Raising Godly Boys Minute: Recent Episodes
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men. In life, watching a boy head straight into challenging territory can be a frightening and stressful experience. But there’s a reason God wired boys to crave adventure, excitement, and risk. Listen to our full archive of Raising Godly Boys Minutes and get the answers on how to equip your son, grandson, or young mentee with the knowledge he needs to keep moving forward.
Initially, a boy’s worldview comes from Mom and Dad.
Beginning around the age of 4 or 5—no matter what you have planned for his schooling—he will begin to learn things from other avenues. Cool, fun stuff. And maybe dangerous stuff.
Some is taught quite intentionally in textbooks and lesson plans. Other worldviews and attitudes come from friends, relatives, the kid down the street and the many screens he’ll come across in the decades to come.
From teachers, grandparents, and coaches, much of it will be good stuff! What a gift that is to your son!
But what about the bad stuff? As much as you would like, you can’t stop it all.
That’s why your son needs to develop his own personal faith and convictions. And that’s another reason to visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s a new prescription for your glasses…
A comedy group once posted a fake commercial online for a device called “husband glasses.” When a wife put on the glasses, she no longer noticed the clutter in their home– but she could see a deer out of their window quite well.
That satire video points out an interesting truth. Starting from a very young age, boys and girls see the world quite differently. While girls focus on details, boys tend to be more skilled in noticing things that are far away– making them better hunters and protectors.
So, as a parent, be sure to put on your “son,” S-O-N, glasses. Give your son grace when he misses details. And encourage him to hone his visual strengths through outdoor activities— like archery or birdwatching.
For more ideas for raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Sometimes a country music lyric just nails it.
In 1999, a unique song was released on country radio. It wasn’t about trucks or dirt roads– it was about the relationship between a loving stepfather and a stepson.
To everyone’s surprise, the song reached number one on the country charts. The key lyric, sang by artist Brad Paisley, reads: “I hope I’m at least half the dad that he didn’t have to be.”
You may not have a biological son. But every young man longs to be mentored, invested-in, and listened-to– not out of obligation, but simply out of love. Be prayerful about finding a boy in your church or your extended family who needs a dad-like figure to show him that he is worthy– just like the young man in that famous song.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Henry David Thoroeau once said, “I go a-fishing and a-hunting every day, but omit the fish and the game, which are the least important part. I have learned to do without them.”
Even when our fishing lines are slack and our deer tags are unfulfilled, we men have been wired by our Creator to need challenge and adventure. And boys today are no exception.
Each week, help your son find a new activity to tackle. It doesn’t have to be hunting or fishing– it could be trying a complicated recipe, seeking out unique coins, or attending a class on weather watching. Trust me– the result won’t matter much to your boy. He needs adventure simply for the sake of adventure.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You wouldn’t eat a raw potato, of course. But what if you chopped that potato up, and put it in hot oil for several minutes? You would have delicious, golden french fries.
As parents, we want our sons to have the happiest life possible, free of things that are risky or hurtful. We often wish we could take away every obstacle in our boy’s way so that he can accomplish all of his dreams.
But don’t be afraid to let your son fail, whether that means falling while trying a new skateboard trick, or not getting into the prestigious college he applied to. Just as hot oil changes a potato for good, difficult circumstances can transform your son into the person God created him to be.
For ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
In 1962, the Soviet Union was winning the Space Race. To inspire the nation, President Kennedy announced, “We choose to go to the Moon.” He admitted that this wouldn’t be easy, but that we would succeed.
President Kennedy was right. Achievement is built on the backbone of hard work. But it’s competition that spurs us to even greater heights of progress. That’s why it’s unfortunate that today’s socialistic society tells parents that competition harms a boy’s self-esteem when they lose.
Even though losing isn’t fun, it’s by trudging through the valleys of loss that we can then enjoy the mountaintops of victory. By inspiring your son to conquer obstacles, he’ll develop the knowledge, skills, and fortitude to succeed in life.
To learn more about growing boys into godly men, download the free ebook Raising Godly Boys: A Proven Process at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Every night, you make sure your phone is plugged into its charger. If you forget, you know that your phone won’t last through the next day.
Your son is much the same way. If you don’t make sure his “battery” is charged at home, he will struggle to sit still and focus while he is at school.
Make sure your boy has plenty of opportunities each day to do fun and fulfilling things. Create an obstacle course for him in the backyard. Give him a bunch of cardboard boxes and help him build a fort. Take him for a long bike ride.
Chores and school are important, but let your boy be a boy. Then he will be “fully charged” to tackle life.
For ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Every night, you make sure your phone is plugged into its charger. If you forget, you know that your phone won’t last through the next day.
Your son is much the same way. If you don’t make sure his “battery” is charged at home, he will struggle to sit still and focus while he is at school.
Make sure your boy has plenty of opportunities each day to do fun and fulfilling things. Create an obstacle course for him in the backyard. Give him a bunch of cardboard boxes and help him build a fort. Take him for a long bike ride.
Chores and school are important, but let your boy be a boy. Then he will be “fully charged” to tackle life.
For ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The USS Gerald R. Ford is America’s newest aircraft carrier. It’s longer than 3 football fields and taller than a 24-story building. But when this massive ship needs to stay in place, it relies on a 30,000-pound anchor.
In life, your son doesn’t need a physical anchor, but he does need to be grounded in God’s Word. Today’s anti-Christian culture will try to make him believe that choices of morality, truth, and gender are defined by each person. But by being well grounded in Scripture, he can defend his faith and stand firm against the cultural currents of the day.
Hebrews 6:19 is an excellent reminder that Jesus is the “anchor of our soul.”
To learn more about growing boys into godly men, download the free resource Raising Godly Boys: A Proven Process at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A young man was on his first river rafting trip with a group of friends. As he paddled through the rapids, he glanced at the shore and was surprised to see his dad, waving and cheering the group on.
Later on, he saw his father again, standing on the shore, shouting encouragement. The boy realized that his dad was running along the shore and waiting at each section of rapids to cheer his son on. The boy couldn’t stop smiling.
As parents, we often feel like we are failing our sons. But our boys don’t need perfection. All they need is to know they are worth going the extra mile for. How can you show your son that kind of Christlike love today?
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Today’s boys seem busier than ever. They dart from one activity to another, and yet remain confused and unguided. Why is that?
Consider, for a moment, the Falcon 9 rocket. It launches astronauts into space at more than 17,000 miles per hour! But if the rocket doesn’t go the right direction, the mission is doomed.
That’s why guidance and navigation systems are so important. They keep the rocket steady as it soars toward its destination.
As a parent, are you providing your son the guidance he needs to grow emotionally, socially, and spiritually? By spending one-on-one time with him, you show him—through action—how to soar toward success.
To learn more about growing boys into godly men, download the free ebook Raising Godly Boys: A Proven Process at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health issues of boys today. But why are boys so afraid?
First, society has made a sport of putting men down. Many women think that in order to be empowered, they need to prove that men are beneath them.
Second, our enemy, Satan, knows that if boys believe they are weak and not needed, they will not accomplish God’s purpose for their lives.
As parents we must be counter-cultural. Find something positive to compliment your son on, and remind him of how valuable he is. Remind him of what God says in Isaiah 41:13- “For I am the Lord your God, who takes hold of your right hand, and says, do not fear.”
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
It’s a tough world out there for boys. Research shows that they’re often unguided, ungrounded, unappreciated, and uninspired.
Part of the reason for this is that, in the name of progress, the value of manhood is being discounted. In fact, the term “toxic masculinity” is used to shame people into thinking that gender differences are bad. But they aren’t.
God designed boys and girls to be different from one another. Understanding this helps us realize that boys need male role models in their lives. It’s not enough just to be a dad. We need to demonstrate—through action—what a real man of courage, service, and leadership looks like. This begins by spending quality time with our sons. Are you doing this?
To learn more about growing boys into godly men, download the free ebook Raising Godly Boys: A Proven Process at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How much have you thought about brains lately?
In a typical male brain, neural connections go from the front to the back, while in a female brain the processing goes side to side. Boys also have more gray matter than girls, and scientists think this is why boys often excel at subjects like math, while girls enjoy language and arts. And since your son’s prefrontal cortex is bigger, he is more likely to deal with emotions analytically.
But even if you understand the science of it all, your son’s behavior may still baffle you. When it does, say a prayer, and know that God created every neuron in your son’s mind. He will give you the wisdom you need.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does it ever seem like your son just doesn’t listen to you?
Well, you may actually be right.
Studies have found that boys are worse listeners than girls. Males only process information with one hemisphere of their brain. They also hear high frequency sounds– like a mom’s voice– at significantly lower decibels.
Here are some tips to help your son be a better listener. First, minimize distractions, like turning off the TV or phone. Secondly, speak in short sentences, and make your main point clear. Lastly, encourage your son to “overlearn.” This means teaching him a similar concept over and over again in different ways, even after he understands it.
And, of course, praying for patience and perseverance for yourself will not hurt, either.
For tips and ideas for raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Batman struggles with being obsessive. Iroman has a problem with arrogance. And the Hulk…well, I think you can guess what his character flaw is.
We never say a superhero isn’t super just because they have issues. So why do we as men think we cannot be good mentors, just because we aren’t perfect?
Forty-three percent of boys today are raised by a single mom. Seventy-eight percent of teachers are female. So many young men have no examples in their life showing them what it means to be a man.
Take some time today for a young man in your life. Invite him on a hike or a fishing trip. You don’t have to be perfect. To that boy, you will be a superhero.
To learn about the 5 critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
I will make a bet that your cell phone is within reach right now!
The first cell phone weighed 2.4 pounds and was larger than your head. That’s definitely not something you’d want to carry in your pocket. Fortunately, today’s cell phones are much smaller and lighter. They allow us to quickly talk And text each other.
And yet, despite the extraordinary technology within a cell phone, these devices often hinder communication. You’ve seen it—family members sitting beside one another staring at their phones. We’re so plugged into these devices that we lose contact with others. the very thing the devices were created for!
Don’t let that be you. Sure, go ahead and use technology, but don’t let it replace face-to-face communication. The more you talk and laugh with your teens, the more they’ll want to put down their phones and share life together with you.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Are you hanging on …too tightly?
In 1956, Jim Elliot was murdered by Indians in the jungles of Ecuador. Newspaper reporters wondered why this missionary would risk his life for uncivilized Indians. Though Jim Elliot died at only 28 years old, he had a proper perspective of life. He said,
“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”
Too often, we hold tightly to possessions and activities that hold no eternal value. Don’t make the mistake of clinging to things of insignificance. Teach your kids through your example to give your time and talents to worthwhile causes. That may seem hard at first, but as you make God a daily priority, your possessions and activities will come into proper focus.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Microwave much?
In today’s society, we expect immediate results. When we try something new, we want instant success. But life doesn’t always work that way.
Sometimes life is hard and tough. Sometimes failure crashes over us like an avalanche. During these times, it’s easy to grow discouraged. Maybe even angry.
But if you are wise, you’ll use times of fatigue, frustration, and failure to teach your son important lessons about grit and determination. And guess what? The more your son sees you rely on God as you work through trials and challenges, the more he’ll understand that God provides the strength to continue on.
It’s great when failures transform into Immediate successes. But it’s even better when your son grows spiritually by seeing your faith in action over time.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
“Trust your instruments.” This mantra is repeated all through flight school. While flying, it’s easy to get disoriented visually, especially in thick fog. Pilots must learn to trust their gauges, not their vision.
Boys today are also “flying through fog,” so to speak. In the confusion of cultural relativism and gender fluidity, young men don’t know where they are or where they are going. So they often choose their own course, or refuse to move at all.
As parents, we must help our son gain a solid foundation and understanding of God’s Word. Involve your boy in organizations that are founded on Biblical truth. Help him find a positive, godly mentor. And encourage your boy to memorize Scripture– the only “instrument” that will never fail him.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
In 2010, a man named Forrest Fen buried treasure in the Rocky Mountains, and published a book with clues to its whereabouts. Thousands went searching for it. Four men even died during the hunt. Finally the box was found in 2020.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that most of the people who embarked on that search were male. From the time we are very young, boys love a good challenge. If young men are under-challenged, they will rebel, resist, or become apathetic. Others will turn to a virtual world they can conquer.
Today, be sure your son gets some real-life adventure. Not sure where to start? Tell him to put down his controller and get outside. Who knows– there may even be buried treasure in your backyard.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
In 1899, an inventor put batteries in a tube and created a portable electric light. There was only one problem– the light would only stay on for about three seconds. The device did not sell well, and people jokingly called it a “FLASH light.”
Today, of course, the flashlight is a household staple, with some models staying lit for at least 50 hours.
As the parent of a teenage boy, it’s easy to feel like that inventor. Your son may only behave or listen for brief “flashes” at a time. But let me encourage you–continue to be as consistent as you can with your discipline. It may be hard to believe, but someday, your boy will be a light.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A college student accidentally solved an impossible math problem. George Dantzig arrived late to class to find his peers working silently on several math problems written on the chalkboard. George worked through the problems and turned his paper in.
Later, he learned that one of those problems wasn’t homework after all, but was an equation that mathematicians considered unsolvable. George solved the problem, simply because he didn’t know it was supposed to be impossible.
There’s a lesson here for us as parents of boys. In a society that’s increasingly negative towards men, let’s be positive about the dreams and aspirations our sons have, even if they seem a little far-fetched. Who knows what they can accomplish if they live by Luke 1:37- With God, nothing is impossible.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Cultures all around the world have rituals to signify a boy becoming a man, and they range from straightforward to extreme. Some societies have young men go on a hunt. In one small country, a boy participates in a primitive form of bungee jumping. In another, he must successfully jump over a cow to prove his manhood. Others simply send their sons into the wilderness to survive.
Although those rituals sound bizarre to us here in the US, our boys still desperately need challenges to build their maturity and self-confidence.
One way to do that is to get your son outside! Activities like mountain climbing and archery are excellent opportunities for your son to gain life skills and feel like a true man.
To learn about the 5 Critical Needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you remember the day your son took his first step? Perhaps he had already been standing for a few weeks while holding onto the couch. But at some point, he took a wobbly step toward your outstretched arms. You clapped and cheered and gave him a giant hug.
Learning to walk is a key milestone in a boy’s physical development. But learning to walk worthy is just as important for a boy’s spiritual development. If your son has accepted Christ as his personal Savior, teach him to honor the Lord through his words, thoughts, and actions.
Colossians 1:10 is an excellent verse for you and your son to memorize together. It reminds us to “walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him . . .”
To learn about the 5 Critical Needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Boys love action and adventure. That’s why paddling a canoe across a lake or along a river is a time-tested way to exercise their minds and bodies.
But have you ever heard the phrase “Up a creek without a paddle”? It refers to being in a difficult or dangerous situation where you can’t get yourself out of the problem or predicament.
As your son grows up, don’t let him be stranded “Up a creek without a paddle.” Trials and challenges will try to sink his boat. Turbulent waters will try to knock him off course. But by teaching your son how to manage stress, learn new life skills, and seek God’s guidance, you’ll prepare him to navigate choppy waters to reach the shore of success.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
“Trust your instruments.” This mantra is repeated all through flight school. While flying, it’s easy to get disoriented visually, especially in thick fog. Pilots must learn to trust their gauges, not their vision.
Boys today are also “flying through fog,” so to speak. In the confusion of cultural relativism and gender fluidity, young men don’t know where they are or where they are going. So they often choose their own course, or refuse to move at all.
As parents, we must help our son gain a solid foundation and understanding of God’s Word. Involve your boy in organizations that are founded on Biblical truth. Help him find a positive, godly mentor. And encourage your boy to memorize Scripture– the only “instrument” that will never fail him.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What does a cactus have to do with your son?
The saguaro cactus is an amazing desert plant. It stretches high into the air like a telephone pole, reaching heights of 40 feet or more.
But did you know that this colossal cactus grows slowly? It isn’t unusual for it to be 2-inches tall on its 10th birthday. Soon after, the saguaro begins growing faster and keeps up this steady growth until eventually towering over other cacti species.
Maybe your son is like the saguaro. Maybe he’s a slow learner at home or at school. Sure, it’s fine to get your son extra tutoring help, but it’s important to realize that we all have different rates of physical, mental, social, and even spiritual growth. The key is to continue growing—little by little and day by day.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How do YOU feel about … puzzles?
When putting together a 500-piece puzzle, you don’t normally complete it all at one time. You work on it a few minutes here and a few minutes there. But gradually, the pieces start coming together until—at long last—you see the entire puzzle in all its glory.
Too often, we expect our children to mature faster than what is realistic. We wish to see the entire picture of their youth from the very start. But the growth process doesn’t work that way. God’s picture for our children’s lives is assembled one piece at a time. Clear communication fits into instruction, and quality time fits into encouragement.
As we rely on God for guidance, He transforms the pieces of our children’s lives into a beautiful masterpiece.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How’s your balance? And I'm not talking about your checkbook!
In June of 2012, Nik Wallenda walked from the United States’ side of Niagara Falls to the Canadian side. Sounds easy, until you realize that he walked high above the raging waterfalls on a 2-inch tightrope.
Even though Wallenda held a 40-foot balancing pole in his hands, gusts of wind and swirling spray made the long crossing mentally and physically exhausting.
At times, parents feel almost as much stress as a daredevil on a tightrope. We have to balance jobs and home responsibilities with our children’s academic studies, sports programs, and other activities.
When you start feeling off balance, remember Ecclesiastes 3:1. It says, “To everything there is a season.” This reminds us to take one task at a time, and to rely on God for continued strength and balance.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What do Grammy-award winning artist Jay-Z, former President George Washington, and Olympic medalist Michael Phelps all have in common?
All three men were raised by single parents.
Today, about forty percent of boys are also raised solely by their mother– an epidemic that continues to grow. If you’re one of those hero single parents, do not lose heart. God sees you and knows the challenges you face.
If you’re not a single parent, look for young men in your life who need a father-figure. A game of catch, a fishing trip, or encouragement from the stands at a track meet can make a life-changing difference.
Who knows? You might just be cheering on a future music star, president, or Olympic medalist.
To learn about the 5 Critical Needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A battle rages—and boys are on the front lines. They are daily bombarded by anti-Christian philosophies:
Relativism—disrupts truth and biblical morality,
Humanism—teaches that a person must depend on himself, not God, if this is true, then why do we even need God?
And evolution—teaches that we evolved by mere chance, the very existence of a loving Creator is ridiculed.
Don’t let these worldly philosophies destroy your son’s faith in Christ. Teach him to stand on the solid Word of God.
Training your son in today’s secular culture isn’t easy. It requires time and attention. Learn about a Proven Process that can help you accomplish this. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for free downloadable resources.
When you were a kid, did you ever play with transformers?
Boys love the way those cars and trucks transform into really cool robots. Plus, the storyline of Autobots battling it out against the evil Decepticons is exciting.
You probably don’t play with transformers anymore, but in some ways, you’re still like a transformer. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Are you teaching your son to stand strong against the world’s deceit? Victory over evil is only possible when we allow the Lord to transform our hearts and minds.
So, how’s that transformation process coming along? Take time today to pray and read the Bible with your son. Together, you both can transform into something extraordinary.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever walked across a rickety bridge and wondered if it could manage the weight?
If you are carrying something heavy that fear can be very real.
Carrying truth can be like that. Especially when you are carrying truth to a boy.
Make sure the bridge -- your connection to that boy -- is strong enough to carry the weight of that truth.
The reality with boys, particularly teens, is that simply telling them the truth isn’t enough. You’ve got to have a connection -- a bridge -- strong enough to carry that truth for the truth to have its full impact, otherwise, you are just breaking bridges.
For more parenting advice and information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Everyone loves a good comeback story, so here’s one for you– paper maps are making a resurgence!
With digital maps built into many of our cars, you would think paper map sales would continue to fall. But people are realizing that print maps are more helpful than GPS when you’re trying to learn the best way to navigate a new area.
This concept reminds me of why young men today so desperately need male mentors. Sure, your son can observe successful men on social media or on video. But in order to understand what it means to be a man, an in-person, dad-like figure in his life is the map that every young man needs.
So, make sure that boy has a mentor? And get a paper map!
Now if only I can figure out how to fold the thing!
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
“Sit still!”
These words are a death sentence to a little boy's morale.
There are times when boys need to sit still, like at a dentist's office.
But much of the time we demand they sit still for our convenience, not their good.
At home when families read or at school during lessons, boys are told to bottle up their God-given energy and focus. They run the risk of getting in trouble when they don’t.
This is unfair, especially in light of simple solutions.
When you read with your son, let him fidget with something or even pace the room. If he can’t sit still, take him outside a few minutes to play and try again.
Don’t demand their attention without giving them an outlet for their energy.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Ahhh … vacation!
Do you remember the last time you went on vacation? Before leaving, you probably spent time thinking about what clothes and other items you’d need at your destination. Then you probably gathered all those things together and packed them into a suitcase.
On this journey called parenthood, it’s even more important to bring everything necessary. Begin by packing love. Next, fold in joy. After that, squeeze in humor, laughter, and a bunch of fun. And, of course, don’t forget to include patience, gratitude, and forgiveness. This is just the beginning.
Make sure you come up with your own packing list as you journey through the hills and valleys of parenthood.
To help you along the way, Trail Life USA has fun and exciting programs that are helping boys grow into godly men. For more information, visit RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Fore!
If you’ve ever played golf, you’re probably familiar with the term “mulligan.” That’s a fancy word that simply means “do-over.” If you’re on the tee and you slice the ball off into the trees, you might shout, “Mulligan!” You’re basically saying that you want a second try.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could get a parenting “mulligan” every once in a while? Maybe you chose your favorite TV show over spending time with your son. Or maybe you reacted impatiently during a moment of frustration.
Even though you can’t have a parenting do-over, you can always start fresh from where you are! The key is to purpose in your heart to do a better job, and then ask the Lord for strength and wisdom to follow through.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Parents, have you been there?
Your son has tears in his eyes as he shows you that he got another “D” on his math test. You start explaining why perseverance is important, but his eyes glaze over. You decide to try a different approach.
“Son, did I ever tell you about the two classes I failed in middle school?” Your boy raises his eyebrows. You’ve piqued his interest.
It’s easy for us as parents to try lecturing to get our points across. But when Jesus walked on earth, he didn’t give long speeches. Instead, he told stories.
Use the same strategy with your son. When he’s discouraged, recall a struggle you overcame when you were his age, and share that with him. You just might teach him a lesson he will never forget.
For more ideas for raising boys to be Godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Your son is enjoying a day kayaking down a river. Suddenly, he hears rushing water, and sees rapids up ahead. His heart beats fast, and he begins to paddle forward, right into the waves.
In life, watching your son head straight into challenging territory can be a frightening and stressful experience. But there’s a reason God wired boys to crave adventure, excitement, and risk. Child development specialists have found that taking risks is an essential part of growing up, and gives boys excellent coping skills, self confidence, and the ability to fail well.
So don’t be afraid. Equip your son with knowledge, say a prayer, and let him paddle forward. On the other side of those rapids is an amazing opportunity.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Ever heard the phrase “match the hatch”? It reminds fishermen that the best way to catch fish is to figure out what the fish are eating. But did you know this concept could help you get your teenage son involved in church, too?
Pay close attention to what activities your boy is drawn toward the most. Does he love music and playing an instrument? Encourage him to get involved in the church praise team. Is he into skateboarding? Search for a local Christian skater group. Does he love the adventure of video games? Get him involved with Christian outdoor groups, like Trail Life USA.
Don’t pull your son away from the things that interest him– instead, “match the hatch” and find a Christian community related to his favorite activity.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s something you’ll rarely hear shouted during a major league baseball game: “Great call, ump!”
Even the best, most experienced umpire will face constant criticism, taunting, and ridicule for every decision. Spectators only talk them if they are angry about a call that was made.
Consider this. Does your son feel like an umpire in his everyday life– constantly surrounded by criticism? At school, is he teased by his friends? Do his well-meaning teachers focus on the problems he missed? At home, do you remind him of the chores he didn’t do and the vegetables he didn’t eat?
Make it your goal to verbally affirm your son for the things he’s doing well. He needs that affirmation more than you probably realize.
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The baseball hall of fame is full of failures.
Consider Joe DiMaggio, one of the all-time top hitters. His batting average was .325. But even that great statistic means that Joe failed to hit the ball almost 70% of the time.
Unfortunately, in our society, boys do not receive the same margin for error. Young men naturally develop slower than their female peers, in both academics and emotional intelligence. But that is often ignored by educators, and boys are quickly labeled “slow” when they simply need more time to develop.
Let’s be like the baseball hall of fame. Let’s focus on the good, give lots of grace for failure, and celebrate each successful hit our boys make in life.
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The player stands at the free throw line, preparing for a critical shot. He takes a few seconds to adjust his arms and his feet. He knows that the only way he can make this shot is if his whole body is in perfect alignment.
For your son, life is the same way. The only way he can succeed is if his beliefs about himself are aligned with the ultimate truth of God’s word. This can be tough, in a society of gender fluidity and cultural relativism.
Regularly discuss with your son what God’s word has to say about current events. Memorize scripture together about his identity in Christ. And pray for godly, positive male mentors to inspire him and show him what a life aligned with Jesus looks like.
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Your son proudly shows you a new scrape on his knee, reporting that he had a bike wreck while riding down a hill. You grab a bandaid and shake your head. It’s your son’s fifth injury of the week! How can you keep him safe when he seems to crave and seek out risk?
First, encourage him to focus on one or two skills, like skateboarding or snow skiing. Secondly, enroll him in classes so that he learns how to minimize injuries. Of course, don’t forget the helmet, elbow pads, and prayer of protection. And lastly, remember that taking risks is actually crucial for your son’s brain development. Try to relax.
Oh– and buying bandaids in bulk might be a good idea, too.
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Getting your young son to sit still for a church service, car ride, or class in school can be a challenge. But one school in Texas doesn’t have this problem. Why? Well, they’ve tripled recess time.
During the school day, the kindergartners and first graders at this school get four, 15 minute recess breaks outside each day. The teachers say the kids are more attentive than ever, and many have even decreased symptoms of ADHD.
So if your son seems grumpy and uncooperative today, why don’t you try a different kind of “time out”? Take a jog with him, ride a bike, or find interesting leaves and flowers. Time outSIDE, letting your boy be a boy, can turn his whole day around.
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There’s something you can do as a family that can increase your son’s attention span, improve his vocabulary, foster deep conversation, and even boost your happiness as a parent. Sound good? Here’s the catch– your son may roll his eyes at first.
I’m talking about reading out loud as a family. Your son may think he’s too old for it now, but researchers have found that the benefits continue even as children become preteens or even teenagers.
Find a compelling adventure book and read a chapter a night together. A good place to start is your local Christian bookstore, which may have some fiction books your son will find exciting. Pop some popcorn and settle on the couch with your boy, and you both will reap the benefits of reading aloud.
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“Your son is delayed.” Those words can fill you worry and even some fear as a parent. But did you know that your son may be perfectly normal, and the system may be incorrect?
Researchers have found that boys’ brains develop more slowly than their female peers’ brains. The public school system doesn’t often take this into account, and a student’s success is measured by standardized tests. This is also true when it comes to behavior. As a result, many boys are labeled delayed when it comes to emotions or intelligence, when, in reality, they will catch up in due time.
Don’t lose heart. And don’t forget to take your worries to God. Your son is perfectly and wonderfully made.
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Breakfast. School. Homework. Dinner. Does your son seem bored or disengaged in his day to day life? Here’s a simple way to add adventure, spontaneity, and excitement to his life: Get him outside!
Nature can actually change your son’s brain for the better. Studies have found that when someone regularly spends time outside, essential regions of the brain, like the hippocampus, grow and retain more gray matter. This makes it easier for your son to pay attention, learn, and remember things.
Start simple. Get a baseball and play catch in your backyard. Look online to find a bike trail or body of water. Your boy will feel more satisfied with his life, and as a bonus, your relationship will most likely improve.
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His superman cape flies out behind him majestically, and he lifts his arms. “One, two, three!” Your five year old jumps off the swing set. A short time later, as you drive him to the emergency room with a broken arm, you wonder, “Why in the world did he do that?”
As parents, we remind our kids to be careful, but the truth is that boys don’t just want risk… they need it. Risky play helps your son learn to deal with nervous feelings, adapt to new situations, and improve his gross motor skills.
So what are some examples of safe risky play? Being in the elements and near fire or water. Games like hide and seek. Riding a bike fast.
Just don’t forget to pray for courage…for yourself, of course.
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“Take out the trash. This is the fourth time I’ve told you,” you tell your son. Your son says “What? I didn’t hear you.”
Here’s a fact that may not surprise you: boys are biologically wired to be bad listeners. Studies have found that, when a boy and girl hear the same sound, the boy will hear it 10 times quieter than the girl will. This is especially true if it’s a high frequency sound, like a woman’s voice.
Since 78% of teachers are female, it’s no wonder that boys are falling behind girls academically. So what can we do as parents? Give our boys grace. Explore alternative learning styles. And yes, we may need to ask several times for the trash to get taken out.
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There’s a bunch of excitement in the rocket industry. SpaceX and other companies are building gigantic rockets. They’re even planning Mars missions.
But before a rocket ever leaves the ground, there are countless hours of building and programming. Every part of the rocket is checked and double checked to make sure it’s ready for liftoff.
Before your son heads off for college or moves away for work, it’s important to prepare him for that big day. Make sure he has everything he needs to accomplish the mission of honoring the Lord with his life. And don’t forget: That building process begins years before liftoff.
Carefully and strategically train your son when he is young. That way, when he is ready to launch out into the world, everything will go smoothly.
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During the California Gold Rush of 1849, thousands of prospectors panned for gold in mountain streams and riverbeds. But those prospectors who spent time, sweat, and effort digging into the earth were the ones most likely to strike it rich. Discovering a single vein of gold was worth way more than hundreds of gold flakes from the river.
Help your son strike it rich in terms of godly character. Show him—through personal example—how to dig deep into Scripture. It’s there that he’ll discover the incredible treasures of service, commitment, and integrity.
Remember: the more your son understands the value of honoring the Lord with his life, the more he’ll want store up treasures in heaven—where thieves will never break in and steal.
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Do you remember your son taking his first steps? No doubt you had already been holding his hand—and helping him take one step in front of the other.
But eventually, the day came where he climbed to a stand, and took those first few steps all by himself. You cheered with joy and excitement.
Even though your son is no longer a toddler, continue to train him to walk in righteousness. Psalm chapter 1 provides excellent teaching. Show your son how to delight in the Lord and not to pursue a path of the selfishness and pride.
Proverbs 22:6 says,
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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If you plan to go skiing, you wear ski boots. If you’re heading to the beach, you wear sandals. For a quick jog around the block, you wear running shoes.
You select your shoes based on the type of activity.
Similarly, when training, correcting, or playing with your son, it’s vital to select the appropriate tone for the task at hand. It’s also crucial that you understand your son’s personality so that you can most effectively connect with him.
At times, you may need to choose a serious tone. Other times, a light-hearted attitude is most appropriate.
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” type of parenting. Understanding your son takes effort. But the more time and attention you devote to him, the more prepared he’ll be for life.
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Have you ever broken an arm? Depending on the type of break, the doctor might have needed to set the bones straight before placing your arm in a cast. That cast kept your arm protected so that the broken bones could grow back together.
If your relationship with your son is broken, you also need to set things straight. Take time to allow the relationship to heal. This may require a season of rest and extra attention. You may need to cut out other activities so that you can devote extra time to helping the relationship rest and recover.
A broken relationship hurts. But by taking immediate steps to help it recuperate, you and your son will grow closer together, and—in time—stronger than ever.
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Have you ever watched a stunt driver race his motorcycle up a steep ramp and into the air? Maybe he did a double backflip with a bunch of twists and turns.
Those crazy stunts require an incredible about of control. If the stuntman were to leave the ramp at the wrong angle, he’d land off target and experience an awful wipeout.
To succeed in life, your son also needs to be in control. Because boys are usually impulsive, self-control is one of the hardest lessons for them to learn. But a little self-control goes a long way in helping him steer through the twists and turns of life.
So teach your son the importance of self-control. The more self-control he has, the greater his chance of soaring high in life.
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Imagine sending an army to war without the tools or training to achieve victory. And yet, we are sending boys, ill-equipped, into a culture that seems to have declared war on boyhood.
The results are tragic. Boys are almost twice as likely to be put in special education and three times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD. And each year, fewer young men enroll in higher education.
But changing these statistics is more simple than you may think. For example, the presence of one positive mentor can make a young man more likely to make healthy choices, get better grades, and have higher self-esteem.
Today, ask God to put a man in your son’s life who can show him how to soldier on in the battle of life.
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Fidgeting. Being loud. Having trouble staying seated. Running or climbing when it’s not appropriate.
We used to consider these normal behaviors for young boys. But now, they are listed as symptoms of ADHD.
Attention disorders are certainly real. But in some cases, what if instead of changing our boys’ behavior, we need to adjust our approach as adults?
For instance–too much screen time and not enough exercise can make it hard for your son to sleep at night. In turn, being tired can make it hard for him to focus during the day. What if you turned off all screens after dinner, and took a family walk before bed instead? You and your son will both reap the benefits.
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You’re sitting at the dinner table, and you ask your son if he’s ready for basketball tryouts. Your son’s face starts to turn red. Suddenly, he stands up, pushes his plate away, and knocks his chair over intentionally as he leaves the room.
You’re confused. What caused this sudden anger outburst?
Researchers have discovered that when boys seem angry or withdrawn, they are often actually anxious.
So if your son seems angry for no reason, consider what may be stressing him out. Give him time to cool off. Get on his level, and engage him with physical touch and eye contact. And help him find healthier outlets for his anxiety, such as running or shooting hoops.
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You’ve no doubt heard of Babe Ruth, who set a record for most number of home runs in his baseball career– seven hundred and fourteen.
But here’s a statistic you probably haven’t heard– Babe Ruth’s total career strikeouts. One thousand three hundred and thirty. That’s right– he struck out far more than he hit homers.
When it comes to your own son, of course you want him to hit all the proverbial “home runs” in life. But don’t forget to let him fail, too. It can be hard for us parents to watch, but failure can actually build resilience and be more beneficial for our children than success.
Just ask Babe Ruth, who said– “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
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Is your son glued to a screen?
You’ve tried everything, but you just can’t pull your son away from his video games. Well here’s something to consider. Does your son’s real life give him the same opportunities for adventure that his virtual world does?
Of course, video games are addictive by design. But researchers have found that boys also turn to gaming out of boredom, seeking freedom and risk.
Try adding a few more “yesses” to your son’s life. Let him ride his bike down a hill, take a walk in the woods, or try climbing a tree. The best way to draw your son away from a virtual world is to give him healthy challenges in real life.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys as they grow up, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Billy Graham was one of the most influential evangelists of the 20th century. He boldly proclaimed the Gospel to over 200 million people. But in addition to his important preaching ministry, Billy Graham also had an important message for fathers.
He said,
“A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”
As a dad, you have the incredible privilege of raising your son to love the Lord and follow His ways. This brings with it the responsibility of providing a strong, Christ-centered foundation for your family.
So, how is your parenting journey coming along? Remember, you’ll never regret investing time and attention in your son.
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Gangs. They are responsible for almost half of the violent crime in the United States. And yet, boys and men continue to join these groups in droves, some recruited as early as elementary school. Why?
Here’s a big reason. As boys interact socially, they are always asking three questions: “Who is with me?” “Who is in charge?” And, “What is our mission?”
Often, church groups and social clubs, although well-intentioned, fail to answer those questions. If we aren’t answering these questions for boys, we will surely lose them to groups that will.
To ensure your son thrives, help him identify friends, leaders, and the bigger purpose in everything he does– from school to soccer practice.
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In the old days of coal mining, canaries were brought into mines. If the bird died, the miners knew they needed to escape, because there was something noxious in the atmosphere.
In our society today, boys are just like those canaries. Many are faltering in every area, including school, relationships, and mental health.
But there is one simple thing that can make young men more likely to make healthier choices, do better in school, and have a stronger self esteem. And that is the presence of a positive mentor.
Think you’re not equipped to be a mentor? Think about the heroes you had growing up. They made you feel valued, worthy, and inspired– and I promise, they were far from perfect people.
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Boys love the story of David and Goliath. Afterall, anytime there’s a battle involving giants with swords, it’s sure to capture attention.
But too often, boys fail to apply important lessons from David’s life. Before David defeated Goliath, he had learned to depend on God when battling lions that attacked his sheep. By relying on God in these smaller tests of faith, David had confidence that God would help him no matter what giant situation came his way.
What giants are your son facing? At school, is he struggling academically? Are bullies harassing him? Does he know how to navigate peer pressure?
The more your son understands that true strength comes from God—for both the small and big stuff—the more victorious he will be in life.
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Do you use your phone to send text messages?
According to statistics, around 80% of Americans do. Those text messages are often sent to family, friends, and co-workers. And now, more than ever, millions of children also carry a smart phone.
If you’ve decided to provide your son a phone, make sure he uses it responsibly. But in addition to that, use text messaging as a way to connect with him. If you’re out of town during one of his sporting events or other activities, send a quick text:
Hey buddy. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Just want you to know that I’m so proud of you!
A text message doesn’t take long to type, but the encouragement it provides lasts for days.
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We need to listen to our children. One old-school method of dealing with children was “The children should be seen and not heard.” Connecting with our child’s heart, especially our sons, is critical to having a loving relationship with them, and connection begins with listening and understanding. We must value who they are and who God has made them to be.
As we start to listen more to them, we will grow in understanding of who our child is and what makes them thrive. Become a student of your child. Learn what inspires them and what they are passionate about. Be intentional about listening to them, connecting with them, and encouraging them down the right path.
Take time today to listen to your children and value who they are.
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Two of the most difficult words for a parent to say are, “I’m sorry.” Are you saying them enough?
As parents, we should ask for forgiveness from our kids if we lose our temper, or don’t control our tongue, or if we jump to conclusions without gathering the necessary facts.
The difficulty is that we can feel vulnerable, inadequate, and even slightly humiliated when apologizing.
But here’s the truth: Your son or daughter will grow to love and respect you even more if you apologize. Humbling yourself demonstrates—through action—a love so strong that you are willing to admit wrong in order to restore the relationship.
Saying sorry isn’t easy, but your example goes a long way in helping your children see what true spiritual maturity looks like.
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Glance into your purse or wallet and you’ll probably see a few dollar bills. Written on those dollar bills are these words: In God We Trust.
It’s nice having that motto on our coins and bills—but it’s even more important to demonstrate that motto in our lives … that we teach this to our sons.
Has your son trusted in Jesus as his Savior? If so, are you teaching him the importance of trusting in the Lord for daily guidance?
Proverbs 3:5 says,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.”
Parenting is full of challenges. But when we trust in God, He promises to provide strength and help in time of need.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Glance into your purse or wallet and you’ll probably see a few dollar bills. Written on those dollar bills are these words: In God We Trust.
It’s nice having that motto on our coins and bills—but it’s even more important to demonstrate that motto in our lives … that we teach this to our sons.
Has your son trusted in Jesus as his Savior? If so, are you teaching him the importance of trusting in the Lord for daily guidance?
Proverbs 3:5 says,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.”
Parenting is full of challenges. But when we trust in God, He promises to provide strength and help in time of need.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When Benjamin Franklin’s name is mentioned, kids think of the Guy who placed a metal key on a kite string.
But adults recognize Benjamin Franklin as one of America’s most important Founding Fathers. In addition to helping to write the Declaration of Independence, he also had great advice about the learning process.
He said,
“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.”
Kids learn in different ways, but boys—especially—benefit from physical involvement. It’s one thing to tell a boy how to do something. But having him actually do it helps him remember and apply the lesson in a much more effective way.
For information about how to help boys learn and grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When you’re expecting a baby, you’re filled with dreams of how extraordinary your child will eventually become. But if your son has special needs or experiences developmental delays, you dream about him functioning in an ordinary way.
The expectations we have for our children don’t always turn out the way we wish. During these times, it’s easy to become angry, frustrated, and bitter.
When these emotions begin swirling through your mind, return your focus to the God of all comfort. Remember that God selected you as a parent for a specific reason. And because He chose you, He will equip you for the task at hand.
It’s also helpful to receive encouragement throughout the parenting journey. Trail Life USA has a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you know the four magic words to motivate your son?
These four words are powerful. These words might help your boy pay attention at school or cause him to clean his room.
Are you ready for the four words? They are:
“Here’s what’s at stake.”
You see, boys are motivated by challenges. And when they don’t know what’s at stake, it’s hard for them to stay focused.
Here’s an example. Maybe your son lacks motivation in his art class. If so, consider this– does he understand why learning about art is important?
Sometimes, the “what’s at stake” will be a natural consequence– and other times, you may have to create a consequence for your son. Either way, use the four magic words “here’s what’s at stake”-- and you just might see your son be motivated.
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“What were you thinking?” Most parents ask their son this question at least once.
Preteens and teens often make decisions without considering consequences. There’s a valid reason for this. Teen brains are still developing. The portion of their brain responsible for planning ahead and understanding the if-then effects, the prefrontal cortex, isn’t fully mature until the mid-20's. Until then, they need us to steer them toward healthy choices.
Their brains develop properly as they exercise positive decision-making skills. That means taking some risks, like learning tricks on a skateboard, and reaping the rewards while resisting unhealthy temptations, like staying up late or spending too much time staring at screens.
So, don’t be too hard on your son when his decisions appear impulsive; applaud him when he makes healthy choices.
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Do you ever use things around you to teach truth? Jesus did it all the time.
A caterpillar, wrapping itself in a cocoon and emerging as a beautiful butterfly, is a good example of this teaching process. The caterpillar enters its “tomb,” dies to its former life of destroying plants, and changes into something wondrous and beneficial to those around it. We call it “metamorphosis.”
The Apostle Paul used this word Romans 12:2 when he said we were to be “transformed by the renewing of your mind…” By doing so, Paul says, a person dies to a former life, and becomes something heavenly.
As we celebrate Easter Sunday, the truth of the caterpillar is something little minds and hearts can comprehend. That’s why Jesus taught this way. He used simple illustrations, but oh, how profound is the truth.
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How can you get your son to unplug from his electronics and go outside? You know his bones and muscles are atrophying with no activity, but how can you help him become the young man he has the potential to be?
Dane enrolled his son in Trail Life. On his first hike, he thought he might have made a mistake, for it was a long, exhausting trek up the side of a mountain. But when the other boys broke out frisbees and his son was sprinting across the meadow playing a game of ‘Ultimate’ even after a long hike, he knew he made the right decision.
Challenge your son. Give him an adventure. Only God knows what he can become.
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Does your son know what it means to respect women?
He certainly isn’t going to learn this by watching society. Best-selling author and father Dave Willis says parents must be intentional about teaching their sons to view the opposite sex in a healthy way.
First, Willis says to have clear conversations. Discuss what behavior is and isn’t OK. Point out that, while Jesus was on earth, he treated women with utmost kindness and honor. Secondly, model respect. If you’re a single mom, seek out a male mentor for your son who you know treats women kindly.
And finally, encourage expressions of healthy masculinity. Help your son find a community of positive peers and male mentors. This could be a youth group, an after-school program, or an outdoor adventure program like Trail Life USA.
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Life is hard. Is your son ready?
Does he have the tools to come face-to-face with the things you went through– and overcome?
When the disciple Peter stepped out of the boat to follow Jesus, it was a great act of intense faith. But the roar of wind and waves around him took his focus from Christ, and he began to sink.
Teach your son to focus intently on the face of Christ, and seek him with his whole heart. Live out for him the word of God as his map and compass through this life. Give him godly mentors to show him the way, and godly young men to help sharpen his faith to face the tests of life– and overcome.
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“Boys, time to take three laps around the house.”
My homeschool friend recognizes the need for her sons to get up and move several times a day. So, once an hour the kids go outside and run around for ten minutes.
Boys learn best when their entire body is involved in the process. That’s why they’re naturally restless and rambunctious. Their instinct is to keep moving. When their body is in motion, their brain is more engaged, which allows for a better learning environment.
The next time you want to help your son absorb some facts, combine the learning experience with an activity. They can recite memory verses while bouncing a basketball or listen to a book while shuffling a deck of cards. The information is more likely to stick.
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Does your son play video games?
A grandfather asked his grandson, “Why do you like playing Fortnite so much?” His grandson’s reply was telling: “Because I’m good at it.”
Why do we have such an inner drive? To be good? To win? Sometimes at the expense of others? The answer lies in The Fall. Mankind was created, and God said it was “very good.”* Everything Adam and Eve needed was woven into them to worship God and obey Him.
However, when they decided to believe the serpent instead, that inner drive became corrupted. And, unfortunately, the rest is history.
Teaching our boys what true goodness is, by showing them the life of Jesus, takes this concept out of the fake worlds of video games and plants it firmly in the real world around them.
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*Genesis 1:31
Is your son growing closer to God, or further away?
It seems that everything in our modern culture is trying to drive a wedge between our sons and their faith in God. Many times, this worldly influence comes from their friends.
Abraham Kuyper, former Prime Minister of the Netherlands, once said, “He is your friend who pushes you nearer to God.”
Surround your sons with godly men to mentor him and with true friends who will encourage him in his walk with Christ. Modern culture wants to rip him away from God. Put people in his life that push him, by their example and by their words, ever closer to the love of Jesus Christ.
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Walk into any coffee shop, and the chances are high that you’ll see two women talking. Sitting across from each other, the women will look each other in the eye and discuss deep and personal issues.
You probably won’t see two men sitting and conversing in the same way. Why?
Well, as Dr. Emerson Eggerichs points out, it’s a matter of gender differences. Women prefer face to face communication, while men tend to prefer shoulder-to-shoulder discussions.
As a parent of a son, this is deeply valuable information for you to consider. When you’re concerned about your son and would like him to share his struggles, get beside him. Take a drive, hike together, or stand on a dock side-by-side and fish. Your boy will most likely prefer those settings over going to a coffee shop.
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When is your son strong enough? How do you know he’s ready?
Tyler was the smallest, youngest member of the troop, and afraid of heights, so when it came time to go down the rappelling tower, the leaders were not surprised when Tyler got into the harness and timidly inched down the side of the tower. What blew their minds was that he went back over and over again, until he was kicking out off the top ledge, the rope zipping through his hands as he flew through the air in giant leaps, with a huge grin on his face.
Sometimes, all a boy needs is a challenge. Give him that challenge, and see who he can become!
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I have a tough time visualizing Jesus, mocking an opponent, calling them “losers.”
It’s called “trash talk,” or having “swag.” And it can get ugly.
Sportsmanship, like so many cultural norms these days, is becoming a thing of the past.
When a player does something memorable, like crouching down and consoling a member of the losing side after the game is over, we marvel at their example.
That’s the kind of life Jesus lived. Winning a game is just that. A game. Sportsmanship is a life lesson that shapes and molds a young man into something more. When taken deeper, showing compassion, even when you “lose,” becomes the ultimate example. That’s when you can say to the vitriol of an ungracious opponent, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”*
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*Luke 23:34
Are there days you want to resign as a parent? You wish you could throw in the towel and call it quits?
Most parents have fleeting thoughts of giving up. During these problematic moments, remember God’s encouragement in James. The one who perseveres under trial is blessed and will receive the crown of life.
Raising boys is a long endeavor. A marathon, not a race. And it sometimes requires thick skin. On the days when our boys run through the house and knock things over or leave their socks laying around for the umpteenth time, remember your goal isn’t to only change behavior, but to build character. And that takes perseverance and patience. So, go ahead and remind them one more time not to run. Smile and tell them to pick up their dirty clothes. You’re raising Godly boys.
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How do your son’s friends influence him? Do they make him better? Do they encourage him to be his best and have a good attitude?
The twins were away from video games and TV. Cold and wet from the rainy canoe camping trip, all they wanted when they put in to camp was to go home. Bad became worse when they discovered their patrol’s food and all the extra water got left behind.
But the other boys shared their own food and started playing games in the rain. Soon, they were cannonballing into the river, finding frogs, and running through the woods. That night, they crawled into their tents wet, hungry, and very, very happy.
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Luke, a senior in high school, took a breath. He was about to rappel down a steep cliff. He knew that, at the bottom of the cliff, an experienced rock climber was holding the safety rope. But it still took all the courage Luke had to begin to rappel.
A few weeks later, Luke took a deep breath yet again. But this time he wasn’t rappelling. He was about to graduate high school. Just as had known the experienced rock climber would keep him safe, he knew his Heavenly Father was holding his future.
As Luke learned while rappelling, out of all the ways that outdoor activities benefit your son, perhaps the most important of all is the lesson in trusting God. These activities teach your boy to have courage and step out in faith.
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Why are boys protectors?
At four years old, Thomas saw a red wasp fly into the room and land next to his baby sister, buzzing threateningly. Scared for his sister, he stepped in front of her, stomping on the wasp with his bare foot, and the stinger went deep into his soft skin.
His mother rushed from the kitchen and scooped up the brave little boy who saved his sister by taking the pain himself.
Boys are men-in-training, and the God-given role of protector is hard-wired into them. Masculinity is not toxic, it is godly and heroic.
Help your son become the best. Live Christ in your life. Find good, strong mentors to train him, and high-character friends to walk alongside him.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Wet towels on the bathroom floor. Dirty clothes strewn about the bedroom with Legos embedded within, acting as a plastic minefield. And dirt. Dirt everywhere.
If you have boys, then this little visual has you nodding in agreement. Personal hygiene for the average pre-teen boy or early teenager just doesn’t compute. Not until there is a girl involved. Then, we see the transformation unfold before our eyes. The hair has to be just so. Clean clothes matter. Deodorant and cologne become necessities.
What happened?
He now has a reason to care.
But didn’t he have a reason to care before? Yes. “Whether then, you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”* Sometimes, boys need to be taught how God’s Word applies to every aspect of life.
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Is your son ready?
John David was giving the boys a last-minute pack check before heading out on a week-long hike and campout of over eighty miles, when he noticed they only had one water bottle apiece. The trails were long and dusty, and many times there would be no streams or rivers along the way, and they could only find water to filter at the end of the day. He quickly got them more water bottles, and they were ready for the trip.
One sip of a Sunday sermon is not enough to carry your son through the week. Teach him to drink deeply of the word, daily refreshing himself by streams of pure water in scripture. Morning and nightly draughts from God’s word will sustain him, clear his mind, and give him strength to carry on.
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Here’s an idea for studying the Bible with your teenage son.
First, find a simple Bible reading plan online. Each day, you and your son read the passage together or own your own.
Then, after reading the passage, go through the H.E.A.R. acronym. This was created by Pastor Robbie Gallaty.
H stands for– Highlight a verse that stands out
E— Explain what this verse means
A— Apply this to your life
And R— Respond to God’s Word.
Pastor Robbie says he created this acronym to eliminate many of the excuses people give for not understanding God’s word. It’s also an excellent catalyst for sparking spiritual conversations between you and your son. Pray about giving the H.E.A.R method a try.
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William Wallace, who fought for Scottish independence, recalls this quote his uncle used to tell him: “I tell you a truth: Liberty is the best of things, my son; never live under any slavish bond.”
Teach your son to walk in freedom. Many things in this life will seek to enslave him: twisted immorality, the pursuit of selfish ends and amassing wealth, or a life of ease and pleasure. But it is for freedom that Christ has set us free.
Your son is free from the bondage of Pharisaical judgment, Corinthian licentiousness, and everything in between. Whom the son sets free is free indeed.
So help him fight his battles, help free him from society’s grip, and let him soar with eagle’s wings so he, in turn, may reach out and help free others.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Integrity. We sometimes call it, “Honor,” or “Our Word.”
If we say, “You have my word,” we wish for that person to believe us and trust us. Not just now, but in the future as well.
Yet, Integrity is a difficult thing for young men to build in today’s society. They are surrounded by peers, cultural icons, and even relatives who lie to “save their backsides.”
The Bible says, “Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a rich man who is crooked in his ways.”*
God said we could believe His Word unto salvation and everlasting life. And if our young men are to follow in the Master’s footsteps, then having integrity that mirrors their Master should be a priority. Not only for themselves, but for their posterity too.
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John Eldredge writes, “Men want a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue. That is what is written in their hearts. That is what little boys play at. That is what men's movies are about. You just see it. It is undeniable.”
In today’s world, those desires can become distorted, twisted, or boys can be shamed out of righteous desires to pursue the lies society paints with glitter and holds up as bait.
You can affirm your boys in their desires for adventure, victory, and love, and do it with purpose. Teach them the right battles to fight. Give them tremendous adventures to live. Train them to be ready to rescue.
Surround your son with men and boys seeking a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.
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Do you know how microwave popcorn works?
Each kernel has a tiny drop of water inside. When that drop of water is heated up, the kernel explodes into popcorn!
Here’s what I want to hone in on– even though they are placed in the same bag and heated in the same microwave— each kernel will turn into popcorn at different times.
In the same way, your son will develop at his own rate. It’s very normal for boys to develop at a slower rate than girls, and then eventually catch up. But often, the school system continues to compare boys and girls as equals, which leads to many boys being considered developmentally delayed.
If that describes your son– don’t lose heart. Most likely, he will catch up in due time. He is perfectly and wonderfully made.
For more ideas for raising boys into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How much food can one boy eat? What about ten boys? If your son is anything like mine, they can put away some groceries.
David and the other leaders planned ahead, and had a cooler full of food for the boys' outdoor leadership training retreat. What they did not count on was the fish.
Camping right next to a lake, the boys spent every free moment with a line in the water, built a fire, and cooked fish for breakfast, lunch, and supper. David went home with 90% of the food he brought to the campout!
Godly mentoring, fun with friends, and lots of fish-- it was a weekend to remember!
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
It’s getting harder and harder to find programming on TV, movies in the theaters, or books in the bookstore to which we, as parents, feel comfortable exposing our children.
Guarding their hearts and minds becomes infinitely more difficult the day you hand them their first smartphone.
Because boys are typically very visual, in both their learning and what stimulates them emotionally, our “visual society,” with all of its ungodly trappings becomes a literal minefield, slowly destroying their boyhood innocence, one blast at a time.
We know the saying: “Garbage in, Garbage out.” Jesus phrased it like this: “From out of the heart, the mouth speaks.”* What are your boys viewing that will eventually come out as words and deeds? And does the answer to that question alarm you?
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Have you ever felt like an outsider? Like you didn’t fit in?
God created us with an innate desire to belong, to connect with others, to be part of a community.
Our sons are no different. Even when they act uninterested, hide in their room, or say they don’t care, they still long to fit it. They want to join with others and experience the thrill of being part of something bigger than themselves. Our job is to steer them toward a group with healthy goals and positive influences. Pray about a place for them to belong.
Encourage your boys to join a Christian group like Trail Life, where they can experience God’s creation, mature into godly men, and accomplish tasks alongside others.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son know how to succeed?
A young boy was talking to JD, an infectiously happy disc-golf expert who drove trucks for a living.
Eyes crinkling, JD told the boy, “I figured out the secret to making money as a truck driver. Wanna hear it?”
The boy nodded eagerly, and JD answered with a smile, “Keep the left door closed.”
What JD meant was, “don’t stop unnecessarily; keep on driving.”
Whether your son is climbing a mountain, practicing for football or soccer, or learning a trade, the secret to success is often that simple; just keep going. Persistence brings success, and small successes now mean you have prepared him to succeed on a much larger field: in life.
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Teach your son to do the best he can with what God has given him.
Violinist Niccolo Paganini was playing a piece in front of an audience when, one by one, his violin strings began to snap. Finally, Niccolo was left with only one single working string. Unfazed, he finished the piece on the single string he had left.
This is a wonderful example of focusing on our strengths. Our Creator has a specific purpose for every young man’s life. But sometimes, it’s easy for boys to only look at their weaknesses and decide that they aren’t equipped to do great things.
Instead, help your son focus on his strengths, and offer those to God. After all, our Lord can create beautiful music with any number of violin strings.
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Tim Allen once said, “Do you know what causes sibling rivalry? Having more than one kid."
Worldly speaking, this is true. And funny. However, from a biblical perspective, the cause of sibling rivalry can reside in an “only child” household, too, for the ultimate cause is our sinful nature. The selfish cries of “Mine!” can manifest themselves in the presence of friends or relatives just the same.
Jesus taught us that the entire Law of God can be summed up in two steps: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, and Love your neighbor as yourself.* Who’s closer to being a neighbor than a sibling?
For when we teach our boys to have the heart of our Savior, siblings become more than mere flesh and blood with whom to compete.
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Is your son ready to face life?
Would you like him to be?
Giving your son challenges to overcome strengthens him to take on more.
Hiking a misty morning trail, sweating and pushing himself on the football field, or learning the thrill of shooting his kayak down a roaring rapid, powering through the river with eager strokes all build in him a mindset of success to overcome what life brings him.
Leonardo DaVinci once said, “Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.”
Give your son the opportunity to succeed. Carefully select challenges to push him and show him how strong he really is.
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“You’re not listening.”
Have you said this to your son lately? Maybe he was clicking his pen or fidgeting with a toy rather than paying attention to your words.
He appears to be ignoring you. However, his annoying behavior could be what helps him understand your instructions.
Boys can’t process sentence after sentence after sentence. Typically, they are kinesthetic and learn best when physically engaged in an activity. So, rather than sitting across from your son, try talking with him while participating in an activity together. Shoulder to shoulder, rather than eye to eye.
When you need to correct your son or offer him advice, get moving. Take a walk. Go for a bike ride. Build a fort. He’s more apt to hear your message.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son have a direction? Has he chosen what he wants his character to be?
You can help him do this, you know.
When you do, help him choose a character not based on pleasure or self, but on fulfilling God’s purpose for his life.
Albert Einstein once said, “To make a goal of comfort or happiness has never appealed to me; a system of ethics built on this basis would be sufficient only for a herd of cattle.”
Don’t raise your son as cattle. Raise him to be a godly leader whose first thought is not for himself, but for how he can serve his Savior.
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Teach your son to be a friend to all– even to those who are missing buttons.
In the classic children’s book Corduroy by Don Freeman, a little stuffed bear sits on a store shelf. Children see the bear and consider purchasing him. But when they see that Corduroy is missing a button on his overalls, they put him back on the shelf.
One day, a child decides to buy Corduroy, despite his missing button. When she takes him home, Corduroy thinks, “I’ve always wanted a friend.”
Your son is watching the way you treat others. Do you disregard and judge people because of their imperfections? Or, do you forgive and show grace?
Remind your son that Jesus was known for loving the misfits. As Christians, we should be a friend to all as well.
For more ideas for raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever wanted to talk to your son? Like, really talk? Life can come at them hard and fast in today’s world.
Chris was concerned about his son after cancer took his wife. His son always said he was fine, but Chris wondered.
On a campout with their troop, when all the rock-climbing and tower-building was complete, Chris and his son went to fish. As the sun was setting and Canadian geese circled in to settle on the opposite side of the pond, Chris’ son said simply, “Mom would have liked this.”
Chris was quiet. “I miss her,” his son said, then broke down in tears. Chris dropped his rod and wrapped him up in a big hug, and they were able to talk– really talk. Make space to hear your son’s heart.
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Almost all of us have been bullied or observed someone bully others. How do we help our sons stand up to a tormentor without retaliating or being a pushover?
Devon joined the swim team last summer. A few teammates made fun of him because he wasn’t part of the “in” crowd. Others saw but didn’t know how to help. When Devon asked his parents what to do, they told him, “Just continue to be the person you are. Treat others the way you want to be treated.” And he did. At the end of season, Devon won the “Kindest Person on the Team” award. Everyone, including the coaches, noticed his caring disposition.
When your son asks how to stop a bully, one answer may be, “Just be yourself.”
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As soon as you found out you were having a son, you probably started dreaming about what he would be like.
Maybe you started dreaming about what he would grow up to be. Maybe you even laid out your old football jersey, wondering if your son would be a quarterback like you were in high school.
Maybe. But maybe not. Many times, sons surprise us with their interests. You might expect him to love sports, but he may prefer to do something completely different– like fix computers or bake apple pie.
Whatever your boy’s passions turn out to be, pray that he will use them to glorify God. Let go of your expectations. Encourage the natural giftings and interests you see in your son– even if that means he never dons your old high school football jersey.
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What is the allure of camping? Why do children want to sleep in tents, wander trails with flashlights, climb trees, and have adventures?
Painter Vito Campenella once said, “The world is all sense, life, soul and body, the image of the Almighty, fashioned to glorify Him with power, wisdom, and love.”
God’s power is evident in his creation, and often, he can speak to us there when we are away from the distractions of screens.
How much more important is it for your son? Rivers, mountains, and starry nights are great ways to teach him God’s glory. Even the backyard can be peace from the cares of life and time to lift his heart to God.
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God sees the x-ray of your son’s heart.
Brad Henry went to the doctor because of some knee pain. Looking at the x-ray, the doctor asked Brad, “Have you ever been shot?” Brad answered, “Yes, thirty-five years ago when I was rabbit hunting!”
It turned out that a piece of bullet had been lodged in Brad’s knee for decades.
As Brad’s story illustrates– X-rays can see what the human eye cannot. And in the same way, a crucial lesson we must teach our son is that God sees the depths of his heart.
On one hand, this is convicting– God sees his true motives and darkest sins. But more importantly, this is encouraging. As we’re reminded in Psalm 139:2– God understands our son’s every thought.
Remind your son today of how deeply he is seen and loved.
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Every night at bedtime, Jane would kiss her five-year-old son’s cheek, and say, “I love you so much.”
One night, her son said, “Mom, I know you love me. But are you proud of me?”
That’s a true story that Dr. Emerson Eggerich shared while teaching about his book, Love and Respect.
Hearing her son’s question, Jane realized her son was already craving respect. She changed her approach. At bedtime, started putting her hand on her son’s shoulder and saying, “I am so proud of you.” Every time she did, her son would puff his chest and smile.
Your son does need to know you love him, of course. But don’t forget about his desire to hear that you like him and are proud of the person that he is, as well.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit TrailLifeUSA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son have a “spotter”?
In NASCAR, each driver has a “spotter.” It’s a person who stands high above the racetrack and communicates, through a radio, what’s behind, around, and ahead of the driver.
As Brad Henry points out in his book Destination- The Winner’s Circle, every young man needs a spotter. They need someone who has a wider perspective, who can point out potential issues behind and ahead of them.
Unfortunately, young men tend to listen to the spotter more closely if that person is NOT a parent. Start helping your son seek out a youth pastor, a church deacon, or a great male teacher who could be their positive mentor and “spotter.”
And of course, point your son to the ultimate spotter– God, the Author and Finisher of our faith.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Could your boy be a hero?
Chris and his friends ran down to the beach ahead of their leaders when two ladies, frantic and crying, came running to them pointing out to sea. Their brother, a weak swimmer, was caught in a strong current, and was fighting for his life, unable to make it to shore.
Two of the strongest swimmers raced out to save him as the others formed a human chain, wading into the current, helping their friends and the near-drowning brother to safety.
Surrounding your son with good friends who know what to do is a path to success for life, and will help him save others on his way.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Want to teach your son right and wrong? The outdoors is a great place to start.
When you’re hunting, camping, or hiking, natural consequences are everywhere. If you don’t aim your shot well, you won’t harvest a deer. If you fail to pitch your tent correctly, it will tumble around you. If you don’t consult the weather forecast, you may get caught in a rainstorm on your hiking trail.
Always supervise your son, and be prepared to assist when needed. But on your next outdoor adventure, let your son take the lead. And when something goes wrong, as long as your son is safe, allow him to decide what to do next. You’ll be building his confidence, his resilience, and his critical thinking skills all at once.
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Can you be sure you are raising your children properly? How can you know you are right? With so many different voices yelling at you from social media, friends, and the world, how can you know what is true?
For instance, science mistakenly used to tell us margarine was better than butter, and eggs would kill us. Who can you trust these days?
Baroque sculptor Gian Lorenzo Bernini once said, “The most wonderful virtue of all is truth, because ultimately it is revealed by time.”
Raise your children in the truth. God never changes; he is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Teach them to walk hand-in-hand with Him, and they will develop faith and a character that will stand the test of time.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com
Every night at bedtime, Jane would kiss her five-year-old son’s cheek, and say, “I love you so much.”
One night, her son said, “Mom, I know you love me. But are you proud of me?”
That’s a true story that Dr. Emerson Eggerich shared while teaching about his book, Love and Respect.
Hearing her son’s question, Jane realized her son was already craving respect. She changed her approach. At bedtime, started putting her hand on her son’s shoulder and saying, “I am so proud of you.” Every time she did, her son would puff his chest and smile.
Your son does need to know you love him, of course. But don’t forget about his desire to hear that you like him and are proud of the person that he is, as well.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit TrailLifeUSA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Is it easier for you to fix something yourself rather than ask your son to help? If so, you’re not alone.
One wife asked her husband to let their ten-year-old help him change the oil in their car. He told her he’d tried in the past but ended up frustrated. His son didn’t listen, couldn’t focus, and kept dropping tools. The task took twice as long.
Can you relate?
Even though teaching our sons how to take care of household problems, like changing the oil, may cost us time, it’s worth the effort. It builds their self-worth and teaches them life lessons which help them become responsible adults. And through the process, the relationship between father and son grows.
So the next time you need to fix something, grab your son and complete the job together.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever prayed over your son’s room?
Consider doing this the next time your son is at school or asleep.
Standing at your son’s bedroom door, pray Psalm 121:8: That the Lord will watch over his comings and his goings.
Then, walk over to his bedroom window, and pray Matthew 6:33- that your son will seek first God’s kingdom and righteousness.
By his bedside, pray Psalm 4:8- That your son will lie down and rest in peace, because the Lord alone makes him dwell in safety.
And standing in the middle of the room, pray Phillipians 4:6-7– that your son isn’t anxious about anything, but with prayer and petition, makes his requests known to God, so that the peace of Christ fills your son’s room and his heart.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Has your son ever been afraid?
On a coastal night hike, the youngest boys in the group were scared when odd lights began flashing across the sky. They grew more terrified as they hiked closer until they were directly underneath the lights!
Turning the corner, they were delighted to find the source of the mysterious lights was a lighthouse in the distance; the lighthouse beam reflected off a power line and appeared to shoot across the sky.
In life and on the trail, following experienced mentors and surrounding your son with other young men to keep him secure is a good plan for success, and a way to find the light at the end of the trail!
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What comes to mind when you hear the word reflector?
Maybe you think of a car’s taillight or those glittery objects that stick up in the center of the road. A reflector takes the light it receives and redirects it outward.
In the darkness of today’s culture, Christians have a responsibility to reflect the true light of the world. The question is, are you doing that?
Matthew 5:16 says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”
Be bold in reflecting Christ. As you demonstrate courage in sharing the Gospel, your son will take notice. Then, before you know it, he’ll want to be a reflector as well.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Don’t forget to enjoy life with your son.
If you’re like many parents, you are very concerned with parenting your son well. You work hard to help him succeed in school and learn responsibility. You research the best discipline strategies for him. You pray for him to know the Lord.
Those things are excellent. But don’t forget to kick back and have fun with your boy, too.
Sit on the porch and play fetch with the dog together. Hop on bikes and find a new trail. Make ice cream sundaes. If your son is little, sit with him. Play trucks, color, or blow bubbles.
You may only have a few minutes. But those few minutes will fill your son’s love tank, and remind him that enjoying God’s blessings is an important part of life.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you charge up your cell phone last night?
Mostly likely, you did. That meant plugging it into a power source so that electricity could recharge its battery. Each night, you probably recharge your phone so that it’s ready to be used throughout the next day.
As a parent, it’s vital that you also take time to rest and recharge. This could take the form of physical relaxation, emotional support, or spiritual refreshment. There are many ways to recharge your internal “batteries,” but the key is to figure out what works for you, and then take time to rest.
By plugging into God’s Word, you’ll receive a big boost of strength that will power you throughout the day.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Is your son destined for greatness?
Baroque sculptor Gian Lorenzo Bernini once said, “If you want to know the extent of a man’s ability, give him something difficult to do.”
Today’s society wants to give everyone a prize for showing up, and award everyone an ‘A’ for turning in the assignment. The temptation to accept the easy ‘A’ and the prize with no victory creates a world with no champions.
Break the mold! Challenge your son! …the cold, early-morning air broken by the crunch of gravel under his hiking boots as he ascends a peak, the crash of helmets as he charges for a tackle, or the roar of a river as he shoots a rapid….
Is your son destined for greatness? Help him find it!
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If your son flops down on the couch and says, “I’m bored” — take notice.
God made boys mentally, emotionally, and physically different from girls. Because of that, they need to engage in activities that they are passionate about . . . activities that involve both mind and body.
So, what’s your son passionate about?
Dad, help him discover his strengths and talents. This might involve trying a little bit of a whole bunch of activities. Take him rock climbing. Sign him up for karate classes. Give photography a chance.
Eventually, your son will develop a passion for a certain activity. When this happens, encourage him to develop those skills. The more he does so, the fewer times you’ll hear, “I’m bored” escape his lips.
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Are you afraid your son will lose his way? This world is full of alluring distractions that can lead our children down dark paths, seeking to devour them.
In the midst of so many lies, how can they know the truth?
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle wrote in Sherlock Holmes, “...when you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.”
Against the wisdom of this world, the improbably simple truth of the gospel stands alone. Teach your son to never touch this world’s glittering array of lies by showing him how to cling fast to the word of God. Give him godly mentors to help train him, and surround him with like-minded young men following the greatest truth: Jesus Christ.
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A young boy was playing with his pet goldfish, when he accidentally killed it.
Scared he would get in trouble, the boy, named David, lied about what happened to his fish.
Immediately, he felt guilty. He confessed the lie to his mom as tears streamed down his face. His mom said, “David, Jesus loves you no matter what you have done.”
That little boy was David Frey, who grew up to be the lead singer of the Christian band Sidewalk Prophets. He wrote a song about that experience, called “You Love Me Anyway.”
As parents of sons, let’s follow the example of David’s mom. Our son is going to make mistakes. When he does, let’s remind him first and foremost that there’s nothing he can do to cancel out Jesus’ all-consuming, unconditional love.
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Did you listen to your parents, or did you listen to your friends?
Friendships can define a boy’s life. More than that, friendships in a group can provide identity. There is a reason sports teammates will fight viciously for one another on the field. It’s also why gangs are so prevalent– it gives boys a sense of belonging, and can drive them to do things they know are wrong.
How can you help your son choose? It doesn’t have to be left to chance.
You can give him godly friends who will inspire him as they help each other along the way. And who knows? Perhaps your son is the one the others will listen to and learn from.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Show. Don’t just tell.
In Philippians 3:10, Paul says, “I want to know Christ.” He isn’t talking about head knowledge. In both the Greek and Hebrew languages, the word knowledge is experience based. Paul was saying that he longs to experience God in all of His glory.
That should be our heart’s cry as Christian parents. We can take our son to church and tell him about the importance of a relationship with Jesus. But the best way to teach our boys is to show them.
Let your son see you meeting with God, reading your Bible, praying, and sharing Christ with others. Let Christ transform your life. Your son will notice– and no doubt begin to desire to experience Jesus for himself.
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Theodore Roosevelt famously said,
“Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.”
But how? How do we as parents give our sons the chance for glorious triumphs?
Break free of the tyranny of screens! Go outdoors, and teach your son to test his mettle against a lofty mountain peak, a wicked fastball, or paddling a canoe down a winding river in the early morning mist.
Rescue him from the gray twilight, and teach him to truly live!
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Your son craves four things.
First, he craves belonging– to “fit in.” Second, he wants a sense of competence. He needs to feel “good enough.” Third– boys need to know their worth. And the fourth thing that boys crave is a sense of autonomy. They want freedom and independence.
The next time your son is upset or angry, it may be a good idea to go through this list in your head. Which craving is your son lacking?
Then, once it’s identified, help your son find age-appropriate, healthy, ways to fulfill that desire. For instance, if he’s not feeling a sense of belonging at school, maybe he could find another group of peers to meet with. This could be a youth group, or an outdoor adventure group like Trail Life USA.
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How can you train your son into good character, character that will last, character that will see him become a man of responsibility and action?
The allures of society can drown your son in ease of life, pleasure, and infinite time-wasting. Many young men simply fail to do anything with their lives.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Irving Stone wrote of Michelangelo in The Agony and the Ecstasy, “...his own integrity… forced him to do his best, even when he would have preferred to do nothing at all.”
There is a way to instill character in your son: give him godly mentors, a high target to aim for, and set challenges for him that will awaken the fire within his soul.
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It was just three simple words.
Evangelical Louis Palau was fighting terminal lung cancer. During that time, someone asked him, “After you pass away, if you could send a message down from heaven to all believers, what do you think you would say?”
Palau thought for a moment, then responded with three simple words: “Go for it.”
That kind of God-rooted courage is one of the most important traits to instill in our son.
When he’s little, this looks like letting him climb and explore in age-appropriate ways. When he’s older, this means stepping back to allow him to attempt things and fail big.
And when our son expresses a dream to us, let us be the first one to echo Palau’s encouraging words– “Go for it.”
For more ideas to raise boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What is your son afraid of?
In today’s world, there is a lot to fear. School, friends, teachers, and classes are just a few. Social media and today’s culture pile on enough to scare most adults, let alone children.
But the bible says, “God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
Anchor your son in the word of God. Lead your children to godliness by example. Give them righteous mentors that will train them in the way they should go, and help them find friends to support, inspire, and uplift them.
Raising a child in today’s world can be scary, but God is with you!
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“Raising boys is an extreme sport. That’s why I wear workout clothes every day.”
That’s a lighthearted quote from the blog Simply Well Balanced, but it sure has a lot of truth in it! Raising a son is a good way to rack up the steps on your fitness watch. But let me affirm you— if you’re letting your boy be wild– you’re probably doing it right.
Let him run around like crazy outside. Show him how to make mud pies. Watch him do tricks on his bicycle. Go fishing together, and let him hold the fish while you snap a picture.
