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The Fair Parenting Podcast looks at people's stories and ideas on family law and covers the progress towards fair parenting around the world.
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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at episode 5 which originally aired on 30th October 2022.
It was the second episode discussing parenting in Christopher Nolan films with @DerickMcduff from the Underrated podcast (@undercastco).
This was a meandering hoot with lots of offshoots! We discuss @Interstellar and also talk music: @Trevor_Horn_, Steve Lipson and @HansZimmer. We also discuss @mrbobodenkirk, @BetterCallSaul and other movies and TV shows.
It was very enjoyable talking with Derick about parenting themes in Christopher Nolan films. I hope you enjoy listening!
Two quick corrections to things I said in this episode:
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I mentioned Steve Lipson produced Hans Zimmer’s James Bond soundtrack. He co-produced the theme song, not the soundtrack, but Steve Lipson has produced other Hans Zimmer soundtracks.
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When discussing Hans Zimmer I remembered his Top of the Pops performance incorrectly. If you search on YouTube, he was performing Living in the Plastic Age not Video Killed the Radio Star, although he does appear in the music video for Video Killed The Radio Star briefly. See if you can spot him!
One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!
Derick’s links are:
Twitter: @DerickMcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos
The Underrated podcast:
Twitter @undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany
The original episode aired on 30th October 2022 as episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Derick McDuff about parenting and child separation in the movies, which much of the talk about Christopher Nolan’s film Inception. We also cover other movies and music. This originally aired as episode 3, way back on 2nd October 2022. If you like today's episode you may also like episode 5 which covered the movie Interstellar (link below).
In this episode we talk movies with Derick McDuff from the Underrated podcast. We discuss Inception as well as E.T., A.I., Minority Report and more.
You may be wondering why we are talking movies on a parenting podcast. In some episodes I want to discuss parenting and parental alienation themes in movies, books and music.
Art is one of the most beautiful and powerful things in life and revisiting art can help us get through the dark times of abuse and parental alienation.
Over 2 episodes we discuss 2 Christopher Nolan films. In this episode we talk @Inception and the next episode will cover @Interstellar.
This episode we also discuss parenting themes in Steven Spielberg’s movies E.T., A.I. and @TomCruise’s role in Minority Report. Finally we touch on @HansZimmer’s music and Groundhog Day. It’s a packed episode!
I had a lot of fun discussing these movies and it was great to get Derick’s insights.
There are many parental themes in these movies. More than you may think!
One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!
Derick’s links are:
https://twitter.com/derickmcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos
The Underrated podcast:
https://twitter.com/undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany
The Fair Parenting Podcast:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/FairParentingUK
Email: podcast@fairparenting.co.uk
The original episode aired on 2nd October 2022 as episode 3:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8162825-inception-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
There is a companion episode which looks at another Christopher Nolan movie, Interstellar, as well as lots of other films and music. It is episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
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2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Lawrence Sprung, which was originally published as episode 15, on 19th March 2023.
I wanted to do some shows on how to cope with abuse and alienation. In recent episodes began that by discussing trauma and meditation. Today we talk about suicide and suicide prevention.
The websites findahelpline.com and www.suicide.org have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or you are concerned for someone else.
Our children need us to stay around for them, whether we are seeing them now or whether we are being alienated and will see them when they are older.
Children also die by suicide and as a society we need to improve prevention.
Our guest today is Lawrence Sprung. He lives in New York and is the founder of wealth management company Mitlin Financial Inc.
He is an Investopedia Top Ten Advisor for 2022, he hosts the Mitlin Money Mindset™ podcast and he spent over 12 years on the National Board for The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
In 2004 Lawrence lost his brother-in-law Keith to suicide.
He reacted by turning his sadness into a mission to raise awareness for mental health. He has become a resource for the community and he has helped many parents seeking help for their children.
Lawrence has also raised over $1.5 million for the Keith Milano Memorial Fund charity.
We learn about Lawrence’s story, his work improving financial literacy for parents and children and his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
Suicide Prevention Links Around the World
These websites have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. They also have other information for people suffering. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or concerned for someone else:
https://findahelpline.com
http://www.suicide.org
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is at https://afsp.org
Lawrences’ links
Websites:
1) https://www.mitlinfinancial.com
2) http://www.keithmilano.org
3) http://www.mitlinmoneymindset.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawrencesprung
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lawrencesprung
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lawrence_Sprung
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvmQXlCX1sbGcKviZJaHkvg
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/larry_sprung
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
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Episode 100 of The Fair Parenting Podcast. A short reflection marking 100 episodes, looking back at the journey so far and what comes next.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
Welcome to the podcast. If you would like to support the podcast you can in the following ways:
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Many thanks and happy listening!
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP, which was originally published as episode 16, on 2nd April 2023.
When revisiting older episodes, we use modern audio tools to improve the sound quality over that of the original. We have been able to do that quite a bit in this episode.
Here are the show notes from the original episode:
Today’s guest is Dr. Larry Waldman who is a psychologist, professor, speaker and author. He has practiced in family law for over 20 years.
He is a forensic psychologist in Phoenix, Arizona and he has worked with children and parents in a solution focussed way.
Dr. Waldman was the past president of the Maricopa Psychological Society. Also he has been the Director of Psychological Services for Charter Psychiatric Hospital of Glendale, an “Official Guide” (in other words top expert) on the subject of Parenting for SelfGrowth.com and he was a Medical Consultant for the Social Security Office in Phoenix.
He continues as an adjunct graduate professor in counselling and serves on the professional advisory board of Stepping Stones of Hope, a charitable organisation serving children who have lost a parent.
Dr. Waldman was also co-chair of the Early Career Psychologists Committee at the Arizona Psychological Association for 5 years. He is certified by the American Council on Exercise as a fitness specialist and is a yoga instructor offering “psychoyogology” - I love that term!
He has had many articles published in the local and national press and has also written 7 books.
Dr. Waldman trained as a public speaker and presents for PESI. His signature presentations are:
The Business of Private Practice
The Graduate Course You Never Had
Teaching Parents to Parent
He has made over 150 presentations to attorneys, chiropractors, psychologists, family therapists, counselors, social workers, school psychologists and school counsellors.
To the community Dr Waldman speaks on parenting, marriage, stress, depression and anxiety, wellness, grand parenting and psychotherapy.
Dr Waldman's Links
His website - https://topphoenixpsychologist.com
His books - https://topphoenixpsychologist.com/books
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War is on hold but in the last 2 weeks we had a building fire and my daughter injured her foot.
The government here has been wonderful, unlike the negligent UK.
My thoughts on what has happened in the last 2 weeks and the harm being done to my child are in this episode.
Due to events I haven't had time to edit fully or add a usual theme tune. It is a raw unscripted account.
The links to an X article I did about recent events:
https://x.com/FairParentingUK/status/2056251905123467637
I hadn't intended to cover my story again so soon. I was planning to release an episode I recorded recently with a terrific guest. That will now air as the next episode.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
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Thank you.
This episode is an update on the situation and also some reflections on death as I feel, after over 7 years of abuse, I may not have long left now.
I have had a long time to thing about this and I am not afraid of death, I am afraid of my co-parent and the harm she has done to me and our child, because she will not stop until either our child or me, or both are no longer here. No parent would have harmed their child the way my co-parent has harmed her child. It is scary beyond words.
With the regional war, the ceasefire is fragile with ships being hit and missile alerts still happening.
The government here has been wonderful, unlike the negligent UK government. Many people here have decided the UK is more dangerous than the war. I agree with them.
Our lives are in danger here but moreso in the UK. My co-parent clearly could not care less about our lives. I have nothing against her, I have only ever wanted safety from harm. She seems determined to take our lives.
I recorded this episode live on May 9th 2026. Due to events I haven't had time to edit or add a usual theme tune. It is a raw real-time unscripted account of things.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)
Welcome to the podcast. If you would like to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
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4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
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Many thanks.
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Orsi, which was originally published on 5th February 2023.
We discuss how meditation and yoga can help cope. Methods for coping with trauma are vital when going through alienation, family court or other stress. Orsi has great practical advice which is why this episode was picked to air again.
It originally aired as episode 12, way back on 5th February 2023. Here are the show notes from that show:
Today we talk with Orsi, a meditation and yoga teacher about using them to help cope with trauma.
There is lots of content out there but I want to discuss meditation and yoga in the context of parents going through hell and how it can help. Some parents may not have considered meditation due to lack of time or stress so, for our listeners, I wanted to raise it as a tool to try.
The family court is brutal for parents and children. It shouldn’t be but it is.
Children and parents can be in limbo for years and suffer alienation. Parents can also suffer false allegations and financial hardship. Servere trauma can result.
One thing I want the podcast to look at is ways to cope. We need ways to cope because family law is a long way from perfect and legal professionals can be detached from empathy and understanding.
There are many tools we can use and today we look at meditation and yoga.
Both are used increasingly these days. Many top people use meditation for business, sport and wellness. We need to try and stay well throughout the court process or while being abused so this episode is in the context of using these tools to help parents cope.
Orsi discusses also discusses how meditation and yoga can help children, whether they are stressed by court or just to help with life in general. Meditation and yoga can help in so many situations.
Orsi’s links are:
Website: https://femininetothrive.co.uk
Youtube yoga and meditations: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHo4kISYHjzR8qMstfdOI6ZnFuS64QqOg
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)
Welcome to the Fair Parenting Podcast. If you would like to support the podcast here are a few ways to do that:
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Today, I'm thrilled to welcome Taiba Bajar, the founder of Autism Brain Empowerment. Taiba is a TEDx speaker, award-winning author, and holds degrees in Dentistry and Bioethics from the University of Bristol, where she earned the Clinical Research Prize in 2013. Drawing from her personal journey after her son's developmental regression, she developed the 7-Step Autism Action Plan—a science-based approach to help parents reduce autism symptoms through environmental changes at home.
Her mission is to empower millions of families worldwide by highlighting autism's epigenetic nature and fostering real progress for autistic children. She's the bestselling author of "Unlock Autism" and co-author of "Evolve and Conquer," and has received prestigious awards including the 2024 National Mental Health Care Award and the Hampshire Business Awards for Community Health and Wellbeing Impact.
LinksTaiba's websitewww.autismbrainempowerment.com
Taiba's TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/vhoRFjXfQ4I?si=W2zS9QHCldt-RE9G
Instagram: @autismbrainempowerment
TikTok: @autismbrainempowerment
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@AutismBrainEmpowerment
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but I didn't get around to it until 2025.
If you want to support the podcast that's fine ere is a BuyMeACoffee link at the top of the shownotes and there is also a crypto Link.
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. When we revisit episodes we also take the opportunity to give them an audio upgrade.
Today we look back at my episode on whether there is any accountability in Family Law.
The episode originally aired as episode 49 on July 7th 2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:
Many of us have ours and our children’s futures decided by the family law system, not just courts but other decision makers i.e. guardians, child solicitors, social workers, etc.
In practise none of them are really accountable for bad outcomes and there is no measuring of outcomes. These are 2 serious flaws I discuss that in this episode.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
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War continues and we are in danger without passports. My co-parent and a UK judge has put me and our daughter in life-threatening danger.
They are supposed to work in the best interests of the child. The pretence has gone there beyond any doubt.
People have died locally and buildings have been hit. There are missle alerts and evacuation flights.
The government here has been wonderful, unlike the negligent UK. Many people have decided the UK is more dangerous than the war.
Whatever happens to us, the judge leaving us without passports, cannot be in the best in the best interests of the child. They clearly could not care less about our lives and neither could my co-parent.
This is an episode of real-time X Spaces recorded in the last 2 weeks. Due to events I haven't had time to edit or add a usual theme tune. It is a raw real-time unscripted account.
The links to the X Spaces used in this podcast are:
- https://x.com/i/spaces/1NGaraobnjbJj
- https://x.com/i/spaces/1DxLdvWQMayxm
- https://x.com/i/spaces/1qKDzPMkQQQJV
- https://x.com/i/spaces/1qGvvkwNVpAGB
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
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War has broken out and we are in danger without passports. Why has my co-parent put me and our daughter in life-threatening danger?
