Through The Hard - Parenting Teens in Crisis: Recent Episodes
Pathways To Hope Network
Parenting teens can be hard. Parenting teens who are in crisis is even more complicated. You were never meant to walk through this alone.
Welcome to Through the Hard - Parenting Teens in Crisis, a twice-monthly podcast presented by Pathways to Hope Network. Join us for honest conversations that drive out shame and show us how to navigate the emotions and uncertainty of parenting teens through crisis.
Show-notes Episode 43
Title: The Learning Curve: Final Stage of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
As we heal the parts of us that, even in the midst of chaos, need to grieve over the loss of the family we dreamed would be ours, we get better at parenting. We learn to be ok with holding the reins a little looser because holding them tight never seems to bring our child closer. And through this beautiful process of losing and finding, we stumble upon our sweet spot.In today’s episode, we discuss the 4th and final stage of learning. At this stage, our skills are developing and becoming ingrained in us through repetition. They begin to line up with what feels right to us. Our actions and reactions, even if they don’t always yield the results we hope for, are more incongruent with what’s important to us, and it starts to feel more natural and effortless.
Join us to learn more about….
- Stage 4: Unconscious Competence.
- Parenting and Shepherding - what they have in common.
- The growth required of us.
Links from today's show:
Dr. Russell Barkley: 30 Essential Ideas Every Parent Needs to Know (Parents of ADHD Children)
Skills of a Shepherd by Kim Gooding
Additional Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Show-notes Episode 42
Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 3 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
“Parenting is not your purpose. It’s preparing you for your purpose.”We often make the learning process more complicated than necessary because of the negative feelings we experience when as parents, we make mistakes. Ironically, not doing it right and making mistakes are actually vital steps in the learning process.
In today’s episode, we are moving on to explore conscious competence parenting, which is stage 3 of any learning process.
Join us to learn more about….
- Stage 3: Conscious Competence.
- How to tell when you’ve reached stage 3.
- Two benefits you’ll experience.
- A few tips on what to practice at this level.
Links from today's show:
Gary Thomas’ book Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls
Dr. Becky Bailey
Dr. Becky Bailey YouTube
Additional Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Show-notes Episode 41
Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 2 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
“Awareness is the first step in healing.”
Dean OrnishToday’s episode is another bite sized episode, perfect for a quick walk around the neighborhood. The second of our mini series on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.
In this episode, we explore conscious incompetence parenting, which is stage 2 of the learning process and I’ll give you a few tips on how to become more effective during this stage of parenting.
Join us to learn more about….
- Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence
- How to tell when you’ve reached stage 2
- The beautiful element added to our journey once we reach this stage
- Tips to help you move through this stage effectively and more
Additional Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Show-notes Episode 40
Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 1 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
Maya AngelouHey….You made it! I wondered if you would find the time this week, friend. I know that right now, you are juggling all the things, and finding a little time to shut off the chatter in your brain is challenging.
Today’s episode is bite-sized. Just about 20 mins from beginning to end to kick off a little mini-series we are doing on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.
Join us to learn more about….
- Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence
- The common feelings we experience
- The challenges we face.
- Helpful tips to get through stage 1 and more...
Below are links from todays show:
- Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Juvenile Court System Part 1
- Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Juvenile Court System Part 2
- Into the Unknown: What to Expect-From Yourself
- Into the Unknown: What to Expect-From Your Marriage/Relationship
- Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Siblings
- Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Your Child
Additional Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Show-notes Episode 39
Title: ParenTEENg Decisions: The #1 Factor That Should Be Guiding Them.
“Everyone we meet is both our student and our teacher.”
Today’s episode is a countdown of the four factors that guide our parenting decisions. Together we talk about the benefits & challenges that we experience with each one of these factors.
Join us to learn more about….
- Family dynamics in parenting.
- Peer Influence
- The Benefit of Book and Media
- On The Job Training and more.
Parenting Books and Resources:
- The Whole Hearted Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown
- Loving Detachment by Dr Wayland Meyers
- *Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood*
- *The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults*
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Additional Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization helping parents navigate the emotions and uncertainty of parenting a teenager facing criminal charges and getting them on their path to healing.
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Show-notes Episode 38
React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful Communication
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Carl Jung“And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart, and say, “No. This is what’s important.”
Iain ThomasIn today's episode, we talk about the important roles that connection and control play in our relationship with our teens. With control seeming to be our default as parents, it’s important that we stop and ask ourselves what it might be costing us. Listen along as we dive into the SUPERPOWER most of us aren’t utilizing in our parenting game and how to begin activating it.
