Thriving in Fatherhood: Recent Episodes
Thriving in Fatherhood with Tully O'Connor
The Thriving in Fatherhood podcast with Tully O'Connor is here to support a generation of men to truly Thrive in their experience of Fatherhood. A new paradigm of fatherhood is being called for that is grounded in Presence, Prosperity and Integrated Masculinity.
A combination of solo episodes from Tully and interviews with leaders in their fields on the topics of: - Vitality and Embodiment - Creativity & Business - Intimacy and Relationships - The Transition in Fatherhood
MEN, Spaces for Self-Leadership Launchpad are now open
This episode is a little different with Tully in the hotseat. Tully shares more about his personal journey to becoming the father and coach that he is today and as always - there's plenty of gold nuggets for you to take away.
CONNECT WITH TULLY:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram @tullyoconnor and @thriving.in.fatherhood
Enrolments Open for Liberating Love Relationship Mastery
In this solo episode Tully deep dives into practical tools and steps you can take, right now, to start rekindling the spark and the connection in your relationship.
This is particularly important if you and your partner have been experiencing the "Intimacy Drift" that is all too common in the first few years of parenthood.
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (6 week men's program)
Applications and Scholarships are OPEN for the Mens Self-Leadership Launchpad that kicks of 6th December
This is yet another phenomenal conversation with the man Nick Perry. He's a devoted father and partner while also supporting a lot of humans to explore their potential and find deep purpose through his work as a coach.
Nick has a sharp intellect and powerful way of grounding potentially complex topics in simple and relatable ways. We talk a lot about cultivating presence and Nick shares a really vulnerable example of how he took responsibility for processing his emotions in a healthy way.
Connect with Nick:
Website: https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/
Instagram: @rhythmhealth
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (6 week men's program)
Enrolments for the next intake of the Self-Leadership launchpad are now open. Click here to apply
Your Reactivity is Your Responsibility.
In this short solo episode Tully dives into the 5 steps to working with your reactivity (defensiveness lashing out, shutting down, procrastination etc,) so it has less of a hold on you and less of a negative impact on those around you.
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (6 week men's program)
Applications currently open for my Men’s Self-Leadership Launchpad
Logan Donnelly is, as he puts it, a Dad in training. In this convo Logan openly talks about overcoming challenges with mental health, fertility and a very challenging start to fatherhood.
Logans experience, and the distinct lack of support/resources for dads that he noticed, prompted him to start his instagram page @_kiwidad where he shares open and very relatable content about the challenges and joys of modern fatherhood.
Main talking points:
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Where is Logan at in his fatherhood?
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Navigating fertility and “manliness”
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Relationship after the fertility journey
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PPD in men
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Having a second child
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Finding support
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What made Logan get help?
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Finding the right balance
Connect with Logan on Instagram
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (10 week men's program)
Applications currently open for Men’s Self-Leadership Launchpad
Matt is the co-founder of Grounded Traditions, an organisation that supports young kids to cultivate a deep connection to Nature & Self through their Holistic Education programs. With a focus on Nature Immersion and Ancestral Crafts and Handworks, Grounded traditions provide developmentally practical programs that support the WHOLE child - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Main talking points:
- Grounded Traditions
- How did his work get started?
- Philosophy and Approach
- It takes a village…
- Acknowledging kids capabilities while setting boundaries
- Ceremonial Ritual
- Handcrafts
- What is Matt excited about moving forward with Grounded Traditions?
Connect with Matt on Instagram
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (10 week men's program)
Early enrolments for Liberating Love Relationship Mastery are now open
Today’s guest, Melissa Vranjes, is a Certified Holistic Sex Coach from New Zealand, who passionately advocates for female sexuality as a source of liberation and vitality. Inspired by a pivotal workshop in Bali, she recognised the need for a more holistic approach to sex, leading her to train with leading sexologists, tantra practitioners and sex educators around the globe.
I love Melissa’s work because it makes potentially complex topics very accessible and she offers practical and actionable tools and advice. She’s also a mother so has personally traversed the intimacy hurdles that can come with pregnancy and the post partum period. This is why I invited her to be one of the incredible guest experts within the Liberating Love program.
Main talking points:
- How is motherhood?
- Creating intimate connections postpartum
- Navigating differences in libido and sex
- Cultivating desire
- Bringing play into sex
- Changes in the body and how to navigate those
- Common challenges for parents
- Why the heart holds the source of more pleasure
Connect with Melissa on facebook, instagram and tiktok.
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (10 week men's program)
Early Enrolments currently open for Men’s Self-Leadership Launchpad
If you want to create lasting change and habits that stick - you need to marry the deeper inner work with practical execution. In this short episode Tully focuses on the latter. In his extensive work with men he’s seen this is actually where a lot of guys fall down. Doing. The. Thing. Why? Listen to the episode.
We hope this one lands for you.
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (10 week men's program)
Early Enrolments currently open for Men’s Self-Leadership Launchpad
Ross Blake is a committed father of three boys. He’s a Performance Coach focussed on the three pillars of Strength & Fitness, Relationships and Leadership. He blends his 20 years of personal and professional experience in the strength and conditioning world with his depth of experience exploring our emotional agility and relational proficiency.He has a great ability to integrate all the different aspects of “high performance” in an easily digestible and, more importantly, actionable way.
