enJOY your marriage podcast: Recent Episodes
Candice Toone, Master Certified Life coach
Welcome to the enJOY your marriage podcast where relationship expert and Master Coach, Candice Toone, helps you stop wondering if you married the wrong guy and start putting all of your energy toward having the marriage you imagined when you said, "I do".
Visit https://candicetoone.com/ to learn more.
Have you seen “Bee Movie” with Jerry Seinfeld? That movie sparked the beginning of the movement I’ve been working on for the past 9 years and it’s at the center of my brand new workshop: “Safe in Love”
Listen in to this week’s episode for the real story of 50 thousand bees swarming my backyard and learn how to sign up to be part of our movement. Gonna be a good time.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 83 - Fifty Thousand Bees - Candice Toone Coaching
Are you tired of having explosive conversations? Or maybe you’ve given up on being heard and are simmering silently instead? You deserve better than all that.
Listen in to this week’s episode to get some tips on how to start having tricky conversations in a way that actually brings you closer.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 82 - If the Shoe fits… - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you and your husband keep having the same, circular argument over and over again with no forward progress or any end in sight? It’s probably because you’re fighting the wrong enemy.
Listen in to this week’s episode to discover the real enemy to your marriage success + scoop up some practical tips for defeating that enemy together as a united team.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 81 - MVP - The sneakiest enemy of marital success - Candice Toone Coaching
You might be wondering what it’s like to be part of an actual coaching conversation. Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Queen Bees coming your way.
Listen in this week to witness how a Queen Bee works with me to actively create the marriage she wants to live in.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 80 - MVP - Bees in the Wild - Round 2 - Candice Toone Coaching
There’s a particular exercise that I’ve been using over and over again for my entire career as a marriage coach. It’s a client favorite.
Listen in to this week’s episode to work along with me and get the guaranteed hope + feel good feels that you REALLY want as part of your marriage.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 79 -MVP - A demo of my clients’ all-time favorite exercise - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever been disappointed that something didn’t turn out the way you thought it would in your marriage? Or maybe you’ve been hurt because your guy doesn’t see you quite the way you want him to?
Listen in this week to get some practical tips on how to handle it when your marriage starts serving up scenes that aren’t in the scope of what you had in mind for your “forever”.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 78 - MVP - Loosen your Grip - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever find yourself wishing that he’d value you more? Give you a break? Shower you with affection or even just sprinkle a drop or two your way - just once in a while?
Listen in this week to hear the wild truth about how any value or breaks or love that you WANT to come from him to you will only sink in if all of that comes from YOU first.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 77 - MVP - The Call from Inside the House - Candice Toone Coaching
When I tell ladies I meet that I help women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy, they almost always nod and make a noise of understanding before saying, “I need that.”
Listen in this week to hear the three most common reasons women wonder whether they married the wrong guy AND why those reasons are a call to lean in closer rather than run for the hills.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 76 - MVP - 3 common reasons to wonder whether you married the wrong guy - Candice Toone Coaching
Holy Ground in Hard Love is a unique marriage mentorship community that holds and heals us Bees under the watchful presences of our unique versions of The Divine. If you wanna know what being a part of that group is like - I’m here to tell you.
Listen in this week to get a sneak peek at what it’s like to hear things that you didn’t know you were allowed to believe and witness Bees as they do the impossible. Be sure to note that doors for Holy Ground in Hard Love open up again when the “How to NOT be Alone” workshop concludes. Get ready!
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 75 - Holy Ground in Hard Love - Candice Toone Coaching
You might be wondering what it’s like to be part of an actual coaching conversation. Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way. Neither of us knew we’d be sharing it on the podcast when we were actually having the chat, but she has since graciously agreed to share it all with you.
Listen in this week to witness how a Defying Gravity Revolution Bee actively creates the marriage she wants to live in.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 74 - MVP - Bees in the Wild - Round 1 - Candice Toone Coaching
Who is this woman spouting marriage tips and tricks every Sunday? It’s me! Candice Toone, former Marriage and Family Therapist turned Master Certified Life Coach.
Listen in this week to learn why I switched from therapy to coaching and how me and my Bees are changing the world – one marriage at a time.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 73 - MVP - Hi, I’m Candice - Candice Toone Coaching
It’s never too late to live happily ever after – especially once you ditch these two poisonous beliefs that are probably strangling the good thing you could have going.
