Welcome to the Table : Recent Episodes
Tom Weaver
We are providing hope and healing for folks struggling with sexual integrity, addiction, brokenness, betrayal or suffering from the ripple effects of the addiction. Thru our experience in this field we will providing valuable resources to those in need and a forum to ask questions and find solutions to help. Tom & Michele have walked this journey and here to help others walk out their journeys, turning what was intended for evil into something so powerful as the redemption and restoration of themselves and their relationships.
Come to the Table Ministry hosted Pure Desire's Traci Wright and Dr. Jake Porter from Daring Ventures at its 3rd Annual Princess Warrior Retreat at Sandy Cove Resort in Northeast MD. What a healing weekend it was.
Listen to Session 2 from Dr. Jake Porter on "The Journey to Healing After Betrayal - Returning to You" | Part 1: A Worlds Creation.
Visit tableminsitry.com for information on this years Men's & Women's Retreats as well as our Conference in March 2025!
Join us as Dan Drake returns for another Podcast. Dan will be discussing an exercise for Empathetic Attunement called "Lion Heart Breathing" that he uses in his therapy and specifically during the Disclosure Process. Please join us as Dan walks thru this exercise with us live. You won't want to miss this truly impactful technique of "Holding Her Heart".Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group https://www.banyantherapy.com/ in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father.Buy Dan and Janice's books!(these are paid links)For you the Disclosing Partner (the blue books):Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal - https://amzn.to/3IdtTINYour Disclosure Document: A 10-Step Guide - https://amzn.to/3uykzMwFor your Partner (the green books):Full Disclosure: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal (part 1) - https://amzn.to/42RrXz9Full Disclosure: Preparing For Disclosure On Your Terms (part 2) - https://amzn.to/49Kk2G5Full Disclosure: Post Disclosure Healing (part 3) - https://amzn.to/3TayQsfContact Info for Dan:Dan@banyantherapy.com https://www.banyantherapy.com/Tom & MicheleTom@tableministry.comMichele@tableministry.comhttps://www.tableministry.com/
When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure expert Dan Drake will walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful.Join Tom and Dan Drake, co-author of "Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth after Sexual Betrayal, discuss the Disclosure process, Banyan Therapy & Dan's story and what led him to co-author these books with Dr. Janice Caudill. Also, Dan will share some wonderful tips to walking thru disclosure, emotional regulation & other tools paramount for walking this journey of healing from betrayal and sexual brokenness.Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disclosure training and certification course, and they provide the highest level of support for professionals using their Restoring Truth Model. Learn more at https://www.kintsugirecoverypartners.com or https://disclosurehope.com.Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group (https://www.banyantherapy.com/) in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father.Buy Dan and Janice's books!(these are paid links)For you (the blue books):Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal - https://amzn.to/3IdtTINYour Disclosure Document: A 10-Step Guide - https://amzn.to/3uykzMwFor your partner (the green books):Full Disclosure: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal (part 1) - https://amzn.to/42RrXz9Full Disclosure: Preparing For Disclosure On Your Terms (part 2) - https://amzn.to/49Kk2G5Full Disclosure: Post Disclosure Healing (part 3) - https://amzn.to/3TayQsfContact Info for Dan:Dan@banyantherapy.com https://www.banyantherapy.com/Tom & MicheleTom@tableministry.comMichele@tableministry.comhttps://www.tableministry.com/
Robert Dorband shares in Session 3 from the Men Make Men Retreat from Oct 2023. Robert is the author of "Beloved", former pastor, pilot and now fulltime Sex Addiction Therapist at 51to52 Counseling Center in Colorado Springs. Enjoy his final session in this series of healing from sexual brokenness and addiction.
Listen to Robert Dorband of 51to52 Counseling Center and Author of "Beloved" in Session 2 of the 2023 Men Make Men Retreat. This is week 2 of 3 replaying Robert's Sessions at the retreat! Enjoy!
