Confidence Made Easy with Xena Jones: Recent Episodes
Xena Jones
Confidence Made Easy is the podcast for women who struggle with self-doubt, fear of the worst case scenario & worry about what others think. This podcast will teach you how to have your own back, how to believe in yourself and how to create the self-confidence you need to go and live your life to the fullest! Each week Confidence Coach & Mindset Expert, Xena Jones shares tools, tips, ideas & stories that will help you to be more confident & enjoy your life even more. Find out more at xenajones.com
Having your own back is the most important life skill you can learn.
It impacts self-worth, confidence, happiness & the actions you take every day.
In this episode I'm walking you through how to have your own back.
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FREE CONSULTATION: www.xenajones.com/consult
INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/
WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
After coaching 1000s of people & helping them change their lives it felt fitting on episode #200 to share just how simple this is when we get to the root cause.
And that’s what this episode is: The #1 most important thing, the one thing you need to do in order to change your life.
So often we think we just need to do more, prioritise better or be more disciplined… But this is all surface level, it never addresses the root cause of why that isn’t working long term & what really needs to change.
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FREE CONSULTATION: www.xenajones.com/consult
INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/
WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Do you struggle with getting things done? Do you ever feel all over the place? This is the episode where I talk about Navigating Adult ADHD after getting the offical diagnosis last year.
There is a lost generation of women around my age now being diagnosed.
If you or someone you know has or might have ADHD please share my new podcast with them: Navigating Adult ADHD.
For a list of symptoms & further resources + support visit:
https://www.xenajones.com/adhd
Are you willing to let others down if it means you don't let yourself down?
To let someone down means: To not do what you said you would do or what they thought you "should" do.
Unless you set out to let someone down - you are never letting anyone down.
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
If our goal is to become a published author then we want to identify as a writer.
When we focus on WHO we need to be, the actions automatically follow.
Our identity is one of our most valuable assets.
When we change the way we see ourselves, we change our behaviours.
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FREE CONSULTATION: www.xenajones.com/consult
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Sign up for the quit procrastinating + take action master class here: xenajones.com/action
We procrastinate to try to avoid uncomfortable emotions.
We'll do anything that feels better than the task at hand (even folding laundry!)
Here’s the truth: There is nothing wrong with you if you procrastinate and you are not lazy. You simply haven’t been taught HOW to take action.
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FREE CONSULTATION: www.xenajones.com/consult
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Self-worth opens many doors. It brings more prosperity into all areas of our lives.
Self-criticism only intensifies what we don’t want and it increases procrastination.
In this episode we talk about how to & why you should criticise yourself less. And I'm sharing exactly what you can do to actually feel worthy (which is more simple than you may realise).
P.S - Come and check out my new website! www.xenajones.com/
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FREE CONSULTATION: www.xenajones.com/consult
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Want to better understand midlife & get help with your sleep? Then you need to know Janet Whalen! In this conversation she helps us unpack questions around midlife, peri-menopause, menopause and all things sleep!
Connect with Janet here:
Website & freebie: http://janetwhalen.com/sleep/
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/permissiontosleep
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janetwhalencoaching/
Are you using a carrot or a stick to try and motivate yourself?
The stick is focusing yourself, beating yourself up & coming from a. negative angle - the carrot on the other hand is based on what I call the "winning outcome"
This is the goal beyond the goal - the person you want to become & the feelings you want to experience (it's based on having your own back).
WEEKLY COFFEE & COACHING Mondays 4:30pm ET - Join with this zoom link: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/87637724276
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FREE CONSULTATION: www.xenajones.com/consult
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
How do you know when you need to set a boundary?
What does a boundary look like? How do we stick to them?
These are all things we talk about with our guest Carina.
And I share a boundary issue I had the very morning we recorded this episode & we unpack my challenges with you all.
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Discovery call: https://calendly.com/bookcarinagroombridge/discoverycall
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/the.mompreneur.movement.with.carina.groombridge/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carinagroombridgecoaching/
Website: www.carinagroombridge.com
All too often I hear people fighting for what they DON'T want.
Saying things like "it's not working, I can't, I don't know how", then listing all the evidence to support that particular story.
I'm showing you exactly how to fight for what you DO want & get the outcome you most want! It's easier & more simple than you think
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Do you hold on to constructive feedback or criticism?
Studies show we need to hear at least 3 good things to every 1 negative thing. Even then we often hold on to or only hear the 'not so good'.
In this episode I am sharing with you exactly how I handle criticism (it's super simple & easy for you to do to!).
And I share an example from this week & walk you through it.
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FREE VIP STRATEGY SESSION: www.xenajones.com/vip
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Through her lively mashup of positive-psychology, creativity and smart phone photography, Lizzie helps people find their spark, achieve goals, get out of their own way, and find more joy, all while making it feel like a playful adventure.
In this episode Lizzie shares tips to help us bring more positivity & joy into our lives.
Connect with Lizzie here (you'll be glad you did!):
LIFE FEAST: https://larockstarcreative.com/life-feast
Download her free photowalk guide: https://www.larockstarcreative.com/photo-walk-guide
Instagram: https://instagram.com/lizzielarock
Having your own back means asking for help.
But for us high achievers (perfectionists) we can really struggle with this... Now here’s the gut punch: there is NO prize for doing it all.
But there are feelings of overwhelm, pressure, burnout & general pissed-off-ness.
In this episode we explore why asking for help is hard AND how it can & will change your life.
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FREE VIP STRATEGY SESSION: www.xenajones.com/vip
INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Ever think "I know exactly what I need to do why can’t I just do it?"
Or wondered why you leave things till the last minute...
Why you procrastinate and clean the bathroom instead of doing your work or why you can't seem to get motivated...
I'm sharing the 4 reasons WHY you aren't taking action.
And exactly what you need to do to START taking action today (with these 3 simple steps).
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FREE VIP STRATEGY SESSION: www.xenajones.com/vip
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
What value do you place on failing?
Bottom line if you want success of any kind: you have to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
In this episode I'm sharing some of my 2022 fails - what I learned & how I plan to fail (full on face plant style) in 2023.
"The goal isn’t to succeed every single time, it’s to become the person who doesn’t quit, but instead applies the lessons & keeps showing up.
The reason I set huge AF goals isn’t just to achieve them, it's to become the person who has achieved them."
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WEBSITE: www.xenajones.com/
Do you struggle with self-doubt? Second guess your decisions or perhaps question if you have what it takes? Then this episode is for your my friend!
Plus I'm sharing a failure I had today & walking you through exactly how I handled it - what I'm making it mean & how this could have (& why it didn't) take me down the path of self-doubt or second guessing...
And you can claim you free VIP Strategy Session here: https://www.xenajones.com/vip
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Authenticity- what is it, why do we crave it, why is it hard - we are diving in to all of it in todays episode.
“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
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FREE CONSULT: solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult
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WEBSITE: https://www.xenajones.com/
Do you struggle making new friends as an adult?
Perhaps your friendships feel surface level & you crave deeper connections?
A year ago I ran a friendsperiment - an experiment to make new friends.