Listen in this week to discover where your expectations might be setting your marriage up for a fall and how you can establish expectations that’ll keep you feeling all the love instead.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 72 - MVP - The two most poisonous beliefs about marriage - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you see your marriage as a safe place where you’ll get your needs met? Many women don’t - and possibly for good reason because he did THIS or didn’t do that.
Listen in to this week’s episode to hear why it’s a useful skill to consciously see your marriage as a space that nurtures you - even if it doesn’t feel that way very much of the time.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 71 - The Toddler Goggles - Candice Toone Coaching
Have you met my husband? He’s the other half - the behind the scenes of Candice Toone Coaching and without him, us Bees wouldn’t be able to fly nearly as high.
Listen in to this week’s episode to celebrate Valentine’s Day with our love story and learn some trivia about the Toones - including something I didn’t know he was gonna share. #blush
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 70 - Things you might not know about the Toones - Candice Toone Coaching
The secret to goal success isn’t what you think. It’s how you REACT when faced with opportunities and obstacles that matters. It’s your Reaction Sequence that makes all the difference.
Listen in to this week’s episode to learn how to identify your Reaction Sequence and then how to use it to your advantage.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 69 - Reaction Sequence - Candice Toone Coaching
Did you know that some questions are better to ask yourself than others? That some questions scare you away from what you really, really want while others pull you closer to the life you know you deserve?
Listen in to this week’s episode to find out which question to ask and which to avoid.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://candicetoone.com/episode-68-20-seconds-of-courage/
Did you know the BIGGEST block between you and a marriage you love is the way you talk to yourself? It’s true. What’s also true is that you ALWAYS make sense. All of your words. All of your behaviors. ALL of it makes sense. Every time. Even if it doesn’t seem like it. Even if you’d rather not have said or done the thing you said or did.
Listen in to this week’s episode to hear how believing you make sense - no matter what - will skyrocket your ability to get everything you really, really want.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 67 - You Make Sense - Candice Toone Coaching
When’s the last time you did something that scared you? Scaring yourself just a little bit on the daily is the surest way to streamline your efforts and pull your goals closer.
Listen in to this week’s episode then get to brainstorming on how you could push yourself just a LITTLE bit more tomorrow than you did today. The life you want is waiting. Go grab it.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 66 - Dare of the Day - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever wonder what marriage coaching really sounds like? Curious about what goes on in an ACTUAL coaching conversation? Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way.
Listen in this week to witness how a Defying Gravity Revolution Bee actively questions her initial assumptions to find possibility where only pain existed before.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 65 - Bees in the Wild - Round 5 - Candice Toone Coaching
If you knew an exercise would get you 1% closer to your goal, would you do it? Most people wouldn’t - because 1% improvement sounds “underwhelming” and “not worth it”. I get that reaction AND I know that 1% improvement is what fuels lasting change in the grind of the day-to-day.
Listen in to this week’s episode to hear the case for why 1% wins will get you further, FASTER with anything you’re trying to accomplish.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 64 - 1% wins are still wins - Candice Toone Coaching
You don’t have to believe everything you think. Most people laugh when I say that because they think I’m making a joke, but I’m not.
I couldn’t be more serious when I say that considering how you don’t have to believe everything you think is the VERY BEST GIFT you could give yourself this holiday season.
Listen in to this week’s episode for some examples of how NOT believing what you automatically think can be the thing that makes the most difference in getting you a marriage you love to live in.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 63 - Trash Panda Brains + What Else could be True? - Candice Toone Coaching
Have you heard scientists say that bees shouldn’t be able to fly?
According to all known laws of physics, a bee’s fat little body is much too heavy for its tiny little wings to lift off the ground. But… bees fly anyway.
Because bees don’t care what humans think is impossible.
Listen in to this week’s episode for some tips on how to overcome the human tendencies in YOUR brain and keep on flying no matter what you used to think was possible.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 62 - Doing the “Impossible” - Candice Toone Coaching
You ever get sick of being the only one putting any work into your marriage? Isn’t it exhausting to always have to go first?
Listen in to this week’s episode for some validation around the very real heaviness of carrying your marital load AND hear some ideas on how to make the whole process lighter.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 61 - No one better than you, Babe - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever wished for a simple, repeatable process that’d reliably help you get the things you really, really want in your marriage? Well… wait no more.
