The Big Purple Blob PODCAST: Recent Episodes
The Big Purple Blob
We offer emotional support for EFMs and Expats around the world. A group of specialists who are trained Life Coaches bring wisdom & understanding to all of us facing the challenges of frequent moves and life overseas. Parenting, Marriage, and YOUR questions answered.
Have you ever wondered what details are involved in a thoughtful divorce while living the Diplomatic life?
Our guest expert is here with some wise insights.
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Lisa Hope Tilstra
Sharoya Ham, Behavior Therapist
Meet Lisa Tilstra and learn from her valuable inisghts into Diplo-life.
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When the rug may very possibly be pulled out from under you...how do you manage? When things that you thought were solid are taking a different direction...what can you do for yourself?
Join Lisa Tilstra and Angi Solley for this personal discussion.
If you could use some extra support, you can work with any of the Blob experts by connecting with us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Susie talks with Lelania Vanderberg about her unexpected path to employment as an EFM. Found out more by connecting with Susie at:
www.healthyexpatparent.com
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Susie Czorz Brown, an experienced EFM shares her personal story and ideas for how to prevent a home invasion burglary.
To work with Susie directly connect at: www.healthyexpatparent.com
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Tell us your story, share your ideas for episode topics, set up a time to talk with one of us for personal coaching and find more purpose in your overseas life.
Lisa Tilstra, Angi Solley, Sharoya Ham, Susie Czorz-Brown are all HERE for it!
A deep dive into what it means to be a Third Culture Kid
“Letters Now Sent” Book Invitation:
You are invited to submit a written piece for the book, “Letters Now Sent.” Inspired by Ruth Van Reken's book "Letters Never Sent", "Letters Now Sent" will be a collection of letters from TCKs, parents of TCKs, and system leaders to share personal stories about their experiences with TCKs/being a TCK themself/raising TCKs. This book is a fusion of both memoir and anthology written in a specific "Dear ___[name]___" format. Here is the Google Form link to submit a letter with additional details about length and content prompts: https://forms.gle/jQyzq3TtFqfyznvCA.
Please contact Megan Norton (megancnorton@gmail.com) if you have any questions about this book project.
“A Work of Heart”, a project led by Simona Wiig and Megan Norton, invites any individual who has had a Third Culture experience to submit their artwork expressions depicting their cross-cultural story for the first volume of art collections (including any visual rendering, song lyrics, poetry, videography, etc.) for and by CCKs/TCKs/migrants/global nomads/whatever ‘label’ that encompasses the Third Culture experience. Both Simona Wiig and Megan Norton are creators, artists, dreamers, and Adult TCKs who desire to showcase the Third Culture experience through visual artwork created by fellow friends who have grown up crossing-cultures. Submissions are due by May 1, 2025 for Volume 1. Please contact Megan Norton (megancnorton@gmail.com) if you have any questions about this book project.
Does your child have special educational needs? If so, this is the episode for you! Education Consultant Aisha Smith and Janelle Meyers, Founder of Global Village Tutors, explain what parents should do before leaving post and what they need to do once they arrive in the States to ensure their child has the smoothest transition possible into a US-based school. Aisha Smith: aisha@sageeducationconsulting.com Parent Pathway to IEP Success ToolKit Janelle Meyer: https://www.globalvillagetutors.org/ Sharoya Ham: www.embracebehaviorchange.com Send us your ideas at www.thebigpurpleblob.com The Big Purple Blob is here to support YOU with the expert insights on HOW to live your best Diplo-life.
Let's find out what the options are for meeting with a therapist in the Diplomatic community these days.
Have you been wondering if therapy could help you? Are you struggling to find the right therapist for your needs? Frustrated with therapists who don’t understand the challenges of expatlife? Connect with us at: https://thebigpurpleblob.com Therapists Shanon Miller and Brittney Foose from Apricity Expat Therapy offer practical guidance to help you live your best life in 2025 through therapy. https://apricityexpattherapy.com/ To work with Sharoya directly check out:
www.embracebehaviorchange.com
This episode comes at an important time when so many USAID families are seeking new work after sudden termination without cause.
Find out more at:
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Work with Ben Fowle
FormerFed on Substack https://formerfed.substack.com/p/navigating-the-federal-layoffs
David Wessel - author of Choosing Sides, the tale of an ordinary family torn apart by Hitler’s Germany https://www.amazon.com/CHOOSING-SIDES-David-K-Wessel/dp/1952439779 Sharoya Ham and Katie Fowle - Help my child won't go to school https://www.amazon.com/Help-My-Child-Wont-School-ebook/dp "If there is a book you want to read but it hasn't yet been written, you must be the one to write it." ~ Toni Morrison AFSA November issue has a listing of all identified books published by Foreign Service members. Find a supportive community who can contribute to the end product. Reviewers, illustrators, proof-readers. It pays to find an experienced, non-biased, expert to give feedback. www.shutupandwrite.com
Should I accept an overseas post with my current medical condition? What are my options?
This is the episode on Med Services you ALL want to hear. Let's talk about specifics on general medical clearances and mental health. Join us to consider your own choice in how to connect your medical needs to the work/location you are considering.
Expert insights from:
Director Jen Monna--Health Unit experienced current director
Kip Quenin- Psychaitrist, Mental Health professional
MED Sharepoint homepage: https://usdos.sharepoint.com/sites/MED/SitePages/Public/Main
Med survey
www.bit.ly/MEDFeedbackSurvey
MED Internet Site: https://www.state.gov/bureaus-offices/under-secretary-for-management/bureau-of-medical-services/
Child and Family Programs, for SNEA inquiries: MEDCFP@state.gov
To connect with Susie directly check out:
www.healthyexpatparent.com
"If you think you aren't doing it well, that thought means your heart is turned to your kid, and you are already 70% there," says Dr. Jean Kawiecki. As a psychologist, educator, and adult TCK Dr. Kawiecki is deeply passionate about helping TCKs and their parents through the various transitions of TCK life. Talk with Sharoya directly to get more support in your parenting: www.embracebehaviorchange.com Resources mentioned: The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young Six Core Needs of Kids by Adam Young Misunderstood by Tanya Crossman Raising Up a Generation of Healthy Third Culture Kids: A Practical Guide to Preventive Care by Lauren Wells The Grief Tower: A Practical Guide to Processing Grief with Third Culture Kids by Lauren Wells The RAFT
Starting a New Career: The Time Is Now! Are you an EFM looking for meaningful and profitable work that has longevity? World-renowned Marketing Coach Amel Derragui joins Katie Fowle and Sharoya to discuss how EFMs can turn their passions into portable businesses. Katie and Sharoya share their personal stories of creating businesses that are rewarding, impactful, and sustainable from post to post. Connect using these links: amelderragui.com Podcast: The Time is Now To create more connected communicaation in your family you can work with Sharoya: www.embracebehaviorchange.com
We are glad to welcome international tax expert for this episode. Alex has a great deal of expertise to share with us in the diplo community. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-expat-taxes/id1753694329 Find Alex here: https://mcgowintax.com/ Learn how to fill out international forms here: https://www.youtube.com/@McGowinTax
Does living in different places shape or shift your perspective on political leanings? Join us to talk about what we've noticed.
In this talk, Jenni and Angi are considerate of varied opinions across the board. This discussion aims to be inclusive for all, while we all decide our politics as individuals. Especially how this works within families and third culture kids.
To work with Jenni directly check out: www.theexpatmom.com
To work with Angi directly (parents and teens) connect at: www.teenlines.com
Budgeting genius, Heather Emerick is here to share her knowledge with us! If you're ready for accountability and upleveling your budget- check out this episode and her website here.
Check out:
www.diplobudgets.com
Take some of the stress out of life by planning ahead for your own spending habits.
Angi Solley is a Life Coach for Teens:
www.teenlines.com
Jennie, Katie and Susie share a very personal story of diplo life, facing a medical challenge.
Talk to Jennie at www.theexpatmom.com
Talk to Katie at www.learningtoflourish.org
Talk to Susie at www.healthyexpatparent.com
Find us all and give us your ideas for the next show topic at:
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Find out more about working with Sharoya and Jennie at www.thebigpurpleblob.com Book discussed: Anxious generation by Jonathan Haidt https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/ Resources mentioned: Raising an adult, by Julie Lythcott-Haims
https://www.amazon.com/How-to-Raise-an-Adult-audiobook/ Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy https://www.amazon.com/Free-Range-Kids-Lenore-Skenazy-audiobook/dp/ https://www.kff.org/mental-health/issue-brief/a-look-at-state-efforts-to-ban-cellphones-in-schools-and-implications-for-youth-mental-health/ A great podcast talking about kids and technology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VyFUBP4OhJs
A challenging topic for our overseas community to experience at a distance and when we are living in the US. See important resources below or visit us at The Big Purple Blob to share your ideas. www.thebigpurpleblob.com https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/post/again-use-your-words American Tragedy Documentary: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10914182/ How to talk to your kids about scary world events: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-scary-world-events/id1525862812?i=1000555748938
Bidding can be pretty overwhelming. Talk it through with experienced adults who understand. Join Sharoya Ham and Susie Czor-Brown.