Sure, it can be exhausting. But if your son ends the day making muddy footprints across your floor– I bet he’ll also have a smile on his face.
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In today's directionless culture, how can a boy know which way to go?
As a boy, Luke climbed a 13,000-foot peak. It was terrifying and exhilarating!
Just below the summit, the path went through a channel cut into the rock by ferocious winds. Protecting him from being swept off the rock face were steel cables mounted deep into the rock, secured there by the forest service.
Confident of the steel cables' protection and seeing the summit, heI forged ahead and reached the top, a memory he'll never forget.
Give your son guidelines, steel cables set in rock, to protect him from being swept away, let him see the reward ahead of him, and there is no mountain he cannot climb.
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A perfect parent would raise a terrible son.
If you’re like many of us, when your head hits the pillow at night, your mind buzzes with the ways you could have been a better parent to your son.
But Ali Worthington, author of the book Remaining You While Raising Them, says to stop beating yourself up. She says even a perfect parent can raise a son who doesn’t know how to apologize or deal with a friend’s bad day. Our creator God is so kind and powerful that he can use even our weaknesses as parents to teach our sons valuable life lessons.
So the next time you feel you’ve messed up as a parent, apologize to your son, and know that God can use even your worst days for good.
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How do you feel about your son's friends?
Do they make him a better person? Do they encourage him to do the right thing? Do your son's friends show him how to serve selflessly?
Scripture says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This is doubly true for boys, who are still moldable clay, waiting to be formed by whatever-- and whoever-- is around them. More than listening to the same music and watching the same movies, boys learn from each other, and shape each other's values.
Help your son to choose good friendships-- boys he can learn with, play with, and serve with.
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Disciplining your son takes courage.
Whether your son is a toddler with a squeaky voice or a teenager with floppy hair, disciplining him can be quite a challenge. You may be met with a tantrum, eye rolls, or even the dreaded “I hate you!” Sometimes, the response from your son might be so harsh that you wonder if discipline does more harm than good.
But don’t lose heart. Saying no and laying down consequences is an act of love. When your son hurts your feelings with his response, ask God for wisdom and courage. Remember the truth in Hebrews 12:11- “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
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Here’s a simple language shift that can reach the heart of your son.
When your boy is bickering with a sibling or a friend, your instinct might be to say “Son, you need to be kind.”
But author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says that you might need to say something else.
Dr. Eggerichs is widely known for his writings about how a man’s deepest desire is for respect. He says that desire starts when boys are very young. So much so, that if you tell your son to be kind and loving – that concept may not resonate very deeply with him.
If you, however, tell your boy to be respectful to others— he may listen more closely. Young men crave respect so much that they understand why another person would need it, too.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Why does your son need to learn courage?
Does he need to stand up for himself? Stand up for others? Stand up for what is right?
In today’s world, he will need to do all of these and more.
English poet and playwright Sameul Johnson said, “Where courage is not, no other virtue can survive except by accident.”
Lead by example. Give your son godly mentors. Provide opportunities for him to test himself with the rush of a downhill bike course, a hard-fought game of sports, or a whitewater rapid, and he’ll push his own boundaries to new heights. Once he gets a taste of courage, he’ll find new horizons awaiting him. He may surprise you by what he can become.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
It was just three simple words.
Evangelical Louis Palau was fighting terminal lung cancer. During that time, someone asked him, “After you pass away, if you could send a message down from heaven to all believers, what do you think you would say?”
Palau thought for a moment, then responded with three simple words: “Go for it.”
That kind of God-rooted courage is one of the most important traits to instill in our son. When he’s little, this looks like letting him climb and explore in age-appropriate ways. When he’s older, this means stepping back to allow him to attempt things and fail big.
And when our son expresses a dream to us, let us be the first one to echo Palau’s encouraging words– “Go for it.”
For more ideas to raise boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever had a mentor or teacher that you wish you had listened to?
In a whitewater course, two seasoned veterans taught the intricacies of draw strokes, pry strokes, reading a rapid, and the joy of eddy turns.
But five minutes onto the river, one boy panicked, ignored the calls of his mentors, and ended up capsizing his canoe in the middle of a rapid and wrapping it around a large rock, while everyone else eddied up safely on the other side of the river.
Teach your son to listen to the voice of his leaders. This life can be a swift river with dangerous rocks at every turn. A good mentor can make all the difference in the world.
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David Thomas, a psychologist, was attending an elderly grandpa’s funeral.
David watched as two of the man’s grandsons approached the casket. One boy, who was six years old, cried loudly. Beside him stood another boy– fourteen years old– who was holding back his tears.
David overheard some adults express concern about the crying six year old. But David was more worried about the silent older boy. While the six year old was clearly processing his emotions, the fourteen year old was bottling up feelings that would have to be dealt with eventually.
When your son goes through a loss or something difficult, be sure to help him process his feelings. Let him know that it’s more than OK for men to display emotions– after all, Jesus cried openly, too.
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What is Black Friday, really? What is it about?
Pursuing hard-to-find items only available for a short time is a treasure hunt to many.
How can you use Black Friday to teach your children about faith in Christ?
The bible says few find the path to salvation, and this short life is the only time we have to find it. In some ways, Black Friday is like the man who found a hidden treasure in a field and sold everything he had to get it.
Give your children every opportunity to know the love of Christ. Teach them to cling to their faith as the most precious, hard-to-find treasure they’ll ever know by living that faith in your own life for them to see.
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What is your son thankful for?
The Pilgrims were thankful to be alive. They fled from religious persecution, faced the terror of the North Atlantic in a tiny ship and potential starvation when their supplies ran out.
Today, your son faces new and harsh challenges to his faith and even his identity as a male. How can you help him navigate past his obstacles into godly, thankful manhood?
Model Christ for him. Live out your faith. Teach him to love the word of God.
Also, give him godly mentors and surround him with others on the same path. Provide carefully selected challenges to strengthen him.
The joy of his journey and his success as a godly man will make you both thankful.
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“I guess I haven’t learned that yet.”
That’s a phrase coined by author Shauna Niequist. After her two sons, Henry and Mac, had lived in a small town their whole life, Shauna and her husband moved the family to New York City.
As her sons struggled with the transition to city life, Shauna pinned a piece of paper to the wall with the phrase “I guess I haven’t learned that yet” on it. She reminded her boys that everyone is growing and learning, and that it’s fine to not know everything.
Your son might need to hear that, too. When he makes a mistake, reassure him that it’s a normal part of growing up. Remind him that God’s grace is sufficient to cover every last one of the things we haven't learned yet.
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One educator said we live in a day of hurried loneliness, with hundreds of Facebook friends but not two with whom we think and share deeply. Families rush from one activity to another. To some people, the idea of a family sitting down together and leisurely sharing a meal is an idea from a Norman Rockwell painting.
Parents, we must plan to make meaningful conversation happen.
We can embrace intentionality. Without it, family devotions, meaningful conversation, and spiritual practices won’t happen. We will just stay busy.
As Thanksgiving approaches, stop for a few moments and make a plan. Ask, “How will I intentionally help my family practice gratitude the next two weeks and have meaningful conversations?
That will produce beauty greater than autumn leaves.
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For what are you thankful?
Author Jerry Bridges called unthankfulness one of our “respectable sins,” easily accepted as normal.
The Bible exhorts believers to live a life of habitual thanksgiving. In our day of consumerism, we are wise to practice the habit of gratitude and teach our families to do the same.
Don’t lose the spirit of Thanksgiving. Claim it, prepare for it, and practice the art of that holiday.
Regardless of our circumstances, we can give thanks.
Father figures can thank the Lord for our abundant blessings. Even the giving of thanks in difficult or disappointing circumstances can be done based on God’s promises.
As we move through November, let’s practice gratitude, and influence the boys in our lives to do the same.
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Ralph Waldo Emerson opined, “Life is not so short but that there is always time for courtesy and chivalry.”
Have you ever been encouraged by the smallest courtesy? Holding the door, bringing a glass of water, or any small thing is enough to brighten our day.
Has anyone ever risen to your defense? Stood up for you? Told others you were right? It is a great feeling.
There is great power in acts of courtesy and chivalry, and you can give that power to your children. They can brighten others’ days, stand for what is right, and make a difference. Give your children the power to lift others up.
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Do girls feel more emotions than boys?
David Thomas, a psychologist and author, says this common belief is not true. He says boys feel just as deeply as girls, but often don’t know how to process those feelings as well as girls do.
As parents of boys, it’s important that we help our sons put words to their feelings. One way to do that is to simply discuss emotions out loud. When you’re watching a TV show with your son, discuss what characters seem to be feeling– are they embarrassed? Frustrated?
You can even find charts of feelings words online and put them on your fridge. Help your son find words for his feelings, and you might be surprised to discover the range of emotions he goes through each day.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, go to Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Are you sure your son has what he needs for this life?
One mountain hike, a boy showed up without a ground pad to go under his sleeping bag. The nights only dipped into the mid-40’s, but without a ground pad, the cold earth underneath him would have drained heat off his body, leaving him shivering (and not sleeping) all night long.
Check in with your son. Talk to him. Listen to him. Make sure he has the tools he needs for success. Is there something that is draining him every day? Oftentimes, a boy might not tell you what is wrong– he may not know himself, just like the boy who was missing a ground pad.
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To him, it is a big deal.
When your teenage son faces rejection or embarrassment, your first instinct may be to say, “Son, in the scheme of things, this is not a big deal.”
But that might not be the best approach. Through MRI scans of teenage brains, psychologists have actually found that a teen’s amygdala– the part of the brain that senses negative emotions– is much more reactive than a child’s brain or an adult’s brain.
So instead of telling your son to stop worrying, empathize. Recall a similar situation you’ve been in and how it made you feel. Suggest he does something like working on his car or walking his dog. Help him find healthy coping mechanisms, and he’ll start to learn how to better handle negative experiences.
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Do you remember when you got your first pocketknife?
Cody got his first pocketknife as a birthday present from his grinning grandfather under the watchful scowl of his mother. The first thing he did was cut himself and get a bandaid put on his finger.
As he grew in years and maturity, he learned to responsibly handle his knife, and went on to teach other boys how to sharpen, care for, and safely use their knives. But it all started with a cut.
Boys need curated danger– the opportunity to run real risks, albeit small ones, to test themselves against life. Give your son the gift of risk. Canoeing, football, and rock-climbing all have their risks, but pay their rewards in character.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever seen a boy transformed?
One member of an outdoor youth program was a troubled teen who had spent time in Juvie, and was likely headed for prison.
His leaders worked hard to mentor him, teach him, and praise every effort he gave, no matter how small.
From annoyed disinterest to tolerance, he slowly began to listen. To everyone’s surprise, he became one of the most faithful members, showing up for every meeting, and helping out with anything asked of him.
As he grew older, not only did Luther stay out of prison, but he has a good job and a wonderful family, all because someone invested in his life.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Is there a storm in your son’s life?
When your son inevitably faces something difficult in his life, it may feel like a hurricane is blowing through. And when it does, you want nothing more than to end the storm—or at least hold an umbrella over your boy’s head.
But as hard as we try, we cannot protect our son from every pain in this life.
But here’s the good news. Whatever storm your son is enduring right now, Jesus is with him. The wind and waves obey Jesus.
So when the winds pick up and the rain beats down, point your son to his Savior. Pray that he clings to the only one who can truly calm the storm.
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Have you ever seen the power of a boy?
All that boundless energy is there for a reason.
Steve led a 50-mile hike with a group of boys and began to worry he might have to cut it short. His son and some of the other younger boys were lagging behind and wanted to quit.
Just as Steve made the decision to turn the entire group back, the older boys took charge, taught the younger ones silly songs and games for the trail, and all the little ones drafted in their wake, inspired to follow young men they looked up to and admired.
Give your son excellent young men to look up to, and help him become the one who inspires others.
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Encourage your son to make only one resolution this year: to never give up.
The movie A Million Miles Away tells the true story of Jose Hernandez, who grew up as a migrant farmworker and eventually fulfilled his dream of being an astronaut.
Part of Jose’s story is that he applied to NASA eleven times before he was eventually accepted.
While making his twelfth application attempt, the movie shows Jose delivering the application in person to NASA. As he hands his application in, he says, “You can reject me again. But if you do, I’ll be right back here next year, applying again.”
Jose was accepted, and went to space only four years after that.
Remind your son that, with God, all things are possible. We must never, ever give up.
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On this last day of the year, reflect with your son about the 5 critical needs.
First, do a check on your son’s “compass.” Ask him what he would like his life to look like in 5 years, and what he needs to do now to achieve his dreams.
Secondly, ask your son about his “map.” Does he have male mentors to look up to?
Third, remind your son that he needs a “guide,” positive peer relationships. Is his group of friends spurring him on in Christ?
Fourth, your son needs a flashlight. Does he feel confident in his faith? Remind him that it’s more than OK to ask questions.
Finally, talk to your boy about the mountains in his life. Does he feel challenged? What new activities would he like to attempt in the new year?
To learn more about these 5 critical needs, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
It’s easier than you think.
In her book Boys Will Be Boys, Dr. Meg Meeker jokingly describes a fictional encounter between a father and a son. The dad says, “Hey son, I’ll see you later, I’m going to a seminar on how to be a better father!” And the son answers,: “Oh, that’s easy dad, just hammer some nails with me.”
Dr. Meeker’s brilliant point is that good and godly parenting is a lot more simple than we think. Although a doctor’s advice is sometimes needed, ultimately there’s only two voices you need to listen to: God’s, and your son’s. Dr. Meeker says if you pay close enough attention to your son, you will soon see what he truly needs. Combine that with a prayer for wisdom, and you can parent with confidence.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How does a boy know he is becoming a man?
Sometimes, life tells them along the way.
Late in the dry summer, Robert looked out his back door, and saw smoke billowing across his property. A growing fire crawled across his neighbor’s pasture, and threatened to roar into the woods on his land. He yelled for his two boys, 12 and 15, threw rakes into the truck, and drove toward the fire.
Jumping into action, he and the boys beat back the flames, creating a firebreak and saving the woods - and the elementary school on the other side.
Grimy, exhausted, thirsty, and hearts racing with pride they performed a man’s work that day, those two boys knew they were becoming men.
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What does your son think about his looks?
The media has been focusing a lot on a positive body image movement for girls. But it’s easy to forget that our sons can also feel pressure from peers to have a “perfect” body. How can you help your son have a healthy body image?
First, and perhaps most importantly, get your son involved in outdoor physical activity. When he’s with friends, sweating, competing, and having a great time, he’ll feel good physically. Second, refrain from making comments about his body, whether good or bad. Compliment character traits instead– like how he prayed at dinner or how he was patient with his sister. And finally, memorize verses together about our intrinsic worth in Christ– the true source of ultimate confidence.
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In a time when boys are struggling to know their purpose and identity, look to the beautiful story of Christmas.
First, Jesus’ time on earth gives young men guidance. Jesus embodies Biblical masculinity. He loves, heals, delivers, and sacrifices.
Second, the Christmas story grounds boys. In our society where everything is fluid, the absolute truth of God’s word gives young men a foundation to stand on.
Thirdly, the gift of Jesus Christ proves everyone’s infinite worth.
And finally, the Christmas story is inspiring. Boys always want to know what’s at stake– and the life and death of Jesus proves that laying down our life for others is the greatest call.
May these days of the holiday season remind your son– and you– to thank God for the amazing gift of redemption through Jesus.
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Is celebrating Christmas really important? Does it matter?
Today’s world seems ready to tear down any tradition that reinforces Christianity, family, and morality. For our children, this can lead to confusion and despair.
The simple act of celebrating Christmas, decorating and cooking special food, helping kids choose gifts for family members, anticipating the big day, and spending time together all reinforce the love of family.
Explaining the reason for Christmas does even more–it points to God, and the good news that his son Jesus loves us all.
So enjoy this Christmas, and know that you are giving your children more than the presents under the tree. You are mentoring them in how to create a loving family, how to give of themselves to others, and teaching them about the love of God.
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What sets a boy's heart on fire?
Whether it's beating the next level, winning the next game, or paddling around the next bend, boys love a challenge. And more than that, boys need a challenge.
Put a group of boys in canoes, and they will turn it into a race or a competition to turn each other over. Send them on a campout, and they'll race to see who can set their tent up first so they can go romp in the woods.
You can let your son find his own challenges, or you can give him adventures that will build him up, create strong character, and teach him that he is an overcomer, and a force to be reckoned with.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Who are your families’ heroes?
Take time in the month of November to teach children about great spiritual heroes - and also remember some of the heroes in your own life. Don't just let these days float by as missed opportunities while the culture is already trying to make money off of Christmas.
Redeem this time and use it as a stepping stone into the holiday season. Spend the month of November leading up to Thanksgiving learning some new spiritual heroes - and being thankful for familiar ones.
Talk around the supper table about a godly person from history. Or, share stories from your own pilgrimage. The website Christian History Institute is a great resource for learning about people who have gone before us.
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Now is the best time in history to raise a boy.
Michael Reichert makes that claim in his book How to Raise a Boy. At first, it may seem like he is wrong, since boys are falling behind their female peers in almost every area.
But Reichert says those statistics are what makes it a great time. Now that we’re aware that boys are struggling, it only takes a little intentionality to help. We can make sure our boys have positive and godly mentors. We can steer our sons away from screens and towards outdoor activity. We can get our son the extra help they need educationally.
And, most importantly, we can pray to our all powerful God for wisdom, protection, and a full, kingdom building life for our sons.
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Have you ever watched a boy turn into a man?
Tony was a goofy boy that liked to chase lizards, quote movies, and prank his friends. But he was smart and kind, and the leaders in his volunteer group began to suggest roles of responsibility.
Soon, he began coming up with original ideas for activities, developing new games, and planning outings on his own. As an older youth, he commanded respect from his peers and adults alike.
Sometimes, a boy needs curated responsibility to learn the art of leadership and service. Look for opportunities to give your son ways to grow. He may surprise you! This world needs godly men who lead from the front.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Your son needs to take a walk.
Walking has more psychological benefits to your son than you probably even realize. Researchers have found that the rhythmic left and right motion can actually help your boy’s brain process thoughts and feelings. The physical movement can reduce his anxiety and depression, and also helps create new white blood cells in the brain which helps him think better.
If your son thinks a walk sounds boring, here are some ideas: Get him a dog that needs to be taken on walks. Buy each other cheap fitness trackers, and compete for most steps taken in a day. Or, set up a reward system– maybe for every mile walked he gets a little bit of screen time.
Whatever your strategy, his developing brain will benefit.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Are you sure your son is on the right path?
Once, while teaching a map and compass course to a group of boys, the leaders began to notice that none of the boys were finding the right path. Some were off by small margins, and some went entirely the wrong direction!
The activity was a failure, and only later was it discovered to be because of buried power lines and water lines under the church property that were throwing the compass readings off wildly.
Set your son's compass to true north. Show him the right paths, and help him on his way to growing into a man of God.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can you teach your son to be honest?
To put it simply: Champion the truth.
If your son makes a mistake but confesses, praise his honesty more than focusing on the mistake. And if he does tell a lie, make sure he knows he’s getting punished more for the lie than the wrongdoing.
It’s also crucial to remember that your son is watching you closely. He will hear you lie to your boss about why you had to take a sick day. And he will notice when you compliment a friend, but turn around and insult that same friend behind their back.
Ask God to give you the strength to model for your son the life described in 1 John 3:18, that loves “with actions and in truth.”
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Can you protect your son from today's toxic culture?
The Bible says to “train up a child in the way he will go, and he will not depart from it.” Just like training to throw a spiral pass or paddle a canoe, training your son to avoid today's moral pitfalls is worth the time and effort.
Workouts and drills are for more than the football field and the outdoors. Teaching your son that daily time with God is important for his soul, mind and body and helping him practice it day after day will give him strong roots that grow deep into good soil and can keep him anchored in the way he should go.
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Would you give your son a blessing?
It may sound like a strange concept, but it’s seen throughout the Bible between fathers and sons. Dr. John Trent and Dr. Gary Smalley wrote about this in their book, The Blessing. They say that most blessings in the Bible include five things, quote, “meaningful and appropriate touch, a spoken message, attaching high value, picturing a special future, and an active commitment.” [end quote]
Try it yourself. Before your son goes to bed, give him a hug. Tell him about his worth, his future, and your role in all of it. It may feel awkward at first, but ask God to give you the right words. I promise, even if your son doesn’t seem to respond, it will mean the world to him.
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How can you be sure your son will succeed?
If you've asked this question, you're not alone. We all want the best for our children, but how can we help them on their way?
Give your son something to aim for. Set a target for him that ignites excitement. Surround your son with great examples of godly character. Finding father figures and mentors to teach him, train him, and be his guide as he grows and develops strong habits of excellence is a very good start.
Frank Sonnenberg says of mentoring: “You never know when you're creating a spark that will last forever.”
Create that spark in your son. Inspire him. Give him his path to success.
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Is your son struggling in school? He’s not alone.
Unfortunately, many traditional schools are not set up to maximize a young man’s success. First, boys are wired to be movers, so sitting all day can be a challenge. Second, boys’ ears are less skilled at picking up higher frequencies, so learning from a female teacher’s voice can be difficult. And lastly, boys usually develop slower than girls, so when compared to their female peers, it can seem like boys are behind.
Here’s how you can help as a parent– show your son grace and patience. Meet with his teacher to discuss alternative learning options. And before and after school, make sure he has lots of opportunities to get outside and “be a boy.”
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How fast can a riptide kill you?
Matthew was about to find out. Caught in a riptide off the coast, he watched the shoreline grow further away as he exhausted himself fighting against the current. Weak and in despair, he suddenly remembered his training, and swam a short twenty feet out of the current, where he was able to float, recover his strength, and swim back to shore.
Today’s toxic culture wants to drag your children far away, and fighting the culture is exhausting and demoralizing. Give them the tools to recognize the current and swim out of it, and they’ll find an entire ocean ready to explore and adventure in. You can do it. It’s a challenging task, and the blessings last forever.
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How can you teach your son how to have a relationship with Jesus?
A parent of a prodigal child was reflecting on his kid’s growing up years, and said, quote: “I’ve realized that we raised our children in church, but not in Christ.” [end quote]
How can we teach our boys to abide in Jesus?
First, we have to make sure our own walk with the Lord is growing. Second, encourage your son to not just attend a church service, but also join a small group and serve in a ministry. And finally, let your son have his own relationship with God. He might not connect with God exactly how you do. Trust that our clever Creator will speak to your son on His own terms.
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Has your son ever wanted to be a knight?
Plastic swords and armor strewn about his room, breastplate dangling from his bedpost, and picture books of Teutonic knights adorn many a boy’s room.
What is it about righting wrongs, defeating evil tyrants and rescuing the innocent that calls out to a boy?
The Bible says, “Rescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter.” God teaches us a desire to save the helpless and see righteousness prevail in his word.
Affirm your son's desires to do right, to help save others and to rescue the perishing. You may be amazed at the size of his heart for helping others.
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How does a boy learn right from wrong?
Sometimes, boys can learn more from our mistakes than from our teaching. Brian had just finished teaching ax and saw safety to a troop of boys eager to build towers and rope bridges. While loading his equipment, he carelessly tossed a saw that bounced and rolled to within a foot of the boys he had just taught about safety.
Everyone froze. They all stared as he pulled out his wood tools safety card, and handed it to the 14-year-old troop leader, who tore it up and said he would have to take the safety course again!
Brian graciously accepted the consequences from a boy leader. All the boys learned that day that real men accept responsibility.
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Do you know where the world’s tallest skyscraper is located?
At an incredible height of 2,722 feet (just over half a mile), Burj Khalifa in Dubai, the United Arab Emirates, is almost 500 feet taller than the second-tallest skyscraper.
If you want to build high, you must first dig deep and build a foundation below the surface.
As a parent, grandparent, or mentor, you can help build a deep and firm biblical foundation for children.
A child’s foundation of faith is best built by purposefully and consistently sharing God’s truths with them through what you say and do.
Use the time you have with them to teach them God’s Word and how it applies to their lives.
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Have you ever seen good advice ignored, with hilarious results?
I heard about a boy who camped with a new group of friends in a campground he knew well. It flooded frequently, and was nicknamed, “The Swamp.” All of the adults and other boys ignored his advice to camp on higher ground, and they pitched their tents in the easy, sandy soil.
Finding the highest ground, he slept through the night to the lullaby sound of rhythmic drumming rain, and woke to find the camp a wet, soggy shambles, while he was high and dry.
Many times, easiest is not best, and it is good to listen to the voice of experience.
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Here’s an idea to connect with your son: show him your high school yearbook.
First, let him make fun of your outdated haircut and clothes. Show him the picture of your basketball team, and the page where it says you were voted class clown.
Next, show him pictures of your friends. Talk about what friendships ended and which ones have lasted through the years.
And finally, talk about the power of choices. Be honest about what you’re proud of and what you regret. Share about your relationship with your own parents at that time. Show your son how God used both the good and the bad for His own glory in your life. After all, as the verse in Revelation reminds us, we overcome through the word of our testimony.
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Why is there an attack on biblical manhood?
All around us, the very idea of a man as a devout father, provider, and hard worker is ridiculed and torn down. A spineless, conforming, weak-willed androgyne is modeled, and we are told to sacrifice our sons to modern culture.
How can you keep your son safe from these attacks?
Model godly character. What he sees in you, he will follow.
Provide godly mentors. Show him a standard he can trust and hold.
Give him a challenge. Overcoming small challenges like a canoe trip, daily spiritual disciplines, a rock-climbing adventure, or a mountain peak will give him the confidence to go against the grain and become a godly man of character.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
“In a thousand feet, turn left.”
Imagine that you’re driving in a town you’ve never visited before. The GPS on your phone is telling you what turns you need to make. But suddenly, your phone’s battery dies. Without your GPS, you feel lost, alone, and you wonder if you’ll even make it to your desired destination.
That “lost” feeling is what many young men experience in our society today. In the confusion of cultural relativism, mixed roles, and gender fluidity, boys don’t know who they are supposed to be.
The solution is that boys need two things– a biblical foundation, and godly mentors. With those two things, boys can develop confidence and direction, so they can learn to navigate the unfamiliar interstate of life.
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Why do boys love adventure?
Mark Twain said, “There comes a time in every rightly constructed boy’s life that he has a raging desire to go somewhere and dig for hidden treasure.”
The search for adventure drives some boys to video games, where they can conquer kingdoms and gain virtual accolades. Others find their adventures in sports.
But deep down, the call of the woods, the wild, the mountains and the seashore live deep in all young boys.
You can feed that desire and strengthen the bond with your son at the same time. Take him on a wilderness adventure, or hike to a waterfall, or camp in the woods by a crackling fire amidst the lightning bugs. Lead him on his adventure!
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Doesn’t it seem like the more you want your son to talk, the less he will?
Of course, some boys are talkative. But generally speaking, your son is not going to volunteer a lot of information about his day.
One reason is biological. Males have fewer language centers in their brain than females, and process things internally. Your son may also feel the pressure from you to share, and is backing away because he feels like he just isn’t going to be able to give you enough.
Here are a few ways to get your son to open up. First, try shoulder-to-shoulder instead of face to face communication. Some boys relax more when they’re walking or sitting beside you in a car, and share more. Second, allow silence. You may just be talking too much yourself. And third, lower the pressure and lower your expectations.
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What makes worship, worship?
Jesus defined worship for the Woman of Samaria at Jacob’s well in John 4:23 and 24.
“But the hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father is seeking such people to worship him. God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.”
We should teach our children to worship God wherever they are, not just at church.
What matters most in worship? The posture of our hearts and minds. He should be our focus. Locations and details change, but He is eternal and unchanging.
Let’s lead our boys to worship God “in spirit and truth.”
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If you ask your son what it means to be brave, what would he say?
Your son would probably answer that bravery is entering a dangerous situation or saving someone’s life– and that’s true.
But in this day and age when depression and suicide rates of teenage boys are at a crisis point, your son needs to know that there’s another way to be brave– asking for help.
Give your son small exercises in asking for help in everyday life– with his homework, with his chores, or at public places. Model getting help when you need it yourself. And when your son comes to you with a problem, be sure to listen with a nonjudgmental attitude. Remind him that even the Savior of the world– Jesus– cried out for help to his own Father.
To learn about the 5 critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Where should a boy turn to when he needs wisdom?
Today, through the internet and other sources, there is more information available than ever before.
But the best source of information and wisdom is found in a book written thousands of years ago — the Bible. The book of Proverbs is especially powerful when it comes to seeking wisdom.
We often think we need a “life hack” to navigate life’s most difficult situations. But all we need is God’s Word and His Spirit living in us.
If you or your son needs wisdom today, turn to Proverbs and ask God for His help. He delights in giving it in abundance.
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Here’s a startling statistic:
The average iPhone screen time for an adult in the United States is around seven hours each day. But the average amount of time a parent spends with their child is only about two hours a day.
Here are some screen-free ideas for connecting with your son today.
Make banana splits with your boy. Build a lego garage for his cars. Campout in the living room. Have him help you make a family photo album. Find a nontraditional holiday online, and celebrate it together. Turn on some music, and find different things around the house to drum on.
Whatever it is, put your phone down and spend some quality time with your son today. You will both enjoy the benefits.
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Do you remember when someone gave you bad advice? Did you take it? If so, what were the results?
When seeking advice, who or what can you trust?
The most trustworthy source of truth is the Bible. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
The best first step in all situations is going to God and asking for His guidance.
Seeking advice from family, friends, co-workers, pastors, counselors, and others isn’t wrong, especially from fellow Christians who know the Word.
But seek God first and teach boys to do likewise, making sure that any human advice agrees with the Source of Truth, Jesus Christ.
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His face was shattered– and so were his dreams.
When James Clear was in high school, he had big plans to be a baseball star. But one day, he was hit in the face with a baseball bat, and suffered a brain injury.
That’s when James discovered a powerful concept. As he recovered, he began to hone in on the small habits in his life, then started to work on his baseball skills again. Years later, James made ESPN’s All-American player list, and now credits the small habits for the reason for his success.
Share this story with your teen boy today. Remind him that the little, monotonous habits– like making his bed– are really a training ground for challenges he’ll face later in life.
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Do you hear voices?
There are many voices in the world competing for our attention, but none can compare to the voice of the Lord.
God speaks to His children, sometimes audibly, but mostly through His Word, the Bible.
Are you listening for and to God’s voice? Or are you letting worldly voices silence Him?
How can you recognize God’s voice?
In John 10:27, Jesus said, “My sheep listen to My voice; I know them, and they follow me.”
God’s voice will never contradict His Word. And when we hear God’s voice, we need to obey Him.
Let’s teach boys to recognize and heed God’s voice before any other voices.
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Rachel’s six-year- old son loves to play t-ball. He admires his coach and enjoys carrying around his bat. But there is one thing he loves more than anything else– his bright green uniform.
There’s a reason for this. As young men grow up and learn to navigate social settings, they are always asking three questions– “Who is with me?” “Who is in charge?” And, “What is our mission?”
On sports teams, the uniform is a symbolic answer to those questions. In life, it’s not always so clear. It’s up to us as parents to help our son find positive peers, such as in a church setting; introduce him to godly mentors and dad-like figures; and remind him to live for an audience of One– and glorify his Creator.
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Do you remember the last time your child lied to you and how it made you feel?
According to research, parents are the primary victims of lying, with 86 percent of lies being told to them.
Kids often believe they are clever enough to fool their parents, but fathers and mothers usually see right through their lies.
Parents are not as easily deceived as children think. Most of the time, the truth is clear and will come out sooner or later.
We should remind our children that God is omniscient. He knows everything we say and do.
Telling the truth may be hard sometimes, but honesty, truly, is the best policy.
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“Do yourself a favor. Take a kid fishing.”
That’s a quote from a man named Frank White, who produced a show called Southern Sportsman. He would say those words at the end of every broadcast.
Psychologists would agree with his suggestion. Fishing gives your son an opportunity to be outside, practice problem-solving skills, and connect with others. One study even found that combat veterans who went to a fly fishing retreat slept better and showed less symptoms of stress.
It’s fairly easy and cheap to get started. Many public libraries have rods and reels to check out for free. Go to your state’s game and fish department website and find a local body of water. Then, cast a line out with your son, and marvel together at God’s amazing creation.
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How can you tell if someone needs encouragement?
If they are breathing, according to Truett Cathy, founder of Chick-fil-A.
Children can easily and quickly become discouraged, especially when tired or stressed, and become negative, self-critical, and depressed.
The Bible mentions “encouragement” a lot, including Hebrews 3:13, which tells us to “encourage each other daily.”
You can create an encouraging environment for your loved ones by building up and encouraging them more than criticizing and correcting them.
Kids will know it is OK and safe to make mistakes and learn that God can use their failures to help them grow.
Parents should be their family’s CEO — Chief Encouragement Officers.
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Your teen boy is going through a lot of changes. You might need to change a bit, too.
Of course, the fundamentals of godly parenting and discipline will stay the same. But as your son matures, it’s important to take a step back and prayerfully consider that a change in approach may be helpful.
For instance, a teen boy will most likely pull away from his mom and gravitate towards his dad. This is normal and healthy, and experts say to encourage that relationship. Many high school boys are also extremely hard on themselves and sensitive to criticism, so be sure to ramp up the encouragement and empathy. And finally, teen boys are dealing with a lot of hormones and emotions. Encourage your son to pursue healthy outlets, especially outdoor physical activity.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you heard the saying, “Life is better together”?
The Bible puts it this way in Proverbs 27:17: As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Here are five ways you can live out being better together as a family.
Read together. Read the Bible and other books as a family.
Learn together. Share what God is showing you as read His Word.
Talk together. Talk about what God is doing in your life.
Pray together. Thank God for all He's done for your family and pray for your family and other people.
Memorize scripture together. Like the psalmist, let’s hide God's Word in our hearts so that we will not sin against Him.
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What can you give your children and grandchildren that won’t cost you any money and will last forever?
Parents and grandparents who teach their children and grandchildren to know, love and follow Jesus will leave a spiritual inheritance that will last for generations and into eternity.
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Have you encouraged your children or grandchildren to follow God? Do you pray for them to know and love Him? If you do not have children, are there any kids in your church or neighborhood for whom you could regularly pray?
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“What does successful parenting look like?”
If you ask a group of parents this question, you would get a lot of different responses.
Most parents want their kids to graduate high school and college, get a good job, get married, have children, and live “happily ever after.”
As a parent, you can easily become focused on worldly success and helping your kids achieve the “American Dream,” but that’s not the goal in Christian parenting.
Your goal should be to raise your kids to know, love, and follow Jesus!
If you raise your boys to love the LORD with all their heart, soul, and strength, you have achieved parenting success.
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Have you heard this saying? “Don’t major in the minors.”
We can easily get distracted in life and become consumed by things that don’t really matter.
Jesus often condemned the Pharisees for this type of behavior, giving them a stern lecture in Luke 11:42.
“Woe to you Pharisees, because you give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all other kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice and the love of God. You should have practiced the latter without leaving the former undone.”
Let’s ask God to help us teach our boys to focus on the things that matter most: loving Him and loving our neighbors.
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What should you do when your son disrespects you or someone else?
Try to resist the urge to reprimand or correct him in public.
When you are in private, calmly tell him that while you are sad that he chose to show dishonor or disrespect, this is an opportunity for him to grow, and you hope he will make a better choice the next time.
Then be sure to commend him the next time you see him showing honor and respect.
Remember that the best way for children to learn the value of honor and respect is to see you live it out, especially during disagreements.
Values are indeed more caught than taught.
Let’s follow the Golden Rule by treating others the way we want to be treated.
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In his book Bringing Up Boys, Dr. James Dobson compares parents of sons to a bug called a processionary caterpillar.
A scientist once tested these caterpillars by making them walk in a circle, with a food source in the middle of their circle. The caterpillars just kept following each other, instead of stopping to eat, and eventually died of starvation, right next to a food source.
Dr. Dobson says parents of sons often follow other parents in the same way. They put their son in lots of activities, trying to help him keep up with his peers. But in reality, most of the time, what boys really need is to stop, take a rest, and connect with the source of true life– our Creator God.
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You know who needs to see your mistakes? Your son. That’s right.
When you miss a work deadline or hurt a friend’s feelings, let your son know. If handled properly, it can be a great training ground for your son.
First, manage your emotions. If you’re embarrassed or angry, take a deep breath or go on a walk to calm down. Next, explain what you did wrong. Share with your son how you’re going to fix the problem, and what you’ve learned for the future.
The world desperately needs your son to grow up to be a humble and responsible man. The best way to encourage that is to model it the best you can. Your transparency will not only combat perfectionism— you’ll also remind him that God’s grace is sufficient for all of us.
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Maybe your son just needs a break.
You only want the best for your son. You want to make sure he does well in school, eats reasonably well, makes friends, and participates in extracurriculars. And those are all wonderful things. But in this fast-paced society, don’t forget to let your son take a break, as well. Schedule “down days,” where you don’t have anything planned. Give your son long stretches of time where he can do whatever he wants. You might feel like a neglectful parent, but allowing your son to be bored will give him time to relax, play, and learn to manage his own time. When in doubt, just send him outside– he’ll find something to do!
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Our boys are under attack.
Boys have fallen behind girls in every academic category. Girls are now more likely to have a college education than boys, and boys are more likely to live at home longer and fail to launch into the world.
As a parent, it can be discouraging to raise sons in a world that views masculinity as toxic. But by focusing on the five critical needs of boys, we can help our sons be strong, Godly men. First, boys need clear direction. Second, they need a safe male mentor. Third, they need boundaries. Fourth, they need risk, and finally, they need real-world challenges. With all five, boys have the tools they need to rise up in a world that is so determined to knock them down.
To learn more about these five critical needs, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you heard this criticism of Christians? “They’re so heavenly minded, they’re no earthly good.”
Focusing on the world to come doesn’t mean that we are to leave the present world as it is, but everything we do, say, and teach our boys should be filtered through the lens of eternity.
What are the Lord’s instructions for you during your time here on Earth? Act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and love your neighbor as yourself.
Remember the refrain of British missionary C.T. Studd’s famous poem: “Only one life, ’twill soon be past, only what’s done for Christ will last.”
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How can you help your children grow spiritually?
Here are three ideas:
Set an example for them. It’s been said that when it comes to children, more is caught than taught. They’ll see when you read your Bible and pray (and when you don’t). And they’ll notice how often you attend church and how important spiritual things are to you.
Read with them. This helps kids grow spiritually in a fun and engaging way. Take the time to read books with them, including the Bible, and discuss spiritual themes you see.
Pray for them. This is, perhaps, the most important thing you can do for your kids. It’s easy to overlook the power of prayer when thinking about how to help your child grow spiritually. Make it a priority.
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Is your son truly delayed…or is he just a boy?
Asher, who is six years old, got a letter sent home with him from school saying he is delayed and needs to work on sitting still. Asher’s mom took the letter to her son’s pediatrician, who shook her head, and said “He’s not delayed. He’s just being a boy.”
The school system is not designed with young, energetic boys in mind– especially since boys develop more slowly than their female peers. When it comes to your son’s development, pray for wisdom and seek professional advice. And above all, give your son lots of grace. He has a smart Creator, and he may just need some more time.
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How will you pass your faith on to the next generation?
Psalm 78:4 charges us to “tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the LORD, about his power and his mighty wonders.”
In this psalm, Asaph implored Jewish fathers to pass the faith from one generation to the next because he knew people would be prone to forgetting what God had done for them.
Good parenting requires us to share helpful instructions worth remembering. You should instruct your family according to God’s Word and share stories about what he has done for you. In doing so, God will enable you to impact future generations for years to come.
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Why do boys like to play with cars and trucks?
In 2002, a study at Texas A&M University was designed to explore this question. Researchers took male and female monkeys, and gave them equal access to both traditional boy and girl toys.
Interestingly, the male monkeys naturally gravitated towards the traditional male toys, like cars, while the females did likewise with the girl toys, like dolls.
As much as our society would like to claim that there are no true differences between genders– boys are different from girls! Encourage your son to play with the “boy toys” he wants to– or, better yet, grab a race car and play along with him. You will see God’s perfect design playing out right in front of you.
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Has your son become your idol?
That may seem like a ridiculous question. But for even the most well-intentioned parents, their son’s happiness and success can consume their entire life, to the point that it becomes more important than their relationship with GOd.
Take some time to sit with God and reflect on your relationship with your son. Are you willing to discipline him to develop his character, even if it means he is angry with you? Do you obsess over controlling what he’s exposed to? It may be time to step back, ask the Holy Spirit to influence your son, and exercise your trust in God.
It may be the best thing you’ve ever done for your son.
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Being rooted in God’s Word, the Bible, is like the Shepherd’s tree, native to the Kalahari Desert in South Africa.
The Shepherd’s tree has the deepest documented roots of any tree, more than 230 feet deep.
Jeremiah 17:7-8 says: “Blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence. They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought. Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit.”
Let’s teach our boys to trust in the firm foundation the Lord provides for His children through His Word.
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Want to help your son manage his big emotions?
It starts with you. Researchers have found that– because of something in our brains called mirror neurons– the emotions we display cause our children to feel those emotions, too. As New York Times writer Ashley Abramson put it, “The same part of your brain that lights up when you’re feeling happy may also light up when you observe happiness in others.”
So the next time your son is feeling angry, overwhelmed, or frustrated, instead of focusing on his own emotions, check yourself first. Say a prayer, adjust your body language and expression, and ask God to help you be calm and at peace. Simply observing that peace in you may help your son learn how to calm down, too.
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Do you know how long most people will spend on hold during their lifetime?
According to software company RingCentral, people on average will spend about 40 days of their life (or more than 1,000 hours) on hold with a call center.
In today’s instant-gratification society, most people, especially children, don’t want to wait for things, but the Bible calls us to be patient and “wait on the Lord.”
Patiently waiting is difficult for us and our kids to do, and we want to take matters into our own hands, but we must trust in God’s timing.
It’s encouraging to know that God is working behind the scenes. So, when the time is right, everything will be in place for us to move forward.
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Wish your son would talk to you more? Take him outside.
Since your son can turn to Google for an answer to any question, he may not come to you much with questions in his day-to-day life. But if you get him in an outdoor setting, he just might start asking you for help.
Have him pitch your tent while you’re camping. Get on a boat and go fishing, and teach him how to tie his own lure and clean his own fish. At night, ask him to build a fire at your campsite. As he asks you questions about each task, it will open up your conversation. And as you sit around the fire, he just might start asking you about other issues in his life, as well.
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Do you remember this old children’s nursery rhyme?
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
While there’s some truth to this statement, we’ve all experienced the pain caused by hurtful things said to us. Words can hurt.
The Bible says, “The tongue has the power of life and death,” and “on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak.”
We need to set a godly example for boys by how we speak to them and others and hold them to the same standard.
Think about it like this: If your speech had a smell, would it be sweet or sour?
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How can you teach your son self control?
Self control is, of course, one of the fruits of the spirit listed in Galatians 5. And psychologists say that self regulation skills are the key to avoiding addictions. So how can we develop this essential trait in our son?
First, do all you can to model self-control. Do your best to make your words and actions line up, and be sure your son sees that. Second, help your boy learn how to make difficult tasks more fun. Could he listen to music while he cleans his room, or work on his homework outside on a nice day? And third, be sure your son has free time to choose what he wants to do.
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Who or what do you look to for help when you need it?
If you’re a Christian, God has given you a helper, the Holy Spirit.
Jesus said, “I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever — the Spirit of truth.”
Boys often won’t be able to face their challenges on their own, but the Holy Spirit comes alongside them to help them — all they need to do is ask for and accept his help.
Instead of trying to solve every problem our boys have, let’s point them to the power source that will never fail them.
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You know your son needs sleep. But do you know just how much it can impact his life?
You’ve no doubt heard about the studies that link adequate sleep to better school performance and behavior, two things that many boys particularly struggle with. But one study at the University of Maryland actually found that children who slept less than nine hours had different brain structure! The lack of sleep caused those children to have less grey matter in their brains, which, among other things, helps impulse control.
So to give your son the best chance at self-regulation, school performance, prioritize his sleep– even if it means missing out on other activities at night. His developing brain will thank you!
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How can you help make sure your kids keep their faith in God?
The following statistics are eye-opening and sobering.
According to Barna, nearly 59 percent of youth leave the church after they graduate high school, and only 17 percent maintain a biblical worldview.
Common reasons for leaving the church include moving to college, judgmental and/or hypocritical church members, and no longer feeling connected to the people in their church.
It’s crucial to equip your children to defend their faith. The “why” is just as important as the “what.” They need to know why they believe what they believe.
Be faithful to “train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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Do your kids believe it is better to give than receive?
Science shows that children are born with a “compassionate instinct.” They observed that infants help others even though they are too young to have learned this behavior. Their motivation doesn’t depend on the expectation of a reward.
As parents and father figures, it is our job to encourage our children to be givers, not takers. Takers are selfish: They seek to be better than others. Givers are generous: They want to bring out the best in others.
Here’s a tip from psychologist Adam Grant: Say “Thank you for being a helper” instead of “Thank you for helping.” Recognizing kids as “helpers” helps them to internalize giving as part of their identities.
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Maybe our son’s safety shouldn’t be our only goal.
Author Leslie Leyland Fields raised her son in Alaska. One day, her son got injured in an accident, and Leslie boarded a plane with him to get help. But when she felt the pilot pull up hard and turn, she thought they were about to hit a mountain and die.
At that moment, Leslie felt regret. She thought she had failed at her one goal as a mom: to give her son a safe childhood. But just as her anxiety grew, a sense of peace from Jesus filled her heart.
Leslie realized that, more than just safety, her goal was to raise a boy who could courageously face whatever challenges life brings– knowing that Jesus is always by his side.
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Who do your children belong to?
The Bible says that once they decide to follow Jesus, they become God’s children.
“To all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God.” John 1:12
It’s amazing that God loves them so much and has named them as one of his children.
Becoming a child of God comes with security. Being secure in your identity as God’s child removes your need for worldly love, praise, acceptance, affirmation, and respect.
When the world, people, and circumstances try to bring you and your boys down, remind yourself and them of your secure identity in Christ.
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Dr James Dobson of Focus on the Family once received an interesting letter from a nine-year-old girl.
The letter was titled “why girls are better than boys.” The list included everything from “girls are kinder to animals,” to “girls don’t smell as bad.” Amused, Dr. Dobson posted the letter in his newsletter, and asked boys to make their own list. He received a variety of responses, including “boys are better because they aren’t scared of scary movies,” and “boys can build better forts than girls.”
Unfortunately, our society often leans towards that nine-year-old girls’ perspective– celebrating feminine traits and dismissing masculine traits. It’s up to us as parents to remind boys that their natural tendencies to be brave, innovative, and energetic should be celebrated, as well.
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What gives you peace?
Is it listening to music, spending time outdoors, or meditating?
The best source of peace is the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ.
Jesus told his disciples — and us: “I am leaving you with a gift — peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”
When our boys are worried and scared, we should point them to the Provider of Peace, Jesus.
His peace will help change how they respond to scary situations. When they focus on Jesus, he will quiet their fears and give them the peace the world cannot offer.
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Have you had The Talk with your son?
That conversation about physical differences between males and females can be awkward and uncomfortable. So awkward, in fact, that some parents postpone The Talk until a later, more convenient time.
As a dad, you need to courageously begin that conversation. Today’s kids encounter sexuality at school, the mall, and even at sporting events. And because boys are curious and visually enticed, waiting to have The Talk may lead to confusion of what sex is all about.
Fortunately, there are excellent resources from Christian organizations to help you talk about sex from a biblical perspective. And even though the conversation may be a little awkward, when your son realizes that you want the very best for him, he’ll listen.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can you teach your son to respect women?
Romans 12:10 says “Love one another with a brotherly love.” That is a far cry from the values of our culture, where disrespect is the norm. But while boys tend to have a natural respect for older men, they may need help learning how to treat women appropriately.
First, lead by example. If you’re a man, treat the women in your life with kindness. Second, be sure to filter out and discuss what messages are shown in TV shows. And thirdly, remind your son how much God loves him, and allow age-appropriate levels of responsibility. When your son knows he’s a beloved child of God, he’s more likely to treat others that way, as well.
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Raising a son is a lot like growing a garden.
There’s a lot of strategy and decision making involved– where to plant your garden and what seeds to put in the ground. There’s grunt work– cultivating, planting, and building a fence. There’s waiting and watering daily, and dealing with unknowns like weather. There’s the stress of predators, and the joy of watching new growth.
Even with all that work, in the end, in both gardening and parenting, the results are still completely out of our control.
As parents, we have two choices. We can fear that lack of control, and exhaust ourselves trying to do everything right. Or, we can do our best, and trust that it’s God who ultimately helps our son grow and bloom.
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When you want to open a package, you use scissors, not a jackhammer. When you want to tame your bedhead, you use a comb, not a pitchfork.
Using the appropriate tool for the job is important. Similarly, when it’s necessary to correct your son, make sure to use the appropriate technique.
A stern gaze might be enough warning for a sensitive boy. Another child may need extra chores or other forms of discipline to remind him that wrong behavior has consequences.
As you train your son in the way he should go, be sensitive to his attitude and emotions. By adapting your method of correction, your son will be more likely to respond positively. And as he grows wiser, your relationship with one another will grow stronger.
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Is your son “too cool” for mom’s kisses? Here’s what you can do.
Rhonda Stoppe was sitting in a hospital room with her six year old son Brandon. He was getting a sleep study after having a horrible seizure. Brandon was asleep, and Rhonda walked over and kissed him on the forehead. The technician told Rhonda to go look at the screen. Rhonda was astonished to see that, even though Brandon was asleep, his brain activity actually showed that he knew his mom kissed him.
So if your son rolls his eyes when you try to kiss him, kiss him when he’s sleeping. And– more than that– remember that, even if it doesn’t seem like it, the little things you do each day to show your son love do make a difference.
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Are you an idol worshiper?
While most Americans don’t worship carved statues, idol worship is still prevalent in our society. We idolize things like money, possessions, and jobs … and people like actors, athletes, musicians, and even members of our own families.
A biblical definition of an idol is anything or anyone we value more than God or worshiping someone or something other than God as though it were God.
In the first of his ten commandments, God said, “You shall have no other gods before me.” He is a “jealous” God and will not share his glory with anyone or anything.
What idols do you need to get rid of? Ask God to help you completely tear them down today. And teach your son the rightful way to value wisdom, talent, conviction, and courage in others without making an idol of them.
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Here’s a simple parenting tip– take some time to relax with your boy.
Pediatrician Dr. Meg Meeker says that most parents don’t realize the importance of “doing nothing” with sons.
Even if you only have ten minutes, invite your son to sit down on the front porch with you with his favorite snack or drink. Don’t badger him with questions, check your phone, or start lecturing. Simply sit together.
Dr. Meeker says this is important for several reasons. It communicates that rest is an important part of life. It shows your son that he’s worthy of undivided attention. And it’s also an excellent way to get your boy to start communicating his thoughts and feelings. All of those benefits– and you get a short break, too.
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Winston Churchill, British prime minister during World War II, said, “Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
And yet, some in our society are trying to change history, to make it conform to their political, social, and anti-Christian beliefs.
Don’t let unbiblical ideology distort our American heritage. Remind your son that this great nation was founded on biblical principles. Principles like freedom of speech, and freedom of religion.
Unfortunately, our nation is increasingly atheistic, in part, because they don’t understand God’s story—or you might say, His-story—as communicated to us in the Bible.
As a parent, teach your son both His-story and history. In this way, you’ll help your son be better prepared for eternity.
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What is TV teaching your son about masculinity?
One study about male representation in TV shows studied 25 shows, over three thousand characters, and over four hundred episodes. Researchers found that, across the board, the male characters usually displayed the same negative traits– unhealthy coping mechanisms, aggression, a lack of emotion, and even a lack of care as a father. Without guidance, your son may begin to believe that these behaviors are normal and accepted in men.
Make sure you put limits on your son’s screen time. When he does watch a TV show, take some time to discuss the male characters and their positive and negative behaviors. Teach your son to be a mindful consumer and to filter everything through a Biblical lens.
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Ever heard of the Discovery Channel’s show Dirty Jobs?
As the name suggests, in the show a man named Mike Rowe tries disgusting and dangerous occupations. He tours sewers, learns from roadkill cleaners, removes chewing gum from sidewalks, and helps exterminators.
You’d think such gross content wouldn’t make good television. But the show was a hit among men. Not only does Mike’s investigation of the jobs appeal to our innate love of adventure, Mike also continuously expresses admiration and respect for the people who do those jobs.
This show is a good reminder that every man wants to conquer a challenge and be respected. As you parent your son, be sure he has opportunities for healthy risk and challenge– even if it means he leaves muddy footprints across your floor.
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Your son needs a gang.
Every young man is asking the same questions– “who is with me, who is in charge, and what is our mission?” Unfortunately, those questions are very clearly answered in violent gangs, which is why so many young men are drawn to such groups.
What your son needs is a group that can answer those questions in a healthy way. Sports teams with positive coaches can offer such environments– so can well run youth groups, engineering clubs, and outdoor adventure groups like Trail Life USA. Let your son try out a few different groups and pick one to invest in. The peer interaction, camaraderie, and structure of the group will spur your son along and give him the kind of mission he’s searching for.
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What makes you happy? Not just a little happy, but really happy?
Maybe it’s when your team wins the championship, or when you get that work promotion, or when you slice into that perfectly cooked steak.
Those things are fine, but one of the greatest joys in life is seeing your son obediently follow the Lord. Third John 3:4 says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”
Walking in truth isn’t accidental. It takes time and energy—for you and for your son. Set the example by making God your greatest priority. When your son sees your passion to follow God, he’ll be much more likely to also walk in truth. And that will make you truly happy.
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Boys need their mom and their dad.
As a mom and dad play with their young son, the mom will remind him to “be careful.” The dad will toss the son into the air and encourage him to run as fast as he can. The boy will ignore his mom and hang onto his dad’s every word.
But when that little boy falls and scrapes his knee, he’ll suddenly stop ignoring his mom. He’ll run to her, seeking comfort.
As they grow up, boys continue to need both the rough, masculine influence of their dad and the comfort of their mom. If either is missing in your son’s life, pray that God will fill in the gaps with a positive mother or father figure.
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What’s your son’s default location?
Jackson, a 16 year old, was tinkering on his car in the garage when his mom brought her laptop out and set up a makeshift desk. She didn’t say much– just did her work and asked Jackson, once, what he was working on. When she left an hour later, both she and Jackson were smiling.
She had keyed into a secret of parenting a teen boy– figure out his default location, and be there. It may be the garage, the gym, the football field, or by a gaming console.
Be tactful— don’t interrupt, ask annoying questions, or show up every single night. Give yourself a task and a time limit. Done in the right way, this tactic can help your teen boy feel seen and loved.
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Has your son experienced the death of a loved one? Maybe a classmate who died. Or perhaps a grandparent who suddenly passed away.
Dealing with death is hard for everyone. But for kids, it’s especially confusing. A common perception is that boys are tough. But the truth is, we all experience grief and heartache. It’s just that we handle it in different ways.
As a dad, take time to listen to your son. Evaluate what he knows about death and how much support he needs. Remember the good times with that loved one. Then provide comfort—and time to heal from the loss. Offer a hug whenever one is needed.
By being there for your son when life is tough, you demonstrate—in action—your love for him.
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A reporter once asked John D. Rockefeller, “How much money is enough?”
Rockefeller, widely considered the wealthiest American of all time and the richest person in modern history, replied, “Just a little bit more.”
Sadly, Rockefeller would never have enough money to be satisfied.
When it comes to our possessions, the Bible consistently calls us to be content with what God has given us. Contentment leads to thankfulness and discontentment leads to selfishness.
Take time to write out all the good things that God has blessed you with.
Let’s set a good example for our boys by deciding to be content with God’s unbelievable goodness to us.
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Do your kids have household chores?
Some kids think taking out the trash or washing the dishes is cruel and unusual punishment. But it isn’t. In fact, research shows that chores actually help kids in their physical, mental, and social development.
When you give your son a job and he successfully completes it, he develops self-worth and self-esteem. This leads to confidence in knowing that he can accomplish other tasks. What a contrast to the entitlement attitude that plagues many young minds today.
So do your son a favor. Find age-appropriate chores for him to work at. Not only will these chores help the house run more smoothly, but they’ll also keep your son off the couch and more engaged with real life.
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Boys love toys! Some of their favorites are racecars, robots, and rockets. And (according to kids) the louder, faster, and crazier the toy, the better!
As a dad, you probably don’t play with toy dinosaurs anymore, but you just might have a big-boy toy like a motorcycle or boat.
It’s fine to enjoy toys. They can even be a way of connecting with your son. But don’t let toys consume your time and attention.
C.S. Lewis said, “All these toys were never intended to possess my heart. My true good is in another world, and my only real treasure is Christ.”
Teach your son that even more amazing than the most extraordinary toy is the Lord Jesus. He, alone, can bring true happiness and joy into our lives.
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Did you know our homes are training grounds?
President John Adams said, “Public virtue cannot exist in a nation without private virtue, and public virtue is the only foundation of republics.”
Our homes can be training grounds for good and godly character. More than I want my children to be famous, rich, or exceptional, I want them to be good.
The apostle Peter wrote, [M]ake every effort to supplement your faith with goodness (2 Peter 1:5).
Culture today includes many examples of badness. I want to raise godly offspring who shine like stars for the Lord.
Father figures can intentionally seek to mentor and train boys who grow in good character. That’s the best way to shape a nation.
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One of life’s great challenges is learning to not just go with the flow, because sometimes the flow goes in the wrong direction.
We live in a day of great distraction. Because of the digital age, information flows constantly. Some say we have become the society that is looking down – always checking our phones, tablets, and devices.
These tools of mass distraction can cause us to miss important things in life. Many families cannot sit through a meal without everyone checking their phones.
As father figures, let’s encourage and set an example for our boys to not always be tied to an electronic device. We can spur them on to play outdoors, read a good book, or build something with their hands.
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John Wesley, a famous 18th century preacher, said, “There is no such thing as a solitary Christian.”
As parents, we want to raise our kids to love the Lord and be responsible adults. But challenges from the worldly culture around us make parenting tough. Sometimes so tough that we grow discouraged when we don’t see immediate results.
When you feel this way, remember that parenting isn’t a solitary process. That means you don’t have to go it alone. A variety of Christian resources are available. Church staff as well as family and friends are often willing to help out when they know there’s a need.
Raising boys isn’t for the faint of heart. That’s why Trail Life USA has fun activities that are helping boys grow physically, mentally, and spiritually. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you manage your time properly?
In the craziness of normal everyday life, it’s easy to lose track of time.
Perhaps your son starts school at 8 am. You’ve got a work meeting at 10 a.m. Soccer practice begins at 3:15 in the afternoon. And, of course, there’s church, piano lessons, and dozens of other activities that you and your family participate in.
The question is, are you punctual or persistently late?
Don’t let tardiness become a habit. Figure out how much time you need to prepare and travel to your destination. Organize your schedule so that you arrive on time, even if hiccups occur along the way.
By managing your time, you teach your son dependability—an important character trait that will help him thrive throughout life.
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Remember this famous quote?
“Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country,” President John F. Kennedy during his inaugural address in 1961.
As Christian men trying to raise godly boys, our mantra should be, “Ask not what God can do for me; ask what I can do for God.”
It’s natural for us to think about ourselves first and not what we can do for God and what we can give back to him, including our time, talents, and treasure.
As the Bible says, you must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure. “For God loves a cheerful giver.”
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Successful living involves risk-taking.
Over 300 people rejected Colonel Sanders’ special recipe for Southern fried chicken before he received a “yes.” Today, because of his persistence, KFC boasts 20,000 restaurants in 125 countries.
We are wise as parents to instill in our boys the value of adventurous living. When we do, we cannot control the outcome. But we can control ourselves.
We can make taking risks a healthy part of our family culture. We can encourage our boys to try new tasks, sports, instruments, and friendships.
We cannot create risk-free lives for our children. That world doesn’t exist. What we can do is teach them the value of trusting God, not always playing it safe, and enjoying the process.
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Do you break your own rules?
You no doubt have rules for your son– like no texting while driving, and no procrastinating on his homework assignments. But if your son constantly sees you breaking your own rules, he will struggle to have respect for you.
Of course, your boy does need to know that parents have more authority than kids. But, to the best of your ability, demonstrate the good habits you want your son to have– for instance, put your phone down while you drive and don’t procrastinate on your chores.
And when you inevitably mess up— try to be a good example then, too. Demonstrate asking for forgiveness and taking responsibility for your mistakes. Your son will emulate you far more than he listens to you.
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Want to make a powerful imprint on the lives of children?
I believe the most powerful method the Lord gave parents to influence our children is the simple practice of family worship.
In our sophisticated age, we may forget the spiritual power of opening the Bible, reading it to our families, and leading in prayer. God made it simple: pick up the Word, share it, and lead others to the throne of grace.
Charles Spurgeon said, “If we want to bring up a godly family . . . let us seek to train them up in the fear of God by meeting together as a family for worship.” Let’s be on the alert, parents and mentors, to impact our families for the Lord Jesus.
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Is it attention deficit disorder– or dad deficit disorder?
In his book Raising Boys, Steve Biddulph tells a powerful story about a dad named Don. Don’s son was diagnosed with “attention deficit disorder.” This was years ago, before ADD knowledge was so widespread, so Don misunderstood the diagnosis. He thought it meant that his son simply needed more attention. When school was out, Don started taking his son with him on his truck driving routes. Within months, his son showed remarkable behavior improvement– and even came off his ADD medication.
Many ADD diagnoses are very legitimate. But it’s likely that your son is also deficient in attention from you. Take some time today to put your phone down and give your boy some quality time.
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What will you leave to your children and the generations that come after you?
The saying, “You’ll never see a U-Haul behind a hearse,” is a poignant reminder that you can’t take anything with you in death, but you can leave something behind by how you live.
Your children are watching you and learning from you day by day. Are you leading them closer to Christ or further from him?
Teach them about Jesus by how you live for Him, and you will leave a lasting legacy.
Remember what British missionary C.T. Studd wrote in his famous poem, “Only one life, ’twill soon be past” — only what’s done for Christ will last.
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How can we instill integrity into our children?
Teach them that we always live in God’s presence. Jesus is always in the room.
As a family, read books or listen to radio theater stories of godly people like Hudson Taylor, George Mueller, Corrie ten Boom, and William Wilberforce, for example. Discuss lessons from their lives
Children need to feel valued as they learn to speak truth. If parents immediately berate a child if they share a differing opinion from their own, children will subtly learn to mask some truth.
No better training exists than parents living lives worth replicating. Those little ones see us day in and day out. May our children find us to be people of integrity – the real deal on the inside.
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David. Moses. Abraham. Peter.
While all of these men achieved amazing things for God, they all also had shortcomings.
In the same way, the great men who built this country were also flawed. There’s a trend in culture right now to dismiss their heroism, and choose instead to emphasize their shortcomings. But as Theodore Roosevelt once pointed out, , “far better is it to dare mighty things…than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much.” [end quote]
It’s not necessary to pretend that the Bible– or our nation’s history– is only made up of perfect people. The fact that God can use even the most flawed men to achieve great things for His Kingdom is just the inspiring message our sons desperately need to hear.
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How high is heaven above the earth?
The distance is immeasurable, just like God’s love for you.
As the Bible says, “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is God’s love for those who fear him.”
King David paints a powerful word picture in his psalm, writing that God “has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.”
If you have turned to God and trusted in his son, Jesus Christ, God has completely removed your sin and eternally separated you from it.
When you watch a sunrise, be reminded of God’s forgiveness and mercy toward you. There’s nothing anyone can ever do to cause God to love you any less.
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Digital technology has become controlling, addictive, and intrusive.
Parents, it’s ok for you to be the “bad guy” about the use of electronics. Don’t let the culture squeeze you into its mold. Our children don’t need endless hours of internet and television exposure. Scientific studies show that too much digital time actually alters brain patterns. Consider not allowing “screen time” during the week unless all school work is done. On the weekends, limit the number of hours of screen time a day.
Go outside. God created us to interact with His natural world. Lead your boys in enjoying the outdoors and engaging in physical exercise. Children still need time to play in the dirt, walk in the woods, and foster their imagination.
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What memories do you have with your grandfather?
The power of a grandpa’s love in a young man’s life cannot be understated. Child psychologist Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch once counseled a 10-year-old boy who lived thirteen hours from his grandpa. This boy didn’t see his grandpa very often, but talked about him every single day. She asked the boy to describe what his grandpa meant to him, and the boy was moved to tears.
Relationships with extended family can be complicated– and many people don’t live near their children’s grandparents. But, as much as you can, be intentional about fostering your son’s relationship with his grandfather. This can be through phone calls, letters, visits, or fishing trips. You’ll be benefiting your son more than you may even realize.
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Do any of your son’s friends have absent dads?
It’s likely they do. Over 19.5 million children– or one in four– don’t live with their dad. Fatherless boys are more likely to struggle in school, have behavioral problems, and participate in risky behaviors.
Take note of your son’s peers who don’t spend time with their dads. The next time you plan a father-son fishing trip, bike ride, or hike, be quiet but intentional about inviting one of those boys.
Your presence will benefit that young man greatly, and you may also be giving his mom or caregiver a much needed break. Plus, you can help open your son’s eyes about helping those who may need some extra encouragement. All it takes is an invitation.
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If you’ve ever gone backpacking in the great outdoors, you know the importance of bringing the right equipment. You pack a tent, not a tire. You pack matches, not a microwave.
Similarly, when your son heads off to school, make sure he packs the right characteristics. This includes:
- Honesty—to complete his own work instead of cheating off others.
- Respect—to see people for who they really are, no matter what they look like.
- Gratitude—to thank teachers for giving of their time and talent.
- Kindness—to make life better when challenges arise. And …
- Courage—to stand up and do right, no matter what.
By packing these important virtues, your son can confidently climb the academic mountain while also enjoying the journey.
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Does your walk match your talk?
Nobody likes “fake,” hypocritical people. As a Christian father figure and mentor, you need to live out of your faith authentically because people are constantly watching you.
I heard about a man who heard that his Christian co-worker had an accident at work. After asking if he was OK, his next question was, “Did he cuss?”
How you act is equally as important as what you believe. How is your walk with Jesus right now?
Trail Life USA’s motto is “Walk Worthy.” Be careful how you live daily so “that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.”
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How can we parents create margin in our families to build unity?
Play games together. Make a collection of board games. Develop the habit of occasionally clearing the table for game night. As children get older, families can invest in games that take longer to play. Playing board games allows for lots of interaction and often leads to laughter!
Read to your children. Build the expectation into your family that everyone should be readers. Provide age-appropriate material for your children. The local library is a wonderful resource that can be used again and again. There is a time to say, “OK, we’ve watched enough television, and you’ve spent enough time on electronics. Let’s spend some time reading?”
We are making choices today that will affect our children tomorrow.
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How do we raise servants?
Children learn how to serve others in part by watching adults serve. Serving others includes stepping up to the plate and stepping out to meet needs.
An older pastor said, “When our children were young, I pastored a small church with no other children or activities. My kids were part of starting new groups, ministries, and opportunities. None of that was handed to them. Today, as adults, they are leaders and servants. I think being required to serve at church made them the people they are today.”
We should look for ways to teach children to serve. We remember Jesus said He came not to be served but to serve.
They are people who don’t just watch what’s happening. They make things happen.
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We can learn something valuable about our sons from Peter Pan.
In her book Boy Talk, child psychologist Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch makes an observation about the Lost Boys in the story of Peter Pan.
These boys are seemingly living the dream. They have no parents, and no school– just adventures all day long. But interestingly, they still long for one childhood comfort– the bedtime story.
As your son grows up, it’s important that you let him be a boy. But even while he’s pursuing his masculine tendencies, don’t forget that he needs emotional nurturing, too. Take a few minutes for a hug– or sit and eat a snack with him. Your “lost boy” may not admit it, but he still needs those moments in the midst of all of his adventures.
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How can we raise boys who love adventure?
Here are a few simple ways to encourage boys to not always play it safe but develop their God-given spirit of bravery:
Encourage outdoor family activities that involve a healthy level of risk. Whitewater rafting, tubing on rivers, and waterfall hiking are a few.
Selectively allow children to oversee their own projects. It’s messy and not “perfect,” but they can own it.
Enjoy adventurous yard toys like zip-lines and trampolines. We can’t always play it safe!
Plan vacations to new places. Try different cities, restaurants, and entertainment.
As God shapes the lives of our children, He can use the raw material of learning to take risks and mold them into people who change their worlds!
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Do you remember the song “He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands”?
The song’s lyrics talk about God, saying:
- He’s got the wind and the rain in his hands.
- He’s got the little, tiny baby in his hands.
- He’s got you and me, brother, in his hands.
- He’s got you and me, sister, in his hands.
- He’s got everybody here in his hands.
The Bible says God holds on to us with his “righteous right hand.”
This image shows us God’s power – and our utter helplessness and dependency on him. But you have no reason to fear because of God’s promised protection.
So, while things may get messy and scary, you can rest assured that God will always hold you in his hands.
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Is your son able to “blend” his emotions?
When going on a hike, you bring along a bar that contains a mix of protein, carbs, and healthy fats, since your body needs different nutrients to stay healthy.
In the same way, Child psychologist Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch says that healthy development in boys includes teaching them that they can feel seemingly conflicting emotions at the same time. For instance, when your son is sad about not making the soccer team, he may also feel relieved that he will have more free time. Or when he’s angry at his dad, he still will feel love towards his dad at the same time.
This “blending” of emotions doesn’t come naturally, but is an essential skill that you can teach with some simple intentionality.
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What are you most afraid of?
According to a 2014 Washington Post article, fear of public speaking was America's biggest phobia, with 25.3 percent of the people saying they were afraid of speaking in front of a crowd.
A 2022 study listed “corrupt government officials” as Americans’ biggest fear.
With the world seemingly spinning out of control, we can easily allow fear and anxiety to paralyze us.
While some fears are justified, we cannot let them to rob us of the peace God provides.
Remember the charge that Moses gave to Joshua: “You shall not fear them, for it is the LORD your God who fights for you” (Deuteronomy 3:22).
No matter what you are facing, don’t focus on your fear. Instead, focus on God’s promises, provision, and power. He is faithful!
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Does your son struggle in math class? Did he miss the big play on the sports field that would have won the game?
Failures and fiascos will trip up your son. You wish he’d only see success, but that’s unrealistic. Even when we try our very best, disappointment and discouragement can still strike. And when it does, your son may experience frustration and exasperation. These are normal human emotions, but we don’t have to give in to them.
Instead, remind your son that failures don’t define who he is. If he has accepted Christ as his savior, he is a child of the King. Because of that, your son is of incredible worth to God. And that’s way more important than any school grade or sports event.
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How big is your dream for your son?
Pat Williams, co-founder of the Orlando Magic, writes that a “vision is a glowing word-picture of a desirable and optimistic future.” As parents, we can paint that portrait for our kids, conveying that life is more than just existing, paying bills, and managing problems.
God created them and has a deep interest in their lives.
Boys need heroes – more than just movie and music stars. Parents, familiarize your family with stories of noble heroes. Read biographies, watch movies and documentaries, and hear radio dramas of missionaries, statesman, inventors, Presidents, and soldiers. Visit historic sites and homes of great Americans.
I want to instill a life-long desire for excellence and possibilities.
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What comes to mind when you see these three words? “Some Assembly Required”
For many parents, these words bring back memories of a painful process of reading instructions, sorting through parts, and putting everything together — all under the watchful eye of your child as he waits with anticipation to play with his new toy.
Following instructions can be time-consuming and frustrating, but it will save you time and frustration in the long run.
Just like following instructions is a proven process for assembling toys, Trail Life USA has a proven process for growing boys into godly men. In a culture lacking any clear vision of positive masculinity, we must provide boys with a template to follow.
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Have you ever tried putting something together without looking at the instructions?
I heard about a man who did this once with a wagon his son got for Christmas. Unfortunately, he put the wheels on wrong.
Each time he pulled his son in the wagon reminded him that he should have read the instructions first.
Thankfully, God has given us instructions to follow in his word. The Bible is God’s big instruction book.
“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives.” (2 Timothy 3:16)
As you’re seeking to raise godly boys, continually point them to the wisdom found in God’s owner manual for life.
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How are you doing with your new year’s resolutions?
Every year many people resolve to exercise more and eat healthier.
The Bible tells Christ-followers to take care of their bodies.
“Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” First Corinthians 3:16-17
Along with our physical fitness, you also need to train our spiritual muscles. It takes work, but it’s the most important exercise you can do.
“Physical training is good, but training for godliness is much better, promising benefits in this life and in the life to come.” First Timothy 4:8
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Are men inherently bad?
Of course not. Genesis 1:27 tells us that God created both male and female in His own image.
But there’s a troubling narrative in our society right now that masculinity is toxic. So how can we as Christians fight this damaging idea?
First, we can affirm, not punish, the natural masculine traits that appear in our sons– such as being high energy and risk seeking. Second, we can help our sons find positive dad-like men as examples. And third, we can keep an open line of discussion going with our sons about how masculinity is portrayed in music, TV shows, and social media.
Being a man can be difficult in this day and age. Let’s show our sons that God made men for a divine purpose.
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Is your son experiencing “sideways” emotions?
In her book Boy Talk, Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch tells the story of an 11-year-old boy named Andrew. Andrew had suddenly started having headaches and stomachaches. His parents were baffled because– although they had gone through a difficult divorce a few years earlier– things had since settled.
Dr. Polce-Lynch figured out that the physical symptoms were a delayed reaction to the divorce. She patiently helped Andrew work through the emotions he had long buried.
If your son has unexplained physical or behavioral issues, consider that he may just now be coping with a stressful event that happened before. Prayerfully offer him grace, patience, therapy, or simply time to work through his complicated emotions.
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How can you teach your son empathy?
Start by modeling this skill in your own life. If the grocery store checker is rude to you, when you get in your car, say out loud to your son, “I wonder if that checker is having a bad day, and dealing with some tough things!”