This is a short episode I recorded on February 28th 2026 as bombs went off nearby. I haven't had time to edit or or add a usual theme tune. It is a raw real-time unscripted account.
The X post I reference in it is this one: https://x.com/FairParentingUK/status/2027684565733503109
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
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5) by sharing episodes on social media.
Show Notes
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Professor Ben Hine.
The episode originally aired as episode 59 on 24/11/2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:
Today our guest is Professor Ben Hine PhD, CPsychol, FHEA
Ben is a psychologist and Professor of Applied Psychology and Head of the School of Human and Social Sciences at the University of West London.
He is a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society and has a BSc in Psychology and a PhD from Royal Holloway, University of London.
He has published numerous articles in peer-reviewed journals on these topics and has presented his research at conferences around the world. He is a Fellow of the Higher Education Academy and has won several awards for his teaching and contributions to the field of psychology.
His work has explored topics such as implicit bias, prejudice, and discrimination.
He has published numerous articles in top-tier academic journals, including the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, and the European Journal of Social Psychology.
In addition to his research, Professor Hine is also an accomplished teacher and mentor. He has won several awards for his teaching, including the Vice Chancellor's Teaching Excellence Award at the University of Winchester.
His research is wide ranging, including a focus on gender within the criminal justice system and includes two large-scale projects assessing police officers' beliefs and judgements, and rape case reviews in collaboration with the Mayor's Office for Policing and Crime (MOPAC). He has also worked in collaboration with charities Safelives and The Mankind Initiative to conduct large scale case reviews to illuminate the needs of domestic violence victims.
He now leads the Evidence-Based Domestic Abuse Research Network (EBDARN) bringing together researchers from several UK institutions to deliver this work.
He has also researched the impact of family breakdown and experience with institutions such as the family court.
He is a co-founder of the Men and Boys coalition, a network of organisations, academics, journalists, professionals, and leaders committed to highlighting and acting on the gender-specific issues that affect men and boys such as the high male suicide rate, the boy’s educational crisis, and fatherhood.
He also acts as a trustee to The Mankind Initiative, and within the School of Human and Social Sciences, he acts as the Lead for Research and Enterprise.
In this wide ranging discussion Ben discusses Shared Parenting, Family Court and change initiatives and much more.
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Links
Twitter/X - https://x.com/ProfHine
Ben’s page at the University of West London website - https://www.uwl.ac.uk/staff/ben-hine
Tedx Talk - How Can We Separate Better - https://drbenhine.co.uk/tedx-talk-how-can-we-separate-better/
Book - Parental Alienation: A Contemporary Guide for Parents, Practitioners, and Policymakers -
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parental-Alienation-Contemporary-Practitioners-Policymakers/dp/B0C9KMYD27
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Show NotesOccasionally I want to look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today is one such episode. I wanted to revisit my discussion with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro from episode 8. I hope you enjoy listening to it.
It's one of my favourite episodes and even before today (April 14th 2024) is already the 8th most popular episode ever.
It was a wide-ranging and interesting discussion with Dr. Marni who was a fantastic guest. I enjoyed talking with her a lot. Here are the show notes from the episode:
In this episode we welcome Dr Marni Hill Foderaro and talk about her alienation story, path to growth and book series “True Deceit False Love” which addresses domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and intergenerational family trauma.
Dr Marni earned her doctorate in education from Northern Illinois University and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard during a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor.
Many alienation cases involve young children but Dr Marni’s children were in their 20s when alienation occurred and we discuss this.
Her books provide a creative response and resources to help understand a variety of challenging family dynamics, including parental alienation.
Dr Marni gives talks on these topics and in January 2022 Marni was inducted into the Bestselling Authors International Organization.
I enjoyed greatly talking with Dr Marni. I found it illuminating to hear her inspirational story of self-care, her journey out of trauma and into book writing as well as her insights on healing, generational trauma and alienation.
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LinksDr Marni isn’t on social media but her web links are:
Website: https://www.GodCameToMyGarageSale.com
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnhsXs98ops
The original episode aired as episode 8 on 11th December 2022:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175647-books-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-discusses-alienation
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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my episode on how incentives work against good outcomes.
The episode originally aired as episode 37 on 21/1/2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:
Many of us have seen incentives play out badly in family court, with solicitors milking Legal Aid, milking parents, parents making false allegations to get Legal Aid, prolonging cases and taking a case that could resolve amicably and blowing it out of the water to the detriment of parents and children.
In this episode I discuss how incentives in other industries, and disruption to them, could improve things for parents and children if applied to family law. To illustrate this I make reference to episodes from Peter Diamandis' Moonshots podcast, which is fantastic and I highly recommend.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
Links
1. Moonshots Podcast - EP #1 How to Save the World with Elon Muskhttps://www.diamandis.com/podcast/elon
2. Moonshots Podcast - EP #37 How The Founder of Oculus is Building High-Tech Weapons to Protect America w/ Palmer Luckeyhttps://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey
3. Moonshots Podcast - EP #38 Palmer Luckey's AMA: The Politics of Winning the A.I. Race
https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey-ama
4. Moonshots Podcast - EP #50 Oculus Founder On Apple Vision Pro w/ Palmer Luckeyhttps://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey-oculus
5. Moonshots Podcast - EP #79 Elon Musk on Abundance, AGI, And The Media In 2024https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/elon-musk-on-abundance
6. Rebooting the Arsenal of Democracy with Palmer Luckeyhttps://podtail.com/podcast/a16z/rebooting-the-arsenal-of-democracy-with-palmer-luc/
I have started doing short X Spaces, not in the usual way with guests, but as a short voice clips with just me. A full description of why is here:
https://x.com/FairParentingUK/status/1949541228217016589
I began this with episode 80 and I update it in this episode and I will continue as long as I am able.
I feel the other parent will ultimately destroy me. I don't know why that is but it is clearly her aim and for 7 years I have lived in fear of her.
My co-parent has abandoned her child and hasn't even called her since December - also no birthday cards, Christmas cards, no interest in her child's welfare, no interest in parental decisions despite requests for input, etc.
My co-parent instead spent the last year taking my family's house and hiring an ex-soldier, also taking our passports and leaving us near a war zone - all when we had an agreement to parent in the UK. She walked away from that agreement but never said why.
For all that time and she has an open offer to revisit that or try mediation again. Instead all actions for 7 years have been aggressive for no reason. I believe most people would be fairly terrified.
My co-parent clearly doesn't want to parent our child but she won't let me and our child move on safely. Currently the risk of a regional war is rising again and my daughter has fallen ill. The UK and my co-parent couldn't care whether we are alive or dead and this has been the case for 2 years.
The clips are recorded quickly and are not as slick or as high quality in audio terms as the podcast normally is but they form a real-time record of things. They are all available on my X account and friends are posting them elsewhere in case my X account disappears.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
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Show NotesToday is an episode in the replay series. I revisit an episode I did about coping at Christmas. I replay this episode each year as it may help people cope with specific challenges at this time of year.
Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.
This episode first aired in Christmas 2022 and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt
We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.
In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.
This is the seventh Christmas for my case. By Christmas 2018 I hadn't seen my child for over 2 months. It was terrible but, little did I know, the abuse was only just beginning. Despite a solicitors letter my abuser wouldn't allow even a moment with our child. Are abusers oblivious to the heartbreak that causes or do they revel in it?
I am no expert in the ideas in this episode but I have tried many of them and found they help. This episode is just a quick surface run through which may provide you a springboard to try them or find out more by searching the internet or Youtube.
Whether you are seeing your children or not, have a good Christmas. The system is broken and causes harm to us and the children but change will come in time. Parts of the world are improving so there is hope. Above all stay strong for your children.
Many listeners are suffering alienation because a co-parent has taken their children. Others are going through divorce and suffering stress and an uncertain outcome. Many are suffering psychological abuse. If you are still living with your co-parent and are suffering physical abuse seek immediate help.
If your life is in danger through physical or psychological abuse, assault or suicide please contact support services whether it is the police or suicide prevention charities. Do what you can. Look after yourself for your children.
Links to the personal development leaders mentioned:
https://www.tonyrobbins.com
https://www.jimrohn.com
https://www.naphill.org
https://www.josephmcclendon.com
https://www.melrobbins.com
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
A quick episode to update my case and the harm already done and being planned for me and my child.
LinksHere are some links to information mentioned in the episode. I am told the Substack is growing all the time and will have more documents.
Summary -
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/dad-and-daughter-in-danger
Note: This also shows screenshots from the parenting app showing the other parent is not calling her child or sending birthday and Christmas cards and refusing to give input or views into medical, educational or welfare matters.
Police Evidence of the 17 malicious calls and their conclusions I did nothing wrong -
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/police-evidence-kennedy-called-police
Court Advisor Report - https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/official-reports-cafcass-safeguarding
The other 4 podcast episodes about my case (they cover more detail of the last 7 years but don't cover the most recent events discussed in Episode 86) -
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/podcasts
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
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Show Notes
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my episode on paternity testing. This is apt as El Salvador has just introduced paternity testing for all babies born there.
The episode originally aired as episode 45 on 12/5/2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:
In the light of a recent news story, I look at paternity testing and whether dads should be able to get a test outside of court proceedings.
Some people might see this as an issue for men but it is wider. I discuss how testing has issues for mums, dads and children, including how paternity tests can improve health outcomes for children.
Links
I mention a recent video from a judge which went viral. Here is one of many links to it: https://twitter.com/VetFather_Bill/status/1758955451167723961
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Show NotesThis is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my episode with Raymond Hekmat. It originally aired as episode 24 on 23/7/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:
Raymond Hekmat is a lawyer and founder of Hekmat Law & Mediation, APC based in Beverly Hills.
They focus on family law with areas including divorce, paternity, custody, support issues as well as prenuptial agreements.
Raymond earned his Juris Doctorate degree from Loyola Law School in 2009. During his tenure at Loyola, Raymond was President of the Evening Bar Association, and was awarded the Alumni Association Governors’ Alumni Award. While earning his degree, Raymond worked as a law clerk, and later an associate, for a Beverly Hills family law firm.
Later Raymond was an associate with Law Offices of Schuchman & Aldin in Century City, where he managed his own complex family law caseload, as well as provided assistance to the partners in family law litigation.
He is admitted to practice law in California and is a member of the Los Angeles County and Beverly Hills Bar Associations.
Raymond received his Bachelor of Arts degree in International Studies, with honors, and a minor in Business Management from the University of California at Irvine, with study at the London School of Economics in London, England.
He was also a member of the Division I UCI Men’s Tennis Team, and continues to play competitive tennis as a member of the USTA.
Raymond was born and raised in Los Angeles and lives in West Los Angeles with his wife and two sons.
Raymond also has the distinction of being the first lawyer to appear on the podcast!
The discussion is wide ranging and covers topics including differences between family law in Britain and California, free speech and a refreshing take on why prenups can be a good idea for most, not just the rich and famous.
One correction I want to make is, in this episode, I referred back to episode 16 and my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP. I mistakenly referred to him as a psychotherapist whereas he is of course a psychologist. If you haven't heard episode 16 it's well worth listening to as Dr. Waldman had great experience and insights, as does Raymond in this episode.
Raymond's Links
Website - hekmatfamilylaw.com
Youtube - theprenupguy
TikTok - theprenupguy
Instagram - hekmatfamilylaw
The documentary Raymond mentions is Divorce Corp https://www.divorcecorp.com
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Show Notes
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my episode on whether interviews with family law experts should be recorded.
It originally aired as episode 32 on 12/11/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:
Episode 2 had 6 simple low and no cost ideas for effective reform of family law. In this episode I wanted to give one more in answer to the question: should interviews with family law experts be recorded? The answer is 'Yes'.
To not have them recorded represents a serious problem in the robustness and integrity of family law in England and Wales. To have recordings is good practise and protection for the truth, good parents and children.
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Show Notes
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my episode on issues and ideas surrounding transcripts and bundles.
It originally aired as episode 33 on 26/11/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:
In this episode I discuss the current state of transcripts and bundles in the court system and how it hampers justice and reflects the prehistoric condition of family law.
I give many ways things can be improved. We need a modern system not a Jurassic one because parents and children deserve better.
