ABOVE THE FRAY: Recent Episodes
David & Rosie
"Above the Fray" is a podcast where we want to encourage and challenge our listeners to find out how to live "freely and lightly" above the fray of the muck and mire of this world. From adulting advice to proactive parental principals and marriage matters, if you're ready to cut the cord on craziness, disentangle from the drama, and pursue peace, then join us on this ride! God bless you!
This podcast is taken directly from a post that we shared on our Instagram - @livingabovethefray. We got tons of feedback about the post, most super positive but for some, it really hit a nerve. The overarching theme is this, "Your pre-married sex lifeis ruining your married sex life and it’s way deeper than body counts."
Everyone has a past- a pre-marriage self - that did things and thought things that have affected their marriage. The good news is, that no matter your past, your sex life can be redeemed andreclaimed and you can find freedom!
Let us know your thoughts!
David & Rosie
Is your spouse your #1 priority? Are you giving them your most intimate self or are you holding back from your spouse?
In this episode, we talk about the importance of giving your most intimate self to your spouse. See below for the points that we cover.
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Give your best and most intimate self to your spouse.
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Intimacy is created beyond the bedroom.
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When a man and woman connect emotionally, it creates a bond that can spill over into physical desire.
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Resist girlfriend or boyfriend advice and seek God in prayer rather than breaking intimacy and oneness with your spouse.
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This is the caution we Must have in marriage. Our deepest heart longings and concerns should be worked out with your spouse, or you can unknowingly cross the line.
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Before sin entered the world, God had a design of oneness of God and man (that we love Him with everything and have no other gods) and a oneness between the man and his woman.
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Be on guard to protect your marriage from all the flaming arrows of the evil one. No one starts a marriage and says one day I will trade this one for another one.
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God bless you,
David & Rosie
The battle to pervert children's minds and tender hearts is in full throttle and we must do everything in our power to protect the innocence of our children. Innocence once lost, is gone forever.
In this episode, we give you tips on how to protect the innocence of your children - what to watch out for and how to be proactive.
42 “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea. Mark 9:42
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God bless you,
David & Rosie
The day will come when you can't soothe the aches and pains your kids will feel. Teach them how to pray.
On this week's podcast, we give you practical tips to teach your kids how to pray.
13 Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise.
James 5:13
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God bless you,
David & Rosie
As parents, we are responsible for setting an example of how to act during a crisis. Our children are watching us and looking for cues on how to act, think, and respond when things go south. What are you modeling for them? Anger, rage, fear, irritability, instability?
Don’t abandon the ship in a storm. Take the helm and lead your family with courage and guts, pointing them to Jesus, the Rock in the midst of life's storms.
Matthew 7:24-25
24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.
God bless,
David & Rosie
Have you ever stopped to ask, “Where is my family heading?” or, “Where do I see my family in the next few years and how are we going to get there?” Hoping our family/ kids turn out a certain way is great, but setting goals that we can strive for is even more important. These goals help us to focus on what is most important and give us a benchmark to strive towards.
In this podcast, we talk about how setting goals for our family helps us to live above the fray. We give you tips and ideas from our own family and from our own marriage. Check it out and let us know what you think! You can get additional content on our Above the Fray social media sites:
God bless,
David & Rosie
In this episode, we take a look at, "Torch," a new book that David wrote that launches January 25th! We take a behind-the-scenes peek at the inspiration and themes of the book along with some of the Biblical lessons woven into the story. Check out the podcast for an overview of the book. You can pre-order a copy of the book right now by heading to https://www.thetorchbook.com/
God bless,
David & Rosie
What values do you hold most dear? What are the non-negotiable principles that you are modeling to your children every day? How do these values feed the fray or propel you to live above the fray?
What is your family mission statement? What are the top one, two, or three values you want your kids to leave home with? In this episode, we encourage you to evaluate and articulate what values you are communicating to your children and how those values compare to what the Bible stresses as important.
Check it out and let us know what you think!
God Bless You,
David & Rosie
Children can make our lives so full and rewarding but if we're not careful, we can disrupt the peace and balance of our home by not teaching them where their place is.
- Are your kids running the show?
- Are they respectful to you and other adults?
- Do you have trouble saying 'No'?
- Are your children driving a wedge in your relationship with your spouse?
In this episode, we'll be talking about discipline, respect, and valuing your spouse above your kids.
Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode. Also, check out our social media for more content:
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God bless,
David & Rosie
Do you struggle with keeping your schedule straight? Is family organization lacking? Are you worn out from constantly feeling behind? On this week's, podcast we'll be talking about tips to help you with organization and scheduling.
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God bless you,
David and Rosie
In the helter-skelter pace of our culture, consistently sitting down for a family meal gets put on the back burner even though study after study shows how valuable gathering around the dinner table is for the health of a family. Whether it's improving communication, cutting down on expenses, or lowering the teen pregnancy rate, the positive effects of a consistent family mealtime are numerous.
