Life From M’s Perspective: Recent Episodes
Marikia.S
This podcast will explore life or the World from M’s Perspective. We all have different opinions on things and and how we view the world, and usually with that comes this idea of other’s perspective of things being considered as wrong compared to other’s. That’s why with this platform I am happy to lay out my view of the world or life in general without considering the fact that I need anyone’s validation to determine whether I am right or wrong and while I do so I would also like to encourage YOU to feel the same about your opinions. Be confident in you and what you Believe. DO IT FOR YOU.✊🏽🕯
🎙️ Just finished recording a podcast on my incredible experience at Africa Rise and Shine in Ivory Coast 🇨🇮 edition 26!
This wasn’t your “usual church program.” Nope. This was a mix of faith, entrepreneurship, and mindset-shifting wisdom. From pastors to professionals in different fields, every voice pushed us to think bigger, break limits, and equip ourselves with skills that actually matter in our families, workplaces, and daily lives.
And the best part? It wasn’t just about listening it was about networking, connecting, and being stretched in ways that stay with you long after the conference ends.
Now… rumor has it the next one is in Gabon 🇬🇦. So if you’re planning to “just chill at home” while people are getting their lives transformed, rethinking their futures, and building networks that could open doors then you must rethink.
let me just say this: if you come and don’t benefit in any way don’t worry, the refund is on me! 😅 And to top it off, I’ll personally put in a word with God to refund you too. Ahh! 🙌🏽✨
I promise I haven’t been paid to advertise for this conference in case you’re wondering 😅. But truth be told… you will benefit. Don’t miss it.
Equipping You for Life & Legacy #Faith, Networking & a Refund from God? 🤭#Why You Can’t Miss Africa Rise & Shine Gabon 🇬🇦
In this episode, I reflect on the past two days of the Africa Conference. I was reminded of a powerful truth: education and family are not separate journeys they are deeply connected, and when grounded in faith, they become a force that can change generations.
In this episode, I dive into the incredible value of showing up to conferences like this. These aren't just events they are divine appointments. They awaken something in you. They expand your mind, sharpen your vision, and shake up your thinking. You walk in one way and walk out completely recharged mentally, spiritually, and even professionally.
We often limit the Word of God to spiritual revival alone but let me tell you, God’s Word holds principles for parenting, leadership, business, education, personal growth, and so much more. When applied, biblical values become your greatest asset not just in church, but out in the real world.
I was deeply inspired by some of the most profound voices across the continent and the diaspora. I had the privilege of hearing from a diverse and inspiring group of speakers:
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Dr. Samuel Hayes Jr
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Rev. Dr. Philip Igbinijesu
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Professor Alfred Bizoza
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Pastor Jean Paul Valois
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Pastor Georges Amoako
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Apostle Michael Adalefarasina
They’ve come from different nations and backgrounds apostles, academics, pastors, authors, and leaders but all with one voice: Africa, it’s time to rise.
Every teaching is a call to action. Every moment is filled with purpose. And every day feels like a divine download. This is not just for churchgoers. It’s for visionaries, parents, educators, creatives, and future leaders. If you’re serious about your faith, your calling, and your future you need to be in rooms like this.
Stay tuned I’ll keep sharing as the days unfold. There’s so much more to come. ✨
AfricaRiseAndShine #AfricaHaguruka #KingdomLeadership #FaithInAction #TransformingNations #EducationAndFaith #PurposeDriven
In this episode, I share from the heart about what it truly means to serve the Kingdom of God not just in big, visible ways, but in the quiet, consistent acts of faithfulness. Whether it’s through financial giving, volunteering, or simply saying “yes” to small opportunities in our local church, every action has the power to grow and expand God’s Kingdom.
I also spoke on the weight of obedience how saying “no” to God’s call doesn’t just affect us, but can impact those around us. Sometimes, it’s the little things we do or don’t do that shape the spiritual atmosphere of our homes, churches, and communities.
Remember: God multiplies the little we offer when it’s given from a surrendered heart. Don’t underestimate your “yes.”
