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Original Record Date: 10.07.2022
Produced & Sponsored By: UNLSHD ENT
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In this podcast episode, the Shaboobs & Matthew Day discuss the impact of shame on their lives, its societal implications, and how it can lead to toxic behaviors. They explore the role of pain in personal growth, the importance of setting boundaries, and the concept of ego in relationships. The conversation also covers the self-purification process, the use of sex in marketing, the significance of leadership skills, and the value of focused work in mastering a craft. They emphasize the need for emotional vulnerability, consistency, and a supportive community in overcoming shame and fostering personal development.
The injury and its emotional impact (00:00:31)
The cycle of shame and toxic behaviors (00:00:54)
Men's expectations to handle shame (00:08:26)
The cycle of toxic behaviors (00:09:41)
The difficulty of expressing vulnerability (00:10:06)
Shame as isolating (00:16:33)
The pain that leads to growth (00:18:23)
The cycle of seeking relief (00:19:16)
The power of empathy and compassion (00:25:34)
The cycle of enabling (00:26:44)
Reacting from the ego (00:27:57)
The importance of releasing emotions (00:30:22)
The cycle of seeking quick fixes for relief (00:36:07)
The negative effects of self-purification on men's perception (00:36:25)
The responsibility of judgment and discernment (00:39:30)
The impact of sex in advertising (00:45:32)
Different perspectives on nudity in Europe (00:46:17)
The consequences of not setting boundaries (00:49:30)
The importance of leadership and fulfillment (00:54:40)
Differentiating between being number one and being a leader (00:55:08)
The benefits of taking turns leading and following (00:56:10)
The first hour is the hardest (01:06:00)
The power of vulnerability and growth (01:08:36)
The cycle of shame and toxic traits (01:10:51)
The cycle of toxic behaviors (01:11:20)
The importance of not numbing the pain (01:11:28)
Finding balance and support (01:12:10)
Welcome back to Learning Lesson With Shaboobs! In today's episode, titled "Conversations," we have a very special guest joining us: Matt Day. Originally recorded on Sept. 7, 2022.00:01:35 Overwhelmed by life, be the main character.00:06:15 Heartbreak in small, morally questionable entertainment community.00:15:47 Frustration over lack of direction and progress.00:21:48 Studied relationships in the entertainment industry.00:23:34 Lost and rebuilt self-respect, learned various skills00:31:53 We always want to be main characters.00:37:11 Being alone before being lonely, overcoming fear.00:43:56 Solitude, isolation, missing friends, moving back.00:46:53 Finding solitude to heal and create.00:53:27 Questioning identity and finding contentment in solitude.01:01:12 Changed friends in school, conflict over guns.01:04:19 Stay loyal to yourself, but assess the situation.01:13:11 Omari Hardwick's rise to success and financial struggles.01:15:20 Effort leads to awareness and progress.01:21:13 Intention creates discipline, anchor for success.01:25:33 Working on oneself is crucial for relationships.01:30:49 Understanding and agreeing with your sentiment.The Importance of Taking Action: "And that's the truth of it. You have to take action, and oftentimes life becomes so big and overwhelming that we live a reactive life."— Shaboobs [00:01:35 → 00:01:43]The Challenges of Dating in the Entertainment Industry: "You really don't ever learn how to get over and deal with heartbreak."— Shaboobs [00:06:19 → 00:06:23]The Frustration of Navigating a Creative Career: "What do I go do? Like, I am a creator, but what does a creator go do to make money when you don't have anybody asking for the things?"— Shaboobs [00:16:06 → 00:16:13]The Importance of Seeking Clarity and Being Aware: "I think having a vision is a mandatory, necessary thing. I think it is imperative to understand that clarity can be lost and it can evolve... So at least for myself, I didn't get fucked up, I didn't go drink, I didn't do any other crazy thing that I'm sure I really did have an impulse and urge to do. And I think I just ended up taking a walk."— Shaboobs [00:20:00 → 00:20:18]The Importance of Vision: "So that's an important thing, though, to differentiate with vision is to understand that A, you need to have a vision. Start with a vision, but that the vision can change..."— Shaboobs [00:24:52 → 00:25:05]The Importance of Balance: "This is where balance is so crucial, and you as a personality walks the fine line, because it's like, learn to be by yourself and be okay with that and then go be around other people in a team, and those people in the team are going to challenge you, push you, grow you. But it's a symbiotic relationship. There. Really is no one without the other."— Shaboobs [00:58:40 → 00:59:00]The Importance of Being Alone: "Because to the original question is that people are in relationships with other people, not even just dating and significant others. They have friendships or relationships with family members, regardless, with people that waste their time. And that is not genuine. You're in it because you're afraid of being alone and you don't authentically know who you are."— Shaboobs [01:00:43 → 01:01:03]Achieving Growth and Balance: "The unfortunate thing is adversity and pain is necessary. It really is. To your point, you have to kind of earn the comfort."— Shaboobs [01:11:06 → 01:13:01]Overcoming Challenges: "But the ebbs and flows, again, it all comes down to the game of awareness being proactive, being proactive about the reactions, understanding how to respond, understanding when to give it grace, when to accelerate."— Shaboobs [01:15:20 → 01:15:36]The Fluidity of Identity: "I've learned to understand now that identity is fluid."— Shaboobs [01:18:34 → 01:18:38]Follow: @Shaboobs
Hey Y'all! So here is part 2 of Learning Lessons on creating merchandise- this is the more traditional route, the do it yourself method.
In this video I go over some of my experience in creating merchandise- from literally no experience, hiring a printer that designs to creating my own designs (what I use and other design sources).
We go over the first and second questions screen printers ask clients, the difference between a heat press and a screen print, as well as some of the pros and cons.
Thanks for Listening!
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Hey y’all! This is a special episode of Learning Lessons (and Lessons Learned on YouTube) about creating a simple set up for additional income with merchandise. In this video I discuss direct to consumer printing /print on demand with marketplaces and fulfillment centers. This is not a sponsored video (or audio), I will walk you through what I use (Unlshd.creator-spring.com) as well as discuss some of the other available options. Please be sure to do further research for which is right for you. Thanks for listening.
This is a special episode! This serves as a double segment as THE STORY BEHIND & LESSONS LEARNED with one of my best friends, Derrick Caldwell, on our journey to perform and teach in China in 2011.
Taking a step, even a small one is frightening. Learning to have faith in making decisions rather than fear