Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell: Recent Episodes

Sallyanne Hartnell

For anyone wanting to RECLAIM & LIBERATE themselves in their relationships & their life. Anyone craving & ready to create the deeply connected, fulfilling relationship their soul seeks, without surrendering or sacrificing any part of themselves. Wherever you are on your relationship journey these conversations meet you right there, in soulful, deeply supportive DM’s with me & interviews with other gorgeous humans. Moving you from where you are, to where you most want to be. A life & love completely aligned with your deepest desires to have it all on your own terms. If you’re seeking a relationship – a life – that LIGHTS UP ALL OF YOU, you’re in the right place.

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The decisions you're making today have real, long term implications and they don't disappear once the divorce is finalised.

They compound. And they affect the life and the future version of you that is coming for you.

In this episode, Sallyanne asks the question most of us never think to ask in the middle of a crisis: who's speaking for the version of you that's still being built?

What changes when future you gets a vote, and why it matters.

Because maybe someone is missing from the decision making.

Not your lawyer. Not your therapist. Not the voice in your head running on fear and exhaustion.

The person you'll be in a year. In five.

There is no one right answer or way through the messy hard parts of divorce. It's about the difference between a decision made in survival mode and one made with a thread of awareness running through it, even a painful one.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, I talk about what my divorce coaching clients say actualllly made them go, and it almost never looked like the dramatic ending you'd expect.

No affair. No blow-up. Just a slow, quiet erosion of hope, trust, and the version of themselves they used to be, often reaching its final, clear moment on the most ordinary of days.

If you're in the hard in-between right now - wondering whether to stay or go, feeling like you can't point to "one big reason," or grieving a relationship you're technically still in - this episode is for you.

What relationship erosion really looks like, the myths that keep people stuck in unhappy marriages, and how to start trusting your own knowing again.

In this episode:

What clients actually said made them finally leave (it's rarely what you'd think)
The difference between falling out of love and losing yourself
What "grieving a relationship you haven't left yet" really feels like
Common myths that keep people stuck in the decision to stay or leave
A few reflective questions to sit with, if you're in the in-between

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Free Resources & Downloads
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Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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The challenges of dating after divorce and why matchmaking may offer a more supported, intentional approach for those rebuilding their lives and looking for meaningful connection.

After years in a relationship, many people find themselves asking: Who am I now? What do I want next? How do I open my heart again without repeating old patterns?

In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, Sallyanne chats with Megan Gourlay, founder of bespoke matchmaking service Love With Me

Together they explore:

The exhausting experience of the dating apps
How matchmaking offers a more intentional approach to finding connection
Why dating after a long-term relationship requires a different kind of support
The vulnerability that comes with putting yourself back out there
Common patterns that can get in the way of finding love again
How to date from a place of self-awareness, confidence and choice

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Last week was about the gifts of solo travel.

This week, we're looking at the other side - the loneliness that can quietly take hold after divorce (even before you leave a relationship or marriage), and what it actually looks like to move through it and out the other side.

We also talk about saying "I'm fine" for so long that you even start to believe it... when you're not.

And the flip side: what a life built entirely on your own terms can genuinely look and feel like - and what it actually takes to get there.

In this episode:

The 'who would do that for me?' question and why it matters
Why high-functioning, capable women are often the loneliest
The loneliness of being surrounded by people who knew the old you
Small steps to start moving yourself through it
Reminder: the happily solo life is real and what it takes to get there

Related episodes:

The Loneliness No-one Warned You About
5 Types of Loneliness in Relationship Breakdown, Separation and Divorce
Solitude, Loneliness & Dating After Divorce with Kerri Sackville

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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The reason I travel alone has nothing to do with not having a partner or people to go with. It's something else entirely.

In this episode I'm sharing the three parts of a recent trip.

A retreat with extraordinary women led by my business coach Robyn Gooding
Time with my daughter Eva, and
The stretches where it was just me.

Each one taught me something different. But it's the solo part that cracked something open.

We book trips to escape.

But what if we took one to remember?

This episode is for anyone who has been telling themselves they'll rest, they'll book the trip, they'll do the thing, when...

That time may never come unless you conscioulsy choose it.

The destination was - and is always - you.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this episode I'm joined by Emma Wright - feminist health coach, certified cognitive behavioural and intuitive eating coach, and author of Body Confident - for a conversation I've wanted to have for a long time.

Because Emma and I work with essentially the same woman. In my world, she's capable, successful, has built a great life on paper... and yet she's stayed in a relationship that doesn't really light her up or she's feeling destabilised by divorce. In Emma's world, she shows up exactly the same way, but the relationship is with food and her body.

Same woman. Same conditioning. Slightly different arena.

In this episode we go deep into what's really underneath all of it - the quiet questioning, the self-doubt, the staying - and what it actually takes to come home to yourself.

We talk about:
- How good girl conditioning shows up in your relationship with your body, your food, and your relationships with others
- The "quiet questioning" — that inner whisper that something isn't working, and the rush to silence it
- Why worthiness sits underneath almost everything and what happens to it when a relationship ends

And the big one...

The post-divorce glow up.

What it looks like on the surface, what's really going on underneath, and what genuine reclamation actually looks like

The one question that reframes everything

How much of you is it costing you to stay?

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Want more?

Feel like where you are, what you have, the life you're living is not quite "it"?
Wanting more than what you have?

That doesn’t make you wrong or flawed or mean you’re asking too much.

It’s information.

You inner knowing pointing you toward what's true, what's right, and what your life is actually asking for.

This episode goes deep on what's actually underneath wanting more and busts the myth that keeps so many women small.

Wanting more, allowing yourself to desire and ask for more from your life, is pointing you home.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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This episode is for the 2am version of you.

The one feeling like everything is coming apart and wondering when it's going to stop.

This isn't a quick fix or a pep talk but simply a different way of understanding what's actually happening when you fall apart.

Because maybe it's not what you think it is.

Maybe you're not falling apart.

Maybe you're falling closer.

Closer to what's real.

Closer to what's true.

Closer to the version of your that's been hidden under layers

Waiting for the noise to clear.

This episode explores the paradox at the heart of divorce and separation: that the moment you feel most lost is often the moment you are closest to yourself.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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If you've been waiting...

To feel ready, for the fear to pass, for someone to show you the way this episode is going to land somewhere uncomfortable. And then, hopefully, somewhere freeing.

Sallyanne talks about the quiet story so many carry through asking questions about a relationship, separation or divorce: that when things settle, when they feel stronger, when someone shows them what to do... then they'll be able to take the next step.

The problem with that story is that it requires you to stay helpless. And the longer you wait, the more that version of you becomes the only one you can access.

Nobody's coming to save you. And that, it turns out, is actually a good thing.

In this episode:

Why waiting to feel ready keeps you smaller than you are

The difference between needing support and outsourcing your agency

Why courage isn't the absence of fear and what it actually is

The woman you've been waiting for, and why she's already here

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Divorce is not the worst thing that has or could happen to you.

But maybe staying is.

What if divorce isn't the tragedy in your story? What if it's the turning point?

In this episode, Sallyanne explores one of the most confronting reframes in her work that for many, the marriage ending wasn't (just) loss. It was the beginning.

This isn't toxic positivity. It's about leaving a small door open, to the possibility that one day (maybe not today, or for a while) you might look back at this moment and understand why it had to happen.

Whether you're in the thick of it right now, or further along this episode is for you.

In this episode:

Why grief makes us romanticise relationships that weren't actually making us happy
The question Sallyanne asks women who are two, three years out — and what they almost universally say
Why 'hard' and 'wrong' are not the same thing
How to "borrow" the trust of women who are already on the other side

P.S. we are exploring some shorter episodes in the next few weeks. Message me to tell me if you like short & sweet... or not

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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There's a kind of loneliness that comes with divorce. During it. Afterwards. And sometimes, before you've even left your marriage.

It's the kind nobody warns you about.

Not the dramatic, crying-on-the-couch kind.

A more subtle, insidious kind. One that's slow and sustained. The kind that sneaks in over months and starts to convince you - quietly, stealthily - that this is just how life is now.

This is how life is going to be.

It doesn’t look like anything from the outside.

It shows up quietly. In the moment you realise the only person you spoke to on the weekend was the barista. Or you have news and you’re not sure who to call. In the 4am silence when there’s no one there.

This episode is about that. The kind of loneliness that slowly convinces you this is just how life is now — and the kind I want to push back on.

In this episode:

• Why high-functioning, capable women are often the loneliest (and why no one notices)

• The specific loneliness of life after divorce (that nobody prepares you for)

• Why you might be surrounded by people and still feel profoundly alone

• The flip side: what a life built entirely on your own terms can actually feel like

• Three things to do if this landed for you

If you’ve been playing ‘I’m fine’ for so long you almost believe it ... this one’s for you.

And if you want to actually BE more than "fine" on a really deep level, let me support you in a 1:1 coaching experience.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me onINSTAGRAM
All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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For anyone navigating separation, divorce, or parenting and rebuilding life afterwards, there is so very much uncertainty. The legal process. The financial picture. The parenting rhythm. Even your sense of identity

This episode is about finding - or creating - a sense of peace when everything else seems uncertain. When the ground feels like it's moving underneath your feet, and you're not sure when it's going to stop.

Because the truth is, it might not stop. Not completely.

Not if you've got kids together and a co-parenting relationship that's still finding its shape.

And if you're waiting for certainty before you allow yourself to feel okay, you might be waiting a long time.

So instead, let's talk about steadiness. And how to build it from the inside out.

In this episode:

Why divorce doesn't just change your relationship - it fractures your sense of certainty
The difference between contingency and peace
Practices for staying steady when things are unresolved
One of the most powerful things you can say in a divorce
What stability actually looks like now and why it might be deeper than what came before

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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Follow me onINSTAGRAM
All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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If you've been stuck in the loop (should I stay, should I go, is this all there is) this episode is for you.

I want to tell you about a woman I know.

She's self-aware, thoughtful, doing her best, doing the work.. And she cannot bring herself to make the call, even though some quiet part of her already has.

I see her constantly in my work. Different names, different stories. Same cycle. And I recognise her from the inside too.

In this episode I'm talking about what actually keeps people stuck in this particular limbo, and it's almost never what they think it is.

We cover the pattern that runs on both sides of the dance, what it means to outsource your power and externalise your agency, and three things that genuinely move the needle when you're ready to break free.

Plus the one practical tool I recommend that almost nobody talks about.

If you recognise yourself in her, I see you.

I was her too, and I know how to help you understand your knowing.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me onINSTAGRAM
All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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There's a pattern that shows up across almost every stage of the divorce journey - in those questioning whether to stay or leave, those in the thick of it, and even those rebuilding on the other side.

It's a quiet, self-protective voice that whispers: what's the point?

In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the psychology behind that voice:

why we sacrifice our own hopes and dreams rather than risk disappointment, and
what it actually costs us when we quit on ourselves before we even begin.

This one is for anyone who has ever let fear, apathy, or self-doubt talk them out of the life they know - on some level - is waiting for them.

In this episode:

Why "not trying" feels safe but still carries its own grief and loss
The role of ego and risk tolerance in keeping us stuck
How we globalise, personalise, and make fear bigger than it needs to be
Practical steps to break through the "why even bother" mindset
How taking one small action can start to shift everything

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me onINSTAGRAM
All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Living Together Apart — The Identity Episode

Living Together Apart is one of the hardest configurations of separation and one of the least talked about when it comes to the inner experience.

The logistics? We've covered those. But the identity disorientation? The strange grief of proximity? The quiet way you starts to come back to yourself even in the in-between limbo that is living together apart. That's what this episode is about.

If you're thinking about it, or in this right now - still under the same roof, still surrounded by the life you're in the process of leaving - this one's for you.

We cover:

Why LTA is so psychologically disorienting (and why nobody talks about it)
The roles that don't drop away just because the relationship has ended
The specific grief of mourning someone who's still in the next room
The first flickers of coming home to yourself: the remembering and the becoming
Practical ways to hold your identity intact while you're still in the thick of it

Listen to past episodes about LTA here and here

Ready for support through this phase and beyond? Book a free intro call or Clarity Consult — link below.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Have You Outsourced Your Decision-Making?

Learning to trust your own decisions again.

In this episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate, divorce coach and strategist Sallyanne Hartnell explores one of the most overlooked challenges of post-divorce life: learning to trust your own decisions again.

After years in a relationship - consciously or not - many have outsourced their decision-making, at least in some areas or ways, to a partner.

When the relationship ends, that habit doesn't automatically disappear with it. What follows can self-doubt, second-guessing, and a quiet question that runs underneath almost everything: am I allowed to say yes?

Sallyanne shares a real client story, unpacks the psychology of decision fatigue and outsourced authority, and offers a practical three-part framework - Tune In, Turn Down, Say Yes To Yourself - for coming back to your own voice.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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This episode isn't the easiest listen, but the key messages are important.

If you're navigating divorce, separation, or even just sitting with the question of what comes next, these five truths are the ones I see come up again and again with my clients.

And I'm sharing them, not to make the process harder, but to stop you from making it longer than it needs to be.

Because it's rarely the divorce itself that keeps people stuck. It's the hope that something different is going to happen, when all the evidence suggests it won't.

In this episode I cover:

Why closure is something you create internally, not something "they" give you
How divorce changes so much, and what stays the same
What to do when you're healing faster than they are (and the guilt that comes with it)
Or, when they move on fast
What the need to be understood can cost you
The quiet grief of letting go of who you needed them to be

If one of these lands for you while you listen, pay attention to that data. That's usually where your work is.

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Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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This episode started with a small, ordinary moment — someone I love asking me to write down the recipes I've cooked for my family across the years.

The problem? Most of them don't really exist. Not properly. They've always been instinct. Memory. A bit of this, a bit of that. Adjusted every time.

And it got me thinking about life after divorce.

Because we carry this quiet pressure, don't we? This belief that there's a right way to rebuild. A correct order. A formula that everyone else seems to have figured out — except us.

Why don't I feel clearer yet?

Why am I still here?

Why does everyone else seem further along?

In this episode I want to gently offer you something different.

There was never a single recipe to begin with. Not before divorce. And certainly not after.

Rebuilding looks more like cooking with what's in the fridge.

You start with reality — your grief, your energy, your hope, your exhaustion. You work with what's in front of you. You taste as you go. You adjust. You substitute. You discover that some things you thought you needed... you actually don't.

And slowly — more slowly than you'd like, probably — you learn to trust yourself again.

Because the meal can still be deeply satisfying. Even delicious. Even if it looks nothing like what you originally planned.

This episode is for anyone who's been waiting for the instructions to arrive. They're not coming. And that, it turns out, is the invitation.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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We talk a lot about what we become after divorce.

Stronger. More independent. A "new version" of ourselves.

But what if the real shift isn't about becoming anything at all?

In this episode I reflect on something that doesn't get talked about enough. The quiet, sometimes disorienting process of unbecoming.

Shedding the roles you played. The expectations you carried. The version of yourself you shaped - often slowly, often unconsciously - to make a relationship work.

Because here's what I've come to know: the identity shift that divorce triggers often starts long before the relationship ends. Something inside you begins to stir. To question. To want more space than the life you're living allows.

And sometimes, divorce asks you or is what finally gives you permission to let it go.

This episode is for anyone who's felt that pull (wherever you're at with your relationship) and wondered what's left when you stop performing the version of yourself you thought you had to be.

Spoiler: it's you. The real one.

An unbecoming to become.

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There comes a moment in many relationships when youask yourself:

“Am I ever going to be enough for them?”

It’s not always about insecurity or worthiness.

Sometimes, it’s about exhaustion.

Exhaustion from trying harder.

Exhaustion from hoping you’ll be met.

Doing all the emotional labour.

From reshaping yourself to make the relationship work.

For years, we can bend, accommodate, and compromise, believing that if we just love harder, try harder, or adjust ourselves enough, things will finally click.

And then one day, quietly, the truth arrives:

You can’t force the fit.

In this short episode, Sallyanne explores the moment when you stop trying to become someone else for someone else and start choosing yourself instead.

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A guided companion to help you disentangle after divorce.

Loosen attachment, ease your anxiety around decisions - those already made or yet to be made - reclaim yourself, and move forward with clarity.

You don’t have to “get over” your ex.

You don’t have to force "closure".

You’re not doing it wrong, or behind.

Sometimes the best way to move forward is to ask better questions.

In this bonus episode, I guide you through 36 questions to help you:

See the relationship clearly
Separate reality from fantasy
Process emotions without judgment
Release attachment gently
Reclaim your identity and vision for the future

Perfect for journaling, reflection, or listening when you need grounding and clarity. And answers to the questions you're asking:

Should it feel "better" than this?
How do I know I made (or I'm making) the right decision?
Should I be "more together" by now?
I don't want them back, but I still really miss them

Go gently.

Sallyanne

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When the relationship is over but the attachment isn’t - and why it’s harder than you think, even if you chose it.

Why is it so hard to move on after divorce, even when you know it was the right decision?

Why do you still miss them… question yourself… replay the good moments… or wonder if you made a mistake?

In this episode, we explore the emotional reality no one prepares you for:

The relationship can be over in every way - legally, practically, logically, romantically, sexually - and the attachment can still feel very much alive.

Whether you chose the divorce or it was chosen for you, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate way to move forward - without rushing closure, denying grief, or shaming yourself for still caring.

If you’re navigating divorce, separation, heartbreak, or the long emotional aftermath of a relationship, this episode will help you begin unwinding - gently, honestly, and at your own pace.

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COURAGE. CONNECTION. JOY.

What happens when you step outside your comfort zone can transform your post-divorce life more than any legal document or co-parenting plan ever could.

In this episode of RR&L, I share a personal story of stepping outside my comfort zone, into new spaces, meeting strangers, and discovering the connection, joy, and possibility that waits on the other side.

Whether you’re wondering if you’re brave enough to leave a marriage, navigating separation, rebuilding your life, or seeking community after divorce, this episode shows how courage opens doors and connection creates magic.

Let this episode be your reminder that joy is waiting for you too, in the places you haven’t stepped into yet.

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Leaving a long-term relationship is more than just a breakup. It’s a complete reset.

You’ve invested years of your life - and now you’re navigating a new space, a new version of life, unsure who you are without them.

In this episode, we talk about the hard truths of starting over:

The emotions no one warns you about
Rediscovering your identity and reclaiming your life
What it really takes to rebuild, redefine, and restart after years of shared history

If you’re stepping into life after a long-term relationship, or maybe wondering what life could look like after divorce, this episode is for you. Honest, practical, and unapologetically real about the journey of starting over.

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You can be deeply hurt and still have work to do.

Even if your partner left, had an affair, blindsided you, or if you were the one who chose to end the relationship, even if you know it was the right choice.

In this episode, we talk about what radical personal responsibility really means, why it doesn’t equal blame or shame, and how facing your own patterns can free you from repeating them.

Learn how to:

Take ownership without self-judgment
Heal in a real, embodied way (no spiritual bypassing)
Build emotional sovereignty and
Choose your life consciously

This is the work I do with clients after a break-up or divorce, when they’re ready to shift out of shame or blame, stop going through the motions, and start consciously choosing.

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NB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣

In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed.

I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.”

I talk through:

Why messages from ex-partners can land so powerfully, even years later
Writing a polite reply versus a truthful one
How writing it all out can bring clarity, release, and self-trust
Attachment patterns as context and an invitation for healing, not excuses
When compassion turns into self-abandonment
And how closure is something we create, not something we’re given

The episode includes a fictionalised reading of the letter she wrote - emotionally true, but anonymised and blended to protect identity.

