect.

We explore the visceral impact of negative self-belief on your physical and mental health while unveiling the magnetism that self-assurance creates in the world. Challenge preconceived notions of capability, confront self-imposed limitations, and compete - not with others, but with yourself - to unlock hidden potential.

Embrace a journey within, where nurturing your relationship with yourself eradicates dependency on external validation, ensuring that self-love and confidence become your greatest strength.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the profound concept of self-discovery and self-acceptance. Understanding and nurturing your relationship with yourself is not just about self-care but is deeply intertwined with your relationship with the divine, as we explore the idea that knowing yourself is akin to knowing God.

Join us as we discuss the significance of embracing your true nature, the dangers of self-deception, and the importance of building trust and honesty within oneself. We address the common struggles of feeling disconnected from our true selves, the societal pressures to conform, and how these can lead to anxiety and depression.

Discover the tools you need to reconnect with your inner self, the value of meditation, and the power of truth as a foundation for a resilient self-relationship. Learn why it's essential to fight for your own needs and how genuine self-love can transform your experience in all areas of life.

Tune in to find out how you can mend the most important relationship you'll ever have - the one with yourself. It's time to step into a world where you can trust and honor who you are and bridge the gap between your human experience and your higher consciousness.

In this episode of "Words With Myself," we explore the challenges faced by hyper-independent individuals who often find themselves isolated and lonely. This state of being arises from prolonged periods of self-reliance, during which individuals learn to fend for themselves, often leading to an inability to trust others.

We delve into the difficulties of relearning how to build relationships and trust, as hyper-independence can transform into a barrier preventing meaningful connections. Discover how embracing relationships not only doubles your safety and security but also opens the doors to a more vibrant and fulfilling life.

Join us as we discuss the journey from survival mode to a life enriched by shared experiences, allowing others to show their love and care. Learn why it's important to not merely survive in isolation, but to cultivate joy and happiness through connections with others.

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of searching for meaning and purpose, even amidst the beautiful distractions of paradise. Our host shares personal reflections from a recent trip to Thailand, contemplating the nuances of self-discovery in a stunning yet transient environment.

Despite the allure of crystal-clear waters and warm weather, we explore how the real challenges lie within ourselves, regardless of our surroundings. The discussion extends to the lessons learned in one’s twenties, focusing on the endless pursuit of purpose and the realization that life cannot always be meticulously planned.

Listeners are encouraged to embrace the act of "doing" rather than remaining consumed by the idea of "finding". As life continues to evolve, so do our desires and dreams. This episode invites you to consider letting go of the exhaustive search for answers and to start experiencing life through action, even if it means wandering aimlessly until the right path reveals itself.

Join us as we tackle themes of intention, fear, and the liberating transition from dreams to tangible actions in the quest for a truly meaningful life.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore the complex dynamics of human behavior, focusing on the fine line between selfishness and selflessness. We delve into real-life scenarios where individual needs clash with the collective good, illustrating how personal struggles can lead to broader societal issues.

Through thought-provoking narratives, we challenge the notion of universal right and wrong, examining how cultural differences and personal experiences shape our understanding of morality. Join us as we discuss the importance of maintaining a balance between adhering to social rules and following one's own path, seeking to understand what truly feels right for oneself amidst a world filled with manipulation and misinformation.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the subtle yet profound impact of language on our lives. Through intriguing examples and scientific experiments, we explore the overlooked power that words carry in shaping our perceptions and experiences. Discover how the words you choose, often unconsciously, can elevate or diminish your reality.

We discuss the ripple effect of language vibrations, illustrating how seemingly insignificant words can accumulate to produce substantial outcomes. By analyzing language's macro and micro perspectives, we challenge listeners to reflect on their speech patterns and understand how they can consciously harness the magic of words for personal growth and transformation.

Join us in understanding the mysteries of vibrational language, as we examine society's role in perpetuating linguistic norms and the hidden truths known to history's most influential figures. This episode enlightens listeners on the necessity of intentional communication, revealing how the language we speak to ourselves and others can ultimately steer the course of our lives.

In this episode of Words With Myself, we explore the natural rhythm of winding down during the winter season, using this time for introspection and yearly reviews. The discussion touches on common challenges people face, like fear and self-imposed limitations, and how to overcome them. By asking the right questions and challenging assumptions, the episode gives insights into redefining personal and professional goals, encouraging listeners to break barriers and transform the seemingly impossible into achievable goals.

In this thought-provoking episode of Words With Myself, we delve into the complex concept of comfort and the deceptive allure it holds over our lives. We explore how comfort, often perceived as a protective shield, can limit our growth and trap us in a state of mediocrity.

Through engaging reflections, we examine how people trade their dreams for temporary ease, sacrificing true fulfillment in pursuit of a safety net that may not even exist. Unpack the dangers of this comfort zone, and learn how embracing risks and stepping out of cushy familiarity can lead to a more rewarding and authentic life.

Whether you're living in denial of your potential or accustomed to challenges, this episode challenges you to confront your fears, take bold steps towards the life you desire, and redefine what it truly means to be secure and content.

Welcome to a compelling episode of Words With Myself, where we delve into the inevitable challenges life throws at us and the anxiety arising from the need to control the uncontrollable. We explore how an obsession with preventing bad events from happening can trap us in constant fear and worry, marginalizing the joy and gratitude in our lives.

This episode reveals the liberating truth that, while striving to protect ourselves and our loved ones from adversities, true peace and freedom come from accepting life's inherent uncertainties. It's a journey less about mastering every situation and more about gracefully navigating the unknown, rejoicing in moments of triumph without the fear of future setbacks haunting us.

Listen in as we unravel the philosophy of living here and now, where appreciation and a forward-thinking mindset can help us embrace life with open arms, acknowledging our efforts and accepting imperfections. Tune into this soul-nourishing exploration of what it means to live life without being tethered by the chains of control.

Welcome to this enlightening episode of Words With Myself, where we delve into the unsettling world of intrusive thoughts. Do you feel like you're in control of your thoughts? Discover the truth behind why we don't choose the thoughts that enter our minds and how attaching emotions to these thoughts can affect our sense of self.

Explore the nature of thoughts that disturb us—those that might seem out of character or shocking. We often bury these thoughts, fearing judgment and self-condemnation, which only gives them more power in our shadows.

Learn how to shine a light on these hidden parts of ourselves, acknowledging the needs they represent. By understanding that these thoughts are not an indication of our identity but rather an expression of unmet needs, we can begin to heal and empower ourselves to make conscious choices about which thoughts deserve our attention.

In this episode of "Words With Myself," we explore the delicate balance between patience and action. Our host candidly shares personal experiences and challenges with impatience, emphasizing the importance of allowing time for growth and maturity in our endeavors.

Through vivid analogies, such as the nurturing of a plant, we learn that both excess and deficiency can hinder progress. The episode highlights the significance of embracing the process rather than rushing to the end goal. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own journeys, understanding that the true reward lies in the transformation and skills acquired along the way.

Join us as we delve into the nuances of balancing tenacity with the wisdom of patience, recognizing when to act and when to let things unfold naturally. This thought-provoking discussion offers insights applicable to all aspects of life, from business ventures to personal growth.

In this episode of "Words With Myself," we explore the contrast between the seriousness with which adults and children approach life decisions. While adults often have well-thought-out reasons for their actions, children live more in the moment, free from the burdens of responsibility. This discussion delves into how adulthood's societal expectations create a cautious, mistake-averse culture, leading to a life that feels more like a task list than an enjoyable journey.

We examine how the fear of making mistakes and the pressure to meet expectations can cause us to miss out on the joy of living in the present. By viewing life as a game, rather than a series of rigid steps, we can embrace a more playful and experimental approach. This episode encourages listeners to let go of the need to control outcomes and instead focus on enjoying the experiences life offers.

Join us as we challenge the notion of life's importance, urging a shift from controlling every aspect to relishing the journey itself. Discover how to find freedom and joy in the unpredictable nature of life, appreciating it as a game meant to be played and enjoyed.

In this introspective episode of "Words With Myself," our host recounts a transformative journey through Bali's enchanting temples and reflects on a conversation with a fellow traveler that sparked a personal revelation. This episode delves into the human tendency to compare and the impact it has on our ability to appreciate the present moment.

Through personal anecdotes, including a recent experience at a fireworks display, the host examines how expectations can hinder our enjoyment and lead to a constant pursuit of more, often leaving us unsatisfied. The episode highlights the importance of gratitude and being fully present in the moment, encouraging listeners to embrace the beauty in what they have rather than seeking fulfillment in external comparisons.

Join us as we explore the idea that true happiness lies in appreciating experiences for what they are, rather than what we want them to be. Discover how slowing down and savoring life's moments can lead to profound joy and contentment.

In this thought-provoking episode of "Words With Myself," we delve into the universal experience of lack and the human tendency to overcompensate for it. Whether it's a lack of love, money, or personal experiences, everyone has felt the void at some point in their lives. The episode explores how extremes, whether indulgence or deprivation, often lead to imbalance and further dissatisfaction.

We discuss the societal pressure to maintain a facade of constant happiness and success, and how this impacts our well-being. By examining the systems that encourage us to conform to these extremes, we uncover the hidden truths about how they shape our lives and perceptions. The episode encourages listeners to break free from the cycle of extreme highs and lows and to seek a balanced approach to life.

Join us as we explore the importance of finding equilibrium in a world that often pushes us toward the edges. Learn how embracing balance, rather than swinging between extremes, can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic existence.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Words With My Soul," where we delve into the essence of the spiritual journey as a path towards uncovering your individual truth. Life is a shared experience, yet each person views it from their unique perspective. This episode encourages you to explore, discover, and expand your horizons through your own experiences.

We examine the balance between collective knowledge and personal discovery. While societal memory and shared learning have driven technological and social progress, they often overshadow the necessity of personal exploration and intuitive understanding. The focus on efficiency and profit in our capitalist society has led to conformity, limiting innovation and individuality.

Throughout the episode, we challenge the accepted truths imposed by society, highlighting the importance of questioning and personal experience over collective beliefs. We explore how societal systems, education, and media shape our perceptions and stress the significance of forging your path and discovering your truth.

Join us as we inspire you to break free from the constraints of conventional wisdom, embrace your individual experiences, and live a life of discovery. This episode is a call to deepen your connection with yourself and the world, encouraging you to experience life authentically and fully.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. Whether you're a seasoned spiritual seeker or just starting out, this episode is for those feeling stuck or plateaued in their spiritual journey. We'll explore the common stages of learning and growth, and why hitting a plateau is a natural part of the process.