Help your son do this too. If he mentions someone at school who he doesn’t get along with, ask, “How do you think that person is feeling?” If your son says he doesn’t know, encourage him to guess. Remind him that people who hurt others are often insecure or fearful.
You can also memorize verses together about empathy, such as Phillippians 2:3- “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, count others more significant than yourselves.”
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Have you ever seen your reflection in one of those silly circus mirrors that make you look super short or extremely skinny? Some mirrors can even make you look upside down.
Although we’re not at a circus or looking into a strange mirror, today’s culture sometimes makes us feel as if we’re living in an upside-down world. That which is good is put to shame. And that which is evil is paraded with pride.
The result is that kids are left confused about what’s actually right or wrong.
When complex cultural issues arise, open the pages of Scripture and show your kids what the Bible says is right and wrong. In this way, you’ll help your kids understand that God’s Word is an infallible mirror … our perfect source of truth.
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Who is the most generous person you know?
You may think you have to be rich to be generous, but that’s not true.
Mother Teresa said, “It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”
God is our model for generosity. You cannot outgive God. He freely gives and lovingly provides for his children. God will give you what you need out of his infinite riches.
In gratitude for everything God has given you, you should be generous to him and others.
Remember 1 Timothy 6:18 and teach your children to “be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others.”
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Crowds follow individuals who communicate well. Every business, church, school, or ministry needs such people.
Help your kids know how to speak well. Create opportunities for them to stand in front of other people and speak about anything. Ask your six-year-old to stand in front of the family at night and talk about his favorite super-hero.
We can also challenge boys to write clearly - to present an idea and support it with evidence.
We live in a day where the battle for culture rages around who controls the flow of ideas. Help your children know how to open their mouths and communicate verbally. Talk about great ideas in your home, and challenge your children to learn to communicate those ideas.
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Do you know what the letters WWJD stand for? You’ll find the acronym on everything from bracelets to T-shirts to key chains. The letters stand for, What Would Jesus Do?
This phrase reminds Christians to put Jesus first in all that we do. As parents, we need this reminder, but so do our kids. And the best way for them to learn this is to see it demonstrated in action.
So the next time you’re faced with financial stress, work problems, or a health crisis, take a moment to sit next to your son and go to the Lord in prayer. When your son sees and hears you ask the Lord for help, he’ll understand that WWJD is more than a bumper sticker. It’s a way of life.
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While on a road trip, have your kids ever whined, “Are we there yet?”
When the journey is long, we grow impatient. We want to arrive at the destination as fast as possible. And if roadblocks make us veer off course, we grow frustrated. Sometimes even angry.
The same is true in the parenting journey. Our children are maturing socially, mentally, and spiritually—but sometimes not as fast as we’d like. We want them to develop responsibility as quickly as possible, but then we grow impatient whenever a detour sends them off track.
Avoid unreasonable expectations. Realize that your son’s developmental process takes time—and that’s okay. Instead of constantly wishing he were already at the destination, take time to enjoy life’s journey with him.
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According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 25% of American kids live without a father or father-like figure in their homes. You heard that right. On average, 1 out of every 4 kids doesn’t have a dad to give them piggyback rides, help them with homework, or tuck them into bed at night. That’s tragic!
If you have the privilege of being a dad, make sure to be there for your kids. Don’t just live in your house. Make that house a home where smiles abound, and laughter is loud.
And if you know a boy who doesn’t have a father who’s around, include him in activities with you and your son. Your actions may be small, but they just might make a world of difference to a lonely kid.
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When your son was young, did he ever point at someone in a wheelchair? Do your older kids whisper about the new kid who stutters or has a deformity?
Teach your kids never to make fun of someone with a handicap. Because we live in a sin-cursed world where physical and mental handicaps exist, these handicaps make life really hard for these people.
As Christians, we can’t make those handicaps go away, but we can show courtesy and compassion. Teach your son to hold the door open for someone in a wheelchair. Teach your kids to listen patiently to someone who stutters.
By helping your kids treat people kindly, they’ll focus less on the handicap and more on the person’s personality.
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Are you a fraud? Do you act one way at home and another way at church?
More than ever, teenagers connect with people who are authentic in their motives and genuine in their behavior. As a parent, your son sees you at your best, but also at your worst.
When you realize that you aren’t displaying the attitude and actions of a Christ-follower, the most difficult—and yet most meaningful—thing you can do is admit your faults. Explain to your son that shouting or losing your temper wasn’t the right way for you to respond to frustration.
Admitting your faults won’t make your son respect you less. In fact, the opposite is true. Being authentic and genuine will make him see what a great dad he really has.
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The land of the free and the home of the brave.
What a great country we live in. The freedom we get to experience here in America was not cheap to attain. Many people gave all for the liberty we have.
Jesus also gave everything for us to be free. The salvation He provided by dying on the cross is free, but it isn’t cheap. He paid the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom.
John 8:36 says this, “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”
Take time this Independence Day to remember the price paid for you to live free in this country, and also remember the price your savior paid for you to be free from the penalty of sin. It’s definitely a reason to celebrate and give thanks!
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Does your son have a nickname?
Many kids do. Some nicknames like Ace or Champ are fun and cute, while others like Rooster, Zippy, and Waffle usually come from some hilarious event or personality trait.
Nicknames are common, but there’s a nickname that only your son can call you. That’s the exclusive name of Dad.
It isn’t by accident that God gave you to your son, and your son to you. In his all-knowing wisdom, God placed you both together. As a dad, you have the responsibility of raising your son properly, but you also have the incredible joy of seeing him grow and mature into a man.
Never forget the privilege of being a dad. Count your blessings and name them one by one.
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How do you like your eggs prepared? Scrambled and sunny side up are the most popular, but some people like them hard boiled or over easy.
Just as there are many ways to cook an egg, there are also many ways to discipline your son to correct wrong behavior. Of course, you wish discipline were never necessary, but that’s an unreasonable eggs-pectation.
When your son blatantly disobeys, don’t let his behavior eggs-asperate you. Set an eggs-ample by remaining calm. During these difficult moments, eggs-amine your words and actions to make sure they are motivated by love.
Although discipline is never fun, it’s sometimes necessary. The goal, however, is to teach your son right from wrong. And as he learns this, eggs-cuses will transform into eggs-cellence of character.
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If you have a kindergartener, have you taught him to drive yet? If you have a teenage son, are you giving him tummy time?
Of course not, but in the busyness of everyday life, you might forget where your youngest and oldest children are in their developmental process. Understanding the specific age and stage of each child is vital in seeing where he’s come from … and where he still needs to go.
So, if you’re treating your kindergartener like a teenager, or your teenager like a toddler, reevaluate your expectations and instruction. Because each child is unique, don’t compare one child’s progress to another. As always, ask God to give you wisdom in guiding your children in becoming mature, responsible, and godly adults.
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The human eye is incredible! Even though it has over two million working parts, it’s the fastest muscle in the body. It also distinguishes millions of colors.
And yet, our eyes often miss what’s most important in life. When your son is on the soccer field, are you watching, or are you scrolling through social media on your phone? Can you detect when your son is frustrated, or do you not even notice?
To connect emotionally with your son, begin by turning your eyes upon Jesus. When you do this, your role as a father will come into proper focus.
But don’t delay. In the blink of an eye, your son will be grown and out of the house. Influence his life right now while there’s still time.
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When you have a problem, do you usually ask for help or try to figure things out on your own?
One hindrance to the power of God in our lives is our unwillingness to reach out to him for help and trust him to meet our needs.
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
We limit what God wants to do for us when we don’t trust him to meet our needs.
What if we put our complete trust in God for everything we need? He wants to take care of and bless his children.
The question is: Are you willing to receive his blessings?
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When have you felt a “healthy fear”?
While working with electricity, you should have a “healthy fear” of its power and take the proper safety precautions.
The Bible talks about having a “healthy fear” of the Lord.
The all-powerful and all-loving Creator of the universe fully deserves our fear and respect.
Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.”
Fearing God gives us the foundation to face all our other fears.
When you or your child is afraid, ask God to allow it to draw you closer to Him. You can face your fears confidently, knowing God is greater than all your fears.
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What does it mean to “guard your heart”?
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it is the source of life.”
This proverb is written by a father to his son, but the instructions apply to everyone — no matter their age.
Your heart is the source of your thoughts and feelings. Guarding your heart requires keeping your focus on the things of God. So many things in our world can pull our hearts away from being focused on God.
Remember Philippians 4:8 and “fix your thoughts on what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
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Does anyone like to suffer?
The apostle Paul knew a lot about suffering. He suffered beatings, imprisonments, and shipwrecks. In Colossians 1:24, Paul said he “rejoiced” in his sufferings. What? How could he rejoice in suffering? Because God used it to advance the gospel.
Paul also pointed out that suffering strengthens our perseverance, character, and hope.
Most of us have little experience with real suffering. We don’t even like minor inconveniences like waiting in a long line.
No matter your circumstances, God has a purpose and plan for your life.
Let’s ask God to help us see and teach our boys the value of suffering for His kingdom’s sake.
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Have you ever had a divine encounter with someone who came into your life at just the right time, and you knew it was a “God thing”?
I heard about a family that had a flat tire at Christmastime. They pulled into the closest repair shop they could find. The technician who came out to help them was named “Emmanuel.” He agreed to fix the flat even though the shop had just closed. Every Christmas, this family tells their “Emmanuel” story as a reminder that God is always with us.
God orchestrates every meeting you have with someone for a purpose. Sometimes, that purpose is life-changing; other times, not so much. But they are all divine appointments.
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Do you find yourself playing the comparison game, comparing yourself to others?
If so, you need to remind yourself of this truth: You are created uniquely by God — “fearfully and wonderfully made.” There isn’t another person in the world like you.
It’s a message we share with our kids regularly but don’t apply to ourselves enough. When we fail to remember that God has created us uniquely and has a specific calling and purpose for our lives, we are tempted to compare ourselves to others.
We justify our actions by thinking, “At least I’m not as bad as that person.”
When we stand before God, he will not ask us about our neighbor’s actions. We will only answer for ourselves.
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Do the things you say build people up or tear them down?
Our words have more power than we realize.
Proverbs 15:4 says, “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”
King Solomon, who wrote much of Proverbs, points out the pain caused by our hurtful speech. Harsh words cut deeply, and their damage is long-lasting.
On the other hand, Solomon also points out the power of our positive words. Most of us are not doctors, but our speech can heal and give life. It can infuse others with renewed courage, faith, and hope.
God, help us to honor you with our words by offering hope and healing to the people around us.
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What’s love got to do with it?
Well…quite a lot. Jesus spoke about love often and at one point was quoted as saying, “love your neighbor as yourself”, which was a reference from Leviticus 19:18.
But how do we do that? There are many people who do not love themselves or see the value God has placed in them. How can we properly love others as ourselves when we despise ourselves? In order to love others well we must love who God has made us to be. Then we will have the confidence of the Father’s love and affirmation in our hearts as we love others through Him.
Take some time today to reflect on how great God’s love is toward you and how valuable and special you are to him. Then look for ways to spread that love to your family and others.
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Have you ever ordered a product through Amazon Prime?
If so, you’re not alone. Over 50% of American households have a Prime membership. From toys to tools, and from shoelaces to shampoo—people love Amazon because of the HUGE variety of items they sell.
But there are some things you can’t buy at Amazon.com. You can’t buy your son a hug. You can’t order him a hearty laugh for $19.95. And you can’t purchase fun outdoor memories with him that will last a lifetime.
Amazon sells over 12 million products, but they can’t deliver your son the joy he’ll experience wrestling with you in the living room. The relationship you have with your son is one of the most priceless things in all of life. Make it count.
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Boys sometimes get hurt. That’s a fact. But when your son cuts a finger or scrapes a knee, what do you do?
If the cut looks dirty, dabbing iodine on it will keep infection away. Even though the antiseptic stings, you know it’s for your son’s own good. You want him to heal.
The same is true in parenting. At one point or another, you’ll have to correct your son when he lies, cusses, or misbehaves. Punishment is never a fun thing—for the child or for the parent—but it’s necessary for healing and growth.
Proverbs 22:6 provides valuable advice. The verse says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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Father’s Day has been ranked towards the bottom in popularity among the top 15 national holidays. Why would that be?
Father’s Day can be a difficult day for many people because of traumatic experiences we’ve had with our fathers. Dads play a very important role in the lives of their children and when you do not have that person in your life in a healthy way, it can affect you in many ways.
One of the most important roles of a father is affirmation. Affirming your children, especially your sons, that they are special, loved, and have a purpose is vital. Hearing the words, “I love you and I’m so proud of you.” Is so necessary to emotional growth, yet many people never hear those words.
If you are a man, take time today to pour into your son. take another step and speak into the life of a boy who doesn’t have a godly dad. Tell them who God says they are. You will change their lives.
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Nathan was going to buy a motorcycle– at age 15.
He wanted the bike to ride it to his job at a pizza shop. HIs parents told him it would be too dangerous, and suggested a car, instead. Nathan rolled his eyes.
But one day, Nathan announced that he was going to buy a car, instead. His boss at the pizza shop said a motorcycle would be too dangerous. Nathan’s parents glanced at each other, and smiled in relief.
Steve Biddulph tells this story in his book Raising Boys to illustrate that while your teenage son may not listen to you, he will listen to other adults. Pray and take intentional steps to make sure your son has positive, godly men in his life to point him in the right direction.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s a simple way to boost your son’s development today.
Researchers have coined a term called “joint attention sequences” to describe what happens when you make a connection with your son. This can happen when you look him in the eyes, laugh when he makes a joke, read stories with him, or praise him for an accomplishment.
In his book Raising Boys, author Steve Biddulph says these sequences are more than just moments of delight– they are crucial for your son’s development. Studies have found that, especially when your son is a baby and a toddler, these moments actually help a growth hormone to flood his brain and develop it.
So today, put your phone down and give your son focused, intentional connection. His growing brain will reap the benefits.
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As a parent, you want to give your son the world.
But of course, time, resources, and energy are limited. When you have to tell your son “no, I can’t play with you right now,” or, “No, we can’t buy that toy right now,” you may feel guilty.
But don’t feel bad. Even God, our perfect Father, often answers our prayers and requests with “not right now” or “no.” As you teach your son to wait, you teach him patience, self control, and the value of working towards something that you want.
Maybe things are tight financially for your family right now. If so, remember– you are still a good parent. By not giving your son everything, you’re shaping his character– and that’s a gift that will last a lifetime.
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When you were a kid did your parents warn you not to look directly into the sun because it could damage your vision?
When you stare directly at the sun—or other types of bright light such as a welding torch—ultraviolet light floods your retina, literally burning the exposed tissue.
However, there is a Son we need to continually look at — the Son of God, Jesus Christ.
“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrew 12:2
Teach your son to keep his eyes on the living Son of God.
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You glance at the clock. It’s 9:17 a.m.
“Hurry up!” you holler from the kitchen. “Church starts in less than 15 minutes!”
Your kids dash from room to room, grabbing their Bibles, their shoes, and maybe even a Pop-Tart. Then you’re out the door and in the car. Yet despite your best race car driving skills, you’re late to church—again.
Can you relate to this? Do you find yourself constantly late to work, medical appointments, or other activities?
Even though life is busy, make punctuality a priority. Show your son, through action, how to organize his time. Of course, this isn’t easy. But through careful planning, you’ll demonstrate that preparation helps life run more smoothly. Plus, when you’re on time for church, all the back pews aren’t already taken.
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Do you get anxious?
Like a fisherman who continually casts his line in search of the big catch, we are called to continually cast our cares and concerns to God.
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
There are many things for us to be anxious about.. And anxiety among kids is on the rise, affecting nearly one in 10 children. Make sure you are tending to the cares of your kids, and helping them cast their cares on him.
We would be wise to remember Jesus’ question — can all your worries add a single moment to your life? Worry won’t change our past or future, but it can ruin the present.
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What is a phobia? It is an irrational fear of something that’s unlikely to cause harm.
There are over 400 recognized phobias out there. Ablutophobia is the fear of bathing. This condition seems to be widespread among middle school and high school boys. :o)
Fear is a normal human reaction that protects us by signaling danger and preparing us to deal with it. But fear can also be unhealthy and dangerous.
The Bible talks about the “fear of man.” This manifests itself when we crave acceptance from our peers and fear rejection. The Bible says that fear of man is a dangerous trap.
Don’t let fear rule you and your child’s hearts. Instead, remember that “the Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?”
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Have you ever woken up from a long night of sleep and still felt tired?
According to the Mayo Clinic, the recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours a night.
But even getting enough sleep isn’t enough to be fully rested.
As parents, we can quickly become overburdened, overwhelmed, exhausted, discouraged, and restless.
Let’s take Jesus up on his invitation in Matthew 11:28-30:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Practice resting in Him. And teach your son to do the same!
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Kids love playdough. They squeeze it and stretch it. They roll it into skinny snakes and smoosh it into wobbly clumps.
As parents, we sometimes feel like playdough. We get squeezed for time and attention. Then we get stretched this way and that way. We feel smooshed and squooshed by the demands of life.
When the routines of parenthood feel overwhelming, realize that you’re not alone. Because you are in God’s hands, He is shaping you into His likeness, forming your character into a useful masterpiece.
Kids make wild and wacky objects with playdough, but in the master Sculptor’s hands, your parenting efforts are being transformed into something beautiful.
So, don’t give up. That squeezing and stretching is just part of the process.
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Does your son play a musical instrument? Maybe the piano, trumpet, or violin?
The process of learning how to play an instrument is a lot like parenting. It requires patience, persistence, and a passion to improve.
During the parenting process, mistakes will inevitably happen. Improper technique may cause squeaky notes. Your instruction may fall flat or be off key. And despite your best efforts, your guidance may not be properly choreographed.
When this happens, don’t get discouraged. Through consistent effort, prayer, and love, you’ll make progress.
By tuning your heart to the rhythm of your son’s personality, you’ll experience the melody of fellowship. And when you and your son are in sync, harmony within the home will crescendo into his growth as a godly young man.
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You’re a parent inside the walls of your home. But what about outside those walls?
Of course, your primary obligation is to parent your own son. But, for better or worse, your son’s friends and peers can have a greater impact on him than you do. So how can you positively influence the whole group?
It’s as simple as being involved in your community. Volunteer at church to teach Sunday School. Coach your son’s soccer team. Join a big brother/big sister program. Or you could even volunteer to be a Trail Life USA leader.
You don’t have to be perfect to positively influence the next generation of men. You just have to show up and show love not only in your home, but outside of it.
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Did you know that Michael Jordan, considered by many to be the greatest basketball player ever, missed 12,345 field goals in his Hall of Fame career?
He said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
Wayne Gretzky, the NHL’s all-time leading scorer, put it this way: “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”
In today’s culture, risk and competition are often removed from boys’ environments. They lose interest when there isn’t anything at stake. So, they think, “Why should I try?”
As parents and mentors trying to raise godly boys, we need to provide challenging opportunities that let boys fail, recover, and eventually succeed.
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Colton, a toddler, was riding his toy car when he ran into a stick. His mom watched from behind as Colton got more and more frustrated, but he was stuck.
“Hm,” his mom said,“Is there anything you can do to move the stick?” Colton thought for a minute, then climbed off his car. He beamed with pride when he moved the stick and sailed past it.
When our sons face obstacles in life, it’s tempting to swoop in and remove whatever is in the way. But if we constantly do that, we are failing our boys. By letting them problem solve in age-appropriate ways, we can not only develop their critical thinking skills, but also greatly improve their confidence. So go ahead– encourage your son to move the stick himself.
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This Memorial Day, as we honor those who have paid the highest price for our freedom, be sure your son understands the true meaning of “honor.”
No one embodies true honor like the men and women, both active and retired, in our nation’s military. Your son can learn this by engaging with veterans. He can march in a parade, clean a monument, or work with the Veterans of Foreign Wars.
This he can do as a memorial to those who have given their lives in service. A high embodiment of value. Discuss what it means to be a man who serves God and his country. As we say in our Trail Life USA oath, it’s a man who “respects authority, is a good steward of creation, and treats others how [he] wants to be treated.”
When boys see honorable examples of masculinity, they grow to become honorable men.
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Here’s a controversial yet obvious truth– men and women are different!
A quick look at brain science supports this fact. The connections between neurons in the male brain are more condensed than in a female brain. That’s why men tend to focus on the bigger picture while women focus on details. Men use more grey brain matter, which makes them task oriented, while women use more white matter, which contributes to being more language oriented.
In this society that often tries to pit women against men, and calls masculinity “toxic,” it’s crucial that our sons understand that there’s a reason for these differences. Make sure your son has a positive father-figure in his life to help him understand what healthy manhood looks like.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When your son is upset, “How are you feeling?” might not be the right question.
Boys are simply not wired to connect words with feelings. While the female brain has verbal centers in both the left and right hemispheres– allowing girls to use words to process feelings— males only have verbal centers on the left side of their brain.
This is why boys tend to not “talk it out” when they are upset, but instead turn to an unrelated activity, like video games or sports, to process big emotions.
So the next time your son is angry or frustrated, engage him in physical activity, like walking the dog or kicking a soccer ball around the yard. You can be confident he’ll return feeling much calmer.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Ever wake to the sound of a chainsaw ripping through wood?
It’s a powerful tool. But it can be dangerous. Like a chainsaw, the internet is a powerful tool, but it’s also dangerous if not used properly.
There’s a wealth of information available to us on the web. However, surfing the internet can become an addictive tidal wave.
Do you start and end your day online? Are you constantly checking your emails and texts and feeling the need to respond immediately?
If so, it might be time to try something radical and life-changing.
Unplug. Consider an internet fast. Go online only for work purposes for the next five days. Tell friends to call instead of emailing or texting. Stay off social media.
Devote the time you would normally spend online to Bible study and prayer. You’ll be shocked at how many of your online activities are unnecessary.
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The trials of life are like trails.
They will either lead you closer to God or further away from him.
You can’t choose if you’ll go through a trial, but you can choose how you will react to one.
Being a Christian doesn’t make you immune to trials, but you can take comfort during a trial knowing that you are never alone.
Repeatedly in his word God tells us that he will never leave us or forsake us.
Boys are watching their father figures and mentors to see how they’ll react to a trial — if their walk matches their talk.
Let’s trust God no matter our circumstances. He is faithful!
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that a person can survive for about three days without water?
Health experts commonly recommend drinking eight 8-ounce glasses of water daily.
While water is essential for life, Jesus speaks of a different kind of “living water” in John 4.
While talking with a Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well, he says, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
A glass of cold water will quench your physical thirst, but only following Jesus will quench your spiritual thirst.
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A deck of cards could teach your son an important lesson.
Remember the card games you played growing up? Go fish, hearts, nerts, or spades? Search the internet if you need a refresher on the rules, make your son’s favorite snack, and find some decks of cards. It’s time for a family game night.
As you play with your son, you will teach him several important lessons. He will learn to listen and follow rules as you teach him the game. As you play, he’ll practice staying focused. And as you win– or lose– you will show him how men can do both, gracefully and humbly.
And more than anything, putting aside your work and chores to play a game with your son will make him feel loved and valued.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the most important question you’ve ever asked or been asked?
Will you marry me? Did I get the job? Is the cancer in remission?
While these are all important questions, life’s most important question is found in the Bible in Matthew 16:15-16 when Jesus asked Simon Peter, “But what about you? Who do you say I am?” and Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”
What someone believes about Jesus is the most important question he will ever have to answer. Let’s teach our sons about the Son of the living God so they’ll know who he is and be able to share the truth with others.
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Did your parents ever say, “This is going to hurt me more than you.”
This saying reminds me of Hebrews 12:11.
“No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it yields a harvest of righteousness and peace to those who have been trained by it.”
When God disciplines his children (believers), he does so out of love.
“The Lord disciplines the one he loves, just as a father, the son he delights in.” (Proverbs 3:12)
A parent’s motivation for administering discipline is vital to its effectiveness.
They should follow God’s example with loving discipline. The parent “who loves [his child] disciplines him diligently.” (Proverbs 13:24)
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How many weeks will you have with your child before they become a legal adult?
There are approximately 936 weeks from the day your child is born until he graduates from high school, and the weeks move quickly.
You need to make the most of the time you have with your child. Parenting is a never-ending process, but the developmental years are crucial.
I recommend that you fill a jar with marbles — or pieces of candy if you have a sweet tooth — based on your child’s age – how many weeks before they turn 18. As you take a marble out of the jar each week, you will be reminded of the time you have left with them.
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It’s been said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
When we choose not to forgive, it hurts us, not just the person who has hurt us.
Jesus said a lot about forgiveness in the Bible.
He taught, “If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you.” When Peter asked Jesus how often it is necessary to forgive, he replied, “Seventy times seven,” a number to be taken symbolically, not literally, for the never-ending way we should forgive.
Who do you need to forgive? Perhaps it’s yourself. Do yourself a favor by “letting it go” and teach your boys to do the same.
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
This Mother’s Day, minister to a single mom of a son.
Every single mom is a hero. And single moms who have boys? They should wear capes. Raising a boy– who needs a ton of exercise, outdoor activity, focused attention, and healthy risk taking– is a joy, but can be exhausting.
If you don’t know a single mom, ask a local church about their single moms ministry– they will be able to give you some names. Then, pray about the best gift to give. Some ideas are an anonymous check, a grocery gift card, or a coffee gift card. And if you know her well, offer to take her son on a fun outing. You won’t only be giving her a break, but her son will appreciate the extra attention.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the first thing you do when you or your child is struggling with something?
Is it to pray?
Prayer should be our first response, not our last resort.
There is power in prayer.
Stormie Omartian (stor·mee ow·maar·tee·uhn) writes this in her book The Power of a Praying Parent:
“When we pray, we bring that power to bear upon everything we are praying about, and we allow the power of God to work through our powerlessness. When we pray, we are humbling ourselves before God and saying, “I need Your presence and Your power, Lord. I can’t do this without You.” When we don’t pray, it’s like saying we have no need of anything outside of ourselves.”
Let’s be “first responders” when it comes to prayer.
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When it comes to toilet paper placement, do you prefer the paper to flow over or under the roll? Well, according to recent surveys, around 70% of Americans prefer the toilet paper to roll over the top.
This may not seem like a big deal, but for some people, toilet paper placement causes controversy, chaos, and conflict.
We laugh at such pettiness, but the truth is we often major on the minor things in life. Do you get bent out of shape if your son taps his foot at the table or chews too loudly?
Don’t let tiny annoyances flush your patience down the toilet. By staying focused on what really matters in life, you’ll be on a “roll” in helping your son grow into a godly young man.
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If you don’t give your son a challenge, he will challenge you.
Julie was frustrated that her teenage son, Tyler, wouldn’t help with any chores around the house. But when Tyler’s dad asked him to repair the fence in the backyard, Tyler jumped at the opportunity. Why?
Boys are uniquely wired to crave adventure. So much so that they often lose motivation when things are too easy or simple. This is why many extremely intelligent children often struggle in school– simply because of boredom.
If your son is being defiant with you, consider giving him an even greater, more complicated responsibility. Bonus points if it involves an outdoor activity! It may seem counterintuitive, but without a mountain in his life,your son will try to conquer you.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you watched the track and field events at the Summer Olympic Games?
The training that goes into running a marathon is much different than what a runner needs to do to prepare for a 100-yard dash.
Raising godly boys is more like a marathon than a sprint.
Parenting is a lifelong process filled with seemingly insignificant moments.
We must take advantage of every opportunity God gives us, whether it’s the car ride to and from school or tucking them into bed at night.
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7
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Is social media hurting your son’s self-esteem?
Social networks often create unreasonable expectations of what a man is. And because of that, boys may look at their flaws and failures and think that they’re not good enough.
As a dad, remind your son that even great men from the Bible experienced physical and spiritual weaknesses. Moses stuttered. Jacob was a cheater. Elijah wrestled with depression. And the apostle Peter had a temper. The list could go on and on.
Fortunately, 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”
Despite our flaws and failures, God sees our potential. In fact, He can take our weaknesses and transform them into something amazing—something beyond our wildest expectations.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
No one wants to think about death, but if you’re a Christian, you know that Christ has conquered the grave. Still, at some point, physical death will separate us from our loved ones. The question is: What kind of legacy will you leave behind. How will your children remember you?
Billy Graham, one of the most widely known evangelists of the 20th century, said, “The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children and grandchildren is a legacy of character and faith.”
There’s nothing wrong in being remembered for your work accomplishments or athletic abilities. But, in the end, your kids will most appreciate the time and attention you invested in their lives.
Life is incredibly short. Are you building a legacy of character and faith?
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Have you ever asked yourself, “What does God want my son to see that he is not seeing, and how can I help him see it?”
Because sin is deceptive, it can blind your son to the sin in his own heart. Let’s look for chances to be a tool to help him see it.
When you help him see what motivates his desires and actions, you are doing what God has called you to do as a parent.
Parenting is not about getting your son to do the right thing, but helping them to see so that he wants to do the right thing. This type of sightseeing is key to fostering lasting life change in your children.
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Have you ever found something you thought you had lost forever? How did it feel?
Imagine completing a 500-piece jigsaw puzzle, except for one missing piece. You could look everywhere until you give up hope of ever finding the piece, only to have it turn up when you aren’t looking for it a few weeks later. Imagine how excited you’d be to finally complete the puzzle.
In Luke 15, Jesus talks about several lost things – a lost sheep, a lost coin, and a lost son – that were all found.
I’m thankful that God never gives up on the lost, and we need to do the same with boys who have seemingly lost their way.
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Did you know that 3,160 tons of water flow over Niagara Falls every second?
Like water flows over the Falls, the words and actions of your son flow out of what is in their hearts.
To raise godly boys, we need to remember the advice the wisest man who ever lived, King Solomon, gave to his son: “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23
Your son’s behavior problems are heart problems. Thankfully, Jesus came to give us a new heart. Pay attention to the deeper issues that may be the source of the overflow and steer your son to help from the Lord.
Ezekiel 36 says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.”
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Has the grumble monster invaded your home?
You may not see him, but he leaves everyone feeling grouchy and grumpy. These emotions often lead to frustration when life is hard. Perhaps your son struggles in school, or maybe he’s hanging around friends that aren’t a good influence. You wish life didn’t have so many trials and troubles.
During these times, it’s easy to complain. That’s why Philippians 2:14 reminds us to do all things without grumbling.
So, if the grumble monster has invaded your home, fight back with an attitude of gratitude. Compliment your son on an achievement. Praise his determination to work through challenges. When your son sees your example of genuine appreciation, those grumbles will crumble away.
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What comes to mind when you hear the words “mercy” and “grace”?
Pastor and author Paul Tripp defines mercy as “tenderheartedness and compassion toward someone in need.” John Newton wrote about God’s “Amazing Grace” in his beloved hymn.
I like this definition: Mercy is not getting what you deserve. Grace is getting what you don’t deserve.
“Therefore let’s approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace for help at the time of our need.” Hebrews 4:16
Thank God for his amazing grace and mercy toward us.
As we strive to raise godly boys, let’s be quick to practice the same mercy and grace we’ve received.
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When was the last time your plans were suddenly ruined?
Maybe you had organized the perfect family road trip. But then, the day before leaving, one of your kids got really sick.
Life doesn’t always go according to plan. There are countless variables outside our control. But we can control how we react when receiving bad news.
When disappointment strikes, be intentional in teaching your kids an important life lesson. Remind them that nothing is outside God’s knowledge. Even though we often don’t understand why certain things happen, we can know that God’s will, God’s way, and God’s timing are ultimately for our own good and personal growth.
Guide your son in becoming a godly man. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping parents accomplish this. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What comes to mind when someone mentions a chameleon?
Most people think of the scaly lizard that changes color based on its surroundings. These cold-blooded reptiles blend into their environment by camouflaging their appearance. They can even adapt the brightness of their skin for strategic purposes.
Chameleons are fascinating, but they’re NOT an example of how Christians should act in today’s world. Even though society is often fake and hypocritical, believers should demonstrate genuine behavior.
If you’re a dad, realize that your son is watching you. Are your values, actions, and speech the same at work, on the sports field, and at church?
Don’t be a chameleon. Instead, through consistency of character, show your son how to honor the Lord in each and every area of life.
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Do you have a smartphone? If so, in addition to making phone calls and sending text messages, you probably use it to take pictures.
Of course, when kids are young, parents often take thousands of pictures. But as those same kids enter middle school and high school, life becomes so busy that parents sometimes forget to take pictures.
Be intentional in capturing both the big and small moments of life. After your son’s team wins a baseball game, stand next to your son and snap a selfie. Or when you’re on vacation at the beach, have someone take a picture of you and your son in snorkel gear.
Taking a picture takes just a few seconds, but the memory it captures lasts a lifetime.
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What are some things that rise? Maybe you’re thinking about prices, or helium, or a hot air balloon.
But by far, the most amazing thing that has ever risen is the Lord Jesus. If he had stayed dead, people would have no hope and no future. But after three days in the tomb, Jesus conquered death and rose victoriously. And because of that, we can be redeemed.
Have you and your son accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior?
This Easter, make it a point to spend one-on-one time with your son. Together, give thanks for God’s selfless sacrifice on the cross. The more you and your son focus on the Savior, the closer you’ll grow to one another.
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As Easter approaches, what comes to mind?
For many kids, Easter involves egg hunts, bunny-shaped chocolate, and goodie-filled baskets.
But the real meaning of Easter is so much more than this.
As a parent, don’t allow the commercialization of Easter to distract you from the true meaning of Christ’s ultimate sacrifice. Teach your son that the Easter story is more than a story. It’s the real-life account of Jesus sacrificially giving his life on the cross. Fortunately (and here’s the incredible part), after three days in the tomb, Jesus conquered death by rising from the dead. And because of that, by his wounds we can be healed.
Does your son know the true meaning of Easter? Take time today to talk to him about God’s free gift of salvation.
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Ever thought about having your son help you decorate your home for Easter?
We all decorate for Christmas. But as Christians, shouldn’t we show our boy that there’s just as much– if not more– to celebrate at Easter?
Spend some time this year putting up some decorations representing Christs’ sacrifice. These don’t have to be fancy or expensive– display a cross, and frame a verse like Matthew 28:6- “He is not here, for He has risen!” If your son is young, put out some childrens’ books about the Easter story. You can even have a resurrection party– blow up balloons, light candles, and celebrate that Jesus is alive!
Show your son that Easter is incredibly important – the reason we can have a relationship with our perfect heavenly Father.
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This day celebrates the fact that Jesus is not dead, but is alive. This is what separates us from all other religions. Since Jesus has been resurrected, He offers a resurrected life to us.
Romans 6:4 says, We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.
This “newness of life” should be a way of life for all believers. Jesus took us who were dead because of sin, and resurrected us!
Remember that on Easter Sunday! Jesus has been resurrected and is alive and therefore we can live a resurrected life in Him!
Have a wonderful Resurrection Sunday!
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A surefire way to pique your son’s interest? A snack! Here’s a snack mix recipe to help you discuss the true meaning of Easter.
Gather up the following: Pretzel sticks, to symbolize the cross; craisins, to represent Jesus’ blood; round crackers, for the stone that was rolled away; a marshmallow, since our sins are forgiven; Goldfish crackers, since Jesus said we should be fishers of men; and chocolate chips, because we taste and see the Lord is good.
Sit down with your son, and discuss the Easter story and what each food represents. Send the mix with your boy to school– or, put a bowl out the next time he has friends over. Help your son use it as an opportunity to share about Jesus’ resurrection.
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Before GPS, did you ever come to a fork in the road and think, “Which way should I go?”
Each of us eventually comes to a fork in the road – literally and figuratively – where we will have to decide which way to go.
As Christ-followers, we have the perfect navigator in our lives. God knows what’s down each road we travel; nothing surprises him. If we are unsure which way to go, we can look to him, and he will guide us. He will provide for all our needs throughout life’s journeys.
Let’s trust the Lord and thank him for the confidence he gives us to travel life’s roads, whether smooth or bumpy.
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Have you ever trusted someone who let you down? Most of us have experienced this. Most of us have broken someone’s trust too.
Yet, life requires you to trust others every day, often without thinking twice about it.
The only One who will never let you down and is completely trustworthy is God.
“It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in people.” Psalm 118:8
You must seek to trust and obey God and teach your son to do the same.
“Heavenly Father, thank you for being trustworthy. Help me to trust in you and follow your commands.”
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With each step he took, the load felt heavier.
Matthew was on a hike with a group of other boys when he realized his backpack was overloaded. He feared that if he asked for help, the other boys would make fun of him.
Finally, he fell to his knees, and confessed he couldn’t carry his load. To his surprise, the boys took off Matthew’s backpack and distributed the heavy contents equally in their own bags.
In a society where being a boy can feel like a burden, young men need help. Make sure your son has both a father-figure and a group of positive male friends to help him carry his burdens. Your church is a great place to start, or you can search for a local Trail Life USA troop.
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Your son needs a place to be a boy.
In 2018, the Boy Scouts of America announced that they would allow girls to join. One scoutmaster was asked, “How do you like having girls a part of your troop?” The scoutmaster answered, “We love having girls because they are so much better behaved than boys!”
That answer broke my heart. Society already deems boyhood and masculinity as something negative– and now an organization that was supposed to champion boys was also insinuating that boys should act more like girls.
Make sure your son knows that who he really is– whether that’s wild, curious, crazy, or loud– is just fine. After all, God created him that way for a glorious purpose.
To find out about getting your son involved with a boy-centric organization, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Fire is always destructive, right?
Well, not necessarily. The knobcone pine tree relies on fire in a crazy way. In order for its seeds to escape the hard resin that traps them inside the cone, an intense heat source is required.
That’s where a forest fire comes in handy. After fire melts the cone’s resin away, the cone cracks open. Seeds are then free to flutter to the ground where they can grow tall and strong.
As a parent, you want to protect your son. But don’t forget that trials and troubles can help your son grow stronger. By relying on God through challenging situations, your son will learn how to manage the heat and stress of life. And in doing so, he’ll be better prepared for whatever the future may hold.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The 4th quarter of a football game is often a nailbiter. Teams battle it out as the minutes tick off the clock. At times, it feels like that 4th quarter will last forever. But then, before you know it, the game is over.
The same is true in parenting. Many boys head off to work or college after high school. That means that if your son is at least 14 years old, then he’s probably in the 4th quarter of his time at home.
Even if you’ve prepared your son for the future, the 4th quarter is no time to quit. Continue to provide training and instruction. By helping your son love the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind, he’ll be ready to tackle the challenges of adulthood.
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George Müller—an evangelist who established orphanages in the 1800s—was known for his prayer life. And yet, in addition to his faith in God’s provision, Müller was also a man of action. He wisely said, “Our walk counts far more than our talk, always!”
That’s so true. You may talk to your son about patience, kindness, and self-control, but do your actions demonstrate these characteristics? If a referee makes a bad call, how do you respond? When an elderly neighbor needs help, do you view it as a hassle or an opportunity?
Make sure what you say is backed up by what you do. Consistency in speech and action are a winning combination that your son will want to imitate.
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Here’s an easy question: What does www stand for? If you answered, “world wide web,” you're right!
But if you think about it, that phrase is actually quite descriptive of online content.
We all know that the Internet is helpful in many different ways. And yet, it’s also a web that easily entangles boys in temptations. Violence, vulgarity, and sexuality are trapping boys in sin.
Don’t let your son get ensnared by the sticky filth found on the web. As a father, protect your son by using content filtering software. And then, when your son is old enough, have a heart-to-heart talk with him about how to react when the world wide web tries to tempt him.
Through careful instruction, you’ll help your son use technology wisely, without getting trapped.
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See if you can answer this joke: When leaving for work, what did the daddy buffalo say to his son? . . . Bye-son! [Bison]
Maybe that joke made you groan, but tell it to your son tonight, and you’ll probably get a smile from him—maybe even a laugh.
Dad jokes are corny, but they’re still fun. Of course, you and your son can have fun in a thousand other ways, but the important thing is that you have fun together.
School, sports, and friendships can be stressful. But by creating an atmosphere of encouragement within the home, your son will learn to relax and trust you for guidance and instruction. Plus, when you smile and laugh together, life is a whole lot more fun.
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Did you ever play Capture-the-Flag when you were a kid? If so, you know the object of the game is to capture the opposite team’s flag before getting tagged.
It’s one thing to play Capture-the-Flag, but don’t let today’s secular culture capture your son’s heart and mind. The love of money, the desires of the flesh, and the pride of life are all trying to steal his attention. And if they capture it, they’ll imprison him in bondage and despair.
Teach your son that God provides freedom from sin. And even though we’ll have to combat sin as long as we’re alive, placing God first in our lives will help us overcome temptation. When we allow God to capture our heart, we’ll be victorious in life.
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On his first day of preschool my son peered into the classroom and said, “Dad, I don’t want to go in there.”
I dropped to one knee in front of him and put my hand on his shoulder. Meeting him eye-to-eye, I reminded him about the first time he had ridden a pony. At first, he had been scared of the horse. But he faced his fear, and had been so glad that he did.
With that memory in mind, my son walked confidently into the preschool classroom.
When your son is filled with insecurity, it’s time to get on his level. Eye to eye, physical touch, focused attention. Replace the fearful thoughts in his mind with reminders of how he is already the brave man that he needs to be.
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Have you seen the video of the football player who ran the wrong way?
I heard about a man who is coaching his 6-year-old son’s flag football team.
He told me his biggest challenge is getting the players to head in the right direction when they get the ball.
Often their first instinct is to head toward the wrong end zone.
Boys today are missing the moral compass needed when they leave the playing field and enter the game of life.
Fifty-eight percent of Americans no longer believe that God and the Bible are the means for determining morality and truth.
As father figures and mentors, we need to point boys to the truth of God’s Word – the Bible.
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Parent the boy in front of you.
Books, websites, and friends can be great sources of wisdom for parenting advice. But as you’re listening to others, don’t forget this profound truth– there is no one else on earth who is exactly like your son.
You have been hand selected by God to be your son’s parent. That means there is no one else– no, not even that parenting expert with several degrees– who is better equipped to be the mom or dad your boy needs.
So yes, by all means, seek out Biblically sound parenting advice. But don’t forget to also spend time in prayer, asking God to give you the specific wisdom you need to make that advice work in the best way for your uniquely created son.
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Is it more difficult to be a teenaged boy, or a grown adult?
Adult life is stressful. Of course, you have more responsibility than your teen son. But consider this– you also have more freedom, more balanced hormones, and a fully developed brain. Parenting experts say that some of the hardest, most chaotic years of life are between ages 13-18, especially for young men.
Here’s the point. It’s true that your son needs discipline and authority. But don’t forget that what he needs first is love. It’s not easy being a teenage boy, especially in our current society. So the next time you are frustrated with your son, picture yourself at that age. Show him the grace and understanding you so desperately needed back then.
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Have you had to wait for something recently, or are you still waiting?
With seven games left in the 2022 Major League Baseball regular season, New York Yankees slugger Aaron Judge tied Roger Maris for the American League single-season home run record.
With the world watching, Judge had to wait for five more games before finally breaking the record in the next-to-last game.
Psalm 27:14 tells us to “wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage.”
Waiting on the Lord doesn’t mean we don’t have our part to play. Waiting on the Lord is active. It’s preparing our hearts, being ready to serve, and expecting God to provide.
“And now, O Lord, for what do I wait? My hope is in you.”
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What did you have for breakfast this morning? Around 49% of people had a quick bowl of cereal. Popular brands include Cheerios, Frosted Flakes, and Raisin Bran. Across the country, Americans enjoy over a hundred types of cereal.
That’s a lot of variety, but there are even more ways of parenting kids. That’s why when it comes to raising your son, understanding his personality is vitally important.
Many boys have tons of energy. They love the excitement of sports and outdoor activities. Other kids prefer small groups where they receive individual attention.
Whatever your son’s personality, take time to talk, laugh, and play with him. By spending time together, you’ll better understand how to guide him through childhood to become a godly young man.
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Life is busy. We all know that. But sometimes it feels as if we have to do everything to keep life running smoothly. We have to drive our kids to sports games, make sure they finish their homework, and tell them for the hundredth time to brush their teeth.
But it’s important to remember that we aren’t the only ones that want to see our kids succeed. Sunday school leaders, classroom teachers, coaches, friends, and many others have our kids’ best interests in mind.
Take a moment to thank the Lord for those people who are investing time and attention in your kids. The more you focus on the positive, the more you’ll see that you’ve got a great support group helping you along life’s parenting journey.
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A battle is raging—and it’s destroying people’s lives. No, I’m not talking about wars and conflicts scattered across the globe. Rather, I’m referring to the cultural war on gender identity.
Secular activists use words like “toxic masculinity” to shame people into thinking that gender is destructive. But the Bible is clear. God created people either male or female.
As a parent, it’s important you fight back against the bombardment of identity politics. Here’s a tip: Get involved at your school’s Parent Teacher Association. Voice your concern to coaches, teachers, and community leaders. Make sure they respect the differences between boys and girls.
It’s time to take a stand. Because our children’s futures are at stake, it’s time to speak up for truth. But do it in love. The world is full of strident and angry voices. Let yours be seasoned with grace.
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During Jesus’ day, leprosy was an awful disease that caused horrible deformities.
That’s why when Jesus healed ten lepers, they were thrilled. They probably rushed away to tell the exciting news to their family and friends. And yet, only one leper returned to give thanks to Jesus.
We’re quick to blame those nine lepers, but at times, we’re just as ungrateful. We may not have leprosy, but our Lord still helps and strengthens us in many ways. And he often uses people around us to accomplish His will.
So, when was the last time you said “Thanks” to someone who provided help or encouragement? Remember: The more grateful you are, the more you’ll see God’s goodness and grace in your life.
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Don’t you wish parenting boys was easy? Wouldn’t it be great if your son always listened carefully, obeyed immediately, and behaved perfectly?
The truth is—that’s rarely the case. When your son tests your patience for the hundredth time in a day, take a deep breath and remember our Savior’s example. When the Pharisees tried to trick him, He responded calmly. When the Jews demanded that He be crucified, he asked God to forgive them.
Training boys takes time. It won’t happen overnight, but through patient and consistent parenting, you’ll see your son grow into a godly young man. And the more he changes spiritually within his heart, the more you’ll see positive change in his outward behavior.
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Ever wonder why your son can spot the elusive bad guy on his video game, but doesn’t seem to notice the dust collecting on his dresser?
Well, there’s actually a biological reason for that. When compared to girls, boys have more rods than cones in their eyes. This makes boys more sensitive to movement, and more likely to focus on things farther away.
The difference makes sense historically. Men have traditionally been hunters and protectors, needing to see danger from far away.
So while it’s good to make sure your son knows how to clean, don’t forget that he needs freedom to be a boy. Encourage him to play outside, bird watch, or try archery. His God-given instincts will thank you.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You’re at the park with your son and his best friend. A hundred feet away is a water fountain. Your son asks if he can go get a drink.
When you say yes, the two boys race to the water fountain. Your son’s friend yells triumphantly when he gets there first.
Isn’t it funny how little boys often try to make everything a competition? As a parent, use that fact to keep your son engaged!
Whenever you can, add healthy risk to everyday life. Encourage your son to try a new activity, like the bigger slide at the playground, or volunteering at the animal shelter. You can even make completing chores or homework a friendly competition between siblings.
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For years, a pair of sunglasses determined my worth.
When I was in my twenties, I proudly made my first big purchase: a pair of Serengeti sunglasses.
But shortly after buying those sunglasses, I lost them.
It might sound silly, but that incident plagued me for decades. I told myself that I couldn’t be trusted and didn’t deserve nice things. I doubted my worth as a man and my ability to be a good dad.
It took years for me to realize that my worth is in Jesus Christ, and that my mistakes don’t determine my value.
Today, it’s your turn. Ask God to help you believe the truth about yourself. Your children– especially your son– need to see you living in freedom.
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What’s something that does not come naturally to you? Maybe public speaking makes you break out in a sweat, or you think running is torturous.
Now, how would you feel if you had to spend eight hours a day doing that very thing you are not good at?
That’s the reality for many boys. Boys are natural explorers. When they reach school age, they are expected to spend most of the day sitting. No wonder they often get in trouble for being antsy!
Outside of school hours, make sure your son gets plenty of opportunities to engage in healthy competition and risk-taking. Activities like archery, fishing, and yes, even tree-climbing, are great places to start. Let your boy be a boy!
To find out more about raising boys to become healthy, godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Bible is full of men who ruined their own lives.
Moses was full of self-doubt and had an anger problem. Peter lied and said he didn’t know Jesus. David betrayed and killed a man.
And yet, so many years later, we still remember those men not for the mistakes they made, but for being leaders in the faith.
Kids today, especially boys, are desperately in need of positive mentors. You probably think that you are too flawed or not godly enough to be a good role model. But what if God can use you despite– or even because of– your mistakes?
Think and pray today about a young man in your life who would benefit from some quality time with you.
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Have you heard about Generation Z? No, it’s not a new boy band. It’s a label applied to those born between 1997 and 2012.
Many people look at today’s Generation Z as media-obsessed teenagers who are lazy, cynical, and unambitious. But this stereotyping fails to reveal the clever, creative, and compassionate way these teens are influencing their communities.
Many times, they simply haven’t been inspired to set goals and achieve their dreams. Sometimes they simply haven’t had good role models to push them forward.
Are you inspiring your son to achieve worthwhile goals?
While it’s commendable to be a success in sports and academics, it’s even more important that your son follow the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind.
For more encouragement, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you like to run? Most people don’t. To excel, the sport requires training, endurance, and determination.
In some ways, parenting is a lot like running a race. But the parenting race is more similar to a marathon than a sprint.
When our boys are young, it feels like we’re providing constant instruction and correction. We wonder, “Will this ever end?”
But before you know it, you’ve rounded the corner and face the teen years. You encounter new hurdles, attitudes, and challenges, weariness, discouragement.
Regardless of where you’re at in the parenting race, don’t quit! Because the Lord entrusted you with training your son, He will provide the strength to victoriously finish the race!
For help and encouragement along the way, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When’s the last time you went on a scavenger hunt?
Well, you know, they are making a comeback. Teenagers, especially, like the competitive aspect of searching for and finding a bunch of weird objects . . . all in the fastest time possible.
Searching for plastic flamingos is hilarious, but don’t forget to teach your son about the importance of searching for wisdom in God’s Word.
More than ever, today’s secular culture tells boys that life is all about fun and pleasure.
The Bible has a different perspective. It tells us that our ultimate goal is to worship the Lord and to serve Him.
Sounds easy enough . . . but it isn’t. That’s why it’s vital that we daily search the Scriptures for wisdom and instruction.
Help boys find wisdom along life’s journey. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You know, the U.S. Census Bureau reports that only 18% of American homes consist of a mother, father, and child. That’s an incredibly sad statistic.
It means that kids in over 100 million households don’t have the loving influence of either a mother or a father.
More often than not, the father is the one missing from the home. This leaves boys without a role model and without a father’s guidance and correction.
Whether or not your son has the benefit of godly influences within the home, it’s important to provide him qualified mentorship.
The more your son sees how a man of character acts, talks, and serves, the more he’ll want those same biblical values in his own life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Boys love football. Flag football is fun, but tackle football is an even bigger rush.
Quarterbacks and wide receivers get a lot of the glory, but football coaches are quick to point out that it takes an entire team to win a football game.
The same is true in parenting your son.
As a parent, you are certainly the most influential person in his life. But his teachers, athletic coaches, and friends also influence his thoughts and actions.
The question is: Are they influencing him to do right? Are they helping him to love the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind?
If you need some extra teammates to help support you in the game, check out Trail Life USA. where qualified mentors are helping boys learn character, adventure, and leadership.
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Growing up, I never heard my dad say he was proud of me. It’s just something his generation didn’t do.
One day, when I was in my twenties, I was astonished when, from the pulpit, my dad mentioned how proud he was of me.
Six months later, he passed away. I’m so thankful I heard those life-giving words directly from him. But I realize now that I need to lean on my Heavenly Father to help me overcome my deep insecurities.
Don’t forget to give your son verbal affirmation. But more importantly, make sure you tell him about the only One who can affirm him deep in his soul– Jesus Christ.
For more help to raise boys into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
There’s a horrible plague sweeping across America. But it’s probably not the one you are thinking of.
This plague is attacking boys’ minds and destroying their ability to live healthy and productive lives.
What is this plague?
It’s the disease of entitlement.
More than ever, boys feel entitled to possessions and entertainment.
The tragedy of this mindset is that boys fail to understand that happiness isn’t found in the latest digital gadget or trendy amusement.
Don’t let the plague of entitlement infect your son. Teach him the value of hard work and contentment.
By investing time and attention in your son’s mental, social, and spiritual development, you’re setting him up for a healthy and successful life.
Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Kids live in a digital world.
Reliable research tells us that kids ages 8 to 12 spend an average of 4 to 8 hours a day staring at phones, TVs, and other devices.
The question is: What are they watching all those hours? Sure, some of it may be harmless. But much of what kids see online is sensual, crude, and violent.
Boys are especially influenced by what they see.
As a parent, it’s your responsibility to set limits on your son’s screen time. Make sure you also add filtering software to block out inappropriate material.
The best way to help your son succeed in life is by teaching him to turn his eyes upon Jesus. Doing this will help him guard his heart and mind.
Parenting isn’t easy. Fortunately, there’s help. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
If you see someone having a heart attack, you call 911. If a water pipe breaks in your bathroom, you call a plumber.
But when your son won’t listen to you or when your son blatantly disobeys, what do you do?
Too often, we complain or vent our frustration to a friend. Or perhaps we think of a solution and take immediate steps to solve the problem.
But if you are wise, your first course of action should be to seek the Lord’s guidance in prayer. By bringing your worries, frustrations, and struggles to the Lord, He can provide you strength and help in time of need.
So when those parenting challenges come, seek Him, and He will direct your path.
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On his first day of preschool my son peered into the classroom and said, “Dad, I don’t want to go in there.”
I dropped to one knee in front of him and put my hand on his shoulder. Meeting him eye-to-eye, I reminded him about the first time he had ridden a pony. At first, he had been scared of the horse. But he faced his fear, and had been so glad that he did.
With that memory in mind, my son walked confidently into the preschool classroom.
When your son is filled with insecurity, it’s time to get on his level. Eye to eye, physical touch, focused attention. Replace the fearful thoughts in his mind with reminders of how he is already the brave man that he needs to be.
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The average American consumes 90 bananas, 16 apples, and 122 strawberries per year. Those fruits are packed with vitamins and minerals.
This nutrition is vital for growing boys . . . who prefer to gobble down pizza, hamburgers, and cookies.
But even more important than physical fruit is spiritual fruit.
Galatians 5:22-23 says that the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These characteristics are essential in helping your son grow in stature and wisdom.
Are you helping your son develop these characteristics? Take time to talk with him about how these fruits of the spirit are displayed in real life.
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You’ve probably never flown an airplane before, but your son might have. Well, not a real airplane, but possibly a Boeing 737 on a video game flight simulator.
When flying, a pilot must rely on his instrument panel to provide him accurate information about airspeed, altitude, and direction. Without this information, the pilot puts himself and his passengers at risk, especially when flying through turbulence and bad weather.
Parenting your son also requires you to rely on important information for a successful journey. This information is found in the Bible.
It’s there that God provides wisdom about how your son can develop a solid foundation for life—even during the turbulence of his teen years.
By studying God’s Word with your son, you’ll both soar high through life. To help you along the way, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
If you step outside tonight and gaze into the night sky, you might notice Sirius [sirēus]—the brightest star visible from earth. Even though it’s located over 50 trillion miles away, it still shines brightly in the darkness of space.
Your son can also shine brightly in today’s dark world. Teach him to honor the Lord by doing what is right.
By training your son to love God and obey His Word, your son can shine for Jesus and point his friends to the ultimate Light of the world.
And being a witness for the Lord Jesus . . . is a really bright idea!
For resources to help you guide and inspire your son along the pathway of life, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
An elephant can carry seven tons of weight, but all it takes to restrain it is a flimsy rope. Why?
When a baby elephant is in captivity, a chain is tied around its back leg and attached to a stake in the ground. No matter how hard the baby elephant struggles, it cannot break the chain.
That memory is so strong that, when the elephant is fully grown and capable of breaking free, it believes it cannot.
Your son’s brain works the same way. You can help him fight his self-imposed limitations by challenging him to take risks. One way to do this is get him involved in outdoor activities, which naturally bring a chance for him to fail and to succeed well.
For more ideas on healthy ways to challenge boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You grab your tackle box, tie on your favorite lure, and head to the shore for a relaxing day of fishing.
But, hours later, you haven’t had a single fish bite your line.
Parenting can feel like that sometimes. Especially when you are trying to communicate with boys.
When it doesn’t seem like your son is listening, it’s time to adjust your approach, time to connect with him. Put your phone down. Give him your focused attention, eye to eye contact. Initiate physical touch.
But even if he still doesn’t seem to hear you, don’t lose heart. After all, the most rewarding fish to catch is the one you catch after a day of no bites.
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Your son probably thinks Valentine’s Day is silly. But it’s actually much more important than he realizes.
When your boy sees you buy your wife flowers, or dress up for a date with your husband, you are sending several important messages.
First, you are showing your son that you have a healthy marriage– something that psychologists say is crucial for a child’s well being. Boys who are raised by married parents do better in school and are even more likely to be physically healthier. Secondly, you are setting a crucial example for your son about relating to women in a respectful and loving way– which will help him in future relationships.
So go ahead– splurge on a gift for your spouse this Valentine’s Day. Loving your spouse is loving your son, too.
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31 donuts. That’s the average number an American eats in a year. Some eat fewer, but boys probably eat MORE than their fair share.
Talking about donuts, have you ever wondered why there’s a hole in the middle? Because donuts are fried in oil, the hole allows the dough to cook evenly, without the outside becoming burnt and the inside remaining doughy.
In addition to being a tasty treat, the donut is a good reminder. Don’t leave a hole in your son’s training. Education is certainly important, but don’t leave a hole in his social, emotional, and spiritual development.
Here’s an idea: take your son to a local donut shop to share some sugary yummy-ness. While there, have a heart-to-heart talk with your son. Listen as he talks about what’s going on at school. Then share some advice—and pray for him.
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Most 3 or 4 year olds will cling tightly to you in the swimming pool. To them, the water looks incredibly deep and scary. But as they take swimming lessons and learn how to tread water, they gain confidence to splash, swim, and dive.
As your son continues to grow, don’t let him flounder and sink in other areas of life. Peer pressure and temptation are heavy weights that threaten to drown him in confusion and sin. Teach your son how to avoid these weights by pursuing friendships and activities that are true, honest, and pure.
Remember, your son needs to be guided and inspired. Help him thrive by preparing him for life’s journey.
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Boys like toys. Frisbees and basketballs are inexpensive. But other toys, like electric scooters or remote-controlled drones, can cost a lot.
When your son asks for a toy, do you always buy it for him? While toys can certainly help kids grow physically and mentally, there’s value in having your son work for the extra things he wants.
Younger kids can complete extra chores. Teenage boys should be given even greater responsibility. This might mean mowing lawns, washing cars, or getting a part-time job.
As you help your son understand the value of hard work and how it relates to money, you’re preparing him to succeed in life.
And that’s a job well done.
For practical resources to help you guide your son as he transitions into a young man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com
Have you ever lost your car keys? You’re not alone! Each year, over 20 million people lose their car keys or house keys.
Keys provide access to important belongings. But of all the keys out there in the world, the most important key is YOU. You are the key to your son’s growth and development.
Your son needs guidance as he matures into a young man. This is accomplished by helping him understand and apply God’s Word to his life. Additionally, he also needs to be challenged and inspired. This requires an investment of time and attention in his life. It also requires patience and lots of love.
Raising boys isn’t easy. Fortunately, you’re not alone. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
I’ve heard it said that this is the first generation being raised by Google.
It’s estimated that Google processes over 5 billion questions and searches each day!
That’s fine when it comes to knowing what temperature to bake a ham, or how to install a doorknob.
But when it comes to raising your son, don’t let Siri, or Alexa, or Google take charge.
Boys need to be guided through life. This begins by helping them develop a solid foundation in God’s Word. Additionally, boys thrive when they are appreciated, and when they are inspired to achieve success.
YouTube, Snapchat, and TikTok aren’t the places for boys to learn character, purpose, and leadership. Rather, YOU have the responsibility of guiding your son through life’s journey.
And that’s a fact you don’t need to Google.
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Have you ever noticed that boys love to run? They seem to be constantly dashing, darting, and scurrying around. And when they get older, they run even faster . . . which makes keeping up with them even more work.
Parenting is exhausting. In addition to school and church, there are sports practices, music lessons, and a whole bunch of other activities that take time and energy.
In the busyness of everyday life, it’s natural to feel tired and overwhelmed. But don’t let these emotions drag you down. Instead, take heart.
1 Chronicles 16:11 says,
“Seek the Lord and His strength; Seek His face evermore!”
What a great reminder that our help comes from the Lord.
So even when the parenting journey seems long—keep on keeping on!
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Have you ever met a boy who doesn’t love a treehouse!
But before a treehouse can be enjoyed, it must first be constructed. After design plans are created, 2 x 4’s are measured, cut, and nailed together. Plywood is added to the floor, walls, and roof. And, of course, don’t forget the top-secret door in the floor.
The building process isn’t only for treehouses. Parenting boys also requires careful planning and long-term construction.
The question is: Are you building character, purpose, and service into your son’s life? This requires instruction, correction, and lots of patience. But through it all, generous amounts of laughter and love make the building process worth it.
Building isn’t easy, but you aren’t alone in this parenting journey. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com to download resources that can help.
The cheetah is the fastest land animal on the planet. They can run up to 60 miles per hour. But, the cheetah doesn’t run fast just to show off. No! The cheetah runs fast to catch its prey. You see, the Thomson gazelle, the cheetah’s favorite prey, has been clocked at a speed of 40 miles per hour.
Boys enjoy competition. It’s part of their physical and psychological makeup. But ultimately, competition is not just an opportunity to impress others. It’s more than that … It's a matter of survival.
Boys need competition to help them grow into men … men who know how to supply the needs of their family … men who know how to face the challenges life will bring their way.
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With risk and competition disappearing from activities presented to boys, they are turning to the virtual worlds video games to find realms they can conquer and areas where they can excel.
The result of this virtual conquest is apathy, rebellion, or outright resistance to real-world challenge. What boys need most is Christian men of character, trained and equipped to lead them in a male-centric environment, where they are engaged in real-world challenge through activities like camping, hiking, and fishing.
In the outdoors, boys learn character and leadership in a practical hands-on manner that is naturally engaging, and find mentors, connect with other men, and find opportunities to achieve significant accomplishments.
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Boys love the battles in video games! But did you know an even more ruthless battle rages around your son?
Secular forces are battling for your son’s heart and mind. They want to distract him, tempt him, and destroy him by controlling his thoughts.
But the Bible provides clear instruction on how to battle the enemy. Romans 12:2 says, “do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
True transformation takes place best in relationships. As a Dad, you play a HUGE role in guiding your son along the pathway of life. Train him to win the battle for his mind.
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Did you ever jump on a trampoline? If so, you loved seeing how high you could leap into the air. But, inevitably, every time you soared upward, you eventually came back down.
As a Dad, you understand that parenthood also involves “highs” and “lows.” Maybe your son draws a picture that says, “I love my Dad!” Or perhaps he scores a goal on the soccer field.
The “highs” of parenthood are great. But “lows” can be a great opportunity to grow closer to your son, as you process where the challenging experiences of life can bring growth.
Even though parenting is hard, it’s a privilege to use the highs and the lows to help grow character in your son.
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Did you ever try to cut a 2 x 4 with a hacksaw? Or hammer a nail with a wrench? It just doesn’t work very well. Using the right tool makes all the difference in successfully completing a job.
When it comes to training boys, having the right tools and resources makes a big difference. God’s Word is our go-to resource. From it, we learn important truths and principles that guide us as we train our sons.
Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
In addition to God’s Word, there are other resources that will help you grow boys into godly men. Check out these practical tools at Trail Life USA or at RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Prison is a hard place.
But the pain of prison extends beyond concrete walls and barbed wire fences.
According to Prison Fellowship, over 1.5 million kids have an incarcerated parent. Around 92% of them are fathers.
That’s a sad statistic. It means that hundreds of thousands of boys are growing up without a dad. All boys need a proper role model to guide, encourage, and love them.
Break the cycle. Be active in your son’s life or be “dad-like” in an organization that serves boys who don’t have the influence of a godly father. In this way, you demonstrate that God’s Word contains truth and guidance on how to navigate the pathway of life.
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If you’ve ever been to a circus, you’ve seen clowns juggling balls and clubs. Juggling may look simple enough, but it’s actually a lot harder than it looks.
Parenting boys is also harder than expected. You’re trying to juggle multiple schedules, manage conflicts, and adapt to various personalities. And many times, you hardly have enough time to deal with one issue before another one comes flying at you.
Fortunately, you don’t have to be a clown to successfully juggle the requirements of being a Dad. Simply begin with love, toss in compassion, and throw in a bunch of fun. As you do this, your son will appreciate you more than you’ll ever know.
Invest time and attention in your kids. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping dads grow closer to their sons. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for more information.
Have you ever heard your son say, “I’m bored”?
If so, you’re not alone.
These days, boys stay inside the house watching their digital devices for way too many hours a day. In fact, according to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, kids spend an average of 4 to 6 hours a day playing video games and watching TV.
Do your boys a favor by introducing them to the great outdoors. As you explore the woods together, you’ll develop memories that will last a lifetime.
And guess what? Before you know it, those cries of “I’m bored” will fade away.
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Sometimeshttps://www.traillifeusa.com/raisinggodlyboys, the routines of life can make us feel as if we’re running on a hamster wheel.
If you had a pet hamster, you know that they love running. Give a hamster a hamster wheel, and they’ll run on it day after day after day.
While there’s certainly value in developing life routines, it’s vitally important that boys experience times of adventure beyond the norms of life. Their minds and bodies crave action and excitement! They need physical and mental challenges that motivate them to work hard and help them grow into godly men.
One of the best places to help boys grow and have fun is in the great outdoors. Leave the hamster wheel behind. Try hiking or having fun at an archery range.
These adventurous experiences will not soon be forgotten . . . For more ideas on outdoor activities, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A battle rages—and boys are on the front lines. They are daily bombarded by anti-Christian philosophies:
Relativism—disrupts truth and biblical morality,
Humanism—teaches that a person must depend on himself, not God, if this is true, then why do we even need God?
And evolution—teaches that we evolved by mere chance, the very existence of a loving Creator is ridiculed.
Don’t let these worldly philosophies destroy your son’s faith in Christ. Teach him to stand on the solid Word of God.
Training your son in today’s secular culture isn’t easy. It requires time and attention. Learn about a Proven Process that can help you accomplish this. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for free downloadable resources.
A reporter asked Thomas Edison, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
One of the greatest inventions of the 19th century was the lightbulb. But creating the lightbulb required lots of trial and error.
Failure is a part of life. In fact, it’s normal and natural. And even though no one likes to fail, it teaches us to do better and to strive harder as we reach for our goals.
Boys need a challenge. Even though trying something new may result in failure, that failure is helping them develop important character traits that are essential for future success.
Are you helping your boys learn from failure? Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for practical tips on how to help your boys grow into godly young men.
Have you ever walked across a rickety bridge and wondered if it could manage the weight?
If you are carrying something heavy that fear can be very real.
Carrying truth can be like that. Especially when you are carrying truth to a boy.
Make sure the bridge -- your connection to that boy -- is strong enough to carry the weight of that truth.
The reality with boys, particularly teens, is that simply telling them the truth isn’t enough. You’ve got to have a connection -- a bridge -- strong enough to carry that truth for the truth to have its full impact, otherwise, you are just breaking bridges.
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Have you given your son any “tummy time” today?
“Tummy time” is a fairly new concept in the parenting world, in which parents of infants are encouraged to let their baby spend time on their stomach. Babies often protest and find it very uncomfortable. But without this valuable time, they will not strengthen critical muscles or eventually learn to crawl.
No matter your son’s age, he still needs one small challenge each day. This could be saying his own order at the restaurant, calling the vet to make an appointment for his dog, or completing a puzzle– anything that he would not normally choose to do himself. He may protest and find it uncomfortable, but it will strengthen his resilience muscle and build his self confidence.
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What’s the difference between being a smart parent and an overprotective parent?
It’s a hard balance to strike. But as Christians, we have a secret weapon that we often forget about: Prayer.
Every boy is different, and parenting strategies that work well with one boy can sometimes have disastrous results with another. But the one method that will always work is hitting our knees in prayer, asking God for wisdom, and surrendering our sons’ lives to God.
This doesn’t mean we will become perfect parents– or that we will always make the right decision. But the difference between an overprotective parent and a smart parent is simply parenting not out of fear and control– but out of faith and trust in God.
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It only takes a small mistake– such as incorrect hip placement– to send a novice rock climber on a painful slide back down the rock wall.
In the same way, there’s a small mistake you can make in disciplining your son that can cause you to lose ground with him: getting too emotional.
It can be difficult to not cry or raise your voice when addressing heavy topics with your boy. But as soon as you show emotion, two things will happen in your son’s brain– he will become distracted, and lose respect for you.
Instead, regulate your own emotions by taking a deep breath, and speak to your son in concise, calm statements. He will listen more closely, and be more likely to respond calmly in turn.
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If you could pick a superpower as a parent, what would it be? The ability to teleport your son to every sports practice instead of making the long drive?
Researchers have found that every parent has a “superpower” of sorts that can improve their relationship with their son, help him avoid perfectionism, and promote emotional health. It’s simply this: an apology.
There’s no need to make your apology emotional or turn it into a long monologue. But when you know you’ve messed up as a parent, sincerely and concisely tell your son “I’m sorry”. It will make him respect you more, and pave the way for him to learn the superpower of apologies in his own life.
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Who does your child really belong to?
I’ll give you a hint: It’s not you.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27
God is the creator and owner of everyone and everything. We are called to be his ambassador and steward everyone and everything he’s given to us.
Author Paul Tripp says it’s vital for us to understand that we have no independent, autonomous authority as a parent. God grants us the right and power to exercise authority.
As we strive to raise godly boys, do we have an owner or ambassador mentality?
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How are your arrows doing?
Psalm 127:4 says that children are like arrows in the hands of a warrior.
Nowadays, we can drive down to the local sporting goods store and pick up a package of fiberglass arrows. These arrows are used for sport and are almost always retrieved after being shot.
In Bible times, the warrior’s arrows most likely were built by him. The warrior knew that the battle would be lost if he did not prepare. Preparing for battle takes a lot of time and hard work.
It is not easy, but it is worth it. Your children are your arrows. The time that you have them in your care is a precious time to prepare them for battle. It takes hard work!
Take time today to see your boys as arrows that will be used in battle by the Lord to defeat the enemy.
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Can you point to a scar on your body? Perhaps, as a kid, you cut your arm when falling off your bike, or scraped a leg while climbing a tree.
Some boys think scars are cool because they tell an exciting story. But not all scars are visible.
Emotional scars often hurt more than physical wounds. When correcting your son, what kind of words are you using? Hateful speech can scar a boy’s spirit and enthusiasm. Even a person’s tone of voice can cause deep wounds that may not easily heal.
When correcting your son, ask the Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts and words as you train and instruct. By doing so, you’ll leave your son with valuable lessons instead of invisible scars.
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Here’s an interesting parenting twist on the golden rule.
Psychologist Dr. Joshua Straub suggests that, when it comes to your son, you replace the word “treat” with the word “understand.” So the golden rule then becomes “understand your son the way you want to be understood.”
Now, understanding your son may seem like an impossible task– especially if he’s a teenager! But here’s some ideas to start. When your son gets upset over something that seems unimportant to you, instead of saying “there’s nothing to be mad about,” put yourself in your son’s shoes. Most likely, there’s an underlying fear or insecurity behind your son’s anger.
Seek to understand. And in turn, your son may begin to understand your side, as well.
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Surfers don’t try to avoid the waves or control them– they learn to glide over them.
In the same way, family psychologist Dr. Joshua Straub has developed three steps to help your son “surf” over his emotions, instead of stuffing them down or using them to hurt others.
First, empathize with your boy’s feelings. Second, address the behavior. Explain the difference between healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with emotions. And third, problem solve together. Help your son come up with coping strategies, like walking his dog when he feels angry or reading at night when he feels anxious.
Remind your son that emotions are a normal part of life that will ebb and flow. As one professor said, “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”
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Johnny dropped his bat to the ground, embarrassed that he had just struck out again. But when he glanced at the crowd and saw his dad give him a reassuring nod and smile, he felt his shoulders relax.
It’s easy as a parent to feel like you’ve “struck out” with your son when you lose patience or make a mistake. When this happens, you may start thinking that you’re a terrible parent, or that you’re destined to repeat the mistakes of your own parents.
Instead of letting negative thoughts take over, turn to God. Repent. Ask your Heavenly Father for reassurance. And, as Numbers 6:26 says, “may the LORD turn his face towards you and give you peace.”
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Did you know that a recurve bow arrow can fly 2.5 times faster than a cheetah can run?
This type of arrow can reach speeds of 150 miles per hour, while the world’s fastest cheetah maxes out at about 60 miles per hour.
The Bible likens children to arrows.
Psalm 127:3-4 says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.”
As parents, we need to shape and mold these arrows into godly boys and then release them as godly men who will hit the target and make their mark in the world.
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Have you ever seen a boy bite into a lemon? If so, his face probably scrunched up into wrinkles because of the super sour taste.
You may have never bitten into a lemon, but in life, we all experience sour moments. Maybe your son loves basketball. But then, while making a simple layup, he sprains his ankle and can’t join the school team.
During times of unexpected frustration, help your son see through the pain and annoyance. Remind him that God is in control. By shifting our focus away from us and toward God, we gain a better perspective of His plan and purpose.
When life becomes sour, stir in the sweet realization that God knows best. By trusting in Him, you’ll transform life’s lemons into lesson-learning lemonade.