If you’re struggling to let go or wondering about your ex. Maybe been activated by an unexpected message or meeting, and wondered why it affected you more than expected, this episode is for you.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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In this final episode of the year, I’m sharing a powerful set of reflection questions to help you look back with compassion, honour your growth, and step into 2026 with clarity and intention.

Whether you’re navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, identity shifts, or simply a season of change, these reflecton prompts will help you understand yourself more deeply, release what no longer serves you, and choose what comes next.

Reflect. Release. Reset.

Download your copy of the reflection questions HERE

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In this episode, we explore the moment you quietly realise you can’t carry the relationship alone anymore.

You’ll hear:
• What the “quiet exit” actually looks like
• How belief without change becomes burnout
• Why hope without action becomes a cage
• The moment you stop trusting in his potential and start loving yourself more
• What to do when you’ve been over-functioning to his under-functioning
• The next steps when you're done, tired, and stepping into clarity

If you feel this… if you know this… if this is you... or it's becoming you... this episode is your reminder that you’re not cold, crazy, or asking too much.

You’re honouring yourself.

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In this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate.

You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power.

We explore:
• Why these comments land so deeply
• How to separate their words from your worth
• Clear, simple boundary-based responses you can use immediately
• How to shift from being reactive to being anchored and self-led

This episode helps you stay steady, reclaim your emotional space, and stop letting your ex’s words pull you back into an old version of yourself.

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Things I’ve Learned Solo Travelling Since My Divorce

Solo travel after divorce hits differently.

It’s equal parts freedom and fear, excitement and vulnerability.

You’re no longer part of a “we,” and sometimes, that absence echoes but there’s also something quietly powerful about that.

You’re choosing yourself. Your own adventure. Your own rhythm.

In this episode I share a few things I’ve learned solo travelling since my divorce - things that made the experience richer, easier, and at times, unexpectedly healing.

NB: After recording, I realised I forgot to include the most important piece: First and foremost… choose a destination and accommodation where you can be and feel safe. In every sense — emotionally, physically, and financially. All your other decisions come from there.

If you’re ready (or would like in the future) to explore the world - and yourself - on your own terms, this episode is for you.

Perfect For:Women (and anyone) navigating life after divorce who are curious about solo travel, self-discovery, and reclaiming joy and freedom.

Listen if you want:

Inspiration to take your first (or next) solo trip.
Practical, down-to-earth tips for travelling safely and joyfully alone.
Reflection on how travel can be a tool for healing and self-reconnection.

Where to next?

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What I Know About Divorce Now, That You Can't Know Yet.

In this episode, I share everything I know about life after divorce that you simply can’t know until you live it. My own lived experience and that of my clients.

From the duality of grief and gratitude, to the quiet freedoms and small joys that only come when you reclaim your life, this is a reflection on integration, self-compassion, and choosing yourself.

What I would have done more and less of, the lessons I wish I knew earlier, and how time (combined with doing your work) transforms pain into possibility.

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Are you wondering whether to stay in your relationship? Or thinking about finally leaving your marriage?

Often my clients come to me questioning “good enough” relationships where nothing feels catastrophically or dramatically wrong, but something still feels off.

In this episode, I lead you through 10 powerful questions designed to help you see clearly whether your relationship is serving your growth, your happiness, and your future.

If you’re stuck in indecision, this episode will help you stop overthinking, start reflecting, and make the choice that honours both your heart and your future.

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Navigating separation, uncertainty, and emotional overload during the holidays — without guilt, shame, or pressure.

The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful joyful time of the year. But what if your relationship is falling apart, already over, or hanging by a thread?

In this episode, Sallyanne talks honestly about the emotional weight of Christmas when you’re navigating separation, divorce, or deep relationship doubt.

We unpack the pressure of holiday “shoulds” - the expectations to keep things cheerful, stay together “for the kids,” or maintain appearances - and offer real talk, validation, and guidance for doing things differently this year.

Whether you’re quietly questioning your relationship or deep in the mess of divorce, this episode is here to help you feel less alone and more empowered.

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2 online coaching sessions with full messaging support between sessions

Designed to get you through the holidays easefully, intentionally and without feeling the pressure to have it all together.

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Wondering whether to stay or leave a marriage?

Thinking about separation or divorce?

When you’re sitting in uncertainty, it’s easy to overthink. To rely on our head to bring us to a decision.

But clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder. It comes from alignment.

In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the three decision centres - the head, the heart, and the gut - and shares a simple practice to help you bring all three into conversation before making your next big (or small) decision.

Referenced:

Kemi Nekvapil — author, coach, and speaker who references the concept of the three decision centres in her work.

Reflection prompt:

Next time you’re faced with a choice, pause and ask:
💭 What does my head say?
❤️ What does my heart feel?
🌿 What does my gut already know?

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Clarissa Rayward is a wife, mum to two, accredited specialist family lawyer, and lover of chocolate, coffee, and anything colourful and also the Director of Brisbane Family Law Centre, a multidisciplinary practice where lawyers work alongside counsellors and financial experts to provide holistic support to clients navigating divorce and separation.

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Thinking you "should" be over it by now?

You're not behind or doing things wrong. Your nervous system just hasn’t caught up yet.

In this episode, I share why healing from divorce, infidelity or separation takes more than time, and what your body actually needs to feel safe again.

Drawing from neuroscience and nervous system wisdom, I explore how you can start giving yourself the proof your body needs to believe: it’s over. You’re safe. You’re home now.

Tune in to hear:

Why time alone doesn’t heal the nervous system
Why your mind can move on, but your body can still feel stuck
Three simple, practical ways to create safety and healing from within
How to begin speaking to yourself with kindness, not judgment
What it really means to rest (and why it’s essential to healing)

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Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s relationship has been splashed across headlines lately, with speculation about separation, divorce, and division of assets.

But... their relationship - whether they stay together, separate, or divorce - is none of our business.

And yet, the way the media frames these stories reveals how we expect divorce to look: messy, high conflict, destructive.

But what if it isn’t?

What if separation can be kind? Respectful? Even collaborative?

In this episode I share:

✨ Why divorce is, at its core, a human and emotional experience (not just legal and financial)
✨ What “conscious uncoupling” really looks like in practice
✨ How I work with couples to turn down conflict and co-create solutions that work for the whole family
✨ Real words from clients who’ve moved from fear and doubt to hope and possibility
✨ Practical tips if you want a calmer, future-focused separation

Divorce doesn’t have to be a win-lose battle. Uncoupling Coaching, Collaborative Divorce offers another way.

If you’re ready to explore this for your family let's chat - DM me directly or book a free intro call (link below)

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of intimate partner violence and abusive relationships. Please take care while listening.

In this powerful and tender conversation, I’m joined by Cat Dunn award-winning OBM, mentor, speaker, and founder of Life After I Left.

Cat shares her lived experience of leaving an abusive relationship and the deep healing journey that followed. Together we explore:

How childhood experiences shape the way we love and choose partners as adults
What life is really like inside an abusive relationship
Why leaving is so much harder than it seems
How to create emotional safety for yourself
Learning to trust your own judgement again

Cat’s story is one of honesty, resilience, and reclaiming power. If you’ve ever doubted yourself, felt trapped, or wondered how to rebuild after leaving, this conversation will offer insight, validation, and hope.

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Parallel parenting after divorce is approach for separated parents who struggle with high conflict, dysfunctional interactions or communication breakdowns.

In this episode, Sallyanne breaks down what parallel parenting is, who it benefits, and how to put it into practice.

We will explore the advantages for you and your children, practical strategies to make it work, and how this approach can bring more peace, stability, and boundaries to co-parenting after divorce or separation.

And, how it can be the instigator of a new, more peaceful and co-operative parenting model for you and your family.

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Discover how personal stylist Lisa Stockman helps people through life’s biggest transitions - from divorce to dating again - with styling that rebuilds confidence, identity, and ease.

In this episode, I welcome back Lisa, for a deeper conversation about how style can anchor us through life’s biggest changes.

Lisa has been styling people of all different shapes, sizes, life stages, and budgets for over a decade. Working with clients across Australia and internationally, she understands how hard it can be to know what to wear — especially during times of transition like divorce, a new job, dating again, post-baby, post-surgery, or ageing.

Together we explore how personal style can rebuild confidence and identity after big life shifts.

Lisa reminds us that styling is never just about clothes - it’s about reclaiming who you are and showing up as the most aligned version of yourself.

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Most people imagine co-parenting as two exes attending school events together, making decisions hand-in-hand, and communicating smoothly.

But for many separated parents, that ideal isn’t realistic or possible, and forcing it can actually increase conflict and stress.

In this episode, I bust common myths about co-parenting, explain why what you think you know might be wrong, and share practical ways to protect your wellbeing while staying fully present for your kids.

What You’ll Learn:

Why the “perfect co-parenting” fantasy can be harmful
The difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting
Signs you might not actually be co-parenting
How to reduce conflict and redefine post-divorce parenting in ways that make sense to your family

If you want clarity, confidence, and strategies for healthier post-separation parenting, this episode is for you.

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Starting over after separation or divorce often means rethinking not just your love life, but your career too.

In this episode, I’m joined by Career & Life Coach Annique Teycheney to explore why job hunting feels a lot like dating - and why the key to both is knowing yourself first.

We talk about values, boundaries, green & red flags, and how to recognise the roles (and relationships) that are truly the right fit for you.

If you’re navigating career change, job seeking, or dating after divorce, this conversation will help you see the parallels, avoid common pitfalls, and take your next steps with clarity and confidence.

Follow Annique on LinkedIn and Instagram @anniquecoaching

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For anyone stuck in survival mode, deciding whether to stay or go, or rebuilding after divorce.

How to rewire your beliefs, release what’s weighing you down, and create real change after separation or divorce.

If you’ve been stuck in divorce survival mode—burnt out, overwhelmed, and carrying the weight of your divorce (or your should-I-stay-or-go decision) on your shoulders—this episode is your wake-up call.

Manifestation alone won’t get you out of this cycle.

You don’t need another vision board, affirmation, or crystal to change your life. You need clarity, rewiring, and action.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through three simple but powerful exercises to uncover your own answers and create a pathway out of survival and into steady, grounded thriving.

Whether you’re deciding to stay or go, navigating separation, or creating a post-divorce life you love, this is your personal call to action.

Because if you want different results, you can’t keep doing the same things. You have to become different. And just sitting on the couch waiting for the universe to deliver won’t get you where you want to be.

Rio Richards - Somatic Practices

Bianca Marics - Managing Stress & Burnout

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Divorce can keep your nervous system on constant high alert - heart racing, mind spinning, emotions all over the place. In that state, clear, calm, strategic communication feels almost impossible.

In this episode, I’m sharing why nervous system regulation is the communication superpower during separation and divorce. You’ll learn:

What dysregulation actually is (and how it hijacks your communication)
The signs your body has taken over the driver’s seat
Practical, simple regulation tools you can use in the moment, anywhere, anytime

How you can access these tools and build your communicaiton superpower to protect your energy, keep the long game in mind, and show up as the version of you who can handle whatever comes next.

Listen in and start building your regulation muscle, so you can communicate in a way that protects your peace and your future.

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Leaving a relationship when nothing is dramatically wrong can feel hard.

If your partner's a good person? If no one would understand why you're unhappy?

Before walking away from your marriage or leaving your relationship, ask yourself this one thing.

In this episode, Sallyanne explores the quiet, complicated space of choosing yourself - even when your relationship isn’t a complete disaster.

You’ll learn:
💬 The one question to ask yourself when you're unsure whether to stay or go
💬 Why you don’t need a big betrayal or dramatic reason to justify leaving
💬 How to honour the relationship and choose your future
💬 Why scaffolding yourself with support is essential

This is a hopeful, grounding conversation for anyone standing at the edge of a decision, or moving through the big emotions of separation or divorce.

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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You didn't become selfish. You became self-honouring.

What if being called “selfish” isn’t an insult, but a sign you’re finally choosing yourself?

In this episode, we explore the powerful shift from self-abandonment to self-honouring in relationships, through separation and during divorce.

If you’ve been made to feel guilty for setting boundaries, prioritising your needs, or no longer being easily controlled, this is your reminder:

You didn’t become selfish.

You became self-honouring.

You became sovereign.

Listen to hear:

The difference between selfishness and self-responsibility
How guilt and manipulation show up (louder, stronger) when you start honouring yourself
What self-honouring actually looks like in real life (especially in divorce and reorganising life afterwards)

This is a reclamation.
Of your needs. Your boundaries. Your peace.
Because selfish?
Maybe it’s sacred.

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An episode about choosing kindness, courage and compassion through separation, divorce and beyond - especially when it isn’t coming back your way.

When you’re going through divorce, kindness can feel like the last thing you’re supposed to choose - especially when others are telling you to go harder, or when the system feels harsh, scary and adversarial.

In this episode, I share my own story of not finding kindness in the process… and why I decided to choose it and create it anyway.

I’ll talk about what kindness really looks like in divorce, why it matters, and how to stay anchored in your values, even when no one else around you is modelling it.

I’ll share 6 truths I know - from lived experience of divorce and coaching many through it - about why kindness matters and why it can create better outcomes for everyone involved.

Kindness in divorce isn't weakness. It's powerful.

This episode is also for anyone who works in or around family law, separation or divorce - about how we as practitioners can bring kindness to our work and change experiences and outcomes.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Feeling emotionally, physically and energetically depleted during separation, through divorce, even beyond?

Divorce burnout is real.

This episode introduces Spoon Theory. A simple explanation and easily implemented way to help you protect your energy, avoid burnout, and focus on what truly matters.

The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino

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Waking Up to Your Own Life

Whether you're questioning your marriage or relationship, navigating separation or divorce.

If you’ve been hiding under the covers, eyes tightly shut, afraid to really look at your life, avoiding what hurts, staying stuck in the same stories, this episode is for you.

I talk about:
✨ Why staying in the dark can feel safer
✨ The fear of really looking at your life
✨ The quiet decision to wake up and take responsibility
✨ How to begin letting go, gently and honestly

You don’t have to have it all figured out.
You just have to be willing to open your eyes.

To WAKE UP to the possibility for your life.

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How to Hold It Together While Falling Apart During Divorce

How to Keep Going in the Hardest Days of Your Divorce

💙This episode is shared in loving memory of my beautiful Mum, Helen Hartnell, who taught me how to do hard things with kindness, compassion and grace.

The early days of separation and divorce are hard - it feels like your whole world is unravelling and there is no solid ground under your feet.

And there are other moments through divorce when it feels too hard, too overwhelming.

This episode is for those moments.

How to keep going, how to hold it together while falling apart during divorce.

More about Spoon Theory and divorce HERE

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You don’t have to choose between being kind and being clear.

In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, I share how to bring gentle strength & quiet power into mediation, so you can stand firm on what matters without escalating conflict.

In this episode I outline:

Why you feel pressured to pick a side - agreeable or aggressive
What it looks like to be anchored in your non-negotiables and open to creative solutions
The power of knowing your core values and acting in alignment with them
How to model healthy boundaries and respect for your children
Three small practices you can start using right now

Whether you’re still to have to opening conversation about separation with your partner, you're preparing for mediation, in the messy middle of divorce or simply learning to advocate for yourself with more clarity and calm, this episode will help you reclaim your voice, anchor into your quiet power, and stay soft but also strong. And protect what matters most to you.

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In this episode, I’m joined by Darren Mort — a Melbourne-based family law barrister, producer, and passionate advocate for children’s wellbeing in the context of separation and divorce.

With decades of experience working in family law including complex and high-conflict cases, Darren’s s impact goes well beyond the courtroom.

Darren is the founder of the To Be Loved Network, a charity dedicated to creating educational media content that supports children navigating parental separation.

His powerful, award winning short films Tommy and Milly are used to drive understanding about the impact of family conflict on children and to change in family law systems.

We talk about:

The rise of family violence in Australia
Why children’s voices need to be heard in separation and divorce
How Darren combines his legal work with creative storytelling
The real impact of high-conflict separation on children
His award-winning book Tommy & Tiger Terry, and films Tommy & Millie
What he's learned as both a family law expert and a father
The changes he’d most like to see made to the family law court
How parents can support the emotional well-being of their children through separation, divorce and beyond

This is a powerful conversation about creating better outcomes for families - especially the youngest ones caught in the middle.

Links & Resources:

🔗 To Be Loved Network

🔗 Darren Mort - Barrister

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Divorce as more than just an ending. It's a reckoning. An awakening.

Whether you’re in the early stages of separation, in the messy middle, or still quietly sitting in the “should I stay or go?” space, this episode is for you.

Divorce is rarely just the ending of a relationship. It can interrupt your identity, shake you to your core.

And it can also be the powerful beginning of something deeply aligned and beautifully true.

I will lead you through the 5 R’s: Reflect, Release, Realign, Rebuild, and Rise

You’ll be invited to reconnect with yourself, tune into your truth, and begin to consciously shape what’s next.

We’ll unpack:

Why divorce is rarely just about the end of a relationship
How the “quiet after” can become the most powerful space of all
What it looks like to stop surviving and start awakening
How to begin again - unapologetically and on your own terms

This episode is your reminder that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. And it’s never too late to rise.

divorce #divorcepodcast #healingafterdivorce #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #stayorgo #shouldIstayorshouldIgo

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Two of the most powerful words in any relationship? “I’m sorry.”

In this episode, we explore what a true apology sounds like.

No shame, blame or guilt. No excuses, no “I'm sorry but,” no deflection. Just accountability, humility, and the choice to take radical personal responsibility and own your part.

Whether you're navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, or simply reflecting on past patterns, this conversation is a reminder that real repair doesn’t come from blame, but from ownership, accountability, and courage.

We talk about:

Why apologising isn’t weakness, it’s growth
What a genuine apology sounds like (and what it doesn’t)
The impact of apology in post-divorce healing and co-parenting
Letting go of waiting for an apology you may never get

If you're holding out for someone else's “I’m sorry,” this episode might help you let go and begin your own repair.

divorce #divorcepodcast #healingafterdivorce #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #stayorgo #shouldIstayorshouldIgo

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Financial Freedom After Divorce: Getting Unstuck with Your Time, Energy & Money
With Josh Pennell - The Family Finance GuyDivorce can leave you feeling stuck—financially, emotionally, and energetically.

In this episode, financial advisor Josh Pennell shares how to rebuild with intention and achieve true financial freedom after divorce.

Learn how to consciously spend your time, energy, and money to create a thriving future.

I’m joined by Financial Advisor and best-selling author Josh Pennell, also known as The Family Finance Guy. With 20 years of experience and a deep understanding of the emotional and practical realities of money, Josh helps people move from feeling stuck to thriving financially.

We talk about more than just dollars and cents. Josh shares how becoming intentional with your resources - time, energy, focus, and money -is key to creating a life you love after divorce.

Together, we explore:

How to start feeling confident and in control of your finances again
Why “balance” might be the wrong goal (and what to aim for instead)
How to make strategic, considered decisions that support your future
The power of conscious spending - not just money, but time and energy too
Why divorce can be the catalyst for real, lasting financial freedom

Josh brings both professional insight and personal experience as a dad and step-dad to four kids, offering practical advice that’s grounded in real life.

Whether you're thinking about separating, newly divorced or years past, this episode will help you reframe your relationship with money and start moving forward - with clarity and confidence.

Connect with Josh HERE

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All The Firsts After Separation & Divorce

No one prepares you for all the firsts after separation or divorce.

The first night alone in your home.
The first birthday you’re not there to wake your child.
The first family dinner, school event, or holiday morning without your usual rituals.