And today we are joined by one of my now very good friends & friendsperiment success stories, Charli, as she shares with us her experience of making new friends & together we unpack what it takes to make good friends in as adults
Connect with Charli on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emotionalstrength_traumacoach/
And Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emotionalstrengthtraumacoach
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WEBSITE: https://www.xenajones.com/
Change your mindset & you'll change your life.
In this episode we are exploring what mindset means & how to do the mindset work.
I'm giving you 3 simple techniques you can use & showing you how to use them with real life examples.
Mindset + Action = Success
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FREE CONSULT: solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult
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WEBSITE: https://www.xenajones.com/
Your ripple effect is the impact you have on those around you.
How you show up in the world & what you do has an impact on those in your life & even complete strangers.
You will be positively impacting those around you & you may not even realise it.
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Being the authority in your life is about being the leader, taking charge, making decisions and standing in your power.
As women we are socialised to undermine our own authority & de-value ourselves.
We were raised as little girls to perfect, perform & please AND to believe that someone else knows better.
If you struggle with self-trust, making your own decisions & owning your value then this episode is for you!
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With social norms & expectations in society it is hard to be different.
It can be scary to go against the grain.
It's natural to want to conform but doing so can come at a cost...
In this episode we talk about why we want to conform, why we want to be different, the courage it takes & how to know what you want.
If you were going to feel terrible either way, what would you want to do?
If you were going to feel amazing either way, what would you want to do?
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Today on the podcast we are joined by Kunyao Yu - She started out like many of us climbing the ladder & ticking the boxes of “success”. And as she shares with us, after achieving many academic milestones & getting her dream job working for Nasa, she began to discover she wasn’t fulfilled & decided to take a break from Corporate America to travel & pursue her passions.
She opens up about the self-doubt & fear she experienced along the way - so much of which I know you guys are going to relate to!
Connect with Kunyao here:
Blog: www.myalpineway.com
Coaching: www.asiancyclebreaker.com
Are you asking for what you want or settling for what you think you deserve?
As women we have been socialised to put other peoples needs above our own - to think that what "they" want or need is more important.
We please others & often don't speak up for what we want when it could mean someone else might feel uncomfortable...
In this episode I am sharing 3 examples I witnessed of myself advocating for what I wanted & some recent coaching I have given clients on this very thing.
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When we add pleasure & joy into things we want to accomplish & habits we want to create, we do them.
Dopamine helps to create consistency.
Do you have enough joy in your life & are you making it a priority?
Whether we prioritise it or not our brains will find ways to get it - think procrastination, binging on Netflix, drinking the bottle of wine...
Think about something you want to change in your life - does it currently feel fun? My guess is probably not otherwise you would have done it already.
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Today we are joined by a special guest who is an expert on all things emotions, feelings & mindset work. Jess Johnson is a dear friend & a valued colleague who has helped me through a process we explore in this episode called EFT (emotional freedom technique).
“Powerful mindset coaching meets psychological acupressure with a dash of magic” is how to best describe what it feels like to work with Life Coach and Certified EFT Practitioner Jess Johnson.
As a former therapist and U.S. Army Veteran with a career that began working in corrections, there’s nothing she hasn’t seen, heard, or smelled, allowing her to hold space for even the most complicated headspaces.
Listen in to learn more about how you can manage your emotions & think clearly.
Here is the link to sign up for Jess’s workbook and video series: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/631f6ba30db2862ae393bcf6
And you can hang out with Jess & explore ways to work with her here:
FB: Jess Johnson Coaching Services
IG: @seekingagreatperhaps1
Website: https://www.jessjohnsoncoaching.com
The fear of public speaking effects 75% of the population & in this episode Xena is sharing mindset tools as well as specific actions you can take to support yourself when it comes to speaking in public, giving presentations & being called upon to speak in meetings.
Xena was the shy kid growing up, terrified of being called on in class & "sick" on speech days - today she speaks in public regularly & enjoys doing so - it really is possible!
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When you want to switch your brain off it's because you don't like the thoughts you're having & how they make you feel.
In this episode we explore our brains negativity bias & the motivational triad to better understand why our brains can be assholes at times.
And Xena gives you simple exercises to switch off AND feel better!
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Protocols are what we put into action when sh*t hits the fan.
A protocol is much like a first aid kit - you have it at the ready & might not need all the items inside but you are fully prepared for when the situation arises.
In this episode we explore my protocol for quitting sugar & what I do when the cravings hits. As well as client protocols for relationship break-ups & experiencing self-doubt.
Protocols help set us up for success & support the outcomes we want.
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"Who am I to be here? I’m a fraud. I’m nowhere near as competent as them!" Imposter syndrome is that feeling of doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud.
The problem with imposter syndrome is that we make it mean something has gone wrong & we try to make the feeling go away - which either leads to self-sabotage or hustling for our worthiness.
In this episode Xena is sharing her 3 tips for how she handles imposter syndrome.
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In this bonus episode I am answering a bunch of questions about what it's like to work with me.
- How does it work?
- What happens in a session
- How long do we work together for?
- How long are the sessions?
- What do I expect on a consult?
If you have a question I didn't answer you can email me: xena@xenajones.com
And if you'd like to book in for a free consultation you can use this link: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult
In this episode we are joined by my client & friend Jodie as she share with us how she recently brought in her 30th birthday by doing something outside of her comfort zone.
We talk about having your own back, doing hard things, going solo & loneliness.
Jodie is a brave & badass example of not waiting for anyone or anything & making the life you want happen!
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FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach
How is your relationship with yourself? Are you hard on yourself, do you beat yourself? Do you like yourself?
Our relationship with ourselves determines how we feel about ourselves & how we feel about ourselves determines the way we treat ourselves, what we do or don't do...
In this episode I'm sharing what my relationship with myself used to look like, what it's like now & changes I've made.
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We do hard things every day.
But there is a huge difference between doing hard things because they've become comfortable and doing them because they move us towards the things we want.
It's hard not having what you want.
And it's hard making changes & doing new things.
In this episode we are talking about choosing your hard.
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When we are attached to the outcome we want we think we need it in order to be whole, complete & happy. Cue alarm bells
Attachment creates desperation, control & a focus on action - it takes us away from who we want (& need) to be in order to make it happen.
In this episode we explore why we want to be committed but not attached, what that looks like & how to do it.
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Nervousness is a common feeling brought on by your body's stress response but let's be honest we do our best to avoid it as much as possible because it feels like ass... BUT feeling nervous means you're about to do something that matters to you!
In this episode I am sharing with you just how often & why I feel nervous. Plus the 3 things I do to support myself when I'm nervous.
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Becca Stark is back to have a powerful conversation about self-compassion. What it is, why we struggle with it, how to do it, why it matters, all the things!
This is a raw, real & vulnerable episode packed with take-aways.
You can connect with Rebecca here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachbeccastark/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachbeccastark
Website: https://www.rebeccastarkcoaching.com/
Want to take a shitty day & turn it around?
Need a reminder of just how awesome & capable you really are. THIS IS FOR YOU!
In this episode we are exploring the 4 stages of confidence.
How my accident this week impacted my confidence
Creating a file of fantastic sh*t to remind your brain of your awesomeness & to give yourself a boost of confidence.
