The 9toKind Podcast with Lauren Ruth Martin: Recent Episodes
Lauren Ruth Martin, LPC-MHSP
Burnout is now seen as the norm, and we know that's not the way we should be living. Quick, 10 minute hits of encouragement & practical skills to tackle your burnout, perfectionism, and people pleasing. I'm a licensed therapist, burnout expert, and an optimistic realist. Let's get real about building our lives worth living! // For more visit laurenruthmartin.com. © 2021 All Rights Reserved Lauren Ruth Martin, LLC. General informational purposes only. Not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, illness, or disease. Not intended to be financial, legal, medical or therapeutic advice.
Envy is an emotion we are taught to ignore or challenge, rarely have we been taught to tune into our envy. What if we did? What might we learn? I give some brief insight on how listening to envy helped me get back to living by my values and taking some healthy risks for my burnout.
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Boundary crossing season is upon us! Our time and bandwidth are the most valuable and finite resources--how do we maintain the boundaries that protect them? This episode goes into what we should keep in mind when setting and maintaining boundaries. We focus on the non-negotiable boundaries.
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Overwhelmed? Tired? Uncertain? These feelings are far too common for overthinkers and overdoers. When the world seems to be constantly intense, how do we cope or even accept that it's too much? This episode offers a guide for slowing down, validating our experiences, and restarting. If you are struggling with owning the difficulty of life (because yes it's always worse elsewhere) this episode is a reminder that your life and health matter.
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10 lessons from recording 100 episodes of the podcast. This past three years have included some of the most challenging moments of my life...and a lot of it involved the battle with myself. I share what's next for myself and the podcast. Thank you for being part of this community!
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Burnout recovery is a marathon, not a sprint. What's important to consider are the factors outside of our control that make us more vulnerable to burnout in the first place. This episode goes into the mindset behind burnout management, and offers compassionate perspectives on how to maintain motivation.
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Shame is a heck of an emotion, and it's beyond easy to get stuck in a shame spiral. I offer insights from my recent experience in the spiral and offer guidance on how you can get out too.
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A phrase that's increased popularity lately but none of us have a clear definition of what it means to "own it." It's easy to avoid or overdo shame, which leads us to staying stagnant. How do we feel the cringe without getting down on ourselves? How can we repair when we mess up? I offer a formula for owning it.
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I revisit the topic of looking long term when beginning burnout recovery. Our desire for things to make sense or feel "right" will not be what guides us during the initial phases of burnout repair and recovery. This episode is great for those who need motivation to keep going or a reminder that their exhaustion is valid.
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Our general dissatisfaction with life can very well be due to our lack of understanding for what we want. If we are constantly wondering "do they like me" and not even considering if we like them...then no wonder there is an imbalance! I talk about the mindset shift you need to build your life worth living.
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We all know that life is more comfortable when we are in charge. What do we do when we can't do it all? We process what beliefs drive us away from receiving help and how we can become more open to accepting it.
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How do we determine what seasons of life are for improvement or remaining steady? This episode goes into a framework that will help you set fairer expectations and decide what skills are best to have on call.
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This might sound weird...but there are aspects of my burnout that I miss. I unpack this with the hopes we all make space for a part of burnout recovery we don't speak enough about.
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As we approach the season of more is more...how do we know when to stop? On the other end of things, how to we know when we need to push out of our comfort zone? I offer guidance on how to discover options in order to navigate busy seasons with minimal burnout.
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The return of self compassion is sustainable change. We know that self compassion means treating ourselves like a friend...but what does that even look like? I offer tips and perspective on transitioning to a kinder companion.
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This episode has become one of my favorites. Burnout recovery can have its hiccups, and at a time where we probably don't have a ton of energy...we need to hold onto hope. How does one maintain energy when learning something new and not get burned out all over again? We talk about balancing our perspectives when anticipating the worst.
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Burnout is inevitable in the society we exist in. It can be enticing to engage in the race of hustle culture and people pleasing...especially when overextending can be highly rewarded. I share thoughts from my personal experience of facing my biggest bully...myself. I offer what we can look forward to once we begin embracing no and honoring our limits.
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Comparisons are never ending, what if we can learn from them. I share insights I have gained while learning from my comparisons. We face the realities of our envy and where to go from there.
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We think that those around us will celebrate our personal growth. However, there are times when our growth actually causes damages in our relationships. Some relationships are meant for a season, and the grief we experience is very real. I break down the factors that contributed to the changes along with offering a fresh perspective for moving forward.
