The Love Drive with Shaun Galanos: Recent Episodes
Shaun Galanos
A podcast to help you learn communication and intimacy skills for better relationships and more love. Listen to short pep talks with your love coach and host, Shaun Galanos, or longer form interviews with thought-leaders, therapists, and healers. If you want to deepen your capacity for love, you're at the right place.
This is a final apology episode for ghosting you all, where you can find me, and a sneak peek of the first episode of my new project, Voicemails to Dad, where, you guessed it, I leave voicemails to my recently deceased father.
You can find my writing on substack here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/
You can find the Voicemail to Dad podcast here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/podcast
Again, thank you all for being here.
Love, Shaun
Hey friend. Thanks for being here.
Here are the links I promised:
Getting Your Needs Met Course: http://www.gettingyourneedsmet.com
Trusting Love 2023 Retreat: http://www.trustinglove2023.com
In Bloom Love And Relationship Summit
- In-person tickets: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-presented-by-real-love-ready-tickets-434006423897?aff=ShaunGalanos
- Virtual tickets:https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-presented-by-real-love-ready-tickets-434035199967?aff=ShaunGalanos
And, that's it for now. Have a lovely week.
This episode guest is Nora McInerny, award-winning podcast host of ‘Terrible, Thanks For Asking’, speaker and author of several books, including her new book “Bad Vibes Only”. Nora talks about living as a liberal in a conservative state, dating as a widow and how she stays away from the “good vibes only” lifestyle.
Shaun and Nora discuss about vulnerability porn, their relationship to social media and how they feel about posting everything online.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Toxic positivity and “good vibes only” mentality
- How to love people we deeply disagree with
- How to accept that people’s lives are not as perfect as we think
Where to find Nora
Buy her new book “Bad Vibes Only”
Listen to her podcast
Nora on Instagram
Nora's website
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Hey gang, here's a little update for you. ❤️
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Love Camp 2023: www.lovecamp2023.com
This episode guest is Vanessa Bennett, Codependency Expert and Holistic Psycho-Therapist and author of “It’s Not Me, It’s You”. Vanessa talks about what codependency is, if it’s always bad and how we can balance being dependent with another person without being “needy”.
Shaun and Vanessa discuss how people have lost connection with their feelings, and offer examples for how to express feelings with someone who might not be comfortable with having such conversations.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- What to do if your partner is following hotties on IG
- What it’s like dating a therapist as a therapist
- Chemistry and attraction and their role in relationship building
Where to find Vanessa
Preorder her new book “It’s Not Me, It’s You”
Vanessa on Instagram
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Oh boy. Here's a stream of consciousness about the importance of spark, chemistry, and attraction when meeting a potential partner.
Our guest is dating and love coach Damona Hoffman, who's been coaching people for over 15 years on online and offline dating.
In this episode, Shaun and Damona share their best online dating practices, what to ask on a first date, and how to best screen for people who are a good match.
Shaun and Damona answer some rapid-fire questions, including What are guys looking for during the first date? Who pays for the first date? What to do if he's a nine but follows 1000s of Instagram models?
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Does sex on the first date change things?
- Why guys who have dogs in their dating profiles get more matches
- How to make long-distance relationships work
Where to find Damona
Damona on Instagram
Listen to Damona's podcast
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A little pep talk on finding great people to love and that no, all the good ones aren't taken (and you should be careful about that belief - confirmation bias is a doozy!)
I'm excited to re-launch (and teach) one of my most popular courses: The Emotional Availability Course - Open up to Love
www.feelyouremotions.com
This course is for you if you want to: Become more emotionally available to those that matter Recognize emotional availability in others Experience more intimacy in your current relationship Learn to sit with and process emotional discomfort Turn towards intimacy with an open heart Learn to open up slowly to people who are safe and loving
You'll walk away with: Seven Ways to Identify Emotionally Available People How to Avoid Shutting Down When It Gets Too Intense Three Techniques to Release Emotional Anxiety and Fear How to Talk About Your Feelings With Courage (even if you're not sure what you're feeling) The Importance of Holding Space for Your Loved Ones The Four Types of Unavailability Preventing You From Finding Love
You'll get: 5 hours of live training with me All sessions recorded with English captions All your questions answered (through live recorded Q&A and written questions) Lifetime access to the session videos (download them after the course is over) Lifetime access to my private Facebook group Downloadable PDF of all techniques and scripts A 100% money-back guarantee if you're not happy with the course
www.feelyouremotions.com
We'll meet over four weeks starting August 11. All sessions are 90 minutes in length and recorded if you can't attend live.
Thursdays, August 11, 18, 25, and September 1 at noon PST / 3 PM EST / 7 PM GMT
Sign up before August 5 and get $50 USD off the course price and free access to the Simple Relationship Communication webinar ($77 value).
This month-long course starts on August 11. $247 before August 5, $297 after.
If this course resonates with you, I hope you join us.
www.feelyouremotions.com
This episode guest is Yana Tallon-Hicks, past podcast guest on how to be an ethical hookup, ethical slut, sex writer, therapist, and author of ‘Hot and Unbothered: how to think about, talk about, and have the sex you really want’.
In this episode, Shaun and Yana talk about sex, shame in receiving feedback from our partner(s) and trying new things more than once.
Shaun and Yana take listeners' questions all about sex, answering doubts such as: Will vibrators desensitize my clitoris? How to be more comfortable with my body? How to squirt, how to deal with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction and more!
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to find new sex activites to try with yourself and your partner
- Porn and it's role in sex education
- Why blowjobs are hard to give
Where to find Yana
Yana on Instagram
Yana’s website
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Seerut K. Chawla, an integratic psychotherapist discusses about the dangers of cancel culture and of “Instagram therapy”.
In this episode, Seerut and Shaun talk about the problems with dating in the modern world, why older men date younger women and the idea of being a forever-student.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How consistency and hard work trump talent and the fallacy of the "overnight success"
- How to deal with short bouts of depression
- How to speak to yourself more kindly, while staying accountable
Where to find Seerut:
Seerut on Instagram
Seerut’s webiste
Seerut on Twitter
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail.
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
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Today's question comes from Stephanie. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I just recently met a guy on Saturday. We met and had an instant connection, hung out all day, and ended up having sex. Do you think that that screws up the beginning of a relationship? "
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Couples coach Lane Allison talks about conflict resolution, relationships and intimacy in this episode. She explains different approaches for how to resolve conflicts with your partner(s).
Shaun and Lane open up about previous relationships, cheating, and choosing between taking breaks or breaking up.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Practical techniques for de-escalating conflicts with your partner(s)
- What to do if you think you are being cheated on
- How to keep a long-distance relationship healthy and fun
Where to find Ilana:
Lane on Instagram
Lane on Tik Tok
Book a session
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Ilana Dunn, the host of ‘Seeing Other People’ podcast, talks about modern dating, her experiences, and advice. She answers dating questions, from getting to know new people to understand when a relationship has come to an end.
Shaun and Ilana discuss deal breakers in relationships, how to not overthink being single, and share past dating experiences
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to be friends with your ex and date other people
- Where to find dates outside of apps and how to approach people you are interested in
- Reasonable expectations when you start dating
Where to find Ilana:
Ilana’s “Seeing other people” podcast on Spotify and Apple
Her podcast on Instagram
Ilana on Instagram
Ilana on Tik Tok
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail.
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
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Today's question comes from Ivy. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I caught my partner of two years on dating apps and meeting up with other women. Can somebody who habitually lies ever truly change your opinion and what they might have to do to make that change fully?"
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail.
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
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Today's question comes from Sam. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I am HIV-positive, and I've been on treatment and undetectable for several years. I'm just starting to date new guys again, and I'm having a really difficult time with the disclosure conversation. I'm not public with my status, and there's a lot of stigmas out there for HIV. So these conversations just make me really nervous. Do you have any advice or tips on having tough conversations like this?"
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail.
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
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Today's question comes from Jessica from Dallas, TX. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I asked out a friend at work via instant message, and he ignored me. We have to see each other at work all the time. We had a good rapport. There was some flirting, and I was really prepared for any response except being ignored. So what should I do? Should I approach him, or should I let it go? "
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail.
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
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Today's question comes from Michaela from Vancouver, BC.
Michaela's question [edited for brevity's sake]
"Is it OK for men to have female friends? I'm talking to a guy with several female friends, including an ex from years ago.
He thinks that it's all right to hang out one-on-one and stay in touch with them and that I should have no issue with it.
Most men I talk to don't understand why I need boundaries around this.
Help?"
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Some details about my course on Healthy Communication.
Click here to sign up.
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Do you struggle asking for help? What about saying no with love?
Would you like to make requests for your needs in a way that won't push others away or make them defensive?
Want to learn to ask for anything, including sex, more money, space from your loved one, and more touch?
This course is for you if you want to learn to:
- Talk about your needs and desires and make thoughtful requests that are easy to meet.
- Say no with clarity and compassion
- Bring up hurtful or unwanted behavior and set healthy boundaries
- Speak up for yourself without pushing people away.
Click here to sign up.
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Today's question comes from Marie from Massachusetts.
Marie's question [edited for brevity's sake]
"I was broken up with by this guy that told me he wasn't ready for a relationship, and not even ten days after the breakup, he's back on dating apps. Should I reach out and confront him or just accept that as closure?"
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail.
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
Today's question comes from Camilla from North Carolina.
Camilla's question [edited for brevity's sake]
"Hi, this is Camilla calling from North Carolina.
There's someone from my childhood, and we've tried things on and off, but it hasn't worked, and we live in different states.
I feel that we're supposed to be together in my heart, and I'm waiting on life to just do that. What if you feel that you're meant to be with someone, but life doesn't work that way?"
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Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline; a new format where I answer listener questions that are submitted to me via voicemail! Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline
Today's question comes from Emily about letting a once-in-a-lifetime love go. I share about forgiveness, accepting the consequences of our choices, and how to keep hopeful that love is right around the corner.
Emily's question [edited for brevity's sake]
"I'm three and half years past a breakup that pretty much rocked my world.
He moved on right away got married right away; there's been no contact, so I can't even see them on social.
It's hard for me to move past the story that I let a really good love go and that that could have been a once-in-a-lifetime thing and that it might not come back again.
How do you forgive yourself or how do you get past that and find hope?"
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In this episode, Susan Piver, New York Times bestselling author and Buddhist teacher, discusses what are the most important questions to ask your partner before committing to them. The point of asking these questions is not to directly come to an agreement, she says, but to get to know our partners intimately.
Susan and Shaun talk about deal-breaker questions in relationships, sharing their insights and experiences with their partners.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Why loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean you will be able to make a life together
- How to deal with disagreements in a relationship
- How to accept changes in our partners
Where to find Susan:
Join her online community
Susan’s website
Get her books
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The Love Drive podcast is edited by Camilla Morandi.
This short conversation was inspired by one of my most popular posts about how to ask for loving words from your special person when you're feeling insecure.
I read the post, the caption, and add some additional thoughts on the power of vulnerability and intimacy.
Here's the post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CV0iPI3L4D9/
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No science to back this stream-of-consciousness monologue. Just my thoughts on the subject.
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A few tips to make the first couple of dates a bit easier for you.
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Damn, we've really given being single and lonely a bad rap. There's nothing wrong with being single; let's normalize that.
There's a lot of beauty and freedom in accepting your loneliness for what it is; an opportunity to deepen your relationship your yourself.
And I invite you to see it that way, too.
Be OK with being single. Enjoy your solitude and your singleness, even if you wish things were different.