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FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach
Just like Coca Cola comes in a bunch of flavours, so does confidence.
In this episode we explore how to tap into different flavours when you feel nervous, afraid or have self-doubt.
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Needy energy is like B.O - It is going to repel the very thing you want.
Imagine going on a date with someone who is needy & desperate to be in a relationship & practically begging you... EW! Instant turn off.
In this episode we are exploring:
Where we tend to fall into this energy & how it pushes way what we want.
The simple shift to get back into attractive energy (calm, confident, sufficient, certain energy)
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Everything we want is outside of our comfort zone otherwise we'd already have it.
How willing are you to feel uncomfortable in order to get what you want?
Just like training our biceps at the gym to build strong guns - we can also train & build our discomfort muscles.
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Today we have a special guest! My friend & health Coach Elizabeth Sherman.
Here are some of the many topics we discuss:
How we have been socialised as women to not be happy with our bodies
The harm of diet culture & learning to listen to your own body
How there is no one right way
How most women like their faces the most because this what we have mostly been exposed to
My big aha: It doesn’t taste better if you keep eating it
Changing your self-concept (for me becoming a person who leaves food on her plate)
You can connect with Elizabeth in all the following places:
Website: www.elizabethsherman.com
Podcast: Done with Dieting www.elizabethsherman.com/podcast
Facebook: www.facebookcom/totalhealthbyeliz
Instagram: www.instagram.com/esherman68
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethsherman
Success does not = happiness
And thinking that it does is prolonging joy today.
Listen in to learn why it's important we seperate these & how to create them both NOW.
We also explore how to define success for yourself & why using numbers to measure success isn't the only (or most important) way!
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In this episode Xena unpacks what the patriarchy is and how it could be showing up in your confidence.
Wether we know it or not we are wrestling internally with complying to this outdated & destructive way of living.
Listen in to hear real life examples, to learn about ancestral trauma & to see ways this could be impacting you.
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What are you waiting to feel ready to do?
Did you know that 95% of the time we never actually 'feel' ready... Think about it - when was the last time you felt ready to do something outside your comfort zone, something you haven't done before?
In this episode I am introducing you to the concept of willingness and to the idea that being ready is actually having the thought "I am willing to..." I am willing to do it unsure, I am willing to go first, I am willing to figure this out.
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Believing we are either giving 100% or we are giving nothing. I've either got what it takes or I don't. I can do it or I can't. Black or white. No in-between.
The problem with this kind of thinking is it leads to quitting, to beating ourselves up, to chipping away at our self-esteem.
All-or-nothing thinking prevents us from growing, adapting and generally enjoying anything that isn't perfect.
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What might change in your life if you were to have your own back?
In this episode we explore how having your own back requires these 3 things: Commitment, Courage & Compassion.
I'm sharing a vulnerable story of how to put this into practice along with plenty of powerful takeaways (action steps) to help you have you own back.
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Are you listening to the voice that says I don't feel like it?
Discipline = Taking action when you don’t want to
In this episode we explore my own struggles with discipline & I share with you 3 of the ways we can strengthen it.
“Your success will be determined by how well you obey yourself”
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Overwhelm doesn't come from the amount of things on our to-do list or the time we have to get it all done in.
Overwhelm comes from our mind & in this episode we are exploring ways to reduce or even eliminate our feeling of being overwhelmed.
Xena shares her own experience with overwhelm & she is able to have her own back.
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Right & wrong thinking is believing there is a right & wrong way to do something.
We think right = good AND wrong = bad.
And We put so much pressure on ourselves to get it right.
In our jobs, in our relationships, with our decisions, with our businesses we feel this constant pressure.
In this episode we are exploring exactly what it means to do it 'right' & how to reduce or eliminate this pressure we feel.
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What is your opinion of yourself?
Our opinion of ourselves is what we think about ourselves.
And our thoughts about ourselves determine how we feel about ourselves.
Our opinion of ourselves is the only one that matters.
Your number one job is to sell yourself on you & you'll feel f*cking awesome!
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Toxic positivity is the assumption that you should be positive all the time even in difficult situations.
This approach is damaging because it doesn’t allow room for how we genuinely feel & it further re-enforces the lie that we shouldn’t feel bad or we shouldn’t experience negative emotions, which simply isn't true.
The positive reframe is acknowledging what’s going on - what feels true for you & exploring what else you know to be true through a more encouraging & supportive lens.
When the time is right positively reframing our experiences help us move forward & feel better.
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In this episode we explore the idea of worry windows & how to create a specific window of time in which we can worry. Instead of spending so much of our time worrying unnecessarily & robbing ourselves of enjoying our lives.
Our brains love to worry & create problems.
This often leads to looking for problems where there aren't any & creating unnecessary suffering. Instead lets create a future time to worry about this IF it does become necessary.
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We absorb messages throughout our lives that form our opinions of how we should act & what we should or shouldn't do in our lives.
This social conditioning is the reason that we, as women, people please.
We are constantly taught to under value ourselves, to go along, to not make waves or speak up.
In this episode we explore the way out of people pleasing & towards having your own back .
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When saying yes creates bitterness or resentment, then saying no is the most honest & loving thing we can do. Saying no is saying yes to ourselves.
How we say no matters. Often we leave room for second guessing & discussing our decision - In this episode we explore how to say no with confidence.
Saying no isn’t a boundary. Saying no AND follow through with action is a boundary.
We explore the difference between healthy & unhealthy boundaries. Plus Xena shares 3 simple steps to use when setting boundaries.
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In this episode Xena is sharing 3 tips for getting sh*t done.
1. Minimum baselines
2. Planning to NOT want to do it
3. Having your own back
We explore exactly how to apply each of these to your life.
And what each strategy helps you to eliminate and create in your life.
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In this episode we are exploring why we second guess ourselves.
How other people can't 'make' us second guess ourselves.
Xena demonstrates the relationship between self-doubt, fear & courage using a powerful story.
And we explore why second guessing isn't useful and what to do instead.
Be sure to join us for Have Your Own Back week by following this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/haveyourback
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Xena is hosting a free class: HOW TO GET SH*T DONE
And YOU are invited!
During this episode Xena shares the 3 ways your can get all the event info & join us for this free zoom class AND why you do not want to miss it!
Here is a direct link to the Facebook event (the zoom link will be found in this event: https://fb.me/e/1LAYLto3O
Today Xena is sharing with you 5 things she wished she knew before travelling solo.
She brings her 6+ years working in the travel industry, with 40+ countries visited (many of them solo) and the mindset expertise from her coaching.
We explore safety, feeling nervous, how to have a good experience even when baad things happen, what you need to know before you go & loads more!
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This past week I've had covid (omnicrom) & today I coached myself on making this a big deal & how it was impacting my return to work...
What makes something a big deal? Our thoughts about it - more specially the amount of brain space we let it take up - how much time we spend thinking about it.
We use the term big deal for things that are both good & bad or positive or negative in our lives.
In this episode we are exploring:
- Why making something a big deal often doesn't serve us
- The story we tell ourselves when we make it a big deal
- Unnecessary pain we may create
- What we make it mean when other people in our lives don't make it a big deal
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What is your top priority in your life right now?