Work with us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Below link to online version of the FSI Post Info to Go boxes that can be super useful for bidding considerations.
https://online.fsi.state.gov/PITG (PITG-External), the online version for family members and interagency colleagues. Holding the fort abroad https://www.amazon.com/Holding-Fort-Abroad-Surviving-parenting/dp/1838167013
Sometimes healthcare isn't simple and easy overseas. Join us for a discussion on Mammograms. Visit us at TheBigPurpleBlob.com
Jennie: www.theexpatmom.com
Susie: www.healthyexpatparent.com
Lucca joins us to share his first-hand experience and ideas for going to University as he returns for a second year. Susie leads a through parent-student talk to share insider tips for other TCKs and parents in our audience.
Thanks for being part of our Purple Blob community.
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Angi & Jennie share their stories of learning how to navigate the UNPREDICTABILITY of pet ownership as a nomad.
Have an interesting experience you want to share with our wider community? Join us for a chat.
Please join us and share your ideas at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Connect with Jennie: www.theexpatmom.com
Connect with Angi: www.teenlines.com
Living overseas sometimes means that we miss out on important life events for family members because we are at a distance.
What do you do when your child marries someone you don't know really well because you live so far away? In this episode, Sharoya chats with another veteran EFM. They share their emotional journey to accept what is and embrace the beauty of what will be. How will living at a distance affect this experience?
Sharoya Ham shares her wisdom and insights here.
Please join us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
And reach out to Sharoya directly at www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Two parents share their experience in connecting (and sometimes convincing) their kids to talk to someone. What to consider when finding the right person to work with your teen or kid.
To work with Angi check out: www.teenlines.com
To work with Jennie check out: www.theexpatmom.com
Join Susie and Jennie to discuss some of the unexpected adjustments to having your kid (adult?) return to stay with you for the summer.
Jennie Linton: www.theexpatmom.com
Susie Czorz-Brown: www.healthyexpatparent.com
Susie and Sharoya share some helpful insights for parents of Teens.
Find out more at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
To work with Sharoya: www.embracebehaviorchange.com
To work with Susie: www.healthyexpatparent.com
Dr Teneshia Taylor's study of the experince of kids' of color, comparing US schools with international schools. In this Blob episode we are talking about mitigating the problem, helping kids of all colors have the educational experience they deserve. Dr. Taylor is researching the current events around anti-black racism. She has conducted a direct study of WHAT black kids experience in International schools currently.
Perhaps less often occurences in International Schools but still CONSTANTLY happening in schools today.
To reach Dr. Teneshia Taylor send message to: bbeyondbias@gmail.com Find Susie at-- www.healthyexpatparent.com
Eligible Family Members, Direct Hires, MoHs and TCKS....we have to factor in ALL the things when scoping out our next possible Post. How do you choose? Jennie and Angi share their process and ideas.
To work with Jennie directly check out: http://www.expatmom.com
Angi works with teens who could use support in goal setting and emotional processing:
www.teenlines.com
Thoughts from a 16year old young man who has grown up around the world(Turkey, Bulgaria, Costa Rica, Azerbaijan, Ukraine and Laos). This is his positive outlook on the advantages and disadvantages of growing up third culture style.
To support your own Teen in discovering their own strengths and advantages check out:
www.teenlines.com
and www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Susie shares some wisdom and helpful guidance on more mindfulness in our often-chaotic lifestyle.
Find out how to access MORE of Susies wisdom and personal support here:
www.healthyexpatparent.com
and
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Life can really throw a major WRENCH at you from time to time. How do we manage just keeping up with the basics in holding balance together when hard things happen?
Let's talk about how we handle tough times in Diplo living.
Susie, Katie and Angi are all available to work directly with you and your family if you're seeking an accountability, check-in, or safe space to talk about your emotional health.
Susie: www.healthyexpatparent.com
Katie: www.learningtoflourish.org
Angi: www.teenlines.com
When your child is standing up against you and REFUSING to go to school, you can find yourself in a cycle of arguments, exhaustion, confusion and sometimes everyone starts feeling like a failure. Help is HERE for you.
Even if this hasn't happened in your home...chances are you know someone who has mentioned this recently or may be struggling with this in their family. Please share this episode with others. We want struggling parents and kids to know they are not alone.
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Let's talk about Co-parenting. When two people (or more, when step-parents are involved) are working at raising children....we won't always agree on how to parent.
Sharoya and Susie have some insight and ideas for you.
Sharoya-- www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Susie-- www.healthyexpatparent.com
Find out more at: www.thebigpurpleblob.com
A teen perspective on the college application process. Living OVERSEAS while applying to US schools. Sports, Volunteerwork, and more. Do grades really matter? SATs: are they essential?
Do I need to tour and interview? Should I apply Early Decision?
If you have a high school student who might be looking at the application process soon: grab some popcorn and listen together.
One teen shares her account of the stressors and what was most effective.
Interview by:
Angi Solley, Life Coach for Teens: www.Teenlines.com
Drugs when living in the US and Abroad
Navigating drugs in overseas schools and when coming back to the US - join Katie and Susie as they share their perspectives on raising teens both at home and abroad.
Teens Overseas: Rules for tuk-tuks, drinking and more
Talking to Your Teens About Drugs
Opiods in Fairfax County
Great information from expert, Dr Geoffrey Jones, Deputy Chief Medical Officer for Clinical Programs In this episode we are talking about Health Unit services, local services, briefly about the new Medical Clearance process coming out, Medcare Mangement as well as the Med Connect option for appointments stateside and Askmed@state.gov. Find out how to work with us directly at www.TheBigPurpleBlob.com
Angie Collins and Susie Czorcz-Brown discuss the EMOTIONAL and FINANCIAL load that come with setting kids up at a four year University as Diplo parents.
To find out more check out:
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Luke Beer is finding his path in change at his first posting. Luke shares his insights and wisdom on balancing parenting, work and being part of the highly mobile community.
In this episode, Luke recounts his growth trajectory, from a single man with a paying job to a married, Foreign Service, stay-at-home dad, and new work found at the embassy. For more episodes and information check out
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Find out what it's like to work with Sharoya directly:
www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Join brilliant women Hillery Midkiff, Lisa Tilstra, Morgan Loosli, Susie Csorsz Brown
Four brilliant women share an honest discussion on everything fitness & health. Age? Having kids? Hard to get a routine with constant travel? Menopause? Good genes? Vegan diet?
Not a How To Manual- just thoughtful talk with smart women who have figured a few things for their individual wellbeing.
For individual support you can work with Susie directly.
www.healthyexpatparent.com
Are you curious about MORE work options for EFM and those of us in the "trailing spouse" universe. The Big Purple Blob is here with some insight.
Join Jennie Linton, TheExpatMom.com and Rona Jobe, the founder of LVL Up--a company that trains and hires expat trailing spouses. Rona also works with small businesses for expats. She has all the information you want to know.
Jennie has helped hundreds of struggling EFMs to find their purpose and joy in life.
Work with her at www.theexpatmom.com
Find out more about LVL Up at www.lvlupstrategies.com/the-what
Sharoya Ham is a trained expert with experience in raising children overseas. Sharoya has the unique perspective of someone who knows what she's doing professionally as well as personally to create strong interactions for struggling young people.
To work with Sharoya check out:
www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Resilient Partners are essential in nomadic living.
Creating community, seeking support, and prioritizing what matters - listen in on how Jessica Hayden has overcome the big and small challenges of 20 years in Foreign Service life, including an unaccompanied tour, evacuation from Ukraine, and raising three children through multiple moves. Jessica has a lot of wisdom and insight to share. If you find that you could use a bit of extra support yourself, navigating the EFM life--- you can reach out to any one of us at
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
To work with Jennie The Expat Mom click here: www.theexpatmom.com
Two additional questions for Mom and Son: considering the decision to seek therapy.
This mini-episode is a follow up to Episode 142- To hear the full story of how this family dealt with facing serious racism at a young age while living overseas, check out Episode 142
Sharoya can help your family: www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Angi works with Teens & Parents: www.teenlines.com
FS Kids of Color: The joys, challenges, & triumphs Have you ever wondered how FS kids of color experience life abroad? Our special guests, Kene and his mom, Nimo, share how they responded when Kene's school environment went from enjoyable to toxic. You'll also hear how the U.S. Embassy community rallied together to bring about change at Kene's school. Take an objective look at your school and speak up to make sure everyone is valued. Facebook Group: FS Parents of Kids of Color HEAR MORE FROM KENE & NIMO- look for quick episode BONUS (#143) with additional thoughts.
TCKs face unique challenges in a highly mobile lifestyle. Katie understands that on a professional level as well as being a parent who has managed this with her own children.
If you know your child needs some additional learning tools- contact Katie. She can work with you or point you towards other professionals with the expertise to help your child gain confidence and understanding in their work.
www.learningtoflourish.org
Moving frequently can seriously impact a partnership with added stress and constant change.
