Tumi's Daily Grind: Recent Episodes
Tumi Dumasi
I talk about recovery, spiritual growth, mental health issues, sobriety, relapses, and spiritual well-being, focussing mainly on the daily work (the grind) that goes into finding peace of mind, contentment,and freedom from addiction.
The importance of setting boundaries to protect your well-being and foster healthy relationships. Learn how to identify and communicate your limits, implement consequences when boundaries are crossed, and handle pushback with confidence. Setting boundaries is an empowering act of self-care and self-respect, and this guide will help you navigate the process with clarity and confidence.
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Healing is not a destination but a journey that begins when you are ready. It’s a process of acceptance, self-compassion, and letting go of what weighs you down. This guide explores the steps to embrace your pain, reflect on its lessons, and create a new path forward. When you allow yourself to heal, you transform not just your wounds but your entire way of being—opening the door to growth, freedom, and inner peace. Healing is your choice, your power, and your gift to yourself.
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Words are more than mere expressions—they shape thoughts, build relationships, and transform lives. They hold the power to heal or hurt, inspire or discourage, unite or divide. Understanding their impact allows us to use them with intention and care.
Harnessing the power of words starts with awareness—speaking with empathy, intention, and authenticity to create meaningful connections and lasting impact.
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Discover the power of pausing in conflict! Learn how a simple pause can transform your communication, keep emotions in check, and lead to healthier, more productive conversations. 🧘♂️✨
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Life often presents challenges that feel like curses in the moment, yet these very experiences hold the seeds of growth, transformation, and wisdom. The pain can refine our character, while the struggle can illuminate hidden strengths.
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In "Atlas of the Heart," Brené Brown discusses shame as a powerful and often debilitating emotion. She defines shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, or connection. It's different from guilt, which is about behavior ("I did something bad") whereas shame is about the self ("I am bad"). Brown explores how shame can manifest in different aspects of our lives and emphasizes the importance of empathy, courage, and vulnerability in overcoming shame and embracing our authentic selves. Her insights into shame are deeply rooted in her extensive research on vulnerability and human connection.
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Self-reflection is the process of examining and evaluating one's own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It involves taking a step back to consider your actions, emotions, and motivations, as well as how they align with your values and goals. The purpose of self-reflection is to gain deeper self-awareness, learn from experiences, and make intentional changes or improvements in your life. It can be done through various methods, such as journaling, meditation, or simply setting aside time to think quietly. Self-reflection helps individuals better understand themselves, their relationships, and their place in the world.
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Ever wonder what your purpose is? Maybe it's simpler than you think! Let's explore how our everyday actions and authentic selves reveal the purpose we’re meant to live.
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The notion of knowing is both expansive and humbling. It reminds us that while knowledge grows with time and effort, the greatest truths often emerge from stillness, reflection, and a willingness to embrace the unknown.
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When combined, these virtues form a powerful triad: Discipline keeps us moving forward, humility keeps us grounded, and faith keeps us inspired. Together, they enable us to navigate life with resilience, wisdom, and grace.
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By consciously approaching problems, you solve them more effectively and grow emotionally and spiritually. Problems become opportunities to refine your awareness and resilience, transforming how you engage with life.
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In this episode, we dive into Chapter 2 of Gary John Bishop's transformative book, "Unfck Yourself," titled "I am Willing." Join me as we explore the power of willingness and how it can propel you towards your goals. Unfck Yourself: Embracing Willingness - Chapter 2 - A Live TikTok Discussion, sharing insights and personal reflections. Whether you're striving for personal growth or looking to overcome obstacles, this chapter offers practical advice to help you take charge of your life. Tune in to discover how embracing a willing mindset can be the catalyst for your self-improvement journey.
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"Finding Clarity: Navigating Life with Self-Distancing" explores the transformative concept of self-distancing in the context of addiction and relationships. The story follows a young woman's journey as she discovers the power of stepping back mentally to gain perspective on challenging situations.
Amidst the complexities of supporting a loved one with addiction, she explores self-distancing techniques—such as mindfulness and introspection—as tools for emotional regulation and clarity. Through practice and guidance, she learns to observe thoughts and emotions from a more objective standpoint, empowering her to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.
As the journey unfolds, self-distancing emerges as a catalyst for personal growth and resilience. The story highlights the importance of self-awareness, compassion, and mindful detachment in navigating difficult circumstances, ultimately illustrating the profound impact of self-distancing on emotional well-being and relationship dynamics.