Discover why the initial excitement fades and how to push through the challenging periods of refinement and hard work. We'll draw parallels with physical training to illustrate the universal nature of this experience. Learn why true spirituality requires confronting uncomfortable truths about yourself and how every spiritual path ultimately leads inward.

Understand the importance of dedication, the inevitability of hard labor in refining your practice, and why many give up at this stage. We discuss the necessity of integrating spiritual insights into real-life actions and the liberation that comes from embracing the complexity and infinite nature of self-discovery.

If you're ready to rise to the challenge, do the real work, and make meaningful changes, this episode will guide you through the process of breaking through spiritual plateaus. Thank you for listening.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we delve into the complex nature of bullying, exploring its many forms and sources. Whether it's physical violence, mental manipulation, or emotional abuse, bullying affects everyone differently. We discuss how bullies often emerge from a place of hurt and trauma, perpetuating a cycle of aggression to protect themselves.

On the other side, we examine the avoidant victims who try to shelter themselves by appeasing aggressors, often at the expense of their own needs and well-being. This episode sheds light on the detrimental effects of constantly prioritizing others over oneself, leading to resentment and disconnection.

We also explore the difficult but necessary path to healing, emphasizing the importance of accountability and the courage to stand up for what's right. Tune in to understand how to break free from the toxic cycle of bullying and victimhood, and learn what it truly means to be a good person.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. Previously, we discussed the significance of light work alongside shadow work, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging positive experiences. In this episode, we dive into practical methods for applying these concepts in daily life.

We explore how to analyze strong emotional reactions during conversations, identifying underlying beliefs and triggers. For instance, understanding why an insult might deeply affect us reveals hidden insecurities. This self-inquiry helps us develop a stronger sense of self-worth, less influenced by others' opinions.

We also discuss techniques to overcome fears, such as performance anxiety, by examining the roots of our fears and understanding past experiences that contribute to current anxieties. This process enables us to make informed decisions rather than acting out of fear.

Finally, we introduce a powerful exercise: visualizing your life as a film. This technique helps identify aspects of your life that may cause shame or embarrassment, guiding you to make changes that align with your true self and aspirations.

Through these methods, you can gain a deeper understanding of your emotions and make choices that lead to a more fulfilled and authentic life. Join us as we navigate these transformative practices.

Welcome to another insightful episode of "Words With Myself." Today, we dive deep into the nature of decision-making, exploring whether big decisions or small daily choices are more challenging. The episode unpacks the misconception that making a significant life-changing decision is the hardest part. Instead, it reveals that the true difficulty lies in the consistency and dedication required to make the right choice every day.

We often inflate the importance of major decisions, such as going on a diet or quitting a bad habit, seeing them as the biggest obstacles. However, the episode argues that it's the day-to-day commitment to these choices that truly tests our resolve. We discuss how these small, seemingly inconsequential decisions accumulate and have a profound impact on our lives.

Through thoughtful insights and real-world examples, we learn the importance of being present and consciously aware of our daily choices. By evaluating these small decisions and understanding their costs and benefits, we can align our actions with our long-term goals and aspirations. Tune in to discover how to navigate the daily grind of decision-making and stay committed to your path of personal growth and improvement.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we delve into the popular phrase "Everything you want is on the other side of fear." We explore the true meaning behind this statement and discuss how to interpret it as practical, actionable advice.

We examine the concept that nothing is 100% true and how absolutes can be misleading. Instead, we focus on how fears, particularly the fear of the unknown, can block us from achieving our goals. Using examples and risk analysis, we discuss the importance of weighing the risks of action against the risks of inaction.

Discover how pushing through fear and embracing the challenges associated with your dreams can lead to the most rewarding experiences in life. This episode encourages you to reflect on the value of effort and sacrifice in making your aspirations meaningful and worthwhile.

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of perspective and its impact on our lives. Discover how our ego's interpretation of the world shapes our identity and influences our experiences.

Explore the complexities of how our past decisions, experiences, and societal roles contribute to the formation of our sense of self. Understand the limitations of our memory and the inaccuracies in our recollections that affect our judgments and perspectives.

Learn how to detach from a fixed identity and open yourself to new possibilities by challenging your beliefs and making different choices. This episode encourages you to redefine who you are and embrace the freedom to transform your life, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic existence.

Thank you for tuning in. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we delve into the concept of safety and how our definitions of it can vary widely. We explore the extremes of risk aversion and reckless daring, and discuss the vast middle ground where most of us reside.

We examine how our past experiences shape our willingness to take risks and how this impacts our daily lives. The episode highlights the importance of understanding these influences to avoid living life on autopilot, locked in a cycle of comfort and safety that limits true experiences.

Join us as we discuss the necessity of stepping out of our comfort zones, embracing the unknown, and living life to its fullest. Because the greatest risk of all is not living your life at all.

Thank you for listening.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we dive into the often overlooked concept of light work, the essential counterpart to shadow work. Shadow work involves introspection on our deepest traumas and recurring negative patterns, a concept pioneered by Carl Jung. However, focusing solely on our shadows can leave us lost in negativity.

Today, we explore the significance of light work, which involves reflecting on the positive aspects of our lives—the successes, the happy moments, and the times when things went right. By balancing both shadow work and light work, we can maintain a harmonious perspective, preparing ourselves to embrace life's ups and downs fully and presently.

Join us as we discuss how to achieve this balance and live a more centered, fulfilling life.

True creativity can only exist with true freedom.

In this episode, we delve into the inherent creativity within all of us and explore how to find and nurture your unique creative outlet. Whether it's art, writing, or even sports, creativity manifests in various forms. We discuss the challenges of monetizing creativity, the pressures that come with professional creative work, and the importance of maintaining a personal, unrestricted space for artistic expression.

Learn how to balance creativity with commercial demands, the importance of experimentation, and the necessity of making time for personal creative pursuits. This episode encourages you to explore new ways to express yourself and to reclaim the joy of creating for its own sake.

In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the profound insights shared by Rowan Atkinson on a timeless quote from Charlie Chaplin that describes life as a tragedy in the micro and comedy in the macro. This episode delves into the delicate balance between taking life seriously and understanding its grand, playful nature when viewed from a broader perspective.

We discuss the scientific and spiritual dimensions of our existence, emphasizing how interconnected and inseparable we are from the universe. By viewing ourselves as vibrations or frequencies, we uncover the unity between self and other, leading to a realization that we are all part of a single, intricate system.

The episode challenges the conventional notions of identity, encouraging listeners to question their sense of self and the superficial attributes that define them. It highlights the importance of embracing our humanity and the unique experiences that come with it, rather than seeking to transcend or escape it.

Ultimately, we are reminded of the freedom and responsibility we have in shaping our lives. By changing our perspectives and breaking free from limiting beliefs, we can redefine our experiences and live more authentically. Tune in to discover how to navigate the rules of this cosmic game and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.

How do we determine value in our society? This episode delves into the complexities of value, exploring how it is often dictated by external factors but ultimately determined by our personal perceptions and circumstances.

Through examples ranging from the diamond industry to the intrinsic value of time, we examine how scarcity, longevity, and complexity to acquire shape our understanding of worth. The discussion also highlights the paradox of money and its perceived value, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing what truly enhances our quality of life.

Join us as we uncover the ever-changing landscape of value and learn how to make the most of what we have, appreciating the unique and irreplaceable commodity of time.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we dive deep into the essence of patience and trust. Often, we feel the urge to control every situation, pushing ourselves to the limit to achieve our goals. But what if the key to success lies in relinquishing control and trusting the process?

We explore the societal pressure to constantly do more and the anxiety that comes with not seeing immediate results. Discover how letting go of the need to rush and trusting the natural order can lead to a more peaceful and fulfilling journey towards your goals.

Join us as we challenge the belief that struggle and stress are prerequisites for success and learn how embracing trust can transform your approach to achieving your dreams.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. In today's podcast, we shift our focus from unhealthy relationship dynamics to exploring the complexities of maintaining positive and healthy relationships. We delve into the challenges of setting boundaries, especially when transitioning from dysfunctional relationships to healthier ones.

As you work on your personal development and prioritize meaningful connections, you may encounter resistance from those who are not ready to embrace your growth. We discuss the importance of identifying and nurturing relationships that honor your needs and respect your boundaries.

Healthy relationships, whether with friends, family, or partners, require open communication, trust, and mutual respect. We provide insights into how to communicate your needs effectively and the positive impact it can have on your relationships. By addressing these needs, you can build stronger, more fulfilling connections that support your journey towards becoming the best version of yourself.

Tune in to learn how to navigate the intricacies of healthy relationships and ensure that your connections are truly supportive and nurturing.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself. Today, we delve into the concept of being "nice" and uncover its hidden complexities. While being nice is often seen as a positive trait, it can also mask a lack of boundaries, self-respect, and self-love.

We explore how the compulsion to be nice can lead to self-destructive patterns, causing resentment and feelings of being taken for granted. Learn why it's crucial to prioritize your own needs and establish healthy boundaries to avoid the pitfalls of people-pleasing.

This episode also examines the origins of this behavior, often rooted in chaotic childhoods and the desire for love and acceptance. Understand why it's important to shift from being merely nice to being a genuinely good person who respects and honors their own feelings and boundaries.

Join us as we challenge the societal standard of niceness and advocate for a balanced approach that values self-care and authentic kindness.

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Words With Myself. In this episode, we delve into the concept of perspective and how it shapes our understanding of truth. Using the simple analogy of seeing a number as either a six or a nine, we explore how two people can perceive the same thing differently, and yet both be right.

We discuss the emotional intensity that often accompanies arguments where each party is convinced of their own truth. This episode examines why we feel the need to convince others of our beliefs and how this is often an attempt to solidify our own certainty.

We also touch on the topic of synchronicities versus coincidences and how our confirmation biases shape our interpretations of events. Through various examples, we illustrate how two people can live their truths and experience life in completely different ways, yet both feel validated in their beliefs.

Finally, we ponder the deeper implications of these perspectives, including the potential for disharmony when we cling too tightly to our own beliefs. By recognizing that life is full of paradoxes and that absolute truths are rare, we can foster greater understanding and peace in our interactions with others.

Join us as we explore the fascinating world of perspectives and learn how to appreciate the different truths that each of us holds.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Words With Myself." In this episode, we delve into the common misconception of treating ourselves as projects that need fixing. We often focus on eliminating our weaknesses and amplifying our strengths in the pursuit of perfection. However, true healing is a holistic process that involves embracing our authentic selves.