This was a great conversation, enjoy!
Talking Points:
- Where Ross is at in his fatherhood journey?
- Hard times and challenges are a good thing
- Relational Masculinity
- Culture of the family; discussion of values and processes
- Leading edge, bleeding edge
- Strong back, soft front
- Different seasons
- Micro-moments
Connect with Ross on Instagram
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Want to work with Tully? Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (10 week men's program)
Welcome back to Thriving in Fatherhood!It’s been a little while between drinks. In this short episode Tully dive’s into the importance of acknowledging the season that we are in and maintaining awareness of that while we make decisions and navigate challenging times.
Episode Highlights:
- What season is Tully in?
- Naming and acknowledging the season were in.
- Micro-seasons and the importance of them.
- Anticipating the season that is coming.
- Dealing with challenging seasons.
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery Program
- Self Leadership Launchpad
Connect with Tully:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Want to work with Tully? Check out:
- Liberating Love Relationship Mastery (4 month couples program)
- Self-Leadership Launchpad (10 week men's program)
In this short solocast Tully gives an overview as to what these deeply transformational experiences entail and some common questions from men considering diving into one.
Find all details about upcoming events and programs at www.tullyoconnor.com
THE ARENA MENS IMMERSION on the Sunshine Coast - March 9th - March 12th. Men, apply now for this transformational exerience.
In this episode I chat with Brett 'Robbo' Robinson. Robbo is a husband, father of two and an all round legend. Robbo is a Mindset and Performance Coach, Wellbeing Educator, Popular Podcaster and Optimistic Lover of Life. He uses his experience in performance and health optimisation to guide ambitious men looking to step up and take on their next mountain in life.
Some main points from this podcast:
- Where Robbo is at in his fatherhood journey
- How anger and shame show up and how to work with them with the “Triple A” method.
- Robbo’s background in high performance sport that led to high performance coaching.
- Moving through family trauma and grief.
- Using big challenges as growth opportunities.
- View fatherhood through the lens of high-performance
- The MOST important practice to bring into your life.
- What does “Thriving in Fatherhood” really mean?
- Acknowledging and appreciating the sessions of life.
- Some solid relationship foundations
CONNECT WITH TULLY:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram @tullyoconnor and @thriving.in.fatherhood
CONNECT WITH ROBBO:
Website: https://www.brettrobbo.com/
Instagram: @brettrobbocoach
Join us for LIBERATING LOVE RELATIONSHIP MASTERY starting 7th Feb.
In this solo cast I explore the concept of Recession-proofing your relationship and how to not only survive stressful experiences but come out even stronger on the other side of them.
CONNECT WITH TULLY:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram @tullyoconnor and @liberating_love
If you’re a man wanting to start 2023 strong then head over and apply for one of the remaining spots for the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program, which kicks of Jan 22nd.
It’s always great to sit down with my brother-from-another-mother Nick Perry and this time was no different. We cover a lot of good ground on the topic of Dad-Bod, body shame in men and vitality for new dads. Enjoy!
CONNECT WITH NICK
Website: https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/
Instagram: @rhythmhealth
CONNECT WITH TULLY:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram @tullyoconnor and @thriving.in.fatherhood
Celebrating the launch of Liberating Love - follow @liberating_love on instagram for some game changing relationship content
I loved this free-flowing conversation with Jack. He’s a deep thinker with a lot of wisdom and clearly embodies the work that he does in the world.
Jack is a facilitator, guide and mens mentor, his belief is that at our core we hold an innate wisdom, an ability to know ourselves deeply and truely. This Self energy is when we are most in alignment, from this space there is a real sense of magic and wonder that can happen.
Through the use of internal family systems, nervous system regulation and some trust in the mystery of life he works to support men in finding a place where they are themselves and simply comfortable with that.
Some of the themes discussed in this conversation:
How “the provider” get activated when we become fathers and the impact this can have if we’re not aware of it.
The importance of learning how to create safety.
The culture of “needing to be better/fix ourselves” the self development world can can create.
Common hurdles new dads can face.
The number one thing required to deepen and maintain your relationship after kids.
CONNECT WITH JACK
Website: wildmanwellness.com.au
Instagram: @wildman_wellness
CONNECT WITH TULLY:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram @tullyoconnor and @thriving.in.fatherhood
Register for my FREE TRAINING on the 4 key pillars to cultivate AND maintain a connected, secure and intimate relationship.
Early Enrolments open for the IMLP - my signature men's self-leadership program.
This was the second time my good friend Cam Fraser who Australia’s leading Men's Sex Coach, as well as a Relationship Counsellor, Sexologist and Tantric Yoga Teacher has been on the podcast.
The first time was about a year ago where I interviewed him. This episode is more of an extended dialogue back and forth where we cover A LOT of ground:
- Conscious conception and miscarriage
- The birthing process and trauma
- Toddlerdom and intimacy
- Expectations about sex
- Support for families
- Values and communication
Connect with Cam:
Website: https://www.cam-fraser.com/
Instagram: @thecamfraser
Share this episode and leave us a review, all the support is massively appreciated!