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Today I run through navigating change providing practical strategies for moving through the stages of behavioural change. I will be doing so by using a short story and highlighting some areas where we need to recognise that change may be required for life improvement.
The Transtheoretical Model, was developed by psychologists James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente in the late 1970s to early 1980s, which proposes a staged model of behaviour change, highlighting the cyclical nature of behaviour change and the importance of readiness, motivation, and self-efficacy.
This model has been widely used in substance abuse treatment, smoking cessation programs, and other health behaviour interventions, showing effectiveness in promoting behaviour change and guiding intervention strategies.
These stages represent a cyclical process of behaviour change, with individuals potentially moving back and forth between stages as they progress toward a sustained change. Understanding these stages can inform the development and implementation of interventions tailored to individuals' readiness for change and support for their journey toward behaviour change and recovery.
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H.A.L.T - How to use this acronym for relapse prevention in sobriety.
HUNGY, ANGRY, LONELY or TIRED.
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In this episode, I delve into a profound revelation inspired by the wisdom found on page 61 of Alcoholics Anonymous and page 421, where the intricacies of human nature are described. I explore, through my experience, strength and hope, the intricate balance between my desire for my rights and expectations, and the chaotic discord that often ensues. Drawing upon the insights of ego, selfishness, and self-centeredness, I uncover how clinging to these notions can lead me to misery, disarray and restlessness, irritability and discontentment.
Through introspection and reflection, I take a deep dive into the path towards serenity by shedding the burden of my rights and expectations and trusting God instead of taking back control.
Within this space, I was able to discover the truth and find a way to relinquish the insanity with the understanding that this construct is not a sign of weakness, but rather a courageous act toward finding freedom, serenity and peace of mind.
My transformative journey helps me embrace the freedom of letting go and find solace in acceptance and serenity.
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In this episode, I look into the intricacies of the Silent Treatment and its impact on relationships. From real-life examples across various relationship dynamics, especially intimate or romantic relationships, to the psychological effects on individuals, exploring the reasons behind this communication tactic and its potential long-term negative effects. Discover communication tips, the importance of seeking professional help, and practical strategies for building healthier communication habits.
Let's understand, navigate, and break the cycle of silence for stronger, more connected relationships.
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In this reflective episode, on this continuous journey of self-discovery, I speak about the inevitable growing pains that accompany change. Life, much like the ancient philosophy of yin and yang, is a delicate balance of highs and lows, victories and setbacks.
With a blend of vulnerability and optimism, I explore the profound idea that both good and bad experiences are intrinsic to the human experience. I delve into personal anecdotes, and how these instances have contributed to my ongoing evolution.
This episode serves as a powerful reminder that while good things are bound to happen, challenges are inevitable too. I emphasise the importance of enduring and actively learning from past mistakes. Through introspection and self-awareness, I discuss the transformative process of turning setbacks into stepping stones toward personal growth.
So I challenge you to reflect on your own journey, recognizing the beauty in embracing change and learning from life's dualities. Whether you're in the midst of a major life transition or simply seeking inspiration, this episode offers some insight into how to navigate the ebb and flow of life with grace and resilience.
"Embracing Growth: Navigating Life's Yin and Yang" conversation with self, will hopefully encourage self-reflection, acceptance, and the continual pursuit of becoming the best version of oneself.
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I explore the incredible capabilities of the human mind. "Unlocking the Power of the Mind: A Journey Within." I unravel the mysteries of neuroplasticity, mindfulness, positive thinking, cognitive biases and how our thoughts shape our reality.
In this episode, I look at the brain's remarkable ability to reorganize itself and form new connections. Discover how this adaptive process influences our learning, memory, and overall cognitive function, empowering us to grow and evolve throughout our lives continually.
Explore the transformative impact of mindfulness and meditation on mental well-being. Uncovering practical techniques to harness the mind's potential for stress reduction, increased focus, and emotional resilience, and examining how our thoughts and emotions can influence physical health. From the mind's role in pain management to the connection between positive thinking and immune system function, uncovering the holistic nature of well-being.
Join me on this enriching journey of exploring the mind and practical ways to tap into its power.
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In this episode, I look into the transformative journey of recovery through the lens of step work in programs. "The Path to Healing: Embracing Honesty in Step Work" explores the crucial role that honesty plays in the Twelve Steps, examining how it catalyzes self-awareness, breaking through denial, and fostering connection within the family, and the recovery community.