I gave some other simple reform examples in episodes 2 and 32.
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Show Notes
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Thomas Williams And Roger Isaacs about The THI Show and The New Blueprint.
It originally aired as episode 23 on 6/8/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:
Today we are joined by two guests to talk about the law.
Thomas Williams was born in Liverpool UK and moved to America in 2002. He is an avid researcher, author of two books called From His Story to Our Story, volumes 1 and 2.
He is the owner of a charity foundation designed to help struggling people, the creator of a community village in New Mexico, a radio show host of the Truth, Honor & Integrity show, or THI show.
He is the producer of a new document and manifesto called The New Blueprint for Humanity, which will be hand delivered to the White House, the UN, Elon Musk and many other prominent people.
The website for that is thenewblueprintforhumanity.org
His community also has working groups on growing your own food, health remedies and true law.
Roger Isaacs was born in the UK and grew up in Cornwall. His family originates from Glamorganshire on his Mother’s side and Devon and Cornwall on his Father’s.
At 17 he joined the Royal Air Force and worked as an Air Defence Technician for 7 years. In 1987 he emigrated to Canada to reconnect with his mother, sister and brother. In 1990 Roger moved to British Columbia where he continued to work in the Telecommunications industry and raised a family of 2 daughters.
In 1990 Roger started training in the martial art of Aikido with Mind & Body Unified. He has been teaching Universal Principles and Aikido for over 28 years and is the Chief Instructor of his dojo and a certified full lecturer with the Ki Society International.
Roger joined THI in 2017 and has been following Thomas Williams podcasts since then.
In 2019 as he was studying law, he was asked to lead the Law Group in THI. His study led him to Frank O’Collins and Ucadia.
He wants to share what he’s learned about the True Rule of Law, the provenance of modern Western-Roman law and why there has been no rule of law since the 16th century.
He is passionate about encouraging people to study Ucadia, learn who we are, what is the true rule of law and how to restore the true rule of law in our societies.
They believe to restore law, we must develop communities of trust and the Golden Rule that all are equal under the law, no one is above the law and the New Blue Print for Humanity is a step in that direction.
This is a longer than usual episode and a wide ranging discussion.
LinksTHI Show - https://thi-show.com
Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqFP7ftC6XfYyvhoJPCKP7A
Twitter - https://twitter.com/THI_SHOW_COM
Ucadia - http://ucadia.org
An older Ucadia site only available on Wayback Machine - https://web.archive.org/web/20150208110726/http://globe-union-court.org/default.asp
I started doing short X Spaces, not in the usual way with guests, but as a short voice clips with just me. A full description of why is here:
https://x.com/FairParentingUK/status/1949541228217016589
I feel the other parent will ultimately destroy me. I don't know why that is but it is clearly her aim and for 7 years I have lived in fear of her.
My co-parent has abandoned her child and hasn't even called her since December - also no birthday cards, Christmas cards, no interest in her child's welfare, no interest in parental decisions despite requests for input, etc.
My co-parent instead spent the last year taking my family's house and hiring an ex-soldier, also taking our passports and leaving us near a war zone - all when we had an agreement to parent in the UK. She walked away from that agreement but never said why.
For all that time and she has an open offer to revisit that or try mediation again. Instead all actions for 7 years have been aggressive for no reason. I believe most people would be fairly terrified.
I am fearful. I have told her that many times. I feel most people would be. Whatever happens to me, I want the public and my child, when she grows up, to hear what happened in real-time. I want the truth front and centre.
I also ask my co-parent to revisit mediation so we can come to a good and peaceful resolution for our child. All I have ever wished for is peace and safety. I hope she will revisit mediation.
The clips are recorded quickly and are not as slick or as high quality in audio terms as the podcast normally is but they form a real-time record of things. They are all available on my X account and friends are posting them elsewhere in case my X account disappears.
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
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Show Notes
Today is part 3 of my discussion with James, about his harrowing multi-year family law case in the UK. We discuss the history and learnings that may help others. The story highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.
It was published in 3 parts, with parts 1 and 2 having aired previously.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
5) by sharing episodes on social media.
Show Notes
Today is part 2 of my discussion with James, about his harrowing multi-year family law case in the UK. We discuss the history and learnings that may help others. The story highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.
It is being published in 3 parts, part 1 was last episode and part 3 is next time.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
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Today we talk with James, about his harrowing multi-year family law case in the UK. We discuss the history and learnings that may help others. The story highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.
It is being published in 3 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time.
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Collin Hughes on suicide and suicide prevention.
It originally aired as episode 23 on 9/7/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:
In today's episode we are going to discuss suicide.
I want to take a moment to talk about that before we introduce our guest who has kindly agreed to join us.
In episode 15 we spoke with Lawrence Sprung about his personal experience with suicide and also his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Please revisit it if you are in crisis. The show notes also contain links to help.
Suicide is a topic we feature on this podcast because of its link to parental alienation, family court proceedings, legal abuse, etc.
The result of the extreme trauma caused, sometimes maliciously and for no reason, and sometimes by people who call themselves professionals, can cause suicide in parents and children.
Today’s guest is Collin Hughes. I heard his story a few months ago and I was moved by it.
I hope this episode will reach those listeners going through tough times or listeners who know someone who is.
Collin is a former pro-rodeo athlete, a former airline pilot and is now a voice actor. That’s a pretty interesting sounding trio of careers.
However in 2022 Collin’s 15 year old granddaughter, Evangelina, died by suicide.
Collin has a moving website (https://stopsuicide.life). He also speaks widely on the subject of suicide to raise awareness and I am very grateful he agreed to join us.
During the conversation Collin spoke about the QPR Institute who talk about the 'Question. Persuade. Refer' approach to suicide prevention. Their website is https://qprinstitute.com
Collin’s Links
https://stopsuicide.life
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my thoughts on six simple ways to massively improve the family law system.
It originally aired as episode 2 on 18/9/2022 and it's currently the 6th most listened to episode. It seems fairly popular hence republishing it today for new listeners.
LinksThe Fair Parenting Podcast:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/FairParentingUK
Email: podcast@fairparenting.co.uk
The UK is in dark times. I discuss 6 ways the UK seems to be willfully harming children and failing them on a horrific scale. It's nothing short of a moral crisis.
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Lawrence Sprung, which was originally published as episode 15, on 19th March 2023.
I wanted to do some shows on how to cope with abuse and alienation. In recent episodes began that by discussing trauma and meditation. Today we talk about suicide and suicide prevention.
The websites findahelpline.com and www.suicide.org have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or you are concerned for someone else.
Our children need us to stay around for them, whether we are seeing them now or whether we are being alienated and will see them when they are older.
Children also die by suicide and as a society we need to improve prevention.
Our guest today is Lawrence Sprung. He lives in New York and is the founder of wealth management company Mitlin Financial Inc.
He is an Investopedia Top Ten Advisor for 2022, he hosts the Mitlin Money Mindset™ podcast and he spent over 12 years on the National Board for The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
In 2004 Lawrence lost his brother-in-law Keith to suicide.
He reacted by turning his sadness into a mission to raise awareness for mental health. He has become a resource for the community and he has helped many parents seeking help for their children.
Lawrence has also raised over $1.5 million for the Keith Milano Memorial Fund charity.
We learn about Lawrence’s story, his work improving financial literacy for parents and children and his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
Suicide Prevention Links Around the World
These websites have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. They also have other information for people suffering. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or concerned for someone else:
https://findahelpline.com
http://www.suicide.org
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is at https://afsp.org
Lawrences’ links
Websites:
1) https://www.mitlinfinancial.com
2) http://www.keithmilano.org
3) http://www.mitlinmoneymindset.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawrencesprung
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lawrencesprung
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lawrence_Sprung
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvmQXlCX1sbGcKviZJaHkvg
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/larry_sprung
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my thoughts on Ai and its implications for family law. I thought it would be interesting to revisit this episode as Ai moves fast and adoption in many areas of life is increasing. It was originally published as episode 35, on 24th December 2023 so it will be interesting to see how it sounds nearly 18 months later.
I love podcasts and I listen to many, two of which are Exponential Wisdom with @DanSullivanSC and @PeterDiamandis and Moonshots with @PeterDiamandis. I highly recommend listening to both.
They cover many things, including AI, which is one of the hot topics of 2023.
Those podcasts are not directly connected to our struggles for justice in family law but they are full of forward thinking developments and perspectives.
They also talk about the idea of a moonshot. I believe our goal of a fair family law system that supports targeted parents and children can be seen as one and I discussed this with Justin Breen in episode 17.
AI will have massive impact on the world. In today's episode I discuss ways it could impact the family law system.
LinksMoonshots podcast with Peter Diamandis - https://www.diamandis.com/podcast
Exponential Wisdom podcast with Dan Sullivan and Peter Diamandis -https://blubrry.com/exponentialwisdom
Justin Breen's episode https://audioboom.com/posts/8271193-books-justin-breen-discusses-epic-life
I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. Prior to episode 69, I had only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28).
However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update.
Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to interview me and he did a brilliant job. Thanks very much to Brent for that. This is part 3. Parts 1 and 2 were episodes 69 and 70.
LinksTriple A - a previous episode about my case
https://audioboom.com/posts/8218009-story-triple-a-a-portrait-of-abuse-narrated-by-alana-hillenaar
Episode 69 - part 1 of my update
https://audioboom.com/posts/8406307-story-an-interview-updating-my-own-story-part-1
Episode 70 - part 2 of my update
https://audioboom.com/posts/8406307-story-an-interview-updating-my-own-story-part-2
Episodes where Brent was a guest telling his story
https://audioboom.com/posts/8629689-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-1
https://audioboom.com/posts/8629690-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-2
https://audioboom.com/posts/8633298-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-3
I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. Prior to episode 69, I had only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28).
However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update.
Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to interview me and he did a brilliant job. Thanks very much to Brent for that. This is part 2 and part 1 was episode 69.
LinksTriple A - a previous episode about my case
https://audioboom.com/posts/8218009-story-triple-a-a-portrait-of-abuse-narrated-by-alana-hillenaar
Episode 69 - part 1 of my update
https://audioboom.com/posts/8406307-story-an-interview-updating-my-own-story-part-1
Episodes where Brent was a guest telling his story
https://audioboom.com/posts/8629689-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-1
https://audioboom.com/posts/8629690-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-2
https://audioboom.com/posts/8633298-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-3
Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:
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I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. I have only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28).
However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update.
Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to interview me and he did a brilliant job. Thanks very much to Brent for that. This is part 1. I hope you enjoy it.
LinksTriple A - the previous episode about my case
https://audioboom.com/posts/8218009-story-triple-a-a-portrait-of-abuse-narrated-by-alana-hillenaar
Episodes where Brent was a guest telling his story
https://audioboom.com/posts/8629689-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-1
https://audioboom.com/posts/8629690-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-2
https://audioboom.com/posts/8633298-story-brent-bowlby-s-7-year-family-court-case-part-3
Sounding Like A 'Professional' PodcasterMost podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.
In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.
This episode is for those new to the podcast.
Every 10 episodes we have a clips episode. They are good but quite long so today is slightly different in that we cover episodes 31-60 in quick-fire soundbites.
This gives a shorter format for anyone just discovering the podcast, so they can quickly hear parts from all the shows and choose which episodes they want to listen to in full.
Editing this episode and picking the clips took an enormous amount of work but it made me realise anew how fantastic the guests are.
Many thanks to all the guests and listeners. You are the people who matter.
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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP, which was originally published as episode 16, on 2nd April 2023.
One of the things we do when revisiting older episodes is seeing if we can use modern audio tools to improve the sound quality. That is something that we've been able to do with this episode.
Today’s guest is Dr. Larry Waldman who is a psychologist, professor, speaker and author. He has practiced in family law for over 20 years.
He is a forensic psychologist in Phoenix, Arizona and he has worked with children and parents in a solution focussed way.
Dr. Waldman was the past president of the Maricopa Psychological Society. Also he has been the Director of Psychological Services for Charter Psychiatric Hospital of Glendale, an “Official Guide” (in other words top expert) on the subject of Parenting for SelfGrowth.com and he was a Medical Consultant for the Social Security Office in Phoenix.