Listen in to this week’s episode to walk with us through the exact report we use in Defying Gravity Rising to focus our efforts and claim the lives we love to live in.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 60 - Rise Up Reports - The Fuel of Defying Gravity Rising - Candice Toone Coaching
You ready for a sneak peek at the KEY steps in the EXACT foundation we use in Defying Gravity Rising - my signature group coaching program - to create magic in our marriages and momentum in our lives?
Listen in to this week’s episode for a simple, repeatable framework that I use with my REAL clients to help pull yourself closer to a marriage you love to live in.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 59 - Decide - Implement - Evaluate - The Foundation of Defying Gravity Rising - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you keep trying to work things out between you and your husband, but never quite get exactly where you’re wanting to go?
Do you find yourself accepting not-so-great behavior and then talking yourself back into hope after what feels like hopeless interaction after hopeless interaction?
Listen in to this week’s episode to make sure you’re not missing the ESSENTIAL first step to getting what you really, really want in your marriage.
Are you and your husband dialed in on how to communicate clearly and honestly?
How often are you making confident decisions about your relationship?
Listen in to this week’s episode for a real talk discussion of practical tools for aligning your marriage with your values - whether you’re staying in or moving on.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 57 - Candice is interviewed on How to Stop Wondering if you married the wrong guy and start thriving in your marriage instead - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you know what an aglet is? Or how an aglet can help your marriage feel more romantic?
Listen in to this week to get those answers + a bonus opportunity to catch the FULL replay of my recent workshop: Romance in Real Life (offer expires 4/12/24)
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 56 - A Sneak Peek at Romance in Real Life - Candice Toone Coaching
Want some more Romance in YOUR Real Life?
Listen in to this bonus episode for instructions on how to join us LIVE for a FREE romance-creating experience this coming Friday, April 5.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 55.5 - Romance in Real Life - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever wonder what marriage coaching really sounds like? Curious about what goes on in an ACTUAL coaching conversation? Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way.
Listen in this week to witness how a Defying Gravity Revolution Bee actively questions her initial assumptions to find possibility where only pain existed before.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 55 - Bees in the Wild - Round 4 - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you know how to listen to the wisdom of your body? The wisdom that doesn’t quite come through words alone?
Listen in this week to hear my interview with Energy Awareness expert, Maren Rasmussen. She’ll explain how your energy impacts your daily sense of freedom as well as your overall experience of life and marriage.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 54 - Energy Awareness with Maren Rasmussen - Candice Toone Coaching
There’s a particular exercise that I’ve been using over and over again for my entire career as a marriage coach. It’s a client favorite.
Listen in to this week’s episode to work along with me and get the guaranteed hope + feel good feels that you REALLY want as part of your marriage.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 53 - A demo of my clients’ all-time favorite exercise - Candice Toone Coaching
Have you got a problem you want solved in your marriage? Something you wish he’d stop doing YESTERDAY? Or start doing TODAY?
Listen in to this week’s episode so you can avoid three pitfalls that’ll make your feedback almost impossible for him to hear.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 52 - How to approach your husband with feedback he can actually hear - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you and your husband keep having the same, circular argument over and over again with no forward progress or any end in sight? It’s probably because you’re fighting the wrong enemy.
Listen in to this week’s episode to discover the real enemy to your marriage success + scoop up some practical tips for defeating that enemy together as a united team.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 51 - The Sneakiest Enemy of Marital Success - Candice Toone Coaching
Have you snagged your FREE eCopy of “Wife on Purpose” + the companion workbook yet? If not, head over to www.candicetoone.com/resources and hook yourself up.
“Wife on Purpose” will land in your inbox right away, but if you don’t want to want even a second longer, listen in this week to enjoy the fifth of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. You’re welcome.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 50 - Wife on Purpose - Part 5 - Candice Toone Coaching
Do you know what it’s like to distrust a compliment? Or question an offer of forgiveness? Your brain does all that because it’s looking out for you to survive. Turns out though… holding back on easy wins isn’t the most effective way to get you the life and marriage you really, really want.
Listen in on this week’s episode to develop the skill of allowing easy wins into your life as an anchor you can lean on when things don’t go quite so smoothly as you’d like them to.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 49 - Receiving Easy Wins - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever felt like giving up because the marriage you imagined seems to get further and further away no matter how hard you try?
Listen in to this week’s episode to learn a simple, doable strategy for helping yourself stay motivated to put in the marital work even when it doesn’t seem to be paying off quite like you’d hoped just yet.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 48 - 1% less crappy - Candice Toone Coaching
I know it might seem like judging your husband is a TERRIBLE way to find connection, but it’s not. Judging your husband on purpose using my simple, repeatable 5 step process will get you more connection in your marriage than you ever thought possible.