CONNECT WITH US
www.tullyoconnor.com
Insta: @tullyoconnor and @thriving.in.fatherhood
Enrolments open soon - Join the waitlist for the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program, which kicks off in January 2023.
Mutually supportive relationships provide so much for the people in those relationships and the people around them.
In this solocast I dive into 4 things you can do to expand the level of support you are providing and receiving in your relationship.
These are skills you can learn quickly and tools you can implement TODAY.
Connect with me:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor @thriving.in.fatherhood
Next intake for the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program STARTS Sunday 2nd October. Enrolments for the IMLP are open now - Head to the link below for all the details and to book a Clarity Call with Tully to see if this is the right fit for you: https://www.tullyoconnor.com/intergrated-masculine-leadership
Luke Smith is a devoted father, partner and Breathwork Facilitator. In this episode we cover a number of important topics for new fathers.
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How birth can be traumatic as a support person and how to integrate that.
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Taking radical responsibility for our vitality and self leadership.
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The root cause of a lot of relationship struggles after becoming parents.
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So much more
Connect with me:
www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Connect with Luke:
Instagram: @luke__smith
An important topic to be discussing! There's a lot of resistance for men to reach out and get support and the truth is, it's hurting them and it's hurting those that they love. I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic and this episode - message me on instagram @tullyoconnor
If you're ready to link arms with a like-minded and like-hearted group of men to up-level your self leadership - join us for this round of the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program. We start October 2nd. https://www.tullyoconnor.com/intergrated-masculine-leadership
Applications for the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program are open now! Head to the link below for all the details and to apply for your spot:
https://www.tullyoconnor.com/intergrated-masculine-leadership
In this conversation with Nick Perry we dive into all things embracing Fatherhood as a spiritual, creating space for nothing, taking responsibility while also letting go of control, inner child work and what it takes to deepen the level of trust in ourselves.
You’re going to enjoy this one.
Connect with me:
www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
Connect with Nick:
https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/
Instagram: @rhythmhealth
In this solocast Tully dives into a few topics that are VITAL for new parents to be aware of.
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The Intimacy Drift in Parenthood
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Building "the village'
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The Art of Selfless Selfishness
Share this episode with a parent you know would benefit from it!
Connect:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor @presentfatherproject
My flagship mens program - The Integrated Masculine Leadership Program - is open for applications for the next week!
Visit https://www.tullyoconnor.com/intergrated-masculine-leadership to see al the details and apply.
In this conversation with Seth we pull the curtains back and give a clear insight in to what the program entails and why the men who decide to step in get such transformational results.
Seth has been a participant of the program and has also been on the leadership team holding space for a pod so he offers a really unique insights.
Applications for Integrated Masculine Leadership Program 3.0 are open NOW. Find details and apply at https://www.tullyoconnor.com/intergrated-masculine-leadership
This episode of the “Men and Birth” series of the podcast is with Seth Westhead.
Seth is a passionate Father to Rumi and Partner to Genevieve. He is driven by the deep desire to be the best father, partner and man he can be for himself, his family and the community.
For the last 10 years he has been dedicated to self exploration, personal development and embodiment, and describes Fatherhood as being the most powerful catalyst for change along his journey.
With family connections to the Awabakal (AWAH-BA-COOL) and Wiradjuri (WI-RAD-JURY) Nations of NSW, Seth honours his heritage by living his life in alignment with the deep wisdom and values of Indigenous knowledge systems.
Across his life Seth has worked as a youth mentor, health researcher and facilitator.
He now draws on his experience and lifestyle to provide people with the knowledge, tools and practices they need to reconnect with their inner Savage and live empowered, confident and embodied lives!
Show Highlights:
- Being honest about the fears and other emotions that can pop up with a “surprise” pregnancy.
- The power of making a clear decision and having a vision for where we want to go.
- Being willing to reach out and receive support.
- Seth’s experience supporting his partner through a homebirth and what he learned.
- The importance of creating the space to foster a deep connection with our children when they are born.
Show Notes
- Introduction
- Seth’s definition of Freedom 25:30
- Trusting yourself 36:30
- Seth’s experience with the birth 39:30
- What Seth would do differently next time 55:30
- The importance of being present after birth 69
Connect with me:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.com
Instagram: @tullyoconnor and @thriving.in.fatherhood
Connect with Seth:
Instagram: @s_westhead
Podcast: Sentient Savage Podcast
Join the waitlist for the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program - next intake opening for enrolment in a few weeks.
Connect with the Thriving in Fatherhood Community (men only) on telegram: https://t.me/+7VILF8C1IGs0MTg1
Show Notes
- Challenges with single parenthood 7min
- Process of having a healthy co-parent 11min
- Getting to know his son Atlas 16:15
- What change once Alex started to receive more support 29:30
- Tools for helping with co parenting 34:50
- Biggest patterns that fathers have 45:40
Join the waitlist for the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program - next intake opening for enrolment in a few weeks.
In this episode of Thriving in Fatherhood we cover:
- The mindset for moving beyond the construct of trading time for money.
- Why it’s important to “get your house in order” financially.
- The importance of accessing your creative potential when it comes to money and wealth generation.
