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Nicola Jess
A podcast designed to help women navigate the journey that is motherhood. Mother, Unrefined is THE place for raw and honest conversations (but with lots of laughter in between). The purpose of the podcast is to provide women with an honest and safe space to discuss their journey to and through motherhood. Each episode focuses on a different aspect of motherhood and includes discussions with like-minded women and health professionals on all topics, from fertility & conception through to pregnancy and toddlerhood. Co-hosted by two EX-business partners (Nicola & Jess) who "broke up" as friends and business partners after 5 relentless years of running a health and wellness business and have reignited their flame over Motherhood.
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Episode 2 and we're in a mum funk already! This episode isn't our usual chirpy selves but we wanted to keep it real as usual.
We discuss everything from trying to get shit done with kids in toe 24/7, manscaping, Depop, mum dumps/journaling and a visit to Nicola's local fire station.
Looking forward to catching up next week!
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Hello again! How are you? After (yet another) few months off without any warning we have decided to to come back for a six week series and we can't wait!
We thought we'd start with a little round up of us, who we are and how our friendship came to be as well as what we are doing now and some awkward moments with work
The kids catch up
Party time- join us on our mother, unrefined Facebook page here for the details
Tickle his pickle
Glass mask, hormonal acne and breastfeeding
Product reviews are back!
Salt and stone DEO here
Kit cosmetics unwind body balm here
Look forward to catching up next week!
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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We're on time! We can't believe it either ;)
Starting off with the week that was...Shopping with kids, mature-aged women and thank you, but
Nicola's little slip and brush with fame which led to a little who have you seen in the wild before?
What was your last Google search?
What is your Kareoke song?
What word makes you squirm?
What were you afraid of as a kid?
What's on the menu?
Undies recommendation for the week
Bonds bloody comfy period undies
Cotton on Body 5 for $40 undies
Ok and now we're back to the kids, thanks for listening and reach out if you have any questions or want anything discussed on the pod xx
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If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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OK we missed a week again- sorry!! It's super hard to get nap time aligned and as you will hear in this episode, we couldn't get them matched up. That's #mumlife for you!
Starting with some news from Jess - period is here! Not exactly news but after being extremely late it was for her!
Tics, butt checks and vaginal molluscum
poo smear and panic
So now the potty talk is out of the way we're here to discuss social anxiety and societal expectations via our own personal experiences.
Going to events and not knowing other guests
travel anxiety
How you perceive yourself vs how others perceive you
Finding qualities you admire and why
short and sweet today but we appreciate you listening- ciao xx
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Well hello! It's been a while and boy have we missed our chats! We know we dropped off the planet a bit there with no explanation and no message whatsoever and we are sorry about that...life was crazy!! Anyway, we're back and so happy to be here!
Episode breakdown:
· What happened to us...not much but also sooo much!
· Going off the gram
· Mother, Unrefined moments, toddler torch intrusions and saging the house
· Doing everything and achieving nothing is how we feel right now leading to Nics discover of Wisey app
· Going from 2-3 kids (or at least opening the discussion)
- Daycare options
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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In today's episode we talk to Shiva, a mother of two, who touches on a life experience no mother should have to encounter. Shiva's daughter was diagnosed with bacterial (pneumococcal) meningitis at four months old. In this discussion, Shiva opens up about her daughter's story and the signs and symptoms of meningitis she wishes every parent knew (including ones often overlooked by doctors). Although confronting in some areas, this episode is altogether very informative and something every parent should listen to so they are able to continue to advocate for their child in the event of sickness.
Disclaimer: this podcast episode offers information and education through experience only and does not constitute providing medical advice.
Trigger warning: Parts of this episode refer to topics of child illness and also touches on the topic of death. This may not be suitable for certain individuals if easily triggered by these topics.
Episode breakdown
- What’s giving you your #mummojo right now? (think fav products, recipes, exercise - anything that is making you feel like a supermum?)
- A little bit about Shiva and her family
- What are you listening and/or watching right now?
- Favourite mum hack?
- Shiva's journey to motherhood
- Shiva's daughter’s meningitis diagnosis
- Meningitis, what causes it and can it be prevented in babies as young as 4 months?
- What Shiva wish others knew about the disease
For more information on meningitis, visit http://www.meningitis.com.au
Shiva's instagram handle: @shiva_masriya
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Today's episode is sponsored by...George. Haha but in all seriousness we are sorry about the additional background noise today from the little man. Mum life is what we're all about though so why mot show it all! Today we are having a catch up and chatting about a kid free weekend away, food poisoning and a wardrobe refresh. We wanted to keep going but were really cut short so will get back to this topic at a later date and in the meantime will continue to do some shopping...are we joking or not ;)
We hope youse enjoy xx
Episode breakdown:
· too many tabs open, silly buggers and youse
· Gastro poo to the nose and a taste of Pal
· Remembering ourselves and booking things in for us!
· A cliche but how looking after yourselves helps you to look after others
· If you could go back in time and change something what would you do?
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Sushi turned food poisoning and Leo's tummy guards
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Style rut and re configuring the wardrobe with the 15 rule
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Getting cut off by George
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Today's episode is a special one - we are chatting to none other than Jess' YOUNGER sister Ash about her journey to motherhood. Ash opens up about how she became a mum at 25 and shortly after left her partner. After moving back in with mum and dad she worked hard to get back on her feet and today has set up a beautiful life for her and her daughter Taylor (who is the most fabulous little girl out there - not biased at all!). We hope you enjoy this episode and thank you so much Ash for letting us hear your story. We love you and are so proud of everything you have achieved!
Episode breakdown:
· Hello to Ash, Jess' more mature sister
· The break up from Taylor's dad, loss of identity, friendships and learning how to parent together but separately
· Taylor's birth and Ashley's postpartum depletion (learn about postpartum depletion in our episode here)
· Nicolas obsession with Taylor
· The isolation of being a single parent and how Ash overcame feeling secluded and make new friends that understand her situation
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Parenting with Autoimmune disease
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The relationship breakdown. Going through a break up with an eight month old and moving back in with mum and dad and two siblings
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The juggle of parenting and different parenting styles when you live with your parents.
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The everyday struggles of not having a partner to share the load and mourn the future she thought was hers
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Organising the split of custody with Taylor's dad
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Meeting and introducing someone new to Taylor who also has a child. The ups and downs of blending families
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A career change and What's next for Ash!
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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God old daycare sickness is back in full swing
Episode breakdown:
· Sickness and solo parenting
· mother, unrefined and Leo calling out Nicola's constipation and a kind gesture from a stranger
· Letting go of the to-do list and giving in. The two versions of ourselves - it's a form of self care
· prioritising your health - mind fuel by waxx movement essential oil
· doing the tv reset again and chatting digital dementia and the perils of Peppa pig
- independent play and getting stuff done
Product recommendations:
Nicola - terra tonics, she's joined the movement! If you want to give it a try use our code motherunrefined12 for 12% off your first purchase
Fish oil tablets
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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This episode is another chit chat with US, and only us. Today we delve deep into parental preference and how we navigate the highs and lows not being a toddler's "favourite".
Episode breakdown:
· Welcome back to our world of flat footed toddlers, "mature" or old people and a lucky dip of sleep OR sleepless nights
· Bad parenting - is it bad if you let your toddler swear?
· Parental preference - when the other parent is the preference for play. The science behind play and nurture, toddler one-on-one play dates. We also share a snippet of Dr Anna Machin's reasoning for parental preference. Click here to watch the ted talk
· Our favourite quotes right now!
· Book recommendation - how to talk so toddler's listen by Adele Faber
Product recommendations:
Nicola - Nutraorganics Greens and Reds powder linked here
Jess - Kmart sensory mat here
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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OK so we are officially kicking off our mum chat series with our girl crush - Karis from @the.chaos.creation
The account we love (are addicted) to following. We like the lists/ prep/ grocery hauls and cleaning vids but we also love how honest she is when she can't get it all done. She keeps it real and has even got Jess writing lists!!!
We were pumped to chat to her this week about her experience of motherhood and the changes she's seen in herself since becoming a mum. She's an absolute gem and we hope you guys love her as much as we do
Episode breakdown
- Shag, Marry Kill? - Hugh Jackman, Karl Stefanvic and Margot Robbie?
- What’s giving you your #mummojo right now? (think fav products, recipes, exercise - anything that is making you feel like a supermum?)
- Tell us a bit about yourself and why you created The Chaos Curation?
- Do you have any cleaning or mumspo accounts you follow?
- Favourite cleaning hack?
- Favourite EASY family friendly dinner recipe?
- We see you pack lunchboxes for your children - what’s a healthy snack your toddler/baby has been loving?
- Let’s talk about real mum life! What do you find difficult about motherhood? Have you been able to improve your mindset surrounding this? If so, how?
- How do you pick yourself up if you’re having a bad day?
- What do you love about motherhood?
- Tell us how you stay organised as a busy mum who also works (and has a husband who works long hours!). Do you use a calendar system, are you a list writer? Tell us your secrets!
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Welcome to 2024...where we thought things would be different and we wouldn't go off track but we're back to our old 2023 selves! On a serious note, it's great to be back in your ears and we can't wait to share what's in store for this year...
Episode breakdown:
· Holiday recap - is it really a holiday if you have children? Only if you have other people to parent with....
· A haircut is as good as a holiday... and we AGREE!
· Mum style - we're getting it back and we can't wait to share what styles make us feel like the most stylish/comfortable mums out there
· Product reviews are back! Jess talks simplifying skincare (again). Nicola's favourite salad right now - get the recipe HERE. Explore Jess's skincare HERE
· Mother, Unrefined moments (have a great day Jenny!)