Learn more about….
- A recent poll I took asking parents with adult children what they would do differently.
- The three layers of behavior change.
- Who you'd like to become in this season.
- The difference between control and connection.
- How to shift the things you are focusing on.
Remember, you’re child is no longer the project; you are.
Practice this for the next two weeks, and let me know how it’s going:
- Spend a few days challenging yourself to focus on the positive (however small it may be) vs. the negative. The negative things shout and demand our attention, so they are easy to spot. Be a studier of the positive. Look for them and take the time to be grateful for them. Trust me; they are there.
- Spend a few days focusing on working together to solve a problem with your teen vs confrontation and control which only leads to defiance.
- Spend a few days documenting the 1% improvements you made during the day.
Links from the show:
- Episode 37: React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful Communication
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- "I want to handle this well" Phone Wallpaper
Additional Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Getting Through the Holidays
The holiday season can be challenging. In today's episode, we talk about some of the challenges you may face and a few new unexpected opportunities present this time of year.
Resources:
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- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ ____________________________________________________________________________
Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
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Show-notes Episode 23
Finding Your Path
From the moment we become parents, we condition ourselves to recognize potential dangers. For this reason, as parents with children in the juvenile justice system, it's very challenging to know how much to get involved and how much to restrain. With all our focus on them and their path, we forget that we have our own journey on this path toward healing. In this episode, we talk about that journey and how closely it's tied to discovering what our path and purpose are during this season of our child's life.
Resources:
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- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
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Raw, Real & Unedited
Warning: Emotional Episode.
Today, I was feeling all the feels. Having a podcast or running a social media page doesn’t make you an expert on anything. Don’t let anyone tell you anyone different. Being in this role brings so many blessings, and I’m so grateful to walk beside each of you during this season of life, but it also has its challenges. Today’s message was taken in a moment of vulnerability on my iPhone when more than anything, I just felt the need to connect to you and let you know that you are not alone in this. There’s no intro, no outro, and more “ummm” than there should be, but it’s 100% real. I pray that it still finds its way to speak to what you need today.
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Show-notes Episode 21
Building Teen Competence and Confidence with Loving Detachment
One of the reasons we get so exhausted as parents is that we can become a little over-involved in our child's decisions. In this episode, we explore the practice of loving detachment and learn about the surprising impact it can have on building competency and confidence in your teen.
Listen as we review the two questions you should ask yourself before putting your child "in the backpack," and explore together feelings that may come up for you when practicing this form of letting go.
Finally, we'll discuss the idea of loving detachment by taking a look at Dr. Wayland Meyers's Blog post, How Detachment Can Be Loving For All. It’s definitely a must-read. Click the blog title to check it out! You can also find a link for it on our Resource Page listed below.
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Unyielding Episode 20
The #1 Reason You Feel Exhausted
Raising teenagers can be EXHAUSTING; in this episode, we discuss the #1 reason for it.
Join the conversation as I talk about the “Backpack Principle.”
This new way principle brings awareness and clarity to what it looks like to begin the process of loving detachment. I’ve been practicing it for a couple of weeks now, and it has been a GAME CHANGER in our family.
We’ll also discuss why detaching is so uncomfortable.
- Two questions to ask yourself before you jump in to instruct, solve or protect your teen.
- Switching roles from Director to Advisor
- And more..
Episode Take Aways....Grow in your awareness of backpack moments this week. When confronted with them, ask yourself...
1. Have they been given what I believe is wisdom on this matter, or in other words, have we covered this before?
2. Am I willing to allow this to be theirs?
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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When Does the Healing Begin?
Parents who have been stretched thin are questioning their ability to continue holding and often ask when does the healing begin?
In this episode, we explore what healing really looks like on this journey with our child.
We also discuss some of our obstacles in getting to a place of healing, how our hope is found in the whispers, whether our patterns in parenting are still serving us in the best possible way, and more.
Special announcement regarding the next session of our online support group.
You can register and get more information by emailing “I’m in!” to closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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A Mom’s Search for Meaning
How do I do this, and how do I do it right? That’s the question nestled deep in the heart of every parent I meet.
In this episode, we talk about the two truths found in every action we take, and we also discuss the one thing that changed everything about my journey, as well as each parent I’ve coached or mentored that has been able to implement it.
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
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The Truth About Reestablishing Trust
For this final episode in Season 2, we are talking about trust. Upon reading that word, some of you are already thinking to yourself… I can’t trust my child right now. They’ve made so many choices that have me questioning their thinking.
