How I Saved Myself From Myself - Dr. Scott Eilers: Recent Episodes
Scott Eilers
Clinical psychologist Dr Scott Eilers documents his personal journey in learning to manage his own mental health, sharing storing and lessons that helped him dig himself out of a void of dysfunctional, debilitating depression and into a life as the founder and director of multiple ground-breaking mental health programs.
Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video! Visit them here and use code DRSCOTT100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.If you’ve tried everything to manage your depression — therapy, mindfulness, better sleep — and you’re still not where you want to be, this video is for you.I’m sharing five lesser-known but powerful treatment techniques that help when the basics aren’t enough. From exposure therapy for joy to assertiveness training and physical health evaluations, these are the tools I’ve seen change lives — including my own.For those living with moderate to severe depression who feel stuck despite doing “all the right things,” these deep-cut strategies can help you rebuild hope and find real progress again.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- Connect with me on TikTok
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Sometimes we stay in jobs, relationships, or situations long after they’ve stopped serving us — not because we don’t see the truth, but because walking away makes the loss feel real. That’s the power of sunk cost fallacy, one of the most common (and painful) psychological traps we fall into.In this video, I explain why our brains resist letting go, how the “pain of realized loss” keeps us stuck, and why that pain doesn’t actually mean what you think it does. You’ll also learn about inverse sunk cost fallacy — the belief that you’ve missed your window — and how to break out of both.If you’ve ever wondered why it’s so hard to leave something behind or start something new, this video will help you understand what’s really happening in your mind — and how to move forward with less guilt and more clarity.
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Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- Connect with me on TikTok
- Connect on Instagram Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Ever been stuck in that cycle where the more you pressure yourself to start, the less you actually get done? You tell yourself to “just do it,” but your brain shuts down instead — and the guilt hits even harder.In this video, I explain why that happens, what the Yerkes–Dodson Law has to do with your motivation, and how lowering the pressure (not raising it) might actually be the key to getting things done.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Before you dig into your past, process trauma, or try advanced therapy techniques, there’s a more important question to ask:Is my brain healthy enough to feel good in the first place?In this video, I break down the 3 emotional ranges we all experience—from survival mode, to being stuck in negative emotions, to finally experiencing more positive ones. You’ll learn why so many people stay trapped in the middle range, and how sleep, nutrition, movement, and substance use can make or break your ability to feel better.This isn’t about quick fixes or motivational slogans. It’s about facing the real, physical foundation of mental health—and finally giving yourself a chance to heal.
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Stress less, sleep more, and live better with Calm. Use code drscott for 40% off your Calm premium subscription today.Panic attacks don’t just end when they’re over—they leave you living in fear of the next one. And that fear? It actually makes panic attacks more likely.In this video, I break down the vicious cycle of panic attacks—and why trying not to have one often backfires. More importantly, you’ll learn practical, science-based tools to recover faster and reduce their grip on your life.
I’ve been in therapy as both a client and a therapist. I know how confusing and contradictory it can feel.If therapy has ever left you without a roadmap, this is my attempt to give you one. These are science-based, practical steps you can use today.In this video, I break down the four resources that run your mental health: time, energy, attention, and money. I’ll show you how to treat your life like a research project.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
I became a therapist because I believed the field could change lives. Then I saw how it actually works behind the curtain—and realized why so many clients feel stuck.
In this episode, I share 13 controversial truths about therapy, why many “standard” approaches fall flat, and what actually helps when you’re depressed, anxious, or barely holding it together.
Thanks to Grow Therapy for sponsoring this video!
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Proud to team up with Get Joy! Their Freeze Dried Raw meals are crafted for better digestion, more energy, and happier days together because joy starts from within. Feeling trapped in rigid routines because of anxiety? You’re not alone—and you’re not “broken.” In this video, I break down why anxiety-driven planning spirals (from route-mapping the grocery store to pre-writing every social reply) quietly steal your time, energy, and self-trust—and how to get your life back.What you’ll learn
How anxiety routines (not just OCD) become mental “time thieves”
The hidden cost: why over-planning convinces you you’re incompetent
6 practical ways to loosen anxiety’s grip:
- Care for something beyond yourself
- Take action before you feel “ready” (graded exposure)
- “Finish the story” behind your fear
- Intentionally disrupt the routine (safe, small experiments)
- Lean on universal coping tools (mindfulness, breath work, PMR, prayer/mantras)
- Build a receipts file of times you handled it just fine
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- Connect with me on TikTok
- Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Thanks to Grow Therapy for sponsoring this video! Head to their site to learn more and book a session!Your life can feel like it’s falling apart—sometimes because of bad luck, but other times because of your own choices. I’ve ruined my life multiple times…and rebuilt it. In this video, I share 7 practical strategies for putting your life back together when you’ve hit rock bottom.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- Connect with me on TikTok
- Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Society's greatest lies are destroying your peace of mind daily. I've spent fifteen years identifying six toxic beliefs that trap people.
These patterns appear regardless of age, gender, or background. Most people unknowingly accept damaging worldviews that keep them stuck.
I'll expose how these lies manifest in your thoughts. You'll learn to challenge destructive beliefs that fuel anxiety.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
I use Manta Sleep Mask to block light and sound, melt tension, and prime my brain for a calm, anxiety-free morning. Try it for yourself and see the difference.Depression doesn't mean you're living wrong. It's a cyclical condition that happens to you.Episodes aren't punishment for your choices. They're medical events requiring strategic responses.I share fifteen critical mistakes that worsen depression. These aren't generic tips—they're battle-tested strategies. Each one prevents your episode from lasting months instead of weeks.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Your brain doesn't care about your happiness at all. I explain why our survival-focused minds sabotage positive change.Our brains prioritize predictability over progress every single time. Research shows our brains constantly change through neuroplasticity, yet resist beneficial transformations.This video reveals how to shrink toxic belief systems. I share practical strategies for accurate thought classification daily.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
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Physical activity beats therapy and medication for depression. My data proves exercise is faster, cheaper, and more effective.Depression makes exercise feel impossible when it's most needed. Your brain craves instant gratification while battling low energy.This video gives you my 10-strategy system for staying active. These methods helped me maintain fitness through decades of depression.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Most people accept all suffering as equally inevitable and meaningful. I believe we're torturing ourselves with pain that serves no purpose.The truth is you're likely pursuing things you don't value. You're also avoiding things that could actually fulfill you completely.I'll show you my modified Eisenhower matrix for elimination. You'll learn to separate meaningful struggle from pointless self-torture.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Having everything you thought you wanted doesn't cure existential emptiness. I discovered this painful truth after climbing from rock bottom.Many people achieve their dreams yet still feel hollow. Society rarely acknowledges this confusing category of "thriving yet unhappy."This video explores three keys to finding meaning beyond success: self-actualization, values alignment, and spiritual connection. These insights will help you navigate depression that exists alongside achievement.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Recovery isn't about feeling happy all the time. Most people chase temporary highs that always fade away.I discovered we have two choices for happiness. We chase quick mood boosts or raise our baseline.This video shows my research-based model for lasting contentment. You'll learn to balance immediate gratification with long-term investments.
Thanks to Grow Therapy for sponsoring this episode! Head to our website to learn more and book a session! @growtherapy__
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
No one else is talking about this strategy - because no one else has done it (to my knowledge).I'm sharing the strategy I've used to solve what felt like an impossible problem in my life: how to get done both the things I have to do, as well as the things I really want to do.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Thanks to Grow Therapy for sponsoring this episode! Learn more or book a session here. Depression hijacks your mind to tell you you’re worthless. By reshaping the questions you ask yourself into specific, actionable prompts, you reclaim control over your mind.In this video, I reveal how broad, leading questions fuel self-defeat and why pinpointing precise, constructive questions can spark joy, bolster resilience, and guide you out of a depressive episode.Watch now to learn the essential reframing technique that turns your brain’s questioning instinct into a powerful tool for peace, purpose, and progress.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Personality isn’t a flaw to fix, it’s a unique feature.I believe we often underestimate how much we can truly change.I dive into the Big Five traits and their mental health impact.You’ll learn when to change habits and when to accept traits.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Motivation hacks fail depressed brains. Depression distorts mental-health reward predictions, making every beneficial task feel pointless. I explain why raw physical action beats mental cheerleading.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Anhedonia is one of the scariest, most confusing, most unpleasant things that can happen to you. Even scarier is that it can come out of nowhere without warning, and can last for extended periods of time.Anhedonia has stolen many years of my life; I want to make sure that doesn't happen to you (again).
- My 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
- I have the opportunity to talk with Clint Lowery! Clint is a songwriter and producer, best known as the guitarist and backing vocalist in the rock band Sevendust.
We dive into sobriety, fitness, service, and faith. These truths fuel trauma recovery and mental resilience, not just catchy riffs.
* Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
The world of professional mental health does not have all the answers or solutions or managing severe depression and anxiety.
Even after I had implemented the major principles for living well with depression and anxiety from contemporary psychotherapy, I still felt like there were some pretty big chunks missing.
I'm going to talk about how I filled in those chunks with philosophies and disciplines far outside the realm of traditional mental health interventions.
- My 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Following your heart is one of the most destructive philosophies of our time. I lived this way for years and it shattered my life beyond recognition.My journey from emotional chaos to stability wasn't easy. This approach left me constantly depleted, chasing fleeting pleasures while my life crumbled around me.In this video I share the system that finally helped me escape the emptiness. You'll discover how to build lasting satisfaction by focusing on values instead of feelings.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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3 Unique ways to work with me
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- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- The Sleep Mask I use to sleep deeper, longer (as a chronically light sleeper).
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Get the sleep mask I use to get better sleep, longer - as a terribly light sleeper.Sleep isn't the magic cure for fatigue that most people believe. I discovered this harsh truth after finally fixing my 20-year battle with chronic insomnia.Getting 7-8 hours of sleep didn't automatically eliminate my exhaustion or brain fog. Your energy levels depend on twelve critical factors beyond sleep quantity that I've personally tested.I'll show hidden energy-drainers and provide practical solutions for each one.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
When Adult Trauma Unleashes Childhood WoundsTrauma isn't a breakdown, it's your body's normal response to abnormal experiences. Your nervous system is simply showing you where healing needs to happen.Adult trauma often unleashes childhood wounds that feel overwhelming and unmanageable. I've discovered powerful techniques to regulate these nervous system responses that traditional therapy missed.Anna Runkle, @CrappyChildhoodFairy , and I explore practical tools for nervous system regulation and relationship healing. You'll learn how to recognize dysregulation patterns and develop daily practices that create lasting change.
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- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Depression recovery isn't about waiting for magical motivation to appear. I spent a decade waiting for someone else to be help before realizing I needed to invest in myself first.My breakthrough came from simple morbid curiosity, not overwhelming self-belief. You must engage with the life you have rather than waiting for the perfect circumstances to materialize.This video shows how I navigated that thankless period between effort and results. I'll show you exactly how to build that tiny spark into sustainable change without getting trapped in analysis paralysis.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. * Connect with me on TikTok * Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
I tested three top-rated AI therapy apps to see how they'd handle a severe depressive episode. Spoiler alert, I'm not worried about being replaced yet.AI therapy shows promise for addressing accessibility and cost barriers in mental health care. These digital options could provide immediate support for those who can't access traditional therapy, though they currently lack the emotional connection of human interaction.None felt fully equipped to handle serious mental health issues, with responses ranging from overly optimistic to appropriately cautious about their limitations. While these apps provide decent coaching, they struggle with genuine empathy and jump to solutions too quickly.
Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order. - Connect with me on TikTok - Connect on Instagram Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
The caffeine-lite option for long-term boost in mood, cognition, motivation and stress management.
Use Code SCOTT20 for 20% of your order.
Mental health treatment is failing millions of people. Traditional therapies and medications only solve half of anxiety cases because we're addressing the wrong issues.Anxiety isn't a single condition but seven distinct types most professionals miss. Some anxieties are perfectly appropriate responses to real problems in your life, not chemical imbalances or faulty thinking.I reveal the hidden causes of anxiety that no pill can fix: deception, digital addiction, caffeine, self-abuse, discomfort avoidance, exhaustion, and death fears. This video will help you identify your true anxiety triggers and find solutions therapy alone can't provide.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
- 3 Unique ways to work with me
- Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
- My book: For When Everything is Burning
- Connect with me on TikTok
- Connect on Instagram
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.
Depression often strikes those with above-average intelligence and empathy who clearly see life's harsh realities.Living with chronic mental illness means not trusting every thought or feeling. My brain sometimes produces crushing despair when nothing is wrong externally. This awareness has been crucial after years of mistaking symptoms for guidance.I'll show you practical strategies for managing your mental health as a full-time job. Learn how to set emotional budgets, define what meaning truly is, and prioritize brain health through sleep, nutrition, movement, and consistency—all without shame.
- Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
- Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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Life shouldn't feel like a constant grind with minimal rewards. I believe the discrepancy between effort and reward is what's destroying your motivation to keep going.Your depression might stem from putting in tremendous work while receiving little in return. This video will help you operationalize your will to live through a powerful exercise that identifies what's missing.Learn how to create a blueprint of actionable steps that can transform your existence. I'll guide you through developing a realistic pathway from despair to a life that finally feels worth the effort you're investing.
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Many people feel profoundly alone despite having friends, family, and romantic partners in their lives.The loneliness epidemic is reaching catastrophic levels in our digital world. Technology offers convenient substitutions for real human interaction but fails to activate crucial regions of our brains.This video reveals practical strategies to survive increasing social disconnection. Learn simple daily habits that combat isolation and protect your mental health in our increasingly detached society.
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Society lied to us about self-sabotage. This misunderstood behavior isn't malicious or intentional but stems from past pain and hurt.
In this episode, I reveal how survivorship bias creates these destructive patterns. Learn practical steps to lower your threshold of certainty and stop fighting ghosts from your past. Discover how to take action before feeling ready and finally welcome the good things you deserve.
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Society tells us that smart, ambitious people can't be deeply depressed. My personal and professional experience proves this harmful myth couldn't be further from the truth.
Living at the intersection of severe depression, high cognitive ability, and strong ambition creates a uniquely challenging experience. We oscillate between periods of incredible achievement and devastating lows, never quite fitting in with either our high-functioning or struggling peers.
In this video, I show you how to break free from the exhausting cycle of chasing achievement as a path to happiness. I'll guide you through building an unshakeable foundation that can weather any storm your mind creates.
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Society tells us grief over pets isn't valid or important. The pain of losing an animal companion can be just as devastating as losing a human loved one.As someone who's experienced profound pet loss multiple times, I understand the deep ache and emptiness that follows. The journey through pet grief requires both short-term coping strategies and long-term healing techniques.This episode guides you through proven methods to process your pet loss grief authentically. You'll learn practical steps to honor your feelings and move forward without rushing or suppressing your emotions.
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Most people think planning prevents disaster - they're dead wrong. Obsessive planning and overthinking are actually stealing your peace and reinforcing anxiety.Your mind is playing tricks on you, making you believe that constant preparation is the only thing keeping chaos at bay. You're wasting precious mental energy on hypothetical problems.In this episode, I'll show you three quick, practical techniques to break free from overthinking patterns. These methods will help you reclaim your mental space and find more joy in the present moment.
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Avoiding your fears actually makes life MORE terrifying, not less. When you dodge what scares you, you're forced to carry the weight of every possible outcome simultaneously.Fear of the unknown paralyzes us into inaction, whether it's health concerns, financial stress, or relationship troubles. I've been there, trapped in that cycle of avoidance and mounting anxiety.In this video, I'll show you why facing your fears head-on is the only path to peace, and share real strategies that helped me transform anxiety into action.
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Bed rotting isn't the self-care practice social media claims it is. In fact, this trending coping mechanism could be worsening your depression and anxiety.Living in a hustle culture that demands constant productivity has left many of us burned out and seeking escape. While staying in bed all day might seem like the answer, it's creating a dangerous cycle of avoidance and self-shame.In this video, I'll walk you through 6 practical strategies to break free from bed rotting habits. Learn how to create healthy rest patterns and rediscover your mental wellness without falling into the trap of toxic productivity.
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I'm hosting a free live discussion and Q&A on Friday, January 31st on how you can still make life feel worth living even in your darkest times.
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Our minds selectively thread together shameful memories while scattering positive ones away.
I discovered this profound truth through three interconnected stories about fishing accidents, teenage rebellion, and unexpected confessions. These experiences revealed how our brains manipulate our self-worth through selective memory.
In this video, I show you how to recognize this mental trap and develop a more balanced self-image. You'll learn practical strategies to counter your brain's negativity bias and embrace both your struggles and strengths.Next Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:♥︎ 3 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning 🤝 Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg/joinDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Quick fixes for mental health are destroying your progress. The self-help industry's promise of rapid transformation is setting you up for failure.Your attempts to heal quickly might be the exact reason you're stuck in place. Making dramatic lifestyle changes and expecting instant results creates a cycle of disappointment and abandonment.In this video, I explain four essential mindset shifts that transformed my approach to mental health recovery and can help you build sustainable, lasting change.
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- Real transformation often starts in the depths of isolation, where even the smallest comfort can matter.
In my junior year of high school, I retreated to my attic room, existing on video games and disconnection. My world had shrunk to the size of my perceived failures, with only one fading connection to a band that eventually dissolved.
I hope this personal story helps you find just one tiny spark - even something as simple as a childhood memory or favorite food - that can become the foundation for rebuilding your life.
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Success isn't about avoiding failure - it's about finding your true limits. True growth comes from pushing past self-imposed boundaries until you discover what you're genuinely capable of achieving.
I spent years letting anxiety dictate my capabilities, avoiding challenges that might expose my perceived weaknesses. Through weightlifting and academic pursuits, I discovered that my real limits far exceeded my self-imposed restrictions.
In this episode, I'll show you how to differentiate between harmful and beneficial failure, giving you practical strategies to break free from self-sabotage. You'll learn how to use "controlled failure" as a tool for personal growth and self-discovery.
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Most parenting advice creates broken adults. Society pressures us to raise "convenient" children, but this approach severely damages their emotional development and mental health.
Children deserve to be emotional, needy, and sometimes chaotic as they navigate a confusing world with underdeveloped coping skills. When we force them to suppress these natural tendencies, we create adults who struggle with self-worth and emotional connection.
In this video, I break down four destructive expectations society places on children and reveal how these create maladaptive behaviors. Whether you're a parent or healing from your own childhood wounds, this information will help you understand and overcome these damaging patterns.
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Your cherished childhood memories are lying to you. Nostalgia creates a deceptive highlight reel that omits all the ordinary stress and struggles we faced back then.
Those magical moments from your past weren't actually more special than what's happening right now. Our brains play three specific tricks that make old memories seem better than they really were.
In this episode, I'll show you how to stop letting romanticized memories rob you of present joy. You'll learn why your past feels superior to your present and how to break free from this mental trap.
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You do not have full control over your mental health. No one is guaranteed a go0d life - or a good brain.
And while there always will be things you cannot control, how you influence what you can will make all the difference.
I'm giving you 25 suggestions that will be worth your time in 2025.
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A lifetime of being labeled "lazy" taught me there's a crucial difference between choosing not to act and being unable to act.My struggles with depression were constantly misinterpreted as a lack of motivation or drive. Once I understood the difference between depression and laziness, I finally stopped blaming myself for something beyond my control.In this video, I break down five key differences between depression and laziness that will help you identify what you're really experiencing. Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
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There's a reason therapy often makes you feel worse than you did before you started. Good therapy helps disengage and deactivate negative coping mechanism you're using to handle the harsh reality of what you're facing. However this often happens before you're able to create new, healthier coping skills.This reality leaves you with two choices.
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High-functioning depression is the most misunderstood subtype of depression sufferer.
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Most mental health advice about trauma recovery is dead wrong. Traditional therapy approaches often make PTSD symptoms worse, not better.You're struggling not because your brain is broken, but because it's protecting you from something real that happened. Through my decade of trauma therapy experience and personal journey, I've discovered five essential rules that actually work.In this video, I'll show you how to recover from trauma without constantly reopening old wounds. My proven approach helps you reclaim your sense of safety and build a life where your past no longer controls your present.
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- How will you survive the onslaught of the winter/holiday season if you struggle with your mental health?
I'm sharing my personal survival guide in this episode.
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Technology isn't ruining your mental health - your relationship with it is. Our society's relationship with screens has become deeply unhealthy, creating a self-perpetuating cycle of escapism and deteriorating mental health.Living with mental illness means having higher baseline needs for self-care and stability than most people realize. In this video, I'll show you how bottom-up time budgeting transformed my relationship with technology and mental health. You'll learn practical strategies to rebalance your daily routine without feeling deprived or left behind.Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
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Making healthy decisions is one of the most difficult things to do for people struggling with mental illness. Conditions like depression, anxiety, PTSD, ADHD, affect both our conscious thoughts, as well as, our emotional experiences.Living with anxiety or depression can make you doubt your judgment, leading to cycles of poor choices and regret. I've been there, and I've discovered a powerful DBT technique that changed everything.In this episode, I'll teach you the Wise Mind method to balance your emotional and rational minds, helping you make decisions you won't regret later.
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- Most self-care advice is toxic positivity wrapped in consumerist propaganda. True self-care isn't about spa days and shopping sprees - it's about treating yourself like someone you're responsible for keeping alive.
I discovered this truth while teaching burnout prevention to healthcare workers, where I developed the concept of "aggressive self-care." This approach treats self-care as seriously as medical intervention, because your wellbeing literally depends on it.
In this episode, I'll show you the three core elements of aggressive self-care that can help you build a solid foundation for mental health, even if you're struggling right now. You'll learn practical strategies for feeling as good as you're capable of feeling on any given day.
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Therapist credentials and education don't matter as much as you think. What truly matters is their ability to connect, understand, and implement effective treatment strategies.
I've spent years watching therapists with impressive degrees fail their clients while less decorated professionals create lasting transformations. Through my experience as a clinical psychologist, I've identified three essential questions that separate effective therapists from those who just wing it.
I'm teaching you exactly what to ask your therapist and what answers to look for. You'll learn to spot red flags and identify the right therapist who can genuinely help you heal.
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Human beings are reward-focused, and this can be extremely problematic when we don't feel appreciated. Our need for appreciation actually makes us more miserable. In this video, I'll show you three practical strategies to break free from feeling invisible and finally feel appreciated - even if the people around you never change.