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Keep your standards high, but your expectations low. Here's how.
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I love rejection because it brings clarity to my life and makes room for something more aligned. Here's how I learned to love it.
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I think you are, even if sometimes, your best is not that great.
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When did not having needs become cool?
In today's podcast:
00:00 intro
00:22 when did not having needs become cool?
02:37 even robots have needs
03:56 nobody likes rejection
06:31 the three-steps to getting your needs met
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Relationships of all types will be uncomfortable. You can choose to turn towards the discomfort, or away from it.
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The goal isn’t to get over your ex as quickly as possible, it’s to feel the heartbreak and give it the time it needs to move through you.
It might be hard to believe right now, but your feelings towards your ex and your separation will change.
Here are 6 tips to speed up the healing process
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Well, join the club!
Let's normalize wanting to be in love, seeking clarity and commitment in our relationships, and talking early and often about our relationship desires, needs, and dreams.
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I don't believe in failed relationships and I don't think any relationship that ends is a waste of time. They're opportunities for you to learn about your relational needs, desires, expectations, and a beautiful chance to get to know yourself more.
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Adam Smiley Poswolsky is a millennial workplace expert, motivational speaker, and author of The Quarter-Life Breakthrough, The Breakthrough Speaker, and Friendship in the Age of Loneliness. As an expert at fostering human connection, he discusses the loneliness epidemic: ⅔ of Americans are lonely. Loneliness is a chronic illness that affects all of us. In order to overcome that loneliness, he shares practical tips on how to make new friends as adults, during a pandemic.
Shaun shares his struggles of feeling lonely when he moved to Montreal, he talks about his strategy on how to reach out to friends when he feels down.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to start making friends as an adult
- How to combat loneliness
- How to use social media for creating meaningful relationships
Where to find Adam:
Buy his book
Visit Adam’s Website
Adam on Instagram
Resources:
Tech-free Camp Grounded
John T. Cacioppo ‘Loneliness’
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Finding emotionally available, secure, and loving people to date is the holy grail of the dating world. Find one of these mystical creatures, and you're guaranteed smooth sailing until the end of days.
Just kidding. But you'll have a better chance at a loving relationship with a kind, caring, and respectful person, and you might avoid some unnecessary heartbreak.
And at the same time, it's worth considering if you are emotionally available yourself?
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Hey there. Here's what's been going on for me these last few months, and what the following months will bring for my life and my podcast.
Some links that I mention in the episode:
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Nora McInerny is an author, podcaster, fellow human, and someone who's learned to live and love with grief. She's also someone I admire a lot, and I'm not gotta lie, I fangirl pretty hard around her.
Today, we're talking about how love is both the most beautiful thing in the world and also awkward, challenging, and complex, and we're all bumbling around trying to figure it out as we go along.
If you've ever wanted to listen to two exuberant people (with ADHD?) talk about love and relationships, this is your episode.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Why we overextend and abandon ourselves for love.
- How we figure out relationships by "learning on each other."
- The importance of learning to like yourself before you love yourself.
Where to find Nora:
Nora's website
Follow Nora on Instagram
Resources:
The Terrible, Thanks For Asking podcast
Nora's Books
Ralph's Podcast
The Hot Young Widows Club
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Love languages are a great tool to learn how to better love others and to let others how they can better love you.
In this short episode, I'll show you how to make a request for the five love languages. Feel free to adapt these scripts to your situation and make them your own.
These are only a template to get the conversation started.
Talking about love languages is an excerpt from my latest course: Getting Your Needs Met: https://thelovedrive.com/getting-your-needs-met/
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Shirley Johnson - a licenced marriage and family therapist - shares her knowledge on dealing with conflicts that might come up in relationships. She offers tools on how to avoid the anxiety of confrontation, how to stay connected when we are in disconnection, how to get to the source of the conflict, and how to regulate our nervous system in a state of mind that leads us to conflict resolution.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- The main sources of conflict in couples
- How to normalise talking about sex from early on in your relationships
- The importance of being present in your body during a conflict
Where to find Shirley:
Shirley’s website
Follow Shirley on Instagram
Resources:
Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson
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We're always trying to fix everything, all the time. Sometimes, the thing to do is nothing. Nothing but sit and feel what is coming up. No action item needed.
Next time you're struggling to figure out what to do, do nothing.
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I really wish it were, but healthy relationships require commitment, risk, trust, responsibility, and a shared dream or goal.
Love is an important ingredient, but it's not the whole recipe.
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While all your needs are valid, some of those needs can’t - or won’t - be met by others (no matter how much you want them to or try).
If your need is tied to your self-esteem, your self-worth, your value, or your love for yourself as a person, it’s going to be nearly impossible for others to meet those needs.
They might try and fail because no amount of them trying will meet the need for self-love.
In this episode, Kat Harris, relationship coach and author of Sexless in the City, discusses how to deal with life plans that continue changing and the sadness that comes from living a life that’s different than what you expected.
Kat and Shaun talk about grieving your dreams, how to be honest with yourself, and the importance of keeping your expectations in check.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to overcome being a victim to your relationship status
- How to accept that a relationship might end
- How not getting what you want can open up new possibilities
Resources:
Peggy Orenstein's book Girls and Sex
Listen to her podcast episodes on fertility.
Where to find Kat:
Kat’s website
Get her book, Sexless in the City.
Kat on Instagram
Listen to her Podcast
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Don't change who you are to be in a relationship. No matter what you do, you'll never be enough for some people. And no matter how you tone yourself down, you'll always be too much for others.
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There's nothing easy about asking your loved one for space, and yet, fire needs air.
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Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, spiritual guide, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. In this episode, she discusses how to bring presence and mindfulness to sex, and how powerfully that can affect our everyday life.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Why mindful sex can lead to a more mindful relationship with ourselves and everyone around us
- Why are we so afraid to talk about sex and sexual health and how to talk about it with our partner(s)
- How to shift the focus away from the orgasm and learn how to savour pleasure
Where to find Jessica:
Jessica’s website
Get her book, Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out.
Jessica on Instagram
Her YouTube channel
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If 2020 was hard for you, join the club. Sending you all love, light, and strength as we close out 2020 and ride into 2021. Let's hope it's more gentle on all our souls.
See you in January.
In this episode, Tara Galeano - a licenced professional counsellor, certificed sex therapist, author, speaker and coach - discusses the wisdom of our body and the importance of using it as a great input for listening to ourselves, beyond thinking.
Shaun and Tara talk about the essential practice of breathing and mindfulness to come back to the body and staying in the present moment.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to listen and trust what your body is telling you
- Why we need to start to recognize and honour the voice within us
- The importance of rest and just being
Where to find Tara:
Tara’s website
Tara on Instagram
Resources:
Get Tara’s Rediscovering my Body book
Christine Caldwell - Bodyfulness book
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Rejection makes space for something better to enter your life, as long as you can let go.
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No one likes a ghoster. And there are a few valid reasons why people ghost. Here's how to deal with them...
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If you want clarity in your relationships, you'll have to step up and ask for it.
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And do you find yourself in relationships with emotionally unavailable people?
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I want you to have a big, bold, beautiful life, and that's gonna require some serious courage, and self-esteem to know that you deserve it.
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Britt East - an inspirational speaker and author - talks about the challenges of finding love as a gay man, and how that applies to all relationships..
He shares the importance of coming out as a tool for everyone to get out of their closet and live a more authentic life.
Shaun and Britt discuss how same-sex attraction doesn’t necessarily define our sexual orientation and they encourage giving in to curiosity, with an emphasis on developing communications skills with our lover(s).
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How being bad at dating can help you find love
- What it means to be a good lover
- How not to worry about killing the mood during sex
Where to find Britt:
Britt East on Instagram
Britt East’s website
Britt East on Twitter
Britt East on Youtube
Other podcasts Britt has been on
Resources:
Get a copy of Britt’s ‘A Gay Man’s Guide to Life’
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Sade Ferrier - an Associate marriage and family Therapist and Intimacy Coach - discusses sexual intimacy and how to feel safe in a relationship. Sexual intimacy is multidimensional, as she clarifies, it’s more than intercourse and more than sex. Sade shares the importance and challenges of accepting your lover and Shaun shares a practice called Desires, Fears, and Boundaries.
Shaun shares a useful practice for better communication about sex or intimacy practices based on understanding our desires, fears and boundaries.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- What it means to feel safe in a relationship and how to do the work to reach that feeling
- The problems with racial discrimination in the world of therapy & the concept of swirling
- How to work with a therapist and how to build a trust-based relationship with the therapist
Where to find Sade :
Sade Ferrier on Instagram
Sade Ferrier’s website
Learn the foundations of intimacy in her course ‘Communication 101: Sexual Intimacy’
Get $25 off Sade’s new course, Radiant Intimacy, by using coupon code: thelovedrive
Resources:
Rachel Cargel Loveland foundation for supporting black women and girls' therapy access
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Kelsey Grant - a Love Educator and Relationship Coach - discusses how to set consequences to boundaries from a place of self-respect and love for the other person. What happens after we set boundaries for our relationships? How can we hold the other person and ourselves accountable for respecting these boundaries?
Kelsey and Shaun share scripts and real-life situations in which boundaries may be crossed, what to do about it, and how to lovingly address them.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- The difference between ultimatums and boundary consequences
- How to follow up on these consequences
- Finding consequences to crossed boundaries that go beyond leaving the relationship
- How to deal with the pre-grief of a potential breakup
Where to find Kelsey:
Follow Kelsey on Instagram
Join the year-long ‘Year of Love’ master class, to find what is blocking the capacity to trust ourselves, and the patterns of codependency. Learn how to connect to yourself and how to be held in a community, in a small group of 6 women. New group starting October 15, 2020.
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Madelanne Rust-d’Eye – a somatic psychotherapist, counselor, and facilitator - shares her knowledge on somatics and body-informed leadership. Her approach is body-focused, practical and experiential, and scientifically-based.
She looks at the body as a phenomenon, as an experience to be understood. Madelanne talks about the interwoven realities of the brain and body, discussing what somatic practices we should be doing if we want to be capable of connection and partnership.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- The importance of practicing embodiment and noticing the sensory experiences in our bodies
- The impact of intergenerational trauma on our body and how we can become more conscious of it
- Madelanne and Shaun discuss substance addiction and its linkages to a lack of connection
Where to find Madelanne:
Find the online program on the introduction to body-informed leadership for residents in North America and in Europe
Join the co-mentoring group for facilitators who want to dive deeper into the world of intergenerational trauma, privilege, and oppression
Join the Movement in Relationship sessions
Contact Madelanne for one-on-one sessions
Resources:
Resma Menakem, ‘My grandmothers' hands’ book
David Hawkins, ‘Power versus Force’ book
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You're needy, and there's nothing wrong with that. If you think you are too needy, this pep talk is for you.
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Kai Weder, a sex educator, coach, and healing and wellness practitioner, discusses desire discrepancy. When are the tools and the steps to be taken when our partner has a different libido than we do?
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Get curious about how we define desire, sex, and libido!
- How to deal with mismatched libido?
- What can you do that deepens the connection without genital stimulation?
- Shaun shares the three part invite to invite new practices to his love life
Where to find :
Follow Kai on Instagram
Visit Kai’s website for one on one sex ed coaching
Resources:
Get Kai’s workbook on desire discrepancy
Learn about your exciters and inhibitors on “Come As You Are”
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Life is hard. And it's infinitely easier when you surround yourself with loving people. Find those people, and share your pain with them. Another pep talk from Shaun Galanos.