Well, today isn’t about trusting them. Today, we are talking about trusting ourselves. See, somewhere along the way, we lost that ability, and it’s time we got it back.
As promised, here are the links we discussed in the show:
230 Personal Core Values
Brene Brown’s Whole Hearted Parenting Manifesto
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing or at risk of facing criminal allegations.
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Down Grief Mountain with Mary Cranston
In part two of my interview with Mary Cranston, we begin looking ahead to the journey down the other side of Grief Mountain.
What can we expect to encounter as we continue to navigate this journey?
Understanding the grieving process gives us permission to accept where we are, to see more clearly the work we are meant to do in this season, and to wait expectantly, knowing that this too shall pass.
4:27 Depression
6:30 Re-Entry
7:45 What Holds Us Back From Getting Support
12:17 New Relationships
15:30 New Strengths
19:20 Overlooking the Physical Side of Grief
21:40 Hope/Affirmation
23:50 The Push and Pull of Moving On
26:00 Helping Others
Mary is a life coach, a counselor, a motivational speaker, and a published author who recently wrote the book Grief Mountain ( A practical guide in recovering from grief and loss). You can find the book here on Amazon.
If you are interested in hearing more from Mary or connecting with what she's doing, check out:
Her website https://www.coachmcranston.com/
Her Instagram, Facebook and YouTube
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
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Sometimes we are so consumed with trying to keep our heads above water with court dates, challenging behaviors, and worrying about the future that it's easy to dismiss the fact that there is real grief under the surface. When thinking about the challenges of grief, one person came to mind that I knew would be an incredible blessing to you. Her name is Mary Cranston and she is a life coach, a counselor, a motivational speaker, and a published author who recently wrote the book Grief Mountain ( A Practical Guide in Recovering from Grief and Loss). Join us as we explore the grief journey.
Find Grief Mountain here on Amazon.
If you are interested in hearing more from Mary or connecting with what she's doing, check out:
Her website https://www.coachmcranston.com/
Her Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
Resources:
- Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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When The Challenge Changes You - Part 2
When the Challenge Changes You: Part Two
In Episode 14, A quick part two of our interview with Blake, he continues his candid conversation about what life was like as a teen in the juvenile justice system. Listen as he examines if there was anything that anyone could've done that may have changed the path he was on, discusses life after detention, his advice for parents, what his life is like today, and sends a personal message to his mama.
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A few highlights from this episode:
2:02 Life after detention
3:48 Was there anything anyone could've done that would've changed the path
5:56 Blake's advice for parents
7:37 Life now
9:08 Blake's message to his mom ❤️
If you would like to send a message to Blake letting him know how his interview helped you, OR if you are interested in sharing your own experiences on the show, email afrey.pathways@gmail.com.
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
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When The Challenge Changes You - Blake’s Story
In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing Blake, who offers us the gift of his perspective on what it was like to be a child who experienced the juvenile justice system.
In part one of this two-part interview, Blake openly shares his story of what life was like during his teen years. His experiences, the factors he believes influenced his decisions, his relationship with his mom and siblings, and what he credits as the difference-maker in him changing his course.
A few highlights from this episode:
5:35 First encounter with law enforcement.
9:18 Decision influencers
15:00 Promises to change
15:30 The difference-maker
17:00 Looking Back: what Blake credits his mom for doing well.
23:43 The greatest challenge of detention
28:00 Blakes’s relationship with his mom and the role it played
30:34 Sibling Relationships
If you would like to send a message to Blake letting him know how his interview helped you, OR if you are interested in sharing your own experiences on the show, email afrey.pathways@gmail.com.
Resources:
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- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com
In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing Pete Feliciano. Pete graduated college with a degree in Law and Justice and a Master's degree in counseling. He recently retired from an extensive career working with hundreds of families in Thurston County Juvenile Court as a probation counselor for the last 32 years. Throughout those years, he has been a strong voice advocating for children and families in our community, and I am so grateful that he is on the show to provide us with some insight into the world of probation.
Highlights from this episode:
5:00 The biggest misconception about probation and probation counselors.
13:32 The Us versus Them mentality and the damage created by it.
15:51 What is probation, and what purpose does it serve?
18:44 What you can do today that will help your child's probation process.
22:47 One thing resilient families do that keeps them moving forward.
33:50 The one thing Petehope'ssyou'lll take away from this episode.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com
In part two of my podcast interview with Pastor Jim Ladd, we discuss the difference between protecting and equipping our child and learn what could be at risk if we don't get this right.
