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It Takes Tits
It Takes Tits is a podcast that seeks out and champions your inner courage, explores the definition and practice of bravery, and helps you shake off what’s holding you back, to get out of your own way, so you can ask for what you need and then go out and get it. Featuring occasional guest speakers and encouragement from host Bethanie Lunn to have the power to become unapologetically you.
Welcome to part two of Bethanie Lunn’s conversation with holistic relationship coach, Ali Hendry. In this episode, Beth discusses ‘the relationship after’, when you try to love again post breakup and how frikkin hard it is!
At the same time as trying to fall in love - this time, perhaps in a different way to the way it didn't work out, you're also full of trying. Trying to heal, trying to trust, trying to enjoy, trying to unlearn all the behaviours that were moulded in the last relationship. There's a lot of propaganda out there carrying messages such as, 'if it is true love, it won't be hard. It will just happen', but I'm calling BS on that.
Starting with Ali’s story on being twice divorced and ripping up the rule book when it comes to love, in this episode we discuss:
- The impact of going through divorce “You are exactly where you need to be”
- Getting support “I’m not an island” , “having those difficult conversations will help you”
- Making relationships work “every relationship worth having takes work”
- Attachment styles “different partners may bring out different attachment styles”
Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Featured guests:
Ali Hendry
Resources for this episode:
RELATIONSHIP RESOURCES
- Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing: emotionally focused therapy techniques to restore your relationship. Lori Cluff Schade
- The Attachment Theory Workbook: powerful tools to promote understanding, increase stability and build lasting relationships. Annie Chen.
- The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: guidance through the 5 stages of healing from abandonment, heartbreak and loss. Susan Anderson.
- Daring to Trust: opening ourselves to real love and intimacy. David Richo.
- Mating In Captivity: unlocking erotic intelligence. Esther Perel.
- Tongue Tied: untangling communication in sex, kink, and relationships. Stella Harris.
- The surprising truth about desire everyone needs to know | Dr Karen Gurney | TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells - YouTube
- RADAR — Multiamory
- Podcasts | Esther Perel
Ali is offering listeners a free 30-minute relationship coaching taster. Book here: https://calendly.com/alihendrycoaching/initial-meeting
Beth talks to holistic relationship coach, Ali Hendry - one of our favourite guests from series one (and yours so the data and the feedback tells us)!
Ali and Beth discuss labels, pronouns and gender fluidity. Beth can see movement in people starting to look at gender and preferences as fluid; unearthing a wave of authentic self-expression.
If you support gender, Ali shares how you can further educate yourself and support communities.
We discuss having fear of what you don’t understand, the power of self-awareness, compassion and curiosity.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Supporting the community “It all comes down to not assuming”
- Why we need to use the correct pronouns “their pronouns are their identity”
- Doing your own research “I’m part of the problem which means I can be part of the solution”
- Discomfort in business and fear of getting it wrong “you’re going to get it wrong, so focus on compassion”
- Gender as a social construct “I don’t get to tell somebody else’s story’
It’s the ultimate It Takes Tits power roundup to help you get your own show on the road and remember to continue to conversation in episode 1B (available now).
Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Featured guests:
Ali Hendry
Resources for this episode:
- @thejeffreymarsh Instagram/TikTok: non-binary explanations
- @zoestoller Instagram: great definitions
- Genderbread.org
- Gender as a Performance | Ali Hannon | TEDxKingstonUponThames - YouTube
- Natives: race and class in the ruins of empire. Akala.
- Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race. Reni Eddo-Lodge.
Ali is offering listeners a free 30-minute relationship coaching taster. Book here: https://calendly.com/alihendrycoaching/initial-meeting
In this episode, Beth talks to Dating Coach and Matchmaker, Jade Bianca - owner of the agency Dating After Divorce. Beth discovered Jade on instagram and her free advice and helpful resources, empathic insights and her hilarious spoof scenarios made her instantly relate to her and feel comforted.