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Please, for the love of everything that is good, stop saying yes to stuff you should be saying no.
When you say no to someone, you are saying yes to yourself, and you should be doing it more.
Be intensely protective of your time and energy; it's a finite resource.
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Here's another pep talk for you. Take it easy. You don't need another podcast, book, coaching session, or workshop. You probably need to take a break instead.
Your life and your relationship cannot be all work and no play. You need rest, relaxation, and fun. You can work more when you're dead.
The Flirting with Confidence Course
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This week, a pep talk on opening up to love.
The Flirting with Confidence Course starts August 6th
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Bryan Reeves is a former US Air Force Captain turned relationship coach. Bryan helps men, women, and couples create thriving lives and intimate relationships. In this episode we’re talking about men being worthy of love, and what it means to let love in despite the fear of getting obliterated.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- What it means to love yourself before you can love others
- How to let yourself feel
- Why showing your emotions can bring you closer to your partner
- How to properly tune into your masculine and feminine energies
- The difference between codependency and interdependency
Where to find Bryan:
Website
Podcast
Resources:
Tell The Truth And Let The Peace Fall Where It May - Reeves
Getting To "I Do" - Dr. Pat Allen
The Flirting with Confidence Course starts August 6th
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Ken Page is an award winning author of the book Deeper Dating and renowned psychotherapist. In this episode, we discuss authentic living and dating, what it looks like for each of us, and how to reach it. Through small and simple exercises, Ken teaches how to recognize and accept our core gifts which are essential for an authentic love life.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to drop the game of seduction in early stage dating.
- Importance of acknowledging and naming the core gifts we have as a practice to self acceptance and self love
- How to build a relationship that is sexually and spiritually satisfying by sharing and being vulnerable
- The difference between attraction of deprivation and attraction of inspiration. Does my soul feel safe with the other person?
Where to find Ken:
Ken’s six-month intensive course for a small group of lovers
The Deeper Dating Podcast
Deeper Dating audio course on attraction and deeper intimacy
The Deeper Dating Book: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy
By Ken Page
Deeper Dating Online – warm safe and fun online dating place
Ken’s Instagram
Ken’s Facebook
Resources:
David snarch – the crucible, on monogamy
The Presale for The Flirting and Connection Course
Learn to connect to love with courage and clarity
$75 until July 27th. We start Aug 6th.
www.thelovedrive.com/flirt
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute where he studies the science of sex and relationships. Justin is also the author of the blog Sex & Psychology as well as the author of the book “Tell Me What You Want”. Today we’re talking about sharing your sexual fantasies, building intimacy in your relationships, and how to get more of what you want in your sex life.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to have a conversation about your fantasies without intimidating your partner
- You’ll learn the 7 common themes in sexual fantasies
- How planning sex may actually boost your sex life
- You’ll learn what your fantasies actually say about you
- Uncovering the roots of sexual problems
- How sharing fantasies can be used as a tool for heightened arousal
Where to find Dr. Justin Lehmiller:
Sex & Psychology Blog
Podcast
Resources:
Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller
The Ethical Slut by Easton & Hardy
The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola
XConfessions App
Own Your Sex App
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Nate Postlethwait is a certified life coach and the creator of the IG hashtag #thehealingcollective. Nate specializes in finding safe ways to share trauma and empower your life story. Today we’re talking about undoing the shame in sexuality, validating pain, and how to process traumatic experiences.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to connect with your story and understand how your story impacts every part of your life
- The tools necessary to engage with parts of you that have experienced trauma
- The importance of creating a safe environment and how to hold space for someone
- How to avoid giving unsolicited advice and emotional slobber
Where to find Nate Postlethwait:
Resources:
The Other Side of Saved
Story Connect Coaching
Podcast
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Todd Baratz is a licensed individual and couples psychotherapist who specializes in sex and relationships and also the man behind the @yourdiagnonsese IG account. Today, we’re talking about sexual myths, social media therapy, and porn.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- Understanding cultural scripts about sex
- Why sex is not just penetration
- The effects of mutual masturbation on deepening intimacy
- Porn myths and what it means for your sex life
Where to find Todd Baratz:
Website
Podcast
Resources:
"Yes, No, Maybe"
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Zoe Kors is a sex & intimacy expert. Sex doesn’t always look like what we see in the movies, and sometimes it doesn’t feel the way we wish it did. But what if I told you, you deserve to have the kind of sex you dream about? Today, we’re talking about improving your sex life, safety and its role in arousal, and how to ask for what you want in the bedroom.
What you’ll learn:
- What to do if you’re in a sexless marriage
- When to let go vs. when to keep working
- Opening up your marriage to a new level
- Arousal and “safety” in the bedroom
- Changing the way you masturbate
- The benefits of “edging”
Topics of discussion:
06:00 - Ten years without sex
11:05 - Bringing sex back into the relationship
17:10 - Intimacy with yourself
19:30 - Defining sexual chemistry
34:10 - Talking about sex with your partner
44:20 - Change the way you masturbate
48:45 - The benefits of “edging”
55:20 - Creating an orgasmic environment
Resources from our discussion:
Good Sex - Jessica Graham
Vagina - Naomi Wolfe
Slow Sex - Dianna Richardson
Where to find Zoe Kors:
Zoekors.com
YouTube
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Camille Barton is an artist, writer, and somatic educator working on the intersections of wellness, drug policy, and transformative justice. Today, we're exploring the effects of ancestral trauma that people of the global majority (another way to say Black, Indigenous, People of Color) walk around with and how to begin healing that trauma
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How social justice overlaps with somatics (the embodied experience)
- What it means to be a person of the global majority
- The importance of ongoing grief ritual in social justice work
- How to get out of your head and into your body
- How white people can do their own ancestral healing work
Where to find Camille:
Website: https://www.camillebarton.co.uk
Instagram: @Afrooankali
Resources:
Lumos Transforms | Anchoring Resilience training
The Roots of White Supremacy are in Our Bodies By Madelanne Rust-D’Eye
Madelanne Rust-D’Eye website
Re-evaluating Counseling
White Awake - Study, Support, & Action
TRE and Shaking
Radical Dharma: Talking Race, Love, and Liberation by Angel Kyodo Williams, Lama Rod Owens, Jasmine Syedullah
Somatic Market Hypothesis - Wiki page
Why White People Can't Dance
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Zoe Bender is a long-time friend, American History high-school teacher, and has been doing social justice activism for over 15 years. Today, we're talking about it what it means to be an ally to the Black community.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- The collective awakening of liberal white folks
- Skills necessary for being on the lifelong journey of white allyship
- What are white socialism and white fragility
- How you can avoid being a performative ally
- How to examine your relationship to racism and white supremacy
Resources:
White Fragility: Why It's So Hard To Talk To White People About Racism by Robin DiAngelo
Article on White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo
What is Socio Emotional Learning?
TatianaTMac's Tweet to White People about Burn Out
Showing Up For Racial Justice
the UNtraining
Donate to The Loveland Foundation
The 5 Methods of Divestment & Weaponization of White Power & Privilege from Community Ready Corps
The Conscious Competence Ladder as described by Elena Aguilar
Tamisha Williams is a dynamic facilitator who uses movement and storytelling to nurture the growth and development of those she serves. She is skilled in using frameworks of equity, justice, and inclusion to assess and develop institutional initiatives. Tamisha is a transformational leader inspiring educators, parents, and school administrators in deepening their equity-literacy skills
Minorities Who 'Whiten' Job Resumes Get More Interviews
Workshops and Training that Zoe has attended:
"People of Color Conference" organized by the National Association of Independent Schools - December 2018 (https://pocc.nais.org/)
"Undoing Racism Workshop" led by People's Institute for Survival and Beyond https://www.pisab.org/
"PeopleSkool" led by POOR magazine https://www.poormagazine.org/
"Being mindful and white in a Multicultural World" led by the East Bay Meditation Center https://eastbaymeditation.org/
Member of "Uruhu Solidarity Movement" under the leadership of the African People's Socialist Party https://uhurusolidarity.org/
"Resisting Racism Workshop" led by Ewuare Osayande and People Organized Working to Eradicate Racism https://osayande.org/
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Elena Rossi is a pleasure and slow sex educator, co-founder of a sex toy company, and creator behind the popular Instagram account The Yoni Empire. Elena and I unpack what it means to be authentically you in all relationships, and what is so scary about that.
This is part two of our two-part conversation.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- The importance of compatibility in a relationship
- How our coping mechanisms can dampen our growth
- Hot to look inside for the answers you already have
Links and Resources:
Author John Welwood: http://www.johnwelwood.com
Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page https://amzn.to/2B2BXN2
Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin Ph.D. https://amzn.to/3d8mrgJ
The Complete Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue: Books I, II & III by Neale Donald Walsch https://amzn.to/2ZJNQC4
@noopface on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noopface
The Yoni Empire booklist for women's sexual development: https://theyoniempire.com/15-must-read-books-for-womens-sexual-development/
The Yoni Empire booklist for couples: https://theyoniempire.com/11-must-read-sexuality-books-for-couples/
The Healthy Communication Workshop: https://thelovedrive.com/healthy-communication-workshop/
The Love Drive booklist: https://thelovedrive.com/about-shaun/booklist/
Where to find Elena:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_yoni_empire/
Website https://theyoniempire.com
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Elena Rossi is a pleasure and slow sex educator, co-founder of a sex toy company, and creator behind the popular Instagram account The Yoni Empire. Elena and I unpack what it means to be authentically you in all relationships, and what is so scary about that.
This is part one of our two-part conversation.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How not to dilute yourself when trying to attract a partner
- The three options available to you when others won't meet your needs
- How to distinguish between self-work and bringing it up to your partner
Where to find Elena:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_yoni_empire/
Website https://theyoniempire.com
Links and Resources:
Author John Welwood: http://www.johnwelwood.com
Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page https://amzn.to/2B2BXN2
Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin Ph.D. https://amzn.to/3d8mrgJ
The Complete Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue: Books I, II & III by Neale Donald Walsch https://amzn.to/2ZJNQC4
@noopface on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noopface
The Yoni Empire booklist for women's sexual development: https://theyoniempire.com/15-must-read-books-for-womens-sexual-development/
The Yoni Empire booklist for couples: https://theyoniempire.com/11-must-read-sexuality-books-for-couples/
The Healthy Communication Workshop: https://thelovedrive.com/healthy-communication-workshop/
The Love Drive booklist: https://thelovedrive.com/about-shaun/booklist/
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Julia Feldman is a teacher, sex educator, and creator behind the popular Instagram account Giving The Talk. Julia believes that communication and relation tools are fundamental skills that we should be teaching alongside sex education from a very early age, and I whole-heartedly agree.
This is part two of our two-part conversation.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How your sexuality is continually evolving
- The ice cream analogy of finding new pleasure in your body
- How to explore self-pleasure from a place of curiosity rather than release
Where to find Julia:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/givingthetalk
Website https://www.givingthetalk.com
Resources/Links:
Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Couples by Jack Morin Ph.D: https://amzn.to/3e4LIIV
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Julia Feldman is a teacher, sex educator, and creator behind the popular Instagram account Giving The Talk. Julia believes that communication and relation tools are fundamental skills that we should be teaching alongside sex education from a very early age, and I whole-heartedly agree.