He continues as an adjunct graduate professor in counselling and serves on the professional advisory board of Stepping Stones of Hope, a charitable organisation serving children who have lost a parent.
Dr. Waldman was also co-chair of the Early Career Psychologists Committee at the Arizona Psychological Association for 5 years. He is certified by the American Council on Exercise as a fitness specialist and is a yoga instructor offering “psychoyogology” - I love that term!
He has had many articles published in the local and national press and has also written 7 books.
Dr. Waldman trained as a public speaker and presents for PESI. His signature presentations are:
The Business of Private Practice
The Graduate Course You Never Had
Teaching Parents to Parent
He has made over 150 presentations to attorneys, chiropractors, psychologists, family therapists, counselors, social workers, school psychologists and school counsellors.
To the community Dr Waldman speaks on parenting, marriage, stress, depression and anxiety, wellness, grand parenting and psychotherapy.
Dr Waldman's Links
His website - https://topphoenixpsychologist.com
His books - https://topphoenixpsychologist.com/books
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Smith PhD, which was originally published as episode 21, on 11th June 2023.
He is a digital marketer, executive, podcaster, voice actor, author and, he says, a recovering academic. He lives in California and is the author of the book 'burning America: In the Best Interest of the Children?'.
It is a fictional story in which the main character, Paul, a middle-class professor, has his world shattered when his child is taken by his wife who leaves him a note.
The story ponders the question ‘Do the courts really act in the best interest of the children?’
In the book the parents planned for their child’s home, school, clothes, food, and happiness but then Paul’s five-year old daughter is taken from him and he faces 3 years of hell.
Mick's podcast 'The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing' is here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing/id1647001828
Mick's Links
Website - https://burning-america.com
Book - https://www.amazon.com/stores/G-Mick-Smith/author/B0B59X5R79
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/burningamerica
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/burningamericacommunity
Twitter - https://twitter.com/gmicksmith
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100062440891984
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@aftermathofdivorce
Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing/id1647001828
Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.
This is part 3 of the conversation. Parts 1 and 2 were episodes 62 and 63. We were originally only going to do 2 parts but after formal recording Brent and I spoke for quite a bit more and we decided to publish it.
Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direct message.
Links
Twitter X: @BrentBowlby
Crowdfunding for Brent's legal fees: https://www.givesendgo.com/BrentBowlby
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Justin Breen, which was originally published as episode 17, on 16th April 2023.
Justin is the author of the Wall Street Journal and USA Today Best Selling book Epic Life and runs BREPIC, a PR company.
I first connected with Justin when I saw him online at Peter Diamandis’ Abundance 360 event. Peter’s podcasts and work on exponential change and moonshots are inspiring.
I recently listened to the audiobook of Epic Life and enjoyed it a great deal.
Many of us don’t see our children or see little of them. Most episodes are based on this scenario and it will always be the central focus but we also want to discuss other parenting issues such as education, mediation, busyness, etc. for people in those situations too.
All parents, alienated or not, can have challenges juggling time. Alienated parents have to juggle time with coping with trauma, working on a family court case and trying to work to keep our head above water.
We will discuss Justin’s thoughts on how he keeps his focus on family first.
This episode is also about moonshots. I want to discuss Justin’s idea of moonshots and whether reform of the family court system could be seen as one.
Justin’s Links
https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinbreen1
https://linktr.ee/justinbreen
https://www.brepicllc.com
http://52dates52weeks.com
Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.
It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direct message.
Links
Twitter X: @BrentBowlby
Crowdfunding for Brent's legal fees: https://www.givesendgo.com/BrentBowlby
Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.
It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direct message.
Links
Twitter X: @BrentBowlby
Crowdfunding for Brent's legal fees: https://www.givesendgo.com/BrentBowlby
Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.
This episode first aired in Christmas 2022 and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt
We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.
In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.
This is the seventh Christmas for my case. By Christmas 2018 I hadn't seen my child for over 2 months. It was terrible but, little did I know, the abuse was only just beginning. Despite a solicitors letter my abuser wouldn't allow even a moment with our child. Are abusers oblivious to the heartbreak that causes or do they revel in it?
I am no expert in the ideas in this episode but I have tried many of them and found they help. This episode is just a quick surface run through which may provide you a springboard to try them or find out more by searching the internet or Youtube.
Whether you are seeing your children or not, have a good Christmas. The system is broken and causes harm to us and the children but change will come in time. Parts of the world are improving so there is hope. Above all stay strong for your children.
Many listeners are suffering alienation because a co-parent has taken their children. Others are going through divorce and suffering stress and an uncertain outcome. Many are suffering psychological abuse. If you are still living with your co-parent and are suffering physical abuse seek immediate help.
If your life is in danger through physical or psychological abuse, assault or suicide please contact support services whether it is the police or suicide prevention charities. Do what you can. Look after yourself for your children.
Links to the personal development leaders mentioned:
https://www.tonyrobbins.com
https://www.jimrohn.com
https://www.naphill.org
https://www.josephmcclendon.com
https://www.melrobbins.com
Episode 60 is a look back at episodes 51 to 59. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast is nothing without you.
As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes.
This episode is a compilation of clips but is not exactly a ‘best of’ as that would differ from listener to listener. The episode is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. It covers these episodes:
Episode 51 - Authorities: How They Fail Us In Life And Court
Episode 52 - Story: Dave Bond’s Astonishing Family Court Journey (Part 1)
Episode 53 - Story: Dave Bond’s Astonishing Family Court Journey (Part 2)
Episode 54 - Replay: Books - Anna Maria DiDio Discusses Adoption
Episode 55 - Replay: Meditation - Orsi Discusses Using Meditation And Yoga To Help Cope
Episode 56 - Replay: Coalition - Mike Bell of FCRC.uk Discusses Reform
Episode 57 - Censorship - Some People Want To Cancel This Podcast
Episode 58 - Replay: Trauma - Jodee Gibson MA PCC Discusses Trauma and Coping
Episode 59 - Positive: A Wide Ranging Discussion with Professor Ben Hine
Many thanks to everyone who took part and listened. Here's to the next 10 episodes.
Please note (December 2024): My Twitter X page now has a donation icon in the profile. If you would like to help with my struggle, legal costs and podcast you can use it to donate. At the moment it only works with crypto but I will add other methods in time. All contributions of any size are gratefully received. Thank you.
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Today our guest is Professor Ben Hine PhD, CPsychol, FHEA
Ben is a psychologist and Professor of Applied Psychology and Head of the School of Human and Social Sciences at the University of West London.
He is a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society and has a BSc in Psychology and a PhD from Royal Holloway, University of London.
He has published numerous articles in peer-reviewed journals on these topics and has presented his research at conferences around the world. He is a Fellow of the Higher Education Academy and has won several awards for his teaching and contributions to the field of psychology.
His work has explored topics such as implicit bias, prejudice, and discrimination.
He has published numerous articles in top-tier academic journals, including the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, and the European Journal of Social Psychology.
In addition to his research, Professor Hine is also an accomplished teacher and mentor. He has won several awards for his teaching, including the Vice Chancellor's Teaching Excellence Award at the University of Winchester.
His research is wide ranging, including a focus on gender within the criminal justice system and includes two large-scale projects assessing police officers' beliefs and judgements, and rape case reviews in collaboration with the Mayor's Office for Policing and Crime (MOPAC). He has also worked in collaboration with charities Safelives and The Mankind Initiative to conduct large scale case reviews to illuminate the needs of domestic violence victims.
He now leads the Evidence-Based Domestic Abuse Research Network (EBDARN) bringing together researchers from several UK institutions to deliver this work.
He has also researched the impact of family breakdown and experience with institutions such as the family court.
He is a co-founder of the Men and Boys coalition, a network of organisations, academics, journalists, professionals, and leaders committed to highlighting and acting on the gender-specific issues that affect men and boys such as the high male suicide rate, the boy’s educational crisis, and fatherhood.
He also acts as a trustee to The Mankind Initiative, and within the School of Human and Social Sciences, he acts as the Lead for Research and Enterprise.
In this wide ranging discussion Ben discusses Shared Parenting, Family Court and change initiatives and much more.
Links
Twitter/X - https://x.com/ProfHine
Ben’s page at the University of West London website - https://www.uwl.ac.uk/staff/ben-hine
Tedx Talk - How Can We Separate Better - https://drbenhine.co.uk/tedx-talk-how-can-we-separate-better/
Book - Parental Alienation: A Contemporary Guide for Parents, Practitioners, and Policymakers -
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parental-Alienation-Contemporary-Practitioners-Policymakers/dp/B0C9KMYD27
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Jodee Gibson about trauma and coping, which was originally published on 22nd January 2023.
It’s a really good episode, thanks to Jodee, who is a human behaviour expert and master coach.
Jodee is based in Michigan. Her work is deeply layered in developmental psychology, NLP, neuroscience, consciousness, trauma, levels of energy and intention. The intersection she created between these is fascinating. Being a Detroit native, her approach is always practical and conversational.
Jodee coaches and speaks worldwide.
Jodee's book "Healing Your Map: A Guide to Understanding Discernment, Trauma and Human Behavior" is available now (https://a.co/d/eix3SkT) with an audiobook available early 2023.
Many parents suffer trauma through alienation, false allegations and the Family Court system. We discuss this and some methods for coping including NLP, the work of both Richard Bandler and Tony Robbins, Jodee's ideas and her book.
Some of Jodee’s Qualifications
Master's Degree in Organizational Leadership
Licensed NLP Trainer • The Society of NLP
Certified Hypnotherapist
Certified Professional Coach (iPEC)
Professional Certified Coach (ICF)
Certified Trauma & Resilience Practitioner • Starr
Trauma-Certified Practitioner • HeartMath
ELI Master Practitioner (iPEC)
COR.E Dynamics Leadership Specialist
ICF Michigan Executive Board Member
Former ICF Michigan President
Jodee’s links
Website: https://www.jodeegibson.coach/about
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodeegibson/
Her Book: https://a.co/d/eix3SkT
Short video on NLP: https://www.jodeegibson.coach/what-is-nlp
I discuss a recent episode I recorded and attempts by some people to cancel it afterwards. I also cover my abuser's demand to cancel all episodes as well as my X account, book and documentary. Finally I mention some of the recent events happening more widely around censorship that are happening to many others.
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition (FCRC), which was originally published as episode 11, on 27th November 2022.
Many people, including judges and MPs, have described flaws in the family law system. The flaws seem well known but they persist and harm parents and children.
Mike brought some people together to produce a report of solid proposals suggesting ways to reform to the system.
In a short space of time the report has been seen by MPs, Sir Andrew McFarlane, Sir Graham Brady and has been sent to the Minister of Justice and the new Home Secretary, Suella Braverman.
We talk about this work, the aims and hopes for the future. We also explore how other people can get involved.
The report can be read here: https://fcrc.uk/final-report
It can be endorsed here: https://fcrc.uk/support-fcrc
The report can also be shared and forwarded to MPs, Lords and people in the system to help change.
Mike’s Links:
https://fcrc.uk
https://twitter.com/FCRCUK
https://equi-law.uk
https://twitter.com/GenderParityUK
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Orsi, which was originally published on 5th February 2023.
We discuss how meditation and yoga can help cope. Methods for coping with trauma are vital when going through alienation, family court or other stress. Orsi has great practical advice which is why this episode was picked to air again.
It originally aired as episode 12, way back on 5th February 2023. Here are the show notes from that show:
Today we talk with Orsi, a meditation and yoga teacher about using them to help cope with trauma.
There is lots of content out there but I want to discuss meditation and yoga in the context of parents going through hell and how it can help. Some parents may not have considered meditation due to lack of time or stress so, for our listeners, I wanted to raise it as a tool to try.
The family court is brutal for parents and children. It shouldn’t be but it is.
Children and parents can be in limbo for years and suffer alienation. Parents can also suffer false allegations and financial hardship. Servere trauma can result.
One thing I want the podcast to look at is ways to cope. We need ways to cope because family law is a long way from perfect and legal professionals can be detached from empathy and understanding.
There are many tools we can use and today we look at meditation and yoga.