Over the next three weeks we will be listening to 3 sessions of Robert Dorband at the 2023 Men Make Men Sexual Recovery Retreat! Who are we and what’s really in our name! Take a listen and love some feedback!
What Churches get Wrong @ Porn. Join Tom today as he chats with Sam Black, Director of Recovery Education with Covenant Eyes. Sam discusses his new book "The Healing Church - What Churches Get Wrong @ Pornography AND How to Fix It". Sam will also be discussing a little about what is new at CE and sharing a little about his own journey! We thank Sam so much for taking some time with us today!
Bridging the Gap of relational recovery, that space in the first year walking thru recovery together.
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Welcome BACK to the Table, just in time for some turkey and the Thanksgiving Holiday! After some much needed time off after the retreats we are back and will be bringing you more each week! Take a listen, get connected and share and follow! tableministry.com
Listen as the ladies share their experience from this years Princess Warrior Retreat from Come to the Table Ministry.
What does it look like to "water your flower" daily to keep it or HER feeling loved honored cherished heard and healthy? She depends on you to do that. Honor her in that way every day, starting today! Need help, go to Come to the Table Ministry (tableministry.com) and reach out to us! There is hope and healing!
Michele invites all you ladies to the 3rd Annual Princess Warrior Retreat on September 22nd - 24th. You won't want to miss it. Go to tableministry.com for more information.
Guys, you are responsible for your recovery, not your wife. You must be willing to do it and not force her to be your "enforcer" and keep giving you "CPR Recovery". Man up and do it with a honest, committed and humble heart. Ladies let the men in his life be his support line, don't give him CPR to keep him in recovery and keep you in the heightened state and keep him in defensive mode. He needs to do it and do it with all his heart!
Walking thru the mind field of recovery, a healthy recover. More than just a sober recovery! Don’t be the dry drunk!
Why it’s so imperative to build emotional maturity in the healing process of a marriage by doing the Three Dailies exercise and how to do them!
Ladies join other ladies walking similar journey's September 22nd - 24th for the 3rd Annual Princess Warrior Retreat at the Sandy Cove Resort in North East MD for an amazing weekend together!
Don’t fall asleep at the wheel of recovery. It will take you down a long road of healing!
Welcome Back!! Today I discuss what a waterfall and disclsoure have in common and what is needed to "bridge" float or go by boat out of the dangers of the current of the "falls"!
Spread the word with your friends and join us as we transition into a new format snd go on a weekly basis as Michele and I share our journey thru betrayal and sex addiction and helpful insights and tips from our ministry and years of professional coaching experience navigate this journey! Contact us with any topics you want us to touch on! Tableministry.Com
Guys help your spouse go thru disclosure and give it 100% of your effort by doing it right, with a professional and not staggering or making it a trauma filled confession. If you need help with a FTD call as at Come to the Table Ministry or look us up at tableministry.com
Robert invites you to the Men Make Men Sexual Recovery Retreat at Camp Wabanna, Edgewater MD October 27-29. Robert, Author & Therapist, will be speaking. For more information go to tableministry.com or email tom@tablemnistry.com or purchase tickets at https://MenMakeMenRetreat2023.eventbrite.com
Join in as Michele shares the devastation of a spouses “D” day and an amazing passionate description of the effects of betrayal trauma! For more information on disclosure or polygraphs please contact us at www.tableministry.com.
There is “no healing without revealing”. Done properly with professional help and not a “staggered” confession, disclosures are an integral part of recovery!
God designed us this way for a reason. Be a mindful listener, reflective listen don’t be quick to speak.
Change your environment change friends do whatever it takes. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Take that step, reach out no matter if it’s that initial step or your 2, 3 or 10 years in reach out!
A beautiful prayer to honor all the amazing mom's and women in our lives! We are so blessed to have them!
Get motivated and commit one moment one day at a time. And make your goal attainable. Baby steps!
God created us this way for a reason! Use your ears and reflectively listen to those around you.
