Honey Be Love: Recent Episodes
Tony and Sarah Ruth
Sarah and Tony are a young couple in a modern relationship, who want to share their experiences and lessons learned about cohabitating, showing love and affection, and managing conflict. They feel like they have been drawn together by fate. They stay together through their commitment to be the best romantic partner they can be. Listen to their words of wisdom, caution, and reflection about themselves and each other while learning to be a better person in your love life.
This is the last episode of Honey Be Love podcast as I will be launching a new project in the fall. We finish our conversation on consent discussing protective factors that can help change our culture to focus more on consent. Thank you for your support! Much love always <3
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In the first part of this two part series, we define consent in sexual interactions, how we give consent, and the difficulties in giving consent.
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We are happy to be living together again. We share a tool that we have been using that has been helping us to communicate more effectively.
Disclaimer: We are not your therapists or doctors. Please consult your therapist or physician before acting on anything you hear here.
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Mads and I continue the conversation about working on ourselves. We are proud of ourselves and that is pretty exciting! We have been abstaining from alcohol, working out, and focusing on positive self talk.
National Epidemiologic Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditionsby NIAAA National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 31,079 people in USA
HKU Hong Kong University, published in canadian medical Associates. 10 386 people over 4 years who were nondrinkers or moderate drinkers
The Association between mental Wellbeing, Levels of harmful Drinking, and Drinking Motivations: 6174 adults from the UK
American Psychological Association, Dec 12, 2023
Van der Kolk, 2014, p. 1
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
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Mads and I are working on ourselves and we are seeing the impacts in our relationships. We aren't drinking this year, we have been working out, and we are happier. Tune in.
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Mads and I discuss destigmatizing Sexually Transmitted Infection testing. There is a lot of shame around STIs and discussing testing with partners. We discuss our experiences combined with sharing some knowledge to normalize a healthy part of sexual experiences.
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We are back together and we are working better than ever. In the process of getting back together, we took 24 hours to discuss what we wanted from our new relationship. We created relationship agreements so we both knew what to expect. Tune in and let us know what you think!
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We are back together and better than ever! In this episode, we discuss the break up, what we are doing better, and why we decided to get better.
Hosts: Sarah Ruth and Tony
Writer: Ken Garner
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We get to know Sara and Travis better. Sara and Travis actively work to create their family. Sara had children from her previous marriage. Although Travis is not their biological father, he is their dad. They work hard to make their family a family. They also touch on the importance of physical intimacy in their relationship.
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We meet Sara and Travis, who are in their second marriage. We discuss what is helping make this marriage work including honesty, boundaries, healing from past relationships, and prioritizing the current relationship. Their interview is segmented into two episodes.
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Mads and I discuss the Gender Unicorn, which is a helpful graphic that details out gender identity, gender expression, sex assigned at birth, and emotional and physical attraction. We tell you how we relate to each. Stay tuned until the end of the episode for an announcement from me.
I pulled information from my own experience and from the research detailed below. If you feel that I have made a mistake, please feel free to reach out and let me know.
https://transstudent.org/gender/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender
https://interactadvocates.org/intersex-definitions/
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In this episode, Madilynn and I talk about how we discovered that we were pansexual, coming out, and the responses that we have received in our lives. Follow Mads on instagram @madilynn.jayy.
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When a couple decides that one member or both want to leave the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, there is a high probability that the relationship will not survive. I saw my own marriage dissolve after leaving the LDS faith. Meet Parley and Erica and their relationship that was actually strengthened by leaving the faith. We discuss their leaving of the religion, the impacts on their relationship, family, mental health, and a rediscovery of spirituality. They share advice on couples that decide to stay or leave. Follow Erica on instagram @soul_full_connections.
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In this episode, we discuss our trip to Spain, what we saw, and what we learned about each other. We learned how to be a better team by becoming very aware of our strengths and weaknesses. This trip invigorated us as a couple. We attended a family wedding and it gave us some ideas for our own ;)
Mark your calendars because Tony has his first show on September 23 at the Bout Time in West Valley at 7:30. Save the date for October 6 and 7th for his cousin comedian Francisco Ramos live in Springville UT. Hope to see y'all there!
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On today's episode, I introduce you to Madilynn. We discuss what it has taken for her to be in a healthy relationship.
