This Beautiful Ugly - Still here. Now what?: Recent Episodes
Sharon Stephenson and Dr. Deb Harrell
This show supports people who have experienced loss and know grief. It is about rediscovering who we are now as we find meaning through this beautiful ugly.
Do you find yourself attracting the wrong type of person once you start dating after loss? Join us today as Shar Stephenson & Diana Rice unpack how the vulnerability of loss can make you susceptible to attracting narcissists. This impactful conversation includes many tips & tools to help you establish healthy relationships. Everyone can benefit from this episode, not only those currently experiencing grief. PT. 3 of the 'Dating After Loss' series.
Today’s guest is Diana S. Rice, Licensed Mental Health Counselor (MH18034). With over 25 + years caring for high risk, under-served individuals, her vast experience along with her education allows her to help clients GROW through what they GO through! Diana has served as a Crisis Intervention Counselor in alternative high schools & has extensive experience helping teens through grief and trauma.
Topics covered:
- How to safeguard your heart in dating
- The individual's unique journey of grief
- 9 traits of Narcissist Personality Disorder
- The value of understanding your history (observe the why behind behaviors)
- Phases of a relationship with a narcissistic & how to exit
- Being comfortable in the uncomfortable
- Using your challenges as a tool to heal
- Healthy coping mechanisms that help you go from surviving to thriving
- ANTS - challenging automatic negative thoughts
- Dropping shame & blame
- And much more!
**"There is grief in dating, but the one who has experienced this big "G" grief & then is brave enough to date after, is a hero or heroine." Diana Rice
Mentions:**
- Grief Share
- Explorer Chick
- Toastmasters
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Are you thinking about dating after loss? In Part 1 of this series Dr. Deb and Shar discussed how to know if you are ready to date. If you missed the first episode in the Dating After Loss Series, we recommend you listen to the last episode and then come back to this one.
"Am I looking for other people & places to fill holes, or where I'm really making a decision that I'm absolutely whole already whether I have a person in my life or not. The other one is rediscovering you doesn't equate to losing you." Shar
In this episode, we continue the conversation on dating after loss. The wisdom shared comes from Shar's own experience, as well as some advice from therapists & grief counselors. We discuss these topics:
- how dating is different now
- some of the things you can expect as you begin dating
- how allowing the process to unfold organically diminishes disappointment
- the power of being authentically you
- the power of boundaries & knowing your true north
- why having a written action plan for dating is important
- ideas for what to put on your plan
- how your kids fit in the plan
- and more
Resource: Relationship Values
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This episode is the first of a series on dating after loss and what you can expect. If you have recently experienced loss, this topic may be sensitive. If so, we encourage you to press pause and jump over to Season 1 and start at the beginning.
In this episode, Dr. Deb has an open conversation with Shar Stephenson on dating after loss, why she thought she was ready, the challenges of dating through grief along with a few pitfalls to avoid.
Information weaved into this discussion is gathered from grief experts, licensed therapists along with personal experiences.
Topics include:
- Why and when to date after loss - who decides?
- How emotions can skew
- Why you need a plan
- One size does not fit all
- You alone get to guide this ship
- Fear of losing again
- Challenges, tips and advice on dating after loss
- Mistakes are OK
- And more!
"I thought I was through my grief when I felt like I was ready to date, but oh how wrong I was." Sharon Stephenson
Mentions:
- Dr. Andrew Huberman
- Diana S. Rice, Licensed Mental Health Counselor
- Signs that you are ready
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Do you feel as if you are going backwards in your grief journey? Where some days are good even great but then WHAM! And grief rushes in again. It can be challenging to see the progress made in those moments.
In this episode Shar Stephenson shares raw and transparent talk that will help encourage and remind that you are not alone AND IN FACT you are making steady progress as she offers tools she uses in these moments.
In this episode:
- Understand why we can feel we are going backwards
- Ways to see progress
- Tools that help and heal through our journey
So settle into a comfy chair or perhaps take a walk with us as you listen into this episode.
Mentions
Pause App
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As we embrace this new year, we share our gratitudes, lessons learned, and our vision for this next year. We also offer up some suggestions for dealing with this possibly first new year without your loved one.
We remain committed to you, our listeners, as we approach the year anniversary of This Beautiful Ugly's launch. We request your feedback to help us better create valuable content for you. Leave comments and share with us topics you want to hear on any of our social media channels. Thank you!
