Remodel Parenting: Recent Episodes
Deena Shelton PhD, LPC-S
How many times have you wished your kid came with a manual? When we are unsure as parents, there are so many conflicting opinions and it is overwhelming to know which way is best. Even when we’re intentional, situations change which requires us be flexible and remodel our styles to meet the needs of our families. I created this podcast to share principles and strategies I have used in counseling and education to help parents prioritize authenticity, connection, and purpose with their kids. Welcome to Remodel Parenting.
In an outcomes-based world, it is easy to forget how much of our growth is developmental. Having grace and patience for our children’s development can be tough, but it is even harder to have grace and patience for our own development. All humans develop throughout their lives, and aspects of development influence our experiences. In this episode, we explore all aspects of development from ages 11-18.
In an outcomes-based world, it is easy to forget how much of our growth is developmental. Having grace and patience for our children’s development can be tough, but it is even harder to have grace and patience for our own development. All humans develop throughout their lives, and aspects of development influence our experiences. In this episode, we explore all aspects of development from ages 6-11.
In an outcomes-based world, it is easy to forget how much of our growth is developmental. Having grace and patience for our children’s development can be tough, but it is even harder to have grace and patience for our own development. All humans develop throughout their lives, and aspects of development influence our experiences. In this episode, we explore all aspects of development from ages 2-6.
In an outcomes-based world, it is easy to forget how much of our growth is developmental. Having grace and patience for our children’s development can be tough, but it is even harder to have grace and patience for our own development. All humans develop throughout their lives, and aspects of development influence our experiences. In this episode, we explore all aspects of development in the first two years.
In an outcomes-based world, it is easy to forget how much of our growth is developmental. Having grace and patience for our children’s development can be tough, but it is even harder to have grace and patience for our own development. All humans develop throughout their lives, and aspects of development influence our experiences. In this episode, learn about the groundwork for a developmental lens and the anchoring concepts for developmental stages.
In the early 2000s, Google launched Project Oxygen to study what made their best leaders the best. The findings from ongoing research are valuable to any company, but have excellent application for families, too. This episode covers the principles of good communication and strong decision-making.
In the early 2000s, Google launched Project Oxygen to study what made their best leaders the best. The findings from ongoing research are valuable to any company, but have excellent application for families, too. This episode covers the principles of creating a supportive environment, collaboration, and genuine concern for others.
In the early 2000s, Google launched Project Oxygen to study what made their best leaders the best. The findings from ongoing research are valuable to any company, but have excellent application for families, too. This episode covers the principles of productivity, results-orientation, and technical skills for advice.
In the early 2000s, Google launched Project Oxygen to study what made their best leaders the best. The findings from ongoing research are valuable to any company, but have excellent application for families, too. This episode covers the principles of developed coaching skills and empowering without micromanaging.
In the early 2000s, Google launched Project Oxygen to study what made their best leaders the best. The findings from ongoing research are valuable to any company, but have excellent application for families, too. This episode covers the principles of clear vision, strategy, and ongoing feedback.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will explore the influence of hurrying on helping and consider how that influences our interactions with others.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, I will unpack the renowned Stanford Prison Experiment and implications we can draw from it for our parenting toolbox.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will unpack one of the most influential studies on the effects of racism and prejudice that was developed by a teacher in a third-grade classroom in the late 1960s.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, I will discuss selective attention and how it can influence parenting. To watch the video mentioned in the episode, visit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJG698U2Mvo.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will explore the nature of attachment and how comfort and connection influence human development.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will uncover truths about the value of delayed gratification and how to increase our capacity to practice and teach it to our children.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will explore our tendency to make assumptions about others’ beliefs and decisions based on our own and how that can influence our parenting experience.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will use a study on conformity to explore more of our susceptibility to the influence of others on our own decision-making.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will explore a famous study on obedience and authority and how the findings can influence our children and us as parents.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, I discuss modeled behaviors and aggression as we understand from the Bobo Doll.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will explore Seligman’s research on learned helplessness.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, we will learn of Little Albert and conditioned fear.
There are some pretty famous research studies from the field of psychology that are fascinating to explore and provide foundational principles on which we base many aspects of our knowledge of humans today. In this series, I will explain some of those early research studies and how we can glean practical truths to apply to parenting. In this episode, I start with Pavlov’s dogs, one of the earliest studies that taught us about learning and conditioning.
