A Man's Journey Through Divorce: Recent Episodes
Steven Schleupner
Men, are you divorcing, trying to recovery from divorce, or thinking about divorce? This show focuses on REAL divorce challenges facing men. Topics range from co-parenting, parenting alone, parent alienation, dealing with uncertainty and unfairness, how not to engage in toxic situations, how to deal with a difficult ex, self-care, loss of identity, acceptance, forgiveness, being alone, and the list goes on. Hosted by someone who has lived through a tragic divorce at the age of 10, and through his own challenging divorce, Steve will share REAL SCENARIOS, and PRACTICAL TOOLS men can use to not only move through the divorce with less strain, but help them get back to being the father, son, professional, and future partner they intent to be.
New Episodes air every Monday at 12:30 p.m. EST. Hosted by Steve Schleupner, Owner of You Tree and Divorce Recovery Coach
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Life’s most challenging transitions—like divorce, career changes, or blended families—often come with overwhelming emotions and attachments. This episode explores the “detachment theory” and its role in overcoming stress and reclaiming energy for personal growth.
My guest Jay, a former client, shares his inspirational experience of enduring workplace toxicity, blending families, and building healthier relationships by focusing on internal growth and letting go of control.
Listen in to gain actionable tools like detachment exercises and emotional awareness techniques that help you redefine success and deepen connections with those you love.
For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/dznnae5w
Divorce can be difficult, but the energy you bring to it can significantly impact your healing, co-parenting, and future. This episode tackles the "fault trap"—the common tendency to blame an ex, which ultimately hinders your own recovery.
Discover how to break free from this cycle using practical tools and strategies, including reflective exercises and role-playing, to foster a healthier transition for yourself, your ex, and especially your children.
For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/ynwn35h9
After divorce, many men find themselves caught between competing pressures: societal expectations pushing them to "get back out there," internal doubts about their readiness, and uncertainty about dealing with a dating landscape that's radically changed. In this episode, I'm joined by certified sexologist Kevin Anthony to talk about how the approach back to intimacy isn't just about physical connection; it's about healing, self-discovery, and learning to be vulnerable again.
Tune in as Kevin breaks down the key steps to rebuilding your intimacy, why healing takes time, and how to know when you’re truly ready—regardless of when society says you should be. This episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to take back your power to approach dating and sex from a place of strength and confidence.
For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/2vyxe433
When facing divorce, Nick found himself overwhelmed—juggling full-time parenting, a demanding career, and an impending custody transition that would reduce his time with his children to just 20%. However, through his work with me, Nick discovered that divorce isn't just about surviving the logistics; it's about fundamentally reconnecting with yourself.
His story illustrates how the principles of stoicism—controlling what you can control, maintaining the right perception, and being your highest self—can guide you through divorce's darkest moments. Listen in to learn how to manage both physical and mental wellness during a divorce, as well as what it means to work your divorce from the inside-out, rather than outside-in.
For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/36x5mxy6
What if divorce wasn’t just an end, but a powerful opportunity for personal transformation? In this episode, I’m flipping the script on how we see divorce, revealing it as a life-altering transition—not just a transaction. I’ll introduce a proven model to help you navigate the divorce process and tackle the emotional and psychological challenges that come with it.
Whether you’re struggling with financial uncertainty or emotional turmoil, today’s actionable advice will help you manage your divorce with resilience and take back control of your life. Listen in to hear how overcoming unresolved trauma and shifting your mindset can lead to better decisions and healthier outcomes. You’ll learn what you can do to turn this tough chapter into a chance to heal, grow, and reclaim your power.
For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/4p5jf3hw
After three years and over 100 coaching episodes, A Man's Journey Through Divorce returns with an exciting relaunch and a fresh new direction.
While the original episodes’ straightforward advice on common divorce challenges resonated with listeners, I'm now expanding the show to include professional guest experts and anonymous stories from men going through divorce. It's a chance for us to explore specific areas of expertise—and to do some live coaching around real issues men are facing right now.
New episodes drop every Monday. Two episodes each month will be interviews, while the other two will continue the solo coaching format you've come to know.
I'm excited about this new chapter, and I can't wait to bring you even more helpful perspectives and stories to help you deal with your divorce.
In this episode, I’m joined by Susan Shofer, a Divorce Coach specializing in Parent Alienation, who has worked with thousands of cases. We dive deep into the complexities of parent alienation, exploring how the alienating parent often exhibits traits of borderline personality disorder, making them resistant to change and always steps ahead. Susan shares critical insights on recognizing subtle alienation tactics and signs, such as the "friendship" approach that disrupts parenting roles and creates a damaging "good-cop/bad-cop" dynamic. Tune in to learn how to navigate these challenging situations and protect your relationship with your child.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.
In this episode, we explore how resistance keeps us from fully moving forward in divorce. Often rooted in fear-based beliefs, resistance convinces us that stepping into the unknown will lead to negative outcomes. We’ll look at how this manifests in different areas of life—like family, finances, and health—and discuss practical ways to recognize and overcome these barriers.
By understanding the role of resistance and taking inventory of where it shows up, we can begin to shed the weight of our past and embrace a more empowered future. Tune in and let’s unpack what’s holding you back.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.
If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:
In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.
Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.
Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this episode, I reflect on the struggles faced by the Gray family a year ago, before the Apalachee school shooting, particularly the emotional toll the father endured as he navigated divorce and sought to guide his family through pain and uncertainty. Drawing from my own experiences, both as a father and as a child of divorce, I share personal insights into the instability and insecurity faced by the son, creating a heartfelt connection with listeners who may be facing similar challenges. Through this compassionate lens, I encourage everyone navigating divorce to find strength in their journey, knowing they are not alone.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.
If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:
In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.
Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.
Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this episode, we explore the three distinct paths divorce can take: Transaction, Transition, and Transformation. The Transactional path focuses on the court's decree, often leaving unresolved contention and future conflicts. The Transitional path seeks a healthier process, emphasizing shared responsibility, healing, and long-term prosperity for both parties and their families. Finally, the Transformational path is a personal journey that breaks free from societal expectations and toxic dynamics to embrace a life of authenticity and growth. Join us as we challenge you to approach your divorce with a transition mindset, ensuring your post-divorce success exceeds the limits of your past relationship.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.
If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:
In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.
Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.
Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
Join us for an enlightening conversation with former Texas Associate Court Judge and Family Lawyer Michele Locke as we explore the complex issue of parental alienation. In this episode, Michele shares her unique perspective from the bench, discussing the limitations of a judge’s authority and what truly lies within their control. We also tackle the controversial tactics of "bulldog attorneys" who use parental alienation as a strategy—and why they often succeed. Packed with valuable insights, practical advice, and actionable tools, this episode is a must-listen for any parent facing the challenges of alienation.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.
In this episode, we dive into the powerful influence of archetypes and constraints during divorce. We'll explore how inherited beliefs and societal expectations can hold you back, and discuss practical ways to break free from these limitations. Whether you're struggling with financial, emotional, or time constraints, this episode offers insights and divorce support to help you navigate this challenging time and start rebuilding your life with confidence.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.
For additional divorce. support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.
If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:
In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.
Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.
Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this episode titled "Ending of Unequals," we explore the raw and complex emotions of navigating a divorce. Steve reflects on his marriage, where loyalty often overshadowed love, and shares the fears and uncertainties that arose when his partner left. From concerns about staying amicable and the impact on their children, to the anxiety of seeing their ex move on and his own ability to find love again, the journey is fraught with emotional turmoil. Through spiritual coaching and insights from Phil Stutz's "Philosophy of Events" in Lessons for Living, he recalls how he confronted adverse events and focused on spiritual growth. Join us for a heartfelt discussion on finding resilience and self-acceptance amid the challenges of ending an unequal relationship.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon.
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this episode, we delve into the critical importance of creating a holistic divorce plan that encompasses physical and mental wellness, finances, and family transitions. Divorce is often unplanned, occurring during one of life's most challenging periods. We explore why it's difficult to plan amidst emotional turmoil, unfamiliarity, and court-driven timelines. Yet, these very reasons highlight the necessity for a comprehensive strategy. We'll discuss how a well-rounded divorce plan can support your health, provide knowledge, and ensure effective routines. We'll contrast a standard financial plan with a divorce plan that addresses psychological and emotional aspects. Finally, we'll introduce the 5F Model, emphasizing the interconnectedness of fitness, fervor, family, and finances, illustrating how a thoughtful investment in divorce planning can yield significant returns during and after the divorce process.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
Couples often attempt to resolve their marital issues on their own. When tensions rise, they turn to a couple’s counselor, usually when it’s already too late. As they approach divorce, the same pattern emerges: “We’ll figure this divorce out ourselves.” The typical mindset is to only hire professionals to finalize the divorce. In this episode, Steve discusses the crucial role of aligning with the right support throughout the entire divorce transition process, including pre-mediation, mediation/settlement, and post-divorce.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon.
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this insightful episode, we delve into the emotional journey of divorce, starting with the often intense feelings of anger that initiate the process. Anger, while a powerful catalyst for change, can also hinder our ability to fully transition and find closure. Drawing on concepts from William Bridges' seminal book, Transitions, we explore how many divorcees struggle to complete the "Ending" phase due to unresolved anger.
Join us as we discuss the importance of looking beneath the surface of anger to uncover the underlying sadness. By addressing this deeper emotion, we can begin to accept the divorce, allowing ourselves to truly complete the ending phase and move forward. Whether you're going through a divorce, know someone who is, or are simply interested in the psychology of major life transitions, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for achieving emotional resolution and finding peace.
Tune in to learn how to transform your perspective on divorce and embrace the journey towards a new beginning.
Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this podcast episode, we explore the transformative power of asking, "What would love do now?" during the challenging experience of divorce. Through personal stories and practical advice, we delve into how this guiding question can help you make positive choices, practice forgiveness, and turn pain into a journey of healing and growth. Join us as we uncover ways to navigate divorce with grace, embrace love in non-traditional forms, and create a foundation for a brighter future.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success.
Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this enlightening episode, we delve into the transformative power of divorce, often viewed only as a challenging phase, but actually a profound opportunity for personal growth and change. Our discussion centers around how the application of universal laws can not only help you navigate your divorce with resilience but also enable you to adopt a proactive strategy for positive transformation in your life.
We explore the seven universal laws starting with the Law of Mentalism, emphasizing that everything begins in the mind; what you envision, you can manifest. The Law of Correspondence tells us that our external reality reflects our internal state, setting the stage for understanding how our thoughts influence our life trajectory. The Law of Vibration reminds us that everything is energy and resonates at specific frequencies, which attracts like energies—highlighting the importance of maintaining a positive energy even in tough times.