Did your day yesterday reflect that? What about this past week?
In this episode we are exploring how to determine our top priorities, how to know if we are living inline with these & when to make changes.
Xena shares with you her top priorities & what she has noticed that hasn't been inline with these of late & the changes she is making.
We also explore the term 'balance', using the elimination strategy & how to create decision filters using our priorities.
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In this episode we are exploring:
- What it means to be triggered
- The fight, flight, freeze & fawn responses we go into
- Calming our nervous systems to create our own safety & be able to recommend our authority
- The difference between big T and little t trauma
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Caring what other people think is normal & it doesn’t have to be a problem…
Unless it’s stopping you from being who you want to be, doing what you want to do with your life.
In this episode we explore the 4 steps Xena took to stop giving AF what other people think & how you can apply these to your life.
No longer giving AF what everyone thinks is the ultimate freedom!
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In this episode we are exploring...
1. Understanding fear. Where it comes from, how it serves us & why it shows up.
2. Exploring the worst case & how powerful this is
3. Creating a fail plan - deciding ahead of time what you will make it mean if you fail
4. Calming your nervous system
Fear is only debilitating when we listen to primal part of our brain telling us it is life or death.
Fear isn’t a reason not to take action towards what you want, its simply showing you the way.
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My brain loves to tell me this is too hard so I either shouldn’t do it or I should do it later... this innocent little thought feels so true.
In this episode we explore HOW to do hard things, cognitive dissonance (why it feels so uncomfortable) & why procrastination leads to us feeling bad Vs the pride & genuine satisfaction that comes from doing hard things.
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We all have an emotional comfort zone - this is the emotions we experience most often.
Like being at home - you feel comfortable in your own home environment we have emotions in our body that feel comfortable.
Even if this emotional emotional comfort zone (CZ) is hurting you your subconscious brain will keep leading you back to it because it’s most familiar, it is what you know. It's a habit.
If your emotional CZ is different to what you need to feel in order to attain your goals then you will experience self-sabotage.
Self sabotage = self protection
In order to change your emotional CZ you must practice how you want to feel.
Whilst reminding yourself that you are safe & that you have your own back.
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This week we are diving into procrastination - how we do it, why we do it & how to stop doing it.
So many of us procrastinate our dreams & we could do this until we die.
We explore the motivational triad - how our brain is wired to avoid doing anything it perceives as hard or uncomfortable & how we must reverse these desires.
We also talk about perfectionism & how this comes into effect with our procrastination.
And as always Xena shares with you examples from her life & the lives of her clients.
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In this episode we explore what self-belief looks like & how you can copy & paste it from one area of your life to another.
We identify where you are already believing in yourself & we use that to fuel new beliefs for your goals, for what you want to change or create in your life.
Xena shares with you her own powerful beliefs about solo travel & exactly how she's been able to use these to help with self belief in other areas of her life.
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I have spent the past few months on a friendsperiment journey (aka making new friends) and this week I am sharing with you 8 of my lessons.
You will hear both my success stories & my not so successful stories.
What I decided to make it mean when I was rejected & how I had my own back.
Plus tonnes of recommendations for making new friends as an adult.
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We have another special guest expert this week! Michelle Runnels...
In this episode we have powerful conversation that covers:
- The differences between how men & women operate (our caveman brains)
- Making friends as women & challenges we face
- Relational agression
- Common struggles we have as women & how to overcome them
Connect with Michelle here!
Instagram: @momcoachmichelle
Facebook: Mom Coach Michelle
Www.Michellerunnels.com
Want a to have a free brainstorming chat about what’s possible? Schedule with me here: https://calendly.com/michellerunnels/consult
In this episode I am sharing with you a list of questions to help you reflect on 2021 & set yourself up for even more of what you want in the new year.
This is also a great opportunity to notice any themes that arise & pick a word of focus for the new year.
This episode is PACKED with fun & powerful questions to help you reflect, learn, grow & celebrate.
I am also sharing with you my simple 4 step process to evaluate your goals & the year that you have had:
1. What worked?
2. What didn’t work?
3. What will I do differently next time?
4. What are 3 wins I can celebrate?
And I am walking you through my own self-evaluation & some of the key things I discovered that haven't worked & the changes I will be making as we move into 2022.
Join me on a call to create your own unique strategy for 2022:
https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult
Surprise! In this bonus episode I am sharing with you one simple tool to use to help you cut the criticism & have your own back in 2022.
We explore:
- What it means to have your own back
- How we are so conditioned to criticise & reject ourselves
- The 5:1 feedback ratio
AND I share with you exactly how to apply the STOP method in your day to day life...
I have opened my calendar up to offer free calls between now & the new year & I would love to help you!
Let’s get on a call together & we can design your unique strategy for 2022 based on your lifestyle, your situation, your obstacles & what you want more of in 2022.
BOOK HERE: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult
Are you consuming OR creating?
Massive action is creation. It is taking action UNTIL you get the result you want, until you achieve the goal.
Passive action is learning, absorbing, consuming.
Passive action often feels necessary but can prolong the achievement of our goal. It is where we feel safe & comfortable, therefore it is easy to spend a lot of time consuming & telling ourselves we are working towards our goals when we aren't actually creating progress.
In this episode we are exploring where our time is better spent, the obstacles we face & how to overcome them when it comes to taking action & creating what we want.
Be sure to grab your kickstart 2022 goal setting guide & create your own massive action plan and fail plan (as discussed in this episode!): https://www.xenajones.com/kickstart
Make 2022 your best year yet & grab your free copy of KICKSTART 2022 your goal setting guide: https://www.xenajones.com/kickstart
I have a treat for you all in this episode! My incredible coach colleague & friend Becca Stark has come on the podcast this week to explore & unpack the connection between competition, comparison & jealousy.
We talk about the negative attachment we often have to competition & how it is powerful fuel for our goals.
Becca is an expert in desire & shares with us how we can use our jealousy in a positive way.
We explore the differences between men & women & discuss social conditioning
PLUS we give loads of actionable steps to help you in your own life!
Be sure to go hang out with Becca & if you are looking for a coach she is absolute fire (I know this first hand)...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachbeccastark/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachbeccastark
Website: https://www.rebeccastarkcoaching.com
I have a bonus treat for you all today! My client Molly is on the podcast to share her journey with us.
Molly is such an example of what it means to be courageous & to really embody having your own back.
She inspires me regularly & I am so thrilled to be able to share her incredible story with you all.
We talk about life after loss, what it looks like to have your own back, trying new things, how to enjoy your life & be content whilst working towards goals...
AND she shares first hand her experience with coaching & how to find a coach that is a great fit for you!
This podcast will air on Molly's 53rd Birthday - Happy birthday Molly! Huge love xx
If you would like to explore coaching with me book a free consult here: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult
Do you know what your limiting beliefs are... The beliefs that are keeping you from the things you want?
In this episode we are exploring how to find those limiting beliefs (how to draw them up to the surface for you to examine).
And how to begin dissolving them so that they no longer keep you from what it is that you want.