While many things contribute to addictive behaviors and tendencies, there are traits and experiences that increase the likelihood that someone may struggle with addiction in the future. Parents can build resilience in their children before these issues become a problem if they know what to look for and how to interact. In this episode, I wrap up the series with practical guidance on guiding our kids through difficult change and building resilience for healthy life processes.
While many things contribute to addictive behaviors and tendencies, there are traits and experiences that increase the likelihood that someone may struggle with addiction in the future. Parents can build resilience in their children before these issues become a problem if they know what to look for and how to interact. In this episode, I unpack the need for us to reframe rules as markers for self-management and maturity rather than a passing childhood experience.
While many things contribute to addictive behaviors and tendencies, there are traits and experiences that increase the likelihood that someone may struggle with addiction in the future. Parents can build resilience in their children before these issues become a problem if they know what to look for and how to interact. In this episode, I define integration and explain how the ability to balance our positive and negative emotions provides us with skills to navigate difficult life situations.
While many things contribute to addictive behaviors and tendencies, there are traits and experiences that increase the likelihood that someone may struggle with addiction in the future. Parents can build resilience in their children before these issues become a problem if they know what to look for and how to interact. In this episode, I address failure and disappointment as necessary experiences for healthy development.
While many things contribute to addictive behaviors and tendencies, there are traits and experiences that increase the likelihood that someone may struggle with addiction in the future. Parents can build resilience in their children before these issues become a problem if they know what to look for and how to interact. In this episode, I cover the scope of the addiction problem and traits that contribute to longer-lasting problems and lay the foundation for preventative measures.
Most parents agree that kids need limits on their use of technology but knowing when and how much usage is healthy can be difficult. This series is designed to explore some of the questions I have had parents ask over the years about technology and their children. In this episode, I discuss ways to talk to kids about the rules of technology before and after access to it.
Most parents agree that kids need limits on their use of technology but knowing when and how much usage is healthy can be difficult. This series is designed to explore some of the questions I have had parents ask over the years about technology and their children. In this episode, I provide answers to questions about technology and practical advice for protecting kids.
Most parents agree that kids need limits on their use of technology but knowing when and how much usage is healthy can be difficult. This series is designed to explore some of the questions I have had parents ask over the years about technology and their children. In this episode, I offer answers to some practical questions like when kids need access and how to monitor it.
Most parents agree that kids need limits on their use of technology but knowing when and how much usage is healthy can be difficult. This series is designed to explore some of the questions I have had parents ask over the years about technology and their children. In this episode, I will cover some of the research and information that informs the need for boundaries and intentionality with technology access.
We all want our kids to believe in themselves and their abilities to set goals, work hard, and reach them. Self-esteem is vital to that process but knowing how to build self-esteem in our children without inflating their egos can seem like a daunting process. This episode provides clarity in the need for accurate feedback and honesty (even with it is tough) in our interactions without children for effective self-esteem to grow.
We all want our kids to believe in themselves and their abilities to set goals, work hard, and reach them. Self-esteem is vital to that process but knowing how to build self-esteem in our children without inflating their egos can seem like a daunting process. This episode explores the topics of acceptance and connection between adults and children as vital to self-esteem and self-worth.
We all want our kids to believe in themselves and their abilities to set goals, work hard, and reach them. Self-esteem is vital to that process but knowing how to build self-esteem in our children without inflating their egos can seem like a daunting process. This episode explores the concept with accurate definitions and provides a balanced the approach to building kids up without creating entitlement.
Most people say they understand forgiveness, but struggle to put into words what it is and how to do it. Forgiveness is more than an aftermath recognition of getting past hurts. It is the key to moving forward when we have been wronged. In this episode, we will explore reconciliation and consider the negative effects of long-term unforgiveness and bitterness including how to help kids (and ourselves) move beyond those experiences.
Most people say they understand forgiveness, but struggle to put into words what it is and how to do it. Forgiveness is more than an aftermath recognition of getting over a wrongdoing. It is the key to moving forward when we have been wronged. In this episode, we will explore specific steps to receive forgiveness and practical skills for teaching kids to use them early.
Most people say they understand forgiveness, but struggle to put into words what it is and how to do it. Forgiveness is more than an aftermath recognition of getting past hurts. It is the key to moving forward when we have been wronged. In this episode, we will explore specific steps to use to forgive others and practical skills for teaching kids to use them early.
