SEE ME: Recent Episodes
Host Patty Lubold and Coach Courtney Edman
Real talk about navigating the journey of neurodiversity at home, at school, work, and in life with Patty Lubold and Coach Courtney Edman.
Patty is an award-winning journalist and strategic communications coach who has held leadership and consultant roles in strategy, communications, media relations and design thinking.
Courtney is an experienced executive function and parenting coach who specializes in working with neurodivergent children, teens, and adults and owns her own consultancy, 2TametheShame.
Our conversation with Pharmacologist and author Kristin Wilcox and her son Andrew explores the journey of understanding ADHD from both a parent's and now young adult child's perspective. It delves into the challenges faced during childhood, the importance of effective communication, and the role of collaboration in problem-solving. The discussion highlights misconceptions about ADHD, the impact of diagnosis, and the significance of medication and self-advocacy. It emphasizes the need for a supportive environment and the importance of recognizing and nurturing individual strengths.
Takeaways
- ADHD is often misunderstood and requires a nuanced approach.
- Effective communication with children about their needs is crucial.
- Collaboration between parents and children can lead to better outcomes.
- Medication helps; it does not replace the need for skill development.
- Self-advocacy is an important skill for children with ADHD.
- Creating a supportive environment fosters independence and success.
- Understanding emotional regulation is key to managing ADHD.
- Expectations should be modified based on individual capabilities.
- Positive feedback can significantly impact a child's self-esteem.
- The journey of understanding ADHD is ongoing and requires patience.
Learn more from Kristin and Andrew:
- MythbustingADHD | Psychology Today
- Andrew'sAwesome Adventures with His ADHD Brain: Wilcox PH D, Kristin, Wilcox, Andrew S,Maykrantz, Sean: 9781957354026: Amazon.com: Books
MythbustingADHD | Psychology Today
Andrew'sAwesome Adventures with His ADHD Brain: Wilcox PH D, Kristin, Wilcox, Andrew S,Maykrantz, Sean: 9781957354026: Amazon.com: Books
Dee Davidson of Confidently Love Yourself - a functional health practice - shares insights on her own well-being journey and how she has also inspired her teenage son with ADHD on the power of healthy eating, its impact on focus and resilience, as well as the tricky balance of choosing your battles when it comes to junk food and more.
- Find Dee at : Confidentlyloveyourself.com
- Instagram: @confidently_love_yourself
Have you ever wondered what it will take to stick to a plan or how your student, as they get on in school, are ever going to keep track of their own schedule?
Then this episode of the see me podcast is for you. Our guest along with Coach Courtney is Wendy Bertagnole - an executive function coach with a masters degree in special education. Wendy is also Courtney’s partner in the "ADHD friendly" Actionize It Planning System. The system, as you'll learn, is less about a final calendar entry and more about creating a path out of procrastination to help you feel more motivated to be consistent in the habit of planning and ticking off your to-do list.
For more information head to actionizeit.com
adhd #neurodivergent #executivefunction
Come along with Patty and Courtney as they talk regulation and connection with parenting guide Sonali Vongchusiri. Sonali is the founder of the much-loved Raising Your Strong-Willed Child series. She has a unique style which incorporates her own experience as a sensitive, high needs child turned parent of a highly sensitive, strong-willed child. She combines heart-centered and empowering parenting approaches to bring a parent’s awareness to the challenges at the root of the unrest they feel.
You can catch up with Sonali at these locations.
On Instagram: @raisingyourstrongwilledchild
On Facebook: Forward Together Parenting
On her website: forwardtogetherparenting.com
Author Robyn Greenspan speaks with Coach Courtney and host Patty Lubold about how she turned corporate burnout and worsening ADHD symptoms into an opportunity to rediscover her purpose and joy. Robyn explains the genesis for her book Dopamine Hacks: How to Mind Shift and Mood Lift Your Way to Motivation - a workbook of inspiring and imaginative questions that allow readers to explore what makes them feel good while igniting curiosity and imagination.
We revisit our first and most downloaded episode of 2023 - a lifeline of hope - Episode 1 - and update the story with new reflections from Coach Courtney and our special guest, her son Will. Together they share what has worked to build trust over the last year and why letting go and leaning in with positive intent works both ways.
In this episode Patty and Courtney dive into neuroplasticity with developmental specialist Pam Formosa. They discuss the brain's remarkable capacity to reorganize and create new neural connections that can be influenced with the integration of primitive reflexes and movement. The conversation draws from learnings that Pam, as an occupational therapist, and Courtney as a physical therapist have seen throughout their professional careers.
Learn more about Pam Formosa and her practice at Brain Fit Academy @ brainfitacademy.com
In this SeeMe episode, career education experts Eric and Alyssa Hammond discuss the importance of helping young adults discover their strengths and career paths. While conventional wisdom often has leaders focusing on shoring up their weaknesses to succeed, Alyssa and Eric, through their consultancy, College Career Compass, use the Clifton Strengths and the Strong inventory assessments to help teens and young adults understand their innate talents and how to use them to their advantage instead of wasting time on what is most difficult. Eric and Alyssa, who is also the award-winning director of Undergraduate Career Development at Bentley University, say that focusing on strengths allows teens and young adults to embrace their unique abilities so they can thrive in various areas of life that are important to them.
