In This Moment: Recent Episodes
Toby C
In a world of over stimulation and insatiable entertainment, In This Moment offers a calming perspective on common modern-day realities and how to overcome FEAR—the chief activator of our inescapable emotional frailties. The program offers the emotionally wounded an opportunity to escape the calamities of life…if just for an hour…to momentarily pause the agitation…to be still…to breathe…to find some clarity and calm…to objectively look at what is happening to ourselves and those about us…and, to heal and to help others recover from emotional, physical, and spiritual pain. Host Toby C. aims to open the sufferer’s hearts and minds - allowing the reception of a mysterious, powerful, enduring, time-tested and proven alternative to destructive behavior. In This Moment is a paradigm shift in perception showing that you, or your loved one who is suffering, is FINALLY GOING TO GET BETTER and stay that way! How, you ask? By Trusting God, Cleaning House and Helping Others. In This Moment is a collection of powerful discussions and concealed within these hours of spoken word are a group of principles, spiritual in their nature, which, if practiced as a way of life, can expel the obsession… and enable the sufferer to become happily and usefully whole. This program tackles countless topics involving the conquest over our powerful, addictive, and compulsive behaviors. With no call-ins and no guest appearances, this no-nonsense show instructs the sufferer on sustainable recovery through the power of autosuggestion and hypnosis. Timeless and universal gems of useful wisdom are deciphered from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and The 12 Steps & 12 Traditions. Come join us In This Moment with your host of the ghost, Toby C. Visit our website at www.ImperialRecoveryMedia.com
Some of us are all perfectionists who, failing perfection, have gone to the other extreme and settled for the bottle and the blackout. At times we wallowed in extreme emotionalism and had mistaken it for true religious feeling. This self-centered behavior blocked us from forming a true partnership with our fellow man. Overcome your self-will run riot with Toby C. and prepare to transcend the dramatics that block happiness. Prepare to examine your own moral fiber and “soundness of mind.” Recover and heal – now.
Contempt prior to investigation. Unfair judgment. Sound familiar? How true it is that today we live in a world of ignorance and misunderstanding. Those unfortunate of us have used this stupidity and its related compulsions of self-will to sacrifice others on the “alter of intolerance.” Come engage with Toby C. in one last argument, asserting principals, spiritual in their nature, as a bar against all this blindness that we use as an instrument for our own destruction.
King Baby… It took a lot of hard knocks, hammered out on the anvils of experience that we finally come to a place where we can grow and mature. We stood at the jumping off point - either we grow along spiritual lines or die. Come grow up with Toby C. and prepare yourself for an experience you must not miss! Imagine paying attention to the suffering and watch them recover, to watch them help others, to witness their loneliness vanish and to finally have an abundance of fellowship and friends. Imagine that you had a part in that miracle! Your distorted drives have now been restored to their true purpose and direction.
And as we grow spiritually, we find that our old attitudes toward our instincts need to undergo drastic revisions. Did you know that nearly every serious emotional problem can be seen as a case of misdirected instinct? Come join Toby C. and stop working against your deepest instincts. Imagine a state of calm within you – an overwhelming sense that everything is going to work out. Be prepared to surrender to a faith that will allow you to cave into the concept of personal powerlessness. You are now ready to transcend self-destruction and harmonize with your instinctive desire for self-preservation.
How are we going to feel today? This feeling of being at one with God and man or this feeling of loneliness deep in the bitter morass of self-pity? What is our choice going to be? Change your attitude and recover with Toby C. - simple but it’s not easy! For many of us, it happens at or near the “bottom.” During our most desperate moments we become as open minded to conviction and willing to listen as only the dying can be. We are prepared to let serenity enter us by calmly opening ourselves up to the light of reason. We can now experience the physic change of an immediate and overwhelming "God-consciousness" followed at once by a vast change in feeling and outlook.
It’s probably clear by now that our neurotic lives have been driven by hysterical thinking or advice. This fear was the chief activator of our obsessions and worries and threw us into a self-centered panic. A raging inferno of lonely terror that nothing could extinguish. In desperation, we drowned these phobias with alcohol and other indulgences only to get really burned! Come cool off with Toby C. and dip into a realm of peace, contentment, and gratitude. “I think I can tell you exactly how to relax. You won’t have to work at it very hard, either.” The nightmare is almost over.
An identity crisis driven by low self-esteem can turn a neurotic into a perfectionist. This intolerance drive us blindly making us willfully demand that others supply us with more satisfactions or pleasures than are possible or due us. Step out of the circus for a moment with Toby C. and get ready to give yourself a break. Come to a point in your insecurities, with the help of others, where you can recognize the perfection of God and be able to raise your eyes to, and be able to walk, in that direction. Give yourself a break and stop playing God.