Most people say they understand forgiveness, but struggle to put into words what it is and how to do it. Forgiveness is more than an aftermath recognition of getting past hurts. It is the key to moving forward when we have been wronged. In this episode, we will explore accurate and helpful definitions of forgiveness and challenge definitions that are harmful to the process.
We have been working on Remodel Parenting for over fourteen months, have released 65 episodes, and have logged more than 9000 listens across all episodes. In this episode, I am discussing the importance of rest and planning for good things. As such, we are excited about upcoming series and topics, but we are taking a break during the last few months of 2021 to rest and plan for next year. Listen to this episode for suggested series to catch or catch again that may be helpful as you prepare for the holiday season!
Everyone needs to be in healthy relationships, but it can be a struggle to find and maintain them. As parents, we can identify things in our own lives that create struggle in relationships, and we want to help our kids avoid the same types of issues. In this series, we are exploring topics and skills that parents can use to prepare their children for a lifetime of healthy interactions with others. In this episode, we finish the series by discussing the need to cultivate joy and humor in the midst of all parts of life, especially hard seasons of learning and growing.
Everyone needs to be in healthy relationships, but it can be a struggle to find and maintain them. As parents, we can identify things in our own lives that create struggle in relationships, and we want to help our kids avoid the same types of issues. In this series, we are exploring topics and skills that parents can use to prepare their children for a lifetime of healthy interactions with others. In this episode, we explore skills that produce the ability to make values-based decisions and stick with them.
Everyone needs to be in healthy relationships, but it can be a struggle to find and maintain them. As parents, we can identify things in our own lives that create struggle in relationships, and we want to help our kids avoid the same types of issues. In this series, we are exploring topics and skills that parents can use to prepare their children for a lifetime of healthy interactions with others. In this episode, we explore specific skills for connecting and how we can teach kids how to use them earlier in life.
Everyone needs to be in healthy relationships, but it can be a struggle to find and maintain them. As parents, we can identify things in our own lives that create struggle in relationships, and we want to help our kids avoid the same types of issues. In this series, we are exploring topics and skills that parents can use to prepare their children for a lifetime of healthy interactions with others. In this episode, we explore the need for identity development as a precursor to connecting with others.
Everyone needs to be in healthy relationships, but it can be a struggle to find and maintain them. As parents, we can identify things in our own lives that create struggle in relationships, and we want to help our kids avoid the same types of issues. In this series, we are exploring topics and skills that parents can use to prepare their children for a lifetime of healthy interactions with others. In this episode, I compare the concept of "a relationship" to the behavior of healthy relating and share specific ways our relationships influence our kids.
It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking we need to help our kids avoid stress in their lives. Stress is a normal part of life and our mindset about stress has significant implications on our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. In this episode, we will break down specific skills and interventions for parents to use to help their kids work through stressful circumstances.
It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking we need to help our kids avoid stress in their lives. Stress is a normal part of life and our mindset about stress has significant implications on our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. In this episode, we will review developmental stages and how overcoming issues in each stage leads to healthy adulthood.
It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking we need to help our kids avoid stress in their lives. Stress is a normal part of life and our mindset about stress has significant implications on our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. In this episode, the parent perspective of stress takes center stage as highly influential on our kids’ stress experiences.
It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking we need to help our kids avoid stress in their lives. Stress is a normal part of life and our mindset about stress has significant implications on our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. In this episode, we will explore how an attempt to make life stress-free for kids can backfire in detrimental ways.
Humans are wired for connection, and we need to feel connected to others to function well in all areas of our lives. Though the drive for connection is innate, the skills for building healthy connections are not. People learn how to connect through their relationships with others, and it all starts in childhood. As parents, we can only teach the skills we know. In this episode, I outline the skills it takes to create and maintain healthy connections.
Humans are wired for connection, and we need to feel connected to others to function well in all areas of our lives. Though the drive for connection is innate, the skills for building healthy connections are not. People learn how to connect through their relationships with others, and it all starts in childhood. As parents, we can only teach the skills we know. In this episode, I share how connection requires the ability to be fully present with others.
Humans are wired for connection, and we need to feel connected to others to function well in all areas of our lives. Though the drive for connection is innate, the skills for building healthy connections are not. People learn how to connect through their relationships with others, and it all starts in childhood. As parents, we can only teach the skills we know. In this episode, I address the damage of disconnection and lay the foundation for why intentional connection matters.