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Well you'd never actually know that we tried to record this episode with a bit of a plan...it definitely went off topic a fair bit (as always). Anyway, it's Christmas, we're all doing a million things and getting off track is part of the game at this time of the year so we hope you enjoy our chat about dinner, reminiscing on Granola, baby routines, present ideas and after a few weeks off we have another product reco for you! Enjoy x
Episode breakdown:
· What's for dinner?
· Quick re-cap on the baby routine
· Unrefined Granola blast from the past
· Christmas pressies for teachers and toddlers
· Product reviews are back! Jess talks simplifying skincare and Nicola has a question for Jess on a current trend
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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A few weeks ago we put a question box up on our stories for some things to discuss on the pod. We got a some great suggestions for episodes but really wanted to delve in and discuss these more specific questions so we've popped them all in one ep for you (and us)! Are any of these questions yours? Are you going through anything similar? And what do you think of these listener question eps, should we keep them coming? Happy listening and we look forward to hearing your thoughts x
Episode breakdown:
· Mother, Unrefined moments - wrong names ans some snakes
· Need some advice - my husband’s mum has been living with us for the past 18 months and my husband and her have just had a huge relationship breakdown. We have three kids (one newborn) and were set to move to acreage in the new year (with his mum). She is no longer coming with us and I am freaking out about the year ahead. How am I going to manage 3 kids, our mortgage in this new economy and have no family living nearby for support. Can you provide any tips on doing things alone (grocery shopping - do you do grocery shopping once per week and meal plan?
· My three year old has recently had a massive change in his personality. He used to be the sweetest little boy but over the past few weeks has completely changed. Huge tantrums, running away from us in public, biting us and now hitting. Have you experienced this with your children?
· My husband and I are in a really bad place right now. We have constant arguments and feel as if we’re headed for divorce. All i can think about is the damage i’m going to do to my children. Then I also wonder whether our fighting is normal and whether counselling could help. Do you have any tips for relationships with kids? Do you see a counselor or ever think about leaving your partner?
· I need help finding my libido. Any tips? Mine was much higher than my partner’s in the early days and even last trimester of pregnancy but now I cringe at the thought of it! My partner is fine, he doesn’t pressure me at all but I can see he sometimes takes it personally.
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Ahhh mum rage, we talk about it all the time but it's been a bit extra lately. Moving states, new daycare and messed up sleep coupled with the hormonal shift at that 4-5 month postpartum mark are a few of the reasons that the rage has hit the roof for Jess lately. Luckily for her Nicola went through this about 6-8 weeks ago and shares not only her experiences but also a few tips to help cope with it all when it feels a bit overwhelming. Recording this episode was cathartic for us and we hope it lightens things for you a bit too . Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this one x
Episode breakdown:
· Dusted noses and Panadol tablets
· Mum rage and the iceberg
· Are you getting time for yourself?
· Unpacking the outbursts - our experiences with our recent outbursts and personal
conflicts with not being able to do as much as you used to
· No TV & mindful TV and the overwhelm of keeping a toddler entertained
· Exploding at 4-5 months postpartum phase - the hormone dump
· Journaling - the mum dump - ticking it off and thinking about your ideal life
· Sensory reset and controlling your environment when you're in a funk
· A problem shared is a problem halved
· Nicolas rage to Mitch
· Doing chores you don't want to do to get some alone time
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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We're back! We had to take a few weeks there to move house, get over the daycare sickness and...sleep...lol. We know sleep is a bit of a sexy word out there to all of us parents with small kids but we thought we should get Claire from Eat, Play, Sleep on to chat about newborn sleep, wake windows, routines and to help us get back on track with the little sleep that's happening in both homes at the moment. We received so many questions from you guys too so have dedicated the second half of this episode to those. We hope you can take a few bits from this episode even if it's just to know you aren't alone! Enjoy
Episode breakdown:
· How Nic knows Claire
· When to introduce a routine
· Dummies
· 4 Month regression - is it real?
· Sleep environment and sleep associations
· Wake windows vs routines
· The Snoo
· Listener questions covering frequent wakes, transitioning to one nap, night waking in toddlers, sleeping through,, contact napping, co-sleeping, early wake ups in toddlers and napping on the go.
Please check out Claire at https://www.epsleep.com.au/ or via her Instagram here and get in touch if you have any specific sleep questions for her. You can also check out the Eat, Play, Sleep podcast here where her and her Alannah chat mum life as well!
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Welcome to conversations on the couch with Jess and Nicola. This week’s episode was recorded while we were physically together in Sydney! Shit got weird and Nicola was not okay with the amount of eye contact. We discuss postpartum body image, postpartum fashion (our go-to #mumlife outfits at the moment) and a highly requested chat about Jess’s experience with a speech pathologist for her 3 year old.
This podcast is sponsored by @runwayscout - our fav one-stop-shop for postpartum/“find yourself” fashion! But you don’t have to be in the postpartum phase of your life to shop at Runway Scout… whatever phase of life, Runway Scout has an outfit that will make you feel confident and comfortable! Use our code “Unrefined15” to receive a 15% discount at checkout
Episode breakdown:
· We’re together at last! Sydney catch up & recap
· Breastfeeding - Nicola discusses feeling inadequate after experiencing supply issues while sick. We also discuss formula & emphasise that “fed is best!”
· Postpartum fashion - our go-to outfit choices that take us from mum life to non-existent night life. We finally feel like we’re finding ourselves again! We also share some personal experiences surrounding body image
· Jess shares her experience going to a speech pathologist for her 3 year old daughter. We discuss everything from speech delay, social anxiety and steps Jess took to help her daughter feel more confident.
· Product reviews! Jess is loving these make-up brushes
Move over Sunday Riley, Nicola’s new face cream is Aspect Skin Phytostat
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Welcome to the deep inner workings of our disjointed postpartum brains! This ep makes absolutely zero sense and you will hear us discuss topics from silly sleep deprivation moments, toddler meltdowns and possible guests to lithium batteries and book club gone wrong! Haha stick with us on this one...we will be back with a focus episode next week and hope you enjoy hearing us lose it a little in this one!
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Episode breakdown:
· Just a lot of sleep deprivation
· Preferential parenting and toddler meltdowns
· More mom chats and catch ups
· When book club goes wrong haha
· Stolen focus and the breakdown of human kinds ability to pay attention
· Still no TV and pets for kids
· What is occupying your toddler currently?
· An ep on speech therapy coming
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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Is mum life what you expected? Today we are chatting to one of Jess' friends Tahlia, about newborn and new mum life. Talking from her birth and birth expectations, career decisions and some things that have taken her by surprise. Tahlia shares her experience so far and has some helpful little tips for those about to become parents. If you're a new mum or mum to be then this is a great listen before the new baby arrives and as always if you are enjoying the podcast then please like, follow, rate or review on whatever platform you are listening on. xx
Episode breakdown:
· Little week catch up
· Welcome baby Rocco!
· Birth story and recovery experience so far
· Top tip to new mums and what has surprised you in motherhood so far?
· What are some must have items?
· Did you always want children?
· Relationship transition to parenthood
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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What's your first period story? Period chat was a big part of the beginning of our friendship all those years ago (anyone remember our e-book?) so it's only fitting it gets it's own episode! Of course we do get a bit sidetracked as always and chat about newborn sleep (or lack thereof), product reviews and an open discussion on more kids down the line. We hope you enjoy the episode and as always please like, share, rate and review! We'd also love to hear from you so dm us of there are any topics you want covered x
Episode breakdown:
· Newborn sleep & teeth
· What are you reading? The Girl in 6E & Darling Girls
· Mother, Unrefined moments
· Periods - the way our friendship started and our random e-book we did 10 years ago
· #georgeiscoming
· Nicolas sisters present and our first period stories
· broken hymens & tampons
· Periods after kids
· Product reviews are back! Babyliss blow dry brush, TULA moisturiser, KIC protein
bar, Cleavers meatballs
· Growing food at home and going bananas
· Eldest and youngest dynamic and do you want more kids?
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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A bit of a crazy week where everything went a bit pear-shaped. From upset babies to the internet cutting off and toddlers deciding they no longer want to sleep! Maybe this is just the reality of of the adjustment to life with two and getting through the postpartum hormone drop? Also spoke about the constant cycle of starting a new task while you're still completing another one! and lets not forget our fav topic of the moment - the toddler no tv challenge! An honest update from Nicola.
This podcast is sponsored by @onceuponapp - the easiest way to save your memories in a photo book! Why not give yourself or someone you love the gift of memories. Use our code “Unrefined25” to receive a 25% discount at checkout (valid until October 17th). Click here to create your photobook.
Episode breakdown:
· Fake tan & wardrobe culls
· Mother, Unrefined moments - report a hoon
· Realities of sleep deprivation and hormone imbalance
· Coping when everything goes a bit wrong
· Mum guilt
· Getting sidetracked doing each task
· 7 Day reset challenge updates
· Zog and the flying doctors and that's not my...husband!
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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A power-pod today as we cover a whole bunch of things in a 30 min sesh. We actually got to spend the week together this week and meet each other’s new babies which was just amazing! Of course, we didn’t get as much done as we would have liked (mum life) but we did get up to a few fun little bits that we will chat about today amongst other things like toddler sleep, newborn life for dads and The Barbie Movie! Happy listening and don’t forget to like, save, rate and review us so more people can see the pod and help us spread the Unrefined moments of motherhood x
Episode breakdown:
· Positivity – hysterical – negativity
· Long drives with kids and travelling
· Barbie
· Grant Denyer’s mum and a women’s self-worth (that pod link here)
· Dr Golly – Your baby doesn’t come with a book (get it here)
· Dads and newborns and toddlers and newborns
· Toddler sleep and big girl beds
· Listen to our episode with The Sleep Nurse on toddler sleep here
· What are your kids watching right now?