They’re more than emotional. They shake your sense of identity. They make it real.

And they can leave you feeling heartbroken, unanchored, and unsure how to hold yourself through it all.

In this episode, I talk about:

What makes these “firsts” so hard
Why it’s not just grief. It’s identity, fear, and even guilt
How to support and scaffold yourself through them
Simple ways to create space for both the pain and possibility

Whether you're still in the thick of it, or quietly reflecting on how far you’ve come, this episode is a gentle reminder:

You’re not alone.
You’re doing something brave.
It's hard, and heartbreaking, but not impossible.

And one moment at a time is more than enough.

🔗 Need more support? Book a Clarity Consult with me here

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Reclaiming Rage - The Anger We Were Never Allowed to Feel - And the Radical Act of Asking for More

Why Women Still Need Permission to Be Angry, Ask for More, and Be Heard

What if your anger isn’t a problem… but a powerful kind of truth?

In this episode, we’re diving into the uncomfortable, untamed, and deeply important topic of rage—especially the rage women have been conditioned to repress, soften, and silence.

We talk about why women are still taught not to be angry, how family and cultural dynamics shape our emotional expression, and the radical act of asking for more when you've been told to stay small.

Whether you’ve ever felt frustrated, overlooked, or like your needs always come last—this conversation is for you.

We’ll explore:

Why anger is still seen as confronting, unacceptable, unfeminine in women
How rage is often buried under and relabelled as exhaustion, frustration, or sadness
What happens when we stop asking for what we want & need, and stop expecting to be heard
The emotional and physical cost of repressing anger
Why reclaiming your rage can be life-changing
Practical ways to express anger in healthy, clear, honest ways

Plus: journal prompts, reflective questions, and a call to bravely own your truth without apology.

Because your anger isn’t too much. It’s a message. A compass.
It points to your truth—and something in you that knows things need to change.

Journal Prompts From the Episode:

Where am I softening my truth to keep the peace?
What does my anger want me to know?
What would it look like to let myself fully feel—without apology?

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Living Together Apart – Separated Under One Roof: Tips For Doing It Well

Living together after separating can be a helpful short-term transition... or an emotional, logistical, and legal minefield.

In this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to make it work if you and your ex are still sharing a home.

Note: this is an updated take on an earlier episode — so if you haven’t already, go back and listen to the first one for the full picture.

I’ll talk you through:

The key boundaries, conversations, and legal considerations you need to think about
The pros and cons of this setup and why it needs structure, transparency, and early legal advice
The financial pros (and the often hidden emotional cons) of delaying the move to two homes
Where to get the right kind of support — emotionally, practically, and legally

Living together while separated can ease the transition for everyone involved if it’s done well. That means boundaries, clear communication, and planning your next steps.

If you would like a deeper conversation about this book a free intro call or Clarity Consult HERE

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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How do you really know when it’s over?

Not when the signs are loud or obvious, but when a quiet internal voice keeps whispering that this might not be where you're meant to stay.

When inside, there’s a sense of disconnect you can’t ignore.

In this episode, I explore the quiet, internal signs that your marriage or long-term relationship may have run its course, even when there’s no big betrayal or explosive ending.

How your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to admit it.

Why it’s so hard to acknowledge that an “OK” relationship might not be the right one anymore.

And what to do if you’re emotionally or practically at a crossroads.

This is for you if you're

❥ lying awake at night wondering and asking the same questions on loop
❥ second-guessing your own feelings...
❥ exhausted, confused, or quietly grieving something that hasn’t ended yet.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

❥ The most common (and surprising) ways your body might signal that something’s not right
❥ What it means to feel drained vs. energised in a relationship
❥ Why it doesn’t have to be “bad” to be no longer right
❥ How fear, guilt, and overthinking keep you stuck
❥ The difference between disconnection and normal relationship seasons
❥ What to do when you're not sure you're ready, but you know something needs to change

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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You’ve probably heard the phrase conscious uncoupling.

Maybe you rolled your eyes when Gwyneth and Chris made it famous, or maybe it struck a deep chord. Either way, in this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to consciously uncouple, and why it can be a powerful, healing path through separation and divorce.

I talk about where the idea came from (hint: it wasn’t actually Gwyneth), what it looks like in real life, and the kind of mindset shift it asks of you.

I also share a little of my own story - how my ex-husband and I chose to separate while still seeing ourselves as a family - and how this choice shaped not just our co-parenting, but our kids' sense of safety and connection.

Whether you’re still in the thick of deciding, already separating, or wanting to make this transition with care, this episode offers real insight into how you can move through it with compassion, courage, even love.

Tune in to hear:
❥ Where the concept of conscious uncoupling really came from
❥ What it looks like when done well and when it doesn’t work
❥ The importance of emotional regulation, personal responsibility, respect, and mutual care
❥ How supporting the parents supports the whole family — kids (and even the dog) included
❥ Tips if you you’re navigating this kind of separation (or you want to)
❥ My role as your uncoupling coach: strategic insight with heart, a steady, trusted guide

If you’re feeling uncertain about your relationship, asking hard questions, or already navigating separation… listen in.

And then, let’s chat about what's possible for you and your family.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Lessons fromThe Other Side of Divorce - What My Clients Want You to Know

If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at night wondering, Is this really all there is? Is this as good as it gets? - this episode is for you.

Whether you're questioning your relationship, feeling stuck in an unhappy partnership, navigating separation or divorce, you are not alone.

In this episode, I share insights, stories, and hard-won wisdom from those who’ve stood at the same crossroads.

These are the lessons from the other side of divorce - not just learned personally, but gathered through years of walking beside so many amazing humans - just like you - as they face some of the hardest and most transformative moments of their lives.

You’ll hear about grief, guilt, and doubt… but also about clarity, courage, and the unexpected beauty, agency, freedom and joy that comes after.

Honest reflections from real-life experiences
Empowering takeaways for anyone in the midst of relationship uncertainty or the thick of divorce

This episode is a hand to hold through the mess and the magic of starting over. From those who've lived through it.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Living A Guilt Free Life After Divorce - with guest Annie Kallis

Annie Kallis is a Business & Life Strategist who helps women stop performing and start remembering who they really are beyond the pressure, the roles, and the rules they never agreed to.

Her work is rooted in clarity, self-trust, and deep reconnection. She believes every woman deserves to feel at home in herself, and to build a life and business that actually feel like hers — grounded, true, authentic and wildly free.

In This Episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate we Discuss:

Annie’s personal story of leaving her marriage and how forgiveness became her superpower; how forgiveness is freedom
What it means to stop performing and start remembering who you really are
The deep divide that forms when one person does the inner work and the other doesn’t
How & why guilt shows up in our lives, as we navigate challenging relationships, separation and divorce and what to do with it
The difference between self-responsibility and self-blame
The courage it takes to own your part in a relationship breakdown
How apologising (even years later) can be liberating and healing

Connect with Annie on:

Facebook

Instagram

LinkedIn

TikTok

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Going through a divorce is hard enough without the added weight of unsolicited opinions, judgment, and well-meaning (but completely unhelpful) advice. Whether it's "Everything happens for a reason" or "Aren't you worried you'll regret this?"—these comments can be invalidating, dismissive, hurtful and sometimes even harmful.

In this episode, I share 12 of the most unhelpful things people say during divorce—and more importantly, how to respond to them.

Tune in to hear:

❥ Why certain phrases can feel dismissive or triggering, even when they come from a place of love
❥ How these comments can undermine your confidence and decision-making process
❥ Calm, strategic ways to respond
❥ Reminders that your divorce is your story, and no one else gets to judge your choices.

💬 What’s the most unhelpful thing someone has said to you about your divorce? Or… let’s flip it—what’s the most supportive and helpful thing someone has said to you? Send me a DM or share in the comments!

If this episode resonates with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and share—it helps more people find the support they need when navigating separation, divorce or reorganising life afterwards.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Divorce is hard.

Deciding whether to stay or leave a marriage or relationship is hard.

And, as high-functioning, successful humans, we often make this wrong.

Believing we "should" be able to decide. We "should" be further along the pathway or further into our healing.

We make ourselves wrong, thinking we "should" be doing it differently, better.

I unpack this in this episode.

Tune in to hear:

❥ Why we make ourselves wrong when we’re navigating divorce

❥ Why you feel you “should” be further along than you are

❥ How to (really) cultivate self-compassion to ease yourself through the hard parts

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me onINSTAGRAM
All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Rebuilding Trust in Yourself After Divorce

Divorce has a way of shaking your foundation, leaving you questioning everything - your decisions, your judgment, even your own worth.

You might find yourself wondering: How did I get here? Why didn’t I see the signs? Can I ever trust myself again?

In this episode, I talk about the process of rebuilding trust in yourself after divorce. It’s a process, but it’s also an opportunity—an invitation to reconnect with yourself, to regain confidence in your choices, and to step into a future where you trust yourself more than ever before. Maybe even for the first time.

Whether you're wondering whether to stay or leave, you're in the messy middle of divorce, in the thick of post-divorce uncertainty or simply looking for ways to strengthen your self-trust, this conversation is for you.

Tune in to hear:
✅ Why divorce shakes your self-trust and how to start reclaiming it
✅ Practical steps to rebuild confidence in your decisions
✅ How to quiet self-doubt and reconnect with your inner wisdom

Rebuilding trust in yourself isn’t just possible—it’s powerful reclamation.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲'𝘀 𝐁-𝐈-𝐆 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬... 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐈 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞? 𝗜𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿?𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞?

𝟑 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐁𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐃𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐃𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 (𝐨𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠)

In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate we’re diving into one of the most emotional and life-altering decisions - whether to stay or leave a relationship, to end your marriage and choose divorce.

If you’re feeling stuck in uncertainty, turning the decision over and over in your mind, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I sharing 3 powerful questions to help you reconnect with yourself, your values, and the future you truly want.

Grab a journal or simply let these questions sink in as you listen. This is an invitation to pause, breathe and reflect together.

These questions are also great to answer retrospectively, helping to heal your past patterns before dating after divorce or before getting into a new relationship.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Pleasure, Power, Orgasm & Reclaiming Yourself After Divorce with Katrina "Lady O"

After divorce, (or even while still in a long-term relationship or marriage) many of us struggle to reconnect with ourselves—emotionally, mentally, and physically. But what if embracing pleasure could be the key to reclaiming personal power?

In this episode, I’m joined by Katrina Wyrzykowski, affectionately known as Australia’s Orgasm Lady or Lady O. She helps people remove blocks to intimacy, unlock greater pleasure, and shift their mindset so they can create the fulfilling lives they truly desire.

Together, we explore:
🅾️ How pleasure and orgasm connect to personal power—especially for women questioning or leaving a relationship
🅾️ The biggest blocks women / femme face in accessing pleasure and reaching orgasm
🅾️ How divorce impacts intimacy, and how to rebuild confidence in the bedroom
🅾️ Steps to reconnect with desire after a sexless marriage or years of self-sacrifice
🅾️ Dating and sex after divorce—when and how to talk about sexual health, staying safe, and still having fun

Katrina shares her personal journey, expert insights, and practical tips to help women prioritise their own pleasure and rewrite their story after separation. Because reclaiming yourself includes every part of you.

🔗 Connect with Katrina: @living_the_life_you_deserve

🎧 Listen now to start embracing your pleasure, power and unleash your sensuality

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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I Don't Have To - Reclaiming Your Power (your voice, your agency) In Divorce & Beyond

Lately, there’s been a lot of buzz around the “Let Them” movement, popularised by Mel Robbins. The idea is simple: when you let people do whatever they’re going to do, you create more emotional peace and control in your own life. And while that’s powerful, what’s been resonating with me even more is this: I don’t have to.

Because here’s the thing—you don’t have to.

❥ You don’t have to stay in spaces that drain you.
❥ You don’t have to keep giving when your cup is empty.
❥ You don’t have to explain yourself to people who aren’t listening.
❥ You don’t have to carry the weight of other people’s choices.

In this episode, I'm exploring and unpacking the power of I don’t have to for you - how it helps you set boundaries, protect your peace, and reclaim your agency, especially in the midst of divorce, separation, and life’s big transitions.

If you’ve ever felt like you have to do things that don’t serve you, this episode is your permission slip to stop.

P.S. Masterclass has been POSTPONED. New date TBC

Links & Resources:
📍 Work with me – Divorce coaching for clarity, confidence, & smart strategy
📍 Unravel – My self-paced, online (private) course for those questioning their marriage or relationship
📍Clarity Consult - get clear on your next move & create a future focused plan, before you call a lawyer
📍 Instagram – Join the conversation (or just watch quietly)

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
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Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Did You Choose the Wrong Relationship and How to Choose the Right One?

In this episode, we explore a question that many of us ask ourselves after a breakup:

Did I choose the wrong relationship?

Did I choose the wrong person?

Sometimes, we end up in the "wrong" relationship - not because there’s something inherently wrong with us, but because we made that choice from a place of limited self-awareness or external pressures.

We weren’t fully attuned to our own needs and values, which means the decision wasn’t made with the clarity or consciousness it deserved.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What happens when we fall into relationships without the full awareness of who we are, what we need, and what we deserve.
The importance of self-awareness in choosing a partner
How past experiences and external influences may have shaped your decisions
How we can we avoid repeating patterns and make healthier, more conscious choices moving forward.

Tune in to understand why the wrong relationship doesn’t mean you're wrong, broken or flawed, and how to trust yourself in making the right choices moving forward.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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10 Reframes That Will Change Your Divorce - And You.

In this episode, I’m sharing a reframing process I use with my 1:1 clients to shift their perspective when their inner voice is loud, or the stories they're telling themselves unhelpful.

When we get stuck in black-and-white thinking—right vs wrong, good vs bad—it limits our view and keeps us stuck in frustration, resentment, or self-blame.

This process helps shift your mindset and expand your thinking. Releases you from shame, blame & judgment and opens up new possibilities for the future.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Rewriting Your Love Story After Divorce: A Valentine’s Gift to Your Future Self

Valentine’s Day can bring up a whirlwind of emotions—especially if you're feeling uncertain in your relationship, navigating separation or divorce, or adjusting to life on your own. While the day often amplifies traditional ideas of love and romance, what if this year, you turned the focus inward?

In this episode, I lead you through an exploration of writing a love letter to your future self. This isn’t about reliving the past or longing for a different present—it’s about embracing unconditional love for yourself, celebrating your growth, and reconnecting with your values and dreams.

Through reflection and writing, a profound act of self-compassion, we can be reminded you that love isn’t just something we receive from others—it’s something we cultivate within ourselves.

Tune in to hear:
💌 How Valentine’s Day can feel complicated when love and relationships don’t fit the “expected” mould
💌 Why writing to your future self can be a powerful tool for healing and clarity
💌 The importance of self-love, even in the midst of heartbreak or transition
💌 A simple way to start your own love letter to the future you

This Valentine’s Day, let’s rewrite love—starting with the most important loving relationship you can have. The one with yourself.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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BONUS EPISODE: Reclaiming Power: Storytelling, Movement & Healing with Donna Lyon of Left Write Hook

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of child sexual abuse and gendered violence. Please take care while listening.

In this special bonus episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, I share an incredibly powerful and important conversation with Dr Donna Lyon—a producer, associate professor at the University of Melbourne, and survivor-advocate who is reshaping the conversation around trauma recovery.

Donna is the founder of Left Write Hook, a groundbreaking NFP that combines writing and boxing to support victim-survivors of child sexual abuse and gendered violence. Through her work, she is helping to reclaim narratives, foster healing, and build community.

With a PhD in creative practice and a background in filmmaking, Donna has dedicated her career to storytelling as a force for social change. Her award-winning documentary, Left Write Hook, premiered at the Melbourne International Film Festival in 2024, sparking a national conversation about healing, agency, and resilience.

In this episode, we explore the power of creative expression in trauma recovery, the intersection of storytelling, movement, and community as a pathway to healing. And what it truly means to reclaim yourself after abuse.

And if you’re in Melbourne / Naarm, we’d love for you to join us at an exclusive screening of Left Write Hook on February 27th at Lido Cinemas, Hawthorn, Vic, at 6:20 PM.

Click here for all the details & to BOOK YOUR TICKET

If you can’t join us live OR you’ve missed the screening, you can DONATE to Left Write Hook at the same link

If this episode has brought up things you need deeper support with contact

1800 RESPECT

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Losing Yourself in Relationships – How to Reclaim YOU

In last week’s episode, we explored why losing yourself in a relationship feels so familiar. This week, we’re shifting gears to the how.

How to reclaim YOU after losing yourself in a relationship.
How to begin healing from self-abandonment.

How do you break free from this pattern? How do you rediscover your sense of self and reclaim your identity—whether in your current relationship, a new one, or as you navigate life after divorce?

Tune in for practical, actionable steps to reconnect with you and build healthier, more balanced, connected & fulfilling relationships moving forward.

Join my upcoming FREE Masterclass - The One Thing You Can Do To Heal Your Relationship Pattern

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Why Losing Yourself in a Relationship Feels So Familiar—and How to Reclaim YOU

Why does losing yourself in a relationship feel so deeply familiar?
Why do we self-abandon in relationships?

For many (not only, but commonly) women, it’s the result of lifelong conditioning to prioritise others over themselves; to prioritise harmony over having deeper needs met or avoiding conflict.

This episode explores WHY it's such a familiar and insidious pattern of being in relationship for so many.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unappreciated, or like you’ve lost touch with yourself, this conversation will help you understand why—and guide you toward reclaiming you.

Join my upcoming FREE Masterclass - The One Thing You Can Do To Heal Your Relationship Pattern

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Five years ago Chris Gillard found himself suddenly separated, no job, no money, no home and two little girls to look after every second week. And had to very quickly find a solution.

This conversation and his book:THE DIVORCED MAN’S KITCHEN SURVIVAL GUIDE - A powerful recipe to recover, renew and rebuild a new you.

His story, shared to help others—especially men and dads navigating separation, divorce, parenting, and life afterward—offers insights on healing in healthy ways, emerging stronger, more resilient, and more confident, while guiding, supporting, and nurturing your kids through the transition.

Grab a copy of Chris's book HERE
Connect with him on LinkedIn

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Parenting After Betrayal: Navigating Co-Parenting, Parallel Parenting, and Supporting Your Kids

In this episode, we’re diving into what can be one of the most difficult challenges you may face during separation or divorce: parenting in the aftermath of betrayal.

Supporting your kids’ relationship with their other parent while simultaneously grappling with your own heartbreak, anger, pain and healing.

I'll share with you practical strategies and compassionate insights to help you:

Support your kids through their own emotional journey.
Navigate co-parenting or parallel parenting dynamics with grace.
Manage your pain without letting it spill into your parenting.
Support your own healing and
Begin rebuilding your life and sense of self after betrayal.

Let’s tackle this together so you can create a supportive, stable environment for your children, foster their connection with their other parent, while honoring your own healing.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Navigating the crossroads of staying or leaving a marriage or long-term relationship is overwhelming and scary.

One of the toughest decisions many of us will face: whether to stay in a relationship partnership or marriage or whether to leave

But what if you could:

🖤 Ground yourself in clarity

🖤 Focus on the future you want (not just what you’re leaving behind)

🖤 Make empowered decisions

🖤 Choose from a place of calm, not fear

In this episode, I offer you a path forward, a reframe - something your future self will thank you for, whatever you decide.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Welcome to the first episode for 2025!

Starting Fresh: Navigating Divorce or Life afterwards in the New YearWhether you're navigating the early stages of divorce or adjusting to life after separation, even just thinking about whether to stay or leave your marriage, this episode is all about empowering you, giving you the inspiration to start fresh, move forward with clarity and confidence.