This is part one of our two-part conversation.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
- How to talk about over-apologizing
- Why giving unsolicited advice can shut some people down (including myself)
- How to develop well-paced sex education curriculums
Where to find Julia:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/givingthetalk
Website https://www.givingthetalk.com
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Fie Sommer is a taboo-breaking Danish disruptor who talks about what she wishes people talked more about when she was growing up. Today, we're exploring the beauty of surrendering to sex, the healing power of sex, and how to bring ritual and ceremony to your love-making.
This is the second part of our two-part conversation.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to bring intimacy and trust to your sex life
• How to bring ceremony and ritual to your love-making
• What surrendering to sex can look like
Where to find Fie:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fie.sommer
Website https://www.fiesommer.dk
Resources:
Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality by Diana Richardson: https://amzn.to/2AmNOFD
Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out by Jessica Graham: https://amzn.to/3dC99ca
The Glass Wand by Euphemia Russell: https://www.iwishyouknew.net/wand
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Fie Sommer is a taboo-breaking Danish disruptor who talks about what she wishes people talked more about when she was growing up. Today, we're starting with pornography, it's effects on her sex life, and how she transitioned away from using it.
This is part one of our two-part conversation.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to use sex as a tool for connection
• Why we have sex when we don't want to
• How to say no or to ask for something different
Where to find Fie:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fie.sommer
Website https://www.fiesommer.dk
Resources:
Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality by Diana Richardson: https://amzn.to/2AmNOFD
Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out by Jessica Graham: https://amzn.to/3dC99ca
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Cam Fraser is a sex coach and works to help dispel the myths of male sexuality. Together, we explore the vastness of men's sexuality beyond the myths. We both deepen and widen our definition of what it means to be a sexual man nowadays.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• Approaching lovemaking as a ceremony
• The importance of taking orgasm off the table
• Focusing on pleasure over performance
Where to find Cam:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thecamfraser/
Website https://www.cam-fraser.com
Resources:
The Yes/No/Maybe list: https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdf
Mantak Chia's book The Multi-Orgasmic Man: https://amzn.to/2z0XJQ8
Diana Richardson's book Slow Sex: https://amzn.to/2Yk0dnn
Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/
The 3-minute Game by Harry Faddis: https://bettymartin.org/how-to-play-the-3-minute-game/
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Kelsey Grant is a love educator and relationship coach, and together we explore the importance of boundaries, how to set them with love, and give you a ton of examples of what these challenging conversations might look like.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How shadow work is connected to self-love
• The importance of community when learning to set healthy boundaries
• What these conversations actually sound like
Where to find Kelsey:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/radicalselflove
The Sunday Self-Love Service https://mailchi.mp/09e458f7a5a1/sundayselfloveservice
The Legendary Love Academy https://www.legendaryloveacademy.com/
The Healthy Communication Workshop starts April 9th
Tools for all relationships https://thelovedrive.com/healthycommunication
Discounted coaching for April
20% off all coaching sessions booked in April: https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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We all have an inner child full of love, creativity, intuition, and wisdom. And that inner child in all of us sometimes needs some extra love and some healing.
Chloé Huth is a child psychologist and therapist and together we go deep on how to heal our inner child wounds, the importance of being able to recognize and name a wide range of feelings, how our environment growing up affects our ability to regulate our emotions, and much more.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to begin healing and loving your inner child
• The importance of community in healthy childhood and adult development
• How you can begin to reparent yourself today
Where to find Chloé:
Instagram hwww.parentsofberlin.com
The Healthy Communication Workshop starts April 9th
Tools for all relationships https://thelovedrive.com/healthycommunication
Discounted coaching for April
20% off all coaching sessions booked in April: https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Do you struggle to make your needs easy to meet? Can you effectively communicate what it is you truly need? And, what if you could make it easy for your loved one to succeed in meeting your needs?
Liz Earnshaw is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a certified Gottman therapist. We go deep on the importance of communicating your needs, sharing what having those needs met will bring to your life and the idea that relationships require constant flexibility for them to thrive.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The difference between an ultimatum and a boundary
• How to deal with dismissive partners
• The three choices when your loved one can't/won't meet your needs
Where to find Liz:
Instagram hhttps://abetterlifetherapy.com/
Love Lessons 365 Program:https://lovelessons.mykajabi.com/
Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://amzn.to/2ywtP6b
The Four Noble Truths of Love by Susan Piver: https://amzn.to/34ha7HF
Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://amzn.to/2JLRIsN
The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/about/research/couples/
The Healthy Communication Workshop starts April 9th
Tools for all relationships https://thelovedrive.com/healthycommunication
Discounted coaching for April
20% off all coaching sessions booked in April: https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Now more than ever, we're being asked to be alone. We're being asked to spend time indoors and away from our loved ones. We've never been in this position before. Which is why it's more important than ever to take this opportunity to care for ourselves like never before.
Heather Pennell is a guide, facilitator, and healer. And she knows a thing or two about being alone. We go deep on how to lean into love, how to be peaceful and happy in our solitude, and how to set ourselves up for that eventual relationship.
This episode isn't just for the single folks. It's for everyone who wants to develop a better relationship with themselves. This work will pay dividends for the rest of your life, and in all your relationships.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How being of service can get you out of your head and into your heart
• How to be in right relationship with your emotions
• The importance of getting your needs met outside of your primary romantic relationship.
Where to find Heather:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heyheatherobscura
Resources:
Free Inner Child Meditation program: https://risingwoman.com/healing-your-inner-child-meditation/
Rising Woman's Heal Your Relationships Program: https://risingwoman.com/heal-your-relationships/
Michael A. Singer's Book: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The Healthy Communication Workshop starts April 9th
Tools for all relationships https://thelovedrive.com/healthycommunication
Discounted coaching for April
20% off all coaching sessions booked in April: https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
Join The Lovebird Club
A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls.
For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub
Learn more about The Love Drive
Website https://thelovedrive.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive
Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter
Everyone needs a break, even you. Rest is crucial to growth. If you're working overtime trying to fix, solve, or improve a situation in your life, sometimes a break is what's needed.
Take a step back, put the sword down, and relax. Let time do what it needs to do and relax into the present moment.
And while you do that, I'll join you. The Love Drive is taking March off from publishing podcasts. I'll continue to write and publish micro-blogs on Instagram and on my newsletter. Consider joining me there until April.
And don't worry, I have some incredible conversations that I'm excited to release in April. Happy March, lovebird.
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Welcome to the most intimate episode of the podcast, yet. Sophie Josephina is a conscious sex and intimacy coach and we go deep on the paradox of masculine and feminine energies and their roles in modern relationships.
From how men can own their feminine side while still holding space for their partners, to how women can put their inner-dude aside and fully surrender to the strong masculine. You won't want to miss this.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to hold space for difficult emotions (including men crying)
• How to be in service while staying in your masculine power
• How women can learn to relax into their feminine while staying safe
Where to find Sophie:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sophie.josephina/
The Intro to Great Sex Workshop
Inviting Intimacy Into Your Bedroom https://thelovedrive.com/greatsex
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Let's create an environment for an orgasm to come and go as it pleases, rather than being hyper-focused on the orgasm itself. Pleasure and connection is the main goal of lovemaking, not orgasm. Orgasm is a by-product of desire, arousal, safety, intimacy, and pleasure.
The Intro to Great Sex Workshop - Invite Intimacy into Your Bedroom
125 USD https://thelovedrive.com/greatsex
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Here it is, folks. The exact way to ask for anything, including sex. Today, I'm breaking down the three-part invite that Dr. Ali Ash and Charlie Glickman taught me. Use this framework everywhere, every time to ask for anything. From a date to sex, to a promotion, this three-part invitation goes with me everywhere I do. I use it daily, and you should too.
The Intro to Great Sex Workshop - Invite Intimacy into Your Bedroom
125 USD https://thelovedrive.com/greatsex
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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You are 100% responsible for your sexual health. And when you care for your own, you care for your partner's sexual health as well.
If you can't talk about sexual health, you shouldn't be having sex. But don't worry. Talking about it doesn't have to be so scary, especially when you have the exact script to use.
Oh, and let's not forget that being confident talking about sex is a huge turn on.
The Intro to Great Sex Workshop - Invite Intimacy into Your Bedroom
125 USD https://thelovedrive.com/greatsex
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Great sex takes work; we rarely stumble across it. Great sex requires the self-awareness to know what we want, the courage to ask for it, and the trust to open up to someone to have it with.
Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist, a mother, a wife, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality & Create the Relationships You Want. We go deep on what it takes to have great sex with yourself, and with others.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The importance of checking in with your desires and needs
• How sex is hard to talk about but essential for a great sex life
• The importance of cultivating curiosity in your long-term relationships
Where to find Alexandra:
Website http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/
Taking Sexy Back https://amzn.to/2uBh0Ws
Resources and Links
Desires, fears, and boundaries https://www.instagram.com/tv/B4z1TCgBNdo/
The Intro to Great Sex Workshop
Inviting Intimacy Into Your Bedroom. This two-part workshop starts February 6th and will be available as a recording after https://thelovedrive.com/greatsex
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You must learn to advocate for your needs. Because if you don't, who will?
This is your work and no one else's. You are 100% responsible for your happiness and fulfillment in life.
No one.
Part one of getting your needs met is to identify what they are. Then to find ways of getting them met, and finally to dare to ask for them to be met.
It's time to get to work. You can do it.
Magic Moon - Create The Love Life of Your Dreams
February 23rd from 13h to 17h in Montreal, Quebec
https://www.facebook.com/events/489324105325725/
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
125 USD https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Letting go doesn't mean giving up; it means releasing control over what you have no control over, which is just about everything.
Your actions and your reactions are the two main factors that you have control over. Everything else is an illusion.
Can you give others space and freedom to show up for you in a way that makes sense for them?
Can you do what you need to do to take care of yourself and let others take care of themselves?
Let it go. All of it. Letting go of control is one of the most liberating actions you can do for yourself.
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
125 USD https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Can you let go of control? Can you let go of controlling love, the outcome of your relationship, and ultimately, life? What happens when you let love do what it needs to do?
Today, we explore those answers.
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
125 USD until January 9th. https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Congrats. You did it. You made a series of changes this year that have led to more love. You are in the race, and that race is a marathon. You are in it for the long run. The work of cultivating love and building a love life you can be proud of does not happen overnight. It happens one day at a time. Little by little. Keep it up and let's keep doing the work into 2020.
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
95 USD until December 31st. https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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What does it mean to have your needs met? Can you get clear on what those needs are, and then find language to communicate those needs in a way that is easy for people to meet? Can you dumb your needs down a bit so that folks can succeed at meeting them? That's what we're exploring today. Make your needs easy to meet.
What happens when the values you hold dear don't line up with those of your partner? How do you leave a loving relationship, knowing that you deserve more? How do you both honor your relationship, and celebrate it, while honoring yourself and leave it?
Today, we explore those answers.
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
95 USD until December 31st. https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
Learn more about The Love Drive
Website https://thelovedrive.com/
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Traditional relationships don't work for everyone so people look for alternatives and non-monogamy is one of those alternatives.
Janel Marie Vitale is a sex and relationship coach, and together, we explore the different forms of non-monogamy, how to deal with the inevitable jealousy, and how to begin talking about opening up your monogamous relationship.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The differences between non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory
• What's underneath jealousy and how to invite it in
• Why there's a rise in interest for alternative relationship models
Where to find Janel Marie Vitale
:
Website http://lovewithjanel.com
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lovewithjanel
Resources and Links
More Than Two book https://amzn.to/2M0uiBA
Opening Up book https://amzn.to/2PKjRTC
The Ethical Slut book https://amzn.to/2Ekl4vT
Compersion is the Opposite of Jealous podcast https://thelovedrive.com/compersion-is-the-opposite-of-jealousy/
Understanding Female Infidelity podcast https://thelovedrive.com/understanding-female-infidelity/
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
Learn more about The Love Drive
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Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive
Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter
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Relationships take work. I'm wary of anyone who claims otherwise. Some of that work happens in a relationship, and some happens before the relationship even gets off the ground.
