Parts, Power & Leadership: Recent Episodes
Ruth Hescock & Kristin Tand
Parts, Power and Leadership, co-hosted by Ruth Hescock and Kristin Tand. This will be an ongoing discussion bi-weekly, using the model of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to explore the complex experience of women in leadership, as well as how other intersecting identities and systemic issues impact the experience. We are excited to bring a diverse perspective of female-identified leaders, entrepreneurs and business owners on our show through guest interviews.
In this episode, we sit down with Robin Moore who is a Senior Technical Apparel Designer at Nike. Robin takes us on a journey that spans from her roots as a hobby seamstress to her current role at Nike designing men’s golf apparel.
Robin discusses the evolution of her career, beginning from going to school for engineering and then quickly switching to pattern making once she learned she could turn her hobby into a career.
A central theme of this episode revolves around the impact technology has had on her career. She describes the challenges and opportunities that emerged as technology revolutionized the industry and how she navigated these shifts, from embracing digital tools to staying resilient with all the changes.
As always, we are using the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in our discussion. In the interview we identify “parts” that come up with change and the fears that can prevent change from happening. As well as how Self energy can help us take courageous steps in trying something new.
During this episode, we talk about how we sabotage success as business owners. When we embark on a new business venture or try something new, many of our parts can get activated. Today we discuss how sabotage protects us from failure AND success. If we truly succeed what will that mean? How will success change our identities and lives?
Using the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), we bring examples of our own journey with self-sabotage and the ways it shows up in our personal process.
Curious why you procrastinate when trying something new? Tune in and hear how to work with your own saboteur.
We are talking with Dontea' Mitchell-Hunter this week who is a therapist, coach and founder of ‘Worth Everything’ an online course and community for women getting out of unfulfilling relationships in order to ‘discover their worth and see themselves as the prize.’
Dontea’ is a self-worth licensed therapist, and speaker that helps women get out of unfulfilling relationships and recreate self-love & happiness - single or partnered. She wants women to know their worth doesn’t come from being in a relationship nor what others think of them. Dontea’ is also the CEO of Soirées In Therapy.
Dontea' talks with us about situationships; relationships without a title that lacks definition or boundaries, and how that creates a toxic environment that breaks down women’s self-worth. Dontea' offers new insights about how women can focus on their relationship with themselves as the path to attracting the right partner.
As always, we are using the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in our discussion. In the interview we identify “parts” that Dontea' experienced during her entrepreneurial journey and how she honored her own needs as she built her businesses.
Click on the links below to learn more about what Dontea' has to offer:
https://www.soireesintherapy.com/ -- Dontea's therapy private practicehttps://www.dontea.co/ -- Worth Everything, 6 week Group Coaching Program & Online Community For more information about the hosts: Ruth Hescock LPC, Executive & Business Coachwww.innerinsightconsulting.com Kristin Tand LPCwww.kristintand.com
Money and finances impact so many levels of our life and yet we rarely talk about it. In this episode we discuss how family experiences shape our beliefs around money and how those burdens show up in our systems.
Using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) lens, we identify "parts" of ourselves that make money decisions and influence our businesses and leadership choices.
What is it like to make Self-led financial decisions? Find out in this episode!
During this episode we are talking with Lauren Hancock who is a psychologist, executive coach and speaker from Perth, Australia.
We take on some hot topics related to sexual harassment and social justice in the workplace.
Lauren shares how she specifically works with female leaders, teaching them how to “take up space,” to empower her clients to be seen and heard in male-dominated workplaces.
As always, we are using the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in our discussion. In the interview we identify “parts” that came up for Lauren in response to her leadership experiences. We also talk about how those "parts" assisted her through challenges of her journey.
More Information about our guest and the services she provides: laurenhancock.com.au
Psychologist Lauren Hancock has 19 years of experience as a therapist, coach and facilitator. Initially trained in Counselling Psychology, Lauren worked as a therapist for over a decade, mostly in private practice. Concurrently, she held a range of roles in consulting, facilitating and coaching, including working internationally.
Lauren is experienced in program writing and facilitation in the areas of leadership, mental health, and difficult relationships. She has written and delivered workshops ranging from half a day to six days in duration and has curated multiple residential programs. Alongside her own clients, she is Adjunct Faculty with Executive Education arm of two high ranking business schools.