It’s really sad how we’ve reduced serving the Kingdom to something we do when it’s convenient… when it fits around our lives, our schedules, an audience watching or when there’s something in it for us. We’ve made serving about platforms, performance, and praise and in the process, we’ve forgotten what it actually means to serve the One who gave it all.
In this episode, I speak from the heart. I share a personal testimony from July 2017 the moment I stopped just being someone born into a Christian family and truly became a follower of Christ. That was the moment I realised: serving God isn’t about being seen. It’s about surrender.
This podcast episode is a reminder that real service comes from a place of purpose a deep “why” that isn’t tied to the spotlight but to obedience. I pray this episode pulls you closer to the heart of what it means to truly serve.
WhenServingGodStopsBeingConvenient
We can proudly say we are Abanyamulenge not just because of the sacrifices of our ancestors, but also because of the resilience of those who are still back home, facing human rights abuses while preserving our identity and continuing the fight for our rights.
While many of us may now live in Western countries, thriving in our careers, education, and daily lives, we must never forget who made that possible. Our identity would not exist without the community back home, those who have given more than money could ever offer. They have given us something far more valuable: AN IDENTITY.
Don’t let greed or comfort blind you to this truth. When you are asked to support IWACU and advocate for our people back home, remember that your financial support does more than just provide security, aid, and resources, it also preserves your own identity in these Western societies. You’re not just helping them you’re helping yourself.
The support you give allows you to walk with your head held high, knowing you come from somewhere, that you belong to a people, and that you have a place to call home
We have been patronised for decades, denied basic human rights, accused with false allegations, silenced, etc as a tactic to force us to flee our home defeated, but today we stand tall heads held up high #proundtobecalledAbanyamulenge telling you we will raise our voices and we will fight until we are liberated 💚✊🏽. Like it or not you cannot wipe us from the face of the world. We were created with purpose and He who created us will fulfil that purpose!
Why is it that when it is Your people it’s Genocide, injustice and Inhumane, but when it is my people we are “Victimising” ourselves and “seeking attention”, you say! Why should I stand with you when you’ve decided to stand against me, why should I fight with you when you’ve decided to be a bystander in my battles, why should I advocate for you when you have chosen to stay silent for me. WHY?
You might have chosen to turn a blind eye to the truth of the matter but don’t ask me to do the same thing. Stop demanding and expecting Me to turn a blind eye on my own. It is You who have decided to be In denial, and continue to pretend that you do not see or know what is happening to my people despite of all the evidence and core facts presented in front of you, Not me.
So today, I Unapologetically chose to stand for my own! When you defend your own you expect me to support and sympathise with you. But when I support my own you belittle me, attack me and more. Stop trying to guilt trip me or make me fee like speaking for my people is wrong when YOU do not find it wrong to speak for yours.
The DRC conflict has been completely taken out of context by different groups. Let me just remind everyone that this is not a tribal war this is Congo vs M23 not Vs Abanyamulenge or any other Tribe in DRC Congo itself.
Everyone is being brainwashed not only by the Westetn communities but also by Rwandese ideology resulting to people applying western and Rwandese Doctrines in a wrong conflict.
This is a time to stand in solidarity and unified. This is the time to advocate for DRC Congo’s Liberation and all the innocent lives lost as a result of this conflict. It’s time to sympathise and empathise with families being impacted by this event. It’s not a time to point fingers at your own fellow Congolese.
Is it really advocating for human rights if that’s only shown or channelled the moment your own people are being prosecuted? Should we have a say on who deserves being advocated for and who doesn’t . Are human rights truely served or advocated for when done out of convenience?
Do we believe that every human life deserves to be advocated for, if so why then do we keep quiet until our homes are attacked? Are we truely being a human right activist or just attention seekers?
It’s really important that before we fall into a trap of circulating information about other’s that we check its reliability. Just because a rumour is repeated more than multiple times by different people it doesn’t mean that it is accurate and true. Let us avoid falling into a habit of believing everything that we hear about others. Circulating false information does nothing but tarnish other people’s image.