Brandon G. Alexander is the founder of New Age gents, and he's showing men how to do it differently. We examine the power of being a whole being even when we're single, the importance of dating with intention, and how our personal development can affect our future relationships.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The importance of letting people off the hook
• How showing up whole can reduce your anxiety in early-stage dating
• The power of doing the work
Where to find Brandon:
Website http://newagegents.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/newagegents/
Resources and Links
Gentlemen by choice gear
https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/NewAgeGents
The Intro to Modern Dating Workshop
65 USD until December 15th. Enrollment ends Dec 31st. https://thelovedrive.com/moderndating
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What happens when the values you hold dear don't line up with those of your partner? How do you leave a loving relationship, knowing that you deserve more? How do you both honor your relationship, and celebrate it, while honoring yourself and leave it?
Today, we explore those answers.
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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Grieving a relationship takes time. And it's OK to start dating when you're still thinking about your ex. And you need to be upfront about it. How can you trust that the next relationship will be as good or better than the last? How do you stop comparing your new partner to your old partner?
Today, we explore those answers.
To book a coaching call
https://thelovedrive.com/coaching
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What's so scary about a man being vulnerable? How can we learn to accept, welcome, and celebrate men who show us their sadness, their pain, and their soft side? What can women do to let men know that it's safe to put their guards down and open up?
Shana James is a coach and host of the Man Alive podcast. She works with men on a daily basis, challenging their conception of what it means to be a man. Together, we explore the softer side of men and the implications that can have on relationships.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to set a container to hold a man's vulnerability
• What men can do to begin opening up to their partner in a safe way
• The importance of regular heart to heart check-ins and how to do them
Where to find Shana James:
Website https://shanajamescoaching.com/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/truesuccessformen/
Resources and Links
The Man Alive podcast https://shanajamescoaching.com/man-alive-podcast
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Your relationship needs intimacy, passion, and commitment if you want it to stand the test of time. Not only that, you need enough of these three qualities to help you get through the rough or dull parts. And lastly, you need realistic expectations of what a relationship can realistically provide.
Dr. Robert Sternberg is a professor of Human Development at Cornell University, the author of The New Psychology of love, and has been writing on the subject of love for over 30 years.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The triangular theory of love (intimacy, passion, and commitment)
• The importance of defining what loves means to you
• How putting the other first can lead to long term relationship satisfaction
Where to find Dr. Robert Sternberg:
Website https://lovemultiverse.com/
Resources and Links
The triangular theory of love http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love
The New Psychology of Love by Dr. Robert Sternberg and Dr. Karen Sternberg https://amzn.to/34Q8gZd
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Kindness matters when it comes to life, relationships, and how we speak to ourselves. Like Roxan says, " anything else ain't shit" and I agree.
Roxan McDonald is a writer, teacher, and creator behind the spiritual_af Instagram account and today we talk about the importance of kindness in all areas of our life.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The importance of passion, safety, and kindness to founding great relationships
• How to use attraction to cultivate all sorts of relationships
• The concept that you are loveable, no matter what
Where to find Roxan McDonald:
Website https://www.roxanmcdonald.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritual_af/
Spiritual AF... or Whatever podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/spiritual-af-or-whatever/id1478665758
Resources and Links
Eat to Love book by Jenna Hollenstein book https://amzn.to/36fpYqs
Jenna Hollenstein on The Love Drive Podcast https://thelovedrive.com/relational-self-awareness/
Learn more about The Love Drive
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Change is incredibly hard. There's no doubt about it. And yet, the biggest obstacle to change is often fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, and fear of making the wrong decision. What if that fear didn't exist? What then? What crazy life could you dream up, and then make happen? Would you still be in your current job and in your current relationship? Maybe.
Dr. Jeremy Goldberg is a recovering scientist, lover of life, and empowers folks to change their life daily. We explore how to overcome our limiting beliefs and we go deep on how to win at the game of life. We drop the secret cheat codes to succeeding at life and you don' want to miss it. It could quite possibly change your life.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The secret to winning at the game of life
• How death is the biggest motivator to getting anything done
• How to win at comparing yourself to others
Where to find Dr. Jeremy Goldberg:
Website https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs
Resources and Links
Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexanda Solomon book https://amzn.to/36fpYqs
Dr. Alexandra Solomon on The Love Drive Podcast https://thelovedrive.com/relational-self-awareness/
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If you haven't heard part 1, I strongly recommend you start there.
One of my former clients shares what prompted her to reach out to me, what the session felt like from beginning to end, and what lasting effects she experienced from receiving loving touch and attention from me.
We explore the importance of slowing (everything) down, what giving loving touch looks (and feels) like, and why it's crucial to be curious about your partner's sexuality.
You don't want to miss this one.
Resources
Aphrodite's Daughters: Women's Sexual Stories and the Journey of the Soul by Jalaja Bonheim
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I'm a former erotic masseur. I don't talk about that part of my life very often, but when I do, I record a whole podcast episode on it. Find out what it was like providing erotic massage to women in San Francisco. I answer every question you might have about the topic. From what it costs, to how I found my clients, and what brought me to start that practice in the first place. You're not going to want to miss this one.
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Hey, lovebirds. It's been a while since I've shared with you what's happening for me. There's been a lot of growth for me in the last two years (and especially in the last 6 weeks) and wanted to take this opportunity to share some of it with you. I'm also taking this time to talk about how The Love Drive came to be, what kind of work I'm currently doing, and where The Love Drive is headed.
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Communication is the foundation of healthy, fulfilling, and loving relationships.
How do you deal with a partner who is uncommunicative? At what point do you accept that you have different needs when it comes to communication? And how much are you willing to sacrifice to keep the good parts of your relationship?
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How do you navigate moving 3,000 miles away from your high school sweetheart? Do you promise to keep in touch every day? Or do you trust that if you're meant to be together, nothing can keep you apart?
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Our greatest fear is that we'll end up alone. Either our partner will leave us, or we'll never find someone to grow old with.
What if we let go of that idea? What if we learned to live in the present moment, with no expectation that the love we have will be forever? What if we stopped looking for the perfect partner?
What then?
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Online dating can suck. Especially when you're using it to get an ego boost, or because you're bored. And especially when the folks on the other end of the screen are doing the exact same thing.
No wonder it's hard to connect with people in a meaningful way.
So if looking for the lover of your life online is depressing, what else can you do? What did folks do before dating apps?
Let's explore just that.
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How can we stay present when we're waiting for the other shoe to drop?
What about when we're terrified of losing the partner we love so much?
How can we feel gratitude for the present moment and live in the here and now?
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How can we stay present when we're waiting for the other shoe to drop?
What about when we're terrified of losing the partner we love so much?
How can we feel gratitude for the present moment and live in the here and now?
Welcome to Free Love Advice
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How do you tell the new person you're dating that you're going to die much sooner than you'd planned? What are the effects of long-term cancer treatment on your sex life? How can one remain grateful and enjoy living life knowing that you might only have a few years left to live?
That's what we're exploring today on The Love Drive.
Resources and Links
There Is No Good Card for This book by Dr. Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell: https://amzn.to/325AbD2
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It can be incredibly vulnerable to receive, especially if you've been a giver or an over-giver your whole life. To receive means believing yourself to be worthy of attention, respect, care, compassion, and love. Intellectually you might believe this, but do you feel it in your body?
Janne Robinson is an author, poet, friend, and a woman of distinction and we talk about the power of receiving. We dive into what blocks us from receiving the gifts this world and it's people have to offer us. To give and to receive means being available to ourselves which is some of the most challenging work we'll have to do in this lifetime.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The power of receiving as an act of giving
• The importance of compassion and empathy when it comes to seeing people for who they are and not their actions
• How to receive love, vulnerability, and openness
Where to find Janne:
Website https://www.jannerobinson.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jannerobinson/
Resources and Links
This Is For The Women Who Don't Give a Fuck book https://amzn.to/2KGpNfk
I am a Woman of Distinction poem https://www.jannerobinson.com/pages/i-am-a-woman-of-distinction
Rea-Ann Wood-Schatz from Integrity Seminars https://integrityseminars.com
Gay Hendricks and The Big Leap https://hendricks.com/
The Big Leap book https://amzn.to/2z4Vcl0
Brenda St Louise is a Certified Money Coach https://www.brendastlouis.com/
Meet Prem, the healer from Crete https://www.facebook.com/healthyself.prem/
Attached, the book on Attachment Theory by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller https://amzn.to/2HeT5iP
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Pleasure is fundamental to happiness, productivity, and health. And in this hyper-productive world, we're likely to put pleasure on the back burner as we strive to get more shit done.
Euphemia Russell is a pleasure educator, and they believe that it's best to do less, better. I agree. Let's focus more on cultivating pleasure within ourselves (and with others) and less on being productive (and oh so busy!)
They've dedicated their life to resourcing people with practical pleasure and embodiment tools through coaching, writing, and facilitation. And they were a delight to connect with on the topics of pleasure, passion, and the power of slow sex.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The role of the central nervous system in pleasure activation
• How to release stress in the body using simple daily pleasure practices
• The power of slow sex and the importance of pleasure mapping
Where to find Euphemia:
I Wish You Knew Website https://www.iwishyouknew.net/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sex.iwishyouknew
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sex.iwishyouknew/
Resources and Links
The Power of Slow Sex Online Workshop https://www.iwishyouknew.net/thepowerofslowsex
Dan Savage's Hump Film Fest https://humpfilmfest.com/
Trauma Resources Blog Post https://www.iwishyouknew.net/traumaresources
Spoon Theory Explained https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory
Make Love Not Porn (not discussed in the podcast but an excellent resource for real sex videos) https://www.makelovenotporn.com/
Euphemia's Newsletter https://www.iwishyouknew.net/contact
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Emotional Availability Post https://www.instagram.com/p/BzypVxthIXx
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It's nearly impossible to have deeply connected relationships without vulnerability. And unfortunately, we weren't taught how to be vulnerable in school, or why it's important to stay open in your partnership. And, it's even harder for men to be vulnerable because the messaging has taught us that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness, when in fact, it's a relationship strength.
Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, and the host of The Smart Couple Podcast, and is actively doing the work to help folks have healthier and more connected relationships.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The importance of vulnerability and courage in your relationship
• What it means to be emotionally available and how to move towards it
• How relationships will highlight your areas of development and your zones of discomfort
Where to find Jayson Gaddis:
The Relationship School https://relationshipschool.com/
The Smart Couple Podcast https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/
Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/therelationshipschool
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therelationshipschool/
Resources and Links
Raising Boys to be Better Men with Rachel Guise https://thelovedrive.com/raising-boys-to-be-better-men-with-rachel-giese/
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Loneliness is a systemic issue, and a huge problem in the United States (and probably around the world). It's hard making friends as an adult, and lots of folks are unsatisfied with their adult friendships. So what are we to do?
