Relationship Design Archives - Sexy Marriage Radio: Recent Episodes
Corey Allan
This week I want to explore a topic that might make some uncomfortable, but it’s a crucial aspect of understanding the intricacies of long-term relationships: normal marital sadism. This is also the topic we cover on SMR (Normal Marital Sadism #666). Now, before you start shifting in your seat or feeling defensive, let me assure […]
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In this week’s episode of Sexy Marriage Radio (Yes, But … #664), we dive deeper into a crucial topic that affects many couples: the discovery of a spouse’s pornography use and the ensuing fallout. A listener’s email the episode prior sparked a discussion about the complexities of trauma, reactions, and the journey toward rebuilding trust […]
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This week we’re diving into some profound insights shared in a recent episode of Sexy Marriage Radio with John Eldridge (Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #659). The conversation revolved around the evolving dynamics of relationships, the impact of busyness, and the unveiling of unhealed trauma, particularly childhood trauma. The Impact of Busyness on […]
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In our most recent podcast episode (The Search For Intimacy #657), my wife, Pam and I delved into a topic that strikes a chord with many long-term couples — the unveiling of uncomfortable truths within the relationship. Today, let’s expand upon the themes discussed and provide a few insights and strategies to navigate the complexities […]
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Happy New Year! Today I’m going to tell you about how you can start the year off right on two levels — For couples, come join us at the SMR Getaway June 13-15 2024. For men, join a Man of His Word Mastermind group that begins in a couple of weeks. If you’re one who […]
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Marriage is often an intricate dance of desire and attraction. In episode #656 of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complexities of maintaining attraction in long-term marriages. As spouses traverse the landscape of love over the years, they often encounter shifts in desire, creating challenges that require understanding, patience, and self-discovery. Fact: Long-term relationships […]
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Being part of the SMR Academy has some great perks: Access to the XTD content of SMR Episodes. A supportive community of fellow married couples. And now, the first Simple Marriage Course: Healthy Marriages Course. Here’s a peak at Lesson One If you are not a member, you can join anytime during December 2023 for one month […]
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Marriage is a journey, and as the years unfold, couples often find themselves navigating new territories within their relationship. Today, let’s explore the ideas also covered in this week’s episode of Sexy Marriage Radio. Long-term marriages are a tapestry woven with shared memories, trials, and triumphs. The complexities of this journey create times of distance […]
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The alarm goes off, you get ready for the day. Get the rest of the house up, kids out the door to school, head off to work. Get your job done. Battle traffic. Eat dinner. Go to the kids practice. Get them in bed. Watch a little TV or surf the socials. Go to sleep. […]
The post Does Your Marriage Lack Passion? first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
If you are a listener of the Passionately Married Podcast you know that Pam and I are open and transparent about the things we’ve struggled with in life. In fact, pretty much every product and resource we offer on the website has come from our own personal challenges. Every book, podcast, course, group, and live […]
When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit to) someone else. While they may have been a contributing factor to the result of a situation, when we fail to acknowledge our own role in life’s circumstances, we damage our own growth and chance for […]
It is safe to say that each of us entered into married life believing that our love would last and the passion we felt would see us through any potential heartache and struggle. This is what makes it so humbling when we discover that we do indeed have the capacity, if not tendency, to actually […]
Unless you’re familiar with Dr. David Schnarch, you likely haven’t heard about this dark side of married life. What follows is adapted from his work. There is a dark side in each one of us that is seldom discussed. An aspect of us that plays out in the shadows of relationship. And far too often it […]
A concept has been floating around the Inter-webs for a while now called flow. Basically, it’s losing yourself in whatever you’re doing – being so caught up and focused on the task at hand the world fades away. During these magical times a tremendous amount of work is accomplished. So my question: Can flow be […]
If you missed the first parts of this series, click here for Part 1, and Part 2 In Alaska, there are mountain ranges around Denali where the weather and clouds are so thick that there are only twenty to thirty days a year where it is clear enough to see the peaks of the mountains. […]
Part one of this series can be found here. While standing in line at the store, you can feel the person right behind you. They are shifting back and forth and mumbling something inaudible under the breath. They are crowding your space in line as if by doing so the line will move faster. If […]
As the years pass and your marriage progresses, I am willing to bet that you are not in the same relationship from which you began. Oh you may still be with the one you originally married, but the relationship is not the same. It can’t be. We constantly change and evolve. It is one of […]
What’s one of the biggest obstacles to experiencing intimacy in your marriage? More often than not, the answer is unrealistic togetherness expectations, i.e., idealized or fantasy togetherness. I can hear the objections coming on loud and clear! Think through this with me. Let’s start with the definition of expectations – for our purposes, we’re going […]
What is it that creates the intensity in certain conversations with your spouse? What moves a conversation between two people from the issue at hand into personal meltdown – emotional reactivity? Emotional reactivity turns out to be nature’s way of informing us of where we are on the path of emotional maturity (another way of […]
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I know you’ve been there before, you’re in the midst of an intense discussion with your spouse and it moves beyond a conversation about the issue at hand and gets personal. A button has been pushed, or you pushed their button and now it heats up even more. The personal attacks start, the past is […]
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You walk in the door and are greeted with… “Honey, we need to talk about a few things.” If you’re human, your insides immediately tighten and your defenses prepare for battle. It’s a common occurrence. Your spouse tells you what’s going on with them and you react. The status quo is being threatened and while […]
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Relationships are actually pretty easy. I didn’t always believe this. In fact, I used to believe relationships are hard work. I’ve written these very words many times. You’ve probably even heard this phrase before. It is often stated as a Truism in our society, and while I understand the sentiment … I’ve reached a point […]
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This is a common email I receive. A wife asked for help. She felt stuck in her marriage and wanted me to give her advice. While I do work with individuals in a counseling and coaching relationship, I was curious in the way she was wording her email so I asked her to send me […]
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This is the second message in a short series aimed at husbands who stay stuck on some plateau in life and why a rare few are able to level up. This is all included in the Man Of His Word Mastermind Groups that start in August. You can learn more by clicking here. If you’re […]
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I’m beginning the process of enrollment in the Man Of His Word Mastermind groups — with new groups launching in August. No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar. ~ Abraham Lincoln If asked, you probably will say you’re an honest person. Meaning, you don’t blatantly lie. But what if I […]
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When my wife Pam began as the permanent co-host with me on Sexy Marriage Radio, we were also experimenting with creating video versions of the shows. On our first ever video, right before hitting record for the audio (with the camera already rolling) Pam looked over at me and asked, “You good with that shirt?” […]
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I believe that marriage is designed to grow us up. This is covered in greater detail in our new video course – Rekindle and Connect. If you look at married life this way, you’ll see that growth comes from the pressure a relationship with another human creates. Pressure to chart your own course in life and be your […]
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Today is a big day for the SMR Nation – we are launching for our first video course – Rekindle and Connect. As of this morning the course is now live and for the next 48 hours we are having a FLASH SALE. For the next 48 hours you have the opportunity to join the course […]
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Life has a way of grinding us up if we’re not careful. Think about it. Where most of us spend a bulk of our week is even called the grind. Then when we add in the complexities, and at times drudgeries of relationships, we’ve got a recipe for struggle and life sucking burden. Or do […]
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One of the major things marriage provides is it’s the best chance to create an intimate connection with another person. It’s part of marriage’s elegant design. You and your spouse can create an entire part of life that only the two of you know about. Yet, this intimate connection is also a source of major […]
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