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Depression treatments often fail because they focus too much on the mind, ignoring the body. Your brain is an organ first and an emotion-producer second, which changes everything about treatment.Living with treatment-resistant depression isn't just about finding the right therapist or medication. Understanding whether your struggles stem from physical health, self-talk patterns, or connection difficulties can completely transform your recovery journey.In this video, I break down six often-overlooked reasons why your depression might be stubbornly persistent. These insights come from 15 years of clinical experience helping people who thought nothing would ever work.
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Traditional therapy is failing the mentally ill community. The current system wasn't built for those battling severe mental health challenges.Insurance barriers and practice models push the most skilled therapists toward treating the "worried well." The harsh reality is that finding a therapist who truly understands chronic mental illness requires exhausting trial and error.In this video, I explain why most therapy techniques fall short for severe mental health issues. You'll learn why your past therapy experiences may have failed you and gain realistic expectations for finding the right help.If you're looking for a good therapist, you might enjoy this video on my criteria for choosing.
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Society tells us lost years are wasted years. In reality, these painful periods of mental illness are not our fault, but a natural outcome of battling an invisible enemy.My own decade-long struggle with mental health taught me that recovery begins when we stop blaming ourselves. Through this journey, I discovered that managing mental illness often requires doing the opposite of what our minds tell us to do.In this video, I'll show you why your "lost years" don't define your worth and share practical insights for moving forward. I'll help you understand that your struggles aren't a reflection of failure, but a testament to your resilience.
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Happiness isn't a natural state for everyone, and that's perfectly fine. I've spent decades fighting against my brain's inability to maintain joy.Interestingly, constantly chasing happiness makes you more miserable. My breakthrough came when I stopped fighting against my natural emotional baseline.In this video, I'll show you why accepting your unique emotional framework and focusing on less-leaky emotional buckets can create a more fulfilling life. I'll also explore how neurodiversity affects our emotional experiences and why traditional happiness-seeking might be holding you back.
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Your messy home isn't a character flaw - it's your brain on survival mode.Research shows your brain actually develops differently in cluttered spaces, affecting everything from memory to relationship perspectives. Through my work with therapy clients, I've discovered that organizing your space isn't about perfection - it's about creating mental peace.In this video, I share six science-backed strategies to transform your living space and lift your mood.
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Relaxation techniques aren't failing you - they're just incomplete. Most experts only teach half the solution, leaving you stuck in an endless cycle of anxiety.Effective stress management requires both physical and psychological interventions. Your brain's natural stress response operates on multiple levels, demanding a more sophisticated approach.A portion of this video is in partnership with Happier. Happier is a meditation app made for those of us who struggle to find time, space, and belief that meditation can work for us.It’s not about “enlightenment culture” or becoming a guru. It’s simply made to help us experience the enormous benefits of meditation on a more regular basis.Happier is giving away free 1-year subscriptions to the app to those who have struggled with meditation in the past. Offer expires 10/30 at 11:59PM. Sign up today.
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Mental illness can make you feel like you don't belong in this world, and often lead to isolation and alienation. Isolation can lead to a worsening of mental illness, which can in turn lead to greater isolation. And on, and on.Society tells us disconnection from the world means we're broken. My journey through mental illness taught me disconnection is actually a natural defense mechanism.Living with depression and anxiety drove me to create mental barriers, including constant internal music and visual filters. These coping mechanisms helped me survive but ultimately deepened my isolation.In this video, I share three practical strategies that helped me rejoin the world without losing myself. Let me show you how to find balance between self-protection and meaningful connection.
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Happiness isn't humanity's default state. Some of us are wired differently, we require active effort to maintain emotional well-being.
Living with a happiness deficit feels isolating, especially when surrounded by naturally content people. As a psychologist I've discovered effective strategies for managing this unique brain type.
If you're constantly struggling to feel happy despite having "nothing wrong," your brain might be wired like mine - and I'll show you exactly how to work with it, not against it.
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Pressure and stress motivate humans to get stuff done, but only to a certain point. After that point they become a liability - they can actually make you less likely to achieve your goals.Hard work, by itself, is not enough. You need strategy, which comes from understanding how your brain actually works.
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How you sleep matters. The way you feel and function during the day is a direct reflection of both the quantity and quality of your sleep.
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It's not just about how to get to sleep fast, but how to sleep better at night naturally.
And if you have 1 or more chronic mental health conditions (major depressive disorder, bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, PTSD), the stakes are higher for you to hit all the needed stages of sleep - getting the benefit of the full sleep cycle.
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Grief doesn't alway involve loss because of death. It's a natural response to any significant loss in life. In fact, grieving the living can be even more challenging than mourning the dead.
Breakups, estranged family members, and ended friendships can leave us devastated. These losses often lack closure and breed guilt, making the healing process complex and drawn out.
In this episode, I share my personal experience with grief and offer practical steps to cope. You'll learn how to process your emotions and reclaim your life after losing someone who's still alive.
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Many of the conventional mental health treatments are failing us. Our mainstream options only work for about half of those seeking help, leaving many to suffer in silence.
Therapy and medication aren't enough. We need more innovative solutions, especially for those battling treatment-resistant depression and anxiety.
In this episode, I explore alternate treatments depression like TMS, ketamine therapy, ECT, and microdosing. I'll break down how they work, their effectiveness, and potential side effects.
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0:00 - Introduction: The Need for Alternative Treatments1:50 - Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS): How It Works6:06 - Ketamine: A Promising Treatment Option10:19 - Mindbloom: At-Home Ketamine Treatment12:11 - Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT): Dispelling Myths14:46 - Microdosing Psychedelics: Emerging Research
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Your relationship with yourself shapes your entire life - but what if that relationship is toxic?
Self-hatred isn't inevitable; it's a habit you can break. My approach challenges conventional self-help wisdom. Instead of forcing positivity, I'll show you 4 alternative approaches that will create actual change.
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Every day decisions feel like life or death when you have chronic anxiety.
Some of us are hardwired to care way too much about every little thing, so that doing "normal" things can leave us on the verge of panic.
Many of the coping mechanism you're using to reduce your anxiety are likely making it worse. I'm going to show you what to do instead.
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Depression isn't always lying to you. Your feelings of worthlessness might reflect an unmet need for purpose and impact.
I've battled severe depression for a decade. Through this struggle, I discovered that constantly consuming without creating deepens the despair.
This imbalance can make anyone feel invisible and irrelevant. I have a theory on how to break free from this cycle.
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There is a very simple reason why the changes you try to make - habits, routines, thought patterns - rarely work.
The process involved in actual change has been severely over simplified. This results in failure by putting yourself in unwinnable situations.
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No one has tried everything they could try to improve their mental health. No one.
There are millions of possibilities and combinations available. However, sometimes it's better to stop acquiring new information and focus, instead, on applying the information we already have.
Today I'm presenting 7 things you probably know you should be doing but my be struggling to implement.
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Fixing your sleep will have the biggest positive impact on your mental health.When you don't get enough sleep, the brain doesn't work right. Impact includes everything from executive functioning, emotional regulation, and social functioning.To avoid that downward spiral of negative effects from poor sleep, I'm going to give you some strategies for improving this deceptively difficult area of life.
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Passive SI is one of the most misunderstood mental health symptoms.
I'm going to debunk some common misconceptions about passive suicidal ideation. As a clinical psychologist with professional and personal experience, I'm going to set the record straight.
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I've been there, feeling like an outcast and struggling with severe mental health issues like anxiety and deep depression for much of my life.
This video offers brutally honest advice to my younger self with insights on resilience, identity, and finding peace.
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You have much less control over your thoughts and feelings than most people would lead you to believe. Which is extremely unfortunate when you have mental health struggles.
This is why most of the things you try to change your thinking, at best, don't work, and, at worst, have then opposite effect.
I'm sharing 6 common mistakes I see therapy patients making when trying to fix their mental health by controlling their thoughts, and what to do instead.
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Most mental-health interventions and strategies are geared toward people with mild-to-moderate symptoms of depression and anxiety - not the intense negative self-talk many experience.Traditional methods often fall short when confronting our harshest inner critics. I've developed a technique to match the intensity of negative thoughts.In this video, I'll teach you how to fight fire with fire. Learn to challenge your inner critic effectively and regain control of your mental landscape.
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Depression has a way of stealing your energy and motivation.
So how can you improve your energy and motivation while recovering from depression or depressive episodes?
First, you have to understand that these are two separate things - and they each require different interventions. I'm going to show you how to tell the difference and some ways to improve each.
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How can an introvert enjoy alone time without feeling lonely, isolated, or disconnected?
In my personal, and professional experience, there are 3 reasons you might struggle with this. I'm going to breakdown each reason for you and give you some tips on how to navigate them.
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You're probably not actually self-sabotaging: and I have a few reasons for saying this.
"Self-sabotage" is one of the most overused phrases in mental health. It's become a blanket phrase for people who are struggling to seeing meaningful change in their lives.
I'm breaking down what self-sabotage actually is, and how you can avoid it - if you happen to be doing it.
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Facing emotional pain and grief is incredibly hard.I spent years running from my childhood grief, thinking time would magically fix everything. But avoiding pain only prolongs the suffering and stunts our growth.It's understandable to want to avoid it, ignore it, run from it. The reality is, sometimes facing that pain, trauma, or grief turns out to be as bad as you think it will be.The critical thing here is that you do force yourself to face it, feel it, and work through it. It's going to sting and hurt. Sometimes you have to let it hurt to heal.
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Managing 1 or more chronic mental health conditions is a full-time responsibility.
If you push this to the bottom of your priorities it will be extremely difficult for it to ever improve significantly. But since you have a life filled with other responsibilities, your time, attention, energy, and resources are probably already spread thin.
Here are 5 you can do if you have just 5 minutes.
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I'm exploring four unconscious behaviors that hurt people with mental illness. These things aren't going to serve you in managing your mental health.
I'll show you how to recognize these patterns in hopes that you can reduce their occurrences - it will lead to significantly better outcomes.
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Thought patterns don't define you, and they're not fixed. The thing about depression is it traps you in narrow, repetitive thinking.
Your thinking is actually quite malleable. But reshaping your thoughts, often takes a lot more than just trying to think differently.
I'm talking with Dr. Moshe Bar of Hedonia about how they've been able to gamify Facilitating Thought Progression (FTP) in order to rewrite thought patterns.
I'm all-in on alternative, science-based methods for managing depression and anxiety. We explore how gaming can reshape cognitive patterns, improve mood, and complement both therapy and medication.
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Your life isn't failing; it's just stretched thin.
This is not a cliche, empty reassurance, or toxic positivity: you're probably doing better than you give yourself credit for.
Think of yourself as a distribution manager with limited resources. You're juggling work, relationships, health, and home - all demanding more than you can give.More than likely, you're using an incorrect metric to measure how well you're doing. I'm going to explain how to measure your success more accurately and feel good about your efforts.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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00:00 Introducing the Measurement Problem
02:16 Unpacking the Resource Distribution Metaphor
05:33 The Competing Demands of Modern Life
09:06 Personal Reflections on Balancing Responsibilities
13:21 Redefining Success: From Perfection to Resilience
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Our world is built on the ability of individuals to function socially (for better or worse). So what happens when your default social functioning differs from the norm?In the case of empathy, differing from the norm - both with "too much" or "too little" empathy - can have a disabling effect.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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Waking up early and struggling to go back to sleep creates a lot of stress on your body.