In this episode we feature ways to build in stronger connections to overcome the hardship of nomadic life.
To work with Jennie check out: www.theexpatmom.com
Katie, author and mother of two went through a challenging time when one of her children (grade six) refused to attend school.
To schedule a time to talk to Katie: www.learningtoflourish.org
Sharoya, expert behavior theraplist has helped families work through this issue. Together Katie and Sharoya have written a book to help parents navigate School Refusal.
To schedule time to talk to Sharoya: www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Let's talk about positive Masculinity with Luke Beer!
For more info check us out:
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Angi & Jennie consider the sacrafices that Eligible Family Members are often expected to make as part of a Diplomatic partnership.
Angi --- www.teenlines.com
Jennie -----www.theexpatmom.com
Starting a New Career: The Time Is Now! Are you an EFM looking for meaningful and profitable work that has longevity? World-renowned Marketing Coach Amel Derragui joins Katie Fowle and Sharoya to discuss how EFMs can turn their passions into portable businesses. Katie and Sharoya share their personal stories of creating businesses that are rewarding, impactful, and sustainable from post to post. amelderragui.com Podcast: The Time is Now Katie Fowle- Learning to Flourish.org Sharoya Ham- Embrace Behavior Change
Living Overseas and working when a family member in the continental US dies suddenly is a hard circumstance to face. Paperwork, family, logistics, travel, time-limits and State law are all a consideration that converge all at the same time.
It's NOT easy. Join Susie and Angi for a personal story in their experience. We hope this information will allow you to prepare or plan a bit for your own family situation.
To set up personal sessions and get your own goals, life purpose and wellness plans on track: www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Holiday Stress sneaks in even when we try to avoid it. Join us for a discussion on how our Overseas Families manage to find some sanity in November and December.
Find out how to work with us at The Big Purple Blob:
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Join Susie to consider Gratitude this week. Sharing some wellness....since we all need a bit more of that in today's world. Work with Susie at: http://www.healthyexpatparent.com For a deeper dive into GRATITUDE you can check out: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-teach-children-gratitude-4782154 https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/ten_ways_to_become_more_grateful1 https://www.headspace.com/articles/how-to-be-more-grateful https://my.happify.com/hd/benefits-of-being-grateful-that-you-may-not-know-about/ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_gratitude_changes_you_and_your_brain https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/can_gratitude_be_good_for_your_heart
This is a process to help kids deal with grief. As parents, we can help our kids process their emotions (we can't prevent them from having emotions). This is one way to help our kids who may be struggling with the challenges in the world today.
Jennie Linton can talk with you- find out more at www.theexpatmom.com
Send us your ideas for our next topic: thebigpurpleblob@gmail.com
Blob Book Club: Join us to check in with Mental Health as we discuss the book
What Happened to You : Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
We survived growing up TCK!!
At ages 25 and 22 Billie and Jeremiah are living their young adult lives and ready to reflect on their THIRD CULTURE CHILDHOODs. Each family must make the right choices for their own unique needs and tck life isn't right for everyone. In this episode we find many benefits of diplo living. Both of these successful and insightful young people recognize the TCK life has offered outstanding experiences as well as challenges.
For all our listeners seeking more support---check out all www.thebigpurpleblob.com
To talk more with Sharoya www.embracebehaviorchange.com
To talk more with Angi www.teenlines.com
Ever wonder if it's the right time for you to leave the the Diplo life? This episode explores the consdierations and logistics of choosing a new path. Join Katie & Susie for a thoughtful discssion on leaving the FS life.
Katie can help families with children who are having difficulty mastering reading.
www.Learningtoflourish.org
Susie helps families improve health, nutrition and wellness.
www.healthyexpatparent.com
I know...I know...we also cringe at the term "trailing spouse" but when titling podcasts...what's an equally and understood term? Can we start making "traveling partner" a thing? Or "freelance partner"? Send your suggestions to thebigpurpleblob@gmail.com
Insights from Luke & Tim:
Tim Claver Photography: https://www.timcalver.com/ Luke Beer is a first-tour EFM living in Armenia along with his wife a USAID FSO, and their 4-year-old daughter. A Canadian-born, rural character who recently became a naturalized American, he loves a spirited geopolitical discussion or a museum on any topic but misses his Hereford cows back home dearly. Luke met his wife while working in Afghanistan and has traveled to another 40 countries. Without any formal social accreditations besides being the President of two different Rotary Clubs, Luke relishes in the improvement of his cross-cultural awareness and aptitude. At the same time, as someone who genuinely believes in the mission of American diplomacy and who appreciates living abroad in challenging environments, he is keen to share his self-deprecating experiences that might benefit others.
A discussion on newly arrived at post and experienced overseas living. Luke & Tim share their perspectives. Tim Claver Photography: https://www.timcalver.com/ Luke Beer is a first-tour EFM living in Armenia along with his wife a USAID FSO, and their 4-year-old daughter. A Canadian-born, rural character who recently became a naturalized American, he loves a spirited geopolitical discussion or a museum on any topic but misses his Hereford cows back home dearly. Luke met his wife while working in Afghanistan and has traveled to another 40 countries. Without any formal social accreditations besides being the President of two different Rotary Clubs, Luke relishes in the improvement of his cross-cultural awareness and aptitude. At the same time, as someone who genuinely believes in the mission of American diplomacy and who appreciates living abroad in challenging environments, he is keen to share his self-deprecating experiences that might benefit others. Checkout: www.TheBigPurpleBlob.com for more information. Send us your ideas for podcast topics: thebigpurpleblob@gmail.com
Third Culture Kid researcher, Tanya Crossman joins the Big Purple Blob for this episode.
Tanya is sharing the latest research about TCKs and their Mental and Emotional Health
Tanya Crossman
Jennie Linton at The Expat Mom.com
Find more episodes at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Building Confidence for our kids as the grow up around the world. The Big Purple Blob is here to support parents and more!
Katie: www.learningtoflourish.org
Jennie: www.theexpatmom.com
Exploring the challenges of working as TANDEM partners.
How can we acknowledge the disappointment and overwhelm using the Name It to Tame It process.
++++++++++++ Back to School! ++++++++++ Sharoya and Katie will share three vital routines to support your child's success in school this year! Sharoya Ham, M.Ed. Parent Coach at Embrace Behavioral Change: https://www.embracebehaviorchange.com/ Katie Fowle, M. Ed, Reading Teacher at Learning to Flourish
Learn more at:
www.learningtoflourish.org
It can be hard to for younger students to gain consistancy when kids change teachers each year. Katie Fowle is here to HELP.
Family Attorney Lucia Levias shares some REAL WISDOM and important information for anyone who may consider divorce from a partner while one or both of you is living overseas.
The Big Purple Blob is here to serve you. Tell us which topics you'd like us to feature at
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
To work with Jennie directly and uplevel your emotional wellbeing:
www.theexpatmom.com
What happens when a TCK stops moving around the world? How can TCKs follow their deep interests and pursue goals if they're continually changing locations?
Angie Collins & Katie Fowle discuss their experience as parents raising kids who have defined themselves as Third Culture Kids for years....and then transition into living in their home country.
Angie Collins--Find out more at http:www/parentcoachangie.com
Katie Fowle---Helping young learners gain confidence http:www//learningtoflourish.org
Interview with EFM and Award Winning Children’s Book Author & Mental Health Advocate Jamie Edelbrock: How to help TCKs develop self confidence
Connect with Jennie: https://www.theexpatmom.com/
Find more on Jamie: https://www.jamieedelbrock.com/
Join Susie and Angie for a discussion on how to manage the world of sports with frequent moves and limited choices. Figure out the best way to keep your kids on track beyond Primary school.
To work with Susie: www.healthyexpatparent.com
To work with Angie: www.parentcoachangie.com
Summer visits, sharing holidays together...moving into your brother's guest room for 6 weeks....it's not always easy. Find out how we deal with family disputes. Sharoya, Susie and Angi have found some smart ways to mitigate the upsets.
To work with SHAROYA: www.embracebehaviorchange.com
To work with SUSIE: www.healthyexpatparent.com
To work with ANGI: www.teenlines.com
Is your co-parenting relationship not going well? If so, perhaps parallel parenting might be a better fit. In this episode, Susie and Sharoya define and differentiate these two styles of parenting partnerships. They provide helpful tips on how to navigate a tense relationship between estranged parents. Find Susie at HealthyExpatParent.com
Find Sharoya at EmbraceBehaviorChange.com
Finding Meaning and Purpose as an accompanying male spouse. Luke Beer discusses the opportunities and challenges of being an accompanying male spouse and the opportunities he's found to find purpose and community as a member of Rotary International. https://www.rotary.org/en Podcast correction - Luke is President of the Rotary Club of Dupont Circle. To work with Katie: www.learningtoflourish.org We want to hear from you! Share your idea and story with The Big Purple Blob
Let's address the acceptance and the challenges of raising LGBTQIA kids in different cultures around the globe. How can we best support our kids and their individuality when the outside world won't always be accepting?