Create a vision for your future, beyond divorce and embrace this New Year as one of growth, healing, and possibility.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Feeling stuck in the overwhelm of "should I stay or should I leave"?

Navigating the mess & chaos of separation or divorce? Reorganising family afterwards?

Even though it feels lonely and isolating, you’re not alone in the experience.

In this episode, I talk through nine of the most common reasons people seek the support of a divorce coach (me!) and how working with me can help you find clarity, confidence, and a path forward.

Whether you’re weighing your options, untangling shared lives, or rebuilding after it’s all over, this conversation offers insights and practical guidance to separate with less stress and divorce with less drama.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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You Are Not Too Much: Reclaiming All of You in Love, Divorce, and Beyond

Owning your desires, speaking your truth, and asking for what you need does NOT make you too much. All of that is an intricate and intimate part of you.

In this episode, we explore the fear of being "too much" and how it holds us back from the love, joy, and fulfillment, the deeply connected life (& love) we are inherently worthy of.

Whether you’re feeling stuck, unsure of what you want, like you’ve lost pieces of yourself in a relationship, navigating life after separation or divorce, this conversation will encourage you to reclaim your voice and step into your fierce feminine power.

To live and love as the whole lotta human that you are.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Life, Christmas & The Holidays After a Divorce You Didn’t Want

The holidays can be tough after divorce, particularly an unwelcome divorce, and when grief, loss, or betrayal are fresh.

In this episode, we explore how to navigate this season with grace and self-compassion.

Key Themes:
🎄 Giving yourself permission to feel your feelings
🎄 Grieving infidelity and the marriage you thought you had
🎄 Setting boundaries and protecting your energy
🎄 Letting go of traditions and obligations that no longer serve you
🎄 Creating space for healing and moving forward

This is your invitation to honour where you are, protect your peace, and take steps forward, even if it feels hard right now.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Things That Make Christmas & The Holiday Season Hard After Divorce - and what you can do to let them go

This episode is all about the Christmas & the holiday season — one of the most joyful times of the year, but also one of the hardest if you're going through or healing from a divorce.

I share about some of the things that can make Christmas and the holidays feel even more challenging after separation, and, more importantly, what you can do to release some of that weight and reclaim a bit of peace, joy, and light during this season.

Whether your separation or divorce is fresh and this is the first holiday season you’re navigating afterwards, or if you're a little further along your divorce healing journey, this episode will help and support you.

BOOK A CLARITY CONSULTfor deep nurturing support to scaffold you through the holiday season.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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An exploration of 20 questions you can ask yourself about your relationship breakdown, separation or divorce to expand your awareness & understanding of your relationship, your behaviour, your relationship patterns, and attachment styles, facilitate healing and consciously choose what's next for you after divorce.

REFRAME your experience of divorce, and transform it into an opportunity for growth and expansion.

Download the questions HERE

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
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Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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What You Don’t Need to Survive Divorce – Part 2

A continuation of last week’s episode focusing on the things you don’t need—the distractions, the unnecessary pressures, and the noise that only make navigating divorce harder.

How to simplify your separation / divorce journey and strip away what you don’t need, so you can focus on what truly matters.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
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Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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What You Don’t Need to Survive Divorce – Part 1

When you're going through a divorce, it can feel like there’s so much you need to juggle and a lot you need to sort.

But while some things are crucial - sound legal & financial advice, emotional support, a clear strategy and future focus - there’s also a lot you don’t need.

In this episode, we’ll explore what you can let go of, the distractions to avoid, how to strip out the noise to focus on what really matters.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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In this guest episode with Lisa Britcliffe - Mum of 3, Property Advocate - we discuss:

🏠 What you can do to ease yourself - practically, financially & emotionally - through selling the family home after separation / divorce
🏠 What home means and how that can change after divorce
🏠 Important considerations when re-homing yourself and your family after separation or divorce
🏠 Tips and advice from the other side of divorce - what we would do differently.
🏠 Leaving what appeared to be the perfect marriage
And more.

Connect with Lisa at www.oriumandco.com

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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It can be especially challenging to leave someone who is a really nice, decent human being.

Someone you care about, maybe even still love.

This episode is all about divorcing a nice guy / gal. The unique challenges of leaving someone and a marriage that's not "bad" just not what you want, or when you feel that niggling feeling there's more waiting for you, there is more possible for you, than a marriage that's just OK.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Divorce is hard. And when things get hard, it can be tempting to use alcohol to numb, escape, avoid the hard.

In this second part of my conversation with Kathryn Elliott, we discuss how reframing your relationship with alcohol when you're navigating divorce can be your superpower.

Kathryn is one of Australia’s leading specialist alcohol and binge drinking coaches for high-functioning professionals.

Her expertise and comments regularly appear in lifestyle, health, business and women’s media nationally.

As a former binge drinker for over 30 years, Kathryn coaches from lived experience and believes sharing our own stories is one of the most powerful tools in healing and finding a more balanced relationship with alcohol.

She is also currently in a period of transition having recently separated a 24 year relationship - 22 of marriage - and lives in Melbourne with her three teenage sons; Oscar, Tom & Hugo, and beloved cocker spaniel, Ralph.

Connect with Kathryn ⤵️

https://www.thealcoholmindsetcoach.com/
https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholmindsetcoach/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-elliott-630ab532

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
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Free Resources & Downloads
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Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Doing Divorce without (or at least with less) alcohol - a conversation with Kathryn Elliott, The Alcohol Mindset Coach.

This is part one of a two part series.

Kathryn is one of Australia’s leading specialist alcohol and binge drinking coaches for high-functioning professionals.

Her expertise and comments regularly appear in lifestyle, health, business and women’s media nationally.

As a former binge drinker for over 30 years, Kathryn coaches from lived experience and believes sharing our own stories is one of the most powerful tools in healing and finding a more balanced relationship with alcohol.

She is also currently in a period of transition having recently separated a 24 year relationship - 22 of marriage - and lives in Melbourne with her three teenage sons; Oscar, Tom & Hugo, and beloved cocker spaniel, Ralph.

Connect with Kathryn ⤵️

https://www.thealcoholmindsetcoach.com/
https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholmindsetcoach/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-elliott-630ab532

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me onINSTAGRAM
All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Can I get divorced if I am still living under the same roof as my spouse / partner?

In this episode I step through some of the do's & don'ts of being separated under one roof - a situation which can become something of a family law nightmare if not carefully managed.

A Clarity Consult with me will help you create a strategic plan and make smart, empowered, grounded decisions about separation / divorce, before you need to engage a lawyer.

Remember this is general information only and the legal stuff relates primarily to Australian Family Law. Seek specialist advice if you need to.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
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Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Some recent DMs and client questions answered for you on this weeks episode.

How do I get over a break-up I didn't see coming?
What to do when my ex is constantly late for pick up / drop off / change-over of kids?
I had an affair and I want my wife back but she won't talk to me
How do I deal with or overcome loneliness after divorce as an introvert / homebody?
My kids are taking sides. What can I do?

If you've got your own burning question, message me either here via the message link ⬆️ or on Instagram and I'll do my best to answer in an upcoming episode.

The more you ask, the more episodes like this we will have.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Navigating Grief in Separation & Divorce and Still Doing the Hard Things

Divorce necessarily involves loss and triggers grief.

AND we still need to show up for ourselves, our kids, in life and at work. All while having to make some big decisions and do some hard sh*t.

How can we do the hard things, the practical tangible things, get on with day to day life, making big decisions, support our kids while holding space for our own grief?

For this episode, I asked Rio Richards, therapist and grief integration coach this, and many more questions, about grief.

You can find Rio at her website and on Instagram @andthatsgrief

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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This is the story one of my 1:1 clients shared about her experience of divorce, and of working with me while she navigated her way through a complex, high-conflict, mulit-layered divorce.

She described her journey through divorce as like being one through a dark, cold tunnel.

In sharing here, we both hope that you find what you need to either muster the courage to step into your own tunnel or the solace that even in the darkness, you don't have to be alone.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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How to Overcome Numbing Avoidance & Procrastination When You Need to Take Big Steps, using somatic practices.

Guest episode with Rio Richards, therapist and grief integration coach.

Rio specialises in helping adults navigate the profound and complex journey of loss and trauma, which is a part of the divorce journey.

With a somatic and psychodynamic lens, Rio guides individuals to heal and rebuild using the power of both the mind and body for long-term resilience and change.

In this episode Rio explains what somatic practice or therapy is and offers some practical tips and tools you can use to support yourself at the big moments, when you need to make big decisions or take hard steps.

Rio's website and Instagram @andthatsgrief

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Divorce & Reclamation - Reclaiming Power and A Sense of Control Amidst Uncertainty

Even if you think it's not, divorce is about reclamation.

This episode is about choosing & reclaiming YOU.

Divorce is hard and heartbreaking. It's a journey through hard decisions, difficult choices, but really, it's divorce is a courageous journey back to you.

How to reclaim your personal power and regain a sense of control through divorce and beyond.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

How you can work with me
Book a free intro call
Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
Free Resources & Downloads
Choose You Guidebook
Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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Decision fatigue is the mental and emotional drain you feel after you’ve made too many decisions particularly in a short period of time.

And let's face it - divorce will require you to make some big, life-changing decisions, with long-term consequences.

In this episode I talk through how you can support yourself to thrive through the overwhelm, manage decision fatigue and make grounded, empowered decisions.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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What divorce really means (and it's probably not what you think or are expecting).

We tell ourselves - and are told by our social network, cultural connections, family, friends, and our deep ingrained conditioning - so many stories about what divorce means.

From personal lived experience, as well as having coached so many through divorce to the end and beyond, this is what I know divorce really means.

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Free Resources & Downloads
- Choose You Guidebook
- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Loneliness during relationship breakdown, separation and divorce - even after divorce - is a universal experience.

Even if you chose to end the relationship, loneliness can (probably will) be part of your journey.

And there are 5 specific types of loneliness that show up for anyone navigating relationship, separation or divorce challenges.

Tune in to hear about the 5 types of loneliness divorce brings, how to offset them and handle them in healthy ways.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Even if you've never experienced anxiety in your life before, divorce is one of the most stressful and destabilising life events that it can trigger anxiety.

And Divorce Anxiety is a very real phenomenon with specific triggers and responses.

Given separation and divorce impacts almost every aspect of our life, turns our world on it's head, and fundamentally alters the dreams and plans we had for our future, it's hardly surprising it can trigger anxiety.

This episode steps you through divorce anxiety from the very basics - how it can show up physically, emotionally, cognitively and behaviourally - and how you can support yourself in managing it.

For support & resources connect with Beyond Blue

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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An episode that steps you through how to have hard conversations and navigate conflict in healthy ways.

Creating emotional safety to connect and engage in healthy conflict is crucial in having hard conversations.

And let's face it, if you're separating or getting divorced, you're likely going to have to have some hard conversations.

So, whether with your current partner, your soon-to-be-ex, or your co-parent, these tips and strategies can help you engage in and move through conflict in healthier ways, and have constructive conversations.

Having Hard Conversations - Free Scripts to download

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Creating Emotional Safety - in relationships, during divorce and beyond.

Whether you're currently in a relationship that feels challenging, you're separated or navigating divorce, or you're looking at life, dating, and relationships afterward creating emotional safety is key.

A healthy relationship requires us to know how to cultivate emotional safety—for ourselves and for each other. And when navigating challenges in relationships, separation or divorce knowing how to create an emotional safe space for yourself is critical to your wellbeing.

Join me in this episode as I explore emotional safety in relationships and through separation & divorce.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Divorce Is Hard and... that doesn't mean you should stay (or should have stayed) married.

Divorce is hard... and that doesn't mean you shouldn't choose it.

Over the past few years, I’ve supported dozens of clients in successfully navigating their separation and divorce in healthy ways.

In this episode I share, from my own personal lived experience of divorce and reorganising life afterward, as well as from my clients, what I’ve learned to be universal about deciding to leave a marriage, navigating separation and divorce.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Sex After Divorce: Playful, Pleasure-Focused, and Liberating

After a separation or divorce, you get to consciously reframe a whole lot of things and choose to do them completely differently. Sex is one of those things.

Post divorce sex can be incredibly liberating… a little intimidating or anxiety inducing, sure, but once you embrace it as part of your reclamation and rediscovery of yourself it can be an amazing, empowering part of your healing.

In this episode I talk about focusing on play and pleasure in your exploration of sex post-divorce.

If you want my support to reclaim and liberate yourself through separation, divorce and beyond, book a free intro call to chat about how you can work with me.

Sallyanne 🌻

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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Divorce is hard, painful and filled with emotion - whether you chose it or not.

Navigating a more peaceful, lower conflict divorce minimises the damage done.

But how?

In this episode I offer you 20 tips to help support you in a low - or at least lower - conflict divorce.

Free Download - How To Have Hard Conversations

Compassionate Courageous Conversations Guide

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If you're wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage...

If you're asking the hard questions about your marriage and questioning whether it's a hard season you're moving through or if it's really over between you, this episode is for you.

5 indicators that you might want to stay.

5 indicators that your relationship can survive this heavy, hard season.

How to Have Hard Conversations download your guide to having courageous conversations - 5 free done-for-you-scripts to kick start hard conversations.

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Attachment Styles and How They Influence The Way We Divorce

Part 3 of this mini series on attachment styles

In this episode I lead you through:

How each of the 4 key attachment styles inform how we show up in adult relationships
How our attachment style influences the way we are most likely to behave as we navigate separation and divorce
How understanding our attachment style and that of our ex-partner can change the game when it comes to divorce, negotiation, mediation
Using your knowledge of your ex's attachment style as leverage to successfully negotiate, mediate and create a healthy divorce

If you recognise yourself or your ex in any of these behavioural patterns and want next level support, my coaching expertise to guide you through your separation, divorce and reorganisation of life & family afterwards, I invite you to book a free intro call with me to talk through your options.

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Attachment Styles in Relationships & Divorce - Part 2

How Our Attachment Style Shows Up In Adult Relationships (& Divorce)

A deeper look at attachment styles and the 4 main attachment styles
- Secure
- Anxious
- Dismissive Avoidant
- Fearful Avoidant

How they show up in our adult relationships.

How they can impact when (or if) we divorce.

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Attachment Styles in relationships, through break ups and divorce.

This is part 1 of a 3 part series on Attachment Styles.

An overview, in this series I cover:

What is attachment style and what's YOUR attachment style?
How does it form?
Is our attachment style fixed or can it shift and change?
How does our attachment style impact the way we form relationships, the partner we choose and the way we behave in our relationships.
Even how attachment style can impact how we divorce.

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In this episode I welcome guest Mia Madafferi, an expert in narcissistic personality types and owner of Grey Rock Consulting, supporting anyone who needs to engage with a narcissist, including during divorce or parenting afterwards.

Tune in to learn

How to recognise narcissistic behaviour
Mia’s top tips when dealing with a narcissitic ex-partner
What to expect when you leave a narcissist and how to protect yourself
The concept of narcissistic supply
What grey / yellow rock strategy is and why it works
How to support your children when their other parent has narcissistic tendencies
What NOT to do when divorcing a narcissist
How to successfully mediate with your narcissist ex
How to protect your children without being accused of alienation

Connect with Mia at Grey Rock Consulting:

@greyrockconsulting
www.greyrockconsulting.com.au

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How to "win" your mediation or divorce negotiation.

Tune in to learn how to prepare yourself for a successful outcome in your divorce negotiation or mediation.

Whether you're just starting the mediation process or in the thick of it, these insights will provide you with strategies to help you navigate divorce and mediation with confidence and clarity.

Rather than "winning", the goal is to emerge from the process with a solution that best serves everyone involved, and you feeling empowered and ready to embrace the next chapter of your life.

Sallyanne

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4 key things that will CHANGE the way you experience divorce

Listen in as I step you through 4 powerful things you can do, while you're in the middle of divorce, that change your experience and the outcome.

Finding the right, values aligned, caring, expert support is crucial in navigating a divorce and it's one of the keys that will change your experience of divorce, so please reach out for an introductory call to discuss how I help my clients.

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Sallyanne

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Mother's Day after divorce can be hard.

Mother's Day when a marriage feels hard, can bring up all the things.

This episode is for Mums AND Dads navigating Mother's Day during separation, after divorce or when a marraige feels hard.

How to support yourself and your kids through a day that "should" be all about happy families.

Go gently,

Sallyanne

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Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

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While divorce is destabilising and overwhelming and can feel like your life is all of a sudden out of control. there are key things you can do to change your own experience of divorce.

This is part 2 of key things you can do to change your divorce experience and create safety, freedom and liberation for yourself.

Create the life you most want for yourself after divorce.

Support is crucial in navigating a divorce - it's one of the keys that will change your experience of divorce, so please reach out for an introductory call to discuss how I help my clients.

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Divorce is hard, heartbreaking and painful.

There's a lot that's outside of your control - not least of all your ex, what they do, say and how they behave.

There's a lot about separation, divorce, family law, that is overwhelming, fear inducing and destabilising.

Divorce brings so much change, fear and uncertainty.

And...
There are key things you can do to change your experience of divorce.

In this episode, I step you through some of the key things you can do to change your experience of divorce.

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Should you stay? Should you leave? Or are you hoping your partner will be the one to call it quits so you don't have to.

You know you "should" leave your marriage. You know you want to leave you relationship. You know it's over. And you also know you don't want the pain, heartbreak and drama of a divorce.

And so, you stay. Undecided. In marriage or relationship limbo.

Your marriage is empty or disconnected. And still you can't decide to divorce.

You're worried about all the things - money, the house, the kids, the dog. Who gets what if you divorce and whether you'll damage your kids. Will your adult kids resent you? Will your husband / wife / partner make it so hard you wonder if it's worth it.

And yet... deep down you know. It's over and you have to do the hardest thing.

What's underneath your excuse? What's underneath the story you're telling yourself about why you can't leave your marriage?

Explore this with me in today's episode of the podcast.

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Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

Sallyanne

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The Power of Solitude. Loneliness. And Dating after Divorce. A conversation with Australian writer & author Kerri Sackville.

In this guest episode Kerri and I discuss the power of solitude in changing us, our relationships, our life experience and perhaps the world, as well as dating after divorce, with reference to two of her books.

The Secret Life of You: How a bit of alone time can change your life, relationships, and maybe the world.

and

Out There: A survival guide for dating in midlifeWe talk about

Solitude vs Loneliness and how there is a distinct difference.
That our society is structured around being in relationship, part of a couple and when or if we aren't, or if we are considering leaving one... there can be barriers.
How to spend time in solitude to know yourself, how it changes things and then
Dating after divorce - the do's and don'ts

You can find Kerri and her fabulous, highly recommmeded books at https://www.kerrisackville.com.au/ BOOK a free intro call HERE All the details for DECIDE & THRIVE and to join the group HERE

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When Sam's marriage fell apart she felt like her world was crashing down. Lost and hurting, overwhelmed, uncertain, she had no idea how to move forward.

That's when she connected with me as her divorce coach.

This is her story.

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Will My Kids Be OK After Divorce? A child psychologist's perspective.

This is a guest episode with leading Australian psychologist Clare Rowe.

Clare has worked with separating families for the last 15 years and specialises in high conflict matters in the Family Court. She appears as an Expert Witness in the Court, preparing Family Reports.

In 2021, after years of helping divorcing parents, Clare struggled with the sudden end of her own marriage with two young children and three step children. Her journey in processing this loss, adjusting to being a single middle aged Mum and sharing the time with her young children is ongoing, but has given her enormous insight and even more respect for the clients who come to see her.