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Boys love fireworks!
There’s just something about a monstrous Bang!—Boom!—and Blast! that shakes the air and excites the heart.
As the sky vibrates with fiery explosions, fingers tingle with excitement, and fountains of sparkling light shine down on smiling faces.
But guess what lasts even longer than firecrackers and bottle rockets? Memories do!
Have fun with your son as you ring in the New Year together. As you show interest in him, he’ll be more likely to seek your help when peer pressure and temptation come his way.
Boys desperately need a father figure who can be a godly mentor and guide to them. Be that figure in your son’s life.
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As January 1st approaches, do you plan to make any New Year’s resolutions? About 32% of Americans do. Here are the top 3 resolutions they make:
Get More Exercise
Lose Weight
Save Money
Even though these are commendable resolutions, there’s something even more important that we should strive toward. That’s loving the Lord our God with all our heart and soul and mind.
Of course, that’s easier said than done. But guess what? As God transforms your heart and mind, He will transform your relationships, too.
Don’t let the busyness of life distract you from investing time and attention in your kids. Don’t look back on these important years with regret. Instead, commit to being the best Mom or Dad you can be.
Remember, you’re not alone in this parenting journey. For help and encouragement, visit TrailLifeUSA.com/raisinggodlyboys.
Boys love statistics—the crazier the better! For instance, did you know that the average American eats around 23 pounds of ice cream a year? Talk about brain freeze!
Here’s another statistic: Each year contains almost 9,000 hours! That’s a HUGE number. But do you know how YOU spent your time throughout this past year?
How many hours did you stare at your phone?
How many hours did you spend with your son?
As the New Year approaches, be intentional with how you invest your time in your son’s life.
Speaking of ice cream, here’s a simple idea. Hop in the car and visit a nearby ice cream shop. As you share a bunch of smiles and laughs, you’ll create memories that will last a lifetime.
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Around 7,000 languages are spoken throughout the world.
But to communicate with your son, you don’t have to be a linguistic expert. In fact, you don’t even have to be bilingual. All you need is a desire to spend quality time with your son.
This language of love is demonstrated through action. Play catch with your son. Go fishing together. Visit a National Park and explore God’s creation.
By spending time with your son, you speak to both his heart and mind. And show him through action that you care for him.
When your son knows you love him, he’ll be more likely to listen when you provide correction and instruction. You’re helping him grow into a godly young man.
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Boys love to wrestle. They love testing their skill and strength against other kids. As they compete, they experience the thrill of victory . . . and—sometimes—the agony of defeat.
Victory isn’t guaranteed—but that’s okay. Boys compete for more than just a ribbon. They love the challenge and excitement competition brings.
Boys desperately need this. Too often the only thing they wrestle . . . is boredom. They sit on the couch and stare at their phones. This isn’t physically, mentally, or spiritually healthy.
Instead, boys grow by being challenged. And as they compete, they develop important character traits needed for future success.
Are you providing healthy challenges for your son? The great outdoors is an excellent place to start. Visit TrailLifeUSA.com/raisinggodlyboys for activities you and your son can enjoy together.
Nearly 2,000 years ago, an angel appeared to shepherds outside of Bethlehem. That angel declared, “I bring you good tidings of great joy, which will be to all people.”
Those “good tidings” are still great news to us today. That news is that Jesus Christ is Lord.
With Christmas in full swing, now is the perfect time to teach your kids that this festive season is about much more than presents. Use caroling to sing about the Gospel message. Or bake some cookies and share them with your neighbors. Write Christmas cards of encouragement to elderly couples in your church.
As you share the Joy of the world with those around you, you teach your kids that Jesus brings help, hope, and healing to a hurting world.
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When you were a kid, what was the best present you ever received? Was it a toy train? Maybe a bike, or perhaps a remote-controlled car.
As a Christian, you now understand that the greatest of all presents wasn’t bought at a shopping mall or even on Amazon.com.
When God sent His one-and-only Son to earth, He gave us the greatest of all gifts. Because of our Savior’s sacrifice, we can be redeemed by the blood of the Lamb.
Don’t let your kids get so captivated by physical presents that they forget about the reason for the season.
As you teach your kids about the Lord Jesus, consider using fun and practical resources that guide them in the way they should go. Visit TrailLifeUSA.com/raisinggodlyboys for more information.
In Charles Dickens’s classic book, A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge hates Christmas. Whenever someone wishes him “Merry Christmas,” he responds by saying, “Bah! Humbug!”
But after a visit by the ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Future, Scrooge realizes that a selfish life is a wasted life.
This is a great reminder to make the most of the present. By “present,” I’m not talking about wrapped gifts, but about being intentional in how we use our days and hours.
By adding fun and laughter to everyday activities with your family, you transform the ordinary into something extraordinary.
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When you wrap a present, does the final package look like an explosion of paper—or like a decorative piece of artwork?
No matter what the packaging looks like, don’t get so wrapped up in the busyness of the Christmas season that you forget what’s truly important.
As we celebrate Christ’s birth, honor Him by being the father God wants you to be. That involves spending time with your son.
Here’s an idea: Push the living room furniture aside and have a wrestling match. Boys LOVE that! Then afterward, share some hot chocolate and a bunch of laughs.
You may not be very good at wrapping Christmas presents, but you can certainly wrap your arms around your son and give him a giant bear hug.
Invest time and attention in your son. Learn about a Proven Process that’s helping boys grow into godly men. Learn more by visiting TrailLifeUSA.com/raisinggodlyboys.
The Christmas season is busy!
There are presents to buy, desserts to bake, Christmas lights to untangle, greeting cards to write, stocking stuffers to find, trees to decorate, performances to attend . . . and so much more!
As you know, Christmas is a BUSY time!
Yet, amid all that busyness, don’t forget the real reason we celebrate Christmas.
Some 2,000 years ago, God demonstrated His love to us by sending His one-and-only Son to earth. That was the start of something incredible . . . the start of God’s redemptive plan for mankind.
Continue the tradition of demonstrating love through action. Show your kids that you love them by spending quality time together. Go ice skating. Decorate a gingerbread house. Go caroling together.
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When your kids stress you out, don’t you wish there was a parenting 911 phone number? You know, a phone number you could call for emergency help in dealing with bad attitudes and rebellious behavior.
Although there isn’t a parenting 911 phone number, there’s something even better, faster, and more effective. Whenever the parenting journey feels overwhelming, ask God for help. Jeremiah 33:3 provides a wonderful promise. It says, “Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things.”
Before you pull out your hair or text a co-worker for advice, make sure you ask the Lord to guide your thoughts, words, and actions. By remaining calm during parenting emergencies, you’ll experience peace even during those stressful moments of life.
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What’s the hardest part of playing baseball?
For most people, it’s timing your swing when a baseball comes flying at you. But when you swing the bat and connect solidly with the ball, you just might earn yourself a home run.
As a parent, you want your son to succeed in life. But before he’ll take your guidance and instruction to heart, you first need to connect with him on an emotional level. And that connection doesn’t happen by accident. It takes practice, timing, and a whole lot of patience.
So, when was the last time you spent one-on-one time with your son?
By investing time and attention in him, you’ll create a strong connection that will help him score a home run in life.
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Did you know that your feet contain around a quarter of all the bones in your body?
It’s true! Each foot contains 26 bones, 33 joints, and over 100 ligaments, tendons, and muscles.
From a medical standpoint, feet are amazing. But Romans 10:15 gives a different perspective. The verse says, “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel of peace.”
Sharing the gospel message with people is incredibly important. Show your son, through action, how to talk about Jesus. Then, if your son has accepted Christ as his Savior, teach him to share his own testimony. The more you and your son proclaim the gospel to others, the more you honor Christ through your lives.
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When out in the woods, accidents happen. A Trailman may sprain his ankle, or someone may brush up against poison ivy.
During these times, a first aid kit comes in handy. But don’t you wish parenting kids came with its own first aid kit?
If it did, it’d definitely include an ice pack to cool high tempers, bandages for wrapping hurt feelings, and ointment to sooth frustration away.
Optional accessories might include aspirin for headache relief during those teenage years, antiseptic wipes to disinfect against worldly influences, and an emergency blanket for needed rest.
Even though you may not have a parenting first aid kit, you can still provide your son consistent comfort and care. A little time and attention goes a long way in healing hurt feelings.
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The world is a scary place. Hurricanes pound coastal cities. Riots burn businesses. And in war-torn countries, missiles destroy homes and separate families.
Are your kids scared of what is happening in today’s world? Are TV broadcasts, internet headlines, and YouTube videos making them fear the future?
Don’t let bad news destroy your children’s courage and steal their happiness.
Despite the turmoil around us, use these scary situations to point your kids to Christ. Remind them that in John 14:27, Jesus says, “My peace I give to you.” This verse goes on to say that Christians do not need to be troubled or afraid.
So, even though the world may not find peace, we can experience peace in knowing that God is in control.
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When scanning social media, do you find yourself becoming jealous? Do other families seem to have kids that are perfectly behaved, perfectly athletic, or perfectly talented?
It’s easy to see social-media posts and think those snapshots tell the whole story. They often don’t. That’s why it’s important to realize that God made each child uniquely different.
Even though your son may be a little clumsy or a little shy, God values him just as much as anyone else.
Don’t let social media steal your joy and contentment. Rejoice in the fact that your son is a work in progress that you have the privilege of guiding through life.
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Has your son experienced the death of a pet? What about the loss of a friend or a grandparent?
Death is a hard concept for young kids to understand. But even for children who are older, emotions can quickly spiral out of control. And without proper perspective of what this loss means and how to deal with grief, death’s grip can drag kids into anger, despair, and loneliness.
When death steals a loved one away, take time to answer your son’s questions. Remind him that even Jesus cried when his friend Lazarus died. But God promises to provide comfort and help. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart.”
Even though loss is inevitable, use grief as an opportunity for growth.
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Charles Spurgeon, a famous preacher from the 1800s, said, “Let no Christian parents fall into the delusion that Sunday School is intended to ease them of their personal duties.”
While church is a great place for your kids to learn biblical truths, they spend many more hours of the day at home. And it’s there that they should be learning about how Jesus influences all areas of our lives.
So, what kind of example are you providing? Your kids don’t expect perfection, but they want you to be genuine with your faith. If loving the Lord and his Word is a priority for you, your personal example will go a long way in helping your children to also love the Lord with all their heart, soul, and mind.
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When building an outdoor shelter, rope comes in handy. But do you know how to tie a square knot? What about a sheet bend knot or a bowline knot.
It takes time, practice, and patience to master these knots—but when you understand their purpose and how to make them, life becomes a little easier and a whole lot more fun.
The same is true in parenting. Raising boys can feel like a rope full of knots. There’s twisting and turning, looping and crossing. And if you rush the formation process, you’ll experience confusion and frustration.
That’s why spending quality time with your son is so important. As you focus on his needs, those knots in the parenting process transform into useful tools that serve important purposes.
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Do unanswered why questions frustrate you?
Perhaps your teenage son is obnoxiously rebellious. You wonder why God gave you a son that makes parenting so difficult? Or maybe there’s that nagging question about why your son has to suffer with a physical health condition.
Life is filled with questions we don’t know the answers to. But that doesn’t mean we give up or trust God any less.
In Isaiah 55:9, God says, “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways.”
God knows what he is doing even when we don’t understand it. Your responsibility is to exercise faith in his plan and purpose. By trusting in him, you’ll experience peace even during the unanswered why’s of life.
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What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? Perhaps you’ve run a race or climbed a mountain. Those are certainly incredible accomplishments. But forgiving someone can be one of the most difficult things to do.
That’s because forgiveness requires letting go of the hurt, anger, and bitterness you hold deep inside. And when you’ve been wronged by one of your own children, that pain stings even more.
During these times, shift your perspective. Colossians 3:13 is a reminder that you should forgive others because Jesus forgave you.
This doesn’t mean offering forgiveness will ever be easy, but it’ll always be the right thing to do. And when it comes to forgiving your own children, ask God for extra grace and help in time of need.
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Do you remember the first time your son jumped off the diving board at the local pool?
Before taking the plunge, he probably stood at the edge of the board—his knees wobbly and his face full of fear. Maybe he didn’t want to “jump,” but your cheers and hollers finally prompted him to take that timid step off the board and into the water.
After jumping off the diving board a dozen more times, your son soon learned that the board isn’t as high as it first looked.
Help your son see that the same is true in life. Many of life’s activities appear scary and intimidating. But courage is the ability to see beyond the fear. It’s taking the plunge to achieve a goal that previously looked impossible.
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Does your son understand the connection between cause and effect?
Basically, this is the idea of sowing and reaping, or the idea that actions have consequences.
If your son forgets to take out the trash or clean up his room, show him the results. The trash piles over and stinks. Maybe he steps on a toy and accidently breaks it.
By pointing out the principle of cause and effect in small matters, your son will learn that what he says and does has a direct effect on his life. And your action in teaching him this important truth will have a direct connection in helping him live a life that honors the Lord.
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What’s your favorite sport? Is it basketball? Maybe it’s football? What about track or tennis?
For C. T. Studd, his passion was cricket—a popular game played in England. As a professional cricket player, Studd shocked the sports world when he announced his decision to become a missionary to China.
He later said, “Only one life, ’twill soon be past, Only what’s done for Christ will last.”
What about you? Are you using your life in meaningful ways?
As a parent, one of your most important responsibilities is investing time and attention in your kids. As you guide them in studying the Bible and loving the Lord Jesus, you honor the Lord with your words and actions.
Make today count. Train your kids in the way they should go.
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Turkey anyone?
Most Americans celebrate Thanksgiving by enjoying a delicious feast. The menu usually includes things like green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, corn, dinner rolls, and cranberry sauce.
But the most iconic Thanksgiving food is turkey.
This Thanksgiving, after you’ve gobbled down your meal and two slices of pumpkin pie, don’t be a turkey! Even though you may be tempted to watch football all afternoon, don’t! Instead take a break to enjoy the outdoors with your son. Toss a ball in the back yard. Go for a bike ride. Or if there’s snow on the ground, build a snow fort.
Use the Thanksgiving season to show your son just how thankful you are for him. As you spend time together, you’ll create new traditions and make wonderful memories.
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Here’s a quiz question: The day after Thanksgiving is known as what?
If you answered, “Black Friday,” you’re absolutely right. That’s when many stores advertise incredible sales—and people willingly gobble up the savings.
Even though it’s nice to score a bargain, don’t let the commercialization of the holiday season distract you with all its gizmos and gadgets.
In Luke 12:15, Jesus reminds us that “one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.”
That’s a tough lesson for boys to understand, especially when other kids flaunt the newest video game system or stylish clothes. But by focusing your son’s attention on Christ and helping him realize that “things” don’t guarantee happiness, the attraction of new, sparkly toys will soon fade away.
Guide your son in becoming a godly man. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Who are your son’s heroes?
Many boys admire the superheroes they see in movies, or the athletes that make crowds jump to their feet in awe and wonder.
It’s one thing for boys to wish they could fly through the air or dunk a basketball
. But point out real-life superheroes that make our lives a better place.
People like police officers, firefighters, and military servicemen should be admired because of their selfless service in maintaining law and order and ensuring our safety.
When you see these men and women around, teach your son to show them respect. Encourage your son to shake hands with them and say thanks for all that they do. By demonstrating your own gratitude, you help your son understand that not all superheroes wear capes.
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When you ask a boy to do something, and he asks “why?” is your typical response: “Because I said so”?
If we want to raise godly boys, we must try to include the “why” behind the “what.”
As parents or mentors to boys, we should be more concerned with their heart transformation than behavior modification.
The best thing we can do is point boys to Scripture, which provides an unmoving foundation for character to be built upon.
Let’s remember Ephesians 6:4, which says, “Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
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Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase, “Grow up. Be a man!”
The rebuke is usually directed toward a boy who is being whiny or acting childish. But being a man involves much more than simply reaching a certain age.
1 Timothy 4:12 says, “Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
Becoming a man involves physical, mental, and spiritual growth. All three aspects are necessary in achieving a balanced lifestyle that honors the Lord.
So, how are you doing in helping your son in these areas?
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How about creating a regular meeting time with your son?
For years, every weekday morning, Pastor John Tyson and his son Nate would get up and do a devotional together. They called it their early morning meetings– and Tyson says it blessed both of them immensely.
You can adopt this practice with your own boy. Use your morning drive time to listen and discuss a Bible passage together. Or, choose a devotional book, and read it together each night before your son goes to bed.
Your son may not talk much during these meetings, especially at first. But I can promise you that God will bless your time together. All you have to do is show up.
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Ever wonder if your discipline and teaching is really resonating with your son?
Mandy, the mom of a defiant 2-year-old, had been diligently trying to teach her son to clean with a broom and dustpan. But even after lots of repetition, he didn’t seem to be learning it at all. One night, during a temper tantrum, her son threw food on the floor. Mandy couldn’t believe it when her son got a broom and dustpan and cleaned up his own mess.
Parenting your son is really just teaching him the same lesson hundreds– if not thousands– of times. It may seem like your boy isn’t getting it. But don’t lose heart. As Galatians 6:9 says, “you will be rewarded…if you don’t give up.”
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Your son can learn from your inconveniences.
Jack and his son were driving to football practice when they got a flat tire. By the time they had put on the spare, driven to the mechanic, and replaced the tire, Jack’s son had completely missed his practice. Jack felt bad– but he was grateful his son now knew how to handle a flat tire.
When you experience things like car trouble or house maintenance issues– make sure your son observes how you handle them. More than just learning the practical skills, he needs to see how you handle the challenges of life. So next time you experience an inconvenience– remember your son is learning from your every move.
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You don’t have to get it perfect. But you do have to get it right.
Raising a son can be one of the hardest experiences of your life. And it’s very easy to focus on all the ways you fall short. Although God never commands you to be a perfect parent– He does give some guidelines.
Ephesians says not to provoke your son. Proverbs reminds you to be diligent in discipline. Deuteronomy encourages you to regularly discuss Scripture with your boy. And of course, we should also pay close attention to the verses about doing all things with love and a gentle spirit.
On the days when you mess up, ask God for grace, ask your son for forgiveness, and keep moving forward. God will give you what you need.
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Are you raising a “man–ager”?
Pastor Jon Tyson coined this phrase, which describes a man who is physically an adult but still living like a child– playing video games all night, living with his parents, and not pursuing higher education or a stable career.
Pastor Tyson says that one of the biggest things that separates a boy from a man is the confidence to pursue hard things in life.
As your son grows up, be sure to allow him to face difficulties, even in situations when you could easily solve the situation yourself. Your goal is not to give your son an easy, pain-free life– but to give him the skills and confidence he needs to do difficult, worthwhile things, and contribute to society and God’s greater kingdom.
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“What if you could be a better husband, father, and man without the use of your legs or hands?”
That was the question that Chad Hymas [hi-miss]’s father asked him, as Chad lay in a hospital bed. He had suddenly become a quadrapaletic after a farming accident. His dad’s words sparked the hope that Chad needed– and today, years later, he is a devoted husband and dad and an inspiring speaker– despite his physical disabilities.
Everyone has limitations– your son included. As parents, it’s important that we help our sons identify and face those limitations head on, as Chad’s dad did. Remind him that being perfect is not God’s call for his life. He can glorify God not in spite of– but because of and through– his own weaknesses.
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Why are young boys seemingly always dirty?
As a father who has had young boys, it’s nearly impossible to keep them clean. But when it comes to spiritual things, how can we help our boys stay pure from the pull of this evil culture we live in?
Psalm 119:9 says, How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to Your Word. The Word of God will be the light for the path of your son. Living the Word and following the instructions God gives in His Word will preserve and protect your son.
The Bible also declares in Isaiah 55:11 that God’s Word does not return void. Every time to speak the Word, pray the Word, or have your son learn the Word, you are putting into motion God’s will for your child. His Word will not come back empty.
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What is a father’s most important role?
Is it providing? Is it Protecting, or teaching? I believe the most important role of a father is affirmation.
The word affirm means to state as fact. As fathers we are to declare to our children, especially our boys who they are and who God says they are. You can provide everything for your son and even teach him great things, but if you never tell him he is valuable and has a purpose, there will be a deficit in his life.
The father of lies that Jesus refers to in John 8 has been lying from the beginning. As fathers we can dispel those lies with truth.
Take time today to tell your son who he is and how special he is to you. Tell him you are proud of him and that you love him. Affirm him!
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Why are boys so wild and crazy?
If you’re a mom of boys but you never grew up with boys you may wonder why they act the way they do. Why they like to climb trees and wrestle. While they take sticks off the ground and act like they are guns. Why they are constantly dirty.
The fact is boys and girls are very different. God made boys to be adventurous and risktakers by nature. They like to explore and be wild.
Our culture has invented a term called toxic masculinity. This term seems to suppress the wild adventurous nature of men and boys.
We need to teach our boys right from wrong and the truth of God‘s word, but we need to let them be boys. Let them be wild and crazy, they’re boys!
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When the national anthem is sung or the pledge of allegiance recited, does your son stand and salute the flag?
Since 1777, the American flag has stood as a powerful symbol of American liberty and justice. The stars and stripes remind us of the sacrifice that many men and women gave so that we can enjoy this land of the free.
Teach your son the meaning of the flag’s colors. White signifies purity and innocence. Red indicates courage. And blue is a sign of perseverance and justice.
Even though the flag is a simple piece of nylon fabric, it represents the history, values, and strength of our great nation. Train your son to stand and salute the flag, and in this way honor our American heritage.
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Did you know that the human heart beats about 100,000 times a day, and the average heart will beat more than three billion times in its lifetime?
Many of the problems boys face today are heart-related — not physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
The heart of the matter is truly a matter of the heart!
As parents raising godly boys, we need to be careful to guard our hearts and help boys guard theirs.
King Solomon said it best in Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
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Can fear actually be a good thing?
According to the Scriptures there are two types of fear. The fear of the Lord and the spirit of fear
Proverbs says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. But in 2 Timothy 1:7 it says God has not given us a spirit of fear.
The fear of the Lord is that voice inside of us that tells us what we’re about to do may cause harm. It’s the feeling you get when you are too close to the edge of a cliff.
The spirit of fear is from the enemy and it breeds confusion, anxiety, and ultimately inaction. It keeps people from being able to step out into what God has called them to do.
Take some time today to teach your son the difference between the fear of the Lord and the spirit of fear.
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At sea level, water boils at 212 degrees Fahrenheit. But it probably doesn’t take that much heat to make your blood boil. Does your son pretend not to hear you? Is he repeatedly ignoring your instructions? Does he say sarcastic remarks that irritate you?
Parenting boys isn’t easy. The path toward maturity is often steep and bumpy—twisting and turning in unexpected ways. And because boys have a mind of their own, what they think is funny may actually be incredibly rude.
When you feel hot under the collar, take heart. Even though God never promised that the parenting journey would be easy, he promised to provide you help from day to day. And knowing that God is always faithful will help calm and cool your boiling blood.
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Have you ever been to a circus or zoo where animals perform tricks? Maybe you’ve seen a seal balance a bright red ball on its nose. Or maybe you’ve seen a monkey ride a tiny bicycle.
Training animals takes lots of work and patience. But even more difficult than taming animals is taming the tongue.
James 3:8 says, “But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.”
The tongue gets a lot of people in trouble. That’s why it’s important you train your son to guard his tongue. When he gets frustrated, provide tips on how to calm down. Help him understand that even small words can have big consequences. But also help your son realize that words can bring joy and happiness.
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What poisonous plant is easily identified by its “leaves of three”?
If you said poison ivy, you’re right! When you see its “leaves of three,” you immediately step back. That’s because nobody wants red, itchy skin covered in bumps and blisters.
In the great outdoors, it’s important to teach your son the hazards of poison ivy, but it’s even more important to teach him the hazards of sensuality. Today’s secular culture sexualizes women in movies, magazines, and the internet. For boys who want to guard their thoughts and do right, it’s a tough world out there.
Philippians 4:8 is an excellent reminder to point your son to that which is true, pure, and virtuous. In doing so, you’ll guide him away from the hazardous poisons that cause terrible pain.
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Have you ever heard the old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”?
Kids sometimes use the rhyming words as a comeback against insults. But the rhyme couldn’t be further from the truth.
Words do impact our thoughts and actions. That’s why 1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells us to “encourage one another and build one another up.”
When was the last time you wrapped an arm around your son and told him how proud you were of him? Or when did you last compliment him on a skill, talent, or accomplishment?
We all need encouragement in life. Set the example by using genuine words to build up your son. Those words may impact him more than you’ll ever know.
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Do you have a junk drawer at home? You know, a drawer where you keep odds and ends like buttons, batteries, and blue highlighters.
Even though small knick-knacks can seem like junk, those tiny objects suddenly become super important when you need them.
The same is true in life. At some point, your son may fail a test at school or miss a crucial pass at a football game. That’s when something as small as an encouraging word or a comforting hug becomes a big deal. Those small actions take just a few seconds, but their effect may last for days or even weeks.
So remember, even though an object or action may seem small, it can still hold super-sized value.
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When was the last time you looked up at the moon? It’s usually there in the night sky, but we don’t always pay attention to it.
And yet, the waxing and waning of moon phases is an important reminder that time is continually passing.
It’s one thing to ignore the moon, but whatever you do, don’t ignore your son. No matter how busy life becomes, remember to appreciate phases of growth in your son. Whether he’s an infant, toddler, preschooler, or teenager, enjoy each season of development. By intentionally investing your time and talents into your son, you’ll discover the joy of parenthood.
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Okay, let’s get serious for a moment. The fact is … belly buttons look kind of funny! Some stick out like a small marble. Others curve inward like a deep cave. Some are smooth—others super wrinkly.
No matter what your belly button looks like, it’s a reminder of how your mother nourished you through an umbilical cord while inside the womb.
As a dad, you weren’t joined to your son through an umbilical cord, but you still play a vital role in nurturing him physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
So how are you doing with this God-given responsibility? Are you helping your son grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord Jesus?
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Do you remember learning to ride a bike? For kids, it’s a BIG deal. But learning to ride a bike takes time—maybe even a few falls and scraped knees.
Perhaps you remember holding onto your son’s bike as he pedaled down the sidewalk. But little by little, you carefully released your grip. At first, just for a second. Then, as your son developed confidence, you let go entirely.
At that point, your son’s smile probably stretched from ear to ear. He’ll never forget that victorious moment—or the fact that you were there beside him, helping him along the way.
Regardless of what stage of life your son is in, learn to carefully release your grip so that your son can ride confidently into the future.
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Imagine this.
At a garage sale, you wipe the dust off an old genie lamp. Smoke pours out, then poof! A genie stands in front of you. He says, “You freed me from the bottle—I grant you one wish.”
You’re thrilled, but what will you ask for? A work promotion? A sports car? Tickets to the Superbowl?
In 1 Kings chapter 3, King Solomon asked the Lord for wisdom and discernment. And God granted his desire.
As a parent, make sure you also prioritize wisdom. You can do this by taking a few minutes each day to read a chapter of Proverbs with your son. Not only will you grow together in wisdom, but your son will see that the true source of all knowledge comes from God alone.
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Did you ever make a mud pie?
Maybe your son has. That’s where you mix water and dirt into a thick, gooey mixture. Then after slapping the mud into a hamburger-sized patty you decorate it with twigs and pebbles.
Boys still like getting dirty in the backyard. But at some point, it’s time to clean up.
As a parent, teach your son that there’s a time to be messy and dirty, but also a time to wash up and clean up. Be intentional in helping your son know how to bathe, brush his teeth, and comb his hair. Don’t just pick up his toys and dirty clothes, teach him to clean up after himself.
Through consistent instruction, you prepare your son to face daily activities with a clean slate and a clear conscience.
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Do you have unreasonable expectations?
As a parent, you love your son and want him to succeed at everything he does. You want him to earn the highest grades in class, score the most points at the game, and have the greatest artistic talent.
But unreasonable expectations can cause frustration—for both you and your son.
Even though it’s fine to motivate your son to achieve success, be careful that your high expectations don’t cause him to become discouraged, angry, and resentful. Ask the Lord to guide you in knowing how to motivate your son. Then, as long as your son is trying his best, be satisfied with the results.
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If you’re a mom or dad, you’ve probably lost your patience a time or two—or, more likely, dozens of times. That’s because training kids to get along with their siblings and behave appropriately takes lots of time and attention. It’s easy to grow frustrated at having to provide correction for the billionth time.
Even though frustration is a natural human emotion, losing your temper is never right. If, in a moment of anger, you did something or said something that wasn’t God-honoring . . . apologize. Saying sorry is incredibly hard, but your example will teach your son an important lesson about humility and forgiveness.
And get this: When you apologize, your son will actually grow in his love and respect for you.
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Do you ever use the smiley emoji while texting?
That emoji helped launch World Smile Day, which is celebrated the first Friday in October. On that day, people are encouraged to smile at people around them.
Fortunately, you don’t need an official holiday to smile. It’s something you can do every day. Of course, life doesn’t always run smoothly. Health issues, work conflicts, and financial concerns may catch you off guard. Or perhaps your son discourages a smile from you because he doesn’t like the rules you’ve set in place for his own good.
Despite life’s challenges, a simple smile can keep matters in proper perspective. Not only will a smile help lower your stress level, but it’ll also show your son that God’s grace provides lasting peace. And that’s certainly something you can smile about.
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You know that irritating song, “The wheels on the bus go round and round”?
Well, sometimes, the routines of parenting also feel like they just keep rolling along, day after day.
Wake up—get the kids ready for school—make breakfast—drive to work—finish work—help the kids with homework—and so on and so forth.
When the routines of life feel repetitive, introduce new ways to keep boredom at bay. In the car, play trivia games together. At the dinner table, tell funny stories about your childhood. Before bedtime, listen to an audiobook.
Even though life continues day after day, find ways to make the ordinary become extraordinary. Not only will this make life more fun for your kiddos, but for you as well.
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What is more effective– lecturing, or listening?
Cara decided that her son wouldn’t be allowed to have a TikTok account. Annoyed, he told her, “I’m the only kid in my class who doesn’t have one. Why don’t you let me have one?” Cara paused. “Well, why do you think I have this rule?”
“Well,” her son said. “I’ve heard about the TikTok challenges that are dangerous or illegal. So I guess I understand that part.”
Listening to her son’s points, instead of lecturing, led to a healthy discussion. Cara’s boy still wasn’t sure he agreed, but by the end of the talk he did understand the reasoning a little more. Plus, his critical thinking skills got a workout!
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What should you do if your son wants to quit?
Sam asked his dad if he could quit playing the cello. Sam’s dad was surprised since Sam had always loved playing, but was discouraged because none of his friends shared that passion. Instead of allowing him to quit, Sam’s dad encouraged him to keep playing, and he helped his son find some local music groups to play in.
Years later, as Sam accepted a music scholarship to a university, he turned to his dad. “Thank you for not letting me give up.”
Extracurriculars are something you’ll have to prayerfully consider as a parent. But if your son wants to quit something you know he usually enjoys, try helping him find a new side to his existing hobby. You’ll never regret encouraging him to persevere.
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Do you like it when seasons change?
If you’re a parent, you know what it’s like to be exhausted. That’s because each season of your son’s life requires huge amounts of time and energy.
You may feel like your baby will never sleep through the night, or your toddler will never get potty trained, or your teenager will never stop testing your patience.
When you feel overwhelmed, take heart. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season.”
There’s a season for learning how to ride a bike, for applying Band-aids, for starting school, for sports, and for so many other activities.
Take each season as it comes. By realizing that each stage of life will soon pass, you can focus on the joys of that season instead of its challenges.
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What developmental stage is your son in?
David Thomas, a family therapist, has divided a boy’s life into five stages.
Until age four, boys are in the “explorer” phase. When they turn five, they enter the “lover” stage. The third stage for our sons is ages nine through twelve– the “individual.” Next is stage four, the “wanderer.” And finally, there’s the “warrior” phrase– between age eighteen into the mid twenties.
When we as parents understand the phases our son is going through, it helps us develop realistic expectations for him. We also can give our son some grace. Remember that growing up can be difficult, and what he always needs most is a generous heap of love.
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Are you disciplining your son, or are you naming him?
Many parents are guilty of using phrases like this with our son: “You are so messy” or “You are so disrespectful to me.” But family therapist David Thomas reminds us that, to our boy, it may sound like we are “naming” him. And hearing those phrases can lead a boy to believe that he is simply a messy or disrespectful person.
Instead, David suggests reframing the situation by saying: “Son, I’ve noticed you’re stuck in a pattern of disrespect.” That way, it’s possible to address the negative behaviors, but we aren’t accidentally giving our son a “name” he may attach to his identity. He may behave badly, but his behavior doesn’t define who he is.
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Ever strike a match?
A single match—or even a single spark from flint and steel—can start a fire. And if provided with enough fuel, that small fire can quickly grow into a large and powerful force.
The same can be said for words. A simple word of encouragement could be the spark that encourages your son to accomplish incredible things.
If your son is struggling with school or sports or social activities, give him some tips and pointers in a kind and patient way. Then, when you see progress, say, “Awesome job,” and give him a high five.
That simple act of encouragement could be the spark that prompts your son to strive for even greater success. It’s amazing how small words of affirmation can lead to big results.
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Stuck in traffic? Use the time to teach your son a valuable lesson.
David felt his blood pressure rising one day while driving. He said to his son, “I’m getting really frustrated. How about we turn on some music so I can think about something else?”
A few days later, David’s son was working on some math homework. He looked at his dad and said, “Dad, I’m getting really frustrated with this homework. Can we turn on some music so I can think about something else?”
Our kids learn so much from observing our behavior. If you want to raise a son who knows how to regulate his emotions, the best thing you can do is model healthy ways to deal with frustration– even with small things, like traffic.
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He was told he’d never walk… but God had other plans.
When Glenn Cunningham was eight, his legs were burned badly in an accident. Doctors suggested amputation, but his parents didn’t allow it. Against all odds, Glenn started walking again, and eventually, running. Years later, Glenn broke the world record mile time, giving all the glory to God.
Just like Glenn’s experience, the world will put limits on our son’s hopes, dreams, and abilities. If your boy expresses an interest in a challenging or nontraditional career, such as a musician, artist, or actor, pray about it together and encourage him to pursue his passions. Through Christ, he truly can live out Glenn’s life verse–”Those who wait on the Lord…will run and not grow weary.”
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Want to give your son a boost of confidence? Try this.
Let him plan a fun activity for your family. This could be a day or weekend trip to a zoo, a baseball game, a water park, or a concert. Give him a budget, and help him research buying tickets, planning meals, and booking a hotel.
While on the trip, stay back and let your son take the lead with things like talking to the person at the ticket counter. When you return home, sit down with your son and evaluate the experience together, giving both positive feedback and constructive criticism. Your son will gain valuable skills, be challenged, and overall, get a boost of confidence that you’d trust him with such a big privilege.
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Does your son need his grandparents?
It’s true that there are many children who are raised without their grandparents who do just fine. But child development researchers have found that children who feel relationally close to a grandparent tend to show higher levels of kindness, better school performance, and a better attention span.
Of course, many times grandparent relationships can be complicated, and even full of hurt. If your relationship with your parents,or your spouses’ parents, is estranged, prayerfully consider reengaging. Working through conflict and showing forgiveness will not only be beneficial to you, but will also set an excellent example for your son. Everyone– you, your parents, and your son– will benefit from your son getting some quality grandparent time.
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Are you trying too hard with your son?
It’s been a long day, and you and your son are raking leaves. It’s rare that you have one-on-one time with your boy, so you feel pressure to start a conversation about something important– like grades, or friends, or God.
But fellow parent, the pressure is off. Just doing simple tasks together like yard work, building model airplanes, working on an old car, or riding bikes can be incredibly meaningful– not because of the words you say, but because of the time spent together.
Because it’s in those moments that your son not only feels your love– he realizes that you may even like him for who he is.
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Who will your son be in ten years?
In day-to-day parenting, it’s easy to get caught up in how our sons are acting today. Today, your son will throw a tantrum when you don’t let him buy a toy at the store. Today, he might not seem to pay attention when you read the Bible with him. Today, he’ll roll his eyes when you remind him to practice his violin.
But fellow parent– take heart. Your son will grow up. And when he does, he will begin to see that all along, although you took the time to guide him, you cared more about who he was than what he did. Today, ask God for the perspective you need to parent your boy for who he will be in the years to come.
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What if you let your son be the expert?
Your boy is surrounded by adults telling him what to do– buckle his seatbelt, pay attention in class, and be nice to his sister. While this guidance is necessary, it can be frustrating for him. So what if you took some time to let him teach you something?
If he’s little, let him take the lead when playing toy trucks. If he’s into video games, grab a controller and ask for a tutorial. You can even compliment him on something simple– such as the way he loads the dishwasher– and have him teach the skill to a younger sibling.
Your son will be delighted to share his expertise.
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Are you praising your boy’s effort, or his outcomes?
When Mitchell achieved something, such as winning a soccer game, or a high score on a test, his parents expressed a lot of excitement, lavishing praise on him. Inside, Mitchell began to ask himself, what if I didn’t win or get a good grade? Would my parents still love me?
What about you? Do you praise your son more for his good results than you do for a good effort or a great attitude?
Make a point to compliment him by saying things like “I noticed how you passed the ball at just the right moment.” This will help give your son confidence that he can focus on the things he can control, and surrender the results to God.
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There is a catch-22 of every boy’s life.
He craves independence and freedom. But he also still wants and needs the attention and approval of his parents.
Be sure to set aside some time each week for intentional time with your boy. Invite him on a hike or a fishing trip. Take him along when you need to go pick up something from work. Ask him to help you with a task, like staining the back deck.
This isn’t the time to pester your son with questions, or lecture him about behavior changes. Allow for comfortable silence, and just enjoy time together.
Your son may not seem like he appreciates it. But I guarantee you are making a memory with him– no catch-22 about it.
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Who’s your favorite superhero?
Boys love superhero movies—especially when characters like Superman and Thor travel to earth from distant space, fight the bad guys, and save humans from total annihilation.
These films capture our attention, but it’s important to remember that they’re fictional. If your son wants to talk about superheroes, mention the greatest superhero of all. Not only is Jesus all-powerful and all-knowing, but he also loves us beyond comprehension. That’s why He paid the punishment for our sin on the cross. And because He conquered death, He now offers us new life.
Superhero movies provide entertainment, but Jesus provides eternal life. Has your son accepted that free gift of salvation? If not, take time today to explain the Gospel message. It’s a message that’s more extraordinary than any blockbuster movie.
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Time is a curious thing.
You wish you had more time to enjoy life, but there never seems to be enough spare time to have a good time. That’s because time flies.
You rush to work, arriving just in the nick of time. Or when at the grocery store, you grumble because you’re losing time.
In the race to make the most of your time, don’t forget what’s truly important. Spend quality time with your son. He’s growing up super fast. Don’t squander your time by wasting time on less important things.
Remember, you can’t turn back the hands of time, so use it wisely.
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The tyranny of the checkout line.
If you’re a parent, you probably cringe whenever you have to wait in line at the grocery store.
That’s because young kids see the checkout aisle as a carnival of fun.
“Dad, can I have a candy bar?”
“Not today.”
“What about this racecar?”
“No. Put that back.”
“Why not?”
“Because I said so!”
It’s easy to grow frustrated when kids whine for stuff at the store. But use the occasion to teach your son important lessons about financial responsibility. There are many ways to accomplish this, but the ultimate goal is to help your son understand how to manage money and be a good
steward of what God has given you.
By training your son in the way he should go, even pennies begin making “sense.”
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Ready for some stats?
Statistics indicate that most people live at least 75 years. That life expectancy equals 900
months or 27,394 days.
But statistics are only an average. Some people live longer. Others shorter. Even though this is a sobering thought, Psalm 90:12 reminds us, “to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”
When we understand that life is short and unpredictable, we shift our focus from the
temporary to the eternal. And in doing so, we recognize the God-given responsibility of training our sons to become godly men.
Even though parenting is filled with challenges, be intentional in using your days wisely. As you commit yourself to this vital task, the Lord will provide you strength from day to day.
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Coffee’s on!
It’s Saturday morning. You had hoped to get some extra sleep, but your kids are already running around the house. As you drag yourself out of bed and pour yourself a cup of coffee, take a moment to consider this COFFEE acronym:
C stands for Christ. Draw closer to him!
O stands for opportunity. Parenting is a privilege, even when it tests your patience.
F stands for faith. Keep Christ first in all that you do.
F also stands for family. Stick by each other through thick and thin.
E stands for eternity. Teach your kiddos to set their affections on things above.
E also stands for energy. Trust God to provide you strength to keep on keeping on.
Now take a sip. Ahhh. Isn’t that good?
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How strong is your son?
When boys reach middle school, many of them take a sudden interest in how strong they are. They like to do things like arm wrestle with their dads or compete in push-up contests. Some boys even begin lifting weights to bulk up.
Strength training is a great way for boys to build muscle and endurance, but boys aren’t the only ones who need exercise.
As a dad, are you exercising your parenting skills? Are you intentionally strengthening your communication abilities? Guiding your son in becoming a godly man isn’t easy. That’s why it’s vital to study God’s Word for instruction. It’s also helpful to use trusted resources to point you to Christ.
By building up your parenting abilities, your relationship with your son will soon be stronger than ever.
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Where’s your WD-40?
When a door hinge squeaks or a bike chain becomes rusty, what do you spray on it? Probably WD-40. The spray lubricant works so well that around 80% of American households have a can somewhere in their garage.
But WD-40 wasn’t easy to create. Engineers developed dozens of mixtures until formula number 40 proved just right.
As parents, WD-40 helps us remember that good things take time to develop. It’s easy to grow frustrated when our sons don’t mature as quickly as we’d like. Maybe they squeak out excuses or are rusty at basic life skills.
Even though physical, mental, and spiritual growth takes time, God is faithful. Philippians 1:6 reminds us that “he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion.”
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Shortcuts. We all kind of like them.
As you drive around town, do you ever take a shortcut? Maybe there’s a light that stays red too long. Or perhaps a street that’s always packed with cars. In these cases, we like shortcuts that save us time and frustration.
That’s fine for driving, but in the parenting journey, there are no shortcuts. The process of training your son to become a godly man can’t be rushed. You may wish your son learned a skill faster or matured more quickly, but becoming annoyed won’t help. Instead, through patience and persistence, you can raise your son to love the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind.
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Music to your ears?
Ludwig van Beethoven is recognized as one of the greatest composers of all time. But did you know that he wrote five sonatas and his famous Ninth Symphony while completely deaf?
The secret to his success was his passion for music. That and a whole bunch of hard work and dedication.
As parents, we may not have the musical genius of Beethoven, but we can still create wonderful harmony within our homes. Begin by providing your son a consistent tempo of training, and a steady melody of encouragement. Add to that an upbeat rhythm of physical fun, and the vibrato of adventure.
The resulting chords of growth will prepare your son to perform his own creative solo. And in doing this, his life will be a lasting crescendo that brings glory to God.
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Got a minute?
Each day contains 1,440 minutes. That sounds like a huge number, but those minutes are quickly used up. On average, we sleep 408 minutes, work 500 minutes, and eat for 67 minutes each day. Getting ready in the morning, driving across town, and running errands devours even more time.
This leaves only a few hundred minutes available for actual free time. The question is: How are you spending those free minutes? If you’re like ordinary people, you spend it watching TV or surfing social media.
But instead of being ordinary, be extraordinary by investing your spare minutes into your kids. Take them camping. Ride bikes. Go bowling. The minutes you spend with your kids are quickly transformed into memories that last a lifetime.
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Is it time to focus?
If you have a magnifying glass, take it outside on a bright sunny day. Show your son how to raise or lower the lens until a beam of light focuses on a single point. With a steady hand and a little patience, that concentrated light becomes so intense that it can catch dry grass on fire.
Use this activity as an object lesson. Remind your son that if life ever becomes so busy that it begins crowding out his time with the Lord, he needs to refocus his attention. Sports and hobbies are a blast, but they should never consume all his energy.
By training your son to put the Lord first in all that he does, he will develop an intensity for life that will magnify God.
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Do you have a security camera?
Around 1 million American homes are burglarized every year. That’s why home video-camera systems are more popular than ever.
But wouldn’t it be great if you could as easily monitor your son’s activities when he’s away from home? That way you could make sure he isn’t being harassed by school bullies—or tempted to do wrong when hanging out with his buddies.
Even though you can’t monitor your kids 24/7, you can do something more effective. You can pray! Ask God to guard your son’s heart and mind as he sails through the treacherous waters of today’s culture. Ask God to help him stand for truth even when it isn’t easy.
Of course, providing your son training and instruction is also essential, but never forget the importance of prayer.
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Scared much?
The command to “fear not” is repeated throughout the Bible. Not just occasionally, but a total of around 150 times.
The repetition seems overblown, but God knew we needed the reminder. This is especially true when we consider the many secular influences that are trying to conquer the hearts and minds of our sons.
The war on gender, the ridicule of biblical teaching, the erosion of traditional values—the list goes on and on.
When the sinful ugliness of today’s world attacks your son, teach him to stand strong on the solid Word of God. By being an example to your son in word and deed, you can help him not only survive, but also thrive as he grows into a godly young man.
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Detour ahead!
As you drive down the highway, you’ll encounter many road signs. But one of the most annoying is the detour.
When our plans of traveling to our destination are hindered, we grow frustrated by the delay and inconvenience.
But detours don’t only happen on the highway. The parenting journey also has them. Perhaps you love football, but your son doesn’t. Maybe he likes to read, but you’d rather wrestle with him.
Whatever the detour to your original plans and expectations, take comfort in knowing that God is in control. That detour that you find so annoying and frustrating may be the very thing God uses to accomplish his will in the future. Above all, trust God’s guidance even when you cannot see where life’s road is taking you or your son.
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How do you talk to your son?
When Cynthia’s son was little, she frequently called him pet names, like “Bubs.” One day, when her son was twelve, he said “Please don’t call me that anymore.” Cynthia was surprised, but then later, she understood. Her son was becoming a man, and wanted to be treated as such.
Follow Cynthia’s lead– when your son becomes a preteen, drop any childlike nicknames and begin to refer to him as a young man, not a boy.
Pediatrician Dr. Meg Meeker also suggests using phrases such as “I like the way you think” and “You sure are a good brother.” Affirm who your son is, rather than what he does, and you will build him up even more than you realize.
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Here’s a parenting strategy to try with your son…try the “walk and talk.”
When you need to address a behavior or share some difficult news, it can be tempting to lecture your son. But if you sit him down, look him in the eye, and start talking, your boy will probably avert his eyes and lose focus.
Try this instead. Lace up your walking shoes, put the dog on its lead, and take your son for a long walk around your neighborhood. As you walk, calmly talk, with short and to-the-point sentences.
Psychologists have found that while women prefer face-to-face interaction, men actually listen much more effectively when they are doing a shoulder-to-shoulder activity.
So skip the lecture, and head outside. Your son will thank you.
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Does your son have a gremlin?
An author named Rick Carson created a metaphor out of the destructive creatures from the popular 80s movie. He suggests that negative thoughts are like gremlins– destroying our self esteem.
With the rates of depression continuing to rise for young men today, it’s safe to assume that our sons struggle with their own thought-gremlins. So what can we do to help them “tame the beast,” so to speak?
Proverbs 23:7 reminds us that, “as someone thinks within himself, so he is.” First, model positive self-talk. When you mess up, instead of saying, “I am dumb,” say, “I need to work on that.” And memorize scripture with your son that reminds him of his identity in Christ. Jeremiah 1:5 is a great place to start.
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Does your son need you?
When Christina’s son turned 12, he stopped talking and sharing things with her and, instead, went to his dad for advice. Christina wondered if she would ever feel close to her son again.
But moms like Christina don’t need to worry. This separation is not only common, but necessary. Teen boys focus all of their energies on watching their dad, or dad-like figures in their life, in order to see what it truly means to be a man.
If that healthy detachment from mom is successful, young men are very likely to return to their moms in young adulthood and re-establish a great relationship.
So moms, don’t be afraid to let go. In the teen years, your son needs to not need you.
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Have you tried this Scripture memory trick with your son?
Every boy has a different learning style– auditory, visual, kinesthetic, or reading and writing. You don’t have to know exactly what category your son falls into. The key is to simply use each learning style to memorize the verse together.
Listen to the verse through a Bible reading app. Look up the verse in a physical Bible. Make up simple hand motions for each word of the verse. Then, have your boy write out the verse each day. Don’t forget to memorize the reference, as well!
If you use this method consistently with your son, you should be able to memorize a verse a week together.
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Here’s a parenting tip: buy a mini fridge.
As your son enters his teenage years, he will begin to spend more time with his friends than with you. It’s a normal part of development. But there is something that can draw any teenage boy and his friends back to your home every single time– snacks!
Buy an inexpensive mini fridge and put it in a gathering area of your home, like a back deck or a basement. Stock it with snacks, waters, and sodas, and tell your son that it’s there for him and his friends.
It’s about more than just filling their stomachs. It’s about cultivating a place where your son is safe to fellowship with friends and navigate the challenges of the teen years.
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Maybe, all your son needs is a ladder.
Every day in school, Phillip, an 8-year-old, would rebelliously refuse to complete any assignments. One day, a teacher realized that Phillip had a passion for ladders and construction. A small ladder was located. Phillip began sitting on that ladder every day during school, and to everyone’s amazement, started learning and completing his assignments.
That ladder gave Phillip what every young boy craves– respect and autonomy. If your son is struggling with behavior issues, take the time to learn what he likes. Then, give him appropriate levels of freedom, such as letting him pick what chore he would like to do.
When your son feels like his thoughts and feelings matter, he will begin to be more successful in all areas of his life.
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Are you watering your son’s lawn?
In their famous book, called Boundaries, Dr. John Townsend and Henry Cloud give this analogy. When you don’t teach your teenage son responsibility, it’s like your son is your neighbor who doesn’t water his own lawn. But your sprinkler waters both your lawn and your boy’s lawn, so your son enjoys a green yard without any effort on his part.
Letting your son face natural consequences in life is crucial for his success as an adult. While it may be difficult to watch your son struggle due to bad choices, he will quickly learn that hard work brings not only success, but deep satisfaction. Let go, and give your son the skills he needs to keep his own lawn green.
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Let’s be honest– the behavior of teen boys can be baffling! But what if there’s a simple reason for their baffling behavior?
When your son is mean to his sister, irritable about his homework, and disrespectful to you, stop and ask yourself– is he just tired? He may be staying up too late playing video games, or getting up incredibly early for swim practice. Researchers have found that, when children don’t get enough sleep, they have shorter attention spans, worse grades, and bad attitudes.
Help your son out. Implement a family nighttime routine that involves turning off screens, taking a walk, and doing a quiet activity like reading. You may wake up to a much better-behaved teen in the morning.
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Dealing with emotions can be difficult … for all of us.
But for your young son, feeling frustrated, disappointed, or jealous can be all-consuming.
Here are some steps you can take to help your son work through his feelings.
First, find a list of emotion words online. Post that list on your fridge, and discuss what each word means. Second, draw a thermometer and talk to your son about different levels of anger, so he can notice when he starts to get angry and take steps to calm down. Third, always make sure your son gets plenty of physical activity, especially on the days when he seems the most emotional.
Learning to regulate emotions today will benefit your son for years to come.
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What if there are benefits to keeping your son busy?
Children and teens are spending more time in front of screens than ever before, and their mental and physical health is suffering for it. But instead of focusing on getting your son away from the screen, what about trying to keep him so busy he doesn’t have time for his phone or TV?
It may take lots of trial and error to find what your son likes. Some unique ideas include joining a robotics club, volunteering at a local radio station, helping at a horse stable, or even coaching a little league baseball team.
When your son does find what he enjoys, encourage him to pursue that with excellence. When it’s the right activity, busy is not always bad.
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“The kids are alright” was an iconic rock song by the Who. But unfortunately that phrase no longer rings true when it comes to young men in our society.
Boys today are struggling with rising rates of depression and anxiety, and underperforming girls at every academic level. The boys are “not alright.”
So what can we do? The key is to go back to the basics. Boys need less time sitting down in school. They need more freedom to run, explore, play, and take healthy risks. One way to do this is to declare a “no screens” day once a week. Use that day to fish, hike, or volunteer with your son. I can guarantee your day will be more than just “alright”-- and your son will be too.
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This parenting tip may surprise you.
When your son is struggling with anger, your instinct may be to address his behavior. But did you know that, in boys, anger is often just a mask for a much deeper issue?
Child development specialists have found that, in boys, slamming doors, yelling, or being mean to a sibling can actually be signs of intense anxiety.
When your son seems angry, consider what’s going on in his life. Is he struggling in school or sports, or going through a major life change?
If so, help him find healthier ways to cope. Encourage him to get exercise. Connect him with a positive male mentor from church. And memorize verses together about how God gives your son the courage he needs.
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Going to theme parks and ball games with the family isn’t cheap, and requires parents to say “No” to souvenirs, snacks, and other requests.
That’s okay. Boys need to learn moderation and the value of a buck.
But let’s say your son “gets it” and shows genuine appreciation. If you can swing it, next time – before you go through the gate – announce, “This is a splurge outing.” Budget some extra cash and let the family know you will try to say “Yes” to just about any request.
You may discover your son doesn’t abuse the privilege. His choices and purchases could be thoughtful and reasonable.
No matter what, your “splurge outing” can lead to healthy discussions about covetousness, God’s provision, and the source of true riches. For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Next time you’re at Wal-Mart or Hobby Lobby, spend about twenty bucks on a nice set of colored markers and a half dozen assorted poster boards. Then stash them in secret at home.
In the next year or so, your son is going to come to you as bedtime approaches with a look of terror on his face. “I need to make a poster for school that’s due tomorrow!”
You could say, “Too bad, too sad. Hope you learned a lesson.” You could race to the 24-hour drug store across town and pay triple for those supplies. Or you could magically produce them from your hidden stash!!
He’ll be grateful and amazed. And you’ll have that rare and wonderful feeling of being a hero to your son. For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Most of the time when your son messes up, he knows it. He has instant regrets. But it’s not easy to apologize.
Guilt, ego, and fear get in the way. He may feel unworthy of your love and forgiveness.
Consider the Prodigal son when he found himself broke, lonely, and even yearning for pig food. He was prepared to tell his father, “I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.”
But what did that dad do when he saw him a long way off? He ran to the boy!
Let’s do the same. When your son expresses sincere remorse, be eager to accept his apology. Maybe even throw him a party!
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When your son starts questioning why God sometimes doesn’t make sense, turn to Isaiah 55 and explain that God’s thoughts are “higher” than ours.
Then, if you can, pull a cross stitch or embroidery off the wall. Turn that tapestry over so your son sees the tangled zig-zag of knots and loose threads on the back. Explain how that’s “our view,” and that life does get messy. Then turn it over and reveal “God’s view.”
That heavenly perspective – one we cannot possibly have yet – reveals perfect order. God’s plan is in place.
Then point out how the beauty of creation God provides in our temporary home proves that we can trust Him for an even more beautiful place in eternity.
We help parents share God’s purpose and glory with their sons. To learn more, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The best way to stay one step ahead of the latest technology might be … to ask your son!
Whether he’s 9 or 19, there’s a good chance he knows more than you.
Do a bit of research about emerging technologies in gaming and networking and then ask your son about it. He may be eager to show off his tech knowledge.
Treat him as an authority. Tell him you feel out of the loop and say, “Can you help me?” then let him teach you.
By entering his world, you might identify stumbling blocks before they trip him up. You also may learn I.T. secrets you can use. Best of all, you’ll get new insight into that growing boy you love so much.
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Initially, a boy’s worldview comes from Mom and Dad.
Beginning around the age of 4 or 5—no matter what you have planned for his schooling—he will begin to learn things from other avenues. Cool, fun stuff. And maybe dangerous stuff.
Some is taught quite intentionally in textbooks and lesson plans. Other worldviews and attitudes come from friends, relatives, the kid down the street and the many screens he’ll come across in the decades to come.
From teachers, grandparents, and coaches, much of it will be good stuff! What a gift that is to your son!
But what about the bad stuff? As much as you would like, you can’t stop it all.
That’s why your son needs to develop his own personal faith and convictions. And that’s another reason to visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A comedy group once posted a fake commercial online for a device called “husband glasses.” When a wife put on the glasses, she no longer noticed the clutter in their home– but she could see a deer out of their window quite well.
That satire video points out an interesting truth. Starting from a very young age, boys and girls see the world quite differently. While girls focus on details, boys tend to be more skilled in noticing things that are far away– making them better hunters and protectors.
So, as a parent, be sure to put on your “son,” S-O-N, glasses. Give your son grace when he misses details. And encourage him to hone his visual strengths through outdoor activities— like archery or birdwatching.
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Sometimes a country music lyric just nails it.
In 1999, a unique song was released on country radio. It wasn’t about trucks or dirt roads– it was about the relationship between a loving stepfather and a stepson.
To everyone’s surprise, the song reached number one on the country charts. The key lyric, sang by artist Brad Paisley, reads: “I hope I’m at least half the dad that he didn’t have to be.”
You may not have a biological son. But every young man longs to be mentored, invested-in, and listened-to– not out of obligation, but simply out of love. Be prayerful about finding a boy in your church or your extended family who needs a dad-like figure to show him that he is worthy– just like the young man in that famous song.
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Henry David Thoroeau once said, “I go a-fishing and a-hunting every day, but omit the fish and the game, which are the least important part. I have learned to do without them.”
Even when our fishing lines are slack and our deer tags are unfulfilled, we men have been wired by our Creator to need challenge and adventure. And boys today are no exception.
Each week, help your son find a new activity to tackle. It doesn’t have to be hunting or fishing– it could be trying a complicated recipe, seeking out unique coins, or attending a class on weather watching. Trust me– the result won’t matter much to your boy. He needs adventure simply for the sake of adventure.
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You wouldn’t eat a raw potato, of course. But what if you chopped that potato up, and put it in hot oil for several minutes? You would have delicious, golden french fries.
As parents, we want our sons to have the happiest life possible, free of things that are risky or hurtful. We often wish we could take away every obstacle in our boy’s way so that he can accomplish all of his dreams.
But don’t be afraid to let your son fail, whether that means falling while trying a new skateboard trick, or not getting into the prestigious college he applied to. Just as hot oil changes a potato for good, difficult circumstances can transform your son into the person God created him to be.
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In 1962, the Soviet Union was winning the Space Race. To inspire the nation, President Kennedy announced, “We choose to go to the Moon.” He admitted that this wouldn’t be easy, but that we would succeed.
President Kennedy was right. Achievement is built on the backbone of hard work. But it’s competition that spurs us to even greater heights of progress. That’s why it’s unfortunate that today’s socialistic society tells parents that competition harms a boy’s self-esteem when they lose.
Even though losing isn’t fun, it’s by trudging through the valleys of loss that we can then enjoy the mountaintops of victory. By inspiring your son to conquer obstacles, he’ll develop the knowledge, skills, and fortitude to succeed in life.
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Boys love action and adventure. God made them that way. But in our quest to keep them safe, we discourage risk. The result is that boys don’t have an outlet to test their courage and physical abilities.
That’s one reason video games are so popular. Boys play them for hours, trying to conquer new levels and beat the competition.
But life is more than a video game. As parents, we need to help boys develop their strengths. This might be on the athletic field, through a hobby, or even in the great outdoors.
When your son achieves a goal, celebrate his success. By appreciating his gifts and abilities, you’ll help him develop confidence to reach the next milestone.
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Every night, you make sure your phone is plugged into its charger. If you forget, you know that your phone won’t last through the next day.
Your son is much the same way. If you don’t make sure his “battery” is charged at home, he will struggle to sit still and focus while he is at school.
Make sure your boy has plenty of opportunities each day to do fun and fulfilling things. Create an obstacle course for him in the backyard. Give him a bunch of cardboard boxes and help him build a fort. Take him for a long bike ride.
Chores and school are important, but let your boy be a boy. Then he will be “fully charged” to tackle life.
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The USS Gerald R. Ford is America’s newest aircraft carrier. It’s longer than 3 football fields and taller than a 24-story building. But when this massive ship needs to stay in place, it relies on a 30,000-pound anchor.
In life, your son doesn’t need a physical anchor, but he does need to be grounded in God’s Word. Today’s anti-Christian culture will try to make him believe that choices of morality, truth, and gender are defined by each person. But by being well grounded in Scripture, he can defend his faith and stand firm against the cultural currents of the day.
Hebrews 6:19 is an excellent reminder that Jesus is the “anchor of our soul.”
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A young man was on his first river rafting trip with a group of friends. As he paddled through the rapids, he glanced at the shore and was surprised to see his dad, waving and cheering the group on.
Later on, he saw his father again, standing on the shore, shouting encouragement. The boy realized that his dad was running along the shore and waiting at each section of rapids to cheer his son on. The boy couldn’t stop smiling.
As parents, we often feel like we are failing our sons. But our boys don’t need perfection. All they need is to know they are worth going the extra mile for. How can you show your son that kind of Christlike love today?
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Today’s boys seem busier than ever. They dart from one activity to another, and yet remain confused and unguided. Why is that?
Consider, for a moment, the Falcon 9 rocket. It launches astronauts into space at more than 17,000 miles per hour! But if the rocket doesn’t go the right direction, the mission is doomed.
That’s why guidance and navigation systems are so important. They keep the rocket steady as it soars toward its destination.
As a parent, are you providing your son the guidance he needs to grow emotionally, socially, and spiritually? By spending one-on-one time with him, you show him—through action—how to soar toward success.
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Anxiety is one of the most common mental health issues of boys today. But why are boys so afraid?
First, society has made a sport of putting men down. Many women think that in order to be empowered, they need to prove that men are beneath them.
Second, our enemy, Satan, knows that if boys believe they are weak and not needed, they will not accomplish God’s purpose for their lives.
As parents we must be counter-cultural. Find something positive to compliment your son on, and remind him of how valuable he is. Remind him of what God says in Isaiah 41:13- “For I am the Lord your God, who takes hold of your right hand, and says, do not fear.”
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It’s a tough world out there for boys. Research shows that they’re often unguided, ungrounded, unappreciated, and uninspired.
Part of the reason for this is that, in the name of progress, the value of manhood is being discounted. In fact, the term “toxic masculinity” is used to shame people into thinking that gender differences are bad. But they aren’t.
God designed boys and girls to be different from one another. Understanding this helps us realize that boys need male role models in their lives. It’s not enough just to be a dad. We need to demonstrate—through action—what a real man of courage, service, and leadership looks like. This begins by spending quality time with our sons. Are you doing this?
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How much have you thought about brains lately?
In a typical male brain, neural connections go from the front to the back, while in a female brain the processing goes side to side. Boys also have more gray matter than girls, and scientists think this is why boys often excel at subjects like math, while girls enjoy language and arts. And since your son’s prefrontal cortex is bigger, he is more likely to deal with emotions analytically.
But even if you understand the science of it all, your son’s behavior may still baffle you. When it does, say a prayer, and know that God created every neuron in your son’s mind. He will give you the wisdom you need.
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Does it ever seem like your son just doesn’t listen to you?
Well, you may actually be right.
Studies have found that boys are worse listeners than girls. Males only process information with one hemisphere of their brain. They also hear high frequency sounds– like a mom’s voice– at significantly lower decibels.
Here are some tips to help your son be a better listener. First, minimize distractions, like turning off the TV or phone. Secondly, speak in short sentences, and make your main point clear. Lastly, encourage your son to “overlearn.” This means teaching him a similar concept over and over again in different ways, even after he understands it.
And, of course, praying for patience and perseverance for yourself will not hurt, either.
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Batman struggles with being obsessive. Iroman has a problem with arrogance. And the Hulk…well, I think you can guess what his character flaw is.
We never say a superhero isn’t super just because they have issues. So why do we as men think we cannot be good mentors, just because we aren’t perfect?
Forty-three percent of boys today are raised by a single mom. Seventy-eight percent of teachers are female. So many young men have no examples in their life showing them what it means to be a man.
Take some time today for a young man in your life. Invite him on a hike or a fishing trip. You don’t have to be perfect. To that boy, you will be a superhero.
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Are you hanging on …too tightly?
In 1956, Jim Elliot was murdered by Indians in the jungles of Ecuador. Newspaper reporters wondered why this missionary would risk his life for uncivilized Indians. Though Jim Elliot died at only 28 years old, he had a proper perspective of life. He said, “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”
Too often, we hold tightly to possessions and activities that hold no eternal value. Don’t make the mistake of clinging to things of insignificance. Teach your kids through your example to give your time and talents to worthwhile causes. That may seem hard at first, but as you make God a daily priority, your possessions and activities will come into proper focus.
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In today’s society, we expect immediate results. When we try something new, we want instant success. But life doesn’t always work that way.
Sometimes life is hard and tough. Sometimes failure crashes over us like an avalanche. During these times, it’s easy to grow discouraged. Maybe even angry.
But if you are wise, you’ll use times of fatigue, frustration, and failure to teach your son important lessons about grit and determination. And guess what? The more your son sees you rely on God as you work through trials and challenges, the more he’ll understand that God provides the strength to continue on.
It’s great when failures transform into Immediate successes. But it’s even better when your son grows spiritually by seeing your faith in action over time.
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“Trust your instruments.” This mantra is repeated all through flight school. While flying, it’s easy to get disoriented visually, especially in thick fog. Pilots must learn to trust their gauges, not their vision.
Boys today are also “flying through fog,” so to speak. In the confusion of cultural relativism and gender fluidity, young men don’t know where they are or where they are going. So they often choose their own course, or refuse to move at all.
As parents, we must help our son gain a solid foundation and understanding of God’s Word. Involve your boy in organizations that are founded on Biblical truth. Help him find a positive, godly mentor. And encourage your boy to memorize Scripture– the only “instrument” that will never fail him.
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In 2010, a man named Forrest Fen buried treasure in the Rocky Mountains, and published a book with clues to its whereabouts. Thousands went searching for it. Four men even died during the hunt. Finally the box was found in 2020.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that most of the people who embarked on that search were male. From the time we are very young, boys love a good challenge. If young men are under-challenged, they will rebel, resist, or become apathetic. Others will turn to a virtual world they can conquer.
Today, be sure your son gets some real-life adventure. Not sure where to start? Tell him to put down his controller and get outside. Who knows– there may even be buried treasure in your backyard.
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In 1899, an inventor put batteries in a tube and created a portable electric light. There was only one problem– the light would only stay on for about three seconds. The device did not sell well, and people jokingly called it a “FLASH light.”
Today, of course, the flashlight is a household staple, with some models staying lit for at least 50 hours.
As the parent of a teenage boy, it’s easy to feel like that inventor. Your son may only behave or listen for brief “flashes” at a time. But let me encourage you–continue to be as consistent as you can with your discipline. It may be hard to believe, but someday, your boy will be a light.
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Godly-men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A college student accidentally solved an impossible math problem. George Dantzig arrived late to class to find his peers working silently on several math problems written on the chalkboard. George worked through the problems and turned his paper in.
Later, he learned that one of those problems wasn’t homework after all, but was an equation that mathematicians considered unsolvable. George solved the problem, simply because he didn’t know it was supposed to be impossible.
There’s a lesson here for us as parents of boys. In a society that’s increasingly negative towards men, let’s be positive about the dreams and aspirations our sons have, even if they seem a little far-fetched. Who knows what they can accomplish if they live by Luke 1:37- With God, nothing is impossible.
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Cultures all around the world have rituals to signify a boy becoming a man, and they range from straightforward to extreme. Some societies have young men go on a hunt. In one small country, a boy participates in a primitive form of bungee jumping. In another, he must successfully jump over a cow to prove his manhood. Others simply send their sons into the wilderness to survive.
Although those rituals sound bizarre to us here in the US, our boys still desperately need challenges to build their maturity and self-confidence.
One way to do that is to get your son outside! Activities like mountain climbing and archery are excellent opportunities for your son to gain life skills and feel like a true man.
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Do you remember the day your son took his first step? Perhaps he had already been standing for a few weeks while holding onto the couch. But at some point, he took a wobbly step toward your outstretched arms. You clapped and cheered and gave him a giant hug.
Learning to walk is a key milestone in a boy’s physical development. But learning to walk worthy is just as important for a boy’s spiritual development. If your son has accepted Christ as his personal Savior, teach him to honor the Lord through his words, thoughts, and actions.
Colossians 1:10 is an excellent verse for you and your son to memorize together. It reminds us to “walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him . . .”
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Boys love action and adventure. That’s why paddling a canoe across a lake or along a river is a time-tested way to exercise their minds and bodies.
But have you ever heard the phrase “Up a creek without a paddle”? It refers to being in a difficult or dangerous situation where you can’t get yourself out of the problem or predicament.
As your son grows up, don’t let him be stranded “Up a creek without a paddle.” Trials and challenges will try to sink his boat. Turbulent waters will try to knock him off course. But by teaching your son how to manage stress, learn new life skills, and seek God’s guidance, you’ll prepare him to navigate choppy waters to reach the shore of success.
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If you’ve ever taken your son to an archery range, you know that hitting the bullseye is harder than it looks. After you knock the arrow, you draw the bowstring back—then take careful aim. Your goal is to successfully hit the target.
The same is true in parenting your son.
Zig Ziglar, an author and motivational speaker, understood this principle well. He said,
“You hit what you aim at, and if you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.”
As you train your son, provide challenges and encouragement that will help him grow in specific areas of life. By being intentional in what you want to accomplish, you’ll see your son zoom toward the target.
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What does a cactus have to do with your son?
The saguaro cactus is an amazing desert plant. It stretches high into the air like a telephone pole, reaching heights of 40 feet or more.
But did you know that this colossal cactus grows slowly? It isn’t unusual for it to be 2-inches tall on its 10th birthday. Soon after, the saguaro begins growing faster and keeps up this steady growth until eventually towering over other cacti species.
Maybe your son is like the saguaro. Maybe he’s a slow learner at home or at school. Sure, it’s fine to get your son extra tutoring help, but it’s important to realize that we all have different rates of physical, mental, social, and even spiritual growth. The key is to continue growing—little by little and day by day.
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How do YOU feel about … puzzles?
When putting together a 500-piece puzzle, you don’t normally complete it all at one time. You work on it a few minutes here and a few minutes there. But gradually, the pieces start coming together until—at long last—you see the entire puzzle in all its glory.
Too often, we expect our children to mature faster than what is realistic. We wish to see the entire picture of their youth from the very start. But the growth process doesn’t work that way. God’s picture for our children’s lives is assembled one piece at a time. Clear communication fits into instruction, and quality time fits into encouragement.
As we rely on God for guidance, He transforms the pieces of our children’s lives into a beautiful masterpiece.
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I will make a bet that your cell phone is within reach right now!
The first cell phone weighed 2.4 pounds and was larger than your head. That’s definitely not something you’d want to carry in your pocket. Fortunately, today’s cell phones are much smaller and lighter. They allow us to quickly talk and text each other.
And yet, despite the extraordinary technology within a cell phone, these devices often hinder communication. You’ve seen it—family members sitting beside one another staring at their phones. We’re so plugged into these devices that we lose contact with others the very thing the devices were created for!
Don’t let that be you. Sure, go ahead and use technology, but don’t let it replace face-to-face communication. The more you talk and laugh with your teens, the more they’ll want to put down their phones and share life together with you.
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How’s your balance? and I'm not talking about your checkbook!
In June of 2012, Nik Wallenda walked from the United States’ side of Niagara Falls to the Canadian side. Sounds easy, until you realize that he walked high above the raging waterfalls on a 2-inch tightrope.
Even though Wallenda held a 40-foot balancing pole in his hands, gusts of wind and swirling spray made the long crossing mentally and physically exhausting.
At times, parents feel almost as much stress as a daredevil on a tightrope. We have to balance jobs and home responsibilities with our children’s academic studies, sports programs, and other activities.
When you start feeling off balance, remember Ecclesiastes 3:1. It says, “To everything there is a season.” This reminds us to take one task at a time, and to rely on God for continued strength and balance.
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What do Grammy-award winning artist Jay-Z, former President George Washington, and Olympic medalist Michael Phelps all have in common?
All three men were raised by single parents.
Today, about forty percent of boys are also raised solely by their mother– an epidemic that continues to grow. If you’re one of those hero single parents, do not lose heart. God sees you and knows the challenges you face.
If you’re not a single parent, look for young men in your life who need a father-figure. A game of catch, a fishing trip, or encouragement from the stands at a track meet can make a life-changing difference.
Who knows? You might just be cheering on a future music star, president, or Olympic medalist.
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A battle rages—and boys are on the front lines. They are daily bombarded by anti-Christian philosophies:
Relativism—disrupts truth and biblical morality,
Humanism—teaches that a person must depend on himself, not God, if this is true, then why do we even need God?
And evolution—teaches that we evolved by mere chance, the very existence of a loving Creator is ridiculed.
Don’t let these worldly philosophies destroy your son’s faith in Christ. Teach him to stand on the solid Word of God.
Training your son in today’s secular culture isn’t easy. It requires time and attention. Learn about a Proven Process that can help you accomplish this. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for free downloadable resources.
A reporter asked Thomas Edison, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
One of the greatest inventions of the 19th century was the lightbulb. But creating the lightbulb required lots of trial and error.
Failure is a part of life. In fact, it’s normal and natural. And even though no one likes to fail, it teaches us to do better and to strive harder as we reach for our goals.
Boys need a challenge. Even though trying something new may result in failure, that failure is helping them develop important character traits that are essential for future success.
Are you helping your boys learn from failure? Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for practical tips on how to help your boys grow into godly young men.
Have you ever walked across a rickety bridge and wondered if it could manage the weight?
If you are carrying something heavy that fear can be very real.
Carrying truth can be like that. Especially when you are carrying truth to a boy.
Make sure the bridge -- your connection to that boy -- is strong enough to carry the weight of that truth.
The reality with boys, particularly teens, is that simply telling them the truth isn’t enough. You’ve got to have a connection -- a bridge -- strong enough to carry that truth for the truth to have its full impact, otherwise, you are just breaking bridges.