I walk you through a simple 3 step process .
I'm sharing some of the common goals my clients set & some of the limiting beliefs that they present with.
Download your free kickstart guide over at xenajones.com/kickstart - We are walking through how to review & celebrate this year, how NOT to set goals, how to uncover what you want & why, what will be required in order to achieve that, putting a fail plan into place & how to have your own back with the gaols you set & the changes you make. It is jam packed with value & 100% free, my gift to you :)
Throughout this month I have a series of podcasts planned around creating what we want & make changes in our lives. I have created a free workbook to go along with this month, grab your copy here: https://www.xenajones.com/kickstart
The #1 thing standing between you & what you want isn’t action, it’s MINDSET.In tis espidoe we are diving into:
- The work & commitment required to achieve our goals
- Why goals are not a form of punishment or something to be afraid of
- Questions to ask yourself to begin figuring out what you want, why you want it & why you haven't yet been able to create it
For more info & to explore coaching with Xena head over to: https://www.xenajones.com
Do you have an impossible goal? Perhaps there is something in your life you would love to do but it feels so impossible that you avoid it & focus on other things?
In this episode we are talking about doing impossible things. We are covering:
Being considered crazy until we actually do it.
Is anything really ever impossible or is that simply a matter of opinion?
Does it serve us to think it's impossible?
What about being realistic?
And what if everyone else agrees it is impossible?
For more info or to book in for a free consult visit: https://www.xenajones.com
What are you making it mean?
...When he doesn’t text you back
...When she looks at you sideways
...When they say they no
...When it doesn’t go the way you wanted it to go
What are you making it mean?
In this episode we are exploring how we assign meaning to events throughout our day without stopping to look at other options, options that might be equally as true & will likely feel a lot better.
I give you a fun tool to takeaway & apply through your day!
If you are ready to explore coaching click here to book a free clarity call.
I recently discovered I was in an environment I wanted to be in and was thinking that I didn't belong. I was holding back, distancing myself from my peers & not getting what I wanted out of the experience.
In this episode we are exploring the difference between belonging & fitting in & how to tell which one we are doing.
I also share with you exactly what it takes to feel like you belong.
And we explore Brene Brown & her powerful work around belonging & how we can apply this to our lives.
For more info on coaching & to schedule a free call with me visit: https://www.xenajones.com
If you have ever been told to 'just be yourself' and thought yeah that sounds great but what does that even mean & what if they don't like me... Then this episode is for you.
We are exploring why everyone struggles with being themselves & how society has taught us more of how 'not' to be ourselves instead of how 'to' be ourselves.
And I share with you a tool to copy & paste some of the beliefs you have about yourself in an area where you do feel safe & comfortable to be yourself into the areas where this is more of a challenge.
Plus we dive into the 3 things we need to do in order to be more of our authentic selves
When you're ready you can book a free consult call here.
Living a life inside of the box is what I thought I was meant to do in order to be happy, successful & fulfilled. I was doing what I thought I was 'supposed to do'...
Outside of the box are what it actually takes to create happiness, success & fulfilment.
Getting outside of the box requires us to be bold, courageous, unapologetic & stand up for ourselves & the world we want to live in...
In this video we are exploring where you might be putting yourself in a box, closed off & restricted as opposed to the life you want to be living...
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And head over to xenajones.com to book your free consult call & explore coaching with me.
If you are to ask most people what they want in life they will answer with some version of I just want to be happy.
And when asked what they mean they’ll say ‘I just want to be happy al the time’.
Which I think most of us would agree sounds really nice & like something we would like to have…
Society is teaching us that we need to get something or do something in order to be happy but this isn’t true…
The only reason any of us ever want anything is because of how we believe we will feel in the attaining and having of it.
How we feel is never the result of a circumstance. It’s always, always tied to a thought.
Often, we think, “When I have, do, or accomplish (fill in the blank), THEN I will feel better.”
The truth is, we never have to wait to have something in order to feel better. We can feel better right now if we choose to.
Ready to explore coaching with me? Book a free consult here or visit my website: https://www.xenajones.com ~ Let's do this!
Do you feel like you need to justify what you want?
Guess what?! You don't.
You don't have to justify what you want to anyone (including your mum).
You just get to want it period.
In this episode I am sharing some of the areas we can get tripped up with what we want (for example thinking that we 'need' it) and how to navigate these areas.
We explore loving your reasons, expecting other people not to get it & how what you want, wants you.
Ready to explore coaching with me? Book your free consult call here
This week we are doing something a little different...
I am sharing with you some behind the scenes of my life, my story, how I came to find coaching, why I became a coach & the impact it has had on me.
If you would like to experience coaching for yourself you can book a free consult call with me HERE.
In this conversation with my friend Tammy Helfich we talk about what it means to be unapologetically yourself.
We explore how to understand AND own who you are.
As Tammy says “Bringing your awesome to the world!”
We are talking self exploration - experimenting - honesty - having fun & what it all looks like.
Tammy shares so many gems with us & is such a wealth of knowledge in owning & accepting yourself & showing up unapologetically in your life.
The previous episode we recorded together is Bonus episode: A conversation with my friend Tammy Helfich - Life & Mindset
You can grab a copy of her new book Unapologetic over on Amazon
Connect with her on Instagram
Hang out with her on Facebook
Check out her website
And listen to her podcast INTENTIONAL LIFE
Go give Tammy so love y’all
In this episode I am sharing with you various ways to know if your self-confidence may need some work.
Some of the areas we explore include:
- self-trust
- making decisions
- seeking validation
- trying to control how other people think & feel about you
- not speaking up
As always I am sharing personal examples & experiences to demonstrate how this may be showing up in your own life.
I also talk about how I identified as confident & outwardly appeared this way, believing it on some level AND how this didn't always match how I felt on the inside...
Ready to explore coaching - book in for a free consult call here.
Are you greedy for the 'how'?
Do you find yourself wanting to know the how?
Or saying 'I don't know how'...
...When it comes to achieving your goals & doing things you haven't done before?
In this episode I am sharing with you exactly why knowing HOW does not make it easier.
And why the how is really learned & understood through the doing of it.
I am introducing you to the idea of WHO before HOW.
A more empowering approach to working towards the goals you have & growing your confidence in the process.
This is a super relatable episode no matter where you are at!
At the end of this episode I walk you through what it is like to have a coaching consultation with me & I answer some of the common questions & concerns I hear.
You can book your free 60 minute coaching consult call with me HERE.
The solution to being lonely ISN’T finding a partnerWe have all been in a situation with another person or a group of people where we felt alone. When they didn’t understand us when we felt disconnected or on the outside.
You can be with someone AND feel lonely.
In this episode I am sharing with you the 3 things I work on with my clients when they are experiencing loneliness:
- Feeling instead of avoiding or numbing the loneliness (how & what that looks like)
- Creating a loving relationship with yourself NOW (what that means)
- Exploring what you make it mean that you feel lonely & what else is true
LINKS MENTIONED:
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Join our POD SQUAD
Book in for a free consult call with Xena & explore coaching
Here’s what you can expect to learn from this event:
- What self-confidence is & how it’s different from confidence
- What gets in the way of confidence & the difference between men & women
- How to have you own back & start creating self-belief
- How to make decisions fo the future you want
- The importance of understanding your brains primal instincts (& how to work with them)
- How to be less of who you thought you were supposed to be & more of your authentic self
- How to stop people pleasing & putting others needs first
This training is being held on zoom this FRIDAY 10am NZT.