Clare shares openly in this episode, both as an experienced psychologist and as a single Mum.

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Deciding to leave a marriage. Having the hard conversations about your relationship with your partner, husband, wife. Making the decision to end a long-term relationship. It's hard.

And there are so many layers.

This is exactly what I support clients through.

Making the decision to stay or go.
Having the hard conversations to create the change you most want.
Leaving. Separation. Divorce. And all that brings with it, practically, socially, emotionally financially.
Reclaiming a new version of yourself.
Living a liearated life of your own choosing.

In this episode of the podcast I share one client's story.

When she connected with me as her coach, Emma was asking all the hard questions.

Is my marriage over?
Can we reconnect?
What do I even want for my life?
Can my wants & needs be met in this version of relationshIp?
What needs to shift or change?
What will my future look like if I stay? And if I leave?A close-up look at what it's really like to work with me and an invitation to join me to DECIDE & THRIVE

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Releasing the Past and Healing After Divorce

Healing after heartbreak, a break up divorce, is hard. And it’s a process. One you need to move right through, rather than just skip to the end, or skip over the painful parts, to the good parts.

This episode is all about healing after divorce, releasing ourselves from the past and moving on by switching the focus to the future, leads you through a process you can use yourself.

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*TRIGGER WARNING* this episode mentions domestic violence and complex ptsd trauma

A Q&A discussion with Caroline Parsons of Solo Legal principal lawyer at Solo Legal, where she helps targets of psychological and emotional abuse separate from their intimate partners.

Caroline takes a human and empathetic approach to resolving family disputes. With training in trauma-informed practice, she works with clients in a super sensitive way.

**In memory of Analyn “Logee” Osias who was murdered by her ex-partner in 2023, and of all the women who should have been safe.

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RESOURCES for anyone in a toxic, dangerous or abusive relationshipThe Orange DoorThe Lighthouse Project

White Ribbon help lines

1800 Respect

Blue Knot

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/

https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/

Search for "Domestic Violence Liaison Officer" in your state or territory

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Social Isolation and Losing Friends After Divorce

One of the most difficult, confusing, surprising, even devastating realities of divorce is the loss of so many significant relationships.

Your spouse, husband, wife or partner is just the top of a long list of people who will exit from your life, some slowly, some literally overnight.

It’s painful, confusing and can leave you socially isolated right at a time when you most need connection, community, care, company and love.

Why does it happen?
What can you do about it?

Listen to this episode for my explanation and tips on dealing with the loss of friendships after divorce.

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LGBTIQA+ & RAINBOW FAMILIES - Creating emotionally safe access to family law services
Rainbow Families and members of the LGBTQIA+ community face a variety of challenges and unique circumstances when it comes to family law.

Historically, family law has operated under heteronormative assumptions, considering male-female relationships and traditional family structures as the norm.

Hence there are remaining biases that influence the way our family law system treats members of LGBTQIA+ families and/or the perception LGBTIQA+ members have of the family law system.

This is a guest episode with Catherine Giles, who is a partner at Nicholes Family Law, based in Victoria.

Nicholes Family Lawyers are committed to ensuring access to justice for the LGBTIQA+ community and specialises in providing legal guidance for its members. Nicholes advise their LGBTIQA+ clients on various legal matters including donor agreements, parentage, assisted reproduction and IVF.

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.All relationships are equal, welcomed and supported at Reflect 🌈

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This episode contains general advice only. Please contact a legal professional for advice pertinent to your unique circumstances.
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The Songs Catherine Chose:
“I Will Survive” by Gloria Gaynor
“Flowers” by Miley Cyrus
“Cry Me A River” by Justin Timberlake
“Bye Bye Bye” by NSYNC.

Nicholes Family Law website:
https://nicholeslaw.com.au/

Rainbow Families
https://www.rainbowfamilies.com.au/

Joy Radio - Chicks Talking Footy
https://joy.org.au/chickstalkingfooty/

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LIFE LESSONS MY KIDS LEARNED FROM OUR DIVORCE & HAVING A SINGLE MUM

Our kids learn from watching us - watching how we navigate life, and how we move through hard things, like separation and divorce. How we parent as a single parent, and as co-parents.

Here are some of the things my kids - now young adults - have learnt from our divorce and from growing up with me as their Mum, a single Mum.

And, it's not all bad.

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Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATEREFRAME

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In this episode I chat with business owner and coach Vanessa Medling about

Leaving a relationship with little or no money & rebuilding financially after divorce
Coercive control and financial abuse after separation
Building friendships and creating a team to support you through separation, divorce and beyond
Divorce parties - celebrating and honouring the end of a marriage or relationship in healthy ways

It's a powerful episode of Ness's lived experience and choice to not only survive divorce, but thrive afterwards.

Connect with Ness HERE

Other resources Ness mentioned

Mel Browne's Financial Adulting Course
Julie Crockett - www.apisolutions.com.au

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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Go gently,
Sallyanne

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Divorce Truth Bombs You Need To Hear

Regardless of where you're at in term of your relationship or divorce - whether you're asking the hard questions about your marriage or relationship, wondering weather to stay or leave, navigating the decision-making process, in the messy middle of separation or divorce, or emerging on the other side and wondering what’s next for you - in this episode I share with you some essential divorce truth bombs you need to hear

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In this last episode of the year I share a little bit of the back story of Reflect Coaching as well as a process I use with my 1:1 clients - Reflecting to Create Change.

Be that in general life, your relationship, as you navigate divorce, consciously uncouple or heal and recover after divorce.

I step you through a process to support you to consciously create the change you most want for yourself.

For all the details on a one-off deep dive REFRESH SESSION click HERE

Sallyanne

Ready to go even deeper and explore working 1:1 with me?

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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A reflective episode on lessons, learnings and reminders from 2023

Lessons and learnings from my personal life as well as my clients.

Reminders that life, my coaching clients and work gifted me this year.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

Go gently,
Sallyanne

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The first Christmas or the holiday season after divorce can be hard.

This episode is all about how to support and scaffold yourself and your children as you navigate the first Christmas or Holiday Season after your divorce.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
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Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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Go gently,
Sallyanne

All relationships are equal, welcomed and supported at Reflect 🌈

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LISTEN to the Reflect Playlist

Other episodes to listen to about Christmas & the holidays after divorce

All The "Shoulds" of Christmas After Divorce

The Grief of Going Solo At Christmas After Divorce

12 Days of Christmas Giving To Yourself After Divorce

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Tips, strategies and support for anyone separating or divorcing a high-conflict, toxic or narcissistic ex.

Please share this with anyone you know is navigating a high-conflict divorce with someone demonstrating narcissistic traits and behaviours.

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General information and advice only. If you need deeper support, please connect with your GP / mental health professsional.

Other helpful resources:

https://www.police.vic.gov.au/family-violence

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method

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There's no denying that divorce is challenging.

And when you're divorcing someone who is high-conflict or narcissistic, the challenges are next level and can feel relentless.

In this first of a two part series, I offer you some tips and strategies for dealing with a toxic, high-conflict or narcissistic ex during your divorce and beyond.

Part 2 to follow

Book a free intro call to discuss coaching options HERE

Other helpful resources:

https://www.police.vic.gov.au/family-violence

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method

General information and advice only. If you need deeper support, please connect with your GP / mental health professsionalhttps://www.police.vic.gov.au/family-violence

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

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Dating After Divorce - How To Know You're Ready... Or Not.

Key signs you're ready (or not) to step out into the world of dating after a breakup, separation or divorce.

Tune in for:

How you know you're ready to date again.
Questions to ask yourself before you launch yourself out into the world of dating after divorce.
My 2 rules for dating after divorce.

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Download my free CHOOSE YOU guidebook - for recovering people pleasers and healing from self-abandonment

Please rate, review, share the podcast with anyone who you think might enjoy or be supported by it.

Sallyanne

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In this episode, I chat with Danielle Zetzer, founder and principal of specialist family law firm Respect Legal.

Dani has the superpower of helping people feel like anything is possible. A powerhouse collaborative family lawyer, she puts her neck out on a daily basis to change systems through a bold, unconventional and social impact approach to the law.

She (not unlike me) isn't one to hold back on the hard topics and in this conversation we covered (among other things):

De-escalating conflict during and after your divorce
Divorcing a narcissistic partner
High conflict separations
Co-parenting after a high conflict divorce
The impact of taking personal responsibility in your divorce
Creative ways of divorcing well

Connect with Dani & the Respect Legal Team:

Respect Legal website
Respect Legal Instagram
Diary of a divorce lawyer Instagram

Of course the song Dani chose for us to add to the REFLECT PLAYLIST is Aretha Franklin - RESPECT

Ready to explore working more deeply with me?

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Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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So, your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is speaking badly about you to your kids.

Unfortunately it's not uncommon for an ex or co-parent to speak a little more frankly or openly with the kids than is necessary.

What can you do if your ex is badmouthing you or speaking badly about you to your kids?

In this episode I talk through:

What badmouthing is and what it can look like (it's not always obvious)
How to respond when your children share that it's happening
What to do if it happens in person, when you are present, especially when your kids are also present
How to descalate and stop it from continuing (and accept that ultimately it's beyond your control)

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Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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In this episode I share the FIRST THING you should do if your partner tells you they've been having an affair and they are leaving, or that they want a divorce.

I was asked this question in an interview recently and my answer may come as a surprise.

I share the first thing I believe you should do in this situation - the first thing anyone should do if the "divorce" announcement is a surprise.

And also, the next steps to take once you've recovered from being blindsided by your partner telling you they want a divorce.

Listen for these practical, tangible steps to take to divorce well.

Other episodes to check out:
How To Choose A Divorce Lawyer

If you've been blindsided by the divorce discussion OR you're wondering whether to stay or leave OR you're in the messy middle parts of divorce, my support helps you divorce with less disaster.

Let's talk. Book a free intro call directly in my calendar to discuss options.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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How to know you've healed from your divorce?

Healing after divorce isn't a linear pathway.

Whether you chose your divorce or it was a decision made for you that you could not control, there is grieving, processing and healing to be done.

In this episode I talk through 15 signs that you've healed - or are healing - after your divorce.

This is for you if you are:

Thinking about leaving a long term relationship and worried what life might look like on the other side
In the messy middle of separation
Deep in the process of divorce
Emerging from the storm and thinking about what's next for you after divorce

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And if you're looking for high-touch bespoke support through your separation, divorce and beyond so you can survive, heal and thrive, let's chat.

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Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

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**Go gently,
Sallyanne

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Communicating on a regular basis with someone you’d rather never see or speak to again is pretty tricky, but this is what many of you will have to do, or are already doing after you’ve divorced or separated.

Communicating with your ex if they are high-conflict toxic or narcissistic is particularly challenging.

In this episode I step you through one key strategy you can use to communicate with someone who is high-conflict or toxic.

The B.I.F.F. model is a helpful tool to dial down the conflict and limit the toxicity of communicating with a high-conflict ex partner while you navigate your divorce and co-parent afterwards.

If you're divorcing a high-conflict ex and want my 1:1 support, book a FREE INTRO CALLwith me to discuss options.

Bill Eddy's book: BIFF for Co-Parent Communication

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

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**Go gently,
Sallyanne

All relationships are equal, welcomed and supported at Reflect 🌈**

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Will Divorce and Moving Between Two Homes Damage Your Kids? My daughter's lived experience.

In this extra special episode of the podcast, I chat with my daughter Eva about her memories, reflections and experience as the child of divorced parents and moving between two homes.

I ask her:

What she remembers about our divorce
What we did well as divorced parents
What she wishes we had done differently
What we could have done better
The best & the worst things about our family and our divorce
How our divorce has impacted her view on life, love & relationships

And she flips the lens on me and asks me about my experience of divorce and as a single mother.

If you are asking the hard questions about your marriage, if you're wondering whether to stay or leave, if you're afraid that leaving, divorce and moving between two homes will damage your kids, if you're endlessly googling "will divorce harm my kids" this episode is for you.

A sneak peek into our real lives as a divorced family with two homes - the good, and the not so good.

WIth love

Sallyanne & Eva 🌻

If you're interested in all things wellness, lifestyle, balance and travel, you can find Eva on Instagram - The Salted State

To book your complimentary intro call iwth me to discuss coaching options and your next steps go HERE

For some more support, explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

BOOK A CALL

**Go gently,
Sallyanne

All relationships are equal, welcomed and supported at Reflect 🌈**

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Healing After Divorce - are you seeking closure or validation?

In this episode I explore the concept of seeking closure after divorce or betrayal. What's underlying our need to want or to seek closure?

Are we looking for closure? Or are we actually seeking validation and permission to feel? Validation of our experience and permission to feel or react however we choose.

Another episode with a behind the scenes look at working with me as your divorce coach, I walk you through a process you can use if you're post-divorce, healing after divorce, recovering from heartbreak or betrayal, even after an affair. A process to use if you're seeking closure from a relationship break-up or divorce.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

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**Go gently,
Sallyanne

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Reclaim YOU and Rebuild your life after divorce with this sneak peek into one of the exact processes I use in my work as a divorce coach.

In this episode I step you through one of the processes I use with my 1:1 clients to reflect, reclaim and liberate themselves after divorce.

It's an invitation and a behind the scenes look at how I can support you through your divorce and to reclaim you after divorce.

Book a FREE INTRO CALL if you'd like to talk about having me on your support team as you decide whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage, or navigate your divorce, effectively divorce a toxic ex, or successfully co-parent afterwards.

If you enjoyed this episode, you might also like these:

Finding Yourself After Divorce - Do You Remember Who You Used to Be?

Dating Yourself After Divorce

Choosing YOU

After some more support? Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

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**Go gently,
Sallyanne

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Working with me is an investment. Time. Energy. And money. Coaching is a significant financial commitment and investment. And the ROI is significant.

In this episode I talk you through the cost of NOT working with a divorce coach and share some of the ways I’ve saved my clients thousands.

The average hourly rate for a family lawyer is $500, and can be as high as $800 or more. If working with me saves 5 hours / month in unnecessary legal fees that’s $2500 - $4000+ that remains in your pocket. Multiply that over 3 - 6 months...

Working with me also saves you in other ways that are unquantifiable. Listen to this ep for more.

If you're ready to talk about having me on your team and potentially saving you thousands, book a free intro call HERE

For more support, explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you.

Decide whether to stay or go.
Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself.
Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
Divorce with less drama
Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

UNCOUPLING for couples - to separate & divorce with kindness, compassionRECLAIM & LIBERATE - for womenREFRAME - for men

UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or go

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

BOOK A CALL

**Go gently,
Sallyanne

All relationships are equal, welcomed and supported at Reflect 🌈**

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Divorce.
Separation.
Splitting your assets and money.
Reorganising your kids' lives in two homes.
Co-parenting.
The family law stuff.

It's hard.

There’s no denying it. Whether you chose it. Whether it was a mutual decision or you’ve been blindsided. Whether it’s as amicable and co-operative and respectful as it can be OR if it’s higher conflict and getting nasty… DIVORCE IS HARD.

This podcast episode recognises the hard AND gives you some strategies to get through the hard with rest & reflection.

It's a reminder that you need to "do" the hard things AND you also need time to stop, pause, reflect, and rest to get through the hard.

Book a call if you want my support through the hard parts of your divorce

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Sallyanne

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In this episode, I talk you through 6 key things you need to survive divorce.

And yes, you may well need legal & financial advice. You might need a real estate agent or mortgage broker. Yes, you'll need to have some hard conversations with your ex and maybe your kids and...

These 6 things underpin everything when it comes to what you need to not only survive your divorce, but reclaim and reorganise your life afterwards, to thrive.

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The Biggest Mistakes You Can Make in your Divorce

In this episode I discuss 4 of the BIG mistakes I see people (not my clients, of course 😉) make in divorce. And, they may surprise you.

Divorce mistakes are costly in terms of money, time and energy so avoiding these key mistakes can save you. Time. Effort. Energy. Emotion. And money.

Listen to this episode so you don't make these key mistakes in your own divorce. Share it with someone you care about so they can avoid the same costly mistakes.

Of course, what I share in this episode does not apply if you are leaving an abusive relationship - please contact 1800RESPECT

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Living together apart. Living with your ex after separation. Separated but living under the same roof.

As I predicted back in January (listen here), this is becoming increasingly common for many couples right now.

Due to rising costs of living, interest rate rises, mortgage repayments and the rental "crisis" more separated couples are finding themselves living together while they navigate their separation / divorce.

In this episode I outline the benefits of at "living together apart" relationship as well as the important things to consider if you find yourselves in this situation.

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Info on the living together after separation HERE

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You want to leave but...
Your marriage feels hard...
You think it's over and you want to leave but...In this episode I share with you:

Some things to consider if you want to leave or your marriage / relationship feels hard
Decision paralysis vs the dangers of jumping to the end
The difference between healthy challenge or the right kind of "hard" & unhealthy "hard" in relationships

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All relationships go through seasons (there's a whole other episode of the podcast on exactly that)
And all relationships have seasons where they feel hard or challenging

If you're in a struggling relationship, asking the hard questions, or unpacking a relationship after separation or divorce, wondering where it all went wrong, this episode is for you.

I share the TWO THINGS any relationship needs, especially one that is struggling to survive a tough or wintery season.

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What does a divorce coach actually DO?
What do you actually DO?I share with you a recent conversation with my 84 year old Dad, where I explain what I do and yes, how it relates to football.

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In episode I welcome Dr Emma Fulu to discuss marriage, divorce, relationships and feminism.

We discuss:

The impact of gender on our experience of both marriage & divorce
How feminism can change the way we experience marriage, relationships & divorce & whether it can, in fact save us.
Whether as mothers we can "have it all"
And why "staying because of the children" may not be the best option

Dr Emma Fulu is a researcher, feminist activist and one of the world’s leading experts on violence against women, appearing widely across the media including on Al Jazeera, CNN, the BBC, the 7:30 Report and Q+A.

She is the founder and Executive Director of the Equality Institute, a global feminist agency working to advance gender equality and end violence against women and girls. Emma is Co-Chair of the Gender and Rights Advisory Panel of the World Health Organization, a member of the Global Women’s Institute Leadership Council, a TedEx Speaker and mother.

She has a PhD from the University of Melbourne, is the author of Domestic Violence in Asia, and publishes widely on gender, violence, masculinities and feminist leadership.

Connect with Emma & The Equality Institute @theequalityinstitute

The song Emma chose for us I Wanna Dance With Somebody

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Divorce is hard. It's painful and challenging.

It means loss & grief BUT... there are also gifts that come as a result.

One of the unexpected gifts of divorce can be the gift of DECLUTTERING.

Choosing what we keep. What we release. What we shed. What we get rid of.

There's stuff to declutter. There's relationships, friendships, people to release ourselves from. And there's expectations and stories we can choose to declutter from our lives.

Divorce gives us the time & space to declutter and consciously choose what we most want in our life, our home, our head & our heart.

In this episode of the podcast I lead you through just some of the gifts a decluttering after divorce can bring.

If you love the podcast and find it supportive, please share it, review it, rate it.

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As mentioned in this episode - Oh My Vibes

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Bird Nesting after divorce - what it is and how best to make it work for your family

In this episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate I step you through:

What a Bird Nesting parenting arrangement is
When it works best (and when it might not)
Tips to help you Bird Nest successfully after divorce
The challenges of Bird Nesting

Book a free intro call with me to discuss your options and understand how coaching with me can support you

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Simple strategies and smart ways to keep your legal fees down during divorce.

Not everyone can "consciously uncouple" and DIY their divorce and not everyone ends up in court either.

But many separating couples do need legal support, advice and expertise to navigate their property & child caring agreements as they divorce.