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!)
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A short and sweet one this week after our week off and we are so happy to be back! Discussing some funny bedtime mishaps, unseen tasks, self worth, staying in your lane and dolls named Deborah. We also have a sneaky little shopping hack for you guys and would LOVE to know if you use it! We hope you enjoy xx
Episode breakdown:
· Construction, Mastitis, Conjunctivitis and sleep regressions
· Mother, Unrefined moments – Deborah, shower pees, bedtime
mishaps and sexy books
· A little shopping hack – here’s hoping the husbands don’t listen
· ‘Dad, I want to be like you’ ‘Mum, what do you do?’
· Taking applications for a housewife
What women do and the unseen tasks
· Flamingos and their postpartum journey
· Staying in your lane
· What are your kids watching right now?
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Grab a coffee and strap in, we are all over the place and ready to chat! From potato poos, frantic floor wiping and crunching to toddler hacks and "good parents" - today is filled with bulk word vomit!
Episode breakdown:
· Pelvic floor moments
· Rapidfire Q&A
· Why did you want to become a parent?
· Why did you not stop at one child?
· Would you have had kids sooner if you could?
· Toxic traits! From tidying, clean floors and old tissues - hear us vent!
· Overstimulation as a parent
· What defines a good parent?
· Toddler tantrum hacks! Parents write in & tell us their favs!
· Happy b'day to a special listener
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TRIGGER WARNING - This episode contains themes of child safety and assault, sexual assault and personal stories which listeners may find confronting or distressing. Please feel free to skip this episode or come back to it at a suitable time.
Wow! We're really going there... mumfluencers, child safety and how we feel about sharing images of our children online. This wasn't an easy episode to record however, we believe the discussion needed to be had.
Episode breakdown:
· TRIGGER WARNING
· Mother Unrefined moments
· Nicola hits the 3 months postpartum hormone low and is contacted by a Police Detective...
· Our thoughts on sharing images of our children online, the rise of the "mumfluencer" and what that means for child protection and rights, how do we protect children online moving forward?
· Our own personal experiences (when lecturers and family members cross boundaries)
· Discussions we can have with our children surrounding safety
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Maybe it’s the postpartum brain but we obviously can’t keep on track today. From mothers’ groups, introversion, bitchy resting face, nasal spray tans, fiction novels, doom scrolling, ugly newborn photos, boobs after birth and scary con artists…this episode covers it all lol. Grab a coffee and strap in, we are all over the place and ready to chat!
Episode breakdown:
· Mothers’ groups have kicked off (join the mother, unrefined below)
· Baby George and his eyes
· So bad they’re good – newborn pics
· The seven husbands of Evelyn Hugo – wait, did we actually manage to
get the book club thing for the first time
· Doom scrolling and sexpectations
· Boobs after birth
· Nasal spray tan – not for us
· Who the eff is Samantha Azzopardi? Do you use babysitters?
· Making mum friends when you’re an introvert or ambivert
· Nappy overflow to finish the ep
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Welcome baby George! Coming into the world at 39 + 1 weeks with a spontaneous and very positive hospital birth, Jess welcomed her second child in early July and it was night & day to the birth of her first child. Listen now to hear her positive birth story and a few of her newborn must-have items.
Episode breakdown:
· Welcome baby George!
· Stretch & sweeps
· Spontaneous water breaking
· Contractions, early labour & hair
· Getting to the hospital & checks
· Active labour & epidural
· Recovery
· Matilda & George and their relationship
· Strange nurse situation
· Marginal cords
· Jess’ newborn essentials Blanqi recovery tights, Baby loungers, Fold away change table, vagina ice packs, Brillo Beauty
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Welcome back to the pod! Today we are introducing baby George and discussing all the things we wish we knew as a first-time mum – hindsight is 20/20! Also talking about the troubling text from Jonah Hill and a few of our personal experiences with our toxic ex’s. One of our product reviews today gets a bit raunchy but it’s changed Nicola’s life so let us know if it’s changed yours too! As always happy listening and please like, rate or review if you are enjoying our catch ups each week. xx
Episode breakdown:
· Welcome baby George!
· Mother, Unrefined moments
· Things we wish we knew as first-time parents
· The phases, the nursery, postpartum, relationship shifts
· Getting toddler fit and drinking wine
· Letting go and accepting help (even if it’s from a robot)
· The power of the shower cry
· Jonah Hill and his boundaries – leading us to a convo about our toxic
ex’s, manipulation, and jealousy
· A personal experience from Nicola that has sadly happened to far too
many people and was also handled poorly by her ex
· Nicola and her Clit Sucker
· Jess’ new fav nail polish – OPI Bare My Soul
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It's finally here! Nicola's birth story. This is a completely different birth to Nicola's first with Leo. It was extremely positive and she feels very fortunate to be able to share it with our listeners.
Episode breakdown:
· Early labour or Braxton Hicks?
· Mitch plays soccer while Nicola labours in the park
· Labour massage
· Shit pre-pregnancy bento
· Getting primal
· Tens machine, hospital birth, placenta delivery and a shower post labour!
Nicola's birth vlog (for James) - https://youtu.be/tWhUiQwRVLc
Nicola's previous birth vlog on youtube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJejxXCIxTs&t=40s
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Today felt a bit like a therapy session for us. We dropped a question box on our stories a couple of weeks back and wanted to answer the top 5 on today's episode! A few heavier questions with some light ones thrown in there. We are chatting about the relationship issues after kids, love languages, sex and everyone's fav topic - daycare sickness as well as a bit of fashion, purchases and skincare. Come along for our friend therapy sesh and as always please let us know what you think of today's episode and don't forget to leave us a rating or review.
Episode breakdown:
· 39 week update & celebrating over a year of recording Mother, Unrefined
podcasts!
· Listeners questions - we picked 5
· 1. How is your relationship post baby vs pre baby?
· 2. Last thing you bought? (NOWAY ATP Collagen bars , Citizens of Humanity Ayla
Jean and Daphne Jean)
· 3. When do you have sex post baby?
· 4. Fav skincare and makeup? ( Nic -Sunday Riley CEO, Rationale Jess - Skinsitut, Dermeze)
· 5. What are you doing about daycare sickness with a newborn?
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Today is one of our favourite eps because it seemed like another therapy session... that every toddler mum can relate to! We delve
Episode breakdown:
- Gratitute - starting the episode off on a positive note
- Let's talk toddler behaviour! Anyone else's toddler tell them what to do? Boundaries, funny stories, discipline and how we are dealing with the "threenager" years
- Unsolicited advice from family members & friends
- Thank you to our beautiful listener, Lara for sending us a beautiful gift box from her brand, Sharing is Caring. If you're looking for an amazing gift idea for a new mum (or anyone for that matter), check out Sharing is Caring . Sharing is Caring Australia curates gift boxes with the love, care and personal touch you want when organising a gift for a loved one. In the world we live where even the most organised person is time poor, Sharing is Caring is here to help take one thing off your ‘to do list’, your gifting.
- Product review of the week! Dermeze treatment ointment, Pureology leave-in treatment
- Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Happy Tuesday! We are feeling a bit rested and ready to take on the day! Today we are chatting a bit about the adjustment from one to two and how relationships look in that time. We also want to acknowledge the Dads and other partners who do a lot and also need both credit and a break. As always there is also a bit of poo talk (toilet training this time round) and chatting hemorrhoids in pregnancy! We also want to thank everyone for joining our Mother, Unrefined Mothers group on FB, Check the link below if you haven't yet! Happy listening xx
Episode breakdown:
· The adjustment of relationships with a newborn
· The roles within the household of each parent and the intimacy shift
· Giving Dad some credit and knowing when the other parent needs a
break
· Some Facebook love! Join our Mother, Unrefined group via the link
Below
· Travel with kids and Moffat Beach House
· Nic and Mitch and have been listening to Two Doting Dads and
discussing when the Dads can have some time to themselves
· Booking in some time off and knowing when to take it
· Organising a Brisbane meet up from our Facebook group
· Toilet training and where we are with it
· Poo goes home to Pooland - app
· Hemorrhoids in pregnancy
· Off to get some bday pressies for the almost 3 year old, Matilda!
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We’re back! Jess is on the tail end of a cold and Nicola has a newborn and is sleep deprived so today involves a fair bit of babble! Nicola has had her beautiful boy, James. so today we are chatting all about her adjustment to becoming a mum of two. Her reality so far vs what she expected. We also have one very intense Mother, Unrefined moment from Nicola and one very silly one from Jess’ husband. FYI- all three kids around for this recording so prepare to hear a few extra voices
Episode breakdown:
· The differences in James and Leo
· Nicola’s Mother, Unrefined moment – a very scary encounter
· Jess’ husbands birthday suit
· Jess has an apology
· All of our kids are involved in todays ep #mumlife
· Has the transition from one to two kids been as expected?
· Sleep or lack thereof
· What’s helped Nic in her postpartum time?
· Nicolas epic toddler activity idea
· Pregnancy update from Jess – currently 36 weeks
· Birth snacks
· Toy obsession from Nicola - Playmobil
· Quick break to chat feeling safe as a woman
· Product review from Nic- Pico Chocolate & Milkrun
· Jess chats about the mum ribbon movement
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Recording just before Nicola’s due date and now baby James is here! Today we wanted to discuss our favourite toddler activities and compare the ways we keep our kids entertained in the hope that we get some inspiration from each other and with any luck we can pass some of that onto you! There’s nothing too out of the ordinary here (aside from Nicola’s epic tip!) but sometimes we all just need a reminder of a few little things that help with keeping the little people entertained…especially when there is a new baby in the mix!