Is there ever a right time to be proposed too? Should the responsibility always be the men’s to initiate the relationship? When is the right time to suggest that it’s time to take things to the next step? What is the women’s role in a relationship, if she has any?
When God delivers you from a season, He prepares and advances the next season for you. Do not allow discouragement make you believe it is impossible to reach for what God has ordained for you.
Never allow anyone belittle your achievements despite of how the rest of the universe perceives it. And For those who continue to achieve big remember that you play a huge role in inspiring those who are just starting off and don’t be so discouraging when they share their little achievements with you because you were also once there…
Whilst all comparisons are not healthy there’s however some comparisons that are important for us. The kind that uplifts us and encourages us to keep going in life where we could have just given up not just on ourselves but all relationships around us……..
Always stay grateful for what you have, never wish for the unknown. The issue is never the external things or the people around us but who we are. When you channel into who you are and work on that all will be good, sometimes you're your own problem! We just look for external things or people to blame it on but the reality is we know who the real problem is, Ourslves! The reality is if we look in the mirror, the only person stopping us from getting what we want is ourselves and no one else, whether it’s career wise, our relationship or even the little thing as just waking up in the morning turning up for training…..
It is Important that when we seek advice we completely tap into who we are and that we’re honest about the advice we’re seeking to better receive the Outcome that we NEED and not the Outcome that we WANT. Also tapping into the correct people that God has positioned into our life for better advices is really important because not everyone who we consider a friend or even a family qualifies to give us the advice that leads us where God intends for us to be both spiritually and or otherwise. But to be able to do all this we must understand the importance of vulnerability while seeking this advice.
Being imperfect is what helps us to become the best version of ourselves that we couldn’t see coming if we were perfect. Letting the world and your surroundings tell you that you must be perfect is the bubble that this podcast will help you come out of as it reminds you and I that nothing or no one is perfect in life and they shouldn’t even try to be and the beauty of this is the fact that God doesn’t even want you to be….
Could the way you’ve always seen Love wrong? Could it be the reason why you’re unable to truely connect with the right one? Love can Only be Seen by those who challenge themselves to see it for what it is.
Never stop giving love and compassion regardless of what they do to you. Yes it hurts but don’t allow the pain take your authenticity away from you because that warmth you bring to table is what matters. There’s never gonna be a you and no one can love the way you do. Feel the pain but don’t let it dictate your next move and your future. Get back up and be the version of you that you always envisioned before the heartache and the disappointment because you gat this. Do it for you and not for anyone else 🙏🏼
To what Level are you willing to Lose Yourself So that you can be included? Is a counterfeit more important than yourself? Once we truely understand who we are and how we have been created unique for a purpose then will we be able to truly understand one another without inflicting on each other’s beliefs or ways of how we go about life. Therefore can you accept them for who they are or it’s a must for them to change themselves for you?
If we can’t sit down and dwell into each other’s individualities and personalities we can never really eliminate the miscommunication and misunderstanding of one another. Moreover, in order to understand each other it’s important we First understand God and ourselves as individuals. Therefore begging the Question of how can we be able to get what we want from others without also denying them what they want from us? Can this Act as a conflict or can it coexist after we discover our individualities in one another!?
There’s so much to offer on this platforms than we usually give credit to. While social media has its negatives it however also have the positive to it. Listen to know what this means 🫶🏻🙏🏼🙇♀️
Why is it always assumed that all the child needs is child support? Is that what is more important or is the pride or egos getting the betterment of both parties to see that there is more needed to bring a human being to this universe than just money. Therefore I pose this question could our actions be the generational curses we hear about, could we be the root of those curses rather than our ancestors?
As humans we tend to try and control life & what should & shouldn’t be & in that process we exhaust ourselves indirectly, only if we would let God do what he does best and that is let him take control of all our needs the less we would be exhausted
Why do we get married nowadays? Is it for status, so that we have someone to call our own (property)? is it because of peer/family pressure, or is it the idea of feeling as if we’re running out of time or even because it has become “a trend”? Are we getting married because we are genuinely ready or Is it because of the above reasons?