They discuss everything from honesty and authenticity to profile no-no’s, dating tips that build meaningful connections and how to use grief to help you design a life you love, as well as a whole host of gems such as:
- Reframing patterns “I like to think of it as a mental health break”
- Waiting for the perfect time “You shouldn’t put your life on hold”
- Dating as a professional “It’s hard to mentally change that [boardroom] mode”
- Adapting to new ways of dating “We need to stop being so narrow minded in our dating online”
- Choosing dating profile photos “Just embrace it”
- How to stay safe online “I felt like I had a lucky escape”
- Life after divorce “You do not need tp be a passenger in your own life”
- Comparison culture “Comparison is the thief of joy”
Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Featured guests:
Jade Bianca https://instagram.com/dating_after_div?utm_medium=copy_link
Beth talks to Sabre, artist and owner and creative director of Bad Gal Salon. They discuss Sabre’s career change, why she took the leap into becoming her own boss (and how), her story on being neurodiverse and managing not just her anxiety, depression and ADHD but others perceptions of it too, plus many, MANY golden nuggets.
This episode also discusses topics such as:
- Taking opportunities “If you get the vibe of things in life - that’s going to carry you to different things”
- ADHD diagnosis and the power of identifying your feelings “something i’m very thankful for (being diagnosed in your 20’s)”
- Finding a supportive network of likeminded people “It helps you become the real you”
- Comfort zones “Imposter syndrome is a dangerous thing”
- Harnessing fear “When you use it to your own benefit and potential, it can be a really enlightening thing”
- Finding yourself “People can’t put me in a box”
- Facing life over faking it “Face it til you make it!”
Finishing with the ultimate It Takes Tits power roundup to help you get your own show on the road.
Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Featured guests:
Sabre https://instagram.com/thebadgalsalon?utm_medium=copy_link
As we near the end of the year, Beth is feeling reflective, grateful, a little overwhelmed and exhausted, a lot skint (ah, the joys of Christmas), BUT…bloody happy.
What a great time then to wrap up series one of It Takes Tits with this finale episode.
It has been the most amazing experience and shaped up to be THE listen for challenging taboo subjects, and reaching over 250k ears!
Beth started with a solo episode and wanted to end with one too, and in this episode, she closes with the power roundups of all power roundups - looking back at topics from the season, what she took personally from each talk with the amazing guests, how it has all influenced her life, and where she’s at now so she can pass the learnings and laughter onto you.
In this episode Beth look’s back at key takeaways from the series such as:
- Speaking out
- Being honest with yourself
- Self-care
- Celebrating your wins
It’s the ultimate It Takes Tits power roundup to help you get your own show on the road and we’ll see you in 2022.
JOIN BETHANIE LUNN & SOCIALITE FOR THEIR FIRST AUDIENCE WITH…IT TAKES TITS LIVE EVENT:
Discussing taboo subjects with guests from her hit podcast series
Thursday 27th January 2022
Arrivals at 6.30pm
Interviews start at 7.30pm
Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Featured guests:
Ali Hendry
Calandra Balfour
Liz McColluch
Sarah Rudder
Emma Fullwood
In this episode, Beth speak’s to a panel of women sharing their experiences, thoughts, feelings, facts and knowledge on menopause. We hear from Liz McCulloch, a GP with a specialist interest in Aesthetic Medicine, PMS and Menopause health, she is also the Medical Director mSkin with her own practice as well as practicing at The Montefiore Hospital and as an Associate at the International Centre for Hormone Health in Harley Street, London. We’re joined by Emma Fullwood, a middle age awakening coach - helping busy, worn out women go from just “fine” to blooming marvellous. And Sarah Rudder, Coach, facilitator and author who is changing lives with her work in mental toughness.