Join us as we explore how subjective interpretations of positive and negative experiences shape our self-perception. We discuss the importance of recognizing symptoms like anxiety and depression as messages from our bodies, guiding us to realign with our true nature. By understanding and accepting these indicators, we can begin to harmonize with ourselves.

Discover how the pursuit of balance, rather than perfection, can lead to a more fulfilling life. Learn how to shift your focus from being 'good at everything' to being true to yourself. This episode encourages you to reflect on your boundaries, desires, and actions to achieve genuine inner peace and purpose.

Tune in and start your journey towards authentic healing by asking yourself: How can I be more true to myself?

Thank you for listening.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Words With Myself." This week, we delve into the concept of being in the present moment and the challenges that come with it. Despite the constant reminders to stay present, many of us find ourselves drifting into anxiety about the future or depression about the past.

Our host shares personal insights and revelations from a recent walk, exploring the roots of anxiety and depression. Through the lens of the hermetic laws, particularly the law of polarity, we examine how our lives swing between extremes and how finding a middle ground can lead to a more harmonious existence.

Learn how to recognize when you're being pulled into the past or the future and discover practical steps to anchor yourself in the present. This episode is a gentle reminder that the only moment we truly have control over is now. Embrace it, accept it, and find peace in the present moment.

Join us for a thoughtful discussion that encourages you to live more mindfully and harmoniously, navigating life's ups and downs with grace and ease.

In this insightful episode, we delve into the nuanced differences between being truthful and being honest. While truthfulness involves a commitment to facts, honesty encompasses a deeper level of openness and vulnerability. Discover how living with integrity and in truth can harmonize your life and bring ease, rather than the stress of maintaining lies.

The discussion further explores the challenges of being honest with oneself and others. We often prioritize the needs of others over our own, leading to diluted personal truth and potential resentment. Learn why establishing boundaries and being selective about whom you share your energy with is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional well-being.

Moreover, the episode emphasizes the importance of self-care and self-love. By prioritizing our own needs, we can avoid the cycle of constant giving that leaves us drained and unable to truly connect with others. Discover practical tips on how to show up for yourself, from taking personal time to engaging in self-loving activities.

Join us for a thought-provoking journey into the essence of honesty, self-care, and how to live a more balanced and fulfilling life.

What do you want? Why do you want it? Are you willing to pay the price required? If so, take action. If not, you need to work out if it is something you truly want and have a solid reason for why you want it. The universe is always listening. If you are giving it mixed messages, the universe will return by providing mixed opportunities. Alignment is key.

Control is largely, an illusion. We believe we can control our lives because we control a few variables. Despite our desperate attempts, fighting with ourselves and trying to impose our will onto the world is futile, even if it happens, it will leave us in ruins.

Onions have layers, Humans have layers. So does the ego it seems.

We can get really wrapped up in our sense of self sometimes, but when digging beneath the surface it can be hard to truly decipher where we begin and where we end, where the conditioning starts and finishes. Who are you? Are you happy with who you are? What made you the person you are today?

Stress affects different people in different ways. However, if you are not dealing with and managing your stress correctly, it can quickly metastasise into all sorts of issues. Illness, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue and a constant feeling of burnout are just some of the ways that stress can choose to manifest itself in your life if not properly managed.

Stress isn't so much an obvious feeling like anger, nor is it as easy to identify as many of us have become accustomed to our stress. It is important that we are aware of our stressors and our coping mechanisms so that we can identify and properly manage our stress to be healthy individuals.

Who Are You Really?

In this episode of Words With Myself, we discuss the identity of self and the paradox of identity. We identify with this perception of ourselves, this character curated for our consciousness to inhabit. But is that truly all you are, if you sit back and meditate it won't be long before you notice you are not the thinker of your thoughts, so who are you really?

Sometimes I notice myself angered by those who seem to lack initiative and drive. It’s not my intention, but the ramifications of a deep-seated resentment dwelling beneath the surface. A disdain for those who abdicate the empty pursuit of perfection and are brave enough to relinquish their inner critic. Or, maybe it’s not a conscious effort at all. Perhaps it’s not a decision but simply a wound they never sustained.

Is that truly possible? To grow up with healthy surroundings and never pick up that chatty hitchhiker. You know who I’m referring to don’t you? That incessant, nagging voice forcing you back to the grindstone towards an ever-shifting ideal. One that’s vague and non-descript, one that only reveals the next steps after the current ones are climbed.

Are we simply to trust this? That the pursuit will eventually lead us to satisfaction. That one day, we will achieve enough, have enough or, be enough —to justify our existence. This constant need for progression, these endless goals and tiresome fights. Battles we can win, but a war that we have already lost. Some games you can lose just by playing.

These efforts aren’t entirely futile, we should all strive to be the best versions of ourselves, right? But the line is thin and difficult to draw. Intentions can be hard to decipher, especially when they are our own. Sometimes it can feel as though our ego is taking us for a ride, lashing out in self-defence and baraging us with constant tasks to obtain evidence that we are in fact, enough.

I often wonder, am I completing these assignments out of love or hate? Am I fueled by fear? A need to meet others’ expectations, a belief that only the infallible can be loved. But if this is true, does that mean nobody is? Everyone makes mistakes and we all have our flaws, so why treat ourselves as an exception? Why hold ourselves to this impossible standard?

It isn’t necessarily what we are doing that is the problem, but instead, the reasons why we are doing it in the first place. A virus that spreads as we look to others for approval, one that can only be remedied by accepting ourselves for who and what we are without separating ourselves from our dreams. To move forward not because we are not good enough, but to give ourselves the gift of fulfilling our purpose and walking our path.

This state can only be attained by letting go of our perceptions of what is good and bad, to free ourselves from dichotomy while embracing duality. These fundamental laws exist, there can be no doubt about that. But we need not rank, categorise and compare ourselves constantly. This only leads to suffering, a suffering that many never escape. Most succumb to this endless pursuit of perfection, driven by the idea that they will eventually get to a point b.

The cliche says that it isn’t about the destination but the journey, yet I pose there is no destination altogether. Only, imagined pitstops along the way, each carrying the promise of a better view to behold while blinding us to the present moment. Possibility may exist in tomorrow, but isn’t tomorrow also only a possibility? If all that captivates your mind are the next steps, how to progress to the next level or achieve the next goal, I am afraid you have lost the reason along the way.

Life is not to be lived as a series of never-ending challenges, it is not so much a game with objectives or levels, but an open-world sandbox where you get to decide how and what you contribute to make your life and the world around you interesting and beautiful. Unfortunately, the meaning of life is so simple it is rejected by most who come across it. The meaning of life is to live, to exist, to be and to explore. It is both inconsequential and immeasurably important, devoid of any inherent meaning yet meaningful in so many ways, it is not to fight duality nor dichotomy but rather to simply experience it. For the rules are what makes the game worth playing, and a game without rules is no game at all.

Remember that thing? That thing you have always wanted to do but never had the confidence to do so?

This is an episode for those experiences crying for help, desperately awaiting your courage to step out of fear and embrace them.

Welcome to episode 7 of the Words With Myself podcast, where we discuss life's everyday mysteries. This episode is about perception, capturing the essence of the saying 'looking at life through rose-tinted glasses', and how our experiences and emotional states dramatically shape how we see the world.

Join us as we delve into the fascinating concept of differing perceptions, evidenced in our day-to-day experiences. We talk about riding a roller coaster as an analogy, emphasizing how different individuals may experience the same event in entirely different ways based on their internal make-up or emotional state.

We further discuss how your emotional state can either enhance or ruin your day. From experiencing negative emotions due to minor inconveniences or letting traffic ruin your day, to focusing on the positives and appreciating the beauty of life, we analyze how different perspectives impact our overall experience.

The episode further explores how one can almost become imprisoned in a negative state, perceiving everything as hopeless and gray, purely based on the emotional lens they choose to wear. We ponder on how one's perspective clicks together when things go right and how doubt sets in when things go awry, illustrating the impact of our mental state on our perceptions.

We also delve into how clouded perspectives from the past or future can prevent us from enjoying the present moment. As we guide you through a more mindful way of thinking, we stress the importance of focusing on what is happening right now to shift your present disposition positively.

In the light of psychology, spirituality, and philosophy, we indicate how we often create our own form of hell by scrutinizing and punishing ourselves, eventually leading us into a dark cloud of distorted reality.

In sum, we invite you to reflect on these 'glasses' that you wear – how your past experiences and emotional state may be blurring your perception of reality. This episode will encourage you to shift your perspective, challenge your perception, and experience life in a new and more enriching way.

Welcome to a thought-provoking episode of 'Words With Myself' where we venture into the delicate balance between feelings and actions in pursuing our goals. Drawing from a personal tale of triumph in the face of discomfort, this episode emphasizes the importance of perseverance, endurance, and commitment.

In this reflective narrative, the speaker embarks on a stroll in the woods, against the backdrop of inclement English weather. Despite the gloomy forecast and subsequent downpour, the speaker remains undeterred, choosing to continue the planned journey. A fortuitous change in climate sparks sunshine, transforming the initially grim journey into a vibrant walk in the woods.

This episode investigates the valuable insights that arise when feelings, while validated, do not immediately drive actions. Our emotions, although profound can sometimes trick us into opting for immediate gratification and overlook long term well-being. The speaker's resolution to continue the walk irrespective of her initial reluctance, beautifully demonstrates this paradox.

Our journey through life often mirrors this walk, filled with discomforts that test our resolve. Exploring this at length, the speaker urges listeners to champion their objectives even when they seem challenging, embracing the universe's tests, and steering clear of complacency.

Above all, this episode serves as a gentle reminder of staying committed to our goals, even when our immediate feelings suggest otherwise. By pushing through resistance and focusing on the bigger picture, the speaker suggests we can overcome hurdles, improve our overall satisfaction, and experience the rewarding life we desire.

Welcome to another episode of 'Words with Myself'. In this episode, we take a deep dive into the realm of language and communication. We focus on examining the transformative power of words and how they shape our world, our perceptions and our very reality. Throughout history, words have portrayed significant importance, often mirroring the chants, spells and incantations of old, signifying an ability to manifest and shape our realities.

However, in contemporary society, careful articulation and thought-provoking speech patterns seem to be fading, replaced with slang and less precise, easily dismissed terminology. Language is rapidly evolving, but with shortened sentences and rapid speech, do we still uphold the same precision in our expressions? The episode sheds light on how our language prepares the lens through which we view the world.

We touch upon the many aspects of language, from its use in politics to emotional manipulation in film and music. With examples from George Orwell's '1984', we attempt to navigate the labyrinth of linguistic manipulation. We remind you that everything you say, and every word you use is akin to a spell, shaping your universe.