Mentions:
- Grief Share
- LifeThrive (check out the free assessments)
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Do you find yourself stuck in the grief process or just wishing the pain would go away? Join us today for this epic conversation where you will walk away with tools that can immediately transform your pain into more joy & happiness. Sound too good to be true? Check it out to see how it is possible.
Mark Scherer is our guest today. Mark developed the QLT (Quantum Leap Technique) after 30 years of studying Consciousness, Language, Spiritual Law, & Quantum Physics. The QLT has helped thousands of people transform their lives in powerful ways.
Our topics today include:
- The power of your gift of co-creation which is always working whether you know it or not
- A path to forgiveness
- Cravings & their causes
- Good questions to ask yourself in grief to help you move through
- A whole new realm of possibility of higher levels of love & enthusiasm
“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Albert Einstein
Mark@encompasslife.com www.EncompassLife.com
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Our co-host Dr. Deb Harrell comes to us today with some really quick nutrition tips to help you through the stress of grief, and everyday life.
Deb is a Naturopathic Doctor, Speaker, & Author of HEAL: Your Path to Thriving. She is the founder of Well.Farm Retreats & PureLightHealth. She inspires & equips people to thrive - body, soul and spirit through her inspirational holistic classes, talks, and retreats. Deb uses a "food as medicine" approach to health. She is a passionate wellness warrior on a mission to impact future generations.
Today you will learn which foods to choose to support your body during this season to help you feel better physically, which will have a ripple effect on your mental health. Nutrition can often fly out the window during grief when people often choose comfort foods. However this is the time when good nutrition matters most. And it is really simple.
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Our grief journey is unique to us; we can often feel misunderstood or may not understand why others grieve differently. Our guest, Dr. Chuck Coker, unpacks how understanding our temperaments and mindsets can benefit us and others' grief process. For more than 30 years Chuck has focused his career on people’s development. Chuck's landmark study released in 2012 capped four years of research in the UK about human data management. He founded LifeThrive to help with the human element in business & organizations. He teaches emotional intelligence worldwide & has authored several books.
In this episode:
- How a tragedy can launch a purpose
- Increasing the trust factor in relationships
- Better understand yourself & others
- How personalities (DISC) & Mindsets affect grief
- Practical tips for parents who lost a spouse to help the kids
Quote of the Day: “Psychologists have discovered that anything past 1.5-2 years is based more on what you think about it than what actually happened. In other words ,you don't remember things exactly the way they happened. If the conversation is focused on 'how did this person bless me, make my life better, and what are the things I can contribute to society that was given to me through this person', now you're focused on the right direction. Because the more you communicate that, the more it becomes reality."Discover your personality & mindsets with Dr. Coker's free assessments!
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- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door.
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational & work-based resources that are changing communities for the better.
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today!
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Seasons come & seasons go, but the love for our loved one remains. At times we see forks on our paths. With all our entangled emotions through grief, it can be challenging to know how to make wise and healthy decisions. Decision making can be overwhelming & honestly challenging along the way. Join co-host Shar Stephenson today for an honest conversation about this beautiful ugly journey where she offers guidance & encouragement.
Shar lost her husband/best friend/business partner/soul mate in December of 2020. She birthed this podcast to help other people walking through grief. Shar & her late husband Rick started Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters and Bud & Bloom, a non-profit serving at risk communities. They have 3 grown sons.
In this episode:
- A little back story on This Beautiful Ugly
- How wisdom can be your personal body guard
- Diverging paths that lead to healing or a maze of detours & dead ends
- There is no substitute for healing through grief
- There is One who is always with you, even in the darkness
- And much more!
**Quote of the Day: “This is a new season. We will never be the same. We're figuring out who we are now on this journey. But I want you to hold fast to this truth: That you are not alone, that He loves you, and you've got a community that is here for you."
Mentions: Dr. Andrew Huberman*,* Emma McAdam*,* Dr. John Delony*,* David Kessler*,* YouVersion , Guided Breathing - Wim Hoff**
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Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door.
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today!
- Superieur Electrolytes - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, and give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps. Use code TBU to get free shipping and help support our podcast.
Whether you are currently going through the grieving process or not, this episode shows you the transformative power of a hand-written letter or note in this digital world. A must listen for everyone who wants to move through the grieving process in a healthy way or simply add value to other people's lives.