Alongside these incredible women, Beth delves into the language used around menopause, in how we frame it in society, education, with our networks and indeed to ourselves. Why so many of us seem to enter into menopause without eyes wide shut, and what strides are happening to improve this as well as discussions on:
- Choosing the right path for you “It really is about weighing what the quality of life is right now”
- Defining symptoms “was it menopause or was it something else” Taking control of your health “I’ve re-educated myself - I’m not a robot I’m a woman”
- Reaching out for help “you don’t have to put up and deal with it”
- Pressure on society and ourselves “superwoman complex”
- Difficult journeys “In the last 8 years i’ve seen 4 specialists”
- Success stories “They’ve got a little bit of the old version of themselves back”
Plus there’s your It Takes Tits power roundup at the end to help you get your own show on the road…
“I hope you’ve found this episode useful and enjoy listening to it as much as I do making it (which is enormously). Series 2 launches in February 2022 with an exciting live event on the cards in January, so listen to this space to find out more. Until then, whether it’s your day, your to do list, the glass ceiling or the patriarchy...go smash it.” - Beth
Today’s Guests:
DR. LIZ MCCULLOCH // MRCGP // DFSRH // liz.mcculloch@mskin.co.uk // www.mskin.co.uk // https://twitter.com/mskintmt // https://www.facebook.com/mskintmt //
Resources:
A great resource to bust myths and provide much-needed insight, truths, facts and further reading: https://hormonehealth.co.uk/blog/menopause-myths/
Free training courses for women and for men: https://www.menopauseexpertstraining.com/ https://www.womens-health-concern.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/WHC-UnderstandingRisksofBreastCancer-MARCH2017.pdf https://thebms.org.uk/2019/08/bms-response-to-lancet-paper-on-the-link-between-different-forms-of-hrt-and-breast-cancer-incidence/
Michelle Lyons - Hysterectomy - http://celebratemuliebrity.com/tag/hysterectomy /
Books:
Maisie hill - period power
Mokita - Shirley weir
Natural solutions to menopause - Marylyn Glenville phd
It must be my hormones - Dr Marion Gluck and Vicki Edgson
Outsmart Endometriosis - Dr Jessica Drummond
It Takes Tits series two will begin in January 2022 for your dose of bravery talk to help you kickstart the week off right. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.
In this episode, Beth speaks to Calandra Balfour about sex. As an entrepreneur, Calandra’s achievements are vast. A successful Therepeutic Coach, Wellness Expert and Sex Educator, the Owner of the Adult Retailer, Lust and having appeared on Channel 4’s ‘A Very British Sex Shop’, Beth asks Calandra about why she thinks sex is still taboo, what makes for a healthy sex life (the answers might suprpsie you!) and how to bring more fun into your life.
This one is not for the faint-hearted. We cover everything from masturbation and vaginal dryness to communication, smashing the patricarchy and her best selling sex toys, as well as exploring topics such as:
- Shame around sex and self care “You wouldn’t talk to a friend like that so why do you talk like that to yourself”
- Acceptance around talking about sex “it really is a journey”
- Communicating with your partner “fear of rejection”
- Important areas to discuss and what makes for a good sex life “respect and lube”
- Calandra’s best selling sex toys at Lust
Plus there’s your It Takes Tits power roundup at the end to help you get your own show on the road…
Well, this is a podcast championing courage and breaking taboo...Enjoy.
Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
For anyone who has any questions, please contact Calandra on one of the ways below:
http://lust.co.uk
http://brightondungeon
http://calandrabalfour.com
Calandra’s therapeutic coaching website http://risktolive.com
instagram.com/calandrabalfour
twitter.com/calandrabalfour
It Takes Tits series one will be available fortnightly every Monday for your dose of bravery talk to help you kickstart the week off right. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.
This week on It Takes Tits, Bethanie chats to Holistic Relationship Coach, DIVA Magazine columnist and Channel 5 Presenter Ali Hendry. Ali applies psychology and her intuitive interest in human behaviour to coach people who are struggling with a life challenge.
Being catapulted into a whole new world of dating in her 40s and post divorce, Beth discusses dating don’ts and debasing yourself (or not), she asks the question, ‘why is it so hard to just be who we truly are?’ and digs deep and dishes the dirt with Ali, and reveals some truly lovely news of her own...