Jillian Richardson is the creator of The Joy List NYC and the author of Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change The World and today we're talking about how to make friends as an adult living in a society that it isn't set up for connection and community.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How connection is the best way to heal trauma
• Skills required to crate connection and make new friends
• The importance of creating the spaces you want to see in the world
Where to find Jillian Richardson:
Website https://www.thatjillian.com/
Subscribe to The Joy List https://joylist.nyc/
The Book Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change The World
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/joylistnyc
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thatjillian/
Resources and Links
Adult Children of Alcoholics https://adultchildren.org/
Woman Within https://womanwithin.org/
The Drama of The Gifted Child by Alice Miller https://amzn.to/2K2Paru
Take the ACE (Average Childhood Experiences) and Resilience Test https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/
Medi Club http://www.thebigquiet.com/medi-club
ISTA https://www.schooloftemplearts.org/
Santropol Roulant https://santropolroulant.org/en/
Friendtimacy by Shasta Nelson https://amzn.to/2YubgLr
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If you aren't listening to the How To Human Podcast with Sam Lamott, here's your chance. I'm airing the episode we recorded together in November of 2018. Sam interviewed me about my creative process, the origin story of The Love Drive, and how I came to do the work I do today.
We also get real and raw, because that's how Sam is, about our sexual shame, the importance of reducing that shame and how to love when we haven't been shown how. Don't miss this episode; Sam is a skilled interviewer, a phenomenal podcast producer/editor, and a brilliant human.
Where to find Sam Lamott and the How To Human Podcast:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hellohumans.co/
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Twitter: https://twitter.com/HelloHumans_co
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Today we're talking about love and depression. How can we love when we're struggling with a mental health issue? How can we support those we love when they're fighting depression?
Joelle Pouliot is a journalist, works for a mental health organization in Montreal, and has struggled with the effects of depression on her ability to love.
Warning: This episode is not a substitute for therapy, psychotherapy, or a doctor's visit. Neither of us is trained in psychiatry. This is a conversation between a love coach and someone who has struggled with depression and mental health and should not be used to diagnose or treat any mental health disorders.
For immediate assistance, please call 911.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• Self-care for the person struggling with depression
• How to love someone with a mental health issue
• The importance of acknowledging your feelings of depression, and when to say 'enough'
Where to find Joëlle Pouliot:
Website https://joellepouliot.com/
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Asking for your needs to me bet can be scary because the risk is that your partner will say no. And sometimes, it's easier to stay in a relationship that sort of meets your needs than to risk not being in one at all because asking for exactly what you want leads to the end of the relationships. And that's the risk. But the payoff is that you might just get everything you ask for if you can come up with the courage to ask for it.
This episode is a follow-up episode to last weeks conversation about how challenging early-stage dating can be.
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Dating is hard. How are we supposed to show interest, but not too much? Is it best to be pursued or to be the pursuer? What if you don't want to date online? Are you supposed to talk to strangers on the street?!
Early-stage dating can be awkward, scary, and downright unpleasant. It can also be exciting, sweet, and fun. Knowing how to navigate the landscape will give you the upper hand. I like to say that I don't play games because I don't know the rules, but that's not entirely true. I know some rules, and I got some tips.
Join us as we try to stay sane and optimistic in a world that is anything but.
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Whether we're telling boys to "man up" or warned that "crying is for girls" young men are subjected to damaging messages about manliness: they must muzzle their emotions and never show weakness, dominate girls, and compete with one another. And yet we wonder why many men are emotionally unavailable.
Rachel Giese is a journalist and author of Boys: What It Means To Become A Man. Her new book examines the myths of masculinity and the challenges facing boys today and how we might consider doing it differently.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The effects of toxic masculinity on boyhood development
• The dangers of raising boys in the 'man box'
• How we can expand our current definition of courage and strength to include vulnerability, authenticity, and transparency when it comes to emotions.
Where to find Rachel Giese:
Website http://www.rachel-giese.com/
Twitter https://twitter.com/rachelagiese
Mentioned on the podcast:
Rachel's book, Boys https://amzn.to/2Xx2VpQ
WizeGuys https://www.centreforsexuality.ca/programs-workshops/wiseguyz/
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The data is wrong. Forever we've been told that men are more sexually promiscuous and have a need to 'sow their oats' while women are more fulfilled in long-term monogamous relationships because they value love, stability, and emotional connection more than men. Wrong. The data suggests that women are more sexually adventurous, promiscuous, and cheat more than men but because that goes against the popular narrative, we've been dismissing it.
Dr. Wednesday Martin is an author, cultural critic, feminist, and her new book is all about female sexuality and female infidelity and it's called Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free. We debunk some pretty big myths and explore why we've been thinking about women's sexuality all wrong.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• Why women struggle more maintaining sexual desire in long-term monogamous relationships than men
• What to do when you no longer feel desirous of sex with your male partner
• How come women are more sexually adventurous and cheat more than we think they do
Where to find Dr. Wednesday Martin:
Website http://wednesdaymartin.com/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/wednesdaymartinphd/
Mentioned on the podcast:
Wednesday's book, Untrue https://amzn.to/2RizMsX
Christopher Ryan and Cecilda Jetha's book, Sex at Dawn https://amzn.to/2KXissf
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From clothing to flirting, from our fascination with youth and innocence to the orgasm gap, every aspect of women's lives is dictated by their status as sex objects, and it's a problem.
Journalist, columnist, actress, and now author Lili Boisvert wrote a book on how women are set up to fail at sex, the problem with over-sexualizing women and under-sexualizing men, and how we can start to reverse this dangerous dynamic.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The dangers of women having a passive role in courtship, sex, and life
• Why the patriarchy insists that we do not sexualize men like we do women
• How we can begin to change the dynamics at play for more bedroom and worldwide equality
Where to find Lili Boisvert:
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lili.boisvert
Facebook page for Les Brutes https://www.facebook.com/lesbrutestelequebec
Mentioned on the podcast:
Lili's book, Screwed: How Women Are Set Up to Fail at Sex https://amzn.to/2F2ggfj
Dr. Ian Kener's book, She Comes First https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D
The movie, The Graduate https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0061722/
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Jealousy can be one of the most frustrating emotions that you'll face in your relationship. It can drive you to insanity. But what if you'd found a way to turn that jealousy upside down; what if you could derive pleasure out of situations that used to drive you mad?
Blogger, researcher, and author Marie-Claude L'Archer wrote the book on compersion, a relatively new term in the polyamorous community that means just that. Compersion is the act of deriving pleasure from seeing your partner happy with another person. And guess what? It's not just for polyamorous folks. You can start accessing this emotion in your monogamous couple today, and we'll show you how.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to derive pleasure from seeing your partner happy with another person
• How getting your needs met will make everything better for everyone
• Dealing with insecurity in your relationship
• Ways to get your needs met through various avenues lead to happier relationships
Where to find Marie Claude L'Archer:
Website https://hypatiafromspace.com/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/blogpolyamour/
Mentioned on the podcast:
Marie Claude's book, Compersion: Polyamory Without Jealousy https://amzn.to/2KqAD9E
Marianne Williamson's' book, A Return to Love https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D
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Remember the story of my first sex party? There were two main characters in that story; the woman with the red fishnet dress, and the one with curly hair in the black dress.
I thought it might be fun to interview the woman in the little black dress and get her side of the story. From meeting up in line at the bathroom, to the awkwardness around introducing me to her fiancé, she shares what was going through her mind that night.
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Relationships are hard, messy, and confusing, and they will never stabilize. Bummer, but there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Susan Piver is a meditation instructor, best-selling author and she shows us how to meet that instability with your partner and how to turn it into love.
Susan took The Four Noble Truth, a Buddhist concept, and applied them to love and relationships. She's here to share how it made a large impact on her relationship and how you can start using these tools right away.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The importance of cultivating inner kindness towards yourself and your partner
• What to do when you realize that your relationship will never stabilize
• How to create a safe and welcoming container for your partner
• The Enneagram and how to use it to understand how your partner communicates
Where to find Susan Piver:
Website https://susanpiver.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/susan.piver/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/piversusan/
Mentioned on the podcast:
Susan Piver's book, The Four Noble Truths of Love https://amzn.to/2YGiGHE
Sam Harris' book, Lying https://amzn.to/2VOKgWw
Marianne Williamson's' book, A Return to Love https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D
The Wisdom of the Enneagram https://amzn.to/2YCKLjh
The Open Heart Project https://susanpiver.com/open-heart-project/
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Welcome to Storytime, a new segment from The Love Drive. Today, the story of both my first and second sex parties: how terrified I was at both, why you should check your lube to make sure it's not hand sanitizer, and the importance of friends who can support you through new experiences. Enjoy; I sure did.
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Julia is in love with a much older man. They met when she was in her early twenties and they never expected it to last this long. Julia has dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl, and she's highly motivated to because of how successful her parent's marriage was. The only issue is, her partner refuses to get married. How can they navigate something that is a deal breaker for each other, while also desperately wanting to stay together?
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This is part 2 of Making Space For Someone New. If you didn't listen to last weeks episode, I recommend you do to get the full story. On today's episode, Samantha and I discuss ways for her to meet new people, to expand her dating pool, and what would happen if she posted pictures of herself with her wheelchair on dating sites. And then, I check back in with Samantha, some three months later to get up to speed on her love life.
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Samantha is in love with a man who in many ways meets her needs. But in a few very fundamental ways, he does not. Samantha struggles with meeting new people, made more challenging by the fact that she has a visible disability. Her needing to use a wheelchair makes it harder for her to meet new people. Does she stay with a person who partially meets her needs, or jumps into the dating scene knowing that it's harder with folks with disabilities?
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Erica met her then boyfriend at the age of 19 years old. She walked into Chemistry 101 and was immediately smitten by the tall, quiet, hunk of a man. She was also drawn to a very specific part of his anatomy that was quite hard to miss.
Erica and I talk about her on again off again relationship with Eric (that's right. Meet Erica and Eric) and the particular way in which they slowly opened up their relationship to include other partners. Welcome to Real Love Stories, a new segment from The Love Drive Podcast.
If you have a Real Love Story of your own, send me a message and tell me a little about it. I might pick it for my next recording: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/
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We can't flirt and seduce like we use to. The landscape is changing and what we used to get away with no longer works. It's time to step up our seduction game, but how are we supposed to know what works when different people react to different approaches.
Thank goodness for people like Dr. Alison Ash. She's a sex and intimacy coach, educator, and the founder of TurnON.love. She's the host of a fantastic workshop called Sleaze-Free Seduction Skills and she's here to show us how sexy seduction can be when it's done with respect and honesty. Let's dive in.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• The Three-Part Invite to minimize your risk of getting it wrong
• How The Almost Kiss takes the guesswork out of the first kiss
• What you can do to make talking about consent sexy
• Real life examples of sleaze-free seduction you can start using right away
Where to find Dr. Alison Ash:
Website http://www.turnon.love/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/turnon.love/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/turnon.love/
Mentioned on the podcast:
A list of Alison's workshops http://www.turnon.love/upcoming
The Perfect Pickup Line blog post https://thelovedrive.com/the-perfect-pickup-line/
What Women Wished You Knew About Oral Sex https://thelovedrive.com/what-women-wished-you-knew-about-oral-sex/
Learn more about The Love Drive
Website https://thelovedrive.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive
Become a Contributing Lovebird
Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/
What would it look like if we approached food, eating, and how we view our bodies not with restriction, fear, and shame, but rather with love and compassion? Lucky for us, someone can show us how. Jenna Hollenstein, MS, RDN, CDN is a non-diet dietitian, meditation teacher, and the author of the book: Eat to Love - A Mindful Guide to Transforming Your Relationship with Food, Body, and Life.