Let us navigate the challenges and triumphs of individuals committed to facing their truths, building trust, and achieving spiritual growth on the road to lasting recovery.
Honesty is a cornerstone of the recovery process and needs to be practised always.
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In this insightful episode, I delve into the challenging realm of chronic relapse, seeking to unravel the complexities surrounding its causes and potential solutions. As an individual with lived experiences, I share my perspective based on a share I listened to today, about why some individuals find themselves caught in a cycle of relapse despite multiple attempts at recovery.
Working with others has made a drastic impact lately to my recovery. Could this be the solution for me?
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In today's episode, I look at nuances of my human experience and explore the often-overlooked facet of my emotions, specifically that subtle yet persistent companion in my daily life - Annoyance, irritation and frustration, as I examine the root of its emotional presence within my daily interactions, lately.
I discovered the importance of reflection on the validity of my experiences as well as other people's experiences and opinions on matters related to recovery programs, scripts and doctrines.
As I reflect on annoyance, I explore coping mechanisms, strategies for better understanding and managing these feelings, and the potential for growth and self-discovery that lies within them. This episode aims to offer a fresh perspective on annoyance, transforming it from a mere inconvenience to a valuable source of self-awareness, growth and willingness to learn.
Perhaps it is time to embrace the annoyance in my life, seeking meaning and wisdom within those moments of discomfort, caused by irritation.
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The first step toward recovery involves acknowledging powerlessness over alcohol or addiction and recognizing that life has become unmanageable. It encourages individuals to admit their inability to control their addiction and to accept that intervention from a higher power is necessary for recovery. This step sets the foundation for the 12-step program and emphasizes self-awareness and humility as essential elements in overcoming addiction.
In this episode, I talk about the first step and the essentials of recovery: i.e Honesty, Open-mindedness and Willingness.
This is the first episode of 2024, and I thought it might be a good idea to speak about step 1.
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References:
Alcoholics Anonymous: the story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism. (Fourth Edition, pp. 1–44). (1986). Alcoholics Anonymous World Services.
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In this special episode, I speak with Natalie H, a remarkable individual who has not only overcome the challenges of addiction but has also dedicated over 30 years of her life to the practices of meditation and yoga. Natalie's story is one of resilience and transformation, and her journey from addiction to mindfulness is nothing short of inspiring.
The episode begins with an introduction to Natalie's background, highlighting her years of experience in meditation and yoga. We learn about the turning point that led her to seek healing and recovery.
As we delve deeper into her story, we explore meditation and yoga's role in her recovery journey. Natalie shares her experiences of how these ancient practices helped her regain control of her life, manage stress, and find inner peace. Listeners will gain insight into mindfulness and body-mind awareness's profound impact on one's life, especially during challenging times.
Throughout the episode, Natalie provides practical advice and tips for incorporating meditation and yoga into daily routines, even for beginners. She explains the science behind the practices and offers guidance on how they can benefit mental and physical well-being.
Natalie's wisdom and expertise shine as she discusses the transformative power of mindfulness and the importance of holistic well-being.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration, guidance on meditation and yoga, or simply a heartwarming story of triumph over adversity. Natalie's journey serves as a reminder that anyone can find their path to recovery and healing with dedication and the right tools.
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Gaslighting - A serious emotional and psychological form of abuse.
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Lesson: How to stop Managing others and start caring for self.
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This episode is inspired by Brianna Wiest's book, "101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think," which provides valuable insights into the dynamics of love and relationships.
These insights offer a valuable perspective on love, self-acceptance, and the importance of taking responsibility for your own happiness and well-being before seeking it in others.
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How I'm dealing with my blow-up?
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The Friendship Graveyard
In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on our emotions and personal growth.
Highlights:
- Reflecting on Loss: We share our experiences of friends who have drifted away or ended relationships. We candidly discuss the emotions of losing friends and the lessons we've learned from these experiences.
- The Complexity of Emotions: The hosts explore the range of emotions associated with the Friendship Graveyard, from nostalgia and longing to acceptance and closure. We discuss whether it's possible to fully move on from losing a friend.
- Missing Pieces: We delve into whether we truly miss those friends and what it means to miss someone who was once an integral part of our lives. We explore how these missing connections shape our sense of identity.
- The Desire to Reconnect: Tumi and Thato explore the idea of wanting to reconnect with lost friends and whether such reunions are feasible or healthy. We discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of attempting to revive friendships.