Today’s guest is Ashley Davis. Ashley is the author of A Life Through Letters and a TedX Charlotte speaker on The Power of Written Communication in a Technological Age. Building & growing relationships is at the core of who he is. Ashley believes it is the relationships we build that enable us to tap into our inner strengths and find success and happiness. He teaches and impacts people worldwide on a life through letters.
You can find Ashley at https://www.alifethroughletters.com/
In this episode:
- How a son's revelation birthed a movement
- Letter-writing as a tool to move through grief & get your feelings out
- The transformative power of hand-written communication
- How to leave a legacy through letter-writing
- Connecting emotionally with others through letters
- And much more!
Quote of the Day: “When you're writing a letter, it's you, a pen, & a piece of paper. There's no deflecting. Whatever is gnawing at you about that feeling & what you want to say either to yourself about the person that passed away, or what you want to say to the person that passed away, there's no filter there. So it really makes you be honest with yourself about that feeling."
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Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door.
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational & work-based resources that are changing communities for the better.
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today!
- Superieur Electrolytes - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar, dyes or weird ingredients. Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, and give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps. Use code TBU to get free shipping and help support our podcast.
Feel a need to be able to express yourself in a way that words can’t? There are times in our grieving process that we can’t articulate in words the intense emotions we feel. Yet there is a deep longing to be able to express these emotions in some way that is satisfying & that will facilitate the healing process. Join us in this conversation to hear the power of art therapy in the grieving process.
Today’s guest is Preston Zeller. Preston is a filmmaker and & intuitive abstract artist who was deeply impacted by his older brother’s unexpected death in 2019. He used painting as a form of getting his emotions out and committed to painting for 365 days as a way of healing. From that experience, Preston produced the soon-to-be-released documentary titled The Art of Grieving - Turning Grief Into Greatness. He creates commissioned paintings for others to reflect their grief journey and memory of their loved one. You can find Preston at https://zellerhausart.com/ or on Instagram @prestonzeller
In this episode we’ll discuss:
- How to normalize grief
- How grief can challenge everything we think we know about life
- The power of expressing your feeling & not just saying everything is OK
- The power of art therapy in the healing process
- How moving forward doesn’t mean forgetting
- And so much more!
Quote of the Day: “I had to do a deep reflection on why is it that I for some reason think, despite being able to as an individual really recognize my emotions probably better than the next guy, still think I have to somehow walk around with this like straight face on, like everything is OK?”
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Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational & work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.
- Superieur Electrolytes - holistic-focused real sources with zero sugar and no dyes or weird ingredients. Non-GMO, gluten-free, and vegan, Superieur Electrolytes help keep you hydrated, and give you better immunity, more energy, and less muscle aches and cramps.
David Kessler said that teenagers grieve in a very teenage way. This can often look like everything is just fine but don’t be fooled, teenagers are grieving even though it may not be apparent. As a parent or caregiver do you struggle knowing what to say or do for your grieving teenager? As a grieving teen do you just want to be left alone by the adults in your life and fade into the background? Join us in this valuable discussion full of helpful tools for teens that are grieving as well as for the adults trying to help those teens.
Today’s guest is Diana S. Rice. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (MH18034). With over 25 + years caring for high risk, under-served individuals, her vast experience along with her education allows her to help clients GROW through what they GO through! Diana's served as a Crisis Intervention Counselor in alternative high schools & has extensive experience helping teens through grief and trauma. Find out more about Diana at https://www.throughthevalleytherapy.com/
In this episode:
- The difference between grieving and mourning
- How/why teens grieve differently
- The best things to avoid when dealing with teen grief
- Alternatives for help & support for the grieving teen
- And so much more!
Quote of the Day: “I have to understand that my client is with themselves 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Who knows them better? Themselves. And I think when I empower my client, especially a young teenager, when I say that to them, they feel respected and heard and validated. And those are the three things that teenagers need the most."
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Mentions:
- David Kessler’s short video on how teenagers grieve: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G9Yz5fe9Tw0
- The 5 stages of grief: The 5 Stages of Grief
- Peter’s Place: https://petersplaceonline.org/
- EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/
- Healing Your Grieving Heart for Teens: 100 Practical Ideas<!--
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- Bud & Bloom www.budandbloom.org
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Losing a child and then losing a second child shatters life and the reason for existing. How could anyone find strength to heal from such devastating loss? In today’s episode we sit in with Ramona as she shares how she found peace and healing from the loss of two of her three children, and now her husband of 63 years.
She would admit that at the age of 84 she may not hear or write very well, but what she can do is be present with other’s pain. As Ramona shares her deep faith, we are touched deeply by her smile and transforming words that provides hope and encouragement.