- Powerful tips for creating financial harmony in relationship even if your money blueprints are different.
- A snapshot of the current state of affairs and why it’s so important to focus on what you CAN control.
- Some powerful and practical tools you can action straight away to start improving your relationship with money.
Connect with Brendan:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deza09
Free Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/756030028172329
Connect with the Thriving in Fatherhood Community (men only) on telegram: https://t.me/+7VILF8C1IGs0MTg1
New Title, New Branding, New (re-invigorated) Intention.
The Thriving in Fatherhood Podcast is dedicated to supporting the men who are committed to Thriving in their experience of Fatherhood and building a legacy they're proud of.
It will offer powerful conversations and solo casts diving into the pillars of:
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Vitality & Embodiment
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Conscious Relating
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Creativity and Business
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The Transition into Fatherhood
Join the community: https://t.me/+7VILF8C1IGs0MTg1
IMLP Enrolments Open Now! See details and claim your spot here
This was a solid conversation with a lot of grounded and practical insights shared. I love the power of Jordan’s simple approach optimising vitality and to life in general.
Jordan Potts went from depressed and nearly dead to living life on his terms. A brand new father navigating parenthood, relationships, business and a fulfilling personal life. As the creator of Exalto Holistic Hub he has a passion for all things health and wellness and integrating this into his role as a father.
Timestamps:
Jordan Show notes:
5:55 Transition to fatherhood
13min Working with fears
19min Using breath to be with fear
34:50 Highlights of parenthood so far
Connect with Jordan:
Instagram: @jordanpotts_ and @exalto_holistichub
Connect with Us:
Instagram: @tullyoconnor and @presentfatherproject
Themes: Communication, Relationship, Conflict Resolution, Intimacy
Join us in the IMLP to launch into 2022: https://katandtully.podia.com/integrated-masculine-leadership-program2
Episode Summary:
This conversation with my brother Fish was powerful and I’m confident you’re going to gain some life changing tools and distinctions from it.
Fish is a heart coach, yoga teacher and transformational facilitator based in Australia and working internationally.
He has supported individuals, couples and teams to deepen trust, connection and understanding in the face of conflict, complexity and change since 2008.
Fish is one of the few practitioners I trust when it comes to resolving relational conflict and in this episode he shares some insights that will help you become masterful in this skillset.
Time Stamps:
Intro: 7min
Relationships: 20min
Where to start the conversations with your partner: 39min
Normalising life 57min
Forgiveness 85:45
Connect with Fish:
www.leadbyheart.com
Instagram: @james_fish_gill
Connect with me @tullyoconnor and @presentfatherproject
Learn more and apply now for your spot in the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program 2022:
This was a ripper of a conversation with my good friend Cam Fraser who Australia’s leading Men's Sex Coach, as well as a Relationship Counsellor, Sexologist and Tantric Yoga Teacher.
Cam speaks on topics such as sex and relationships by drawing from a depth of relatable life experiences. From relationships to intimacy to sex to masculinity, Cam comfortably brings a new, unique and professional perspective to these discussions.
What you’ll hear in this conversation:
- Cam’s recent transition into fatherhood and the personal challenges with Sex and Intimacy that he navigated with his partner.
- Common challenges he helps men navigate with sex and incitmacy, especially during the transition into fatherhood.
- How redefining intimacy can be a GAME CHANGER for your relationship.
- How we connect with our partner is what we model to our children from a VERY early age.
- Some EPIC tools and strategies to navigate potentially difficult conversations around sex and intimacy.
- Acknowledging and honouring the changes that take place in our partner (and ourselves) when it comes to sex and pleasure and the transition into parenthood.
- Some simple ways to enhance the sexual polarity within your relationship.
Time Stamps:
- 5min How Cam has been
- 12min Tool that Cam implemented
- 20:50min What Cam noticed changed in transition to fatherhood
- 33:50min Cultivate Intimacy
- 54min Giving permission to change
- 55min Family member role, no sexual spark
Resources shared in this episode:
-- Book: Love in the Time of Colic: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Time-Colic-Parents-Getting/dp/0061465127
-- Activity: “Yes, No, Maybe”: Click this Link
Connect with Cam:
Website: https://www.cam-fraser.com/
Instagram: @thecamfraser
Share this episode and leave us a review, all the support is massively appreciated!
CONNECT WITH US @tullyoconnor and @presentfatherproject
ENROLMENTS OPEN for Jan 2022 intake of the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program: https://bit.ly/integratedmasculineleadership
Nick Perry is a Holistic Lifestyle Coach who has recently made the transition into fatherhood. In this powerful conversation we covered a lot of ground:
- Nick shares his experience during the birth of his son Sol.
- The most powerful peace of preparation that supported Nick in his ability to hold space for his partner Juliet during the birth experience.
- Navigating the challenges of new parenthood.
- Some unconventional advice around how to work through the challenge that time scarcity can present.
- The importance of doing Inner Child work as a father.
- How to step into more embodied leadership as a man and a father
- How crucial it is to play the long game and prioritise self-care (aka self respect) to maintain the vitality and clarity required to perform the role of father, partner and business owner.
Time Stamps:
- Intro
- Starts: 3:21
- The birth 6:15.