Some studies have shown this to decrease cognitive functioning by up to 10% per hour of lost sleep!
Sometimes, this is caused by a sleep disorder. I'm going to show you 4 ways to stop waking up too early.
If you're struggling to stay asleep, you can use these 4 methods on your own. But I highly recommend you check out my friends at Sleep Reset. (partner I believe in) Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyMy book: For When Everything is BurningMood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand):
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0:00 - The Early Awakening Struggle: Symptoms and Impact
5:23 - Naps: The Hidden Sleep Disruptor
10:47 - Circadian Misalignment and CBT-I Solutions
16:32 - Environmental Factors Affecting Sleep Quality
21:15 - Substances and Sleep: Caffeine and Alcohol's Impact
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The traditional clinical symptoms of depression often don't cover the full spectrum of what it feels like to experience depression or depressive episodes on a daily basis.
Today I'm diving into 8 specific symptoms of depression you won't find in the official overview - but I think they are illuminating, validating, and helpful.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologySleep better, without pills (partner I believe in):https://bit.ly/SleepResetMethodMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
00:00 Escapism and Fantasy Worlds
01:11 Soul-Deep Tiredness
03:25 Muted Colors
05:37 Angry Perfectionism
07:56 Achievement Anesthesia
12:53 Normal People Look Like Superheroes
14:58 Chronic Sense of Displacement
17:09 Addiction to Emotion-Creating Activities
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Life doesn't always involve constant growth - it has dormant phases too.
We sometimes experience events that halt progress unexpectedly, invisibly.Trauma, resource scarcity can end growing seasons prematurely.
Like trees, grass, we aren't fragile for needing dormant periods occasionally. Unseen circumstances dictate when growth stalls, despite others' journeys. Don't judge the pause as failure - it's natural cycles.
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00:00 - Periods of Stagnation: When Personal Growth Stalls
01:35 - Human Growth and Dormancy cycles
04:12 - How struggles can prematurely end a period of growth through no personal failing.
08:02 - Humans can overcome stagnation with the right conditions/resources.
11:17 - Self-Compassion for Dormant Growth Periods
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Would you describe your life as a rollercoaster?This probably looks like sustained periods where you're extremely high-functioning and then prolonged periods where you struggle to do even the most basic functions.
Most people suffering from depression and anxiety experience this to some degree. If this is you, you're probably like me, a "high ceiling, low floor" person - highly functional sometimes, unable to do basics at others.
I'm sharing the 3 keys that help me move through the lows - and highs - for more consistent functionality.
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Trying to replace negative thoughts with positive ones rarely works for your mental wellbeing. Your brain perceives threat and warns you by replaying those thoughts. Fighting this impulse makes your mind cling tighter.I'm laying out an effective retraining technique. No more fruitless thought struggles - you'll gain control. Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.0:00 - The Lie About Overcoming Negative Thoughts2:15 - Why Positive Thinking Backfires 4:32 - The Five Core Organizers7:48 - Changing the Channel in Your Mind11:03 - Engaging Your Other "Advisors"14:27 - Using Physical Movement to Shift Focus17:51 - Mastering the Channel Changing Technique
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Life doesn't always make sense, not all pain has a purpose - and this reality can hurt. This frustrated me for years.While not all pain leads to something positive, I want to offer a perspective that can help you avoid falling into deeper levels of despair. I call this technique, 'The Web.'Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologySleep better, without pills (partner I believe in):https://bit.ly/SleepResetPODAMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Society expects everyone to fit into predetermined molds, but that's not realistic. There is no "normal" path meant for everyone.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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0:00 - The Person I Want To Be Doesn't Exist
2:15 - Searching for a Path That Fits
5:28 - The Delusion of a Secret Society
8:40 - Accepting There Is No Preset Path
11:25 - Finding Peace in My Uniqueness
14:10 - Crafting a Customized Life
17:35 - Embracing Your Distinctive IdentityDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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There's an epidemic of unhelpful responses when someone opens up about their struggles. My take: Most well-meaning people inadvertently make things worse because they simply don't know what to say.
When we see loved ones suffering, it triggers distress in us too. Our instinct is to quickly make their pain go away, for our sake as much as theirs. But rushing them through emotions or invalidating their fexelings creates isolation.
I want to look at four common unhelpful responses, and give you some new tools to use. These tools also apply to your self-talk - be your own supportive friend.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology
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People with depression often feel like they aren't very smart - I hear this all the time in therapy sessions.
But the usually the opposite is true. And there are a few very interesting reasons for that.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Stress and anxiety can feel almost identical, even though they are two very different things. When it comes to improving your mental health, know which one you're dealing is pretty important.I'm going to show you how to determine whether what you're feeling is stress or anxiety, and then give you some practical things you can do today to help each.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Life is completely overwhelming a large portion of the time.From all the things you have to do, to the things you need to do, and add in the things you want to do, and they're just no realistic way to get it all done.Now, instead of allowing that to shut you down and turn to avoidance, I'm going to show you how to turn it into action that helps you ease your stress.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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If you deal with any kind of mental health issues - especially depression and anxiety, - excessive phone usage is not helping you, generally speaking.But there are ways to use your phone to actually benefit your mental health. These 10 tools can help you establish more control of your life and improve your wellbeing.Get Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/0:00 Budgeting & Sleep Tracking Apps 4:17 Mood-Boosting Games Like MoodBloom6:43 Online Support & Breathwork8:58 Fitness, Nutrition & Productivity Tools12:13 Audiobooks, Podcasts & Community AdviceDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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You might be (accidentally, unknowingly, unintentionally) making your life worse in a number of ways.
One way is your (internal and implicit) criteria for what is considered a "good day." Your requirements for defining a good day might be ruining your life.
But you can modify these "checkboxes," and I'm going to help you do that.
If you've Lost Hope in Life, I invite you to join me for a live conversation and Q&A Thursday, May 16th at 4pm est. Here's the link: https://bit.ly/losthopeinlifelive Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety: iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8(I have partnered with this brand)Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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If you've Lost Hope in Life, I invite you to join me for a live conversation and Q&A Thursday, May 16th at 4pm est. Here's the link: https://bit.ly/losthopeinlifelive
I spent years chasing acceptance; it ruined my life.People rejected me, so I kept lowering my standards. It was the transitive property fallacy - I'm "less than."This video exposes that toxic thinking, and I layout a better approach to self-worth that might actually work for you.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety: iOS https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8(I have partnered with this brand)Androidhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US≷=US&pli=1Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/What's inside:00:00 Struggling to Fit In02:34 Descending the Social Ladder06:27 The Transitive Property Trap09:47 Rejecting the Downward SpiralDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Insecurity is a universal human experience, not a personal failing. Most coping methods actually reinforce insecurities rather than resolving them.
Embracing insecurities as identity reinforces negative thoughts. Denying weaknesses leads to reality harshly exposing them. Overcompensating through impression management is exhausting.
I'll show you how to overcome insecurity through incremental self-improvement. Facing insecurities through gradual exposure therapy diminishes their power.
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Past mistake, failures, choices, circumstances may be haunting you right now. Things you desperately wish you could forget - but know you probably never will.
You can't change any of this. But the regrets you feel about things you've done or things that have happened to you can hold you back in an entirely different way.
I'm going to show you how you (inadvertently) turn your guilt into shame and how that effects your life.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety: iOS:https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8(I have partnered with this brand)
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Psychological testing is not a perfect science by any means - it can have many barriers to entry including cost, access, and availability. But self-diagnosis is not the answer!This episode unpacks the very real concerns with self-diagnosis. Even when struggling to access professional care, firmly holding self-assigned labels carries risks. Proper differential diagnosis matters enormously for effective treatment.I don't disparage investigating to understand oneself better. But view potential self-diagnoses as hypotheses requiring rigorous vetting. I'm going to give you some guidelines for doing that.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand):
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Most think acceptance means settling for misery. That's not true. Acceptance empowers you to change what matters. It acknowledges some pain is unavoidable - but suffering is optional.Life has inherent discomforts we cannot control - that's "pain." Trying to force away that pain often backfires, causing more issues. That's "suffering." Radical acceptance separates the two categories.This video teaches evaluating life's pains objectively. Some are changeable with effort. Others aren't worth the cost of change. Radical acceptance means tolerating unchangeables, focusing energy on high-impact areas instead of fruitless struggles. It's life-changing.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Emotions are not light switches. You cannot simply turn them on or off just because you (or somebody) would like to.
Being told (or telling others) to calm down, cheer up, or get over it is dismissive and unhelpful. There is no direct mechanism for selecting your emotions.
The biggest problem is that this type of command is outcome based - become x new emotion now. But without a process for changing your emotions you may do more harm to your current emotional state.
I'm sharing with you that process here.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Not all negative thoughts are bad. But constantly thinking about negative things can lead to a downward cycle psychology calls rumination.Rumination is when we have certain thoughts, memories, or ideas, that get stuck in our brain. And trying to relax, unwind, or think about something else can simply make the thought more ingrained.There's a reason for this, and it's the reason why doing nothing is actually dangerous for rumination.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com
00:00 The Frustrating Nature of Brain Rumination
02:51 The Impact of Rumination on Mental Energy Allocation
05:27 Minimizing Rumination Through High-Stimulation Activities
08:09 Engaging the Brain to Combat Ruminative Thoughts1
0:45 Directing Mental Energy for Positive Focus
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If you're consistently failing at the same thing over and over again, you might be trying to force something that, ultimately, isn't you.When you find yourself in this place, it's time for a total life reexamination: where are you taking yourself and why?This probably feels pretty daunting, but I'm going to break it down for you now.Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg/joinGet Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Emotions can be absolutely terrifying; causing total shut down and unbelievable pain.Despite all that, your emotions are not the enemy of your life. In fact, they can be valuable insight into your present experience. They will only cause you agony when you don't understand your relationship to them.Approaching them as allies instead of enemies will help you control them and make better choices for your life. I'm going to show you how to do this.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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This episode my reaction to a recent news event around assisted suicide in a young individual with chronic mental health struggles.
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Organizing your life around what's most important to you might be inadvertently sabotaging your life.People with mental health struggles need to go deeper and determine what is most foundational in their life - not necessarily what is most important to them.The distinction is critical. The thing that is most foundational is the thing that will cause total system failure. For me, that thing is managing my life around my mental health goals. I'm going to show you exactly how I do that with a tool called with Sunsama. https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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There's an unspoken Achilles' heal in many peoples' mental health journeys. How do you stick to your plan, strategies, and healing in those times when you just don't care?
Periods of prolonged apathy create massive setbacks in your progress - you know this. There's no amount of willpower or positive thinking that can keep these at bay.
I used to think these "black hole" periods were unsolvable, and I just had to endure.
But in the last few years I've found 2 strategies to help me push through the periods of apathy, numbness, emptiness, and anhedonia and stay on track with my life.I'm sharing those with you now.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Improving mental health doesn't always translate to feeling emotionally better. It's a dangerous assumption that can lead to discouragement.
Despite working diligently on therapies or medications, feeling stagnant is a common experience. As pathological feelings decrease, non-pathological ones may emerge, revealing newfound vulnerability.