- The Evolution of Relationships: The episode also examines how friendships change and why some connections may naturally fade away. We share how growth and personal development can impact our relationships.
This premiere episode, "Unrestricted", sets the stage for open and candid conversations tackling sensitive and thought-provoking issues. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of friendship, loss, and the deep-seated human desire for connection.
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The Friendship Graveyard
In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on our emotions and personal growth.
Highlights:
- Reflecting on Loss: We share our experiences of friends who have drifted away or ended relationships. We candidly discuss the emotions of losing friends and the lessons we've learned from these experiences.
- The Complexity of Emotions: The hosts explore the range of emotions associated with the Friendship Graveyard, from nostalgia and longing to acceptance and closure. We discuss whether it's possible to fully move on from losing a friend.
- Missing Pieces: We delve into whether we truly miss those friends and what it means to miss someone who was once an integral part of our lives. We explore how these missing connections shape our sense of identity.
- The Desire to Reconnect: Tumi and Thato explore the idea of wanting to reconnect with lost friends and whether such reunions are feasible or healthy. We discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of attempting to revive friendships.
- The Evolution of Relationships: The episode also examines how friendships change and why some connections may naturally fade away. We share how growth and personal development can impact our relationships.
This premiere episode, "Unrestricted", sets the stage for open and candid conversations tackling sensitive and thought-provoking issues. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of friendship, loss, and the deep-seated human desire for connection.
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Uncertainty is a pervasive aspect of life that involves a lack of certainty or predictability about future events.
In this episode, I speak about my response to finding myself in this period of uncertainty, what it means to me and the direct impact of this change.
I aspire for positive change with the acceptance of the outcome surrendered to my higher power.
Sources quoted: Deepak Chopra and Hireclitus (Heracleitus).
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The Friendship Graveyard
In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on our emotions and personal growth.
Highlights:
- Reflecting on Loss: We share our experiences of friends who have drifted away or ended relationships. We candidly discuss the emotions of losing friends and the lessons we've learned from these experiences.
- The Complexity of Emotions: The hosts explore the range of emotions associated with the Friendship Graveyard, from nostalgia and longing to acceptance and closure. We discuss whether it's possible to fully move on from losing a friend.
- Missing Pieces: We delve into whether we truly miss those friends and what it means to miss someone who was once an integral part of our lives. We explore how these missing connections shape our sense of identity.
- The Desire to Reconnect: Tumi and Thato explore the idea of wanting to reconnect with lost friends and whether such reunions are feasible or healthy. We discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of attempting to revive friendships.
- The Evolution of Relationships: The episode also examines how friendships change and why some connections may naturally fade away. We share how growth and personal development can impact our relationships.
This premiere episode, "Unrestricted", sets the stage for open and candid conversations tackling sensitive and thought-provoking issues. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of friendship, loss, and the deep-seated human desire for connection.
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Detaching with love: The practice that promotes healthier relationships, personal growth, and emotional well-being. Detaching with love doesn't mean we care any less – it's a way of showing our care in a more balanced and sustainable way. In this episode I delve deep into this concept, following personal experiences from the past week.
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References:
Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. (2006). Hope for today. Al-Anon Family Groups (Australia.
Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. (2008). How Al-Anon works for families and friends of alcoholics. Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters.
Al-Anon Family Groups. (2018). Courage to change—one day at a time in Al‑Anon II. Al-Anon Family Groups Inc.
Al-Anon Family Groups. (2021). Opening our hearts, transforming our losses. Al-Anon Family Groups Inc.
Al-Anon Family Groups (Australia. (2013). Paths to recovery : Al-Anon’s steps, traditions and concepts. Al-Anon Family Groups (Australia) Pty Ltd.
Alcoholics Anonymous. (2001). Alcoholics Anonymous : The story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism. Alcoholics Anonymous World Services.
Beattie, M. (2009). The language of letting go. Phoenix Audio.
Beattie, M. (2011). Codependent no more workbook. Hazelden.
Cloud, H., & John Sims Townsend. (1995). Boundaries. Workbook : when to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan Pub. House.
Don Miguel Ruiz. (2008). The four agreements. Hay House Inc.
Wilson, L. (1979). Lois remembers: Memoirs of the Co-Founder of Al-Anon and wife of the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous. Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Incorporated.
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Instincts and Addiction
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Moving from Intuition to Intention
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Achieving mastery of consciousness is a lifelong journey that involves continuous growth, self-discovery, and intentional effort. It involves aligning your thoughts, emotions, and actions with your true self and chosen intentions.