Share your ideas, input, suggestions and thoughts with us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
or email us at thebigpurpleblob@gmail.com
We want to hear from YOU!
This month we discuss living LGBTQAI in overseas diplomatic life.
Thanks for joining us here. Send us your ideas and input to:
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Susie, Jennie and Angi discuss the hardships and a few tips on a little-discussed topic in the diplo community. Considering divorce while living overseas.
Please share your story! If you have something to contribute, we would be thrilled to have your voice, topic ideas or input on The Big Purple Blob. Find us at www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Divorce details here
Ever feel like you would like some more information on exactly WHAT all these acronyms and embassy code means? We are here for you.
Susie is a FOUNTAIN of information. If you'd like to work with someone who KNOWS what overseas life looks like and pretty much knows what she's doing- you can find her at:
www.healthyexpatparent.com
Angi works with Teens & Parents at www.teenlines.com
Menopause happens. Why haven't we been talking about it more?
Menopause Coach Michelle Hervy talks about what you can do for you before, during and after Menopause. This episode looks at: What are the pre-menupausal signs? What about HRT?
To work with Susie - www.healthyexpatparent.com
To work with Michelle Hervy-- https://lk.linkedin.com/in/michelle-hervy-b246a063
For more information on Menopause- check out the articles below:
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_men_can_support_their_partners_through_menopause? https://www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/article/menopause-science-hot-flash-depression-mood https://humanparts.medium.com/2022-in-one-word-menopause-dc7f7ea29a67 https://medium.com/world-of-wellness/i-spent-over-200-on-hormone-balancing-supplements-for-menopause-c3e3aab39704
Parenting is hard. But what happens when you know you do not WANT to be a parent?
One of the most challenging works to take on: parenting. There's no way to test-drive being a parent. There's no way to know what kind of kid you're signing up to parent.
Let's talk about it.
If you or someone you know could benefit from an authentic safe space to discuss things like this: please connect with Jennie or Sharoya to meet them personally. Schedule a free chat on their websites at:
Sharoya: www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Jennie: www.theexpatmom.com
This episode addresses best practices and useful tips for saying farewell in the healthiest ways. In our Global Nomad community this is one of the MOST VALUABLE skills for TCKs to understand.
Reach out to any of our Expert Expats to work with us directly
Jennie-www.theexpatmom.com
Katie- www.learningtoflourish.org
This isn't an easy one. This is challenging situation to face and there are some extra considerations (beyond the emotional loss) while we live overseas and our family member lives in the US. The services and paperwork all needs to be completed or organized away from our "home base."
This isn't an "advice" episode but a personal account of facing this situation- to give you a heads up and some things to think about BEFORE you are facing this hurdle yourself.
Also check out EPISODE #86--Aging Parents, we worry about our elderly parents living on their own as we live so far away.
Please reach out to us at The Big Purple Blob- we are all helpers who want to put our expertise to good use in making life a little smoother for our community out there. If you're looking for someone to talk to, an accountability plan, for a path towards a better life---please reach out. We are here to help.
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Susie-- www.healthyexpatparent.com
Angi--www.teenlines.com
Planning ahead. Don't let summer break catch you off gaurd. Keep your kids on track with strategies and ideas to stay focused over the summer. It's April now let's make June, July and August smooth sailing for academic success.
There's so much to do. I can't get it all done. I only have two months to make this all happen.
Sound familiar? Here we apply some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to our own Moving Mindset.
Join Jennie & Angi for a discussion on prepping for the next move.
Jennie can help your Mom life struggles be less of an uphill battle: www.theexpatmom.com
Angi works with teens to build confidence and integrity: www.teenlines.com
Susie knows what she's talking about. If you don't understand every acronym in the diplo-world you're not alone.
A fun listen to learn a bit more about which nomenclatures matter.
A conversation with LIsa Hope Tilstra about Self Compassion. Work with Susie: www.healthyexpatparent.com Lisa's site and podcast: https://makelifelessdifficult.com/podcast Kristin Neff's site: https://self-compassion.org/ and book: Self Compassion Further reading: https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/post/hush-critic-1
Many parents face a child who may say "I want to die." How do we handle something like that? Especially when the path for support isn't exactly clear. Katie and Sharoya speak with Jodi Harris, LCSW, on supporting your child's mental health when you are at Post. Jodi Harris, LCSW (she/her/hers) office: 434-202-4080
www.virginiafamilytherapy.com
Sharoya Hamm, M.Ed
Parent Coach
https://www.embracebehaviorchange.com/
Katie Fowle, M.Ed
Reading Specialist
https://learningtoflourish.org/
Jennie Linton has talked to hundreds of ExPat spouses and shares insights into what works when your mind feels overloaded.
Trailing spouse life is not always easy. Join us to get ideas. Please connect with us on the challenges you are facing to be featured on an upcoming episode of the Big Purple Blob.
www.thebigpurpleblob.com
Find Jennie at www.expatmom.com
"If I seek help for my own health struggle, I worry that it could affect (or limit) my medical clearance and ability to work."
Have you or someone you know had this worry while working overseas?
Join the Purple Blob for a light discussion with Susie & Angi to acknowledge the fears that many people in the diplo community face.
Let's clear some of the myths and concerns out of the way. RMOP is here to help and doesn't want you to miss out on work opportunities.
Worldwide Availability State Department Policy
How do we keep spiritual growth or faith consistant as we move around the world? This episode focuses on raising kids with faith.
- Our experiences exercising our religious faith traditions and passing them onto our families in the context of being an Expat.
- How did we pass on (or choose not to pass on) our faith traditions to our kids?
- What we did when there were no places to worship aligned with our respective religious affiliations or no English-speaking services?
- How our Interactions with friends and neighbors whose religious backgrounds were completely different than ours shifted our religious worldview, theological viewpoint, and identity?
- Any challenges we may have faced when we return home to family and/or congregations who have different views and traditions than our families In this episode, Susie, Jennie, & Sharoya answers questions sent in by a BPB listener. The listener wanted us to share our ideas.
Find Susie at HealthyExpatParent.com
Find Jennie at TheExpatMom.com
Find Sharoya at EmbraceBehaviorChange.com
Katie shares the resources and questions to research when figuring out the best fit international school for your child with special needs. As an expert in teaching and specializing in supporting kids with special needs around the world, Katie knows what she's talking about. This episode is full of specific steps to follow to work within the International Community and find the perfect fit for your kid in 2023. Here is a link to Katie's International School Research Tool: To work with Katie directly find her at LearningToFlourish.org
Saying No is Good! - Reclaiming your parental authority
Learn the importance of saying ‘NO’ to your adolescent children and how to be more confident in saying ‘NO.’
If you are struggling in this area, you are not alone.
For support:
Reach out to Teen Life Coach Angi Solley at Teenlines.com or
Parent & Family Coach Sharoya Ham at EmbraceBehaviorChange.com
Download How To Talk So Your Teen Will Listen
Jeremiah Ham, an knowledgable adult Third Culutre Kid shares his powerful story of growing up in six countries.
This episode touches on how we learn to recognize, understand and build protection to defend againt prejudice & racism.
Sharoya Ham, Behavior Change Specialist: you know her as an experienced teacher with advanced degrees in Special Education and more. Sharoya shares her own history and insights into her experience growing up and also as an adult ExPat who has come face to face with racism and prejudices.
You can further connect with Sharoya here- www.embracebehaviorchange.com
Have you ever felt that your body is a disappointment? Body image is a "silent" issue for many of us. Especially in the Diplomatic community, as we focus on establishing ourselves in new situations constantly many of us are not able to dedicate time/energy to body image. How we think/feel about our body can often get overlooked or pushed into the background.
Start a Conversation with Becca Brown on Instagram.
Talk to Jennie at TheExpatMom.com
The Big Purple Blob gets some expert advice from a stellar professional Nutritionist, Life Coach, Mom and fellow Trailing Spouse. The Purple Blob is here to support YOU- send us your topic ideas at
thebigpurpleblob@gmail.com
Deciding on an Educational Evaluation - the benefits for struggling students * Getting your child help can be an emotional journey * Reasons why your child may need an evaluation * Recognizing red flags * The first place to reach out for support * FSI Training: Educating Your Special Needs Child in the Foreign Affairs Community * Med Child & Family Program: Educating Your Special Needs Child * Understood.org: Understanding Evaluations * Video: Sharoya & her son share their journey from evaluation to intervention
To work with Katie:
www.learningtoflourish.org
Mental Health is a real concern for many of us facing the challenges of FS life. Uprooting to a new location, new language, setting up, new work and relationships every few years is NOT easy. Dr. Fae & Susie Czorz-Brown understand this issue.
Work with Susie:
www.healthyexpatparent.com
Work with Dr. Fae:
www.DrFae.com
Dr Fae Frederick, of Online Therapy, Int., Counseling Physchologist EFM offering mental health support services for EFMs, FSOs and other expats. We talk about the three parts of the system (individual, family, community) and how they impact mental health.