From relationships, divorce and identities to dating, sex and love, Beth chats to Ali about dating in the modern-day virtual world, including:
- What drives her to work as a holistic coach “helping people help themselves”
- Finding confidence “trusting you path”
- Advice for building your dating profile “put your love language on your profile”
- Nurturing relationships “It’s constantly changing, like water”
- Opening up conversations “try to separate the practical from emotional”
- Feeling a desire to meet the right person “if I look at what I want I will attract it”, “let go of the when”
- And finally, self-care “BOOK THE BLOODY MASSAGE”
Plus there’s your It Takes Tits power roundup at the end to help you get your own show on the road…
Follow Beth on social media: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Where to find Ali:
www.alihendry.co.uk
Instagram: alihendrycoaching
YouTube: alihendrycoaching
TikTok: alihendrycoaching
Twitter: ali_hendry
Clubhouse: ali_hendry
Referred to:
Free relationship values exercise: https://alihendry.co.uk/contact/
Live coaching sessions: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/live-relationship-coaching-with-ali-hendry-tickets-169590185811?fbclid=IwAR1lm_BQwCq3qLoOiRfaUVe_rqeT4enM-YDLQH_6mweWg84fNxk5b7lk4MQ
Book: The Power of Now - https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjah5jo_t3zAhWHrO0KHT6wC6oYABASGgJkZw&ae=2&sig=AOD64_3VfKZm_NUzvz26ccAIwWK9YoDE1A&q&adurl&ved=2ahUKEwiByY3o_t3zAhUVolwKHRnUDyIQ0Qx6BAgDEAE
Get 25% off your first 1 hour coaching session with Ali by quoting ‘It Takes Tits’ or free half-hour no strings chat to see if coaching is for you you can book here - https://calendly.com/alihendrycoaching/initial-meeting
It Takes Tits series one will be available fortnightly every Monday for your dose of bravery talk to help you kickstart the week off right. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.
This week on It Takes Tits, Bethanie sits down with screenwriter, creator and freelance writer Jennifer Le Roux, whose journey of self discovery has empowered her to define her own story and know what’s good for her. From hard hitting stories of wanker employers to losing and knowing yourself, and embracing the f word, fat... Beth chats to Jen about her bravery story.
Diagnosed with ADHD in 2019, Jen talks openly about how this became a powerful self discovery, how she built her blind belief system to get shit done and when she came into power in deciding upon no more shrinking to please others.
In this episode, Beth and Jen discuss:
- Finding yourself “I was just the weird strange one that couldn’t be categorised”
- Impactful childhood years “where that bravery comes from”
- Risk taking and developing confidence “it is true, I have magical powers!” ,
- Being true to yourself “The power is in you being authentic”
- The journey of bravery “Pain led you to something better”
Follow Beth on social media: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com
Where to find Jen -
Twitter: @jenniferthered
Instagram: @jentheredbrighton
Freelance profile: www.fribe.co.uk/jenniferleroux
Website: oddcontent.co.uk
Referred to:
https://www.foraspace.com/
https://www.geniuswithin.co.uk
Escaping employment video - https://youtu.be/k6-yPRpb50w
https://www.instagram.com/jentheredbrighton/?hl=en
https://linktr.ee/jenniferthered
It Takes Tits series one will be available fortnightly every Monday for your dose of bravery talk to help you kickstart the week off right. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.
You asked, she listened. This week influencer, stylist, mentor, art director, marketer, mum and now podcaster Bethanie Lunn introduces the world to her brand new podcast: It Takes Tits. Starting with an open and honest account of her story of divorce that inspired this podcast, Beth explores themes of bravery, self-love and establishing healthy boundaries.
It Takes Tits is a podcast that seeks out and champions your inner courage, explores the definition and practice of bravery, and helps you shake off what’s holding you back, to get out of your own way, so you can ask for what you need and then go out and get it. Featuring occasional guest speakers and encouragement from Beth to have the power to become unapologetically you.
In this episode, Beth discusses:
- Her story of bravery and personal experiences that inspired her podcast launch “But, for a time, it wasn’t like this. It wasn’t like this at all.”
- An honest account of divorce in the pandemic world “I was afraid and it started to impact all areas of my life.”
- Taking control and making life changing decisions “I woke up one day and realised that I could do better, that I deserve better.”
- Defining bravery within our lives “My notion of bravery is releasing that it’s not about becoming anything, but unbecoming everything you are not, that never really was you, and in stripping it all back, you can become who you were always meant to be.”
- Top tips for bravery and taking power back “Every podcast episode will end on a power roundup - giving you my key take-aways to champion your own bravery - whatever that means to you.”
Bethanie Lunn has 20 years experience in styling, art direction, brand marketing and communications – successfully bringing out the best in people, brands and businesses. Her decades of experience in working with people on both personal and professional levels, and her deep passion and desire to help others, has led her to becoming a mentor to those seeking guidance and solutions they need support in finding.
Subscribe to It Takes Tits wherever you get your podcast. Series one will be available fortnightly every Monday for your dose of bravery talk to help you start the week off right.
Follow Beth on social media: @bethanielunn
https://www.bethanielunn.com