As a coach, Lauren’s focus is both intrapersonal and interpersonal. She believes that improving self-awareness and better managing mental health variables are fundamental skills for leaders. She assists leaders to show up as the best version of themselves through employing a range of psychological approaches and techniques. She is accredited in a range of 360 and development tools and regularly uses these as part of a coaching program. Lauren is also experienced as a team coach, working with intact teams to reduce conflict and increase effectiveness.
Lauren has worked with clients from a broad range of industries across the public and private sectors as both a coach and a facilitator. She has also worked across all levels of the organization, working with the senior executive team through to facilitating programs for frontline employees.
Learn more about our guest here: laurenhancock.com.au
Information about the hosts:
Ruth Hescock LPC , Executive Coach: https://innerinsightconsulting.com/
Kristin Tand LPC: https://www.kristintand.com/
We’re back after a short hiatus and are digging into a BIG topic: What it means for women to not have children. This topic is not discussed very often and we are talking about pressures women face when they are “outside the box” of parenting social norms.
We also talk about how the topic of children shows up in the workplace and impacts how clients and others perceive women when they learn about their personal lives.
All this as well as talking about the Internal Family Systems (IFS) concept of “legacy burdens,” which are traumas and expectations that are passed down through generations.
Join us for this lively discussion!
More about the hosts:
Ruth Hescock LPC, Executive Coach
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC
www.kristintand.com
During this episode we are talking with another amazing female business owner, Melissa Calotis! Melissa is an entrepreneur, and she owns a hair salon in NW Portland, OR called M.Y. Hair Salon. Melissa built her business from the ground up with a mere $2000.00 in 2009, and now she currently contracts with 5 other stylists. She talks with us today about her business journey from the early days of opening her business to her current success, how she went from surviving to thriving.
Melissa shares about challenges she faced as a single mom and business owner, and how she navigated barriers related to lack of finances, expectations related to gender roles and age.
Melissa shares her journey to figure her worth and price her services and how systemic views related to gender roles tend to devalue women monetarily.
Melissa talks about the importance of mentorship and creating community in the workplace, and how she uses compassionate leadership to create a company culture that encourages open and honest communication.
As always, we are using the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in our discussion. In the interview we identify “parts” that came up for Melissa as she created her business. We also talk about how those "parts" assisted her through challenges of her journey.
More about the hosts:
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach:
https://innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC:
https://www.kristintand.com
In this episode we talk about the difference between extroversion and introversion and how it impacts leadership styles. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) we also dive into:
- Leaders knowing their employee’s extrovert/introvert tendencies and how to encourage better communication with this knowledge.
- Feminine/Masculine stereotypes and socially defined traits and how it relates to extroversion/introversion.
- Examples of introverted leadership.
- Parts that show up as extroverted/introverted as well as how unburdening can move a person from one extreme to more of a middle style.
For more information about the hosts:
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC
https://www.kristintand.com
We have another great guest on the show today, Tracie McDowell LPC! Tracie is a therapist in private practice based in the Lake Oswego, OR. Tracie works with clients that have anxiety, panic and specific phobias. She talks with us today about her side business, a Listserv she created for mental health practitioners in Oregon, which was born out of her desire to create a community.
Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) we discuss “parts” that came up for Tracie in the creation of the listserv as well as how she has learned to delegate tasks, facilitate conflict and navigate the challenges of remote leadership.
For more information on Tracie McDowell LPC: https://www.traciemcdowell.com/about-me
For mental health professionals who are licensed in the State of Oregon and wish to join the Listserv, click here: https://oregoncounselorsandtherapists.com/
More about the hosts:
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach:
https://innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC:
https://www.kristintand.com
In this episode we talk about conflict and confrontation both in the workplace and at home including:
- Performer “parts” and their roles for trying to protect our systems from potential judgement and criticism.
- “Internet Disinhibition effect” and how cancel culture and fear of judgement has influenced conflict and confrontation.
- Attachment theory—What this theory is, the different attachment styles and how our attachment style often influences our “parts” when engaging in confrontation.
- How power differentials in the workplace can trigger our attachment style and cause our protector "parts" to over compensate in their roles.
- How leading with "Self" can create a safe holding space for conflict and how confrontation can be a healthy gift in relationship.
