The Story of Self: Recent Episodes
Mariah Wickham
The go-to podcast for the woman who has ever wondered what she is on this planet to do. We'll talk all things mindset, purpose, identity, focus, and getting more out of your life without doing anything more. Join certified life coach, Mariah Wickham, as she inspires you to examine the story you're living and see where you can live it even better. After all, at the center of every success is the story of self!
Nothing changes if nothing changes. That statement might be the truest and most simple statement ever. It is so profound! There are probably changes you'd like to see in your life and when you are in this space, it's so easy to think that others need to change! The good news is they don't need to change. You have the power to make adjustments, you have the power to be who you want to be, even if others don't change. In this episode, I share the 3 things that will make the biggest impact in order for things to change. Listen in and let me know what you think!
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This episode covers some different stages we all go through in life and the signs that come up when we are ready to move on to the next stage. None of these stages are better than the others, but when you're ready to move to the creating stage, consider hiring a coach. Of course, there are other people you can seek help from. I also explain who these people are and what stages they fit into. I'm excited to share these ideas with you today and hope it helps you determine what stage you're in currently and what to do when you're ready to move beyond that stage.
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I believe this skill will help heal others. When you feel truly seen and heard, magical things happen! Listen in and hear the reminders you can apply to your next conversation. I am not perfect at this by any means, but I have worked on it over the years and see a huge difference in how I relate to others and the quality of my relationships. Let's all be better listeners and do our part to change the world!
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In the coaching world, we love to say, "The eye sees what the mind believes." This is our way of explaining that perception is reality and how you view the world is how you will experience the world. Listen in today as I explain the lie that each Enneagram type may be inclined to believe and how to stretch beyond that default thinking in order to grow and build a more satisfying life.
When you are ready to dig into your Enneagram type with a certified coach that will help you with your mindset and improve your marriage, book a beginning call here www.mariahwickham.com
If you don't know your Enneagram type, find a free test here https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/dotest
This is a concept I talk a lot about in my coaching and my content. I thought it would be good to have a whole episode I could refer people to so they know what I'm talking about. In this episode, I explain what I mean when I say unbecoming and then offer some suggestions and stories that help it make more sense. I'd love to hear about your experiences with unbecoming and be your coach as you apply these concepts.
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Today I'm sharing 12 bits of wisdom that I have come to know as true, but the interesting thing is that I wrote these down in my journal as a 23-year-old! It helped me see that some things never change. Come listen to what I still value as a 47-year-old and how I've learned these things. Also, I encourage you to create your own list! You'll enjoy coming back to it years later to confirm the same things.
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What makes up the story of you? What has gotten you to this point? And if you want to live a different story, how do you change things? I explain the process in this episode and discuss the work that is worth doing and the work that doesn't need effort. How you experience the world and the interactions you are a part of are all dependent on the story you've acquired about yourself. It might be time to take a look and determine if that story could use a shift.
I'd love to be your coach and would love to introduce you to the process of examining your thoughts and how they can improve your life. Go to my website and book a beginning call www.mariahwickham.com
This kind of work is foundational to any change you want to make in life. In this episode, I take you through a process that will help you upgrade your thoughts about anything in your life. With a personal story at the end, this episode also emphasizes that we all have much more control over our lives and how we experience them than we usually think. The key is to be aware of what is happening in your mind and take conscious steps to shift your beliefs. Thanks for listening -- share with anyone you know who would benefit from learning how to upgrade your beliefs!
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Every relationship requires communication and connection, so I'm here with this fantastic episode on how to do this even more effectively using your Enneagram type! Each type has specific strengths and weaknesses that can make this tricky, but when you gain the self-awareness and ability to communicate your needs, your partnership will be strengthened. If you are still unaware of your type, please head to www.truity.com to take a free test or you can also find a free test at www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test. Just keep in mind that online tests are not 100% accurate, so as you learn more about each type, you'll discover which one resonates the most with you.
As always, when you're ready to dive in deeper to your journey of self-discovery and growth, you can book your beginning call at www.mariahwickham.com
We all have one. The negative voice in our head can sometimes be really loud. Learning to manage it and applying strategies to make sure they don't totally take the reins is a life skill you'll be grateful for your whole life. Listen in as I teach you 3 ways to tame the negative voice and start living a story you're proud of.