This episode also discusses the influence of self-deprecating language on our consciousness and encourages the flip of negative statements into positive ones. Equipped with examples from different walks of life, we inspire a change in outlook towards oneself and our world.

Join us as we delve deep into the power of words and their effect on our lives, outlining the importance of being mindful of what we say and how we say it. Our words, after all, are our magic!

Join us for an insightful episode of Words With Myself, where we explore the importance of not just questioning external information, but also our internal beliefs. Wrapped in a continuous effort to decipher your truth, the episode emphasizes how our beliefs are subtly shaped by a lifetime of curated data from society, the internet, and the government.

We delve into the challenge of questioning deeply held beliefs and the emotional discomfort that comes along with it. It asserts that the defensiveness and agitation we experience when our beliefs are challenged, usually point towards beliefs we haven't truly internalized. We discuss the painful yet transformative experience of questioning those views, which might be rooting us in negativity or detrimental patterns.

In this episode, we illustrate this point with an intimate look at the struggle with depression. We confront the popular belief that it is an insurmountable, inborn affliction and explore an alternative viewpoint of depression as stuck trauma. It's a viewpoint that if realized much earlier, it could have spared much suffering.

By the end, we arrive at a ground-breaking insight. Not only do you often hold baseless beliefs, but questioning and investigating these beliefs, can lead to a profound change in your life.

So, tune in as we unlock the door to wisdom, by daring to unspool the threads of our belief system, questioning everything, especially ourselves.

Welcome to another episode of 'Words With Myself', where we emphasize the importance of living in the present moment. Yet, it's not just about being in the now, but purposively being there. Today, we explore the power of intentional living—consciously deciding to pilot our own lives rather than just mechanically going through the motions.

This episode uncovers the potency of being intentional in your everyday activities. From listening to our podcast to your daily chores or meal times. We delve into the concept of presence and how it plays an integral role in shaping our attitude toward even simple daily events.

We discuss the consequences of detachment from our own actions and how often, we end up becoming observers of our existence rather than participants in our life. This episode sheds light on the transformative potential of being intentional in your actions, and how this can revolutionize your experiences, boost your understanding, and reinstate your connection with your life.

By pouring thoughtfulness into each action, ensuring every act has a purpose, you can not only enhance your experiences but also increase the appreciation for small joys in life. Take for instance, choosing to be intentional and present while walking or eating doesn't just improve the experience, but may potentially lead to improved health and happiness.

We urge you to reflect and audit your days, to bring more awareness to how you spend time. Recognize the choices you made, interactions you had, and their impact on shaping your day, and ultimately your life. This episode empowers you to ask the crucial question - Are you making the choices that you genuinely want to make? Listen in and take a step toward an intentionally driven life rooted in the present.

Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself, a series dedicated to personal development and self-understanding. This episode narrates my journey from discovering who I am to realising the importance of having a clear vision.

Reflecting on my past year, it was a precious time of exploration and openness to new experiences. Wandering without a map and uncovering my true desires through the unknown allowed me to formulate a clear direction in life.

Understanding my desires and having developed the drive to pursue them, I recognise now, more than ever, the need to have a solid vision guiding my actions and choices. A sense of purpose can spotlight specific opportunities pivotal to achieving your goals. However, it is crucial to hold a flexible mindset and remain open to redirection as our desires might evolve with time.

Living in alignment with your values, following your desires instead of succumbing to external pressures, is the primary focus of this episode. The importance of envisioning and tirelessly striving for the life you love is discussed along with the negative impacts of living a life designed by others' expectations.

We also dive deep into the complicated dynamics of parental sacrifices and expectations and their consequential impact on a child's life. Emphasising the importance of having your children live the life they truly desire with no pressures or indebtedness.

If you find yourself stuck between duty and passion and discontented with your current life, remember, it's never too late for a change. Accepting your choices, taking responsibility, and making peace with them is your way to the life you truly want.

This episode is an assertive reminder that your life is entirely your own. How you decide to live every day counts. Embrace the power of choice confidently and wholeheartedly to bring about the life transformation you always sought.

Join us for an insightful discussion to gain a fresh perspective on life choices and realise the power of living in alignment with your true self.

Welcome to this engaging episode of "Words With Myself," where I deeply reflect on my journey to personal fulfillment and self-appreciation. Through the lens of my experiences, I explore the highs and lows, the trials and triumphs, the pain, and the passion that have shaped my path.

Candidly casting a light on mental health challenges, I talk about my long periods of depression that made happiness seem unattainable for a long time. The turnabout is the result of a fiercely fought personal battle, countless challenges, heartaches, and getting up every time I fell. All of these have culminated in a life where I wake up happy and fulfilled, every day.

A critical lesson that I emphasize, often overlooked, is not only living in the present but also cherishing it. This concept is a significant antidote to negative tendencies, such as the constant pull towards a depressive state or a perpetual state of worry about what might go wrong in the future. The episode reiterates the essence of life - change and how to navigate through its unpredictability with peace and gratitude.

The narrative extends into relationships, where the fear of losing someone can turn into an unhealthy obsession, potentially sabotaging the relationship. The discussion plants the seeds of the Buddhist principle of non-attachment, emphasizing that without the fear of loss hovering over us, we can wholly and freely appreciate and celebrate our relationships.

In the final part of the episode, I delve into the merits of gratitude, even in instances when life seems uninspiring or challenging. There is always something, however small or significant, to be thankful for in life. It could be a challenging period, food, water, or even something as seemingly insignificant as a comfortable pillow.

We all change, we learn new information, have different experiences, gain new insights, but could it be that we just grow closer to who we always were? I am not convinced the soul changes, I believe that our true selves are the constant, and that change happens at the level of the ego. Be open to change, but know that ultimately, all change should bring you closer in alignment with who you are, not further away.

Sometimes, the tools we develop to protect ourselves, end up being the very things that hurt us the most. Our defence mechanisms were all developed at a point in time where we believed that it was the only way, our only choice. An important step in healing and growing is to understand that these things we once developed to protect ourselves, may not be suitable for you now and actually might be hurting you more than the initial situation that caused you to develop them.

Part two of the communication episode is about the importance of your communication. How what you say, in turn, creates and affirms the beliefs that shape your reality.

Living a free life is a life of sovereignty. Living your own life, on your terms, with your own beliefs and ideas, making your own choices. There is a responsibility that comes with this, you must be 100% accountable, and you must allow yourself to embrace your journey without benchmarking it against others. Set yourself free, and embrace acceptance in the truest form it needs to come, self-acceptance.

Communication is a difficult thing to master, and much of our speech often reflects our attitude towards life. I am very careful about what I say, and I am often criticised for being too picky with language. But so much of how someone thinks and feels can be picked up from subtle cues in their speech, things they may not even know about themselves. Switching to accountable language is a fundamental first step to clear communication.

We are living in a time where science is believed to negate ancient wisdom, that spirituality is nonsense and only for the unscientific. Yet more and more, we are seeing science coincide with ancient wisdom, not disprove it. The two do not have to be mutually exclusive, one does not disprove the other.

Some Changes we can't make immediately, but does that mean we are just supposed to wait? Absolutely not! We need to do everything we can to prepare ourselves for the change to take place. Create space, Clear room, Know what to expect and what is required.

From childhood, we are taught to look outside of ourselves to know whether our actions, the way we look, and the people we are are, is good enough. We are taught that external validation supersedes internal validation and that our feelings and thoughts are not as important as the thoughts and feelings of others. This is something we must move away from, to place ourselves back in the drivers seat and give ourselves the authority over our lives back.

Motivation is unreliable, the best way to remain motivated is to take motivation out of the equation altogether. Motivation implies there is a choice, that you will do something depending on how you feel. Discipline is the art of doing something regardless of how you feel. Discipline allows you to be consistent, it ensures the work you need to do gets done. Motivation is great, but you can't depend on it.

Feel the fear and do it anyway, is the underlying message of this episode. Acts of courage are not measured by external perception, but in internal conflict. The truest acts of bravery exist when someone overcomes the fear they feel in service of a noble cause. It is not about not feeling scared, or becoming someone that doesn't feel fear, but instead being someone capable of feeling afraid but being unwavering in the face of it.

We all go through transitionary periods in our lives, times when we are making or have made changes, yet our circumstances, environment, and relationships have not quite caught up. Sometimes it can be us that's the thing that's not changed or adapted. This period can be painful, we can long for our situation to be different and feel as though we are doing everything to change yet the change isn't being realized in the world. One of two things needs to happen depending on the circumstances, we either need to be patient and allow the fruits of our labour to come to bear, or we are still holding onto something that we need to let go of in order to grow.

Trust, not control. Trust that things will be okay, trust that you are capable of dealing with the fallout, trust in the universe. Trust is the antidote to anxiety.

Only when we emerge from the cave, can our eyes truly adjust to the light.

When you want to be successful, the first time you achieve your definition of success you realise that your definition was too small. Success is never really achievable to those who are truly wanting it, because those who have a mind wired to attain success know that there is always more to be done. Mastery, an infinite process that many of us treat like a finite one. You can never be the best, you can only be better.

Who are you? Why are you the way you are? These questions can keep you busy for a lifetime, but if you are not happy with the answers, they are subject to change. Nothing is set in stone and we are remarkably malleable with the right motivation and mindset.

Honesty is more than not telling lies, it can be extremely hard to live honestly. Living honestly relies on us being honest with ourselves, to be honest with ourselves we have to confront the truth and this can be incredibly painful. The longer we have run from it, the harder it can be to confront it, the longer we have worn the mask the more we see it as our reflection in the mirror.

If you imagine God as a human-like entity sitting on a cloud, playing a video game and the game he was playing was your life, would they be playing a good game? If not, why not? What could you do differently to live your life in a way that you would be happy to play?

Sometimes trusting our intuition takes a leap of faith, it takes trusting a deeper knowledge and not a cerebral understanding. There have been many times in my life where I didn't know what the answer was, or there were many paths to take, but deep down I knew what to do. Learning to trust that, hone your relationship with yourself and your intuition, and take the required leap of faith without hesitation.

Say it to the universe, let it know that nothing will stand in your way, that you will continue to rise and ascend no matter what life throws at you. When you accept your position, when you accept that there is no alternative, the rest is easy.

Gifting The Gift Of Giving The Gift. What a peculiarly nice title, but one that pretty much sums up the meaning of the whole episode when deciphered. Allowing someone to exercise their gift of giving you their gifts. Allowing others to help us is a gift to those helping us as much as it is a blessing to receive help.