In this episode I share my tips about how you can minimise the cost of your divorce by keeping your legal fees down.

Please share it with anyone you know who needs support to decide to leave or navigate their separation or divorce.

If you want my support to help keep your legal fees down, let's talk about how that can look.

Book a call directly in my calendar HERE

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Yes, there's a cost to divorce - practical, tangible, financial. Emotional & energetic. And for many, the fear of that cost keeps them stuck.

In this episode I lead you through the REAL cost. The cost of staying in an unhappy, unfulfilling, love-less relationship or marriage.

If you enjoy this episode PLEASE rate & review it wherever you listen to your podcasts.

And if you know someone who is sitting in indecision, or is doubting their choice to leave, please SHARE this episode with them.

If you'd like to explore how working with me can support you to decide whether to stay or go, divorce without drama & choose a relationship you truly desire, let's chat.

Book a call directly in my calendar HERE

All the ways you can work with me are outlined HERE

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IMPORTANT: none of what I share in this or any Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate episode relates to an unsafe or abusive relationship, especially where I speak about "safety."

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Common Relationship Patterns
This episode is especially helpful if you're questioning your relationship - past or present - and wondering whether it's dysfunctional or even toxic.

Do you have a relationship pattern?
Is your relationship pattern healthy?
Or are you stuck in a relationship pattern that is dysfunctional or even toxic?
If you have a "type" you likely have a relationship or relational pattern.

In this episode I talk about common relationship patterns and how they impact us.

I address some of the most common (but not always healthy) relationship patterns I see with my clients
Identifying your relationship pattern(s)
How our patterns affect who we choose, how we behave & what we accept in our relationships

To go deeper on this topic JOIN ME in my upcoming FREE LIVE Masterclass:

The ONE THING You Can Do To HEAL Your Relationship Pattern

All the details & to sign up HERE

Using my signature framework, Reflect Reclaim & Liberate, I will lead you through how to recognise your relationship pattern and the ONE THING you can do to kick start your healing.

I would love for you to join me.

Sallyanne

P.S. Ready to go next level on this work or curious about Relationship & Divorce Coaching with me? Book your FREE INTRO CALL to talk about how we can work together

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RESOURCES for anyone in a toxic, dangerous or abusive relationship

The Lighthouse Project

White Ribbon help lines

1800 Respect

Blue Knot

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/

https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/

Search for "Domestic Violence Liaison Officer" in your state or territory

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Mother's Day after divorce can look and feel very different - and it's NOT ALL BAD!

in this episode I speak about how to release yourself from all the "shoulds" surrounding Mother's Day (and any day really) & let go of the expectations.

I speak about how you can:

Change your expectations
Break the rules (including your own)
CHOOSE your own way

To all of the mamas, to all of you who have a challenged or tricky relationship with motherhood - sending love & celebration at this time of year in honour of all the amazing women in our lives.

Honouring all the mother figures in my life & in yours.

Sallyanne 💛

JOIN ME in my upcoming FREE LIVE Masterclass:

The ONE THING You Can Do To HEAL Your Relationship Pattern

All the details & to sign up HERE

Using my signature framework, Reflect Reclaim & Liberate, I will lead you through how to recognise your relationship pattern and the ONE THING you can do to kick start your healing.

I would love for you to join me.

P.S. Ready to go deeper on this work? Book your FREE INTRO CALL to talk about how we can work together

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Are you stuck in an unhappy, even toxic relationship cycle?
Asking the hard questions on loop?
Lying awake at night, going round in circles about whether to stay or leave?
Or is this something that you did and you're now unpacking and processing all the whys, all the reasons you stayed so long in an unhappy, disconnected, unfulfilling relationship?

This episode is for you. I discuss:

The reasons we stay in unhappy relationships
How not all of these are true or in fact real, but all are valid
How to reclaim your agency & shift the story so you can consciously choose what's next for you

JOIN ME in my upcoming FREE LIVE Masterclass:

The ONE THING You Can Do To HEAL Your Relationship Pattern

All the details & to sign up HERE

Using my signature framework, Reflect Reclaim & Liberate, I will lead you through how to recognise your relationship pattern and the ONE THING you can do to kick start your healing.

I would love for you to join me.

Sallyanne

P.S. Ready to go deeper on this work? Book your FREE INTRO CALL to talk about how we can work together
________________________________________________________________________________
RESOURCES for anyone in a toxic, dangerous or abusive relationship

The Lighthouse Project

White Ribbon help lines

1800 Respect

Blue Knot

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/

https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/

Search for "Domestic Violence Liaison Officer" in your state or territory

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Under & over functioning in relationships.

Do you feel like you're the only one doing the work in your relationship? That you're doing all the things, holding all the space, keeping everything ticking along, doing all the mental & emotional labour?

Or perhaps for you it's the flip side of that. You're passively going along, allowing your partner to take control, take the lead and be the driver.

Or was this your reality in a past relationship?

You may have an over/under functioning dynamic or relationship pattern.

Both sides of this relationship dynamic have problems & I speak to these in this episode.

JOIN ME in my upcoming FREE LIVE Masterclass:

The ONE THING You Can Do To HEAL Your Relationship Pattern

All the details & to sign up HEREUsing my signature framework, Reflect Reclaim & Liberate, I will lead you through how to recognise your relationship pattern and the ONE THING you can do to kick start your healing.

I would love for you to join me.

Sallyanne

P.S. Ready to go deeper on this work? Book your FREE INTRO CALL to talk about how we can work together
________________________________________________________________________________

RESOURCES for anyone in a toxic, dangerous or abusive relationship

The Lighthouse Project

White Ribbon help lines

1800 Respect

Blue Knot

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/

https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/

Search for "Domestic Violence Liaison Officer" in your state or territory

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WHAT IT COSTS YOU TO STAY SILENT in your marriage, in your relationship, after your divorce

Staying quiet. Not speaking up. Not voicing wants, needs, desires, hopes, dreams, frustrations, disappointments in relationships is something many of my clients bring to me.

In this episode I speak about what it costs to silence yourself in your relationship, in your marriage or after your divorce and how to access & begin to reclaim your voice.

Join me for my FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS: **The ONE THING you can do to HEAL your relationship patterns

All the details HERE**Friday, May 5th 2023 at 12 midday AEST

If you're ready to go all in on yourself, your relationship or be fully supported through your divorce & beyond book a free intro call HERE

Sallyanne

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In this episode I continue my conversation with David Gale.

David is a Lawyer, Accredited Specialist in Family Law and Director of Gale Family Law, a boutique family law practice in Melbourne.

In this second part of the conversation we discuss (among other things):

Is the family law system in Australia biased against one gender?
Legal abuse as an extension or form of family violence
Kids names - what you can / can’t name a child & changing your child’s name after divorce

Connect with David
www.galefamilylaw.com.au
TikTok: @familylawyer
Instagram: @davidjohngale
Linked In: @ David Gale

AND for all the info on my upcoming FREE MASTERCLASS - The One Thing You Can Do To Heal Your Relationship Pattern CLICK HERE

BOOK your free intro call with me Sallyanne 🌻

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In this episode I welcome David Gale AND I make a special announcement about my upcoming free Masterclass - The One Thing You Can Do To Heal Your Relationship Patterns

David is a Lawyer, Accredited Specialist in Family Law and Director of Gale Family Law, a boutique family law practice in Melbourne.

You can also find him on TikTok as @familylawyer

In this 2 part episode we discuss (among other things):

The role of a family lawyer - what it is and what it’s not
The different styles or approaches taken by lawyers & the impact for you
Child support - who pays what, how does it work?
Binding financial agreements & prenups
Complex financial settlements with businesses & family trusts

With the second part due to drop next week.

All the info for the Masterclass - The One Thing You Can Do To Heal Your Relationship PatternsHERE

Connect with David

www.galefamilylaw.com.au
TikTok: @familylawyer
Instagram: @davidjohngale
Linked In: @ David Gale

If you're ready to explore working with me 1:1 BOOK your free intro call.Let's chat. Sallyanne

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You're getting / are divorced for really good reasons, right?

AND you still have to interact & communicate with your toxic, difficult ex because of the beautiful kids you brought into the world together.

Parenting with a tricky, challenging, toxic or even narcissistic ex is loaded.

In this episode I step you through some of my tips on how to parent with your toxic ex without losing your mind.

**If you're ready to go all in on yourself, your relationship or be fully supported through your divorce & parenting with a challenging ex afterwards, let's talk!

Book a free intro call HERE**UNRAVEL my online, self-paced confidential course is for you if you’re looking to bust some of your own myths, answer some of your own questions & explore some solutions for a relationship or marriage doesn't feel like you want it to or one that’s headed for divorce

Check out RECLAIM & LIBERATE and REFRAME my signature coaching programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

If you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, you're wondering whether to stay or go… you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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In this fantastic conversation I welcome Amy Taylor-Kabbaz to the podcast.

We discuss;

Motherhood - can we have it all? How can we know what's coming or prepare ourselves for motherhood or single mama hood?
Matrescence - what it is and why we need more conversation about it & what the hell the Maternal Wall is
Divorce, healing from infidelity & co-parenting afterward
Allowing ourselves the time & space to feel all that we need to feel after divorce
The powerful healing of words & story telling & of finding our voice

Amy Taylor Kabbaz is a Best-Selling Author, Speaker, Journalist, Matrescence Activist and Mama of three. After more than a decade covering breaking news and current affairs for the ABC around the country, her 'traditional' career took an unexpected turn when she found herself lost, overwhelmed and diagnosed with a thyroid condition after the birth of her first daughter.

14 years - and two more babies - later, she is now the best-selling Hay House author of Mama Rising, the host of the ‘The Happy Mama Movement’ podcast (with more than 400,000 downloads), an internationally awarded Life Coach, runs numerous online programs for mothers all over the world, expert contributor to media outlets around the globe, and the creator of the #1 itunes meditations for children with more than 23 million downloads ‘Bedtime Explorers’.

In 2019, she launched her world first Matrescence Facilitator Training - Mama Rising - sharing her unique formula of coaching and support into mother’s transition through matrescence. In 2022, Mama Rising was recognised by the ICF and currently has more than 180 accredited Mama Rising coaches globally.

Find Amy at:
https://www.amytaylorkabbaz.com/
https://mamarising.net/,
https://www.instagram.com/amytaylorkabbaz/

Listen to the song Amy chose for us - Becky Hill - Better Off Without You

BOOK a complimentary intro call with me directly in my calendar

Thank you for being here

Sallyanne

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

In this third and final (for now, at least) Divorce FAQ episode I address

When can kids decide where they live?
What is mediation & will it work for us?
What is collaborative family law?
What is spousal maintenance? Will I get it? Will I have to pay it?
What about de facto relationships?
And more...

Do you need deeper support or more specific answers for your unique situation?
Has your most pressing question not been answered?

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PLEASE NOTE: This is GENERAL ADVICE ONLY, to the best of my knowledge correct at the time of recording & some of my PERSONAL OPINION.

It also pertains to Australian legal system so may not be relevant if you live elsewhere

In late January 2023 (just after this podcast was recorded) the Federal Government introduced a Bill with changes to the Family Law Act - read how these updates change things for you HERE (with thanks to Shaya Lewis-Dermody of the Family Law Project)
PLEASE SEEK SPECIALIST LEGAL & FINANCIAL ADVICE for your unique situation

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In this second of 3 episodes on DIVORCE FAQ's I answer questions relating to ALL THINGS KIDS

What about the kids?
What’s a parenting plan?
What are parenting orders?
Will I have to pay / receive child support?
If I have 50/50 care do I have to pay it?

There's also more on kids in FAQs Part 3 so watch for that next week

Need deeper support or more specific answers for your unique situation? Perhaps YOUR question hasn't been answered...

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PLEASE NOTE: THIS IS GENERAL ADVICE ONLY, to the best of my knowledge correct at the time of recording & some of my PERSONAL OPINION.

It also pertains to Australian legal system so may not be relevant if you live elsewhereIn late January 2023 (just after this podcast was recorded) the Federal Government introduced a Bill with changes to the Family Law Act - read how these updates change things for you HERE (with thanks to Shaya Lewis-Dermody of the Family Law Project)

PLEASE SEEK SPECIALIST LEGAL & FINANCIAL ADVICE for your unique situation

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

DIVORCE FAQ 1In this first of 3 episodes over coming weeks, I share some of the most frequently asked questions about separation & divorce including:

What IS a divorce & how to we go about getting one?
How much will it cost?
How long will it take?
What about divorce if I am LGBTQI?
How is our property split decided?
Who gets the house & who gets the dog?

NEED DEEPER SUPPORT or more specific answers for your unique situation?

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PLEASE NOTE: THIS IS GENERAL ADVICE ONLY, to the best of my knowledge correct at the time of recording & some of my PERSONAL OPINION.It also pertains to Australian legal system so may not be relevant if you live elsewhere

In late January 2023 (just after this podcast was recorded) the Federal Government introduced a Bill with changes to the Family Law Act - read how these updates change things for you HERE (with thanks to Shaya Lewis-Dermody of the Family Law Project) PLEASE SEEK SPECIALIST LEGAL & FINANCIAL ADVICE for your unique situationFor family lawyers who specialise in supporting the LBGTQI community try HERE

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

As part of the Self-Love Series for February, I spoke with Valerie LaVigne about the self-loving practice of building healthy habits.

If you would like to deepen your self-love, regardless of where you are on your relationship journey, my special WILDLY WORTHY SELF-LOVE COACHING BUNDLEis perfect for you. It will support you to:

Stand in your personal power
Acknowledge & express your wants, needs & desires
Honour yourself as well as those wants, needs and desires as completely worthy
Communicate your truth from a place of deep knowing
Expect to be met as an equal in your relationship
Have all of you seen, heard, & held, cherished & loved

ONLY available for purchase until the end of so-called "love month" February, with sessions available to March 31st

What you get:

Pre-coaching questionnaire
A 90 minute 1:1 coaching call with me
BONUS 1 x 20 minute follow up call t
1 week of unlimited messaging with me to support you to implement the changes & make your magic happen.
A recorded self-love meditation for you to download & save
Bonus "Choose You" guidebook
AND… a bonus “Consciously Call In” bundle - how to consciously call in the life & love you most want for yourself.
AUD $395.

For more info and to purchase your SELF LOVE BUNDLE click HERE

ALL ABOUT VAL:

Valerie is a Health Coach specializing in Healthy Habits. She helps women who are making an impact prioritize their health and wellness, without adding to their already busy schedule, so that they can feel great in their body and show up powerfully for the people depending on them.

In this conversation we discuss

How the simple habit of making your bed can change your life
How to use habits to build & deepen connection with your partner
How to create healthy habits that stick
Supporting ourselves in the BIG life moments (divorce) with habits, and afterwards if we don’t have community or a partner to support our habits

The song Val chose for us is Miley Cyrus Flowers
“I can buy myself flowers... I can hold my own hand”

You can find & connect with Valerie at the links below

www.valerielavignelife.com

or on Instagram, TikTok & YouTube @vallavignelife

If you want my support to guide you through your relationship challenge, separation or divorce let's talk.BOOK A CALL

**Sallyanne

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Simple ways to up level your self-love during separation, divorce & beyond.

Part 2 of my top tips to support you to deepen your self-love practice.

It's like the oxygen mask analogy - you can't help someone else before you've fitted your own oxygen mask.

Self-love during separation or divorce is the same. You can't help your kids. You can't make solid, sound decisions, unless you're looking after yourself first. As your No1 Priority.

In this second part of Simple Self Love, I step you through simple, actionable, but powerful ways you can care for and love yourself during challenging times. And, let's face it, divorcing is one of those.

Simple ways to build self-love into your every day.

To support you to deepen & integrate your self-love, I am offering a NEW SPECIAL SELF-LOVE COACHING BUNDLE.

ONLY available for purchase until the end of so-called "love month" February, with sessions available to March 31st

What you get:

Pre-coaching questionnaire
A 90 minute 1:1 coaching call with me
BONUS 1 x 20 minute follow up call t
1 week of unlimited messaging with me to support you to implement the changes & make your magic happen.
A recorded self-love meditation for you to download & save
Bonus "Choose You" guidebook
AND… a bonus “Consciously Call In” bundle - how to consciously call in the life & love you most want for yourself.
AUD $395.

For more info and to purchase your SELF LOVE BUNDLE click HERE

If you're ready to go all in on yourself, your relationship or be fully supported through your divorce & beyond book a free intro call HERE

Thank you for being here.
Sallyanne

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During the highly stressful and emotionally charged time around your separation and divorce, self-care is not a luxury. It’s a NECESSITY.

If you fall apart, so does everything else.

And while we all know that to be true, putting into action self-care & showing ourselves self-love when we are already overloaded, overwhelmed & stressed, can be difficult so...

In this Part 1 of 2 episodes on self-love during divorce & beyond, I share with you 15 super simple ways you can show yourself love in the messy middle of separation / divorce & afterwards.

Simple ways to build self-love into your every day.

My Self Love Bundle is ONLY available for purchase until the end of so-called "love month" February, with sessions available to March 31st

What you get:

Pre-coaching questionnaire
A 90 minute 1:1 coaching call with me
BONUS 1 x 20 minute follow up call t
1 week of unlimited messaging with me to support you to implement the changes & make your magic happen.
A recorded self-love meditation for you to download & save
Bonus "Choose You" guidebook
AND… a bonus “Consciously Call In” bundle - how to consciously call in the life & love you most want for yourself.
AUD $395.

For more info and to purchase your SELF LOVE BUNDLE click HERE

If you're ready to go all in on yourself, your relationship or be fully supported through your divorce & beyond book a free intro call HERE

Thank you for being here.
Sallyanne

BOOK A CALL

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Divorce gifts you the chance to reclaim parts of you, parts of your life you may have forgotten, let go of or made small.

It gifts you a unique season in life where you can fall in love with yourself all over again.

And an opportunity to DATE yourself. Discover what you like, what you love, what sets your soul on fire and the things that really don't.

Come with me in this episode on a journey of rediscovering who you are and reclaiming who & how you most want to be in life & love.

For more info and to purchase your SELF LOVE BUNDLE click HERE, for yourself or someone you love
What you get:

Pre-coaching questionnaire
A 90 minute 1:1 coaching call with me
BONUS 1 x 20 minute follow up call t
1 week of unlimited messaging with me to support you to implement the changes & make your magic happen.
A recorded self-love meditation for you to download & save
Bonus "Choose You" guidebook
AND… a bonus “Consciously Call In” bundle - how to consciously call in the life & love you most want for yourself.
AUD $395.

ONLY available in February for sessions to March 31st

If you're ready to go all in on yourself, your relationship or be fully supported through your divorce & beyond book a free intro call HEREThanks for being here

Sallyanne

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

In this episode I welcome Benjamin Watkins, Mornington Peninsula’s Premier Performance Counsellor & Coach to discuss:

Anger & how it impacts our capacity to be in relationship
The power of being social after a major life event (hello divorce)
How we can encourage the men in our lives to share how & what they are feeling in safe ways

Connect with Benjamin including his "Anger & You" program:
Website - www.benjaminwatkins.com.au
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/benjaminwatkinscounselling/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BenjaminWatkinsCounselling/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bmwatkins/

Benjamin's choice of song:

Elton John - I'm Still Standing (even if right now you're curled up on the bathroom floor....)