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Gratitude for gratitude
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Thato on Gender and Sexuality Diversity
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Interview with Kymani: Gender and Sexuality Diversity.
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In certain cases, individuals who struggle with addiction or alcoholism may turn to prayer and meditation as part of their recovery process. These practices can provide a sense of solace, help manage stress, and promote self-reflection and personal growth. However, it's important to distinguish between a healthy engagement with prayer and meditation and an addictive pattern.
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Do you feel that things around us are slightly off? Well, I do, and the last few weeks have been filled with a sense of unease, discomfort and stress. Can we answer the question? Perhaps not now. However, I would like to ask you to please share your experiences with me at tumi@tumisdailygrind.com. Looking forward to hearing from you.
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Personality Development: Psychoanalytic Approach
I explain the psychoanalytic approach to personality development by summarising the key characteristics, the value this approach provides in counselling and the current critiques against the psychoanalytic approach.
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Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT)
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Let us Catch up
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An interview with Mr. D
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Episode 76: Falling Upward by Richard Rohr - A book review
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Episode 74: Selfishness, Self-seeking and God-seeking
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Episode 75: A new understanding of Life
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Many people these days have a lot to say about self-improvement. They tell us that we can all do it if we work. We get told to live healthy, happy and free. In this episode, I tell you that it is not easy. Change is one of the most challenging things to do and requires a lot of dedication. My story is full of successes and failures—a rollercoaster ride. But I have to focus on the best I can do today.
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ROUND-THE-CLOCK FAITH
January 19
Faith has to work twenty-four hours a day in and through us, or we perish.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 16
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January 20
As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 87
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WOULD A DRINK HELP?
January 18
By going back in our own drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that it was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression.
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 23
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An in-depth recovery story with Mr D.
I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking.
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An in-depth recovery story with Mr D.
I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking.
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An in-depth recovery story with Mr D.
I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking.
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An in-depth recovery story with Mr D.
I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking.
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An in-depth recovery story with Mr D.
I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking.
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Day 72 - A sober December 2022
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Day 71: Back to Basics
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Day 70: 12 Months, just for today.
Yes, I am looking back at my last 12 months. I started my journey on the 13 of October 2021 and am so grateful to have made the choices I made. I chose to change and change is what I am celebrating.
Thank you to those who have been with me since the beginning. I wouldn't be celebrating 12 months without your contribution in some way or another.
I am gratitude, gratitude is me. I am grateful to you. I am grateful to my higher power.
"To thine own self be true"
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Humanistic psychology is a psychological perspective that arose in the mid-20th century in answer to two theories: Sigmund Freud's psychoanalytic theory and B. F. Skinner's behaviourism. Thus, Abraham Maslow established the need for a "third force" in psychology.
(Wikipedia)
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Day 67: Jung Typology and the Myers-Briggs Personality test.
Personality Type Explained
According to Carl G. Jung's theory of psychological type, people can be characterized by their preference for general attitude as Extraverted (E) vs. Introverted (I), Sensing (S) vs. Intuition (N), and Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F)
The three areas of preference introduced by Jung are dichotomies. Jung also proposed that in a person one of the four functions above is dominant – either a function of perception or a process of judging. Isabel Briggs Myers, a researcher and practitioner of Jung’s theory, proposed to see the judging-perceiving relationship as a fourth dichotomy influencing personality type, Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P).
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Day 66: I am restless, irritable and discontented.
October; The month where I decided to change my life and follow a new path to finding authentic happiness, and serenity.
And here I am feeling restless, irritable and discontented. And I just want to understand why I am here.
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In this episode, I talk about the five psychosexual stages of development, which are the oral, anal, phallic, latent, and genital stages, the erogenous zone associated with each stage serves as a source of pleasure. Psychosexual energy, or libido, was described as the driving force behind behaviour by Sigmund Freud. I also take a look at the ID, EGO and SUPEREGO, Freud's levels of consciousness.
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Day 63: Defence Mechanisms by Freud
Explaining the defence mechanisms we use to protect us from anxiety, as theorised by Sigmund Freud and Summarised by his daughter Anna Freud.
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Do you think you may have a problem with substance abuse or may have behavioural addiction? I look at signs and symptoms to look out for and ways to get help.
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Day 60 - The Benefits of the 12-step Program.