Is ADHD a root cause, or a collection of symptoms grouped together? I believe the latter to be the case, with trauma being the root cause instead. A chaotic childhood environment can often cause the development of chronic awareness, where the child develops a toolkit for survival. The problem with this toolkit is it is built for survival, not living the life we want to live. Rather than trying to manage symptoms, it is important we are doing both, managing our symptoms and working on the root cause itself.

Do you think your thoughts? Are you in control of what comes to you? Can you really control what you think or can you only control what thoughts you attach to? If you want to start breaking patterns and healing, you must first understand what is happening and why.

We all make these kinds of statements, "I have to do this", "I must do that." It can make us feel powerless, that our life is a chore, forcing us to go from one mandatory task to the next. We can change the rhetoric, and remind ourselves that our actions are choices we make and we are not forced into a corner by life. Your life is your choice.

Those who wait may well wait forever. There is a time for patience, sometimes we must wait and allow life to go at its own pace. This podcast is not for these times, this is for the times we expect something is going to come to us just because we ask it to, instead of making it happen. We become victims of circumstance, allowing life to happen to us rather than us shaping the world around us. It is time to become an active participant rather than a passive victim of circumstance.

We bare to much weight on how much we are a product of our environment, and not enough on how we are a product of our choices. When we allow ourselves to become victims of life, we strip away our power to shape how we want our experience to be.

Three choices of action. To live in peace is to master the balance of all three.

When we can truly begin to accept others, we can accept ourselves and vice versa. It may not be easy, but forgiveness is an act of service to ourselves. The more we can accept in others, an unconditional love for all, the more we can unconditionally love ourselves.

We all have things we know we could do better, changes we have wanted to make and areas we know we should really strengthen. This is where the difference between knowledge and wisdom comes in, knowledge is information that sits in our brain that hasn't been gained through our own experience or we haven't taken action upon yet.

We can use this as a form of avoidance, to continually look for new information, new knowledge, instead of doing what we know needs to be done. It can feel easier to search than it can to confront what we already know to be true.

Anxiety can only occur when you are outside of the present moment. The anxious thoughts use the exact mechanism as your awareness, though awareness is present and anxiety lives in the future. Whenever we are overthinking, worrying or fearing what might happen, we can bring ourselves back to the present moment and be aware of what is happening around us instead of what might happen in the future.

Typically, we seek out people that understand them. The people the best understand us can often be people who have had similar experiences as us; unfortunately, these experiences can be extremely painful, and we seek comfort in those that share our pain. This can mean that we surround ourselves with people who have the same pain and the same coping mechanisms and are hurt in the same ways we are hurt. The people that may provide you with a way out might just be the people you are avoiding.

No matter where you were born, which family you were born into or where you grew up, we all had an ideal thrust upon us to obtain. We were all told who we should be, by society, by religion, by family and by the people around us. This leaves us hyperfocused on becoming who we were told to become and neglecting the discovery of who are.

You cannot have light without dark. This much is known, but when it comes to ourselves many people strive to convince themselves there is only light. By keeping ourselves blind to our own capacity of evil, we allow it to rule our subconscious.

A common theme, but an important one nevertheless. I am learning more and more that what is often needed from me is to set the intention, let it be known what I want to create, and trust that if it is meant for me then the universe will provide.

Just because it is simple, doesn't mean it is easy and just because it's hard, doesn't mean it is not right. We place our own limits upon ourselves, fear blinds us and after years of repeating that something is impossible, it soon becomes it. Change the narrative, re-convince yourself of the possibilities.

Healing is not a constant fight to fix what is broken within us, healing is learning that we were never broken to begin with. Healing is acceptance, accepting what has been, what is and what will be. Healing is living in the present moment, not being distracted with fighting a lifelong war with ourselves. Sometimes it takes doing it wrong, to figure out how to do it right.

Fear can be seen as something to remove or to avoid, but fear reveals to us the very things we must do to move closer to our purpose. Fear is there to keep us safe, but in modern society fear has gone into overdrive and become a force for enabling us to escape and run away from our destiny. What was once a tool to provide healthy consideration for personal safety has now spread to all areas of life. Fear may have prevented our ancestors from eating a poisonous berry, but it didn't stop them from eating.

Anxiety or Intuition? How can you tell the difference? Often we can feel like our intuition is guiding us to somewhere and our anxiety is pulling us away, though it can be difficult to decipher which is which at times. A gut instinct telling you not to do something, or anxious doubts eroding your self-belief? If you pay attention you will notice that intuition arrives as a statement and anxiety arrives as a question.

The problem with comfort is that it pair with anxiety, as we know that the comfort will soon come to an end. When we make our whole life suited to comfort, we worry that when this time comes we won't be able to handle it. Those that are used to being in uncomfortable situation do not feel this worry, as they know that they situations are certain and they must deal with them as they arise. It gives nothing to fear a certainty.

Sometimes we can get fixed on obtaining comfort when what we truly are seeking, is peace.

Can you demand the universe to give you what you want? Who are you to be making demands? This is a limiting belief many of us suffer with, feeling like we are not worthy of the things we desire, but just by you being alive you have demanded from the universe that it is to be so. Though, you must be careful what you wish for...

The common way, isn't necessarily the right way. We have to embrace our individualism and trust that we know what is best for ourselves. Too many times do people convince themselves not to take action because the fear what others will say, their judgments and their criticisms. Only when we truly understand that the path is wherever we decide to walk, can we truly be free.

When we begin our healing journey and attempt to let down the walls we have built around us, we can quickly become overwhelmed with feeling all the things we were previously suppressing. This can lead to sinking deeper and deeper into your own pain with no clear way out, but sometimes we have to sink to the bottom in order to push off and make it back to the surface.

During the course of my life, I have grown exceedingly more cautious with what I ask for from the universe. I have come to terms with the fact that actually, I might not always know what is best for me. The things that I am impatiently waiting for, if I had them now, maybe I would squander them. I am learning to trust the universe more and more, that what is right for me will come to me when the time is right, and what never comes was never meant for me anyway.

True strength is being true to you. Many people idealise strength as someone who projects that they are strong, the loudest among us are often considered strong while the quietest weak. It is quite the opposite in fact, anyone can scream and shout, be angry and hurtful to others, but it takes true strength to be gentle, calm and stoic. It takes true strength, to be you, unfiltered and unreserved, just you.

When we ask for something or set a goal, seldom do we look at the full picture. As the great Ronnie Coleman once said, "Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder, but nobody wants to lift these heavy ass weights." Many things are like this, people want the idolized end product but avoid the suffering that it takes in order to get it. IF you truly want something, understand the whole picture of what you want, then you can know that you want the suffering you are inflicting on yourself too.

Despite what we may think, time doesn't heal all wounds. In fact, sometimes time can make it much much worse. Trauma can have lasting effects on our development if we do not do the work that is necessary to heal them, the longer we leave it the worse the wound can get. Despite how painful it may be to sit in the discomfort of the trauma, it will be far more painful to let it affect you for the rest of your life.

When we have been in the darkness for so long, when we finally see the light, it can be blinding. Sometimes rather than making immediate decisions based on how we feel in the moment, we need to allow the dust to settle in order for us to realise what is truly right for us.

Arguably one of the most common addictions in today's society, and something almost everyone suffers with to some degree, the severity of dopamine addiction seems to be on the rise. Our attention spans are rapidly reducing and mental health issues are being reported at record numbers, to what extent is an over-abundance of dopamine to blame? I know in my own life, stepping back and reflecting on a near 24/7 stream of input and distraction, it is having a drastic impact on my mood, concentration, clarity and focus.

Most people believe in the attributes others and themselves ascribe to them, strong, smart, reckless, creative, controlling etc. But truth be told, there are times for all these things, there is an appropriate time to need to take control and there are times for letting go. Being able to identify which archetypes to channel and what kind of energy something requires is an important skill, when something isn't working it may be time to change tactic.

Your time and your energy is your true currency, are you spending it wisely? How you choose to invest your time and energy will determine what comes back to you. This is the karmic nature of our existence.

Healing is a solitary journey. That doesn't mean people, books and many other things can't aid that journey, but it does mean that only we can truly heal ourselves. The work belongs to us, the responsibility belongs to us and so does the accountability. Nobody has had your experience, not exactly, it may be similar, but not the same. While others may have insight and wisdom to share, only you can truly know what work needs to be done and what that work entails.

You are enough, it doesn't matter how much money you have, how many cars you have or how attractive you think you are, you are enough. You are here, alive, a 1 in 400 trillion miracle walking around perceiving and experiencing reality. Nothing you ever do will make you more enough or less enough, because you are, always will be and have always been, enough.

Self-belief is a form of trust that develops from experience. When you set an intention and commit to doing something, the success or failure of this commitment will impact that trust and either result if consistent, will dominate that self-belief. If you are never sticking to what you say, how can you trust yourself? You track record inspires no confidence because you are never able to fulfill those contracts. The good news is, confidence is something that can be gained by anyone, but it requires building up that track record of trust and maintaining your commitments that you make to yourself.

With New Years just gone, many of us will have goals, changes, ideas that we want to bring into fruition. We use the new years vigor to empower us to make grand changes and implement new motives but often times can overextend ourselves and burn out quickly. Instead, our goals and changes should be aimed at long term growth instead of a short term with high intensity. Incremental change in manageable chunks can help us to see real progress and make our goals sustainable and achievable.

No matter the situation and how unfair it may be, the only part of things you can control is yourself. There are always ways we can hold ourselves accountable and address the internal trauma that is causing us pain, for us to move forward we must take ownership of our own responsibility and forgive ourselves for the mistakes we might have made. There is a quote I love, "If you think they are to blame, there is work to be done. If you think you are to blame, there is work to be done. If you think nobody is to blame, you are already there." It is not about blame, it is about healing and growth, in order to move forward we must address our own actions, responses and traumas and allow ourselves to move forward. Compassion is not just for others, we also need to extend it to ourselves.

2023 is the year of truly stepping into myself. Embodying who I am and moving forward to the things that I want without holding myself back or being bounded by fear. 2022 harbored a lot of necessary yet painful growth and this year it is time to embrace that growth and use the lessons learned to truly start creating the life I want to live and tailoring my reality to how I want it to be. I hope you all have a wonderful year and all step into your truest, fullest and deepest selves.

After a difficult weekend, myself and reality finally came to a head. I had been ignoring everything that was going on in my life and marching forward instead of confronting the truth of my situation. I am unhappy, depressed and exhausted, and that is OK. What is not OK is ignoring this fact and letting it fester until it crippled me into submission leaving me exhausted and stripped apart. We cannot bottle things up forever, we can't keep pretending everything is OK when it is not. We must muster the strength to confront how we feel and allow ourselves to confront the problem head on in order to address it.