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Now don't skip this episode if you're not a parent. It's full of insights and perspective shifts for anyone that is a helper of any sort. I discuss the conflicting emotions we experience as helpers and how to begin shifting the dynamic to those we support. Parent guilt will always exist, I offer ways for you to begin working through it.
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What does it mean to have more margin in your life? Is it even possible? How does one slow time down to exist? I talk about ways we can begin making more room for ourselves and what we might have to lose to do that.
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...because it's just that easy right? I offer some insights and first steps on how you can approach burnout recovery in a sustainable way. We dig into the stories we tell ourselves and other ways we get in our own way.
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Quiet Quitting is the newest term to come out of the corporate/working world. However, what quiet quitting really sounds like is having healthy boundaries and staying in your lane. This episode breaks down how millenials and gen-x were taught that work comes first...and how we all really need to reconsider work/life balance. This episode can also be helpful for those job searching or wanting to identify their top needs from work.
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Do people know that your boundaries exist? Were you taught that boundaries were punishment solely? If we get caught up in the people pleasing game and don't set boundaries-they will be crossed consistently. I offer you two different styles of boundaries and the mindset to become more comfortable being upfront.
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Validation is a skill that is often taught in the form of validating others. We want to be validated, however we struggle to give ourselves that experience. Is it possible that learning and practicing self validation can help us better give and receive validation to others? How would your life change if you began validating yourself in the moment? I give you three concepts to practice when beginning your self validation experience.
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Being "on" is sometimes a calling or necessity...however, being "on" 24/7 is unsustainable. There's a chance that your people pleasing is familiar, and to break the performance we have to become comfortable with the discomfort of alone time. We explore what gets in the way of pursuing and keeping alone time along with dismantling beliefs that keep ourselves in the spotlight.
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It's quite simple to overcomplicate hobbies! As we get older, we like finding activities that can build a sense of accomplishment. However, if much of our life has been focused on achieving and accomplishments...hobbies can be difficult to maintain. What's the point of a hobby anyway? I dive into that and how we can begin approaching hobbies in a consistent and sustainable way.
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When a busy season is approaching, many of us are burned out before things even begin. The anticipation of burnout can get us wasting all types of energy we need in order to make it through the busy season. We discuss how to honor those anxieties when they come up along with preparing for the break after the busyness.
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Let's go back to the beginning y'all. We have chatted for many episodes of what burnout can be and what we can do about...but how do we start? I dive into factors to consider when beginning (or restarting) burnout recovery. I also explain the similarities and differences between treating a mental health diagnosis vs burnout.
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We were warned about many things as we approach mid-life, the amount of grief we would experience was not one of them. This episodes is a look into the questions I'm asking myself as I grieve the changes in my mid-30's. As I debate what contributed to my burnout and what I want on the other side of it, the questions are in face bigger than expected.
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Participation trophies get a bad rep and I don't understand why. We are perfectionists and burned out overachievers tend to only value when we win or succeed...but what about the value of learning? I share my personal experience with embracing fallibility and my journey to becoming a lifelong learner.
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When unprecedented events keep coming, the overwhelm and rage can set the stage for overhauls. The hot fire of anger cannot be the primary motivating factor. This week's episode addresses the grief and reactivity that many of us millennials are experiencing. Where we have the urge to speed up, we actually need to slow down and create sustainable change for our futures.
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Our relationship with self care is often messy because we are shifting between extremes of productivity and numbing out. Instead of riding the wave, we begin reflecting on how we have acclimated to such extremes, the long term results of that, and begin shifting into a more sustainable way of living. If you believe that rest must be earned or the only way to play hard is to work hard...this episode is the kind call out you need.
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Often times we don't want to mess with teaching others how to support us because we don't have the time to correct mistakes. However, the buildup and burnout of doing it all can cause an even bigger mess. I break down the thought patterns that might keep our people pleasing going and where to begin loosening the grip on our need for control.
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Attention perfectionistic procrastinators and overwhelmed operators...a reason why your self care doesn't feel good is because of your backlog. This might be your body needing to rest, organizing that closet, or beginning to start the task that keeps getting put off. We break down how the backlog impacts our mindset and I offer some questions to help you face what's bogging you down.
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I know you have heard me say this and I feel it is important to say again....everything cannot be important all at once. To help us overachievers and burned out perfectionists better sustain life, we have to begin asking "what is my intention behind this?" Once we have a REAL idea of our intention, we can become more creative in how we get those needs met.
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Comparisons are appealing because they confirm our negative perceptions about ourselves. Yes it may suck being mean to yourself...but it can feel oddly familiar. I get honest about why comparisons are harmful and how we begin shifting our perspective. This episode is for my people that struggle with self compassion and are hard on themselves.
