Messy Can't Stop Her: Recent Episodes
Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO)
Are you a woman feeling overwhelmed by life’s challenges? Are you yearning to do something worthwhile with your life, but it seems that your problems are quicksand keeping you stuck? Join Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO, every Thursday on the Messy Can’t Stop Her podcast as she shares life learnings and interviews subject matter experts and women who have been in your shoes but have now stepped into a life of purpose and happiness. Together we will learn how we can come out of the chaos, and we will share insights on the beliefs and behaviours that affect our lives. If you are a woman who wants to step out of the messy – domestic violence trenches, worklife morass, parenting quagmire, mental health swamp or you have a story of how you came out, this podcast is for you.
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Messy Can’t Stop Her is taking a short break to prepare for Season 11, and JKO invites listeners to stay connected and look forward to a meaningful new season inspired by 55 years of reflections.
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Is God a figment of your imagination? JKO answers this question as she shares shares worship, encouragement and gratitude for her birthday on April 29.
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Am struggling with the direction of this podcast and I need your help. This show was created to encourage women in difficult intimate relationships, especially those who are not able to leave. But lately, my heart has also been pulling me toward a deeper conversation about how these environments affect children. I would truly love your thoughts after you listen.
References
Living in the Trenches with Legacy in Mind
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What if authenticity is only welcomed when it makes other people comfortable? JKO explores the hidden cost of being real, especially for women whose lives do not fit polished expectations. If you’re a woman interested in finding safe community without losing yourself, this episode is for you.
Key scriptures: Proverbs 27:17, Proverbs 18:24, Proverbs 21:1
References
How to Build Trust After Repeated Betrayals
Don’t Lose Your Capacity to Love
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JKO uses a touching rework of Kenny Rogers’ Through the Years to remind listeners that God is faithful, present, and able to carry us through emotional and spiritual battles. If you’ve ever experienced difficult seasons where you’ve had to fight despair, and wrestle peace, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Peace has to be fought for intentionally sometimes
Worship can become a weapon when despair is trying to settle on your mind
Looking back at God’s faithfulness can strengthen you to face the present
When you cannot see clearly, remember how far God has already brought you.
A rewrite of Kenny Rogers’ Through the Years
Key scriptures: Isaiah 26:3, Ephesians 6:12, Romans 8:28
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This Holy Thursday, JKO reflects on the women of Easter and what their stories reveal about the heart of Jesus toward women. This tender reminder that women are not an afterthought is for every woman who has ever felt unseen, dismissed, or unimportant.
Nugget of wisdom in this episode
You are not an afterthought
Key scriptures: Mathew 27, 28; Mark 15, 16; Luke 8, 10, 11; John 11, 12, 20
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A woman can lose her capacity to love in the trenches of pain, betrayal, shame, guilt, and repeated disappointment. In this episode, JKO shares tips on how to protect your heart from becoming hardened by what you have been through. If you’re a woman who has noticed that life has made her more irritable, more guarded, more critical, or more difficult to get along with, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
How pain changes the way we love
The overflow effect of bitterness
Protecting your heart without losing tenderness
Rebuilding your love capacity with God’s help
Key scriptures: Hebrews 12:15, Ephesians 4:31–32, Proverbs 4:23
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When life feels like one long crisis, how do you keep believing God? In this episode, JKO talks about how to hold on to faith during betrayal, crisis, loneliness, and long seasons of hardship. If you are a woman who has been navigating challenges for a while, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Faith is confidence in God’s character when your circumstances are confusing.
You do not have to fake strength to have faith.
You may be in the furnace, but God has not abandoned you in it.
Faith is sometimes as simple as refusing to compromise.
Key Scriptures: Habakkuk 3:16-18, Daniel 3, Hebrews 11:1, Romans 5:3–5, Isaiah 43:2
Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.
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An honest and compassionate conversation about inherited shame, colonized thinking, and the importance of self-reflection. JKO discusses how intergenerational shame affects who a woman becomes, what she accepts in relationships, and how she can pass it down to the ones she loves most.
If you have ever wondered where your struggle originated from, this episode will help you think more deeply about identity, healing, and the freedom that comes when a woman stops rejecting herself.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Colonization also affects identity and how people see themselves.
Shame can be inherited through families, communities, institutions, and repeated messages.
Shame can make a woman struggle in relationships.
Women do not have to keep passing down what wounded them.
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This International Women’s Day special examines how some women manage to rise in spite of difficult and even abusive relationships. JKO highlights the importance of women’s support systems, the courage it takes to leave harmful environments, and the quiet strategy some women use to build a path to safety and stability. The episode is both a reflection and an encouragement to women in hard places.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The role of community in helping women survive hard conditions.
A grounded explanation of “ajo” and women’s informal support systems.
The importance of planning for women who cannot move right away.
An example of a Canadian woman who used long-term planning to secure a safer future for herself and her children.
Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.
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An unequal yoke is a relationship marked by misalignment, and women in such situations often pay a huge price for staying in it. JKO discusses the impact of unequal yokes and ways that a woman can protect herself in such a situation.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
What it means to be unequally yoked in a relationship
The price of an unequal yoke
How to know if you are unequally yoked
What to do if you are unequally yoked
Key scripture: 2 Corinthians 6:12
References
Why Some Smart Women Stay in Abuse
Integrity Music's Lionel Peterson - Peace lyric video
Unveiling Your Core - Values Worksheet
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If you’ve been betrayed repeatedly, it’s not easy to trust again, especially when the betrayal came from someone you depended on. This episode is for the woman who feels lonely, cautious, and tired of being used. We talk about the Trust Ladder, how to spot safe people by patterns, and a lesson from 1 Kings 13 about misplaced trust.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Trust is layers and patterns over time.
The 4 Cs that prove a person is trustworthy.
Loneliness makes you vulnerable to wrong counsel.
God’s Word is your safest guide.
Key scriptures: Matthew 10:16, Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 27:12, Psalm 118:8, 1 Kings 13
References
Betrayal Trauma: The Impact of Being Betrayed
How to Stop Hustling for Love
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Valentine’s season can be sweet… or sour. So this is not a romance episode, but a reset episode.
Last week we talked about self compassion in the place of self-occupation, that inner courtroom of harsh self-talk. Today we continue with two practical paths to indoor and outdoor reset for physical and mental healing.
If you’ve been carrying stress in your body and shame in your mind, this episode is for you.
References
It's not Sephora, but Bath and Body Works Shower Steamers
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Women’s bodies go through changes in the course of their lives, but in the trenches, these changes from pregnancy, childbirth, stress, or trauma can feel like grief. Many women judge themselves for the weight, scars and visible reminders of survival that they carry. If you recognize this feeling, this episode is for you. JKO calls you out of that inner courtroom of relentless “self-occupation” and harsh self-blame, into self-compassion.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The grief of body change is not vanity
The changes from child-birth and c-sections
Do not join “the committee” of judgement against yourself
Why self-compassion is not self-indulgence
Key Scriptures: Psalm 139:14, Romans 8:1, Matthew 11:28
References
Fascia cut after c-section is not Dr. Eric Berg but Dr. Bobbie Price's video about cellulite removal
Bessel van der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps the Score
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Every decision has a price and a prize, and they rarely happen in perfect conditions. Most times, we decide under pressure, with limited information, and moving pieces. JKO explains the trade-offs women making hard choices in the trenches face and breaks down why constant “re-deciding” can steal your peace.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- Hindsight is not wisdom
- Some correct decisions still hurt
- Decision trade-offs don’t make you a hero or a failure
- A simple 6-step decision process
- God can still bring good out of what you didn’t fully understand
Key Scriptures: Proverbs 3:5–6, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Lamentations 3:22–23
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Why do smart women stay in abusive relationships? JKO breaks down the reasons that keep smart women in abusive dynamics. She also shares safety steps that women staying can take.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
8 reasons women stay
The prison you do not see
The place of trauma bonding
Why leaving can be impossible even with a social safety net
3 safety steps to take while staying
Key scriptures: Malachi 2:16, Romans 8:35, Psalm 82:4
References
Domestic violence non-profit in Nigeria: Toniabruisedbutnotbroken
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There is a steep price you pay when you live with an emotionally absent man. Not just you, but your children, your family, and your community. JKO discusses the cost and the steps you can take when leaving is not possible.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Signs of emotional absence
The emotional, physical, spiritual, and economic price you pay
7 concrete actions to help you and your children now
3 tiny practices that can make a whole lot of difference
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Many women in toxic relationships endure a pattern of weaponized silence that harms them. JKO discusses the difference between healthy cooling-off and punitive silence, what it does to your body, soul, and spirit, and five things you can do to get the better of weaponized silence.
The January 1 episode had a glitch that made many listeners not see it, so am releasing both episodes back-to-back. Please listen to S10E01, A Pinpoint of Light, with this one.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Cooling-off vs. weaponized silence
Effects of weaponized silence on your nervous-system effects
A 3-step self-check you can use to identify weaponized silence
5 practical responses to keep your life moving when a partner weaponizes silence
How to handle weaponized silence when co-parenting
Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.
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A New Year reset for women living through hidden abuse or heavy seasons. JKO shares three lessons to carry into 2026.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
A pinpoint of light can make a difference in a tunnel of darkness.
You don’t need the whole map, just take the first step.
Your value is real even in chaos.
It’s okay to have ebbs and flows.
When you’re overwhelmed, show yourself compassion.
Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.
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In this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Christmas as the ultimate declaration of love.
The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing self-love
Reframing love for 2026
A Christmas benediction for women in the trenches
Key scriptures: John 3:16, Romans 5:8, Romans 8:1, 1 John 4:19
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Dreaming can feel risky after repeated disappointments. In this episode, JKO explores why women in survival mode struggle with vision, and how faith and a single written goal can help you move forward.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Why women in the trenches stop dreaming
The power of writing down your vision when life is unstable
What faith looks like when certainty is unavailable
How vision + faith move you forward
Key Scriptures: Habakkuk 2:2, Proverbs 29:18, Hebrews 11:1, Jeremiah 29:11
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Labels shape our identity, especially during vulnerable seasons. In this episode, JKO explores how labels form, why they stick, their psychological and social impact, and how women can refuse the harmful names that life gave them.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- What labels really are and why they’re powerful
- The psychological process of labels becoming identity
- The social consequences of being labelled
- Biblical insight on naming and identity
- Practical steps to refuse harmful labels
References
Identity-Level Imprints: The Hidden Code Driving Stress, Health, and Transformation
The Danger of a Single Story: unCreating the Life that You do not Want
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Many women in the trenches live with chronic disrespect starting in childhood, showing up in friendships, and continuing into intimate relationships. Some even experience it from people who they shared their struggles with. Over time, that disrespect slowly reshapes how a woman sees herself.
In this episode, JKO explores how disrespect erodes identity and shares seven steps that can help rebuild self-respect.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
What disrespect looks like in everyday relationships.
How long-term disrespect affects identity and self-worth.
Practical ways to rebuild self-respect in hard seasons.
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Peace can feel impossible when you’re in the middle of life’s challenges. In this episode, we discuss why peace is hard when trauma and stress overwhelm a woman, and the steps that help women in the trenches of life reclaim their peace.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Why peace feels impossible in long-term stress
Common thieves of peace
Steps to reclaim your peace
Key scriptures: John 14:27, Isaiah 26:3, Philippians 4:7
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When you’ve been in the trenches long enough, compromise can start to feel like survival. This episode explores how exhaustion, fear, and not knowing your values lead to quiet compromise and how, step by step, you can realign with who God created you to be.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
How self-protection leads to compromise
Being raised to please, perform, or “keep the peace” trains you to ignore your own inner compass.
Signs of compromise
Practical steps to overcome compromise when you can’t leave your situation)
Key Scriptures: Matthew 5:37
References
Unveiling Your Core - Values Worksheet
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Have you ever felt that twinge of pain on seeing a friend’s Facebook highlight? That is the twinge of comparison and though it shows up sometimes as jealousy or envy, we are talking about that twinge that makes us wonder if you’ve been forgotten. This episode explores how comparison steals our peace and distorts our worth, and reminds us that our worth was written long before the timeline we see online.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Comparison drains your joy.
God doesn’t measure your worth by milestones.
Three spiritual practices to quiet comparison.
Key Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 10:12, Psalm 139:16
Songs
Don Moen - He Knows My Name
Steve Green - He who began a good work in you - (Philippians 1:6)
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Have you learned to smile through the pain, to “forgive and move on,” to shrink your rage into something polite and acceptable? Repressed and unspoken anger turns inward but when purified by purpose, it can lead to advocacy, creativity, and healing. If you are a woman who knows what it feels like to seeth with that silent but simmering force that shows up in sarcasm, cynicism and irritability, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Anger is a signal and a teacher.