We also discuss Rituals of Connection, a Gottman Institute principle for successful relationships. Rituals of Connection are ways that you formally and informally connect with your significant other to deepen your connection on a regular basis. Implementing these builds intimacy in your relationship, contributing to a healthy and happy life!
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In this episode, Sarah shares what she has been up to. She has been following her creative passions, working on healing herself, and then improving her relationship to Tony. Stay tune to the end of the episode for some exciting news and a way to engage with us going forward!
Tony has been up to some cool things in the last month that we have been off from the show. He took a small leave from work to be able to focus on his comedy and self development. He shares his lessons including increased self confidence through pushing his comfort zone.
We are going to be taking a month off while we focus on some of our goals. If you have liked our podcast, please share it with a friend! If you don't like our podcast, make sure to send us a DM to let us know how we can improve! LOL jk jk We will be back July 6 with a new episode.
In this episode, we continue the conversation around the Harvey Institute's Six Principles of Sexual Health. The last three principles are: shared values, protection from unwanted STIs, HIV, and pregnancy, and pleasure. We discuss concepts and share some sexy stories. Pleasure is definitely one of our favorite concepts!
On today's episode, we get flirty while reviewing the first three of six principles of sexual health. These are consent, non-exploitation, and honesty. These principles encourage healthy sexual habits between partners. We have fun talking about these practices that lead to a more satisfying and fulfilling sex life. These apply to people who are single and in relationships.
There are many stories of people leaving the LDS church and how this faith impacted their lives in a negative way. Here is part of our story and the impacts that leaving this religion has on our our relationship today. We both grew up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints AKA Mormon religion. Sarah has been out of the LDS faith for 10 years and Tony has been out for 8 years. Despite being out of the religion for many years, we have religious programming that brings us shame and anger today. We discuss marriage, divorce, sexual shame, and the cost of leaving a purity culture.
We have a cycle that is degrading the quality of our relationship. Sarah has anger and resentment that feeds Tony's avoidance and secrecy, which then feeds the cycle over again. We are very vulnerable with you in this episode about how we are struggling, where it comes from, and what we are going to be doing about it. Thanks for listening.
Here are more of the details on why Tony is moving out. We reached a breaking point when something happened. We aren't ready to go into the details but feel free to pressure us into telling you! Relationships are hard but we are willing to be creative in our solutions to keep the relationship going. Tony is going to work on being more independent. I am working on my PTSD and physical health. We are both working on being less codependent and having better boundaries. Thanks for joining!
Today's episode is going to be a short one. We will be back in two weeks with a full length episode. We have made the decision that Tony will be moving out. We are not breaking up. But we want to focus on bettering ourselves and strengthening our boundaries. Relationships are hard work. While we are trying to better ourselves, we decided that it would be best for us to have some space. We aren't giving up on each other. But it is a time of focus for us both.
In this episode, we talk through a conflict, get into a little more conflict, and then resolve the conflict. Relationships are work! But we are willing to show up and do it. Listen to us work through by listening, acknowledging, and apologizing. We get through our conflict by talking and texting as appropriate.
We discuss about Gottman's four horsemen of relationships and our differing conflict styles.
On today's episode, we explain Family Night, a special night of the week that we set aside to reconnect, spend some time focused on each other and our needs, and a "romantic reset button" to make the rest of the week go by a little easier. We had a lot of fun making this episode and we hope you enjoy it too!
On today’s episode we share one of the biggest fights we’ve had as a couple, how we were able to overcome it, and come closer together. We talk about what led up to the fight, what actually happened, how we felt, and what we did afterwards. We were vulnerable and raw with each other, and you. Trigger warning: physical violence is discussed.
We are constantly working on being a healthier and happier couple. We do this by being equal partners. We share cleaning. Sarah Ruth does more of the cooking but Tony pays for more of the groceries. We regularly negotiate and communicate to make sure both of our needs are met. We are in therapy so that we can work to improve our relationship.
In this episode, we discuss how we met, where we are now, and why we want to make this podcast. We met in the summer of COVID 2020 through the Bumble app. We both didn't expect this relationship to become what it did, but here we are thriving. We are figuring out how to be a couple in a modern relationship.
Here is a little teaser for our first episode that we will be dropping on Thursday, January 5 at 8 am MT.
This is Tony and Sarah Ruth. We will be coming to your ears every other Thursday starting on January 5, 2023. We are going to be discussing our modern relationship and how we work to figure it out together. Subscribe now to stay current with us. Catch you next year!
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