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Boundaries need to be established to reduce resentment in relationships. The payoff is so great, but the guilt that comes with boundary setting often overpowers the boundary! I break down how guilt is a sticky feeling for people pleasers and how we can begin challenging our unfair expectations.
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Times like this week can impact our willingness and comfort levels with fun. I discuss how to make fun something that's incorporated--not solely earned. We also discuss how novelty can be a solid support if fun is just not in the cards.
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The to-do list will never stop...but you can. I break down how we can bring more sustainability to our day to day lives and begin pausing more frequently. This is a great listen for anyone struggling with overwhelm or exhaustion.
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Perfectionism thrives in isolation and we all know that feeling far too well. I discuss the importance of going against the narrative that being helped is burdensome. It's the call out we all need.
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Perfectionists and People Pleasers are often sprinters in that they operate out of urgency and obligation. We discuss what pace is and what is isn't along with recognizing how honoring pace is self trust fully embodied. This episode is great for anyone feeling overwhelmed, lost, or busy without understanding why.
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A Novel Life is for general informational purposes only. Not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, illness, or disease. Not intended to be financial, legal, medical or therapeutic advice.
Undoing hustle culture is not an overnight act. I share my personal story on the impacts of hustle culture and show you how to begin differentiating from it.
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Decisions are something we can't avoid no matter how hard we try! Even when it is something we want, the act of decision making can be draining. I dig into what causes us to experience decision fatigue and what steps we can take today to counter it.
Episode on Creating Margin: Catastrophizing and Creating Margin
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Avoiding Avoiding is part of the #9tokind challenge. What's avoiding avoiding anyway and how can it benefit your mental health? Take 10 minutes and see how you can begin working on your self compassion one avoided task at a time.
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WHY DO WE INVALIDATE OUR EXPERIENCES ALLLLL THE TIME? I address the phrase "it could always be worse" and how it actually makes the issue worse.
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Leaning into change is hard for people pleasers because most people do not like change. Instead of seeking permission from others to take that step, what would it look like to catapult yourself? We break down what might get in the way and how to begin working through it.
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Celebrating your wins is not as easy as it sounds. We break down the barriers to self compassion and how to embrace patting yourself on the back!
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Your superior ability to do all the things is keeping you from finding margin in your life. The catastrophe you're imagining is causing you to maintain the burnout cycle. Creating margin is the best way to get yourself balanced again. This episode helps with cultivating the mindset needed to make that first change for having wiggle room in life.
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Are you "fine?" What feelings are you running away from? Did you know that shutting down emotions like sadness, anger, and anxiety actually cause you to lose joy, meaning, and fufillment? We investigate the function of numbing and how to reengage with our feelings.
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Acceptance will not feel good...however it will bring you closer to change. I help you understand what it is to practice acceptance and help you start small in order to build momentum.
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At this point in the year, we have felt overwhelmed and begun to overcorrect or give up. Building upon last week's pep talk, I offer you a guide on how to aim for neutrality as your first step. At this moment you might be seeking a big change (or to go back to your default settings) and this is about pausing before building momentuum.
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Overwhelm is an emotional state we often battle because in the moment we can't afford to shut down. But can we afford to ignore it? Probably not. This week's pep talk is all about helping you get curious when overwhelmed. You will get insight on how to listen to your anxiety in order to take the next best step.
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As 2021 wraps up, I challenge you to consider being a bit more selfish in 2022. Sometimes we have to face the discomfort of letting others down to find ourselves. I share with you a bit about my journey to being more selfish and how it's not as bad as I imagined.
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A common contributor to burnout is a lack of awareness of personal limits. You're so used to overextending that now you're operating at an unsustainable pace. This episode gives insight as to possible reasons why we never learned our limits and how to begin practicing a limit-oriented mindset. There is much freedom on the other side of exercising choice.
Other episodes to check out:
Pace & Sustainability
The Both/And Mentality
Can You Have It All?
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Friendship is supposed to be easy right? WRONG. Friendships are a lot of effort and when things end, we often blame ourselves. I break down the messages (aka myths) we were taught about friendships and how to begin moving forward when ones end.
Other episodes to check out:
Ending Relationships
Forgiveness is a Choice
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When things fall apart, we either shut down or double our efforts. Both options leave us stuck. I walk you the process of grieving expectations in order to build momentum towards your values.
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Being in the driver's seat all the time is exhausting, yet you continue to power through until you burn out. This episode offers prompts to investigate your beliefs around receiving help along with what to keep in mind when making your request for help. Remember, people like to help, and receiving help is not a sign of weakness.