I share the benefits of the twelve-step program, why I believe it works, and the steps it takes for us to recover. I run through these steps from my point of view and highlight the sections I think are important for a basic understanding of this program.
I hope you enjoy it.
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In this episode, I look at Step 1 in the 12-step program of recovery. How to find help if you have a drinking or addiction problem? What is AA? What does the AA Symbol mean? What is anonymity? And what is expected of members in recovery-based spaces?
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Please note that These episodes on this channel have no affiliation to ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, do not intend to give advice to anyone and are not intended for personal gain in any way. My opinions are based on my experience only and all quoted material, paragraphs and phrases are recited and Reprinted from AA.org, with per- mission of A.A. World Services, Inc.
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Yes, I am here. This familiar place of being complacent and confusing it for contentment. I didn't see it coming, I wasn't prepared for it, and it slowly came in disguised as contentment.
Time to nip it in the bud.
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This week I hit 260 days in my Sobriety Count, in my spiritual journey and it feels good.
I am truly seeing the benefits of self-care, mindfulness, taking care of my mental health and at the same time working on my business. I am at a point now where I am expanding my presence and awareness of self. Getting to know my emotions and how external factors affect my mood and personal well-being on an hour-to-hour basis. It is pretty vital to change my negative traits and the way I perceive the world and life in general, however, it is more critical for me to change the way I perceive myself on a daily basis.
So what do I mean?
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Day 51: A dedication to my Mother
Happy Birthday, Mama.
Mama, I dedicate to you these humble words. You led this family into a better life. You, the daughter of God, a daughter of the struggle against apartheid, lived a life, a life of courage, a life of loyalty, a life of humility, a life of gratitude and a life of faith.
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Day 50: The importance of Mindfulness in Recovery
Mindfulness is a concept I have added to my recovery journey this time around. I have found that being present and at the moment has assisted me in staying sober and awake to life.
This is how I have done it.
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Day 49:
Gender-Based Violence (GBV) and Femicide Part 2
An episode motivated by #justicefornamhla
Social media was awakened to the shooting of Namhla Mtwa, who was killed on the 21st of April 2022, in her car, on her driveway by an intimate partner. This case has now caught the attention of millions of South Africans who are now following, as her family released alarming photographs, a video and messages they found on her phone. Messages that go back and forth between her and her boyfriend.
I take a second look at GBV, VAWG, IPV, DV, SV, SA and indirect Structural violence.
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In this episode, I take an in-depth look at Histrionic Personality Disorder, inspired by Amber Heard in her case brought by Johnny Depp.
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Day 47: Will you cry with me?
Let us let the tears be what they are meant to be. And allow ourselves to cry. Wash away the sadness and allow it to leave us with peace and serenity. Let the tears flow with your bellow laugh, let the tears flow from your feelings of happiness.
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Over 200 days since my journey began in October 2021, I have made such progress so far and would like to reflect on it.
When my journey began, I was seriously doubtful about what I could accomplish going forward. Because I felt that I had reached serenity once before and it may be a once-in-a-lifetime experience, I became willing to pursue it and look at it from a different perspective, where it would not be about my family but about me. It wouldn’t be about pleasing anyone else that exists in my life, but just about me.
In this episode, I look at the 40 lessons learnt in these few months.
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Today I talk about something that has been on my mind since following the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard case and how I'm triggered by it.
This is a personal look at an encounter with a mad woman, and the irrational motivation behind a person's malicious behaviours.
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Are you passive-aggressive? Do you know a person who is? What can you do to help yourself and the ones you love?
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I want to talk about humility as I have been getting advise as a lot of us get advise from others to humble ourselves. But what is it? What do they mean by humility?
The meaning of humility according to the dictionary is the quality of having a modest or low view of one’s importance, and when stated in that way, some of us view it as a negative characteristic. I think this is mainly because of what we have been taught about the importance of high self confidence and self esteem. This then sounds contrary to what we know. Let me tell you a story of a woman who was forced to humble herself quickly and then look at my perceived importance of humility.
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Day 40: Road to Sanity
A perspective of an addicted mind.
Recovering from the hopeless state of mind and body.
Finding the solution to getting sober, and staying sober.
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In this episode, I take a look at Religion and Spirituality. The philosophies surrounding us on the belief in a higher power and how we connect with God htrough our Bodies, Mind, soul and spirit. I look at the foundation and definition of religion and spirituality and where these are slightly different.
I breakdown my philosophy and beliefs in my 145th day of my spiritual journey, which might change in the future, depending on circumstances or where I am at in my journey of life.