Is Love really about that one person or there is more to love? Should love be defined by society or our own beliefs of what it should be?
Is it fair to blame culture for how women are mistreated by the men? Should men be held accountable or culture?. I quiet believe that if we change our mentality then culture will fall into place itself. Therefore that being said, who is really to blame for how women are perceived and treated??
How can you be a show off and still expect to be respected or liked? Sorry to say but you know those peers who tolerate your attitude it’s not because they like you or respect you but rather because they have their own selfish insecurities leading to them tolerating you. How is it hard for some to just be satisfied by minding their own business and not feel the need to downgrade other to feel good about themselves. Are you that desperate to see yourself value/worth through the lens of downgrading someone else? Is that where it lies..by being mean disrespectful etc?
You do know there are different ways to enjoying life right? Then why do you always feel as if your ways are the main ways of how everyone defines “enjoying life”? Btw the same reason you give of why your way is the way to go about enjoying life, just a remind it’s the same way that someone can use to criticise you simply because they see it different. That’s why now this question comes out to you, WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF ENJOYING LIFE? WHAT DOES ENJOYING LIFE INVOLVE? I’ve said my part, listen to know...
How is your Image affecting where you wanna be now or what you want to do? Is this due to the fact that you’re scared to change people’s perspective of who you are or you’ve just gotten comfortable within that image of yours? You do realise you can reshape what people think of you since you’re the one who gave them what to think about you in the 1st place....? It’s On You To Get Where You Wanna Be Not On Anybody Else.
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Do we not forgive because that’s who we are, or is that what the world has made us believe? Has the world made us so heartless and so egotistic that we are more likely to lose something good for ourselves just because we ain’t willing to forgive? Do you agree that the world has normalised some things to be forgiven and some others to not be? Yes/No!? But that’s the world’s, What is yours? Just because the world has normalised it-it doesn’t mean you also have to feel the same, what is worth forgiving from your end should come from you/within you not from the world’s point of view.
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So what if you couldn’t make it into your chosen career, so what if you’ve invested so much time into it, what if...that’s just one career out of other thousand careers out there, why don’t you chose something from there. Success does not just end at your passionate career, success can still be achieved even in the career you hate, why don’t you give it a go and see...
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You Set Those Goals By Yourself Then Be Responsible For Them. Don’t Burden others For Them. It not fair how we feel the need to burden others with our success as if they already don’t have so much going on in their lives. It’s like we are always needing them to remind us what we owe to do as if they were there the time we set our mind into achieving whatever we think they can motivate us with. Piece of reminder You set those goals without them and therefore it’s your responsibility to achieve them with or without them. Stop thinking that they always have to be there for you because they don’t, if you start something be confident enough that you will reach the end goal without anyone else. If you can start it alone you can also finish it alone. Be inspired by yourself 1st before you be inspired by someone else...
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Everything that happens to us is unpredictable, of course some thing are the type that we might have seen coming but others we didn’t. Now when all that happens, what do you do about it, how do you go about it? Do you say life happens and you move on and try to make the experience worthwhile or do you say life happens and still go about it negatively by projecting bad things about yourself that you shouldn’t? What does “life happens” really mean to you?
If you stop loving because of them, you then become them. Don’t become heartless for someone else’s heartless. Their Betrayal shouldn’t change how you LOVE or CARE For People. Don’t take away One Gift that God has blessed you with For their lack of love or affection for others. Keep yours and maybe that will be something that would draw them closer to it again....
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It’s about time we all take ownership for the scars our nationalities and ethnicities are enduring. We can’t be out here trying to find someone to blame for the hate they endure ignoring the fact that we are the cause of it. We portrayed that about ourselves and yet here we are asking questions like “why do they hate us”As if we Don’t know why. We are the reason, how about we now own up to it. We owe them an apology, we owe ourself an apology because if we are disliked as nationalities/ethnicities we are to blame for it, No one else but us.