Addressing your child's academic concerns before your next move Katie shares three reasons why it's helpful to communicate now, with your child's teachers rather than waiting. Learning to Flourish: katiefowle@learningtoflourish.org Types of Educational Evaluations: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/different-terms-you-may-hear-for-evaluations
Household help isn't as easy as you may expect. What to expect and what we have learned through trial and error. Jennie and Angi discuss best practices for working relationships with your housekeeper, treasured Nanny or cook. An absolute privelege to have hired help at home: let's talk about it.
Sharoya Ham is an expert in teaching kids new techniques for behavioral change. She is a wonderful resource for Expat Parents who are struggling with challenges in creating structure, parenting strong-willed children, outbursts and more.
Connect with Sharoya Ham here.
https://www.embracebehaviorchange.com/
Angie and Katie share what it was like for their families to repatriate after consecutive overseas tours. * Kids in American public schools * Managing a home without help * Finding your purpose and people
- Defining and communicating your values
Work with Katie Fowle at www.learningtoflourish.org
Learn more about Parent Coach Angie at Empowered Parents Empowering Daughters: https://www.parentcoachangie.com/
Have you ever felt guilty for leaving your extended family behind to pursue the life of your dreams? Do you struggle with feelings of regret for having missed your extended family's weddings, funerals, etc.? World-renowned intercultural strategist Sundae Bean shares how you can creatively show family and friends how much you care even when you can't be at their special occasions. Sundae Bean: https://www.sundaebean.com/ Sharoya Ham: www.embracebehaviorchange.com Susie Czorz-Brown: www.healthyexpatparent.com
Are your kids constantly bickering? Does eating the last Choco-Pie create a mega meltdown in your home?
How can we build stronger relationships and connections for our siblings?
Join Wellness Expert Susie and Teen Coach Angi for a talk on creating more kinship in your family.
Work with Susie
www.healthyexpatparent.com
Work with Angi
www.teenlines.com
A personal EFM discussion for all of us in the trailing spouse community. When we sign on for this lifestyle and work- there is a designated role for the direct hire spouse. The role of the eligible family member is less clear and often carries an unexpected Mental Load...and that can get heavy.
Jennie and Angi share their encounters with learning how to EFM and what might help ease some of the challenges many of us are facing.
Let's start associationg EFM with Expansive Freedom in Movement or Exceptionally Fantastic Mindset.
Podcast mentioned by Angi & Jennie (not Brene Brown....but Glennon Doyle, sorry we had the wrong name)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/overwhelm-is-our-exhaustion-a-sign-that-were/id1564530722?i=1000525533995
Find Jennie and work with her at www.theexpatmom.com
Find Angi and work with her at www.teenlines.com
Hear from two long-time EFMs about the emotional and big-picture considerations when deciding to leave post early. Family, support, work/life balance, career opportunities, and expectations from others are all part of the puzzle in making these decisions.
Jennie Linton is a certified life coach, a mom of four, and a spouse of a U.S. diplomat. As the founder of The Expat Mom, she does phenomenal work to help expats develop tools for improving their emotional health as they navigate life abroad. The Expat Mom Podcast The Expat Mom Blog Schedule a Complementary Appointment
An easy going discussion with real-life experiences in our ExPat community to recognize this challenging and often stressful issue.
A few resources below to start your research on specifics for your situation.
Employee Consultation Service (ECS) Among the many confidential services ECS provides, are Elder Care resources and more. Those who seriously consider a curtailment from an overseas post may wish to have ECS weigh-in to HR/CDA to provide support for a voluntary, compassionate curtailment decision.
WorkLife4You This program provides free assistance and guidance for the Foreign Service on many issues including Adult Care & Aging: Specialist@lifecare.com, http://diplopedia.state.gov/index.php/WL4Y:WorkLife4You www.worklife4you.com
The Eldercare Support Group is provided as an employee service by the Employee Relations Office Work/Life Programs & the Office of Medical Services to help those who are dealing with eldercare issues.
Putting Parents on Your Orders
Foreign Service employees may request that their elderly relative(s) (including step parents and legally adopted parents) be approved as an eligible family member and added to their Post Assignment Travel Orders for an overseas assignment. There are many requirements and steps needed to accomplish this. Be sure contact your HR or Management Officer to discuss the specifics.
Bringing Parents to Post Who Are Not on Your Orders
If your relatives are not financially dependent on you, they may come to post as members of the employee’s household, but will receive no official support from the U.S. Government. No official support translates into no access to the U.S. embassy health unit, no airfare or allowance payments in the case of evacuation from post, and no diplomatic status with the host country.
Parents who come to live overseas for an extended period of time should consider having additional medical insurance (Medicare does not cover costs related to care overseas). In addition, parents should also maintain Air Medical Evacuation Insurance. A list of companies that provide this insurance can be found on the Department of State Internet web site at: http://travel.state.gov/medical.html
Family Medical Leave Act and Family-Friendly Leave
If you think you may need to care for an elderly relative, be sure to check the provisions of the 1993 Family Leave Act on taking leave for this purpose. For more information: t https://usdos.sharepoint.com/sites/Intranet-HR/EmployeeRelations/WorkLifeDivision/Pages/default.aspx
Eldercare Emergency Visitation Travel (Eldercare EVT)
EVT is a Department benefit that allows an eligible individual to be authorized travel at USG expense from the post of assignment to the United States or to other location in certain situations of family emergency or death. In January 2001, the Eldercare Emergency Visitation Travel (Eldercare EVT) to assist parents in declining health. To learn more, please see the ElderCare website https://usdos.sharepoint.com/sites/Intranet-HR/Workforce/EmployeePrograms/Pages/EmergencyVisitationTravel.aspx or email the Family Liaison Office (flo@state.gov) for a copy of “Questions and Answers on Eldercare Emergency Visitation Travel,” and visit http://diplopedia.state.gov/index.php/Emergency_Visitation_Travel.
What happens to a couple when relocating? Addressing the "invisible changes" with Karina Lagarrigue Links:
Link for Expat Couple’s Summit
https://www.expatcouplessummit.com
Participating in Karina LagarrigueResearch:
ADJUSTING TO EXPATRIATED MOTHERHOOD
https://qmulsciences.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_a2XwJ4RkYMleatE
If you are not an expat but want to contribute to enlarging the literature on how personality, social support, coping mechanisms, etc. modulate the experience of becoming a mother, please fill in this form and be part of the control group!
ADJUSTING TO MOTHERHOOD. (European sample)
https://qmulsciences.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_2fOAYY99HT6FNsy
Schedule a coaching session with Jennie Linton
http://theexpatmom.com
How often do you think "my life is great these days!"
Angi Solley and Angie Collins decide how our nomadic lifestyle, raising families, overcoming challenges and appreciating the benefits of it all- how it can add up to defining your own values in living a good life.
Is it a financial goal? A success in the work you do? Happy family and friendships?
Do you have a Jr. or a Sr. in high school? Kristi Steele is an international education consultant and helps families with TCKs navigate the process of applying to college and for financial aid. In this interview, she breaks down some of the essentials as well as some additional supports for TCKs. Website: https://www.kc360.co/
Financial Consult: https://calendly.com/kc360/15-min-quick-financial-picture?month=2022-05
Student Assessment Consult https://calendly.com/kc360/pathway-planner-assessing-the-best-major-for-you?month=2022-05
Email: kristi@kc360.co
How You Know If Your Child Is Ready to Launch Podcast
Episode #83 The Expat Mom Podcast
http://theexpatmom.com/podcast/
Susie and Ingrid really know how to stay in shape. They have studied it and LIVED it as they move around the globe with their families. To work with Susie directly check out: www.healthyexpatparent.com www.PrimrosePostpartum.com Suspension trainer: https://www.amazon.com/TRX-ALL-Suspension-Training-System Resistance bands: Mini fabric
Helping our TCKs transition to college sucessfully with Stephanie Sexton, Education Consultant https://goingplacesed.org/ And Susie, to connect with Susie and work with her directly Find Her Here. Foreign Service Youth Foundation: https://www.fsyf.org/ FS College Bound Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/collegebound Families in Global Transition: https://www.figt.org/ Safe Passage Across Networks: https://www.spanschools.org/
Meet the vivacious Susie Csorsz-Brown. She's walked the walk, she has learned the lessons and she's here to help YOU. Susie can help overwhelmed parents in the diplomatic community find ways to make wellness an automatic part of everyday living.
https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/wellness
Find Susie and schedule a time to talk at www.HealthyExpatParent.com
Many of us global nomads don't have the luxury of a lifelong, trusted Doctor who has known and understood our health wins and challenges over the years. When a mid-life crisis hits and we don't have an established support system in place what can we do?
Join us for a lot of laughter and realness in this episode.
To learn more from Sharoya and add connection to your family check out:
www.embracebehaviorchange.com
To get the best ExPat Mom support out there check out:
www.theexpatmom.com
Sharoya Ham is an incredible source of wisdom and experience. She uses her training and work as a parent and teacher to support others today.
