Stacey Embers Podcast: Recent Episodes
Stacey Embers
Actionable tips and methods as well as with stories of my mistakes to help you create an authentic life that feels grounded and true.You are here for a reason. You are already on the path to reigniting your flame!
Discover the profound serenity that acceptance can bring into your life. Often misunderstood, acceptance is not about passivity, giving up, or apathy. Instead, it's an active process of letting go of expectations and outcomes with detachment. When we struggle with others or their actions, it's a powerful indicator that the work needed is within ourselves.
In this podcast, I delve deep into what acceptance truly IS and IS NOT. I share personal stories and experiences to illustrate these concepts, offering hope and guidance. Join me as we explore the transformative power of acceptance and how it can lead to a more peaceful and fulfilling life.
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Welcome to the new 'Ask Stacey' series. Every other week I will be answering your questions.
Have a question for me to answer? An idea for a podcast episode? Email hello@staceyembers.com or message on Instagram or Facebook.
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Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
Connect with me on Instagram
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Online Courses
Self Abandonment Recovery Course -
https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
It’s time to stop spending your energy on people because you feel like you have to or because you don’t want to hurt their feelings.
Do you feel like you are evolving in a way that doesn’t include your friends? Do you want to create space in your life for your soul tribe - those people who light you up, vibrate high and support you in creating your most authentic life?
In this episode, I share with you the inventory I have created for the 5 people you surround yourself with to see if they align with the life you are building for yourself. From there, you can consciously choose how you want to move forward in that relationship.
I am done abandoning myself around friendships—no more people pleasing—no more dimming my light.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
Connect with me on Instagram
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Online Courses
Self Abandonment Recovery Course -
https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
I was in an open marriage for several years, and it wasn't a healthy experience for me and is what ultimately took me to my darkest place.
What is an open relationship? Is an open relationship a good idea?
An "open" relationship is where one or more parties has permission to be romantically or sexually involved with people outside of the relationship.
Is it a good idea? I can't say what is good for you, but in this episode, I share 13 ways it was very unhealthy for me. I talk about my experience with it and my recovery from it.
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Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
Connect with me on Instagram
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Online Courses
Self Abandonment Recovery Course -
https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
I would let anyone touch me, and I would touch anyone–anytime I wanted to. I now realize this was selfish and offensive behavior. It was later in my codependency recovery that I understood WHY I did this as well as other behaviors that revolve around not having clear and strong external boundaries.
In this episode I share about:
-how critical it is to have strong and clear external boundaries to protect ourselves and others
-how creating those boundaries creates a guide to where our “yes” and "no's” are
-identifying behavior that looks “normal” but can be offensive
-the different purposes of boundaries
-how we can be abused or abuse others when we lack boundaries
- my personal stories of how I allowed others to offend me and how I physically offended others before codependency recovery
I love this topic, and I hope you do as well!
X Stacey
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Online Courses
Self Abandonment Recovery Course -
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Last week's podcast (ep 016) was a doozie. Thank you for asking about how I am doing after I so vulnerably shared about my open marriage.
Welcome to the new 'Ask Stacey' series. Every other week I will be answering your questions.
Have a question for me to answer? An idea for a podcast episode? Email hello@staceyembers.com or message on Instagram or Facebook.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
Since I was a young girl, I gave away my body as a way to prove my worth. My insides were saying, “No,” but I kept saying, “Yes.”
More than anything I wanted to be picked; I wanted to feel special.
This pattern of self-abandonment and sacrifice of my body continued for the next 30 years until I committed the ultimate act of ignoring my inner voice — I engaged in an open marriage, a decision that nearly killed me.
I continued to act in ways that took me so far away from my true self that it got to the point I didn’t even recognize myself in the mirror.
Abandoning yourself can be a small action. Or it can be a huge one like that. But until we are fully awake and connecting with our soul and higher power, it is so easy to get off of our truest path. The place where our magic is. The place where we are our brightest.
Join me in this episode of the podcast as I share the raw story of my ultimate act of self-abandonment. Sharing this isn’t something that’s easy for me but being vulnerable and my authentic self both privately and publicly is so important to me as I know that’s how we heal—hearing other peoples experiences that we can relate to.
In the podcast, I also share some helpful tools to help you get started or continue down the path to recovery. I used them as I healed from the shame-filled hopeless state of mind I’d founded myself in.
I hope you find this podcast healing as you begin (or continue) the path of recovery from abandoning yourself.
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How I define LOVE is very different from what I once did. After a divorce, lots of therapy, and what I like to call spiritual surgery – I have a new, more awakened understanding of what love really means.
However, with this deeper understanding of love, does come ramifications. Choosing love while fully awake can be a scary act.
In this episode, I share my personal story of how I came to define love, and the key ingredient I needed to choose love again.
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Is it stuck in the “what if’s” – what it “could be” or what it once was?
I was the queen of living in the “Land of Potential” not reality when I was addicted to the chaos and drama of the chase to get “there,” wherever “there” was.
This week’s episode of the podcast is our final talk with relationship coach Bre Wolta in what has been a really enlightening series. We talk about living in what the relationship was or could be rather than what it actually is right now.
She shares a simple tool with us to help assess if this is a pattern you are stuck in right now and some ways to help you find yourself out of it.
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Do you ever think, “I am so confused” when contemplating your relationship? If so, this could potentially be a giant red flag. Confusion in a relationship can point to unhealthy or dysfunctional patterns.
You shouldn’t be constantly confused about the circumstances of your relationship or where things stand. That’s what communication is for - at least healthy communication.