It will run for 1 hour with Q&A at the end
And don’t worry a replay will be sent out after if you can’t be there live or need to leave early.
Tickets are $22 and there is also a pay what you can option available for anyone who may not have the financial resources at this time.
Grab your spot for becoming SELF-confident: https://events.humanitix.com/becoming-self-confident
Our brains are like unsupervised toddlers running around with knives... they need direction & supervision & goals give us just this!
In this episode we are explore why setting goals helps us to grow our confidence & other reasons why we might likely want to do it.
We talk about HOW to set & achieve them
I share with you my simple 4 step process
And give you plenty of examples, trip & tools to takeaway & apply in your own life.
Plus I share a recent failure I experienced how much I grew my confidence in failing!
LINKS:
Come hang out on Instagram
Join our free Facebook group - POD SQUAD
Book in for a free coaching consultation
In this episode I am sharing lessons I have received from Louise Hay & her book You Can Heal Your Life.
We talk about:
~ The power of your thoughts & how our thoughts produce our feelings (I share my example of the self-hatred I was experiencing when I firs found her work)
~ The damage that is caused by the word 'should' & how it implies we are wrong or bad
~ How learning to love ourselves is the miracle cure & that it is not about vanity or being stuck-up
~ How blame is the surest way to stay in a problem & gives all our power away
LINKS:
> Listen to episode #11 Shoulding on yourself
> Work with Xena
> Join the free Facebook group POD SQUAD
Waiting to feel ready is a waste of time.
We never feel ready, we decide we are ready OR we decide we are willing to start.
In this episode I introduce you to a tool I have created called the wheel of willingness.
We explore how you can apply this in your life & stop putting off the dreams you have & the things you want.
You don't need more information, you don't need to do XYZ first, there will always be a million excuses & our brain would much rather feel comfortable.
This tool is a bridge that allows you to take imperfect action & figure it out as you go along.
Be sure to join our Confidence Made Easy POD SQUAD here!
Come hang out over on Instagram
And book a free consultation call here & let's explore working together
How much time do you spend thinking about your future self?
We spend plenty of time in the past & in the present...
But how often are you hanging out with you future self, the woman you want to become, the woman who has achieved the goals you want to achieve?
One of my favourite questions to ask is: What do you want your life to look like 12 month from now?
In this episode we are exploring ways to get clear on who we want to be in the future, what we want to do, achieve & become.
"Always be making decisions from the person you want to become AND be more committed to her than you are to your comfort today. "Connect on Instagram Come join our POD SQUAD (free Facebook community) Book a free coaching consultation
Procrastination, not doing the thing we need and or want to get done, drains our confidence because we aren't doing what we said we were going to do. We tend to beat ourselves up heavily for our lack of action.
Procrastination stems from one (or a mix) of the following:
Perfection** - wanting to get it right & fear of failing or doing it wrong.
Uncertainty, confusion or indecision - Not knowing where to start or what to do.
Seeking short term comfort* - Telling ourselves we deserve a break, we'll do it later or thinking I just don't feel like it.
You will always find a reason & an excuse to do do it - that part is easy & 100% normal.
'I don't feel like it' is not a good excuse - it is indulging in short term comfort over the long term reward. Every time you listen to it & indulge in it you push your dreams further away.
An earned rest feels 100x better than taking a break to avoid doing the thing we want to get done.
Listen to this episode to find out how to give procrastination the middle finger for good!
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In this episode we are exploring the 4 stages of confidence:
WTF <---> Courage <---> Competent <---> Confidence
On any given day & in any given week we can slide up & down this scale.
We can go from confident one day to being courageous the next (as I demonstrate with my own situation today).
We explore:
How to identify where you are on the scale
How to move up the scale
How to not judge yourself when you are not where you want to be
Here are the social links I refer to in this episode:
Instagram: xena.jones.coach
Facebook Page for Xena Jones Coaching
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A belief is simply a thought you have practiced a bunch of times & now think is true.
In this episode I am sharing ways to challenge any beliefs you have the might not be serving you (limiting beliefs or beliefs that just make you feel crappy).
And I am giving you a bunch of confidence producing beliefs form my life that you can borrow, edit, alter & mix into your own life.
I offer you two powerful questions to explore what you want to believe AND talk about how to bridge the gap between what you believe now & what you want to believe (using thought ladders).
We touch on the self-coaching model that I use with my clients & the basics of CBT.
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And if you are ready to explore coaching & apply this in your life, then schedule your free consult call HERE.
In this episode I am sharing about my own personal experience with anxiety.
I am giving you the process I take myself & my clients through when we have anxiety.
And demonstrating exactly how to apply this in your own life.
We explore how to create a relationship with anxiety instead of trying to shove it in the nearest cupboard or ignore it all together. And how when we do it begins to dissipate so much quicker...
Be sure to join the Confidence Made Easy Pod Squad where you can access the feeling your feelings worksheet that compliments this episode nicely!
And if you want to explore coaching pop over to my website & schedule your free consult call.
Jealousy stems from believing: If we had what they have we’d be happier
It’s what we make it mean when someone else does or has something we want, that is what makes it feel so sh*tty
Jealousy is simply a desire - showing you want you want.
The only thing stopping you from getting what you want is believing that you can’t have it.
Listen to this episode to hear about my own personal experiences with jealousy.
And at the end I give you 5 questions to use to coach yourself through the jealousy you experience in your life.
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Why do we want to get outside our comfort zone?
1 - Everything we want is on the other side of discomfort otherwise we would already have it
2 - Getting outside of our comfort zone grows our confidence
3 - In doing so we increase our ability, willingness & capacity to feel discomfort - We get more comfortable being uncomfortable. The more we do it the easier it gets.
In this episode we are exploring why we avoid it, how to embrace it & I give you a few ways you can begin getting outside of your comfort zone TODAY.
Plus I have filled this episode with personal stories to explore & explain (buckle up, you're in for a treat!)
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I’m saying be good selfish, not bad selfish.
Here’s what that looks like: Put your oxygen mask on first, then help others.
Bad selfish would be stealing the mask of the person next to you (aka being an asshole)
Ultimately when it comes down to it - be concerned with yourself, seek your own pleasure & focus on your own wellbeing. THIS IS BASIC SELF-CARESelfish = selfcare.
Show yourself & the world that you matter
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Other people love to offer us their opinions, their two cents worth.
In this episode we are diving into why this can affect us so much
And I am giving you my favourite & super powerful tool to use when this happens in your life.
As always I show you how to apply it & share wth you some real life examples.
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When babies are born into the world we don’t seperate them into categories of ‘good enough’ & ‘not good enough’...NO!
Those tiny humans are born into the world 100% good enough, 100% worthy & deserving of all the good in the world.
At what point did we begin to question our value, our worth, our good-enoughness?