Episode breakdown:
· Nicola’s ‘lazy uterus’ haha
· Jess again with the heart palpitations
· The old stay at home mum drama
· Delving into what activities are our kids love
· Busy books for inside activities
· Nicolas new food tricks for Leo
· Our fav outdoor activities at home and out
· Recycling for toddlers
· Nicolas epic toddler activity idea
· The alarm trick
· Getting chores done
· The make believe play
· Kids magazines
· Bunnings forever!
· Product review time! Fluid form protein/ Kora Organics noni face oil / Skinstitut facemasks / Kevyn Aucoin Sensual skin enhancer
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Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
- Jess's heart palpitations, Nicola's labour nerve
- Postpartum prep! What are we doing this time?
- Important nutrients postpartum + deficiencies
- Supplementation - what is necessary?
- The 6 week check up and should we be getting a postpartum blood test?
- What foods should we be focussing on postpartum?
- Nicola's new eBook for postpartum prep. Buy Nicola's postpartum prep eBook, Nourishing New Life HERE! Discount: nicola15
- other recommendations - the epi-no, Blanqi postpartum tights
Nicola's book recommendations:
- The postnatal depletion cure by Oscar Serrallach
- Real food in pregnancy by Lily Nichols
- The first 40 days: the essential art of nourishing the new mother
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In today's episode we chat to Jordyn from Your Birth Project and the podcast, Kiwi Birth Tales about creating your best pregnancy, birth and postpartum experience. Jordyn has spoken to hundreds of women about their experience and from that has created the ultimate hypnobirthing course to help empower and inform women but without the woo woo. If you or someone you know is preparing to give birth or even if you want a chance to reflect on your own birth experience this episode is a must-listen!
Episode breakdown
What is hypnobirthing and how does it work?
Why did you create Your Birth Project?
What is covered in the course?
Is it suitable for all births?
what is the golden hour?
Best ways for us to incorporate our partner?
Main tips for those preparing to give birth?
Interventions - how can we know when to trust our intuition?
Inductions and what to expect?
The stages of birth?
Best snacks during labour?
BRAIN? What is it and how does it help during labour?
Birth plans - yay or nay?
What can we pack for our hospital stay that helps with the initial first days?
How does Your Birth Story support postpartum recovery?
To find out more about Your Birth Project, visit:
https://www.yourbirthproject.com/about-the-course
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While Nicola didn't actually give birth during this episode it certainly feels as though it's just around the corner! This week we are chatting about the hospital bag (links below) and what worked last time vs what we want for this time around. We also talk about our experience as solo parents this week and discuss a sneak peak into Nicola's new Postpartum recipe book (out soon) and what she has ready for her postpartum period.
Episode breakdown:
· Both of our partners are away. One gave a full itinerary, one went off grid...
· A massive thank you to our incredible Mother, Unrefined community! We have both felt the love lately and the beautiful comments and message don't go unnoticed.
· What's in the bag? Packing Nicola's hospital bag before the birth of her second son. See the details below:
· Haaka Breast Pump, Bubba Bump Labour Prep and Postpartum Recovery Kit (discount code UNREFINED), Tens machine, Oversized shirts and Cotton On bike shorts, Maternity Bras, Bras and things Pyjamas, Heat Pack, Halcyon Nights Swaddle, Aesop skincare & Pureology. Find Nicola's full list HERE
· Some other ways Nicola is preparing for round 2 of newborn life ie help, food etc
· New Postpartum meal book coming your way...keep your eyes out for this one!
· Ok time to head off as it sounds as though Nicola is giving birth right now...(she's not but those Braxton Hicks are real!)
· @Bubba_bump discount code: UNREFINED (for 15% off). Buy everything from postpartum recovery kits to peri bottles, pads, recovery tights and the most comfortable nursing bras!
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Today is one of our FAVOURITE episodes to date and is so informative. We can't wait for you to dive into today's topic, particularly if you are anxiously questioning your child's speech development.
In this week's episode we interview Speech Pathologist, Alana Frederick and Founder of Hello Friend Speech Pathology. Alana is a qualified Speech Pathologist and a practicing member of Speech Pathology Australia.
She has worked as a Speech Pathologist in Private Practice for 9 years, with the past 7 of those being based in Ipswich and its surrounds.
Alana has also completed a Masters of Autism Studies to gain a better understanding of how to support children with an Autism diagnosis and has participated in additional classes in Auslan to have this as an additional skill.
To find out more about seminars, workshops and booking in with Alana, head to https://www.hellofriendspeech.com.au/
Episode breakdown:
- What is actually considered speech delay and when should we be seeing a Speech Pathologist?
- What are the most common speech difficulties in young children/toddlers? And what is generally the cause of speech delay?
- Is there a link between speech delay and developmental delay?
- How do we get an evaluation and what should we expect when we get there? (Especially when kids are shy or nervous around new people?)
- How can we help prepare our kids for seeing a speech pathologist? As in how to talk to them about the session?
- How can we as parents help our children? Is there anything we can do while waiting for an appointment (if there is a wait list?) as in certain toys, music, books etc? See an ENT?
- Stutters - when are they normal and when are they a problem?
- What are some coping mechanisms for aggressive behavioural issues with speech
- Is it considered a speech delay when they understand everything you say (as in instructions) but don't attempt to talk back?
- Is it considered normal when a toddler is still babbling a lot in between words at 3?
- Is there a relationship between speech delay and ASD or are these completely separate?
- Social Anxiety speech delay vs autism speech delay?
LISTENERS WRITE IN QUESTIONS:
- Tongue ties and lisps and their connection to speech delay?
- Word count (when do we focus on this? When should we be concerned?
- Talking non stop at home but won’t talk at daycare. Is this normal?
- Can parents or other siblings cause speech delay?
- How to measure progress and determine when a child is ready to transition out of speech therapy?
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We are back to Tuesday eps- turns out we missed it! Getting a few things off our chests today – bullies, strange neighbours, unsolicited advice, tantrums (with a twist) and parenting amnesia. We are also going through our desert island must haves of skincare and are looking forward to seeing if you agree with us! We hope you enjoy todays catch up and as always, reach out if you have any questions – thanks for listening x
Episode breakdown:
· Nicknames and bullies
· Little trip down memory lane for Nicola
· Jess’ neighbour saga continues
· Marketplace mishaps
· Nic’s at 38 weeks and she is nesting
· Unsolicited advice, we’ve given it and received it
· Emotional little toddlers
· The day that Jess had a tantrum to Nicola
· Easter chocolate and parenting amnesia
· Leo having a little chat
· Desert Island top 3 skincare products
· Jess – Skinstitut Gentle Cleanser, Weleda Skin Food, Hamilton Sunscreen. Honourary mention to Habitual Sleep Mask
· Nicola – Gua Sha Jane, Irridale Glow Time, Rationale Night Cream. Honourary mention to Sunday Riley CEO cream
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Welcome back! Today we are mixing it up between serious and fluffy and talking from anxiety in toddlers & kids parties to bitchy resting face and Depop. As always we are sharing a few of our fav things lately and before we head off here’s a special Happy B’day to the man who wants us to know he does loads of drop offs and pick ups at daycare 😉
Episode breakdown:
· Happy birthday to Mitch! Present fail aside from Hunter Candles
· Car breakdown fail with toddlers
· Leo – the life of the party
· Anxiety in kids – how can we best help our kids to feel safe and comfortable when they struggle with anxiety?
· Daycare mum friends- we haven’t made an effort. Should we?
· Let’s open the parent chat on anxiety in kids.
· Nicola’s anxieties as a child
· Bitchy resting face 4 eva!
· New scam – brushing. Have you heard about it?
· Nicola is deep in Depop! Welcome to the club girl!
· Our natural nails are having a moment right now
· Nicola shares her fav pregnancy/ post-partum shorts – Blanqi
· Jess’ fashion hack – PJ’s 😉
Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here
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Welcome to hump day - our new day to release episodes!! We've made this decision for no other reason than we need more time to edit and are disorganised...
Today's episode is a goodie for anyone nervous about "cutting the cord" and leaving their child for the first time. We also have a good old catch up about baby moons, trolls and our fav and least fav products (of course!).
Episode breakdown:
· Cutting the cord... when did you first leave your toddler
· Baby moons (without your partner)
· Fav and least fav products. Nicola's fav is THIC BROW CO
· Instagram TROLLS - comments we had to share from some major diC&%HEADS
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Welcome to our roller-coaster of emotions! Today we are talking body image in pregnancy, mum isolation, mothers groups (ahem, join ours here) and book clubs! Jess takes about 3 different pledges so let's see how she goes with that and Nicola is gearing up and getting ready for number two to join us in a matter of weeks!
Episode breakdown:
· Mother, Unrefined moments - they are fucken loud and a little reality check from our two toddlers
· Body image in pregnancy which lead to a discussion of movement in pregnancy (pledge 1)
· Isolation in motherhood and not feeling the vibe with other mums, we both share our experiences here
· Mothers groups and their cliquishness. How this prompted Nicola to start her own mothers group on facebook (pledge 2)
· Book club - something that was promised a few weeks ago but was left behind. How do you actually do a book club? We discuss that plus what we are reading right now and our thoughts on Colleen Hoover. Book club via the facebook mothers group coming to you now here (pledge 3)
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This week's episode is a goodie! We cover everything from hormones to ghosts, toddler sleep, sleep deprivation and THE VENT.
Episode breakdown:
· Hormonal breakdown AT THE SAME TIME
· Toddler sleep - functioning on 3 hours sleep... Nicola's current sleep situation
· A spirit in Leo's room? We share "the man" story
· Screen time & toddlers/mums
· THE VENT - my babysitter has become my bestie and is taking advantage of our friendship & her position
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A reflection of the crazy week that has been! Illness, transverse babies, toilet training and a hostage situation with some far-too-eager birds! Nicola also recaps on the two phone scams she has received this week and we share all of our fave de-influencing products that you guys shared with us! This ep is a longer one as last weeks was cut off so grab yourself a cuppa and settle in!