- Challenges 23:05
- Moving towards more harmony 30min
- Personal Realisations 55:30
Every time I drop in with Nick, some gold comes from it and this conversation did NOT disappoint. Enjoy!
Connect with Nick: https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/
JOIN US for the next intake of the Integrated Masculine Leadership Program:
Connect with us on instagram @presentfatherproject and @tullyoconnor
With his Queen Melinda, raising their 3 greatest adventures yet, Blase Grinner is leading men on the longest journey of their life, from their head to their heart.
His style of DIRECT coaching & teaching from what he’s implementing in his own life, has been the draw card for 1000’s of men across the planet, in Blase’s online programs, 3 Day Retreats, Workshops and various Men’s Circles
As his name suggests, he will be bringing the fire that will leave a lasting impression long after the smile leaves your face
2019 Nominee; Sunshine Coast Australia Day Award for Citizen of the year, for his dedication to ‘MENS WORK’.
In this conversation we cover:
- Blase’s journey healing his relationship with his biological father.
- Fatherhood as an archetype beyond “being a dad”.
- The importance of having good men around you.
- One key thing most leaders avoid and how it holds them back.
- The difference between vulnerability and transparency.
- Practical tips around maintaining and deepening a healthy, thriving relationship during the transition into parenthood.
Tim stamps:
Difference between dad and father 6:10
12:36 Integrating upset around biological father
21:30 Shame around mens work
35 Tuls experience with fatherhood and tools to help
43:40 Common challenges men going through transitioning into fatherhood
52:20 Vulnerability
68:10 Children pick up what we do rather than what we say
CONNECT WITH BLASE: https://blasegrinner.com/
CONNECT WITH US:
Join a group of like-minded and like-hearted men in the PFP Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1658359171033082
Connect with us on instagram:
Present Father Project: Present Father Project (@presentfatherproject) • Instagram photos and videos
Tully O'Connor: PURPOSE PRESENCE POWER (@tullyoconnor) • Instagram photos and videos
A few places remain for The Arena - Mens Leadership Immersion coming up 10th-15th October. Check out the details and inquire through this link:
https://bit.ly/TheArenaMensImmersion
In this powerful conversation with Mos, who is a father of 3 wildly beautiful children, we discuss how pivotal it was for him to dive into the self exploration and healing work in order to navigate the challenges of fatherhood.
Mos wears his heart on his sleeve and shares openly about the challenges he faced both personally and relationally during his transition into fatherhood. He shares how becoming a father opened him up to deeper connections with his culture and lineage and how learning to access a deeper level of emotional agility has been the key to cultivating a deep connection with his children and his beautiful partner Sam.
I know you’re going to enjoy this conversation.
CONNECT WITH US:
Join a group of like-minded and like-hearted men in the PFP Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1658359171033082
Connect with us on instagram:
Present Father Project: Present Father Project (@presentfatherproject) • Instagram photos and videos
Tully O'Connor: PURPOSE PRESENCE POWER (@tullyoconnor) • Instagram photos and videos
For this episode I sat down with Philippa Kelly
**Phili was our Hypno Birthing teacher and our doula for Rafi’s birth. I was excited to chat with her because she is as well as her work with women, she hugely passionate about enrolling and supporting new dads during their transition into parenthood.
She has got to look behind the curtain and witness a lot of new families be born and has a beautiful insight into some common challenges that crop up and also shares some empowering ways to navigate what can be difficult waters.**
We cover:
- The activation of “the provider” role and stress/discomfort with money.
- Male Post Partum Abandonment Syndrome
- Why so much of our “stuff” gets triggered as we transition into parenthood and how to embrace that instead of hiding from it.
- The evolution of intimacy as we transition into parenthood
- A whole lot more.
CONNECT WITH PHILI
Instagram: @philippa_kelly_
CONNECT WITH US:
Join a group of like-minded and like-hearted men in the PFP Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1658359171033082
Connect with us on instagram:
Present Father Project: Present Father Project (@presentfatherproject) • Instagram photos and videos
Tully O'Connor: PURPOSE PRESENCE POWER (@tullyoconnor) • Instagram photos and videos
#18 Intimacy in Parenthood
Intimacy in parenthood is a huge topic and it’s an important one. In today’’s episode I dive into some of the core reasons why intimacy can be challenging in parenthood and I offer some suggestions on ways we can navigate towards more connection, understanding and intimacy within our relationship.
Join us for the Integrated Masculine leadership program starting 25th July - Registrations close Sunday 18th July:
http://bit.ly/integratedmasculineleadership
CONNECT WITH US:
Join a group of like-minded and like-hearted men in the PFP Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1658359171033082
Connect with us on instagram:
Present Father Project: Present Father Project (@presentfatherproject) • Instagram photos and videos
Tully O'Connor: PURPOSE PRESENCE POWER (@tullyoconnor) • Instagram photos and videos
Join us for the Integrated Masculine leadership program starting 25th july:
http://bit.ly/integratedmasculineleadership
Host of “The Rising Man Podcast” (Top #150 in Educational Podcasts) and Creator of The Rising Man Movement, Jeddy Azuma has been in the field of Men’s Leadership and Empowerment for the past 10 years.