We also discuss the message our children receive when we constantly operate in protection mode and the question you should ask yourself if you find yourself helping a little too much.
If you have a child in crisis, we sincerely hope that you find comfort and clarity while listening to his message on the importance of bringing ourselves back to baseline and beginning to examine the bigger picture and opportunity available to us during this time.
A few highlights from this episode:
7:40 The message our kids may be receiving when we are constantly in protection mode
8:21 The difference between protecting and equipping
11:45 Everyone can carry some of the load
14:50 The question you should ask before rescuing
If you are interested in hearing more from Jim Ladd or connecting with what he's doing, check out the Jim and Jon website to access blogs, books, and the Upstream podcast he co-hosted with his son Jon (It's fantastic). You can also find him on the Evergreen Christian Community Website and Instagram.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com
Moving Through the Unknown with Purpose
This episode is the second in a series of interviews with different people offering different perspectives on what to consider as you walk beside your child through the justice system.
Questioning what it looks like to parent well through a season we've never had to navigate before is a normal part of this process. In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing my pastor and friend, Jim Ladd. Jim is gifted in his ability to communicate concise, practical information in a way that is encouraging and thought-provoking, and this message is definitely one that will stay with you.
If you have a child in crisis, we sincerely hope that you find comfort and clarity while listening to his message on the importance of bringing ourselves back to baseline and beginning to examine the bigger picture and opportunity available to us during this time.
A few highlights from this episode:
2:35 Our most difficult, panicky, terrifying crisis moments are actually extremely fertile for the activity of God.
6:45 How to be loving while battling genuine feelings of anger and disappointment towards your child.
14:43 The healthy ability to connect and disconnect.
19:35 A parent's most important job when your child is in crisis.
26:28 Aligning how we parent with God’s love for us.
If you are interested in hearing more from Jim Ladd or connecting with what he's doing, check out the Jim and Jon website to access blogs, books, and the Upstream podcast he co-hosted with his son Jon (It's fantastic). You can also find him on the Evergreen Christian Community Website and Instagram.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com
Show-notes (episode 9):
Today's episode is the first in a series of interviews. We will interview different people for each show to offer different perspectives on important things you may want to consider while navigating the justice system with your child.
It takes a lot of courage to share your story with others. Many families are so afraid of being judged or labeled that they never share the struggles they experienced when they had a child arrested, charged with a crime, or incarcerated. That's why I am incredibly grateful for our first guest interview. We hope you will find comfort as you listen to this brave mom share a little about her struggles, regrets, and what she would do differently if she had to do it over.
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com
Are you always worried about what you'll say if someone asks you about your child?
In Episode 8, we are talking about one of the most challenging aspects of having a child facing charges, on probation, or incarcerated. The challenge of how to approach talking to others about it. We'll discuss all the ins and outs of who you should trust with this information, what you should tell, and what to do when someone asks you and simply put, you believe it's none of their business. We'll also talk about the top reasons most of us are reluctant to share this information and the powerful shift we experience when sharing our struggles. We'll help you fight off any anxiety you might be feeling about what to tell people by helping you come up with your go-to phrase.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
- Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
- Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
- FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For support, email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com
We all have different interpretations about what it means to be strong during a crisis. But, so often, when we find ourselves in the thick of it, our perception of what we should or shouldn’t reasonably be able to handle can be a little off.
In this episode, I discuss what I think it means to be strong and the importance of managing your mental health as you navigate this season.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to subscribe!)
Feeling Wheel and Journaling Prompts can be found on the Resource Tab of our website listed here:
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You were not meant to walk through this alone.
Podcast Info:
Title: E. 6: What to expect: Your child
Release Date: Month, Day, 2021
Speaker: Angie Frey
In Episode Six we talk about the child at the center of it all, your son or daughter, who has temporarily gone off track and is learning in real-time how to navigate the juvenile court system while feeling the full impact of a decision they made gone wrong.
Up until now, we’ve primarily talked about the feelings or experiences of others who have been impacted by the arrest of our child. We haven’t talked about the thoughts and emotions that may be running through the young person whose actually facing criminal charges. Today, we will discuss a few of the emotions the young people I interviewed identified with and the important role you play in their journey through this.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to subscribe!)
Resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
The Teenaged Brain… Dr. Francis Jensin (book): https://www.amazon.com/Teenage-Brain-Neuroscientists-Survival-Adolescents/dp/0062067850
Nami.org Article: https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/June-2018/4-Ways-Teens-Can-Access-Therapy-Without-Health-Ins
Episode 5: What to expect: Siblings
Host: Angie Frey
Having a child in crisis affects the entire family. Amid chaos and emotions, it's easy to overlook other family members who may not be directly involved, particularly siblings. Whether we talk about it with them or not, our children are very aware of the changes in the family dynamic and that the stress of the situation impacts us. This episode discusses how we should talk to our children about their sibling's arrest or incarceration. We also talk about the three things you should consider before having that conversation.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to subscribe!)
- Resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. In Series 1, Into The Unknown, there will be six episodes. In each episode, we walk you through what to expect on this journey and provide you with resources and support.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
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For support, email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com
Studies show that couples argue more during their child's teen years than they do any other time in their child's developmental years. In episode four, we take at look at some of the ways having a child in crisis can impact your marriage/domestic relationship. From different parenting styles to the slippery slope of “Don’t tell dad,” I share a few lessons I had to learn the hard way. The show wraps up with a great practical trip to help keep you both on the same team.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to subscribe!)
- Resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
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Pathways to Hope is a non-profit organization with a mission to provide hope and healing to families with children in the juvenile justice system by offering support, resources and community.
Learn more about Pathways at our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
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Podcast Info:
Title: E. 3: What to expect: From yourself
Speaker: Angie Frey
In Episode Three, we discuss the importance of understanding trauma while walking through this journey. More specifically, the trauma associated with parenting a child facing criminal charges. We hear the advice of other moms who have walked this very same road, those who have faced this trauma, and hope to help strengthen you as you are walking through your own journey.
Resources:
Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/2021/10/28/33-moms-with-something-to-say/
The Body Keeps the Score- Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1627001361&sr=8-1
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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. In Series 1, Into The Unknown, there will be six episodes. In each episode, we walk you through what to expect on this journey and provide you with resources and support.
Learn more about us on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Group Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
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For Support, Email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com
In Episode One, we take a look at the Juvenile Courts System.
We talk through a little about what happens after an arrest, the diversion program (12:35), Detention (13:00), and Attorneys (15:00). We also talk about what to expect at a hearing (19:00), Terms and Conditions (26:00), and Pretrial Hearings (28:30). Most importantly, though, we talk about how having a child in crisis is not an indicator of whether or not you are a good mom.
Resources:
Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/
FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
____________________________________________________________________________
Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. In Series 1, Into The Unknown, there will be six episodes. In each episode, we walk you through what to expect on this journey and provide you with resources and support.
Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
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For support, email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com
Part 2. Today we pick up where we left off in episode 1 and continue the conversation with more information on the juvenile court process. We’ll review felony and misdemeanor charges as well as degrees and counts. We’ll also briefly touch on plea deals & trials, what sentencing & probation look like, and then wrap the episode up by talking about record sealing.
Local Thurston County Juvenile Court Programs https://www.thurstoncountywa.gov/sc/Pages/court-cases-juvenile.aspx
Thurston County Diversion Program https://communityyouthservices.org/programs/juvenile-diversion/
Ban the Box Article on the Pathways to Hope Network Resource Page https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/
Frequently Asked Questions https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/
Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. In Series 1, Into The Unknown, there will be six episodes. In each episode, we walk you through what to expect on this journey and provide you with resources and support.
Learn more about us on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Group Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For Support, Email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com
Welcome to Unyielding
My name is Angie, and as your host, my goal is to sit with you and meet you right where you are. To pick up on the conversation that is already going on in your head. I'm not afraid of tough conversations, and I'm not shy about giving a voice to the struggles you are facing. Most importantly, I'm here to remind you of all the ways the unyielding love you feel for your child reveals itself.
In this space, we show our scars. We don't pretend or hide in shame. We learn to stand together and pick each other up on the hard days. We remind each other what this fight is for.
In this space, we face our challenges with courage and learn that shame and isolation are driven out when we are brave enough to share our broken parts.
2,000,000. That's how many podcasts are out there today. 2 million podcasts, and YOU LANDED HERE. I'm so that glad that you did.
Today this journey you're on turns a corner.
Today we take back some control. Control, which comes from having choices.
Today we are choosing companionship over isolation.
We're choosing compassion over shame.
Today, we're choosing HOPE.
Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. In Series 1, Into The Unknown, there will be six episodes. In each episode, we walk you through what to expect on this journey and provide you with resources and support.
Learn more about Pathways at our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/
Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork
Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/
For Support, Email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com