- Sharoya's general approach: working with parents at their wit's end when nothing works. She knows how to transform parent/child relationships.
- Acknowledging what is going right and creating a vision.
- What dads say about parenting
- How we can invite our traveling partners to parent.
Resources:
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A MultiCultural Life Podcast
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A Love Letter to Dads
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Personal permission card set "I give myself permission to ..."
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Marco Polo app (paid video messaging)
Contact Sharoya
Website: Embrace Behavior Change
Facebook: Embrace Behavior Change
Gender roles are changing. This episode is for all family members or individuals seeking more information on how to provide positive support for young people looking at gender identity in 2022. Dr. Fae's Website - a wealth of information from Dr Fae www.thetrevorproject.org - Info in on specific LGBTQI+ related topics Social Transition and kids
https://akidsco.com/ - books, app, podcast for kids about including gender identity, racisim, and more. IM the administrator of FS Parents of LGBTQI+ parents on Facebook - A support group on Facebook for FS parents of LGBTQI+ https://glifaa.org/ - Website for resources for employees, posts, and allies Email for LFBTQI+ Life at post survey results - overview of conditions for LGBTQI+ personnel at post, including LGBTQI+ Issues for Kids. https://pflag.org/ - PFLAG (Parents, Families and friends of Lesbians and Gays) LGBTQ+ in the U.S. Search engine for Therapists - Family support offered by a queer-affirming therapists. For List of Terms- Click here for Definitions
Susie and Angi have raised SEVEN kids in the Foreign Service Community. We know how it feels to be preparing the family for your next move. We all have ideas on how to manage the logistics of our nomadic life...sometimes managing the emotional side gets pushed into the background. Let's talk about it.
To work with Susie check out: www.healthyexpatparent.com
To set your teen up to work with Angi check out: www.teenlines.com
- Piglet, Bumper Cars, & Gratefulness can help you!
- Adults, our kids- so many of us deal with anxiety: let's talk about it.
- Deciding whether to allow or override emotions.
- Embracing your child's traits.
- Practical ways to acknowledge & alleviate anxiety.
- Workbook Angi uses with Teens: Don't Let your Emotions Run Your Life by Sheri Van Dijk
- Learn more about Angi's work with TEENS
- For parent support, chat with Sharoya
My Spouse doesn't want to improve or repair our marriage.
+How to move from a place of frustration to acceptance +When to seek help +Is it possible to change your marriage if your spouse isn't willing to change? +What are some first steps we can take to improve our marriage? Virtual therapy available anywhere
Psychological Care for Expats - Truman Group
BetterHelp | Professional Counseling With A Licensed Therapist
Virtual Coaching Anywhere
Sharoya or I would love to consult with you if you are ready to make changes in your marriage. Sharoya: Parent Coaching - Embrace Behavior Change
Jennie: http://theexpatmom.com
Episode 28 of The Expat Mom Podcast: How to See Your Spouse With New Eyes
How to See Your Spouse with New Eyes: Getting Rid of Self-Deception - The Expat Mom Podcast This episode is re-posted for newer listeners and orginially aired as episode #5 on The Big Purple Blob Podcast.
How do I manage fear of my partner working in a danger zone, temporary single parenting, and the strain of seperation on our marriage?
-Listener Question
Jennie and Susie respond with support for those of us in the Diplomatic community facing the challenge of two full-time employee partnerships.
To work with Jennie directly check out www.theexpatmom.com
To work with Susie directly click on www.healthyexpatparent.com
Conflict- we all face it. Do you respond with anger? resentment? try to push it aside? Is there a better way to manage this when you have to face it in two arenas?
Fae Frederick shares her insights on the best ways to respond to conflict.
www.DrFae.com
Dr Fae Frederick, of Online Therapy, Int., Counseling Physchologist EFM offering mental health support services for EFMs, FSOs and other expats. Behavior Expert Sharoya, Fae and Parent Wellness Coach Susie talked about conflict, honoring the curiosity and taking the time to discover your own values and what is important. Dr Fae offers an online workshop: I deep dive into values, boundaries, connecting skills, and conflict in my online workshop.
Viviana Premazzi, the Cultural Adaptation Genius, joins The Big Purple Blob for some insight into culture and how we can adapt, respect, include, and preserve it.
Viviana's website: https://gmdmalta.com/ Find Viviana on Linked IN: Viviana Premazzi
Work with Susie at: www.healthyexpatparent.com
The Big Purple Blob welcomes Dr. Fae and insights into Mental Health. Join Susie and Fae as they discuss the realities of diplo-living.
www.DrFae.com
Dr Fae Frederick, of Online Therapy, Int., Counseling Psychologist EFM offering mental health support services for EFMs, FSOs and other expats. We talk about three parts of the system we live in (individual, family, community) and how they impact mental health.
"Moving is soooooo hard. It's just so much work." Or...is it?
Jennie and Angi talk about the overwhelm that can happen and what YOU can do about it to feel stronger and maybe even slightly less stressed this summer. These are the REAL stories of EFMs ready to offer support- Angi & Jennie are both moving overseas (again) next month.
Jennie- https://www.Expatmom.com
Angi- http://www.teenlines.com
The Good Goodbye - In this episode, Katie and Jennie will share how to help your child say goodbye to the people, places, and things that matter to them, and why it matters in your globally mobile life. Resources Reluctant to Move Again - Episode #19 How to support your child when they really don't want to move again The Expat Mom - Parent coaching with Jennie to help navigate the transition and feel better faster Learning to Flourish - Virtual tutoring with Katie to help your child feel confident in school no matter where you live in the world. Grief Tower by Lauren Wells - A practical guide to processing grief with third culture kids.
Young Adulthood in 2022 comes with some different expectations and challenges compared to what we had growing up. Parents today are facing "Failure to Launch" concerns when kids return home or aren't ready to claim total independant living.
How are we teaching our TCKs to think about being self-reliant, understanding finances and making their own way in the world?
Susie works with parents: www.healthyexpatparent.com
Angi works with Teens & Parents:
www.teenlines.com
Summer break often brings in temptations to leave all thoughts of school and academics behind. Katie and Sharoya share some great ideas for staying on track while not getting too caught up in academic pressures. The Big Purple Blob Resources: Ep.009- Deciding on Educational Evaluation for your TCK Student Ep.003 Teen Hibernation and How to Handle it Online Tutors Wyzant - Expert online tutors https://www.wyzant.com/ Ambassador Academics - EFM tutors https://www.ambassadoracademics.com/ Academic Resources
Khan Academy - A free academic platform for children from Kindergarten - 12th-grade https://www.khanacademy.org/ Lexia - A paid platform for developing reading https://www.lexiaforhome.com/ Outschool - A variety of small group teacher classes https://outschool.com/ SkillShare - A variety of creative asynchronous learning opportunities https://www.skillshare.com/
How do you manage life when waiting to hear what Post will decide about your future? This is a struggle many of us face. Join Angi (Life Coach for Teens) and Susie (Wellness Coach) to hear how they make it work.
www.healthyexpatparent.com Work with Susie directly here.
www.teenlines.com Get support for your teen here.
Join Ingrid and Susie to talk about wellness after the baby is born.
For Expats who aren't surrounded by the support of their hometown and familiar faces postpartum challenges can be overwhelming.
Ingrid Hanifen,
www.primrosepostpartum.com
Susie Corcz-Brown
www.healthyexpatparent.com
Sharoya Ham and Angie Collins, two brilliant Moms, who share their wisdom on building confidence for your kids through experiences and open communication.
To work with Sharoya directly- CLICK HERE
To work with Angie directly- CLICK HERE
Katie and Susie discuss the real life ups and downs of life when your partner is taking an unaccompanied tour.
https://www.state.gov/global-community-liaison-office/unaccompanied-tours/
^ information and resources from GCLO for unaccompanied tours
https://www.talesmag.com/real-post-reports
Real Post reports from all posts, including unaccompanied posts. Give a real look at Instability Monitoring and Analysis Platform (IMAP)
https://imap.geciq.com/app/home
^ Provides insights into potential challenges of different posts
https://www.facebook.com/groups/FSUnaccompaniedTour
Interactive and supportive group
OpenNet Links
Resiliency
http://tc.fsi.state.sbu/7463
List of resiliency resources to support the direct hire, adult and child EFMs available from State
Special Incentive posts
http://tc.fsi.state.sbu/6708
Bidding considerations, etc for SIPs
Post Info to Go
http://tc.fsi.state.sbu/PITG
Info from people at the posts, to include unaccompanied posts
It's difficult to know how to support your child when they are being bullied. In this episode of the BPB, Jennie and Katie will share their experiences on ways to empower your child and times to step in when it comes to bullying on the compound, on the bus, or at school. Links: Problem Solving Strategies for Elementary Age Children: https://kelsoschoice.com/choice-wheel/ Stopbullying.gov
Join us to discuss the book How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott Haims
https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult
Ingrid Hanifen shares her wisdom on better sleep. She is an expert in wellness and her training and roles include: Exercise Science, RN, Sleep and Postpartum Coach. Susie can help your family with health and wellness. https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/ More about Ingrid and her work here- old website: https://www.bestrestfamilies.com/ new website: www.primrosepostpartum.com
Our fantastic guest explains what life looks like, challenges faced and how to build community as an LGBTQI person in the FS.