Psychiatrists and psychologists point out the deep need every human being has for practical insight and knowledge of one’s own personality flaws. Examine with Toby C. why so many in recovery, who obtain a profound wisdom of themselves and others, cannot stay sober. Lest we use this knowledge to win over the entire confidence of another sufferer within a few hours, very little if anything can be accomplished. Sobriety is fitting ourselves and applying ourselves to work with others. Are you really sober or are you doing just the bare bones minimum to elude your deadly obsessions? Are you really happy? You decide!
There is an ambush predator lurking in the dark corners of our soul. It’s called FEAR and our entire existence to some extent is shot through with it. Sometimes we react with an unruly sense of urgency – it’s called DESPERATION. Left unchecked, this fear will make your life and everyone around you miserable. Come engage with Toby C. on an adventure into open-mindedness in order to develop something called balance. That image that soon, your neurotic hysteria will cease, and your subconscious spirit will calm and continue to heal.
The name of the game is to stay away from shame. Criticism from others is quite often the source of that dreadful and hopeless degrading judgement. Challenge Toby C. as to why, in the midst of our instinctual drives for more security or love than is due to us, we step on the toes of others and they retaliate. Sometimes we unwittingly set ourselves up. In 12-Step recovery, when we clean house and calm down, many of us discover that those who mistreat us were often irritable, restless and discontent, too. Love and tolerance of others is our code.
We can only be defeated by an attitude of intolerance or belligerent denial. Worse yet, this self-deception can be so powerful that it can trick the sufferer into destructive drinking and other addictions. Enter the realm of awareness with Toby C. and reconnect with your uncomfortable feelings – with good purpose! Someone who knew what he was talking about once remarked that “pain is the touchstone of all spiritual growth.” Come out of hiding and feel your humanity. You’ll be glad you did.
Life is full of personal DEMONS. Recovery gives us a fighting chance, with the assistance from a power greater than ourselves, to cast them out! Prepare yourself to have the merciless obsession you suffer from lifted right out of you! Start cleaning house with Toby C. and expel this dead weight you’ve been carrying around all these years. Prepare to open your mind and heart to let God enter you and drive out your spiritually crippling handicap.
The crux of the relapse lies within the mental states that is driven by SELF-WILL and our survivalist instincts. Quite often our emotional mental state blocks us from real happiness - it’s called a dry drunk. Slip back into consciousness with Toby C. and examine why these unhealthy emotions, if left unchecked by anger, boredom, and the like, can sabotage our precarious sobriety. Experience the self-destructive urge being lifted right out of you … and in this moment, you will know that all is well.
Scratch a drunk or a drug addict and a CODEPENDENT bleeds. Do we even really know what CODEPENDENCE is and all of its destructiveness? No, probably not. Let’s gather together with Toby C. in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self! Find out why we attempt use others as our sole source of identity, value, well-being. Take a hard look at this deeply rooted, compulsive behaviors that emanate from our dysfunctional family systems. Come experience healthy and loving relationships with others – precious and free!
Do you ever feel at times like its “me (us) against the world?” Almost without exception, most of us who end up in recovery are tortured by loneliness. Is it possible to get rid of that terrible sense of isolation we've always had? Join Toby C. and get ready to rejoin the human race. Contemplate the open-mind and the open heart for emotional, physical, and spiritual protection. For if we are not sorry, and our behavior continues to harm others, we are quite sure to remain in our own personal living hell! Break out now!
Are you under constant fear and tension? Are all your failings, real or imagined, generating a soul-sickness that is the summation of your anxieties? Are you having trouble pointing your imagination away from darkness and despair? Come with Toby C. on a fantastic voyage of the soul and feel a new power flow in, enjoy peace of mind, and discover that we could face life successfully so long as became conscious of a Power greater than Ourselves. Prepare your yourself to begin to lose your fears of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.
Ah, the besetting evil of SELF righteousness. This dubious form of anger can at times be very enjoyable for some – but it has its consequences. Curiously, our natural disposition, rooted in self-centered grandiosity, will reject any rebuke- always finding some form of justification. Uncover with Toby C. the reasons why this most perverse form of soul sickness and its subtle, elusive sense of entitlement, can underlie even the smallest shameful act or thought. Examine together our blind spot to the very thing that we had contemptuously condemned in others - self-righteousness.
Doubt, self-doubt, and uncertainty are all close cousins. Time after time, uncertainty blows out any flame of life and hope – the light of reason difficult to re-establish. Come join Toby C. and stop questioning whether the hen or the egg came first. Come listen and realize that may of our pains, fears and despair are tests of something called faith – the ultimate antidote to every conscious state of uncertainty. Be prepared in good measure to transcend all the defects of your frail craft and finally come ashore.