Throughout my career working with couples and families, I have helped many people conceptualize how to talk about intimacy, connection, and sex with their children. It is such a big topic that is a struggle for most parents in some way or another—whether it is concern about doing it right or feeling terrified and wanting to avoid it. I built this series to offer some guidance in how to approach these topics beyond just the “birds and the bees.” In the final episode of this series, I shift the discussion to include the goal of preparing our children for healthy relationships when they are adults and give practical guidance in these to emphasize setting your kids up for success.
Throughout my career working with couples and families, I have helped many people conceptualize how to talk about intimacy, connection, and sex with their children. It is such a big topic that is a struggle for most parents in some way or another—whether it is concern about doing it right or feeling terrified and wanting to avoid it. I built this series to offer some guidance in how to approach these topics beyond just the “birds and the bees.” In this episode, I discuss a mindset shift from just content to how we engage with kids while we are having these conversations.
Throughout my career working with couples and families, I have helped many people conceptualize how to talk about intimacy, connection, and sex with their children. It is such a big topic that is a struggle for most parents in some way or another—whether it is concern about doing it right or feeling terrified and wanting to avoid it. I built this series to offer some guidance in how to approach these topics beyond just the “birds and the bees.” In this episode, I explain topics that I think are vital for parents to discuss with their children.
Throughout my career working with couples and families, I have helped many people conceptualize how to talk about intimacy, connection, and sex with their children. It is such a big topic that is a struggle for most parents in some way or another—whether it is concern about doing it right or feeling terrified and wanting to avoid it. I built this series to offer some guidance in how to approach these topics beyond just the “birds and the bees.” In this episode, I aim to help parents understand how to approach these topics from a developmental perspective and teach their children to do the same.
Throughout my career working with couples and families, I have helped many people conceptualize how to talk about intimacy, connection, and sex with their children. It is such a big topic that is a struggle for most parents in some way or another—whether it is concern about doing it right or feeling terrified and wanting to avoid it. I built this series to offer some guidance in how to approach these topics beyond just the “birds and the bees.” In this episode, I lay the groundwork of “the talk” and broadening it from an exchange of information to setting the tone of an added connective conversation throughout a child’s development.
Few aspects of parenting are as difficult as discipline because so many factors influence how effective our discipline processes are. The good news is that there are skills and mindsets that really help us as we map out the best way to help our kids grow and change. In this episode, we will explore practical ways to teach goal setting and strategizing to help our kids take ownership of their personal growth and discipline processes.
Few aspects of parenting are as difficult as discipline because so many factors influence how effective our discipline processes are. The good news is that there are skills and mindsets that really help us as we map out the best way to help our kids grow and change. In this episode, we are talking about one of the most important factors in long-term growth through discipline—connecting emotionally with our kids in tough times.
Few aspects of parenting are as difficult as discipline because so many factors influence how effective our discipline processes are. The good news is that there are skills and mindsets that really help us as we map out the best way to help our kids grow and change. In this episode, we will explore how to help kids see the bigger picture of discipline so that we are sharing language and goals beyond individual discipline interactions.
Few aspects of parenting are as difficult as discipline because so many factors influence how effective our discipline processes are. The good news is that there are skills and mindsets that really help us as we map out the best way to help our kids grow and change. In this episode, we will discuss how to lens out to see the bigger picture of discipline processes and how it is helpful in our role as parents.
Few aspects of parenting are as difficult as discipline because so many factors influence how effective our discipline processes are. The good news is that there are skills and mindsets that really help us as we map out the best way to help our kids grow and change. In this episode, we will discuss parenting styles and how they influence our kids’ outcomes and set the stage for skill growth in the rest of the series.
Self-talk is a hidden system inside of us that guides more than we realize related to our mental health and parenting styles. Since no one else can hear the things we say to ourselves, addressing and recognizing unhealthy self-talk patterns is an individual experience and path. I share practical ways to understand and reframe your self-talk in this three-part series. In this episode, we will review practical steps to changing self-talk when it is not serving to help us grow and thrive.
Self-talk is a hidden system inside of us that guides more than we realize related to our mental health and parenting styles. Since no one else can hear the things we say to ourselves, addressing and recognizing unhealthy self-talk patterns is an individual experience and path. I share practical ways to understand and reframe your self-talk in this three-part series. In this episode, I will break down the concept of the inner process of self-talk and help guide you in taking stock of what your current situation is to prepare for change.