What if I’m right about that?
Might as well listen in on this week’s episode so you can get all the details for how to register for my free workshop: how judging your husband will heal your marriage.
All you’ve got to lose is irritation and loneliness - and you’re probably willing to let those feelings go, right?
Click the link below to register and I’ll see you at the workshop.
Get full show notes and more information here: BONUS EPISODE - Invite to the How judging your husband will heal your marriage workshop - Candice Toone Coaching
Are you ready and willing to see yourself in a way that’ll contribute to your marital success? Are you curious about what that really means?
Listen in this week’s episode to get the two questions you’ve gotta answer for yourself if you want to be a powerful force for positive change in your very own version of happily ever after.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 47 - Ready? Set?!... MARRIED! - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever stayed up all night arguing without ever getting anywhere? Maybe you wanted to prove a point or believe you’d been heard. Maybe you wanted a change in your marriage that would help you feel better about the two of you.
Listen in this week for some new ideas on how to get what you want WHILE still getting a full night’s sleep.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 46 - When you’re tempted to stay up all night - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever been disappointed that something didn’t turn out the way you thought it would in your marriage? Or maybe you’ve been hurt because your guy doesn’t see you quite the way you want him to?
Listen in this week to get some practical tips on how to handle it when your marriage starts serving up scenes that aren’t in the scope of what you had in mind for your “forever”.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 45 - Loosen your Grip - Candice Toone Coaching
Ever find yourself wishing that he’d value you more? Give you a break? Shower you with affection or even just sprinkle a drop or two your way - just once in a while?
Listen in this week to hear the wild truth about how any value or breaks or love that you WANT to come from him to you will only sink in if all of that comes from YOU first.
The ability to tell a love story whenever you want to is a valuable skill and I’m in to make sure that every woman in the world has as many valuable skills at her disposal as possible.
Listen in this week to practice along with us as we make messes into love stories - not because we have to, but because we give ourselves more options when we do.
You might be wondering what it’s like to be part of an actual coaching conversation. Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way.
Listen in this week to witness how a Defying Gravity Revolution Bee actively questions her initial assumptions to find possibility where only pain existed before.
Justification. We all do it. All the time. Probably because we think it’s kind and that we should be understanding. Which… yes - and no.
Listen in this week to hear all about how you can be kind and understanding WITHOUT compromising the experience of life and marriage that you really, really want to have.
Have you snagged your FREE eCopy of “Wife on Purpose” + the companion workbook yet? If not, head over to www.candicetoone.com/resources and hook yourself up.
“Wife on Purpose” will land in your inbox right away, but if you don’t want to want even a second longer, listen in this week to enjoy the fourth of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. You’re welcome.
I’m not much for social media - but I do love the memory posts Facebook sends me from time to time. So fun to recall special moments - except when you use those recollections as a reason to feel crappy about what’s going on today.
Listen in this week to learn how to enjoy the memories of yesterday without mucking up what’s happening in the here and now.
Authenticity is the mother of closeness and the best fuel for connection. It requires that you and your husband are both able to say YES and NO based on what’s true for each of you.
Listen in this week to explore four instances where it might seem weird or unwise to say yes, but where saying a purposeful, planned-out yes is actually very sensible and pretty sharp.
The self-help world often positions “self-care” practices (like saying “no”) as a simple shift. An easy change. “Just say no when you want to and all will be well.”
Yes. 100%. And no.
Because saying no when someone else probably won’t like it is actually pretty hard.
Listen in this week for tips on how to make saying no a bit easier and also learn how following through on your no can help you heal your relationship with yourself.
Trauma - in its simplest form - is disconnection. From your needs. From your wants. From your expectations. From yourself. From him.
Listen in this week to learn four easy to spot signs that will help you know when your marriage might be disconnecting AND one simple strategy to bring back the connection we all crave.
You can make anything into a love story whenever you want to and I suggest you only make it into a love story IF you want to. Because a love story isn’t a love story unless it really feels like love.
Listen in this week for tips on how to make your love story last. For you. For him. But for YOU first. Every time.
Get full show notes and more information here: Episode 34 - A Love Story for You - Candice Toone Coaching
Sometimes people say that coaching is a bit like spiritual bypassing, toxic positivity or even gaslighting. Yikes. I see why they might say that AND I don’t agree at all.