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This week I drop some TRUTHS about people pleasing...why we do it...the costs of people pleasing...and how to move out of it. This episode will speak to the side of you that is often ignored and pushed away in order to maintain a good face. We also chat about how to manage your nervous system through stressful times.
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Why are guilty pleasures even called guilty pleasures?!? If you're a grown adult, you have the right to like whatever you do. I break down the functions of shame and how we can work on apologizing for our existence less. I also touch on envy and how we can work through it this holiday season. This episode is helpful for however you present when feeling shame (isolation or pushing away) and finding a middle ground.
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What's the antidote when we want to give up? Patience. This episode is for anyone who is caught up in the pain of the moment and ready to throw in the towel. I discuss how patience, while hard to embrace, is key for finding the next best step in our recovery.
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A new take on 75 Hard...we live with enough rules. Imagine your day to day life with dashes of self compassion and building mastery? I break down the 75 Kind movement and offer practical ways to begin implementing it today. It's all about the effort.
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Take the dang vacation. Easy right? Wrong. How has the consistent push for perfect attendance and overriding pain caused us to live life unsustainably? We process those beliefs and explore how to recommit to protecting our time. I also answer a listener question about getting those who are avoidant to engage...oh and I process some in the moment stress because--well that's life.
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We learned last week that body grief is an ongoing process that we cannot ignore. What the heck do we do with it? This episode offers an outline for working through body grief using the ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) Hexaflex. It's not just about mourning the changes in our body but building a life that accommodates the changes and leads us closer to our values. I also over a brief overview of the RODBT VARIEs skill and discuss the ongoing adjustment to life in the midst of COVID.
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A popular IG post and lived experience inspired this episode on body grief. I skim the surface of my initial learnings about body grief. I realize that body grief happens early on in life and pretty much doesn't leave! This episode is all about discovering what body grief is and how it applies to our life.
Part 2 will be released next week and full of skills for tackling body grief.
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It happens every year and somehow it kicks out butt like we have never faced it. Winter. I give you pointers on how to begin preparing mentally and logistically! If we don't get the Winter Blues this season I'm going to be thrilled! Also I chat about how to not catastrophize when things are going well.
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This one goes out to all Millenial and Gen-Xers that can't seem to sort out that undercurrent of anxiety! I discuss the impact of events like Columbine and 9/11. The ongoing addition of significant life events has thrown us off while we still pursue the "American Dream" which might not be existent! It's complicated for sure and we navigate the nuance together!
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Don't come after my skinny jeans and side part. I just might cry about it. I break down what "cheugy" means and how learning about it caused me to have a pre-mid life crisis. I'll teach you ways to grieve life as it goes in order to make room for more goodness.
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Discomfort or Dangerous? A lot of times we don't give ourselves the space to sort it out. I review a few skills to help you better navigate discomfort and to decrease avoidance.
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As someone who gives the gift of truth for a living...being on the other side is an experience. I talk about how to better receive feedback and let the discomfort be the best teacher.
Change is the only constant. In anticipation of change, you might have the urge to make all the plans. Preparation makes sense, but when does it take too tight of a grip on life? Listen for what to look for and what to do to manage urges to have a plan.
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Does anyone really like feeling anxious? I give you some framework for developing a more open relationship with discomfort.
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Taking a look at my audience and bringing to light a topic that's often in the back of our minds as women. I share my experience of parenthood and the thought that changed how I live my life.
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As we get older, we forget that we are still someone's child. How do we balance the responsibilities of adult life while finding joy? As always, it's a dialectic.
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I reflect on how 2020 caused our worlds to be big and small at the same time. If you're feeling overwhelmed with how to take on 2021, same. I give you a few questions and concepts to begin navigating life as we know it today.
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How do you DO your way out of stuck spots? I offer a brief overview of bottom up therapy for when your body is keeping your mind on the hamster wheel.
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Ugh more forgiveness talk? Yes! Forgiveness is an ongoing process and I offer you the RODBT take on it. We also chat about becoming a student of self care.
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Self-forgiveness does not come easy. In fact, some of the ways we feel that we need to discipline ourselves are easily reinforced in our culture. This episode gives you some framework for investigating the grudges you hold against yourself and beginning the process of mending disappointments.
Is there a chance you're trying to have it all but unsure of what that means? We chat about how to approach goal setting and how to prioritize your values. I also offer suggestions for hard conversations.
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How is your self care game? Is there a chance your skepticism gets in the way of maintaining your mental health? Do you overuse it as avoidance? I help you better define self care so it can be practically applied instead of getting caught up in overusing it.