As a Rites of Passage Guide, Mentor and Leadership Coach, Jeddy has impacted the lives of hundreds of men on his mission to initiate an entire generation of men into power and purpose-driven service to the world.
This conversation was POWERFUL. Jeddy doesn’t hold anything back and we dive into some really raw and important topics that I KNOW a lot of men out there struggle with.
We dive into:
- Jeddy’s experience supporting his wife through two births that looked similar but FELT very different for both him and his wife.
- What contributes to an empowered birth experience.
- Navigating the pitfalls of early fatherhood
- The dark thoughts that can creep in with sleep deprivation and depletion.
- Working with shame as a father
- A whole lot more.
Show Notes:
- Journey to fatherhood 5:50
- How was postpardum 12:30
- How Jeddy is approaching the second birth 19:30 (IGTV)
- 24:55 Biggest lessons fathering his son.
- 37:50 Working with our anger
- 43:00 Self care for dads (IGTV)
- 49:00 Advice for dads leading up to birth.
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Emotional intelligence is arguably the most important skill you can develop in the 21st century. To thrive in relationships, as a parent or in a leadership position, it’s imperative that you not only deepen your own capacity for emotional self and co-regulation but you also create the space for those around you to deepen theirs.
Even in the corporate world this is becoming more commonly recognised. As the saying goes, “IQ will get you hired, EQ will get you promoted”.
It’s very common for men to develop a limited capacity when comes to emotional intelligence and their ability to recognise and communicate what is happening for them emotionally. This in itself isn’t a great thing, but the real issues start when that starts to impact their ability to connect with what is going on emotionally for those around them.
Emotional agility is essentially our ability to perceive, understand, and regulate our own and others emotions.
In this episode we dive into:
- Why exploring EQ is Important for ourselves
- Why exploring EQ is important for our relationships
- Importance for parenting. What we are uncomfortable with in ourselves we will be uncomfortable with in others
- What blocks men from developing emotional agility?
- The collective story that “logic” is more important that “emotion”.
- Reframe our view of emotions.
- Reconnecting with emotions is a body based process.
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Stuart Watkins is a dad, hubby, yoga teacher, holistic life coach and health and wellness expert offering revolutionary platforms for spiritual awakening and growth/development. Stuart is known for his inspirational and comprehensive style of teaching that incorporates both eastern spiritual technologies and western developmental techniques for psychological, physical and spiritual transformation.
Stuart has and continues to study and work with many masterful teachers that are leading the way in the wisdom traditions. Ram Dass being Stuart’s primary teacher, Stuart is grateful to have been able to spend much of his time on Maui at his teacher’s feet soaking up the great teachings. Ram Dass was one of the worlds most beloved spiritual teachers.
In this conversation we explored:
- How Stu navigated his transition into fatherhood while also navigating challenges and death within their family.
- The 3 keys that helped him come through this challenging time even stronger and more connected to himself.
- Being present with the unresolved wounds and triggers that can arise when we become parents.
- What he learnt through his mentorship with Ram Dass that help him as a father and husband
- The importance of personal practice in being able to maintain your energy, connect to your centre and truly serve the family unit.
- How to maintain connection and sexual intimacy with your partner after kids.
- Common pitfalls men can fall into when it comes to intimacy, porn and regulation of their sexual energy.
- Some words of wisdom for men stepping into the fatherhood journey.
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Website: https://stuartwatkins.org/
Instagram: @stuart_watkins_
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In honour of it being Mens Mental health week I wanted to dive into a few topics connected to that.
Some of the topics explored in this solocast:
- The importance of looking at physical and emotional health if we want to tackle “mental” health challenges.
- Reframing how we speak about mental “health” and focussing on resilience.
- The disease of disconnection and how we need to stop looking at mental health in isolation.
- The book mentioned in this podcast is Lost Connections by Johann Hari
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Men’s Coach, author, and avid stonefruit eater, Mike Campbell helps everyday men build legendary relationships; with themselves, their partners, and their world.
Mike's skills and passion sit in making personal development easy to understand, simple to implement, and motivating to execute so everyday men can better help themselves and others.
He does this with a loving heart and a firm strong hand - a flowing balance between supporting men with compassion and calling them forward to integrity.
In this episode we cover:
- Mike’s transition from accepting the idea he was never going to have children to his partner being pregnant one one later.
- Navigating pregnancy, birth and post partum during lockdown.
- How to handle it when all plans don’t go to plan.
- Tools for navigating new fatherhood and working from home.
- The importance of becoming a man who is a source safety.
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Instagram: @mikecampbellmc
Website: www.http://mikecampbell.com.au/
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Show Notes:
- Transition to fatherhood 7:40
- Mikes own inner work 23:40
- Was there anything unexpected? 34:10
- Providing safety 39:10
- Advice 58:40
Relationship breakdown after having kids is far too common.
According to research carried out by The Gottman Institute, 67% of new parents experience a significant decline in relationship satisfaction within the first 3 years of having children.
There are many reason for this and I dive into one of the most significant ones in this episode.
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Trevor is a mentor for young men and a men’s coach. He specializes in embodied practice and believes with conviction that when we learn to make ourselves available to be truly felt and seen by other men, great personal unfolding can happen.