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There are two different ways that you are likely trying to avoid disappointment. Listen in as I explain what each way looks like and then invite you to consider what could be possible if you got better at feeling and processing disappointment. There is always a river between you and what you want -- the question is: are you willing to cross the river? Even though there is likely to be disappointment, embarrassment, or some rejection along the way? I think this episode can change your life. Listen in and tell me what you think!
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Sharing a personal story today to help illustrate that when we are faced with ethical dilemmas, which are the kind of decisions where you are faced with one right thing or another right thing, they can help us understand ourselves better. There are 3 things to think about when you face this kind of dilemma. Also, I hope you get a few laughs in because this story was quite a memory-making event for my son and me! Listen in, and judge if you will -- I do give you full permission to do so at the beginning, but more importantly, pay attention to what these kinds of dilemmas reveal about us.
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I have heard it all -- everything from achieving balance is impossible, so why even try, and is it worth trying?? I'm here to discuss on the podcast today my opinion that balance is possible and give you a few pointers to create it. You can feel better and achieve more in your day by implementing a few changes. I also include what your Enneagram number has to do with this and how knowing what triad you are a part of will help you find balance easier.
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If you want to change, it's imperative to do belief work. You'll need to be aware of what you're currently believing and then know the process to believe new things. It's not easy, but it's possible, and I'm here to talk about it! Your brain will fight this and your brain will tell you lies to make things easy. Do you know what the easiest thing ever is? To keep believing the things our brains present even if they don't help us live the life we want. You will find so much power when you direct your brain and start moving it to new heights. Listen in, learn the process, and book a call to get the help you need to believe new things.
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I believe in you!!!! xoxo
I'm going to go ahead and guess that if you've been married more than two days, you've been angry at your husband for something, at some point. Listen in as I talk about anger -- what it is, what it isn't, and what to do about it. I delve into the Enneagram some more this week and give you common things that might be causing the anger in your relationship based on your Enneagram number. This is helpful because understanding your husband and his tender spots (and your own!) allows you to spend time when you're not in an angry state, nourishing these needs and generating more awareness.
Do you want more specific help or guidance about your rotating fight that often comes up? Go ahead and book a beginning call at www.mariahwickham.com
Here is the episode you've all been waiting for! Actually, I don't know if that's true but it is true that it's the episode that I've been dying to share. I love the Enneagram and it's an imperative tool for the growth of my clients. In this episode I'll explain the core features of the Enneagram, but please know I'll be doing more episodes to cover all the many other things that we know when we dive into our type. I hope you go and take a test and start exploring your number. It will help you communicate better, stop sabotaging yourself, and help you have more compassion for yourself and others. Even knowing your core motivation alone will help you understand why you do the things that you do.
For help with your Enneagram and how it mixes with coaching, please book a beginning call, www.mariahwickham.com
For a free Enneagram test, visit www.truity.com
Love is a great topic, isn't it? So many applications and contexts where it shows up in our lives. It feels really good when we feel like it's present in our lives, so why do we act stingy with it sometimes? And do only certain people benefit when love is present? Lots of fun questions that I answer in this episode! My objective is to help you create more ease in allowing love in your life and perhaps you'll notice where you've been holding back and where you could shore up some more love. Let's put more love in the world, shall we?? Love to each of you!!! xoxo
Based on some submissions from my followers on my Instagram account, this episode is all about insecurities -- what they are and what to do about them. I also get into the Enneagram a bit and talk about what it has to do with your insecurities. You'll want to pause halfway through the episode because I ask some important questions to answer as you consider your own insecurities and how to live with them and love yourself through them. First and foremost, I want you to realize that what you think is a deficiency is actually not a deficiency at all!
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Do you know that feeling of coming home? Where you're loved, cherished, embraced, and someone is excited to see you? What could happen if you created that for yourself? And what does it take to create it? Listen in this week as I share 3 main ways to cultivate this. We're the ones that can show the next generation that it's ok to love yourself and that you can do it while also considering those around you. We are all lifted up when this happens. You were made for greatness! The next phase of your life and your ability to achieve your big goals will be more pleasant when you cultivate these things we talk about. Come home, it's where you're always welcomed!!