For more parenting advice and information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Everyone loves a good comeback story, so here’s one for you– paper maps are making a resurgence!
With digital maps built into many of our cars, you would think paper map sales would continue to fall. But people are realizing that print maps are more helpful than GPS when you’re trying to learn the best way to navigate a new area.
This concept reminds me of why young men today so desperately need male mentors. Sure, your son can observe successful men on social media or on video. But in order to understand what it means to be a man, an in-person, dad-like figure in his life is the map that every young man needs.
So, make sure that boy has a mentor? And get a paper map!
Now if only I can figure out how to fold the thing!
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It was a summer day, and three dads were trying to come up with a way to keep their children occupied. They rummaged through their garages and found wiffle balls and wooden paddles. After taking their kids to a neighbor’s badminton court, the dads lowered the net, and let the children whack the wiffle balls.
Those three bored fathers had no idea that they had just developed a game that would later become extremely popular, called Pickleball.
There’s a lesson for us parents in this story– let your son be bored. Don’t be afraid to confiscate the smartphone and the tablet and leave him with nothing to do. He might accidentally develop one of the fastest growing and most popular sports in the United States!
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Ahhh … vacation!
Do you remember the last time you went on vacation? Before leaving, you probably spent time thinking about what clothes and other items you’d need at your destination. Then you probably gathered all those things together and packed them into a suitcase.
On this journey called parenthood, it’s even more important to bring everything necessary. Begin by packing love. Next, fold in joy. After that, squeeze in humor, laughter, and a bunch of fun. And, of course, don’t forget to include patience, gratitude, and forgiveness. This is just the beginning.
Make sure you come up with your own packing list as you journey through the hills and valleys of parenthood.
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Fore!
If you’ve ever played golf, you’re probably familiar with the term “mulligan.” That’s a fancy word that simply means “do-over.” If you’re on the tee and you slice the ball off into the trees, you might shout, “Mulligan!” You’re basically saying that you want a second try.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could get a parenting “mulligan” every once in a while? Maybe you chose your favorite TV show over spending time with your son. Or maybe you reacted impatiently during a moment of frustration.
Even though you can’t have a parenting do-over, you can always start fresh from where you are! The key is to purpose in your heart to do a better job, and then ask the Lord for strength and wisdom to follow through.
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Parents, have you been there?
Your son has tears in his eyes as he shows you that he got another “D” on his math test. You start explaining why perseverance is important, but his eyes glaze over. You decide to try a different approach.
“Son, did I ever tell you about the two classes I failed in middle school?” Your boy raises his eyebrows. You’ve piqued his interest.
It’s easy for us as parents to try lecturing to get our points across. But when Jesus walked on earth, he didn’t give long speeches. Instead, he told stories.
Use the same strategy with your son. When he’s discouraged, recall a struggle you overcame when you were his age, and share that with him. You just might teach him a lesson he will never forget.
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Your son is enjoying a day kayaking down a river. Suddenly, he hears rushing water, and sees rapids up ahead. His heart beats fast, and he begins to paddle forward, right into the waves.
In life, watching your son head straight into challenging territory can be a frightening and stressful experience. But there’s a reason God wired boys to crave adventure, excitement, and risk. Child development specialists have found that taking risks is an essential part of growing up, and gives boys excellent coping skills, self confidence, and the ability to fail well.
So don’t be afraid. Equip your son with knowledge, say a prayer, and let him paddle forward. On the other side of those rapids is an amazing opportunity.
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Ever heard the phrase “match the hatch”? It reminds fishermen that the best way to catch fish is to figure out what the fish are eating. But did you know this concept could help you get your teenage son involved in church, too?
Pay close attention to what activities your boy is drawn toward the most. Does he love music and playing an instrument? Encourage him to get involved in the church praise team. Is he into skateboarding? Search for a local Christian skater group. Does he love the adventure of video games? Get him involved with Christian outdoor groups, like Trail Life USA.
Don’t pull your son away from the things that interest him– instead, “match the hatch” and find a Christian community related to his favorite activity.
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Here’s something you’ll rarely hear shouted during a major league baseball game: “Great call, ump!”
Even the best, most experienced umpire will face constant criticism, taunting, and ridicule for every decision. Spectators only talk them if they are angry about a call that was made.
Consider this. Does your son feel like an umpire in his everyday life– constantly surrounded by criticism? At school, is he teased by his friends? Do his well-meaning teachers focus on the problems he missed? At home, do you remind him of the chores he didn’t do and the vegetables he didn’t eat?
Make it your goal to verbally affirm your son for the things he’s doing well. He needs that affirmation more than you probably realize.
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The baseball hall of fame is full of failures.
Consider Joe DiMaggio, one of the all-time top hitters. His batting average was .325. But even that great statistic means that Joe failed to hit the ball almost 70% of the time.
Unfortunately, in our society, boys do not receive the same margin for error. Young men naturally develop slower than their female peers, in both academics and emotional intelligence. But that is often ignored by educators, and boys are quickly labeled “slow” when they simply need more time to develop.
Let’s be like the baseball hall of fame. Let’s focus on the good, give lots of grace for failure, and celebrate each successful hit our boys make in life.
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The player stands at the free-throw line, preparing for a critical shot. He takes a few seconds to adjust his arms and his feet. He knows that the only way he can make this shot is if his whole body is in perfect alignment.
For your son, life is the same way. The only way he can succeed is if his beliefs about himself are aligned with the ultimate truth of God’s word. This can be tough, in a society of gender fluidity and cultural relativism.
Regularly discuss with your son what God’s word has to say about current events. Memorize scripture together about his identity in Christ. And pray for godly, positive male mentors to inspire him and show him what a life aligned with Jesus looks like.
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Your son proudly shows you a new scrape on his knee, reporting that he had a bike wreck while riding down a hill. You grab a bandaid and shake your head. It’s your son’s fifth injury of the week! How can you keep him safe when he seems to crave and seek out risk?
First, encourage him to focus on one or two skills, like skateboarding or snow skiing. Secondly, enroll him in classes so that he learns how to minimize injuries. Of course, don’t forget the helmet, elbow pads, and prayer of protection. And lastly, remember that taking risks is actually crucial for your son’s brain development. Try to relax.
Oh– and buying bandaids in bulk might be a good idea, too.
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Getting your young son to sit still for a church service, car ride, or class in school can be a challenge. But one school in Texas doesn’t have this problem. Why? Well, they’ve tripled recess time.
During the school day, the kindergartners and first graders at this school get four, 15 minute recess breaks outside each day. The teachers say the kids are more attentive than ever, and many have even decreased symptoms of ADHD.
So if your son seems grumpy and uncooperative today, why don’t you try a different kind of “time out”? Take a jog with him, ride a bike, or find interesting leaves and flowers. Time outSIDE, letting your boy be a boy, can turn his whole day around.
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There’s something you can do as a family that can increase your son’s attention span, improve his vocabulary, foster deep conversation, and even boost your happiness as a parent. Sound good? Here’s the catch– your son may roll his eyes at first.
I’m talking about reading out loud as a family. Your son may think he’s too old for it now, but researchers have found that the benefits continue even as children become preteens or even teenagers.
Find a compelling adventure book and read a chapter a night together. A good place to start is your local Christian bookstore, which may have some fiction books your son will find exciting. Pop some popcorn and settle on the couch with your boy, and you both will reap the benefits of reading aloud.
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“Your son is delayed.” Those words can fill you worry and even some fear as a parent. But did you know that your son may be perfectly normal, and the system may be incorrect?
Researchers have found that boys’ brains develop more slowly than their female peers’ brains. The public school system doesn’t often take this into account, and a student’s success is measured by standardized tests. This is also true when it comes to behavior. As a result, many boys are labeled delayed when it comes to emotions or intelligence, when, in reality, they will catch up in due time.
Don’t lose heart. And don’t forget to take your worries to God. Your son is perfectly and wonderfully made.
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Breakfast. School. Homework. Dinner. Does your son seem bored or disengaged in his day to day life? Here’s a simple way to add adventure, spontaneity, and excitement to his life: Get him outside!
Nature can actually change your son’s brain for the better. Studies have found that when someone regularly spends time outside, essential regions of the brain, like the hippocampus, grow and retain more gray matter. This makes it easier for your son to pay attention, learn, and remember things.
Start simple. Get a baseball and play catch in your backyard. Look online to find a bike trail or body of water. Your boy will feel more satisfied with his life, and as a bonus, your relationship will most likely improve.
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His superman cape flies out behind him majestically, and he lifts his arms. “One, two, three!” Your five year old jumps off the swing set. A short time later, as you drive him to the emergency room with a broken arm, you wonder, “Why in the world did he do that?”
As parents, we remind our kids to be careful, but the truth is that boys don’t just want risk… they need it. Risky play helps your son learn to deal with nervous feelings, adapt to new situations, and improve his gross motor skills.
So what are some examples of safe risky play? Being in the elements and near fire or water. Games like hide and seek. Riding a bike fast.
Just don’t forget to pray for courage…for yourself, of course.
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“Take out the trash. This is the fourth time I’ve told you,” you tell your son. Your son says “What? I didn’t hear you.”
Here’s a fact that may not surprise you: boys are biologically wired to be bad listeners. Studies have found that, when a boy and girl hear the same sound, the boy will hear it 10 times quieter than the girl will. This is especially true if it’s a high frequency sound, like a woman’s voice.
Since 78% of teachers are female, it’s no wonder that boys are falling behind girls academically. So what can we do as parents? Give our boys grace. Explore alternative learning styles. And yes, we may need to ask several times for the trash to get taken out.
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There’s a bunch of excitement in the rocket industry. SpaceX and other companies are building gigantic rockets. They’re even planning Mars missions.
But before a rocket ever leaves the ground, there are countless hours of building and programming. Every part of the rocket is checked and double-checked to make sure it’s ready for liftoff.
Before your son heads off for college or moves away for work, it’s important to prepare him for that big day. Make sure he has everything he needs to accomplish the mission of honoring the Lord with his life. And don’t forget: That building process begins years before liftoff.
Carefully and strategically train your son when he is young. That way, when he is ready to launch out into the world, everything will go smoothly.
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During the California Gold Rush of 1849, thousands of prospectors panned for gold in mountain streams and riverbeds. But those prospectors who spent time, sweat, and effort digging into the earth were the ones most likely to strike it rich. Discovering a single vein of gold was worth way more than hundreds of gold flakes from the river.
Help your son strike it rich in terms of godly character. Show him—through personal example—how to dig deep into Scripture. It’s there that he’ll discover the incredible treasures of service, commitment, and integrity.
Remember: the more your son understands the value of honoring the Lord with his life, the more he’ll want to store up treasures in heaven—where thieves will never break in and steal.
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If you plan to go skiing, you wear ski boots. If you’re heading to the beach, you wear sandals. For a quick jog around the block, you wear running shoes.
You select your shoes based on the type of activity.
Similarly, when training, correcting, or playing with your son, it’s vital to select the appropriate tone for the task at hand. It’s also crucial that you understand your son’s personality so that you can most effectively connect with him.
At times, you may need to choose a serious tone. Other times, a light-hearted attitude is most appropriate.
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” type of parenting. Understanding your son takes effort. But the more time and attention you devote to him, the more prepared he’ll be for life.
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Have you ever broken an arm? Depending on the type of break, the doctor might have needed to set the bones straight before placing your arm in a cast. That cast kept your arm protected so that the broken bones could grow back together.
If your relationship with your son is broken, you also need to set things straight. Take time to allow the relationship to heal. This may require a season of rest and extra attention. You may need to cut out other activities so that you can devote extra time to helping the relationship rest and recover.
A broken relationship hurts. But by taking immediate steps to help it recuperate, you and your son will grow closer together, and—in time—stronger than ever.
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Have you ever watched a stunt driver race his motorcycle up a steep ramp and into the air? Maybe he did a double backflip with a bunch of twists and turns.
Those crazy stunts require an incredible amount of control. If the stuntman were to leave the ramp at the wrong angle, he’d land off target and experience an awful wipeout.
To succeed in life, your son also needs to be in control. Because boys are usually impulsive, self-control is one of the hardest lessons for them to learn. But a little self-control goes a long way in helping him steer through the twists and turns of life.
So teach your son the importance of self-control. The more self-control he has, the greater his chance of soaring high in life.
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Imagine sending an army to war without the tools or training to achieve victory. And yet, we are sending boys, ill-equipped, into a culture that seems to have declared war on boyhood.
The results are tragic. Boys are almost twice as likely to be put in special education and three times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD. And each year, fewer young men enroll in higher education.
But changing these statistics is easier than you may think. For example, the presence of one positive mentor can make a young man more likely to make healthy choices, get better grades, and have higher self-esteem.
Today, ask God to put a man in your son’s life who can show him how to soldier on in the battle of life.
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Fidgeting. Being loud. Having trouble staying seated. Running or climbing when it’s not appropriate.
We used to consider these normal behaviors for young boys. But now, they are listed as symptoms of ADHD.
Attention disorders are certainly real. But in some cases, what if instead of changing our boys’ behavior, we need to adjust our approach as adults?
For instance–too much screen time and not enough exercise can make it hard for your son to sleep at night. In turn, being tired can make it hard for him to focus during the day. What if you turned off all screens after dinner, and took a family walk before bed instead? You and your son will both reap the benefits.
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You’re sitting at the dinner table, and you ask your son if he’s ready for basketball tryouts. Your son’s face starts to turn red. Suddenly, he stands up, pushes his plate away, and knocks his chair over intentionally as he leaves the room.
You’re confused. What caused this sudden anger outburst?
Researchers have discovered that when boys seem angry or withdrawn, they are often actually anxious.
So if your son seems angry for no reason, consider what may be stressing him out. Give him time to cool off. Get on his level, and engage him with physical touch and eye contact. And help him find healthier outlets for his anxiety, such as running or shooting hoops.
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You’ve no doubt heard of Babe Ruth, who set a record for most number of home runs in his baseball career– seven hundred and fourteen.
But here’s a statistic you probably haven’t heard– Babe Ruth’s total career strikeouts. One thousand three hundred and thirty. That’s right– he struck out far more than he hit homers.
When it comes to your own son, of course you want him to hit all the proverbial “home runs” in life. But don’t forget to let him fail, too. It can be hard for us parents to watch, but failure can actually build resilience and be more beneficial for our children than success.
Just ask Babe Ruth, who said– “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
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Is your son glued to a screen?
You’ve tried everything, but you just can’t pull your son away from his video games. Well here’s something to consider. Does your son’s real life give him the same opportunities for adventure that his virtual world does?
Of course, video games are addictive by design. But researchers have found that boys also turn to gaming out of boredom, seeking freedom and risk.
Try adding a few more “yesses” to your son’s life. Let him ride his bike down a hill, take a walk in the woods, or try climbing a tree. The best way to draw your son away from a virtual world is to give him healthy challenges in real life.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys as they grow up, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Billy Graham was one of the most influential evangelists of the 20th century. He boldly proclaimed the Gospel to over 200 million people. But in addition to his important preaching ministry, Billy Graham also had an important message for fathers.
He said,
“A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”
As a dad, you have the incredible privilege of raising your son to love the Lord and follow His ways. This brings with it the responsibility of providing a strong, Christ-centered foundation for your family.
So, how is your parenting journey coming along? Remember, you’ll never regret investing time and attention in your son.
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Gangs. They are responsible for almost half of violent crime in the United States. And yet, boys and men continue to join these groups in droves, some recruited as early as elementary school. Why?
Here’s a big reason. As boys interact socially, they are always asking three questions: “Who is with me?” “Who is in charge?” And, “What is our mission?”
Often, church groups and social clubs, although well-intentioned, fail to answer those questions. If we aren’t answering these questions for boys, we will surely lose them to groups that will.
To ensure your son thrives, help him identify friends, leaders, and the bigger purpose in everything he does– from school to soccer practice.
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In the old days of coal mining, canaries were brought into mines. If the bird died, the miners knew they needed to escape, because there was something noxious in the atmosphere.
In our society today, boys are just like those canaries. Many are faltering in every area, including school, relationships, and mental health.
But there is one simple thing that can make young men more likely to make healthier choices, do better in school, and have a stronger self esteem. And that is the presence of a positive mentor.
Think you’re not equipped to be a mentor? Think about the heroes you had growing up. They made you feel valued, worthy, and inspired– and I promise, they were far from perfect people.
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Boys love the story of David and Goliath. Afterall, anytime there’s a battle involving giants with swords, it’s sure to capture attention.
But too often, boys fail to apply important lessons from David’s life. Before David defeated Goliath, he had learned to depend on God when battling lions that attacked his sheep. By relying on God in these smaller tests of faith, David had confidence that God would help him no matter what giant situation came his way.
What giants are your son facing? At school, is he struggling academically? Are bullies harassing him? Does he know how to navigate peer pressure?
The more your son understands that true strength comes from God—for both the small and big stuff—the more victorious he will be in life.
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Two of the most difficult words for a parent to say are, “I’m sorry.” Are you saying them enough?
As parents, we should ask for forgiveness from our kids if we lose our temper, or don’t control our tongue, or if we jump to conclusions without gathering the necessary facts.
The difficulty is that we can feel vulnerable, inadequate, and even slightly humiliated when apologizing.
But here’s the truth: Your son or daughter will grow to love and respect you even more if you apologize. Humbling yourself demonstrates—through action—a love so strong that you are willing to admit wrong in order to restore the relationship.
Saying sorry isn’t easy, but your example goes a long way in helping your children see what true spiritual maturity looks like.
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Glance into your purse or wallet and you’ll probably see a few dollar bills. Written on those dollar bills are these words: In God We Trust.
It’s nice having that motto on our coins and bills—but it’s even more important to demonstrate that motto in our lives … that we teach this to our sons.
Has your son trusted in Jesus as his Savior? If so, are you teaching him the importance of trusting in the Lord for daily guidance?
Proverbs 3:5 says,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.”
Parenting is full of challenges. But when we trust in God, He promises to provide strength and help in time of need.
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Boys love football.
And these days, a great benefit of watching football on TV is the instant replay. You can re-watch—and practically relive—those exciting catches, fumbles, and interceptions.
The instant replay is fantastic. But in real life, there is no “redo”. You get only one chance to raise your son through his adolescent years.
But what if you haven’t trained your son as well as you wish you had? If that’s the case, take heart.
C.S. Lewis said,
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
As a parent, you don’t get to redo your child’s youth. Because of that, make each play count so that in the end, you score a win for the glory of God.
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When Benjamin Franklin’s name is mentioned, kids think of the guy who placed a metal key on a kite string.
But adults recognize Benjamin Franklin as one of America’s most important Founding Fathers. In addition to helping to write the Declaration of Independence, he also had great advice about the learning process.
He said,
“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.”
Kids learn in different ways, but boys—especially—benefit from physical involvement. It’s one thing to tell a boy how to do something. But having him actually do it helps him remember and apply the lesson in a much more effective way.
For information about how to help boys learn and grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When you’re expecting a baby, you’re filled with dreams of how extraordinary your child will eventually become. But if your son has special needs or experiences developmental delays, you dream about him functioning in an ordinary way.
The expectations we have for our children don’t always turn out the way we wish. During these times, it’s easy to become angry, frustrated, and bitter.
When these emotions begin swirling through your mind, return your focus to the God of all comfort. Remember that God selected you as a parent for a specific reason. And because He chose you, He will equip you for the task at hand.
It’s also helpful to receive encouragement throughout the parenting journey. Trail Life USA has a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You can make your son’s day by putting his favorite candy in his backpack— a fruit roll up, a kit-kat, or maybe a Snickers. But what if you could load his backpack with what he needs emotionally, spiritually, and socially, as well?
The critical needs of boys can be symbolized by five survival tools– a compass, a map, a guide, a flashlight, and a mountain.
First, boys need a “compass”– a clear mission, and a “map”– a safe male mentor. Next, your son needs a “guide”– peers to walk beside on the trail of life. The “flashlight” symbolizes every boy’s need for clear boundaries and rules. And finally, young men must have a “mountain”– a real-world challenge.
And of course, giving them their favorite candy can help, too.
For ideas on meeting the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com
If your son is like most boys, he’s full of curiosity and spontaneity. These characteristics help boys better understand the world around them. But—when not properly controlled—impulsive actions can lead to problems and pain.
Help your son understand how actions have consequences. A great way to do this is to read the Bible with him.
Show him how Samson thought he was invincible—but that he was no match against Delilah.
Point out how Peter thought he could walk on water—but that he sank when he took his eyes off Jesus.
By studying both good and bad examples, your son will gain a better understanding of how to act with discernment and wisdom.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
If your car has a flat tire, it’s important to fix it fast. If you keep driving on it, the rim will quickly shred the rubber. After that you’ll ruin the alignment, brakes, and suspension. You might even lose control of the vehicle.
Similarly, if your relationship with your son is deflated, it’s important to fix it … fast. Maybe you had a disagreement or misunderstanding with him. Maybe harsh words were said. Maybe impatience won the day.
Regardless of who was at fault, it’s important to patch things up. You don’t want bitterness causing more serious problems down the road. A little bit of preventative maintenance goes a long way in helping you both go the distance.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys race ahead in life, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
At times, your son may act like an outlaw terrorizing the wild west. As sheriff, it’s your job to keep the peace and enforce the laws. But as you know, it’s easy to grow frustrated, impatient, and exhausted at having to correct him over and over again.
When your blood pressure starts to rise, take time to recall moments from the past. Pull out your phone and flip through old pictures. Do you remember the day your son learned to ride a bike? Or when he won a ribbon at the science fair? Remember him jumping for joy after kicking that soccer goal?
These memories help put present-day challenges in perspective. Even though life often seems hard, good times from the past will encourage you to stay strong for the future.
For more parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Are you concerned about bullying?
Research tells us that the #1 concern of parents for their children is that they will be bullied.60 percent of all mothers and fathers report this fear.
Though bullying may seem to us to be child’s play that will pass in time, the emotional effects are powerful, especially for boys, who are struggling with identity in a world that values them less.
Your son’s best response to bullying will be fostered as his identity grows in a community that supports your values, which should include a respect for all people. A strong identity with a faith-based community is a great defense against the feelings of inadequacy that can threaten a boy’s confidence.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A tiny seed doesn’t become a towering tree overnight, nor by accident.
After a seed sprouts, it requires healthy soil, direct sunlight, and consistent moisture to develop strong roots. These roots are vital in helping it stand strong through the winds and storms of life.
The same is true in parenting.
Your son needs healthy attention, direct instruction, and consistent love in order to develop a strong foundation to withstand today’s anti-Christian culture.
By providing your son this emotional support, you establish the foundation that will lead him toward greater character, purpose, and leadership skills in life.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
God made boys with a competitive spirit. They crave the excitement of challenging themselves against others and emerging victorious.
This desire to compete is a positive characteristic. But when competition within the home mutates into sibling rivalry, beware.
Sibling rivalry often begins with jealousy, bitterness, and resentment. Because brothers and sisters don’t know how to process these emotions, they often resort to bickering, insults, and even outright fighting.
As a parent, it’s easy to grow impatient with your quarreling kids. Instead, take time to pray for wisdom. Evaluate what the core issue is—and then respond accordingly.
Many times, boys simply need greater physical activity or encouragement to achieve meaningful goals. For more on this, and practical help in growing boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Boys love to test their physical strength through competition. This often involves sports such as football, soccer, or wrestling.
But boys also measure their strength through weightlifting. By pumping iron, they develop muscle and gain stamina.
The problem is that in the gym, it’s easy for boys to think that bigger biceps equals a better man.
Teach your son that, although a challenging physical routine can bring all kinds of results, even more important than physical strength . . . is strength of character.
Here’s an idea: Study Bible characters from God’s Word. How did those men succeed or fail in life? How can we learn from their examples?
Becoming a godly man doesn’t happen by accident. It takes consistent training. Trail Life USA has a Proven Process that is helping boys grow spiritually. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Warning! Your son is being targeted.
A relentless enemy is trying to entice, trap, and destroy his heart and mind. This enemy hides in the shadows—yet is constantly attacking your son.
Who is this enemy? It’s pornography.
Here’s a shocking statistic. The top pornographic website has more visits each day than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter—combined!
Don’t let pornography destroy your son’s heart, mind, and future. Help him develop a solid foundation in Scripture. Remind him that Philippians 4:8 instructs him to think on things that are true, noble, just, and pure.
It’s a tough world out there . . . especially for boys. That’s why Trail Life USA provides practical resources to help you along the way.
Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com to learn about a Proven Process that is helping transform boys into godly men.
Boys are in trouble.
More than ever, they’re being intentionally misled and confused by an anti-Christian culture that wants to destroy their faith in Jesus Christ. Secular worldviews—including relativism and humanism—also want to devour your son’s heart and mind, and thereby control his thoughts and actions.
To withstand these attacks, boys need to be well-grounded in God’s Word.
Romans 12:2 says,
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
To withstand the enemy’s attacks, you’ve got to fight lies with truth. And the greatest of all weapons is the sword of the spirit, which is the Word of God.
Question: Are you helping your son study God’s Word?
If you need help, visit Trail Life USA and RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Boys crave action and adventure. That’s why video games and movies grab their attention. But too often, this content is crude, sensual, and violent.
Help your son find action and adventure in the pages of a good book.
But beware. Many of the books written specifically for boys carry unbiblical worldviews. Secular authors are strategically influencing boys in unhealthy ways.
Be careful about what your son reads. Encourage him to dive into fascinating stories about missionaries and evangelists. Additionally, many explorers, inventors, and scientists have great testimonies of faith. Their stories of reliance on God are just as exciting as fiction.
By inspiring your son through godly role models, you show him that the greatest adventure in life is found in following God.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
It’s a sad fact that anxiety is attacking kids across the country.
According to the Center for Disease Control, 7.1% of children have been diagnosed with anxiety. That’s around 4.4 million kids!
There are many reasons for this anxiety, including fear of contracting COVID, worry about finding friends at school, and even dread about what the future holds.
As a parent, it’s important to remind your son or daughter that even when the world feels out of control, we can have confidence that God reigns supreme.
Joshua 1:9 says,
“Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
What a wonderful promise that God loves us and takes care of us.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Two simple words strike terror in a parent’s heart. Those words are: “Assembly Required.”
And yet, too often we ignore the instruction manual when putting together a bike or race car track for our son. We think, “Yeah, I can do this by myself!” But after hours of frustration, we swallow our pride and study the instruction manual to assemble the toy.
Parenting your son is also a complex process, especially these days with so many flashy distractions competing for his attention.
Thankfully, God’s Word provides detailed instruction on how to guide your son in the way he should go. Take time to read The Book of Proverbs together. There you’ll learn practical wisdom about how God wants us to grow and develop along the pathway of life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Each day contains 1,440 minutes. That may seem like a bunch of time, but it passes by in a flash. The same can be said for weeks, and months, and even years.
Time is passing quickly . . . that’s a fact. But here’s another fact: You don’t want to look back on your parenting years with regret. Don’t allow the busyness of life to pull you away from investing time and attention in your son. Because—before you know it—your son will be grown up and heading out into the world.
Ephesians 5:16 reminds us to redeem the time because the days are evil. But how do we do this?
Begin by making sure your priorities are properly focused. Then, be intentional in spending one-on-one time with your son.
For more parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Statistics indicate that girls struggle with self-image problems more than boys. But if it’s your son that’s hurting because he doesn’t like how he looks, statistics don’t matter. You just want to help your son.
Compounding the problem are social media sites promoting their version of what is physically attractive and culturally trendy. When boys compare themselves with these unrealistic expectations, feelings of inadequacy can cause them to sink into depression.
Help your son develop a proper understanding of true self-worth. Remind him that 1 Timothy 2:4 says that we are “chosen by God and precious.”
As you guide your son through life, focus his attention on the Savior, and away from social media sites that batter his self-esteem.
To combat negative influences, consider getting involved in healthy outdoor activities. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
If you’ve got a boy in your house, you know that God made boys with lots of energy and enthusiasm.
It’s important that we provide ways for them to experience fun, excitement, and adventure—beyond the everyday routines of life.
This can sometimes be difficult at home where space is limited. That’s why finding ways for him to engage in the outdoors is so important.
And, while creating opportunities in the backyard or a local park can go a long way toward encouraging this engagement, think about creating camping and hiking experiences that go beyond the ordinary. Maybe find your way to an outdoor Christian Boys organization like Trail Life that makes this part easy!
For more tips on helping your son grow physically, mentally, and spiritually, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever played Jenga, the block-stacking game?
It’s fun taking turns stacking blocks and watching the tower grow tall. But eventually, the tower becomes unbalanced, and the blocks come tumbling down.
As a parent, don’t allow yourself to become unbalanced in life. As you go about your daily routines, avoid stacking too many obligations in your life. The higher your number of commitments, the greater the risk of wearing yourself out and failing to fulfill your most important responsibilities.
Finding that balance between work and family life can be really hard. The key, though, is determining your priorities and then pursuing only those activities that contribute toward your overall goals.
But remember, you’ll never go wrong by investing time and attention in your kids.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s a trivia question: Which state has the most lighthouses? If you answered Michigan, you’re absolutely right.
In the darkness of night, lighthouses warn sailors of shallow sandbars and rocky shorelines. Without these lighthouses, many boats and sailors would crash into these obstacles and suffer great hardship and pain.
In many ways, you serve as a lighthouse to your son. As he sails through life, you are in a key position to warn him of unseen hazards. Use your own personal experiences to point him in the right direction. But make sure you also emphasize the importance of God’s Word. The Bible offers your son practical guidance in navigating the seas of life.
Help your son stay on course. For more information and parenting resources, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Social media sites have tremendous power to influence your son’s thoughts and actions.
But there’s an even more influential force in your son’s life—and that’s his friends.
Research tells us that ensuring a positive community of faith for your son is one of the best ways to shield him against negative influences and to set him up for success.
Though it’s unreasonable for you to expect your son’s friends to be perfect, they should exhibit a general attitude of respect and obedience to authority.
Do you know who your son’s friends are? Are they a good influence, or do they display destructive behaviors that are holding him back?
By helping your son know how to choose good friends, you provide an atmosphere of growth and development.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or Raising GodlyBoys.com
What does 100 billion of anything look like?
Astronomers estimate that our Milky Way Galaxy holds around 100 billion stars. If you counted one star per second, it would take you over 3,000 years to count those stars.
That’s incredible!
And yet, God—the master designer of billions of galaxies—loves each person more than any of those stars.
So, the next time you see your son frustrated and hurting, wrap your arms around him and give him a giant hug. Remind him that he is of tremendous value to you AND to the Almighty God of the universe.
Trials and challenges are a natural part of life, but together, you and your son can bring them to God in prayer.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Boys are influenced by what they see. That’s a fact.
The question is: What are they looking at throughout the day?
The answer: Their phones and other digital devices.
But what’s especially disturbing and sad is that the internet is bombarding boys with sensual and even pornographic images.
Guys may think they’re tough, but they’re no match against sexual temptation. A recent study found that 90% of teens have watched porn by age 18. Those images are destroying their ability to form lasting relationships—including a proper relationship with the Lord.
What’s your son watching on his phone? Have you installed filtering software on all digital devices? Have you had a heart-to-heart talk with him about how to resist temptation? These discussions aren’t easy, but your son is worth it.
For helpful resources, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A furious storm rages around us. Today’s anti-Christian culture is battering all those who stand in its way. And it’s only getting worse. Public schools are increasingly hostile to biblical truth and Christian values.
In this antagonistic society, it’s easy for Christian boys to get swept away by peer pressure, sexual temptation, and the quest for riches. Don’t let these weights catch your son off guard and drown him in addiction.
Despite worldly winds and the ungodly cultural current, teach your son to stay anchored to the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Studying God’s Word will keep him anchored to the Rock of his salvation.
In today’s swirling storm of bad influences, your son needs positive role models. Are you providing him an atmosphere for spiritual growth?
For more encouraging parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
If you live in the north, the transition from one season to the next brings dramatic weather changes. Many people enjoy fall, but winter quickly pushes it aside. Then people yearn for the warmth of spring, but that’s replaced by the heat of summer.
Seasons are a natural part of our environment. So are the seasons of our children’s lives.
As parents, we sometimes wish we could hold back time and keep our kids longer during a specific season of development.
But if we are wise, we will guide our children as they transition from one season to the next, from one area of growth to another.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Being a parent is one of the greatest joys in life. It’s also exhausting!
Whether it seems like you’ve changed a million diapers or whether you feel like a professional taxi driver for your teenage kids, each stage of life has its own challenges.
As a parent, it’s certainly your responsibility to guide and train your children. But it’s also important for you to take time to rest physically, . . . emotionally, . . . and spiritually.
In Matthew 11:28, our Savior says,
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
What a great reminder that our help comes from the Lord. We can rest in the assurance that He will strengthen us to continue on.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that 30% of teen boys use unhealthy techniques to control their weight? This includes skipping meals, vomiting, and even taking laxatives.
For parents with boys in this category, we wish there were something like 3 simple steps to help our sons escape the downward spiral of self-image and self-esteem problems. But it’s usually not that easy.
In addition to consulting doctors for help, here’s something else you should do. Remind your son that God makes no mistakes. We are His workmanship—wonderfully created in His image.
To help emphasize this fact, study the Bible with your son to learn of God’s care and compassion for us all. As you invest time and attention in your son, he will realize how valued and loved he really is.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Boys love roller coasters. A popular one is called “Mako.” It towers 200 feet high and races through the air at 73 miles per hour.
That’s a crazy ride, but parenting boys can be even more scary—or exciting—depending on how you look at it.
Maybe your son begins wanting his own space. Then, the next day, he wants to spend all the time in the world with you.
Even when the parenting roller coaster feels out of control, take heart. The Lord has entrusted your son into your care. He knows YOU are the best person to guide him through life’s journey.
Just like a roller coaster, parenting races by in a flash. Despite its ups and downs, take time to enjoy the ride.
For more parenting suggestions, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Parenting boys is tough. Parenting teenage guys is 100 times tougher! Or at least it can feel like it.
When your teenage son challenges your authority, when he blatantly disobeys, or when he rolls his eyes at your advice—it’s natural to feel frustrated.
It’s easy to think, “Why me? Why do I have a son that acts like this?”
In these moments of crisis, take heart. Remember that the Lord makes NO mistakes.
In His divine wisdom, the Lord chose YOU to be your son’s parent. That’s a tremendous responsibility. And because the Lord called you to this important task, He will continue to equip and strengthen you for the job.
Raising teenage boys isn’t easy. Fortunately, you’re not alone. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com to learn about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men.
Who is your son’s hero? Is he a sports star? An actor? A musician?
As you guide your son through today’s popstar-infatuated culture, encourage him to study the lives of godly men who displayed courage, service, and devotion.
Introduce your son to heroes of the faith found in Hebrews 11. There he’ll read about ordinary people who were used by God in extraordinary ways. Your son will be captivated when he reads about men who escaped the edge of the sword, who endured torture, who were imprisoned for their faith, and who conquered kingdoms.
Living for God isn’t easy. But these heroes of the faith remind us that God provides the strength and help to do what is right.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How important is a firm foundation?
The construction of an eight floor tower began in 1173 AD. The design and architecture was considered genius. But the foundation was not properly tested. After the first three floors were constructed, it was discovered the tower was leaning!
You guessed it … this was the famed “Leaning Tower of Pisa.”
A firm foundation is of vital importance in a boy’s life. When the foundation of God’s Word is removed, boys tend to lean in the direction of constantly shifting societal norms.
What kind of foundation is your boy being built upon? Make sure you’re raising him up on the firm foundation of God’s Word. “All other ground is sinking sand.”
For ideas on how to grow boys into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or raisinggodlyboys.com.
Have you ever heard of the 'seat grip"?
For decades now, fathers have taught their sons how to ride a bike using the “seat grip” technique. The father holds the bike upright by firmly gripping the back of the seat while running along behind the bike. The son steers and pedals confidently knowing Dad is behind him, holding him up.
Finally, the day comes when Dad removes his grip. The boy is pedaling and steering on his own, but doesn’t realize it. He still thinks Dad is supporting him.
How do you raise a boy to become a godly man? You hold him up when he’s young and vulnerable, but you let him feel what it’s like to steer and pedal by himself. When the timing is right, and confidence has been built, you release your grip.
For ideas on how to grow your boy’s confidence, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that clear boundaries actually help kids feel free?
There was an experiment done at a daycare center. At first, the outdoor playground at the daycare was surrounded by a fence. When the children ran outside to play, they would climb the fence and try to see what was behind it.
But when the fence was taken down, the children didn’t explore the wide open space. Instead, they stayed clustered up beside the building.
The researchers concluded that the fence made the children feel free to explore.
Your son is the same. When you establish rules, he will push your boundaries. But don’t back down. It’s your discipline that makes him feel safe enough to spread his wings.
To learn more about helping boys become godly men, visit TrailLifeUSA.com or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you heard about the sermon on the MOUND?
Baseball manager Tommy Lasorda visited the pitcher’s mound to speak to his young, skinny pitcher who was getting shelled. He looked into his eyes and said, “I don’t see a scared, timid kid. I see a fighter. From now on, your name will be ‘Bulldog.’”
The name of the pitcher was Orel Hershiser, and he would go on to win the Cy Young award as the best pitcher in the National League. To this day, Hershiser credits his turnaround with what he calls Lasorda’s “Sermon on the Mound.”
Words from a mentor are powerful tools in growing confident young men.
Find an organization that emphasizes male mentorship and godly legacy. For more information on how to raise godly boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s your favorite Benjamin Franklin quote?
He famously said, “The only two certainties in life are death and taxes.”
We laugh at that because we know that life is certainly full of change.
This change is especially obvious in children. As parents, we sometimes wish our adorable toddlers would stay young forever. But they grow—and soon they’re attending kindergarten, then elementary, then high school.
In addition to growing physically and academically, our children also need to grow spiritually. The tragedy is that many boys are being misled by today’s anti-Christian culture that ridicules biblical masculinity.
Despite the winds of social change, stand strong on the foundation of God’s Word. Train your son to honor the Lord through his words, thoughts, and actions—and in this way grow into a godly man.
For fun outdoor activities that inspire boys to grow spiritually, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son ever complain? Most likely, yes.
Perhaps he whines about food or chores, or having to study for a test. Maybe he complains about not getting the latest digital gadget—or about not being allowed to do a certain activity.
Complaining is almost second nature. However, as a parent, be intentional in teaching your son to focus on the positives of life, rather than on the negatives.
That’s tough!
But by helping your son follow the Lord, his perspective of what’s important in life will change. And as his heart and mind focus on those things that are eternal, the trivial concerns of life will fade away.
But beware. This isn’t a quick transformation.
To help you along the way, Trail Life USA has fun programs that are helping boys grow into godly men. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or www.traillifeusa.com/raisinggodlyboys.
What does it mean to be a man? Today’s anti-Christian culture defines a “real” man as being stylish, popular, and rich. But being a man involves so much more.
Qualities of biblical masculinity include:
Courage
Service
Leadership
Sacrifice
Commitment
Self-control
And unconditional love.
Are you teaching your son these characteristics?
In 1 Timothy 4:12, the Apostle Paul encourages Timothy with these words:
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
Guide your son in becoming a godly man. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping parents accomplish this. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or https://www.traillifeusa.com/raisinggodlyboys.
Do you know the four magic words to motivate your son?
These four words are powerful. These words might help your boy pay attention at school or cause him to clean his room.
Are you ready for the four words? They are:
“Here’s what’s at stake.”
You see, boys are motivated by challenges. And when they don’t know what’s at stake, it’s hard for them to stay focused.
Here’s an example. Maybe your son lacks motivation in his art class. If so, consider this– does he understand why learning about art is important?
Sometimes, the “what’s at stake” will be a natural consequence– and other times, you may have to create a consequence for your son. Either way, use the four magic words “here’s what’s at stake”-- and you just might see your son be motivated.
For more ideas for raising boys into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
“What were you thinking?” Most parents ask their son this question at least once.
Preteens and teens often make decisions without considering consequences. There’s a valid reason for this. Teen brains are still developing. The portion of their brain responsible for planning ahead and understanding the if-then effects, the prefrontal cortex, isn’t fully mature until the mid-20's. Until then, they need us to steer them toward healthy choices.
Their brains develop properly as they exercise positive decision-making skills. That means taking some risks, like learning tricks on a skateboard, and reaping the rewards while resisting unhealthy temptations, like staying up late or spending too much time staring at screens.
So, don’t be too hard on your son when his decisions appear impulsive; applaud him when he makes healthy choices.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you ever use things around you to teach truth? Jesus did it all the time.
A caterpillar, wrapping itself in a cocoon and emerging as a beautiful butterfly, is a good example of this teaching process. The caterpillar enters its “tomb,” dies to its former life of destroying plants, and changes into something wondrous and beneficial to those around it. We call it “metamorphosis.”
The Apostle Paul used this word Romans 12:2 when he said we were to be “transformed by the renewing of your mind…” By doing so, Paul says, a person dies to a former life, and becomes something heavenly.
As we celebrate Easter Sunday, the truth of the caterpillar is something little minds and hearts can comprehend. That’s why Jesus taught this way. He used simple illustrations, but oh, how profound is the truth.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can you get your son to unplug from his electronics and go outside? You know his bones and muscles are atrophying with no activity, but how can you help him become the young man he has the potential to be?
Dane enrolled his son in Trail Life. On his first hike, he thought he might have made a mistake, for it was a long, exhausting trek up the side of a mountain. But when the other boys broke out frisbees and his son was sprinting across the meadow playing a game of ‘Ultimate’ even after a long hike, he knew he made the right decision.
Challenge your son. Give him an adventure. Only God knows what he can become.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son know what it means to respect women?
He certainly isn’t going to learn this by watching society. Best-selling author and father Dave Willis says parents must be intentional about teaching their sons to view the opposite sex in a healthy way.
First, Willis says to have clear conversations. Discuss what behavior is and isn’t OK. Point out that, while Jesus was on earth, he treated women with utmost kindness and honor. Secondly, model respect. If you’re a single mom, seek out a male mentor for your son who you know treats women kindly.
And finally, encourage expressions of healthy masculinity. Help your son find a community of positive peers and male mentors. This could be a youth group, an after school program, or an outdoor adventure program like Trail Life USA.
To learn about raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Life is hard. Is your son ready?
Does he have the tools to come face-to-face with the things you went through– and overcome?
When the disciple Peter stepped out of the boat to follow Jesus, it was a great act of intense faith. But the roar of wind and waves around him took his focus from Christ, and he began to sink.
Teach your son to focus intently on the face of Christ, and seek him with his whole heart. Live out for him the word of God as his map and compass through this life. Give him godly mentors to show him the way, and godly young men to help sharpen his faith to face the tests of life– and overcome.
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“Boys, time to take three laps around the house.”
My homeschool friend recognizes the need for her sons to get up and move several times a day. So, once an hour the kids go outside and run around for ten minutes.
Boys learn best when their entire body is involved in the process. That’s why they’re naturally restless and rambunctious. Their instinct is to keep moving. When their body is in motion, their brain is more engaged, which allows for a better learning environment.
The next time you want to help your son absorb some facts, combine the learning experience with an activity. They can recite memory verses while bouncing a basketball or listen to a book while shuffling a deck of cards. The information is more likely to stick.
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Does your son play video games?
A grandfather asked his grandson, “Why do you like playing Fortnite so much?” His grandson’s reply was telling: “Because I’m good at it.”
Why do we have such an inner drive? To be good? To win? Sometimes at the expense of others? The answer lies in The Fall. Mankind was created, and God said it was “very good.”* Everything Adam and Eve needed was woven into them to worship God and obey Him.
However, when they decided to believe the serpent instead, that inner drive became corrupted. And, unfortunately, the rest is history.
Teaching our boys what true goodness is, by showing them the life of Jesus, takes this concept out of the fake worlds of video games and plants it firmly in the real world around them.
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Is your son growing closer to God, or further away?
It seems that everything in our modern culture is trying to drive a wedge between our sons and their faith in God. Many times, this worldly influence comes from their friends.
Abraham Kuyper, former Prime Minister of the Netherlands, once said, “He is your friend who pushes you nearer to God.”
Surround your son with godly men to mentor him and with true friends who will encourage him in his walk with Christ. Modern culture wants to rip him away from God. Put people in his life that push him, by their example and by their words, ever closer to the love of Jesus Christ.
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Walk into any coffee shop, and the chances are high that you’ll see two women talking. Sitting across from each other, the women will look each other in the eye and discuss deep and personal issues.
You probably won’t see two men sitting and conversing in the same way. Why?
Well, as Dr. Emerson Eggerichs points out, it’s a matter of gender differences. Women prefer face to face communication, while men tend to prefer shoulder-to-shoulder discussions.
As a parent of a son, this is deeply valuable information for you to consider. When you’re concerned about your son and would like him to share his struggles, get beside him. Take a drive, hike together, or stand on a dock side-by-side and fish. Your boy will most likely prefer those settings over going to a coffee shop.
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When is your son strong enough? How do you know he’s ready?
Tyler was the smallest, youngest member of the troop, and afraid of heights, so when it came time to go down the rappelling tower, the leaders were not surprised when Tyler got into the harness and timidly inched down the side of the tower. What blew their minds was that he went back over and over again, until he was kicking out off the top ledge, the rope zipping through his hands as he flew through the air in giant leaps, with a huge grin on his face.
Sometimes, all a boy needs is a challenge. Give him that challenge, and see who he can become!
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I have a tough time visualizing Jesus, mocking an opponent, calling them “losers.”
It’s called “trash talk,” or having “swag.” And it can get ugly.
Sportsmanship, like so many cultural norms these days, is becoming a thing of the past.
When a player does something memorable, like crouching down and consoling a member of the losing side after the game is over, we marvel at their example.
That’s the kind of life Jesus lived. Winning a game is just that. A game. Sportsmanship is a life lesson that shapes and molds a young man into something more. When taken deeper, showing compassion, even when you “lose,” becomes the ultimate example. That’s when you can say to the vitriol of an ungracious opponent, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”*
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Are there days you want to resign as a parent? You wish you could throw in the towel and call it quits?
Most parents have fleeting thoughts of giving up. During these problematic moments, remember God’s encouragement in James. The one who perseveres under trial is blessed and will receive the crown of life.
Raising boys is a long endeavor. A marathon, not a race. And it sometimes requires thick skin. On the days when our boys run through the house and knock things over or leave their socks laying around for the umpteenth time, remember your goal isn’t to only change behavior, but to build character. And that takes perseverance and patience. So, go ahead and remind them one more time not to run. Smile and tell them to pick up their dirty clothes. You’re raising Godly boys.
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How do your son’s friends influence him? Do they make him better? Do they encourage him to be his best and have a good attitude?
The twins were away from video games and TV. Cold and wet from the rainy canoe camping trip, all they wanted when they put into camp was to go home. Bad became worse when they discovered their patrol’s food and all the extra water got left behind.
But the other boys shared their own food and started playing games in the rain. Soon, they were cannonballing into the river, finding frogs, and running through the woods. That night, they crawled into their tents wet, hungry, and very, very happy.
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Luke, a senior in high school, took a breath. He was about to rappel down a steep cliff. He knew that, at the bottom of the cliff, an experienced rock climber was holding the safety rope. But it still took all the courage Luke had to begin to rappel.
A few weeks later, Luke took a deep breath yet again. But this time he wasn’t rappelling. He was about to graduate high school. Just as had known the experienced rock climber would keep him safe, he knew his Heavenly Father was holding his future.
As Luke learned while rappelling, out of all the ways that outdoor activities benefit your son, perhaps the most important of all is the lesson in trusting God. These activities teach your boy to have courage and step out in faith.
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Why are boys protectors?
At four years old, Thomas saw a red wasp fly into the room and land next to his baby sister, buzzing threateningly. Scared for his sister, he stepped in front of her, stomping on the wasp with his bare foot, and the stinger went deep into his soft skin.
His mother rushed from the kitchen and scooped up the brave little boy who saved his sister by taking the pain himself.
Boys are men-in-training, and the God-given role of protector is hard-wired into them. Masculinity is not toxic, it is godly and heroic.
Help your son become the best. Live Christ in your life. Find good, strong mentors to train him, and high-character friends to walk alongside him.
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Wet towels on the bathroom floor. Dirty clothes strewn about the bedroom with Legos embedded within, acting as a plastic minefield. And dirt. Dirt everywhere.
If you have boys, then this little visual has you nodding in agreement. Personal hygiene for the average pre-teen boy or early teenager just doesn’t compute. Not until there is a girl involved. Then, we see the transformation unfold before our eyes. The hair has to be just so. Clean clothes matter. Deodorant and cologne become necessities.
What happened?
He now has a reason to care.
But didn’t he have a reason to care before? Yes. “Whether then, you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”* Sometimes, boys need to be taught how God’s Word applies to every aspect of life.
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Is your son ready?
John David was giving the boys a last-minute pack check before heading out on a week-long hike and campout of over eighty miles, when he noticed they only had one water bottle apiece. The trails were long and dusty, and many times there would be no streams or rivers along the way, and they could only find water to filter at the end of the day. He quickly got them more water bottles, and they were ready for the trip.
One sip of a Sunday sermon is not enough to carry your son through the week. Teach him to drink deeply of the word, daily refreshing himself by streams of pure water in scripture. Morning and nightly draughts from God’s word will sustain him, clear his mind, and give him strength to carry on.
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Here’s an idea for studying the Bible with your teenage son.
First, find a simple Bible reading plan online. Each day, you and your son read the passage together or own your own.
Then, after reading the passage, go through the H.E.A.R acronym. This was created by Pastor Robbie Gallaty [gal-ah-tee].
H stands for– Highlight a verse that stands out
E— Explain what this verse means
A— Apply this to your life
And R— Respond to God’s Word.
Pastor Robbie says he created this acronym to eliminate many of the excuses people give for not understanding God’s word. It’s also an excellent catalyst for sparking spiritual conversations between you and your son. Pray about giving the H.E.A.R method a try.
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President’s Day is a time to reflect and a time to pray.
First, we must reflect on the strong, godly, and wise men that built this nation. Our society would like us to dismiss the heroism of our forefathers, because of their shortcomings. But if we erase our history, we also lose the legacy of greatness.
Young men today need to hear the real-life stories of flaws, mistakes, triumphs, and true masculinity. Just as God used imperfect men in the Bible to do heroic things for His kingdom, let’s remind our boys that God did— and still does– use flawed heroes to achieve great things.
Second, let’s remember to pray. Now, more than ever, our government needs prayer for wisdom and discernment. Pray that our nation’s leaders would turn to the true source of wisdom– our Father God– as they make crucial decisions.
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William Wallace, who fought for Scottish independence, recalls this quote his uncle used to tell him: “I tell you a truth: Liberty is the best of things, my son; never live under any slavish bond.”
Teach your son to walk in freedom. Many things in this life will seek to enslave him: twisted immorality, the pursuit of selfish ends and amassing wealth, or a life of ease and pleasure. But it is for freedom that Christ has set us free.
Your son is free from the bondage of Pharisaical judgment, Corinthian licentiousness, and everything in between. Whom the son sets free is free indeed.
So help him fight his battles, help free him from society’s grip, and let him soar with eagle’s wings so he, in turn, may reach out and help free others.
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Integrity. We sometimes call it, “Honor,” or “Our Word.”
If we say, “You have my word,” we wish for that person to believe us and trust us. Not just now, but in the future as well.
Yet, Integrity is a difficult thing for young men to build in today’s society. They are surrounded by peers, cultural icons, and even relatives who lie to “save their backsides.”
The Bible says, “Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a rich man who is crooked in his ways.” Proverbs 28:6
God said we could believe His Word unto salvation and everlasting life. And if our young men are to follow in the Master’s footsteps, then having integrity that mirrors their Master should be a priority. Not only for themselves, but for their posterity too.
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“Valentine’s Day! Yuck!”
Is this the type of response you hear when you ask your son about Valentine’s Day? We typically think the holiday is “girlie” and centered around flowers and chocolate. However, Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to remind your son of Jesus’s love for us and the strength it took for Him to go to the cross because of His love for humanity.
When referred to in the Bible, love isn’t the romantic type. Instead, biblical love shows courage and sacrifice. Jesus put our needs before His desires. And, on our worst day, God loves us unconditionally. This is the type of love we crave. And how we want to love others.
Read 1 Cor 13, the love chapter, with your son today. Then discuss the attributes of Godly love—the only love that is everlasting.
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John Eldredge writes, “Men want a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue. That is what is written in their hearts. That is what little boys play at. That is what men's movies are about. You just see it. It is undeniable.”
In today’s world, those desires can become distorted, twisted, or boys can be shamed out of righteous desires to pursue the lies society paints with glitter and holds up as bait.
You can affirm your boys in their desires for adventure, victory, and love, and do it with purpose. Teach them the right battles to fight. Give them tremendous adventures to live. Train them to be ready to rescue.
Surround your son with men and boys seeking a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.
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Do you know how microwave popcorn works?
Each kernel has a tiny drop of water inside. When that drop of water is heated up, the kernel explodes into popcorn!
Here’s what I want to hone in on– even though they are placed in the same bag and heated in the same microwave— each kernel will turn into popcorn at different times.
In the same way, your son will develop at his own rate. It’s very normal for boys to develop at a slower rate than girls, and then eventually catch up. But often, the school system continues to compare boys and girls as equals, which leads to many boys being considered developmentally delayed.
If that describes your son– don’t lose heart. Most likely, he will catch up in due time. He is perfectly and wonderfully made.
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How much food can one boy eat? What about ten boys? If your son is anything like mine, they can put away some groceries.
David and the other leaders planned ahead, and had a cooler full of food for the boys' outdoor leadership training retreat. What they did not count on was the fish.
Camping right next to a lake, the boys spent every free moment with a line in the water, built a fire, and cooked fish for breakfast, lunch, and supper. David went home with 90% of the food he brought to the campout!
Godly mentoring, fun with friends, and lots of fish-- it was a weekend to remember!
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It’s getting harder and harder to find programming on TV, movies in the theaters, or books in the bookstore to which we, as parents, feel comfortable exposing our children.
Guarding their hearts and minds becomes infinitely more difficult the day you hand them their first smartphone.
Because boys are typically very visual, in both their learning and what stimulates them emotionally, our “visual society,” with all of its ungodly trappings becomes a literal minefield, slowly destroying their boyhood innocence, one blast at a time.
We know the saying: “Garbage in, Garbage out.” Jesus phrased it like this: “From out of the heart, the mouth speaks.”* What are your boys viewing that will eventually come out as words and deeds? And does the answer to that question alarm you?
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Have you ever felt like an outsider? Like you didn’t fit in?
God created us with an innate desire to belong, to connect with others, to be part of a community.
Our sons are no different. Even when they act uninterested, hide in their room, or say they don’t care, they still long to fit it. They want to join with others and experience the thrill of being part of something bigger than themselves. Our job is to steer them toward a group with healthy goals and positive influences. Pray about a place for them to belong.
Encourage your boys to join a Christian group like Trail Life, where they can experience God’s creation, mature into godly men, and accomplish tasks alongside others.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son know how to succeed?
A young boy was talking to JD, an infectiously happy disc-golf expert who drove trucks for a living.
Eyes crinkling, JD told the boy, “I figured out the secret to making money as a truck driver. Wanna hear it?”
The boy nodded eagerly, and JD answered with a smile, “Keep the left door closed.”
What JD meant was, “don’t stop unnecessarily; keep on driving.”
Whether your son is climbing a mountain, practicing for football or soccer, or learning a trade, the secret to success is often that simple; just keep going. Persistence brings success, and small successes now mean you have prepared him to succeed on a much larger field: in life.
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Teach your son to do the best he can with what God has given him.
Violinist Niccolo Paganini was playing a piece in front of an audience when, one by one, his violin strings began to snap. Finally, Niccolo was left with only one single working string. Unfazed, he finished the piece on the single string he had left.
This is a wonderful example of focusing on our strengths. Our Creator has a specific purpose for every young man’s life. But sometimes, it’s easy for boys to only look at their weaknesses and decide that they aren’t equipped to do great things.
Instead, help your son focus on his strengths, and offer those to God. After all, our Lord can create beautiful music with any number of violin strings.
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Tim Allen once said, “Do you know what causes sibling rivalry? Having more than one kid.”
Worldly speaking, this is true. And funny. However, from a biblical perspective, the cause of sibling rivalry can reside in an “only child” household, too, for the ultimate cause is our sinful nature. The selfish cries of “Mine!” can manifest themselves in the presence of friends or relatives just the same.
Jesus taught us that the entire Law of God can be summed up in two steps: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, and Love your neighbor as yourself.* Who’s closer to being a neighbor than a sibling?
For when we teach our boys to have the heart of our Savior, siblings become more than mere flesh and blood with whom to compete.
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Is your son ready to face life?
Would you like him to be?
Giving your son challenges to overcome strengthens him to take on more.
Hiking a misty morning trail, sweating and pushing himself on the football field, or learning the thrill of shooting his kayak down a roaring rapid, powering through the river with eager strokes all build in him a mindset of success to overcome what life brings him.
Leonardo DaVinci once said, “Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.”
Give your son the opportunity to succeed. Carefully select challenges to push him and show him how strong he really is.
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“You’re not listening.”
Have you said this to your son lately? Maybe he was clicking his pen or fidgeting with a toy rather than paying attention to your words.
He appears to be ignoring you. However, his annoying behavior could be what helps him understand your instructions.
Boys can’t process sentence after sentence after sentence. Typically, they are kinesthetic and learn best when physically engaged in an activity. So, rather than sitting across from your son, try talking with him while participating in an activity together. Shoulder to shoulder, rather than eye to eye.
When you need to correct your son or offer him advice, get moving. Take a walk. Go for a bike ride. Build a fort. He’s more apt to hear your message.
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Does your son have a direction? Has he chosen what he wants his character to be?
You can help him do this, you know.
When you do, help him choose a character not based on pleasure or self, but on fulfilling God’s purpose for his life.
Albert Einstein once said, “To make a goal of comfort or happiness has never appealed to me; a system of ethics built on this basis would be sufficient only for a herd of cattle.”
Don’t raise your son as cattle. Raise him to be a godly leader whose first thought is not for himself, but for how he can serve his Savior.
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Teach your son to be a friend to all– even to those who are missing buttons.
In the classic children’s book Corduroy by Don Freeman, a little stuffed bear sits on a store shelf. Children see the bear and consider purchasing him. But when they see that Corduroy is missing a button on his overalls, they put him back on the shelf.
One day, a child decides to buy Corduroy, despite his missing button. When she takes him home, Corduroy thinks, “I’ve always wanted a friend.”
Your son is watching the way you treat others. Do you disregard and judge people because of their imperfections? Or, do you forgive and show grace?
Remind your son that Jesus was known for loving the misfits. As Christians, we should be a friend to all as well.
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Have you ever wanted to talk to your son? Like, really talk? Life can come at them hard and fast in today’s world.
Chris was concerned about his son after cancer took his wife. His son always said he was fine, but Chris wondered.
On a campout with their troop, when all the rock-climbing and tower-building was complete, Chris and his son went to fish. As the sun was setting and Canadian geese circled in to settle on the opposite side of the pond, Chris’ son said simply, “Mom would have liked this.”
Chris was quiet. “I miss her,” his son said, then broke down in tears. Chris dropped his rod and wrapped him up in a big hug, and they were able to talk– really talk. Make space to hear your son’s heart.
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Almost all of us have been bullied or observed someone bully others. How do we help our sons stand up to a tormentor without retaliating or being a pushover?
Devon joined the swim team last summer. A few teammates made fun of him because he wasn’t part of the “in” crowd. Others saw but didn’t know how to help. When Devon asked his parents what to do, they told him, “Just continue to be the person you are. Treat others the way you want to be treated.” And he did. At the end of season, Devon won the “Kindest Person on the Team” award. Everyone, including the coaches, noticed his caring disposition.
When your son asks how to stop a bully, one answer may be, “Just be yourself.”
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As soon as you found out you were having a son, you probably started dreaming about what he would be like.
Maybe you started dreaming about what he would grow up to be. Maybe you even laid out your old football jersey, wondering if your son would be a quarterback like you were in high school.
Maybe. But maybe not. Many times, sons surprise us with their interests. You might expect him to love sports, but he may prefer to do something completely different– like fix computers or bake apple pie.
Whatever your boy’s passions turn out to be, pray that he will use them to glorify God. Let go of your expectations. Encourage the natural giftings and interests you see in your son– even if that means he never dons your old high school football jersey.
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What is the allure of camping? Why do children want to sleep in tents, wander trails with flashlights, climb trees, and have adventures?
Painter Vito Campenella once said, “The world is all sense, life, soul and body, the image of the Almighty, fashioned to glorify Him with power, wisdom, and love.”
God’s power is evident in his creation, and often, he can speak to us there when we are away from the distractions of screens.
How much more important is it for your son? Rivers, mountains, and starry nights are great ways to teach him God’s glory. Even the backyard can be peace from the cares of life and time to lift his heart to God.
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God sees the x-ray of your son’s heart.
Brad Henry went to the doctor because of some knee pain. Looking at the x-ray, the doctor asked Brad, “Have you ever been shot?” Brad answered, “Yes, thirty-five years ago when I was rabbit hunting!”
It turned out that a piece of bullet had been lodged in Brad’s knee for decades.
As Brad’s story illustrates– X-rays can see what the human eye cannot. And in the same way, a crucial lesson we must teach our son is that God sees the depths of his heart.
On one hand, this is convicting– God sees his true motives and darkest sins. But more importantly, this is encouraging. As we’re reminded in Psalm 139:2– God understands our son’s every thought.
Remind your son today of how deeply he is seen and loved.
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Does your son lay around playing electronic games or scrolling through social media instead of helping around the house?
Unfortunately, many preteens and teens are conditioned to reach for an electronic device the minute their minds start to wander. They need guidance to redirect their efforts.
Consider assigning your sons chores, such as mowing the lawn, making their beds, or washing the dishes.
Children who complete chores are more confident, do better in school, and are more patient than those who don’t contribute to the household responsibilities. Chores help children be content with delayed gratification and mature into responsible adults.
Start giving your son a few chores per week based on his maturity level. Praise him when he completes his tasks, and model being a responsible adult by putting your device away and working alongside him.
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Does your son have a “spotter”?
In NASCAR, each driver has a “spotter.” It’s a person who stands high above the racetrack and communicates, through a radio, what’s behind, around, and ahead of the driver.
As Brad Henry points out in his book Destination- The Winner’s Circle, every young man needs a spotter. They need someone who has a wider perspective, who can point out potential issues behind and ahead of them.
Unfortunately, young men tend to listen to the spotter more closely if that person is NOT a parent. Start helping your son seek out a youth pastor, a church deacon, or a great male teacher who could be their positive mentor and “spotter.”
And of course, point your son to the ultimate spotter– God, the Author and Finisher of our faith.
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Could your boy be a hero?
Chris and his friends ran down to the beach ahead of their leaders when two ladies, frantic and crying, came running to them pointing out to sea. Their brother, a weak swimmer, was caught in a strong current and was fighting for his life, unable to make it to shore.
Two of the strongest swimmers raced out to save him as the others formed a human chain, wading into the current, helping their friends and the near-drowning brother to safety.
Surrounding your son with good friends who know what to do is a path to success for life, and will help him save others on his way.
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Want to teach your son right and wrong? The outdoors is a great place to start.
When you’re hunting, camping, or hiking, natural consequences are everywhere. If you don’t aim your shot well, you won’t harvest a deer. If you fail to pitch your tent correctly, it will tumble around you. If you don’t consult the weather forecast, you may get caught in a rainstorm on your hiking trail.
Always supervise your son, and be prepared to assist when needed. But on your next outdoor adventure, let your son take the lead. And when something goes wrong, as long as your son is safe, allow him to decide what to do next. You’ll be building his confidence, his resilience, and his critical thinking skills all at once.
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Can you be sure you are raising your children properly? How can you know you are right? With so many different voices yelling at you from social media, friends, and the world, how can you know what is true?
For instance, science mistakenly used to tell us margarine was better than butter, and eggs would kill us. Who can you trust these days?
Baroque sculptor Gian Lorenzo Bernini once said, “The most wonderful virtue of all is truth because ultimately it is revealed by time.”
Raise your children in the truth. God never changes; he is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Teach them to walk hand-in-hand with Him, and they will develop faith and a character that will stand the test of time.
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Every night at bedtime, Jane would kiss her five-year-old son’s cheek, and say, “I love you so much.”
One night, her son said, “Mom, I know you love me. But are you proud of me?”
That’s a true story that Dr. Emerson Eggerich shared while teaching about his book, Love and Respect.
Hearing her son’s question, Jane realized her son was already craving respect. She changed her approach. At bedtime, started putting her hand on her son’s shoulder and saying, “I am so proud of you.” Every time she did, her son would puff his chest and smile.
Your son does need to know you love him, of course. But don’t forget about his desire to hear that you like him and are proud of the person that he is, as well.
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Is it easier for you to fix something yourself rather than ask your son to help? If so, you’re not alone.
One wife asked her husband to let their ten-year-old help him change the oil in their car. He told her he’d tried in the past but ended up frustrated. His son didn’t listen, couldn’t focus, and kept dropping tools. The task took twice as long.
Can you relate?
Even though teaching our sons how to take care of household problems, like changing the oil, may cost us time, it’s worth the effort. It builds their self-worth and teaches them life lessons that help them become responsible adults. And through the process, the relationship between father and son grows.
So the next time you need to fix something, grab your son and complete the job together.
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Have you ever prayed over your son’s room?
Consider doing this the next time your son is at school or asleep.
Standing at your son’s bedroom door, pray Psalm 121:8: That the Lord will watch over his comings and his goings.
Then, walk over to his bedroom window, and pray Matthew 6:33- that your son will seek first God’s kingdom and righteousness.
By his bedside, pray Psalm 4:8- That your son will lie down and rest in peace, because the Lord alone makes him dwell in safety.
And standing in the middle of the room, pray Philippians 4:6-7– that your son isn’t anxious about anything, but with prayer and petition, makes his requests known to God, so that the peace of Christ fills your son’s room and his heart.
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Has your son ever been afraid?
On a coastal night hike, the youngest boys in the group were scared when odd lights began flashing across the sky. They grew more terrified as they hiked closer until they were directly underneath the lights!
Turning the corner, they were delighted to find the source of the mysterious lights was a lighthouse in the distance; the lighthouse beam reflected off a power line and appeared to shoot across the sky.
In life and on the trail, following experienced mentors and surrounding your son with other young men to keep him secure is a good plan for success and a way to find the light at the end of the trail!
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What comes to mind when you hear the word reflector?
Maybe you think of a car’s taillight or those glittery objects that stick up in the center of the road. A reflector takes the light it receives and redirects it outward.
In the darkness of today’s culture, Christians have a responsibility to reflect the true light of the world. The question is, are you doing that?
Matthew 5:16 says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”
Be bold in reflecting Christ. As you demonstrate courage in sharing the Gospel, your son will take notice. Then, before you know it, he’ll want to be a reflector as well.
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Don’t forget to enjoy life with your son.
If you’re like many parents, you are very concerned with parenting your son well. You work hard to help him succeed in school and learn responsibility. You research the best discipline strategies for him. You pray for him to know the Lord.
Those things are excellent. But don’t forget to kick back and have fun with your boy, too.
Sit on the porch and play fetch with the dog together. Hop on bikes and find a new trail. Make ice cream sundaes. If your son is little, sit with him. Play trucks, color, or blow bubbles.
You may only have a few minutes. But those few minutes will fill your son’s love tank, and remind him that enjoying God’s blessings is an important part of life.
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Did you charge up your cell phone last night?
Most likely, you did. That meant plugging it into a power source so that electricity could recharge its battery. Each night, you probably recharge your phone so that it’s ready to be used throughout the next day.
As a parent, it’s vital that you also take time to rest and recharge. This could take the form of physical relaxation, emotional support, or spiritual refreshment. There are many ways to recharge your internal “batteries,” but the key is to figure out what works for you, and then take time to rest.
By plugging into God’s Word, you’ll receive a big boost of strength that will power you throughout the day.
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Is your son destined for greatness?
Baroque sculptor Gian Lorenzo Bernini once said, “If you want to know the extent of a man’s ability, give him something difficult to do.”
Today’s society wants to give everyone a prize for showing up and award everyone an ‘A’ for turning in the assignment. The temptation to accept the easy ‘A’ and the prize with no victory creates a world with no champions.
Break the mold! Challenge your son! …the cold, early-morning air broken by the crunch of gravel under his hiking boots as he ascends a peak, the crash of helmets as he charges for a tackle, or the roar of a river as he shoots a rapid….
Is your son destined for greatness? Help him find it!
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If your son flops down on the couch and says, “I’m bored” — take notice.
God made boys mentally, emotionally, and physically different from girls. Because of that, they need to engage in activities that they are passionate about . . . activities that involve both mind and body.
So, what’s your son passionate about?
Dad, help him discover his strengths and talents. This might involve trying a little bit of a whole bunch of activities. Take him rock climbing. Sign him up for karate classes. Give photography a chance.
Eventually, your son will develop a passion for a certain activity. When this happens, encourage him to develop those skills. The more he does so, the fewer times you’ll hear, “I’m bored” escape his lips.
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Encourage your son to make only one resolution this year: to never give up.
The movie A Million Miles Away tells the true story of Jose Hernandez, who grew up as a migrant farmworker and eventually fulfilled his dream of being an astronaut.
Part of Jose’s story is that he applied to NASA eleven times before he was eventually accepted.
While making his twelfth application attempt, the movie shows Jose delivering the application in person to NASA. As he hands his application in, he says, “You can reject me again. But if you do, I’ll be right back here next year, applying again.”
Jose was accepted and went to space only four years after that.
Remind your son that, with God, all things are possible. We must never, ever give up.
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On this last day of the year, reflect with your son about the 5 critical needs.
First, do a check on your son’s “compass.” Ask him what he would like his life to look like in 5 years, and what he needs to do now to achieve his dreams.
Secondly, ask your son about his “map.” Does he have male mentors to look up to?
Third, remind your son that he needs a “guide,” positive peer relationships. Is his group of friends spurring him on in Christ?
Fourth, your son needs a flashlight. Does he feel confident in his faith? Remind him that it’s more than OK to ask questions.
Finally, talk to your boy about the mountains in his life. Does he feel challenged? What new activities would he like to attempt in the new year?
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Are you afraid your son will lose his way? This world is full of alluring distractions that can lead our children down dark paths, seeking to devour them.
In the midst of so many lies, how can they know the truth?
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle wrote in Sherlock Holmes, “...when you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.”
Against the wisdom of this world, the improbably simple truth of the gospel stands alone. Teach your son to never touch this world’s glittering array of lies by showing him how to cling fast to the word of God. Give him godly mentors to help train him, and surround him with like-minded young men following the greatest truth: Jesus Christ.
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A young boy was playing with his pet goldfish, when he accidentally killed it.
Scared he would get in trouble, the boy, named David, lied about what happened to his fish.
Immediately, he felt guilty. He confessed the lie to his mom as tears streamed down his face. His mom said, “David, Jesus loves you no matter what you have done.”
That little boy was David Frey, who grew up to be the lead singer of the Christian band Sidewalk Prophets. He wrote a song about that experience, called “You Love Me Anyway.”
As parents of sons, let’s follow the example of David’s mom. Our son is going to make mistakes. When he does, let’s remind him first and foremost that there’s nothing he can do to cancel out Jesus’ all-consuming, unconditional love.
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Did you listen to your parents, or did you listen to your friends?
Friendships can define a boy’s life. More than that, friendships in a group can provide identity. There is a reason sports teammates will fight viciously for one another on the field. It’s also why gangs are so prevalent– it gives boys a sense of belonging, and can drive them to do things they know are wrong.
How can you help your son choose? It doesn’t have to be left to chance.
You can give him godly friends who will inspire him as they help each other along the way. And who knows? Perhaps your son is the one the others will listen to and learn from.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
In a time when boys are struggling to know their purpose and identity, look to the beautiful story of Christmas.
First, Jesus’ time on earth gives young men guidance. Jesus embodies Biblical masculinity. He loves, heals, delivers, and sacrifices.
Second, the Christmas story grounds boys. In our society where everything is fluid, the absolute truth of God’s word gives young men a foundation to stand on.
Thirdly, the gift of Jesus Christ proves everyone’s infinite worth.
And finally, the Christmas story is inspiring. Boys always want to know what’s at stake– and the life and death of Jesus proves that laying down our life for others is the greatest call.
May these days of the holiday season remind your son– and you– to thank God for the amazing gift of redemption through Jesus.
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Is celebrating Christmas really important? Does it matter?
Today’s world seems ready to tear down any tradition that reinforces Christianity, family, and morality. For our children, this can lead to confusion and despair.
The simple act of celebrating Christmas, decorating and cooking special food, helping kids choose gifts for family members, anticipating the big day, and spending time together all reinforce the love of family.
Explaining the reason for Christmas does even more–it points to God, and the good news that his son Jesus loves us all.
So enjoy this Christmas, and know that you are giving your children more than the presents under the tree. You are mentoring them in how to create a loving family, how to give of themselves to others, and teaching them about the love of God.
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Show. Don’t just tell.
In Philippians 3:10, Paul says, “I want to know Christ.” He isn’t talking about head knowledge. In both the Greek and Hebrew languages, the word knowledge is experience based. Paul was saying that he longs to experience God in all of His glory.
That should be our heart’s cry as Christian parents. We can take our son to church and tell him about the importance of a relationship with Jesus. But the best way to teach our boys is to show them.
Let your son see you meeting with God, reading your Bible, praying, and sharing Christ with others. Let Christ transform your life. Your son will notice– and no doubt begin to desire to experience Jesus for himself.
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What is a holiday?
The word holiday comes from the words “holy day.” Parents can seize opportunities all around them for recognizing Christmas as a holy holiday.
December offers plenty of occasions for talking about the Lord.