Listen in this week to hear how coaching done right is the very best tool to get you exactly where you want to go in your marriage - while staying connected to EVERYTHING that’s really true for you.
What might it be like to expect that your needs will be met – in an unexpected way that requires very little sweat equity from you?
Listen in this week to hear how you can do yourself the favor of leaving the window open for good vibes and fairy dust to find their way into your life and your marriage.
Have you grabbed your FREE ecopy of “Wife on Purpose” + the companion workbook? If not, head over to www.candicetoone.com/resources and hook yourself up.
That email will land in your inbox right away, but if you don’t want to want even a second longer, listen in this week to enjoy the third of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. You’re welcome.
Most people hate being wrong. So embarrassing. Such a pain. But what if it isn’t? What if being wrong is the best news ever?
Listen in this week to learn how your willingness to be wrong about things that hurt your marriage is actually the easiest way to improve your connection with your forever guy.
Ever said the words: “I just hate conflict?” If so, you’re in good company with roughly 90% of the world. Nobody likes to fight. Everybody wants to avoid awkwardness and pain. But what if pain isn’t the only thing you push away when you back off from the tough stuff?
Listen in this week to learn how avoiding awkwardness could also be blocking the closeness you crave in your marriage. You’ll also get a fresh perspective on how to conceptualize conflict in a way that makes you and your sweetheart stronger than ever before.
Did you know that the word "hack" is derived from the British term "hackneyed", meaning "overused and thus cheapened, or trite"? And in professional skill communities, like writing, you call someone a “hack” when they aren’t particularly good at what they are trying to do?
So… if “hack” isn’t meant as a terribly flattering term, why would I devote an entire episode to sharing brain hacks with you? Easy. Because “hack” also means a “strategy to handle or cope with a situation or an assignment adequately and calmly.”
Listen in this week for hacks on handling and coping. Not perfectly. But adequately. Not blissfully. Just calmly. Because that’s all you really need. You’re welcome.
You might be wondering what it’s like to be part of an actual coaching conversation. Well… wonder no more. You’ve got a REAL, unscripted coaching session with one of my Defying Gravity Bees coming your way.
Listen in this week to witness how a Defying Gravity Revolution Bee actively uses her natural brain function to create the marriage she loves to live in.
Unlike our phones and laptops, our brains aren’t set up to automatically scan for updates, so they keep running on factory settings that haven’t been customized to match our present day reality.
Listen in this week to see where your “brain right out of the box” thinking might be getting in your way and learn some strategies to help yourself into defaults that help rather than hurt your marriage.
Why’d you get married? Do you remember? Was your decision a purposeful, methodically planned one? More of a romantic whim? Or something in between?
Listen in this week to test out YOUR reason for staying married and try on some other reasons you may or may not want to keep.
Did you know that I was once a brand new, super green client and not a coach at all? I know. Weird but true. So I really do get it if what I’m saying here is just kinda rattling around in your head and not quite gelling the way you want it to just yet.
Listen in this week because today I’ve invited a special guest to the podcast – it’s Candice from 2017. Yup. Blast from the past – me, as a brand new client, talking to you, as an investigator of thought work.
Have you been eating cold dinners? Or sitting in the least desirable TV viewing spot? What’s that about? Did you know you don’t have to do all that?
Listen in this week for tips on how to get what you need with the full support of people who love you completely.
Still itching for a full audio version of my book, Wife on Purpose? Don’t worry - it’s in the works.
And while you wait, enjoy the second of several installments where I read you a big chunk of Wife on Purpose right here, right now. Happy Listening!
The first time I show one of my Bees how her husband's behavior isn't in charge of her feelings, she almost always responds with some silence, some side eye and then some version of the phrase… “but… it effects me.”
I always answer with, "Totally." ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Then she gives me more side eye.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I go on to explain that OF COURSE your husband's choices, words and behavior effect you. OF COURSE THEY DO. The trick is - YOU get to decide HOW his choices, words and behavior effect you.
Listen in this week to find out how to choose on purpose - every time.
From a very young age, we learn that anger is kinda scary and might even be a sin. Little kids color anger in bold reds. Cartoons present anger as steam shooting from the character’s ears. No wonder most of us do anything we can to avoid it.
Listen in this week to hear how anger isn’t just seeing red or losing your temper and how it could actually be the key to marital bliss.