Dr. Jake Porter invites all you wonderful ladies to the 3rd Annual Princess Warrior Retreat September 22nd - 24th at Sandy Cove Resort in Northeast MD! You won't want to miss it! Visit https://www.tableministry.com/events/... for more information and registration or email michele@tableministry.com!
Are you the same today Sunday as you are tomorrow at work? Be the same today tomorrow yesterday
Be prepared, have integrity have a purpose be grateful. See smoke get out of the building.
Work on it diligently every day. Or fall into the slow fade like in Casting Crowns awesome song!
Time is different now and do is the darkness and the light. When is the right time to lead or the amount of sobriety needed? Text or email me your thoughts. Tableministry.com
Kathy and Doug share their experience with the 2019 Conference, the Retreats and their journey of recovery and healing. They have walked this path and continue to pursue healing and share what has helped them along the way! A true testament of hope!For more information go to https://www.tableministry.com/events/come-to-the-table-conference/ or call 301-373-2273
Sobriety is not the end. “So if you think you are standing to firm, be careful that you don’t fall”
The lesson of the day and of our group on Super Bowl Sunday 2 days prior to Valentine’s Day
All you need to know about the upcoming Come to the Table 2023 Conference. A little bit about the conference, the speakers and all the details. Go to tableministry.com for more information or to purchase your tickets today!
An access panel allows you to get to those deeply concealed areas to repair something problematic not seen on the surface
When the dust settles we are at a crossroads. And not in one of Kevin’s custom homes either. The journey thru the storm and what happens when the dust settles.
Our wives need reassurance as we walk this journey, more than you can imagine and it’s our God given task to give that to them every day. Next right thing includes unconditional reassurance!
Listen as Mark shares his story of his secret life as a former Pastor and NBA Chaplain exposed in the depths of his sexual addiction. His journey of healing with his wife Beth and their story of helping others including Pastors and their wives, thru their ministry There’s Still Hope.
What is IA? Here are some of the characteristics of Intimacy Anorexia. Do you have 5 of the 11 characteristics?
Couples be encouraged! There is hope and healing from sex addiction and partner betrayal trauma! It takes all in in He She We recovery!
New Year new gear. The first week of new year brought some highlighted events but the “heavenly” fog abounds. Tableministry.com
Don’t forget be disciplined be intentional. Check out tableministry.com for our March Conference to add to your tool belt!
Integrity and courage during sexual addiction & betrayal trauma recovery. Is it possible to walk with integrity as a “recovering addict” ?
Pressing on being diligent and intentional in sexual addiction & partner betrayal trauma even when we don’t want to. Make a great-fullness list and pray about it. Keep doing the next right thing!
New year and a new day. Start something new today and every day. A daily refilling of the Word and renewing of our minds makes a better us!
Listen to discover Kevin’s 1317 weeks and where that is leading him. Check out todays question too. Reach out on tableministry.com or YouTube @cometothetableministry and on FB!
Are you making a plan. Are you diligently seeking out the next steps into the New Year. Kevin’s shares some thoughts
A daily renewing of your mind. Taking that second thought and doing the “next right thing!”
Your Legacy - what does it look like at this moment? Keep building on it each day! Next right thing builds a mountain of legacy!
Here is the link to the song Kevin talked about the other day. What a beautiful song! https://youtu.be/ihrUIPfvTh8
Reminiscing about my College days and the comparisons to Preseason camp and position meeting rooms and recovery! Come to the Table Ministry. Tableministry.com
Life is difficult. Don’t go through it alone, destroy secrecy and live in community with others
Kevin talks about flying a kite in recovery. For questions or help please contact Come to the Table Ministry at tableministry.com or email Tom (tom@tableministry.com) or Michele (michele@tableministry.com). Individual, couples coaching, groups or Full Therapeutic Disclosures and polygraphs.