Self-talk is a hidden system inside of us that guides more than we realize related to our mental health and parenting styles. Since no one else can hear the things we say to ourselves, addressing and recognizing unhealthy self-talk patterns is an individual experience and path. I share practical ways to understand and reframe your self-talk in this three-part series. In this episode, we will explore the concept of the good self vs. the loved self and how that often lays a foundation for our self-talk practices.
As parents, it is a normal process for us to determine our success by how we see our kids’ outcomes. Are their behaviors where we want to see them? Are they staying out of trouble? Are they being good people? But when our kids’ progress is not going how we want it to, it can turn into a shame storm as parents and rock us emotionally. In this two-part series, I invite parents to reconsider their measurements of progress by focusing on the process and realizing the outcomes that occur as a result.
As parents, it is a normal process for us to determine our success by how we see our kids’ outcomes. Are their behaviors where we want to see them? Are they staying out of trouble? Are they being good people? But when our kids’ progress is not going how we want it to, it can turn into a shame storm as parents and rock us emotionally. In this two-part series, I invite parents to reconsider their measurements of progress by focusing on the process and realizing the outcomes that occur as a result.
Conflict is a natural part of relationships but can lead to discord and fighting if not handled well. The purpose of this series is to help listeners understand conflict and build real skills for seeing resolution. In this episode, we will explore skills that help support following healthy steps to conflict resolution.
Conflict is a natural part of relationships but can lead to discord and fighting if not handled well. The purpose of this series is to help listeners understand conflict and build real skills for seeing resolution. In this episode, we will break down practical steps to follow for seeing conflicts.
Conflict is a natural part of relationships but can lead to discord and fighting if not handled well. The purpose of this series is to help listeners understand conflict and build real skills for seeing resolution. In this episode, we will reframe conflict and discuss the right mindset to use when approaching problem-solving.
We all want to foster healthy communication in our families, but there are things that get in the way. Even when we are working to practice good communication skills, patterns of negative responses to hard conversations can get in the way of our goals. In this episode, we will focus on how to address stonewalling.
We all want to foster healthy communication in our families, but there are things that get in the way. Even when we are working to practice good communication skills, patterns of negative responses to hard conversations can get in the way of our goals. In this episode, we will focus on how to address defensiveness.
We all want to foster healthy communication in our families, but there are things that get in the way. Even when we are working to practice good communication skills, patterns of negative responses to hard conversations can get in the way of our goals. In this episode, we will focus on how to address contempt.
We all want to foster healthy communication in our families, but there are things that get in the way. Even when we are working to practice good communication skills, patterns of negative responses to hard conversations can get in the way of our goals. In this episode, we will focus on how to address criticism and complaining.
We all want to foster healthy communication in our families, but there are things that get in the way. Even when we are working to practice good communication skills, patterns of negative responses to hard conversations can get in the way of our goals. In this episode, we dive into Gottman’s four horsemen – communication patterns that we know damage relationships and discuss how kids’ cognitive development influences how they learn communication patterns.
We live in a culture that tells us that we have to make sure we are doing it all right—as parents, we have to make the right choices, be able to prioritize every choice as most important and look ahead to ensure the best outcomes for our kids. It just isn’t possible. How do we avoid the trap of that mindset and reframe what makes us effective as parents? In this episode, I finish the series by discussing a shift in how we measure our success as parents.
We live in a culture that tells us that we have to make sure we are doing it all right—as parents, we have to make the right choices, be able to prioritize every choice as most important and look ahead to ensure the best outcomes for our kids. It just isn’t possible. How do we avoid the trap of that mindset and reframe what makes us effective as parents? In this episode, I discuss the cultural pressure to be certain and how to push back with intentionality in who we listen to and how we parent.
We live in a culture that tells us that we have to make sure we are doing it all right—as parents, we have to make the right choices, be able to prioritize every choice as most important and look ahead to ensure the best outcomes for our kids. It just isn’t possible. How do we avoid the trap of that mindset and reframe what makes us effective as parents? In this episode, I help reframe parents as people and challenge the myth of the perfect parent.