It's true, loving things hurts. Caring hurts. Whether it is deliberate, accidental or by means of the laws of nature, any time we open our heart there is going to be suffering that comes along with it. Does that mean it is the wrong thing to do? Absolutely not.

Sometimes we can fall into the trap of believing the lessons we get from healing can actually be standing in the way of our goals, because the lesson contradicts the intention of the goal. It can be incredibly difficult to let go of out expectations in life and fall into the void uncertain of what is on the other side. The catch-22 being, until you jump, you will never know and constantly live out this unsatisfied character detached from their purpose.

Momentum can be a powerful force in our lives, both for good and for bad. Each positive step we take will lead to the next, same for each negative step. Confidence, strength, self-assurance, non of these a permanent characteristics despite many people trying to portray otherwise. We all have moments of weakness and moments of strength, sometimes we doubt ourselves and other times we celebrate our achievements. However, we can change the course of momentum in our lives for better or for worse, if you are down now you can take steps to be up, if you are up now down is only a few steps away.

Many people avoid making enemies, but to take any form of stand or doing anything of impact is going to cause you to make enemies. This leaves you with a decision to make, am I going to avoid taking a stand or staying true to my beliefs, or am I going to make enemies. The choice is yours to make, but for myself, I would rather be at war with the world than be at war with myself.

Hurt people hurt people, an old adage but an unwavering one. Trauma has symptoms when left untreated and if we are constantly acting out of trauma we are likely to end up spreading that trauma onto those around us.

When I feel a strong emotion, my default go-to is to analyze the who, what, why's of the situation and try to understand what is causing it. I have gotten so used to doing shadow work, it has almost become my instinct to delve into what I am feeling before I have even had a chance to truly feel it. Shadow work has become some form of defense mechanism as I know that understanding and processing trauma is the road to heal it, I am trying to shortcut the negative emotions before they even arise. I think in some way, I am cheating myself from actually processing the trauma. Rushing to get through it and not allowing myself to feel how I feel or process what I am feeling and instead rushing to try and logic my way out of it.

We all have an idea of Good and Bad, what that means to us, and it is probably completely different for every single one of us. Good and bad are subjective, not only to each individual but also subjective to the moment for those individuals too. When we try to control our life into submission and create a life of good without bad, we end up causing ourselves far more suffering in the attempt to control than we would have with just allowing things to play out how they were meant to. When we allow ourselves to enter a flow state of non-attachment, we can truly experience life in the realest sense.

Second part to the Fear is the limit episode a few weeks ago, expanding on what fear is and how our approach to dealing with it drastically impacts our life. How is fear controlling you and what are you doing about it?

When we are growing up, we fall into the trap of building an identity. We create a mask or a series of masks and learn to keep ourselves sheltered. Over time, we keep checking our reflection and all we see is the mask so we forgot we ever put one on in the first place, believing the character we created is truly ourselves. Who are you really? What do you really want? When you answer these questions through the glasses of the mask/character, we get answers like "I want to be rich" or "I am a loser", answers that attach to the identity we created. We learned that people value rich people, so that is why we want to be rich or we learned that we are a loser because nobody wanted to be friends with us, we traded who we were for somebody that was more palatable for other people. It is time to stop playing the character and start living as authentically as we can bare.

As Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you can or think your can't, you are right." He knew that the beliefs you hold will dictate your reality. Despite the fact that I disagree with modern mainstream spirituality suggesting that manifestation is this cure-all magic problem solver that will make all your wishes come true, I do know just how powerful manifestation can be. Many of us curse our power to manifest, mostly because we often find ourselves manifesting terrible things for ourselves due to our negative beliefs, it is time to change that.

Fear is the barrier to action, it can prevent us from doing and being all the things we want. Yet, fear can also be our biggest source of motivation and strength, it is all about what we do with our fear and how we process it. Instead of letting it control us, we can let it motivate us to be better prepared, more alert and more focused. The more we get used to dealing with the situations and things that frighten us, the less control that fear will be able to exert.

Learning to trust yourself is a tricky business, how can I trust myself when I get things wrong so often? How can I trust myself when I don't have all the answers? Well, my trust lies with my ability to listen, learn and grow, my trust lies with my intuition and with the fact that things happen as they are meant to happen even if I don't see it at the time. So really, I trust myself to be the vessel rather than to be the water, I don't know where I am headed or what my destiny will look like, but I will ride the waves and do it with a firm belief that I am exactly where I am meant to be.

Paradise, a tropical island with a fresh coconut? Not always. Paradise is found within, even when everything is going your way and you are living someone else's dream life, it can feel like hell to you. Sometimes, it takes us being exactly where we want to be to realise that it wont change how we feel within.

As someone who has been caught in the trap of taking life too seriously for a large portion of it, I am beginning to go through the uncomfortable process of re-learning how to play. I realize that a lot of the fear and anxiety I hold caused by this way of living is also preventing me from enjoying life at the moments where I really should be able to sit back and enjoy the profits of the hard work. Instead, I am caught up in thinking that the work is all there is and I see how wrong it all is, but learning to play can be easier said than done.

The "What If" game, is a game most of us will be familiar with. I am sure we have all asked ourselves on many occasions "What if this doesn't turn out the way I want it to?". The problem with playing the what if game all the time, is our attachment to outcome and trying to submit life to our will. I propose we stop playing the what if game and instead play the "Let's see what happens" game instead.

With access to an abundance of information, it can be hard to feel like there is true value in our own knowledge. But the knowledge we have acquired through experimentation, play and exploration is the only thing we can know for sure is right for us. There is a time to learn from others and listen to the wisdom others have to offer, but one can never truly say that have learned until they have put it to practice and tested/applied it in their own life.

Sometimes we can feel really motivated to do things and other times it can be the last thing we want to do, even if it is something we know is the right/good/beneficial thing for us to do. Motivation much like happiness, is a temporary and fleeting feeling, sometimes we can be really motivated and other times we can have no motivation to do anything at all. The question remains, how can we do things we know we should be doing when we don't feel like doing it? My answer, do it anyway. Make it non-negotiable and remove the option or any escape routes. I cannot rely on motivation or feeling good in order to make the right choice, what I can rely on is my persistence and discipline that I am going to turn up regardless of how I feel because I know that it is good for me.

We can often get caught up in the trap of comparing ourselves to others, feeling like we are not enough. Whether it's they have more stuff, more money or more friends, there are an endless amount of ways we can make ourselves feel insignificant by comparing what we have against others. Instead we should be expressing gratitude for the incredible gifts we have and focusing on how we want to experience life instead of how we can feel more worthy of approval.

Attraction can be confused with passivity, idly sitting there waiting for things to happen instead of actually doing something about it but this is far from the case. When I set a goal, instead of desperately searching for ways to accomplish said goal and seeking a path, I observe and see which opportunities present themselves to me. When setting a goal, the universe will always accommodate by putting challenges and obstacles in your path that will help you to create what you want. These situations, tasks or challenges can be incredibly subtle, but once you stop seeking they will become very clear.

We can attempt to transcend our own humanity and escape from what we feel at times, but in the end, the truth will always come to light. You are here for a human experience and your feelings are yours, no matter how well you ignore them. Embracing and loving yourself means all of you, not just the parts that you deem are good but instead the entirety of the whole experience.

Recently, I have been trying to part myself from a great love of mine, music. Not get rid of it entirely but try go throughout the day without have noise constantly persisting in my ear. I usually play music, a podcast or audio book all throughout the day and will have something to pair for each activity but I noticed that this was preventing me from accessing some feelings and thoughts I had when the music wasn't playing. In the void, in silence, I was able to feel my emotions much more deeply and even had ideas and thoughts flowing to me that usually I would have to meditate to experience.

In Spanish, the verb "experimentar" can mean both to experience and to experiment. I like to think this is a somewhat deliberate decision to symbolize that to experience ( that is, to live ) is to experiment, to try things out. As we get older, our freedom and willingness to experiment often drastically changes and we no longer feel safe or able to experiment. We believe that we should get things right and know better, robbing ourselves of the ability to learn. As soon as you stop experimenting, as soon as you stop willing to be wrong, you prevent yourself from being able to learn.

Remember you will die. I have recently been sitting with my own impermanence, truly contemplating what it means to me to die one day. With that I realized a fundamental truth of existence, it has no meaning. Not in a nihilistic sense, but in that it has no intrinsic value only the value you assign it. You create the parameters of your own existence. Despite what society, family, or anyone else may tell you, this experience is yours to live under whatever meaning you wish to assign it. Life is not serious, it is but a temporary game you are choosing to play.

First of all, sorry for the wind on this one. I tried to remove the background noise but ended up doing more harm than good so I left it in, it only covers a small portion of the audio and it adds some ambiance anyway haha. Do you remember that vulnerable child you once were? Do you remember when it first learned it wasn't safe to be itself? That child still exists within you and without appropriate care and attention, the child will manifest itself in many ways you wish it wouldn't if you don't take care of it.

Sometimes it can be hard to stay true to what we believe, desire and feel. Sometimes we may find ourselves always trying to please other people and it is a form of deception born out of a necessity to be liked paired with the belief that our true self is not good enough. When you create an identity based off of lies in order to receive love/validation, you will always carry the weight of feeling like nobody loves the true you and feel like you have to hide it from everyone. The more authentic you can be, the more honest you can be with yourself, the more loved you will truly feel.

In the modern world, the internet, social media, entertainment is more prominent in our lives than ever. It can seem like from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep we are occupied with something, even meditation is something we schedule to do. Many of us hate to be bored, but boredom can fuel and inspire your next best project, mission or purpose .

There is only so much studying/questioning/thinking/meditating you can do before you eventually have to work on integrating the lessons learned and put them into practice. This is the stage I find myself in currently. As Spring is in it's height, a time for new life, new patterns and new modes of being presents itself, I am finding myself very much in tune with the seasons at this moment and am spending a lot of my time and energy integrating and apply the lessons learned from my long winter solitude.

You can have anything you want, but not everything. Many things we desire come at the cost of a great sacrifice. Some of those sacrifices conflict meaning you must choose the path which you most want to walk. That is not to say that you can't be blessed in many ways, but rather, you must be blessed within the rules that govern our game.

We have probably all heard the expression "Treat others as you want to be treated" but what about the opposite? Do you treat yourself as good as you treat others? For me, I always have a tenancy to put others first, to prioritize others needs over my own and say things to myself that I wouldn't dream of saying to others. We have to change this narrative and be our own advocate, giving ourselves what we so frequently give others and treating ourselves with love and respect instead.