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My nationality and who I am are One, if I criticise them I criticise Myself. I don’t know why we are so busy criticising our own nationalities thinking that other nationalities don’t have some major issues within them. Yes of course we can only speak for what we know and within that lies your misunderstanding of what you know nothing about. The Less you know the more you love and the more you know the more you Hate, so try knowing more about them and see how you will start embracing your own. If you can’t expose your family’s issues to the public, why expose your nationality’s issues to other nationalities you know nothing about? God placed you in that nationality because He knew that was what fit you better, otherwise.......IF YOU CAN’T EMBRACE THEM YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE PERSONALLY.
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How can I succeed when 1st I’m blackmailed to take part in what I ain’t Good at? Why am I burdened with your failures? Despite of what background you are you, can’t be in denial of the fact that You’ve been given this type of a Burden to carry which you don’t want to. We are all victimised by what our people think and we feel like we owe to go about life the way they want us too when in actual fact we don’t even want to. Our own people are the 1st to Criticise our failures while they are the ones throwing us under the bus for making us do what we ain’t best at......click/listen to hear M’s perspective in regards...
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We sometime have to stop blaming others or the World for our downfalls. It’s not fair. We are so in denial about every flaws that are within in us that we start projecting those flaws in others making it more easier to blame them for all the negativity that are going on in our lives. Like, that needs to stop. Your in denial of not accepting that you’re not perfect and always feeling the need to put up a tough personality to prove that you gat it all figured out when you don’t is a result of why you’re failing. And there is nothing wrong in admitting it, I don’t know why you think there is!
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Just Because They Put You 1st Doesn’t Mean They Respect You.......Why do You always feel the need to follow others schedules by rescheduling Yours? Why do You think that You can’t say no to someone if they need a favour as if You are obligated to give it? Are You though? Not sure about You but on this end You don’t, especially if that’s making You put yourself on hold for them. And You’re out here thinking they are asking for a favour because You’re the only one who can do it! You’re not. They put You 1st because they know You ain’t serious with what’s Yours. Those who are serious with what’s theirs they wouldn’t bother calling them because they respect their time. IF YOU DON’T RESPECT WHAT’S YOURS or YOUR TIME, WHY SHOULD THEY? Don’t reschedule. They want a favour from you then let them be the ones to reschedule not the other way around.
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It’s so simple to give advices but it’s so hard to practice the same advices you offer. Stop trying to make people who genuinely seek for your advice an experiment 🧪 for you. Even to those who’ve experienced the advice they might be seeking, also try letting people have an option of what to take from your advice or not, don’t impose it on them. Just because you might have had a bad one doesn’t mean they will also have the same.....
BE YOU! But which me? The emotional me? The me that acts like I can’t talk back when I can? The me who allows you to say whatever about me and says nothing back? Or the me who can answer back. Which me exactly are you referring to because I have a lot of me within me that I am not aware of either. So please be more specific. Just because I am acting different doesn’t mean I am not the one you’ve always known. Your situation is making me act the way I am and that is me being Me. Maybe try being the you that I know and I will continue being the one you also know....stop changing yourself just because someone is not comfortable with the you, you are when your environment changes. AFTER ALL YOU HAVE TO ADAPT TO THE NEW ENVIRONMENT YOU’RE IN OTHERWISE.....
Who are you to determine that tomorrow won’t exist? What if it does exist? what are you going to do when you were so focused about the day you had yesterday that you forgot to reserve for it?. If we are going to focus more on negativity of what tomorrow will hold, we will never reserve anything positive for it. We should stop allowing our today to affect our tomorrow as if it does not exist because we have to live in possibilities of it might exist or not. And then the question becomes what if it exist and I did not reserve anything for it, what am I going to do?. Tomorrow won’t look for itself because you’re the one who has to provide for it.....YES YOU’RE IN A RIGHT PLACE TODAY BUT ALSO MAKE SURE THAT SAME PLACE FEELS RIGHT TOMORROW TOO.