I hear parents frequently claim that their biggest goal is to raise their children to be decent adults who contribute to the world. No parent sets out to raise the next generation of Internet trolls who spend significant amounts of time viewing and criticizing others’ work and investment. This series will explore some of the themes I believe help parents raise kids to be aware of and considerate of those around them, turning them into good family and community citizens. In this episode, close the series with tools and tips to build children who do not become easily offended adults, but who know how to answer calls to action.
I hear parents frequently claim that their biggest goal is to raise their children to be decent adults who contribute to the world. No parent sets out to raise the next generation of Internet trolls who spend significant amounts of time viewing and criticizing others’ work and investment. This series will explore some of the themes I believe help parents raise kids to be aware of and considerate of those around them, turning them into good family and community citizens. In this episode, I provided really basic actions to help guide ourselves and our children in appreciating differences in others rather than avoiding or criticizing them.
I hear parents frequently claim that their biggest goal is to raise their children to be decent adults who contribute to the world. No parent sets out to raise the next generation of Internet trolls who spend significant amounts of time viewing and criticizing others’ work and investment. This series will explore some of the themes I believe help parents raise kids to be aware of and considerate of those around them, turning them into good family and community citizens. In this episode, I explain empathy beyond feelings and explore ways to teach our children how to practice empathic connection in their relationships with others.
I hear parents frequently claim that their biggest goal is to raise their children to be decent adults who contribute to the world. No parent sets out to raise the next generation of Internet trolls who spend significant amounts of time viewing and criticizing others’ work and investment. This series will explore some of the themes I believe help parents raise kids to be aware of and considerate of those around them, turning them into good family and community citizens. In this episode, I break down the importance of differentiating between forming an opinion and actually caring about something, and how to challenge our kids to do the same.
I hear parents frequently claim that their biggest goal is to raise their children to be decent adults who contribute to the world. No parent sets out to raise the next generation of Internet trolls who spend significant amounts of time viewing and criticizing others’ work and investment. This series will explore some of the themes I believe help parents raise kids to be aware of and considerate of those around them, turning them into good family and community citizens. In this episode, I will discuss the importance of using values as guides for decisions and how it sets a tone for guiding choices into adulthood.
Real talk: being a parent is one of the most frustrating roles we have in our lives. We love our children. We would die for our children. But sometimes, we also just want them to leave us alone. In this series, we are breaking down the issues that feed our frustration and how to adjust so that it is not ruling our interactions. In this episode, we unpack the practical nature of making choices around your reality and sticking to your bottom line.
Real talk: being a parent is one of the most frustrating roles we have in our lives. We love our children. We would die for our children. But sometimes, we also just want them to leave us alone. In this series, we are breaking down the issues that feed our frustration and how to adjust so that it is not ruling our interactions. In this episode, we will discuss rejecting the rat race of child experiences to produce reasonable a life pace with kids’ desires and activities.
Real talk: being a parent is one of the most frustrating roles we have in our lives. We love our children. We would die for our children. But sometimes, we also just want them to leave us alone. In this series, we are breaking down the issues that feed our frustration and how to adjust so that it is not ruling our interactions. In this episode, we will consider the origination of frustration and how to adjust without relying on our kids to balance it out.
Emotional regulation is a foundational requirement for healthy internal lives and relationships. When we know how to identify our disrupted emotions and rebalance them by ourselves or with help, we are able to navigate the difficult parts of life effectively. This provides peace and stability even when external situations are challenging us. To help children learn to regulate, parents have to be skilled in their own regulation and in containing the emotions of another person. This series addresses emotional regulation and practical application for our families. In this episode, we will dive into addressing dysregulation as it is happening and provide tips to reroute into productive connection and communication.
Emotional regulation is a foundational requirement for healthy internal lives and relationships. When we know how to identify our disrupted emotions and rebalance them by ourselves or with help, we are able to navigate the difficult parts of life effectively. This provides peace and stability even when external situations are challenging us. To help children learn to regulate, parents have to be skilled in their own regulation and in containing the emotions of another person. This series addresses emotional regulation and practical application for our families. In this episode, we will explore some things that contribute to dysregulation like emotional vocabularies, screen time, and goals.
Emotional regulation is a foundational requirement for healthy internal lives and relationships. When we know how to identify our disrupted emotions and rebalance them by ourselves or with help, we are able to navigate the difficult parts of life effectively. This provides peace and stability even when external situations are challenging us. To help children learn to regulate, parents have to be skilled in their own regulation and in containing the emotions of another person. This series addresses emotional regulation and practical application for our families. In this episode, we will unpack a few practical things you can do to lay a foundation outside of emotionally dysregulated moments with your kids.