Anger can become a clarifying and redemptive force instead of a destructive one.
Repressed anger is dangerous to our health.
Redemptive anger transforms pain into purpose, and converts you into a change agent.
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From the fear of rejection to the fear of being alone, from staying quiet to keep the peace to walking on eggshells for approval, we explore how fear shows up in the lives of women who’ve been overlooked, dismissed, or hurt.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- The voice of fear
- The difference between the fear that protects and fear that paralyzes.
- How fear shows up as “wisdom” or “self-preservation”
- How to heal from the fear that holds you down
Key Scriptures: 2 Timothy 1:7, 1 John 4:18
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Have you ever replayed a moment you wish you could undo over and over again? You may be teetering between conviction and condemnation. This episode explores the difference between guilt that convicts and guilt that condemns, and how guilt can become a path to improving our lives.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The difference between helpful and harmful guilt
The contrast between conviction and condemnation
The psychology of guilt and how it affects our brains
Three steps to release harmful guilt
Key Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 7:10, Romans 8:1, 1 John 1:9, John 21, Mathew 27
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Shame is one of life’s most painful and powerful emotions and it can destroy us if we allow it. In this episode, we explore how shame takes root, how it hides in our stories, why it silences us, and how we can break free from it.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The effect of shame
How shame attacks our identity and silences our potential
How to counter shame’s lies
The kryptonite that weakens shame
Key Scriptures: Genesis 3, Isaiah 54:4, Romans 10:11
References
Why Gratitude Works in Life’s Hardest Seasons
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What if gratitude could literally change your brain?
As Canadian Thanksgiving comes up, JKO explores the power of gratitude as a life-changing practice rooted in both neuroscience and scripture.
If you’ve ever struggled to be thankful in the middle of pain, this episode will show you how gratitude can make a difference in life’s painful seasons.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Words change our brains
Gratitude is an instruction from God
Gratitude reframes pain and strengthens both heart and mind
Key Scriptures: 1 Thessalonians 5:18, Psalm 100:4–5, John 6
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Are you worrying about your marriage, finances, health, children, or even the unrest in our world? Then you know how anxiety can take hold and refuse to let go.
This episode explores the scientific and spiritual reality of anxiety in our lives and how to uncover a path to peace that surpasses understanding.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
God recognizes your anxiety
Science confirms the effect of anxiety
God provides help for your anxiety
Key scriptures: Philippians 4:6-7, Matthew 6:25-34, 1 Peter 5:7, Psalm 94:19, Isaiah 26:3
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If you’ve been wrestling with disappointment, unmet expectations, or regret, OR you’ve been holding tightly to the life you thought you’d have, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Your worth isn’t tied to the life you imagined
Letting go is not weakness
Letting go involves grief, and wrestling with fear and shame
Faith is believing that God is faithful even when life doesn’t match your dreams
Key scriptures: Ecclesiastes 3:11, Lamentations 3:22–23, Romans 4:20–21 Hebrews 11:1, 1 Peter 5:7
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This episode shares six powerful lessons from the life and legacy of Charlie Kirk. Whether or not you agreed with him, his story offers insights that can inspire women in the trenches of life. If you believe you are open to learning, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- Define your mission and focus on it
- Don’t despise the little you have in your hand
- Cultivate kindness in every situation
- Live Your Faith Out Loud, every day, everywhere, and in every way
- Always be hungry to learn, even from people you disagree with
- Think generationally, lead with posterity in mind
Key Scriptures: Ephesians 5:16, John 12:32, Proverbs 19:20
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For the woman in the “in-between”, still waiting for her turnaround, her answered prayer, her breakthrough. From Hannah’s waiting and the woman with the issue of blood, learn how faith, honesty, and community sustain us when we’re stuck in that long, slow wait.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The In-Between from the pit to the promise is where your spiritual roots grow deeper
The power that propels lies in your self-talk
3 practical tips to get through the weary in-between
Key scriptures: 1 Samuel 1, Luke 8:43–48
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For women in the trenches: Discover the power of prayer in the trenches of life from the Washington Post, science and scripture.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Prayer may not always change your circumstances but it calms your body, anchors your worth, and reshapes your relationships
Science shows that prayer reduces stress, anxiety, and improves resilience often more effectively than secular meditation
Five-minute prayer strategies
Key scriptures: Luke 22:42, Philippians 4:6–7, 2 Corinthians 12:9
References
What science says about the power of religion and prayer to heal – The Washington Post
A Prayer for Transforming Pain into Purpose: Giving Our Suffering to God as an Offering
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Do you find yourself always trying to earn love, safety, or belonging in relationships? Then, this episode is for you. Discover the signs of emotional hustle culture in relationships, its effects on mental and physical health, and how to heal and deal with it.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Links between hustling for love and health issues like insomnia, anxiety, and weight gain
The standard for real love
Practical healing tools and practices
Key scriptures: 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, Genesis 29:31–35
References
How to Talk to People Who Don’t Like You, episode from The Crappy Childhood Fairy
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Have you ever heard or even believed that people like you should not be talking? That your challenges make you unworthy to add value to anyone’s life? Let’s uncover the truth from the stories of Rahab, Tamar and Annie Lobert, Hookers for Christ.
God doesn’t wait for perfection before He uses us. He chooses you just the way you are.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The surprising role of Rahab the harlot in God’s redemption story
How Tamar’s bold and scandalous choices placed her in the lineage of Jesus
A modern-day story of a woman whose past in sex work qualified her to minister hope and freedom to others
Messy is actually a qualification
References
https://hookersforjesus.net/
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Have you ever felt spiritually stuck? Do you feel as if your prayers are dry and your heart is distant? Is your self talk shame and guilt filled? This episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
What spiritual “stuckness” feels like
The difference between performance and presence in your faith walk
Encouragement and a prayer for women feeling numb, distant, or weary
Key scriptures: Isaiah 43:2, Jeremiah 29:13, Psalm 46:10, Romans 8:35-39
References
Elevation Worship & Maverick City’s “Jireh”
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Back after an unplanned break.
In the midst of loss and grief, faith can be hard and the fear of not being worthy can keep women from living out their purpose. This episode explores how to push through when overwhelm is pulling on you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Grief is strength, not weakness
How fear drives our decisions and actions
What faith looks like in the middle of pain
A prayer for women grieving people, dreams, or seasons
Key scripture: Psalm 34:18
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In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you’re a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you.
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JKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Judgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed parts
Even when we’re polite, the energy of judgment can be felt
Judging others harms our own wellbeing
Key Scriptures: Matthew 7:1, Luke 6:41–42, Romans 12:2, Proverbs 23:7
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JKO explores the deep impact of losing friends especially when they walk away without explanation. What is true friendship? Why does it hurt so much when people we once trusted choose to disappear? What is the mental toll of these losses? How do we heal? If you're a woman who's lost a friend and has been left confused, heartbroken, and wondering What happened? , this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
True friendship is beneficial to mental health.
Friendships that end without closure can trigger trauma.
Our unhealed wounds can unintentionally sabotage relationships.
Key Scriptures: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:27, Proverbs 4:23, Philippians 4:8, Psalm 147:3
References
Crappy Childhood Fairy podcast episode: What Does It Mean If Losing Friends Is a Pattern?
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In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, JKO shares how yelling cost her her singing voice but self-reflection helped her find peace, gentleness, and healing. She opens up about mental health stigma in faith spaces, the difference between reacting and responding, and her personal transformation through motherhood.
If you're a woman navigating life’s messiness and craving some peace, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Self-reflection is not self-blame.
Your past does not define your worth.
There is Mental health stigma in faith spaces.
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On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom from this episode
You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different.
Like Africa’s untapped and unprotected resources, are you overlooking your gifts?
True self-worth begins when you stop looking outward and start discovering the treasure within.
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Advance voting in Canada’s federal election, this Easter weekend, reminded JKO about snap judgment: Fundamental Attribution Error.
In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, she explores how this thinking pattern impacts our wellbeing and what women in the trenches can do to protect themself.
If you’ve ever been misunderstood or misjudged someone else, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Don’t confuse a moment with someone’s whole story.
The stories we tell ourselves about others shape how we treat them.
Choosing curiosity over criticism makes room for love to grow.
Key scriptures: Matthew 7:1, 1 Samuel 16:7, Galatians 6:7
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JKO set out to hike her way to healing but pain, a surprising diagnosis, and an unexpected invitation into the water changed everything. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, discover how a closed door led to a new path, fresh joy, and the courage to begin again.
If you're a woman who's ever felt discouraged when life didn’t go as planned, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Setbacks can reveal better paths
Healing can come from unexpected places
God’s plans often unfold one step at a time
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In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO reminds us that even in the middle of pain, regret, and unfair circumstances, we may be exactly where we need to be. Through the story of Joseph, we uncover how our current struggles could be positioning us for purpose. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your life’s trajectory, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Your current struggles are a crucial part of your destiny
You can stay faithful and do good in tough times.
Let go of regret and bitterness.
Key Scriptures: Genesis 37, 39-45
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Have you ever felt like the world holds you to a different standard — especially as a mother, a woman, or someone trying to do their best in the midst of chaos? In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO gets real about the crushing weight of double standards and the shame they create.
If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, “Maybe I’m just not enough,” this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Double standards are everywhere.
Listening to your inner knowing is your weapon against shame and negative people.
Finding a community of your own people can empower you.
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In this special episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO shares a heartfelt conversation with Kathy Gleason, host of As I Live and Grieve. Together, they explore the waves of grief, the pain of losing a child and a beloved sister, and the power of healing—especially for mothers. Check out the full episode on As I Live and Grieve.
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Chronic stress can silently shape our lives, impacting our health, emotions, and behaviors in ways we don’t always recognize—until it’s too late. In this episode, I share a personal wake-up call that revealed how stress had been taking its toll on my body for years. We’ll explore the science behind stress, how it manifests in our daily lives, and most importantly, how we can fight back. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Chronic stress has can silently impact your health, emotions, and behavior.
You can’t control others, but you can control your response.
Recognizing triggers, practice mindfulness, and make intentional choices to help your self-care.
References in this episode
How to use your childhood picture to guide your self-care
Podcast website with episodes
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Many of us live under negative labels, sometimes even believing them. Drawing inspiration from notable figures this episode challenges you to reject false labels and stand firm in the truth of who you are. If you have you ever been misunderstood, labeled unfairly, and even treated differently because of it, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
People's opinions do not define you.
Do not waste your energy trying to change perceptions.
Believe and declare what God says about you, not the negative labels of others.
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JKO encourages you to embrace your vision despite your weaknesses. Your struggles don’t disqualify you—they are the very place where God’s power shines the brightest. If you've ever felt unworthy, inadequate, or stuck, this episode is for you.
If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Your weaknesses do not disqualify you.
Do not let your weakness truncate your vision
There is help available. you do not have to rely on your own strength
Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 12:9 (The Amplified and Message versions)
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JKO opens up about the emotional turmoil that made her miss last week’s episode. She reflects on grief, motherhood, and faithfulness in hard times. If you're going through a difficult season, this episode is for you. You are seen. You are not alone. God is with you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Faithfulness Matters. Even in pain, showing up has value. God honors consistency.
You Are Seen. No matter how hard life gets, God sees you (El Roi) and cares.
Prioritize What Truly Matters. Love, faith, and protecting your children outweigh everything else.
Key scriptures: Ezekiel 44, Genesis 16
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How are you feeling about Valentine’s Day? Excited? Apprehensive? Whether you’re being showered with love or navigating a difficult relationship, this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her is for YOU.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
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Self-love is a Biblical principle.
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Celebrate yourself, no matter your relationship status.
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Treating yourself special sets the standard for how others treat you
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Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for you to set the standard for how you want to be loved this year.
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Practical ways to celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day
Key Scriptures: John 3:16, Mark 12:31
References in this episode
Buchi Emecheta’s Second-Class Citizen
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These days, friendships dissolve at the speed of a tweet. Cancel culture is real, and betrayal is often public. But are we the kind of friends we'd want in our corner when we are in a crisis?
Looking at real-life examples of friendships tested in the spotlight – Jessica Mulroney & Meghan Markle, Justin Baldoni & Blake Lively – and with guidance from the Word of God, we see what true friendship looks like and ask ourselves the question: Are we a true friend or a fair-weather friend?
If you are a woman, who has ever yearned for a true friend, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
How friendship is tested by cancel culture.
What the Bible says about being a trustworthy and reliable friend.
How to examine ourselves—are we the kind of friends we want to have?