Episode breakdown:
· The bird saga
· Toilet training recap
· Story time at the beach with @randwickcitylibrary and @timberlina for world pride
· Nicola is sick again
· Transverse babies at 30 weeks - painful, uncomfortable and a bit scary
· Thank you spinning babies
· Taking unproductive days for your metal health
· Both Nicola and her mum getting phone scammed in one week
· De-influencing is back! We asked you guys and we wanted to share ours and yours with you:
(Jess - weird VR eye mask goggles, Nicola - Blue dinosaur bars) Some of the most popular ones that came through - shavers, hair growth brands, fusion hair tonic, nuna leaf, lash growth serum.
- Product reviews - Vitamin C cream. Sunday Riley CEO cream and Go-to much brighter skin
Back to the mothers group- join ours on facebook here
Nicolas discount code for MCo Beauty - NICOLA20
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It's been a week! Starting the episode with a breakdown of Nicola's trip to the emergency room with Leo and taking a moment for mother's intuition! We also talk about the strange news that a young girl is claiming to be Madeleine McCann and what little we actually know about the case.
If we're honest we discussed a whole lot more on this episode but unfortunately Jess' audio had a glitch and we lost the entire second half so enjoy the short but sweet one and we will be back with a full length ep next week!
Episode breakdown:
· Nicola, the cake master!
· A trip to the emergency room for Nic & Leo
· Some food guilt from a stranger (and does anyone remember the healthy vending
machines in Brisbane CBD?)
· Gastro again this week coupled with toilet training
· Going at our own pace with toilet training (in case you haven't listened to our
episode with Mandy from Raise Toddlers-have a listen here)
· Chatting the Madeleine McCann saga - we both clearly know very little about this!
· Have you ever left your child to sleep in a hotel room?
UNFORTUNATELY DUE TO A SOUND GLITCH, ALL OF JESS'S AUDIO FROM THE SECOND HALF OF THIS PODCAST WAS LOST. WE DISCUSSED SKINCARE AND DE-INFLUENCING AGAIN BECAUSE IT WAS SUCH A POPULAR TOPIC FROM A PREVIOUS EPISODE. NEVER FEAR, WE WILL REVISIT IT AGAIN IN OUR NEXT EPISODE!
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THE VENT is back! Today we discuss one listener's dilemma with wanting another child, while her partner is on the fence. We also discuss pregnancy shoots, sex during pregnancy & attraction level, couple's counselling (and our own experiences) and Jess's ANNOUNCEMENT! Enjoy Episode 37 and don't forget to sign up to our Mother, Unrefined mothers group here
Episode breakdown:
· Jess's announcement (Nicola had no idea!)
· Postpartum identity loss
· Mother Unrefined moments
· THE VENT question & answer
· Couple's counselling
· Baby showers for the second pregnancy? An actual thing?
· JOIN OUR MOTHER'S GROUP here
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We are taking a little break from only talking kids today (although they do creep in) and chatting about some of our fav podcasts, rituals as well as some ‘what the f*$% moments’ from our past. We also discuss de-influencing and get into Nicola's DM's. Enjoy Episode 36 and don't forget to sign up to our Mother, Unrefined mothers group here
Episode breakdown:
· Our stuff up last week
· Vagina candles, Queefing and a sandwich
Question time
· What little thing did you do for yourself this morning?
· What’s your fav age so far?
· Are you scared to have another baby?
· What podcasts are you listening to right now?
· What is a ‘what the f%&* was I thinking?’ moment from your past?
Peer pressure and parenting
· Mothers’ groups and social media and outsiders opinions
· Nicola’s dm’s
De-influencing – we are here for it! We share ours as well as our love for a particular skincare brand!
Back to the mothers group- join ours on facebook here
The podcasts we love – Jess – Not Skinny but not Fat & Smartless Nic – Outspoken & Life Uncut & Australian Birth Stories
Nicolas discount code for MCo Beauty - NICOLA20
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Bit of a jumbled and catch up episode this week . Jumping in with our toddler diaries – what silly and hilarious things our 2 year olds have done this week! How our pregnancies are both going and what skincare is Nicola using at the moment .
Episode breakdown:
· Funny things that our kids have done
· Pregnancy catch up.
· Nicola is 27 weeks (third trimester) – where she is at and how she is going?
· Family help and paternity leave
· Jess is 18 weeks and having a time
· What have we bought?
· The shift in relationships during pregnancy
· The compromise of pregnancy
· Botox, wrinkles and skincare
· Nicola and her gua sha
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Welcome to our first episode of our new segment, The Vent! You send in your questions (or uncomfortable situations) and we discuss it!
Today's episode is all about moving in with in laws and when that comes with their style of parenting over yours!
Episode breakdown:
· Jess' little parenting insight thanks to Matt's sisters
· Nicola's parking fail
· The Vent - today's question - Currently living with our in-laws and it's like cos we live with them I can't parent how I want to parent. I brought this up with my
husband and he said we need to be grateful because we aren't paying rent we do
however pay for groceries and it is only temporary. I can give a few examples of
what is the problem
-giving unhealthy snacks throughout the day
-stern punishment
-calling her a coddler
· Nicola chats about her book about resentment
· The oldest woman in the world credits not having toxic people in her life as her reason for living so long
· Unsolicited advice from the boomers
· How long are you staying? weighing up the options
· Nic's confrontation with a family member
· Ripping the bandaid off as it happens and picking your battles
· Making a joke of it
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So what actually is a Doula? Today we chat with Alice from @themodern.doula about all things birth, birth preparation and postpartum expectations. For anyone who is expecting, knows someone who is expecting or wants to think and reflect on their birth experience this episode is for you! Alice chats about her role as a doula and some ways in which she helps to empower women to make informed choices and have a positive birth experience.
Episode breakdown:
· What is a Doula?
· When should I look for a Doula?
· What’s included? What happens during the birth?
· The due date mind space
· What medical training does a Doula have/ what kind of support does a Doula offer?
· Hypnobirthing and coping mechanisms for pain
· Understanding and working with pain
· Postpartum care, rest and recovery
· Postpartum meal service options and foods to prioritise in the postpartum period
· How do Doulas work with healthcare providers?
· Navigating difficult situations in birth
· Working with families with different beliefs and cultures
· Talking homebirths! What happens, who is there and the costs involved
· Alice’s journey to becoming a Doula and how she continues to educate herself
You can find Alice at The Modern Doula or via her Instagram @themoderndoula
The postpartum meal delivery service we mentioned – The Golden Month & Meals4Mummas (Central Coast NSW)
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Daycare is back on for the year! Thank God! And while we LOVE you daycare we are not ready for the never ending sickness that comes with it. Today we are discussing our adjustment back to daycare for 2023 and all that comes with it. And in what seems to be perfect (or not so perfect) timing for Nicola, she has been struck down with a case of daycare sickness to kick off the week! We are also sharing a few weird things that we have noticed in this pregnancy at the end of the episode.
Episode breakdown:
· An interesting habit from Nicola
· Straight into daycare sickness chats and how we managed the adjustment of
starting daycare and getting outside help
· Nic is very on top if hand sanitiser
· Starting back at daycare after the holiday break – how our kids went
· Nicola’s tip for hiding her phone and a tangent on kids and technology
· Starting daycare for the first time – what worked for us. A recap on this episode
that goes a bit more in depth. Our top tips that helped us
· Bit of OCD and behavioural changes
· A few last mins chats on our pregnancy and symptoms
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Hello 2023! The holidays are over and we are so excited to be back! We have a few things to share today about how our year ahead will look…let’s just say it will be a busy one for both of us! We are also chatting about our Christmas break including some pregnancy anxiety, dealing with feeders and micro-resolutions.
Episode breakdown:
· Jess is pregnant! Her and matt are welcoming a little boy in July
· The noticeable differences to her first pregnancy
· Exhaustion life – lack of motivation and the fog
· New year’s resolutions – micro resolutions starting with Nicola’s reading and getting accountable. Jess’ plans for little frank store and getting fit for birth
· Miele is the MVP of vacuum cleaners! We won’t hear anything else
· Catch up on Nic’s pregnancy and her honest chat on insta about different parenting styles with a heart-warming moment from Leo
· The differences between Matilda and Leo at 2-2.5 years
· The Google nest pest
· Our kids struggled on this holiday and how we lose our cool as parents
· Getting triggered by family over the holidays
· Watching our kids grow and learn is the best
· Toddler e-book from Nicola is sooooo close to being ready! Stay tuned
· Why does our family want to feed our kids junk all the time?
· Bush wee’s
· Pregnancy boobs!
· The Vent is coming – tell us your secrets or questions and we will discuss it on the poddy
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Welcome to the final episode of the 2022! What a year it's been! Today's ep is a reflection of the year that was - we discuss our highlights, lowlights, what we are so appreciative of (spoiler alert - it's you guys and each other!) and a few little hints at what's to come next year! You can think of this episode as our Christmas party catch up so while we can't all be together, we hope you feel included as this would just not be possible without you!
Episode breakdown:
· Mother, Unrefined moments- these toddlers just crack us up!
· Jess has a confession for Nicola about something from our first few episodes
· Sharing our highlights of the year and one lowlight
· Our last product review of the year
Nicola Runway Scout code: 15nicola
Jess Alison Roman, Nothing Fancy cook book
· From the bottom of our heart we can't thank you enough to everyone who has
given us their time since our launch in July. Whether that be via listens and
downoads, ratings and reviews, our amazing guests or via instagram. It all means
the absolute world to us and we can't wait to keep going next year!
