Hisposition - The Disposition Of A Man: Recent Episodes
Terrance L. Moore
The disposition of a man is multi-faceted. Being subject to the human condition, we’re both strong and weak. Courageous and fearful. Loving and unkind. Grateful and envious. Brilliant and mindless. Honorable and immoral. Saint and sinner. A paradox. The goal of Hisposition is to conduct a deep dive into the struggles men face and provide direction as we maneuver our way through this journey called life.
You never really know what life is going to present you with & when. It’s like riding a rollercoaster blindfolded. And there are times when the restraints feel ineffective, and that you could fly out of your seat at any given moment.
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You’re never too old to find a mentor beneficial. A trusted mentor who’s been where you’re trying to go can shave years of pain & frustration off your journey. There are so many things we have yet to be exposed to, and all it takes is the right person to pull back the shade to reveal the path to the unrealized dreams you locked away in the basement of your mind.
During moments of darkness, sometimes the hardest thing in the world to do is keep the faith. When situations become grim and there doesn’t appear to be any relief in sight, it’s easy to lose hope, even if only temporarily. If we’re not careful, moments of weakness will become a permanent part of our psyche.
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Are you building monuments or expecting moments? Monuments to the past. Monuments to what you had in mind. Monuments to old ways of thinking. Monuments to old patterns. Or are you expecting moments? Moments of new revelation. Moments of new understanding. Moments of new blessings & new ways of thinking. When you’re rigid & inflexible, it makes it difficult to question your truths. How stable is the truth you stand under?
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When a goal is accomplished it’s easy to become complacent. You get comfortable. The problem with comfort is growth normally comes to a halt during this phase. Instead of the realization of a dream being the prelude to the next phase, it becomes a resting place. Your new seed becomes stuck in transition, attached to what you’ve already accomplished.
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Sometimes your presence is your purpose. You don’t have to perform grandiose actions to serve a purpose in someone else’s life. In most cases, an encouraging word is enough to breathe life into the soul of another. Sometimes just being there is enough, even if you’re not sure what to say in the moment.
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Uncertainty can be unsettling. Our minds tend to always be pondering what’s going to happen next. And for those who crave stability, the fear of the unknown can lead to feelings of anxiety. But if we knew everything that was going to happen in our lives, what would be the purpose of living? It’s the uncertainty that makes life compelling. Embracing the unknown can be liberating.
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No matter how extensive your skillset may be, there’s only so much you can accomplish on your own. Our capacity is limited in several ways…time & energy being the biggest limitations. Asking for help can be critical to your future success. We’re all human. And being human means, you will experience moments of weakness. There’s no shame in asking for help. What is a shame is suffering in silence when you don’t have to.
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One of the biggest challenges is opening your heart and mind to the plan God has for your life. His plan may be for the best, but it comes with a lot of unknowns. And not all those unknowns will be comfortable. How do you know if something is for you? Prayer, meditation, and learning to listen to that still, small voice we call intuition is vital to making wise decisions.
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Are your glasses dirty? Not the physical ones…your mental & emotional glasses. The lens covering your mind’s eye. Have the trials & tribulations of life distorted your view? Perspective is everything. Dirty lenses make every situation appear worse than it really is.
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There will be moments in life when something needs to be removed. Whether or not you decide to let it go will determine the direction your life takes. When you make the decision to do what’s necessary to discard the baggage of the past into your emotional trashcan, only then will you feel free enough to move in alignment with your spirit. Making room for what’s next opens your life to a world of possibilities.
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The simple laws of cause and effect permeate throughout our existence. For every action there’s a reaction, and the consequences of our decisions can be far-reaching. What we do in life does echo in eternity, and the choices we make during our time on this earth will impact generations to come.
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After being alone for an extended period, you get comfortable. The peace becomes addictive. So, when the opportunity to explore the possibility of love surfaces…you push it back under. You talk yourself out of it saying you don’t need it. You don’t need it, and it doesn’t need you. But if you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you may hear your heart asking, “Are you sure?”
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Distractions are everywhere. Family. Friends. Social media. Television. There’s always someone or something lying in wait to divert your attention from the task at hand. Making time for the people you care about is important, but you’ll never accomplish anything in life if you don’t set boundaries. Your purpose is not to be taken lightly. You must use discernment to know who / what needs your focus and when.
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It’s a tradition for many to make a resolution at the beginning of each year. The goals can range anywhere from losing weight to eating healthier to eliminating debt. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to improve your life, but sometimes our goals are influenced by the judgment & insecurities of others. If we’re not careful, the result could be the betrayal of our own souls. If you’re going to be true to anyone…be true to yourself.