Key Scriptures: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:10
References
Don Williams Fair Weather Friends
Lyrics to Fairweather Friends
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In the trenches of life, we all crave deep, meaningful friendships. But sometimes we mistake acquaintances for friends? What do we do when those we trust betray us?
This episode explores the deep desire for true friendship, the pain of disloyalty, and how to discern between real friends and mere acquaintances in 2025.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Not everyone you meet is a friend. Learn to differentiate between an acquaintance and a true friend.
Pray for discernment in friendships. Before opening your heart, ask God for wisdom and clarity.
Jesus is the ultimate friend who never fails. When human relationships disappoint, lean on Him for comfort.
References in this episode
· Trust In God by Elevation Worship (feat. Chris Brown), official lyric video
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Host, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores how comparison and copying impacts us negatively, and can derail our 2025 goals. If you want to overcome feelings of inadequacy, cultivate contentment, and align with your purpose, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
· How comparison and copying can stop you from reaching your goals in 2025.
· Why contentment and self-awareness are essential tools in your 2025 success toolkit.
· What the bible says about copying and comparing, and about you.
· Practical tools to recognize and embrace your uniqueness.
Key Scriptures: Galatians 5:26 (Message Translation), Exodus 20:17
References in this episode
· Downloadable Bible-based affirmations to remind yourself of your worth.
· Getting to Know Me self-love song adapted from Rogers and Hammerstein’s “Getting to know you” song in The King and I.
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Step into 2025 with confidence and purpose! 2025 is your year!
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This episode dives into the power of faith to overcome life’s challenges and fear as you step into 2025. If you are a woman who has faced setbacks or struggled with doubt, this episode provides practical tools and spiritual encouragement to embrace a victorious year.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
· Faith requires aligning your words and actions with God’s promises.
· Speak life and declare God’s Word over your situations.
· Stay grounded through challenges by holding onto God’s promises.
Key Scriptures: Hebrews 11:1-6, Romans 8:39, Genesis 22:17
References
Pastor Nick Nilson at Lakewood Church (46:39 minute mark in the video)
Prophesy Your Promise by Jesus Culture
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A lesson on why you should stop waiting for perfect conditions and instead, take a leap of faith and show up as you are. Learn to use what you have now, trusting God to multiply it.
If you are a woman who is stuck waiting for the right time or for things to be perfect, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Life is happening now, and the world needs what you have to offer, even if it’s not perfect.
Start with what you have and trust God to bless your efforts.
Honor the legacies of loved ones who have passed by showing up fully in your own life and sharing your gifts generously.
Key scriptures: John 6:1-14, 2 Kings 4:1-7
References
Danniebelle Hall – Ordinary People (little becomes much when you place it in the master’s hands)
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Kick off 2025 with hope and purpose! Learn 3 essentials to making this your best year ever—no matter the challenges. Get ready to embrace the new year with faith, courage, and actionable insights.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Let love lead in your interactions, actions and decisions.
Choose your virtual and in-person relationships with intentionality.
Stand on God’s Word, His promises in them and His prophecies regarding you and your situation.
Learn and apply the lessons in the trenches of life.
Revisit the dreams and visions you set aside because of the challenges of life.
Key scriptures: Psalm 125:1, Mathew 13:3-7
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Reflecting on God’s promises of restoration, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, shares an uplifting message for 2025. She encourages listeners to speak life into challenges, embrace hope, and prepare for a year of thriving. If you desire practical and spiritual insights to guide you into the new year, this episode is for you.
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Do you know that regret can make us unable to reach our goals? Learn how letting go and reframing regrets can help you create the 2025 you desire. If you are being weighed down by burdens from your past, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Even God, experienced regret.
Dwelling on regret can be harmful to your future.
God can use your past mistakes and negative experiences for good.
To embrace the good in your future, you have to let go of the past.
2025 is a clean slate, a chance to make amends and embrace new beginnings.
Key Scriptures: Genesis 6:6-7, 1 Samuel 15:11, Joel 2:25, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Philippians 3:13-14 (The Passion Translation)
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Do you have unmet goals from previous years? Learn how to approach your 2025 goals with purpose so that you achieve them successfully. If you have lost confidence in your ability to turn your goals into reality, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Our motivation to achieve the goals we set can waver, but routines give us the structure we need to persevere.
Creating routines around your goals can increase your chances of achieving them.
Setting achievable goals and sticking to required routines can boost your self-confidence.
As faith without works is dead, so goals without action is dead.
Lean on God for strength, back your goals with prayer.
Key scriptures: Romans 5:4-5, James 2:26, Galatians 6:9
References in this episode
The Importance of Routines in Pursuit of Your Goals
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
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Have you ever been told that you do too much? Have you ever been made to feel like your personality is a flaw? Discover how to embrace your unique qualities, live boldly, and break free from the mold. If you have ever faced the challenge of being yourself in a world that constantly tries to reshape you, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The unique traits of your personality traits are part of your divine design, embrace them.
Do not squeeze yourself into other people’s molds, always stay true to who you are.
People’s negative behavior often stems from envy, insecurity, or misunderstanding; It’s not about you, it’s about them.
Do not internalize the mistreatment or negative opinions of others.
Key Scriptures: 1 Samuel 30 and 1 Samuel chapters 18-24
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Are you feeling the weight of missed opportunities? Inspired by a friend's compliment, JKO explores how our losses can become new beginnings. Through the story of a poor childless widow’s journey to restoration, learn that it is never too late to reclaim your purpose. If you have ever regretted paths not taken, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Missed opportunities do not define or dictate your future.
Honesty about your pain is the first step toward restoration.
Pursuing good for others can open doors to unexpected blessings.
God can restore your lost years, opportunities, and dreams in ways you cannot imagine.
Key Scriptures: Joel 2:25, The Book of Ruth, 1 Peter 5:10
References in this episode
How chaos, crisis and challenges are a training ground for your elevation
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Have you ever felt that your life was filled with curveballs? What if those challenges are preparing you for greatness? Through science-backed insights and scriptural lessons, learn how the messiest challenges on our journey are not setbacks but setups for our elevation. If you ever wondered why this trouble, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Every experience, whether good or bad, is part of a greater plan—not just for you, but for you to inspire and encourage others.
The brain's ability to rewire itself during tough times strengthens our ability to adapt, solve problems, and navigate similar situations in the future.
Suffering and tribulations produce perseverance, character, and hope, working together for our good and preparing us for greater purposes.
Embrace challenges as opportunities to grow; Instead of asking, “Why me?” shift to asking, “What am I learning?”
The messiest parts of your life often hold the most powerful lessons.
Key Scriptures: Romans 5:3-4, Romans 8:28, Joshua 2, Hebrews 11
References in this episode
Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf
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Do you often find yourself asking, “What will people think?” when facing challenges or making decisions? From social science and scripture, we explore how this fear of judgment and need for approval can limit our ambitions, silence our authenticity, and create unnecessary stress in our lives. Learn how to break free from people-pleasing and live fulfilled even in the trenches of life. If you often hesitate, restricted and held back by the fear of other people’s opinions, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The prison of other people’s opinions can sentence us to self-silence, compromised decisions, and restricted growth
The mental and emotional toll of worrying about others’ opinions can make us physically and psychologically sick
People are usually more focused on their own struggles than on our lives; we all have our own individual messes
Grounding our worth in God’s purpose not on human approval, will give us peace, confidence and fulfillment
Key Scriptures: Proverbs 29:25, Galatians 1:10 and Romans 8:1
References in this episode
Charles Cooley- Looking glass self
Self-Determination Theory in Psychology
2 Corinthians 3:18
Who You Are When No One's Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting Compromise
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Are you overwhelmed by loss, failures, disappointments or setbacks? Discover how small steps can lead to unexpected victories in the game of life. Learn how the divine game master turns seemingly insignificant moves into breakthrough moments. If you are feeling stuck in one of life’s toughest levels, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Life, like a cellphone game, can feel overwhelming and unwinnable at times
Seemingly insignificant or hopeless moves can set off a chain reaction that leads to unexpected victories
God is the ultimate Game Master, guiding our steps and orchestrating our lives
Despite the challenges, continue to move forward, push through uncertainty and persevere even when you feel like giving up
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Do you know that you can offer the pain of your struggles, disappointments, sacrifices and challenges to God as an offering? On this episode, faith and science align to show us that our pain is never wasted when we offer it to God. With scripture backed by research, we learn how that the offering of our pain can lead to profound healing and spiritual growth. If you have ever had to experience a heartache or disappointment, or sacrifice in pain, this episode is for you!
Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Romans 8:28 and Romans 5:3-4
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Surrendering pain to God deepens spiritual growth and leads to comfort and healing
Insights from neuroscience and psychology on the power of prayer to change brain function and promote growth after adversity (post-traumatic growth)
A guided prayer to help you give the pain of your struggles to God as an offering
References in this episode
Prayers for courage to avoid failures of kindness
Hematohidrosis – A Rare Clinical Phenomenon
Luke 22:42
The Mental Health Benefits of Religion & Spirituality
Cognitive Reframing: How It Works, What It Helps, and More
Transform Your Brain in Twelve Minutes
How Prayer and Meditation Changes Your Brain
The Role of Salah (Prayer) in Promoting Emotional Regulation
I Give You My Heart - Hillsong Worship
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Reflecting on a quote from Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart by George Saunders about “failures of kindness”, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) highlights how fear often holds us back from being kind. She explores the courage it takes to show compassion, both to others and ourselves.
Through Scripture and prayer, JKO encourages listeners to seek boldness, trust in God’s strength, and act with kindness even in difficult situations. This episode also includes a special prayer from Psalms 118:8-9 that you can repeat by yourself to help you connect directly to God for courage and strength.
Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 3:5, Psalm 27:1, Philippians 4:13, Psalm 118:8-9.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Fear can prevent us from helping when witnessing unkindness
We need courage to overcome the struggle to show kindness, especially when it feels risky or uncomfortable
When we show kindness we become conduits of God's love
We can overcome the fear to act, by praying for courage
References in this episode
“Failures of Kindness” delivered by George Saunders, a transcript by James Clear
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Rounding up our series on praying God’s Word over us Natasha Rae, a prophetess and passionate prayer warrior, offers practical advice on how prayer can heal wounds, restore relationships, and bring hope to even the darkest of times. She encourages and reminds women who are feeling distant from God that He hears every cry, and leads a powerful prayer for listeners to experience God's love healing and restoration.
If you are struggling with faith or seeking spiritual growth, this episode will reignite your connection with God and empower you to move forward.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Even if you feel disconnected from God, He still hears you when you call.
No matter the situation, even when it seems your prayers are unanswered, trust in God’s plan for you.
Do not stop calling on God because He is always present and willing to help you.
You can follow Natasha on YouTube at Natasha Rae Ministries and read her books on Amazon.
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Exploring the prayers of 3 Kings of Judah - Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat - who battled overwhelming enemies, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, focuses on how to pray when faced with challenges from people, situations, or systems that are much more powerful than us.
If you’ve ever been helpless before a formidable hater, this episode will teach you how to ask God for help to overcome and emerge victorious.
Nuggets of Wisdom in this episode
Even the most righteous and faithful can face adversity.
The battles we face, whether with people or overwhelming situations, are not ours to fight alone. God is our defender.
Just as God fought for Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat, He will fight for you if you trust in Him and pray.
Trusting in God is more powerful than any force that comes against you
Worship is a powerful weapon in times of difficulty—when we shift our focus to God, He gives us victory.
References in this episode
2 Kings 6:8-17
Outnumbered by Lakewood Music featuring Tauren Wells
Isaiah 59:19
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Continuing the series on Praying God's Word Over Us, Sherry VanDolder, a woman of faith, certified relationship expert, and author shares her journey of writing with purpose, and how aligning prayer with scripture can shift mindsets and bring healing. She speaks powerful prayers over listeners, encouraging them to trust in God's plan and the transformative power of His Word.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to win in the spiritual battle between light and darkness.
Sherry’s books, including the Lucas Warbuck fantasy-adventure series and The Shadow Light which exposes the schemes and tactics of the enemy of our soul, are available on Amazon.
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After a period of silence due to a technological hiccup and a very recent loss, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, continues the series on praying God's word over us. JKO reflects on finding solace in God during times of overwhelming grief and uncertainty, much like the story of Job.
Through prayer and scripture, she encourages listeners who may be facing their own trials and reminds them that, in God's hands, even the darkest moments work together for our good.
If you are in a place where only divine intervention can bring change, tune in to join JKO as she prays over you for help, peace and God’s glorious turnaround in your life.