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Today we are chatting with Dr Raelia Lew, a Gynaecologist, Obstetrician and CREI Fertility expert who is also the co-founder of Lovers. A brand new specialty lube on the market that will shake up our sex lives! We are chatting all things lube, sex and fertility. Grab a coffee and get ready to learn with this episode!
Couldn't not share our mother, unrefined moments this week. We have both started potty training and it's safe to say it is not so smooth sailing so far...
- Lovers lube. - what is it, how is it different and how did it start?
- How does lube assist fertility? What lubes should we steer clear of and how do we know which lube to choose?
- What are some of the best practices when looking after our vaginal health
- Discharge - the importance of it and how to know when it is a concern
- Sex after kids
- Prescription lube- learn all about it
- Preconception Screening - your recommendations for timings, costs and how specific can you get?
- What happens if a genetic issue is identified?
- Seeking out a fertility specialist - when, why etc
- Gene testing on embryos for someone who is falling pregnant via assisted fertility but having miscarriages due to chromosomal abnormalities? What are the pros and cons of this?
- How can we track our fertility?
- At what point does a woman consider freezing her eggs?
- the NIPT test is in pregnancy? What does it screen for and how accurate is it?
Check out Lovers products and info here
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Today we are chatting going back to work vs not going back to work. We have one of each perspective and we compare our experiences with each other but ultimately there is no right answer here and we just do what works best for our families.
Episode breakdown:
· Father Unrefined moments- it's the husbands' turn. Maternity Wear and Battle Axes.
· Nicola, working mum and Jess is a stay at home mum.
· Nicola discusses how she prefers being back at work part time and is more present with Leo
· Jess talking being so grateful to be able to spend the day with Matilda vs her boredom and monotonous thoughts
· Getting frustrated with our kids when its not at all their fault and realising our needs.
· Nicolas transition back to work/ daycare/ routine change etc
· Parental favouritism shift in Nicola's house
· Finances - the reality and the thoughts we have on it.
· Career progression once having kids and the change we go through
· A cheeky little comparison of our training in retail to having kids
· Family FOMO
· Prank calls to Nicola while she has quality family time
· Whatever you do we're all in this together and there is no right or wrong answer
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Guess who's back, back again...today we are lucky enough to chat with the toddler whisperer Mandy from @raisetoddlers again! And boy did we throw some questions at her! We cover so much in today's episode and we know you will get so much out of it so grab a coffee and settle in!
Episode breakdown:
- Let's discuss some classic toddler behaviours such as hitting (or aggression), shyness, fussy eating
- Jess' experience with her daughter who struggles with extreme shyness that comes out in the form of aggression. We discuss how as parents we feel a certain pressure to respond a certain way or discipline our children a certain way that perhaps don't normally align with our values.
- Some practical actions we can take as parents in the thick of toddler meltdowns.
- Helping kids explore and learn safely incl pushing boundaries.
- Ways we can help to build confidence in our kids and teaching them boundaries around others expectations (hello grandparents and strangers at the park!)
- Developmental leaps that happen around the 2-2.5 year mark in terms of sleep (or lack ther-of).
- Toilet learning, when to and when not to. A lot of actionable takeaways and useful tips for this one!
- Fussy eaters - something all parents have dealt with! Mandy chats about the tactics she takes in tackling this behaviour
Mandy has some amazing services and packages to help you with the toddler years. Get in touch with Mandy here or have a look at her membership options here.
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Travelling with a toddler – sharing our experiences of our travels with kids. Plane rides, long car trips, shitty hotel rooms, what to pack and what to expect.
Mother, Unrefined moments – Halloween vomit sesh and smelly shower wee.
Episode breakdown:
· Leo’s first flight – Nicola’s anxieties with flying and Leo loved it!
· Long haul flights and expectations vs reality
· Packing light or overpacking – which one are you?
· Packing food for toddlers on flights because they don’t get food
· How our toddlers went being away from home. Sleep, packing, behaviour etc
· Apartment and hotel sizes and set ups- do your research!
· Product review Aim’n code: UNREFINED20
ILIA skin tint
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Toddler sleep...what has happened to our amazing little sleepers? In episode 24 we chat with Hannah from @thesleepnurse (a registered nurse, sleep consultant and mum of 3) all about the changes that happen with our toddlers and why they suddenly start waking up all throughout the night or eye-wateringly early in the morning. Hannah is amazing and gave us so many good tips to help us navigate this phase. This episode is a MUST LISTEN!
Episode breakdown:
· The changes that happen in a 1-2 year old and their sleep needs
· How do we know when our kids are ready to drop the last nap?
· What to do once the nap is gone and adjusting bedtimes
· Temperature and toddler sleep
· The main reasons for night wakings
· Sleep training for toddlers vs newborns
· Gradual withdrawal and checklists
· Bringing toddlers into our beds
· Big kid bed set ups – what to do and when to do it
· Baby gates – game changers!
· Nightmares and monsters, understanding it and what to do
· Introducing newborns into the family and how to adjust for changes in sleep and routines for bigger kids
· Room sharing
· Listener questions – we ask Hannah some of the questions you guys sent in - real life case studies!
If you want to get in touch with Hannah you can reach her here or via her Instagram @thesleepnurse
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Welcome to today's special episode of Mother, Unrefined. In today's interview we chat to the inspiring and courageous, Christielee Plumridge. Christielee is a single mum of 4, a suicide loss survivor, writer and story teller and mental health advocate. We are so honoured to be chatting with her and hearing her story and Christielee, we can’t thank you enough for sharing with us. You are a true light!
Trigger warning
This episode talks about very big issues such as suicide, rape, domestic violence and addiction. If this is triggering for you we ask that you switch off now and listen when you feel ready or just skip it completely and join us in the next episode.
- A quick round of this or that
- A brief outline of her story, Has she found that sharing so openly has helped in your healing journey?
- Take us through the immediate 48 hours after an event like this, particularly as you had children to care for. What did this look like?
- What are some of the immediate coping mechanisms that worked for you with your best friend but also your ex-partner?
- What was your last interaction with your ex before he passed away, did you notice any signs that something wasn’t right?
- What are some of the immediate coping mechanisms that worked for you with your best friend but also your ex-partner
- In those immediate months after experiencing this type of trauma, what are some conversations that you would avoid? Did you welcome questions about it or would have preferred people didn’t discuss it?
- Christielee shares her amazing friendship with her partners ex
- How did you cope with parenting while experiencing such trauma?
- How did you approach the issue with your children? How have they coped?
- How do you prioritise looking after yourself while looking after 4 children?
- Did you start your blog and the Facebook group to connect with other women - has this been part of your healing journey
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Welcome to today’s special bonus episode of Mother, Unrefined! Nicola has announced some news…she is 14 weeks pregnant! And we wanted to dedicate a special episode to chatting all about it and discussing the ins and outs, the highs and lows and differences to her pregnancy with Leo.
Episode breakdown:
· Conception, how she found out she was pregnant…and a little confession to Mitch.
· The hormonal shift Nicola went through when weaning in early pregnancy.
· The noticeable differences to her first pregnancy
· What are the main symptoms she has faced?
· How her appointments have gone. With a special nod to her obstetrician!
· Pregnancy with a toddler…and a quick off topic on the rough toddler sleep she is currently going through with Leo.
· How she is feeling about the birth after the complications she face with Leo’s birth and what she is doing to prepare herself.
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In todays episode we vent out our toddler exhaustion. Apologies in advance if you’re not ready to hear us rant but it’s been a week and we don’t want to pretend like we have it all together when we are struggling! The terrible two’s are well and truly here for both of us so settle in while we talk through it and solve absolutely nothing!
Let’s jump into the episode: Mother, Unrefined moments with artistic licence from Matilda and announcements from Leo
Episode breakdown:
· Jess in Brisbane this week and we got to parent together
· Terrible two’s have begun for Nicola!
· Sleepless nights again – sickness and monsters (thanks YouTube kids)
· Leo front flipping out of the cot – Nicola is off to buy a toddler bed
· The week that has been…
· Everyone is sick again, Matilda is hitting again & Leo only eating toast again
· Gentle parenting went out the window this week but at least we were together
NEWS THIS WEEK!!
Nics pregnant! Stay tuned for the next bonus episode where we chat all about it!
Jess launched her business @littlefrankstore and we chat about how and why it started as well as the brand ethos and the difficulties and excitements.
Check it out: www.littlefrankstore.com
Use the code motherunrefined for 10% off your order!
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In todays episode we chat to the lovely Patti Lupari from @pattionthemoney about a topic that’s usually shied away from – MONEY! Patti is a mindful wealth advocate and her page gives some practical tips and actional takeaways for us to improve our financial literacy.
Disclaimer: This is not financial advice. It does not take into account your objectives, financial situation or needs. Before acting on any information, you should consider the appropriateness of the information provided and the nature of the relevant financial product having regard to your objectives, financial situation and needs.
Let’s jump into the episode: Mother, Unrefined moments that in classic us style centre around bowel movements…sorry!
Episode breakdown:
· Building a relationship with money and why it’s important
· When and how to discuss finances with your partner
· What’s fair when it comes to spending and different roles in the household
· Having separate finances
· Budget conversations
· Budget tips
· Finances in the relationship when one partner has their own business
· Unhealthy financial relationships
· Advocating for ourselves
· Investing for our children and helping to nurture a healthy financial relationship
for them
· Patti answers some anonymous questions that came through from you!
Some resources we mentioned in this episode
https://www.barefootinvestor.com/
https://sugarmamma.tv/the-1000-project/
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It's time for Nicola's birth story! Today Jess interviews Nicola about her pregnancy and the birth of her son. What she expected vs what actually happened and what she would do differently.