In this episode, I continue the conversation with Bre Wolta, relationship clarity coach. We discuss why confusion comes up in relationships, and she gives specific tools you can put into action RIGHT NOW if you are finding yourself in this situation (or if you find yourself there in the future).
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
It matters what we listen to. We are literally feeding our brains a fantasy and songs laced in codependency are spoon feeding it to us. It is time to pay attention to the narrative and get really intentional about what we are surrounding ourselves with when it comes to music.
In the episode, I list my top 7 songs that are selling us a codependent fantasy without you realizing it.
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Bre Wolta is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women free themselves from dysfunctional patterns and relationships. Bre and I talk about self-abandonment in dating and the first step in guarding against “ending up” in a toxic and unhealthy relationship.
You can find Bre at brewolta.com and follow the links to her engaging Instagram page.
Hear more about what I learned from talking to her about these dysfunctional patterns and what that first step is in this week’s podcast.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
Have you ever asked for guidance from a source or your higher power and all you get back is crickets? You just want to say, “Just tell me what I’m supposed to do!” but you hear nothing in return!
Yea, me too. I know it is frustrating.
In this episode, I share with you why you are not getting guidance and a story about how frustrated I got when I didn’t receive it recently. Also, I give you three tools you can use to make this process less frustrating and get ready for your clear “Yes” so you can step forward on your true path.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Download my free Ebook, Soul Talk Firestarter Kit -> https://www.staceyembers.com/soulfirestarterkit
I want what I want! Exactly how I want it! When I want it! (Insert foot stomping here!)
Eww! I know that sounds pretty awful. But this is what it’s like when I’m in my shadows and not living in the light.
In this episode, I open up about how I ruined two marriage proposals--one real and one fantasy--because I was in my shadows. I also share about a nudge I got from my soul and didn’t want to listen to because I was afraid. It didn’t match “what I wanted” and “when I wanted it.”
Listen to find out what that nudge was and how it all turned out.
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What does it mean to live a soul-led life?
You’ve heard me use this phrase a lot by now. You may be thinking, “I have no idea what this mystical phrase even means!” Or maybe, “This isn’t for me. This kind of thing is for other people.” Soul-led life may seem like one of those phrases, but it doesn’t have to be.
In this episode, I define what living a soul-led life is, what it feels like, and exactly how to create it.
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Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
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Have you ever been in that big “decision-making” making stage but the mere idea of even saying what you are thinking about doing out loud seems difficult? I think we’ve all been there.
When I finally get brave enough to tell someone what I’m planning to do or to put it down on paper in black and white, I am truly at the beginning stages of that big shift. For me, this is a critical time to listen to myself and to what I need and NOT to listen to the opinions of others.
At this stage in decision-making, I don’t even want others to react to what I’m saying. I’m looking for the opportunity to say it out loud, to hear it spoken into the universe. What I’m looking for instead from them is their support or even just to acknowledge my situation.
In this episode you’ll hear my friend Ann and I talk about how to set boundaries with those in our life and tell them how we want them to show up for us during this time. It may seem like a tough concept, but your soul will thank you.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
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Can we stop “shoulding” all over each other? You know what I mean. Anytime we say someone “should” do something, that’s “shoulding.” Each time we do it we should get we our mouths washed out with soap or something.
I have learned through a lot of work and painful lessons that no one knows what I should do except ME. My higher power gave me everything I need to do what is right for me. (This is why I share my stories and shy away from telling people what I think they should do).
We lost sight of our truth when we don't return back to ourselves. We are given everything we need to do what is right for ourselves.
I have invited people I have intimate relationships with to help me return to myself to and ask me the questions that help me go deeper and broaden the way I think or feel about something.
Meet my best friend and soul’s mate, Becky. Together we share how advice and opinions nearly shattered our sacred relationship and how we decided to consciously rebuild a new one.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
Shame is that voice inside of us saying, “You are worthless. Who do you think you are” - which is preventing me from moving forward in a way that my soul is yearning for. You know what, I am done with that! Are you?
I am done and ready to be relieved of that bondage. The only way I can move forward in this new venture is to bring into light the shame from actions I took that led to a part of my life crumbling. Thank you for being with me on my healing journey, and I encourage you to be on a path of your own.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
In Episode 3, I talked about how scary it is to show up with family after you have made a big change. Well, what happens if someone else says they’ve changed? Can you trust them? Here are some tools I am using to walk through this.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
You are constantly changing and evolving. And now you have this new you that you, and you’ll be this person with family and friend who knew you before.
This can cause fear that this new you won’t be understood or validated.
Meet me in my stories as I share with you how I walked through these feelings and the tools I used to move through them with minimal setbacks.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
Are you prone to only seeing the bright side of things? Spitting out quotes like, “Choose happy” or “Only good vibes!” I obsessively lived like this for most of my life. It wasn’t until I created a relationship with my soul that I could understand how much of an injustice this was for me, and those who were hearing it.
In this episode of the podcast, I describe Toxic Positivity and share several stories of how it kept me from my authentic self. I’ll also talk about tips for changing this behavior to help you find a truer version of yourself.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course
Self-abandonment is a thread woven through the fabric of my life and is the main behavior that lead to my life bottom. In this episode, I'm sharing what it looks and feels like in my life and even though I practice being aligned with myself (non-self abandonment), I still struggle to listen to my inner self. I share with you several stories - one is how I fought self-abandonment when being called to change my name.
Get my weekly, bite-sized tips to take action on your soul's whispers delivered straight to your inbox. -> https://www.staceyembers.com/weeklytips
Ready to build an authentic life you are proud of without the second guessing and hesitation...but don't know where to start?
Join the waitlist for the Wild Embers online course -> https://www.staceyembers.com/wild-embers-course