More about the Hosts:
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive coach
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC
https://www.kristintand.com
We are talking with another amazing guest today on the show, Eliza McBride LPCA. Eliza identifies as a first-generation Filipina-American. Eliza is a therapist in private practice who works primarily with clients who are first and second generation Asian Pacific Islander, particularly Southeast Asian and Filipino communities. Eliza provides trauma-informed and culturally-responsive therapy for individuals in Oregon and is trained in Emotion-Focused Therapy and EMDR. She talks with us about “parts” that show up for her and her clients including perfectionism and caretaking. Eliza also discusses factors that have shaped her journey into becoming a private practice business owner as well as juggling her work and parenting roles. We also explore how play can show up in our work and what it feels like when your job is also your passion. Eliza hopes to destigmatize seeking mental health services in API communities, especially for issues related to perfectionism, the "model minority myth," parentification, and generational trauma. In addition to working as a professional counselor, Eliza is also a mom to an active toddler who helps to keep her grounded and find joy in everyday living.
On a side note, we had some technical difficulties with sound during this episode, but we hope you enjoy it anyway!
Learn more about Eliza McBride LPCA here: https://www.nextgenerationpdx.com/aboutme
In this episode we talk about a variety of themes that can occur in the workplace using the Internal Family Systems model including:
- How "protectors" reinforce internalized patriarchy, and how that can create barriers to success and confidence
- How do we manage internalized patriarchy? Fear of speaking, Self-gaslighting, discomfort with prioritizing ourselves and toxic caregiving
- How "parts" show up in the body
- When do we develop our "parts"?
- How prioritizing our needs as women is a radical form of resistance
- How the workplace can bring up school age "burdens"
- Addressing conflict/confrontation as a leader and how discomfort can lead to personal growth
- What "parts" are activated by power and how does that play out in the workplace
We have another great guest on the show today, Claudia Montano Green. Claudia identifies as a Hispanic American who is a first generation immigrant from Jalisco, Mexico. Claudia is a business owner, mother, wife, student and financial coach. Claudia talks with us about her journey going into financial coaching and the population she hopes to reach and help. She also discusses her experiences immigrating from Mexico at the age of 7 and how her Hispanic culture and US upbringing have shaped her views on money and roles as a woman.
Through an IFS lens we explore the following parts and influencing factors, and how those parts may show up in women who are in business and leadership roles: caregiving, codependency, boundaries, money shame, cultural expectations and valuing women’s roles monetarily.
We’re back this week, taking on BIG topics around power and leadership. Hear us model an IFS “parts check-in” and how some of our parts show up in real time. We dig into discussion about:
- Our own professional experience and history with leadership.
- How toxic masculinity can influence female leadership and how feminine leadership could present differently.
- Perpetuating oppression as a way of protection.
- Having power and feeling powerless simultaneously.
- Challenges of middle management and what happens when you’re given responsibility but not power.
- What it can look like when protectors or exiles are leading.
- What Self-led leadership can look like, including one way you can work towards Self-led leadership; especially if you are an executive.
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach:
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC:
https://www.kristintand.com
Join us for the latest episode of our podcast! We are continuing our discussion about women in leadership and will be talking with Daniella Marchick, a mental health counselor, consultant and speaker. Daniella specializes in working with caregivers that support the elderly and is creating a 6-week program to train therapists and others how to better support caregivers. Today we hear from Daniella about: 1. How Internal Family Systems (IFS) has influenced her work with caregivers. 2. What is the "silver tsunami?" 3. How traditional therapy coping skills can miss the mark on really helping to support caregivers and what can be more useful. 4. Ways that Daniella has applied Internal Family Systems (IFS) both personally and professionally. 5. How grief can show up as both an exile and protector. Learn more about Daniella here: https://marchickcounseling.com https://counselingcaregivers.com
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach:
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC:
https://www.kristintand.com
We are back continuing our discussion about Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how it applies to women in leadership. Our hope or goal for this episode is to provide additional information about Internal Family Systems (IFS) for those who may not be as familiar with the model. Join us, Ruth Hescock and Kristin Tand, as we share a bit of our journey with Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how it has impacted us in exploring our own identities as women both personally and professionally.
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach:
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC:
https://www.kristintand.com
Are you a woman in leadership? Maybe you are a woman business owner or entrepreneur. Join Ruth Hescock and Kristin Tand as we have a discussion about Internal Family Systems (IFS) and women in leadership. As well as how having power and/or experiencing a lack of power can influence how we lead.
Ruth Hescock LPC, LMHC, Executive Coach:
www.innerinsightconsulting.com
Kristin Tand LPC, LMHC:
https://www.kristintand.com