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As part of the ongoing series on praying scripture over our lives, Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO reveals how she clung to Habakkuk 3:17-18 as a lifeline following the devastating loss of her daughter on August 1, 2023. She shares the profound impact of Jonathan Traylor's song "You Get the Glory from This," as a source of comfort and hope as she navigated her pain.
In this testimony of faith, grief, and resilience, JKO emphasizes the importance of healing from trauma, not just for ourselves but for the well-being of our children and future generations. She invites listeners to join her at the upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit, where women will explore the significance of emotional healing, aligning values with life choices, and using journaling as a tool for transformation. This free, virtual event is an opportunity to invest in your growth and resilience, no matter where you are on your journey.
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Jonathan Traylor’s You Get the Glory from This
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Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO welcomes Becca Rae Eagle, fellow podcast host shares her journey with the Sacred Penning Podcast, emphasizing the importance of quiet time with God for mental and physical health. She highlights her personal experiences of receiving strength and direction through this practice. Becca also talks about her upcoming retreat, "Back to School, Back to You," aimed at helping mothers find peace and strength during stressful times. The episode concludes with a heartfelt prayer from Becca, and an invitation to join the Confident Godly Woman Summit. See the show notes for more details and links to Becca's work.
References in this episode
John 16:33
Register for the Confident Godly Woman Summit
Becca’s Sacred Penning website with a free download to kickstart your journalling practice
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Inspired by the story of Hagar from Genesis 16, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO explores themes of divine recognition and acceptance, reminding us that God sees and knows each of us intimately. Through Psalms 139 verse 13-14 and the song "He Knows My Name" by the Maranatha Singers, JKO offers you comfort and encouragement no matter your circumstances. Don't miss this inspiring message and the special invitation to sign up for the free upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit.
Tune in to receive hope, healing, and strength through prayer and scripture as you learn to embrace your unique identity and God's unwavering love.
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Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Brenda Rice to share her inspiring journey with prayer. From overcoming thyroid cancer to supporting her son through addiction, Brenda reveals how prayer became her lifeline. Discover the transformative power of prayer as Brenda discusses its significance, leads heartfelt prayers, and shares uplifting scriptures for women facing challenges in the trenches of life.
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This episode tackles a common wound – the painful experience of rejection. With a definition from Collins Dictionary and a personal story, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, explores how rejection shows up in life: pre-birth experiences, relationships, and even church. She reminds us that true worth comes from God's love and shares powerful scriptures including Jeremiah 31:3 and Romans 8:31-39 to showcase God's unwavering love, even when we feel rejected.
Feeling rejected? You're not alone!JKO invites you to join her in prayer as we ask God to heal rejection's sting and remind us of His love.
References in this episode
Jeremiah 1v5a
I have loved you with an everlasting love - Don Moen
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Welcome to the 100th episode of Messy Can't Stop Her! Continuing the series on the power of prayers, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Renice Edmison, a devoted women's group leader who has spent years supporting and uplifting women through faith and prayer. Renice shares her personal journey from a season of profound heartache to finding healing and strength through prayer and community. She encourages listeners to embrace the healing power of faith, whether they are believers or simply seeking comfort and guidance.
If you are navigating struggles, tune in to receive Renice’s heartfelt shower of powerful prayers as she speaks God's word over listeners, offering hope and encouragement for women in the trenches of life.
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References in this episode
Daniel chapter 3
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In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host JKO explores the concept of being in exile, a place of instability and trouble. Drawing a parallel between the Israelites exiled in Babylon and those facing challenges in their own lives, she encourages listeners to find hope in God's promises, using verses 4-7 of Jeremiah 29. These verses instruct the Israelites to build lives, plant gardens, and seek the peace and prosperity of the city they are exiled in. JKO reminds women that even in challenging circumstances, God sees our struggles and equips us to thrive and find peace. She ends this episode with a powerful prayer session for those facing difficulties, encouraging them to trust in God and take steps of obedience.
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Continuing the series on praying God's Word over you, JKO and Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo discuss the power of prayer and finding your inner strength, even in the toughest times. As the founder of the Refuge Children's Home, the Bees Fellowship and The Deborah’s prayer group, Mrs. Jaiye-Ojo is a beacon of spiritual strength and compassion. In this episode, she shares profound insights on how prayer can be a tool for healing and empowerment, why joy is a choice you can make no matter your circumstances, she showers listeners with powerful prayers to lift your spirit against life's challenges.
Even if you're unsure about faith, this episode offers valuable insights and inspiration!
References in this episode
2 Kings 5
Isaiah 42:16
Genesis 1:3
Psalm 3:5
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In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," JKO, embarks on a journey of prayer and reflection inspired by Isaiah 43:1-5a. This episode is the first in a series on praying God’s Word over YOU. It is dedicated to those women in the trenches of life who need a reminder of God's unwavering love and support.Join us as we dive into the scriptures, pray together, and find solace in the divine words that promise hope and healing.
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As we close Mental Health Awareness Month, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores the science behind comparison and its impact on women's mental health, and uncovers practical tips that women can use to break free from the comparison trap.
References in this episode
Jay T. Coza on Twitter
Journal of Behavioural Addictions: Social comparisons: A potential mechanism linking problematic social media use with depression
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In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO explores the role of faith in overcoming mistakes and their impact on mental health. Featuring biblical wisdom, scientific evidence, and testimonies from inspiring women like Deb, Brene Brown, and Michelle Obama. Discover how faith can be a source of hope and healing for mental trauma.
References in this episode
Pew Research Study: Religion’s Relationship to Happiness, Civic Engagement and Health Around the World
ResearchGate: The Impact of Religion/Spirituality on Mental Health with a Focus on Depression
Deb’s Story
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In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode JKO explores the transformative impact of self-awareness on mental health. Tune in for practical strategies to manage stress, enhance emotional regulation, build self-compassion, and live a more fulfilling life.
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In this special Mother's Day episode, we explore the importance of prioritizing healing from trauma as a mother and its profound impact on our children. From redefining narratives to practical strategies for self-awareness and support, this episode discusses the messy yet transformative journey of a mother’s healing for the well-being of her next generation.
References in this episode
Insight Timer
Happify
Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA)
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
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Turning 53 brings a new chapter for JKO! This week's episode explores the bittersweet transition into menopause, reflecting on periods and celebrating the freedom and confidence that comes with age. JKO shares tips on savoring life's moments, big and small, even when they come with hormonal shifts. This episode is an empowering reminder to embrace the "messy magic" of life.
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Healing the Heart Retreat
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JKO explores the surprising link between your values and your well-being. She explains how living a life true to yourself can be the secret weapon for better health, less stress, and more happiness. At the end of this episode, you will also learn how to identify your values and make adjustments to create a life that nourishes your body and soul.
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Healing the Heart Retreat
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Feeling lost after a friend's betrayal? Today’s episode tackles the pain, forgiveness, and strength needed to rise above it. Learn how to reclaim your self-worth and find peace amidst the storm with biblical wisdom and personal empowerment. Stories, scripture, and the opportunity for self-discovery at the Tobago Retreat await!
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Healing the Heart Retreat
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This episode tackles the difficult topic of being married to a Christian of convenience. We explore the emotional toll and offer practical strategies for self-care, maintaining your faith, and building a safe and loving environment for yourself and your children. Join us as we navigate the complexities of this situation, offering honest advice and a glimmer of hope for those feeling alone and confused.
You are not alone. There is hope.
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Healing the Heart Retreat
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We all search for meaning, for connection with something bigger than ourselves. This episode explores the connection between self-love and understanding the divine. Learn how knowing yourself and loving yourself while embracing your imperfections in all its messy glory allows you to experience the divine.
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Healing the Heart Retreat
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Feeling stuck? Don't hit fast forward! This episode delves into the transformative power of separation for women. Backed by science and real-life stories, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO explores how taking a break, whether from a relationship, job, or even yourself, can unlock incredible growth. Learn how separation fosters self-discovery, forgiveness, and inner strength. Plus, discover practical tips and an exclusive opportunity to attend the Healing the Heart Retreat taking place in May in Tobago.
References in this episode
Healing the Heart Retreat
Maria Erving
Faith as an anchor: Activating the shield of faith to thrive through chaos
Living a Radically Audacious Life: Tiphany Kane on journeying from subserviency to saying Heck Yes! to life on her own terms
Debt, Divorce and Death: 5-time Washingtonian top doctor, beauty Queen and Rotary Leader tells us how she came through the trio stronger - Dr. Pallavi Gowda
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We journey through the lives of remarkable women who defied the odds, surmounted overwhelming challenges, and left an indelible mark on history through their unwavering faith. From the courage of Corrie ten Boom amidst the darkness of World War II to the resilience of Sojourner Truth in the fight for freedom, and to the advocacy of Susan B. Anthony for women's rights, these women exemplify the transformative power of faith in the face of adversity. Discover how their stories inspire us to find strength, courage, and hope in our own lives, even amidst the chaos.
References in this episode
The role of faith in unlocking forgiveness and healing
Sojourner Truth’s, Ain’t I a Woman speech
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Get inspiration for navigating and triumphing over overwhelming challenges from Esther, Ruth, and Rahab. This episode offers timeless lessons on how we can thrive through adversity. Plus an opportunity to activate your own shield of faith and thrive through chaos in the Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago.
References in this episode
Does Perfection Precede Purpose? JKO shares some lessons from the Bible
CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD: When Your Kinsman Does not Help
Thriving through chaos: Journey to clarity with faith
Thriving through chaos: The role of faith in unlocking forgiveness and healing
Thriving through chaos: A Naturopath’s Insight into the Healing Power of Faith
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Join guest host Debra Wright as she interviews the host of Messy Can't Stop Her, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO. Discover the intersection of faith, healing, and finding clarity. JKO shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of investing in yourself and finding peace amid life's chaos. Get a sneak peek into the upcoming retreat in Tobago, where women who are committed to thriving through chaos will gather for a profound experience of connection, empowerment, and transformation. This inspiring conversation will remind you that you are worth the investment in your well-being.
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Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO and Forgiveness Facilitator Debra Wright discuss how faith, forgiveness, and self-discovery transformed Debra's life and led to her vision of the Healing the Heart retreat taking place this May in Tobago. Learn why signing up for the retreat could be your transformative step towards breaking free from the past, healing from trauma, and embracing your authentic self.
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Special guest, Dr. Lexi Lain, shares insights from her experience as a naturopathic doctor about the mind-body-spirit connection, and the profound impact of faith in navigating chaos. Don't miss the opportunity to gain practical tips for thriving through stress and trauma by joining Dr. Lexi Lain in Healing the Heart, a life-changing retreat in Tobago from May 13 -17, 2024.
About Dr. Lexi Lain at drlexilain.com
Dr. Lexi Lain holds a doctorate in naturopathic medicine from Bastyr University in Seattle, Washington, and a bachelor’s degree in biology from Oklahoma State University. As owner and CEO of Summit Vitality, an integrative and functional medicine clinic, she educates and guides her practice members to manage their stress and make their health a priority. A past international chair of the Rotary Club International of Davidson and 3-time half-ironman finisher, Dr. Lexi’s mantra is, “Stop asking me what you should be taking for something. Ask me what you should be DOING instead.”
She has presented nationally and internationally through virtual events, locally for in-person conferences, and has been a featured guest on radio talk shows. Presently, she is building her community of healthy leaders through a 6-Step Get Your SPARK Back Masterclass and finishing her first book, “Get Your Spark Back in Health.”
You can have a one-on-one with Dr. Lexi at the 2024 Healing the Heart retreat in Tobago where she will be facilitating a full day workshop and a forest bath. Register now to get the early bird discount.
Connect with Dr. Lexi on Linkedin, Instagram, and on Facebook atDrLexi Fan Pageand Summit Vitality Davidson.
References in this episode
Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
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Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) opens up about a recent test of her faith. Exploring the depths of personal pain and loss, JKO shares the raw and authentic journey of how activating the shield of faith isn't a one-time event but a continual process in navigating life's storms.
References in this episode
Jonathan Traylor - You Get The Glory
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Join Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) as she discusses the power of faith as an unwavering anchor in life's chaos. In this inspiring conversation, JKO shares effective practices that you can use to activate your shield of faith and thrive through chaos.
You can download this list of Bible based affirmations to help you in thriving through chaos.
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Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips that you can use to make your words a potent tool for thriving through life's chaos. From crafting positive affirmations to embracing gratitude language, learn how intentional language can be your guide to a resilient and empowered life.
To help you on your journey to thriving, feel free to download this list of affirmations and the language reflection worksheet.