As you listen in today, our heart is that you will feel Ramona holding your hand as you experience the hope she has found.
About our guest: Ramona Pendle
Ramona Pendle is the epitome of joy. Her smile and laughter light up a room. She has endured and triumphed the unimaginable–the loss of two of her three children in car accidents 24 years apart. In November of 2020, she lost her husband and best friend of 63 years, Bill. She has had to get used to living by herself for the first time in her life. Although life has dealt her some hard blows, she is an incredible witness to the transformative power of faith. You can find her at: https://www.facebook.com/ramona.pendle
We will discuss:
- How to preserve marriage through losing a child
- Why spouses can not heal our personal pain of loss
- How to give room to spouses when grieving
- How to give and not grab
- Hindrances to healing through grief
- How to get past regret, guilt and anger as a barrier to healing
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Dr. Deb Harrell
Other resources:
- www.grief.com
- www.griefshare.org
Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational and work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
Grief has layers that can often be unpeeled at the most unexpected moments. We take a deeper dive into The Ministry of Presence and see how the beauty of presence is revealed through grief's ugliness.
Join us with co-host Deb Harrell, a Naturopathic Doctor and author of HEAL: Your Path to Thriving. Deb uses a holistic approach to wellness including whole-food plant-based nutrition, stress management, lifestyle counseling, and more. Deb was visited by grief at the young age of 11 when her older brother Bobby died in a car accident. Deb felt unseen as she watched the emotional devastation of her parents and family. She has learned to come alongside others who are grieving.
In this episode we'll discuss:
- Practical ways to be fully present with yourself & others in grief
- How the body keeps score of unresolved hurts
- Practical ways to care for our whole body through grieving
- How you can find freedom through faith
- And much more!
Find us at: www.Thisbeautifulugly.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisbeautifulugly/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thisbeautifulugly Find our co-hosts Shar & Deb at:Instagram: Shar Stephenson. Dr. Deb Harrell Facebook: Shar StephensonDr. Deb Harrell For more information on Deb Harrell, ND: www.PureLightHealth.com
Quote of the Day: “Provide the ministry of presence because it will expand your heart, and your ability to empathize with people in such a way, like nothing else will. You will witness over time a miracle take place, and you are part of that miracle.” Deb
Mentions:
- Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler Finding Meaning
- HEAL: Your Path to Thriving by Deb Harrell, ND HEAL : Your Path to Thriving
- The Orphaned Adult by Alexander Levy: The Orphaned Adult
- Rebecca Miles, cover artist for HEAL: www.vraix.art
Other resources: www.grief.com. www.griefshare.org
Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
Do you know someone who avoids you because they are uncomfortable not knowing what to say because you are grieving? Have you ever had a well-meaning person say something stupid to you that made you angry? American culture is largely unprepared to be present with people in their grief and pain. This conversation will help you learn to be fully present with others and encourage them without saying a word, with practical tips and tools that can be a win-win for both you and the other person. Learn how to truly carry one another's burdens by tapping into ancient wisdom!
Today’s guest is Father Dean Schultz. The Rev. Dean F. Schultz is an Anglican priest who has helped make the history and biblical dynamics of ancient Judeo-Christian worship "come alive" for Christians from many nations and worship traditions. He is the founder of Worship Equippers for Christ, a missions ministry that networks with Christian educators, sacred artists, artisans, and mission specialists to help equip the body of Christ for worship renewal. Fr. Dean and his wife have been married for 49 years, have three adult children (two married), and four grandchildren.
In this episode we'll discuss:
- What the ministry of presence is and its role in encouraging others
- Biblical examples of the ministry of presence
- Practical ways to be fully present with people grieving
- How women and men tend to grieve differently
- Why waiting on the process of grief is so important
- The role beauty plays in the ministry of presence
- And so much more!
For more information on Fr. Dean Schultz: www.WorshipEquippers.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dean.schultz.37
Quote of the Day: “We live in a culture with social media and all this type of thing that it is like, ‘your best life now’ every day. It’s the most glorious food. The best vacations, these events where everyone is happy. Everything is polished. Everything is good. What we do, especially in the western culture, in our materialistic, relatively affluent (especially to other cultures in the world) culture, is we practice avoidance behaviors. These avoidance behaviors are especially characterized by looking away because we don’t know how to deal with the pain people are in. We need to learn how to help others who are going through grief and pain.”