Both are used increasingly these days. Many top people use meditation for business, sport and wellness. We need to try and stay well throughout the court process or while being abused so this episode is in the context of using these tools to help parents cope.
Orsi discusses also discusses how meditation and yoga can help children, whether they are stressed by court or just to help with life in general. Meditation and yoga can help in so many situations.
Orsi’s links are:
Website: https://femininetothrive.co.uk
Youtube yoga and meditations: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHo4kISYHjzR8qMstfdOI6ZnFuS64QqOg
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Anna Maria DiDio, originally published on 23rd June 2023.
Anna Maria lives in Philadelphia. She holds a BA in Psychology from Villanova University and an MSW in Family Specialization from the University of Pennsylvania.
For over twenty years, she has devoted time to non-profit organizations, locally and globally. She has served as President of Women International Leaders (WIL) of Greater Philadelphia, which provides micro-finance loans and empowerment grants to women in under-resourced countries. She is also on the board of Impact100 Philly.
Her parenting journey began with infertility struggles, which were isolating and sent her into depression. After two miscarriages, she was blessed with a baby girl, but adding to her family proved impossible.
That's how she found herself at an orphanage in Mexico, to meet a six-year-old girl who she adopted. Inspired by that journey, she wrote a memoir called Love at the Border, An Adoption Adventure.
Traditionally orphanages are portrayed negatively however Anna Maria speaks warmly of her experience in Mexico and of the Ministerios de Amor shelters which have changed the way Mexico cares for children.
She has also written the ‘L.I.F.E. Adventures’ series of children's books, featuring stories about adoption and foster care. The books cover topics such as trauma, attachment, identity, and grief. Anna Maria’s mission is for parents and educators to use these stories as an effective tool to open up the discussion about adoption, foster care and the love within blended families.
Anna Maria’s Links
Website - https://AMDiDio.com
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/anna.m.didio
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amdidio
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annamariadidio
Book 'Love at the Border: An Adoption Adventure' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703505
Book 'How I Wonder Where You Are' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703521
Book 'Many People to Love' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703513
Twitter - https://twitter.com/amdidio
Impact 100 Philly - https://impact100philly.org
Today we talk with Dave Bond who, by any measure, has had an astonishing time in the family courts of the UK and USA.
It’s an incredible journey and one that no good parent and child should have to go through.
Dave has a crowdfunding effort (link below) and he is writing a book. Personally, I think his story would make a good film. What has happened is astonishing.
It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts. Part 2 is today and part 1 was last time.
Links
There is lots of information at Dave's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/justice4keanu
Twitter: @Justice4Keanu
Crowdfunding - https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice4keanuPetition - https://www.change.org/p/justice-for-keanu-end-forced-adoption-demand-reunification-of-father-and-son
Today we talk with Dave Bond who, by any measure, has had an astonishing time in the family courts of the UK and USA.
Dave has a crowdfunding effort (link below) and he is writing a book. Personally, I think his story would make a good film. What has happened is astonishing.
It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time.
Links
There is lots of information at Dave's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/justice4keanu
Twitter: @Justice4Keanu
Crowdfunding - https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice4keanuPetition - https://www.change.org/p/justice-for-keanu-end-forced-adoption-demand-reunification-of-father-and-son
Today I look at a few recent examples of many at how authorities fail the public. This may put in context part of why Family Court is so bad.
Episode 50 is a look back at episodes 41 to 49. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you.
As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes.
This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. It covers these episodes:
Episode 41 - Change: Britain’s NHS Bans Blockers
Episode 42 - Protests: Outcry At The Garrick Club
Episode 43 - Replay: Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro Discusses Alienation
Episode 44 - Fallible: Do We Expect Too Much From Experts?
Episode 45 - Paternity: Test Issues for Mums, Dads and Children
Episode 46 - Documentaries: Telling Your Story
Episode 47 - Replay: Inception - Derick McDuff on Parenting and Child Separation in the Movies
Episode 48 - Replay: Interstellar - Derick McDuff on Parenting and Child Separation in the Movies
Episode 49 - Accountability: Is There Any In Family Law?
Many thanks to everyone who took part and listened. Here's to the next 10 episodes.
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Many of us have ours and our children’s futures decides by the family law system, not just the courts but other decision makers: guardians, child solicitors, social workers, etc.
None of these are accountable for bad outcomes and there is no measuring of outcomes. These are 2 serious flaws I discuss that in this episode.
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at episode 5 which originally aired on 30th October 2022.
It was the second episode discussing parenting in Christopher Nolan films with @DerickMcduff from the Underrated podcast (@undercastco).
This was a meandering hoot with lots of offshoots! We discuss @Interstellar and also talk music: @Trevor_Horn_, Steve Lipson and @HansZimmer. We also discuss @mrbobodenkirk, @BetterCallSaul and other movies and TV shows.
It was very enjoyable talking with Derick about parenting themes in Christopher Nolan films. I hope you enjoy listening!
Two quick corrections to things I said in this episode:
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I mentioned Steve Lipson produced Hans Zimmer’s James Bond soundtrack. He co-produced the theme song, not the soundtrack, but Steve Lipson has produced other Hans Zimmer soundtracks.
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When discussing Hans Zimmer I remembered his Top of the Pops performance incorrectly. If you search on YouTube, he was performing Living in the Plastic Age not Video Killed the Radio Star, although he does appear in the music video for Video Killed The Radio Star briefly. See if you can spot him!
One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!
Derick’s links are:
Twitter: @DerickMcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos
The Underrated podcast:
Twitter @undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany
The original episode aired on 30th October 2022 as episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
There is a companion episode which looks at another Christopher Nolan movie, Interstellar, as well as lots of other films and music. It is episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8162825-inception-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.
Today we look back at my discussion with Derick McDuff about parenting and child separation in the movies, which much of the talk about Christopher Nolan’s film Inception. We also cover other movies and music. This originally aired as episode 3, way back on 2nd October 2022. If you like today's episode you may also like episode 5 which covered the movie Interstellar (link below).
In this episode we talk movies with Derick McDuff from the Underrated podcast. We discuss Inception as well as E.T., A.I., Minority Report and more.
You may be wondering why we are talking movies on a parenting podcast. In some episodes I want to discuss parenting and parental alienation themes in movies, books and music.
Art is one of the most beautiful and powerful things in life and revisiting art can help us get through the dark times of abuse and parental alienation.
Over 2 episodes we discuss 2 Christopher Nolan films. In this episode we talk @Inception and the next episode will cover @Interstellar.
This episode we also discuss parenting themes in Steven Spielberg’s movies E.T., A.I. and @TomCruise’s role in Minority Report. Finally we touch on @HansZimmer’s music and Groundhog Day. It’s a packed episode!
I had a lot of fun discussing these movies and it was great to get Derick’s insights.
There are many parental themes in these movies. More than you may think!
One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!
Derick’s links are:
https://twitter.com/derickmcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos
The Underrated podcast:
https://twitter.com/undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany
The Fair Parenting Podcast:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/FairParentingUK
Email: podcast@fairparenting.co.uk
The original episode aired on 2nd October 2022 as episode 3:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8162825-inception-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
There is a companion episode which looks at another Christopher Nolan movie, Interstellar, as well as lots of other films and music. It is episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
I have been approached by someone from a documentary maker about my story.
I am deciding whether to take part but I am often contacted by parents who want to get their stories out and there are pros and cons to doing so, hence this episode.
If any listeners want me to pass on your details, DM or email me and I will.
Links
Episode 14 - https://audioboom.com/posts/8234043-stories-telling-your-story
In the light of a recent news story, I look at paternity testing and whether dads should be able to get a test outside of court proceedings.
Some people might see this as an issue for men but it is wider. I discuss how testing has issues for mums, dads and children, including how paternity tests can improve health outcomes for children.
Links
I mention a recent video from a judge which went viral. Here is one of many links to it: https://twitter.com/VetFather_Bill/status/1758955451167723961
This episode I look at the word ‘expert’, not so much to do with court as more widely in society.
In many areas of life, experts affect us and sometimes spectacularly let us down. I look at some examples.
We need experts but there are few people who really know what they are doing well enough to advise the way experts do and I think we need to be realistic about experts and the word itself. Perhaps it's time for a rebalancing of how experts are perceived across all fields and industries.
I think the term ‘expert’ is overused and overvalued and should be viewed as what it often is - an educated guess that often comes without accountability. I discuss this and look at examples.
Occasionally I want to look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today is one such episode. I wanted to revisit my discussion with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro from episode 8. I hope you enjoy listening to it.
It's one of my favourite episodes and even before today (April 14th 2024) is already the 8th most popular episode ever.
It was a wide-ranging and interesting discussion with Dr. Marni who was a fantastic guest. I enjoyed talking with her a lot. Here are the show notes from the episode:
In this episode we welcome Dr Marni Hill Foderaro and talk about her alienation story, path to growth and book series “True Deceit False Love” which addresses domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and intergenerational family trauma.
Dr Marni earned her doctorate in education from Northern Illinois University and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard during a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor.
Many alienation cases involve young children but Dr Marni’s children were in their 20s when alienation occurred and we discuss this.
Her books provide a creative response and resources to help understand a variety of challenging family dynamics, including parental alienation.
Dr Marni gives talks on these topics and in January 2022 Marni was inducted into the Bestselling Authors International Organization.
I enjoyed greatly talking with Dr Marni. I found it illuminating to hear her inspirational story of self-care, her journey out of trauma and into book writing as well as her insights on healing, generational trauma and alienation.
LinksDr Marni isn’t on social media but her web links are:
Website: https://www.GodCameToMyGarageSale.com
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnhsXs98ops
In this episode I discuss lawyers and MPs protesting about The Garrick Club and how this relates to family law.
Today I cover a news story that happened this week that impacts many parents.
Britain's NHS has banned the NHS from prescribing blockers that hamper the physical development of children.
I discuss this healthcare story along with comparing it to Britain's medieval family law system.
Episode 40 is a look back at episodes 31 to 39. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you.
As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes.
This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. Here is a list of the episodes with their time points:
Episode 31 - Review: 30 Episodes In 60 Minutes. Bitesized Clips For Newcomers To The Show
Episode 32 - Reform: Should Interviews In Family Law Cases Be Recorded?
Episode 33 - Reform: Transcripts And Bundles
Episode 34 - Rewind: Coping - Simple Ideas For Christmas and Beyond
Episode 35 - AI: Can Artificial Intelligence Fix Family Law?
Episode 36 - Annual: Looking at 2024
Episode 37 - Incentives: How Incentives Work Against Good Outcomes
Episode 38 - Messaging: Touching The Future With Alienated Children
Episode 39 - Comparison: Are Good Parents And Children Treated Worse Than Criminals?
Many thanks to everyone who took part and listened. Here's to the next 10 episodes.
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In the family court many good and innocent parents and children suffer more and are treated worse than criminals found guilty of crimes. Considering in Britain all cases come under the umbrella of the Ministry of Justice I discuss this in today's episode.
In today’s episode I want to revisit an idea we spoke about way back in episode 5, which was about parental separation in the movie Interstellar and other movies. It’s a great episode, thanks to Derick McDuff.
It is a simple idea but one I have found useful over the years. The idea is using email, photos or other online ways to send messages to a child you are alienated from. Those messages may only be read years in the future, when your child has grown up, but they can help and I discuss practical ways to do this and considerations to keep in mind when messaging. There's also a clip of Derick and I discussing the concept from episode 5.
Links
Episode 5 - Interstellar: Derick McDuff on Parenting and Child Separation in the Movies
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies
Many of us have seen incentives play out badly in family court, with solicitors milking Legal Aid, milking parents, parents making false allegations to get Legal Aid, prolonging cases and taking a case that could resolve amicably and blowing it out of the water to the detriment of parents and children.
In this episode I discuss how incentives in other industries, and disruption to them, could improve things for parents and children if applied to family law. To illustrate this I make reference to episodes from Peter Diamandis' Moonshots podcast, which is fantastic and I highly recommend.