I don't normally pre-order books but when I saw this one being promoted by Susan Piver on Facebook, I jumped.
I wasn't disappointed, and you won't be either by this conversation. Jenna is warm, knowledgable, and a delight to speak with about disordered eating, the dangers of 'magical eating', and what we can do to cultivate compassion for ourselves and our bodies.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• What the heck is 'magical eating' and why the diet industry is hell-bent on selling it to you
• How mindful and intuitive eating can bring peace to your relationship with food and your body
• Why diets don't work and what you can do instead
• How meditation can transform your hunger and fullness awareness
Where to find Jenna Hollenstein:
Website https://www.eat2love.com
Eat to Love book: https://amzn.to/2IhfWMa
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jennahollenstein
Mentioned on the podcast:
The Body Respect book by Linda Bacon https://amzn.to/2UFZ3Bd
Michael Carroll https://www.shambhala.com/authors/a-f/michael-carroll.html
Gail Dines | Anti-Pornography Activist, Lecturer, Author, and Professor http://gaildines.com/
Learn more about The Love Drive
Website https://thelovedrive.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive
Become a Contributing Lovebird
Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/
Emilie Guimond Bélanger is a sex coach, founder of the Institute of Desire in Montreal, and a teacher of Orgasmic Meditation. She grew up having painful intercourse and got fed up with the lack of pleasurable sensation. At one point, decided to do something about it.
She discovered Orgasmic Meditation, learned from some of the best teachers, and now makes it her life's work to help women reconnect them to the pleasure that sex can bring.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• What the heck is Orgasmic Meditation and how can it help with pleasure
• A step-by-step description of the practice
• Resources on finding a partner and ways to approach the conversation
• What non-sexual benefits it can bring to your life
Where to find Emilie Guimond-Bélanger:
Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/ommontreal
Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/159929948007031
Website https://www.institutdudesir.ca/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/silvykhoucasian
Mentioned on the podcast:
The Institute of OM https://instituteofom.com/
Lynne Forest https://www.lynneforrest.com/
Montreal OM Meetup Group https://www.meetup.com/OM-Montreal/
The 38 Orgasmic Meditation Meetup Groups https://www.meetup.com/topics/orgasmic-meditation/
Learn more about The Love Drive
Website https://thelovedrive.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive
Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/thelovedriveshow
Coco McKenzi is an inspirational speaker, sexual assault survivor, and transformational coach who has helped hundreds of women over the last 3 years live their most radiant lives after sexual abuse. When Coco was assaulted, she desperately tried to find resources that could help her make sense of what had happened, and how to move forward.
Overwhelmed with resources that were hard to understand, she set out to create the one guide that was easy to read and could help survivors begin the road to recovery as quickly as possible. Her purpose isn't only to help survivors recover but to help them create true power and extraordinary bliss post-sexual abuse.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to begin recovering from sexual assault
• The importance of telling someone, and of reporting your assault
• Ways to begin feeling into your body again
• Why the healing journey is worth it
Where to find Coco McKenzi:
Website | http://www.cocomckenzi.com/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/cocomckenzi
Mentioned on the podcast:
Coco's free book "Fresh" - The Starting Point Post Sexual Abuse https://coco-mckenzi.mykajabi.com/opt-in
Emily Nagoski's blog post What to do When Someone Tells you They Were Assaulted
International Council of Thirteen Indigenous Grandmothers http://www.grandmotherscouncil.org/
BioDynamic Breathwork and Trauma Release Therapy https://www.biodynamicbreath.com/
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
The woman I'm speaking to today doesn't like the way her partner touches her, nor does she like to give the kind of touch that he wants. Are they doomed to have a mismatch in what they want, or is there a way to invite curiosity into the bedroom?
Together, we explore how bringing curiosity, compassion, and respect to your conversation about what you need in bed can lead to greater connection and closeness with your partner.
If you'd like your very own free love advice, head over to thelovedrive.com/freeloveadvice or email me at shaun@thelovedrive to find out how I can help.
Silvy Khoucasian is a relationship coach with a passion for helping individuals and couples have healthier relationships with themselves and others. She also creates a ton of beautiful content on Instagram, a lot of it centering on boundaries and attachment styles. Today, we deep dive on boundaries - what they are, how to set them, and what to do when they're being violated.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• What the heck boundaries are and the four types of boundary violations
• The difference in how men and women process and talk about emotional reactions
• The importance of repairing after a boundary violation has taken place, and how to do
• How to bring safety and respect to a conversation about boundaries
Where to find Silvy Khoucasian:
Website | http://www.silvykhoucasian.com
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/silvykhoucasian
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/SilvyKhoucasian
Mentioned on the podcast:
Silvy's Boundaries Program https://bryanreeves.com/boundaries-silvy/
Harriet Lerner's book - Why Won't You Apologize? https://amzn.to/2XRCBnJ
Brene Brown's book - Rising Strong https://amzn.to/2XRCBnJ
Rokelle Lerner's book - Living in The Comfort Zone: The Gift of Boundaries in Relationship https://amzn.to/2T09ECe
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
Galen Erickson is a men's relationship coach and facilitates workshops and men's circles in Seattle, WA. We discuss what it means to be a man in today's world, how traditional toxic masculinity and a more sensitive, heart-centric version of masculinity are at odds with each other, and what men can do to learn how to connect to their emotions more fully.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How men can learn to take more risks
• The differing views on consent between men and women
• The importance of male vulnerability in forming healthy relationships
• Alternatives to traditional male sexuality
Where to find Galen Erickson:
Website | http://www.galenerickson.com
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/passionalchemist/
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/erickson.galen
Mentioned on the podcast:
Mantak Chia's book - The Multi-Orgasmic Man: https://amzn.to/2TfgpFb
Brene Brown on Shame and Vulnerability: https://brenebrown.com/
Brene Brown's book - Daring Greatly: https://amzn.to/2EMzKVn
Katherine Woodward Thomas's book - Conscious Uncoupling: https://amzn.to/2tQhHHy
Marnia Robinson's books - Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: https://amzn.to/2XAjjTy
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a love nerd, there's no denying it. She's dedicated her life to the pursuit of learning about love and teaching those around her how to love. She's a clinical psychologist, a professor who teaches the Marriage 101 class at Northwestern University, the author of my new favorite book, Loving Bravely, and so much more.
This is a lovely and sincere conversation about vulnerability, boundaries, relational self-awareness, attachment theory, and so much more.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• Why relational self-awareness is key to a healthy relationship
• That reason that even therapists need therapists
• The importance of boundaries
• Why we choose partners that trigger our old wounds
Where to find Dr. Alexandra Solomon:
Dr. Alexandra Solomon on the Web | http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/
Dr. Alexandra Solomon's book, Loving Bravely: https://amzn.to/2XgVZdk
Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon
Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon
Mentioned on the podcast:
Ester Perel's book: Mating in Captivity: https://amzn.to/2EeC99S
Sue Johnson on Emotional Focused Therapy: http://drsuejohnson.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-2/what-is-eft/
Geneen Roth's book Women, Food, and God: https://amzn.to/2Ew4Bph
Marsha Linehan, Ph.D. and Dialectical Behavior Therapy: https://behavioraltech.org/
Brene Brown on Shame and Vulnerability: https://brenebrown.com/
Imago Therapy - Getting The Love You Want: http://imagorelationships.org/
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
Is the juice worth the squeeze? Are you putting work into a relationship that is no longer serving you? Are you trying to find a way to make something work that perhaps will never work?
This episode might be for you.
If you'd like some Free Love Advice of your own, book yourself on my calendar and let's record a podcast together.
www.thelovedrive.com/freeloveadvice
This episode is for all the lovebirds who rebel against Valentine's Day. The single ones, the ones in relationships, the ones coming off massive heartbreaks, and every little love bird in between. We don't need a day to declare our love for each other, we choose to do it as much as possible and to as many people as possible.
These are real love letters, submitted by listeners of The Love Drive. I hope you enjoy.
The cover of David Bowie's 'Sorrow' is played by Paul Mars Black, a singer-songwriter from California, and he can be found here: www.paulmarsblack.com
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
Elise Carr, MA is the host of the Sacred Guidance with Stella Muse podcast and a mentor and guide who helps people find their true purpose in life. If this sounds too esoteric for you, don't let this stop you from listening to this episode. If you're struggling with the same old habits and patterns that have been holding you back this conversation is the loving kick in the pants pep talk that you need right now.
Elise is down to earth, grounded, and has a beautiful way of putting what's important into perspective. This episode is a hoot; Elise breaks it down like your dear old friend who sees through all your BS would.
In this episode, you'll learn how your old patterns, behaviors, and beliefs are holding you back, the importance of rising above your basic desire nature if you want to evolve and grow, and why acts of selfless service are some of the most powerful ways to show love to those important in your life.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to begin making real changes in your life
• The importance of finding balance in your physical body, your emotional body, and your mental body
• How to focus on what's most important in life
Where to find Elise:
Website | https://www.stellamuse.com/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/stella.muse/
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/stellamuseme
Twitter | https://twitter.com/StellaMuse_com
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
Ashley Miller, MFT is a psychotherapist and addiction specialist practicing in San Francisco, CA. She shares with us client stories, and some of her personal stories when it comes to dealing with conflict in her relationships.
When you're angry at your partner, it can take all the patience and strength in the world to take a step back from anger and learn how to lead with vulnerability instead.
In this episode, you'll learn how being vulnerable can help soothe relationship conflict, the importance of the client-therapist relationship, ways for you to repair your relationship after you've hurt your partner, and more.
Show Notes
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• Alternatives to bottling up your anger, or blowing up at your partner
• Why "never go to bed angry" can be a problematic approach to conflict resolution
• My therapists $10,000 piece of advice regarding anger
• Why you should never ghost your therapist
Where to find Ashley:
Ashley Miller on the Web | http://www.ashleymillerwellness.com/
Ashley Miller on Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/ashleymillerwellness/
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
Ivy Kwong is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Relationship Coach specializing in self-love and recovering from codependency.
Ivy shares with us how growing up in a family with unhealthy boundaries and a limited ability to express emotions led to her struggle with codependency in adulthood. Ivy is incredibly generous with her transparency on the effects of codependency in her life, and this is a heart-warming episode.
In this episode, you'll learn how to say no, how to develop strong boundaries, the difference between codependence and anti-dependence, and how to identify what your needs, wants, and desires are.
Show Notes
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How our family systems affect the way we show up in relationships
• Signs that you may be in a codependent relationship
• The steps you can take to begin recovering from co-dependency
• Self-love practices that can help you turn the focus on yourself
Where to find Ivy:
Ivy Kwong on the Web | https://www.bareivy.com/
Ivy Kwong on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/bareivy/
Ivy Kwong on Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/BareIvy
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com
We often give massage to receive, but Shai is a firm believer that you can get as much joy from giving a massage as you can from receiving one. His new best-selling book, The Joy of Giving Massage, is all about maximizing the pleasure you get from giving a great massage. Massage is no longer what you need to get through in order to get yours. It's a practice to meditate, connect with yourself, and deepen the intimacy between you and the person receiving the massage.
Shai Plonski has been practicing and teaching Thai Yoga Massage for over ten years we talk about the importance of giving, what it takes to provide a fantastic massage, and of course, we go deep on the loving benefits of touch.