I'm breaking down three reasons why this can happen, what these things actually mean, and some ideas for what you can do about them.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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The majority of the emotional stress people experience is self-induced. The good news is, this can also be managed fairly easily.There are 2 specific factors to emotional stress, objective and subjective. Basically, there are things that happen to you, and then there are the ways you interpret what happen to you. You cannot remove all emotional pain from your life, but you can significantly decrease it. I'm showing you how
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Can introverts with mental health conditions succeed in a world seemingly built for extroversion?
Introverts recharge their social battery through withdrawal. However, the introverted need to withdraw can very easily mask a pathological desire to withdraw because of things like anxiety, depression, and more.
Understanding the difference between needed solitude and pathological isolation can help you achieve your lifestyle goals.
I'm explaining both of these in hopes the nuance will help you as you continue navigating this extroverted world. Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Some days, existence feels like a chore, and admitting that can be tough. I know our brains are inconsistent and illogical, which can make life challenging. But acknowledging these feelings doesn't mean giving up.Living with depression or anxiety adds layers of complexity to self-care. I've learned strategies to make existence more tolerable, especially during tough times. I'm sharing three crucial rules that have helped me navigate the darkest moments. I think you'll find them helpful as well.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)
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The majority of mental health interventions are based on the assumption that you have a "normal" state to return to. But this is not the reality for many people.
If you fit this description, you've probably been frustrated by a lot of therapy - because it's not actually designed with your reality in mind.
I'm still a big believer in therapy, but I want to give you some things to look for so you get the approach that will actually help.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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When real psychological conditions are applied to people without those conditions because of pop-culture-misappropriation, bad things happen.Case in point: the terms "narcissist," and "depressed." These terms are real, valid, and define actual psychological conditions. However, they are being blatantly misapplied at an alarming rate, and causing an increase in ACTUAL psychological conditions.I'm going to tell what these things are AND aren't, and what the misapplication is doing to our culture. My hope is this will help you see yourself in the right light and keep from that downward spiral of self-hatred, low self-esteem, and poor self-concept.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsamahttps://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers
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Depression absolutely destroys your ability (and desire) to get done what you need to get done - but you already know this!Exhaustion, insomnia, anhedonia, worthlessness, brain fog. These are some of your adversaries in this.While they cannot be stopped 100% of the time, this tool will help you dramatically decrease the damage done to your life by depressive episodes.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersTherapy with me (Iowa residents only)http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)http://www.drscotteilers.com/Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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If you have a chronic mental health condition, your life is in a constant state of decay - unless you proactively do something about it.This is 1 of the essential truths about living with mental illness. And while it really sucks to hear - and I acknowledge and validate that feeling. I'm sharing with you some ways to make life good. It won't come automatic for you, but it can come intentionally.
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Does your brain goes from "everything is fine," to "I'm going to die alone and everything is going to fall apart," in an instant?
This is characteristic of catastrophic thinking, and it doesn't have to run your life.
I'm going to share techniques to help you slow down this process and stop it from plummeting you into the depths of despair.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJEUGu80G00
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The thing that got me into psychology is the same thing that almost completely derailed my entire life. And to this day, I'm still not sure what that thing was.
Why did I feel like I didn't belong in this world? What caused me to believe the life I was living was the wrong one?
I spent 5 years chasing a feeling that something existed "out there" that could fix everything inside of me. During this period I felt no connect to anything or anyone in my life. It was all there, but I didn't care about it.
The only reason I am where I am in life right now is because of some specific coping tools that I'm going to walk you through.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyMy book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers
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Which decisions actually impact our lives in a meaningful way? Yes, you make around 35,000 decisions every day, but not all of these are created equal.If you're a chronic over-thinker, or a decision-paralysis person, I'm going to teach you how to stop worrying over the decisions you make.Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg/joinGet Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://youtu.be/lf_ljoTZ3GEDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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When you've been bullied, judged, abused, belittled, mocked or shamed, for how you look or act, it can cause a hyper awareness in one.That hyper awareness and attempts to "fix the problem" can actually lead to a new perceived problem from other people - narcissism. Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg/joinGet Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Improving your mental health is difficult even in the best of situations, but what happens when the people you entrust to help you are actually making you worse?Picking a good therapist is incredibly important. I'm going to walk you through my criteria for finding a therapist who is not only competent, but specialized and compatible.Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg/joinGet Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://youtu.be/j-GinhKL1-kDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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The American concept of "self care" is actually leaving you worse off.The pursuit of self care as a product or experience misses the fundamental elements of actual self care that we truly need.I'm going to breakdown what actual self care is, and how you can practice it in practical, daily ways that will improve your life significantly. Join this channel to get access to perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg/joinGet Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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You might be inadvertently making your life more difficult because of one simple behavior.Our social structures are based on punishment, and this is the major obstacle for why you don't change.Avoiding punishment is the less effective internal driver. Sure, we don't want pain, suffering, loss, grief, discomfort - no one really does. But, our brains are wired to want reward even more than it wants to avoid punishment.This is why punishing yourself for failures just turns into a vicious cycle with no correction.I'm going to show you how to control this response and change it to relieve some of the burden of everyday life.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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What do you do when the normal strategies for getting better don't work?What do you do when the things other people are doing don't seem to work for you?What do you do when you see others getting better, succeeding, moving forward with life while you're stuck in the same place - or going backwards?I'm going to teach you 3 steps - in the right order - that will help you build a bridge to cross that canyon to healing.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://bit.ly/PsychologyOfDepressionandAnxietyDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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The secret is out: gratitude is good for your mental health. But what do you do if you don't feel it?You might be in the situation I was in: I logically understood that gratitude was helpful; I could agree that I had things in my life worthy of gratitude; and yet it never translated from a concept in my head to an experience in my heart.If you experience depression and anxiety, it's not enough to be told to be grateful, or to be told all the things we have to be grateful for or even the benefits of gratitude. You need tools and skills to practice gratitude.I'm going to walk you through 6 gratitude tools I use everyday that help me actually experience gratitude - and all the good things that come with it.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychologyGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Almost getting kicked out of my doctoral program taught me 4 important lessons that have helped me get from that low point to where I am now.Everyone faces setbacks - some are circumstantial, some are self-inflicted - but how you approach those setbacks will set the tone for everything that follows.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Yes, Borderline Personality Disorder is an incurable mental illness. But that doesn't mean it's unmanageable.Dr. Courtney Tracy, AKA @the.truth.doctor, explains how to organize your life around it and build something worth living.Find Dr Tracy here: https://www.thetruthdoctor.comGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
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If you feel like you're in a constant cycle of building things in life just to watch them get knocked down again, there could be a very good reason for that.Broadly speaking, our lives are divided into two phases: times when we can thrive, and times when the best we can do is survive. The length of these phases can depend on lots of circumstancesA lot of struggle comes from misunderstanding the phase of life you're in - which isn't always as obvious as you might think.Today, I'm going to help you understand and identify those phases, and give you some strategies for each.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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There are typically 3 reasons you might struggle to set and achieve goals.1. You don't have enough time or energy to do the thing2. You forget about the goal because, hey, life happens3. You don't totally understand why a method, process, whatever actually works.I'm problem-solving all 3 of these for you, and I'm giving you 13 concrete strategies that will transform your mental health (if you follow them).Let me know in the comments if you're willing to try.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Friday Q&A! Thanks to my ultra supporters for the great questions.
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Your negative thoughts don't actually belong to you.You've adopted, adapted, and taken ownership of ideas from other people, situations, and interpretations - but these are both not true and not yours.I'm going to show you how to remove those thoughts and replace them with native thoughts that actually help you.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Get better sleep, naturally (affiliate link)https://bit.ly/DrScottEilersSleepConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
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Life can be a very lonely and isolating journey. Because of this one fact, your relationship with yourself is the key to how your life turns out.Despite being the most impactful figure in our lives, we tend to mistreat ourselves. Many of us have damaged our relationship with ourselves, leading to self-neglect, self-hate, and a lack of compassion - I know I did for a really long time.To mend this relationship, here are 4 simple yet powerful strategies:1. Give Yourself Undivided Attention2. Meet Your Needs in Real Time3. Don't Withhold Praise4. Validate Your FeelingsGet my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersWhat's Inside:00:00 - Embrace the Power of Self-Understanding and Care03:18 - Transform Your Life: Rebuilding Your Relationship with Yourself06:24 - Be Present for Yourself: Cultivate a Fulfilling Self-Dialogue09:19 - Break the Cycle: Avoid Treating Yourself as a Burden12:11 - Embrace Self-Acknowledgment: Break the Cycle of Self-Criticism15:02 - Acknowledge Your Wins: Embrace Self-Recognition for Motivation17:51 - Validate Your Feelings: Embrace Self-Validation for Emotional Honesty20:31 - Overcome Procrastination: A Key to Rebuilding Trust with YourselfDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Welcome to the first YouTube ultra supporter Q & A! In these episodes I'll be discussing topics chosen by YouTube members.
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Depressive episodes can completely change how you function.From isolation to depriving yourself of things that feel good, from constant sleeping to insomnia, from lethargy to excessive energy.Whatever your specific experiences, life just seems to grind to a halt during a depressive episode.But that doesn't have to be the norm for you, and I'm going to talk through how to change it for yourself.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning
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Time does not heal ALL wounds. Period.In fact, with some kinds of emotional wounds, time actually makes things worse.So what does time have to do with grief, and what happens if you're grieving for an extended period of time?I'm talking through some of the symptoms and effect of prolonged grief disorder in this one.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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If you struggle with chronic anxiety, your life tends to revolve around three phases.
This pattern happens because of what's called the "worry bin" in your brain, a space for stress and worry.
Understanding those phases, and how to manage them, will help you reduce anxiety by shrinking the worry bin.
You can't eliminate stress entirely, but you can learn skillful distractions to train your brain to focus on more engaging and less stressful activities. The key is not just solving problems but changing how much mental space you allocate to stress and worry.
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What's inside:
00:00 - The Illusion of Emptying the Worry Bin
04:50 - Adding a Tool to Combat Endless Stress
07:08 - Coping Skill: Mindful Reflection
11:51 - In-The-Moment Anxiety Reduction with Mindfulness Questions
13:59 - Training Your Brain with Skillful Distractions
16:17 - Shrinking the Worry Bin for Sustained PeaceDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Therapy does not have all the answers.
Some of the biggest turning points in my life have had nothing to do with therapy or even psychology. I
'm sharing 8 of these because I know that getting to a place of more positive mental health will always take more than therapy.
I'd love to know what things you'd add to these. Let me know in the comments.
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Ever wonder why it's hard to sleep well? You're not alone. Sometimes, our sleep gets broken, and we don't know how to fix it.
Well, this video is all about understanding and fixing our sleep. I will talk about 'sleep hygiene,' which are easy things you can do every day to sleep better.
We also explore 'sleep restriction therapy' - a special way to help you sleep without tossing and turning all night. It's about learning simple steps to make your sleep better.
And if you need extra help, I will show you how to find it. Let's start this journey to better sleep together!
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What’s Inside:
0:00 – What is Sleep Hygiene?