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This is the best #lifehack and #marriagehack! It will upgrade your relationships and help you feel more love. I'm tellin' ya, this one gets personal because I've done the work here and I've seen the difference it makes. My husband and I are 20 years into our marriage and this shift has made more of an impact than almost anything. Also, listen in to the whole thing because I give an update from a story I shared last week and you'll love the ending! It makes me want to snuggle up real close and whisper in your ear, "you never know when something amazing will show up in your life!" Keep hoping and keep doing the work. Coming home to yourself is a path full of surprises and unforeseen miracles!
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We all seem to accept the invitation to a pity party from time to time, but then we don't really like the event. We end up feeling bad about ourselves and then feel stuck and don't know what to do. If you're in a place where you're ready to move past the pity party and find out what's next, listen in to some powerful questions and then do your work. Sit down with a pen and paper and journal what comes out. Seeing on paper what's in your brain helps you manage it better and helps you come up with a plan on what to choose next. You'll also learn the difference between having compassion for yourself and the dreaded pity party. Anyone that's ever felt bad for themselves will find some great tips in this episode.
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This is a very imperfect episode. I had a distraction midway through and didn't bother to re-record. That's the power of moving through imperfections. I wanted to leave it and let you know that any action is better than no action. When we get stuck in wanting it perfect sometimes we spin around and never move forward or don't continue after we start. Listen in as I share some thoughts on starting something new. Whether it's a new year, a new school, a new habit, a new routine, or a new relationship, there are a few things to be aware of to be sure to maintain the momentum you feel in the beginning. And guess what? Nothing has gone wrong when your excitement for your new thing has ended. Starting something new is fun but knowing how to make sure and finish it is even better.
Have big goals for something new and want to invest in yourself to insure your success? Hiring a coach is the best thing you can do. Just think of how different you'll be in a year from now. Go ahead and book a first call with me -- www.mariahwickham.com
See ya there!
If every time you go to gather with family or co-workers and you dread it because of that one annoying person, this episode is for you. I describe certain labels that might be the type that annoys you & what to do. More importantly, I also show you the pattern that applies whether you know the label or not. Humans will always be humans, which means that not everyone we interact with will be our favorite people. This doesn't mean you have to sit there and suffer. Learn the root of your suffering and deal with difficult people in new ways!
I'd love to carry this work even deeper with you. Have a difficult mother-in-law that drives you crazy and has for 12 years? Get a life coach! I am positive that working with a life coach can help you improve this relationship and improve each interaction that you have in the future. Go to my website and book now! www.mariahwickham.com
What does it take to be involved in all that the holiday season offers but do it without being overwhelmed, frustrated, or frazzled? The answer is a managed mind so let's dive in so you understand how to do it. Bringing awareness to this is your first step, then it will take a lot of practice. Our default settings tend to be what others are doing around us and so many don't realize that it's optional to feel this way. Start paying more attention to your thoughts and you'll gain more management over how you feel. I want you to have a Merry Christmas and I also want you to know that more is in your control than you realize. Listen in, learn, and fa la la la your way to a pleasant and joyous celebration. Lots of love to you!!
Taking this work into 2023 and making it a priority will completely transform your life! I'd love to be your coach as you navigate you and your growth. Go ahead and book a beginning call at www.mariahwickham.com
Did you know our brains have a default setting to see the negative? Our brains also really want to conserve energy. This and other things make it so your brain will tell you certain things are hard. When we think something is hard we're less likely to do it. Listen in today as I explain how awareness around this will change things for you. We become more powerful as we take charge, allow our brains to do their job, and manage what it's telling us. I conclude the episode with some specific tips to end the battle of things being hard and not wanting to do them because they are hard. You will restore a lot of energy in your life when you start making more conscious choices about what you want to do and what is worth your energy.
Creating change isn't always easy but it happens at a quicker pace with a coach as your support. If you're ready to have someone guide you on this process, go book on my website www.mariahwickham.com It's not hard ;) and you'll end our session with more awareness and more energy.