After an 18 year career as a holistic fitness coach for individuals, companies and athletic teams, Trevor met a personal fork in the road as he became a husband, father and gym owner. Many threads of manhood converged and on one level things were “just as they should be”...on another they were tearing at the seams. After several years of relative inner crisis and struggle Trevor found men’s circle work, developed skills, tools, perspectives and relationships as the balm to his own soul ache and need for meaning.
It’s these same threads that Trevor uses to help men, young and old, to reweave their personal stories together in circles and as clients. Trevor is the Oahu Director for Boys to Men Mentoring Hawaii and the Director for the Sacred Sonz Youth Program. He also has served as a Pillar facilitator for the Sacred Sons Movement. He works virtually with men of all ages from around the world as they hit their personal thresholds and find meaning in their own chaos and beauty.
It is clear to Trevor that he would absolutely not be who he is now without the firm wisdom of his partner Elisa and his beautiful daughters, step kids and the others who have held him over the years. From New Jersey originally, he lives happily on the island of Oahu, Hawaii.
In this episode we discuss:
- Trevor’s transition into fatherhood by supporting his partner through 2 homebirths.
- How he learnt (through many challenging experiences) to let go of control and to function within the family system.
- The process of honouring his partner's transformation and learning to respond to her wisdom and guidance, while maintaining connection with his own internal compass.
- The single most important thing that allowed Trevor to transition from the “washing machine” of transformation into a much more grounded, healthy and centred space.
- The importance of untangling co-dependency within our relationships and family unit.
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WEB: www.trevorspring.com
Instagram: @wild_and_wise
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Show notes
- Transition to fatherhood - 7;30
- Supporting changes in her 16;50
- Becoming the man you want to be 20
- Sharpening the sword 31;25
- Codependency 32
- What to prioritise 39;50
- What does it mean to be a present father? 44:47
Dan Harrison is a proud father to his 2 year old daughter and is also an ex Financial Advisor turned course creator and online business mentor who specializes in authentic selling, relationship-based marketing and transformational leadership.
Before building and selling his digital financial planning practice and then becoming a 6-figure course creator he was a financial advisor for 13 years. He worked with some of the largest asset managers in Canada and has sold and earned millions of dollars as a CFP® (Certified Financial Planner) and trained hundreds of financial advisors in sales, marketing and leadership.
In this episode we dive into:
- How the “provider” role got activated when Dan was becoming a father and what this meant to him.
- The two most important steps you can take if “financial stress” is present for you.
- The most overlooked skills and attributes when it comes to successful business owners.
- Making sure our goals are aligned with our deepest values as a family.
- The key to balancing time working on his business and time as a present father.
- So much more….
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Website: https://www.danharrisonconsulting.com/
Instagram: @intuitiveentrepreneur
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Show Notes:
3:30 What does fatherhood look like?
4:50 Transition to becoming a dad
9:25 Did money mindset change?
14:20 How does Dan navigate different areas of life?
21 Where to start with financial stress?
33 How Dan works with people
42:30 Reframing goals and removing the timeline
48:40 Conditioning around money
54 How has Dan become a present father?
57 Fundamental missing financial piece
1:03 What does it mean to be a present father?
How can we better show up and support the women in our lives?
A huge reason for this podcast is to support the men, who are supporting the women. Support the fathers, who are supporting the mothers.
Monday 8th March was international womens day and in this episode I touched on what we can do to support the women in our lives in a more meaningful way.
I put a call out to women on and the overwhelming feedback on what they're wanting was two things:
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Genuine acknowledgment for everything they have done and continue to do.
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Deep presence and listening/being willing to learn from the women in their lives.
We can always do better in this arena, and so the work continues.
**On this instalment of the Men & Birth Series I chat with Fin Mckenna about supporting his wife through the birth of his two daughters and his transition into fatherhood. This conversation was really eye opening and Fin shares how both experiences were very different and how he navigated them.
In Fins work as a coach he guides awakening men to break free from their limiting beliefs that hold them back from living the life they know they deserve. I teach them how to tap into their masculine leadership, take responsibility for their actions & live life on purpose.**
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Instagram: @the_grounded_masculine
Website: https://thegroundedmasculine.com.au/
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Show notes
3:30 - what did the first birth look like?
7:30 - How was pregnancy
11 - Were you ready for birth?
19:20 Self Preparation
24:45 -Relationship dynamic
30min Filling his cup up
36:50 Second Pregnancy
51:30 Transition from 1 to 2 kids
56:45 Parting words
Nick Perry is a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Corrective Exercise Specialist and Men’s Work Facilitator who is passionate and driven by authentic relating and inspired living. Nick’s education in Holistic Lifestyle Coaching draws from personal mentoring and learning from some of the world’s leading healers, facilitators and physical therapists.
For the last decade he has immersed himself in study and experimentation, acquiring qualifications across a broad range of modalities. Over the last few years his reach in the world has spread far, as he shares his knowledge, experience and personal story through podcasts, workshops and teachings in Pleasure School and his recently launched mentorship program - The Rhythm Health Mentorship.