Hang out with me on INSTAGRAM or find all my FREE DOWNLOADS HERE, including free scripts for having hard conversations

If you know things need to change…
If you know where you are is not how you want your life or relationship to look & feel…
If you’re in the messy middle of separation or divorce and you're ready to take your next best step…
Even if you’re not sure what that looks like or you’re scared to even think about it…

Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

There are two types of fear - Pachad & Yirah. One we can welcome as we stretch or expand ourselves or push outside our comfort zone - like choosing a different path for ourselves & our relationship.

If you are wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship, know you're ready but you're scared of what's next, or you are already in the messy middle of separation / divorce this episode is for you.

Why you'll be OK after divorce.

If you loved this episode (even if you'd rather not need it) I would be grateful if you could leave a review or share it on socials, OR share it with someone else who needs to hear it.

Download your FREE guide to Having Hard Conversations

Thank you for being here. I hope you've found what you need.

Sallyanne

BOOK A CALL to explore working with me to move through your fears & create your new post-divorce life

PLEASE NOTE: when I speak in this episode about "the real reason..." I am speaking to unhappy but otherwise healthy relationships not relationships that are abusive or toxic in any way.

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

In this episode I discuss what divorce day is & why it's a thing as well as offering you my relationship & divorce predictions for 2023 & beyond

If you're ready to explore working with me, BOOK A CALL directly in my calendar

Or check out my signature programs - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

Download your FREE guide to Having Hard Conversations

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Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

The last episode for the year, this one's a little bonus episode.

At a time of year that can be stressful & overwhelming at the best of times, & can be even more so if you're navigating a challenging relationship, separation or divorce I wanted to give you a little gift. From me to you.

And so in this episode I ask a simple question...

🎁 What are you giving YOURSELF this season?

It's an invitation to NOT leave yourself last on the list this year.

And then there are 12 Days of Christmas Giving - to YOU.

Download your copy ⬇️
DOWNLOAD YOUR GIFTS **Merry Christmas. Happy Holidays. Happy New Year.

Sallyanne**P.S. Please share the love - if you loved this episode and your 12 Days of Christmas Gifts, share it with someone else you love

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In this episode I lead you through my tips, strategies and conversation openers for having the hard, heartbreaking conversation with your kids.
I outline the exact process I use with my clients when they tell their kids, so you too can use it.
How to tell them.
What & what not to tell them.
How to answer their questions.
Ways to start the conversation.

Download your FREE GUIDE: How To Tell Your Kids You're Getting Divorced

Work with me
Book a FREE intro callPlease follow, rate, like, review & share this episode if you loved it or you think someone else would benefit from hearing it.

Sallyanne 🌻

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10 things your kids NEED when you're getting a divorce.

In this episode I cover the top 10 things I know your kids need when you're getting a divorce (and they might just surprise you)

Ways you can deeply support and hold your kids to move through your divorce in healthy ways.

If you loved this episode, found it helpful & supportive I would so appreciate if you could leave a review, share it on your socials or with someone else you know needs to hear it.

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With love

Sallyanne

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Part 2 of how to choose a divorce lawyer.
Choosing your divorce lawyer is something you only want to do once!
This episode steps you through some of the questions to ask a potential lawyer before you engage them.
Also some questions to ask yourself.

ALSO check out the previous episode & the one with Caroline Parsons - How To Know You're In A Toxic Relationship

**If you know things need to change... & you're ready to take your next best step in creating that change for yourself, let's chat.

Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.**

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

For more information - Blue Knot Foundation

Please note: the information in this episode is general in nature & not specialist or legal advice. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Nourishing Your Body & Your Soul through Divorce & Dating… how to stop living life with the handbrake on with Allyjana Marie Angeles

Allyjana Marie Angeles is a Women's Fitness and Mindset Coach & she runs a program called The Empowered Woman Project

She loves helping women become stronger physically and mentally, develop a better relationship with food, and reconnect with and learn to love themselves.

In this episode we talk about:

Health, wellness & why it’s a necessity to focus on it in times of stress (hello divorce)
Body image, being more than your body, & reclaiming a healthier relationship with food
Key things to focus on for your health & wellbeing
Prepping yourself for dating & new adventures in sex & intimacy after divorce
Manifestation & calling in your ideal partner

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🌻 If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my PROGRAMS & book your FREE INTRO CALL Sallyanne 💛

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

In this guest episode I welcome Marion Mays & we discuss:

Financial Literacy & Money - making it, keeping it, building it, multiplying it
Things to consider & how to best utilise your money after divorce
Smart & innovative ways to invest in property
Why property is a game changer for women
The power imbalance of divorcing a high net worth, well resourced ex
Keeping separating couples out of the family court system

Marion is a behavioural Money coach helping people develop their Money IQ and EQ and Founder of Financial Literacy firm Thalia Stanley Group

She is also passionate about supporting women to navigate family law and family court systems & combines all of this to educate & empower clients in financial literacy & property.

Connect with Marion on LinkedIn or via her website Thalia Stanley

The song Marion chose:
Alicia Keys Good Job - you’ve doing a good job, don’t get too down, the world needs you now, know that you matter

If you're looking for next level support, you can

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM or LINKEDINAnd if you know someone who would benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them.

UNRAVEL my online, self-paced confidential course is for you if you’re looking to bust some of your own myths, answer some of your own questions & explore some solutions for a relationship or marriage doesn't feel like you want it to or one that’s headed for divorce

If you know things need to change…
If you know where you are is not how you want your life or relationship to look & feel…
If you’re in the messy middle of separation or divorce and..
You're ready to take your next best step…
Even if you’re not sure what that looks like or you’re scared to even think about it…

Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**The information shared in this episode is general in nature. Please seek expert advice for your unique circumstances.

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

HOW DO YOU CHOOSE A DIVORCE LAWYER?

Part 1 of a two part episode taking you through how to choose a divorce lawyer.

Please note: general information only, this is not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

RECLAIM & LIBERATE are my signature coaching programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

UNRAVELmy online, self-paced confidential course is for you if you’re looking to bust some of your own myths, answer some of your own questions & explore some solutions for a relationship or marriage doesn't feel like you want it to or one that’s headed for divorce

Not sure what's next for you & your relationship?

Book a FREE CALL directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne

(**P.S. Special shout out to Cassandra Kalpaxis of Kalpaxis Legal for her contribution to this episode)

What is mindset?
How does it impact our connections & relationships?
How can we shift our mindset when we're in challenging relationships or navigating a divorce?

🌻 Wondering whether to STAY OR GO? Try my FREE QUIZ:

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Sallyanne

Money. Money. Money.
It's one of the biggest barriers women face in leaving an unhappy, unhealthy or toxic relationship.
Let's not sugar coat it, divorce means division and so....
What about the money?
ALL the questions about money & divorce answered for you in this episode.

This is general info so please seek specialist legal & financial advice if you are working through separation or divorce.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

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🌻UNRAVEL - online self-paced course to help you answer some of your own questions & explore some solutions for a relationship or marriage doesn't feel like you want it to or one that’s headed for divorce

My signature coaching programs RECLAIM & LIBERATE are both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**Check out past podcast episodes with Jordan Vaka, Melissa Meagher & Nicole Alesios

Book: On Your Own Two Feet - Steady Steps to Women's Financial Independence by Helen Baker

Thanks to Disney, Hallmark, fairytales & more we all hold & believe stories & myths about LOVE. Even if we don't acknowledge that on a conscious level

In this episode I bust 9 Common Myths We Believe About Love.

If you love this episode or know someone it would support, please share it. I'd also be grateful if you would rate & leave a review of the podcast so we can get it into the ears of a whole lot more humans who want to reclaim & liberate themselves in life & love.

UNRAVELmy online, self-paced confidential course is for you if you’re looking to bust some of your own myths, answer some of your own questions & explore some solutions for a relationship or marriage doesn't feel like you want it to or one that’s headed for divorce. The most accessible, private & cost-effective way of working with me.

Check out RECLAIM & LIBERATE my signature coaching programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

Thank you for being here. For showing up for yourself. For wanting more.

Sallyanne 💛

What does a healthy relationship need to thrive?
Loving is one part of a thriving, healthy relationship.
In this episode I share 6 kinds of loving a healthy relationship needs to thrive.

If these aren't a part of your current reality, and you want a safe, confidential, supportive way to explore your next steps my online, self-paced course UNRAVEL is a great place to start answering some of your questions & finding solutions.
Gently unravelling & pulling things apart, to put them back together in a beautiful new way.

Check out RECLAIM & LIBERATE my signature coaching programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIMis for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATEis for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALLOther episodes of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate you might like to check out ... Ep 10 on Making Bids & Episode 4 on Conflict

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

When your relationship doesn't look or feel like you deeply desire, it's an invitation to UNRAVEL it.

🔥 Unpacking your relationship… untangling, unravelling, looking at all the contributing elements (the good, the not so good)

🔥 Asking the big questions…

🔥 Deeply desiring change, something more

🔥 Dismantling a relationship or choosing to

🔥 Leave an unhappy, unhealthy marriage

🔥 Take a new path

Does not mean you have to burn it all down.

UNRAVELLING can be done with deep compassion, kindness, gentleness, grace and this episode explores how you can start to do that.

For more about UNRAVEL - The Reflect Relationship Roadmap Online Course click HERE

Book a free intro call with me HERE

Can you be friends with your ex after divorce?
(Short answer = yes. Longer answer = nuanced)

And why, oh why would you want to?

Is conscious uncoupling a real thing?

This episode explores those questions & some of the answers.

When you can - and when you can't - be friends or at least friendly with your ex.

Why you might want to.

And how to do it if you do.

JOIN the VIP wait list for the NEW online course.

BOOK your free RESET call to talk about your next steps

Parallel Parenting: what it is & how you do it

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Share with a friend who needs to hear this

Sallyanne 💛

Green Flags.
We all seem to know what red flags are (even if sometimes we overlook or ignore them)
But what about GREEN flags in relationships?
Knowing what you DO want
Knowing what to look for
Knowing what makes a relationship healthy
These are your green flags.
Some will be specific to you.
Some are universal.
This episode outlines some of my biggest greenest relationship flags

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Book your free RESET intro call

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In this episode I chat with Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond about how, after their own divorce, they created a happy post-divorce modern family.

Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.

They've even written a book together!

You can connect with them at Our Happy Divorce

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If you know you're ready or need to take the first steps towards your own version of a happy divorce let's chat.BOOK A CALL**- this is a free call where we discuss your next best steps (NOT a sleazy sales call)

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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news To explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Closer Together

Turning circles in the same spot…
Asking yourself the same questions on loop
Wondering whether it’s time, this time, to call it quits on your marriage or relationship.
Feeling stuck in & overwhelmed by the inability to make a decision is a lonely, painful place.
You’re worried about #allthethings…
Worried you'll regret staying, & equally worried you'll regret leaving.
How to make the hard decision?
This episode steps you through some practical strategies you can use to move yourself forward.

If you need deeper support, please jump on a call with me. It's NOT a sleazy sales call, but an exploration of possibilities & working out what the next best step is FOR YOU.

🌻 Book your FREE CALL with me Check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE coaching programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL 🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne

Marguerite Picard is an Accredited Specialist Family Lawyer, Collaborative Practitioner, Mediator, Arbitrator and Collaborative Trainer

She sees her job as a lawyer differently from the way most of the profession sees its job. Having been working in law (& family law) for more than three decades now, her aim these days is to be a facilitator and peacemaker.

A co-founder of collaborative alliance MELCA, she has joined with psychologists and financial planners to help separating couples reach agreements, since she believes this is the best way to approach divorce and separation.

Marguerite also runs Simple Separation, a triage service to guide you skilfully down the path of making the right moves throughout your separation and divorce.

Breaking Up Without Breaking Down is a great book to guide couples through separation & divorce (or even the should I stay or go question) that Marguerite co-authored with the other MELCA co-founders.

Links below to connect with Marguerite

www.melca.com.auwww.smartseparation.com.auListen to her choice of music

Brahms Symphony No. 3 **in F Major, Op. 90 - 3. Poco allegretto

If you're wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship, navigating your separation or divorce and want more support & info, book a FREE CHAT with me.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship**

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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

I'd also LOVE for you to share this with anyone in your world who needs to hear it 💛

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

Wondering whether to stay or leave is a lonely place.

And if you've been hanging around there for a while, you'll know it's also
🖤 painful
🖤 confusing AF
🖤 overwhelming
🖤 bone achingly exhausting
and it slowly, inexorably chips away at your soul

Having the same old conversations - with yourself or your partner or your best friend - on loop.

Unable to find a way out of the spiralling 🌀 that is your thoughts, ideas, opinions, feelings.
It's LONELY.
OVERWHELMING.
EXHAUSTING.

This episode offers you some questions... What? Wait? MORE f*ing questions??!! Yes... more.
These are designed to help you STOP the thought spiral & step you CLOSER to a conscious choice.

DOWNLOAD your copy of the questions

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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST **for regular news & VIP access to coaching programs & special offers

To explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.**

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're not sure where to start, but you know you're ready book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

Thank you for being here.Sending love 💛 Sallyanne

What does it mean to CHOOSE YOU?

What does it mean & how does it look to choose ourselves?

Choosing yourself, releasing yourself from the stories, the expectations, the conditioning, is brave. It's a revolutionary moment.

It can be a holy F💣 kind of moment, but for many of us, it's a long, slow burn leading to a decision. A recognition that it's TIME.

This episode explores all of that.

CHOOSING YOU is deep work. It's going to shake up, burn down & dismantle some things. Change can feel lonely or a little scary, which is why I've launched my Self-Love Coaching Bundle to support you to intentionally, unapologetically choose yourself.

💚 Choose You with the SELF-LOVE BUNDLE

1 x 90 minute 1:1 coaching call with me
1 x 20 minute bonus follow up call
2 weeks of priceless, unlimited messaging support with me
And more.

And, if there's someone in your life who is turning in circles, asking the same questions about their partner or their relationship, please share this with her.

💚 Need more info first? Email me sallyanne@reflectcoaching.com.au or
💚 Book a FREE intro call

💚 Need to go a bit more gently? That's OK too. Download your FREE "Choose You" guidebook to get you started

Please SHARE THE LOVE by following, rating, reviewing this episode or sharing with someone you know needs to hear it.

Big SELF love to you.

Sallyanne 💚

CHOOSING YOURSELF ISN'T CHOOSING COMFORT

Choosing yourself, repeatedly, over & over, every single time isn't always easy, comfortable or convenient.
Especially at first, as you heal & move from self-abandonment to self-honouring, choosing yourself doesn't always feel like the “right” thing. It’s a process. An unlearning. A leaning in.

This episode explores how we can CHOOSE ourselves. How we can lean into self-trust, self-honouring, move away from self-abandonment & choose ourselves.

💚 Choose You with the SELF-LOVE BUNDLE

💚 Need more info first? Book a free intro call

💚 Need to go a bit more gently? That's OK too. Download your FREE "Choose You" guidebook

Please SHARE THE LOVE by following, rating, reviewing this episode or sharing with someone you know needs to hear it.

Big SELF love to you.

Sallyanne 💚

In this episode, which is Part 2 of a series on self-abandonment we dive into steps you can take to begin healing this pattern of behaviour.

From self-abandonment to self-honouring & choosing YOU.

Download your FREE "CHOOSE YOU" guidebook - consciously choose how this next season of your life will look & feel. To intentionally & unapologetically CHOOSE YOU.

Join my VIP MAILNG LIST to be the first to know when the Valentine's Day Self Love Bundle is released 💛& for regular news

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If you’re feeling 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙛𝙪𝙡, 𝙚𝙭𝙝𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙙, 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙙, 𝙛𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙤𝙧 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙍𝘼𝙂𝙀 in your relationship…
1. you're not alone
and
2. there’s a more than fair chance self-abandonment may be playing a part.

In this podcast episode, I explore what self-abandonment is & why do we do it in our relationships.

Download your FREE "CHOOSE YOU" guidebook - consciously choose how this next season of your life will look & feel. To intentionally & unapologetically CHOOSE YOU.

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This is episode 29 of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate and the last episode for 2021 so it’s a celebration of a kind.

Today, in honour of this being the 29th episode, I’m sharing with you 29 lessons from the other side of divorce.

If you love this episode, I would be grateful if you could leave a review, share it on your socials or with someone you know might need to hear it.

Come over & say hi on Instagram or check out my website for more details

If you'd like to chat about your next steps, you can book a complimentary intro call right HERE

Thank you so much for being here.

Sallyanne 🌻

In today’s episode I'm sharing the mike with Robyn Gooding who is hands down one of the kindest, most intuitive, wise & soulful coaches - but also humans - I have ever met, whether we are talking business, motherhood or relationships.

Robyn is a Certified business and life coach, host of worldwide retreats, proud mama to a daughter, female empowerment super fan [#feminist] and sunshine chaser. She has created her business with women at the core, integrating her signature framework of strategy, systems and soul, to support women in building profitable businesses so that they can lead their version of a rich life.

She coaches women around the world how to start and scale their online business, walk away from their 9-5, and truly believe that they can have it all.

So settle in to soak up all the wisdom & soul that Robyn shares with us in this episode.

In this episode we talk about

The impact of motherhood
Pursuing a dream, work & balancing the load as women & mothers either in partnership or as single mothers
The lessons (& healing) of both relationships & motherhood
How our understanding & definition of love & relationship has changed
Communicating with a partner (or a co-parent) when your brains work differently
What a healthy relationship looks & feels like
Self worth in relationships & business

And a whole lot more.

You can connect with Robyn on Instagram via her website or her own podcast (brilliant) The Profitable Way

The song Robyn chose for our playlist was Alicia Keys - Superwoman

"For all the mothers fighting
For better days to come
And all my women, all my women sitting here trying
To come home before the sun"

Melissa Meagher is a money mindset & success coach with a passion for finance & making a difference in people's lives (along with a sneaky penchant for a bit of Bon Jovi).

In her business Talking Money, Melissa creates a safe space to have real conversations about money and she shows rebellious women how to make a sh*t tonne of money by unapologetically being their bold, audacious selves.

She is passionate about women living life on their own terms, so you can well understand why we're drawn to one another!

In this episode you can listen to us riff on:

Your relationship - with money & with yourself
Uncovering & owning our money story, how it impacts our behaviour brings empowerment & clarity around some of the BIG decisions

And how...

It's never just about the money.

I think you'll really love this episode and if you do, please rate & review it so other amazing, rebellious, unapologetic humans can get it in their ears too.

Connect with Melissa (including booking an intro call) at www.talkingmoney.net.au
On Instagram @melissa_talkingmoney or FB @talkingmoneyaus

The song Melissa chose for us will remain a secret unless you listen, or click HERE
"I've been everywhere, still I'm standing tall
I've seen a million faces and I've rocked them all"

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To explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, intimate, confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

Christmas. The Holidays. Relationships. Divorce.

What a messy mix it can be.

This year, perhaps more than any other year, we're craving time with our families & loved ones as the holidays approach.

But what if, you're in a season of your relationship that doesn't feel so ho, ho, ho happy? Or, like so many other families, you’ll be spending these holidays, this Christmas apart?

Christmas & the holidays (hello there one too many mince tart & that extra glass of bubbly you thought was a good idea at the time) can be tricky and bring up ALL. THE. THINGS.

And especially if you're already feeling challenged or tender about your relationship or this is the first time you’ve navigated the holidays as a separated family, it’s going to be hard, feel big and bring up all the emotions. Including grief.

This episode guides & supports you through.

If you're ready to take up my special offer, click the link to book your
REFRESH SESSION
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Ready to go deep? Check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

Christmas can be stressful at the best of times… but how to handle Christmas & the holiday season when you’re feeling challenged in your relationship or you're doing it solo for the first time?