In this second of our two-part interview, author, educator, and dyslexic thinker Catherine Kapphahn discusses learning trauma with Patty and Coach Courtney. The conversation also touches on how we as parents can get sucked into solely focusing on grades and test scores to the detriment of your child’s curiosity and what Catherine calls a learning soul. Checkout these resources: In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness https://a.co/d/0p8QkNS Dr. Peter Levine And The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain ScienceAnd Catherine’s Book on Audible Immigrant Daughter: Stories You Never Told Me ! https://www.audible.com/pd/B08RQBRYD4?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow
In this episode Coach Courtney Edman interviews Massachusetts Educational Consultant and founder of Ask the Advocate, Maureen Brown. As part of her advocacy, she also supports whose children require a higher level of educationally related needs which can require an out of district placement or therapeutic school so that the child can receive a higher level of support that their particular student profile requires.
For additional information related to this episode:
Learn more about Maureen Brown at Ask the Advocate Federation for Children with Special Needs
Wright's LawIndependent Educational Evaluation
IDEABoard of Special Education Appeals (in MA) for mediation or hearing
Problem Resolution System for compliance
In our 10th episode Coach Courtney and Patty discuss the many nuances around disclosure. How do you know when it is safe? At what age should your child take the lead? These questions and more were prompted by an important essay shared in the Washington Post - "Your Child's Neurodivergent, should you tell everyone?"
The is a the second of a two-part interview with Kayla, Shana, and Miranda, three neurdivergent executives who found power in the diagnosis and their voice to live out loud, help others along, and inspire change at work and in their community. Together they share their insights on masking, finding their strengths, speaking up, and calling out for basic humanity and understanding about neurodivergence in the education system and beyond.
Miranda also recommends the book, "The Death and Life of the Great American School System" by Diane Ravitch, as a must read on education reform.
In this first part of a two-episode conversation, you'll meet Kayla, Shana, and Miranda - three successful working professionals who are navigating neurodiversity at home and in the workplace. All diagnosed with ADHD and two formally diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder as adults, they share their stories of their formative years, what a correct diagnosis meant to their lives and their wellbeing, and how they are speaking up and speaking out to raise awareness on the importance of belonging and inclusion.
Additional information: Around4.4%of the U.S.’s adult population is estimated to have ADHD, and roughly 2.2% with ASD—and that’s just for those who have been diagnosed, according to this article in Psychology Today.
"An added layer of difficulty for adults with suspected ADHD and/or autism is that researchers are beginning to see a striking amount of comorbidity—or co-occurring diagnoses—between the two."
If you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of others well. Raising neurodivergent children is an endurance journey where obstacles in a neurotypical world are plenty, sometimes expected, sometimes not. How are you managing the plot twists and accompanying stress? We share some insights and offer some real talk on taking care of you.
Check out these additional resources...
Self-CompassionResearch: Why Breathing Is So Effective at Reducing Stress (hbr.org)
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If your student/teen has chosen college as their next step toward adulthood, you won't want to miss this episode, where we talk about managing senioritis and bridging the conversation on readiness with declarative language, curiosity, and compassion. We also make connections to the books, Steps to College Success: A Pathway for Students with Disabilities by college learning disability specialist Elizabeth C. Hamblet and Taking Flight: An Insider's Guide College for Diverse Learners by Perry LaRoque. *This episode was produced at Holyoke Media.
So much of our time parenting neurodivergent children is focused on redirection and deficits. We want to fix and help in and out of school so they can flourish and all of that is of course, laudable. Yet if all children see and hear are redirections and deficits day in day out, the results can be soul crushing. In the episode we look at ways to focus on the positive and create connections that celebrate strengths and build self-esteem.
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Repetitive problems like not consistently following IEP accommodations is a symptom of a larger issue. If school systems truly want to embrace inclusivity and belonging, they must underscore it is everyone's role to ensure a free and appropriate education for all and then walk the walk. Addressing ineffective operational processes and scaling behaviors and skills from their teaching team already successfully embracing diversity, equity, and inclusion in their classrooms, can change the trajectory of many young lives and improve school culture.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seeme2tametheshame/message
In this episode we are talking about inviting people - your kids, co-workers, partners, into the conversation around challenges you are having and how to problem solve with a growth mindset.
The way to get there is by starting at the foundation of what Coach Courtney calls her, Stepstool Model of Growth & Success and the 6 Pillars of CONNECTION, COMMUNICATION, CURIOSITY, TRANSPARENCY, ACCOUNTABILITY, AND EMPOWERMENT.
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In this episode hosts Patty Lubold and Coach Courtney talk about emotional dysregulation, what it is, what it’s not, and why taking a pause and getting compassionately curious before you act or respond can help you maintain a positive relationship with your child, student, or coworker.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seeme2tametheshame/message
Former journalist Patty Lubold and Neurodiversity Coach Courtney Edman discuss the joy and challenge of raising neurodivergent children in a neurotypical world.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seeme2tametheshame/message