We also discuss the Law of Cause and Effect and how this plays out in the dynamics of relationship conflicts, the Law of Polarity and its role in overcoming self-sabotage through understanding, and the Law of Rhythm that teaches us to find peace in the natural cycles of life. The Law of Gender emphasizes the balance of masculine and feminine energies within us, crucial for holistic healing during and after a divorce.
Finally, we walk through the Sequence of Transformation—how watching your thoughts, words, actions, habits, and ultimately your character, can lead to a destiny filled with positivity and prosperity. This episode is packed with insights on making your divorce a pathway to a stronger, wiser you. Join us to discover how to plant the seeds of your desired destiny during one of life’s most significant transitions.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy.
Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this episode, we explore the transformative potential of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR), particularly mediation, in divorce proceedings. While litigation offers a formal trial, ADR methods provide couples with greater control over the process. However, success in mediation relies on proactive engagement and addressing underlying conflicts. A recent client's story highlights common pitfalls, emphasizing the importance of thorough preparation and communication. True empowerment in divorce comes from taking responsibility for actions and decisions. By embracing mediation with commitment, individuals can shape a smoother transition and a more fulfilling post-divorce future.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon
In this episode, we unravel the complexities of divorce fear and the transformative power of personalized support. Delving into the concept of weak spots, we uncover how these areas of vulnerability can hinder our journey through divorce. From the illusion of security surrounding material possessions to the importance of action-based and supernatural faith, we explore strategies to navigate fear and uncertainty. Joined by a specialized divorce coach, we discuss the pivotal role of personalized support in identifying and addressing these fears, offering actionable strategies for a seamless transition. Tune in to gain insights on overcoming divorce fear and unlocking a sense of peace and empowerment through personalized divorce support.
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"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
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Explore the profound insights uncovered in this podcast episode as we delve into the transformative journey of healing emotional pain during divorce. Discover strategies to navigate conflict, elevate relationships, and enhance financial acumen for a brighter future. Tune in for empowering guidance on creating the divorce outcome you truly desire.
Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now.
"A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon
Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.
In this episode, Steve challenges the instinct to rely solely on thriftiness during major life changes such as divorce, emphasizing the importance of investing in oneself instead. He explores strategies for elevating personal and relationship capacities swiftly, even amidst the timeline and procedural intricacies of divorce. Tune in as we discover how to shift from thriftiness to strategic investment, ensuring not just stability but growth during transformative life events.
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Listen to Steve talk about the three stages of personal transition, and the transition a couple makes as they divorce. Steve talks about the importance of setting aspirations for each type of transition - personal and relationship.
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The way to a final divorce decree can follow several paths. The traditional, or socially branded, path is the path of litigation. Many have found litigation not the right fit and even have regrets with the outcome it produced. Alternative divorce methods, like mediation, pro-se (or kitchen table), and arbitration, are becoming more prevalent. In this episode, Steve compares the traditional and alternative paths, and shares both benefits and weaknesses of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) methods.
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You ask, “Why is this so friggin’ hard?” Is it? Arguing against the truth is hard. Resisting things that you wish were different is hard. Becoming aware of how you create self-imposed suffering is simple. In this episode, Steve talks about struggle and its purpose and brings to light the lessons inside the toxic dance within a couple.
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Setting a resolution to forgive may seem daunting. In this episode, Steve simplifies the process of forgiveness and explains how it can be a resolution capable of meeting.
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It’s easy to drift into the negative energy of divorce. Fear, doubt, worry, resentment, vengeance, and other trappings fuel the devil within. It’s these emotions that are very much in our control. Yet so many fail to properly manage them. In this episode, I share a poem titled “A Man’s Heart” which you can find in my book Spirit Poems.
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The holidays are a time of gathering, joy, and peace. Those finding it hard to connect with these important parts may find that their chance for peace is being stolen. In this episode, I speak about how we allow self-imposed chaos, or suffering, to steal our chance for peace this instant. I share a poem is titled “Peace Instant” which you can find in my book Spirit Poems.
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In this episode, I share a true story about my hidden miracle as an example of how you might be hiding your own miracle cultivation. I also share the poem “Cultivate Miracles” from my book Spirit Poems.
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In the episode, I speak to the recent event where a family court judge tragically lost his life, and highlight the dire importance of revamping the way couples divorce.
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In Season 3, I share poetry that came to me during my healing process. Each poem helped me understand the complex emotions and life change I was facing. Today’s poem, “Rock Bottom,” speaks to building awareness around the archetype driving the way we live and how the divorce provides a lesson that breaks this futile belief system.
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In Season 3, I share poetry that came to me during my healing process. Each poem helped me understand the complex emotions and life change I was facing. Today’s poem, “Cherish Thorns,” speaks to embracing the thorns so your garden from here forth can produce beautiful fruit.
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The “divorce of the dream” is a process divorcees move through. However, it’s not just the couple who faces the loss of dreams. So to do children. In this episode, I speak to the importance of practicing patience as children move through the family’s changing dynamic.
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When things don’t turn out as we expect, we can either speak a version of “poor me,” or we can say a more freeing “so what?”. In this episode, I talk describe the shift to so what, irrespective of the expectation that didn’t unfold like we wanted.
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In this episode, I cover how we can easily give away our energy, otherwise known as our power, when we allow the “divorce process,” and the players within, to have power over us.
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"Insuring success" is not something we can control. Living in accordance with virtues positions us to deserve success. In this episode, I provide examples of how people look to take what we own, and in doing so steal our ability to live a life aligned with our virtues.