Sometimes we are looking for answers but we have the answer in front of us, we just don't want to hear it. Maybe it's a change we don't want to make, something we don't want to sacrifice or a trauma that we think is too painful to face. Whatever it is, searching for things to work on as a distraction from the real issue is not going to work in your favor, if anything, it will only mean that you have more problems to deal with and less energy. No matter how terrifying it may be, the ramifications of not working on the thing you know you should be working on will be much worse in the long run.

Recently, I have come in to contact with people that are really good listeners and they made me realise that I have a lot of improvement to make on how I listen to people. My tendency to try and solve problems as soon as they arrive can mean I am more focused on looking for a solution than listening when someone is telling me their problems. Silence is golden and sometimes it is only in the absence of a response will people really tell you what they need to say.

We place so much pressure on ourselves to be good at things. At some point in our lives we forget how to play and get lost in the serious. I have previously fallen into the trap of treating everything I do like it's work, like I have to do it instead of doing it because I enjoy it. Life is too short to not do the things we love or do them in such a way that means we no longer love them.

Self-Acceptance is something that most of us make a conscious effort to improve, but how far can you take it. What limits have you imposed on your acceptance physically, mentally and spiritually. We often restrict ourselves and filter who we are to be more palatable to other people but what would your life look like if you could be truly 100 percent authentically you with total confidence. Why does that seem like something outside the realm of possibility? It's not! It may be a long road, but a prerequisite to peace is acceptance.

Too many of us are ruled by the opinions of others, we do, say and act in whatever way we feel will be most well received by others. Treating life as a popularity contest rather than carving our own lanes and doing what we love. There has been far too many times in my life that I have let others dictate the way I live my life and it has taken years of work to build the strength of character enough to say no, I will live the way I want to live and do the things I want to do because that is what is best for me. I know my intentions and I know who I am, do you?

With each repetition of a pattern we ingrain it into the fibers of our being deeper and deeper, this can be a powerful tool for good but also a huge block too. Habits can serve to aid our development, learning and recovery but they can also trap us in ignorance and malpractice. Just because you have been doing it or not doing it all your life, it doesn't inherently make it the right thing to do, but unfortunately it can be incredibly challenging to get over these things and break the cycle. Just because it causes pain or discomfort though, doesn't mean it is the wrong thing to do and if you are going to hold on to a particular belief so tightly, you should at least understand your reasoning for doing so.

Go with the flow! It is a cliche I know, but one that is far too commonly dismissed. Life has ups and downs but often we find ourselves chasing the ups instead of embracing our downs. Instead of running from what you are feeling, feel it. Allow yourself to feel, without judgment, ridicule or shame. Sometimes something you think is the worst moment of your life can give life to the best moment of it too.

Sometimes we can be so focused on our goals, dreams and aspirations, look far ahead into the future, that we miss what is right in front of us. Opportunities present themselves all the time if you are open to them, but unfortunately we miss so much of what is intended for us because we are ignoring what is in front for what we think we want.

We all want to believe that we are in control of our own lives, but often we delude ourselves into believing we are far more in control that we probably are. We are constantly at the whim of unknown variables and random circumstances that give life its beautiful unpredictability, variability and colour. The more we convince ourselves we are in control and the less we are able to surrender to happenstance, the greater levels of anxiety we are likely to experience. Control and an obsession with outcome are the very heart of anxiety.

The unknown is something many of us fear, but it is also something we love to use in order to protect ourselves from pain. We leverage it as a coping mechanism in order to avoid confronting the trauma that we have accumulated over our lifetimes, but is it really better not to know? In what ways are the things you are choosing not to confront and interrogate harming you?

Before every event that has led to a major shift or progression in my life, I always feel the same thing before hand. Resistance. Doubt, fear and anxiety all creep in and test my mettle, they challenge me to rise up to the occasion and present the opportunity to overcome them. This resistance has become my key indicator for something which I know I need to do, because I only feel that level of resistance towards things I really know that I want or need to do.

What will be will be. As someone who is typically goal oriented and hyper-focused on finding solutions and fixing things, the idea of surrender terrifies me. I like to trick myself into believing I have far more control than in reality I really do. Sometimes it is only when we stop fighting, stop resisting and accept what is, that the answers we seek will come to us.

As humans progress and globalization begins to dramatically shift how society operates, I feel like some incredibly valuable things are being lost in the process. We have become more connected than ever yet also more individual, we are individual people connected to a network of billions.

Sometimes we get caught in the trap of thinking we know how things are. Things are constantly shifting and changing yet it can be easy to get stuck in our ways and hold onto certain perceptions. Under scrutiny, a lot of these perceptions will fall apart and are contaminated with bias and individual experience. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we are limited to our own experience and that by changing our perspective we can greatly change our reality. Get out there, experience, re-evaluate your opinions, beliefs and preconceived ideas of what reality truly is.

Humans, we are all very different from one another. We have all experienced things differently, have been influenced by different things and have walked different paths. Yet sometimes we find ourselves competing in a popularity contest to validate that we are good enough, smart enough, funny enough, rich enough and fundamentally that we are worth love. If you truly love yourself and look only to yourself for validation, no one can take that away from you. How people perceive you, what people think of you and whether or not you are in peoples favor will constantly change, stability comes from within.

Preparing for the worst case scenario has it's place, but that place is not every situation you find yourself in throughout your entire life. When we are always expecting the worst, we increase our chances of that outcome occurring. It is that scenario where you plan a big trip in your car and then think how it might break down, then it does surprise surprise and we curse the universe for enacting our prophesy.

Moments of true clarity had started to become a rarity in my life, I always had something to distract me, make me feel better or otherwise dilute unwanted feelings and experiences. This year, I am dedicated to removing all the things out of my life that are reducing my clarity and clouding my true feelings and thoughts. This year will be a year of clarity.

I am sure that we have all experienced, seen or repeated the "New year, new me" phase at the start of the year. It may be a tired old cliche, but it is a symbolic opportunity to take inventory of our lives and see which patterns we are playing out, which things we are holding onto and whether we are living in accordance with our true self. Each day is a new beginning, and we can always decide to start fresh. Sometimes we just need to take the time to reflect and assess our lives. For me, this year feels like a true rebirth, an opportunity to let go of the old and begin with a new chapter.

Sometimes we can outgrow ourselves, our mentality and mindset may have adapted but our patterns of behaviour remain the same. How do you change in a world that expects and dictates to you who you are? How do you become someone new? Change can be terrifying and painful, but it is far more painful to live an inauthentic life where we pretend to be someone, we are not just for the sake of keeping up appearances. Change is the only constant after all, let yourself move on from who you were into who you want to be.

Life is suffering. Learning, growing and experiencing all involve elements of suffering. Knowing this, we can choose what we want to suffer for, to give meaning to our anguish and have a reason to go weather the storm. What is worth it for you?

Despite what your ego may want to think, you need other people in life. We all need help, we all need support. We can't be experts of everything and it is important to ask for help when we need it. Everyone wins when you ask for help, other people feel good about themselves for having helped you and you have more time to focus on the areas of your life in which you truly want to invest in. You may be out of practice but it is time to get better at asking for the support you need.

Sometimes we can be so focused on investing in ourselves and in our futures, that we forget that our life resides within the present moment. Of course, you can't always have everything you want the second you want it, but you can live a life that you are happy to live now.

There can come a point in our journey where we feel like we don't want to lose what we have in order to pursue what we want. This can be money, security, status or any number of things, we get to a point in our life where we become comfortable and wonder if the pursuit of our dreams is worth the risk of losing the life we have created.

Everyone has opinion and bias, it is an integral function in our brains ability to process information and make judgements and decisions on how to respond appropriately to information. A problem arises however, when we receive new pieces of information that directly contradict previously held beliefs and opinions. We keep ourselves in a state of cognitive dissonance in order to protect our idea of self, our ego is attached to what we believe and wants to preserve itself and it's identity. This can make changing incredibly difficult. We begin to sabotage ourselves and prevent ourselves from changing in order to hold on to the belief that what we thought or did was right all along.

As we are in the height of Autumn, I have taken time to reflect on what I am holding onto. I am in a transitional period in my life and I am becoming increasingly aware of the things I am holding onto that no longer serve my best interests. Like the leaves fall from a tree, free yourself from past burdens and allow yourself to move on.

It is human nature to avoid pain, integrated into our survival are mechanisms that protect us from dealing with pain. Unfortunately, these mechanisms can work against us as well as for us. When we bury trauma and avoid the pain of addressing it, no matter how deep we bury it, it will always find a way to come back up and manifest itself back into your life. Anger, Sadness, Depression, Numbness can all be symptoms of something that you are avoiding and you may have avoided it for so long, you don't quite remember what it even was that was hurting you. Dealing with trauma may cause short term pain, but it will result in long term peace.

If you did everything you knew you were supposed to do, every day, how would your life be different years from now? How much closer would you be to the person you want to be, the things you want to have and the things you want to do? What are the things you are avoiding? This is the kind of questions I have been thinking about lately and I have realised just how much time I have spent recently off my path, it is time to get back on it.

Lately, I have been focused on things that I need to unlearn rather than things I need to learn. In school, I picked up a lot of negative thoughts and patterns that I still repeat to this day, I learned to hide myself, to reduce my achievements and make myself small. Well, I will no longer tolerate this for myself, I release these wrong teachings and assimilate the new, I am going to burn brighter than ever and will stop at nothing to live up to my full potential.

Sometimes it can feel like the world is against you, like the whole universe is conspiring to make you miserable. Well, I know how this feels all to well but I also recognise that it is a complete fallacy. Despite how it may feel, the problems that you are facing are just challenges you need to complete in order to level up. To get to a place where the kinds of issue you are facing don't even effect you. To motivate you to work harder, smarter and better so that you are in a position to glide over these things as trivial. We must seek adversity, charge forward at each problem and tackle them head on. This is how we grow.

For some people, myself included, we are well versed at doing things ourselves but we are terrible at asking for things. This kind of person will typically give all they can in the service of other people even to the detriment of themselves, they always go the extra mile to help or accommodate the needs of others but never allow others to help them with their needs and wants. This is the self-dependence trap, being so independent that we lose our ability to ever be dependent on anyone or anything but ourselves.

In my experience, very few people identify themselves as completely confident. If you ask someone if they are confident or not, their first response is usually what they are most insecure about instead. We have a tendency to view people as either confident or not, but the truth is, confidence is complicated. Almost everyone (if not everyone) has insecurities and things they are not confident about, whether it is their ability, looks, voice or anything else. If you self identify as not confident, instead, try to break that down into different areas and understand in which places you are least to most confident. A lack of confidence can lead to a lack of execution and missed out opportunities, missing out on that job opportunity, talking to the person of your dreams or just losing the chance to help someone in need.