The book of Deuteronomy shows a model for approaching special seasons. We can remember what God did in the past, feast on good, rich foods, and offer spiritual sacrifices. We can worship together with fellow believers and give and share with other people.
These ancient Jewish instructions speak to any modern father-figures who want to influence their families for the Lord. We too can learn from the book of Deuteronomy and apply its words in principle to our lives. As we plan for Christmas, let’s intentionally lead others to Jesus.
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What are you getting your son for Christmas? Does he have a present wrapped under the tree?
Have you considered giving him biblical manhood?
Today’s world is mired in moral confusion, social pressures and the tyranny of the cell phone that makes everything worse.
For a young man, who needs guidelines in his life, godly mentors, and challenges to help test his strength and grow him into the godly man he can be, today’s society offers very little.
Why not give him something MORE this Christmas?
Trail Life USA offers a proven process to train and equip your son through outdoor adventure and advancement. Trained leaders will inspire and guide him and other boys will help him become his very best.
Give him excitement, adventure, and a Biblical foundation this Christmas.
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He’s often overlooked, but he’s one of the most important characters in the Christmas story.
Joseph, Jesus’ earthly father, is a wonderful example of healthy masculinity in several ways.
First, Joseph did the right thing. When he first learned of Mary’s pregnancy, he planned to divorce her quietly, so he wouldn’t shame her. But after being visited by an angel, he chose to trust God and stay with Mary.
Second, Joseph protected Jesus, taking him to Egypt to avoid King Herod’s wrath.
And finally, Joseph provided for his family. He worked as a carpenter, and taught his son his trade as well.
You probably won’t hear much about Joseph this Christmas. Remind your son that the father of Jesus showed trust, a quiet faithfulness, and ultimately played an unspeakably important role in the earthly life of our Savior.
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Theodore Roosevelt famously said,
“Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.”
But how? How do we as parents give our sons the chance for glorious triumphs?
Break free of the tyranny of screens! Go outdoors, and teach your son to test his mettle against a lofty mountain peak, a wicked fastball, or paddling a canoe down a winding river in the early morning mist.
Rescue him from the gray twilight, and teach him to truly live!
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Your son craves four things.
First, he craves belonging– to “fit in.” Second, he wants a sense of competence. He needs to feel “good enough.” Third– boys need to know their worth. And the fourth thing that boys crave is a sense of autonomy. They want freedom and independence.
The next time your son is upset or angry, it may be a good idea to go through this list in your head. Which craving is your son lacking?
Then, once it’s identified, help your son find age-appropriate, healthy, ways to fulfill that desire. For instance, if he’s not feeling a sense of belonging at school, maybe he could find another group of peers to meet with. This could be a youth group, or an outdoor adventure group like Trail Life USA.
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How can you train your son into good character, character that will last, character that will see him become a man of responsibility and action?
The allures of society can drown your son in ease of life, pleasure, and infinite time-wasting. Many young men simply fail to do anything with their lives.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Irving Stone wrote of Michelangelo in The Agony and the Ecstasy, “...his own integrity… forced him to do his best, even when he would have preferred to do nothing at all.”
There is a way to instill character in your son: give him godly mentors, a high target to aim for, and set challenges for him that will awaken the fire within his soul.
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Pray that your son is ordinary.
When your boy is little it's fun to dream about what he may grow up to be. Maybe he could be a famous musician or an athlete or president of the United States, but have you ever considered praying that your son will simply be ordinary, with an extraordinary Heart for Jesus ?
In the Bible, it's often that everyday, overlooked people God uses to accomplish amazing, eternal things. Jesus’ chosen disciples are a great example. They were simple men, who’d been ignored by society, but because of their humility and willing hearts, God used them for great purposes.
Pray that your son grows up willing to serve in whatever way God calls him. Even if by the world’s standards, that’s simply ordinary.
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What is your son afraid of?
In today’s world, there is a lot to fear. School, friends, teachers, and classes are just a few. Social media and today’s culture pile on enough to scare most adults, let alone children.
But the bible says, “God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
Anchor your son in the word of God. Lead your children to godliness by example. Give them righteous mentors that will train them in the way they should go, and help them find friends to support, inspire, and uplift them.
Raising a child in today’s world can be scary, but God is with you!
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“Raising boys is an extreme sport. That’s why I wear workout clothes every day.”
That’s a lighthearted quote from the blog Simply Well Balanced, but it sure has a lot of truth in it! Raising a son is a good way to rack up the steps on your fitness watch. But let me affirm you— if you’re letting your boy be wild– you’re probably doing it right.
Let him run around like crazy outside. Show him how to make mud pies. Watch him do tricks on his bicycle. Go fishing together, and let him hold the fish while you snap a picture.
Sure, it can be exhausting. But if your son ends the day making muddy footprints across your floor– I bet he’ll also have a smile on his face.
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In today's directionless culture, how can a boy know which way to go?
As a boy, Luke climbed a 13,000-foot peak. It was terrifying and exhilarating!
Just below the summit, the path went through a channel cut into the rock by ferocious winds. Protecting him from being swept off the rock face were steel cables mounted deep into the rock, secured there by the forest service.
Confident of the steel cables' protection and seeing the summit, heI forged ahead and reached the top, a memory he'll never forget.
Give your son guidelines, steel cables set in rock, to protect him from being swept away, let him see the reward ahead of him, and there is no mountain he cannot climb.
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A perfect parent would raise a terrible son.
If you’re like many of us, when your head hits the pillow at night, your mind buzzes with the ways you could have been a better parent to your son.
But Ali Worthington, author of the book Remaining You While Raising Them, says to stop beating yourself up. She says even a perfect parent can raise a son who doesn’t know how to apologize or deal with a friend’s bad day. Our creator God is so kind and powerful that he can use even our weaknesses as parents to teach our sons valuable life lessons.
So the next time you feel you’ve messed up as a parent, apologize to your son, and know that God can use even your worst days for good.
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How do you feel about your son's friends?
Do they make him a better person? Do they encourage him to do the right thing? Do your son's friends show him how to serve selflessly?
Scripture says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This is doubly true for boys, who are still moldable clay, waiting to be formed by whatever-- and whoever-- is around them. More than listening to the same music and watching the same movies, boys learn from each other, and shape each other's values.
Help your son to choose good friendships-- boys he can learn with, play with, and serve with.
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Disciplining your son takes courage.
Whether your son is a toddler with a squeaky voice or a teenager with floppy hair, disciplining him can be quite a challenge. You may be met with a tantrum, eye rolls, or even the dreaded “I hate you!” Sometimes, the response from your son might be so harsh that you wonder if discipline does more harm than good.
But don’t lose heart. Saying no and laying down consequences is an act of love. When your son hurts your feelings with his response, ask God for wisdom and courage. Remember the truth in Hebrews 12:11- “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
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Here’s a simple language shift that can reach the heart of your son.
When your boy is bickering with a sibling or a friend, your instinct might be to say “Son, you need to be kind.”
But author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs [EGG-er-RICH] says that you might need to say something else.
Dr. Eggerichs [EGG-er-RICH] is widely known for his writings about how a man’s deepest desire is for respect. He says that desire starts when boys are very young. So much so, that if you tell your son to be kind and loving – that concept may not resonate very deeply with him.
If you, however, tell your boy to be respectful to others— he may listen more closely. Young men crave respect so much that they understand why another person would need it, too.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Why does your son need to learn courage?
Does he need to stand up for himself? Stand up for others? Stand up for what is right?
In today’s world, he will need to do all of these and more.
English poet and playwright Sameul Johnson said, “Where courage is not, no other virtue can survive except by accident.”
Lead by example. Give your son godly mentors. Provide opportunities for him to test himself with the rush of a downhill bike course, a hard-fought game of sports, or a whitewater rapid, and he’ll push his own boundaries to new heights. Once he gets a taste of courage, he’ll find new horizons awaiting him. He may surprise you by what he can become.
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It was just three simple words.
Evangelical Louis Palau was fighting terminal lung cancer. During that time, someone asked him, “After you pass away, if you could send a message down from heaven to all believers, what do you think you would say?”
Palau thought for a moment, then responded with three simple words: “Go for it.”
That kind of God-rooted courage is one of the most important traits to instill in our son.
When he’s little, this looks like letting him climb and explore in age-appropriate ways. When he’s older, this means stepping back to allow him to attempt things and fail big.
And when our son expresses a dream to us, let us be the first one to echo Palau’s encouraging words– “Go for it.”
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Have you ever had a mentor or teacher that you wish you had listened to?
In a whitewater course, two seasoned veterans taught the intricacies of draw strokes, pry strokes, reading a rapid, and the joy of eddy turns.
But five minutes onto the river, one boy panicked, ignored the calls of his mentors, and ended up capsizing his canoe in the middle of a rapid and wrapping it around a large rock, while everyone else eddied up safely on the other side of the river.
Teach your son to listen to the voice of his leaders. This life can be a swift river with dangerous rocks at every turn. A good mentor can make all the difference in the world.
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David Thomas, a psychologist, was attending an elderly grandpa’s funeral.
David watched as two of the man’s grandsons approached the casket. One boy, who was six years old, cried loudly. Beside him stood another boy– fourteen years old– who was holding back his tears.
David overheard some adults express concern about the crying six year old. But David was more worried about the silent older boy. While the six year old was clearly processing his emotions, the fourteen year old was bottling up feelings that would have to be dealt with eventually.
When your son goes through a loss or something difficult, be sure to help him process his feelings. Let him know that it’s more than OK for men to display emotions– after all, Jesus cried openly, too.
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What is Black Friday, really? What is it about?
Pursuing hard-to-find items only available for a short time is a treasure hunt to many.
How can you use Black Friday to teach your children about faith in Christ?
The bible says few find the path to salvation, and this short life is the only time we have to find it. In some ways, Black Friday is like the man who found a hidden treasure in a field and sold everything he had to get it.
Give your children every opportunity to know the love of Christ. Teach them to cling to their faith as the most precious, hard-to-find treasure they’ll ever know by living that faith in your own life for them to see.
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What is your son thankful for?
The Pilgrims were thankful to be alive. They fled from religious persecution, faced the terror of the North Atlantic in a tiny ship and potential starvation when their supplies ran out.
Today, your son faces new and harsh challenges to his faith and even his identity as a male. How can you help him navigate past his obstacles into godly, thankful manhood?
Model Christ for him. Live out your faith. Teach him to love the word of God.
Also, give him godly mentors and surround him with others on the same path. Provide carefully selected challenges to strengthen him.
11The joy of his journey and his success as a godly man will make you both thankful.
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“I guess I haven’t learned that yet.”
That’s a phrase coined by author Shauna Niequist [knee-kwist]. After her two sons, Henry and Mac, had lived in a small town their whole life, Shauna and her husband moved the family to New York City.
As her sons struggled with the transition to city life, Shauna pinned a piece of paper to the wall with the phrase “I guess I haven’t learned that yet” on it. She reminded her boys that everyone is growing and learning, and that it’s fine to not know everything.
Your son might need to hear that, too. When he makes a mistake, reassure him that it’s a normal part of growing up. Remind him that God’s grace is sufficient to cover every last one of the things we haven't learned yet.
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One educator said we live in a day of hurried loneliness, with hundreds of Facebook friends but not two with whom we think and share deeply. Families rush from one activity to another. To some people, the idea of a family sitting down together and leisurely sharing a meal is an idea from a Norman Rockwell painting.
Parents, we must plan to make meaningful conversation happen.
We can embrace intentionality. Without it, family devotions, meaningful conversation, and spiritual practices won’t happen. We will just stay busy.
As Thanksgiving approaches, stop for a few moments and make a plan. Ask, “How will I intentionally help my family practice gratitude the next two weeks and have meaningful conversations?
That will produce beauty greater than autumn leaves.
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For what are you thankful?
Author Jerry Bridges called unthankfulness one of our “respectable sins,” easily accepted as normal.
The Bible exhorts believers to live a life of habitual thanksgiving. In our day of consumerism, we are wise to practice the habit of gratitude and teach our families to do the same.
Don’t lose the spirit of Thanksgiving. Claim it, prepare for it, and practice the art of that holiday.
Regardless of our circumstances, we can give thanks.
Father figures can thank the Lord for our abundant blessings. Even the giving of thanks in difficult or disappointing circumstances can be done based on God’s promises.
As we move through November, let’s practice gratitude, and influence the boys in our lives to do the same.
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Ralph Waldo Emerson opined, “Life is not so short but that there is always time for courtesy and chivalry.”
Have you ever been encouraged by the smallest courtesy? Holding the door, bringing a glass of water, or any small thing is enough to brighten our day.
Has anyone ever risen to your defense? Stood up for you? Told others you were right? It is a great feeling.
There is great power in acts of courtesy and chivalry, and you can give that power to your children. They can brighten others’ days, stand for what is right, and make a difference. Give your children the power to lift others up.
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Do girls feel more emotions than boys?
David Thomas, a psychologist and author, says this common belief is not true. He says boys feel just as deeply as girls, but often don’t know how to process those feelings as well as girls do.
As parents of boys, it’s important that we help our sons put words to their feelings. One way to do that is to simply discuss emotions out loud. When you’re watching a TV show with your son, discuss what characters seem to be feeling– are they embarrassed? Frustrated?
You can even find charts of feelings words online and put them on your fridge. Help your son find words for his feelings, and you might be surprised to discover the range of emotions he goes through each day.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, go to Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Are you sure your son has what he needs for this life?
One mountain hike, a boy showed up without a ground pad to go under his sleeping bag. The nights only dipped into the mid-40’s, but without a ground pad, the cold earth underneath him would have drained heat off his body, leaving him shivering (and not sleeping) all night long.
Check in with your son. Talk to him. Listen to him. Make sure he has the tools he needs for success. Is there something that is draining him every day? Oftentimes, a boy might not tell you what is wrong– he may not know himself, just like the boy who was missing a ground pad.
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To him, it is a big deal.
When your teenage son faces rejection or embarrassment, your first instinct may be to say, “Son, in the scheme of things, this is not a big deal.”
But that might not be the best approach. Through MRI scans of teenage brains, psychologists have actually found that a teen’s amygdala– the part of the brain that senses negative emotions– is much more reactive than a child’s brain or an adult’s brain.
So instead of telling your son to stop worrying, empathize. Recall a similar situation you’ve been in and how it made you feel. Suggest he does something like working on his car or walking his dog. Help him find healthy coping mechanisms, and he’ll start to learn how to better handle negative experiences.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you remember when you got your first pocketknife?
Cody got his first pocketknife as a birthday present from his grinning grandfather under the watchful scowl of his mother. The first thing he did was cut himself and get a bandaid put on his finger.
As he grew in years and maturity, he learned to responsibly handle his knife, and went on to teach other boys how to sharpen, care for, and safely use their knives. But it all started with a cut.
Boys need curated danger– the opportunity to run real risks, albeit small ones, to test themselves against life. Give your son the gift of risk. Canoeing, football, and rock-climbing all have their risks, but pay their rewards in character.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever seen a boy transformed?
One member of an outdoor youth program was a troubled teen who had spent time in Juvie, and was likely headed for prison.
His leaders worked hard to mentor him, teach him, and praise every effort he gave, no matter how small.
From annoyed disinterest to tolerance, he slowly began to listen. To everyone’s surprise, he became one of the most faithful members, showing up for every meeting, and helping out with anything asked of him.
As he grew older, not only did Luther stay out of prison, but he has a good job and a wonderful family, all because someone invested in his life.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can you teach your son how to have a relationship with Jesus?
A parent of a prodigal child was reflecting on his kid’s growing up years, and said, quote:“I’ve realized that we raised our children in church, but not in Christ.” [end quote]
How can we teach our boys to abide in Jesus?
First, we have to make sure our own walk with the Lord is growing. Second, encourage your son to not just attend a church service, but also join a small group and serve in a ministry. And finally, let your son have his own relationship with God. He might not connect with God exactly how you do. Trust that our clever Creator will speak to your son on His own terms.
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Has your son ever wanted to be a knight?
Plastic swords and armor strewn about his room, breastplate dangling from his bedpost, and picture books of Teutonic knights adorn many a boy’s room.
What is it about righting wrongs, defeating evil tyrants and rescuing the innocent that calls out to a boy?
The Bible says, “Rescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter.” God teaches us a desire to save the helpless and see righteousness prevail in his word.
Affirm your son's desires to do right, to help save others and to rescue the perishing. You may be amazed at the size of his heart for helping others.
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It’s easier than you think.
In her book Boys Will Be Boys, Dr. Meg Meeker jokingly describes a fictional encounter between a father and a son. The dad says, “Hey son, I’ll see you later, I’m going to a seminar on how to be a better father!” And the son answers,: “Oh, that’s easy dad, just hammer some nails with me.”
Dr. Meeker’s brilliant point is that good and godly parenting is a lot more simple than we think. Although a doctor’s advice is sometimes needed, ultimately there’s only two voices you need to listen to: God’s, and your son’s. Dr. Meeker says if you pay close enough attention to your son, you will soon see what he truly needs. Combine that with a prayer for wisdom, and you can parent with confidence.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How does a boy know he is becoming a man?
Sometimes, life tells them along the way.
Late in the dry summer, Robert looked out his back door, and saw smoke billowing across his property. A growing fire crawled across his neighbor’s pasture, and threatened to roar into the woods on his land. He yelled for his two boys, 12 and 15, threw rakes into the truck, and drove toward the fire.
Jumping into action, he and the boys beat back the flames, creating a firebreak and saving the woods - and the elementary school on the other side.
Grimy, exhausted, thirsty, and hearts racing with pride they performed a man’s work that day, those two boys knew they were becoming men.
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What does your son think about his looks?
The media has been focusing a lot on a positive body image movement for girls. But it’s easy to forget that our sons can also feel pressure from peers to have a “perfect” body. How can you help your son have a healthy body image?
First, and perhaps most importantly, get your son involved in outdoor physical activity. When he’s with friends, sweating, competing, and having a great time, he’ll feel good physically. Second, refrain from making comments about his body, whether good or bad. Compliment character traits instead– like how he prayed at dinner or how he was patient with his sister. And finally, memorize verses together about our intrinsic worth in Christ– the true source of ultimate confidence.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What sets a boy's heart on fire?
Whether it's beating the next level, winning the next game, or paddling around the next bend, boys love a challenge. And more than that, boys need a challenge.
Put a group of boys in canoes, and they will turn it into a race or a competition to turn each other over. Send them on a campout, and they'll race to see who can set their tent up first so they can go romp in the woods.
You can let your son find his own challenges, or you can give him adventures that will build him up, create strong character, and teach him that he is an overcomer, and a force to be reckoned with.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Who are your families’ heroes?
Take time in the month of November to teach children about great spiritual heroes - and also remember some of the heroes in your own life. Don't just let these days float by as missed opportunities while the culture is already trying to make money off of Christmas.
Redeem this time and use it as a stepping stone into the holiday season. Spend the month of November leading up to Thanksgiving learning some new spiritual heroes - and being thankful for familiar ones.
Talk around the supper table about a godly person from history. Or, share stories from your own pilgrimage. The website Christian History Institute is a great resource for learning about people who have gone before us.
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Have you ever seen the power of a boy?
All that boundless energy is there for a reason.
Steve led a 50-mile hike with a group of boys and began to worry he might have to cut it short. His son and some of the other younger boys were lagging behind and wanted to quit.
Just as Steve made the decision to turn the entire group back, the older boys took charge, taught the younger ones silly songs and games for the trail, and all the little ones drafted in their wake, inspired to follow young men they looked up to and admired.
Give your son excellent young men to look up to, and help him become the one who inspires others.
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Is there a storm in your son’s life?
When your son inevitably faces something difficult in his life, it may feel like a hurricane is blowing through. And when it does, you want nothing more than to end the storm—or at least hold an umbrella over your boy’s head.
But as hard as we try, we cannot protect our son from every pain in this life.
But here’s the good news. Whatever storm your son is enduring right now, Jesus is with him. The wind and waves obey Jesus.
So when the winds pick up and the rain beats down, point your son to his Savior. Pray that he clings to the only one who can truly calm the storm.
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Now is the best time in history to raise a boy.
Michael Reichert makes that claim in his book How to Raise a Boy. At first, it may seem like he is wrong, since boys are falling behind their female peers in almost every area.
But Reichert says those statistics are what makes it a great time. Now that we’re aware that boys are struggling, it only takes a little intentionality to help. We can make sure our boys have positive and godly mentors. We can steer our sons away from screens and towards outdoor activity. We can get our son the extra help they need educationally.
And, most importantly, we can pray to our all powerful God for wisdom, protection, and a full, kingdom building life for our sons.
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Have you ever watched a boy turn into a man?
Tony was a goofy boy that liked to chase lizards, quote movies, and prank his friends. But he was smart and kind, and the leaders in his volunteer group began to suggest roles of responsibility.
Soon, he began coming up with original ideas for activities, developing new games, and planning outings on his own. As an older youth, he commanded respect from his peers and adults alike.
Sometimes, a boy needs curated responsibility to learn the art of leadership and service. Look for opportunities to give your son ways to grow. He may surprise you! This world needs godly men who lead from the front.
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Your son needs to take a walk.
Walking has more psychological benefits to your son than you probably even realize. Researchers have found that the rhythmic left and right motion can actually help your boy’s brain process thoughts and feelings. The physical movement can reduce his anxiety and depression, and also helps create new white blood cells in the brain which helps him think better.
If your son thinks a walk sounds boring, here are some ideas: Get him a dog that needs to be taken on walks. Buy each other cheap fitness trackers, and compete for most steps taken in a day. Or, set up a reward system– maybe for every mile walked he gets a little bit of screen time.
Whatever your strategy, his developing brain will benefit.
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Are you sure your son is on the right path?
Once, while teaching a map and compass course to a group of boys, the leaders began to notice that none of the boys were finding the right path. Some were off by small margins, and some went entirely the wrong direction!
The activity was a failure, and only later was it discovered to be because of buried power lines and water lines under the church property that were throwing the compass readings off wildly.
Set your son's compass to true north. Show him the right paths, and help him on his way to growing into a man of God.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can you teach your son to be honest?
To put it simply: Champion the truth.
If your son makes a mistake but confesses, praise his honesty more than focusing on the mistake. And if he does tell a lie, make sure he knows he’s getting punished more for the lie than the wrongdoing.
It’s also crucial to remember that your son is watching you closely. He will hear you lie to your boss about why you had to take a sick day. And he will notice when you compliment a friend, but turn around and insult that same friend behind their back.
Ask God to give you the strength to model for your son the life described in 1 John 3:18, that loves “with actions and in truth.”
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Can you protect your son from today's toxic culture?
The Bible says to “train up a child in the way he will go, and he will not depart from it.” Just like training to throw a spiral pass or paddle a canoe, training your son to avoid today's moral pitfalls is worth the time and effort.
Workouts and drills are for more than the football field and the outdoors. Teaching your son that daily time with God is important for his soul, mind and body and helping him practice it day after day will give him strong roots that grow deep into good soil and can keep him anchored in the way he should go.
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Would you give your son a blessing?
It may sound like a strange concept, but it’s seen throughout the Bible between fathers and sons. Dr. John Trent and Dr. Gary Smalley wrote about this in their book, The Blessing. They say that most blessings in the Bible include five things, quote, “meaningful and appropriate touch, a spoken message, attaching high value, picturing a special future, and an active commitment.”
Try it yourself. Before your son goes to bed, give him a hug. Tell him about his worth, his future, and your role in all of it. It may feel awkward at first, but ask God to give you the right words. I promise, even if your son doesn’t seem to respond, it will mean the world to him.
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How can you be sure your son will succeed?
If you've asked this question, you're not alone. We all want the best for our children, but how can we help them on their way?
Give your son something to aim for. Set a target for him that ignites excitement. Surround your son with great examples of godly character. Finding father figures and mentors to teach him, train him, and be his guide as he grows and develops strong habits of excellence is a very good start.
Frank Sonnenberg says of mentoring: “You never know when you're creating a spark that will last forever.”
Create that spark in your son. Inspire him. Give him his path to success.
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Is your son struggling in school? He’s not alone.
Unfortunately, many traditional schools are not set up to maximize a young man’s success. First, boys are wired to be movers, so sitting all day can be a challenge. Second, boys’ ears are less skilled at picking up higher frequencies, so learning from a female teacher’s voice can be difficult. And lastly, boys usually develop slower than girls, so when compared to their female peers, it can seem like boys are behind.
Here’s how you can help as a parent– show your son grace and patience. Meet with his teacher to discuss alternative learning options. And before and after school, make sure he has lots of opportunities to get outside and “be a boy.”
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How fast can a riptide kill you?
Matthew was about to find out. Caught in a riptide off the coast, he watched the shoreline grow further away as he exhausted himself fighting against the current. Weak and in despair, he suddenly remembered his training, and swam a short twenty feet out of the current, where he was able to float, recover his strength, and swim back to shore.
Today’s toxic culture wants to drag your children far away, and fighting the culture is exhausting and demoralizing. Give them the tools to recognize the current and swim out of it, and they’ll find an entire ocean ready to explore and adventure in. You can do it. It’s a challenging task, and the blessings last forever.
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How does a boy learn right from wrong?
Sometimes, boys can learn more from our mistakes than from our teaching. Brian had just finished teaching ax and saw safety to a troop of boys eager to build towers and rope bridges. While loading his equipment, he carelessly tossed a saw that bounced and rolled to within a foot of the boys he had just taught about safety.
Everyone froze. They all stared as he pulled out his wood tools safety card, and handed it to the 14-year-old troop leader, who tore it up and said he would have to take the safety course again!
Brian graciously accepted the consequences from a boy leader. All the boys learned that day that real men accept responsibility.
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Do you know where the world’s tallest skyscraper is located?
At an incredible height of 2,722 feet (just over half a mile), Burj Khalifa in Dubai, the United Arab Emirates, is almost 500 feet taller than the second-tallest skyscraper.
If you want to build high, you must first dig deep and build a foundation below the surface.
As a parent, grandparent, or mentor, you can help build a deep and firm biblical foundation for children.
A child’s foundation of faith is best built by purposefully and consistently sharing God’s truths with them through what you say and do.
Use the time you have with them to teach them God’s Word and how it applies to their lives.
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever seen good advice ignored, with hilarious results?
I heard about a boy who camped with a new group of friends in a campground he knew well. It flooded frequently, and was nicknamed, “The Swamp.” All of the adults and other boys ignored his advice to camp on higher ground, and they pitched their tents in the easy, sandy soil.
Finding the highest ground, he slept through the night to the lullaby sound of rhythmic drumming rain, and woke to find the camp a wet, soggy shambles, while he was high and dry.
Many times, easiest is not best, and it is good to listen to the voice of experience.
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Here’s an idea to connect with your son: show him your high school yearbook.
First, let him make fun of your outdated haircut and clothes. Show him the picture of your basketball team, and the page where it says you were voted class clown.
Next, show him pictures of your friends. Talk about what friendships ended and which ones have lasted through the years.
And finally, talk about the power of choices. Be honest about what you’re proud of and what you regret. Share about your relationship with your own parents at that time. Show your son how God used both the good and the bad for His own glory in your life. After all, as the verse in Revelation reminds us, we overcome through the word of our testimony.
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Why is there an attack on biblical manhood?
All around us, the very idea of a man as a devout father, provider, and hard worker is ridiculed and torn down. A spineless, conforming, weak-willed androgyne is modeled, and we are told to sacrifice our sons to modern culture.
How can you keep your son safe from these attacks?
Model godly character. What he sees in you, he will follow.
Provide godly mentors. Show him a standard he can trust and hold.
Give him a challenge. Overcoming small challenges like a canoe trip, daily spiritual disciplines, a rock-climbing adventure, or a mountain peak will give him the confidence to go against the grain and become a godly man of character.
For more information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
“In a thousand feet, turn left.”
Imagine that you’re driving in a town you’ve never visited before. The GPS on your phone is telling you what turns you need to make. But suddenly, your phone’s battery dies. Without your GPS, you feel lost, alone, and you wonder if you’ll even make it to your desired destination.
That “lost” feeling is what many young men experience in our society today. In the confusion of cultural relativism, mixed roles, and gender fluidity, boys don’t know who they are supposed to be.
The solution is that boys need two things– a biblical foundation, and godly mentors. With those two things, boys can develop confidence and direction, so they can learn to navigate the unfamiliar interstate of life.
For more ideas on raising boys to become godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Why do boys love adventure?
Mark Twain said, “There comes a time in every rightly constructed boy’s life that he has a raging desire to go somewhere and dig for hidden treasure.”
The search for adventure drives some boys to video games, where they can conquer kingdoms and gain virtual accolades. Others find their adventures in sports.
But deep down, the call of the woods, the wild, the mountains and the seashore live deep in all young boys.
You can feed that desire and strengthen the bond with your son at the same time. Take him on a wilderness adventure, or hike to a waterfall, or camp in the woods by a crackling fire amidst the lightning bugs. Lead him on his adventure!
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Doesn’t it seem like the more you want your son to talk, the less he will?
Of course, some boys are talkative. But generally speaking, your son is not going to volunteer a lot of information about his day.
One reason is biological. Males have fewer language centers in their brain than females, and process things internally. Your son may also feel the pressure from you to share, and is backing away because he feels like he just isn’t going to be able to give you enough.
Here are a few ways to get your son to open up. First, try shoulder-to-shoulder instead of face to face communication. Some boys relax more when they’re walking or sitting beside you in a car, and share more. Second, allow silence. You may just be talking too much yourself. And third, lower the pressure and lower your expectations.
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What makes worship, worship?
Jesus defined worship for the Woman of Samaria at Jacob’s well in John 4:23 and 24.
“But the hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father is seeking such people to worship him. God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.”
We should teach our children to worship God wherever they are, not just at church.
What matters most in worship? The posture of our hearts and minds. He should be our focus. Locations and details change, but He is eternal and unchanging.
Let’s lead our boys to worship God “in spirit and truth.”
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If you ask your son what it means to be brave, what would he say?
Your son would probably answer that bravery is entering a dangerous situation or saving someone’s life– and that’s true.
But in this day and age when depression and suicide rates of teenage boys are at a crisis point, your son needs to know that there’s another way to be brave– asking for help.
Give your son small exercises in asking for help in everyday life– with his homework, with his chores, or at public places. Model getting help when you need it yourself. And when your son comes to you with a problem, be sure to listen with a nonjudgmental attitude. Remind him that even the Savior of the world– Jesus– cried out for help to his own Father.
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Where should a boy turn to when he needs wisdom?
Today, through the internet and other sources, there is more information available than ever before.
But the best source of information and wisdom is found in a book written thousands of years ago — the Bible. The book of Proverbs is especially powerful when it comes to seeking wisdom.
We often think we need a “life hack” to navigate life’s most difficult situations. But all we need is God’s Word and His Spirit living in us.
If you or your son needs wisdom today, turn to Proverbs and ask God for His help. He delights in giving it in abundance.
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Here’s a startling statistic:
The average iPhone screen time for an adult in the United States is around seven hours each day. But the average amount of time a parent spends with their child is only about two hours a day.
Here are some screen-free ideas for connecting with your son today.
Make banana splits with your boy. Build a lego garage for his cars. Campout in the living room. Have him help you make a family photo album. Find a nontraditional holiday online, and celebrate it together. Turn on some music, and find different things around the house to drum on.
Whatever it is, put your phone down and spend some quality time with your son today. You will both enjoy the benefits.
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Do you remember when someone gave you bad advice? Did you take it? If so, what were the results?
When seeking advice, who or what can you trust?
The most trustworthy source of truth is the Bible. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
The best first step in all situations is going to God and asking for His guidance.
Seeking advice from family, friends, co-workers, pastors, counselors, and others isn’t wrong, especially from fellow Christians who know the Word.
But seek God first and teach boys to do likewise, making sure that any human advice agrees with the Source of Truth, Jesus Christ.
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His face was shattered– and so were his dreams.
When James Clear was in high school, he had big plans to be a baseball star. But one day, he was hit in the face with a baseball bat, and suffered a brain injury.
That’s when James discovered a powerful concept. As he recovered, he began to hone in on the small habits in his life, then started to work on his baseball skills again. Years later, James made ESPN’s All-American player list, and now credits the small habits for the reason for his success.
Share this story with your teen boy today. Remind him that the little, monotonous habits– like making his bed– are really a training ground for challenges he’ll face later in life.
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Do you hear voices?
There are many voices in the world competing for our attention, but none can compare to the voice of the Lord.
God speaks to His children, sometimes audibly, but mostly through His Word, the Bible.
Are you listening for and to God’s voice? Or are you letting worldly voices silence Him?
How can you recognize God’s voice?
In John 10:27, Jesus said, “My sheep listen to My voice; I know them, and they follow me.”
God’s voice will never contradict His Word. And when we hear God’s voice, we need to obey Him.
Let’s teach boys to recognize and heed God’s voice before any other voices.
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Rachel’s six-year- old son loves to play t-ball. He admires his coach and enjoys carrying around his bat. But there is one thing he loves more than anything else– his bright green uniform.
There’s a reason for this. As young men grow up and learn to navigate social settings, they are always asking three questions– “Who is with me?” “Who is in charge?” And, “What is our mission?”
On sports teams, the uniform is a symbolic answer to those questions. In life, it’s not always so clear. It’s up to us as parents to help our son find positive peers, such as in a church setting; introduce him to godly mentors and dad-like figures; and remind him to live for an audience of One– and glorify his Creator.
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Do you remember the last time your child lied to you and how it made you feel?
According to research, parents are the primary victims of lying, with 86 percent of lies being told to them.
Kids often believe they are clever enough to fool their parents, but fathers and mothers usually see right through their lies.
Parents are not as easily deceived as children think. Most of the time, the truth is clear and will come out sooner or later.
We should remind our children that God is omniscient. He knows everything we say and do.
Telling the truth may be hard sometimes, but honesty, truly, is the best policy.
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“Do yourself a favor. Take a kid fishing.”
That’s a quote from a man named Frank White, who produced a show called Southern Sportsman. He would say those words at the end of every broadcast.
Psychologists would agree with his suggestion. Fishing gives your son an opportunity to be outside, practice problem-solving skills, and connect with others. One study even found that combat veterans who went to a fly fishing retreat slept better and showed less symptoms of stress.
It’s fairly easy and cheap to get started. Many public libraries have rods and reels to check out for free. Go to your state’s game and fish department website and find a local body of water. Then, cast a line out with your son, and marvel together at God’s amazing creation.
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How can you tell if someone needs encouragement?
If they are breathing, according to Truett Cathy, founder of Chick-fil-A.
Children can easily and quickly become discouraged, especially when tired or stressed, and become negative, self-critical, and depressed.
The Bible mentions “encouragement” a lot, including Hebrews 3:13, which tells us to “encourage each other daily.”
You can create an encouraging environment for your loved ones by building up and encouraging them more than criticizing and correcting them.
Kids will know it is OK and safe to make mistakes and learn that God can use their failures to help them grow.
Parents should be their family’s CEO — Chief Encouragement Officers.
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Your teen boy is going through a lot of changes. You might need to change a bit, too.
Of course, the fundamentals of godly parenting and discipline will stay the same. But as your son matures, it’s important to take a step back and prayerfully consider that a change in approach may be helpful.
For instance, a teen boy will most likely pull away from his mom and gravitate towards his dad. This is normal and healthy, and experts say to encourage that relationship. Many high school boys are also extremely hard on themselves and sensitive to criticism, so be sure to ramp up the encouragement and empathy. And finally, teen boys are dealing with a lot of hormones and emotions. Encourage your son to pursue healthy outlets, especially outdoor physical activity.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you heard the saying, “Life is better together”?
The Bible puts it this way in Proverbs 27:17: As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Here are five ways you can live out being better together as a family.
Read together. Read the Bible and other books as a family.
Learn together. Share what God is showing you as read His Word.
Talk together. Talk about what God is doing in your life.
Pray together. Thank God for all He's done for your family and pray for your family and other people.
Memorize scripture together. Like the psalmist, let’s hide God's Word in our hearts so that we will not sin against Him.
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What can you give your children and grandchildren that won’t cost you any money and will last forever?
Parents and grandparents who teach their children and grandchildren to know, love and follow Jesus will leave a spiritual inheritance that will last for generations and into eternity.
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Have you encouraged your children or grandchildren to follow God? Do you pray for them to know and love Him? If you do not have children, are there any kids in your church or neighborhood for whom you could regularly pray?
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“What does successful parenting look like?”
If you ask a group of parents this question, you would get a lot of different responses.
Most parents want their kids to graduate high school and college, get a good job, get married, have children, and live “happily ever after.”
As a parent, you can easily become focused on worldly success and helping your kids achieve the “American Dream,” but that’s not the goal in Christian parenting.
Your goal should be to raise your kids to know, love, and follow Jesus!
If you raise your boys to love the LORD with all their heart, soul, and strength, you have achieved parenting success.
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Have you heard this saying? “Don’t major in the minors.”
We can easily get distracted in life and become consumed by things that don’t really matter.
Jesus often condemned the Pharisees for this type of behavior, giving them a stern lecture in Luke 11:42.
“Woe to you Pharisees, because you give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all other kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice and the love of God. You should have practiced the latter without leaving the former undone.”
Let’s ask God to help us teach our boys to focus on the things that matter most: loving Him and loving our neighbors.
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What should you do when your son disrespects you or someone else?
Try to resist the urge to reprimand or correct him in public.
When you are in private, calmly tell him that while you are sad that he chose to show dishonor or disrespect, this is an opportunity for him to grow, and you hope he will make a better choice the next time.
Then be sure to commend him the next time you see him showing honor and respect.
Remember that the best way for children to learn the value of honor and respect is to see you live it out, especially during disagreements.
Values are indeed more caught than taught.
Let’s follow the Golden Rule by treating others the way we want to be treated.
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In his book Bringing Up Boys, Dr. James Dobson compares parents of sons to a bug called a processionary caterpillar.
A scientist once tested these caterpillars by making them walk in a circle, with a food source in the middle of their circle. The caterpillars just kept following each other, instead of stopping to eat, and eventually died of starvation, right next to a food source.
Dr. Dobson says parents of sons often follow other parents in the same way. They put their son in lots of activities, trying to help him keep up with his peers. But in reality, most of the time, what boys really need is to stop, take a rest, and connect with the source of true life– our Creator God.
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You know who needs to see your mistakes? Your son. That’s right.
When you miss a work deadline or hurt a friend’s feelings, let your son know. If handled properly, it can be a great training ground for your son.
First, manage your emotions. If you’re embarrassed or angry, take a deep breath or go on a walk to calm down. Next, explain what you did wrong. Share with your son how you’re going to fix the problem, and what you’ve learned for the future.
The world desperately needs your son to grow up to be a humble and responsible man. The best way to encourage that is to model it the best you can. Your transparency will not only combat perfectionism— you’ll also remind him that God’s grace is sufficient for all of us.
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Maybe your son just needs a break.
You only want the best for your son. You want to make sure he does well in school, eats reasonably well, makes friends, and participates in extracurriculars. And those are all wonderful things. But in this fast-paced society, don’t forget to let your son take a break, as well. Schedule “down days,” where you don’t have anything planned. Give your son long stretches of time where he can do whatever he wants. You might feel like a neglectful parent, but allowing your son to be bored will give him time to relax, play, and learn to manage his own time. When in doubt, just send him outside– he’ll find something to do!
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Our boys are under attack.
Boys have fallen behind girls in every academic category. Girls are now more likely to have a college education than boys, and boys are more likely to live at home longer and fail to launch into the world.
As a parent, it can be discouraging to raise sons in a world that views masculinity as toxic. But by focusing on the five critical needs of boys, we can help our sons be strong, Godly men. First, boys need clear direction. Second, they need a safe male mentor. Third, they need boundaries. Fourth, they need risk, and finally, they need real-world challenges. With all five, boys have the tools they need to rise up in a world that is so determined to knock them down.
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Labor Day is a good time to reflect on this question– What is your son’s perspective on work?
The Bible makes it clear that we should do everything with excellence. Colossians 3:23 says “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” But at the same time, Scripture warns that idolizing money and success leads to ruin. How can you teach your son to view work in a healthy way?
One way is to take a family Sabbath. Set aside one day each week to put work and screens aside. You can also have your son help you with projects around the house, like fixing the car or building a shed. He’ll learn practical skills, build confidence, and see real-time results of a job well done.
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Have you heard this criticism of Christians? “They’re so heavenly minded, they’re no earthly good.”
Focusing on the world to come doesn’t mean that we are to leave the present world as it is, but everything we do, say, and teach our boys should be filtered through the lens of eternity.
What are the Lord’s instructions for you during your time here on Earth? Act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and love your neighbor as yourself.
Remember the refrain of British missionary C.T. Studd’s famous poem: “Only one life, ’twill soon be past, only what’s done for Christ will last.”
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How can you help your children grow spiritually?
Here are three ideas:
- Set an example for them. It’s been said that when it comes to children, more is caught than taught. They’ll see when you read your Bible and pray (and when you don’t). And they’ll notice how often you attend church and how important spiritual things are to you.
- Read with them. This helps kids grow spiritually in a fun and engaging way. Take the time to read books with them, including the Bible, and discuss spiritual themes you see.
- Pray for them. This is, perhaps, the most important thing you can do for your kids. It’s easy to overlook the power of prayer when thinking about how to help your child grow spiritually. Make it a priority.
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Is your son truly delayed…or is he just a boy?
Asher, who is six years old, got a letter sent home with him from school saying he is delayed and needs to work on sitting still. Asher’s mom took the letter to her son’s pediatrician, who shook her head, and said “He’s not delayed. He’s just being a boy.”
The school system is not designed with young, energetic boys in mind– especially since boys develop more slowly than their female peers. When it comes to your son’s development, pray for wisdom and seek professional advice. And above all, give your son lots of grace. He has a smart Creator, and he may just need some more time.
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How will you pass your faith on to the next generation?
Psalm 78:4 charges us to “tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the LORD, about his power and his mighty wonders.”
In this psalm, Asaph implored Jewish fathers to pass the faith from one generation to the next because he knew people would be prone to forgetting what God had done for them.
Good parenting requires us to share helpful instructions worth remembering. You should instruct your family according to God’s Word and share stories about what he has done for you. In doing so, God will enable you to impact future generations for years to come.
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Why do boys like to play with cars and trucks?
In 2002, a study at Texas A&M University was designed to explore this question. Researchers took male and female monkeys, and gave them equal access to both traditional boy and girl toys.
Interestingly, the male monkeys naturally gravitated towards the traditional male toys, like cars, while the females did likewise with the girl toys, like dolls.
As much as our society would like to claim that there are no true differences between genders– boys are different from girls! Encourage your son to play with the “boy toys” he wants to– or, better yet, grab a race car and play along with him. You will see God’s perfect design playing out right in front of you.
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Has your son become your idol?
That may seem like a ridiculous question. But for even the most well-intentioned parents, their son’s happiness and success can consume their entire life, to the point that it becomes more important than their relationship with GOd.
Take some time to sit with God and reflect on your relationship with your son. Are you willing to discipline him to develop his character, even if it means he is angry with you? Do you obsess over controlling what he’s exposed to? It may be time to step back, ask the Holy Spirit to influence your son, and exercise your trust in God.
It may be the best thing you’ve ever done for your son.
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Being rooted in God’s Word, the Bible, is like the Shepherd’s tree, native to the Kalahari Desert in South Africa.
The Shepherd’s tree has the deepest documented roots of any tree, more than 230 feet deep.
Jeremiah 17:7-8 says: “Blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence. They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought. Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit.”
Let’s teach our boys to trust in the firm foundation the Lord provides for His children through His Word.
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Want to help your son manage his big emotions?
It starts with you. Researchers have found that– because of something in our brains called mirror neurons– the emotions we display cause our children to feel those emotions, too. As New York Times writer Ashley Abramson put it, “The same part of your brain that lights up when you’re feeling happy may also light up when you observe happiness in others.”
So the next time your son is feeling angry, overwhelmed, or frustrated, instead of focusing on his own emotions, check yourself first. Say a prayer, adjust your body language and expression, and ask God to help you be calm and at peace. Simply observing that peace in you may help your son learn how to calm down, too.
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Do you know how long most people will spend on hold during their lifetime?
According to software company RingCentral, people on average will spend about 40 days of their life (or more than 1,000 hours) on hold with a call center.
In today’s instant-gratification society, most people, especially children, don’t want to wait for things, but the Bible calls us to be patient and “wait on the Lord.”
Patiently waiting is difficult for us and our kids to do, and we want to take matters into our own hands, but we must trust in God’s timing.
It’s encouraging to know that God is working behind the scenes. So, when the time is right, everything will be in place for us to move forward.
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Wish your son would talk to you more? Take him outside.
Since your son can turn to Google for an answer to any question, he may not come to you much with questions in his day-to-day life. But if you get him in an outdoor setting, he just might start asking you for help.
Have him pitch your tent while you’re camping. Get on a boat and go fishing, and teach him how to tie his own lure and clean his own fish. At night, ask him to build a fire at your campsite. As he asks you questions about each task, it will open up your conversation. And as you sit around the fire, he just might start asking you about other issues in his life, as well.
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Do you remember this old children’s nursery rhyme?
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
While there’s some truth to this statement, we’ve all experienced the pain caused by hurtful things said to us. Words can hurt.
The Bible says, “The tongue has the power of life and death,” and “on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak.”
We need to set a godly example for boys by how we speak to them and others and hold them to the same standard.
Think about it like this: If your speech had a smell, would it be sweet or sour?
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How can you teach your son self control?
Self control is, of course, one of the fruits of the spirit listed in Galatians 5. And psychologists say that self regulation skills are the key to avoiding addictions. So how can we develop this essential trait in our son?
First, do all you can to model self-control. Do your best to make your words and actions line up, and be sure your son sees that. Second, help your boy learn how to make difficult tasks more fun. Could he listen to music while he cleans his room, or work on his homework outside on a nice day? And third, be sure your son has free time to choose what he wants to do.
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Who or what do you look to for help when you need it?
If you’re a Christian, God has given you a helper, the Holy Spirit.
Jesus said, “I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever — the Spirit of truth.”
Boys often won’t be able to face their challenges on their own, but the Holy Spirit comes alongside them to help them — all they need to do is ask for and accept his help.
Instead of trying to solve every problem our boys have, let’s point them to the power source that will never fail them.
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You know your son needs sleep. But do you know just how much it can impact his life?
You’ve no doubt heard about the studies that link adequate sleep to better school performance and behavior, two things that many boys particularly struggle with. But one study at the University of Maryland actually found that children who slept less than nine hours had different brain structure! The lack of sleep caused those children to have less grey matter in their brains, which, among other things, helps impulse control.
So to give your son the best chance at self-regulation, school performance, prioritize his sleep– even if it means missing out on other activities at night. His developing brain will thank you!
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How can you help make sure your kids keep their faith in God?
The following statistics are eye-opening and sobering.
According to Barna, nearly 59 percent of youth leave the church after they graduate high school, and only 17 percent maintain a biblical worldview.
Common reasons for leaving the church include moving to college, judgmental and/or hypocritical church members, and no longer feeling connected to the people in their church.
It’s crucial to equip your children to defend their faith. The “why” is just as important as the “what.” They need to know why they believe what they believe.
Be faithful to “train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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Do your kids believe it is better to give than receive?
Science shows that children are born with a “compassionate instinct.” They observed that infants help others even though they are too young to have learned this behavior. Their motivation doesn’t depend on the expectation of a reward.
As parents and father figures, it is our job to encourage our children to be givers, not takers. Takers are selfish: They seek to be better than others. Givers are generous: They want to bring out the best in others.
Here’s a tip from psychologist Adam Grant: Say “Thank you for being a helper” instead of “Thank you for helping.” Recognizing kids as “helpers” helps them to internalize giving as part of their identities.
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Maybe our son’s safety shouldn’t be our only goal.
Author Leslie Leyland Fields raised her son in Alaska. One day, her son got injured in an accident, and Leslie boarded a plane with him to get help. But when she felt the pilot pull up hard and turn, she thought they were about to hit a mountain and die.
At that moment, Leslie felt regret. She thought she had failed at her one goal as a mom: to give her son a safe childhood. But just as her anxiety grew, a sense of peace from Jesus filled her heart.
Leslie realized that, more than just safety, her goal was to raise a boy who could courageously face whatever challenges life brings– knowing that Jesus is always by his side.
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Who do your children belong to?
The Bible says that once they decide to follow Jesus, they become God’s children.
“To all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God.” John 1:12
It’s amazing that God loves them so much and has named them as one of his children.
Becoming a child of God comes with security. Being secure in your identity as God’s child removes your need for worldly love, praise, acceptance, affirmation, and respect.
When the world, people, and circumstances try to bring you and your boys down, remind yourself and them of your secure identity in Christ.
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Dr James Dobson of Focus on the Family once received an interesting letter from a nine-year-old girl.
The letter was titled “why girls are better than boys.” The list included everything from “girls are kinder to animals,” to “girls don’t smell as bad.” Amused, Dr. Dobson posted the letter in his newsletter, and asked boys to make their own list. He received a variety of responses, including “boys are better because they aren’t scared of scary movies,” and “boys can build better forts than girls.”
Unfortunately, our society often leans towards that nine-year-old girls’ perspective– celebrating feminine traits and dismissing masculine traits. It’s up to us as parents to remind boys that their natural tendencies to be brave, innovative, and energetic should be celebrated, as well.
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What gives you peace?
Is it listening to music, spending time outdoors, or meditating?
The best source of peace is the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ.
Jesus told his disciples — and us: “I am leaving you with a gift — peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”
When our boys are worried and scared, we should point them to the Provider of Peace, Jesus.
His peace will help change how they respond to scary situations. When they focus on Jesus, he will quiet their fears and give them the peace the world cannot offer.
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Have you had The Talk with your son?
That conversation about physical differences between males and females can be awkward and uncomfortable. So awkward, in fact, that some parents postpone The Talk until a later, more convenient time.
As a dad, you need to courageously begin that conversation. Today’s kids encounter sexuality at school, the mall, and even at sporting events. And because boys are curious and visually enticed, waiting to have The Talk may lead to confusion of what sex is all about.
Fortunately, there are excellent resources from Christian organizations to help you talk about sex from a biblical perspective. And even though the conversation may be a little awkward, when your son realizes that you want the very best for him, he’ll listen.
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How can you teach your son to respect women?
Romans 12:10 says “Love one another with a brotherly love.” That is a far cry from the values of our culture, where disrespect is the norm. But while boys tend to have a natural respect for older men, they may need help learning how to treat women appropriately.
First, lead by example. If you’re a man, treat the women in your life with kindness. Second, be sure to filter out and discuss what messages are shown in TV shows. And thirdly, remind your son how much God loves him, and allow age-appropriate levels of responsibility. When your son knows he’s a beloved child of God, he’s more likely to treat others that way, as well.
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Raising a son is a lot like growing a garden.
There’s a lot of strategy and decision making involved– where to plant your garden and what seeds to put in the ground. There’s grunt work– cultivating, planting, and building a fence. There’s waiting and watering daily, and dealing with unknowns like weather. There’s the stress of predators, and the joy of watching new growth.
Even with all that work, in the end, in both gardening and parenting, the results are still completely out of our control.
As parents, we have two choices. We can fear that lack of control, and exhaust ourselves trying to do everything right. Or, we can do our best, and trust that it’s God who ultimately helps our son grow and bloom.
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When you want to open a package, you use scissors, not a jackhammer. When you want to tame your bedhead, you use a comb, not a pitchfork.
Using the appropriate tool for the job is important. Similarly, when it’s necessary to correct your son, make sure to use the appropriate technique.
A stern gaze might be enough warning for a sensitive boy. Another child may need extra chores or other forms of discipline to remind him that wrong behavior has consequences.
As you train your son in the way he should go, be sensitive to his attitude and emotions. By adapting your method of correction, your son will be more likely to respond positively. And as he grows wiser, your relationship with one another will grow stronger.
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Is your son “too cool” for mom’s kisses? Here’s what you can do.
Rhonda Stoppe was sitting in a hospital room with her six year old son Brandon. He was getting a sleep study after having a horrible seizure. Brandon was asleep, and Rhonda walked over and kissed him on the forehead. The technician told Rhonda to go look at the screen. Rhonda was astonished to see that, even though Brandon was asleep, his brain activity actually showed that he knew his mom kissed him.
So if your son rolls his eyes when you try to kiss him, kiss him when he’s sleeping. And– more than that– remember that, even if it doesn’t seem like it, the little things you do each day to show your son love do make a difference.
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Are you an idol worshiper?
While most Americans don’t worship carved statues, idol worship is still prevalent in our society. We idolize things like money, possessions, and jobs … and people like actors, athletes, musicians, and even members of our own families.
A biblical definition of an idol is anything or anyone we value more than God or worshiping someone or something other than God as though it were God.
In the first of his ten commandments, God said, “You shall have no other gods before me.” He is a “jealous” God and will not share his glory with anyone or anything.
What idols do you need to get rid of? Ask God to help you completely tear them down today. And teach your son the rightful way to value wisdom, talent, conviction, and courage in others without making an idol of them.
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Here’s a simple parenting tip– take some time to relax with your boy.
Pediatrician Dr. Meg Meeker says that most parents don’t realize the importance of “doing nothing” with sons.
Even if you only have ten minutes, invite your son to sit down on the front porch with you with his favorite snack or drink. Don’t badger him with questions, check your phone, or start lecturing. Simply sit together.
Dr. Meeker says this is important for several reasons. It communicates that rest is an important part of life. It shows your son that he’s worthy of undivided attention. And it’s also an excellent way to get your boy to start communicating his thoughts and feelings. All of those benefits– and you get a short break, too.
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Winston Churchill, British prime minister during World War II, said, “Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
And yet, some in our society are trying to change history, to make it conform to their political, social, and anti-Christian beliefs.
Don’t let unbiblical ideology distort our American heritage. Remind your son that this great nation was founded on biblical principles. Principles like freedom of speech, and freedom of religion.
Unfortunately, our nation is increasingly atheistic, in part, because they don’t understand God’s story—or you might say, His-story—as communicated to us in the Bible.
As a parent, teach your son both His-story and history. In this way, you’ll help your son be better prepared for eternity.
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What is TV teaching your son about masculinity?
One study about male representation in TV shows studied 25 shows, over three thousand characters, and over four hundred episodes. Researchers found that, across the board, the male characters usually displayed the same negative traits– unhealthy coping mechanisms, aggression, a lack of emotion, and even a lack of care as a father. Without guidance, your son may begin to believe that these behaviors are normal and accepted in men.
Make sure you put limits on your son’s screen time. When he does watch a TV show, take some time to discuss the male characters and their positive and negative behaviors. Teach your son to be a mindful consumer and to filter everything through a Biblical lens.
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Ever heard of the Discovery Channel’s show Dirty Jobs?
As the name suggests, in the show a man named Mike Rowe tries disgusting and dangerous occupations. He tours sewers, learns from roadkill cleaners, removes chewing gum from sidewalks, and helps exterminators.
You’d think such gross content wouldn’t make good television. But the show was a hit among men. Not only does Mike’s investigation of the jobs appeal to our innate love of adventure, Mike also continuously expresses admiration and respect for the people who do those jobs.
This show is a good reminder that every man wants to conquer a challenge and be respected. As you parent your son, be sure he has opportunities for healthy risk and challenge– even if it means he leaves muddy footprints across your floor.
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Your son needs a gang.
Every young man is asking the same questions– “who is with me, who is in charge, and what is our mission?” Unfortunately, those questions are very clearly answered in violent gangs, which is why so many young men are drawn to such groups.
What your son needs is a group that can answer those questions in a healthy way. Sports teams with positive coaches can offer such environments– so can well run youth groups, engineering clubs, and outdoor adventure groups like Trail Life USA. Let your son try out a few different groups and pick one to invest in. The peer interaction, camaraderie, and structure of the group will spur your son along and give him the kind of mission he’s searching for.
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What makes you happy? Not just a little happy, but really happy?
Maybe it’s when your team wins the championship, or when you get that work promotion, or when you slice into that perfectly cooked steak.
Those things are fine, but one of the greatest joys in life is seeing your son obediently follow the Lord. Third John 3:4 says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”
Walking in truth isn’t accidental. It takes time and energy—for you and for your son. Set the example by making God your greatest priority. When your son sees your passion to follow God, he’ll be much more likely to also walk in truth. And that will make you truly happy.
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Boys need their mom and their dad.
As a mom and dad play with their young son, the mom will remind him to “be careful.” The dad will toss the son into the air and encourage him to run as fast as he can. The boy will ignore his mom and hang onto his dad’s every word.
But when that little boy falls and scrapes his knee, he’ll suddenly stop ignoring his mom. He’ll run to her, seeking comfort.
As they grow up, boys continue to need both the rough, masculine influence of their dad and the comfort of their mom. If either is missing in your son’s life, pray that God will fill in the gaps with a positive mother or father figure.
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What’s your son’s default location?
Jackson, a 16 year old, was tinkering on his car in the garage when his mom brought her laptop out and set up a makeshift desk. She didn’t say much– just did her work and asked Jackson, once, what he was working on. When she left an hour later, both she and Jackson were smiling.
She had keyed into a secret of parenting a teen boy– figure out his default location, and be there. It may be the garage, the gym, the football field, or by a gaming console.
Be tactful— don’t interrupt, ask annoying questions, or show up every single night. Give yourself a task and a time limit. Done in the right way, this tactic can help your teen boy feel seen and loved.
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If you’ve ever gone backpacking in the great outdoors, you know the importance of bringing the right equipment. You pack a tent, not a tire. You pack matches, not a microwave.
Similarly, when your son heads off to school, make sure he packs the right characteristics. This includes:
- Honesty—to complete his own work instead of cheating off others.
- Respect—to see people for who they really are, no matter what they look like.
- Gratitude—to thank teachers for giving of their time and talent.
- Kindness—to make life better when challenges arise. And …
- Courage—to stand up and do right, no matter what.
By packing these important virtues, your son can confidently climb the academic mountain while also enjoying the journey.
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Has your son experienced the death of a loved one? Maybe a classmate who died. Or perhaps a grandparent who suddenly passed away.
Dealing with death is hard for everyone. But for kids, it’s especially confusing. A common perception is that boys are tough. But the truth is, we all experience grief and heartache. It’s just that we handle it in different ways.
As a dad, take time to listen to your son. Evaluate what he knows about death and how much support he needs. Remember the good times with that loved one. Then provide comfort—and time to heal from the loss. Offer a hug whenever one is needed.
By being there for your son when life is tough, you demonstrate—in action—your love for him.
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A reporter once asked John D. Rockefeller, “How much money is enough?”
Rockefeller, widely considered the wealthiest American of all time and the richest person in modern history, replied, “Just a little bit more.”
Sadly, Rockefeller would never have enough money to be satisfied.
When it comes to our possessions, the Bible consistently calls us to be content with what God has given us. Contentment leads to thankfulness and discontentment leads to selfishness.
Take time to write out all the good things that God has blessed you with.
Let’s set a good example for our boys by deciding to be content with God’s unbelievable goodness to us.
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Do your kids have household chores?
Some kids think taking out the trash or washing the dishes is cruel and unusual punishment. But it isn’t. In fact, research shows that chores actually help kids in their physical, mental, and social development.
When you give your son a job and he successfully completes it, he develops self-worth and self-esteem. This leads to confidence in knowing that he can accomplish other tasks. What a contrast to the entitlement attitude that plagues many young minds today.
So do your son a favor. Find age-appropriate chores for him to work at. Not only will these chores help the house run more smoothly, but they’ll also keep your son off the couch and more engaged with real life.
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Boys love toys! Some of their favorites are racecars, robots, and rockets. And (according to kids) the louder, faster, and crazier the toy, the better!
As a dad, you probably don’t play with toy dinosaurs anymore, but you just might have a big-boy toy like a motorcycle or boat.
It’s fine to enjoy toys. They can even be a way of connecting with your son. But don’t let toys consume your time and attention.
C.S. Lewis said, “All these toys were never intended to possess my heart. My true good is in another world, and my only real treasure is Christ.”
Teach your son that even more amazing than the most extraordinary toy is the Lord Jesus. He, alone, can bring true happiness and joy into our lives.
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Did you know our homes are training grounds?
President John Adams said, “Public virtue cannot exist in a nation without private virtue, and public virtue is the only foundation of republics.”
Our homes can be training grounds for good and godly character. More than I want my children to be famous, rich, or exceptional, I want them to be good.
The apostle Peter wrote, [M]ake every effort to supplement your faith with goodness (2 Peter 1:5).
Culture today includes many examples of badness. I want to raise godly offspring who shine like stars for the Lord.
Father figures can intentionally seek to mentor and train boys who grow in good character. That’s the best way to shape a nation.
For information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
One of life’s great challenges is learning to not just go with the flow, because sometimes the flow goes in the wrong direction.
We live in a day of great distraction. Because of the digital age, information flows constantly. Some say we have become the society that is looking down – always checking our phones, tablets, and devices.
These tools of mass distraction can cause us to miss important things in life. Many families cannot sit through a meal without everyone checking their phones.
As father figures, let’s encourage and set an example for our boys to not always be tied to an electronic device. We can spur them on to play outdoors, read a good book, or build something with their hands.
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John Wesley, a famous 18th century preacher, said, “There is no such thing as a solitary Christian.”
As parents, we want to raise our kids to love the Lord and be responsible adults. But challenges from the worldly culture around us make parenting tough. Sometimes so tough that we grow discouraged when we don’t see immediate results.
When you feel this way, remember that parenting isn’t a solitary process. That means you don’t have to go it alone. A variety of Christian resources are available. Church staff as well as family and friends are often willing to help out when they know there’s a need.
Raising boys isn’t for the faint of heart. That’s why Trail Life USA has fun activities that are helping boys grow physically, mentally, and spiritually. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you manage your time properly?
In the craziness of normal everyday life, it’s easy to lose track of time.
Perhaps your son starts school at 8 am. You’ve got a work meeting at 10 a.m. Soccer practice begins at 3:15 in the afternoon. And, of course, there’s church, piano lessons, and dozens of other activities that you and your family participate in.
The question is, are you punctual or persistently late?
Don’t let tardiness become a habit. Figure out how much time you need to prepare and travel to your destination. Organize your schedule so that you arrive on time, even if hiccups occur along the way.
By managing your time, you teach your son dependability—an important character trait that will help him thrive throughout life.
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The land of the free and the home of the brave.
What a great country we live in. The freedom we get to experience here in America was not cheap to attain. Many people gave all for the liberty we have.
Jesus also gave everything for us to be free. The salvation He provided by dying on the cross is free, but it isn’t cheap. He paid the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom.
John 8:36 says this, “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”
Take time this Independence Day to remember the price paid for you to live free in this country, and also remember the price your savior paid for you to be free from the penalty of sin. It’s definitely a reason to celebrate and give thanks!
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Remember this famous quote?
“Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country,” President John F. Kennedy during his inaugural address in 1961.
As Christian men trying to raise godly boys, our mantra should be, “Ask not what God can do for me; ask what I can do for God.”
It’s natural for us to think about ourselves first and not what we can do for God and what we can give back to him, including our time, talents, and treasure.
As the Bible says, you must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure. “For God loves a cheerful giver.”
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Successful living involves risk-taking.
Over 300 people rejected Colonel Sanders’ special recipe for Southern fried chicken before he received a “yes.” Today, because of his persistence, KFC boasts 20,000 restaurants in 125 countries.
We are wise as parents to instill in our boys the value of adventurous living. When we do, we cannot control the outcome. But we can control ourselves.
We can make taking risks a healthy part of our family culture. We can encourage our boys to try new tasks, sports, instruments, and friendships.
We cannot create risk-free lives for our children. That world doesn’t exist. What we can do is teach them the value of trusting God, not always playing it safe, and enjoying the process.
For information about raising your son into a godly man, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you break your own rules?
You no doubt have rules for your son– like no texting while driving, and no procrastinating on his homework assignments. But if your son constantly sees you breaking your own rules, he will struggle to have respect for you.
Of course, your boy does need to know that parents have more authority than kids. But, to the best of your ability, demonstrate the good habits you want your son to have– for instance, put your phone down while you drive and don’t procrastinate on your chores.
And when you inevitably mess up— try to be a good example then, too. Demonstrate asking for forgiveness and taking responsibility for your mistakes. Your son will emulate you far more than he listens to you.
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Want to make a powerful imprint on the lives of children?
I believe the most powerful method the Lord gave parents to influence our children is the simple practice of family worship.
In our sophisticated age, we may forget the spiritual power of opening the Bible, reading it to our families, and leading in prayer. God made it simple: pick up the Word, share it, and lead others to the throne of grace.
Charles Spurgeon said, “If we want to bring up a godly family . . . let us seek to train them up in the fear of God by meeting together as a family for worship.” Let’s be on the alert, parents and mentors, to impact our families for the Lord Jesus.
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Is it attention deficit disorder– or dad deficit disorder?
In his book Raising Boys, Steve Biddulph [BID-dulf] tells a powerful story about a dad named Don. Don’s son was diagnosed with “attention deficit disorder.” This was years ago, before ADD knowledge was so widespread, so Don misunderstood the diagnosis. He thought it meant that his son simply needed more attention. When school was out, Don started taking his son with him on his truck driving routes. Within months, his son showed remarkable behavior improvement– and even came off his ADD medication.
Many ADD diagnoses are very legitimate. But it’s likely that your son is also deficient in attention from you. Take some time today to put your phone down and give your boy some quality time.
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What will you leave to your children and the generations that come after you?
The saying, “You’ll never see a U-Haul behind a hearse,” is a poignant reminder that you can’t take anything with you in death, but you can leave something behind by how you live.
Your children are watching you and learning from you day by day. Are you leading them closer to Christ or further from him?
Teach them about Jesus by how you live for Him, and you will leave a lasting legacy.
Remember what British missionary C.T. Studd wrote in his famous poem, “Only one life, ’twill soon be past” — only what’s done for Christ will last.
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How can we instill integrity into our children?
Teach them that we always live in God’s presence. Jesus is always in the room.
As a family, read books or listen to radio theater stories of godly people like Hudson Taylor, George Mueller, Corrie ten Boom, and William Wilberforce, for example. Discuss lessons from their lives
Children need to feel valued as they learn to speak truth. If parents immediately berate a child if they share a differing opinion from their own, children will subtly learn to mask some truth.
No better training exists than parents living lives worth replicating. Those little ones see us day in and day out. May our children find us to be people of integrity – the real deal on the inside.
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David. Moses. Abraham. Peter.
While all of these men achieved amazing things for God, they all also had shortcomings.
In the same way, the great men who built this country were also flawed. There’s a trend in culture right now to dismiss their heroism, and choose instead to emphasize their shortcomings. But as Theodore Roosevelt once pointed out, [quote], “far better is it to dare mighty things…than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much.” [end quote]
It’s not necessary to pretend that the Bible– or our nation’s history– is only made up of perfect people. The fact that God can use even the most flawed men to achieve great things for His Kingdom is just the inspiring message our sons desperately need to hear.
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How high is heaven above the earth?
The distance is immeasurable, just like God’s love for you.
As the Bible says, “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is God’s love for those who fear him.”
King David paints a powerful word picture in his psalm, writing that God “has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.”
If you have turned to God and trusted in his son, Jesus Christ, God has completely removed your sin and eternally separated you from it.
When you watch a sunrise, be reminded of God’s forgiveness and mercy toward you. There’s nothing anyone can ever do to cause God to love you any less.
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Digital technology has become controlling, addictive, and intrusive.
Parents, it’s ok for you to be the “bad guy” about the use of electronics. Don’t let the culture squeeze you into its mold. Our children don’t need endless hours of internet and television exposure. Scientific studies show that too much digital time actually alters brain patterns. Consider not allowing “screen time” during the week unless all school work is done. On the weekends, limit the number of hours of screen time a day.
Go outside. God created us to interact with His natural world. Lead your boys in enjoying the outdoors and engaging in physical exercise. Children still need time to play in the dirt, walk in the woods, and foster their imagination.
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What memories do you have with your grandfather?
The power of a grandpa’s love in a young man’s life cannot be understated. Child psychologist Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch once counseled a 10-year-old boy who lived thirteen hours from his grandpa. This boy didn’t see his grandpa very often, but talked about him every single day. She asked the boy to describe what his grandpa meant to him, and the boy was moved to tears.
Relationships with extended family can be complicated– and many people don’t live near their children’s grandparents. But, as much as you can, be intentional about fostering your son’s relationship with his grandfather. This can be through phone calls, letters, visits, or fishing trips. You’ll be benefiting your son more than you may even realize.
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Father’s Day has been ranked towards the bottom in popularity among the top 15 national holidays. Why would that be?
Father’s Day can be a difficult day for many people because of traumatic experiences we’ve had with our fathers. Dads play a very important role in the lives of their children and when you do not have that person in your life in a healthy way, it can affect you in many ways.
One of the most important roles of a father is affirmation. Affirming your children, especially your sons, that they are special, loved, and have a purpose is vital. Hearing the words, “I love you and I’m so proud of you.” Is so necessary to emotional growth, yet many people never hear those words.
If you are a man, take time today to pour into your son. take another step and speak into the life of a boy who doesn’t have a godly dad. Tell them who God says they are. You will change their lives.
For more parenting advice and information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do any of your son’s friends have absent dads?
It’s likely they do. Over 19.5 million children– or one in four– don’t live with their dad. Fatherless boys are more likely to struggle in school, have behavioral problems, and participate in risky behaviors.
Take note of your son’s peers who don’t spend time with their dads. The next time you plan a father-son fishing trip, bike ride, or hike, be quiet but intentional about inviting one of those boys.
Your presence will benefit that young man greatly, and you may also be giving his mom or caregiver a much needed break. Plus, you can help open your son’s eyes about helping those who may need some extra encouragement. All it takes is an invitation.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What is Flag Day?
June 14 commemorates the date in 1777 when the United States approved the design for its first national flag.
In 1916 Pres. Woodrow Wilson declared June 14 as the official date for Flag Day.
And on June 14, 1954 (Flag Day), President Dwight Eisenhower signed a bill into law, officially adding the words “under God” into the Pledge of Allegiance. The President said, “To anyone who truly loves America, nothing could be more inspiring than to contemplate this rededication of our youth, on each school morning, to our country’s true meaning.”
It’s an honor and a responsibility to raise boys who become men who love our country and its heritage. Together with them we can say, “In God We Trust.”
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Does your walk match your talk?
Nobody likes “fake,” hypocritical people. As a Christian father figure and mentor, you need to live out of your faith authentically because people are constantly watching you.
I heard about a man who heard that his Christian co-worker had an accident at work. After asking if he was OK, his next question was, “Did he cuss?”
How you act is equally as important as what you believe. How is your walk with Jesus right now?
Trail Life USA’s motto is “Walk Worthy.” Be careful how you live daily so “that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.”
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How can we parents create margin in our families to build unity?
Play games together. Make a collection of board games. Develop the habit of occasionally clearing the table for game night. As children get older, families can invest in games that take longer to play. Playing board games allows for lots of interaction and often leads to laughter!
Read to your children. Build the expectation into your family that everyone should be readers. Provide age-appropriate material for your children. The local library is a wonderful resource that can be used again and again. There is a time to say, “OK, we’ve watched enough television, and you’ve spent enough time on electronics. Let’s spend some time reading?”
We are making choices today that will affect our children tomorrow.
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How do we raise servants?
Children learn how to serve others in part by watching adults serve. Serving others includes stepping up to the plate and stepping out to meet needs.
An older pastor said, “When our children were young, I pastored a small church with no other children or activities. My kids were part of starting new groups, ministries, and opportunities. None of that was handed to them. Today, as adults, they are leaders and servants. I think being required to serve at church made them the people they are today.”
We should look for ways to teach children to serve. We remember Jesus said He came not to be served but to serve.
They are people who don’t just watch what’s happening. They make things happen.
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We can learn something valuable about our sons from Peter Pan.
In her book Boy Talk, child psychologist Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch makes an observation about the Lost Boys in the story of Peter Pan.
These boys are seemingly living the dream. They have no parents, and no school– just adventures all day long. But interestingly, they still long for one childhood comfort– the bedtime story.
As your son grows up, it’s important that you let him be a boy. But even while he’s pursuing his masculine tendencies, don’t forget that he needs emotional nurturing, too. Take a few minutes for a hug– or sit and eat a snack with him. Your “lost boy” may not admit it, but he still needs those moments in the midst of all of his adventures.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can we raise boys who love adventure?
Here are a few simple ways to encourage boys to not always play it safe but develop their God-given spirit of bravery:
Encourage outdoor family activities that involve a healthy level of risk. Whitewater rafting, tubing on rivers, and waterfall hiking are a few.
Selectively allow children to oversee their own projects. It’s messy and not “perfect,” but they can own it.
Enjoy adventurous yard toys like zip-lines and trampolines. We can’t always play it safe!
Plan vacations to new places. Try different cities, restaurants, and entertainment.
As God shapes the lives of our children, He can use the raw material of learning to take risks and mold them into people who change their worlds!
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Do you remember the song “He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands”?
The song’s lyrics talk about God, saying:
- He’s got the wind and the rain in his hands.
- He’s got the little, tiny baby in his hands.
- He’s got you and me, brother, in his hands.
- He’s got you and me, sister, in his hands.
- He’s got everybody here in his hands.
The Bible says God holds on to us with his “righteous right hand.”
This image shows us God’s power – and our utter helplessness and dependency on him. But you have no reason to fear because of God’s promised protection.
So, while things may get messy and scary, you can rest assured that God will always hold you in his hands.
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Is your son able to “blend” his emotions?
When going on a hike, you bring along a bar that contains a mix of protein, carbs, and healthy fats, since your body needs different nutrients to stay healthy.
In the same way, Child psychologist Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch says that healthy development in boys includes teaching them that they can feel seemingly conflicting emotions at the same time. For instance, when your son is sad about not making the soccer team, he may also feel relieved that he will have more free time. Or when he’s angry at his dad, he still will feel love towards his dad at the same time.
This “blending” of emotions doesn’t come naturally, but is an essential skill that you can teach with some simple intentionality.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What are you most afraid of?