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Coming to the realization that the life you built isn’t as fulfilling as it used to be isn’t reserved for a particular age group. Midlife moments can occur at any stage in life. We’re constantly changing, and what we need in one season will no longer be applicable in the next.
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We tend to take for granted what deserves our gratitude the most. Count your blessings. Be thankful for every good thing in your life. When you practice gratitude, what you have in the moment feels like enough.
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Life is a balancing act. Family. Friends. Love Relationships. Career. Hobbies. Even when you have your priorities in order, the challenge to keep them there is never-ending. They’re all extremely important, and they all demand your time & energy. Bringing your life into alignment requires finding the balance between meeting your goals & feeding your spirits.
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True love is reciprocal. But reciprocity doesn’t necessarily mean giving each other the same things. It means making the effort to meet the individual needs of each other. This is where communication & effective listening play a major role. Clear & consistent communication will enable you both to remain on the same page and love each other in a way that feeds both your souls.
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Fear can be paralyzing. But the key is to not allow the paralysis to become permanent. There will be times when you must face your fears and fight through the feelings of anxiety. Facing your fears takes courage, but you were built for it.
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You can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t continue to pour into others and not replenish your own inner vessel. Make yourself a priority. Do things to keep your mental, spiritual, and physical cup full. When you take the steps necessary to ensure your cup runneth over, it makes it easier to be there for others without feeling drained & depleted.
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In a world where conformity is strongly encouraged, if not brutally enforced, expressing your individualism is an act of bravery. In order to march to the beat of your own drum you must have a clear understanding of who you are and what’s important to you. It’s imperative you develop a strong foundation in the identity of your choosing.
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Love has a rhythm. And it’s imperative we learn the cadence of each other’s heart to stay in step. When we fail to keep pace with the rhythm of love, if we’re not careful, dis-ease can lead to the death of our relationships. We must listen to understand the hearts of our loved ones if we desire to get in step with their heartbeats.
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How do you keep the music playing in love? An age-old question with numerous answers. The answers change with time, and each answer isn’t applicable to everyone because people prioritize different things. For this reason, recognizing someone’s love language only scratches the surface. Having a clear understanding will not only enable you to love them in a meaningful way, but it will also help you maneuver through the hard times with a sense of direction.
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The reason patience is considered a virtue is because practicing it sucks. We as humans are not naturally inclined to wait. We want it now. What we sometimes fail to realize is growth takes place during the wait. Growth necessary to handle what we’re waiting to receive. Some things take time.
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Adversity is revealing. It’s one of the many mirrors life places in front of you to show you who you really are and what you’re made of. Exuding peace & stability is easy when times are good, the sun is shining on you, and blessings are plentiful. It’s when your world goes dark that you find out how much strength you possess.
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There’s a LOT of tempting fruit out there. And from the outside they look both delicious and nutritious. But what looks good isn’t always good for you. A beautiful exterior can secretly be rotten at its core. Therefore, it’s imperative you get to know them before you decide to get seriously involved. Taking time to find out if the juice is worth the squeeze can save you from a world of trouble.
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Who are you when the camera stops rolling? Are you really a kind person, or does your kindness come with conditions & stipulations? Do you truly embody authenticity, compassion, and empathy? Or are they simply tools for manipulation to be used to support the illusion you’ve created? For someone with good intentions, these questions will be easy to answer. But for those with questionable character, this mirror will be avoided at all costs.
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Do you know what you want to build with your life? If so, what are your specifications / requirements? Having a clear understanding of your requirements is critical. You must ensure what you’re building satisfies your overall objectives.
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Your voice matters. With all the craziness in the world, people need a voice of reason. The need for level-headed leadership is of the utmost importance. Leadership where the primary agenda is the betterment of the people they’re leading. With the world in so much turmoil, this isn’t the time to sit by idly & watch it fall. Your words can be the catalyst to ignite the change you seek.
The seeds of hope take time to manifest. Planted in darkness, seeds must undergo a metamorphosis before reaching the surface. And this isn’t the final stage of growth. You must continue nurturing them for them to reach maturity. If you focus on the process of continuous improvement the wins will come in due time. Every endeavor will have its own process, and you must learn to be patient as you maneuver through each step.
You have limitless potential. No matter where you are in life, growth is possible. You’re not limited by age, time, money, or any other imagined constraint. Sometimes the fastest way to grow is to isolate yourself and do the inner work. Don’t allow distractions to interfere with reaching your highest potential. When this game called life comes to an end, be sure you left it all on the field.