Links
1. Moonshots Podcast - EP #1 How to Save the World with Elon Muskhttps://www.diamandis.com/podcast/elon
2. Moonshots Podcast - EP #37 How The Founder of Oculus is Building High-Tech Weapons to Protect America w/ Palmer Luckeyhttps://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey
3. Moonshots Podcast - EP #38 Palmer Luckey's AMA: The Politics of Winning the A.I. Race
https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey-ama
4. Moonshots Podcast - EP #50 Oculus Founder On Apple Vision Pro w/ Palmer Luckeyhttps://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey-oculus
5. Moonshots Podcast - EP #79 Elon Musk on Abundance, AGI, And The Media In 2024https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/elon-musk-on-abundance
6. Rebooting the Arsenal of Democracy with Palmer Luckeyhttps://podtail.com/podcast/a16z/rebooting-the-arsenal-of-democracy-with-palmer-luc/
Welcome to the podcast. In this first episode of 2024 I have some thoughts on the new year, my own case and much wider topics.
Links
Peter Diamandis and Emad Mostaque Clip
https://twitter.com/PeterDiamandis/status/1740839831578583088
Episode 28 - Summary of My Story (2018-2022)
https://audioboom.com/posts/8218009-story-triple-a-a-portrait-of-abuse-narrated-by-alana-hillenaar
Episode 7 - Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition
https://audioboom.com/posts/8170345-coalition-mike-bell-of-fcrc-uk-discusses-reform
Episode 35 - Can Artificial Intelligence Fix Family Law?
https://audioboom.com/posts/8290438-ai-can-artificial-intelligence-fix-family-law
I love podcasts and I listen to many, two of which are Exponential Wisdom with @DanSullivanSC and @PeterDiamandis and Moonshots with @PeterDiamandis. I highly recommend listening to both.
They cover many things, including AI, which is one of the hot topics of 2023.
Those podcasts are not directly connected to our struggles for justice in family law but they are full of forward thinking developments and perspectives.
They also talk about the idea of a moonshot. I believe our goal of a fair family law system that supports targeted parents and children can be seen as one and I discussed this with Justin Breen in episode 17.
AI will have massive impact on the world. In today's episode I discuss ways it could impact the family law system.
LinksMoonshots podcast with Peter Diamandis - https://www.diamandis.com/podcast
Exponential Wisdom podcast with Dan Sullivan and Peter Diamandis -https://blubrry.com/exponentialwisdom
Justin Breen's episode https://audioboom.com/posts/8271193-books-justin-breen-discusses-epic-life
Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.
This episode first aired last Christmas and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt
We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.
In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.
This is the fifth Christmas for my case. By Christmas 2018 I hadn't seen my child for over 2 months. It was terrible but, little did I know, the abuse was only just beginning. Despite a solicitors letter my abuser wouldn't allow even a moment with our child. Are abusers oblivious to the heartbreak that causes or do they revel in it?
I am no expert in the ideas in this episode but I have tried many of them and found they help. This episode is just a quick surface run through which may provide you a springboard to try them or find out more by searching the internet or Youtube.
Whether you are seeing your children or not, have a good Christmas. The system is broken and causes harm to us and the children but change will come in time. Parts of the world are improving so there is hope. Above all stay strong for your children.
Many listeners are suffering alienation because a co-parent has taken their children. Others are going through divorce and suffering stress and an uncertain outcome. Many are suffering psychological abuse. If you are still living with your co-parent and are suffering physical abuse seek immediate help.
If your life is in danger through physical or psychological abuse, assault or suicide please contact support services whether it is the police or suicide prevention charities. Do what you can. Look after yourself for your children.
Links to the personal development leaders mentioned:
https://www.tonyrobbins.com
https://www.jimrohn.com
https://www.naphill.org
https://www.josephmcclendon.com
https://www.melrobbins.com
In this episode I discuss the current state of transcripts and bundles in the court system and how it hampers justice and reflects the prehistoric condition of family law.
I give many ways things can be improved. We need a modern system not a Jurassic one because parents and children deserve better.
I gave some other simple reform examples in episodes 2 and 32.
Episode 2 had 6 simple low and no cost ideas for effective reform of family law. In this episode I wanted to give one more in answer to the question: should interviews with family law experts be recorded? The answer is 'Yes'.
To not have them recorded represents a serious problem in the robustness and integrity of family law in England and Wales. To have recordings is good practise and protection for the truth, good parents and children.
This episode is for those new to the podcast.
Every 10 episodes there is a clips episode. We've had 3 so far (episodes 10, 20 and 30). Listening to all 3 clips episodes would take a long time.
The guests content is great but, as a shorter introduction episode for anyone just discovering the podcast, I wanted a bitesize clips episode so people can quickly hear parts from all the shows and choose which episodes they want to listen to in full.
This episode possibly took the most amount of work to put together because, in making it, I re-listened to previous episodes. It made me realise anew how fantastic the guests are.
Many thanks to all the guests and listeners. You are the people who matter.
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Episode 30 already. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you.
As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes.
This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. Here is a list of the episodes with their time points:
Episode 21 (00m 46s): Books: Mick Smith PhD on ‘Burning America: In the Best Interest of the Children?’
Episode 22 (6m 20s): Books: Anna Maria DiDio Discusses AdoptionEpisode 23 (17m 11s): Suicide: Collin Hughes Discusses Suicide And Suicide Prevention
Episode 24 (25m 08s): Law: Lawyer Raymond Hekmat Discusses Family Law In California, Prenups And His Work As A Divorce Consultant And Mediator
Episode 25 (39m 32s): Law: Thomas Williams And Roger Isaacs Discuss The THI Show And Their New Blueprint
Episode 26 (48m 24s): Books: Edward James Talks About His Case and Book ‘Bad Dad: The Truth Will Set You Free’ (Part 1)
Episode 27 (1h 3m 17s): Books: Edward James Talks About His Case and Book ‘Bad Dad: The Truth Will Set You Free’ (Part 2)
Episode 28 (1h 15m 1s): Story: Triple A - A Portrait of Abuse Narrated by Alana Hillenaar
Episode 29 (1h 19m 25s): Books: Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor Frankl
Thanks to all the guests and listeners. Here's to the next 10 episodes.
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Today I talk about a book that has helped me: 'Man’s Search For Meaning' by Viktor Frankl.
The book applies equally to men and women and I can recommend it to anyone who is being abused or going through tough times.
One of the ways of coping with the trauma that we get from abuse and alienation and the Family Court is by exploring stories of adversity.
Examples of coping adversity don't get much more difficult than, of course, a concentration camp in World War Two, which is where Viktor Frankl's book is set.
A real-life story of a parent, narrated by actor Alana Hillenaar.
It tells of someone experiencing ‘Triple A’ (abuse, abduction and alienation).
Best wishes to any parent and child being abused. I hope one day things change so nobody has to go through it.
If you would like to tell your story let me know. You can narrate it yourself, do a podcast interview or, if you want to remain private, and we can provide narration. We can also help you with writing if you would like.
Further details are in Episode 14 'Telling Your Story':
https://audioboom.com/posts/8234043-stories-telling-your-story
Today we have part 2 of my talk with Edward James, who is a father of three.
We discuss his experience of the family court, parental alienation and more.
Edward is the author of the book ‘Bad Dad: The Truth Will Set You Free’ which talks about his experience of truth and lies, injustice, narcissism, mental health and love.
The book aims to offer hope to others who find themselves in similar circumstances.
He also wrote 'Bad Dad: Parenting Alienated Children', which is a short book documenting how he has worked to help his alienated children. Readers will hopefully gain some understanding and find useful information within the stepwise approach to his methods he adopted to run a positive home with a 'yes' culture.
We speak on many topics and it is a long conversation which is why we published it in 2 parts, with part 1 in the previous episode.
Edward's LinksBook - Bad Dad: The Truth Will Set You Free - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BXN5TSXY
Book - Bad Dad: Parenting Alienated Children - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0C4JX19MP
Today’s guest is Edward James, who is a father of three.
We discuss his experience of the family court, parental alienation and more.
Edward is the author of the book ‘Bad Dad: The Truth Will Set You Free’ which talks about his experience of truth and lies, injustice, narcissism, mental health and love.
The book aims to offer hope to others who find themselves in similar circumstances.
He also wrote 'Bad Dad: Parenting Alienated Children', which is a short book documenting how he has worked to help his alienated children. Readers will hopefully gain some understanding and find useful information within the stepwise approach to his methods he adopted to run a positive home with a 'yes' culture.
We speak on many topics and it's a long conversation so we are publishing it in 2 parts with part 2 in the next episode.
Edward's LinksBook - Bad Dad: The Truth Will Set You Free - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BXN5TSXY
Book - Bad Dad: Parenting Alienated Children - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0C4JX19MP
Today we are joined by two guests to talk about the law.
Thomas Williams was born in Liverpool UK and moved to America in 2002. He is an avid researcher, author of two books called From His Story to Our Story, volumes 1 and 2.
He is the owner of a charity foundation designed to help struggling people, the creator of a community village in New Mexico, a radio show host of the Truth, Honor & Integrity show, or THI show.
He is the producer of a new document and manifesto called The New Blueprint for Humanity, which will be hand delivered to the White House, the UN, Elon Musk and many other prominent people.
The website for that is thenewblueprintforhumanity.org
His community also has working groups on growing your own food, health remedies and true law.
Roger Isaacs was born in the UK and grew up in Cornwall. His family originates from Glamorganshire on his Mother’s side and Devon and Cornwall on his Father’s.
At 17 he joined the Royal Air Force and worked as an Air Defence Technician for 7 years. In 1987 he emigrated to Canada to reconnect with his mother, sister and brother. In 1990 Roger moved to British Columbia where he continued to work in the Telecommunications industry and raised a family of 2 daughters.
In 1990 Roger started training in the martial art of Aikido with Mind & Body Unified. He has been teaching Universal Principles and Aikido for over 28 years and is the Chief Instructor of his dojo and a certified full lecturer with the Ki Society International.
Roger joined THI in 2017 and has been following Thomas Williams podcasts since then.
In 2019 as he was studying law, he was asked to lead the Law Group in THI. His study led him to Frank O’Collins and Ucadia.
He wants to share what he’s learned about the True Rule of Law, the provenance of modern Western-Roman law and why there has been no rule of law since the 16th century.
He is passionate about encouraging people to study Ucadia, learn who we are, what is the true rule of law and how to restore the true rule of law in our societies.
They believe to restore law, we must develop communities of trust and the Golden Rule that all are equal under the law, no one is above the law and the New Blue Print for Humanity is a step in that direction.
This is a longer than usual episode and a wide ranging discussion.
LinksTHI Show - https://thi-show.com
Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqFP7ftC6XfYyvhoJPCKP7A
Twitter - https://twitter.com/THI_SHOW_COM
Ucadia - http://ucadia.org
An older Ucadia site only available on Wayback Machine - https://web.archive.org/web/20150208110726/http://globe-union-court.org/default.asp
Raymond Hekmat is a lawyer and founder of Hekmat Law & Mediation, APC based in Beverly Hills.
They focus on family law with areas including divorce, paternity, custody, support issues as well as prenuptial agreements.
Raymond earned his Juris Doctorate degree from Loyola Law School in 2009. During his tenure at Loyola, Raymond was President of the Evening Bar Association, and was awarded the Alumni Association Governors’ Alumni Award. While earning his degree, Raymond worked as a law clerk, and later an associate, for a Beverly Hills family law firm.
Later Raymond was an associate with Law Offices of Schuchman & Aldin in Century City, where he managed his own complex family law caseload, as well as provided assistance to the partners in family law litigation.
He is admitted to practice law in California and is a member of the Los Angeles County and Beverly Hills Bar Associations.
Raymond received his Bachelor of Arts degree in International Studies, with honors, and a minor in Business Management from the University of California at Irvine, with study at the London School of Economics in London, England.
He was also a member of the Division I UCI Men’s Tennis Team, and continues to play competitive tennis as a member of the USTA.
Raymond was born and raised in Los Angeles and lives in West Los Angeles with his wife and two sons.
Raymond also has the distinction of being the first lawyer to appear on the podcast!
The discussion is wide ranging and covers topics including differences between family law in Britain and California, free speech and a refreshing take on why prenups can be a good idea for most, not just the rich and famous.