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Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” In this episode, I share a story that will help you realize how easy it is to get trapped through interactions with your ex-spouse, and how to use these events as opportunities to instill the proper habits that lead you to who you want to be and how you want to show up.
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In this episode, I share five stories that occurred just this past week to show the divergence around what happens with divorce. They highlight the pandemic of divorce and why it is important to separate your life transition from the case itself so you can drive towards the best outcome.
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In this episode, Steve talks about the spiritual flow of money, and how we can unintentionally block this through our thinking and actions around divorce.
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When unfairness hits it steals your inheritance, or your inheritance of having peace right now. Court decisions can be, and are for many, unfair. In this episode, Steve talks about unfairness and how to respond by setting intentions across the 5-F model. He explains how to not let unfairness continue its power over you and your ability to move on in a healthy way.
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Listen to a recap of a judge’s final verdict, which affirms the importance of keeping your case out of court. Then, hear my take on recent headline stories regarding Jonah Hill's and Goldie Hawn’s relationship intentions. I use these examples to illustrate the importance of being truthful to yourself and others as you move towards another relationship.
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Divorce tension will exist until forgiven. When it’s not forgiven, the tension turns into cycles of un-forgiveness that block one from moving beyond the divorce. In this episode, Steve talks about how to practice cycles of forgiveness so you can unleash from the stored hurt in divorce.
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Your ex-spouse might be a “taker”. Their concern might be centered on how much money they can get, custodial time they can capture, or even how much joy they can take from your life. Their self-centeredness breeds frustration, resentment, bitterness, and even anger — all of which are anchors to moving on with your life. In this episode, I talk about how to move on from “the taker”.
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Beyond the loss of a spouse, or the loss of your retirement, sits a miracle. A miracle that lies in the stripping away of the accumulations supporting an inauthentic life. In this episode, I explain how many divorcees were stuck living a life with pent-up intentions. The divorce merely awakens these intentions by shedding light on changes they truly want to make.
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In this episode, I speak to the importance of making investments in your bench, or support team, as you transition into the unfamiliar. I highlight how our archetype of “The Provider,” “The Protectors” of our family can hinder us as we make the investments.
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Divorce is unlike any other life transition. The loss of dreams and identities, that once were strong, guiding attachments, bring complex emotions that are hard to understand and release. In this episode, I share a recent story of stored sadness catching me off guard, and how I went about releasing it.
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In this episode, we talk about money and it’s purpose as a teacher. Money brings out our greatest fears, yearnings, secrets, and needs. Our response to money, irrespective if we have it or not, highlights the path for our soul’s growth.
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Your success with fully moving beyond divorce rests on your ability to accept the denied parts of yourself, or what psychologists call the shadow. In this episode, I speak to “aimless anger,” and dive into a recent event that caused anger to uncover part of my shadow-self I have been denying.
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Is “not ever getting married again” the only thing you learned from your divorce? There is a deeper question, possibly one that resides around the question, “What was it all for?” In this episode, Steve continues on the theme of the Hero’s Journey and uses divorce as the “falling event” that opens up the call to adventure. He uses his own learning around dying to one’s definition of success as an example.
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Listen as I launch Season 2. The theme for Season 2 is “Beyond”. We are moving beyond divorce towards the person you want to be and the life you want to live using the tools, strategies, and wisdom learned through season 1 - the transition through divorce.
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Your attention is a commodity. It's actually the most valuable commodity in my mind. It’s something that’s been up from grabs prior to your divorce and is certainly up for grabs during and after. In this episode, I share an exercise to help you stop the time thieves and bring your focus to what’s important now.
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Anger is a natural expression to situations that harm our body, family, and property. It’s when we allow anger toward these situations to harm our character do we permit ourselves to experience even greater harm. In this episode, I share a Stoic tool for tackling anger by looking at the judgements we cast towards situations. It’s understanding these judgements that hold the key to tackling anger. I also explain how to diffuse unnecessary expressions and repressions of anger through the virtue of kindness.
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Philosophy works to identify differences between similar themes, like justice and fairness. We want justice and fairness in divorce. Is it possible to have both? In this episode, Steve talks about justice and fairness, and explains how we can control the impact of less than ideal outcomes on who we are and the life we want to live.
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Divorce presents a lot of “unwelcomes”. Yet, it also presents the opportunity to truly exam your life right now. In this episode, I speak to the trap of waiting on time as one sits with a grievance, and how to move from this exile towards the miracle lying within each grievance.
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Divorce is an ending. But as with all endings, it is a new beginning. In this episode, I talk about why it’s important to start the new beginning with clear intentions for your life, and not let the new beginning be dictated by the past, or by some professional who may be in your life for just a short window of time.
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Problems are teachers, not persecutors. Many see problems as the thing that’s breaking them. No, problems are what's teaching where you are arguing against the truth. They show where we are absent a tool to create change. In this episode, I share how to look at problems with curiosity so that you can be the creator around the problem.
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As the main provider for your family, you willingly offered a lifestyle. At no point did you ever think one would suggest they have a “right” to maintain that standard of living. The obligation you shouldered pre-divorce tied more to the dreams you wanted for your united family. Now that the separation is here, there is a shift in this obligation. Instead of the welcoming the free will to provide, you find yourself stuck as you lose this free-will and shoulder entitlement. In this episode, I share how to reverse the paralyzing negativity of this new form of obligation.
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It's easy to get trapped in the divorce kaleidoscope of worry, doubt, fear, and uncertainty. In this episode, I talk about how to get over divorce by stopping the fragments from spinning out of control.