2:27 – Analyzing Sleep Restriction Therapy
7:19 – Basic Principles Of Insomnia & Sleep Restriction Therapy
9:05 – Initiate Sleep Restriction Therapy In 3 Phases
16:45 – The Sleep Reset Program
20:44 – Summary - Sleep Restriction Therapy Strategy
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What happens when spend too much time trying to "escape" from your life?
First off, it is completely understandable to want to escape from your life at times. This world isn't setup in a way that fits everyone - every personality and persona.
But there are some costs that come with doing this too frequently and for extended periods of time. I want you to know the costs, as well as, some other ways to manage this reality.
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What’s Inside:
0:00 – Introduction
5:00 – Cost 1: Idealization of Crafted Realities
8:03 – Cost 2: Impact on Social Skills and Relationships
13:26 – Cost 3: Misallocation of Resources and Time
16:45 – Cost 5: Diminished Cognitive Performance and Attention
19:25 – Cost 6: Imagination and Disconnection from Reality
22:25 – Cost 7: Escapism and its Impact on Real-World Experience
25:55 – Summary: Understanding the 7 Costs of Excessive Fantasy
EngagementDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Do you fear everything will end terribly? Like every illness will end in loss; like every mistake will lead to severe consequences; like people are abandoning you when they take a while to respond?You might be experiencing something called catastrophic thinking. Catastrophic thinking can be overwhelming, but it's not unmanageable. Each person's experience with this challenge is unique, and so your approach should be unique as well.I’m diving into the roots and impacts of catastrophic thinking. My goal is to share ready-made strategies to help you improve your mindset and gain control over your thoughts.Try these techniques in your daily life and witness the change.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersWhat’s Inside:0:00 – The Psychology of Depression And Anxiety3:42 – Not being Caught Off Guard8:06 – Self-Fulfilling Prophecy11:35 - SolutionsDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.If you have any questions, please let us know in the comments section or contact us through social media. Thank you for your support!
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Anxiety management tools and strategies not working for you?Anxiety isn’t one-size-fits-all. And your specific experience of anxiety needs a specific strategy.I’m breaking down 4 different types of anxiety, as well as how to manage them . Try applying these in your context and see which might be effective for you.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersWhat’s Inside:0:00 – Introduction to Overcoming Anxiety6:25 – Tools for Narrative Anxiety Management10:00 – Strategies for Visual Anxiety14:13 – Physical Anxiety: Techniques and Tips19:49 – Managing General Anxiety: Approaches and InsightsDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.If you have any questions, please let me know in the comments section or contact me through social media. Thank you for your support!
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When you’re young, you have no ability to meet our own needs - so what happens when those needs don’t get met?When those needs aren’t met, you really only have two options: suffer or learn to ignore the need.Nurturing barriers are subconscious, internal habits you develop as coping mechanisms for not getting things you needed in the early period of your life.This can lead us to feel like we have don’t have emotions, like we’re numb. But what's actually happening is we are doing something inside of ourselves to block the input of that emotion.If this is you right now it may not feel like there’s hope, but stick with me because I truly believe there is.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersWhat's inside:00:36 - Unveiling the power of nurturing barriers, 04:01 - The shocking effects of inconsistent needs08:59 - Overcoming emotional numbness13:49 - Discover the game-changer: stop forcing emotions and turn inward16:26 - Learn to identify and inhibit reflexive reactions.Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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The emotional and physical toll of debilitating anxiety can be overwhelming. What I've found in my life - and in the lives of many clients - is that I fed and enabled my anxiety through my habits and actions. Not on purpose; not even knowingly.The first step to overcoming my chronic anxiety was to see the causes and dismantle them.I'm sharing the 6 things I did to fix my anxiety. These are personal - they worked for me. And, while every person is different, I believe these 6 can have a positive impact on your anxiety as well.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Does life sometimes feel like a never-ending cycle of pain and suffering? It's like you keep experiencing the same disappointments and setbacks over and over again. I'm going to introduce you to how the concept of confirmation bias tricks you into perceiving patterns that may not actually exist.I'm sharing an exercise to help you break free from these patterns by seeing things with fresh, "alien eyes". Imagine waking up tomorrow with a clean slate, no preconceived notions about who you are or how your life has been. This exercise can help you collect new data and challenge your old beliefs.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersWhat's inside:0:00 - Introduction and brief background05:25 - The solar system of pain and the impact of classification09:25 - How confirmation bias and self-fulfilling prophecies affect relationships12:21 - The challenge of changing these patterns and the importance of fresh perspectives13:49 - The exercise of looking at ourselves with "alien eyes" to gather new dataDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Ever wondered about the disturbing thoughts that occasionally cross your mind? The thoughts you don't want anyone else to know?
Do they mean you're some horrible person who wants everyone to die and wants to watch the world burn?
This time I'm looking at the nature of dark thoughts that many of us experience, but rarely talk about. Are these thoughts indicative of our true selves, or are they just part of the human experience?
Let's dive into.
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What's covered:
00:00 - Types of Thoughts: Conscious vs. Subconscious
02:45 - Subconscious Thoughts: Intrusive and Impulsive
05:12 - Misconceptions and Differences08:30 - Understanding Intrusive Thoughts
11:15 - Conclusion and Call to Action
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Anxiety shrinks your world. It takes this massive world we all inhabit and makes it feel oppressively small. Severe anxiety feels like there are barriers everywhere - invisible barriers, concrete walls block you from doing just about anything.Are you tired of living in constant fear and anxiety? Let’s dive in to practical strategies for overcoming anxiety and reclaiming your life. I’m going to show you how hierarchical exposure therapy can help you gradually face your fears and expand your comfort zone.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrScottEilersHere's what's inside:00:00 - Understanding the impact of avoidance on anxiety03:23 - Exposure therapy07:44 - Overcoming anxiety through gradual exposure09:53 - The ripple effects of conquering fear in your life12:40 - The role of confidence in reducing anxiety15:17 - Adjusting variables and using coping skills in exposure therapy17:33 - My personal journey of overcoming public speaking anxiety#Anxiety #Fear #ExposureTherapy #MentalWellBeing #overcomingfearandanxiety Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Are you worth investing in? Do you care what happens to you?It's easy to get to a place where you know what you "should" be doing - you have knowledge, tools, strategies that can help you. But many people opt-out of the "doing."The biggest barrier for many people on their mental healthy journey is finding a reason - a purpose - to actually apply those tools, copy skills, and knowledge.And I get it - because I've been in that place too. But the trap of "not being worth your own time," is actually artificial - and there's a way out!Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzgDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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The things you've done in your past that you're not proud of may have, in fact, helped you get through some of your darkest moments.I understand this is an unpopular opinion; but these incredibly destructive activities are also incredibly powerful in keeping us going when, perhaps, nothing else will.Hear me out on this one, and share your thoughts in the comments.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzgDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Managing your mental health is complex enough on its own without adding in the fact that every day can bring new challenges. What do you do when new depressive episodes and stressors while you're managing existing ones? Recovery hinges on recognizing and addressing the changes these bring to daily routines, social interactions, and self-care. The key is balancing 'inputs' and 'outputs' in your life. Inputs are activities that replenish energy and enhance well-being (like sleep, nutrition, and exercise). Outputs are tasks that drain energy, such as work, school, and chores. Focus on building and maintaining a strong foundation of inputs. This can prevent the unsustainable cycle of being overwhelmed by outputs.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@dr.scotteilerspsydlp529Here's what's inside:00:00 Navigating Mental Health Challenges 02:21 Recovering After a Depressive Episode 04:40 Balancing Inputs and Outputs in Mental Health 06:52 Rebuilding Inputs for Mental Health 10:23 The Importance of Rebuilding the Foundation Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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Learned helplessness is a phenomenon where individuals feel that no matter what they do, they can't escape pain or negative outcomes.
A lot of times this comes from abusive situations, harsh criticism, or even internal struggles like depression and anxiety. These beliefs can stick with you, even when circumstances change.
If you've experienced inescapable pain before, you might not realize when you have opportunities for safety and happiness now. Don't assume you're still in the same situation; test the floor of your life for safety and change your perspective.
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What's covered:
00:00 Learned Helplessness in Life
03:11 The Study of Learned Helplessness
06:21 Learned Helplessness: Lessons from Dogs
09:24 Reevaluating Your Life's Cage
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Life is filled with inevitable trauma, death, and tragedy, even if you've had a seemingly normal or average life. This is because of a significant divide between what your life is like and how you actually feel. It's not just about having a good or bad life; internal variables can dramatically impact someone's emotional experience. It's important to recognize the validity of your own emotions instead of constantly seeking validation from others. Suppressing your pain only leads to more suffering. Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzgWhat's inside:00:00 The Divide Between Life and Feelings 03:30 Life's Inherent Trauma and Uncertainty 06:56 Acknowledging Life's Fragility and Pain 13:27 The Importance of Self-Validation Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
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I battled depression for 40 years, 98% of it was misery.
I used drugs, alcohol, and chasing short-term joy as a way to escape.
Now, I feel good 90% of the time and have even started helping others with mood and anxiety disorders through various programs and clinics.
To manage my depression effectively, I've made six key changes in my life. I want to tell you about how to use each of these effectively.
Remember, these worked for me. That doesn't mean that all (or any) of these will work for you in your context. But, I believe they will definitely help almost anyone with severe depression.
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Maintaining a consistent sleep schedule
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Ensuring regular and balanced meals
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Staying active
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Being selective about engaging in fantasy worlds
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Prioritizing self-care despite the challenges
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Avoiding behavioral insomnia
These changes have transformed my life, even though I acknowledge that I'm a high-maintenance person, and I encourage others facing similar struggles to consider these strategies for a better quality of life.
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Your perception of other people's lives is just as flawed as their perception of yours. Your perception of their life is just a simulation, and you can't know how it truly feels to be them - just like they don't know what it truly feels like to be you.It's so easy to feel like you're constantly falling behind everyone around you. Like everyone around you got some memo that never made it to you. And that constant comparison to others often leads to feelings of inadequacy. I'm going to show you how to change your focus. This will help you overcome some of those feelings so you can walk your own journey better.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee it on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg
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The outside world is wildly mistaken about self-harm - and those who engage in it.Contrary to popular belief it isn't a cry for attention or something only the severely depressed do. In this video I'm debunking the misconceptions associated with self-harm. I also share why this act is usually shrouded in secrecy, shame, and embarrassment, and why it's challenging for individuals to seek help or openly discuss their experiences. Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee it on YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzgHere's what's inside:00:00 People who self-harm do not do so for attention-seeking purposes. Self-harm is one of the most stigmatized and misunderstood mental health symptoms. It is rarely for attention-seeking but primarily for emotion regulation. 03:29 Self-harm behaviors are expressions of overwhelming emotional distress and a lack of support or coping tools. It's similar to other emotion regulation behaviors like excessive alcohol consumption or impulsive behaviors. People seek a way out from intense unhappiness.10:10 There are alternative ways to manage emotional distress without resorting to self-harm. One approach is to use intense sensory experiences to trigger the brain's pain response without causing harm. For example, you can use extreme flavors like spicy or sour foods to divert your focus from emotional pain. Additionally, using temperature extremes, such as holding something warm or cold, can simulate the physical sensation without causing long-term harm.