Known for his deep presence, relatability and down-to-earth nature, Nick’s goal when working with clients is to leave them feeling empowered and aligned in themselves - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
In this conversation we dive into:
- Navigating big life transitions with more confidence.
- Letting go of attachments and becoming comfortable with surrender.
- The importance of self care and how to communicate our needs to our partner in a way that lands.
- Letting go of our Nice Guy tendencies as an act of true service.
- The challenges and the joy of co-creating life with our partners.
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Website: www.rhythhealth.com.au
Instagram: @rhythmhealth
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Show notes:
- What does fatherhood look like for you? 40sec
- 6:40 Navigating transition
- 13 A framework for transition
- 16 Biggest thing that keeps guys stuck
- 22:40 Self-judgements
- 31 Practices that men can do to practice
- 39:30 What has been powerful to bring in
- 50:20 Unintended meanings
- 56:30 Having needs met
- 1:01 Vision we both agree upon
- 1:15:50 Nicks idea of being a present father
Selfcare is a form of self respect and it's imperative if we want to play the long game.
Resilience is an admirable and important quality but if we aren't ensuring appropriate recovery and nourishment time, that blind resilience can become a really ineffective strategy in the long run.
A paradigm shift is required and selfcare for men, within the broader context of the goals and vision they have for themselves and their family, needs to be prioritised.
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In this conversation Erik shares his experience supporting his partner through the Home Birth of their two children.
**He also touches on how manages being a present father while also running a multinational wellness company.
Show Notes:**
- Eriks navigation with birth
- Importance of learning before birth
- Shifts during birth
- Things taken from birth 17:00
- Second birth 19:50
- Things that came up 23:20
- Practices put in place 28:20
- Tools and resources for other men 31:50
- What it means to Erik to be a present father 36:00
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Ross Blake is a Men’s Leadership Coach and Movement Teacher, father and husband. He has around two decades of experience in coaching traversing relational physics, sexuality and sexual mastery, life coaching and archetypal psychology, strength and conditioning, nutrition and physiology.
His core philosophy is that embodied physicality layered with broad self-awareness is the key to going deep and stepping forward in our lives. It is the language of the body that has the capacity to express the truth behind our intellectualised and constructed stories, and it is our physicality that grounds our human experience. Our bodies have the ability to really show us where we are, and where we are NOT in our lives.
Ross is a father of three sons, who have been (and continue to be) the ultimate crucible and the clearest mirrors in his life.
In this conversation we cover:
- Working with grief as part of the transition into fatherhood
- Opening up to your partner in a way that creates safety and doesn’t smother her.
- Overcoming the lone wolf programming.
- The importance of expanding your conscious awareness.
- Leaning into your own feminine energy and what that provides for yourself, your partner and your children.
- Embodiment practices to enhance vitality.
- Sex and intimacy after children.
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@_roskoblake_
@chimp_movement
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Time stamps:
4:06 Whats fatherhood like in this present moment?
6:20 How do you cultivate restoration?
13 Reframing how we put ourselves in our lives
17 Having a tribe
20:40 Transition to fatherhood
26:20 Experiences with grief
33:40 Overcoming challenges
40:20 Learning to receive
43:00 What work do you do?
51 Basic breath/movement practice
1:03:10 Showing instead of telling
1:07:55 Call to arms warrior energy
1:11 Intimacy in fatherhood
1:18 Porn
1:20 What makes a present father?
It's imperative that we redefine what it means to provide.
And it's imperative that this be informed by what we know about childrens' development and also what is required for our partners to be nourished and thriving.
It will be unique set up for every family and I don't believe in being prescriptive with this stuff. Trust your gut.
Obviously providing in terms of finances is important (how cool that this can be a team sport these days), but to only focus on this is a bit one dimensional.
What are we providing in terms of our ability to create safety and relaxation in the home? What are we providing in terms of the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children?
What are we providing in terms rituals and tradition?
The answer to these questions will determine the legacy we are leaving.
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Men and Birth Series
This was an awesome conversation with Tom Linwood about his transition into fatherhood and the birth of his daughter Blu. Overcoming so big challenges since conception, Tom shares some valuable insight into how he supported Montana and Blue through the pregnancy, very intuitive birthing experience and post part.
- What has first year been like 1:20
- Tom’s accident 2:30
- Old paradigm fatherhood 5
- Growing into a father 9:15
- Healing first before having a kid 13
- Pregnancy and Birth 14:40
- Birthing 21:35
- Complication 24
- After-birth hormones 30:30
- Living in a way that aligns with nature 41:40
- Dissolving fear? 42:25
- What Tom took with him to prep 48:50
- Postpartum 52
- Dad deprivation 1:05
- Closing statement 1:11
**CONNECT WITH TOM: @tom_linwood
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Welcome to the Present Father Project!
The VISION of the Present Father Project is to Redefine and Redesign a New Paradigm of Fatherhood based on a Foundation of Presence, Prosperity and Integrated Masculinity.
It is a reclamation of the thriving, sovereign family unit as a foundation for thriving communities. If you're here it's because you're ready to do the inner work to step into your infinite potential as a Present Father.
Considering the crucial of the Rite of Passage into Fatherhood, I don’t feel like the level of support currently available to men matches the importance of that transition. The PFP is here to part of the solution to this.
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