Sometimes it can feel like we have hit a block, that no matter what we do we can't feel better. Sometimes this is because we focus on the areas we want to change as opposed to the areas that we have to. The more integrated you are with your trauma and the negative things in your life, the harder it is to clear them from it. We justify, protect and ignore the things that hurt us because we have grown used to the pain that they cause, we can become "comfortable" and we know that change is hard and painful. However, if we don't deal with the root cause of our issues, it will only become more ingrained and harder to remove.

My worst nightmare happened, I failed. Well, not really, but I did lose my competition at the weekend. I did, however, win something invaluable that day. I won my respect and I finally learned something that I knew was true but never truly believed. I don't have to prove myself to anyone, I don't have to be something for other people, I just have to be something for me. I am proud of myself, I am proud of what I accomplished and what I was able to do and out of every victory I have ever had, I have never been able to truly say those words. It took losing to know what winning truly is, to truly know the meaning of success and not know it just by others definition of it. I am playing my own game now, fighting my own fight, this is my life and I will not allow it to be democratised.

School and me did not go well together, the main thing I thought I learned from school was that I was incompetent. This, however, is not the case. I just didn't learn the way you are supposed to learn in school, I didn't conform to the generic "good pupil". So many people end up feeling like a failure in school when it is really school that is failing you, to make it worse, they blame you. You didn't pass the tests because you weren't good enough, you didn't try or you were a bad kid, this is what I was told and I am certainly not the only one. Education is not the enemy, knowledge and intelligence are not things to be hated or feared, you just have to learn the way that suits you best.

We often want to feel more in control of our lives but how often are we voluntarily giving up control? We can often feel like life is happen to us, that we are victims of misfortune or bad circumstances. We can make statements like "They made me...", "I have to because..." or "I can't because I don't have...". Statements such as these are powerless, they make it seem like we are not in control of our own lives. We can change the narrative though, we can put ourselves in the position of power, take control and take responsibility. We can stop playing the blame game.

We often view situations in our life as far more significant than they really are, that job interview, the public speech you need to make or the sale you want to make with a client; all these things can seem world ending if they don't end up successful but in truth, it doesn't matter. Other opportunities will come, other people and other chances, in the grand scheme of things and a few years down the line, this will be but a blip in your life.

More of a practical episode than usual, but just coming back from holiday I didn't want to miss an episode and I didn't have much time to prepare. I realised that I needed to get back into the swing of things by going back to scheduling my days in order to get the most out of my time, I have been feeling like I have no time lately and with having so much to do, I want to schedule my days so that I have more time to do everything I want to do.

Being yourself can be hard at times, it shouldn't be, but it is. Naturally, most of us want to make others happy and want people to like us but this can come at a heavy price. We change who we are to please others, we change to fit in and to make our lives easier so we meet less resistance from society. Change is not to be feared, but we need to make sure we are changing for the right reasons.

An easy life may seem like the ideal life, but everything that is meaningful is always hard. To live a meaningful life we must do the hard things, this means voluntarily taking on responsibility. Leaders, Parents, Charity workers and community leaders, roles like this are highly meaningful but also require taking on the burden of large amounts of responsibility. Choose to live a meaningful life , don't run away from responsibility and challenge, instead seek them out.

Is putting others before yourself really always the best thing to do? In this episode we discuss self-prioritisation and when we help ourselves, we help others. Selfish is a label many fear being applied to them, this fear isolates people into a state of unrelenting giving to others no matter the cost to themselves. You are not helping anyone by burning yourself out trying to solve all the worlds problems and not giving yourself a moments thought. It is time to prioritise you.

If you look at your life and the components within it, it may seem natural that what you pursue is the opposite of what you fear. Naturally we avoid all the things we fear and think we are no good at, this satisfies our self-preservation requirements and makes us feel safe. However, there are many times in life that we are required to do the things we fear in order to get the things we want, sometimes we must run in the opposite direction of comfort and pursue strength instead. What are you running towards and what are you running away from?

... But don't force it to drink. If you want to create real change in the world, you must inspire. Personal change leads to localised change. Inspiring your friends and family to see the positive impact of the changes you are making will cascade to the people in their lives too. You can change the world by inspiring as many people as possible, by being the example of the good you want to see in the world and proving that it is possible to those with doubts. Instead of telling people what they need or should be doing, focus on your own growth and commitment and let that shine through to everyone.

How often do you let the fear of failure stand between you and the things you want to achieve, how often are you too paralysed with anxiety to do the things you want to do. It is time to let yourself live, without the fear of being judged, without the fear of letting people or yourself down. It is time to wage an assault on the fear of failure.

Being content is the killer of motivation and inspiration, your self-esteem may be happy under the guise that you are fine as you are but your intrinsic desire for purpose will cause you to suffer. We often know we can do more, know we could be better if we worked a little harder, tried a little more but instead of getting out of our comfort zone and leaning into the pain of inadequacy, we plateau in our comfort. Push yourself, Challenge yourself, fight to achieve more, you will be far more fulfilled in your life than latching onto temporary happiness.

You may love the idea of something more than you love the actual thing, this can be true for people, hobbies, careers and almost everything we consider something we want to obtain. Desire can blind us and cause tunnel vision, only allowing us to see the positive side of the things we want while ignoring the whole host of negatives and the journey it may take to obtain.

How well do you know yourself? Most people think they know themselves, that they know who they are and why they are that way. In truth, Some may think they know but very little understand why or how they got to be the person they are today. The contextual history of what makes you you is crucial information to be able to discern between who you are and who you have been taught to become.

Childish is commonly a term used in a negative way, but children are born with an inherent understanding of the world around them and how to behave in it. We learn to behave differently, to not play, to be scared of taking risks. As our age grows, our egos tend to follow. I am trying to reclaim the lost wisdom of my youth and return to a more carefree and playful way of living.

We are each just a summation of all our experiences, relationships and traumas. Every little bit of data goes towards creating the self that you identify as you, the things you watch, listen to and read as well as the things you do, form the person you are today. With this in mind, what inputs do you have in your life? How are these affecting your outputs? In this podcast, we discuss the input/output concept and how it can be used and altered to change your life.

Do not let the worst parts of your life define who you are. You have the choice, to accept the cards you have been dealt and take positive action towards the life you want or use your circumstances as an excuse. You are in control of your own destiny, you are in control of how you react and the actions you take.

If you could see the impact of everything you said and did, I am sure you would make some very different decisions about the actions you took. Just as one positive action can cause a butterfly effect and ripple into many people doing something positive, the same can be said for negative ones. For instance, if you smile at someone as you walk past them, they may go on to smile at all the people they see on their journey, those people may do the same and before you know it you have made 50 people smile just by smiling once at someone. The impact we have on the world is massive, whether or not you choose to see it as so or not, you are powerful. You can make the choice to not only avoid the negative but actively seek the positive. Try to make a positive impact on everyone and everything as often as you can.

If you frequently feel like people take advantage of you, this one is for you. I have always struggled to set clear boundaries with people and to say no, this frequently led to resentment and the eventual breakdown of many of my relationships with people as I eventually tired from always doing so much or never saying no when I knew I needed to. I am learning and working on this lately and have grown to understand just how detrimental boundaries are in all relationships, whether it is with your friends, family or spouse. It is ok to take time for yourself, it is ok to say no, it is ok to put your needs in front of the needs of others when you know you have to.

Intimidation of others strength is our ego's perception of our own weaknesses. When we come across people that are successful in areas we want to be successful in, we can choose whether to be intimidated or inspired. We can take the opportunity to learn and grow or let our ego and pride stand in the way of progress.

We all have our off days, sometimes we get stuck in a rut and don't know how to get back on track. When your routine falls apart and your habits begin to slip, it is important that you find a way to get back on track as soon as possible rather than let yourself wallow in the slump and fall down the spiral. Depressive episodes may come and go, but the quicker we can recognise and turn it back around, the sooner we can get back to feeling like ourselves again!

The things you are self-conscious about, worry about and hide from others out of fear were taught to you. At some point in your life, you were told or shown by someones actions that these parts of you were wrong, unworthy of love and something you should be ashamed of. Each time you identify this happening, it is important to look at the root of what led you to hold the beliefs so that you can heal from them.

How often are you truly happy with how you spent your day? If you were watching yourself as a main character in a film, would you be happy with the actions that you took. Too often, we allow ourselves to get swept away in the belief that time is infinite and tomorrow is guaranteed. We must not take the days in our life for granted and learn to live each day fully present and to its full potential.

We often get stuck playing the roles we believe society expects us to play, our egos latch onto a specific archetype and pretend that we are limited to the confines of a specific role. When we free ourselves of this belief and begin to experience life through both sides, the light and the dark, the divine feminine and divine masculine and bridge the gap between them, we become more centred, grounded and free to enjoy the human experience as it was intended, without these limitations. You don't have to pick heads or tails. You can flow between states as the moment compels or requires you to. Heal your traumas, set yourself free from the expectations of the role and Embrace duality.

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Talking to yourself may be the first sign of madness, but talking to yourself with contempt and hatred is absolute insanity. change begins with what you say, both internally and externally. If you want to be a positive person, you will never be one if you only say negative things. If you want to be more confident, you cannot put yourself down and use the same passive speech. Language is powerful and what you say is what becomes your reality, so you better make sure the words you select are reflective of the person you want to be and the life you want to have.

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How often do you doubt your ability to do something? Do you frequently fear that you are not good enough to achieve what you want to? By making a few changes about how you approach new/challenging things, you can grow your confidence and self-assurance by demonstrable previous results and progressively increasing your commitment. Stop doubting yourself and give yourself the best chance at succeeding in everything you do.

This weeks episode is about embracing change and not letting our personal attachments stand in the way of our own progress, whether that is just our own limiting beliefs or the views of others. Change is the only constant in life and you must allow yourself to change without judgment of your previous self, understand that learning, growing and adapting is part of life and the purpose of existence.

An optimist that always thinks the worst may seem like an oxymoron, but instead it can be an apt description for a form of optimism that I call Mindful empathy. This is the practice of taking the time to consider what someone else might be going through before allowing ourselves to react negatively to a situation, replacing anger and frustration with love and empathy.

There is a thin line between perfectionism and the fear of criticism and failure. At times, I let the fear of how something will be received, prevent me from doing something in the first place. I am currently writing a book, for example, lately, I have been procrastinating and putting off working on it because at the back of my mind, the closer I get to completion, the closer I am to having to confront my fear of failure. This episode is about that fear.