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Your divorce outcome is what you decide it is. It's as simple as that, or as hard as that. The outcome is not the swirling uncertainty, and the layers of toxic attacks - unless you decide those are pieces of the outcome you want. No, the outcome is what you decide it is - irrespective of the swirling forces outside of you. Once you decide to believe the drama cannot take any parts of what your "really own", then you are making a decision that you cannot lose, and are allowing full possibility - full prosperity - to open to your future.
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The fabric of an old life can cause you to hold onto what once was, and prevent you from allowing your new life to unfold. In this process, you can get trapped in thinking about all that you lost, instead of grasping what is here now. In this episode, I share an analogy from David Brooks' book, "The Second Mountain" to help with letting go of the fabric of your old life.
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We approach divorce with a construct of the way things "should be". It's this construct that drives much of one's behavior and reactions. In this episode, Steve talks about personal divorce constructs and how they can block best outcomes.
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The second tier of divorce is the "divorce from dreams". It's divorcing from the dream around any future want. We form these constructs, often with the help of society, and when they are threatened the result is fear, doubt, worry and even high degrees of unfairness. In this episode, Steve talks about threats to these constructs as the legal process works to solidify old money and new money settlements, and why it's important to work through the divorce from the inside out.
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Divorce presents things that are unfair, and threaten dreams and desire for certainty. In this episode, I share context of a real situation to help listeners as they too search to know what to do when something threatens the very thing they want.
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What has caused the feeling that you are feeling right now? What's the cause of the uncomfortable circumstance you find yourself in? Is it a bad decision in the past? Is it someone else's actions or attacks on you? It's how you answer these last two questions that dictate the life experiences you have right now.
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It can be hard to be your best-self when presented with divorce and relationship challenges. Often the elements of toxicity make it seem like the only choice is to guard and protect what can be hurt. Yet, as you guard and protect, you can easily stay in a cycle of anguish. In this episode, I give tips on how to offer the best version of yourself despite the circumstance.
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In this episode, I speak to the role faith plays in divorce.
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The biggest obstacle to peace is our willingness to let it go. As we face difficult people and situations, we are presented with a choice to live with either a form of internal chaos or peace. In this episode, Steve talks about empowering yourself to find "micro-miracles" in the large window of divorce uncertainty.
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In this episode we talk about moving beyond the "no for now" posture into releasing the possibility for a "yes". Steve shares a situation that showed him it's time to stop resisting what was once a form of protection, the "no for now".
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Divorce will often times present complexities that can't be solved in the mental realm. Something else is needed for you to release those areas of resistance. This is what we talk about on this episode. How we go about releasing the things we resist, and let go of the things that create our self-imposed suffering.
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Divorce presents all sorts of situations that allows us to distort reality, and then invite anxiety, depression, and forms of panic into our now moments. In the episode, Steve sheds light on how it is easy to distort reality and anchor oneself to where he doesn't want to be.
In the podcast extra, he shares a simple techinque to break out facts from distortions as a way to see the reality more clearly.
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Many men are coming across a statistic that reads "77% of divorces are initiated by women." This may be true when it comes to filing, but who is to say divorce starts when documents are filed? In this episode, I shed light on how this statistic, when looked at through the big picture, is false, and how it opens a door for men getting caught in a trap that tethers them from moving on with their life in the best possible fashion
In today's podcast extra, I talk about the importance of taking 100% responsibility for the role you played during the marriage, and how this opens the door to what you really want, peace.
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Co-Parenting doesn't come without its challenges. It's your ability to quickly move beyond the challenges that directly reduces the level of "suckiness" in your divorce. In this episode, Steve talks about how you can get stuck in core beliefs around parenting, and how they trap you from being the parent and person you are capable of being.
The podcast extra on Patreon, provides ten tips that can help you parent better as a solo, part-time parent in a shared custody relationship.
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We have an innate desire for fair outcomes in life, but the legal process with divorce is not built on fairness. It's built on equitable decisions. Divorcees often get trapped in their desire for fairness, and this often contributes to their level of "divorce suckiness". In this episode, Steve talks about how our desire for fairness creates suffering, or "suckiness". This episode is followed by an exclusive podcast extra and support content on "A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page.
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You may be familiar with situations where you have a hard time deciding what to do - where you are unclear as to which choice is right or wrong. In this episode, Steve talks about the mental monkey driving fear on both sides of the decision, and how this creates patterns of rumination, anxiety, and confusion. In the podcast extra, he shares a process to overcome this obstacle.
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You may have heard a divorcee share a situation where their attorney dropped the ball when handling their case. In this episode, Steve shares a case where this appears to be happening, and sheds light as to why.
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In this episode, Steve talks about how the "ending of un-equals" is perpetuated during the invisible divorce phase. He shares details as to how one person's fear around divorce will cause them to self-protect their interests, while they disengage during the marriage and build courage to ask for divorce. He explains how this ends up perpetuating the other person's self-protection. Thereby, widening the gap with the "ending of un-equals".
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In this episode, Steve talks about the importance of starting a divorce off right, and shares insight on what it takes to rebuild your new life. He covers important areas to get organized before starting a divorce. These areas are not addressed in the "general advice" resources commonly published.
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Divorce presents many areas that create stress, frustration, and discomfort. What are you learning? In this episode, Steve shares a simple process that allows you to face challenges with a curious eye and find where you can personally grow.
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In this episode, Steve highlights results from the compilation of "Divorce Suckiness Assessments", and explains why certain common themes are most challenging.