Deception and Fear are not among the 7 deadly sins. Any idea why? Perhaps deception is simply one of many character defects. We come to learn that the chief activator of ALL these character defects is FEAR! The opposite of fear is faith – and faith is the truth! Come hear the truth from Toby C. as to some of the reasons WHY we practice deception. Could it be that overcoming fear, through faith, is the only way to conquer dishonesty? Are you ready to pull the covers off your insecurities and low self-esteem?
Do you know why you’re selfish and self-centered? Toby C. does and he want to share the secret with you. Examine the index of maladjustments that define our personal bondage of needs, drive our shallow ambitions, and are synthesized by a hundred forms of fear. By now you’re convinced that it’s a one-way ticket to loneliness and despair. There is a solution! Listen for a clue. Here’s one…. There is path and beside it a sign which reads: This is the way to a faith that works!!!
I deserve that! You owe me! Sound familiar? There is a difference between a gift and one’s own personal self-righteousness. Toby C. is ready to share what he had to learn the hard way - that by refusing to place the needs of others first, we deprive ourselves of HIS true spiritual assistance. How we treat others is a demonstration of how we treat a God of our understanding. By yielding to others - and to Providence, our highest expectations have now been placed within reach.
When the human being becomes a battleground for the instincts, there can be no peace. Coincidentally, it’s with another human being that we must confess these instinctual defects to in order to stay healthy in mind, body and spirit – in other words SOBER. Come collide with Toby C. and acknowledge that this spiritual practice is not only very ancient but can today give us practical insight of our illness having finally discussed it with an understanding and trustworthy person. It’s a final confirmation that we’ve been honest with God and with ourselves.
Bored in recovery? Are you ready to change your attitude of ignorant ambivalence to a meaningful focus? Discovery the exciting elements of recovery and God-consciousness with Toby C. because you are soon going to become a guiding light. Watch someone’s dark soul become illuminated by your lantern of love. This conversion will amaze you, excite you and keep you coming back! You will someday soon have a compelling reason for frequent contact with the fellowship - especially the newcomer. This bright spot of recovery is an experience you must not miss!
Do you experience hatred and intolerance – self-imposed or not? In only a few instances has there been a lack of patience and personal strength for these threatening defects of character. Endure Toby C. and you will be convinced that even the most troublesome people in your life, can become our principal teachers of patience and tolerance. Enjoy soon the serenity of a detached and open heart toward all men, even your enemies. Plan to successfully transcend anger and move into genuine pity and love.
Of all the 7 deadly sins, ANGER is a soul sickness and from it stem all forms of spiritual disease. Retaliation, retribution, and revenge are favored weapons of self-preservation – and the result is often a cold and hardened heartache. Contemplate with Toby C. the possibility that those who arouse anger and distress in us are quite often ill themselves. Get a hold of yourself and stop playing God - deciding who to dispense or withhold forgiveness. Find out how to give people a break with a warm, open heart and an open mind.
In some religious codices there are four demons - Desire, Pleasure, Fear and Grief. Is it possible to GRIEVE TOO MUCH? Is it possible to call too much attention to our loss and loose site of a deeper intention? How often do we scream out the battle cry of self-pity - WHY! Rejoice and join Toby C. in the solution to sadness! Explore gratitude and God-consciousness in a manner that allows the sufferer to transcend grief – and it cannot be done alone. In communal recovery, we come to a place where we ask …. God, if I can’t have the things I want, please help me to want the things that I have – today! Thy will be done.
Ever have trouble expressing yourself? Many of us carry a confusing, vague, meandering message brought to life by our ego and self-consciousness. This unhealthy sense of self lead many of us to miserable relationships with others and with ourselves. Listen to Toby C. carry this outward message to you… that your new message may be immeasurably helpful to others emerging into a new state of consciousness - transcending their bad message. So it was, when the demon had gone out, that the mute spoke; and the multitudes marveled!
Many people play the “game of life” in a way that they can identify with their purpose, find their path and prosper. Those of us who cannot, often end up in recovery - if we’re lucky! A debilitating crisis of identity or a loss of purpose lead many of us to the gates of insanity, incarceration, or death. Break of out of this quandary with Toby C. and discover what our REAL purpose is. Unlock the secret of healthy living and successful recovery. Are YOU ready to become a guardian angel?