Mother, Unrefined moments first! We also offer a trigger warning for those triggered by themes of conception and birth trauma.
Episode breakdown:
· Pre-conception and telling Nicola's partner she was pregnant
· Pregnancy, implantation bleeding and perinatal haematoma
· Birth plan and hypnobirthing
· Stretch and sweeps and inductions
· Labouring at home to start – KFC two piece labour box
· 35 hour labour
· Induction, infection, haemorrhage, retained placenta x 2
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Birth story time - the day Matilda came into the world! Today Nicola interviews Jess about her pregnancy and the birth of her daughter. What she expected vs what actually happened and what she would do differently.
Mother, Unrefined moments that is basically a collection of messiness, overwhelm, baking and never-ending daycare sickness
Episode breakdown:
· Pre-conception and the whacky way Jess found out she was pregnant
· Pregnancy, spreadsheets, and the steps after finding out she was pregnant
· Pregnancy during Covid in London
· Birth plan and hypnobirthing
· Stretch and sweeps and inductions
· Labouring at home to start – Jess couldn’t get into the bath for a long time after labour! Shoutout to the TENs machine
· Breaking down at the hospital and sneaking Matt into the hospital room
· Gas and air time and losing the plot
· Choosing intervention and time to push
· Matt eats a burrito and Jess gets the Ventouse
· Matilda arrives and Jess didn’t have the immediate connection
· The big tea and toast let down
· The recovery
Nicola’s birth story – up next episode!
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In today's episode we chat with the lovely Mitch Kriesler - A product coordinator at Planet Ark who is helping to deliver a new product scheme for coffee pods. We spoke all about the ways that we can change our behaviour and mindset when approaching the topic of our environmental footprints with our kids. He is a wealth of knowledge (as well as an all around great guy!) and we had the best time learning from him and we know you will love this episode too!
As always we start with our Mother, Unrefined moments that get passive aggressive with Nicola’s partner Mitch and Jess just being a Muppet.
Episode breakdown:
· Learn about the coffee pod scheme here
· Educating our kids about the environment. Some resources below
https://www.coolaustralia.org/learning-at-home/
https://juniorlandcare.org.au/
https://www.ap4ca.org/localgroups
https://treeday.planetark.org/
· Turning eco anxiety into an opportunity to get involved for our kids and taking positive
action and connecting to nature with our kids
· Connecting with community and tackling major weather crisis
· Food waste and some food saving hacks!
· https://www.vejibag.com/
· http://seasonalfoodguide.com/
· Being realistic about re-usable products – here comes that eco anxiety again! Plenty of
brands that do reusable nappies so do your own research – we talk about modibodi
· Clothing waste and the impact on the environment and even our hormones.
· Some tips to shop responsibly https://goodonyou.eco/
· Help to capture your microplastics in the wash https://www.coraball.com/en-au
· Clean cleaning options
· Recycling correctly and teaching our children the importance of this. Some resources
below
https://recyclingnearyou.com.au/
· Compost options and showing the connection of food to our kids. Some resources below
https://sharewaste.com/share-waste
https://www.bokashi.com.au/
https://compostrevolution.com.au/
· Mitch’s top three changes we can make to improve our environmental impact – Lowering our meat consumption, using public transport or walking where possible, understanding recycling.
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In today's episode, Jess & Nicola take a trip down memory lane and discuss their favourite NEWBORN ESSENTIALS + vaginas post birth. Some of these items were a life-saver in the newborn phase so highly recommend you give this ep a listen if you're pregnant or looking for newborn items.
Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
See below for some links of items mentioned in this episode:
ModiBodi Underwear
Love to Dream Swaddles
Glow Dreaming Device (white noise machine)
Deiji Studios lounge sets
Tom Organic Maternity Pads
Baby Bjorn Bouncer
Halcyon nights baby wraps/swaddles
Today's episode is another solo chit chat with Jess and Nicola. We talk about everything from mum loneliness, gastro, weaning a toddler, raging hormones and our hairy chins.
Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
Mother, Unrefined moments - poo & blood, the worst combination
Motherhood & loneliness
Jess shares her current "shituation"
Hairy chins and hairy nipples - anyone relate?
Nicola shares her experience weaning a toddler - the breakdown/highs and lows
Jess's tips on dealing with a hormone dump
Jess's weaning story
Product reviews
Weaning book: Loving comfort
Nicola’s favourite workout YouTube channel: Madfit
Jess’s favourite cleaning products: Tirtyl Australia
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Today's episode is an honest chat with Emotional Wellbeing Coach, Ami Rankin. We discuss everything from our expectations, to resentments, guilt and short fuses and Ami provides some actionable take-aways to help us cope. This episode is a must listen for all mums and women and we hope it helps you as much as it has helped us!
Trigger warning: Ami discusses her personal experience with postnatal depression, postnatal anxiety and postnatal depletion.
Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
· Feeling flat today – Nicola going through weaning and Jess is solo parenting for three weeks and it didn’t get off to a good start.
· Falling over and turning up to restaurants a month early!
· Interviewed Ami Ranking – an emotional intelligence and wellbeing coach – helping us to get our sparkle back!
· Going from 1 – 2 kids and dealing with the adjustments of a newborn with a toddler.
· How Ami coped and worked through postnatal anxiety and depression
· The HALT theory (hungry, angry, lonely, tired)
· Expectations with ourselves, our partners, friends and kids
· How expectations can lead to resentment
· Prioritising honest conversations with our partners and sharing our expectations
· Guilt and short fuses with our kids. How we expect our kids to keep their emotions in check when we can’t do it all the time.
· Everyone’s fav episode with Mandy from Raise Toddlers making another appearance 😉
· Guilt towards having a second baby and some thoughts Ami had on that
· Toxic diet culture and how Ami changed her mind set and how she deals with the ups and downs of societal pressures and personal pressures
· Realistic routines to kick off your day
· Sensory overload and overstimulation – finding your trigger point
Ami’s podcast – The Nourishing Ami Podcast
Our fav episodes - ep-116-mum-rage-series-expectations-frustration / ep-118-mum-rage-series-resentment-frustration-comparison
Find Ami and book in with her HERE and follow her on Instagram HERE
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Today's episode is a deep dive into our old lives pre kids. We are chatting all things dating, exes, and some funny stories that happened along the way. Basically a therapy session for us that you're welcome to sit in on!
Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
· Another toddler meltdown…with a very RUDE comment on the side and managing strangers’ expectations
· Trivia that didn’t start with a bang but we got there lol
· Breakups and Nicolas Pinterest Board of quotes
· ‘Never allow someone to be your priority while being their option’ – quote sparked by the ex we call Dick Cheese
· Nicola’s 30 day rule and accepting the break up
· When Mitch broke up with Nicola…guys, don’t stress…it all worked out ok 😉
· When Jess almost broke up with Matt because he was too nice
· Our pattern of being attracted to the bad guy and the drama
· Jess’ bad break up before she met Matt
· Crazy bitch moments that we have had and burning bridges
· The bizarre way that Nicola was broken up with
· Some of our takeaways from past relationships and break ups and Nicola’s good advice
· Jess Frank – Don’t Call
· STD’s and UTI’s and conversations with mums
Product chat - My Magic Mud Charcoal Activator - ours has yet to arrive so will keep you posted on this one!
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In this episode of Mother, Unrefined, we chat to the founder of Habitual Beauty and Krumbled Beauty Bites, Keira Rumble.
TRIGGER WARNING: In this episode, Keira authentically and honestly opens up about her struggles with infertility and miscarriage.
Keira is incredibly down to earth and full of positive energy despite experiencing her fair share of hardship in business, health and in her personal life. In this episode we explore Keira's journey to becoming a mother and the owner of two successful businesses, as well as how she manages to juggle both in her day-to-day life!
We discuss Keira's experience with endometriosis and infertility and how sharing her journey online has helped her to connect with others & realise she isn't alone in this space.
Follow Keira Rumble on instagram HERE
To view the Habitual Beauty range CLICK HERE
To receive 20% off Habitual Beauty (excl. bundles), use the code: MOTHERUNREFINED
Note* Our fav from the range is the Collagen Elixir (Yuzu & Finger Lime)
And please pop yourself on the wait list for the amazing and sold out Hydrating Sleep Mask - thank us later ;)
To view the Krumbled Foods Beauty Bites range CLICK HERE
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In today's episode we discuss our favourite MUM HACKS! We also share some that were sent in from our listeners. If you're looking to save time and energy as a parent, this episode is not to be missed!
If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
- Trivia - from body parts you can't lick to female inventors, get your coffee & enjoy some Tuesday morning trivia
- Our favourite mum hacks!
- Sharing some of listener's favourite mum hacks!
- Mum panties - does anyone else have holes in their underpants?
Nicola's bath sea animals can be bought HERE
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Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Today's episode is a raw and unfiltered episode with Charlotte Durack, mother of two and founder of Studio Agriculture. Charlotte opens up about her experience as a business owner and single mother who found love again and recently had her second child.
Episode breakdown:
- Mother, Unrefined moments
- Charlotte Durack - who is she?
- Newborn life as a business owner
- Why the term "single parent" should be banned
- Coping with loneliness after a breakup and ways to combat it
- Dating as a sole parent
- How to navigate roles & responsibilities in a blended family
- Charlotte's Mother, Unrefined moments
Check out Charlotte's business - Agri Creative
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Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
- Two truths and a lie
- Nicola with some random facts about our bodies
- Period farts and sharing a microbiome
- Our own experiences with separation anxiety and how it affects us as mothers
- Coping with family reactions to separation anxiety
- Different phases of separation anxiety starting with 3-6 months.