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It's common for divorced men, who hear of another divorced man getting re-married, to ask "Why the hell would you get married again?" In this episode, Steve shares his perspective on this as he approaches his wedding weekend.
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Each of us has a unique relationship with chaos. It comes in many forms within one's internal and external domains. In this episode, Steve talks about the tug-o-war between the head and heart, and how our rational minds create chaos as it roots in beliefs of loyalty, obligation, security, superiority, control, etc.
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In this episode we talk about the difficulties associated with establishing new residences as your divorce unfolds. Steve speaks to the challenges, and offers tips for you to consider as you plan your transition.
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Do you "Got To", or do you "Get To"? Obligation binds our true spirit and hinders progress on any journey, let alone the transition through divorce. In this episode, Steve talks about connecting to the flame within and taking charge of your spirit's guidance. Celebrate this 50th episode by connecting with the spiritual meaning of 50.
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The internal side of divorce presents the loss of identity. You realize you are not who you thought you were, but are unsure of who you are. In this episode, Steve talks about this liminal space, and the importance of embracing it as part of transformation.
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The antonym of forgiveness is penalty, punishment. In this episode, Steve talks about how we can punish ourselves by being unwilling to forgive the injustice. This anchors us to the pain of divorce and prevents movement towards the new life.
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The divorce process can be long, intensive, depleting, and distracting. It's the perfect thing to steal your ability to become aware of underlying problems. In this episode, Steve shares his story and highlights how his divorce enabled him to become aware of hurt he was carrying and finally begin to heal that hurt.
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In this episode, Steve shares statistics gathered from participants who took the Divorce Suckiness Assessment, and points to areas where 70-80+ % of survey participants indicate where they have challenges. He explains how these areas are exasperated during the traditional legal process for divorcing. He goes on to share the alternative "Unfamiliar Path" for you to consider, which will help you move through divorce in a better way and reach a truly successful divorce outcome.
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Taking responsibility is vital during a divorce. Being 100% responsible for the role you played during the marriage enables you to respond as your best-self 100% of the time during the legal process and after. This is why amicable couples move on with their lives in a healthy way. In this episode, Steve talks about the "plaintiff vs. defendant" dynamic and how it hampers each party's ability to reach full responsibility.
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So often in life we want control when a difficult life circumstance hits our family. In this episode, Steve speaks to the importance of not losing control in the divorce process, outlines the steps in the "Traditional Path" divorce process, and explains how the process itself can foster more conflict, contentiousness and loss of control. As a result, many couples unknowingly wind up being an "ideal client" in something that's not ideal. This episode can benefit both parties.
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Parent alienation and attempts to "gate-keep" you from being involved in important milestones with your kids are common in some couples who have unsettled toxic and contentious dynamics. In this episode, Steve speaks to what you can do when there are attempts to exclude you from important milestones in your child's life.
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Part 3 of this special three part series on "How Divorce Affects Business Owners" focuses on married couples who own a business, and then decide to divorce. Steve talks about the uniqueness of this situation, and offers insight that might help them get the most out of a all their hard earned work.
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Part 2 of this special three part series on "How Divorce Affects Business Owners" focuses on the business owner, or a business partner, getting divorced. Steve sheds light on how the business owner can find themself intertwined in both a complex divorce and defending the business from being a pawn in a well thought legal strategy.
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Part 1 of this special three part series on "How Divorce Affects Business Owners" focuses on key employees. The odds of a key employee getting divorced is equal to or higher than the already high divorce rate. As a result, business owners face risk that they will have their bottom line impacted as a result. In this episode, Steve sheds light on this potential issue and shares ideas around what business owners can do.
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In this episode, Steve ad-libs as he discusses telling the truth about yourself to yourself. As he does, he uncovers the difficulty with understanding and embracing the loss of identity.
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The more complex your financial life, the more there is a need to effectively collaborate so you can develop not only a transition plan, but jointly understand the inter-workings relating to the procedural, timing, and other key intricacies inherent as you unwind your financial life together. In this episode, Steve gives examples of complex financial situations and explains why collaboration is imperative.
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Inflation and the real cost of living differs across every family. Divorcing couples experience factors that increase their cost of living even higher. Without proper understanding, this can heighten their level of financial stress. In this episode, Steve talks about the unique cost of living divorcing couples face.
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The root cause of anxiety begins in the mind, and it travels to the body. Therefore, divorce anxiety starts as thoughts, and appears in the body as some level of stress. Uncertainty, unfairness, and misperception all produce divorce anxiety. In this episode, Steve shares the importance of using breath work to reverse divorce anxiety and calm the mind.
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Statistics show that divorce is harder on men than women. While women experience a decline in income and lifestyle, men tend to experience greater health declines tied directly to the way they handle divorce strain. In this episode, Steve shares an article titled, “6 Reasons Divorce is Harder on Men than Women”, and expands upon the reasons to help me discover opportunities to move through divorce in a more healthy way.
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There's an invisible force that goes on the stand with us when we divorce, and that force is our unique relationship with money. In this episode, Steve talks about how one's relationship with money comes front and center in divorce, and, if left to run unchecked, can slide the divorce into greater contentiousness.
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The "Rainwater Trap" is a story, and an example, of how a man can easily get trapped in "divorce scarcity" and lose time, money and energy. In this episode, Steve shows how the scarcity mindset exists on various levels outside the divorcee. He also talks about what divorce really is, "a separation from something", and how other divorces relating to things like disability, illness, death and job loss all operate under a framework that supports, rather than fights.