One correction I want to make is, in this episode, I referred back to episode 16 and my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP. I mistakenly referred to him as a psychotherapist whereas he is of course a psychologist. If you haven't heard episode 16 it's well worth listening to as Dr. Waldman had great experience and insights, as does Raymond in this episode.
Raymond's Links
Website - hekmatfamilylaw.com
Youtube - theprenupguy
TikTok - theprenupguy
Instagram - hekmatfamilylaw
The documentary Raymond mentions is Divorce Corp https://www.divorcecorp.com
In today's episode we are going to discuss suicide.
I want to take a moment to talk about that before we introduce our guest who has kindly agreed to join us.
In episode 15 we spoke with Lawrence Sprung about his personal experience with suicide and also his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Please revisit it if you are in crisis. The show notes also contain links to help.
Suicide is a topic we feature on this podcast because of its link to parental alienation, family court proceedings, legal abuse, etc.
The result of the extreme trauma caused, sometimes maliciously and for no reason, and sometimes by people who call themselves professionals, can cause suicide in parents and children.
Today’s guest is Collin Hughes. I heard his story a few months ago and I was moved by it.
I hope this episode will reach those listeners going through tough times or listeners who know someone who is.
Collin is a former pro-rodeo athlete, a former airline pilot and is now a voice actor. That’s a pretty interesting sounding trio of careers.
However in 2022 Collin’s 15 year old granddaughter, Evangelina, died by suicide.
Collin has a moving website (https://stopsuicide.life). He also speaks widely on the subject of suicide to raise awareness and I am very grateful he agreed to join us.
During the conversation Collin spoke about the QPR Institute who talk about the 'Question. Persuade. Refer' approach to suicide prevention. Their website is https://qprinstitute.com
Collin’s Links
https://stopsuicide.life
Today our guest is Anna Maria DiDio.
Anna Maria lives in Philadelphia. She holds a BA in Psychology from Villanova University and an MSW in Family Specialization from the University of Pennsylvania.
For over twenty years, she has devoted time to non-profit organizations, locally and globally. She has served as President of Women International Leaders (WIL) of Greater Philadelphia, which provides micro-finance loans and empowerment grants to women in under-resourced countries. She is also on the board of Impact100 Philly.
Her parenting journey began with infertility struggles, which were isolating and sent her into depression. After two miscarriages, she was blessed with a baby girl, but adding to her family proved impossible.
That's how she found herself at an orphanage in Mexico, to meet a six-year-old girl who she adopted. Inspired by that journey, she wrote a memoir called Love at the Border, An Adoption Adventure.
Traditionally orphanages are portrayed negatively however Anna Maria speaks warmly of her experience in Mexico and of the Ministerios de Amor shelters which have changed the way Mexico cares for children.
She has also written the ‘L.I.F.E. Adventures’ series of children's books, featuring stories about adoption and foster care. The books cover topics such as trauma, attachment, identity, and grief. Anna Maria’s mission is for parents and educators to use these stories as an effective tool to open up the discussion about adoption, foster care and the love within blended families.
Anna Maria’s Links
Website - https://AMDiDio.com
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/anna.m.didio
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amdidio
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annamariadidio
Book 'Love at the Border: An Adoption Adventure' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703505
Book 'How I Wonder Where You Are' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703521
Book 'Many People to Love' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703513
Twitter - https://twitter.com/amdidio
Impact 100 Philly - https://impact100philly.org
Today’s guest is Mick Smith PhD,
He is a digital marketer, executive, podcaster, voice actor, author and, he says, a recovering academic. He lives in California and is the author of the book 'burning America: In the Best Interest of the Children'.
It is a fictional story in which the main character, Paul, a middle-class professor, has his world shattered when his child is taken by his wife who leaves him a note.
The story ponders the question ‘Do the courts really act in the best interest of the children?’
In the book the parents planned for their child’s home, school, clothes, food, and happiness but then Paul’s five-year old daughter is taken from him and he faces 3 years of hell.
Mick's podcast 'The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing' is here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing/id1647001828
Mick's Links
Website - https://burning-america.com
Book - https://www.amazon.com/stores/G-Mick-Smith/author/B0B59X5R79
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/burningamerica
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/burningamericacommunity
Twitter - https://twitter.com/gmicksmith
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100062440891984
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@aftermathofdivorce
Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing/id1647001828
How did this podcast get to 20 episodes? It is nothing to do with me. Great guests and listeners is the answer. Thanks to all of you.
As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes.
This episode is a compilation. It isn’t a ‘best of’ as that is individual choice, it is more of a taster for people new to the podcast. Here is a list of the episodes with their time points:
Episode 11 (00m 29s): Jodee Gibson MA PCC (@jodeegibson1111) discussed trauma and coping.
Episode 12 (11m 18s): Orsi discussed using meditation And yoga to help us cope.Episode 13 (24m 25s): sadly Burt Bacharach died. RIP. I spoke about him and his daughter. While recording I also remembered a story about Joni Mitchell and her daughter so I spoke about that too. Burt and Joni are two of my favourite songwriters.
Episode 14 (28m 14s): was an open offer to tell your story on the podcast. I also mentioned that, if you don't want to come on this podcast it is still worth considering telling your story elsewhere to raise awareness of what we are going through to help bring change.
Episode 15 (31m 14s): Lawrence Sprung discussed suicide prevention and his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and the Keith Milano Memorial Fund.
Episode 16 (41m 56s): Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP discussed psychology, his books and his 20+ year career working with the #FamilyCourt.
Episode 17 (54m 49s): Justin Breen (@BrEpicBreen) talked about parenting, moonshots and his book 'Epic Life'.
Episode 18 (1h 04m 39s): Part 1 of our discussion with Positive Conclusions (@Positiveconclu)
Episode 19 (1h 14m 00s): Part 2 of our discussion with Positive Conclusions (@Positiveconclu)
Thanks to all the guests and listeners. Here's to the next 10 episodes.
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Today we have part 2 of my talk with Positive Conclusions, who works in the UK to reform the family courts and mediation to put children and families first.
Positive Conclusions works closely with the Family Court Reform Coalition, whose website is FCRC.uk. We interviewed Mike Bell from there in episode 7.
It’s great to see good people, men and women, coming together to help bring positive reform for parents and children.
We speak on many topics. It's a long conversation which is why we published it in 2 parts, with part 1 in the previous episode.
Enjoy!
Links
Website - http://positiveconclusions.org.uk
Twitter - https://twitter.com/Positiveconclu
Today we talk with Positive Conclusions who works in the UK to reform the family courts and mediation to put children and families first.
Positive Conclusions works closely with the Family Court Reform Coalition, whose website is FCRC.uk. We interviewed Mike Bell from there in episode 7.
It’s great to see good people, men and women, coming together to help bring positive reform for parents and children.
We speak on many topics. It's a long conversation so we're publishing it in 2 parts with part 2 in the next episode.
Enjoy!
Links
Website - http://positiveconclusions.org.uk
Twitter - https://twitter.com/Positiveconclu
Today’s guest is Justin Breen. He is the author of the Wall Street Journal and USA Today Best Selling book Epic Life and runs BREPIC, a PR company.
I first connected with Justin when I saw him online at Peter Diamandis’ Abundance 360 event. Peter’s podcasts and work on exponential change and moonshots are inspiring.
I recently listened to the audiobook of Epic Life and enjoyed it a great deal.
Many of us don’t see our children or see little of them. Most episodes are based on this scenario and it will always be the central focus but we also want to discuss other parenting issues such as education, mediation, busyness, etc. for people in those situations too.
All parents, alienated or not, can have challenges juggling time. Alienated parents have to juggle time with coping with trauma, working on a family court case and trying to work to keep our head above water.
We will discuss Justin’s thoughts on how he keeps his focus on family first.
This episode is also about moonshots. I want to discuss Justin’s idea of moonshots and whether reform of the family court system could be seen as one.
Justin’s Links
https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinbreen1
https://linktr.ee/justinbreen
https://www.brepicllc.com
http://52dates52weeks.com
Today’s guest is Dr. Larry Waldman who is a psychologist, professor, speaker and author. He has practiced in family law for over 20 years.
He is a forensic psychologist in Phoenix, Arizona and he has worked with children and parents in a solution focussed way.
Dr. Waldman was the past president of the Maricopa Psychological Society. Also he has been the Director of Psychological Services for Charter Psychiatric Hospital of Glendale, an “Official Guide” (in other words top expert) on the subject of Parenting for SelfGrowth.com and he was a Medical Consultant for the Social Security Office in Phoenix.
He continues as an adjunct graduate professor in counselling and serves on the professional advisory board of Stepping Stones of Hope, a charitable organisation serving children who have lost a parent.
Dr. Waldman was also co-chair of the Early Career Psychologists Committee at the Arizona Psychological Association for 5 years. He is certified by the American Council on Exercise as a fitness specialist and is a yoga instructor offering “psychoyogology” - I love that term!
He has had many articles published in the local and national press and has also written 7 books.
Dr. Waldman trained as a public speaker and presents for PESI. His signature presentations are:
The Business of Private Practice
The Graduate Course You Never Had
Teaching Parents to Parent
He has made over 150 presentations to attorneys, chiropractors, psychologists, family therapists, counselors, social workers, school psychologists and school counsellors.
To the community Dr Waldman speaks on parenting, marriage, stress, depression and anxiety, wellness, grand parenting and psychotherapy.
Dr Waldman's Links
His website - https://topphoenixpsychologist.com
His books - https://topphoenixpsychologist.com/books
I wanted to do some shows on how to cope with abuse and alienation. In recent episodes began that by discussing trauma and meditation. Today we talk about suicide and suicide prevention.
The websites findahelpline.com and www.suicide.org have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or you are concerned for someone else.
Our children need us to stay around for them, whether we are seeing them now or whether we are being alienated and will see them when they are older.
Children also die by suicide and as a society we need to improve prevention.
Our guest today is Lawrence Sprung. He lives in New York and is the founder of wealth management company Mitlin Financial Inc.
He is an Investopedia Top Ten Advisor for 2022, he hosts the Mitlin Money Mindset™ podcast and he spent over 12 years on the National Board for The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
In 2004 Lawrence lost his brother-in-law Keith to suicide.
He reacted by turning his sadness into a mission to raise awareness for mental health. He has become a resource for the community and he has helped many parents seeking help for their children.
Lawrence has also raised over $1.5 million for the Keith Milano Memorial Fund charity.
We learn about Lawrence’s story, his work improving financial literacy for parents and children and his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
Suicide Prevention Links Around the World
These websites have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. They also have other information for people suffering. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or concerned for someone else:
https://findahelpline.com
http://www.suicide.org
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is at https://afsp.org
Lawrences’ links
Websites:
1) https://www.mitlinfinancial.com
2) http://www.keithmilano.org
3) http://www.mitlinmoneymindset.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawrencesprung
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lawrencesprung
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lawrence_Sprung
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvmQXlCX1sbGcKviZJaHkvg
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/larry_sprung
Way back in episode 1 I mentioned that listeners could use the podcast to tell their own stories.
Some guests have done that and it would also be good for listeners, who want to share, to be able to. So, if you want to do that consider this episode an open invitation.
Sharing our stories is powerful and increases awareness. I believe raising awareness is a key to change. As Mike Bell described in episode 7, often politicians just aren’t aware of how bad a problem is until they see the details.
Some people have contacted me and they have a few barriers to sharing. For example, they don’t like public speaking or writing, they want privacy or they have court order constraints, fear of abuse, etc.
I want to make it as easy as possible for those who want to share by providing writers or narrators for free to help if you don't want to write or speak. You can even change names in a story for anonymity.
Alternatively, if you want to tell your story on your own or as a discussion with me that is fine too.
Raising awareness is the aim. If you don’t want to come on this podcast please consider sharing your story on other podcasts, blogs, Youtube, eBooks, social media, etc. There has never been an easier time for people to publish their stories.
Raising awareness helps those in positions of authority to become aware of how bad things are and how badly change is needed. It also helps others going through the same as us or just starting the journey. Hearing how others coped can provide strength, strategy or just the feeling they are not alone, which is really important.
This is a change to the scheduled episode. I recorded this to mark the death last week of the great Burt Bacharach. RIP.