Mentions:
- Grief Share support group: www.griefshare.org
Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational and work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
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Episode 4 - How Do I Talk to a Child about Grief and Loss?
“Mommy, where’s Grandpa?” Oh no! The dreaded question. Discussing loss with little ones can be emotionally tricky. But what if we had a tool that could help us have healthy conversations about loss, death, and grief?
Today’s guest is Andrea Dorn, a mom, MSW, LISW-CP psychotherapist, and author of the Mindful Steps Series™. She has worked in the field with adults and children for over a decade. Our conversation is about how navigating the loss and grief process can be a challenging and unpredictable experience, especially for children, and why starting healthy conversations early with little ones about loss and grief can be helpful. We also provide tools to process those tricky emotions.
In todays episode we will discuss:
- At what age to introduce concepts like grief, loss & death
- What normalizing grief means
- What is mindfulness and different ways to practice mindfulness
- How mindfulness practices can help a child through grief
- What does mindfulness look like practically for children
- And much more!
For more information on Andrea Dorn: www.AndreaDorn.com
To purchase: When Someone Dies - A Children’s Mindful How-To Guide on Grief and Loss
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- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational and work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
Today’s conversation is with Shar Stephenson, who lost her husband in December, 2020. She is the mom of 3 grown sons. Shar co-facilitates a grief support group in her community, is the co-founder of Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters and the non-profit Bud & Bloom, which supports local organizations helping underserved communities.
In this episode we'll discuss:
- How memories live inside things.
- How to ask yourself questions to help know how and when to release belongings.
- A healthy perspective on “getting rid” of things.
- How to effectively communicate with family about belongings.
- Why it is normal to feel sad, angry or guilty over things.
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Mentions: 5 Tips for Dealing With a Deceased’s Belongings https://alicaforneret.com/blog/sorting-through-deceased-belongings
Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational and work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
In this episode, we will introduce you to the hosts of the podcast as they have an in depth conversation of why they felt the need and importance to create This Beautiful Ugly**. We discuss how this podcast will support listeners who have experienced loss and know grief.
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For more information on Diana S Rice, LMHC’s counseling services: www.throughthevalleytherapy.com
Quote:
“When someone dies, the relationship doesn't die with them.” David Kessler
Mentioned Reads:
Grieving the Death of a Mother by Harold Ivan Smith. https://amzn.to/3pw56H1 Author also has other books on grief.
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief byDavid Kessler
https://amzn.to/3hzZbfC You can also find more of his work at https://grief.com/
HEAL: Your Path to Thriving by Deb Harrell, ND https://amzn.to/3KiGwkR
Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational and work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
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Loss is hard enough, why would I need to permission to grieve?
Today’s guest is Connie Sanchez, a licensed therapist with over 32 years specializing in loss/grief, depression, anxiety, adult children of alcoholics, PTSD, military trauma, and she has a passion to help others find healthy identity as they heal.
In this episode we'll discuss:
- How the stigma around grief can hamper a person’s healing
- How we can use grief as a tool for healing
- How to effectively communicate with your employers and others about your grief needs
- And so much more
www.Thisbeautifulugly.com
For more information on Connie Sanchez, LCSW’s online and in person counseling services:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/connie-sanchez-boca-raton-fl/286846
Quote of the Day: “When you love a lot, you hurt a lot.”
Mentioned Reads:Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief byDavid Kessler
https://amzn.to/3hzZbfC You can also find more of his work at https://grief.com/
Check out our sponsors:
- Blooming Bean Coffee Roasters: Roasting coffee since 2014. With every sip you can help support at-risk teens and people who have experienced loss. We ship to your door. www.bloomingbeancoffee.com
- Bud & Bloom is a non-profit foundation that supports local organizations that are doing "The Work" to impact underserved communities that provide healthy tools, support groups, educational and work-based resources that are changing communities for the better. www.budandbloom.org
- PureLightHealth.com - offering holistic solutions to help you heal and thrive since 1999. Pick up your copy of the HEAL book today at www.purelighthealth.com
It wasn't supposed to be this way, but we’re still here, thrusted into an unwanted society called grief, Now What?
Fellow members, Shar Stephenson and Dr. Deb Harrell, ask you to walk with them on a journey of rediscovery, exploring who we are now while finding meaning through this beautiful ugly. This Beautiful Ugly WebsiteHTTP://WWW.THISBEAUTIFULUGLY.COM
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