It’s so hard to understand how we are told that the only way we can access happiness is by sacrificing something. And the question begs here on how can one be happy by giving up what makes them happy? HOW!?
Why are we filled with so much negativity within us? Why can’t we just look at things/life in a positive way? How can we keep pushing when we are just being negative about everything? Not quiet sure about some of you but for some I believe that the only way to keep you moving forward is when you are being positive with everything that life throws at you. Why can’t we just embrace it as it comes and as it goes because maybe that way life will be more beautiful to all of us and not just to some....
It’s important that we know the type of encouragement that can positively impact us and the type that can lead to our downfall. Why can’t we be honest with our encouragements to those we care about? Why do we always feel like we are in competition with them? If your encouragement is not coming truely within and somewhere within you you’re waiting for my downfall, then don’t give it.
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Continued episode of episode 13. How do you exist if you’ve become who inspires You. Do you still exist and if so in which way? Does your existence and who God has made you even matter to you? You do realise we are all made different for a reason? Then why them and not You? Stop choosing others over yourself and be happy with “who your are” and what you have.
Let’s all be careful of whose life we wish for. It’s okay to be inspired of course, however, what baggage comes with those who inspire us is something that is less talked about. Of course those who inspire us have a positive impact of who we should be but it’s important to acknowledge that they also do impact us negatively on who we owe to be. What are we losing by focusing so much on those who inspire us? Have you ever wondered that? You’re losing something for sure if you didn’t know......
It is easy to project your change within others ignoring the fact that it is within you and not them. Just because someone who once gave you their time gets occupied with more things that sets them to reach their purpose does not really indicate they’ve changed. What that shows is that they now know what they want and how to go about in achieving it. Stop negatively impacting them by leading them to question or doubt their purpose. If you wish them well then acknowledge that the change can also be within you.
We’ve all been disliked by so many along the way due to how we present ourself in daily lives and more importantly due to how people project us to be. Why does one feel the need to make people hate another person just because they happen to hate them. Aren’t you satisfied being the only hater out there?
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So what if you are different from the rest of the world? What if you don’t want to be who your family wants you to be? What if....? What if.....?. Then be who you want to be but most importantly be who God has created you to be. Anyways remember we cannot all be the same. Be happy with yourself because God who made you is satisfied with you.
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Do you take decisions for yourself or are they taken for you? What do you live by or stand for? How much do you know yourself and How easily are you influenced by other’s decisions?
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Despite of how much or how long the spotlight has been shining on you just know that it will not last forever. However if you want it to stay forever consider sharing your spotlight with someone else. Double the success by sharing your talents with those who need them to also get a little bit of that spotlight while they can.
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Nothing you ever do as a pay back ends up good because in the midst of it all your are only negatively ruining your life. You might do it thinking you’re hurting them but your are also destroying your life.
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Do you ever wonder why someone is not as open to you as they should be? Why are you always compromising to speak your mind? Speak it because you don’t know the power your mind/voice holds. We need it!
Why are you waiting for someone else to give you a push when you can do it for yourself? Go on and pursue that dream.
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They will listen totally different to how He will listen to you. With Him your are put on time limit of when he can hear you out. With Him you have all the focus and He is not here to judge you like they will. Why go to them when you know He is ready for you 24/7. He is on time for you and they are not.
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Why do you think that they don’t want what you have? Stop telling yourself you are worse off than them because you never know what you are against having in your life is what someone else yarns for. Be carful with what you wish for...
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Do you think you benefit by judging someone? How is that if that’s what you think?
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We believe in different things, we have different opinions on how we perceive the world or life and through all that I just want to ask the questions “who determines whose opinion or perspective is valid”? Plus how do they determine that?. We come from different background and with every background comes different opinions of life and the world. Therefore in that case I believe it’s important to be respectful of people’s voice and opinions because just because we see things differently doesn’t mean you are right and I am wrong and that can go vice versa.