According to a 2014 Washington Post article, fear of public speaking was America's biggest phobia, with 25.3 percent of the people saying they were afraid of speaking in front of a crowd.
A 2022 study listed “corrupt government officials” as Americans’ biggest fear.
With the world seemingly spinning out of control, we can easily allow fear and anxiety to paralyze us.
While some fears are justified, we cannot let them to rob us of the peace God provides.
Remember the charge that Moses gave to Joshua: “You shall not fear them, for it is the LORD your God who fights for you” (Deuteronomy 3:22).
No matter what you are facing, don’t focus on your fear. Instead, focus on God’s promises, provision, and power. He is faithful!
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Does your son struggle in math class? Did he miss the big play on the sports field that would have won the game?
Failures and fiascos will trip up your son. You wish he’d only see success, but that’s unrealistic. Even when we try our very best, disappointment and discouragement can still strike. And when it does, your son may experience frustration and exasperation. These are normal human emotions, but we don’t have to give in to them.
Instead, remind your son that failures don’t define who he is. If he has accepted Christ as his savior, he is a child of the King. Because of that, your son is of incredible worth to God. And that’s way more important than any school grade or sports event.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How big is your dream for your son?
Pat Williams, co-founder of the Orlando Magic, writes that a “vision is a glowing word-picture of a desirable and optimistic future.” As parents, we can paint that portrait for our kids, conveying that life is more than just existing, paying bills, and managing problems.
God created them and has a deep interest in their lives.
Boys need heroes – more than just movie and music stars. Parents, familiarize your family with stories of noble heroes. Read biographies, watch movies and documentaries, and hear radio dramas of missionaries, statesman, inventors, Presidents, and soldiers. Visit historic sites and homes of great Americans.
I want to instill a life-long desire for excellence and possibilities.
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What comes to mind when you see these three words? “Some Assembly Required”
For many parents, these words bring back memories of a painful process of reading instructions, sorting through parts, and putting everything together — all under the watchful eye of your child as he waits with anticipation to play with his new toy.
Following instructions can be time-consuming and frustrating, but it will save you time and frustration in the long run.
Just like following instructions is a proven process for assembling toys, Trail Life USA has a proven process for growing boys into godly men. In a culture lacking any clear vision of positive masculinity, we must provide boys with a template to follow.
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This Memorial Day, as we honor those who have paid the highest price for our freedom, be sure your son understands the true meaning of “honor.”
No one embodies true honor like the men and women, both active and retired, in our nation’s military. Your son can learn this by engaging with veterans. He can march in a parade, clean a monument, or work with the Veterans of Foreign Wars.
This he can do as a memorial to those who have given their lives in service. A high embodiment of value. Discuss what it means to be a man who serves God and his country. As we say in our Trail Life USA oath, it’s a man who “respects authority, is a good steward of creation, and treats others how [he] wants to be treated.”
When boys see honorable examples of masculinity, they grow to become honorable men.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Is your son experiencing “sideways” emotions?
In her book Boy Talk, Dr. Mary Polce-Lynch tells the story of an 11-year-old boy named Andrew. Andrew had suddenly started having headaches and stomachaches. His parents were baffled because– although they had gone through a difficult divorce a few years earlier– things had since settled.
Dr. Polce-Lynch figured out that the physical symptoms were a delayed reaction to the divorce. She patiently helped Andrew work through the emotions he had long buried.
If your son has unexplained physical or behavioral issues, consider that he may just now be coping with a stressful event that happened before. Prayerfully offer him grace, patience, therapy, or simply time to work through his complicated emotions.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How can you teach your son empathy?
Start by modeling this skill in your own life. If the grocery store checker is rude to you, when you get in your car, say out loud to your son, “I wonder if that checker is having a bad day, and dealing with some tough things!”
Help your son do this too. If he mentions someone at school who he doesn’t get along with, ask, “How do you think that person is feeling?” If your son says he doesn’t know, encourage him to guess. Remind him that people who hurt others are often insecure or fearful.
You can also memorize verses together about empathy, such as Phillippians 2:3- “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, count others more significant than yourselves.”
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Have you ever seen your reflection in one of those silly circus mirrors that make you look super short or extremely skinny? Some mirrors can even make you look upside down.
Although we’re not at a circus or looking into a strange mirror, today’s culture sometimes makes us feel as if we’re living in an upside-down world. That which is good is put to shame. And that which is evil is paraded with pride.
The result is that kids are left confused about what’s actually right or wrong.
When complex cultural issues arise, open the pages of Scripture and show your kids what the Bible says is right and wrong. In this way, you’ll help your kids understand that God’s Word is an infallible mirror … our perfect source of truth.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Who is the most generous person you know?
You may think you have to be rich to be generous, but that’s not true.
Mother Teresa said, “It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”
God is our model for generosity. You cannot outgive God. He freely gives and lovingly provides for his children. God will give you what you need out of his infinite riches.
In gratitude for everything God has given you, you should be generous to him and others.
Remember 1 Timothy 6:18 and teach your children to “be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others.”
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Crowds follow individuals who communicate well. Every business, church, school, or ministry needs such people.
Help your kids know how to speak well. Create opportunities for them to stand in front of other people and speak about anything. Ask your six-year-old to stand in front of the family at night and talk about his favorite super-hero.
We can also challenge boys to write clearly - to present an idea and support it with evidence.
We live in a day where the battle for culture rages around who controls the flow of ideas. Help your children know how to open their mouths and communicate verbally. Talk about great ideas in your home, and challenge your children to learn to communicate those ideas.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you know what the letters WWJD stand for? You’ll find the acronym on everything from bracelets to T-shirts to key chains. The letters stand for, What Would Jesus Do?
This phrase reminds Christians to put Jesus first in all that we do. As parents, we need this reminder, but so do our kids. And the best way for them to learn this is to see it demonstrated in action.
So the next time you’re faced with financial stress, work problems, or a health crisis, take a moment to sit next to your son and go to the Lord in prayer. When your son sees and hears you ask the Lord for help, he’ll understand that WWJD is more than a bumper sticker. It’s a way of life.
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While on a road trip, have your kids ever whined, “Are we there yet?”
When the journey is long, we grow impatient. We want to arrive at the destination as fast as possible. And if roadblocks make us veer off course, we grow frustrated. Sometimes even angry.
The same is true in the parenting journey. Our children are maturing socially, mentally, and spiritually—but sometimes not as fast as we’d like. We want them to develop responsibility as quickly as possible, but then we grow impatient whenever a detour sends them off track.
Avoid unreasonable expectations. Realize that your son’s developmental process takes time—and that’s okay. Instead of constantly wishing he were already at the destination, take time to enjoy life’s journey with him.
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According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 25% of American kids live without a father or father-like figure in their homes. You heard that right. On average, 1 out of every 4 kids doesn’t have a dad to give them piggyback rides, help them with homework, or tuck them into bed at night. That’s tragic!
If you have the privilege of being a dad, make sure to be there for your kids. Don’t just live in your house. Make that house a home where smiles abound, and laughter is loud.
And if you know a boy who doesn’t have a father who’s around, include him in activities with you and your son. Your actions may be small, but they just might make a world of difference to a lonely kid.
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When your son was young, did he ever point at someone in a wheelchair? Do your older kids whisper about the new kid who stutters or has a deformity?
Teach your kids never to make fun of someone with a handicap. Because we live in a sin-cursed world where physical and mental handicaps exist, these handicaps make life really hard for these people.
As Christians, we can’t make those handicaps go away, but we can show courtesy and compassion. Teach your son to hold the door open for someone in a wheelchair. Teach your kids to listen patiently to someone who stutters.
By helping your kids treat people kindly, they’ll focus less on the handicap and more on the person’s personality.
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Are you a fraud? Do you act one way at home and another way at church?
More than ever, teenagers connect with people who are authentic in their motives and genuine in their behavior. As a parent, your son sees you at your best, but also at your worst.
When you realize that you aren’t displaying the attitude and actions of a Christ-follower, the most difficult—and yet most meaningful—thing you can do is admit your faults. Explain to your son that shouting or losing your temper wasn’t the right way for you to respond to frustration.
Admitting your faults won’t make your son respect you less. In fact, the opposite is true. Being authentic and genuine will make him see what a great dad he really has.
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This Mother’s Day, minister to a single mom of a son.
Every single mom is a hero. And single moms who have boys? They should wear capes. Raising a boy– who needs a ton of exercise, outdoor activity, focused attention, and healthy risk taking– is a joy, but can be exhausting.
If you don’t know a single mom, ask a local church about their single moms ministry– they will be able to give you some names. Then, pray about the best gift to give. Some ideas are an anonymous check, a grocery gift card, or a coffee gift card. And if you know her well, offer to take her son on a fun outing. You won’t only be giving her a break, but her son will appreciate the extra attention.
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Does your son have a nickname?
Many kids do. Some nicknames like Ace or Champ are fun and cute, while others like Rooster, Zippy, and Waffle usually come from some hilarious event or personality trait.
Nicknames are common, but there’s a nickname that only your son can call you. That’s the exclusive name of Dad.
It isn’t by accident that God gave you to your son, and your son to you. In his all-knowing wisdom, God placed you both together. As a dad, you have the responsibility of raising your son properly, but you also have the incredible joy of seeing him grow and mature into a man.
Never forget the privilege of being a dad. Count your blessings and name them one by one.
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How do you like your eggs prepared? Scrambled and sunny side up are the most popular, but some people like them hard boiled or over easy.
Just as there are many ways to cook an egg, there are also many ways to discipline your son to correct wrong behavior. Of course, you wish discipline were never necessary, but that’s an unreasonable eggs-pectation.
When your son blatantly disobeys, don’t let his behavior eggs-asperate you. Set an eggs-ample by remaining calm. During these difficult moments, eggs-amine your words and actions to make sure they are motivated by love.
Although discipline is never fun, it’s sometimes necessary. The goal, however, is to teach your son right from wrong. And as he learns this, eggs-cuses will transform into eggs-cellence of character.
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If you have a kindergartener, have you taught him to drive yet? If you have a teenage son, are you giving him tummy time?
Of course not, but in the busyness of everyday life, you might forget where your youngest and oldest children are in their developmental process. Understanding the specific age and stage of each child is vital in seeing where he’s come from … and where he still needs to go.
So, if you’re treating your kindergartener like a teenager, or your teenager like a toddler, reevaluate your expectations and instruction. Because each child is unique, don’t compare one child’s progress to another. As always, ask God to give you wisdom in guiding your children in becoming mature, responsible, and godly adults.
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The human eye is incredible! Even though it has over two million working parts, it’s the fastest muscle in the body. It also distinguishes millions of colors.
And yet, our eyes often miss what’s most important in life. When your son is on the soccer field, are you watching, or are you scrolling through social media on your phone? Can you detect when your son is frustrated, or do you not even notice?
To connect emotionally with your son, begin by turning your eyes upon Jesus. When you do this, your role as a father will come into proper focus.
But don’t delay. In the blink of an eye, your son will be grown and out of the house. Influence his life right now while there’s still time.
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The kindergarten teacher looked at the parents and frowned.
“Your son just won’t sit still,” she said. “He always wants to move and look at things throughout the room.”
The boy’s mom furrowed her brows. “Not to be disrespectful, but why is sitting still an important skill for a five year old?”
That boy’s mom was asking an excellent question. While there is a time and place to learn how to focus, not being able to sit still is very developmentally appropriate for a five-year-old.
If your son’s educators aren’t giving him any grace to simply be a boy, it may be time to look at alternatives, such as homeschooling or a Montessori school. At the very least, make sure your son gets plenty of outdoor exercise after school.
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When was the last time you had to remind yourself to breathe?
Unless you're exercising, breathing is the most natural thing. But what isn’t easy or natural is using our breath the way God intended.
Too often, we use our breath to say words that are mean, sarcastic, and rude. Our kids hear our speech and begin imitating our volume, tone, and vocabulary.
Instead of using our breath in negative ways, we should follow the advice found in Psalm 150. Verse 6 says, “Let everything that has breath praise the Lord.”
Instead of complaining and bickering, use your breath to thank the Lord for his goodness and grace. The more you praise him, the more your kids will also develop an attitude of gratitude.
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What do you worry about most?
Is it your finances, health, family, or something else?
The Bible tells us to give our worries to God.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” Philippians 4:6
You can’t work your way into peace. You can only experience peace by taking everything to God with a heart of praise and prayer. That doesn’t mean you need to pretend to be thankful for hardships, but you can be thankful that God wants you to go to him with your needs.
The best way to experience peace is to stop trying to do it on our own. Take it to God!
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Nearly 70% of Americans own a pet. But can you guess what kind of pet is the most popular?
If you answered dog, you’re right! From pugs to poodles . . . from beagles to bulldogs—canine companions share a place in our house and in our hearts. That’s why they’re called man’s best friend.
Dogs are definitely cute, but they’re also a great way to connect with kids. When it’s time for your son to walk Duffy or Max or whatever you’ve named your dog, head on out the door with them. As you walk together, talk to your son about school or sports or whatever topic he’s interested in. The more time you spend with your son, the more he’ll see that you’re actually his best friend.
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Have you ever picked up a large rock and dropped it into a still pond?
After the initial plunk, circular ripples will flow out in every direction. The ripple effects are inevitable, just like the aftereffects of sin are inevitably felt in our lives and the lives of those around us.
First Corinthians 10:13 says, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”
When faced with sin’s temptation, will you choose to take God’s escape route or give in to the temptation?
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When you have a problem, do you usually ask for help or try to figure things out on your own?
One hindrance to the power of God in our lives is our unwillingness to reach out to him for help and trust him to meet our needs.
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
We limit what God wants to do for us when we don’t trust him to meet our needs.
What if we put our complete trust in God for everything we need? He wants to take care of and bless his children.
The question is: Are you willing to receive his blessings?
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When have you felt a “healthy fear”?
While working with electricity, you should have a “healthy fear” of its power and take the proper safety precautions.
The Bible talks about having a “healthy fear” of the Lord.
The all-powerful and all-loving Creator of the universe fully deserves our fear and respect.
Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.”
Fearing God gives us the foundation to face all our other fears.
When you or your child is afraid, ask God to allow it to draw you closer to Him. You can face your fears confidently, knowing God is greater than all your fears.
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What does it mean to “guard your heart”?
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it is the source of life.”
This proverb is written by a father to his son, but the instructions apply to everyone — no matter their age.
Your heart is the source of your thoughts and feelings. Guarding your heart requires keeping your focus on the things of God. So many things in our world can pull our hearts away from being focused on God.
Remember Philippians 4:8 and “fix your thoughts on what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
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Does anyone like to suffer?
The apostle Paul knew a lot about suffering. He suffered beatings, imprisonments, and shipwrecks. In Colossians 1:24, Paul said he “rejoiced” in his sufferings. What? How could he rejoice in suffering? Because God used it to advance the gospel.
Paul also pointed out that suffering strengthens our perseverance, character, and hope.
Most of us have little experience with real suffering. We don’t even like minor inconveniences like waiting in a long line.
No matter your circumstances, God has a purpose and plan for your life.
Let’s ask God to help us see and teach our boys the value of suffering for His kingdom’s sake.
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Have you ever had a divine encounter with someone who came into your life at just the right time, and you knew it was a “God thing”?
I heard about a family that had a flat tire at Christmastime. They pulled into the closest repair shop they could find. The technician who came out to help them was named “Emmanuel.” He agreed to fix the flat even though the shop had just closed. Every Christmas, this family tells their “Emmanuel” story as a reminder that God is always with us.
God orchestrates every meeting you have with someone for a purpose. Sometimes, that purpose is life-changing; other times, not so much. But they are all divine appointments.
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Do you find yourself playing the comparison game, comparing yourself to others?
If so, you need to remind yourself of this truth: You are created uniquely by God — “fearfully and wonderfully made.” There isn’t another person in the world like you.
It’s a message we share with our kids regularly but don’t apply to ourselves enough. When we fail to remember that God has created us uniquely and has a specific calling and purpose for our lives, we are tempted to compare ourselves to others.
We justify our actions by thinking, “At least I’m not as bad as that person.”
When we stand before God, he will not ask us about our neighbor’s actions. We will only answer for ourselves.
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Do the things you say build people up or tear them down?
Our words have more power than we realize.
Proverbs 15:4 says, “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”
King Solomon, who wrote much of Proverbs, points out the pain caused by our hurtful speech. Harsh words cut deeply, and their damage is long-lasting.
On the other hand, Solomon also points out the power of our positive words. Most of us are not doctors, but our speech can heal and give life. It can infuse others with renewed courage, faith, and hope.
God, help us to honor you with our words by offering hope and healing to the people around us.
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What’s love got to do with it?
Well…quite a lot. Jesus spoke about love often and at one point was quoted as saying, “love your neighbor as yourself”, which was a reference from Leviticus 19:18.
But how do we do that? There are many people who do not love themselves or see the value God has placed in them. How can we properly love others as ourselves when we despise ourselves? In order to love others well we must love who God has made us to be. Then we will have the confidence of the Father’s love and affirmation in our hearts as we love others through Him.
Take some time today to reflect on how great God’s love is toward you and how valuable and special you are to him. Then look for ways to spread that love to your family and others.
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Have you ever ordered a product through Amazon Prime?
If so, you’re not alone. Over 50% of American households have a Prime membership. From toys to tools, and from shoelaces to shampoo—people love Amazon because of the HUGE variety of items they sell.
But there are some things you can’t buy at Amazon.com. You can’t buy your son a hug. You can’t order him a hearty laugh for $19.95. And you can’t purchase fun outdoor memories with him that will last a lifetime.
Amazon sells over 12 million products, but they can’t deliver your son the joy he’ll experience wrestling with you in the living room. The relationship you have with your son is one of the most priceless things in all of life. Make it count.
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Boys sometimes get hurt. That’s a fact. But when your son cuts a finger or scrapes a knee, what do you do?
If the cut looks dirty, dabbing iodine on it will keep infection away. Even though the antiseptic stings, you know it’s for your son’s own good. You want him to heal.
The same is true in parenting. At one point or another, you’ll have to correct your son when he lies, cusses, or misbehaves. Punishment is never a fun thing—for the child or for the parent—but it’s necessary for healing and growth.
Proverbs 22:6 provides valuable advice. The verse says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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How are you doing with your new year’s resolutions?
Every year many people resolve to exercise more and eat healthier.
The Bible tells Christ-followers to take care of their bodies.
“Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” First Corinthians 3:16-17
Along with our physical fitness, you also need to train our spiritual muscles. It takes work, but it’s the most important exercise you can do.
“Physical training is good, but training for godliness is much better, promising benefits in this life and in the life to come.” First Timothy 4:8
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Nathan was going to buy a motorcycle– at age 15.
He wanted the bike to ride it to his job at a pizza shop. HIs parents told him it would be too dangerous, and suggested a car, instead. Nathan rolled his eyes.
But one day, Nathan announced that he was going to buy a car, instead. His boss at the pizza shop said a motorcycle would be too dangerous. Nathan’s parents glanced at each other, and smiled in relief.
Steve Biddulph [BID-dulf] tells this story in his book Raising Boys to illustrate that while your teenage son may not listen to you, he will listen to other adults. Pray and take intentional steps to make sure your son has positive, godly men in his life to point him in the right direction.
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Here’s a simple way to boost your son’s development today.
Researchers have coined a term called “joint attention sequences” to describe what happens when you make a connection with your son. This can happen when you look him in the eyes, laugh when he makes a joke, read stories with him, or praise him for an accomplishment.
In his book Raising Boys, author Steve Biddulph [BID-dulf] says these sequences are more than just moments of delight– they are crucial for your son’s development. Studies have found that, especially when your son is a baby and a toddler, these moments actually help a growth hormone to flood his brain and develop it.
So today, put your phone down and give your son focused, intentional connection. His growing brain will reap the benefits.
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As a parent, you want to give your son the world.
But of course, time, resources, and energy are limited. When you have to tell your son “no, I can’t play with you right now,” or, “No, we can’t buy that toy right now,” you may feel guilty.
But don’t feel bad. Even God, our perfect Father, often answers our prayers and requests with “not right now” or “no.” As you teach your son to wait, you teach him patience, self control, and the value of working towards something that you want.
Maybe things are tight financially for your family right now. If so, remember– you are still a good parent. By not giving your son everything, you’re shaping his character– and that’s a gift that will last a lifetime.
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When you were a kid did your parents warn you not to look directly into the sun because it could damage your vision?
When you stare directly at the sun—or other types of bright light such as a welding torch—ultraviolet light floods your retina, literally burning the exposed tissue.
However, there is a Son we need to continually look at — the Son of God, Jesus Christ.
“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrew 12:2
Teach your son to keep his eyes on the living Son of God.
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What are some things that rise? Maybe you’re thinking about prices, or helium, or a hot air balloon.
But by far, the most amazing thing that has ever risen is the Lord Jesus. If he had stayed dead, people would have no hope and no future. But after three days in the tomb, Jesus conquered death and rose victoriously. And because of that, we can be redeemed.
Have you and your son accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior?
This Easter, make it a point to spend one-on-one time with your son. Together, give thanks for God’s selfless sacrifice on the cross. The more you and your son focus on the Savior, the closer you’ll grow to one another.
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As Easter approaches, what comes to mind?
For many kids, Easter involves egg hunts, bunny-shaped chocolate, and goodie-filled baskets.
But the real meaning of Easter is so much more than this.
As a parent, don’t allow the commercialization of Easter to distract you from the true meaning of Christ’s ultimate sacrifice. Teach your son that the Easter story is more than a story. It’s the real-life account of Jesus sacrificially giving his life on the cross. Fortunately (and here’s the incredible part), after three days in the tomb, Jesus conquered death by rising from the dead. And because of that, by his wounds we can be healed.
Does your son know the true meaning of Easter? Take time today to talk to him about God’s free gift of salvation.
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Ever thought about having your son help you decorate your home for Easter?
We all decorate for Christmas. But as Christians, shouldn’t we show our boy that there’s just as much– if not more– to celebrate at Easter?
Spend some time this year putting up some decorations representing Christs’ sacrifice. These don’t have to be fancy or expensive– display a cross, and frame a verse like Matthew 28:6- “He is not here, for He has risen!” If your son is young, put out some childrens’ books about the Easter story. You can even have a resurrection party– blow up balloons, light candles, and celebrate that Jesus is alive!
Show your son that Easter is incredibly important – the reason we can have a relationship with our perfect heavenly Father.
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Resurrection Sunday is almost here!
This day celebrates the fact that Jesus is not dead, but is alive. This is what separates us from all other religions. Since Jesus has been resurrected, He offers a resurrected life to us.
Romans 6:4 says, We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.
This “newness of life” should be a way of life for all believers. Jesus took us who were dead because of sin, and resurrected us!
Remember that on Easter Sunday! Jesus has been resurrected and is alive and therefore we can live a resurrected life in Him!
Have a wonderful Resurrection Sunday!
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A surefire way to pique your son’s interest? A snack! Here’s a snack mix recipe to help you discuss the true meaning of Easter.
Gather up the following: Pretzel sticks, to symbolize the cross; craisins, to represent Jesus’ blood; round crackers, for the stone that was rolled away; a marshmallow, since our sins are forgiven; Goldfish crackers, since Jesus said we should be fishers of men; and chocolate chips, because we taste and see the Lord is good.
Sit down with your son, and discuss the Easter story and what each food represents. Send the mix with your boy to school– or, put a bowl out the next time he has friends over. Help your son use it as an opportunity to share about Jesus’ resurrection.
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Does your son have a “lighthouse” person in his life?
It’s interesting– even though more sophisticated navigation technology exists, many ship captains still prefer the simplicity of an old-fashioned lighthouse.
In the same way, your son needs a lighthouse person in his life– someone he can look to as he navigates the difficult waters of boyhood.
This person doesn’t need to be perfect. They don’t need to have all the answers. And they certainly don’t need to be up to current trends. But just like any good lighthouse, they do need to be set apart, carrying a light, and standing strong.
Pray that you can be– or help your son find– a lighthouse person to look to when life is stormy.
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Do you know what it means to do an“alley-oop” or an “ollie”?
While someone could try to explain those basic skateboarding tricks using words, it’s pretty hard to understand until you see someone jump on a skateboard and demonstrate.
This same principle applies when it comes to parenting our son. Sure, we can try to lecture him on the importance of a relationship with Jesus. But we must allow Jesus to fully transform our own life, first.
Feel like you’ve already failed at showing the fruits of the spirit today? Perfect. Here’s your opportunity to demonstrate repentance, and show your son what it looks like to rest in the sufficient grace God has for all of us.
That’s even more impressive than even the coolest skateboarding trick.
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Tammy’s seven-year-old son was angry. His sister had broken his model airplane. Tammy quickly put her arm around her son and began to talk to him. “I know you’re feeling hurt and frustrated,” she said. “Let’s go outside for a minute and jump on the trampoline, and then we’ll talk about it.”
Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage, especially for boys. As parents, it’s crucial that we teach our son how to self-regulate when emotions are high. Any physical activity, like jumping on the trampoline, can work well. You can also have your son smash play dough, do push-ups, or press the palms of his hands together. Show your son that it’s possible to express frustration in healthy ways that don’t hurt himself or others.
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When your son lacks motivation, show him the relevance.
Boys are biologically wired to be task-oriented and one-track minded. They also have trouble engaging when there is nothing at stake or they don’t see the value. That’s why some vocations tend to favor one gender over another.
Any time your son seems to lack motivation– whether that’s for cleaning his room, being nice to his sister, or paying attention in math class– it’s possible he feels like those things just aren’t important.
Take him out for a drive and, together, discuss whatever task he is struggling with. Give examples from your own life about how God used something you didn’t think was relevant to pave the way to your future. Show him the relevance, and you’ll probably spark some motivation.
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All it took was one simple check-in.
A teacher noticed an interesting trend in her classroom. While the girls in the class almost always turned in their weekly assignments on time, most of the boys would forget or turn things in late.
This teacher decided to try an experiment. Without drawing attention, she started quietly checking in with each boy in her class throughout the week to see how his assignment was going. The results astonished her– because of that simple check in, most of the male students started meeting the deadlines.
It’s important to remember that boys and girls think and learn differently. If your son needs more reminders than your daughter, don’t shame him for it– find ways to help him. He may just need one simple check in.
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Are you Listening?
We need to listen to our children. One old-school method of dealing with children was “The children should be seen and not heard.” Connecting with our child’s heart, especially our sons, is critical to having a loving relationship with them, and connection begins with listening and understanding. We must value who they are and who God has made them to be.
As we start to listen more to them, we will grow in understanding of who our child is and what makes them thrive. Become a student of your child. Learn what inspires them and what they are passionate about. Be intentional about listening to them, connecting with them, and encouraging them down the right path.
Take time today to listen to your children and value who they are.
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Boys need to succeed in order to succeed.
Yes, you heard that right. This is why boys and young men can sometimes get stuck in cycles of failure when it comes to their schoolwork or relationships.
Here’s an example. If your son is struggling in school, don’t try to improve his grades in every subject overnight. First, identify the subject he is most interested in or good at– whether that’s gym or science– and help him improve that one grade first. Once that grade starts to get better, you can almost guarantee that your son will start to feel more motivated to do better in school overall.
Positive motivation and reward for a small job done well will always motivate your son.
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When you were a kid, did you ever play with transformers?
Boys love the way those cars and trucks transform into really cool robots. Plus, the storyline of Autobots battling it out against the evil Decepticons is exciting.
You probably don’t play with transformers anymore, but in some ways, you’re still like a transformer. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Are you teaching your son to stand strong against the world’s deceit? Victory over evil is only possible when we allow the Lord to transform our hearts and minds.
So, how’s that transformation process coming along? Take time today to pray and read the Bible with your son. Together, you both can transform into something extraordinary.
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Do you use your phone to send text messages?
According to statistics, around 80% of Americans do. Those text messages are often sent to family, friends, and co-workers. And now, more than ever, millions of children also carry a smart phone.
If you’ve decided to provide your son a phone, make sure he uses it responsibly. But in addition to that, use text messaging as a way to connect with him. If you’re out of town during one of his sporting events or other activities, send a quick text:
Hey buddy. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Just want you to know that I’m so proud of you!
A text message doesn’t take long to type, but the encouragement it provides lasts for days.
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Ask your son what his perfect afternoon would entail. He will most likely give a very simple answer– such as hours spent playing video games, or fishing. Why?
Everyone’s brain has something called a corpus collosum [kul-oh’-some] that connects the left and right hemispheres. In males, the corpus collosum is much smaller than those in females. This is why girls tend to enjoy multitasking, and boys usually prefer focusing on one task a time.
Keep this design in mind each time you plan your son’s week. Avoid packing his schedule with long days full of various activities, and instead let him spend chunks of time focused on one activity, whether that’s perfecting his hockey skills or practicing target shooting. His male brain will thank you.
To learn about the five critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
On this St. Patrick’s Day, there’s a lesson your son can learn from the holiday’s namesake.
While the story of St. Patrick is pretty disputed among historians, many believe he was taken prisoner at age 16 and forced to work as a shepherd for years. During those years, he leaned into his Christianity, and became very close with God. It’s also believed that he started thinking about being a missionary during that time.
Growing up is difficult, so your son is likely frustrated with something in his life right now. Maybe he wishes for more freedom, more resources, or less homework. Talk with him about how God uses the “waiting” periods of her life– just like St. Patrick during his imprisonment– to teach us discipline and bring us closer to Him.
To learn about the 5 critical needs of boys as they grow up, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You’re a parent inside the walls of your home. But what about outside those walls?
Of course, your primary obligation is to parent your own son. But, for better or worse, your son’s friends and peers can have a greater impact on him than you do. So how can you positively influence the whole group?
It’s as simple as being involved in your community. Volunteer at church to teach Sunday School. Coach your son’s soccer team. Join a big brother/big sister program. Or you could even volunteer to be a Trail Life USA leader.
You don’t have to be perfect to positively influence the next generation of men. You just have to show up and show love not only in your home, but outside of it.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that Michael Jordan, considered by many to be the greatest basketball player ever, missed 12,345 field goals in his Hall of Fame career?
He said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
Wayne Gretzky, the NHL’s all-time leading scorer, put it this way: “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”
In today’s culture, risk and competition are often removed from boys’ environments. They lose interest when there isn’t anything at stake. So, they think, “Why should I try?”
As parents and mentors trying to raise godly boys, we need to provide challenging opportunities that let boys fail, recover, and eventually succeed.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Colton, a toddler, was riding his toy car when he ran into a stick. His mom watched from behind as Colton got more and more frustrated, but he was stuck.
“Hm,” his mom said,“Is there anything you can do to move the stick?” Colton thought for a minute, then climbed off his car. He beamed with pride when he moved the stick and sailed past it.
When our sons face obstacles in life, it’s tempting to swoop in and remove whatever is in the way. But if we constantly do that, we are failing our boys. By letting them problem solve in age-appropriate ways, we can not only develop their critical thinking skills, but also greatly improve their confidence. So go ahead– encourage your son to move the stick himself.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Are men inherently bad?
Of course not. Genesis 1:27 tells us that God created both male and female in His own image.
But there’s a troubling narrative in our society right now that masculinity is toxic. So how can we as Christians fight this damaging idea?
First, we can affirm, not punish, the natural masculine traits that appear in our sons– such as being high energy and risk seeking. Second, we can help our sons find positive dad-like men as examples. And third, we can keep an open line of discussion going with our sons about how masculinity is portrayed in music, TV shows, and social media.
Being a man can be difficult in this day and age. Let’s show our sons that God made men for a divine purpose.
To learn about the 5 critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s a controversial yet obvious truth– men and women are different!
A quick look at brain science supports this fact. The connections between neurons in the male brain are more condensed than in a female brain. That’s why men tend to focus on the bigger picture while women focus on details. Men use more grey brain matter, which makes them task oriented, while women use more white matter, which contributes to being more language oriented.
In this society that often tries to pit women against men, and calls masculinity “toxic,” it’s crucial that our sons understand that there’s a reason for these differences. Make sure your son has a positive father-figure in his life to help him understand what healthy manhood looks like.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When your son is upset, “How are you feeling?” might not be the right question.
Boys are simply not wired to connect words with feelings. While the female brain has verbal centers in both the left and right hemispheres– allowing girls to use words to process feelings— males only have verbal centers on the left side of their brain.
This is why boys tend to not “talk it out” when they are upset, but instead turn to an unrelated activity, like video games or sports, to process big emotions.
So the next time your son is angry or frustrated, engage him in physical activity, like walking the dog or kicking a soccer ball around the yard. You can be confident he’ll return feeling much calmer.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Ever wake to the sound of a chainsaw ripping through wood?
It’s a powerful tool. But it can be dangerous. Like a chainsaw, the internet is a powerful tool, but it’s also dangerous if not used properly.
There’s a wealth of information available to us on the web. However, surfing the internet can become an addictive tidal wave.
Do you start and end your day online? Are you constantly checking your emails and texts and feeling the need to respond immediately?
If so, it might be time to try something radical and life-changing.
Unplug. Consider an internet fast. Go online only for work purposes for the next five days. Tell friends to call instead of emailing or texting. Stay off social media.
Devote the time you would normally spend online to Bible study and prayer. You’ll be shocked at how many of your online activities are unnecessary.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The trials of life are like trails.
They will either lead you closer to God or further away from him.
You can’t choose if you’ll go through a trial, but you can choose how you will react to one.
Being a Christian doesn’t make you immune to trials, but you can take comfort during a trial knowing that you are never alone.
Repeatedly in his word God tells us that he will never leave us or forsake us.
Boys are watching their father figures and mentors to see how they’ll react to a trial — if their walk matches their talk.
Let’s trust God no matter our circumstances. He is faithful!
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that a person can survive for about three days without water?
Health experts commonly recommend drinking eight 8-ounce glasses of water daily.
While water is essential for life, Jesus speaks of a different kind of “living water” in John 4.
While talking with a Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well, he says, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
A glass of cold water will quench your physical thirst, but only following Jesus will quench your spiritual thirst.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
A deck of cards could teach your son an important lesson.
Remember the card games you played growing up? Go fish, hearts, nerts, or spades? Search the internet if you need a refresher on the rules, make your son’s favorite snack, and find some decks of cards. It’s time for a family game night.
As you play with your son, you will teach him several important lessons. He will learn to listen and follow rules as you teach him the game. As you play, he’ll practice staying focused. And as you win– or lose– you will show him how men can do both, gracefully and humbly.
And more than anything, putting aside your work and chores to play a game with your son will make him feel loved and valued.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the most important question you’ve ever asked or been asked?
Will you marry me? Did I get the job? Is the cancer in remission?
While these are all important questions, life’s most important question is found in the Bible in Matthew 16:15-16 when Jesus asked Simon Peter, “But what about you? Who do you say I am?” and Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”
What someone believes about Jesus is the most important question he will ever have to answer. Let’s teach our sons about the Son of the living God so they’ll know who he is and be able to share the truth with others.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did your parents ever say, “This is going to hurt me more than you.”
This saying reminds me of Hebrews 12:11.
“No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it yields a harvest of righteousness and peace to those who have been trained by it.”
When God disciplines his children (believers), he does so out of love.
“The Lord disciplines the one he loves, just as a father, the son he delights in.” (Proverbs 3:12)
A parent’s motivation for administering discipline is vital to its effectiveness.
They should follow God’s example with loving discipline. The parent “who loves [his child] disciplines him diligently.” (Proverbs 13:24)
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
How many weeks will you have with your child before they become a legal adult?
There are approximately 936 weeks from the day your child is born until he graduates from high school, and the weeks move quickly.
You need to make the most of the time you have with your child. Parenting is a never-ending process, but the developmental years are crucial.
I recommend that you fill a jar with marbles — or pieces of candy if you have a sweet tooth — based on your child’s age – how many weeks before they turn 18. As you take a marble out of the jar each week, you will be reminded of the time you have left with them.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
It’s been said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
When we choose not to forgive, it hurts us, not just the person who has hurt us.
Jesus said a lot about forgiveness in the Bible.
He taught, “If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you.” When Peter asked Jesus how often it is necessary to forgive, he replied, “Seventy times seven,” a number to be taken symbolically, not literally, for the never-ending way we should forgive.
Who do you need to forgive? Perhaps it’s yourself. Do yourself a favor by “letting it go” and teach your boys to do the same.
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever tried putting something together without looking at the instructions?
I heard about a man who did this once with a wagon his son got for Christmas. Unfortunately, he put the wheels on wrong.
Each time he pulled his son in the wagon reminded him that he should have read the instructions first.
Thankfully, God has given us instructions to follow in his word. The Bible is God’s big instruction book.
“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives.” (2 Timothy 3:16)
As you’re seeking to raise godly boys, continually point them to the wisdom found in God’s owner manual for life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the first thing you do when you or your child is struggling with something?
Is it to pray?
Prayer should be our first response, not our last resort.
There is power in prayer.
Stormie Omartian (stor·mee ow·maar·tee·uhn) writes this in her book The Power of a Praying Parent:
“When we pray, we bring that power to bear upon everything we are praying about, and we allow the power of God to work through our powerlessness. When we pray, we are humbling ourselves before God and saying, “I need Your presence and Your power, Lord. I can’t do this without You.” When we don’t pray, it’s like saying we have no need of anything outside of ourselves.”
Let’s be “first responders” when it comes to prayer.
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When it comes to toilet paper placement, do you prefer the paper to flow over or under the roll? Well, according to recent surveys, around 70% of Americans prefer the toilet paper to roll over the top.
This may not seem like a big deal, but for some people, toilet paper placement causes controversy, chaos, and conflict.
We laugh at such pettiness, but the truth is we often major on the minor things in life. Do you get bent out of shape if your son taps his foot at the table or chews too loudly?
Don’t let tiny annoyances flush your patience down the toilet. By staying focused on what really matters in life, you’ll be on a “roll” in helping your son grow into a godly young man.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
If you don’t give your son a challenge, he will challenge you.
Julie was frustrated that her teenage son, Tyler, wouldn’t help with any chores around the house. But when Tyler’s dad asked him to repair the fence in the backyard, Tyler jumped at the opportunity. Why?
Boys are uniquely wired to crave adventure. So much so that they often lose motivation when things are too easy or simple. This is why many extremely intelligent children often struggle in school– simply because of boredom.
If your son is being defiant with you, consider giving him an even greater, more complicated responsibility. Bonus points if it involves an outdoor activity! It may seem counterintuitive, but without a mountain in his life,your son will try to conquer you.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you watched the track and field events at the Summer Olympic Games?
The training that goes into running a marathon is much different than what a runner needs to do to prepare for a 100-yard dash.
Raising godly boys is more like a marathon than a sprint.
Parenting is a lifelong process filled with seemingly insignificant moments.
We must take advantage of every opportunity God gives us, whether it’s the car ride to and from school or tucking them into bed at night.
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7
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Have you heard of The Greatest Commandment?
It’s found in the Bible in Matthew 22:36-40, where Jesus says: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
These verses can be summed up as “Love God and Love People.”
A foundation for raising godly boys is teaching them to first love God and then show that same love to the people they encounter.
Let’s set an example for our boys to follow by living out The Greatest Commandment.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Does your son play a musical instrument? Maybe the piano, trumpet, or violin?
The process of learning how to play an instrument is a lot like parenting. It requires patience, persistence, and a passion to improve.
During the parenting process, mistakes will inevitably happen. Improper technique may cause squeaky notes. Your instruction may fall flat or be off key. And despite your best efforts, your guidance may not be properly choreographed.
When this happens, don’t get discouraged. Through consistent effort, prayer, and love, you’ll make progress.
By tuning your heart to the rhythm of your son’s personality, you’ll experience the melody of fellowship. And when you and your son are in sync, harmony within the home will crescendo into his growth as a godly young man.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever seen a magician pull a rabbit out of a hat? Maybe you stared in wonder as he made someone suddenly disappear.
Kids think magic tricks are super cool, but performing these illusions requires lots of practice.
As a dad, you might not be a professional magician, but you can still perform magic in 3 simple steps:
Step 1: Wrap your arm around your son.
Step 2: With heartfelt meaning, say, “I love you, buddy!”
Step 3: Watch as a smile magically appears on your son’s face.
It’s definitely important to demonstrate your words in action, but never forget those three magical words every boy needs to hear. By telling your son, “I love you,” you remind him how special he really is.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Hola. Bonjour. Konnichiwa. [kon-nee-chee-wah]
You may not know Spanish, French, or Japanese, but make sure you understand your son’s love language.
Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages of Children, lists important ways to show how much you care. The 5 love languages include:
Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Gifts
and Acts of Service
By taking time to understand your son’s personality, you’ll be able to strategically connect with him. And by speaking your son’s love language, you show (through action) that you want the very best for him.
Guide your son in becoming a godly man. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping parents accomplish this. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Your son probably thinks Valentine’s Day is silly. But it’s actually much more important than he realizes.
When your boy sees you buy your wife flowers, or dress up for a date with your husband, you are sending several important messages.
First, you are showing your son that you have a healthy marriage– something that psychologists say is crucial for a child’s well being. Boys who are raised by married parents do better in school and are even more likely to be physically healthier. Secondly, you are setting a crucial example for your son about relating to women in a respectful and loving way– which will help him in future relationships.
So go ahead– splurge on a gift for your spouse this Valentine’s Day. Loving your spouse is loving your son, too.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Is social media hurting your son’s self-esteem?
Social networks often create unreasonable expectations of what a man is. And because of that, boys may look at their flaws and failures and think that they’re not good enough.
As a dad, remind your son that even great men from the Bible experienced physical and spiritual weaknesses. Moses stuttered. Jacob was a cheater. Elijah wrestled with depression. And the apostle Peter had a temper. The list could go on and on.
Fortunately, 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”
Despite our flaws and failures, God sees our potential. In fact, He can take our weaknesses and transform them into something amazing—something beyond our wildest expectations.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
No one wants to think about death, but if you’re a Christian, you know that Christ has conquered the grave. Still, at some point, physical death will separate us from our loved ones. The question is: What kind of legacy will you leave behind. How will your children remember you?
Billy Graham, one of the most widely known evangelists of the 20th century, said, “The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children and grandchildren is a legacy of character and faith.”
There’s nothing wrong in being remembered for your work accomplishments or athletic abilities. But, in the end, your kids will most appreciate the time and attention you invested in their lives.
Life is incredibly short. Are you building a legacy of character and faith?
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever asked yourself, “What does God want my son to see that he is not seeing, and how can I help him see it?”
Because sin is deceptive, it can blind your son to the sin in his own heart. Let’s look for chances to be a tool to help him see it.
When you help him see what motivates his desires and actions, you are doing what God has called you to do as a parent.
Parenting is not about getting your son to do the right thing, but helping them to see so that he wants to do the right thing. This type of sightseeing is key to fostering lasting life change in your children.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever found something you thought you had lost forever? How did it feel?
Imagine completing a 500-piece jigsaw puzzle, except for one missing piece. You could look everywhere until you give up hope of ever finding the piece, only to have it turn up when you aren’t looking for it a few weeks later. Imagine how excited you’d be to finally complete the puzzle.
In Luke 15, Jesus talks about several lost things – a lost sheep, a lost coin, and a lost son – that were all found.
I’m thankful that God never gives up on the lost, and we need to do the same with boys who have seemingly lost their way.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that 3,160 tons of water flow over Niagara Falls every second?
Like water flows over the Falls, the words and actions of your son flow out of what is in their hearts.
To raise godly boys, we need to remember the advice the wisest man who ever lived, King Solomon, gave to his son: “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23
Your son’s behavior problems are heart problems. Thankfully, Jesus came to give us a new heart. Pay attention to the deeper issues that may be the source of the overflow and steer your son to help from the Lord.
Ezekiel 36 says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.”
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Has the grumble monster invaded your home?
You may not see him, but he leaves everyone feeling grouchy and grumpy. These emotions often lead to frustration when life is hard. Perhaps your son struggles in school, or maybe he’s hanging around friends that aren’t a good influence. You wish life didn’t have so many trials and troubles.
During these times, it’s easy to complain. That’s why Philippians 2:14 reminds us to do all things without grumbling.
So, if the grumble monster has invaded your home, fight back with an attitude of gratitude. Compliment your son on an achievement. Praise his determination to work through challenges. When your son sees your example of genuine appreciation, those grumbles will crumble away.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What comes to mind when you hear the words “mercy” and “grace”?
Pastor and author Paul Tripp defines mercy as “tenderheartedness and compassion toward someone in need.” John Newton wrote about God’s “Amazing Grace” in his beloved hymn.
I like this definition: Mercy is not getting what you deserve. Grace is getting what you don’t deserve.
“Therefore let’s approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace for help at the time of our need.” Hebrews 4:16
Thank God for his amazing grace and mercy toward us.
As we strive to raise godly boys, let’s be quick to practice the same mercy and grace we’ve received.
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When was the last time your plans were suddenly ruined?
Maybe you had organized the perfect family road trip. But then, the day before leaving, one of your kids got really sick.
Life doesn’t always go according to plan. There are countless variables outside our control. But we can control how we react when receiving bad news.
When disappointment strikes, be intentional in teaching your kids an important life lesson. Remind them that nothing is outside God’s knowledge. Even though we often don’t understand why certain things happen, we can know that God’s will, God’s way, and God’s timing are ultimately for our own good and personal growth.
Guide your son in becoming a godly man. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping parents accomplish this. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What comes to mind when someone mentions a chameleon?
Most people think of the scaly lizard that changes color based on its surroundings. These cold-blooded reptiles blend into their environment by camouflaging their appearance. They can even adapt the brightness of their skin for strategic purposes.
Chameleons are fascinating, but they’re NOT an example of how Christians should act in today’s world. Even though society is often fake and hypocritical, believers should demonstrate genuine behavior.
If you’re a dad, realize that your son is watching you. Are your values, actions, and speech the same at work, on the sports field, and at church?
Don’t be a chameleon. Instead, through consistency of character, show your son how to honor the Lord in each and every area of life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you have a smartphone? If so, in addition to making phone calls and sending text messages, you probably use it to take pictures.
Of course, when kids are young, parents often take thousands of pictures. But as those same kids enter middle school and high school, life becomes so busy that parents sometimes forget to take pictures.
Be intentional in capturing both the big and small moments of life. After your son’s team wins a baseball game, stand next to your son and snap a selfie. Or when you’re on vacation at the beach, have someone take a picture of you and your son in snorkel gear.
Taking a picture takes just a few seconds, but the memory it captures lasts a lifetime.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
You glance at the clock. It’s 9:17 a.m.
“Hurry up!” you holler from the kitchen. “Church starts in less than 15 minutes!”
Your kids dash from room to room, grabbing their Bibles, their shoes, and maybe even a Pop-Tart. Then you’re out the door and in the car. Yet despite your best race car driving skills, you’re late to church—again.
Can you relate to this? Do you find yourself constantly late to work, medical appointments, or other activities?
Even though life is busy, make punctuality a priority. Show your son, through action, how to organize his time. Of course, this isn’t easy. But through careful planning, you’ll demonstrate that preparation helps life run more smoothly. Plus, when you’re on time for church, all the back pews aren’t already taken.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you get anxious?
Like a fisherman who continually casts his line in search of the big catch, we are called to continually cast our cares and concerns to God.
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
There are many things for us to be anxious about.. And anxiety among kids is on the rise, affecting nearly one in 10 children. Make sure you are tending to the cares of your kids, and helping them cast their cares on him.
We would be wise to remember Jesus’ question — can all your worries add a single moment to your life? Worry won’t change our past or future, but it can ruin the present.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What is a phobia? It is an irrational fear of something that’s unlikely to cause harm.
There are over 400 recognized phobias out there. Ablutophobia is the fear of bathing. This condition seems to be widespread among middle school and high school boys. :o)
Fear is a normal human reaction that protects us by signaling danger and preparing us to deal with it. But fear can also be unhealthy and dangerous.
The Bible talks about the “fear of man.” This manifests itself when we crave acceptance from our peers and fear rejection. The Bible says that fear of man is a dangerous trap.
Don’t let fear rule you and your child’s hearts. Instead, remember that “the Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?”
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever woken up from a long night of sleep and still felt tired?
According to the Mayo Clinic, the recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours a night.
But even getting enough sleep isn’t enough to be fully rested.
As parents, we can quickly become overburdened, overwhelmed, exhausted, discouraged, and restless.
Let’s take Jesus up on his invitation in Matthew 11:28-30:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Practice resting in Him. And teach your son to do the same!
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Kids love playdough. They squeeze it and stretch it. They roll it into skinny snakes and smoosh it into wobbly clumps.
As parents, we sometimes feel like playdough. We get squeezed for time and attention. Then we get stretched this way and that way. We feel smooshed and squooshed by the demands of life.
When the routines of parenthood feel overwhelming, realize that you’re not alone. Because you are in God’s hands, He is shaping you into His likeness, forming your character into a useful masterpiece.
Kids make wild and wacky objects with playdough, but in the master Sculptor’s hands, your parenting efforts are being transformed into something beautiful.
So, don’t give up. That squeezing and stretching is just part of the process.
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Before GPS, did you ever come to a fork in the road and think, “Which way should I go?”
Each of us eventually comes to a fork in the road – literally and figuratively – where we will have to decide which way to go.
As Christ-followers, we have the perfect navigator in our lives. God knows what’s down each road we travel; nothing surprises him. If we are unsure which way to go, we can look to him, and he will guide us. He will provide for all our needs throughout life’s journeys.
Let’s trust the Lord and thank him for the confidence he gives us to travel life’s roads, whether smooth or bumpy.
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Have you ever trusted someone who let you down? Most of us have experienced this. Most of us have broken someone’s trust too.
Yet, life requires you to trust others every day, often without thinking twice about it.
The only One who will never let you down and is completely trustworthy is God.
“It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in people.” Psalm 118:8
You must seek to trust and obey God and teach your son to do the same.
“Heavenly Father, thank you for being trustworthy. Help me to trust in you and follow your commands.”
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With each step he took, the load felt heavier.
Matthew was on a hike with a group of other boys when he realized his backpack was overloaded. He feared that if he asked for help, the other boys would make fun of him.
Finally, he fell to his knees, and confessed he couldn’t carry his load. To his surprise, the boys took off Matthew’s backpack and distributed the heavy contents equally in their own bags.
In a society where being a boy can feel like a burden, young men need help. Make sure your son has both a father-figure and a group of positive male friends to help him carry his burdens. Your church is a great place to start, or you can search for a local Trail Life USA troop.
For more ideas to raise boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Your son needs a place to be a boy.
In 2018, the Boy Scouts of America announced that they would allow girls to join. One scoutmaster was asked, “How do you like having girls a part of your troop?” The scoutmaster answered, “We love having girls because they are so much better behaved than boys!”
That answer broke my heart. Society already deems boyhood and masculinity as something negative– and now an organization that was supposed to champion boys was also insinuating that boys should act more like girls.
Make sure your son knows that who he really is– whether that’s wild, curious, crazy, or loud– is just fine. After all, God created him that way for a glorious purpose.
To find out about getting your son involved with a boy-centric organization, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Fire is always destructive, right?
Well, not necessarily. The knobcone pine tree relies on fire in a crazy way. In order for its seeds to escape the hard resin that traps them inside the cone, an intense heat source is required.
That’s where a forest fire comes in handy. After fire melts the cone’s resin away, the cone cracks open. Seeds are then free to flutter to the ground where they can grow tall and strong.
As a parent, you want to protect your son. But don’t forget that trials and troubles can help your son grow stronger. By relying on God through challenging situations, your son will learn how to manage the heat and stress of life. And in doing so, he’ll be better prepared for whatever the future may hold.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The 4th quarter of a football game is often a nailbiter. Teams battle it out as the minutes tick off the clock. At times, it feels like that 4th quarter will last forever. But then, before you know it, the game is over.
The same is true in parenting. Many boys head off to work or college after high school. That means that if your son is at least 14 years old, then he’s probably in the 4th quarter of his time at home.
Even if you’ve prepared your son for the future, the 4th quarter is no time to quit. Continue to provide training and instruction. By helping your son love the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind, he’ll be ready to tackle the challenges of adulthood.
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George Müller—an evangelist who established orphanages in the 1800s—was known for his prayer life. And yet, in addition to his faith in God’s provision, Müller was also a man of action. He wisely said, “Our walk counts far more than our talk, always!”
That’s so true. You may talk to your son about patience, kindness, and self-control, but do your actions demonstrate these characteristics? If a referee makes a bad call, how do you respond? When an elderly neighbor needs help, do you view it as a hassle or an opportunity?
Make sure what you say is backed up by what you do. Consistency in speech and action are a winning combination that your son will want to imitate.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s an easy question: What does www stand for? If you answered, “world wide web,” you're right!
But if you think about it, that phrase is actually quite descriptive of online content.
We all know that the Internet is helpful in many different ways. And yet, it’s also a web that easily entangles boys in temptations. Violence, vulgarity, and sexuality are trapping boys in sin.
Don’t let your son get ensnared by the sticky filth found on the web. As a father, protect your son by using content filtering software. And then, when your son is old enough, have a heart-to-heart talk with him about how to react when the world wide web tries to tempt him.
Through careful instruction, you’ll help your son use technology wisely, without getting trapped.
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See if you can answer this joke: When leaving for work, what did the daddy buffalo say to his son? . . . Bye-son! [Bison]
Maybe that joke made you groan, but tell it to your son tonight, and you’ll probably get a smile from him—maybe even a laugh.
Dad jokes are corny, but they’re still fun. Of course, you and your son can have fun in a thousand other ways, but the important thing is that you have fun together.
School, sports, and friendships can be stressful. But by creating an atmosphere of encouragement within the home, your son will learn to relax and trust you for guidance and instruction. Plus, when you smile and laugh together, life is a whole lot more fun.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you ever play Capture-the-Flag when you were a kid? If so, you know the object of the game is to capture the opposite team’s flag before getting tagged.
It’s one thing to play Capture-the-Flag, but don’t let today’s secular culture capture your son’s heart and mind. The love of money, the desires of the flesh, and the pride of life are all trying to steal his attention. And if they capture it, they’ll imprison him in bondage and despair.
Teach your son that God provides freedom from sin. And even though we’ll have to combat sin as long as we’re alive, placing God first in our lives will help us overcome temptation. When we allow God to capture our heart, we’ll be victorious in life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do you like cold weather? When the temperature dips into single digits, does the frosty air make you shiver?
Regardless of whether or not you like cold weather, make sure your relationship with your son is anything but frosty. At times, your son will annoy you, causing an icy chill to develop between you. When he doesn’t obey your instructions, the bitter cold of irritation may blow in.
Don’t let chilly words or frigid actions freeze the love you feel for your son. Even during challenges and frustrations, love will thaw even the coldest of hearts and bring warmth and life to your relationship.
If you need a little help and encouragement, check out Trail Life USA. They have a bunch of fun and exciting programs that are helping boys grow into godly men. For more information, visit RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Can you point to a scar on your body? Perhaps, as a kid, you cut your arm when falling off your bike, or scraped a leg while climbing a tree.
Some boys think scars are cool because they tell an exciting story. But not all scars are visible.
Emotional scars often hurt more than physical wounds. When correcting your son, what kind of words are you using? Hateful speech can scar a boy’s spirit and enthusiasm. Even a person’s tone of voice can cause deep wounds that may not easily heal.
When correcting your son, ask the Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts and words as you train and instruct. By doing so, you’ll leave your son with valuable lessons instead of invisible scars.
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Here’s an interesting parenting twist on the golden rule.
Psychologist Dr. Joshua Straub suggests that, when it comes to your son, you replace the word “treat” with the word “understand.” So the golden rule then becomes “understand your son the way you want to be understood.”
Now, understanding your son may seem like an impossible task– especially if he’s a teenager! But here’s some ideas to start. When your son gets upset over something that seems unimportant to you, instead of saying “there’s nothing to be mad about,” put yourself in your son’s shoes. Most likely, there’s an underlying fear or insecurity behind your son’s anger.
Seek to understand. And in turn, your son may begin to understand your side, as well.
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Surfers don’t try to avoid the waves or control them– they learn to glide over them.
In the same way, family psychologist Dr. Joshua Straub has developed three steps to help your son “surf” over his emotions, instead of stuffing them down or using them to hurt others.
First, empathize with your boy’s feelings. Second, address the behavior. Explain the difference between healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with emotions. And third, problem solve together. Help your son come up with coping strategies, like walking his dog when he feels angry or reading at night when he feels anxious.
Remind your son that emotions are a normal part of life that will ebb and flow. As one professor said, “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Johnny dropped his bat to the ground, embarrassed that he had just struck out again. But when he glanced at the crowd and saw his dad give him a reassuring nod and smile, he felt his shoulders relax.
It’s easy as a parent to feel like you’ve “struck out” with your son when you lose patience or make a mistake. When this happens, you may start thinking that you’re a terrible parent, or that you’re destined to repeat the mistakes of your own parents.
Instead of letting negative thoughts take over, turn to God. Repent. Ask your Heavenly Father for reassurance. And, as Numbers 6:26 says, “may the LORD turn his face towards you and give you peace.”
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Have you given your son any “tummy time” today?
“Tummy time” is a fairly new concept in the parenting world, in which parents of infants are encouraged to let their baby spend time on their stomach. Babies often protest and find it very uncomfortable. But without this valuable time, they will not strengthen critical muscles or eventually learn to crawl.
No matter your son’s age, he still needs one small challenge each day. This could be saying his own order at the restaurant, calling the vet to make an appointment for his dog, or completing a puzzle– anything that he would not normally choose to do himself. He may protest and find it uncomfortable, but it will strengthen his resilience muscle and build his self confidence.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the difference between being a smart parent and an overprotective parent?
It’s a hard balance to strike. But as Christians, we have a secret weapon that we often forget about: Prayer.
Every boy is different, and parenting strategies that work well with one boy can sometimes have disastrous results with another. But the one method that will always work is hitting our knees in prayer, asking God for wisdom, and surrendering our sons’ lives to God.
This doesn’t mean we will become perfect parents– or that we will always make the right decision. But the difference between an overprotective parent and a smart parent is simply parenting not out of fear and control– but out of faith and trust in God.
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It only takes a small mistake– such as incorrect hip placement– to send a novice rock climber on a painful slide back down the rock wall.
In the same way, there’s a small mistake you can make in disciplining your son that can cause you to lose ground with him: getting too emotional.
It can be difficult to not cry or raise your voice when addressing heavy topics with your boy. But as soon as you show emotion, two things will happen in your son’s brain– he will become distracted, and lose respect for you.
Instead, regulate your own emotions by taking a deep breath, and speak to your son in concise, calm statements. He will listen more closely, and be more likely to respond calmly in turn.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
f you could pick a superpower as a parent, what would it be? The ability to teleport your son to every sports practice instead of making the long drive?
Researchers have found that every parent has a “superpower” of sorts that can improve their relationship with their son, help him avoid perfectionism, and promote emotional health. It’s simply this: an apology.
There’s no need to make your apology emotional or turn it into a long monologue. But when you know you’ve messed up as a parent, sincerely and concisely tell your son “I’m sorry”. It will make him respect you more, and pave the way for him to learn the superpower of apologies in his own life.
For more ideas on raising boys to be godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Who does your child really belong to?
I’ll give you a hint: It’s not you.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27
God is the creator and owner of everyone and everything. We are called to be his ambassador and steward everyone and everything he’s given to us.
Author Paul Tripp says it’s vital for us to understand that we have no independent, autonomous authority as a parent. God grants us the right and power to exercise authority.
As we strive to raise godly boys, do we have an owner or ambassador mentality?
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Did you know that a recurve bow arrow can fly 2.5 times faster than a cheetah can run?
This type of arrow can reach speeds of 150 miles per hour, while the world’s fastest cheetah maxes out at about 60 miles per hour.
The Bible likens children to arrows.
Psalm 127:3-4 says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.”
As parents, we need to shape and mold these arrows into godly boys and then release them as godly men who will hit the target and make their mark in the world.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Have you ever seen a boy bite into a lemon? If so, his face probably scrunched up into wrinkles because of the super sour taste.
You may have never bitten into a lemon, but in life, we all experience sour moments. Maybe your son loves basketball. But then, while making a simple layup, he sprains his ankle and can’t join the school team.
During times of unexpected frustration, help your son see through the pain and annoyance. Remind him that God is in control. By shifting our focus away from us and toward God, we gain a better perspective of His plan and purpose.
When life becomes sour, stir in the sweet realization that God knows best. By trusting in Him, you’ll transform life’s lemons into lesson-learning lemonade.
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What was the best Christmas present you ever received growing up?
Whatever comes to mind, it pales in comparison to the gift mankind received in a manger more than 2,000 years ago.
“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6
Amid the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season, let’s remember the true reason for the season.
Let’s echo what the angels said on that first Christmas: “Glory to God in the highest, And on earth peace, goodwill toward men!”
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Nearly 2,000 years ago, an angel appeared to shepherds outside of Bethlehem. That angel declared, “I bring you good tidings of great joy, which will be to all people.”
Those “good tidings” are still great news to us today. That news is that Jesus Christ is Lord.
With Christmas in full swing, now is the perfect time to teach your kids that this festive season is about much more than presents. Use caroling to sing about the Gospel message. Or bake some cookies and share them with your neighbors. Write Christmas cards of encouragement to elderly couples in your church.
As you share the Joy of the world with those around you, you teach your kids that Jesus brings help, hope, and healing to a hurting world.
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When you wrap a present, does the final package look like an explosion of paper—or like a decorative piece of artwork?
No matter what the packaging looks like, don’t get so wrapped up in the busyness of the Christmas season that you forget what’s truly important.
As we celebrate Christ’s birth, honor Him by being the father God wants you to be. That involves spending time with your son.
Here’s an idea: Push the living room furniture aside and have a wrestling match. Boys LOVE that! Then afterward, share some hot chocolate and a bunch of laughs.
You may not be very good at wrapping Christmas presents, but you can certainly wrap your arms around your son and give him a giant bear hug.
Invest time and attention in your son. Learn about a Proven Process that’s helping boys grow into godly men. Learn more by visiting TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
What’s your favorite tool in your toolbox? A hammer, wrench, screwdriver, or perhaps it’s a power tool like a saw?
I’ve realized that one of the best things a parent can learn is that you don’t have the power to change your boy. That is something only God can do.
But God does want to use you as a tool to change your boy’s heart and help him understand what it means to be a man.
As you strive to be a model, mentor, and an example of a godly man who is trying to raise a godly boy, God will use you as His change agent.
For more information about a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What does it take for you to raise a godly boy?
It takes love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control – the fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22 and 23.
If we’re honest with ourselves, we know that none of these characteristics come naturally to us.
But the good news is that God has not asked us to do this in our own strength. He has provided us with a helper, The Holy Spirit.
“You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you.” Acts 1:8
Let’s tap into this power source daily as we try to model what true manhood looks like.
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When your kids stress you out, don’t you wish there was a parenting 911 phone number? You know, a phone number you could call for emergency help in dealing with bad attitudes and rebellious behavior.
Although there isn’t a parenting 911 phone number, there’s something even better, faster, and more effective. Whenever the parenting journey feels overwhelming, ask God for help. Jeremiah 33:3 provides a wonderful promise. It says, “Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things.”
Before you pull out your hair or text a co-worker for advice, make sure you ask the Lord to guide your thoughts, words, and actions. By remaining calm during parenting emergencies, you’ll experience peace even during those stressful moments of life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the hardest part of playing baseball?
For most people, it’s timing your swing when a baseball comes flying at you. But when you swing the bat and connect solidly with the ball, you just might earn yourself a home run.
As a parent, you want your son to succeed in life. But before he’ll take your guidance and instruction to heart, you first need to connect with him on an emotional level. And that connection doesn’t happen by accident. It takes practice, timing, and a whole lot of patience.
So, when was the last time you spent one-on-one time with your son?
By investing time and attention in him, you’ll create a strong connection that will help him score a home run in life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Did you know that your feet contain around a quarter of all the bones in your body?
It’s true! Each foot contains 26 bones, 33 joints, and over 100 ligaments, tendons, and muscles.
From a medical standpoint, feet are amazing. But Romans 10:15 gives a different perspective. The verse says, “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel of peace.”
Sharing the gospel message with people is incredibly important. Show your son, through action, how to talk about Jesus. Then, if your son has accepted Christ as his Savior, teach him to share his own testimony. The more you and your son proclaim the gospel to others, the more you honor Christ through your lives.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When out in the woods, accidents happen. A Trailman may sprain his ankle, or someone may brush up against poison ivy.
During these times, a first aid kit comes in handy. But don’t you wish parenting kids came with its own first aid kit?
If it did, it’d definitely include an ice pack to cool high tempers, bandages for wrapping hurt feelings, and ointment to sooth frustration away.
Optional accessories might include aspirin for headache relief during those teenage years, antiseptic wipes to disinfect against worldly influences, and an emergency blanket for needed rest.
Even though you may not have a parenting first aid kit, you can still provide your son consistent comfort and care. A little time and attention goes a long way in healing hurt feelings.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The world is a scary place. Hurricanes pound coastal cities. Riots burn businesses. And in war-torn countries, missiles destroy homes and separate families.
Are your kids scared of what is happening in today’s world? Are TV broadcasts, internet headlines, and YouTube videos making them fear the future?
Don’t let bad news destroy your children’s courage and steal their happiness.
Despite the turmoil around us, use these scary situations to point your kids to Christ. Remind them that in John 14:27, Jesus says, “My peace I give to you.” This verse goes on to say that Christians do not need to be troubled or afraid.
So, even though the world may not find peace, we can experience peace in knowing that God is in control.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When scanning social media, do you find yourself becoming jealous? Do other families seem to have kids that are perfectly behaved, perfectly athletic, or perfectly talented?
It’s easy to see social-media posts and think those snapshots tell the whole story. They often don’t. That’s why it’s important to realize that God made each child uniquely different.
Even though your son may be a little clumsy or a little shy, God values him just as much as anyone else.
Don’t let social media steal your joy and contentment. Rejoice in the fact that your son is a work in progress that you have the privilege of guiding through life.
For help along the parenting journey, Trail Life USA has fun activities that are helping boys grow physically, mentally, and spiritually. For information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Has your son experienced the death of a pet? What about the loss of a friend or a grandparent?
Death is a hard concept for young kids to understand. But even for children who are older, emotions can quickly spiral out of control. And without proper perspective of what this loss means and how to deal with grief, death’s grip can drag kids into anger, despair, and loneliness.
When death steals a loved one away, take time to answer your son’s questions. Remind him that even Jesus cried when his friend Lazarus died. But God promises to provide comfort and help. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart.”
Even though loss is inevitable, use grief as an opportunity for growth.
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Charles Spurgeon, a famous preacher from the 1800s, said, “Let no Christian parents fall into the delusion that Sunday School is intended to ease them of their personal duties.”
While church is a great place for your kids to learn biblical truths, they spend many more hours of the day at home. And it’s there that they should be learning about how Jesus influences all areas of our lives.
So, what kind of example are you providing? Your kids don’t expect perfection, but they want you to be genuine with your faith. If loving the Lord and his Word is a priority for you, your personal example will go a long way in helping your children to also love the Lord with all their heart, soul, and mind.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
When building an outdoor shelter, rope comes in handy. But do you know how to tie a square knot? What about a sheet bend knot or a bowline knot.
It takes time, practice, and patience to master these knots—but when you understand their purpose and how to make them, life becomes a little easier and a whole lot more fun.
The same is true in parenting. Raising boys can feel like a rope full of knots. There’s twisting and turning, looping and crossing. And if you rush the formation process, you’ll experience confusion and frustration.
That’s why spending quality time with your son is so important. As you focus on his needs, those knots in the parenting process transform into useful tools that serve important purposes.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Do unanswered why questions frustrate you?
Perhaps your teenage son is obnoxiously rebellious. You wonder why God gave you a son that makes parenting so difficult? Or maybe there’s that nagging question about why your son has to suffer with a physical health condition.
Life is filled with questions we don’t know the answers to. But that doesn’t mean we give up or trust God any less.
In Isaiah 55:9, God says, “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways.”
God knows what he is doing even when we don’t understand it. Your responsibility is to exercise faith in his plan and purpose. By trusting in him, you’ll experience peace even during the unanswered why’s of life.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? Perhaps you’ve run a race or climbed a mountain. Those are certainly incredible accomplishments. But forgiving someone can be one of the most difficult things to do.
That’s because forgiveness requires letting go of the hurt, anger, and bitterness you hold deep inside. And when you’ve been wronged by one of your own children, that pain stings even more.
During these times, shift your perspective. Colossians 3:13 is a reminder that you should forgive others because Jesus forgave you.
This doesn’t mean offering forgiveness will ever be easy, but it’ll always be the right thing to do. And when it comes to forgiving your own children, ask God for extra grace and help in time of need.
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Do you remember the first time your son jumped off the diving board at the local pool?
Before taking the plunge, he probably stood at the edge of the board—his knees wobbly and his face full of fear. Maybe he didn’t want to “jump,” but your cheers and hollers finally prompted him to take that timid step off the board and into the water.
After jumping off the diving board a dozen more times, your son soon learned that the board isn’t as high as it first looked.
Help your son see that the same is true in life. Many of life’s activities appear scary and intimidating. But courage is the ability to see beyond the fear. It’s taking the plunge to achieve a goal that previously looked impossible.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com
Does your son understand the connection between cause and effect?
Basically, this is the idea of sowing and reaping, or the idea that actions have consequences.
If your son forgets to take out the trash or clean up his room, show him the results. The trash piles over and stinks. Maybe he steps on a toy and accidently breaks it.
By pointing out the principle of cause and effect in small matters, your son will learn that what he says and does has a direct effect on his life. And your action in teaching him this important truth will have a direct connection in helping him live a life that honors the Lord.
Becoming a godly man doesn’t happen by accident. It takes consistent training. Trail Life USA has a Proven Process that is helping boys grow spiritually. Learn more at RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
What’s your favorite sport? Is it basketball? Maybe it’s football? What about track or tennis?
For C. T. Studd, his passion was cricket—a popular game played in England. As a professional cricket player, Studd shocked the sports world when he announced his decision to become a missionary to China.
He later said, “Only one life, ’twill soon be past, Only what’s done for Christ will last.”
What about you? Are you using your life in meaningful ways?
As a parent, one of your most important responsibilities is investing time and attention in your kids. As you guide them in studying the Bible and loving the Lord Jesus, you honor the Lord with your words and actions.
Make today count. Train your kids in the way they should go.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Turkey anyone?
Most Americans celebrate Thanksgiving by enjoying a delicious feast. The menu usually includes things like green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, corn, dinner rolls, and cranberry sauce.
But the most iconic Thanksgiving food is turkey.
This Thanksgiving, after you’ve gobbled down your meal and two slices of pumpkin pie, don’t be a turkey! Even though you may be tempted to watch football all afternoon, don’t! Instead, take a break to enjoy the outdoors with your son. Toss a ball in the backyard. Go for a bike ride. Or if there’s snow on the ground, build a snow fort.
Use the Thanksgiving season to show your son just how thankful you are for him. As you spend time together, you’ll create new traditions and make wonderful memories.
For more encouragement and parenting advice, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
Here’s a quiz question: The day after Thanksgiving is known as what?
If you answered, “Black Friday,” you’re absolutely right. That’s when many stores advertise incredible sales—and people willingly gobble up the savings.
Even though it’s nice to score a bargain, don’t let the commercialization of the holiday season distract you with all its gizmos and gadgets.
In Luke 12:15, Jesus reminds us that “one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.”
That’s a tough lesson for boys to understand, especially when other kids flaunt the newest video game system or stylish clothes. But by focusing your son’s attention on Christ and helping him realize that “things” don’t guarantee happiness, the attraction of new, sparkly toys will soon fade away.
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Who are your son’s heroes?
Many boys admire the superheroes they see in movies or the athletes that make crowds jump to their feet in awe and wonder.
It’s one thing for boys to wish they could fly through the air or dunk a basketball. But point out real-life superheroes that make our lives a better place.
People like police officers, firefighters, and military servicemen should be admired because of their selfless service in maintaining law and order and ensuring our safety.
When you see these men and women around, teach your son to show them respect. Encourage your son to shake hands with them and say thanks for all that they do. By demonstrating your own gratitude, you help your son understand that not all superheroes wear capes.
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When you ask a boy to do something, and he asks “why?” is your typical response: “Because I said so”?
If we want to raise godly boys, we must try to include the “why” behind the “what.”
As parents or mentors to boys, we should be more concerned with their heart transformation than behavior modification.
The best thing we can do is point boys to Scripture, which provides an unmoving foundation for character to be built upon.
Let’s remember Ephesians 6:4, which says, “Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
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When the national anthem is sung or the pledge of allegiance recited, does your son stand and salute the flag?
Since 1777, the American flag has stood as a powerful symbol of American liberty and justice. The stars and stripes remind us of the sacrifice that many men and women gave so that we can enjoy this land of the free.
Teach your son the meaning of the flag’s colors. White signifies purity and innocence. Red indicates courage. And blue is a sign of perseverance and justice.
Even though the flag is a simple piece of nylon fabric, it represents the history, values, and strength of our great nation. Train your son to stand and salute the flag, and in this way honor our American heritage.
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Did you know that the human heart beats about 100,000 times a day, and the average heart will beat more than three billion times in its lifetime?
Many of the problems boys face today are heart-related — not physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
The heart of the matter is truly a matter of the heart!
As parents raising godly boys, we need to be careful to guard our hearts and help boys guard theirs.
King Solomon said it best in Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
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Can fear actually be a good thing?
According to the Scriptures, there are two types of fear. The fear of the Lord and the spirit of fear.
Proverbs says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. But in 2 Timothy 1:7 it says God has not given us a spirit of fear.
The fear of the Lord is that voice inside of us that tells us what we’re about to do may cause harm. It’s the feeling you get when you are too close to the edge of a cliff.
The spirit of fear is from the enemy and it breeds confusion, anxiety, and ultimately inaction. It keeps people from being able to step out into what God has called them to do.