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Ever felt like life's stressors are pushing you toward a breaking point? When stress accumulates, our brain and nervous system can interpret it as mortal danger, leading to a shutdown called the freeze response.I've got a hack to break the freeze response and regain control when you're drowning in stress. There are two primary reasons humans do things: 1. to avoid punishment2. gain rewardsRewards are much more effective motivators than punishment. In this episode, I'm showing you the power of rewards over punishment.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee it on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzg
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Life is getting harder, and it can feel absolutely exhausting to do even the most basic of activities.This is due to the finite nature of willpower and our constant battle against high-stimulation activities, especially smartphones.To regain control you have to take charge of your inner ecosystem.Let's talk about that.
Get my book: For When Everything is BurningConnect with me on TikTok:See this on YouTubeWhat you'll find in this video 00:00 The Feeling of Losing Time and Control Life can often feel overwhelming, making you feel like you're losing time and control over your own life. This sensation is due to various factors, and there's a way to regain some control over your daily experiences. 03:31 The Role of Willpower in Decision-Making Willpower is a finite resource used to make choices among available activities. When your willpower is depleted, you tend to resort to activities that require minimal effort and provide instant gratification. Understanding the role of willpower is crucial for managing your daily choices effectively. 07:02 The Impact of Smartphones on Willpower Smartphones offer constant access to highly stimulating activities, making it challenging to resist their allure. The pervasive availability of these devices can drain your willpower and leave you feeling exhausted by the end of the day. 10:38 Setting Limits on Smartphone Usage To regain control over your life and make daily activities more enjoyable, consider setting limits on smartphone usage. You can either remove troublesome apps or establish specific timeframes for phone use, allowing other aspects of your life to become more engaging. 14:29 Taking Charge of Your Inner Ecosystem While external factors are beyond your control, you can take charge of your inner ecosystem. By managing your smartphone usage and making deliberate choices, you can create a more fulfilling daily experience and reduce the feeling of constant exhaustion.
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Grief isn't one-size-fits-all, and it's the nuance between the types that causes many people to stay stuck. There are two types of grief: regular grief when you lose something you had, and ambiguous grief when you realize you'll never have something you always wanted. Ambiguous grief is real and can be just as painful and I'm going to help you walk through that in this episode.Get my book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Connect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee it on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCogWI9kVVvmRRPzzQBrOwzgHere's what you'll find in this video: 00:00 Two Types of Grief: Regular and Ambiguous There are two types of grief - regular grief, which occurs when you lose something you once had, and ambiguous grief, which is the realization that something you always thought you'd have will never come to be. Ambiguous grief can be as devastating as regular grief, and it often goes unrecognized by the world. It's like mourning the loss of an alternate version of yourself that will never exist. 04:02 Healing from Grief Both regular and ambiguous grief can heal over time through a combination of time passing and the expression of grief. It's important to feel and express your emotions naturally. Grief doesn't follow a linear path and comes in waves, so it's crucial to allow these emotions to come and go. Avoid rushing the healing process and remember that it's okay to take emotional breaks when the grief fades temporarily. 08:15 Ceremonies and Closure While traditional ceremonies like funerals help provide closure for regular grief, ambiguous grief often lacks such closure. To cope with ambiguous loss, consider creating your own form of ceremony or acknowledgment to signify the finality of your dream or expectation. Closure is essential to moving forward and preventing prolonged denial and limbo states. 12:15 Avoiding the Pitfalls of Comparison Comparing your ambiguous grief to others' situations can lead to negative emotions and hinder your healing process. Avoid the impulse to compare, as it will only make you feel angry and hurt. Each person's experience is unique, and comparing yourself to others won't bring you closer to healing or closure. Fight back against the urge to compare your situation with others.
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When you are in the depths of overwhelm, it can feel impossible to do anything - even when you know action is the one thing that will keep everything from falling a part.Why does this happen?What can you do about it?Can you do ANYTHING about it?This week's episode dives in deep on why you shut down sometimes.
Get my book: For When Everything is Burning Connect with me on TikTokWatch on YouTube:Here's what you'll find in this video: 00:00 Understanding the Freeze Response The freeze response, a psychological reaction to overwhelming stressors, can paralyze us, similar to a survival instinct triggered by life-threatening danger. This response is a product of our brain's inability to distinguish between chronic stress and imminent danger. 05:14 The Nature of Freeze Response The freeze response is an involuntary reflex, not a conscious choice. It occurs when the midbrain, convinced of imminent danger, redirects resources away from the frontal lobe, affecting functions like emotion regulation, behavioral inhibition, and complex social engagement. This response can be triggered by overwhelming stressors. 13:00 Effective Strategies During Freeze Response Motivation through pressure or consequences is not effective during a freeze response. Instead, focus on small victories, celebrate them extensively, and gradually build momentum to shift away from the freeze response.
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Getting specific, recurring thoughts stuck in your head doesn't make you crazy, it's what our brains do.Our brains often fall into repetitive thought patterns, especially for those with mood or anxiety issues. Redirecting your mind is key to breaking these patterns.Try these two strategies to help end your recurring negative thoughts.Get my book: For When Everything is Burning Connect with me on TikTokWatch on YouTube:Here's what you'll find in this video: 00:00 Understanding the Nature of Thoughts 03:57 Mindfulness and Its Impact on Depression and Anxiety07:57 Redirecting Attention to the Present Moment 15:20 Fantasizing About the Past and Future 18:55 Zooming Out to Stay Present 22:31 Mindfulness Questions for Memory and Well-Being
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Are you letting an outdated self-image ruin your life?If you feel like a fraud or constantly worried that you'll be exposed for not being qualified, you might be suffering from some imposter syndrome. I'm diving headfirst into the world of imposter syndrome and showing you exactly how to overcome it. Imposter syndrome preys on our outdated self-image, making us feel like we're living a lie. But here's the reality check you've been waiting for: You're constantly evolving and transforming - even if you're self-image isn't keeping up!This podcast has 2 powerful tools you can use to overcome your imposter syndrome now!Get my book: For When Everything is Burning Connect with me on TikTokSee the Podcast on YouTube--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Have you ever felt indifferent or ambivalent towards your own life? If so, you're not alone. Millions experience Passive Suicidal Ideation, but it exists on a spectrum, ranging from apathy about your future to even secretly hoping for an end to your own life.I'm sharing my personal experiences and tools I've used (and still use) to work through Passive S.I. Get my book: For When Everything is Burning https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburningConnect with me on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilersSee the Podcast on YouTube:https://youtube.com/@dr.scotteilerspsydlp529Here's what you'll find in this video: 02:08 Do you have the right to die?Explore the question of a person's right to die and the complex reasons behind the desire to opt out of life.06:22 Mood Congruent Memory:Your brain can deceive you into thinking this dark phase is all you've ever known. I'll show you how to challenge this perception.12:23 Harness the Power of Spite:A unique motivation tool - don't let those who doubted, hurt, or underestimated you win.15:53 You Are Dynamic:Your life will not always be the same. Understand that you have the power to reshape your world, surround yourself with those who truly understand you, and build an internal environment that works for you.23:19 The Mystery Box:Consider the unknowns of what comes after death. Are you willing to trade the life you have, no matter how challenging, for an uncertain future? 24:44 Is Passive S.I. Weak?Is it weak to fight bear with a plastic knife? (you'll get it once you watch it).
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Your morning (lack of) routine could be setting you for a day of stress right out of the gate.
If you have any kind of mental illness, how you start the day has a heavy influence on how well you feel during the day.
I'm sharing my anti-anhedonia morning routine in this episode - I hope it will be a framework to help you create this tool for managing your own mental health.
You don’t need to be an “optimized morning” kind of person, but having an intentional routine will help you manage your mental health in significant ways.
Connect with me on socials for more Self-Hope Psychology made for navigating the messiness of mental health.
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If you don't feel excited about the future, it's hard to want to do much of anything. When depression and anxiety are severe, our lives often fall into a black hole where we do little, feel little, and remember little.I barely remember anything about my late teens, and it's mostly because I barely did anything worth remembering. Now that I'm in a better place mentally, I can look back on that period with a different perspective. These feelings, or lack of feelings, don't have to ruin your life. There's a loophole that can still make life feel worth living even in your darkest times, and I'm going to teach it to you today.
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It's easy to lose hope. It's easy to feel like you've tried everything. And maybe, to some degree, you have. Perhaps you hold all of the pieces needed for recovery, but haven't ever put them together correctly.I think we've done an unfortunate job of over-complicating mental health. We've developed a complex set of mutually exclusive theoretical orientations to explain why people become mentally ill and how we can best treat these conditions. None of these theories can be objectively examined in any real detail, and all are completely unique to the world of mental health. Getting your brain to work right and reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety is really fairly simple. First, you need to understand some basic principles of brain health. These are certain things that all people need regardless of who you are. We all need a certain amount of high-quality sleep, regular intake of good food, daily physical exertion, and careful management of substance intake. Second, you need to understand your individual needs. Certain aspects of life are more essential to some people than to other people. You have to know your mind and what it needs. Once you understand these universal and individual needs, you need to meet these needs consistently, skillfully, and frequently. Do this and your mental health WILL improve dramatically. Note: I mis-speak a couple of times in this episode and say "duration and time." These are the same thing. It should be "duration and frequency."
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Depressive episodes often start with nothing more than a bad day or two. We don't feel like ourselves so we don't engage in our normal activities. After a few days of just "getting by," our perception of ourselves starts to change. We find it harder to keep the negative thoughts and feelings at bay as the evidence against the shame and the worthlessness feels further and further in our rear view. We begin to align with the beliefs imposed upon us by our depressive thoughts, and every day feels a little bit darker and a little bit heavier. This is a depression spiral.
The way we spend our time when we feel depressed is often an attempt at damage control or harm reduction. We feel unable to do the things that normally provide us with feelings like joy, connection, or accomplishment. We lose our ability to move forward and we cling desperately to whatever progress we've made since our last depressive episode, trying with all our might to avoid sliding back into that pit. But when we're depressed, neutral days are losses because of the pessimistic, nihilistic mindset forced upon us by our unrealistically negative mindset. We need to achieve positive moment to get out of the rut.
In order to kickstart your recovery from a depressive episode, you need to start making time investments. When we're depressed, we often make the mistake of trying to do whatever feels best in the moment because we're desperately searching from some degree of positive emotion. While completely understandable, these behaviors are ultimately ineffective because they often do little for us in the moment anyway as we are unable to enjoy them due to our anhedonia, but they also give us no momentum or challenges to the depression the next day or the day after. They do nothing to interrupt the spiral. In order to get out of the backslide you need to engage in behaviors that will pay off today, tomorrow, and into the indefinite future and you need to stack as many of these as possible until your depression finally relents under the weight of your opposition.
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If certain sounds enrage you, sounds that most people aren't bothered by or don't even seem to notice, you may have something called Misophonia. Misophonia literally means "hatred of sound" and people with misophonia experience intense anger responses to sounds like chewing, breathing, tapping, and other repetitive noises.
This is a newer term, and we don't yet know if it is its own condition or if it's a symptom of something else. It does seem to have a very high overlap with anxiety. We believe that the symptoms are caused by hyper activation of the fight or flight response in the autonomic nervous system.
Treatment options are limited at this time to avoiding triggers (unrealistic in my opinion), treating the underlying condition, and general brain health interventions like sleep hygiene and exercise. I've also had some success with exposure and response prevention.