We all tell stories, it's in our human nature to make sense of what goes on around us. But did you know that your default settings may mean that the stories you tell may keep you stuck, make you feel awful, or keep you from progressing? Bringing more awareness to this is going to help you feel more confident, feel more in control of your life, and help you see how powerful you really are. Listen in to learn the difference between facts and stories and then what happens when we tell certain stories. As you make a habit of bringing more awareness to this -- I present a challenge to you in the episode -- you'll need some compassion and grace. No judgment is necessary! We're all learning and we're all working to create a better world, one story at a time.
When you're ready to take this work to the next level, hop on over to my website and book a beginning call. I'll coach you on whatever is going on in your life and offer you clarity for what's next. www.mariahwickham.com
As a human being, you'll experience pain, it's impossible to avoid. Learning to process it is one of the greatest skills you'll learn in this life. It doesn't take much to notice that the world at large does not do a good job of managing its emotions. You can change the world by doing this, but more importantly you can also improve your everyday life and the relationships that mean the most to you. You can become more present for the people in your life and the goodness that exists all around you. Listen in while we take a stroll down the lane of what it takes to process pain. You might be surprised at the role rest has to play in this and how you are likely deficient in it. Also, look forward to the list I share with all the ways your life will improve when you make this a habit!
These kinds of habits aren't usually acquired by just listening to one podcast. If you're ready for more support or just want to get on a coaching call for some help with something specific you're facing right now, go book a call at www.mariahwickham.com
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Gratitude may be on your mind right now since Thanksgiving is right around the corner. In this episode, I share some of the transformative things I've implemented in my life to incorporate gratitude. These habits, if done consistently, will change your life. They will increase your power to overcome hard things, increase your confidence, and cultivate more peace in your soul. I truly believe this because I've done it myself. If you do this work you can expect good things, I promise!
Working with a life coach will also change your life in innumerable ways. It's learning these types of habits and so many other things that are specifically relevant to the circumstances in your life that upgrade your relationships, help you reach your goals, and boost your confidence. Coming home to yourself looks different to everyone, but once there you know all the work was worth it. Want to know what it's like? Book a beginning call on my website www.mariahwickham.com See ya there!!
To feel more in charge of your life and live the way you desire, this information is critical. Come listen in as I give examples of thoughts that may have hung out in your brain and how to go through the process of deciding whether you want to keep that thought or not. This is not to say that we should only think positively, we'll have lots of times when feeling emotions is an important step in our process of growth. This episode is not about only choosing positive thoughts, it's more like a tutorial on how to be more in charge of your brain and how to intentionally direct it to thoughts and beliefs that help you create a life you are proud of.
This work isn't done well alone, especially if you are new to it! After you listen you'll need some guidance on how to do this effectively and in a way that is sustainable. That's what a coach is for! Please go to my website and book a call, I'll give you the help you need as you experience the power of coaching. www.mariahwickham.com
Don't forget: you are in charge! No one gets to write your story of self except you!
Today begins a new series where I interview other people on the podcast about what it takes to come home to yourself and how that feels. We also go into the role coaching has played in this process. You'll love Kathleen and her thoughts about her mid-life pivot, how she's gone from a psychiatrist to a life coach, and the changes she's made in her business and why. If you've been afraid to do something (or not do something!) because of what others think, you'll also be interested in what we share about how this has come up for each of us and how we've handled it. This interview is useful for you and anyone else who wants to live an authentic life and wants to seek after a life they are proud of.
For more help and to hire me as your life coach, go ahead and book a call on my website www.mariahwickham.com
What would motivate me to share with you the most utterly embarrassing moment of my life? The moral inside of course! This is no clickbait, my friends, I literally had a bathroom emergency, that didn't end well, on a popular hiking trail and I lived to tell the tale. For many years I was too scared to tell this story but listen in to find out what happened when I finally started sharing it. Let's all be brave and share more of our stories, I believe it connects us and is a path to healing. We must love all the parts of us in order to come home to ourselves. After listening, please send your embarrassing stories to support@mariahwickham.com You could be featured on the podcast!
I know your stories hold power too. I also know, through working with dozens and dozens of clients, that there are some stories that need to be told and some stories that if transformed, could be more empowering. This is exactly what I do as a life coach -- help you learn how to tell the stories that help you live a life you're proud of & help you do good. Click here and book a beginning call to get started www.mariahwickham.com
No one is immune to pain. It's part of the package deal of being a human on this Earth. But did you know that there is some pain we need and some pain that is optional? As you listen consider what pain has done for you and how you personally have benefitted from pain. It's also important to notice the signs that we haven't been paying attention to our pain because certain behaviors will tell us that it's time to feel and process. Lastly, I'll leave you with 2 ways that you can daily 'floss' your emotions. Doing this has been phenomenal for me and my growth.