In this episode, we talk about the positive outcomes of mealtimes and what this has to do with living above the fray.
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God bless you,
David & Rosie
You ever have a song that lays you out? A song that just hits differently? We came across such a song called, "House of Their Dreams" by Casting Crowns and the lyrics blew us away. It's a song that tells of a family that has been ravaged by "the fray" and now the marriage is a wreck and the children are all but strangers.
In this week's podcast, we share the lyrics of this song along with the hope that we have for our families when we build our lives on the rock of Christ. Below are the lyrics and the title of the song is hyperlinked to the music video.
"HOUSE OF THEIR DREAMS"
Casting Crowns (Mark Hall)
A corner office was his dream
More like a prison now it seems
Somewhere on the corporate climb
He left his warrior behind
Now he's just a worker at a daily grind
Steals his years and numbs his mind
His strength is fading, his dreams are blind
This is not the life he had in mind
She lies awake cause he's up all night
Staring at a screen that tells him lies
That the grass is greener on the other side
So she's at the gym fighting off the years
To be young again and calm her fears
That shell never be enough for him
Just as a young man catches her eye
Now they're trapped in their own worlds, in their own wars
With their cell phones and the closed doors
It's funny how quiet and peaceful that it seems
But they're all alone together
In the house of their dreams
Little sister, she's a sixteen-year-old princess
Lost somewhere between the swing set
And her brand new crushs' chariot awaits
And big brothers rooms glowing with trophies that shout his name
But he'd trade all his high school fame
For some backyard catch with his hero again
Now they're trapped in their own worlds, in their own wars
With their cell phones and the closed doors
It's funny how quiet and peaceful that it seems
But they're all alone together
In the house of their dreams
So now they're all dressed up in Sunday best
Sit up straight just like the rest
And they sing the songs of peace and rest that Jesus freely gives
And then their kids look up as daddy stands
And he takes his bride with trembling hands
Brother kneels at his father's side as princess looks in the mother's eyes
Their tears tear down the walls as daddy prays
We're trapped in our own worlds and our own wars
With our cell phones and our closed doors
God, only You can save our family
And on this Rock, well build
On this Rock, well build
The house of our dreams
We've spent a lot of time discussing the "fray" in previous episodes, so in this podcast, we want to give you 5 PRACTICAL TIPS for living above the fray. Here's a sneak peek:
- Spend time reading and knowing the Bible.
- Evaluate what keeps you in the fray.
- Change your thinking and your attitude.
- Begin to change your habits.
- Live intentionally.
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God Bless,
David & Rosie
In last week's podcast, we talked about things that stress us out and some root causes for that stress. In this week's podcast, we give you some tips for dealing with stress (anxiety, fear, etc.) Biblically as well give you insight into how we deal with stress in our own marriage. So, grab a pen and paper and get ready to learn about living freely and lightly by dealing with the stress that weighs us down.
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God Bless,
David & Rosie
Stress, we all experience it. From major stresses like health issues and relationship turmoil to minor (or not so minor) stresses like kids arguing, and stains on your favorite blouse, we all have to deal with stress. How we deal with stress though is the key to living freely and lightly - above the fray.
In this podcast, we'll be talking about some of the things that stress us out and why, along with answering the question, "Is all stress bad?". In Part II we'll take a deeper dive into how to handle stress Biblically.
Check it out and let us know what you think!
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God Bless,
David & Rosie
With Christian holidays becoming increasingly secularized it's easy to allow Jesus to take a back seat. When that happens, we are destined to end up in 'the fray.' From overindulgence to pride and selfishness, to arguments, to flat out not recognizing Jesus, the fray distracts us from what's most important. Here's two questions to consider:
- What Easter traditions do you have?
- Do they focus on Jesus or are they all about the bunny?
In this episode we talk about family holiday traditions, especially around Easter, and how we can develop memory making, God glorifying traditions in our homes. Let us know what you think!
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God bless,
David & Rosie
Hi everyone! We had the privilege of speaking at a Christian sorority retreat this past weekend. The theme of the retreat was, "Redeemed" and this week's podcast is taken from a workshop that we presented to the young ladies entitled, "Redeeming Marriage." This podcast is fantastic for those who are currently married or for those not quite ready - high school and college students. Grab a pen and paper as we will share some valuable tips on redeeming marriage.
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God Bless,
David & Rosie
Nurturing kids to be empathetic human beings is vitally important in today's ever-callous world. How our children view people who are different than them - people with special needs, the elder, the homeless, etc - speaks to the kind of home they're being raised in.
In this week's episode, we share a few tips about how to nurture empathy with your kids as well as share our story about having a child with Down Syndrome. Finally, we challenge you to think about above the fray when God throws us curveballs.
Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram or our new Facebook page.
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God bless,
David and Rosie
The spiritual health of a family can be evaluated by its prayer life. Regular, consistent times of prayer not only bring us together as a family but also help us to live above the fray!
In this week's episode, we talk about the importance of family prayer time and include tips for incorporating prayer into your family routine. We also talk about what prayer looks like in our own family.
Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram or our new Facebook page.
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God Bless,
David & Rosie
When you think about 'living above the fray,' worship may not be the first thing that pops into your head. So why bring it up? Because worship should be at the core of who we are and what we do as Christians.
In this week's episode we talk about the importance of worship, family Worship in particular, in helping us 'live above the fray,' tips for incorporating worship into your marriage, and things that we do to an atmosphere of worship in our own family.
Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram or our new Facebook page.
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God bless,
David & Rosie
Drama. It's a part of life. And there are two main types of drama that we deal with.
1) UNEXPECTED DRAMA, the kind that's unavoidable.
2) INTENTIONAL, SELF-INDUCED DRAMA, the kind that we welcome into our lives/homes. Negative drama, whether intentional or not, can have catastrophic effects on the peace that we so desperately desire. And that's just the beginning!
In this week's podcast, we address the intentional, self-inflicted negative/toxic drama that we willingly allow into our lives and its tragic consequences. Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram.
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God bless,
David and Rosie
"What's love got to do with it?" was the question that legendary singer, Tina Turner, asked in her song with the same title. Around this time of the year, Valentine's Day, you may be wondering the same thing. Even if you are married, maybe love seems elusive.
In this week's podcast, a Special Valentines Day episode, we talk about keeping the flame of love burning brightly, dish out advice for those looking for love, and have a bunch of fun along the way! Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram.
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God Bless,
David & Rosie
Have you ever been party to unfair expectations? Maybe it was a parent or a coach or a friend who thought you didn't measure up totheirstandards in certain areas. It could be in sports, academics, relationships, etc. Unfair, unrealistic expectations can keep us bogged down in the emotional mire of the fray whether we're on the giving or receiving end of them.
In this week's podcast, we address the unfair expectations we have of others, namely our children, spouses, and church leaders/other Christians. Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram.
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God bless you,
David and Rosie
Expectations, we all have them, about ourselves, children, spouses, God, circumstances, the list is endless. What happens when our expectations, though, are unfair, unrealistic, and unrealized? This two-part podcast aims to address how you and I deal with unfair expectations. In this week's podcast we address how individually, unfair expectations can drag us into the fray emotionally and spiritually. Next week we will talk about the unfair expectations we have of others, namely our children and spouses. Give it a listen and let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram.
@above_the_fray_david_and_rosie
God bless you,
David and Rosie
We're excited to share with you OUR story on this podcast. Being in an interracial couple, people ask us all the time how we met and what our families and friend's reactions were. What you'll hear, though, is bigger than the color of skin, our race, and our upbringing. It's a God-sized story where He's the hero and we get to trust Him through the process of discerning His will and falling in loving each other. He teaches us how to live freely and lightly in His grace by showing grace to those who mistreat us. "Only God" could orchestrate our story. Only God.
God bless you,
David and Rosie
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We don't have to tell you that life is crazy busy! And in those busy times, it's easy to lose sight of what and who matter most. Does that ever happen to you? Woosh! Life is careening by at a million miles an hour! Days, weeks, months, and in some cases, years go by and we look back and wonder what happened. Our babies aren't babies anymore. We're not newlyweds anymore. Poof! Where did it go and how do you seize precious moments? In this episode, David shares how his parents modeled the importance of investing in people and not things as well as the extreme value of being present in our kid's lives. Let us know what you think about this episode by I.M.ing us on Instagram.
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God bless you!
David & Rosie
When you're ready for something different, when you're ready to live above the fray, peace and joy are soon to follow!
We all have a past but is our past keeping us in the fray? Is it holding us down and holding us back? Is it wearing us out? Making us exhausted? In this episode, Rosie shares about growing up in a BIG family and how her past has shaped her present understanding of "living above the fray." If you like what you hear, share this on your social media and let us know. I.M. us on Instagram as well as see what life is like with our awesomely fun family!
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God bless you!
Dave & Rosie
EPISODE 1- Introduction
Hi, we're David and Rosie White and, at the urging of family and friends, we're finally launching a podcast! The name of the podcast is, "Above the Fray" and we want to encourage and challenge our listeners to find out how to live "freely and lightly" above the fray of the muck and mire of this world. From adulting advice to proactive parental principals and marriage matters, if you're ready to cut the cord on craziness, disentangle from the drama, and pursue peace, then join us on this ride! God bless you!
David & Rosie