Confessions of a Pastor’s Kid: Recent Episodes
Fresca Chavez
{Confessing my not so innocent secrets as a pastor’s daughter growing up in church.}
Did you grow up in church? Are you questioning the faith, traditions, and values that were instilled upon you as a child? Or maybe later as an adult? If so, then this podcast is for you. Come along with me on my journey as I deconstruct my faith as a pastor’s kid in the evangelical church, and decolonize my faith as an asian-filipino-american.
In this episode, I had the honor and privilege of interviewing Eugene Kim who is a former pastor of over 20 years. He talks about growing up Korean American, what led him to becoming a pastor, and why he stepped down from his position. We also explore what is a “successful church” in this decade and talks about his new endeavor called New Wine Collective.
In this episode, I interview Sharon Kwon who grew up as a Pastor's kid in a Korean American church. She talks about reconciling with her Korean identity, growing up with strict religious parents, and finding her own faith. Sharon is now a therapist, working with immigrant families and people with religious trauma.
I hope you enjoy hearing our candid and fun conversation as two kindred hearts, about healing from our past as pastor's daughters.
Notable Quotes:
"with therapy, you're getting agency, it's more [about] empowering you, the client, to make these decisions, to take these actions, instead of...waiting for God to make things better".
Follow Sharon Kwon at:
Instagram @talkwithsharon
Website: sharonkwon.com
Practice: yellowchaircollective.com
Follow Me at:
Instagram @confessionsofapastorskid_
Email: confessionsofapastorskid08@gmail.com
In this episode, I talk with Hannah from @endlesswanderer on Instagram where she shares her story as a Transracial adoptee from china, raised by white parents, and also as a pastor's kid in a southern baptist church. She now works as a social worker in New York City and shares her hopes and vision for future adoptees.
Notable Quotes:
"Raised in a mentality that I'm basically white does more damage to me"
"Sometimes justice and missions don't mix, they don't go together"
"Communities don't need more people to help. They need resources"
Contact me:
Email: confessionsofapastorskid08@gmail.com
Instagram: @confessionsofapastorskid_
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Confessionsofapastorskid
In this episode, I review the Netflix Christian musical called, “A Week Away”. Spoiler Alert. If you haven’t seen it yet & want to, come back after you’ve seen the movie to listen to my conflicting thoughts of this advertised Christian musical. Contact: Instagram @confessionsofapastorskid_ or email confessionsofapastorskid08@gmail.com
In this episode, I interview Frances, aka The Modern Life Coach in her story of growing up in the Philippines as a catholic school girl to becoming a sex and relationships coach in Canada. She talks about her rigid upbringing, her first tinder date that went bad, and how she overcame her past trauma and conditioning which led to her own sexual liberation. You can reach Frances on Instagram @themodernlifecoach (previously _lifewithfran) or email themodernlifecoach@gmail.com Quotes: "I came out of a value system where I was suppose to give selflessly to others before even acknowledging what I needed" "If I'm going to have sex with the same person the rest of my life, I want it to be good" "This journey to sexual liberation is so important to me because sexuality can be connected to spirituality"
Episode Timeline: [02:23] How I grew up [13:57] Why I’m starting this podcast [15:27] Definition of Deconstructing Faith [16:23] Definition of Decolonizing Faith
Key Takeaways: -Growing up in church didn’t give me the choice to choose this faith. -Reading my bible and praying didn’t help me overcome post-partum depression. -I’m on a journey to own my faith or walk away. -It’s all about the journey, not the destination.
Quotes: “If there was this god-shaped hole in me, then why wasn’t God filling it?” “I struggled to measure up to the expectations my parents had for me as the perfect christian girl.”
References & Resources on Decontructing faith and Decolonizing faith:
https://thedeconstructionnetwork.com/understanding-deconstruction/ On instagram follow @phildrysdale and @joluehmann