Are you living authentically, or have you created an artificial existence? An existence carefully curated to show the world who you desire to be versus who you really are. Perceived perfection. An existence where your wins are highlighted, and your losses are swept under the rug. And if you share a loss, it was someone else’s fault. Your problems can’t always be someone else’s fault. You must take ownership of your life and stop playing the victim.
Do you feel like your best days are behind you? For some reason, most people tend to view the past through rose colored glasses. “The Good Old Days.” Everything was better. The food. The music. The weather. People loved harder. Life was simple & fun, and it felt more peaceful. This utopian view of the past has left many people in a clouded place mentally, longing for yester-year. You didn’t come this far to only come this far! You haven’t lived your best days.
Leadership. A word misconstrued by many. Being a leader entails more than merely possessing a title. It’s more substantial than that. True leaders embody certain characteristics. As a leader, your overall goal should be to leave people better than you found them. This is how you define great leadership.
Do you feel like your best years are behind you? Think back to your childhood dreams. Think back to all the different things you wanted to be when you grew up. The possibilities were endless. But as you got older, life beat you into submission. It was no longer about pursuing your dreams. It became about survival. You can change the course of your life. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Freedom. A singular word with numerous meanings. One could say the meaning of freedom is in the eye of the beholder. Freedom requires effort. Are you actively designing your life, or are you simply playing the hand you were dealt with no hope for improvement?
Vulnerability. A state most men are taught to avoid, and not necessarily directly. It’s more of an unspoken code among men. Vulnerability equals weakness. Weakness is not an option. Therefore, vulnerability is not an option. But vulnerability is the key element to establishing healthy relationships. Without it your interactions will be surface level at best, for no one will feel comfortable being their true selves when they’re around you.
It’s amazing how our minds can play tricks on us. How we can create our own false narratives. All it takes is a few coincidental events to create the foundation for future disappointment. When the heart is hungry, it wants to be fed. Junk food. Health food. It doesn’t matter. A hungry heart can be a foolish one.
Time waits for no one. But this still doesn’t stop us from thinking time is on our side, and that tomorrow is promised. We love to think that opportunities will always be there. We love to think that people will always be there. For this reason, we put off making time for them. Don't make this critical mistake.
Intentional living requires intentional thought and preparation. What are your intentions for your life, and what are you doing to ensure they become a reality? What’s your strategy? Are you putting the pieces in place, or are you winging it?
Having to live with regret is one of the worst feelings you could ever experience. It can be relentless. Regret lies in wait like the childhood monster under your bed, haunting you during those moments of silence. At some point in our lives, we’re going to do or say something we wish we could take back. You can’t change the past. It’s over & done. But you do have the power to make better decisions going forward.
In a superficial world where the importance of physical beauty is emphasized in everything from television to advertising to fashion, it’s extremely easy to lose sight of the simple phenomenon that is inner beauty. A person with a beautiful soul is spiritual eye candy to someone mature enough to recognize the intangibles. We must look beyond the surface to see the heart of a person.
There’s a lot of responsibility that comes with being a Servant Leader. We’re selfish by nature, so it isn’t easy to constantly put someone else before ourselves. But it is our responsibility as husbands to uplift, encourage, support, and empower our wives to be the best version of themselves. By practicing agape love, sacrificial Godly love, the depth of our love will be on full display, because her joy will be a direct reflection of the husband & friend we continuously strive to be.
In a world where we’re constantly told to “do what makes you happy” and “follow your heart,” practicing the control of self seems contradictory. A foreign concept. Current events would lead one to consider self-control a dying art, for people are taking “follow your heart” to wicked extremes. In a dimming world full of toxicity, be a beacon of light who gives hope and encouragement.
Life is challenging, and the demands it places upon us are never-ending. And it’s easy for the attention of our loved ones to place second to our livelihoods. It’s not that we don’t care, it’s actually the opposite. Our responsibilities consume a tremendous amount of our time, the resource by which life flows. But the mistake we make is forgetting time is a limited resource. Finding balance can be difficult. Now is the time to make the necessary adjustments. You’re still breathing, so you still have time to make time.
In order to build stronger relationships, it is imperative we ask questions and actively listen, because formulating an opinion based on past experiences alone can lead you both down the wrong path. We must turn off the autopilot and be fully present in our relationships. Without true connection there is no foundation. Without a solid foundation there is no stability. Without stability there is no peace. Without peace there is no love.
How do you want to be remembered? What do you want your legacy to be? We can’t choose how and when we leave this world, but we can influence how we’re remembered when our time is up. Your actions and legacy go hand in hand, for one influences the other. Your actions will determine how the world speaks your name.