Emotional regulation is a foundational requirement for healthy internal lives and relationships. When we know how to identify our disrupted emotions and rebalance them by ourselves or with help, we are able to navigate the difficult parts of life effectively. This provides peace and stability even when external situations are challenging us. To help children learn to regulate, parents have to be skilled in their own regulation and in containing the emotions of another person. This series addresses emotional regulation and practical application for our families. In this episode, we will explore the connection between the brain and body to use in teaching regulation.
Emotional regulation is a foundational requirement for healthy internal lives and relationships. When we know how to identify our disrupted emotions and rebalance them by ourselves or with help, we are able to navigate the difficult parts of life effectively. This provides peace and stability even when external situations are challenging us. To help children learn to regulate, parents have to be skilled in their own regulation and in containing the emotions of another person. This series addresses emotional regulation and practical application for our families. In this episode, we will explore the basics of regulation and how to frame it for engagement.
Satisfaction with communication is the strongest indicator that people are happy in their relationships. But communication is not as simple as sharing information, especially when the communication revolves around difficult conversations. In this series, I explain components to the skills of talking, listening, and taking breaks and connect strategies to practicing those in your family. In this episode, I break down the process of taking healthy time outs (including what you should be doing during that time).
Satisfaction with communication is the strongest indicator that people are happy in their relationships. But communication is not as simple as sharing information, especially when the communication revolves around difficult conversations. In this series, I explain components to the skills of talking, listening, and taking breaks and connect strategies to practicing those in your family. In this episode, I explain how listening is an active process and discuss its use as the primary way to handle conversations with others who struggle with communication.
Satisfaction with communication is the strongest indicator that people are happy in their relationships. But communication is not as simple as sharing information, especially when the communication revolves around difficult conversations. In this series, I explain components to the skills of talking, listening, and taking breaks and connect strategies to practicing those in your family. In this episode, I discuss how emotions can block and facilitate effective communication.
Satisfaction with communication is the strongest indicator that people are happy in their relationships. But communication is not as simple as sharing information, especially when the communication revolves around difficult conversations. In this series, I explain components to the skills of talking, listening, and taking breaks and connect strategies to practicing those in your family. In this episode, I explain practical steps for practicing assertiveness in communication and planning for healthy conversations.
Satisfaction with communication is the strongest indicator that people are happy in their relationships. But communication is not as simple as sharing information, especially when the communication revolves around difficult conversations. In this series, I explain components to the skills of talking, listening, and taking breaks and connect strategies to practicing those in your family. In this episode, I set the stage for the skills to follow by reframing communication as a set of skills for your family to learn and practice together.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the seventh episode of this seven-part series, I share how apologies and forgiveness are helpful and implemented as a norm in your family.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the sixth episode of this seven-part series, I share how welcoming questions is healthy and how to balance that in your family as a welcomed norm.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the fifth episode of this seven-part series, I share the need for developed feeling vocabularies and how to create a shared experience of that at home.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the fourth episode of this seven-part series, I explain the concept of boundaries and how to foster a welcome environment for them in your family.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the third episode of this seven-part series, I explain how to create a family norm of connection, even during difficult conflicts and disagreement.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the second episode of this seven-part series, I explain the importance of approaching everything from a “same team” mentality with your kids.
While our goals and decisions drive our day-to-day experiences, family norms have a stronger influence on our lives than we may realize. In the first episode of this seven-part series, I will explore the concept of family norms and explain how they are the baseline standards that influence our behavior and processes within our families and in the outside world. Throughout the series, I will discuss suggested healthy family norms and how to implement them.
Getting ready to send your kids back to school can be stressful in a “normal” year. After the stress of COVID-19 and the challenges it brings to starting a new school year, there are additional stressors that concern parents. In the second episode of this two part series, I will discuss practical strategies for handling stress and anxiety during this back to school season.
Getting ready to send your kids back to school can be stressful in a “normal” year. After the stress of COVID-19 and the challenges it brings to starting a new school year, there are additional stressors that concern parents. In the first episode of this two part series, I will discuss some proactive measures parents can take to help start the year off strong regardless of the location of their child’s schooling.