Have you ever been driven to the brink of insanity? The drunk starts long before the first drink for many of us. It’s almost as if we were possessed. Join Toby C., the host of the ghost, in examining these impotent demons who empower themselves by the souls they dominate. We couldn’t seem to form a true partnership with another human being. We either wanted to stand on top of the heap or hide underneath it. Ah, but there is a sweet spot in the heap of life - may you find Him now! Listen for the clue - a code.
There are two centers of thought, speech, and transmission. One is the brain. The other is the heart. There is an invisible path that connects these two spheres - it’s called willingness. Fear and narrow-mindedness are obstacles that block the ego of the mind from engaging with the heart. Examine with Toby C., why some of us, through a sufficient, emotional, physical, and spiritual beat down, become as open-minded to conviction and willing to listen as only the dying can be. This a way to a Faith that works!
Open your mind and imagine….You will feel a new power flow in, you will enjoyed peace of mind, you will discover you can face life successfully. As you become conscious of His presence, you will begin to lose your fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter. Make room for Toby C. on your magic bus into the 4th Dimension of consciousness and realize that a Power greater than you has been there all along. You were simply distracted by pomp, turmoil and worshiping the wrong things. Now it’s time to get back on the beam.
Commitment mean COURAGE. By now, many of us have become convinced that we have more problems than alcohol and other excesses – problems that resist all of the sheer personal determination and courage we can muster. The verdict of the ages is that FAITH means commitment. Sit back and have an iced tea with Toby C. for your seasonal report on grief and suffering… just when the hand of God seemed heavy or even unjust, new lessons for living were learned, new resources of courage were uncovered, and that finally, inescapably, the conviction came that God does "move in a mysterious way His wonders to perform."
One definition of HUMILITY is to be respectfully submissive. It’s really a great way to get along with people. Many of us cannot get along with others or ourselves and end up in recovery. There is an answer to why we are unable to form a true partnership with another human being. Explore the peaceless battleground of the instincts with Toby C. Be prepared to face the sobering reality that defective relations with others have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes – including our alcoholism. Listen, there is a solution.
Are you and your loved ones stuck in a living HELL? Have you placed yourself beyond human aid? No defect can be corrected unless we clearly see what it is. Some call them indexes of maladjustments, emotional deformities, or warped character defects. Some of us, in recovery, find that all these major human failings stem, in one form or another, from The Seven Deadly Sins. Discover with Toby C., one of the answers to the riddle of successful recovery and joyful living. Have you ever been placed in a position of neutrality – safe and protected? Prepare to transcend temptation and be delivered from your disappointing self-centered indulgences.
“No matter how far we have progressed, desires will always be found which oppose the grace of God.” In other words, the emotional and spiritual drunk often precede the actual ACT of the relapse. Accompany Toby C. in a journey of self-discovery and take a different perspective on the “slip”. We shall examine some of the mental states that precede a relapse into drinking, for obviously this is the crux of the problem. Prepare yourself for some difficult periods especially in early recovery.
Unhealthy passive – aggressive relationships nearly always keep us on an emotional jag or worse yet a destructive binge. In many instances we shall find that though the harm done to others has not been great, the emotional harm we have done to ourselves has. Toby C. takes time to help define the word "harm" in a practical way, in a way “we might call it the result of instincts in collision, which cause physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual damage to people”. If we are not sorry, and our conduct continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink.
Many of us know all too well that unless we continue to work hard at the elimination of the worst of these defects, both sobriety and peace of mind will still elude us. Join Toby C. and consider that maybe the worst of all these emotional deformities is FEAR – the antithesis of FAITH. We couldn’t be honest. We were paralyzed with self-righteous fear. We made a searching and FEAR-less moral inventory and at once we commenced to outgrow fear.
“I think I can tell you exactly how to relax.” First, you master these resentments, but how? Connect with Toby C. and discover the magic of listing and analyzing our resentments – the excitement and relief to know WHY we were angry. Then, and only then, can we genuinely acknowledge that all these self-centered shortcomings of lust, anger, envy, sloth, greed, gluttony, and pride lead to immeasurable self-destructive behavior. Maybe you, too, have placed yourself beyond human aid? "God save me from being angry."
Take the following “acid test” with Toby C.: Can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose under all conditions? Are we really sober and do we continue to carry a good message to our suffering brethren? Explore for a short while something called the “ultimate authority” -- a loving God as He may express Himself through the group. Reconnect with our primary purpose of staying sober in order that we may help others to achieve sobriety – fitting ourselves to our REAL purpose of being of maximum service to God and those about us.
Some people are unable to stay sober at all. Many others will relapse periodically until they really clean house. Until we actually sit down and talk aloud about what we have so long hidden, our willingness to clean house is still largely theoretical. Join Toby C. and discover why people, when they become willing to clean house and then asked a God of their understanding for release, all of the sudden their obsession for excessive self-destructive behavior vanished.