In this episode I want to show you just how valuable you are & give you some tips & tools to help you see & appreciate that value.
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- Worrying about what others think
- People pleasing
- Perfectionism
- The words “I should…’
In this episode we are diving into each of these confidence killers & how they may be showing up in your life.
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Decisions are what have created the life we have today.
Decisions are what will create the life you have in the future.
Our decisions are powerful.
If you’re not happy with your life - make some different decisions. Now when I say that & when I say make more decisions, what I mean is make more conscious decisions. See the majority of the decisions we make are unconscious, we don’t even realise we are making them or actioning them.
Everything around you is your decision.
You have power & control over your life.
What are you going to do with it?
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I don’t want to fit in. I want to be myself.
And let me tell you why…
All of the people I most admire & look up to in this world - don’t fit in, they stand out by being themselves.
In this episode we are exploring:
- What it looks like to fit in
- 3 reasons why you want to stand out
- What it looks like to be yourself & stand out
Ready to book your free coaching exploration session & see what all the fuss is about? Let's do it! FIND A TIME HERE
We all have one. That inner btch. The inner asshle who we would rather not acknowledge…
That part of us that judges ourselves & other people.
That part of us who tells us:
'We can’t do that.'
'We’re going to f*ck it up.'
'Give up now & stop while you’re ahead.'
'You are going to be single forever, get used to it.'
'You suck.'
I’m not going to sugar cote this - This inner assh*le is a part of you. It is a part of who you are. You’re not going to wake up one morning & she’s gone - that would be like waking up to find you lost a leg in your sleep… (it ain't happening)
In this episode I am sharing with you the 3 things you need to know about your inner asshle in order to begin loving her.
And I talk about the two emotions, two feelings that are the cure to an out of control inner asshle.
And I leave you with two powerful questions to help you begin to love & accept this part of yourself.
Ready to explore what it will be like to have me as your life coach? Book a free coaching exploration call HERE & lets see how your life could change.
You are f*king brilliant.
You are 100% whole, worthy, enough and complete. You have nothing to prove.
In this weeks episode we are talking about OWNING IT.
The more you love yourself the better your life will be period.
I'm sharing ways in which you can begin to love yourself more & own who you are without trying to beat yourself up & change who you are.
We talk about affirmations - how & when to use them & what to try if they aren't working for you.
AND in this episode I am giving you a homework task (so fun)! Start your own file of fantastic sht and show yourself just how brilliant you really are. THIS is a powerful thing to do & one that will really help you to begin owning it & believing deeply in yourself.
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Ready to explore coaching? Visit my webiste & book in for your free consult call, let's do it!
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Convention = a way in which something is usually done.
Conventional is doing things the way in which others are doing them, the way in which the masses are, society implies you should… the ‘norm’
And I am here to say throw that shit out the fucking window.
And here’s why:
- Doing anything simply because you think you should is never a good reason - It just feels like sh*t
- Just because it works for others doesn’t mean it's what you want or what is going to make you happy. They key here is what YOU WANT. Not what others want for you…
In this episode I am sharing stories from my own life displaying how this has shown up & continues to show up, questions I ask myself and how I make decisions & do things the 'not so conventional way' (& why I am so much happier as a result!)
For more info & to book a free coaching consultation visit: xenajones.com
One habit that has changed my life is journaling (aka writing sh*t down)In this episode I am telling you why it has been so life changing for me, how I do it, when I do it... all the things!
AND I am sharing with you a HUGE range of ways you can incorporate this into your own life too with plenty of prompts you can use.
Journalling creates self awareness.
And awareness is the first step in creating change.
When I first came to the world of personal development I wasn’t aware I was in a pit of self-loathing.
Once I was blatantly aware of it, only then was I able to make a decision to change it.
Here is a link to the 50 journal prompts I mention at the ned of this episode (free and no email required!): https://www.xenajones.com/journal-prompts
For more info & to schedule a free coaching consultation visit my website: xenajones.com
I’m a continually recovering perfectionist who fears doing it wrong & strives to do it right.
In this episode I am sharing some of the ways this shows up in my own life & in the lives of my clients.
We explore the link between perfection, people pleasing & worrying about what others think...
I am sharing with you the 7 ways I am maintaining my recovery status - ways you can fck up perfectionism in your life.
" Courage has no room for perfection & I want to live a bold & courageous life."*
I'm sharing a book that helped me to better understand the role of perfectionism in society. AND I leave you with a way to challenge your own thinking around there even being a right or wrong way...
For more info & to schedule a free coaching consultation visit my website: xenajones.com
I asked one of my past clients and now friend, Val Chaney, to come on the podcast today & share her experience of what it's like to be coached and how she was able to go from stuck to thriving...
During our chat you'll hear just how hard she was on herself, how she was beating herself up & continuously feeling stuck.
You will hear how she has really changed her own life & become incredibly happy & confident in the process. Val was able to take charge of the ideas she had & start bringing her dreams to life by using the tools such as having your own back, redefining failure & getting clear on who her futures self is & where she is going.
Val is a beautiful example of the power of self discovery. She shares exactly what it means & how it looks to have her own back & talks about the future she is now in the process of creating & how she has made that happen.
Val is a true example of what is possible. From stuck to thriving! And she is sharing all the ins and outs with you here and plenty of great takeaways!
If you would like to connect with Val here are the links to her two businesses:
Guided day trips to her local national parks -
Leaving from Cumberland, Maryland and touring Shenandoah national Park near Luray, Virginia & Harpers Ferry national historical Park in Harpers Ferry, West Virginia.
These parks are within an hour and a half drive from Baltimore Maryland and Washington DC.
15 passenger van tours and private tours are available from summer through fall. Her first tour of Shenandoah national Park will be Monday June 28!
Contact her here: TheMountainsareCallingLLC@gmail.com
Life Coaching in Nurture with Val -
Taking clients for a 3 month options in surrounding areas of Cumberland, Maryland. Walk & talk it out in nature! Outdoor Options available on scenic walking trail on the Chesapeake & Ohio Canal National Historic Park.
Contact her here: NatureLifeCoachVal@gmail.com
For more information on Coaching with Xena, to get on the email list mentioned in this episode and to book in for your free consultation session simply visit: xenajones.com
I was single for 10 years before I finally decided to date again.
I was busy working on me, or so I said...
There was truth in that AND I was also trying to rid myself of my own insecurities, doubts & fears so that I would then feel ready.
In this episode I am sharing with you the 4 things that stand out to me as the reason that I found someone to share my life with and how I created my own confidence to finally get outside my comfort zone & make it happen.
I share the story of my very first date after 10 years and the hilarious ending and my lessons learned.
I talk about the difference in energy between thinking we 'need' someone in our lives, versus simply wanting to share our life with someone.
Check out my website xenajones.com for more info & to find out how to work with me.
Are you should-on on yourself?
Are you hearing yourself say things like...
I should have said this
I should be further along
I should have figured this out
I should really get that sorted
Should is a word that never results in feeling good.
In fact it leads to feelings of guilt & shame.
We are effectively telling ourselves we are bad or wrong because we aren't...