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Hot take: focusing on your mental health is easiest when in crisis mode. We discuss how we can improve our mindfulness in order to maintain mental health as a priority.
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Changes are a comin. On this episode, I share a bit more about my struggle with perfection. Mid episode I realize my own health and worthiness. We also chat about the future of Novel/myself and the platform we are building together.
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Y'all. How to we validate others? Why is it so damn hard? Maybe you're trying too hard in the wrong contexts. We discuss the logistics of validation and how to apply it in various situations.
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Once the results are in how to we recoup and reconnect? This may be setting boundaries, it might be working towards understanding. We discuss what to do when the hurt is still present.
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Y'all know it...your love for self-care goes beyond. At what point does self-care become more harmful than helpful? We dig into the intent of distraction and coping in order to gain a better understanding for when to use what.
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Yep. The money chat. I was aware of my own discomfort recording this episode. This is a starter conversation on normalizing checking in with our friend's financial bandwidth and questions to gain perspective on our own relationship with money.
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In Radically Open DBT (RO-DBT) you will hear the term "social signal" often. I give an overview of what social signals are and how they may be a big contributor to what's keeping you stuck.
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Netflix's "The Social Dilemma" offers insight to the dark side of social media...and social media isn't going anywhere. I discuss how to take a more mindful approach to social media and how to increase feelings of connection instead of loneliness. Yes it might involve some chit chat :)
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How often do you avoid trying new things because it might not be "worth it?" Probably a lot...because we all do! I chat about what it means to take life to the dressing room and how to remain engaged when it seems fruitless.
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It's all good until it's not. We talk about empathy fatigue and ways to keep resentment from building. I walk you through the RO-DBT LIGHT skill and kindly call out your bitter tendencies.
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Breaking up with your therapist isn't always the easiest topic to approach. We chat about what to consider before having the talk. We also discuss how to process an experience in inpatient treatment and navigating the health changes in our 30's.
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Burnt out? Yeah it happens. We navigate the dialectic of willingness and capability in order to set a doable pace of life. I also discuss how to know when therapy is working and catch you up on how I paced my own life!
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What the heck are dialectics? Well instead of using fancy words, I teach you how to use the "both/and" mentality to navigate stuck areas in your life. You will learn how to where to move next and see the perks of embracing flexibility.
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How does your desire to arrive get in the way of your life? I share my missteps with anti-racism work and how that applies to our pursuit of perfection. We also discuss how self diagnosing can actually be helpful in therapy!
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A relationship-themed ramble. Our deep dive goes into the topic of ending relationship, and even more our expectation of relationships. Are friendship break ups necessary? I also answer a question related to finding social safety when in a toxic relationship.
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It's time to unstuck yourself. We chat about boundaries in relationships and how to defuse ourselves from unhelpful thoughts. Mindfulness is more than being calm, I offer practical tips you can start to manage your thoughts. Have a notebook ready to take some notes! Techniques described come from RO-DBT and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT).
Physical touch is a way that human communicates to others that they belong and are safe. We discuss the impact of shelter in place and social distancing. As we approach the long game of social distancing, how can we meet the need of social safety when touch is discouraged. We also chat about how doing our way out of a funk is the best move and how to balance distraction with facing fears.
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Is there a chance that focusing on the negative actually helps you avoid discomfort? On this episode, I offer a brief overview of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Radically Open DBT (RO-DBT). I also break down how our pursuit of safety can actually cause us more time focusing on the negative. You will get tips on how to shift to taking inventory of what works to increase comfort with discomfort.
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Learning is an aspect of life that many of us rush through. However, if we never learn how to learn it can contribute to depression and anxiety. Here's the thing...we need to get more comfortable with the process of not knowing, myself included. In this episode we talk about what to do and how to do it well.
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Connection is essential for psychological health. In a time of loneliness, how do we get real about what we want out of relationships? We discuss expectations, intimacy levels, and questions to ask ourselves in order to get an idea of what type of tribe we want to build.
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We chat about the problems of calling the hard times in our lives the "new normal" and why we must grieve our crappy coping. We all have that behavior that keeps us from moving forward in life. Instead of keeping it in the dark, grieving can bring it to light and help us move towards change.
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We take a look at ENVY and how investigating it instead of ignoring it can prevent bitterness.
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How do we set expectations in the midst of the unknown? This episode breaks down how to clarify your thoughts if you're feeling some type of way and how to set reasonable expectations during quarantine time. I introduce the weekly Q&A segment "We All Ain't Right" and manage to get through the whole episode without cussing.
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I finally did it! I will probably look back on this episode and cringe. I introduce myself and then introduce the concept of applying values as the guiding light of your life.
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