We sometimes do offshoot episodes, such as our discussion of parenting and separation in movies. I wanted to discuss music and parenting today and talk briefly about a parenting story I read about Burt. I also briefly mention another of my musical heroes, Joni Mitchell.
We can sometimes think that celebrities have an easy time of it but they have the same parenting problems as anyone else.
Both Burt and Joni are musical heroes of mine.and if this episode causes you to listen to a few of their songs today it is a good thing.
Today we talk with Orsi, a meditation and yoga teacher about using them to help cope with trauma.
There is lots of content out there but I want to discuss meditation and yoga in the context of parents going through hell and how it can help. Some parents may not have considered meditation due to lack of time or stress so, for our listeners, I wanted to raise it as a tool to try.
The family court is brutal for parents and children. It shouldn’t be but it is.
Children and parents can be in limbo for years and suffer alienation. Parents can also suffer false allegations and financial hardship. Servere trauma can result.
One thing I want the podcast to look at is ways to cope. We need ways to cope because family law is a long way from perfect and legal professionals can be detached from empathy and understanding.
There are many tools we can use and today we look at meditation and yoga.
Both are used increasingly these days. Many top people use meditation for business, sport and wellness. We need to try and stay well throughout the court process or while being abused so this episode is in the context of using these tools to help parents cope.
Orsi discusses also discusses how meditation and yoga can help children, whether they are stressed by court or just to help with life in general. Meditation and yoga can help in so many situations.
Orsi’s links are:
Website: https://femininetothrive.co.uk
Youtube yoga and meditations: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHo4kISYHjzR8qMstfdOI6ZnFuS64QqOg
Our guest today is Jodee Gibson, a human behaviour expert and master coach.
Jodee is based in Michigan. Her work is deeply layered in developmental psychology, NLP, neuroscience, consciousness, trauma, levels of energy and intention. The intersection she created between these is fascinating. Being a Detroit native, her approach is always practical and conversational.
Jodee coaches and speaks worldwide.
Jodee's book "Healing Your Map: A Guide to Understanding Discernment, Trauma and Human Behavior" is available now (https://a.co/d/eix3SkT) with an audiobook available early 2023.
Many parents suffer trauma through alienation, false allegations and the Family Court system. We discuss this and some methods for coping including NLP, the work of both Richard Bandler and Tony Robbins, Jodee's ideas and her book.
Some of Jodee’s Qualifications
Master's Degree in Organizational Leadership
Licensed NLP Trainer • The Society of NLP
Certified Hypnotherapist
Certified Professional Coach (iPEC)
Professional Certified Coach (ICF)
Certified Trauma & Resilience Practitioner • Starr
Trauma-Certified Practitioner • HeartMath
ELI Master Practitioner (iPEC)
COR.E Dynamics Leadership Specialist
ICF Michigan Executive Board Member
Former ICF Michigan President
Jodee’s links
Website: https://www.jodeegibson.coach/about
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodeegibson/
Her Book: https://a.co/d/eix3SkT
Short video on NLP: https://www.jodeegibson.coach/what-is-nlp
Episode 10 already. We have covered a lot of ground so I wanted to do a look back at play a few highlights from the shows. It isn’t a ‘best of’ as that would be individual choice. This episode is more a taster for people new to the podcast.
We’ve had some fantastic guests. A big thank you to all of the guests and listeners. OK let’s go...
Episode 1: was a welcome to the podcast. I spoke a a bit about suicide prevention.
Episode 2: described 6 simple and cheap ways to massively improve the family law system.
Episode 3: I talked with @DerickMcduff about parent child separation in the movie Inception and other movies too.
Episode 4: I spoke with Ros Barton of @matchmothers. They support all women who are alienated from children. Whether you are a mum, aunt, grandmother, sister, etc. they can help.
Episode 5: I talked with @DerickMcduff about parent child separation in the movie Interstellar. We also branched off onto other films.
Episode 6: my podcast was discussed in court. I gave my thoughts on podcasting during proceedings.
Episode 7: I spoke with Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition (@FCRCUK)
Episode 8: I spoke with Dr Marni Hill Foderaro about her books, thoughts and learnings about parental alienation.
Episode 9: I gave some simple ideas for coping at Christmas and beyond.
Thanks to everyone for listening and getting involved. Have a great 2023. We've got some great episodes coming this year.
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Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.
In this episode I give 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt
We have episodes planned next year with experts in their fields. We will go in depth on specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.
In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.
This is the fifth Christmas for my case. By Christmas 2018 I hadn't seen my child for over 2 months. It was terrible but, little did I know, the abuse was only just beginning. Despite a solicitors letter my abuser wouldn't allow even a moment with our child. Are abusers oblivious to the heartbreak that causes or do they revel in it?
I am no expert in the ideas in this episode but I have tried many of them and found they help. This episode is just a quick surface run through which may provide you a springboard to try them or find out more by searching the internet or Youtube.
Whether you are seeing your children or not, have a good Christmas. The system is broken and causes harm to us and the children but change will come in time. Parts of the world are improving so there is hope. Above all stay strong for your children.
Many listeners are suffering alienation because a co-parent has taken their children. Others are going through divorce and suffering stress and an uncertain outcome. Many are suffering psychological abuse. If you are still living with your co-parent and are suffering physical abuse seek immediate help.
If your life is in danger through physical or psychological abuse, assault or suicide please contact support services whether it is the police or suicide prevention charities. Do what you can. Look after yourself for your children.
Links to the personal development leaders mentioned:
https://www.tonyrobbins.com
https://www.jimrohn.com
https://www.naphill.org
https://www.josephmcclendon.com
https://www.melrobbins.com
In this episode we welcome Dr Marni Hill Foderaro and talk about her alienation story, path to growth and book series “True Deceit False Love” which addresses domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and intergenerational family trauma.
Dr Marni earned her doctorate in education from Northern Illinois University and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard during a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor.
Many alienation cases involve young children but Dr Marni’s children were in their 20s when alienation occurred and we discuss this.
Her books provide a creative response and resources to help understand a variety of challenging family dynamics, including parental alienation.
Dr Marni gives talks on these topics and in January 2022 Marni was inducted into the Bestselling Authors International Organization.
I enjoyed greatly talking with Dr Marni. I found it illuminating to hear her inspirational story of self-care, her journey out of trauma and into book writing as well as her insights on healing, generational trauma and alienation.
Dr Marni isn’t on social media but her web links are:
Website: https://www.GodCameToMyGarageSale.com
Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnhsXs98ops
In this episode we speak with Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition.
This episode was recorded in October and was originally due to be released on November 13. It was postponed for reasons explained in the episode 6 audio and show notes.
Many people, including judges and MPs, have described flaws in the family law system. The flaws seem well know but they persist and harm parents and children.
Mike brought some people together to produce a report of solid proposals suggesting ways to reform to the system.
In a short space of time the report has been seen by MPs, Sir Andrew McFarlane, Sir Graham Brady and has been sent to the Minister of Justice and the new Home Secretary, Suella Braverman.
We talk about this work, the aims and hopes for the future. We also explore how other people can get involved.
The report can be read here: https://fcrc.uk/final-report
It can be endorsed here: https://fcrc.uk/support-fcrc
The report can also be shared and forwarded to MPs, Lords and people in the system to help change.
Mike’s Links:
https://fcrc.uk
https://twitter.com/FCRCUK
https://equi-law.uk
https://twitter.com/GenderParityUK
This short episode replaces the planned episode.
The other side raised the Fair Parenting Podcast in court this week but could not show anything improper. They also added more false allegations which were very upsetting.
The podcast release schedule is planned weeks ahead and today we were due to release an episode with the Family Court Reform Coalition. I have postponed it as this week’s events leave me in a state of worry.
Four years of false allegations, alienation & gaslighting has left me treading on eggshells.
The Family Court Reform Coalition is a solid organisation whose report has been viewed by judges and MPs. Many of them have said the system needs reform so the idea of reform is non-contentious and the episode has balanced sensible proposals.
However, I worry that, a few days after court, the other side may say I hastily recorded an episode about court reform. They have not done so but the history of corrosive false allegations worries me.
I am not anti-court, I am pro-court. That is why I have been in court for 4 years. The current system has flaws and is exploited by malicious parties and many MPs and judges have said the same, however discussing it on the podcast could be exploited and used to attack me.
Four years of psychological abuse and allegations takes a toll. I am sure many who have been through similar can understand.
The episode was recorded and tweeted about in October but court hearings often don’t have enough time for fact checking and mud can stick if enough is thrown.
On the wider point of podcasting, last week, court said I should get legal advice and podcasting was OK as long as kept to the court order. I respect court orders and I will keep within them.
In July, before the podcast launched, in a different court, a judge suggested we tell our story to help others. I was surprised but she did say that. I will keep within the terms of court orders.
So, I apologise to The Family Court Reform Coalition (FCRC.uk). It was a timing problem this week. It is a good episode and I look forward to publishing it soon.
Instead, we have my reflections on podcasting during proceedings and why I make the podcast. It has always been about the listeners, guests and helping others and not about my case. Thanks to all of you who listen and give feedback.
I recorded it on my phone yesterday to get thoughts down. I was going to re-record but I decided the phone recording was authentic and ‘real’ so here it is. I hope you enjoy it.
This is the second episode discussing parenting in Christopher Nolan films with @DerickMcduff from the Underrated podcast (@undercastco).
This was a meandering hoot with lots of offshoots! We discuss @Interstellar and also talk music: @Trevor_Horn_, Steve Lipson and @HansZimmer. We also discuss @mrbobodenkirk, @BetterCallSaul and other movies and TV shows.
It was very enjoyable talking with Derick about parenting themes in Christopher Nolan films. I hope you enjoy listening!
Two quick corrections to things I said in this episode:
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I mentioned Steve Lipson produced Hans Zimmer’s James Bond soundtrack. He co-produced the theme song, not the soundtrack, but Steve Lipson has produced other Hans Zimmer soundtracks.
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When discussing Hans Zimmer I remembered his Top of the Pops performance incorrectly. If you search on YouTube, he was performing Living in the Plastic Age not Video Killed the Radio Star, although he does appear in the music video for Video Killed The Radio Star briefly. See if you can spot him!
One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!
Derick’s links are:
Twitter: @DerickMcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos
The Underrated podcast:
Twitter @undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany
In this episode we speak with Ros Barton of MatchMothers.org.
Ros also works with @MyCAFCASS advising them on change and also works at Recover Our Kids.
We hear about the positive support available from MatchMothers.org. They support mums and ALL female victims separated from children, so if you are an aunt, grandmother, sister, etc. please contact them for support.
Women are sometimes overlooked in terms of alienation awareness but parental alienation does happen to them and it was great to speak with Ros about this. We learn about the story of the lady who started MatchMothers over 40 years ago and Ros’ own journey.
If you are an alienated mum, grandmother, aunt, etc. you are not alone. Please contact MatchMothers.org for support.
Note: The audio quality in this episode is not 100% but I hope the content shines through.
In this episode we talk movies with Derick McDuff from the Underrated podcast. We discuss Inception as well as E.T., A.I. and Minority Report and more.
You may be wondering why we are talking movies on a parenting podcast. In some episodes I want to discuss parenting and parental alienation themes in movies, books and music.
Art is one of the most beautiful and powerful things in life and revisiting art can help us get through the dark times of abuse and parental alienation.
Over the next 2 episodes we discuss 2 Christopher Nolan films. In this episode we talk @Inception and the next episode will cover @Interstellar.
In this episode we also discuss parenting themes in Steven Spielberg’s movies E.T., A.I. and @TomCruise’s role in Minority Report. Finally we touch on @HansZimmer’s music and Groundhog Day. It’s a packed episode!
I had a lot of fun discussing these movies and it was great to get Derick’s insights.
There are many parental themes in these movies. More than you may think!
One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!
Derick’s links are:
https://twitter.com/derickmcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos
The Underrated podcast:
https://twitter.com/undercastco
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Welcome to the Fair Parenting Podcast, where we cover people’s stories, ideas and the progress towards fair parenting.
In this episode we talk about at the aims of the show and what we want to cover in the future. We also touch on suicide prevention and the need for alienated parents to look after themselves for their children.