Take some time today to teach your son the difference between the fear of the Lord and the spirit of fear.
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At sea level, water boils at 212 degrees Fahrenheit. But it probably doesn’t take that much heat to make your blood boil. Does your son pretend not to hear you? Is he repeatedly ignoring your instructions? Does he say sarcastic remarks that irritate you?
Parenting boys isn’t easy. The path toward maturity is often steep and bumpy—twisting and turning in unexpected ways. And because boys have a mind of their own, what they think is funny may actually be incredibly rude.
When you feel hot under the collar, take heart. Even though God never promised that the parenting journey would be easy, he promised to provide you help from day to day. And knowing that God is always faithful will help calm and cool your boiling blood.
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Have you ever been to a circus or zoo where animals perform tricks? Maybe you’ve seen a seal balance a bright red ball on its nose. Or maybe you’ve seen a monkey ride a tiny bicycle.
Training animals takes lots of work and patience. But even more difficult than taming animals is taming the tongue.
James 3:8 says, “But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.”
The tongue gets a lot of people in trouble. That’s why it’s important you train your son to guard his tongue. When he gets frustrated, provide tips on how to calm down. Help him understand that even small words can have big consequences. But also help your son realize that words can bring joy and happiness.
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Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase, “Grow up. Be a man!”
The rebuke is usually directed toward a boy who is being whiny or acting childish. But being a man involves much more than simply reaching a certain age.
1 Timothy 4:12 says, “Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
Becoming a man involves physical, mental, and spiritual growth. All three aspects are necessary in achieving a balanced lifestyle that honors the Lord.
So, how are you doing in helping your son in these areas?
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How about creating a regular meeting time with your son?
For years, every weekday morning, Pastor John Tyson and his son Nate would get up and do a devotional together. They called it their early morning meetings– and Tyson says it blessed both of them immensely.
You can adopt this practice with your own boy. Use your morning drive time to listen and discuss a Bible passage together. Or, choose a devotional book, and read it together each night before your son goes to bed.
Your son may not talk much during these meetings, especially at first. But I can promise you that God will bless your time together. All you have to do is show up.
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Ever wonder if your discipline and teaching is really resonating with your son?
Mandy, the mom of a defiant 2-year-old, had been diligently trying to teach her son to clean with a broom and dustpan. But even after lots of repetition, he didn’t seem to be learning it at all. One night, during a temper tantrum, her son threw food on the floor. Mandy couldn’t believe it when her son got a broom and dustpan and cleaned up his own mess.
Parenting your son is really just teaching him the same lesson hundreds– if not thousands– of times. It may seem like your boy isn’t getting it. But don’t lose heart. As Galatians 6:9 says, “you will be rewarded…if you don’t give up.”
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Your son can learn from your inconveniences.
Jack and his son were driving to football practice when they got a flat tire. By the time they had put on the spare, driven to the mechanic, and replaced the tire, Jack’s son had completely missed his practice. Jack felt bad– but he was grateful his son now knew how to handle a flat tire.
When you experience things like car trouble or house maintenance issues– make sure your son observes how you handle them. More than just learning the practical skills, he needs to see how you handle the challenges of life. So next time you experience an inconvenience– remember your son is learning from your every move.
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You don’t have to get it perfect. But you do have to get it right.
Raising a son can be one of the hardest experiences of your life. And it’s very easy to focus on all the ways you fall short. Although God never commands you to be a perfect parent– He does give some guidelines.
Ephesians says not to provoke your son. Proverbs reminds you to be diligent in discipline. Deuteronomy encourages you to regularly discuss Scripture with your boy. And of course, we should also pay close attention to the verses about doing all things with love and a gentle spirit.
On the days when you mess up, ask God for grace, ask your son for forgiveness, and keep moving forward. God will give you what you need.
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Are you raising a “man–ager”?
Pastor Jon Tyson coined this phrase, which describes a man who is physically an adult but still living like a child– playing video games all night, living with his parents, and not pursuing higher education or a stable career.
Pastor Tyson says that one of the biggest things that separate a boy from a man is the confidence to pursue hard things in life.
As your son grows up, be sure to allow him to face difficulties, even in situations when you could easily solve the situation yourself. Your goal is not to give your son an easy, pain-free life– but to give him the skills and confidence he needs to do difficult, worthwhile things, and contribute to society and God’s greater kingdom.
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“What if you could be a better husband, father, and man without the use of your legs or hands?”
That was the question that Chad Hymas [hi-miss]’s father asked him, as Chad lay in a hospital bed. He had suddenly become a quadriplegic after a farming accident. His dad’s words sparked the hope that Chad needed– and today, years later, he is a devoted husband and dad and an inspiring speaker– despite his physical disabilities.
Everyone has limitations– your son included. As parents, it’s important that we help our sons identify and face those limitations head-on, as Chad’s dad did. Remind him that being perfect is not God’s call for his life. He can glorify God, not in spite of– but because of and through– his own weaknesses.
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Why are young boys seemingly always dirty?
As a father who has had young boys, it’s nearly impossible to keep them clean. But when it comes to spiritual things, how can we help our boys stay pure from the pull of this evil culture we live in?
Psalm 119:9 says, How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to Your Word. The Word of God will be the light for the path of your son. Living the Word and following the instructions God gives in His Word will preserve and protect your son.
The Bible also declares in Isaiah 55:11 that God’s Word does not return void. Every time to speak the Word, pray the Word, or have your son learn the Word, you are putting into motion God’s will for your child. His Word will not come back empty.
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What is a father’s most important role?
Is it providing? Is it Protecting, or teaching? I believe the most important role of a father is affirmation.
The word affirm means to state as fact. As fathers, we are to declare to our children, especially our boys who they are and who God says they are. You can provide everything for your son and even teach him great things, but if you never tell him he is valuable and has a purpose, there will be a deficit in his life.
The father of lies that Jesus refers to in John 8 has been lying from the beginning. As fathers, we can dispel those lies with truth.
Take time today to tell your son who he is and how special he is to you. Tell him you are proud of him and that you love him. Affirm him!
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Your son is enjoying a day kayaking down a river. Suddenly, he hears rushing water, and sees rapids up ahead. His heart beats fast, and he begins to paddle forward, right into the waves.
In life, watching your son head straight into challenging territory can be a frightening and stressful experience. But there’s a reason God wired boys to crave adventure, excitement, and risk. Child development specialists have found that taking risks is an essential part of growing up, and gives boys excellent coping skills, self confidence, and the ability to fail well.
So don’t be afraid. Equip your son with knowledge, say a prayer, and let him paddle forward. On the other side of those rapids is an amazing opportunity.
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Ever heard the phrase “match the hatch”? It reminds fishermen that the best way to catch fish is to figure out what the fish are eating. But did you know this concept could help you get your teenage son involved in church, too?
Pay close attention to what activities your boy is drawn toward the most. Does he love music and playing an instrument? Encourage him to get involved in the church praise team. Is he into skateboarding? Search for a local Christian skater group. Does he love the adventure of video games? Get him involved with Christian outdoor groups, like Trail Life USA.
Don’t pull your son away from the things that interest him– instead, “match the hatch” and find a Christian community related to his favorite activity.
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Here’s something you’ll rarely hear shouted during a major league baseball game: “Great call, ump!”
Even the best, most experienced umpire will face constant criticism, taunting, and ridicule for every decision. Spectators only talk them if they are angry about a call that was made.
Consider this. Does your son feel like an umpire in his everyday life– constantly surrounded by criticism? At school, is he teased by his friends? Do his well-meaning teachers focus on the problems he missed? At home, do you remind him of the chores he didn’t do and the vegetables he didn’t eat?
Make it your goal to verbally affirm your son for the things he’s doing well. He needs that affirmation more than you probably realize.
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The baseball hall of fame is full of failures.
Consider Joe DiMaggio, one of the all-time top hitters. His batting average was .325. But even that great statistic means that Joe failedto hit the ball almost 70% of the time.
Unfortunately, in our society, boys do not receive the same margin for error. Young men naturally develop slower than their female peers, in both academics and emotional intelligence. But that is often ignored by educators, and boys are quickly labeled “slow” when they simply need more time to develop.
Let’s be like the baseball hall of fame. Let’s focus on the good, give lots of grace for failure, and celebrate each successful hit our boys make in life.
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The player stands at the free throw line, preparing for a critical shot. He takes a few seconds to adjust his arms and his feet. He knows that the only way he can make this shot is if his whole body is in perfect alignment.
For your son, life is the same way. The only way he can succeed is if his beliefs about himself are aligned with the ultimate truth of God’s word. This can be tough, in a society of gender fluidity and cultural relativism.
Regularly discuss with your son what God’s word has to say about current events. Memorize scripture together about his identity in Christ. And pray for godly, positive male mentors to inspire him and show him what a life aligned with Jesus looks like.
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Your son proudly shows you a new scrape on his knee, reporting that he had a bike wreck while riding down a hill. You grab a bandaid and shake your head. It’s your son’s fifth injury of the week! How can you keep him safe when he seems to crave and seek out risk?
First, encourage him to focus on one or two skills, like skateboarding or snow skiing. Secondly, enroll him in classes so that he learns how to minimize injuries. Of course, don’t forget the helmet, elbow pads, and prayer of protection. And lastly, remember that taking risks is actually crucial for your son’s brain development. Try to relax.
Oh– and buying bandaids in bulk might be a good idea, too.
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Getting your young son to sit still for a church service, car ride, or class in school can be a challenge. But one school in Texas doesn’t have this problem. Why? Well, they’ve tripled recess time.
During the school day, the kindergartners and first graders at this school get four, 15 minute recess breaks outside each day. The teachers say the kids are more attentive than ever, and many have even decreased symptoms of ADHD.
So if your son seems grumpy and uncooperative today, why don’t you try a different kind of “time out”? Take a jog with him, ride a bike, or find interesting leaves and flowers. Time outSIDE, letting your boy be a boy, can turn his whole day around.
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There’s something you can do as a family that can increase your son’s attention span, improve his vocabulary, foster deep conversation, and even boost your happiness as a parent. Sound good? Here’s the catch– your son may roll his eyes at first.
I’m talking about reading out loud as a family. Your son may think he’s too old for it now, but researchers have found that the benefits continue even as children become preteens or even teenagers.
Find a compelling adventure book and read a chapter a night together. A good place to start is your local Christian bookstore, which may have some fiction books your son will find exciting. Pop some popcorn and settle on the couch with your boy, and you both will reap the benefits of reading aloud.
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“Your son is delayed.” Those words can fill you worry and even some fear as a parent. But did you know that your son may be perfectly normal, and the system may be incorrect?
Researchers have found that boys’ brains develop more slowly than their female peers’ brains. The public school system doesn’t often take this into account, and a student’s success is measured by standardized tests. This is also true when it comes to behavior. As a result, many boys are labeled delayed when it comes to emotions or intelligence, when, in reality, they will catch up in due time.
Don’t lose heart. And don’t forget to take your worries to God. Your son is perfectly and wonderfully made.
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Breakfast. School. Homework. Dinner. Does your son seem bored or disengaged in his day to day life? Here’s a simple way to add adventure, spontaneity, and excitement to his life: Get him outside!
Nature can actually change your son’s brain for the better. Studies have found that when someone regularly spends time outside, essential regions of the brain, like the hippocampus, grow and retain more gray matter. This makes it easier for your son to pay attention, learn, and remember things.
Start simple. Get a baseball and play catch in your backyard. Look online to find a bike trail or body of water. Your boy will feel more satisfied with his life, and as a bonus, your relationship will most likely improve.
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His superman cape flies out behind him majestically, and he lifts his arms. “One, two, three!” Your five year old jumps off the swing set. A short time later, as you drive him to the emergency room with a broken arm, you wonder, “Why in the world did he do that?”
As parents, we remind our kids to be careful, but the truth is that boys don’t just want risk… they need it. Risky play helps your son learn to deal with nervous feelings, adapt to new situations, and improve his gross motor skills.
So what are some examples of safe risky play? Being in the elements and near fire or water. Games like hide and seek. Riding a bike fast.
Just don’t forget to pray for courage…for yourself, of course.
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“Take out the trash. This is the fourth time I’ve told you,” you tell your son. Your son says “What? I didn’t hear you.”
Here’s a fact that may not surprise you: boys are biologically wired to be bad listeners. Studies have found that, when a boy and girl hear the same sound, the boy will hear it 10 times quieter than the girl will. This is especially true if it’s a high frequency sound, like a woman’s voice.
Since 78% of teachers are female, it’s no wonder that boys are falling behind girls academically. So what can we do as parents? Give our boys grace. Explore alternative learning styles. And yes, we may need to ask several times for the trash to get taken out.
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There’s a bunch of excitement in the rocket industry. SpaceX and other companies are building gigantic rockets. They’re even planning Mars missions.
But before a rocket ever leaves the ground, there are countless hours of building and programming. Every part of the rocket is checked and double checked to make sure it’s ready for liftoff.
Before your son heads off for college or moves away for work, it’s important to prepare him for that big day. Make sure he has everything he needs to accomplish the mission of honoring the Lord with his life. And don’t forget: That building process begins years before liftoff.
Carefully and strategically train your son when he is young. That way, when he is ready to launch out into the world, everything will go smoothly.
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During the California Gold Rush of 1849, thousands of prospectors panned for gold in mountain streams and riverbeds. But those prospectors who spent time, sweat, and effort digging into the earth were the ones most likely to strike it rich. Discovering a single vein of gold was worth way more than hundreds of gold flakes from the river.
Help your son strike it rich in terms of godly character. Show him—through personal example—how to dig deep into Scripture. It’s there that he’ll discover the incredible treasures of service, commitment, and integrity.
Remember: the more your son understands the value of honoring the Lord with his life, the more he’ll want store up treasures in heaven—where thieves will never break in and steal.
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Do you remember your son taking his first steps? No doubt you had already been holding his hand—and helping him take one step in front of the other.
But eventually, the day came where he climbed to a stand, and took those first few steps all by himself. You cheered with joy and excitement.
Even though your son is no longer a toddler, continue to train him to walk in righteousness. Psalm chapter 1 provides excellent teaching. Show your son how to delight in the Lord and not to pursue a path of the selfishness and pride.
Proverbs 22:6 says,
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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If you plan to go skiing, you wear ski boots. If you’re heading to the beach, you wear sandals. For a quick jog around the block, you wear running shoes.
You select your shoes based on the type of activity.
Similarly, when training, correcting, or playing with your son, it’s vital to select the appropriate tone for the task at hand. It’s also crucial that you understand your son’s personality so that you can most effectively connect with him.
At times, you may need to choose a serious tone. Other times, a light-hearted attitude is most appropriate.
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” type of parenting. Understanding your son takes effort. But the more time and attention you devote to him, the more prepared he’ll be for life.
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Have you ever broken an arm? Depending on the type of break, the doctor might have needed to set the bones straight before placing your arm in a cast. That cast kept your arm protected so that the broken bones could grow back together.
If your relationship with your son is broken, you also need to set things straight. Take time to allow the relationship to heal. This may require a season of rest and extra attention. You may need to cut out other activities so that you can devote extra time to helping the relationship rest and recover.
A broken relationship hurts. But by taking immediate steps to help it recuperate, you and your son will grow closer together, and—in time—stronger than ever.
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Have you ever watched a stunt driver race his motorcycle up a steep ramp and into the air? Maybe he did a double backflip with a bunch of twists and turns.
Those crazy stunts require an incredible about of control. If the stuntman were to leave the ramp at the wrong angle, he’d land off target and experience an awful wipeout.
To succeed in life, your son also needs to be in control. Because boys are usually impulsive, self-control is one of the hardest lessons for them to learn. But a little self-control goes a long way in helping him steer through the twists and turns of life.
So teach your son the importance of self-control. The more self-control he has, the greater his chance of soaring high in life.
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Imagine sending an army to war without the tools or training to achieve victory. And yet, we are sending boys, ill-equipped, into a culture that seems to have declared war on boyhood.
The results are tragic. Boys are almost twice as likely to be put in special education and three times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD. And each year, fewer young men enroll in higher education.
But changing these statistics is easier than you may think. For example, the presence of one positive mentor can make a young man more likely to make healthy choices, get better grades, and have higher self esteem.
Today, ask God to put a man in your son’s life who can show him how to soldier on in the battle of life.
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Fidgeting. Being loud. Having trouble staying seated. Running or climbing when it’s not appropriate.
We used to consider these normal behaviors for young boys. But now, they are listed as symptoms of ADHD.
Attention disorders are certainly real. But in some cases, what if instead of changing our boys’ behavior, we need to adjust our approach as adults?
For instance–too much screen time and not enough exercise can make it hard for your son to sleep at night. In turn, being tired can make it hard for him to focus during the day. What if you turned off all screens after dinner, and took a family walk before bed instead? You and your son will both reap the benefits.
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You’re sitting at the dinner table, and you ask your son if he’s ready for basketball tryouts. Your son’s face starts to turn red. Suddenly, he stands up, pushes his plate away, and knocks his chair over intentionally as he leaves the room.
You’re confused. What caused this sudden anger outburst?
Researchers have discovered that when boys seem angry or withdrawn, they are often actually anxious.
So if your son seems angry for no reason, consider what may be stressing him out. Give him time to cool off. Get on his level, and engage him with physical touch and eye contact. And help him find healthier outlets for his anxiety, such as running or shooting hoops.
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You’ve no doubt heard of Babe Ruth, who set a record for most number of home runs in his baseball career– seven hundred and fourteen.
But here’s a statistic you probably haven’t heard– Babe Ruth’s total career strikeouts. One thousand three hundred and thirty. That’s right– he struck out far more than he hit homers.
When it comes to your own son, of course you want him to hit all the proverbial “home runs” in life. But don’t forget to let him fail, too. It can be hard for us parents to watch, but failure can actually build resilience and be more beneficial for our children than success.
Just ask Babe Ruth, who said– “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
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You’ve tried everything, but you just can’t pull your son away from his video games. Well here’s something to consider. Does your son’s real life give him the same opportunities for adventure that his virtual world does?
Of course, video games are addictive by design. But researchers have found that boys also turn to gaming out of boredom, seeking freedom and risk.
Try adding a few more “yesses” to your son’s life. Let him ride his bike down a hill, take a walk in the woods, or try climbing a tree. The best way to draw your son away from a virtual world is to give him healthy challenges in real life.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Billy Graham was one of the most influential evangelists of the 20th century. He boldly proclaimed the Gospel to over 200 million people. But in addition to his important preaching ministry, Billy Graham also had an important message for fathers.
He said,
“A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”
As a dad, you have the incredible privilege of raising your son to love the Lord and follow His ways. This brings with it the responsibility of providing a strong, Christ-centered foundation for your family.
So, how is your parenting journey coming along? Remember, you’ll never regret investing time and attention in your son.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Gangs. They are responsible for almost half of violent crime in the United States. And yet, boys and men continue to join these groups in droves, some recruited as early as elementary school. Why?
Here’s a big reason. As boys interact socially, they are always asking three questions: “Who is with me?” “Who is in charge?” And, “What is our mission?”
Often, church groups and social clubs, although well-intentioned, fail to answer those questions. If we aren’t answering these questions for boys, we will surely lose them to groups that will.
To ensure your son thrives, help him identify friends, leaders, and the bigger purpose in everything he does– from school to soccer practice.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
In the old days of coal mining, canaries were brought into mines. If the bird died, the miners knew they needed to escape, because there was something noxious in the atmosphere.
In our society today, boys are just like those canaries. Many are faltering in every area, including school, relationships, and mental health.
But there is one simple thing that can make young men more likely to make healthier choices, do better in school, and have a stronger self esteem. And that is the presence of a positive mentor.
Think you’re not equipped to be a mentor? Think about the heroes you had growing up. They made you feel valued, worthy, and inspired– and I promise, they were far from perfect people.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love the story of David and Goliath. Afterall, anytime there’s a battle involving giants with swords, it’s sure to capture attention.
But too often, boys fail to apply important lessons from David’s life. Before David defeated Goliath, he had learned to depend on God when battling lions that attacked his sheep. By relying on God in these smaller tests of faith, David had confidence that God would help him no matter what giant situation came his way.
What giants are your son facing? At school, is he struggling academically? Are bullies harassing him? Does he know how to navigate peer pressure?
The more your son understands that true strength comes from God—for both the small and big stuff—the more victorious he will be in life.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Two of the most difficult words for a parent to say are, “I’m sorry.” Are you saying them enough?
As parents, we should ask for forgiveness from our kids if we lose our temper, or don’t control our tongue, or if we jump to conclusions without gathering the necessary facts.
The difficulty is that we can feel vulnerable, inadequate, and even slightly humiliated when apologizing.
But here’s the truth: Your son or daughter will grow to love and respect you even more if you apologize. Humbling yourself demonstrates—through action—a love so strong that you are willing to admit wrong in order to restore the relationship.
Saying sorry isn’t easy, but your example goes a long way in helping your children see what true spiritual maturity looks like.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Glance into your purse or wallet and you’ll probably see a few dollar bills. Written on those dollar bills are these words: In God We Trust.
It’s nice having that motto on our coins and bills—but it’s even more important to demonstrate that motto in our lives … that we teach this to our sons.
Has your son trusted in Jesus as his Savior? If so, are you teaching him the importance of trusting in the Lord for daily guidance?
Proverbs 3:5 says,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.”
Parenting is full of challenges. But when we trust in God, He promises to provide strength and help in time of need.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love football.
And these days, a great benefit of watching football on TV is the instant replay. You can re-watch—and practically relive—those exciting catches, fumbles, and interceptions.
The instant replay is fantastic. But in real life, there is no “redo”. You get only one chance to raise your son through his adolescent years.
But what if you haven’t trained your son as well as you wish you had? If that’s the case, take heart.
C.S. Lewis said,
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
As a parent, you don’t get to redo your child’s youth. Because of that, make each play count so that in the end, you score a win for the glory of God.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
When Benjamin Franklin’s name is mentioned, kids think of the Guy who placed a metal key on a kite string.
But adults recognize Benjamin Franklin as one of America’s most important Founding Fathers. In addition to helping to write the Declaration of Independence, he also had great advice about the learning process.
He said,
“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.”
Kids learn in different ways, but boys—especially—benefit from physical involvement. It’s one thing to tell a boy how to do something. But having him actually do it helps him remember and apply the lesson in a much more effective way.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
When you’re expecting a baby, you’re filled with dreams of how extraordinary your child will eventually become. But if your son has special needs or experiences developmental delays, you dream about him functioning in an ordinary way.
The expectations we have for our children don’t always turn out the way we wish. During these times, it’s easy to become angry, frustrated, and bitter.
When these emotions begin swirling through your mind, return your focus to the God of all comfort. Remember that God selected you as a parent for a specific reason. And because He chose you, He will equip you for the task at hand.
It’s also helpful to receive encouragement throughout the parenting journey. Trail Life USA has a Proven Process that is helping boys grow into godly men. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
You can make your son’s day by putting his favorite candy in his backpack— a fruit roll up, a kit-kat, or maybe a Snickers. But what if you could load his backpack with what he needs emotionally, spiritually, and socially, as well?
The critical needs of boys can be symbolized by five survival tools– a compass, a map, a guide, a flashlight, and a mountain.
First, boys need a “compass”– a clear mission, and a “map”– a safe male mentor. Next, your son needs a “guide”– peers to walk beside on the trail of life. The “flashlight” symbolizes every boy’s need for clear boundaries and rules. And finally, young men must have a “mountain”– a real-world challenge.
And of course, giving them their favorite candy can help, too.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
If your son is like most boys, he’s full of curiosity and spontaneity. These characteristics help boys better understand the world around them. But—when not properly controlled—impulsive actions can lead to problems and pain.
Help your son understand how actions have consequences. A great way to do this is to read the Bible with him.
Show him how Samson thought he was invincible—but that he was no match against Delilah.
Point out how Peter thought he could walk on water—but that he sank when he took his eyes off Jesus.
By studying both good and bad examples, your son will gain a better understanding of how to act with discernment and wisdom.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
If your car has a flat tire, it’s important to fix it fast. If you keep driving on it, the rim will quickly shred the rubber. After that you’ll ruin the alignment, brakes, and suspension. You might even lose control of the vehicle.
Similarly, if your relationship with your son is deflated, it’s important to fix it … fast. Maybe you had a disagreement or misunderstanding with him. Maybe harsh words were said. Maybe impatience won the day.
Regardless of who was at fault, it’s important to patch things up. You don’t want bitterness causing more serious problems down the road. A little bit of preventative maintenance goes a long way in helping you both go the distance.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
At times, your son may act like an outlaw terrorizing the wild west. As sheriff, it’s your job to keep the peace and enforce the laws. But as you know, it’s easy to grow frustrated, impatient, and exhausted at having to correct him over and over again.
When your blood pressure starts to rise, take time to recall moments from the past. Pull out your phone and flip through old pictures. Do you remember the day your son learned to ride a bike? Or when he won a ribbon at the science fair? Remember him jumping for joy after kicking that soccer goal?
These memories help put present-day challenges in perspective. Even though life often seems hard, good times from the past will encourage you to stay strong for the future.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Are you concerned about bullying?
Research tells us that the #1 concern of parents for their children is that they will be bullied.60 percent of all mothers and fathers report this fear.
Though bullying may seem to us to be child’s play that will pass in time, the emotional effects are powerful, especially for boys, who are struggling with identity in a world that values them less.
Your son’s best response to bullying will be fostered as his identity grows in a community that supports your values, which should include a respect for all people. A strong identity with a faith-based community is a great defense against the feelings of inadequacy that can threaten a boy’s confidence.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
A tiny seed doesn’t become a towering tree overnight, nor by accident.
After a seed sprouts, it requires healthy soil, direct sunlight, and consistent moisture to develop strong roots. These roots are vital in helping it stand strong through the winds and storms of life.
The same is true in parenting.
Your son needs healthy attention, direct instruction, and consistent love in order to develop a strong foundation to withstand today’s anti-Christian culture.
By providing your son this emotional support, you establish the foundation that will lead him toward greater character, purpose, and leadership skills in life.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
God made boys with a competitive spirit. They crave the excitement of challenging themselves against others and emerging victorious.
This desire to compete is a positive characteristic. But when competition within the home mutates into sibling rivalry, beware.
Sibling rivalry often begins with jealousy, bitterness, and resentment. Because brothers and sisters don’t know how to process these emotions, they often resort to bickering, insults, and even outright fighting.
As a parent, it’s easy to grow impatient with your quarreling kids. Instead, take time to pray for wisdom. Evaluate what the core issue is—and then respond accordingly.
Many times, boys simply need greater physical activity or encouragement to achieve meaningful goals. For more on this, and practical help in growing boys grow into godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love to test their physical strength through competition. This often involves sports such as football, soccer, or wrestling.
But boys also measure their strength through weightlifting. By pumping iron, they develop muscle and gain stamina.
The problem is that in the gym, it’s easy for boys to think that bigger biceps equals a better man.
Teach your son that, although a challenging physical routine can bring all kinds of results, even more important than physical strength . . . is strength of character.
Here’s an idea: Study Bible characters from God’s Word. How did those men succeed or fail in life? How can we learn from their examples?
Becoming a godly man doesn’t happen by accident. It takes consistent training. Trail Life USA has a Proven Process that is helping boys grow spiritually. Learn more at Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Warning! Your son is being targeted.
A relentless enemy is trying to entice, trap, and destroy his heart and mind. This enemy hides in the shadows—yet is constantly attacking your son.
Who is this enemy? It’s pornography.
Here’s a shocking statistic. The top pornographic website has more visits each day than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter—combined!
Don’t let pornography destroy your son’s heart, mind, and future. Help him develop a solid foundation in Scripture. Remind him that Philippians 4:8 instructs him to think on things that are true, noble, just, and pure.
It’s a tough world out there . . . especially for boys. That’s why Trail Life USA provides practical resources to help you along the way.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys are in trouble.
More than ever, they’re being intentionally misled and confused by an anti-Christian culture that wants to destroy their faith in Jesus Christ. Secular worldviews—including relativism and humanism—also want to devour your son’s heart and mind, and thereby control his thoughts and actions.
To withstand these attacks, boys need to be well-grounded in God’s Word.
Romans 12:2 says,
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
To withstand the enemy’s attacks, you’ve got to fight lies with truth. And the greatest of all weapons is the sword of the spirit, which is the Word of God.
Question: Are you helping your son study God’s Word?
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys are influenced by what they see. That’s a fact.
The question is: What are they looking at throughout the day?
The answer: Their phones and other digital devices.
But what’s especially disturbing and sad is that the internet is bombarding boys with sensual and even pornographic images.
Guys may think they’re tough, but they’re no match against sexual temptation. A recent study found that 90% of teens have watched porn by age 18. Those images are destroying their ability to form lasting relationships—including a proper relationship with the Lord.
What’s your son watching on his phone? Have you installed filtering software on all digital devices? Have you had a heart-to-heart talk with him about how to resist temptation? These discussions aren’t easy, but your son is worth it.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
A furious storm rages around us. Today’s anti-Christian culture is battering all those who stand in its way. And it’s only getting worse. Public schools are increasingly hostile to biblical truth and Christian values.
In this antagonistic society, it’s easy for Christian boys to get swept away by peer pressure, sexual temptation, and the quest for riches. Don’t let these weights catch your son off guard and drown him in addiction.
Despite worldly winds and the ungodly cultural current, teach your son to stay anchored to the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Studying God’s Word will keep him anchored to the Rock of his salvation.
In today’s swirling storm of bad influences, your son needs positive role models. Are you providing him an atmosphere for spiritual growth?
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
If you live in the north, the transition from one season to the next brings dramatic weather changes. Many people enjoy fall, but winter quickly pushes it aside. Then people yearn for the warmth of spring, but that’s replaced by the heat of summer.
Seasons are a natural part of our environment. So are the seasons of our children’s lives.
As parents, we sometimes wish we could hold back time and keep our kids longer during a specific season of development.
But if we are wise, we will guide our children as they transition from one season to the next, from one area of growth to another.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Being a parent is one of the greatest joys in life. It’s also exhausting!
Whether it seems like you’ve changed a million diapers or whether you feel like a professional taxi driver for your teenage kids, each stage of life has its own challenges.
As a parent, it’s certainly your responsibility to guide and train your children. But it’s also important for you to take time to rest physically, . . . emotionally, . . . and spiritually.
In Matthew 11:28, our Savior says,
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
What a great reminder that our help comes from the Lord. We can rest in the assurance that He will strengthen us to continue on.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Did you know that 30% of teen boys use unhealthy techniques to control their weight? This includes skipping meals, vomiting, and even taking laxatives.
For parents with boys in this category, we wish there were something like 3 simple steps to help our sons escape the downward spiral of self-image and self-esteem problems. But it’s usually not that easy.
In addition to consulting doctors for help, here’s something else you should do. Remind your son that God makes no mistakes. We are His workmanship—wonderfully created in His image.
To help emphasize this fact, study the Bible with your son to learn of God’s care and compassion for us all. As you invest time and attention in your son, he will realize how valued and loved he really is.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
If you’ve got a boy in your house, you know that God made boys with lots of energy and enthusiasm.
It’s important that we provide ways for them to experience fun, excitement, and adventure—beyond the everyday routines of life.
This can sometimes be difficult at home where space is limited. That’s why finding ways for him to engage in the outdoors is so important.
And, while creating opportunities in the backyard or a local park can go a long way toward encouraging this engagement, think about creating camping and hiking experiences that go beyond the ordinary. Maybe find your way to an outdoor Christian Boys organization like Trail Life that makes this part easy!
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Have you ever played Jenga, the block-stacking game?
It’s fun taking turns stacking blocks and watching the tower grow tall. But eventually, the tower becomes unbalanced, and the blocks come tumbling down.
As a parent, don’t allow yourself to become unbalanced in life. As you go about your daily routines, avoid stacking too many obligations in your life. The higher your number of commitments, the greater the risk of wearing yourself out and failing to fulfill your most important responsibilities.
Finding that balance between work and family life can be really hard. The key, though, is determining your priorities and then pursuing only those activities that contribute toward your overall goals.
But remember, you’ll never go wrong by investing time and attention in your kids.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Here’s a trivia question: Which state has the most lighthouses? If you answered Michigan, you’re absolutely right.
In the darkness of night, lighthouses warn sailors of shallow sandbars and rocky shorelines. Without these lighthouses, many boats and sailors would crash into these obstacles and suffer great hardship and pain.
In many ways, you serve as a lighthouse to your son. As he sails through life, you are in a key position to warn him of unseen hazards. Use your own personal experiences to point him in the right direction. But make sure you also emphasize the importance of God’s Word. The Bible offers your son practical guidance in navigating the seas of life.
Help your son stay on course. For more information and parenting resources, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Social media sites have tremendous power to influence your son’s thoughts and actions.
But there’s an even more influential force in your son’s life—and that’s his friends.
Research tells us that ensuring a positive community of faith for your son is one of the best ways to shield him against negative influences and to set him up for success.
Though it’s unreasonable for you to expect your son’s friends to be perfect, they should exhibit a general attitude of respect and obedience to authority.
Do you know who your son’s friends are? Are they a good influence, or do they display destructive behaviors that are holding him back?
By helping your son know how to choose good friends, you provide an atmosphere of growth and development.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
What does 100 billion of anything look like?
Astronomers estimate that our Milky Way Galaxy holds around 100 billion stars. If you counted one star per second, it would take you over 3,000 years to count those stars.
That’s incredible!
And yet, God—the master designer of billions of galaxies—loves each person more than any of those stars.
So, the next time you see your son frustrated and hurting, wrap your arms around him and give him a giant hug. Remind him that he is of tremendous value to you AND to the Almighty God of the universe.
Trials and challenges are a natural part of life, but together, you and your son can bring them to God in prayer.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys crave action and adventure. That’s why video games and movies grab their attention. But too often, this content is crude, sensual, and violent.
Help your son find action and adventure in the pages of a good book.
But beware. Many of the books written specifically for boys carry unbiblical worldviews. Secular authors are strategically influencing boys in unhealthy ways.
Be careful about what your son reads. Encourage him to dive into fascinating stories about missionaries and evangelists. Additionally, many explorers, inventors, and scientists have great testimonies of faith. Their stories of reliance on God are just as exciting as fiction.
By inspiring your son through godly role models, you show him that the greatest adventure in life is found in following God.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
It’s a sad fact that anxiety is attacking kids across the country.
According to the Center for Disease Control, 7.1% of children have been diagnosed with anxiety. That’s around 4.4 million kids!
There are many reasons for this anxiety, including fear of contracting COVID, worry about finding friends at school, and even dread about what the future holds.
As a parent, it’s important to remind your son or daughter that even when the world feels out of control, we can have confidence that God reigns supreme.
Joshua 1:9 says,
“Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
What a wonderful promise that God loves us and takes care of us.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Two simple words strike terror in a parent’s heart. Those words are: “Assembly Required.”
And yet, too often we ignore the instruction manual when putting together a bike or race car track for our son. We think, “Yeah, I can do this by myself!” But after hours of frustration, we swallow our pride and study the instruction manual to assemble the toy.
Parenting your son is also a complex process, especially these days with so many flashy distractions competing for his attention.
Thankfully, God’s Word provides detailed instruction on how to guide your son in the way he should go. Take time to read The Book of Proverbs together. There you’ll learn practical wisdom about how God wants us to grow and develop along the pathway of life.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Each day contains 1,440 minutes. That may seem like a bunch of time, but it passes by in a flash. The same can be said for weeks, and months, and even years.
Time is passing quickly . . . that’s a fact. But here’s another fact: You don’t want to look back on your parenting years with regret. Don’t allow the busyness of life to pull you away from investing time and attention in your son. Because—before you know it—your son will be grown up and heading out into the world.
Ephesians 5:16 reminds us to redeem the time because the days are evil. But how do we do this?
Begin by making sure your priorities are properly focused. Then, be intentional in spending one-on-one time with your son.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Statistics indicate that girls struggle with self-image problems more than boys. But if it’s your son that’s hurting because he doesn’t like how he looks, statistics don’t matter. You just want to help your son.
Compounding the problem are social media sites promoting their version of what is physically attractive and culturally trendy. When boys compare themselves with these unrealistic expectations, feelings of inadequacy can cause them to sink into depression.
Help your son develop a proper understanding of true self-worth. Remind him that 1 Timothy 2:4 says that we are “chosen by God and precious.”
As you guide your son through life, focus his attention on the Savior, and away from social media sites that batter his self-esteem.
To combat negative influences, consider getting involved in healthy outdoor activities. For more information, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love roller coasters. A popular one is called “Mako.” It towers 200 feet high and races through the air at 73 miles per hour.
That’s a crazy ride, but parenting boys can be even more scary—or exciting—depending on how you look at it.
Maybe your son begins wanting his own space. Then, the next day, he wants to spend all the time in the world with you.
Even when the parenting roller coaster feels out of control, take heart. The Lord has entrusted your son into your care. He knows YOU are the best person to guide him through life’s journey.
Just like a roller coaster, parenting races by in a flash. Despite its ups and downs, take time to enjoy the ride.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Parenting boys is tough. Parenting teenage guys is 100 times tougher! Or at least it can feel like it.
When your teenage son challenges your authority, when he blatantly disobeys, or when he rolls his eyes at your advice—it’s natural to feel frustrated.
It’s easy to think, “Why me? Why do I have a son that acts like this?”
In these moments of crisis, take heart. Remember that the Lord makes NO mistakes.
In His divine wisdom, the Lord chose YOU to be your son’s parent. That’s a tremendous responsibility. And because the Lord called you to this important task, He will continue to equip and strengthen you for the job.
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Who is your son’s hero? Is he a sports star? An actor? A musician?
As you guide your son through today’s popstar-infatuated culture, encourage him to study the lives of godly men who displayed courage, service, and devotion.
Introduce your son to heroes of the faith found in Hebrews 11. There he’ll read about ordinary people who were used by God in extraordinary ways. Your son will be captivated when he reads about men who escaped the edge of the sword, who endured torture, who were imprisoned for their faith, and who conquered kingdoms.
Living for God isn’t easy. But these heroes of the faith remind us that God provides the strength and help to do what is right.
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How important is a firm foundation?
The construction of an eight-floor tower began in 1173 AD. The design and architecture was considered genius. But the foundation was not properly tested. After the first three floors were constructed, it was discovered the tower was leaning!
You guessed it … this was the famed “Leaning Tower of Pisa.”
A firm foundation is of vital importance in a boy’s life. When the foundation of God’s Word is removed, boys tend to lean in the direction of constantly shifting societal norms.
What kind of foundation is your boy being built upon? Make sure you’re raising him up on the firm foundation of God’s Word. “All other ground is sinking sand.”
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For decades now, fathers have taught their sons how to ride a bike using the “seat grip” technique. The father holds the bike upright by firmly gripping the back of the seat while running along behind the bike. The son steers and pedals confidently knowing Dad is behind him, holding him up.
Finally, the day comes when Dad removes his grip. The boy is pedaling and steering on his own, but doesn’t realize it. He still thinks Dad is supporting him.
How do you raise a boy to become a godly man? You hold him up when he’s young and vulnerable, but you let him feel what it’s like to steer and pedal by himself. When the timing is right, and confidence has been built, you release your grip.
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Did you know that clear boundaries actually help kids feel free?
There was an experiment done at a daycare center. At first, the outdoor playground at the daycare was surrounded by a fence. When the children ran outside to play, they would climb the fence and try to see what was behind it.
But when the fence was taken down, the children didn’t explore the wide open space. Instead, they stayed clustered up beside the building.
The researchers concluded that the fence made the children feel free to explore.
Your son is the same. When you establish rules, he will push your boundaries. But don’t back down. It’s your discipline that makes him feel safe enough to spread his wings.
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Have you heard about the sermon on the MOUND?
Baseball manager Tommy Lasorda visited the pitcher’s mound to speak to his young, skinny pitcher who was getting shelled. He looked into his eyes and said, “I don’t see a scared, timid kid. I see a fighter. From now on, your name will be ‘Bulldog.’”
The name of the pitcher was Orel Hershiser, and he would go on to win the Cy Young award as the best pitcher in the National League. To this day, Hershiser credits his turnaround with what he calls Lasorda’s “Sermon on the Mound.”
Words from a mentor are powerful tools in growing confident young men.
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What’s your favorite Benjamin Franklin quote?
He famously said, “The only two certainties in life are death and taxes.”
We laugh at that because we know that life is certainly full of change.
This change is especially obvious in children. As parents, we sometimes wish our adorable toddlers would stay young forever. But they grow—and soon they’re attending kindergarten, then elementary, then high school.
In addition to growing physically and academically, our children also need to grow spiritually. The tragedy is that many boys are being misled by today’s anti-Christian culture that ridicules biblical masculinity.
Despite the winds of social change, stand strong on the foundation of God’s Word. Train your son to honor the Lord through his words, thoughts, and actions—and in this way grow into a godly man.
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Does your son ever complain? Most likely, yes.
Perhaps he whines about food, or chores, or having to study for a test. Maybe he complains about not getting the latest digital gadget—or about not being allowed to do a certain activity.
Complaining is almost second nature. However, as a parent, be intentional in teaching your son to focus on the positives of life, rather than on the negatives.
That’s tough!
But by helping your son follow the Lord, his perspective of what’s important in life will change. And as his heart and mind focus on those things that are eternal, the trivial concerns of life will fade away.
But beware. This isn’t a quick transformation.
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What does it mean to be a man? Today’s anti-Christian culture defines a “real” man as being stylish, popular, and rich. But being a man involves so much more.
Qualities of biblical masculinity include:
Courage
Service
Leadership
Sacrifice
Commitment
Self-control
And unconditional love.
Are you teaching your son these characteristics?
In 1 Timothy 4:12, the Apostle Paul encourages Timothy with these words:
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
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Ever wonder why your son can spot the elusive bad guy on his video game, but doesn’t seem to notice the dust collecting on his dresser?
Well, there’s actually a biological reason for that. When compared to girls, boys have more rods than cones in their eyes. This makes boys more sensitive to movement, and more likely to focus on things farther away.
The difference makes sense historically. Men have traditionally been hunters and protectors, needing to see danger from far away.
So while it’s good to make sure your son knows how to clean, don’t forget that he needs freedom to be a boy. Encourage him to play outside, bird watch, or try archery. His God-given instincts will thank you.
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You’re at the park with your son and his best friend. A hundred feet away is a water fountain. Your son asks if he can go get a drink.
When you say yes, the two boys race to the water fountain. Your son’s friend yells triumphantly when he gets there first.
Isn’t it funny how little boys often try to make everything a competition? As a parent, use that fact to keep your son engaged!
Whenever you can, add healthy risk to everyday life. Encourage your son to try a new activity, like the bigger slide at the playground, or volunteering at the animal shelter. You can even make completing chores or homework a friendly competition between siblings.
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For years, a pair of sunglasses determined my worth.
When I was in my twenties, I proudly made my first big purchase: a pair of Serengeti sunglasses.
But shortly after buying those sunglasses, I lost them.
It might sound silly, but that incident plagued me for decades. I told myself that I couldn’t be trusted and didn’t deserve nice things. I doubted my worth as a man and my ability to be a good dad.
It took years for me to realize that my worth is in Jesus Christ, and that my mistakes don’t determine my value.
Today, it’s your turn. Ask God to help you believe the truth about yourself. Your children– especially your son– need to see you living in freedom.
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What’s something that does not come naturally to you? Maybe public speaking makes you break out in a sweat, or you think running is torturous.
Now, how would you feel if you had to spend eight hours a day doing that very thing you are not good at?
That’s the reality for many boys. Boys are natural explorers. When they reach school age, they are expected to spend most of the day sitting. No wonder they often get in trouble for being antsy!
Outside of school hours, make sure your son gets plenty of opportunities to engage in healthy competition and risk-taking. Activities like archery, fishing, and yes, even tree-climbing, are great places to start. Let your boy be a boy!
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The Bible is full of men who ruined their own lives.
Moses was full of self-doubt and had an anger problem. Peter lied and said he didn’t know Jesus. David betrayed and killed a man.
And yet, so many years later, we still remember those men not for the mistakes they made, but for being leaders in the faith.
Kids today, especially boys, are desperately in need of positive mentors. You probably think that you are too flawed or not godly enough to be a good role model. But what if God can use you despite– or even because of– your mistakes?
Think and pray today about a young man in your life who would benefit from some quality time with you.
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Have you heard about Generation Z? No, it’s not a new boy band. It’s a label applied to those born between 1997 and 2012.
Many people look at today’s Generation Z as media-obsessed teenagers who are lazy, cynical, and unambitious. But this stereotyping fails to reveal the clever, creative, and compassionate way these teens are influencing their communities.
Many times, they simply haven’t been inspired to set goals and achieve their dreams. Sometimes they simply haven’t had good role models to push them forward.
Are you inspiring your son to achieve worthwhile goals?
While it’s commendable to be a success in sports and academics, it’s even more important that your son follow the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind.
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Do you like to run? Most people don’t. To excel, the sport requires training, endurance, and determination.
In some ways, parenting is a lot like running a race. But the parenting race is more similar to a marathon than a sprint.
When our boys are young, it feels like we’re providing constant instruction and correction. We wonder, “Will this ever end?”
But before you know it, you’ve rounded the corner and face the teen years. You encounter new hurdles, attitudes, and challenges, weariness, discouragement.
Regardless of where you’re at in the parenting race, don’t quit! Because the Lord entrusted you with training your son, He will provide the strength to victoriously finish the race!
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When was the last time you went on a scavenger hunt?
Well, you know, they are making a comeback. Teenagers, especially, like the competitive aspect of searching for and finding a bunch of weird objects . . . all in the fastest time possible.
Searching for plastic flamingos is hilarious, but don’t forget to teach your son about the importance of searching for wisdom in God’s Word.
More than ever, today’s secular culture tells boys that life is all about fun and pleasure.
The Bible has a different perspective. It tells us that our ultimate goal is to worship the Lord and to serve Him.
Sounds easy enough . . . but it isn’t. That’s why it’s vital that we daily search the Scriptures for wisdom and instruction.
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You know, the U.S. Census Bureau reports that only 18% of American homes consist of a mother, father, and child. That’s an incredibly sad statistic.
It means that kids in over 100 million households don’t have the loving influence of either a mother or a father.
More often than not, the father is the one missing from the home. This leaves boys without a role model and without a father’s guidance and correction.
Whether or not your son has the benefit of godly influences within the home, it’s important to provide him qualified mentorship.
The more your son sees how a man of character acts, talks, and serves, the more he’ll want those same biblical values in his own life.
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Boys love football. Flag football is fun, but tackle football is an even bigger rush.
Quarterbacks and wide receivers get a lot of the glory, but football coaches are quick to point out that it takes an entire team to win a football game.
The same is true in parenting your son.
As a parent, you are certainly the most influential person in his life. But his teachers, athletic coaches, and friends also influence his thoughts and actions.
The question is: Are they influencing him to do right? Are they helping him to love the Lord with all his heart, soul, and mind?
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Growing up, I never heard my dad say he was proud of me. It’s just something his generation didn’t do.
One day, when I was in my twenties, I was astonished when, from the pulpit, my dad mentioned how proud he was of me.
Six months later, he passed away. I’m so thankful I heard those life-giving words directly from him. But I realize now that I need to lean on my Heavenly Father to help me overcome my deep insecurities.
Don’t forget to give your son verbal affirmation. But more importantly, make sure you tell him about the only One who can affirm him deep in his soul– Jesus Christ.
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There’s a horrible plague sweeping across America. But it’s probably not the one you are thinking of.
This plague is attacking boys’ minds and destroying their ability to live healthy and productive lives.
What is this plague?
It’s the disease of entitlement.
More than ever, boys feel entitled to possessions and entertainment.
The tragedy of this mindset is that boys fail to understand that happiness isn’t found in the latest digital gadget or trendy amusement.
Don’t let the plague of entitlement infect your son. Teach him the value of hard work and contentment.
By investing time and attention in your son’s mental, social, and spiritual development, you’re setting him up for a healthy and successful life.
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Kids live in a digital world.
Reliable research tells us that kids ages 8 to 12 spend an average of 4 to 8 hours a day staring at phones, TVs, and other devices.
The question is: What are they watching all those hours? Sure, some of it may be harmless. But much of what kids see online is sensual, crude, and violent.
Boys are especially influenced by what they see.
As a parent, it’s your responsibility to set limits on your son’s screen time. Make sure you also add filtering software to block out inappropriate material.
The best way to help your son succeed in life is by teaching him to turn his eyes upon Jesus. Doing this will help him guard his heart and mind.
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If you see someone having a heart attack, you call 911. If a water pipe breaks in your bathroom, you call a plumber.
But when your son won’t listen to you or when your son blatantly disobeys, what do you do?
Too often, we complain or vent our frustration to a friend. Or perhaps we think of a solution and take immediate steps to solve the problem.
But if you are wise, your first course of action should be to seek the Lord’s guidance in prayer. By bringing your worries, frustrations, and struggles to the Lord, He can provide you strength and help in time of need.
So when those parenting challenges come, seek Him, and He will direct your path.
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On his first day of preschool my son peered into the classroom and said, “Dad, I don’t want to go in there.”
I dropped to one knee in front of him and put my hand on his shoulder. Meeting him eye-to-eye, I reminded him about the first time he had ridden a pony. At first, he had been scared of the horse. But he faced his fear, and had been so glad that he did.
With that memory in mind, my son walked confidently into the preschool classroom.
When your son is filled with insecurity, it’s time to get on his level. Eye to eye, physical touch, focused attention. Replace the fearful thoughts in his mind with reminders of how he is already the brave man that he needs to be.
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The average American consumes 90 bananas, 16 apples, and 122 strawberries per year. Those fruits are packed with vitamins and minerals.
This nutrition is vital for growing boys . . . who prefer to gobble down pizza, hamburgers, and cookies.
But even more important than physical fruit is spiritual fruit.
Galatians 5:22-23 says that the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These characteristics are essential in helping your son grow in stature and wisdom.
Are you helping your son develop these characteristics? Take time to talk with him about how these fruits of the spirit are displayed in real life.
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You’ve probably never flown an airplane before, but your son might have. Well, not a real airplane, but possibly a Boeing 737 on a video game flight simulator.
When flying, a pilot must rely on his instrument panel to provide him accurate information about airspeed, altitude, and direction. Without this information, the pilot puts himself and his passengers at risk, especially when flying through turbulence and bad weather.
Parenting your son also requires you to rely on important information for a successful journey. This information is found in the Bible.
It’s there that God provides wisdom about how your son can develop a solid foundation for life—even during the turbulence of his teen years.
By studying God’s Word with your son, you’ll both soar high through life. To help you along the way, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
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Today’s world is a dangerous place.
COVID continues to cause chaos, confusion, and turmoil.
And then there are terrorists, drugs, and racial tensions. The list of worries and fears goes on and on.
And yet, the Lord tells us that despite the chaos surrounding us, we can have peace. In John 14:27, the Lord says,
“My peace I give to you . . . Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”
As you guide your son through life, be intentional in choosing peace over fear. By reminding your son that the Lord reigns supreme, you can show him how to be joyful and confident—even through the storms of life.
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An elephant can carry seven tons of weight, but all it takes to restrain it is a flimsy rope. Why?
When a baby elephant is in captivity, a chain is tied around its back leg and attached to a stake in the ground. No matter how hard the baby elephant struggles, it cannot break the chain.
That memory is so strong that, when the elephant is fully grown and capable of breaking free, it believes it cannot.
Your son’s brain works the same way. You can help him fight his self-imposed limitations by challenging him to take risks. One way to do this is get him involved in outdoor activities, which naturally bring a chance for him to fail and to succeed well.
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You grab your tackle box, tie on your favorite lure, and head to the shore for a relaxing day of fishing.
But, hours later, you haven’t had a single fish bite your line.
Parenting can feel like that sometimes. Especially when you are trying to communicate with boys.
When it doesn’t seem like your son is listening, it’s time to adjust your approach, time to connect with him. Put your phone down. Give him your focused attention, eye to eye contact. Initiate physical touch.
But even if he still doesn’t seem to hear you, don’t lose heart. After all, the most rewarding fish to catch is the one you catch after a day of no bites.
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If you step outside tonight and gaze into the night sky, you might notice Sirius [sirēus]—the brightest star visible from earth. Even though it’s located over 50 trillion miles away, it still shines brightly in the darkness of space.
Your son can also shine brightly in today’s dark world. Teach him to honor the Lord by doing what is right.
By training your son to love God and obey His Word, your son can shine for Jesus and point his friends to the ultimate Light of the world.
And being a witness for the Lord Jesus . . . is a really bright idea!
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31 donuts. That’s the average number an American eats in a year. Some eat fewer, but boys probably eat MORE than their fair share.
Talking about donuts, have you ever wondered why there’s a hole in the middle? Because donuts are fried in oil, the hole allows the dough to cook evenly, without the outside becoming burnt and the inside remaining doughy.
In addition to being a tasty treat, the donut is a good reminder. Don’t leave a hole in your son’s training. Education is certainly important, but don’t leave a hole in his social, emotional, and spiritual development.
Here’s an idea: take your son to a local donut shop to share some sugary yummy-ness. While there, have a heart-to-heart talk with your son. Listen as he talks about what’s going on at school. Then share some advice—and pray for him.
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Most 3 or 4 year olds will cling tightly to you in the swimming pool. To them, the water looks incredibly deep and scary. But as they take swimming lessons and learn how to tread water, they gain confidence to splash, swim, and dive.
As your son continues to grow, don’t let him flounder and sink in other areas of life. Peer pressure and temptation are heavy weights that threaten to drown him in confusion and sin. Teach your son how to avoid these weights by pursuing friendships and activities that are true, honest, and pure.
Remember, your son needs to be guided and inspired. Help him thrive by preparing him for life’s journey.
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Boys like toys. Frisbees and basketballs are inexpensive. But other toys, like electric scooters or remote-controlled drones, can cost a lot.
When your son asks for a toy, do you always buy it for him? While toys can certainly help kids grow physically and mentally, there’s value in having your son work for the extra things he wants.
Younger kids can complete extra chores. Teenage boys should be given even greater responsibility. This might mean mowing lawns, washing cars, or getting a part-time job.
As you help your son understand the value of hard work and how it relates to money, you’re preparing him to succeed in life.
And that’s a job well done.
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Have you ever lost your car keys? You’re not alone! Each year, over 20 million people lose their car keys or house keys.
Keys provide access to important belongings. But of all the keys out there in the world, the most important key is YOU. You are the key to your son’s growth and development.
Your son needs guidance as he matures into a young man. This is accomplished by helping him understand and apply God’s Word to his life. Additionally, he also needs to be challenged and inspired. This requires an investment of time and attention in his life. It also requires patience and lots of love.
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I’ve heard it said that this is the first generation being raised by Google.
It’s estimated that Google processes over 5 billion questions and searches each day!
That’s fine when it comes to knowing what temperature to bake a ham, or how to install a doorknob.
But when it comes to raising your son, don’t let Siri, or Alexa, or Google take charge.
Boys need to be guided through life. This begins by helping them develop a solid foundation in God’s Word. Additionally, boys thrive when they are appreciated, and when they are inspired to achieve success.
YouTube, Snapchat, and TikTok aren’t the places for boys to learn character, purpose, and leadership. Rather, YOU have the responsibility of guiding your son through life’s journey.
And that’s a fact you don’t need to Google.
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Have you ever noticed that boys love to run? They seem to be constantly dashing, darting, and scurrying around. And when they get older, they run even faster . . . which makes keeping up with them even more work.
Parenting is exhausting. In addition to school and church, there are sports practices, music lessons, and a whole bunch of other activities that take time and energy.
In the busyness of everyday life, it’s natural to feel tired and overwhelmed. But don’t let these emotions drag you down. Instead, take heart.
1 Chronicles 16:11 says,
“Seek the Lord and His strength; Seek His face evermore!”
What a great reminder that our help comes from the Lord.
So even when the parenting journey seems long—keep on keeping on!
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Have you ever met a boy who doesn’t love a treehouse!
But before a treehouse can be enjoyed, it must first be constructed. After design plans are created, 2 x 4’s are measured, cut, and nailed together. Plywood is added to the floor, walls, and roof. And, of course, don’t forget the top-secret door in the floor.
The building process isn’t only for treehouses. Parenting boys also requires careful planning and long-term construction.
The question is: Are you building character, purpose, and service into your son’s life? This requires instruction, correction, and lots of patience. But through it all, generous amounts of laughter and love make the building process worth it.
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The cheetah is the fastest land animal on the planet. They can run up to 60 miles per hour. But, the cheetah doesn’t run fast just to show off. No! The cheetah runs fast to catch its prey. You see, the Thomson gazelle, the cheetah’s favorite prey, has been clocked at a speed of 40 miles per hour.
Boys enjoy competition. It’s part of their physical and psychological makeup. But ultimately, competition is not just an opportunity to impress others. It’s more than that … It's a matter of survival.
Boys need competition to help them grow into men … men who know how to supply the needs of their family … men who know how to face the challenges life will bring their way.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
With risk and competition disappearing from activities presented to boys, they are turning to the virtual worlds of video games to find realms they can conquer and areas where they can excel.
The result of this virtual conquest is apathy, rebellion, or outright resistance to real-world challenge. What boys need most is Christian men of character, trained and equipped to lead them in a male-centric environment, where they are engaged in real-world challenge through activities like camping, hiking, and fishing.
In the outdoors, boys learn character and leadership in a practical hands-on manner that is naturally engaging, and find mentors, connect with other men, and find opportunities to achieve significant accomplishments.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love the battles in video games! But did you know an even more ruthless battle rages around your son?
Secular forces are battling for your son’s heart and mind. They want to distract him, tempt him, and destroy him by controlling his thoughts.
But the Bible provides clear instruction on how to battle the enemy. Romans 12:2 says, “do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
True transformation takes place best in relationships. As a Dad, you play a HUGE role in guiding your son along the pathway of life. Train him to win the battle for his mind.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Did you ever jump on a trampoline? If so, you loved seeing how high you could leap into the air. But, inevitably, every time you soared upward, you eventually came back down.
As a Dad, you understand that parenthood also involves “highs” and “lows.” Maybe your son draws a picture that says, “I love my Dad!” Or perhaps he scores a goal on the soccer field.
The “highs” of parenthood are great. But “lows” can be a great opportunity to grow closer to your son, as you process where the challenging experiences of life can bring growth.
Even though parenting is hard, it’s a privilege to use the highs and the lows to help grow character in your son.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Did you ever try to cut a 2 x 4 with a hacksaw? Or hammer a nail with a wrench? It just doesn’t work very well. Using the right tool makes all the difference in successfully completing a job.
When it comes to training boys, having the right tools and resources makes a big difference. God’s Word is our go-to resource. From it, we learn important truths and principles that guide us as we train our sons.
Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
In addition to God’s Word, there are other resources that will help you grow boys into godly men. Check out these practical tools at Trail Life USA or at RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Prison is a hard place.
But the pain of prison extends beyond concrete walls and barbed wire fences.
According to Prison Fellowship, over 1.5 million kids have an incarcerated parent. Around 92% of them are fathers.
That’s a sad statistic. It means that hundreds of thousands of boys are growing up without a dad. All boys need a proper role model to guide, encourage, and love them.
Break the cycle. Be active in your son’s life or be “dad-like” in an organization that serves boys who don’t have the influence of a godly father. In this way, you demonstrate that God’s Word contains truth and guidance on how to navigate the pathway of life.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
If you’ve ever been to a circus, you’ve seen clowns juggling balls and clubs. Juggling may look simple enough, but it’s actually a lot harder than it looks.
Parenting boys is also harder than expected. You’re trying to juggle multiple schedules, manage conflicts, and adapt to various personalities. And many times, you hardly have enough time to deal with one issue before another one comes flying at you.
Fortunately, you don’t have to be a clown to successfully juggle the requirements of being a Dad. Simply begin with love, toss in compassion, and throw in a bunch of fun. As you do this, your son will appreciate you more than you’ll ever know.
Invest time and attention in your kids. Learn about a Proven Process that is helping dads grow closer to their sons. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for more information.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Have you ever heard your son say, “I’m bored”?
If so, you’re not alone.
These days, boys stay inside the house watching their digital devices for way too many hours a day. In fact, according to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, kids spend an average of 4 to 6 hours a day playing video games and watching TV.
Do your boys a favor by introducing them to the great outdoors. As you explore the woods together, you’ll develop memories that will last a lifetime.
And guess what? Before you know it, those cries of “I’m bored” will fade away.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Sometimes, the routines of life can make us feel as if we’re running on a hamster wheel.
If you had a pet hamster, you know that they love running. Give a hamster a hamster wheel, and they’ll run on it day after day after day.
While there’s certainly value in developing life routines, it’s vitally important that boys experience times of adventure beyond the norms of life. Their minds and bodies crave action and excitement! They need physical and mental challenges that motivate them to work hard and help them grow into godly men.
One of the best places to help boys grow and have fun is in the great outdoors. Leave the hamster wheel behind. Try hiking or having fun at an archery range.
These adventurous experiences will not soon be forgotten . . . For more ideas on outdoor activities, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
A battle rages—and boys are on the front lines. They are daily bombarded by anti-Christian philosophies:
- Relativism—disrupts truth and biblical morality,
- Humanism—teaches that a person must depend on himself, not God, if this is true, then why do we even need God?
- And evolution—teaches that we evolved by mere chance, the very existence of a loving Creator is ridiculed.
Don’t let these worldly philosophies destroy your son’s faith in Christ. Teach him to stand on the solid Word of God.
Training your son in today’s secular culture isn’t easy. It requires time and attention. Learn about a Proven Process that can help you accomplish this. Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for free downloadable resources.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
A reporter asked Thomas Edison, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
One of the greatest inventions of the 19th century was the lightbulb. But creating the lightbulb required lots of trial and error.
Failure is a part of life. In fact, it’s normal and natural. And even though no one likes to fail, it teaches us to do better and to strive harder as we reach for our goals.
Boys need a challenge. Even though trying something new may result in failure, that failure is helping them develop important character traits that are essential for future success.
Are you helping your boys learn from failure? Visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com for practical tips on how to help your boys grow into godly young men.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love fireworks!
There’s just something about a monstrous Bang!—Boom!—and Blast! that shakes the air and excites the heart.
As the sky vibrates with fiery explosions, fingers tingle with excitement, and fountains of sparkling light shine down on smiling faces.
But guess what lasts even longer than firecrackers and bottle rockets? Memories do!
Have fun with your son as you ring in the New Year together. As you show interest in him, he’ll be more likely to seek your help when peer pressure and temptation come his way.
Boys desperately need a father figure who can be a godly mentor and guide to them. Be that figure in your son’s life.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
As January 1st approaches, do you plan to make any New Year’s resolutions? About 32% of Americans do. Here are the top 3 resolutions they make:
- Get More Exercise
- Lose Weight
- Save Money
Even though these are commendable resolutions, there’s something even more important that we should strive toward. That’s loving the Lord our God with all our heart and soul and mind.
Of course, that’s easier said than done. But guess what? As God transforms your heart and mind, He will transform your relationships, too.
Don’t let the busyness of life distract you from investing time and attention in your kids. Don’t look back on these important years with regret. Instead, commit to being the best Mom or Dad you can be.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love statistics—the crazier the better! For instance, did you know that the average American eats around 23 pounds of ice cream a year? Talk about brain freeze!
Here’s another statistic: Each year contains almost 9,000 hours! That’s a HUGE number. But do you know how YOU spent your time throughout this past year?
How many hours did you stare at your phone?
How many hours did you spend with your son?
As the New Year approaches, be intentional with how you invest your time in your son’s life.
Speaking of ice cream, here’s a simple idea. Hop in the car and visit a nearby ice cream shop. As you share a bunch of smiles and laughs, you’ll create memories that will last a lifetime.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Around 7,000 languages are spoken throughout the world.
But to communicate with your son, you don’t have to be a linguistic expert. In fact, you don’t even have to be bilingual. All you need is a desire to spend quality time with your son.
This language of love is demonstrated through action. Play catch with your son. Go fishing together. Visit a National Park and explore God’s creation.
By spending time with your son, you speak to both his heart and mind. And show him through action that you care for him.
When your son knows you love him, he’ll be more likely to listen when you provide correction and instruction. You’re helping him grow into a godly young man.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys love to wrestle. They love testing their skill and strength against other kids. As they compete, they experience the thrill of victory . . . and—sometimes—the agony of defeat.
Victory isn’t guaranteed—but that’s okay. Boys compete for more than just a ribbon. They love the challenge and excitement competition brings.
Boys desperately need this. Too often the only thing they wrestle . . . is boredom. They sit on the couch and stare at their phones. This isn’t physically, mentally, or spiritually healthy.
Instead, boys grow by being challenged. And as they compete, they develop important character traits needed for future success.
Are you providing healthy challenges for your son? The great outdoors is an excellent place to start. Visit TrailLifeUSA.com/Saving Boys for activities you and your son can enjoy together.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Nearly 2,000 years ago, an angel appeared to shepherds outside of Bethlehem. That angel declared, “I bring you good tidings of great joy, which will be to all people.”
Those “good tidings” are still great news to us today. That news is that Jesus Christ is Lord.
With Christmas in full swing, now is the perfect time to teach your kids that this festive season is about much more than presents. Use caroling to sing about the Gospel message. Or bake some cookies and share them with your neighbors. Write Christmas cards of encouragement to elderly couples in your church.
As you share the Joy of the world with those around you, you teach your kids that Jesus brings help, hope, and healing to a hurting world.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
When you were a kid, what was the best present you ever received? Was it a toy train? Maybe a bike, or perhaps a remote-controlled car.
As a Christian, you now understand that the greatest of all presents wasn’t bought at a shopping mall or even on Amazon.com.
When God sent His one-and-only Son to earth, He gave us the greatest of all gifts. Because of our Savior’s sacrifice, we can be redeemed by the blood of the Lamb.
Don’t let your kids get so captivated by physical presents that they forget about the reason for the season.
As you teach your kids about the Lord Jesus, consider using fun and practical resources that guide them in the way they should go. Visit TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys for more information.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
In Charles Dickens’s classic book, A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge hates Christmas. Whenever someone wishes him “Merry Christmas,” he responds by saying, “Bah! Humbug!”
But after a visit by the ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Future, Scrooge realizes that a selfish life is a wasted life.
This is a great reminder to make the most of the present. By “present,” I’m not talking about wrapped gifts, but about being intentional in how we use our days and hours.
By adding fun and laughter to everyday activities with your family, you transform the ordinary into something extraordinary.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
When you wrap a present, does the final package look like an explosion of paper—or like a decorative piece of artwork?
No matter what the packaging looks like, don’t get so wrapped up in the busyness of the Christmas season that you forget what’s truly important.
As we celebrate Christ’s birth, honor Him by being the father God wants you to be. That involves spending time with your son.
Here’s an idea: Push the living room furniture aside and have a wrestling match. Boys LOVE that! Then afterward, share some hot chocolate and a bunch of laughs.
You may not be very good at wrapping Christmas presents, but you can certainly wrap your arms around your son and give him a giant bear hug.
Invest time and attention in your son. Learn about a Proven Process that’s helping boys grow into godly men. Learn more by visiting TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
The Christmas season is busy!
There are presents to buy, desserts to bake, Christmas lights to untangle, greeting cards to write, trees to decorate, performances to attend . . . and so much more!
As you know, Christmas is a BUSY time!
Yet, amid all that busyness, don’t forget the real reason we celebrate Christmas.
Some 2,000 years ago, God demonstrated His love to us by sending His one-and-only Son to earth. That was the start of something incredible . . . the start of God’s redemptive plan for mankind.
Continue the tradition of demonstrating love through action. Show your kids that you love them by spending quality time together. Decorate a gingerbread house. Go caroling together. Get creative this season, but remember what it’s all about.
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The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
When hikers are out in the woods, everything looks the same, especially as darkness begins to set in. Skilled hikers often rely on a compass that points north. By knowing which way is north, they can navigate through the uncertain woods to their destination.
Boys are especially in need of some direction in this darkening and uncertain culture. God’s Word is our compass in life. And as we navigate the hills and valleys, we can use this compass to train our boys and to teach them how to use His Word to navigate life as well. That way, when they become men, they will confidently hike forward, knowing that they are headed in the right direction.
Learn more about how you can lead your son toward manhood. Visit TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys for fun ideas of how to learn and grow together.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
As a kid, did you ever get lost at a busy mall? Or maybe it was at an amusement park where you suddenly couldn’t find your parents. It’s a scary feeling. Your heart begins to thump wildly. Your hands begin to sweat. You glance around in all directions, but everything looks strange and unfamiliar.
It’s no fun being lost. Don’t put your son in that position. Train your son about what to do and where to go if he ever finds himself lost in the world.
The experience of boys in today’s anti-Christian culture isn’t easy. He can easily feel lost. Contrary messages, the unfamiliar values... Give a boy what he needs to stay grounded in a confusing world. Learn about proven techniques you can use to help you accomplish this. Visit TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys for free downloadable resources.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
If you live up north, winter winds bring in snow, ice, and freezing temperatures. Before sending your boys outside to go sledding, you wrap them in coats, hats, and gloves. This clothing keeps them protected from harsh elements outside the home.
They’re called peer pressure, bullying, and temptation. Without knowledge of how to withstand these destructive forces, boys are quickly overwhelmed.
Equip your boys to face the world. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your son about important topics or situations he may face at school or on the playground.
If you’re not sure how to get started, check out a Proven Process that is helping transform boys into godly men. Learn more by visiting TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
The world’s tallest tree towers 380 feet above the ground in California’s Redwood National Park. Named Hyperion, this tree began as a tiny seed, no bigger than a grain of rice.
Growing into a giant tree didn’t happen overnight. Little by little, day by day, the tree dug its roots deep into the soil to establish a solid foundation. This foundation enabled it to grow tall and strong.
Boys can also grow tall and strong. By establishing a strong foundation in God’s Word, they can develop strong character that will help them succeed in life.
Invest time and attention in your boys. Learn about a Proven Process that is being used across the country that’s growing boys into godly men. Learn more by visiting TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Did you ever play tug of war as a kid? Do you remember pulling and heaving on a thick rope, trying to yank the other team in your direction?
A game of tug of war continues to this day. But instead of two teams pulling on a rope, today’s anti-Christian culture is pulling boys away from traditional, biblical values.
One of these values is the time-tested generational realization that boys and girls are different. In this societal tug of war, they insist that boys and girls are completely the same.
But they aren’t.
In addition to physical differences, boys and girls have mental and emotional differences. And that’s okay. In fact, that’s normal and healthy.
Don’t let confusing ideology pull your boys in the wrong direction. There is a path ahead—a Proven Process for growing boys into godly men. Learn more at TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
What inspires boys? It may surprise you! Competition. Tackling something meaningful—and succeeding…or even failing and getting a chance to try harder!.
Truth is, the ways boys are built, something must be at stake or they quickly lose interest.
If there is no risk, if nobody keeps score and everyone wins—why should boys compete? Or even try at all?
They have a built-in gyroscope that leads them to find environments that provide a challenge. If we don’t provide opportunity, where does it lead them? Straight to video games. Keeping score, achieving higher levels, failing and succeeding… this is where boys feel at home.
Let’s steal a page from the video game designer book, but let’s inspire our boys with real-life challenges.
And let them keep score. Newsflash: They are doing it anyway!
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Be quiet and pay attention. Sit still.
Boys are noisy and love to move—because they are boys. Plus, they know they’ve got to move for their brain and learn to be activated!
This God-infused characteristic of boys leads them to be misunderstood. What’s worse—boys are unappreciated.
There are differences between boys and girls that are God-given. Adam was created in the wilderness, then set in the Garden with structure, while Eve was created within that structure.
When gender lines are blurred, there is confusion and failure to appreciate these clear differences.
Today, boyhood is looked upon as if it’s a social disease that society is trying to eradicate.
We must provide environments suited to boys, and value what makes boys unique.
Boys are suffering by not being appreciated, but there is a path ahead—a Proven Process that you can learn more about at TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Boys, especially, need clear boundaries and rules to feel secure.
More than ever, boys are struggling … They are ungrounded and searching for the Truth to guide them. But the Truth presented in scripture is being undermined at every turn—in our schools and in the media.
The generational norms that boys could always count on are eroding, and now, the majority in America no longer believes that God is the center of Truth.
Boys need an established and unmoving foundation to thrive—where good behavior is encouraged, and bad behavior discouraged.
Boys flourish when they have a clear mission and when they know who’s on their team.
Boys have lost their way, but there is a path ahead—a Proven Process that you can learn more about at TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Where are boys to find their role models?
With the number of fatherless homes, and women forming the greater number of teachers, boys are largely unguided in terms of consistent male role models and leadership.
And while single moms are performing the herculean task of raising kids on their own, they too are wondering who is going to provide that example. Boys are left with the question: what does it mean to be a man?
They are paying a price for this confusion with suicide, crime, and drug abuse mowing them down in record numbers. Boys need a male adult mentor in order to answer this heartfelt question: what does it mean to be a man?
Listen, there is a path ahead to save our boys—a Proven Process that you can learn more about at TrailLifeUSA.com/savingboys.
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.
Trail Life USA has a Proven Process for Growing Boys into Godly Men.
Boys are often unguided, ungrounded, unappreciated, and uninspired. Trail Life USA seeks to change that.
Boys have big questions that routinely go unanswered: “What does it mean to be a man?” “Where do I belong?” “What are my boundaries, and why are they set?” “Why should I even try?”
Trail Life USA uses its Proven Process to help boys answer life’s toughest questions and find purpose in what they do. We provide godly mentors and models of what true manhood looks like. These men are trained, background-checked, Christian men who have a heart for mentoring boys.
We take an unapologetically Christian stance and use the Bible as the foundation for truth.
Trail Life USA provides a boy-focused program with a robust awards program and challenging mental, physical, and spiritual objectives that are specifically designed to accentuate boys’ strengths and let boys be boys!
The Raising Godly Boys Minute is a daily 60-second broadcast designed to help you learn to raise boys to become godly men.