And it is a huge confidence killer :(
In this episode I am sharing some of my recent experiences of should-ing on myself
And how I recommend dealing with your pile of shoulds.
And when you're ready to explore coaching you can book your free consult call with me here: xenajones.com/work-with-me
I made a decision last week that has been on my mind for a while. It wasn't easy. I had plenty of fears, doubts & what if's come up and in this episode I am sharing all of it with you.
We talk about making decisions, what holds us back & I share with you all the 5 step process I use when it comes to making decisions.
Here is some of the topics we are diving into:
The reason we are afraid of making a decision is because we are afraid of experiencing regret.
There are no wrong decisions only results we don't want.
Having your own back is crucial when it comes to making decisions & taking action.
Not making a decision is a decision NOT to do it, not to take action & move forward.
Making decisions based on the future you want & not for your comfort today
Ready to explore coaching with me? Book a free consult call HERE.
Over the past year my self-confidence has grown significantly, and one of the things I really attribute to this is embracing who I am.
The more me I am the more I enjoy myself & my life.
When I try to be someone I think I should be, I edit and alter myself & the less I enjoy being myself & living the life I have…
The more I embrace who I am without trying to change myself the more my confidence grows. The more I embrace who I am the more success I create in my personal life & in my business.
In this episode I am sharing examples of how this has shown up in my life and how you can begin to embrace for of who you.
Here is a link to the 50 journal prompts I mention during this episode.
And when you're ready to explore having me as your Life Coach you can book your free consult call HERE.
Do you worry about what other people think? Do you find yourself doing & saying certain things to get people to like you? Or perhaps editing & altering yourself in the hopes that they will like you?
You are not alone my friend and this episode is for you!
We spend so much time thinking about & worrying other peoples opinions. We do so much to try and control other peoples opinions of us.
We even pretend and lie to get them to like us. But we can’t control other peoples minds.
'You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.'
Listen to this episode and hear about how other peoples opinions are formed & how to stop worrying about it & finally stop giving a fk what other people think of you.
At the end of this episode I am giving you 6 journal prompts to take this work even deeper.
And when you're ready to take this work to the next level, book your free 60 minute call with me by visiting my website here: xenajones.com**
This is such a fun treat to be able to share with you all today!
My friend, colleague & fellow Life Coach, Tammy Helfich is an absolute badass in her life & business and we got together to talk about some of our own personal obstacles & how we have overcome them.
Tammy & I spent the last 6 months together in the Confident Coaches Mastermind with Amy Latta & we have both experienced a lot of growth during this time.
In this episode we talk about doing things the right way, comparing ourselves to others, beating ourselves up and so much more...
You can connect with Tammy on her website and Instagram and be sure to go check out her podcast too, Intentional Life with Tammy Helfrich .
And if you want to connect with me be sure to visit my website xenajones.com and you can book in for a free consult call with me HERE.
Everything we want is on the other side of discomfort otherwise we would already have it.
Think about it for a minute - what is it that you most want & why is it that you don't have it?
for example if you want to make more money it will require you to get outside your comfort zone in order to do it & it's easier to avoid doing that...
In this episode I am talking about my current experecine smack bang in the middle of discomfort & the tools I am using to navigate my way through it.
We explore why we either do or dont want to get outside our comfort zones & the benefits of both sides.
As always I am giving you actionable tips & tools to use in your own life & at the end I walk you briefly though how to actually feel & process an emotion (instead of binging Netflix & eating a packet of chocolate biscuits only to feel worse later!)...
Ready to see what it is like to have your own coach? Visit xenajones.com & book in for your free consult call.
In this episode we are diving into what it really means to have your own back.
Just like we have friends and loved ones who are there for us no matter what, we can also learn to do this for ourselves.
AND in learning to do this it will increase our self-confidence and also feel pretty fcking amazing!
Here is some of the goodness we explore this episode...
What does having your own back mean to you?
Why do you want to have your own back? (what is the benefit of doing this?)
What might change in your life if you were to have your own back? For more info & to find out how we can work together check out my website: xenajones.com*
Today is a bonus treat on the back of our last episode #5 - Why you're doubting yourself & not taking action...
Are you ready to drop the doubt and start taking action?
SELF-DOUBT is the biggest killer of our confidence and it stops us from going after & getting what it is we really want.
SELF-DOUBT is what we give into when we quit OR simply dip our toe in the water & never start
SELF-DOUBT stops us from taking the action we want to take, the action we know we need to take
Doubt comes from a thought you are thinking.
Thinking: I don’t know that I have what it takes
Feeling: Doubt
Doing: Don’t take action, hesitate, put it off, avoid, procrastinate, spin in confusion, don’t make decisions, don’t take steps forward or make progress, dip toe in...
Listen to this episode to find out the solution to dropping the doubt & taking action TODAY!
A big part of the reason I was single for more than 10 years is due to self-doubt
I doubted I would meet anyone, that there was anyone suited to me, I didn’t think I was ready, I thought I needed to keep working on me, I thought it wold be to hard, that I needed to lose weight first, I was often thinking I can’t do that and don’t know where to start…
All of those thoughts I was having were causing me to feel so much self-doubt.
And when I felt that way I put it off, I hesitated, avoided it, convinced myself I wasn’t ready, I did other things in stead. And as a result I put it off for more than 10 years…
In this episode we are exploring where our self-doubt comes from & why when we feel it we don't take much if any action at all AND how to begin switching from doubt to courage & confidence!
You'll find more info & ways to work with me over here: xenajones.com
Ever wonder why your brain can be such an asshole sometimes? Or why it feels like you might have a split personality? Yeah.. You are not alone my friend and today we are diving deep into this.
Our brains love to go to the worst case scenarios, catastrophes and spend plenty of time overthinking...
We are naturally self-critical and we are wired for survival. That means our brains will stop at nothing to avoid pain, seek pleasure & use minimal effort to conserve our energy.
In this episode I am sharing examples from my own life, how this might show up for you and how to not make this mean anything has gone wrong.
Courage is brave & noble but let's be honest it feels like sh*t when you're doing it.
Courage is getting outside your comfort zoneCourage is knowing you can’t control the outcome & showing up anyway
Courage is a willingness to get messy & fall on your face
Courage is being willing to fail & to get up & do it all over again.
And we don’t create confidence without first being courageous. We can't skip over this part...
Ready to stalk my website & see how else I can help you? You'll find me here: xenajones.com
There are 2 things that we often overlook when it comes to doing something we have never done before.
Two steps that come before taking any action. These steps help us to build a strong foundation that ensures we are successful in what we set out to do...
Those steps are:
1. Wanting it, creating the desire for it
2. Believing it is possible for us to do it
In this episode I am sharing real life examples of you from my own life AND I am showing you exactly how this plays out in the process of doing something we have never done before.
Find out more info over at xenajones.com
If I gave you a magic pill that guaranteed you would succeed at anything you did - what would you do?
If you were guaranteed not to fail what would you do?
You would be unstoppable…
THIS is self-confidence.
And the more self confidence we have the more amazing our lives are.
In this episode we are explore the 2 types of confidence and where our confidence comes from.
Be sure to visit xenajones.com to connect & get more info.