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Continuing with the theme of thriving through chaos, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, delves into how our words affect the lives we have. Explore the science-backed influence of words, from what you say to yourself (your self-talk) to what you say about yourself and your situation to others. Your words shape your reality, and your positive words can be your superpower for a happy life.
Join me next week for practical tips on how to use your words to create the life you desire.
Meanwhile, here is a list of affirmations that you can download to begin your journey. Progress, not perfection —choose your words wisely.
References
https://psychcentral.com/blog/words-can-change-your-brain#recap
How to change your thoughts and make them work for you
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Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips for transforming your thoughts and thriving in chaos. Join her as she explores the power of positive thinking, affirmations, mindfulness and gratitude. Listen, learn, and be your sister’s keeper by sharing these insights with a woman who needs a mindset boost. To download a free list of affirmations to kickstart your journey, click here.
References in this episode
Self Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emotional wellness
Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork
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A thought-provoking exploration into the concept that: "Your thoughts determine how you experience life; improve your thoughts, improve your life."
Following the theme of thriving through chaos, JKO emphasizes how our thoughts shape our experiences. Drawing from personal stories and insights shared by guests, she highlights the transformative power of positive thinking. JKO encourages listeners to be mindful of what they consume—media, conversations, and thoughts—and concludes with a call to take charge of their thinking.
Tune in to discover how changing your thoughts can empower you to face life's messiness with resilience.
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In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO, offers practical insights on navigating challenges. She encourages listeners, especially women in difficult situations, to take small steps toward positive change and personal growth in 2024. Join JKO as she discusses finding strength, embracing adversity, and stepping forward with purpose, making it clear that thriving is achievable even in the most difficult times.
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In this episode of 'Messy Can't Stop Her', host Judith Kambia Obatusa discusses the role of past trauma and self-awareness in parenting. Drawing from personal experiences and stories from the YouTube channel 'Soft White Underbelly', she emphasizes how childhood experiences and parental interactions can lead to issues like addiction. Judith shares her tragic loss of her daughter to addiction, revealing that her daughter's search for love led her down the wrong path. She connects the importance of self-love and addressing personal traumas to being a better parent. She also provides resources like '16personalities.com' for self-improvement and suggests asking for feedback from close friends or colleagues to better understand oneself. The episode concludes with encouragement to her listeners to begin the journey of self-discovery and healing, starting with self-reflection.
00:00 Introduction and Recap
00:36 The Impact of Childhood Trauma
04:08 The Importance of Self-Love and Addressing Trauma for Mothers
04:53 The Impact of Parental Trauma on Children
07:08 The Need for Self-Reflection and Understanding for Better Parenting
07:53 The Role of Personality Tests in Self-Understanding
08:44 Practical Steps to Self-Understanding
10:52 The Impact of Self-Understanding on Motherhood
11:07 The Importance of Focusing on Self-Improvement
13:14 The Importance of Knowing Yourself to Be a Good Mother
13:39 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action
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Join Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, in this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, titled "From Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental Health." Following the recent loss of her firstborn to a heartbreaking overdose, she shares a powerful exploration of intergenerational impact, urging women to prioritize mental health and break free from the shadows of past pain. This episode is a heartfelt call to empowerment, resilience, and self-care, offering a transformative perspective on turning personal loss into a legacy of strength.
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A minisode about loss, domestic violence impact on children and an encouragement for women to get to know themselves.
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Today we discuss stress management mechanisms that can restore hormonal harmony and uplift spirits. From connecting with nature, mindfulness to movement, to just hanging out with friends, we embrace resilience together. This episode is sponsored by Empowered Faith Tees on Etsy, where inspiring designs celebrate the strength within.
References in this episode
Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork
Doctors can now prescribe access to nature with the Parks Canada Discovery Pass
How mindfulness can change your brain and improve your health
Five Surprising Ways Exercise Changes Your Brain
Manage stress: Strengthen your support network
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Do you know that domestic violence stress impacts women's health? Continuing our self-care series, we explore how difficult spousal relationships, marked by emotional abuse, disrupt female hormones, leading to fertility challenges, irregular cycles, and more.
At the end of this episode, listeners will receive empowering insights and practical strategies to break free from the cycle of stress, enabling hormonal healing and embracing a life of resilience. Share this episode to drive positive change and support women on their journey to wellness.
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Discover how simple acts of regular communication can provide a lifeline of emotional support, validation, and reassurance for a woman in an abusive relationship. At the end of this episode, you will understand how and why safety check-ins, confidential conversations, and sharing vital information and resources is a vital part of empowering women in domestic violence situations.
References in this episode
Bancroft, L. Why does he do that?: Inside the minds of angry and controlling men
Buel, S. M. 50 Obstacles to Leaving, a.k.a. Why Abuse Victims Stay
Campbell, J. C. Health consequences of intimate partner violence
Your Role in Ending Femicide: Creating a Safe Space for Women in Abusive Situations
Stark, E. Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life
Bracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic Violence
JK Rowling tells of fear former husband would burn Harry Potter manuscript
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Discover the transformative power of financial independence for a woman in an abusive relationship. Through survivor anecdotes, we explore how financial independence, networking, mentorship, and emotional support can help women break free from abuse, create a secure future, and build resilience.
At the end of this episode, you will learn how you can support that friend, family member, neighbour or colleague to get the financial independence they need to leave abuse. Be part of the solution by sharing this episode with those in your network who will benefit from it. Let us be our sister’s helper.
References in this episode
https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/quick-guide-economic-and-financial-abuse
https://next.voxcreative.com/c/ad/22787460/allstatefoundation-financial-abuse-support-guide
The Power of Parity: How Advancing Women’s Equality Can Add $12 Trillion to Global Growth
https://news.linkedin.com/2017/6/eighty-percent-of-professionals-consider-networking-important-to-career-success
The Gender Gap in Financial Literacy: A Global Perspective Report
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The second episode in the "Your Role in Ending Femicide," series delves into the critical topic of offering practical support and help to women in abusive situations. Discover six powerful ways you can make a difference and empower survivors as we navigate the complexities of ending femicide.
By the end of this episode, you will get actionable steps and insights that will inspire you to take an active role in empowering a woman facing abuse in your personal or professional community.
References in this episode
Your Role in Ending Femicide: Creating a Safe Space for Women in Abusive Situations
Bracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic Violence
Messy Can’t Stop Her self-care series (April 13 – June 7, 2023 episodes)
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In this heartfelt episode, we honor the memory of a community member and countless other women whose lives have been tragically cut short by their intimate partners. Join us as we delve into the heart-wrenching issue of femicide and exploring the barriers that make it difficult for women to leave abusive situations. Together, we will uncover one practical way for each of us to empower a woman in an abusive situation.
By the end of this episode, you will learn how to create a safe space for your friend, family member, colleague, or community member facing abuse.
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Becca Rae Eagle, Writing Doula and Host of Joyful Journaling podcast shows us how journaling can be a transformative self-care tool for fostering emotional healing and personal growth. Becca shares how journaling can promote healing, reduce stress, and enhance self-reflection.
At the end of this episode, you will be guided with a journalling prompt into an introspective journey that will help you destress and enhance your well-being.
References in this episode
The Joyful Journaling Podcast
Embodying Joy: A Heart Journal, A Memoir with Journal Space for Body, Mind, & Spirit Health
Check out Becca’s services and books, sign up for a free discovery call or register for the July 2023 cohort of the Journal C.P.R.: Faith in Journaling course at https://linktr.ee/yourwritingdoula2day
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We delve into Bonnie Sharf Provost's transformative journey of self-healing from trauma, ignited by her introduction to the powerful teachings of renowned author and speaker, Joe Dispenza.
Gain valuable insights and practical strategies as Bonnie guides and inspires women in abusive situations, empowering them to reclaim their strength and create lives of resilience. Discover how Bonnie's story can give you hope and guide you towards a path of healing and empowerment.
You can connect with Bonnie via email on reinventyourselfwithbonnie@gmail.com, YouTube, Facebook and Instagram.
References in this episode
The Truth: It’s Not Because He Doesn’t Love You
How to Use Your Childhood Picture to Guide Your Self-care
Harnessing the Power of Being Present to Achieve Balance in Difficult Life Situations
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In this episode, backed by research, renowned authors, and inspiring quotes, we explore the reasons behind why abuse in relationships is not because he doesn’t love you.
At the end of this episode, you will discover the importance of stopping the blame-shame analysis and how prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries can empower you to personal growth and transformation.
References in this episode
Dr. Harville Hendrix - Getting the Love You Want
Dr. Brene Brown - The Gifts of Imperfection
What Is Attachment Theory?
Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Life
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend - Boundaries
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Continuing our self-care series with Stephanie Greenwood, cosmetic formulator, organic advocate and host of the Life Detox podcast, we delve into Stephanie's extraordinary personal journey of resilience, healing, and the transformative power of self-care. From enduring a 17-year abusive relationship to finding healing through self-care practices and creating her own line of self-care products, Stephanie's story is an inspiration. We also explore her experience of primary infertility as a result of the abuse she faced and how, at the age of 42, she defied the odds to welcome her first child into the world.
On today’s episode, you will learn the physical effects of emotional abuse and how we can break the cycle by embracing self-care even in adversity.
References in this episode
The Body Keeps the Score
The Life Detox podcast by Stephanie Greenwood
Bubble and Bee
Taming Your Outer Child by Susan Anderson
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Are you a woman facing difficult life situations, including an unhappy marriage? Do you struggle with self-care? In this episode, we'll explore how childhood memories can be a powerful tool for connecting to self-care practices that work for you. We'll discuss practical tips for finding a childhood picture that resonates with you, reflecting on what it represents, and identifying self-care practices that connect to it. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear understanding of how to use childhood memories to guide your self-care routine and improve your overall well-being.
References in this episode
How to Thrive in Chaos: Harnessing the Power of Being Present for a Balanced Life in Difficult Life Situations
Self Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emotional wellness
The Cancer Journals By Audre Lorde
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In this short and sweet episode, Jessica Carter, Yoga teacher, Nutrition coach, Podcaster and Mindfulness coach teaches us how to find peace and balance in the midst of life's chaos by being present and intentionally finding beauty in everyday moments.
At the end of this episode, you will get some practical mindfulness tools for managing stress in difficult situations as well as a bonus tip on how to use essential oils in your wellness journey. Whether you're looking for ways to stay calm amidst chaos or just seeking easy and applicable tips you can use, this episode will empower you to harness the power of being present for a more serene and happier life.
You can connect with Jessica on LinkedIn @jessica-carter-ommyoga and Facebook @jessica.m.carter.35. To book a free consult with her, visit the Contact Us page on Jessica’s doTERRA business page.
References in this episode
Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork
Jessica Carter's Your Metabolic Reset podcast
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On this episode, Jessica Carter, Yoga teacher, nutrition coach and podcaster shares how essential oils with yoga, food journaling, affirmations and breathwork can help a woman in a challenging life situation release trauma stored in her body and address effects like obesity. With step-by-step guidance, she gives us practical tips that we can integrate into our daily routine to heal ourselves from inside out and transform our lives.
At the end of this episode, you will learn how essential oils integrated into yoga, food journaling, affirmations and breathwork can help you handle negative emotions, limiting thoughts and support your journey towards physical and mental well-being.
You can connect with Jessica on LinkedIn @jessica-carter-ommyoga and Facebook @jessica.m.carter.35. To book a free consult with her, visit the Contact Us page on Jessica’s doTERRA business page.
References in this episode
ōmmYōga: Releasing Negative Emotions or Trauma Stored in the Body by Jessica Carter
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
My Weight Loss Journey of Losing 50 Pounds! By Jessica Carter on Your Metabolic Reset podcast
Joel Osteen (Lakewood Church) I am affirmations
Joyce Meyer on Speaking the Truth Out Loud
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This is the first episode in our Self Care Series where we’ll share valuable insights and practical tips to help you on your self-care journey.
Mayra Gonzales, Counsellor, Yoga Instructor and Mental Health Advocate helps us learn how to recognize warning signs of domestic violence, manage stress and build resilience. She delves into the transformative power of empathy and the importance of being sensitive to others' pain. Drawing on her expertise and lived experience, she shares insights on how counseling, can facilitate healing and growth.
From practical self-care tips to navigating through challenging emotions, this episode offers invaluable guidance on fostering healthy connections, prioritizing mental well-being, and unlocking the potential for profound personal transformation. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on empathy, counseling, and self-care, and empower yourself with tools to navigate life's challenges with resilience and compassion.