Ladies looking thru His eyes. Questions or comments go to the comments box or to tableministry.com
Kevin talks to the ladies and your journey and how you did not sign up for his sexual brokenness when you said “I do”
This is a replay of a podcast with a good friend of mine Stephen Reilly from ChewCreek Podcast when he interviewed me titled "Secret Sex Addiction and the Path to Healing." Please share with others!-------------------------------------------------------------Now for Episode 19 Tom and I met through fighting for the same goal in our marriages. That goal being healthy sexuality, which in turn has made our marriages much stronger and will continue to do so. Tom is open and vulnerable in this podcast as he talks about how his addiction to sex, and pornography effected his marriage for many years. Until one day it all came out..... give it a listen, I personally took away a lot and all my conversations with Tom have been encouraging. Thank you Tom and "Come to The Table Ministry" for being willing to come on the podcast and share your testimony! --- WARNING: Please consult a trained professional for more details on doing a Full Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD). An unanticipated partial unthorough or staggered "confession" can create further extreme trauma for your spouse. Come to the Table Ministry(tableministry.com) has trained professionals that are always willing to talk and help you through this process. Please don't hesitate to reach out to me at Chewcreek@gmail.com or tom@tableministry.com to get connected if you are not sure how to move forward. This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/chewcreek/support
Do we portray ourselves differently to different people or wear a mask or gloat about our recovery?
What are you doing different today? What’s your game changer or are you waiting for …..?
Piggy backing on Kevin’s space yesterday on the messiness of life and holidays but the joy of what God had done and will continue to do in our lives. God will bless us on our journey if we keep pushing the accelerator in recovery and on his timetable but He will. He is faithful!
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Reframing a house or a picture? No reframing our journey, our life, our marriage, our walk with Christ?
If you’re listening to this and don’t know about the paper Kevin’s talking about or were at either retreat and don’t have it anymore email me and I will send or text it to you. tom@tableministry.com also please comment in the comment section and follow us on your favorite podcast platform!
Road maps of life finding the right path but sometimes we do get off track even lost at times. Be sure to follow us here on the podcast and check out tableministry.com
There is beauty in the storm whether it’s 70” in a snowstorm or walking thru life’s journey however difficult it may be just continue to praise God in it. There is no plan B. Leave us a message or question on the link below or at tableministry.com. https://anchor.fm/tom-weaver8/message
Listen as James Reeves recaps his pile theory that he presented at the Men Make Men Sexual Recovery Retreat last weekend! Even powerful when it’s just 5 minutes!
Kevin talks about being intentional with your walk with the Lord, being diligent. We all want to be champions and conquerors and the men God designed us to be and our wives(or future) deserve.
Recap and ongoing thoughts coming out of the 4th Annual Men Make Men Sexual Recovery Retreat! The "What Now" has begun!
A daily comment or tool for those dealing with sexual brokenness and the recovery journey!
Ladies Listen to details of this years Princess Warrior Retreat in September. Have you been sexually betrayed by your husband or boyfriend from infidelity, lust, porn or emotional affairs? Suffering the devastation and realization of what you thought you had, was not what you had. Are you looking for hope & healing? Come to the Princess Warrior Retreat September 23rd - 25th in Northeast MD. Go to tableministry.com for more information!
Come to the Table is a ministry for helping this walking thru the journey of sexual brokenness, whether it be sex addiction, porn addiction, infidelity, sexual betrayal, betrayal trauma or Intimacy Anorexia. We guide couples thru their brokenness and help restore hope and healing into their life and marriages. Tom & Michele have walked this journey and here to help others walk their journeys, turning what was intended for evil into something so powerful as the redemption and restoration of themselves and their relationships.
We provide personal one on one coaching, couples coaching and a wide variety of groups. We pride knowledge, experience and the necessary tools to walk thru the disclosure and polygraph process. We are professionally trained coaches thru AASAT, PSAP & APSATS. We are here to provide a platform for answering questions (live Q&A) as well as some amazing colleagues sharing their knowledge and resources.
We can't wait to talk with you all soon!
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