- The Snoo...we can't get away from it haha
- Managing separation anxiety 12-18 month tips
- Separation anxiety with daycare - our experiences (more info in our daycare episode) and tips.
- Coming out on the other side of separation anxiety and also dealing with mum guilt
- Our fav quote from Insta this week from @annieridout (re-shared on our stories and highlights)
- Sharing some of our lovely listeners stories and tips - thanks for sending in!
The book that came recommended by a few of you The Invisible String
Our pick of products this week - The addiction is real!!! Habitual Beauty - Ingestible Beauty
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Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
- Mother, Unrefined moments
- Postpartum depletion - what is it? How do I know if i'm depleted?
- The baby blues, postpartum depression & postpartum depletion - what is the difference and what are the symptoms?
- Important nutrients postpartum
- Supplementation - what is necessary?
- The 6 week check up and should we be getting a postpartum blood test?
- What foods should we be focussing on postpartum?
- Postpartum thyroiditis - what is it and how can we support our thyroid postpartum?
Nicola's book recommendations:
- The postnatal depletion cure by Oscar Serrallach
- Real food in pregnancy by Lily Nichols
- The first 40 days: the essential art of nourishing the new mother
Book an appointment with Nicola at Maia Mother's Clinic
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Welcome to another episode of Mother, Unrefined! If you're new around here the aim of this podcast is to make every woman feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood (however that may look).
DISCLAIMER: we won't be watching our language so be mindful around little ones.
Episode breakdown:
- Make-up brushes - how often do you wash them?
- Kissing your partner - do you still do it? What's normal?
- JLO and Ben Affleck - thoughts on her changing her surname. Did we change our surname?
- Are mother's really recognised for everything they do?
- Identity as a mother - when did we feel the shift and how did we manage?
- Product reviews (Cholula , Leaf blower )
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Brief summary of episode:
- Mother, Unrefined moments – mum rage and a little father unrefined moment from Jess's husband.
- We speak to Mandy Richardson from Raise Toddlers whose mission is to help you help your toddler, while staying sane!
- Mandy’s journey to founding Raise Toddlers
- What age is a child considered a toddler?
- Are the terrible two’s real?
- Toddler boundaries and communicating with your toddler
- What to do with biters?
- When toddlers say no to EVERYTHING!
- Risky Play. What is it and what are some ways for us to implement it. Letting go of the helicopter parent tag.
- Independent Play. How to best nurture independent play.
- Screen time for kids – the ins and outs and ways to transition out of screentime.
- Play spaces. Optimising your toddlers play space without having to buy new toys for your toddler. Mandy also offers a playroom/ toy storage service as well as options for age-appropriate toys here
- Sharing – when kids start learning the concept of sharing.
Raise toddlers website and membership options here
Follow Raise Toddlers on Instagram here
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BONUS EPISODE!
Episode breakdown:
- We read your anonymous questions
- Skincare, our full routines
- The business break up: what ACTUALLY happened? regrets?
- Daycare & abandonment issues
- Sex after children - what's normal?
- Household chores & parent load - who does what in our households
- We read out answers from our audience re: ANNOYING HABITS OF PARTNERS (floss on the couch?!)
As mentioned in this episode, if you're listening in real time definitely review or rate our podcast for your chance to win a prize pack (full of our favourite goodies) worth over $500!
Once you've listened to this episode and rated or reviewed it, head to the below instagram post and comment "DONE".
Instagram competition link: https://www.instagram.com/p/CgSarbYhpSr/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
Skincare Routine Links (Disclaimer: this is what we use. Please consult a health professional before making any changes to your routine.)
Nicola: Skinstitut Gentle Cleanser/ Skinstitut Gylcolic Cleanser 12% / The Rationale serum 1 / The Rationale Serum 2 / Baume 27 Cell Repair Balm / Dr Dennis Gross Universal Daily Peel Pads / Drunk Elephant Serum
Jess: Skinstitut Glycolic Scrub / MCO Beauty Hyrdratng Face Serum / The Ordinary Lactic Acid 10% / The Ordinary Retinol 5% in Squaline /The Ordinary Natural Moisturising Factors + HA / Aesop Fabulous Face Oil
Brief summary of episode:
Hello and welcome to Mother, Unrefined – a podcast brought to you by two old friends and ex-business partners who have reunited their flame over motherhood. I’m Jess Frank and I’m Nicola Scruby and we’re your hosts! The aim of this podcast is to make every woman who listens feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood – however that may look. Quick disclaimer before we jump into todays episode – we won’t be watching our language!
- We are exhausted from this never ending sickness!!
- Mother, Unrefined moments – toilet fail from Jess AND Mitch, unexpected peep show in the mother’s room and bidet love.
- How we chose our daycares - what was a non-negotiable? Gut feeling? Food, spaces, educators, separation anxiety, changing daycare to suit your needs.
- Daycare sickness – we’ve almost had it all! Juggling work with constant sickness and breaking down from not having the opportunity to rest
- Trying to be easy on ourselves and looking after yourself as well
- How we led our kids into daycare – creating routine for the kids
- Our first day experiences – a few stuff ups and unsettled babes
- How our toddlers have adjusted (with special thanks to Daniel Tiger)
- Sleeping – how do they do it?!
And finally…we love daycare!!
Our fav products this week:
Fluidform Pilates! Extreme convenience! Amazing through pregnancy, postpartum and beyond!
Baume 27 Expensive but oh so amazing!!
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We're back! In another BONUS episode where we have a chit chat about #mumlife
Episode breakdown:
- Mother, Unrefined moments (rap lullabies & light switch nipples)
- Having a child similar to running a granola business?
- 20s vs 30s - what happened to our glow?
- Self-care as a mum
- Toilet training - dogs eating poo?
- Inappropriate grandparents
Product Review - our favs of the week NOT SPONSORED
Nicola loves Dr Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Extra Strength Daily Peel
Jess loves Roogenic Tea
If you like this podcast, please leave us a review and subscribe, it really helps us stay in your ears ;)
Brief summary of episode:
Hello and welcome to Mother, Unrefined – a podcast brought to you by two old friends and ex-business partners who have reunited their flame over motherhood. I’m Jess Frank and I’m Nicola Scruby and we’re your hosts! The aim of this podcast is to make every woman who listens feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood – however that may look. Quick disclaimer before we jump into today’s episode – we won’t be watching our language!
Mother, Unrefined moments – a bit of shit and come, come…cumming?
This week we chat with the amazing baby care specialist, Millie Poppins and cover all things #newbornlife! Realistic and practical!
The main topics covered are:
- Newborn sleep
- Breastfeeding to sleep
- Preparing for newborn life
- Supporting mummas
- Communication for new mums
- Routines and wake windows
- Tips for multiple kids
- Introducing the bottle and mixed feeding
- Wind and burping
- Dummies
Do yourself a favour and follow @millie.poppins and definitely sign up for her FREE encouraging newborn sleep guide and as promised the links to her amazing masterclasses are here.
Follow us at @mother_unrefined to find out more! And feel free to have a little stalk sesh...
@the__unrefinednutritionist @j.oc__
BONUS EPISODE! Thank you to everyone who has listened to our podcast and even left a review, we are truly grateful to each and every one of you.
In celebration, we thought we'd release a bonus episode. We recorded this on the day the podcast launched (over a glass of wine of course!).
Brief summary of episode:
- A big thank you to all of our listeners
- Mother, Unrefined moments (Eating raw chicken, sexy nightdresses and stepmums...)
- Rapidfire Q&A (whales dick, ghosts, first dates, our non-existent newborn connection, embarrassing sexual encounters, knobbly knees & leg vaginas)
Remember to follow us over @mother_unrefined on instagram to stay up to date with episodes and upcoming competitions!
Have a great day and if we don't see you... Good afternoon, Good evening & Good night.
Episode title and number: 02
Brief summary of episode:
Hello and welcome to Mother, Unrefined – a podcast brought to you by two old friends and ex-business partners who have reunited their flame over motherhood. Co-hosted by Nicola Scruby and Jessica Frank; the aim of this podcast is to make every woman who listens feel less alone on her journey to and through motherhood – however that may look.
DISCLAIMER: We won't be watching our language so be mindful of little ones.
We’re back and made it to ep 2 – thanks for listening despite the crackly voices (thanks daycare & inexperience in the podcast sound space).
SHOW BREAKDOWN:
· Mother, Unrefined moment – Mum guilt and toddler shopping meltdowns!
· What is this podcast – kids and parenting as well as real life experiences. We don’t want to lose our identity and want to be able to share our crazy stories with you!
· When do we have to stop swearing in front of our kids?
· What/ who is ShiShi?
· Insta trolls and unsolicited advice!
· Garlic vagina…
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Things we love:
Smooshed wholefood balls delish!!
Skinstitut game changer and on sale!
Pureology a bit exxy but so worth it!
We're back together as Mother, Unrefined, in a podcast NOBODY asked for (because there isn't enough #mumlife podcasts out there).
BUT... if you're looking for some lighthearted entertainment, relatable conversation & a shit load of laughs over a wine, join us for episode 1.
In today's episode we discuss:
- How we met
- Our non-profitable business (no business tips here!)
- The break-up & make-up
- Rapid fire Q&A (includes how we met our partners, bad sex, shitty jobs & what we'd tell our 18 year old selves)
If you like this episode, let us know you like it by subscribing and following us on instagram at @mother_unrefined
Welcome to Mother, Unrefined... a podcast brought to you by two old friends (and ex-business partners) who have reignited their flame over Motherhood.
Join co-hosts Jess Frank and Nicola Scruby as they talk mum life and life before mum life. The aim of this podcast is to make every woman who listens feel less alone on her journey to and through Motherhood - however that may look.
Launching July 5th, 2022 - pop it in your diary and make sure you have your beverage ready