References in this episode
The Body Keeps the Score
Mayra Gonzales on LinkedIn
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In this episode we discuss how each of us, whether in family or community, can empower women facing abuse or a difficult situation. We discuss five ways to help - empathy, active listening, connecting with resources, challenging harmful attitudes, and volunteering with organizations. We also provide practical examples of how we can empower women that we know are in a difficult situation.
Key points:
The power of support in empowering women
Practical ways we can all make a difference in empowering women in difficult situations
Why your voice matters
References in this episode
A Letter to My Darling Husband
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On this episode, we discuss a topic that is both important and relevant - why women in abusive or difficult situations need to be empowered even when not able to leave. We acknowledge that leaving an abusive or difficult situation is not always an option and discuss some of the factors that make a woman stay. Our mission is to raise awareness, provide resources, and offer support to those who may be struggling.
Key points:
Why leaving an abusive or difficult situation may not always be possible
Some Statistics on domestic violence and the prevalence of abusive situations
Why Messy Can’t Stop Her is focusing on empowering women who are in abusive or difficult situations that they can't leave
References in this episode
Most Common, Least Believed: Emotional Abuse, Signs, Impact and How to HelpA Letter to My Darling Husband
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Have you ever felt like "people like you should not be talking?"
In this episode, we address the common feeling of self-doubt and imposter syndrome that often hold individuals back from pursuing their passions and share tips and strategies for overcoming these obstacles.
We explore the power of creative expression to overcome self-doubt and highlight the different forms of creative expression that can be used to leave a lasting impact on the world. We also provide examples of women who overcame difficult situations in their own lives by growing and focusing on their creative abilities.
By the end of this episode, you will be inspired to find and pursue your passions, even in the face of difficult circumstances so that you can use your unique talents and perspectives to leave a lasting impact on the world.
References in this episode
A Letter to My Darling Husband
A New Documentary Explores the Origins of My Life, Mary J. Blige’s Most Personal Album
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What is your legacy? What will you be remembered for? What are you remembered for everywhere you've been? Why do I need a legacy? What is the benefit of living a life with legacy in mind?
In this episode, we discuss the meaning of legacy, why it's important to leave a legacy and how it makes a difference to how we live our lives.
At the end of this episode, you will learn 8 things you can do to live a life of legacy even when dealing with challenges.
References in this episode
Dr. Ken Druck
Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood
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How do you stay focused on the positive when you are in a negative situation that you can't get out of? What did the women of previous generations do to thrive when they were stuck with jerks?
In this episode, we discuss why mind health is a game changer for your wellbeing and success in life.
At the end of this episode, you will learn 6 tips that you can practice to help you stay positively focused when the situation around you is negative.
References in this episodeThe Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer
The New Codependency by Melody Beattie
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
Walk at Home by Leslie Sansone
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What do you do when your best laid plans fall apart because of unforeseen challenges?
What do you do when you face a difficult situation that seems to stretch till there's no end in sight?
In this first episode of 2023, I share 6 things I learnt from successful women and my recent challenges with Covid and other struggles,
At the end of this episode, you'll see how you can apply each of them to your unique situation when hard things happen, and you'll be reminded that hard times happen to all of us and we cannot be deterred from living a life of value.
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I did it with fear. I did it with trepidation. I did it with courage. But, I couldn't have done it without you.
So, am taking a break to bring you new things. It's a break for new ways of connecting with you.
Take good care and see you in 2023!
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An update on Nicole's Domestic Violence Story which was an interview with her sister as part of a campaign to stop her murderer from being granted parole.
Every action counts. Little drops make an ocean.
Thank you.
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In this multidirectional episode, Dr. Azumah shares how the fiery flames of a burning car taught her empathy and made her a better doctor. She also explains the impact of racism on how a person of colour experiences impostor syndrome and why empowering black and brown girls should be prioritized. In addition, she described the role of where one lives in a person’s life outcomes.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
It's good to plan, but it's also good to be flexible in life
We've experienced a lot of prejudice and racism, and empowering girls that look like us is a way of transferring the hurt, the pain
Prophylactically empowering young black girls, young brown girls will help them be confident and increase their trajectory for success
It's hard for your brain to release creativity if you are scared that you’re not supposed to be in that space
There's no race better than your race
There's a correlation between confidence and performance
There's a role for non black people to be allies because allies help create equity
References in this episode
Bria Gadsden
Your body language may shape who you are
Martin Luther King Jr’s Letter from a Birmingham Jail where he talked about the guilt of the silent majority
To learn more about Dr. Ebere Azumah’s work and connect with her, visit Love Your Menses and Azumah Solutions.
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Either one of the 3Ds of debt, divorce and death can derail a person’s life but when they hit Pallu together, she fought back with service. From being comfortable with the uncomfortable, she became a comforter to others.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
When we give to others, we help ourselves.
Seeing your shortcomings as challenges to overcome is part of the positive self talk
Being kinder to yourself, being positive and having positive self talk is just as important as taking medication for a chronic medical condition.
How we talk to ourselves frames how we are in our relationships with others.
Your past does not determine your future.
If you don't make yourself a priority, no one else will.
References in this episode
Turning adversity into opportunity | Muniba Mazari | TEDxIslamabad https://youtu.be/I68Y81ZpjNM
Mel Robbins
Lisa Nichols
Iyanla Vanzant
Oliver Twist
To follow Dr. Pallavi Gowda’s work, visit https://drpallavigowda.com/ .
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All we need is one cheerleader to tell us we can, and then support us until we see that we can.
In this concluding episode, Iyaiya Thomas Ofem tells us how she met a mentor whose encouragement changed her story from fulltime housewife to a women’s empowerment changemaker.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Respect and honour everyone you meet on your way, you never know who has been placed on your path to help you.
Humility has rewards.
Many times, the favours we do for others returns as a favour for ourselves.
Always be willing to learn.
All things work together for our good. Not only great, happy things, some sad, terrible things
Until you have learnt your lesson from that experience, it will keep repeating itself.
Wherever you are, you can start with what you have.
You are enough to make a difference.
Once you can change your mindset and believe in yourself, you will achieve whatever you want to achieve.
To support Iya’s work, visit Evolve360 Woman Initiative on Facebook and Instagram and 2401Crafts on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
You can listen to last week’s episode, A Life of Sacrifice, for part one of Iya's journey from a full time housewife to a women's empowerment changemaker.
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Transitioning to season three of the podcast with some delightful conversations.
Beginning with a heartwarming conversation about the struggles of a housewife and homemaker with Iyaiya Thomas Ofem, entrepreneur and founder of Evolve360 Woman Initiative and Conference.
Sometimes our life’s circumstances could make us feel that we’re not doing as well as others and we just want to hide from the questions and judgments. Iya tells us how serving at her children’s Parents Teachers Association led her to find who she truly was.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Keeping the goal in mind and showing up where it matters can be your salvation.
Yes, service is sacrifice but a life of service never goes unrewarded.
Respect and honour others, you never know who has been placed on your path to help you.
To learn more about Iya’s work, visit Evolve360 Woman Initiative on Facebook and Instagram and 2401Crafts on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
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Does trouble make you tired? Do you see it as misfortune? What if there was another way to see it? JKO shares what trouble really means to our lives.
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Are you feeling worn down and not valuable? Do you think your life is too imperfect to be useful? Do you know that it is possible to have an imperfect life and still be the perfect help another person needs? This episode shares a practice that makes this possible.
References in this episode
Les Brown Life is Hard
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All it takes is a single story to make or break your life. What is the single story you’re telling yourself? JKO shares the three things you can do to change that single story and create the life that you desire.
References in this episode
The Danger of a Single Story TED Talk
Mathew 12:34b
Numbers 14:28
Michael Hyatt
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Life may be hard, yet we can use the hard facts of our challenges to bring others through their own challenges.
Yvonne tells us how she coloured her way out of depression and turned her painful love and marriage experiences into inspiration for herself and empowerment for others.
Yvonne Randle has authored many fiction (faction) and non-fiction books that inspire people to have healthy relationships with themselves and others. She also hosts a podcast and personal development workshops through her company, You Are Dynamic, LLC.
You can get Yvonne’s Books on Amazon and other bookstores, and you can listen to her podcast on various listening platforms at Healthy Wealthy Wise Dating Podcast.
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Raised in Church, actively serving in Church, yet living in pain filled disappointment, loneliness and heartache. Yvonne Randle tells us what happened when life got too painful to handle.
When we get sick and tired of being sick and tired, we have to do the work inside before it shows up outside. Yvonne takes us to Church in this episode.
Yvonne Randle has authored many fiction and non-fiction books that inspire people to have healthy relationships with themselves and others. She also hosts a podcast and personal development workshops through her company, You Are Dynamic, LLC.
You can get Yvonne’s Books on Amazon and other bookstores, and you can listen to her podcast on various listening platforms at Healthy Wealthy Wise Dating Podcast.
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Am too old to... am too fat to... my life is too x to... am too poor to...
How many of these or similar excuses have you used to convince yourself and others that you're no longer worthy of dreaming or being, or even participating in your own life?
The truth is you're not done yet, as long as you still have breath.
References in this episode
Finding Her perfect Career at 70
J. K. Rowling
Stephen Hawking
Oases of hope
Relatable Voices: A Drive To Make People Smile
Lucia Matuonto
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Have you ever wondered how unforgiveness affects your mental, physical and spiritual health? This episode shares some thoughts, research and expert opinion about it.
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1. What does forgiveness mean to you?
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What are the benefits of forgiving?
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Are there offenses that are unforgivable?
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I got triggered today when I went to sign my youngest up for Air Cadets.
It brought me face to face with my forgiveness journey. Have I really forgiven? Is the pain gone? This conversation is about that.
{Note: Am doing this with a bad headache I've been managing since Monday, but I had to share this journey with you. So, please bear with me.]
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What does it really mean to forgive? How can we forgive? Why should we forgive?
This episode answers these questions and discusses the importance to our health and future.
References in this episode
Pastor Ayo Daniels
Jeremiah 17:9
Jack Kornfield
Fred Luskin
Elisabeth Klein
Isaiah 1:18
Luke 23:24
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Coming from season one archives, Donna Fairhurst shares the power of forgiveness to heal us and take us from chaos to calmness. If you’re in that place of pain and hurt and you’re struggling with forgiveness, Donna teaches us how to become radical forgivers.
You can Book a complimentary session of Donna’s signature coaching program, “Zero 2 Clarity” on www.donnafairhurst.com.
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What do we do when our life is not perfect, when relics of our failures and mistakes surround us in our minds or everywhere we look? Do we wait to have it all together before we show up to help? Do we have to become perfect before we pursue our dreams?
This episode talks about the judgements and what the Bible teaches us about waiting for perfection before we step into our purpose.
References in this episode
YOUR PAST DOES NOT MATTER TO GOD: The Story of Tamar https://judithmusing.blogspot.com/2013/02/your-past-does-not-matter-to-god-story.html
CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD: When Your Kinsman Does not Help https://judithmusing.blogspot.com/2018/02/conversations-with-god-when-your.html
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Annette’s story continues and we see the stereotype of the abuser play out but we also see the resilience of a woman in action. Annette’s story us reminds us that domestic violence can happen to the strongest of us and that learning how to recognize the signs early can make the difference. In part two of her story, Annette shares how coming through the devastation of domestic violence led her to become the owner of Annette’s Driving School.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Give your children a reference for love so that they will be uncomfortable with abuse
Tears don’t always mean repentance or remorse
Strong, accomplished and confident women from loving homes can get into an abusive relationship
Don’t be ashamed to seek help from books, therapists and organizations
Consistency is the bedrock of success
No matter how tiny and insignificant you think the value you're bringing is, just keep going
No matter how much ashes have been poured on you, if you don’t give up, your light will shine again
References in this episode
From Lover to Loather: Annette Reid tells us how she learnt about abuse from her experience Part one of Annette’s story
Why Does He Do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men by Lundy Bancroft
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Cocooned in the love of her father Annette Reid had never known or seen a woman being abused by a man. As an immigrant to the United States, she had seen her fair share of trouble but nothing prepared her for the pain she experienced in the hands of the one who had pursued her relentlessly and pledged to love her for eternity. In part one of her story, Annette tells us his progression from lover to loather and from calling her my precious to my property.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- You can come through a storm without getting devastated
- An abuser will hide his true nature for as long as it takes to get you
- Starting nice doesn’t mean staying nice
- Going to Church doth not a saint make
- If you know what red flags are, you can recognize them when they show up
- Abuse always comes in multiples
- And many more…
References in this episode
Cracked Edges Podcast on Facebook
In Search of Satisfaction by J. California Cooper
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What do you do when you’re hit with two heartrending experiences at the same time? Do you break down or breakthrough? Kit experienced the twin traumas of divorce and the big C diagnosis and made it through. She shares how literally grounding herself on the land healed her heart and her body.