To work directly with Susie check out
https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/
The social scene at a new embassy can get pretty confusing...when are kids invited? Is there a divide between families and singles? Join us for this thoughtful discussion.
A talk for parents by parents who've been there and ARE THERE. Sharoya has 3 in college now, Angi has 2 in college. Susie, Angi and Angie are raising 10th and 11th graders and preparing for college applications in 2022.
Join us to talk about what works, what hasn't worked, sucess stories and where we struggle.
Join Susie Czorz Brown and Sharoya Ham for a discussion on choosing the very best academic situation for your child.
Susie can work directly with you to support parenting & wellness- find out more here.
Sharoya can support families as a behavior change expert- find out more here.
Angi Solley evacuated Kyiv, Ukraine four weeks ago. Sharoya Ham evacuated her family from Cote D'Ivoire. Susie Brown went through a medical evacuation with an infant.
In this episode we discuss the hardships we face as nomadic families when our homes are uprooted unexpectedly. An authentic discussion of concerns and how we process our emotions.
How can we support our kids through grief, illness and bereavement overseas? Sharoya Ham interviews Child Specialist Carolyn Parce Rizzo to find out how
How to Help Children Through a Parent's Serious Illness: Supportive, Practical Advice from a Leading Child Life Specialist 16 Strategies to Manage a Health Condition Abroad 10 Tips to Help Children When Their Friend Must Depart Post After the Death of a Family Member
Connect with Carolyn Parse Rizzo
Intervallifecoach.com
Instagram: theenergeticexpat
Facebook: Interval Coaching
Sharoya gets insights from parents and specialists in this episode on supporting our kids in schooling options in this nomadic life. To read Lovette's article about her son's experience with dyslexia click here.
- To read Elizabeth's blog about social-emotional apps she uses with her kids click here.
Do you have an inner critique? Maybe you arrive at Post start comparing yourself to others or start judging yourself for feeling lonely. This is a shared human experience by many in the Foreign Affairs community, and you are not alone. In this week's episode, we share our reflections and insights from Dr. Kristen Neff's book "Self Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself." * Susie Czorz-Brown guides Expats to health and wellness * Angie Collins is an EXPERT at creating routines, productivity, and functionality for families at Empowered Parents Empowering Daughters * Katie Fowle tutors ex-pat children who are having difficulties reading and dyslexia at Learning to Flourish
Sharoya Ham and more info on Assistive Tech and the options for your child's learning support needs. Laura is the program coordinator at Missouri Assistive Technology.
Contact info.: Lhoffman@mo-at.org
- To contact an AT specialist or an assistive technology practitioner (ATP) within your home state’s AT Program, go to https://www.at3center.net/stateprogram.
- Foreign Service Facebook page for special needs families AAFSWSpecialNeedsFamilies
Join Tech Expert Laura Hoffman & Sharoya to learn about Assistive Technology in the Classroom and how it could benefit your student today and create options for neuro-diverse learning ahead. Laura is the program coordinator at Missouri Assistive Technology.
Contact info.: Lhoffman@mo-at.org
To contact an AT specialist or an assistive technology practitioner (ATP) within your home state’s AT Program, go to https://www.at3center.net/stateprogram.
Foreign Service Facebook page for special needs families AAFSWSpecialNeedsFamilies
We asked CLOs around the world to give us the insider tips on the skills and hurdles of taking on that vital role of being the CLO. What CLOs want you to know, what to consider if you want to be CLO and what you can expect from your CLO at Post.
Angi Solley works with Teens & Parents
Susie Czorz-Brown guides Expats to health and wellness
Sharoya Ham and Susie Czorz-Brown talk with expert Melissa Bell about an often ignored topic in American culture: Menopause.
Melissa Bell (@coachmelissabell) is a certified exercise nutrition and life coach, and she is known to women as The Menopause Coach.
As nomads we don't always have that one reliable family doctor to share wisdom on our health. Melissa can help fill us in on this episode with The Big Purple Blob.
ThePowerSurge.com --Melissa's website
Dr. Laura Anderson is a child, teen, and family therapist with over 20 years of experience. In this interview, you will: * Learn what to do & say to teens when their emotions are ramping up. * Understand why reasoning doesn't work. * Gain ideas for questions to ask a therapist during the vetting process. * Understand how you can collaborate with your teen's therapist while adhering to confidentiality requirements.
Sharoya- Behavior Change Specialist
Laura Anderson- Family Therapist
Angie Collins is an EXPERT at creating routines, productivity and functionality for families. To work with her directly check out-- https://www.parentcoachangie.com/ Angi Solley works with teens and teaches emotional adaptability for ages 12-16 https://www.teenlines.com
Susie is a genius on all things health- to create a healthier lifestyle that works for Expat life, check out https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/parenting
Self Compassion- Build yourself stronger with Self Compassion- wisdom from the incredible Lisa Hope Tilstra Lisa's site and podcast: https://makelifelessdifficult.com/podcast Kristin Neff's site: https://self-compassion.org/ and book: Self Compassion Further reading: Susie's article on Healthy Expat Parent
Jennie and Susie share ideas for family support and building traditions that matter.
To work with Jennie check out: http://theexpatmom.com/
To work with Susie see: https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/
Susie and Angie share knowledge and experience in how to create community while moving every couple years.
To work directly on health & wellness with Susie check out:
https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/
To work directly with Parent Coach Angie:
https://www.parentcoachangie.com/
https://www.fitnessblender.com/ A great free website with options for all levels. Some include equipment, many do not. https://www.youtube.com/c/Mrandmrsmuscle. An awesome option for those interested in shorter options. Some include weights. https://www.youtube.com/c/MadFit Fun workouts, some to songs. Easy moves to master.
Ekhart Yoga: Wonderful streaming site with different styles of yoga, mediation, and well-being ideas. Beach Body - I haven't tried it yet, but my neighbor and her husband are doing it and feel great!
Sensory room - create a sensory room in your home to help your child increase their movement and navigate strong emotions. A sensory room is used by Occupational Therapists as well as in some international schools to support children's sensory integration. Here is a great video from parents who created one for their daughter
Does mental health mean never stressing out over anything? Do your expectations of physical health seem almost unattainable? Can we be mentally stable and still have a meltdown? Can we be physically strong and healthy if we eat a brownie or skip a week of workouts?
Join us for this thoughtful discussion.
If you'd like to go deeper into your own health and wellness please connect one-on-one with any of us at The Big Purple Blob. We work with individuals to support each person in becoming the strongest, most capable version of themselves.
10 Holiday Stressors
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Failing to order gifts on time (3:11)
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Stressing about what to cook & how to cook it. (5:56)
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Experiencing generalized worry (10:03)
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Feeling alone (14:32)
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Indulging in too much food (18:56)
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Indulging in too many glasses of wine & spirits (23:58)
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Attending lots of functions (27:20)
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Experiencing seasonal affective disorder (SAD) (31:45)
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Resisenting what is (35:41)
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Setting high expectations for the new year (39:12)
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Dealing with insomnia (41:50)
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Take an online anxiety assessment to make sure you are in a healthy place.
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Take an online assessment for depression to make sure you are in a healthy place.
Talking about Self Care and what works. As we travel the globe it's difficult to find a routine that sticks and adjust to the limited options based on weather/location/safety. Join us with your own hot mug for a talk on Self Care in the Foreign Service Life. Susie Czorz Brown, To connect with Susie and learn from her directly contact: https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/ Angie Collins, To work with Angie and have your own parent coach support check out: https://www.parentcoachangie.com
Ashley Olivine shares her personal story as a Military Spouse. Join us for this empowering account of struggle to success in health and work. If you have ever felt that one diagnosis did not encompass the challenges you are facing...this is a podcast that will resonate with you. ------Connect with Ashley here---
www.ashleyolivine.com
To find out more about Angi & Coaching for Teens check out
------Teenlines.com ----
Megan Norton shares her insights and wisdom after growing up in 6 different countries. As an adult who works with TCKs today she has a lot to share on the curiosity and courage our kids can develop.
https://adultthirdculturekid.com/
The Big Purple Blob talks to Health Coach, Meredith Wiedemer https://www.instagram.com/onemom_onemeal/?hl=en
https://www.thegoodwellspace.com/
You can find incredible healthy snacks or contact Meredith on Instagram @Onemom_onemeal
Two accounts of Medical Evacuation Travel and ideas to support yourself and your family if you encounter this situation. To work directly with Jennie Linton and learn from her wisdom check out: The Expat Mom. To work with Susie C. Brown and get individualized health coaching: Healthy Expat Parent
Find the person who can help you get answers & live your life fully. Big Purple Blob Parent Coaches - https://thebigpurpleblob.com/services
I need help with my child's behavior- https://embracebehaviorchange.com
I need support for my young child in reading & confidence- https://learningtoflourish.org
I need to support my teenager- https://teenlines.com
I want to set aside overwhelm and be the best parent for my daughters-https://www.parentcoachangie.com
I want to create a healthier lifestyle to improve every area of my life- https://www.healthyexpatparent.com/
I want to work with an Expat mom coach who understands my challenges- http://theexpatmom.com
Gabriela Encina, Psychologist for Expat Women--- https://www.facebook.com/gabriela.encina.psychologist/?ref=page_internal
Linden Group - https://www.linden-education.com/team
Truman Group - https://truman-group.com
"What Happened to You?" by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
Susie, expert Health Coach, and Angi, Parent & Teen Coach, discuss trauma as addressed by the book: "What Happened to You?" and how it relates to our Third Culture Kids and our highly-mobile families as we move around the world living the ExPat life.