I know you don't like pain and I don't either. But after listening today I hope you get closer to coming home to yourself and stop making the pain mean anything awful about you.
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I'm here for the woman that wants to come home to herself and do what she was sent to this planet to do.
Your identity and your thoughts about yourself are probably the most impactful things in your life. They affect your relationships, goals, ability to make money, future, and everything else. Listen in today to hear how to manage your brain better when it considers the thoughts that pop into your mind about you. It's important to know these things so that we move through the world creating the story that will produce the best life. The best news is that it's in your power to do this! No one else's thoughts about you matter more than your thoughts about you.
For more help, please go to www.mariahwickham.com and book a beginning call.
It can be hard to ask for help because you risk someone not responding and then you'll need to deal with more hard emotions. Come listen today about all the good reasons to ask for help and what you can actually say when you're in a tough spot and can't handle everything that's going on. If this is you right now, my heart is with you. I am teaching you things that are very real for me right now, I'm learning and passing them on just as they're happening to me. I do believe that we will make the world a better place when we can show up for each other and when we can be brave enough to ask for help when we need it. Your story deserves help! You will be better at asking for help once you listen in.
For further help and to experience the power of coaching, go to my website www.mariahwickham.com and book a beginning call. I'll help you think about things in a new way so that you have the power to change your life!
We all have those things, big or small, that we want to change about ourselves. Listen in today to gain some help on how to make these changes and what mental prep you can take so that the process is one of love for yourself and those around you. We'll cover the beliefs that got you here, why it's important to know it's not better where you want to be, how to be more curious and less judgmental in this process, and when to know if it's time to change the belief or the behavior.
We all go through periods of sadness and so I want to give you some tips that have helped me through the last few weeks; AKA the saddest time of my life. Listen in as I discuss the very real and fresh feelings I've experienced after my sister's murder and pay attention to the tips that will be relevant for whatever big emotion you might be experiencing. I believe as a society we don't handle sadness well or even accept it, so doing these things will help us all improve the world we live in and help us all become better managers of our own emotions.
Have you ever thought about what makes you you? There are parts of you that you came to Earth with, ways you were uniquely designed to contribute to this world, and there are also decisions you can make about who you are. Listen in today as I go on a journey with you about what it takes to create any story you want. The end-goal with it all is to then share who you are -- that's what you came to this planet to do!
If you have questions or want to respond to the questions that I give you in this episode, you can reach me at support@mariahwickham.com If you'd like to have support as you explore what's holding you back from doing what you came to this planet to do and be you in this wild and sometimes confusing world, go to my website www.mariahwickham.com and book a call.
Thanks for listening!
Ever wondered what I mean what I say in the intro "And teach you how you get more out of life without doing more?" This episode is the answer! We discuss what being addicted to doing looks like and what it might look like in your life. We also touch upon the difference between doing and being. One needs to come first; I bet you can figure out which one! Who are matters so much more than what you do -- so be sure to touch base with your own self and tap into where you're at on this journey.
The best to experience the kinds of changes we talk about in this podcast is to sign up for coaching. You can go to my website and book a free beginning call to see what it's like to be coached and see what kind of help I offer for individuals who want to finally start being the person they've always wanted.
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In this episode, we explore 3 truths about choice.
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You can choose, but that doesn't make it so.
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Choices come with feelings
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It's the choice that matters as much as the transformation needed to make it come true.
Listen in and see for yourself that choice is a power we can all take a little more seriously.
Tune in to this week's episode as Mariah offers 3 questions to consider when discussing purpose and what it means to go after your purpose, live your purpose, and why we are driven to do it. Essentially, we want to know:
- What does having a purpose even mean?
- Why do we think it's important?
- What drives us to seek it?
As you listen, be sure to reflect on your own answers, because as you listen to your own wisdom, you'll tap into your greatest teacher.
Trailer for the upcoming podcast The Story of Self. See you each week as we discuss being you! After all, that's what you're on this planet to do.