Nuggets of Wisdom in this Episode
- What's considered praiseworthy and acceptable is often not reflective of what we're here for and what our gifts are
- What's considered praiseworthy and acceptable is often not reflective of what we're here for and what our gifts are
- By deconstructing the things that tell us we’re not enough or that we’re different from who we are, we step into our whole selves
- You have to do the things that won't leave you alone
- The baby that's waiting to be able to run 100 meters in 80 seconds will never walk.
- The world needs us like the ocean needs all raindrops to stay the ocean
- Sharing what you've learned makes sense of what you've been through
- And many more….
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Self Care used to sound like just mere words to me. In fact, at a point, those words began to traumatize me. Hearing them made me feel judged and inadequate. I did not think I had the resources – time, money, strength – to afford it. I was afraid to try. Today, with the help of many, including guests on Messy Can’t Stop Her, I now know that it is more about the intention and the steps, no matter how small.
I’ve learnt that even taking a moment to breathe deeply can make a difference in my life. In this episode, I share what I’ve learnt and how my lack of self care can impact my generations. Sadly, I am not alone in the fears I had. To every one of my sisters in the trenches of life, this is my encouragement to you, please prioritize your self care. Messy won’t stop you.
References in this episode
80% of Women Recognize Value of Self-Nurture, Yet Few Care for Selves as They Care for Others
Self-Nurture: Learning to Care for Yourself As Effectively As You Care for Everyone Else
What Is Self-Care and Why Is It So Important for Your Health?
Can the legacy of trauma be passed down the generations?
Epigenetics and lifestyle
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Sonia continues her story by showing us that sometimes your best laid plans can still get you in trouble. She also delves a little into her personal experience of the added layer for the struggling Black child. She then shares practical self care tips that one can practice with little or no money and even when experiencing the impact of domestic violence.
Sonia’s promotion of self care for mothers aligns with Dr. Laura Markham, Clinical Psychologist and Founder of Aha! Parenting’s words - your most valuable parenting skill is learning to manage yourself first.
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From a full time job to odd jobs, Sonia had to choose because helping her struggling son without the help of their father became her full time endeavour.
Faced with the formidable duo of mental health and substance use challenges, Sonia shares how her sacrifice paid off.
As Meryl Streep said, motherhood reduces everything to essentials.
References in this episode
Mother to the Rescue: Sonia tells us how she saved her son from the addiction triggered by emotional abuse Part one of Sonia’s story
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Separation is not the end-all and be-all when it comes to domestic violence because in many cases, the impact of the abuse comes along on your journey to freedom. When children are involved, the impact can unfold very slowly with mega chaos erupting just when you think the storm is over.
In this three-part story, Sonia shares her experience as a mother navigating the mental health and substance use system to help her teenage son recover from the impact of their father’s emotional abuse.
Sonia’s journey captures the essence of this quote by Barbara Kingsolver, American novelist, essayist and poet - Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.
References in this episode
Christian Men Who Hate Women: Healing Hurting Relationships by Margaret J. Rinck
The brain-changing benefits of exercise Wendy Suzuki, TEDWomen 2017
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Can a parent decide to harm their child and their future deliberately? Many of Us will say “No” but what if by what you are doing or allowing others do to you, you are harming your child?
JKO answers three questions about attachment disorders that give us additional information about their impact on our children and hope that treatment can help them live a happy and healthy life.
References in this episode
Abducted as a Teen: Jessica’s Journey from Trauma
Losing Your Child's Heart: A Steep Price of Domestic Violence
Attachment disorder in adults: What is it?
Attachment Disorders
Reactive attachment disorder
Attachment Disorders in Children: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatment
Overcoming Attachment Issues as a Young Adult
DSM: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
Little Eyes, Little Ears: How Violence Against a Mother Shapes Children as They Grow
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Whether a medical doctor, army veteran or a stay-at-home mom, domestic violence has no status limitation. Whether emotionally abused, heartbroken, traumatized or gaslighted, your life can still be a beautiful story. DrAhne, continues her story of finding purpose from the pain of a marriage tainted with alcoholism and narcissism.
If you’re living in pain and asking “why me?”, be inspired by DrAhne’s story. Your pain will not be a waste. There is hope for your brighter future.
References in this episode
Christian Men who Hate Women: Healing Hurting Relationships by Dr. Margaret J. Rinck
Trauma Recovery Journal by Trudy Gilbert-Eliot PhD LMFT LCADC
Website https://www.drahne.com/about
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr_ahne/
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We hear the question “Why didn’t she leave?” so many times when discussing domestic violence.
Dr. Anne Burnley (DrAhne), physician and US Army combat veteran left. She tells us how she was able to overcome the fears and doubts and take that step. In this first part of her story, DrAhne shares how love empowered her to leave a marriage that had literally taken her voice and become hell on earth. She embarked on the healing journey that gave her back her voice and turned her “why me?” into her purpose.
DrAhne’s story inspires us to know that our pain counts for something and that we can find our purpose for being, in the pain we’ve experienced.
DrAhne continues her story in the next episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her.
References in this episode
The Undefeated Mind by Alex Lickerman, MD
Beyond Trauma: A Healing Journey for Women by Stephanie Covington
Website https://www.drahne.com/about
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr_ahne/
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I started podcasting and I learned as I went. And the more I got into podcasting, I realized that if I had certain information before I started, it would have made my life so much easier. There are tips, tricks, and teachings that can help you succeed faster. That is what The Podcast Creator Course starting from June 20th is all about. If you're interested in hosting a podcast, this is your opportunity to enter it well prepared.
The course is being facilitated by two excellent and experienced podcasters – John Chao, host of Perspective Maintenance and Sandi McKenna, host of Unforgettable Conversations.
Click on The Podcast Creator Course link above to get the details and sign up for this amazing opportunity!
I am tired but I had to show up. I am tired from the lingering effects of domestic violence. I am tired from the pain. Am reaching out to ask for your prayers.
I also share about an amazing opportunity to learn all about podcasting and the opportunity to make your dreams come true.
References in this episode
The John Collective’s Podcast Creator Course
John Chao’s Perspective Maintenance Podcast available on Apple, Spotify and other podcast platforms
Sandi Mckenna’s Unforgettable Conversations Podcast available on multiple podcast platforms
Register for the Podcast Course Creator - Meet and Greet taking place on Monday, June 13
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Trigger Warning: SI, mention of sucde
Have you ever felt unworthy about stepping up to share? Have you ever been made to feel unworthy by others? You are not alone. It may be the harsh reality of the life that we live but it can also be a battle that we win if we push through those thoughts. Indeed, it is a mental health battle.
JKO takes a step back in this episode to share her struggles with unworthiness and her mental health journey with anxiety and depression.
References in this episode
Irene Moore Davis
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99% of domestic violence cases involve financial abuse and this invisiblized part of domestic violence can last years, decades or even a lifetime.
Tracey (Pseudonym), a domestic violence survivor shares her experience of acute intended poverty and litigation battery and how she came out of the deep hole of debt which she had been manipulated into. Despite her academic and professional experience, Tracey still got blindsided by the subtlety of financial abuse.
Tracey’s come back from a negative credit and colossal debt is a tale of hope for anyone going through financial abuse or suffering its aftereffects.
If you or anyone you know is in an unhealthy relationship with any type of abuse, please share this episode with them.
References in this episode
https://messycantstopher.buzzsprout.com/1910300/10522780-most-common-least-believed-emotional-abuse-signs-impact-and-how-to-help
https://www.verywellmind.com/financial-abuse-4155224
https://www.freefrom.org/
Oliver Twist
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If you knew something would harm your child, will you do it? What if it was your spousal relationship? Last week Jessica Faught talked about the steep price she had to pay to rebuild her relationship with her daughter; their relationship had been strained by attachment disorder. Today, Osa Samuel Olagunju, licensed counsellor and psychotherapist unveils how domestic violence induces attachment disorders and how if unaddressed, it creates constant parent-child conflict, behavioral disorders and a plethora of other challenges.
If you or anyone you know is in an unhealthy relationship with any type of abuse, and they have children, please share this episode with them. We all have a role to play in keeping our families and children’s future safe.
About Osa Samuel Olagunju
Osa is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in the state of New Jersey and a National Certified Counselor (NCC) specializing in Mood Disorders, Anxiety, Women's Issues. For over 15 years, Osa has worked with individuals and groups to address issues like Domestic Abuse, Family Conflict, Grief, Relationship Issues, among others. You can call Osa on (201) 561-7967 or email her to book a free 15 minute consultation.
References in this episode
Abducted as a Teen: Jessica’s Journey from Trauma
The startling toll on children who witness domestic violence is just now being understood
The Impact of Witnessing Domestic Violence on Children: A Systematic Review
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Abducted as a teen from Canada to the United States by a father figure and kept in domestic violence captivity for 15 years, Jessica Faught escaped but the impact of that trauma on herself and her children followed her back to Windsor, Ontario. Jessica shares her journey back to healing and her sacrificial collaboration with the child welfare system to give her daughter a new lease on life.
Her story highlights the harrowing effect of domestic violence on our children and why every mother should have zero tolerance for domestic violence.
To learn more about Jessica’s work with Attachment Disorders and raising children with PTSD, follow her on Canadians Raising Children With Attachment Disorders or join her Facebook Community at Families raising children diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Thank you so much for listening!
References in this episode
Mirror Neurons: How We Reflect on Behavior
Red flag
The Bloomfield House
Teajai Travis
Jessica’s Story on brokenandbraced.blogspot.com
Attachment Disorders in Children: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatment
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Death is final. Nicole’s story explains why more focus is placed on physical abuse than other types of abuse. The courts ruled that her death was not premeditated, and they are now set to release her murderer on parole.
Andrea Henning tells us how the events that tragically ended her sister Nicole’s life, that September 26th day, still traumatizes every member of her family and she asks for your support to stop her sister’s murderer from going free with his crime. Letters promoting Justice for Nicole by protesting the release of her offender can be sent to: andreahenning@me.com. These letters may be addressed to “Parole Board Members of Prisoner #309305”.
“Physical abuse is any intentional, unwanted contact with you or something close to your body, or any behavior that causes or has the intention of causing you injury, disability, or death.”
[NB: The word insidious that was used around 21:... is actually meant to be pervasive]
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95% of men who physically abuse their intimate partners, first abuse them emotionally. Though emotional abuse is the most common abuse, it is the least believed by the police and others and it is the least addressed. JKO discusses the signs, it’s physical and mental health impact on victims and how a victim can support herself in the situation.
You could save a life. Please share this story with at least one person in your corner of the world. We can each prevent and create awareness about the domestic violence pandemic.
References in this episode
WomensLaw.org
Healthline: How to Recognize the Signs of Emotional Abuse
Is Emotional Abuse Grounds for Biblical Separation?
Christian Men Who Hate Women
Cathy Heller
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This bonus episode discusses one of the most common outcomes of domestic violence - BITTERNESS and its stronger mate, RESENTMENT - and gives a few some insight on how it impacts a person psychologically. It also suggests some ways we can avoid the harm it causes by advanced forgiveness and choosing your response.
If you would like to share your thoughts on this episode, or any tips you have used to overcome resentment in your life, please feel free to send me a DM on Instagram or Facebook @judithobatusa.
References in this episode
Good Therapy post about Resentment
JKO activates the phrase – Prevention is better than cure – in a series discussing domestic violence, the signs and its impact. This introductory episode highlights the importance of preventing those at risk from getting trapped in the cycle of abuse.
By sharing the series with at least one person per episode in our tiny little corner of the world, we can each prevent and create awareness about the domestic violence pandemic.
Thank you so much for listening!
References in this episode
Bracing the Broken: Me, You, The Church and Domestic Violence
No More
UNWomen: Prevalence of violence against women and girls
Statista World Regional Domestic Violence Data
Messy Can’t Stop Her Episodes Refencing Domestic Violence:
· Healing from Domestic Violence: Debbie Di Verde on the role of creativity, community and the Church in her healing journey
· Living a Radically Audacious Life: Tiphany Kane on journeying from subserviency to saying Heck Yes! to life on her own terms
· Growing From Radical Forgiveness: Donna Fairhurst on transitioning to an enviable life through forgiveness
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On April 8, a Nigerian gospel singer died from the effects of domestic violence and it begs the same old, same old question “Why didn’t she leave?” With stories, videos and Bible verses, JKO discusses the impact of domestic violence and reminds us as individuals, work supervisors and most especially the Church, that we play a role in getting her to leave before she’s killed emotionally, financially or worst of all, physically.