Do you think there is no one we can surely trust? No matter how hard you try, exactly what prevents me from turning my life over to the care God as I understand Him? Toby C. does not have the answer, but he can discuss with you touchy subjects this hour like your Soul, faith, a healthy imagination, and most importantly “cleaning house.” Maybe you or your loved one are self-centered in the extreme. You don’t have to “hit bottom” in order to become as open minded to conviction and as willing to listen as the dying can be. Just sit back, relax, get ready to put your hand in The Hand and let go absolutely! Enjoy!
All or nothing is it? Either lay down and submit OR you’re King Kong for the moment. This dysfunctional unbalanced relationship with others is not helping you. Maybe your self-centered survival skills have finally place you “beyond human aid?” Don’t worry, Toby C. is here to help explain why your unaided will cannot summon the courage to do battle or retreat with dignity. Listen for hidden principles, spiritual in their nature, when discovered and practiced as a way of life, can bring us to a mid-point, a resolution, and a solution. It’s called healthy confrontation, mindfulness, harmony, and sobriety
“Slow down you move too fast!” If the Devil can’t make you bad, “hell” make you busy. Are you overstimulated, under loved and insecure? Welcome to humanity. Let Toby C. tell you exactly how to relax. Open your mind to a few constructive imagination techniques that bring about the vital spiritual experience. Examine deadly anger, fear, and hopelessness. Embrace the therapeutic spiritual benefit of being able experience the presence and stillness of our Creator, and in times of emotional disturbance or indecision, you might want to say: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done."
Now these are about to be CAST out! …What are they talking about?!? How can the grace of God enter us and EXPEL the destructive obsessions? Can we expect all our character defects to be LIFTED out of us as the DRIVE to drink was? Join Toby C. as he highlights some of the possibilities of our misery. Explore how we missed real “sobriety” because “we really hadn't cleaned house. Listen for the hidden message and maybe, you too, can achieve a willingness to cast out self-will and limited ideology.
As we were drowning in the sea of our unmanageable life, it was during that last grasp at the surface, before the last gasp of our existence, that we brushed up against something mysterious yet powerful. This flimsy reed turned out to be the loving hand of YOUR Higher Power. Join Toby C. and his spiritual hurricane hunter, flown with instruments of inspiration and a moral compass of altruistic service for others. Come experience the gratifying results of seeking a place of calm. Learn how to stay in this tranquility by the paying attention to those hopelessly dying in the “storm of life.”
Just can’t seem to get enough love and security, can you? All this self-knowledge just somehow isn’t keeping you calm, sane and sober, is it? Join Toby C. as he explores the spiritual benefits of taking the gift of wisdom and turning it outward to “generally win the entire confidence” of another sufferer. This show grinds down on the subjects of altruism and service – “these are the conditions we have found most effective.”
Is your talk insane, irrational and loud? Does your communication with others lack real human understanding leaving you alone and friendless? Then you’re right where you’re supposed to be! Welcome to the bottom of your life and existence as you know it. Now, you’re ready to join Toby C. for a spell-binding objective view at what seriously disturbs us. Sit back now, be still and prepare yourself for a few helpful hints on exactly how to quiet that disturbance.
Psssst! Hey… you want to know a secret? Check it out. Someone knows how to make time stand still and he’s ready to blurt the answer out right in the middle of your test! Join Toby C. while he augments your temporal experience with touchy subjects such as group hypnotherapy and the open mind. Come connect with the “Wizard of Awe”- the Spirit of the Universe whose effect is bound by neither time nor limitation.
Bored with life and recovery? Can you imagine yourself an instrument or a channel of a “Higher Power?” Can you imagine yourself a lay hypnotherapist capable of curing yourself and those about you? As the pain subsides, a healing tranquility takes its place. Join Toby C. and discover one of the hidden gems of recovery – the immeasurable joy of transmuting tranquility through the power of auto suggestion and message management!
Are you moving too fast and are you miserable? Do you feel, at times, like you can’t get to the next drink, drug or fix soon enough? Join Toby C. as he dwells on the sense of urgency that keeps most sufferers in the constant state of anxiety and hopelessness. Discover some tools to pause, sidestep your agitation and open your mind to what is REALLY happening to ourselves and those about us!
Is something holding you back from succeeding in life and maybe even recovery? For many of us, one common defect is the propensity to call unnecessary attention to ourselves. Join Toby C. as he illuminates the consequences of putting the “bite” on our brethren for more love and security than is possible or due us – for reliance on all things human. Perhaps success is measured by our genuine reliance upon a Higher Power.