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If you can't say "It's Okay" with any aspect of your divorce, then you are arguing against reality. The reality of the situation is not matching the expectation you hold. In this episode, Steve talks about the importance of pausing and self-assessing your divorce. He shares the newly released "Divorce 'Suckiness' Assessment" that helps you understand the divorce path you're taking, the risk with that path, and both the unavoidable and avoidable costs inherent within.
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The two words "should have" working in tandem are the verbal expression of self-judgement. In this episode, Steve shares the key phrase to get you around the damage of "should having" all over yourself. He shares the story of the guy whose situation put him on the path to this work.
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Can you say, "It's Okay?" Can you accept that your marriage did not work for you and your spouse. If you cannot say "it's okay", then there is a block that prohibits you from taking the path through divorce that leads to the ideal outcome you truly want. This episode is meant for both of you to hear. Steve shares the, tough but necessary, importance of starting a divorce with "it's okay".
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There are baseline, "unavoidable", costs in every divorce that tie directly to the amount of time and money necessary to divorce. Then, there are the "avoidable" costs, or cost we can manage, but often don't. These costs go on longer than they should and are the reasons are why your divorce sucks to any degree. In this episode, Steve talks about adding on avoidable costs, and the importance of using tools to lower their impacts."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon Page gives listeners access to a wide range of support.
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In this episode, Steve explains how our own nature prevents us from properly handling the difficulties with divorce. As a result, we introduce "avoidable"costs, which are the very costs that cause the divorce to suck more-so than it should.
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Some costs with divorce are clear, while others are unclear. Steve outlines the costs within an amicable divorce, and explains how the costs compound as the divorce becomes more contentious. He introduces the "Scale of Suckiness" as he explains how unclear costs compound overall costs (Money, Time, Energy and Health) as one experiences higher levels of "suckiness" in their divorce.
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Divorce presents us with emotional, physical and family challenges, while simultaneously placing us face-to-face with our unique relationship with money. It's often this misunderstood and unconscious relationship with money that causes angst and results in various actions rooted in fear. In this episode, Steve shares rules for you to follow to help with your financial transition.
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Divorce is a life transition with many complexities. There is past evidence, real evidence, that drives future unknowns based in fear. Oscillating between the past and the future pulls you away from doing what's important now. In this episode, Steve talks about a rebound strategy to help you face divorce challenges and ground yourself so you can act from your best-self.
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When your marriage had spice, you didn't mind various obligations. In fact, you may have welcomed it, and welcomed the role necessary to fill it. However, when the marriage began to break down - and the power struggles between you and your spouse heightened - the spice left the marriage and obligation presents a different weight. In the episode, Steve talks about how divorce further stacks obligation and shares the importance of pulling its counterweight so it no longer binds you.
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Our past contains evidence from a multitude of events. It's part of the story we tell ourselves. Our past contains memories, evidence, of painful times. As we proceed through divorce, similar circumstances can surface that align with these painful memories - triggering us into a protective, survival mode and generating negative thought patterns centered on that prior story. Listen to how one can get trapped today around a past circumstance and find out how to shift that story.
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Arguably, the most difficult divorce challenge is when your ex-spouse tries to steal your ability to be a parent. Sometimes the efforts are obvious, while other times they a subtle. When this happens, the man is tempted to engage in the "toxic dance" and not bring his best-self to the situation. He might also be tempted to control what's not in his control. In this episode, Steve talks about how men compound personal suffering on top of an already painful situation, and shares how to approach this complex challenge in a healthy way.
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Divorce presents real challenges that can cause our minds to invent stories - negative dramas. These stories tie to some level of judgement or blame to those challenges. In the episode, Steve talks about the mental prison of self-imposed suffering in which we can get trapped. He also shares an example of how to dissect the emotional upset so that you can access self-imposed freedom.
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Divorce presents so many challenges that can easily cause a man to drop into some level of victimhood. When this happens he can unknowingly self-impose his own suffering, which causes negative ramifications on his overall well-being. In this episode, Steve speaks to how victimhood can cause men to get stuck in their divorce transition.
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Any resolution is an intention to move from something that is not serving you to something that better serves you. It is moving from "a Lesser" to "a Greater". In this episode, Steve talks about having this as our mantra for 2022. He walks listeners through an exercise to reflect on the current year and to envision what is possible for the coming year.
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Spending any special day - holidays, birthday, fathers day - alone can be challenging. Often times we men suffer emotionally, but wind up masking the suffering by checking out in some fashion, rather than embracing the time alone. In this episode, Steve talks about his first holiday period alone and what he uncovered as he embraced the alone time.
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Responsibility is a powerful thing. Yet, so many men fail to take proper responsibility for the role they played in the marriage and the role they are playing now. As this happens, the divorcee, unknowingly, gives away his power to create the better life he intends. In this episode, Steve speaks to the benefits of reaching full responsibility around what's transpired in the past, and how this helps men have the ability to respond as the best version of their self today.
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Wherever we are in life, we have the choice to create. Creation starts as a thought and from there builds into an outcome tied to that thought. If the thought is around scarcity-based thinking (fear/doubt/worry), then the outcome holds that theme. If the thought is around prosperity-based thinking (creation/possibility), then the outcome centers on this theme. Listen to Steve talk about creating new outcomes as a result of divorce, and how to recognize the thoughts you need to change to reach what you intend to create.