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Today's media reports only on the extremes of life. We are constantly either fed with news about people doing extremely bad things to others or to themselves; or people achieving extremely fantastic things for themselves, others, or the world as a whole.
What is wrong with us being exposed to the extremely fantastic and the extremely wrong things that happen around us? We consciously or unconsciously compare ourselves to those and adjust our own values to meet those standards. We don’t even take into account what our current circumstances are. Whether we would ever be able to meet those standards or not goes straight out of the window, and we then place such unrealistic expectations on ourselves. This leads to us having a miserable existence because we always feel less than what we see. And average has now become mediocrity.
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Day 37: Depression and Suicide
In this episode, I talk about depression and the circumstance that may lead to thoughts of suicide.
Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Depression is a word that we use a lot in everyday language to describe feelings of sadness, feeling down or disappointment, however, clinically it is major depression that is more intense, lasts longer, and interferes with effective normal functioning with our normal daily routine.
I also look at how depression is linked to suicide.
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Centre for Clinical interventions:
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Today I look at Femicide and Gender-Based Violence; with femicide being the intentional killing of a female, a word with no antonym, a word that was first documented in 1801, and is now defined as, and I quote: “the murder of women by men motivated by hatred, contempt, pleasure, or a sense of ownership of women” and “the misogynistic killings of women by men.” With men recognized as the primary perpetrators.
And Gender-Based Violence refers specifically to harmful acts directed at an individual based on their gender, rooted in gender inequality, the abuse of power, and harmful norms. Gender-based violence (GBV) is a serious violation of human rights and a life-threatening health and protection issue. Physical violence, verbal violence, psychological violence, and sexual violence are the major types of GBV.
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Day 35 "Everything that arises, passes away" This is a reading of a reflection by Ajahn Sumedho from the book, "The Way It Is" which can be found on, pages 23 and 24.
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Tiny changes that will enhance your life. Inspired by Atomic Habits by James Clear. It is quite an amazing book packed with advice on the subject of habits. Atomic Habits makes sense to me and lays out the simple way of creating them, making them stick, and gives direction on how to help them become automatic. So this is my summary of this advice and I think, if you haven’t yet, get a hold of it and read it. It will help make your new year's resolutions achievable. I learned so much from it and So I decided to talk about Creating Good Habits? What are the main steps to follow as outlined? This episode is inspired by James Clear’s book, “Atomic Habits”, Tiny changes, remarkable results, which was published in 2018, with over 5 million copies sold.
I focus mainly on the "boredom" aspect and how to get over that hurdle, as best as I can.
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We usually believe that the feelings and emotions we experience are determined by external events, situations, occurrences, and behaviors of others. We try to answer questions related to our feelings by referring to what happens external to ourselves. And are quick to blame other people, things, or situations for making us angry, happy, sad, excited, relaxed, and faithful. Meaning we believe that they influence or determine the feelings that we experience. We tend to automatically link these feelings without stopping and analyzing the actual process that makes that link and not noticing the step or the process that lies in between the event and the conclusion. This process is how our thoughts directly influence our feelings.
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Today I talk about boundaries, especially in recovery and how important these are for me to implement while travelling on this spiritual path. There is so much information out there on this topic and I am just about to add to all the media that is available. Creating, implementation and maintaining of boundaries is a vital component of self-care, and not taking them seriously for us leads to burnout, resentment, hurt and anger. We may feel that others are taking advantage of us, taking over our space and time, and taking us for granted; which may leave us feeling depleted or overwhelmed. So what is a boundary? In recovery, it is explained as respect for oneself and respect for others, the dictionary defines it as a line which marks the edges or limits of an area. It is a Psychological demarcation that needs to be placed to protect your set limits when it comes to the physical, sexual, financial, intellectual, emotional, your time, and definitely your expectations. Good Spiritual boundaries have to include the honouring of your values, your beliefs and your set goals, and ensuring that nothing interferes with those, which means that you have to set your own boundaries and respect them, so you can ensure that others respect them as well.
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So today I would like to talk about the importance of service while suffering, and look at whether it is possible? And what benefits we can have from being of service. And so, first I would like to look at what service actually means within the context of my journey toward recovery. Being of service simply means to be helpful or useful to something, whether it is a person, a group, a community, or a cause, without expectations of a reward. When we are suffering, being of service may be the most difficult action to perform, next to giving gratitude while in pain.