The promise & story of the holidays is peace, togetherness and connection, but ironically, as we all know too well, holidays often deliver exactly the opposite – disconnection, frustration, resentment, and relationship tension.

And all the “shoulds”... all the things we tell ourselves we “should” be doing. All the stories we tell ourselves about how Christmas "should" look or feel or be.

This episode explores all of that and the ways we can navigate the expectations, the “shoulds” of Christmas & the holidays when we’re feeling a little fragile or tender.

🌻BOOK your VIP Podcast Session HERE or email me sallyanne@reflectcoaching.com.au

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Want more? Check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

Please SHARE with anyone in your world who needs to hear this episode. It's a tender time of year for many **💛

And if you appreciated this episode, it would mean the world to me if you would follow, rate & review the podcast.**Happy holidays.
Merry Christmas.
Choose consciously.

Sallyanne 💛

Kirsty Salvestro is a Family Lawyer, Mediator, Divorce Coach, Author and founder of Flourish Family Law, a Boutique Law Firm that specialises in helping families separate peacefully and out of court.

Kirsty’s mission is to help as many families as possible be educated on peaceful separation solutions so that they can choose an amicable pathway, become stronger during and thrive after separation

In this episode we talk about:

Peaceful pathways through separation & divorce.
How our behaviour influences our outcomes
That choosing a pathway anchored in your values & focused on your future is the kindest way
Kirsty's signature 6 step peaceful pathway and her book

"What Are We Fighting For"

Follow me on Instagram or try my "Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship" Free Quiz.

You can find out more about my coaching programs on my website

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

You can connect with Kirsty at these links:

https://www.facebook.com/FlourishFamilyLaw

https://www.instagram.com/flourishfamilylaw/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstysalvestro/

Her website is https://www.flourishfamilylaw.com.au/ where she offers a free Amicable Separation Guide and if you want to order a copy of her book, “What Are We Fighting For” you can do so HERE

The song Kirsty chose to share was Broken Strings by James Morrison with Nelly Furtado

“You can't play on broken strings

You can't feel anything

That your heart don't want to feel

I can't tell you something that ain't real”BOOK A CALL with me to discuss your next best steps

Do you remember who you used to be?
Before all the stories, expectations, responsibilities, all the "shoulds" got in the way.
So many of my clients come to me with a sense of feeling like they've lost or lost sight of themselves.
This episode is an invitation and an exploration of how to find your way back to yourself.
To reconnect to and reclaim who you were, and reset the course for your future.
A deepening & a reclaiming of your most important relationship.
The one you have with yourself.

If you're ready to reclaim that in a deeply supported way, book your free introductory call

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne

Mia Northrop is a coach, co-host of the Life Admin Life Hacks podcast and co-author of a soon to be released book Life Admin Hacks.

Mia supports client to streamline their life admin so they can RECLAIM their free time and mental space, save money, and nurture household harmony.

In this episode we discuss:

The time & energy that life admin takes, & the impact that can have on relationships
Mental load, what it is & how to even up the balance
Over & under-functioning in relationships
The unique life admin challenges of separation, divorce & co-parenting
Tips and strategies to ease your life admin load as you navigate your own separation, divorce & subsequent co-parenting relationship

Follow me on Instagram or try my "Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship" Free Quiz.

You can find out more about my coaching programs on my website

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

Connect with Mia at Life Admin Life Hacks

The songs Mia chose are:

Heard Em Say - Leikeli47

“Change always brings different things"

and

Cruisin' - Smokey Robinson - reclaiming your dream & the possibilities for your future

Mia's book is available on pre-order now and due for release Jan 2022

Ready to take your next best steps? Let's chat.

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A big part of my work as a coach is ASKING the right questions.

🌻Questions that gently nudge you to look deeper.
🌻Questions that encourage you to challenge & stretch yourself
🌻Questions that might ask you to be vulnerable
🌻Questions that challenge your assumptions, beliefs & the stories you're telling yourself
🌻Questions that ask you to lean into & rebuild your self-trust
🌻Questions that lead you towards rock solid self-belief & owning your innate worthiness.

And trust me when I say, these are BIG questions, but they're asked in the deeply supportive, nurturing & confidential container of a 1:1 coaching experience with me.

I don’t have all the answers for your life – but I believe you do. My role is to help you find them. And in this episode you get a real glimpse into what it's like to do this work with me.

These are the questions I might ask you as I guide you to find your own answers; your own way home to yourself.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship
🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM
🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL You can also read what my clients say about me HERE

I'd also LOVE for you to share this with anyone in your world who needs to hear it 💛

In this guest episode I speak with Life & Confidence Coach Evelyn Kelly.

Evelyn's mission is supporting ambitious women to create unstoppable self-belief, inner confidence and own their self-worth. She is passionate about helping women to reclaim their power by dialling down their loud inner critic and people-pleasing tendencies, so that they can step into the world with confidence and authenticity.

So, you can see why Evie & I are aligned...

In this episode we discuss:

self-worth & how it impacts our relationships & our lives
Rediscovering our innate self-worth, deepening & expanding it
People pleasing, the sneaky ways it shows up and steps we can take to move away from people pleasing tendencies
The beautiful life we uncover & create for ourselves when we follow our truth.

( We had a few tech glitches so please excuse some of the audio on this one 😉)

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RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

The song Evie chose for us is India Arie: I am light

Download Evie’s free people pleasing workbookConnect with her on INSTAGRAM or via her WEBSITE and on her PODCAST "Elevate Your Life, with Evelyn Kelly"

I'd also LOVE for you to share this with anyone in your world who needs to hear it 💛

And / or rate, review & follow the podcast. This helps get it in the ears of all the other amazing humans, just like you who are ready to RECLAIM & LIBERATE themselves in life & in love.

In this episode, I share with you the BIG questions I'm most often asked by my clients, by those thinking about working with me, really by anyone who is feeling challenged in or by their relationship, wondering whether to stay or go, or already working their way through the messy middle of a divorce.

They are the BIG questions you'll want answers to if you are questioning your relationship or moving through your own separation. Questions about kids, money, parenting, work, life & love.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship
🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM
🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

I'd also LOVE for you to share this with anyone in your world who needs to hear it 💛

Caroline Parsons is the principal lawyer at Solo Legal. Caroline takes a human and empathetic approach to resolving family disputes. With training in trauma-informed practice, she works with clients in a super sensitive way.

*TRIGGER WARNING* this episode mentions domestic violence and complex ptsd trauma
We also drop the F-bomb, mess up and laugh a bit - perfectly imperfect

In this episode we talk about…

How to recognise an unhealthy or toxic relationship
Key indicators a relationship that feels challenging is in fact toxic
Gaslighting & Manipulation are abusive behaviours
How to decide when it’s time to go
Steps to take to safely leave a relationship
Complex trauma & trauma informed practice - what that means & how it impacts what we do as practitioners
The new Federal Circuit & Family Court of Australia & what that means for anyone navigating a family law matter

The 5 Principles of Trauma Informed Practice are:

Safety
Empowerment
Trustworthiness
Collaboration
Choice

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship
🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM
🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

LINKS:Connect with Caroline atSolo Legal

Read her blog post about property settlement with a toxic ex

Listen to the song she chose for us
Pink - All I know so far

The Lighthouse Project

White Ribbon help lines

1800 Respect

Blue Knot

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/

https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/

Search for "Domestic Violence Liaison Officer" in your state or territory

If any of this has raised concerns for you, please use one of the links above, of DM me 💛

It can come as something of a surprise that we grieve a relationship we chose to end, or one that we knew needed to end.

In this solo episode, I talk about how (& when) grief shows up when we dismantle a long term relationship, separate or divorce and how to allow & move through it.

If this is your current experience, if you're navigating your way through the grief that comes with the end of a relationship, go gently.

Sallyanne

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship
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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

In this episode, I welcome Lisa Stockman (aka the Queen Of Personal Styling) who specialises in working with people experiencing life-changing events such a new job, a changing relationship, getting divorced, new adventures in dating, post baby, or another significant life event.

In this episode Lisa & I chat about how personal styling & personal coaching are aligned; both centred around empowering our clients to step into who they are, who they most want to be.

What personal styling is, and how it makes a profound difference to our sense of self, our confidence & the way we show up in the world - connecting with who we are underneath the layers.

Defining how we want to FEEL, how we want to show up, and bringing that to the surface so that what we feel inside is matched or “styled”, on the outside.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship
🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM
🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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You can connect with Lisa on Instagram, LInkedIn, or on her website.

We would also love to welcome you to our join the WAITLIST for our upcoming Masterclass:

“FROM THE INSIDE OUT - RECONNECTING WITH THE ESSENCE OF YOU”

This intimate workshop is limited to 20 tickets, because we want to really get to know you & be of deep service to you.

Since recording the podcast, we've had to postpone the in-person event due to ongoing covid lockdowns in Melbourne. To be on the VIP list for when we launch this event, please sign up HERE

In this episode I welcome Lucy Good, founder of Beanstalk, an online platform that inspires and supports Australian single mothers with a range of resources and a large interactive, inclusive community.

Lucy's mission is to help single mums navigate the maze of separation and divorce, and to confidently rebuild and embrace their new path in life.

In this episode:

Lucy shares why she started Beanstalk
She helps us bust a few single mum myths
We talk about changes we would make in our own single Mum journey
How it shifts everything when you get to a place where you’re able to embrace the new pathway you’re on as a single Mum
Owning who you are as a single Mum

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If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.
RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.
If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.
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What we personally LOVE about being single Mums

You can connect with Lucy & the Beanstalk community via these links:

Beanstalk Website

Facebook Group

“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse

The Sober Awkward Podcast

And Lucy's song choice was "Slipping Through My Fingers" by ABBA

“Slipping through my fingers all the time
I try to capture every minute
The feeling in it
Slipping through my fingers all the time
Do I really see what's in her mind?
Each time I think I'm close to knowing
She keeps on growing
Slipping through my fingers all the time”

In this episode I discuss boundaries - what they are, what they’re not, why they’re necessary and how they actually SUPPORT connection & healthy relationships.

I lead you through the simple 5 step process I use with my clients to support them to define, set and HOLD their boundaries, without feeling like a B%$#h.

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If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

If you’re ready to explore working with me further, my Reclaim Program is for you if you’re unsure about or challenged in your relationship & craving a deeper connection.

My Liberate **Program is for you if you’re about to or already separated, navigating your way through the messy middle of divorce, or ready to reconnect to & liberate yourself afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.**

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Thanks for being here,
Sallyanne 💛

In this guest episode I welcome Bianca Marics, clinical Naturopath, certified life and Mindset Coach, who helps women disconnect from stress, chronic fatigue and anxiety, helping them beat burnout.

Bianca loves working with the highly stressed and overworked, so the topic today is really her happy place, and the things we are going to talk about today are some of the key foundational practices in building resilience, and reducing stress.

We talk about:

The main areas & causes of stress for women
Stress, the stress response, how it shows up in our body & the long term effects of stress
Burnout including the difference between physical & emotional burnout
The impact of suppressing emotions
Key strategies (simple & effective) you can use to manage & work through ongoing stress & overwhelm and move you away from tipping point

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To explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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If you recognise yourself in any of what we shared in this episode and want to connect with B more deeply:
Download her EFT Tapping Guide

Connect with her via her website where you can download her recent Masterclass

Sign up to her waitlist for The Healthy Mindset Program

Book a free 10 min chat with Bianca

Follow her on Instagram

And, while based in Melbourne, Au Bianca does also work remotely.

The song Bianca chose for us is Walking Away by Craig David
"I'm walking away
From the troubles in my life
I'm walking away
Oh, to find a better day
I'm walking away"

Divorce & the reorganisation of our family, our life afterwards involves lots of splitting - of stuff, of money, of property, of time with kids.

Something that remains unspoken is that very often, friendships are also “split” and this can leave us feeling “frozen out” of our previous social circles.

In this episode I discuss why this happens, how we can support ourselves through it, if it’s happening to us & (importantly) how we can support our friends & loved ones while they navigate their divorce so they don’t feel frozen out.

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To explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

Reclaim is for you if you’re unsure about or challenged in your relationship & craving a deeper connection.

Liberate is for you if you’re about to or already separated, navigating your way through the messy middle of divorce, or ready to reconnect to & liberate yourself afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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If you loved this episode, please follow, rate & review it.

If you know someone who would love it too, or who needs a little nudge about freezing you out, please share it with them.

Thank you so much for being here.

Sallyanne 💛

Money. Money. Money. It can be an issue in relationships and it's also one of the key topics many of my clients raise & choose to work through, no matter if they are wondering whether to stay or go, or already navigating their separation.

In this episode, I chat money with Jordan Vaka, an independent Financial Planner dedicated to helping people feel more confident about money as they go through divorce and rebuild a new version of life afterwards. Jordan is also a massive music fan so we had some fun discussing some fave tracks.

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To explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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LINKS:Planning Solo Website including the publicly available elements of the Six Stones Series

Planning Solo InstagramLinkedIn Jordan Vaka

Pure Shores, All Saints“I’ve crossed deserts for milesSwam water for time
Searching for places to find
A piece of something to call mine (I’m coming)”Mo Money Mo Problems, The Notorious B.I.GSince You’ve Been Gone, Kelly Clarkson

I’m Still Standing, Elton John

A key indicator of the health & longevity of relationships is how we reach out to connect with each other, often we make bids for connection & how those bids are received.
Turning towards - physically & metaphorically or emotionally - another person, responding to a request for or attempt at connection, build trust.
It builds a stronger emotional connection, deepens intimacy, leading to greater passion & even better sex.
In this episode I discuss what is a "bid" for connection, & how we can respond to bids from each other.
How bids can be missed in their subtlety, and how it's in the small, everyday, seemingly insignificant moments that relationships are built.

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If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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If you loved this episode, please follow, rate & review it.
If you know someone who would love it too, please share it with them.

Thanks for being here,
Sallyanne 💛

I am THRILLED to welcome Pepe Kish to the podcast in this guest episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate.

Pepe is the Director and Co-Founder of Balance Family Law and her goal is for kindness to be considered a strength and not a weakness in the practice of law.

Her super power is creative problem solving and thinking outside the box ( but also just being a really kind hearted, generous, all round good human),

A fellow rebel committed to doing things better, even if it goes against the norm, Pepe is committed to bringing kindness and compassion to family law & so changing the way couples & families experience separation & divorce.

In this episode we talk about:

Pathways & options for separating couples
The power of kindness, compassion in family law (&life)
Shifting our mindset
Deep listening
"First Responders" - how it doesn't matter whether you’re a friend, a lawyer, a coach or even a hairdresser… our first response to news of separation or divorce needs to be one of kindness & compassion.

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🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

Connect with Pepe & The Kind Lawyers using the links below:
www.balancefamilylaw.com.auhttps://www.instagram.com/balance_family_law/https://www.instagram.com/thekindlawyers/

And the song Pepe choose is Boom Crash Opera: Dancing in the Storm

"Here we go, here we go for one more turn

We can shake, we can shake the trees and earth

We can spin, We can spin and not fall down

Hold on tight, we can both become unwound

You and I are going out

And we're dancing in the storm"

If you love this episode, please share, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily 🙏🏽

In this episode, I speak about the power of leaning in to self trust when we feel challenged in our life, in our relationship.
I start with defining what self trust means to me, and step you through some strategies for reclaiming our self trust. Leaning IN to a deep sense of self trust as a pathway back to ourselves.
I explore how it can be absolutely game changing to lean into self-trust especially when our relationship perhaps doesn’t look or feel quite as we hoped it would or could.
And I share about choosing self-trust over self-abandonment and that a challenging relationship or challenging season in our relationship is an INVITATION to explore, know, and understand yourself.
In all your light & all your glory, and in all of your shadow. Leaning into self-trust is a reclamation… that you will find your own right answer.

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🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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I am incredibly excited to share this juicy episode with you. Lindsay Bodhi is a women’s sensuality teacher and sex & relationship coach and a seriously amazing woman. We talked feminine power & energy, connection, sensuality, joy & pleasure & reclaiming all of that for ourselves as the whole lotta women that we are. In our relationships & in our life.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

If you would like to connect with Lindsay on a deeper level:
Lindsay’s instagramThe Academy of Feminine Arts Instagram

And you can find me at my website or on Instagram

In this episode I talk about our inner critic - that inner voice, our ego, our inner mean girl - whatever you call it, we all have one.
What it is & why it shows up.
How it impacts our ability to form & choose relationships that light us up on all levels.
Understanding & accepting she's never really going to 100% go away so how to calm, soothe and befriend our inner critic.
How to lean in to self trust, listen with kindness & compassion and release ourselves from our inner critic.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

Extra resources I mention in this episode:
Clare Bowditch, Your Own Kind Of Girl & Tame Your Inner CriticElizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic

In this episode, 'm joined on the podcast by the amazing powerhouse woman Nicole Alesios. Nicole is an economist, Money Mindset Coach and Speaker who is passionate about helping women find their voice so they can have easier money conversations. Nicole believes in the nourishment of women and communities - that when women lean in and connect with their true value, the money flows and entire communities benefit from their generosity. In this episode we chat about what money mindset is, and how our money personality & money stories impact us and our relationships.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

LINKS:
Nicole’s Instagram
Nicole's Website
Take Nicole's Free "Your Money Personality Quiz"

Communication & Conflict - Tips & Strategies for having Challenging ConversationsIn this episode I share:

3 common conflict styles
barriers to connected communication, including the 4 Horsemen Dr John Gottman uses to predict longevity of relationships
tips to turn towards our partner, our ex, or anyone with whom we need to navigate challenging conversations.
And, how successfully navigating our way through conflict, & having hard, connected conversations, connecting with & understanding others, asks that we connect to & understand ourselves first.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

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Go gently,
Sallyanne

While a relationship with another is a beautiful, powerful, wonderful part of life, the relationship you have with yourself underpins everything.

In this episode I explore & share how we can find ourselves again, reconnect to ourselves; how we can deepen, strengthen & update our relationship with ourselves. To then show up fully & authentically as our whole selves in our relationships with others.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne

All relationships experience seasons, from the initial spring of firsts, to the summer of our glorious honeymoon, through the shedding & transition of autumn and the cold, introspective loneliness of winter. This episode explores the seasons of relationships and how to navigate them, leading you closer to the deeply connected, soulful relationship you most want to create for yourself.

🌻Try my FREE QUIZ: Take The Pulse Of Your Relationship

🌻Follow me on INSTAGRAM

🌻Or simply join my MAILING LIST for regular news

If you're ready to explore working with me, check out my RECLAIM & LIBERATE programs - both deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps.

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL

**Thank you for being here.

Sallyanne**

**Welcome to Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate - a podcast all about finding the space for ALL of you in your life & your relationships.

I’m Sallyanne Hartnell, Relationship & Transition Coach at Reflect Coaching****. I’m passionate about supporting women to step into their power, reclaim any parts of themselves they’ve lost sight of or hidden away & liberate themselves to create the life & relationships they crave.

In this welcome episode I share a little bit about my story, my why. My belief that we don’t have to accept the “should’s” or the “ought to’s” in our relationship. My deep belief that we can create a life & a relationship that meets ALL of us.**I would love for you to connect with me on instagram and you can find out more about my coaching programs on my website www.reflectcoaching.com.au

Try my free quiz "Take The Pulse of Your Relationship"

RECLAIM is for you if you're in a relationship that doesn't feel like you want it to, or you're wondering whether to stay or go.

LIBERATE is for you if you're navigating a break-up or divorce and want to thrive afterwards.

If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire, let's chat. Book your FREE call directly in my calendar.

BOOK A CALL