Lastly, I discuss the important of understanding this condition and having conversations about it with people you care about to preserve the health of your relationships.
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We're constantly asking and answering questions inside of our own minds. While many of these questions and answers are subconcious, meaning we don't realize we're asking and answering them, they can still have a tremendous impact on our lives.
Once, my life was guided by a question that led me absolutely nowhere. I just did whatever I felt like doing in the moment, with no regard for what I would think of myself later. When I started asking and answering a better question my trajectory in life changed dramatically. Today I want to teach you how to use that question.
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If therapy and medication aren't getting your symptoms of depression and anxiety where you want them, there's another option. It's free, it doesn't require the help of another person, and it has no side effects.
It's physical activity. Exercise. Movement. Whatever you want to call it.
Meta-analyses of over 1,000 studies demonstrate that physical activity works at least as well as therapy and medication in reducing symptoms. It actually works better in terms of immediacy of effect and long-term outcomes.
That being said, regular physical activity is a challenge for anyone, and symptoms of depression and anxiety increase that challenge. But you probably don't have to exercise nearly as much as you think...
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Have you ever wanted to go to sleep and just never wake up?
Do you wish something would happen to you today to put you out of your misery?
Do you want to die, but don't want to be the one to make it happen?
These are all forms of something we call passive suicidal ideation or passive SI. Millions of people experience this, yet almost nobody talks about it and even many mental health professionals don't really understand it.
In today's episode, I discuss how passive SI differs from intrusive thoughts about death, how it's not a reliable indicator of the severity of depression, why it should always be taken seriously, how it can be treated, and where it comes from. I also have a very important question for you to answer if you experience passive SI.
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We all just want to be "happy," but if you don't even know what happiness is how can you possibly hope to obtain it? This question has been haunting me since I was four years old. The idea of spending most or all of my life chasing after something, only to finally capture it and realize it wasn't what I wanted terrifies me.
I sincerely believe that most of the world is focused on things that aren't worth focusing on. There's a foundational, fundamental component of life that must be present for anything else to matter and most people put it on the backburner or ignore it entirely. After this episode, you'll know what it is and how to keep it in the forefront of your pursuit.
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I know everybody wants something that works quickly and changes things dramatically. Maybe you’ve tried some of those ideas, and if you have what you’ve probably found is that they work really well for some fairly brief period of time before fizzling out completely. If you're sick of getting your hopes up for strategies or treatments that don’t work in the long run, this episode is for you.
The strategy I’m going to teach you today isn’t fast, it isn’t magic, and it isn’t terribly exciting. But if you execute this strategy correctly, it can turn you into a relentless depression-crushing machine. It can give you a tank to ride into the greatest battle of your life, slowly but consistently crushing your mental health symptoms under your tireless treads.
It’s called “marginal gains” and it’s a proven process in sports and business. It’s based on the work of cycling coach Dave Brailsford and the Kaizen Six-Sigma philosophy of management. I can tell you from personal experience that it also works in mental health. I hope you enjoy!
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Psychosocial boundaries are the invisible yet very real walls that keep us separate from other people and from the world in general. Our boundaries enable us to maintain our truths and our beliefs in the face of other people with different perspectives and stay true to our values in situations that test them.
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Anger, more than other emotions for most people, is a feeling we generally try to avoid. Anger is seen as unsafe, destructive, and out-of-control. And is certainly can be these things.
But anger is not inherently more damaging or dangerous than any other feeling. It’s simply part of the spectrum of human emotion, and it plays a critical role in our relationships with ourselves and with others. Anger is also something we tend to feel more often when we’re depressed or anxious.
Any emotion can destroy your life if you don’t know how to handle it safely, even pleasant feelings like love or pleasure. So many of us are taught incorrect strategies to manage our anger, and that’s what leads to these problematic outcomes. That’s why skillfully managing anger is the topic of this week’s YouTube video and podcast episode.
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Obsessive-compulsive disorder is an anxiety disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts (NOT impulsive thoughts, as we discuss in this episode) and compulsive behaviors. OCD is one of the most misunderstood and mischaracterized mental health diagnoses, and the term "OCD" is often used to describe patterns of perfectionism, rigidity, and high achievement that typically have more in common with generalized anxiety disorder.
Exposure and response prevention is a treatment for OCD involving intentionally creating situation which trigger your intrusive thoughts but using coping skills rather than compulsive behaviors to reduce the distress caused by the exposure.
In this episode I discuss OCD and ERP with Alexandra (Alex) Reynolds, an OCD peer support specialist who has some amazing insights to offer. I know that you will benefit from her wisdom and experience.
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Your mind comes equipped with a mostly outdated survival response called a negativity bias.
That’s why no matter how good your life is, you also seems to focus primarily on the worst parts. Your brain is trying to prepare you and protect you, but sometimes the process backfires.
You can manage your negativity bias by clarifying your core values, supplemental values, and hobbies. This helps put problems into perspective.
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One of the most common questions I hear as a clinical psychologist who specializes in depression in anxiety is “how do I deal with the guilt and the same that I constantly feel?” It’s a tough question that doesn’t have a single, easy answer.
However, for many of us, much of our guilt and shame comes from distorted, unrealistic thoughts. Our minds only see the mistakes we’ve made, the areas we’ve fallen short, and the regrets from the past that we can’t let go of.
If you can learn to challenge these thoughts and see yourself more accurately, much of the guilt and shame melts away as it no longer has a platform to stand on.
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In this episode I interview executive functioning and nervous system regulation coach Sasa Harper. I’ve known Sasa for a while, and she’s what would be called a peer support specialist in my world, meaning she is someone who has struggled with executive functioning and nervous regulation, is now in a place where she is doing well in these areas, and teaches other people how she got there.While Sasa tends to focus more on neurodivergence like ADHD and autism spectrum disorder, nervous system dysregulation and problems with executive functioning are also common components of mood and anxiety disorders so our work has a lot of overlap. Today we discuss how procrastination often results from unmet needs or excess stress rather than laziness or lack of motivation, as is commonly believed, and how challenging your inner critic, practicing relaxation techniques, and rewarding yourself appropriately are MUCH more beneficial tools for challenging procrastination and increasing productivity than putting more pressure on yourself.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Symptoms like depersonalization, derealization, dissociation, delusions, and hallucinations can be incredibly disturbing. They are often thought of as being signs of a psychotic disorder or severe trauma, but if these symptoms only occur during depressive episodes, they may actually be part of a mood disorder.We can also experience disconnections from reality because of intense psychological distress, including periods of prolonged or significantly heightened anxiety. Dissociation is somewhat like the mind’s version of going into shock. It’s a temporary anesthetic to protect us from the immense emotional pain that we’re experiencing.The prefrontal cortex, the very front most region of the brain, is responsible for our orientation to person, place, and time. When activity in the frontal lobe decreases, we lose some (or all) of this ability to orient to these anchors. This can be terrifying or disturbing if you don’t know what it is or don’t realize that it’s temporary and something that is, to some degree, supposed to happen.Understanding what all of these processes are and the neurological reasons for them makes them a lot less scary. Hopefully that’s what you get from this episode.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Christopher Spence Pratt, also known as ValiantFate, has an amazing story to tell. He has overcome severe depression, suicide, alcohol abuse, and intense bullying to build a life he generally enjoys out of one that made him miserable. In this episode we talk about his story and the strategies he used to get her including fitness, gratitude, goal-setting, and asking for help.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Self-diagnosis can only take you so far. If you want to be able to access a full range of treatment services, get your insurance to pay for it, and check out other conditions whose symptoms often overlap with depression at anxiety, you will eventually need to have formal testing.In most cases, this testing will be a fairly simple process. It usually consists of a structure interview focused on understanding the symptoms you experience and how they impact your life and some brief self-report symptom inventories. There are several types of professionals who can provide this testing, each with some clearly defined strengths.I know it can be a little scary, but overall I believe that psychological testing leads to positive outcome for most people.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Major depressive disorder and bipolar disorder have a lot in common. Both are mood disorders, meaning they involve fluctuations in mood that can be totally unrelated to life events. Both involve depressive episodes, which are periods of low mood.In fact, the only real difference between major depressive disorder and bipolar disorder is the presence of manic, or manic episodes, in bipolar disorder. But these very similar conditions need to be handled very differently. Antidepressant medications, the primary treatment for major depressive disorder, are extremely dangerous for someone with bipolar disorder to take as they tend to make manic episodes worse.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Mental illness can cause physical illness. Depression and anxiety in particular can wreak havoc and your body and make you more vulnerable to illness, injury, and even premature death. In this episode we explore all of the ways in which depression and anxiety can negatively impact your physical health.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
It’s difficult, but not impossible, to stay productive when you’re struggling with your mental health. Everything feels so much harder and so much less rewarding. You need a way to counter-balance those variables if you want to be able to continue to function when you don’t feel well.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
Anhedonia translates to “without pleasure.” In mental health, it refers to a disruption in brain functioning that impairs our ability to feel joy, excitement, accomplishment, love, and other similar feelings. It can happen for many reasons, but depression is the most common. It isn’t as unstoppable as it seems…--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
We learn “rules” early in life. Rules like “nothing I do will ever be good enough” or “I am unlovable.” We don’t automatically re-evaluate these rules once we have a fully formed adult brain. In this episode I talk about how these limiting belief systems are formed and how we can begin to challenge them.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/scott-eilers/support
People with anxiety disorders often experience related struggles that aren’t well documented or understood. These includes things like over eating or binge eating, perfectionism, people pleasing, excessive apologizing, and misophonia or other sensory sensitivities.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/scott-eilers/support
Dive deep with me into the symptoms of chronic anxiety. We discuss what it actually feels like to be living with chronic, daily anxiety and break down all 7 of the DSM-V symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder in detail.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/scott-eilers/support
In this episode I discuss causes, symptoms, and treatments of various forms of mood disorders, primarily major depressive disorder.
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If you're as sick as I was of feeling powerless and unable to change anything meaningful in life, you're going to want to listen to this episode. I break down my process of behavior change that took me from failing classes to earning a doctorate. It's incredibly easy, and it works for anything.
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Therapy isn’t always beneficial. Sometimes it’s a waste of time. Sometimes it makes our problems worse. In this episode I discuss some of the most problematic yet disturbingly common interactions in therapy sessions.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/scott-eilers/support
In 2015 I found myself in an unusual situation; my life was better than I ever imagined it could be, yet it still didn’t feel all that great. I finally had a wealth of wonderful things in my life, but no time or energy to enjoy them. I couldn’t find a solution to this problem, so I made my own and now I’m sharing it with you.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/scott-eilers/support
“We’ve tried everything” is something many of my therapy clients have heard and something they often tell themselves. It’s impossible. Nobody has tried everything. Nobody has tried even 1% of everything. In this episode, I’ll explain why I don’t believe anyone is hopeless and give you two ideas for action steps you can start today!
Do you have to forgive your abuser? Many people will say yes, but I disagree. Recovery is about your wants, needs, and feelings and nobody else’s. Forgiveness won’t change the very real symptoms you experience.
I review some of the strategies I’ve used to stop avoiding, delaying, and ruminating and start taking action!
The beliefs and the values of the people closest to you form your reality. Change what’s around you and you change your reality. Your struggles don’t have to be a liability; they can even be an asset.