If you’ve ever wondered what to do to help someone you know experiencing abuse, please listen and share this episode with your friends, family and network. Please review this episode and help get the word out. No woman deserves to be “loved” to death.
References in this episode
Healing from Domestic Violence: Debbie Di Verde on the role of creativity, community and the Church in her healing journey
Osinachi Nwachukwu brutalized by husband before her death — Singer alleges
Ekwueme - Prospa Ochimana feat. Osinachi Nwachukwu (Live Ministration) with subtitles
Broken Heart Syndrome
Google search result for "how to help my friend who is in an abusive relationship"
Mark 2: 3-5 TLB
Susan Still's Story on Oprah Winfrey Show in May 2007
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The loss of a child can turn a marriage and family on its head and scatter their well arranged lives. For Jessica Janzen and her beau, Hot Ronnie, the choice to bring the joy out of the pain of losing their six month old son, Lewiston, has turned grief on its head. Jessica shares how her choice to be resilient and vulnerable has opened the door to a life of abundance where the Love for Lewiston Foundation is changing the landscape of Spinal Muscular Atrophy in the province of Alberta (Canada) and leaving a legacy of joy in every life touched.
Jessica reminds us to not wait to lose a life before we start living the life we have.
You can read Jessica’s story of how the nudges led her to Hot Ronnie and the Love for Lewiston Foundation in her 2020 book, Bring The Joy.
To attend the Love for Lewiston Foundation’s biggest annual fundraiser, get your ticket at Lewiston’s 6th Birthday Party. If you’re too far from Calgary, you can support with a donation or by purchasing Lewiston Label merchandise.
To learn more about Jessica’s work, visit https://jessicajanzen.ca/home/.
Thank you so much for listening!
References in this episode
Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator
Rick Warren
Levi Lusko
Chad Veach
Stephen Furtick
EtchedYYC
Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA Annual Candlelight Vigils for those bereaved by Suicide, Homicide and the death of a child
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I wonder how many of us lose our person and feel we have nothing to offer the world just because we fell in love... Debbie Di Verde tells us how creativity, community and the Church helped her recover from the toxic effects of a relationship that led to the loss of her children and almost the loss of her life’s value.
Debbie has starred in various stage productions including a role in Steel Magnolias as Truvy. She also has various film credits and published works under her belt. In her day job, she teaches Writing and Communication at National Louis University .
To participate in Debbie’s Writing for Healing Program, you can DM her on Instagram @debbiediverde.
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Social Media is one of those spaces where vulnerability can be a challenge. Some of us are quick to share our vacation pictures and start a discussion about them on Facebook but find it very hard to share our struggles or even our new business. We do our best to carefully curate our persona so that we fit in. And because we are not a celebrity sharing their diagnosis or loss, we think no one will care about our own.
This episode helps us see that every time we truly show up, we are vulnerable. It also encourages us to be vulnerable anyway because that’s when we know that we are not alone and that’s also when we remind others that they’re not alone.
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References in this episode
2 Corinthians 4:8-9, MSG
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Bob Proctor
Les Brown
Brene Brown
MacDonalds
Cathy Heller
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“You always have to make it all about you.” She had heard it once too many and this time, instead of allowing it to break her down, she leveraged that trigger and squared her shoulders to start the #selflove merchandise line. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Tiphany Kane, the Heck Yes! coach is no stranger to challenging life circumstances but her ability to turn every hurdle into an opportunity for growth makes her a study in resilience. On this episode, Tiphany shares her journey from a life of subserviency and toxicity to a life of radical audacity.
In addition to coaching, Tiphany is the host of Radical Audacity in Love and Life, co-host of Mastering the Podcaster Mindset and co-founder of KaSa Media Productions.
You can find Tiphany on:
Instagram @tiphanykane
Podcasts at Radical Audacity in Love and Life and Mastering the Podcaster Mindset (All podcast platforms)
Purchase of course it's all about me #selflove merchandise
Join her membership on www.tiphanykane.com
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References in this episode
Brene Brown’s Braving the Wilderness
Glennon Doyle’s We Can Do Hard Things podcast episode on Quitting: When is it time to let something or someone go?
Dear Simone Biles, I Have a Terrible Thing To Admit
Charles Dickens’ Oliver Twist
Gaslighting
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In this Women's History Month, I identify a stumbling block that stops many of us from stepping up to share our goodness with the world. Using lessons from the Japanese art form of Kintsugi, I encourage my sisters to recognize the beauty that lies within our imperfections.
This episode reminds us that whether positive or negative, we have to agree with our critics and cheerleaders for their words to make impact. It is also a reminder for us to choose the role we will play in the lives of our fellow women, will we be their uppers or downers?
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References in this episodeKintsugi and the Art of Repair: Life is what makes us
Emotional and Spiritual Healing: Shwanda Onwuachi on coming through the darkness of sexual molestation into the light of love for self and others
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Sexually molested at the age of five, Shwanda Ifeoma Onwuachi battled the effects of that trauma till adulthood by hating men and doing everything to make sure she never had to rely on them. Then, she had an encounter that changed her life.
In this episode, Shwanda shares how despite the failings of men and women in her life, she learnt to love in words and deeds by self-love, talk therapy and minding the business that minds her.
Shwanda’s story will make you cry, make you laugh and make you know that no matter the darkness of the darkness, light always wins.
You can follow Shwanda on Facebook @rshawanda and Instagram @shwandaonwuachi.
Thank you so much for listening!
References in this episode
Bob Marley’s No Woman, No Cry
Ephesians 4:23
Total Praise by Richard Smallwood Lyrics
New Light Christian Center Church
Wahala
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Pat Backley is a living example of the saying “Age is a matter of the mind. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”. At 70, Pat began her dream career and is now enjoying a fabulous life. Pandemic boredom unlocked her creativity and she wrote her first novel within three weeks in the 2020 lockdown. This unleashed the deluge of stories hidden in her life experiences. Four books later, including her memoirs, Pat says she’s going to write till she dies and not soon because, she’s got many stories to tell.
Pat’s story is an encouragement to us all to learn to listen to our hearts, so that we don’t miss the opportunities right inside in our hands.
Pat’s first Book, Daisy and her sequel, The Second Daisy were selected for promotion during the 2022 Black History Month by Overdrive and Barnes and Noble.
For more information about Pat and links to all her books, visit www.patbackley.com. You can also follow her on Instagram, Facebook and Clubhouse @patbackley.
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References in this episode
https://www.advanced.style/
https://www.nycitywoman.com/ari-cohen-photographing-the-stylish-elderly/
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It’s Black History Month and on this episode, I will be sharing a bit of my experience as a Black person living in Canada. I talk about some of the challenges I’ve had and also the role of allies in stemming the tide of anti-Black racism that seems to be entrenched in our systems and interactions. I’ve faced walls of silence and awkward questions, but I’ve also encountered wonderful support from White allies and indigenous Blacks. Yes, there’s been sadness but there’s also been the joy of experiencing the goodness of humans, both Black and White.
This episode is an encouragement to my Black sisters to keep showing up despite the hard road we journey, and to my White sisters to keep walking alongside us as we navigate the minefields of racism.
Check the references in the episode transcript to see some of the research on systemic racism in Canada and its impact on child welfare reporting and the education of Black children, especially boys.
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References in this episode
Canadian Education Is Steeped in Anti-Black Racism
Black Boys Across the African Diaspora: Child Welfare Considerations and Practice Implications, a study by Chantille Davis, MSW (November 2021)
Five charts that show what systemic racism looks like in Canada
Psalm 139:14
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The behaviour of a senior colleague at work was meant to mess her up, ended up propelling her onto a career path doing what she loves. On this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Neema Black, founder of the 90 Days to Wellness Healthy Eating Plan and host of the Harmonious Living podcast tells us how the challenges of life pivoted her into purpose. Neema helps her clients integrate holistic wellness practices into their lifestyle so that they can live healthy and balanced lives.
Neema’s story is an example of how our being willing to bend can help us bloom in situations that are meant to break us.
For more information on the "90 Days to Wellness Plant-Based Eating Program" mentioned in this episode, visit her Harmonic Soul Wellness website.
Listen and subscribe to Neema’s podcast at Harmonious Living
Join Neema’s Facebook group at Harmonious Living and Eating
Follow Neema on Instagram @neema_singsand Clubhouse @neemab127
Visit Neema’s Arbonne website to order clean, vegan, cruelty-free, gluten-free nutritional supplements and health and beauty products.
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References in this episode
I Corinthians 6:19
Mel Robbins ON: Why You Can’t Stop Procrastinating & How to Eliminate Self-Doubt in 5 Seconds
Ecclesiastes 4:9
Psalm 68:6
Why Mirror Work Will Change Your Life - Lisa Nichols
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From near blindness, polio, cancer, three near-death experiences, bankruptcy, multiple career and home transitions, and two failed marriages, Donna Fairhurst, intuitive life and soul transition coach, earned her PhD from the University of Life. On this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Donna tells us how radical forgiveness helped her transition from chaos to calmness and led her to marry the “best thing that ever happened to her” at 54!
Through her coaching program, Donna now empowers other women to experience their own transformational transitions too.
Donna’s story teaches us that no matter how much mess we find ourselves in, forgiveness can help us gain the enviable life we desire.
Follow Donna on Instagram @soulfullsolutionsdfairhurst
Join Donna’s Facebook Group SoulfullSolutionsInc
Book a complimentary session of Donna’s signature coaching program, “Zero 2 Clarity” on www.donnafairhurst.com
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After losing 85lbs and documenting her journey on YouTube, life happened and she gained it all back and more. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Aleisha Black, host of the podcast and Facebook community Finding Myself Through Obesity tells us how getting off the weight loss pendulum helped her learn to love herself and take pounds off when she wasn’t looking.
In Aleisha’s story of growth and healing, we learn that as long as we don’t stop learning, messy cannot stop us.
Listen and subscribe to Aleisha's podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and other podcast platforms
Join Aleisha's Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/findingmyselfthroughobesity/
Follow Aleisha on:
Instagram @findingmyselfthroughobesity
TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@aleishablack
Pinterest: https://pin.it/1dClmUP
Learn more about Aleisha on her Website www.findingmyselfthroughobesity.com
References in this episode
Loving And Listening To Yourself by Sarah Blondin
Mel Robbins on How to Break Through Resistance & Love Yourself with the High 5 Habit
Why Mirror Work Will Change Your Life - Lisa Nichols
Ps 68:6
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Today’s guest on Messy Can’t Stop Her, Shannon Klenk shares her journey from a traumatic childhood, failed relationships and living with a chronic illness to a self-care strategist? On this episode, Shannon tells us what she did to rise from holding the suicide hotline in her back pocket to holding space for others as a happiness coach.
Shannon is the host of Finally Effing Happy, a podcast and community where women with chronic conditions are supported with resources, motivation and practical tools to help them get into action and take better care of themselves. She is passionate about helping women be kind to themselves.
Shannon’s journey is an inspiration to never give up because the door to living a happy life is never closed, no matter how messy life gets.
Listen and subscribe to Shannon's podcast on:
Apple - https://bit.ly/FinallyEffingHappyApplePodcast and
Spotify - https://bit.ly/FinallyEffingHappySpotify
Follow Shannon on Instagram @finallyeffinghappy
Join Shannon's Facebook Group https://bit.ly/FinallyEffingHappyGroup
Learn more about Shannon on www.finallyeffinghappy.com
References in this episode
Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication
Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning
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Welcome to Messy Can't Stop Her with your host, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO.
My life has been a journey of many valleys but I've always been able to climb out of every one of them by holding onto the rope of other people's triumphs over challenges.
In Episode 1 of the Messy Can’t Stop Her Podcast, I share my reason for starting this podcast. I start with the story of a Master's degree and what I learnt from the challenges I faced during and after.
The idea is to encourage and build a community of support around women who are in difficult life situations by sharing other women's stories of resilience so that they too can climb out of the valleys of life in which they find themselves.
My hope is that this podcast will empower every woman that listens, to reach for more even when life's challenges threaten to become overwhelming.
References in this episode
The Warrior Women Project
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Welcome to Messy Can't Stop Her with your host, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO.
My life has been a journey of many valleys but I've always been able to climb out of every one of them by holding onto the rope of other people's triumphs over challenges.
On the Messy Can’t Stop Her Podcast, we share women's stories of resilience to encourage and build a community of support around those women who are in difficult life situations so that they too can climb out of the valleys of life in which they find themselves.
My hope is that this podcast will empower every woman that listens, to reach for more even when life's challenges threaten to become overwhelming.
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