Fostering Your Child's Healthy Relationships
In this episode featuring expert Educational Coach Katie Fowle, we'll talk about how high mobility impacts your child's relationships and how you hold the key to helping your child develop healthy relationships with others, including friends! Parent Resources * Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds by David C. Pollack, Ruth E. Van Reken, and Michael V Pollock * Raising a Generation of Healthy Third Culture Kids by Lauren Wells
- Emotional Coaching Kids Part 1 - 4 The Expat Mom with Jennie Linton a Big Purple Blob parent coach and founder of The Expat Mom
- How to help kids make friends - 12 evidence-based tips
How much freedom do you allow your teen for cab rides, public transport, drinking (and more) when you arrive in a new and unfamiliar place? Do we follow the host country law and culture? Stick with the US guidelines? Join us to hear how Susie and Angi (both raising their own brood of teens in a bunch of different countries) take on the challenge of setting up curfews & establish a game plan for a new place.
The Big Purple Blob shares one of our leaders, Jennie Linton's wisdom on changing loneliness into connection from her podcast The Expat Mom.
Considering Boarding School. This episode focuses on the academically driven student with a focused talent area (music). Insights on how to get started and what to consider if you're thinking about an incredible boarding school opportunity for your child while posted overseas. With all the tips from a 2021 parent who just went through this process, Annette Macler.
https://www.boardingschools.com/find-a-school/list-of-schools/
Do you and your partner debate over bid list priorities? Expense? Schooling choice? Work options for the trailing spouse? Social activities? Work promotions? Three of us share how it happens for us and a few ideas to make it work for you.
Author Rhoda Bangerter shares how she and her spouse thrive as one family in two locations.
How to avoid losing yourself.
Ways to stay connected to your partner across the miles
Embracing the benefits of your family arrangement
Being emotionally present while being physically absent
Rhoda’s Book: Holding the Fort Abroad
Rhoda’s Facebook Group: Solo Parenting Expat Mums
Rhoda’s Website: A Multicultural Life
The Principles for Making a Marriage Work
Discover the 5 Love Languages
- "I don't want to move"
- How to support and respect your child's desires when facing the next move.
- The honest awareness of difficult emotions.
- Shared stories of personal experience as parents who have faced this situation.
- Building stability & Acknowledging past success
Overview Three stories of kindness from families in our FS community who needed special assistance. Practical ways to show kindness to families with special needs. Book: The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer, Happier, and Healthier with the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness
Hosts
Parent and Wellness Coach Susie Csorsz Brown: helps families focus on healthy living, and offers support for families and parents in transition.
Parent Coach and Behavior Specialist Sharoya Ham: supports parents whose children are experiencing educational and behavioral challenges.
Jennie Linton, The Expat Mom Coach and Angi Solley of Teenlines.com share their wisdom, imperfections and mindset on moving overseas as experienced foreign service EFMs.
Join us as Angi, Susie, and Katie chat about summer moves, college tours, and rituals we experience as FS families. Please share your stories with us in the comments!
A bunch of practical advice! (1min. conversations, get out of jail free pass, Google family link) How to intervene before things get "icky". How to monitor a school-issued email account. Having a balanced view of your child's screen time usage. *What to do if your child is being bullied or is bullying others. * 10 tips to protect your child from cyberbullying * Scenarios created by Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov * Safety tips based on your child's age. * Additional resources
Lists to the rescue! Be sure you are getting needed tasks done but be flexible in making plans. Set healthy boundaries! What is your budget? How much socializing can you take? How extensive will your "tourist activities" be? Understand every family members needs and wants. Each family member may have a different goal for home leave - how do you balance everyone's desires and ensure everyone has an enjoyable home leave? Suitcases, consumables purchasing and nonstop socializing can be stressful but home leave can be fun with some good pre-planning and understanding of realistic expectations.
- Self Harm- How to talk to your kids about this issue.
- The WHY of Self-Harm as a focus
- Parents, what can you do when your kid is self-harming?
- Finding support Overseas
- Useful Information on Self-Harm on Rethink.org
- Insights from Healthline.com
Parent question: Should I ask for promises of no-self harm?
- Piglet, Bumper Cars, & Gratefulness can help you!
- Anxiety is a superpower.
- Deciding whether to allow or override emotions.
- Embracing your child's traits.
- Practical ways to acknowledge & alleviate anxiety.
- Workbook Angi uses with Teens: Don't Let your Emotions Run Your Life by Sheri Van Dijk
- Learn more about Angi's Teen support group
- For parent support, chat with Sharoya
Wisdom and insight from the brilliant Angie Collins, raising her own teen girls with all the happenings: sports, friendships, school-changes, academic pressures, outdated expectations of femininity and more--she's been a leader for parents around the world in navigating the unpredictable waves of parenthood in the diplomatic lifestyle. Here she brings us all in to share her expertise.
- plan for multi age level and varied interest
- Included older kids in activity choice
- add in side activities if main attraction isn't appealing
- acknowledge the unhappiness
- when your kid says "I don't want to go"
- what worked today?
Deciding on an Educational Evaluation - the benefits for struggling students * Getting your child help can be an emotional journey * Reasons why your child may need an evaluation * Recognizing red flags * The first place to reach out for support * FSI Training:Educating Your Special Needs Child in the Foreign Affairs Community * Med Child & Family Program: Educating Your Special Needs Child * Understood.org: Understanding Evaluations * Video: Sharoya & her son share their journey from evaluation to intervention
Digital Friendships and Farewells Episode: Empowering kids in how we say Goodbye The on-going discussion of friendship with our Third Culture Kids Digital Friendships: Nourishing or Holding us back from new connections?
Turning Loneliness into Connection Podcast Episode:
Repatriation and Kids: Eight Mistakes Parents Make Kelly McGonigal- How to Make Stress Your Friend
Sharoya and Susie discuss ExPat Parenting experiences and ideas for support.
- Dealing with lack of social interaction
- Planning for your kids' emotions during PCS
- Responding to the challenges of remote learning
- Preparing your kids for their new school
- Finding replacements for screen time, sports, travel
- Identifying when something is wrong
- Taking care of yourself
Katie Fowle, Reading Teacher and Angi Solley, Teen Counselor discuss how to deal with a disagreement with the teachers at school.
Online Resources Khan Academy - pre-k - high school academic resources
Epic - online digital library Skillshare - elementary-high school academic & interest-based resources Outschool - elementary-high school academic & interest-based resources Tutors Ambassador Academics - EFM tutors for Middle and High Schoolers Learning to Flourish - Check out Katie's one on one Reading Success Program for elementary age who have difficulty reading Groups Study Space- Katie's small group afterschool program to help elementary children with nightly reading, or other homework while developing focus, and study skills. US State Department Office of Overseas Schools
Main points discussed:
How to move from a place of frustration to acceptance When to seek help Is it possible to change your marriage if your spouse isn't willing to change? What are some first steps we can take to improve our marriage? Sharoya Ham of Embrace Behavior Change Jennie Linton of The Expat Mom Links:
Virtual therapy available anywhere
truman-group.com
Learn how to encourage your child's Resilience, Relationships, and Routines with Parent Coach Angie and Reading Teacher Katie Topics Covered * Noticing and naming your child's inner character strengths * Modeling for your child how to fail * Creating routines to encourage your child's reading and life skills * Putting this in the context of the Foreign Service life
Advice from Sharoya and Angi, who've experienced this first hand in their own parenting. Behavioral Specialist, Sharoya Ham and Teen Life Coach, Angi Solley discuss how parents can connect when teens pull away.
Book: How to Talk so Teens Will Listen and Listen so Teens Will Talk.
Participate in Sharoya's Parenting Course Groups,
Get your teen involved in the Teen Talks with Angi
Tandem living can present some major obstacles to overcome in marriage, work, parenting and more. Susie and Jennie share their expert wisdom to answer a Question from the Community
Sexual Intimacy While Apart Podcast
How to Process Feelings Podcast
FA Resilience Center
Angie Collins and Angi Solley discuss how to manage the stress of moving with no idea of what to expect for schools, limited interaction with local support, isolation, parenting and more. Foreign Service life and serving in the American Diplomatic Community certainly has it's challenges.