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Resistance to certain change may be happening now during separation, and resistance to finding different outcomes with your wife most likely lived during your marriage. Resistance is natural, especially during life's most challenging times. In this episode, Steve talks about resistance and continues with the scarcity mindset theme that tends to dominate those thinking about, or going through, divorce. He shares elements of his story and how resistance created lengthy delays to his divorce recovery and personal growth.
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Do you spend more time thinking about what you are losing, or will lose, in divorce, than appreciating what you have? Divorce shines a bright light on our attachments to the things external to us, and the meaning we are giving those things. But what is it that you really own? What are the things that a court, or ex-spouse, or a loss of income cannot take away? Steve discusses how the meaning we give things can hurt our ability to move beyond divorce, and how we should become aware of the things that we really own.
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The Divorce-Scarcity-Mindset poses the risk of major costs and ramifications lasting much longer than the final decisions over marital property, custody, and support agreements. Acting from a scarcity mindset attracts more scarcity to our lives and blocks our ability to reach the full potential the divorce challenge is affording us. In the episode Steve shares how his scarcity mindset inhibited him, and shares perspective to help you recognize divorce scarcity thoughts and actions.
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Many men give up elements of their health, energy, time and joy to accumulate money and career success, and then label that prosperity. They don't realize prosperity is all of these elements. Divorce reverses wealth, and the perception of prosperity. In this episode, Steve talks about how to reclaim full prosperity, beyond money, while embracing the "unfamiliar path" to divorce recovery.
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In this bonus episode, Steve talks about the steps he's taken with past child support hearings, and the different approach he's take for this hearing. He introduces a universal law - The Law of Synchronicity - as he prepares for whatever outcome results.
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Contentious divorces can easily revert to weaponizing kids and/or money as forms of mass emotional destruction against the other. This form of divorce bullying can have major impacts on your health and wellbeing, as well as create lasting impacts on your children and finances. You may feel helpless, angry, disgusted, or in some sort of disbelief that your ex would do this. In this episode, Steve talks about how to see and work through this difficult situation.
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Mediation affords you the opportunity to avoid the default process, which is family court. It allows you to shorten the decision cycle so you can begin the process of transitioning and healing in a healthy way. Yet, so many couples find it difficult to approach mediation when there are aspects of loss, unresolved emotions, distrust, fear, and possibly disgust and contempt. This is certainly understandable, since the relationship has reached the highest level of tension, but these aspects should not derail you from the opportunity at hand. In this episode Steve provides tips you can follow prior to mediation that will help you make gain more productive outcomes from your mediation sessions.
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One question I grappled with during the early part of my divorce was, "am I in love, or am I being loyal?" Struggling marriages, who entered the invisible divorce phase, can hold together through strings of loyalty. In this episode, Steve speaks to how he discovered a key answer to his question "why his marriage ended?" He shares his story, as an example, of how loyalty influenced his decision to stay in the marriage and even influences decisions after divorce.
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Seldom do two people look at each other with simultaneous recognition that the marriage is not working and it's best to end it. No! What happens is one person typically disengages during the marriage and then tells the other it's over. This dynamic, and resulting emotions, trigger "The Ending of Unequals". Listen to Steve discuss this dynamic, as well as common responses from each person.
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Ancient Stoic Philosophers discovered the importance of 1.) forming the right perceptions around a circumstance, 2.) directing one's actions properly, and 3.) controlling only those things that are within one's control. Yes, even 2,000 years ago people faced tragic unexpected life events. In this episode, Steve explains how divorced men can call on this ancient wisdom as a tool to help them through some of divorces' most pressing challenges.
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Dr. Suess has a great quote, "When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you." Irrespective if you left your partner, or they left you, divorce carries many negative impressions and fosters the potential for negative outcomes. In this episode, Steve talks about how to move from letting the divorce define or destroy us, to allowing it to strengthen you. He shares tools you can use as you practice your day-by-day recovery.
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In this episode Steve shares his story of how he found growth inside all the divorce difficulties and pain. He speaks to men to help them see the paradoxes with which they are being presented, and instead of trying to bear more weight and responsibility, allowing the divorce itself to open new doors. Steve rounds out the episode on the importance of identifying, and then living in alignment with, key virtues so men can experience more satisfaction and joy.
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People equate divorce with what unfolds of divorce in the court system. It's much more! Marriage is a virtuous endeavor supported by sacred vows. Sacred vows are the deepest intentions most men have set out to fulfill. These intentions carry dreams of a future life together, the creation of a family, and the unfolding of a partnership. In this episode Steve speaks to the power of these sacred vows and how they can inhibit a man from moving on with his life, if they go unchecked.
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Divorce presents many challenges and concerns. Often the focus turns to solving the financial and family puzzle. But that is not all divorce entails. The process can be filled with uncertainty, unfairness, complex emotions, and confusion. As these increase, so does our stress. The key is to see the divorce as a season, and then establish a daily routine designed to build your mental and physical strength day-by-day. In the episode we discuss ways to recognize how your body communicates these strains, and how to build your physiological strength so you can improve your ability to handle the psychological strains around divorce, and the transition to your new life.
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The legal process that's involved with settling the family and financial aspects of the marriage tends to garnish all the attention. Not only does the focus lie here, but these are the areas to where uncertainty, unfairness, judgement, and blame tie. In this episode Steve talks about the importance of tapping into your physiology so the divorcing man is able to strengthen his psychology and face the uncertainty, unfairness and other aspects from a better mindset.
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