We all suffer from hardships at some point in our lives and I would like to acknowledge that, although the level of hardship may be different from one person to the next, the level of suffering is the same, because it is in the eye of the beholder. Some of us have experienced burdens through loss, illnesses, heartache, disappointment, sudden change that we were not prepared for, broken relationships, and more.
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Today I realize that the love I have for you is the purest and for that I am grateful. You came through me from my higher power and I am absolutely honored to be given the task of feeding you, teaching you, encouraging you, watching you grow like the sunflowers I planted weeks ago in my yard. I am honored to be the one chosen by God to have you next to me physically, emotionally, spiritually, and always in your little corner in my conscious. I am your mother, the one who was trusted by your soul to provide guidance for your physical and mental state while you travel your journey on this earth, this plane, this universe. I am grateful that your spirit chose me to be your carer, your nurturer, your security, and your warmth and kindness.
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In today's episode, I look at the difference between Complacency and Contentment. Now, what is the difference? Complacency is “a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger, defect, or the like; it is self-satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation, condition, or circumstance. It is that wonderful feeling of being fulfilled and comfortable, assuming that things will stay the same, causing us to remain in that comfort zone, doing just enough to get by and keep our life as is. Contentment is having the attitude of working hard and being able to be happy with the outcome of your hard work, no matter what the results are. This is the opposite of complacency really, these two words or ideas are worlds apart from each other.
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There are 2 very closely linked words that people in recovery are terrified of. Those words are lapse and relapse, with lapse meaning a slip that ends with you having the ability to return to your life in recovery, a brief resumption of the addiction before quitting again, and a relapse which means a continued downward spiral following a slip, you use again and return to the pattern of behavior and fall back into addiction. When you go through the journey toward recovery and come out on the other side clean and sober, you have a lot to feel good about. The peace and serenity that come with it are absolutely amazing. However, a lot of people in recovery have a fear of relapsing. After winning that hard-fought battle for sobriety, it can be devastating to consider that it might not last forever. Did you know that it is actually relatively common to relapse at some point after staying sober for a while? Both of these need to be considered and discussed openly to reduce the chances of them happening during sobriety, as they are an interruption to the life of recovery and lead to loss of the gained happiness.
Healthy living is key. When we recognize the cravings, the irrational thinking, restlessness, irritability, discontentment, isolation, emptiness, hopelessness, feeling of loss, and stress we need to apply all these tools as our mind is a very powerful thing and can create nostalgia, causing us to forget the negative consequences of our actions while in active use and only remind us of only the good experiences we feel under the influence of our preferred substance, we got it used to. Stay away from people you used to hang out with when you were actively intoxicated, places you used to go to, such as bars, and avoid the playthings that caused the triggers that will most certainly cause a lapse or relapse. And always remember that when it gets really bad and you feel you have lost all power to avoid the negative thoughts, call someone else and see how they are feeling, that might remove the obsession you are feeling at the moment and help you focus on something else.
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Gratitude, the quality of being thankful and readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. This word is derived from the Latin word gratia meaning “grace, graciousness, or gratefulness", it is a feeling of appreciation felt by the recipient of kindness, gifts, help, favors, or other types of generosity, to the giver of said gifts. Gratitude is a thankful appreciation for what an individual receives, whether tangible or intangible. With gratitude, people acknowledge the goodness in their lives. In the process, people usually recognize that the source of goodness lies at least partially outside themselves. As a result, being grateful also helps us connect to something larger than ourselves as individuals, but rather to other people, nature, or a higher power. The experience of gratitude has historically been a focus of several world religions. It is important to note that a person who shows gratitude does not seek more, and is content with what they have.
An attitude of gratitude means creating an intention, conscious mindset, and a habit to be thankful, being willing to always express appreciation for all aspects of life, both large ones, and small ones. The attitude of gratitude mindset will make you feel more confident, more positive about your existence, have a more optimistic view of your conditions, it will create more happiness about the things you have right in front of you, and appreciate the people that matter most. We have all heard about the benefits of exercising gratitude and are aware of how to mostly practice it. But we sometimes forget about how powerful it is in the creation of contentment. Throughout life's trials and blessings, displaying a general attitude of gratitude actually increases dopamine in your brain. You know, the chemical that makes you feel good, and encourages your brain to seek more of the same, so in essence, the more you are grateful for, the more you will find things to be grateful for. You can find peace during times of distress, sadness, depression, or anxiety, improve your outlook on life and find serenity.
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