Learn more about Shai and get his book:
Buy The Joy of Giving Massage here: https://amzn.to/2RQL2PO
Shai's YouTube channel with free how-to videos: https://goo.gl/PQsm78
Connect with Shai on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shaiplonski/
Learn more about Still Light Center here: www.stillightcentre.com
The Love Drive podcast is produced by Shaun Galanos with the help from Gilford Street Studios. Find out more at www.thelovedrive.com
Are you touched starved? Do you wish you could change something about your body? Are you looking for 'The One' at the expense of building intimacy with others, and yourself? Then you'll want to tune in.
Today, I bring you my favorite snippets of conversation from the top three most downloaded episodes of 2018. Solomon Krueger discusses the power of platonic touch, Meghan Tonjes talks about what it takes to love one's own body, and Dr. Jordana Jacobs shares with us how to soften our expectations of others and of ourselves in order to help us love more fully.
Learn about Solomon Krueger and his platonic touch events here: https://www.flowlandmontreal.com/
Follow Meghan Tonjes on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/tonjes
Connect with Dr. Jordana Jacobs here: https://jordanajacobsphd.com/
Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://www.thelovedrive.com
Are you dating someone who's not quite right for you? Do they satisfy your needs in one way but not in the way that's important to you? Well, I would say, "join the club". This episode is for everyone who's dating someone that can't really give them what they're looking for.
If you'd like your very own free love advice, head over to thelovedrive.com/freeloveadvice to find out how I can help.
Spooning, cuddling, massage, body-stacking, playing like a bunch of kittens, stroking in a non-sexual way, dancing with or without contact, extended eye-gazing. These are just a few of the types of platonic touch that you can experience at Cozy, a heart-centric cuddle-event hosted by Solomon Krueger in Montreal.
I've been to three of these parties and I have enjoyed each more than the last. There's an openness, a warmth, and tenderness at these parties that I've never encountered or experienced anywhere else. We talk about the power of platonic touch and why it's not more common. We discuss the importance of consent and how to ask for what you want, along with how to say no, and how to handle rejection.
This episode is warm and tender and you're going to love it.
Show Notes:
Find out about the next Cozy and other events on the Flowland website and on the Facebook page.
Learn more about Solomon and connect with him on his Facebook page.
Find out what your love language is by reading The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
Learn about the Wheel of Consent and the Four Quadrants on Betty Martin's website.
Read Charlie Glickman's blog post on Consent Accidents and Consent Violations.
A woman wants to know if she should leave her husband of 10 years. She also gets painfully vulnerable about hating her body. We talk about knowing when it's time to leave your partner, why we fall into negative self-talk, how we can best accept the body that we have even though we don't like the way it looks.
This is a tender and heart-warming conversation about being human. I think you're going to like it.'
Show Notes:
If you have a question for The Love Drive you can either sign up for Free Love Advice or leave a message with your question here: 626-539-4993
To learn more about working with Shaun in a confidential capacity, do that here.
Get Susan Piver's Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom For Modern Relationships
Watch Shaun give Free Love Advice in the back of a San Francisco taxicab.
Public speaking may be our number one conscious fear but Dr. Jordana Jacobs, a clinical psychologist in NYC, believes that the fear of dying, or death anxiety, is indeed what we're most afraid of.
What does death awareness mean exactly? Simply put, the more we're conscious of the impermanence of everything in life, the more present we can be, and the deeper we can love. We more we accept death, the more fully we can love everything around us, including your partner.
Jordana and I also touch on the concept of 'the one' and the 'perfect' partner and how the quest for finding 'the one' is a defense against finding love. We discuss Esther Perel's concept that 'fire needs air' in the context of giving your partner and your relationship space to keep the excitement high, and we touch on several ways to reduce death anxiety while increasing death awareness.
Show Notes:
Find detailed show notes about this episode here.
Find Jordana Jacobs on her website and on Instagram.
The books discussed in today's episode were:
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity Kindle Edition by Esther Perel
The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
How to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence by Michael Pollan
Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work Kindle Edition by Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal
When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi
The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker
Meghan Tonjes is (self-proclaimed)Fat, Blessed, and Thriving. She's a musician, podcaster, and YouTuber, but she's also a hilarious, witty, badass, charming, and hard-working woman that has a lot of wisdom to share when it comes to loving one's own body.
She's been producing YouTube videos for as long as YouTube has been around and knows a few things about the mean things people can say about your body, and how to rise above it.
She's sassy as hell, and as big a flirt as I am. I loved recording this episode with her, and I think you'll love it too.
What you'll learn (or why you should care): • Learning to love your body and how to do it
• How being fat has been the best thing to happen to Meghan (and why)
• How to deal with internet trolls and haters (online and offline)
• Using The Brunch Standard to figure out if you should have sex with someone
Notes and Resources Find Meghan Tonjes on her website, Instagram, and YouTube.
Meghan just released an exceptional video about her grandmother. Do yourself a favor, watch it.
Meghan was invited to go on Ellen. I'm uber jealous and super happy for her (being a guest on Ellen is a dream of mine).
Meghan has so many podcasts! Here are two of them!
- Adventures in Roommating
- What The Sweet Fuck
Curious about The Brunch Standard? Read about it here.
This show is produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
I spoke with a woman that has been seeing both men for over a year without either of them knowing anything about the other. She wanted help figuring out who she should choose. No pressure.
Then I spoke with a man trying to forgive his ex for cheating on him, and then another conversation with a young woman who is stuck in an abusive relationship.
All of this on my birthday. Thank you, everyone!
Show Notes:
Find detailed show notes about this episode here.
Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity is a must-read if you're dealing with infidelity in your life.
This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
It can be hard to find out about play parties (sex parties) if you're not 'in the know'. Good thing for you, Lila Donnolo is very much 'in the know'. She lives in a sex-positive intentional community in Brooklyn called Hacienda House. We discuss the ins and outs of living in such a community, how to get invited to play parties, some of the etiquette required to fully enjoy yourself, and more.
Lila is also the host Horizontal With Lila, a podcast on intimacy that is recorded lying down. Lila is warm, generous, and her voice sounds like honey. It's the most soothing thing I hear every week. You’re going to love this episode.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
• How to get invited to sex parties
• What it's like living in a clothing-optional, sex-positive, intentional community in NY
• How to be a responsible hedonist by checking in on your partner's desires, fears, boundaries, and intentions
Notes and Resources
Find detailed show notes about this episode here.
Find her on her website and on Instagram.
To find out more about Hacienda House and to get invited to their public sexy events, go here.
Learn more about Kenneth Play, co-founder of Hacienda, sex hacker, and founder of the Husband Camp course here.
This show is produced by Shaun Galanos.
Sarrah Rose is a sexual empowerment coach living in Austin, Texas. We discuss what it means to be sexually empowered, how we can best go about finding our ideal partner, and what it means to communicate honestly.
Show notes:
Find out more about The Love Drive and find detailed show notes for this episode here: www.thelovedrive.com/ep27
Find Sarrah Rose on her website and on Instagram.
Check out Sarrah's course list here.
This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
Yana Tallon-Hicks is a therapist, consent educator, and columnist living in Western Massachusets. She hosts regular consent workshop and shares with us her recent findings of what it takes to be a more ethical hookup.
You'll learn how to share your STI status, how to consider others' feelings, how to respect your and your partner's boundaries, and more. Don't miss this one, this is the sex ed we should have gotten in school.
Show notes
Get detailed show notes, videos, and a transcript of the episode here.
Find out more about The Love Drive on the website, Facebook, and Instagram.
Yana Tallon-Hicks is a couples & relationships therapist and a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world.
Find her on her website and on Instagram.
Watch her Ted Talk: Is the Porn Brain our new Sex Educator?
Find all the great Oh Joy Sex Toy comics and toy reviews on the web here.
Four stories of people needing free love advice in Washington Square Park.
One, a 67-year-old man has been celibate for 15 years and would like some companionship.
Two, a pair of high school sweethearts get ready to go off to different universities and wondering how to navigate being apart for the first time in two years.
Three, a man has a heart-bursting crush on someone and doesn’t know how to let them know.
Four, a young man wants a long-term partnership with his girlfriend but doesn’t trust her or know how to bring it up.
Show Notes
Find out more about The Love Drive on the website, Facebook, and Instagram.
Sarah Beall is one of the curators at Makelovenotporn.tv, a user-generated collection of videos of real people having real sex. This is not pornography and the videos are not performances. Make Love Not Porn believes that the sex we have in our everyday life is the hottest sex there is, and I completely agree.
We discuss what makes great sex great, how you can dip your toe into making your own real sex videos, and the beauty and freedom of releasing your sex videos online for all to see.
Show Notes
Find out more about The Love Drive on the website, Facebook, and Instagram.
Sarah Beall can be found on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MadamCuratorXO
Make Love Not Porn can be found online: https://makelovenotporn.tv/ on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/makelovenotporntv/ and on Twitter: https://twitter.com/makelovenotporn
Watch real amateur porn at Dan Savage's Hump Fest: https://humpfilmfest.com/
Who is Cindy Gallop, the founder of Make Love Not Porn? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cindy_Gallop
Charlie Glickman, Ph.D. is a sex educator, relationship coach, and co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. He shares with us his invitation template for creating a situation for people to say yes rather than cases where they have to say no. Whether you're asking for a date, sex, or a business meeting, you can use this invitation template just about anywhere.
We also discuss why some people have a hard time saying no, what it means to be sexually empowered, and take a quick peek at what it means to pleasure your prostate.
Show Notes:
You can find out more about Shaun Galanos and The Love Drive at www.thelovedrive.com
Charlie Glickman Ph.D. is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. Charlie Glickman's website is http://www.makesexeasy.com/
You can get his book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners here: https://amzn.to/2mJB9Cn
The site for the book which includes free resources on prostate pleasure can be found here: http://pspotbook.com/
The blog post How to Get Freaky Without Being Creepy can be found here: http://www.makesexeasy.com/how-to-get-freaky-without-being-creepy/
The blog post Consent Accidents and Consent Violations can be found here: http://www.makesexeasy.com/consent-accidents-consent-violations/
Charlie Glickman is on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/charlie.glickman
Betty Martin has some fantastic free resources and videos on her website. You can watch a video series on The Wheel of Consent here: https://bettymartin.org/videos/
Carey French teaches workshops and writes blog posts on Embodied Consent on here site here: https://www.embodiedconsent.com/ Lynne Forrest wrote the article The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Drama Triangle here: https://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/
This show is produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
On this episode of Free Love Advice, two shorts conversations with men about how to get over your ex when you're still in love and how to tell your parents that you love them.
Show Notes:
To find out more about The Love Drive, find me at www.thelovedrive.com
Sam Lamott is an artist, writer, and the founder of Hello Humans, a platform for storytellers who capture the truth of what it means to be human. Sam also happens to be heartbroken and shares with us exactly what he did to get out of the hole and start living his life again.
What do you do when the love of your life tells you it's over and walks out the door?
You spend a week wallowing in self-pity, eating cheesecake, and crying your heart out. Then you slowly pick yourself back up, one piece at a time.
Show Notes:
Find show notes for the episode here.
Check out Hellow Humans, it's a fantastic project and definitely worth your time.
Check out Sam's podcast, How To Human on Apple Podcast. Past guests include Brené Brown, Aparna Nancherla, and Giorgia Lupi.
This show is produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
Welcome to Free Love Advice. Today on our show, conversations with women wanting more. More out of their partners, more out of their sex life, and more out of the men they’d like to get to know better.
A conversation with a woman about a phone, specifically, one of her boyfriend's phones, which he uses to sext other women. Another with a woman about the role of sex in her life, or rather, the lack of sex in her life, and whether she’s said goodbye to it for good at the young age of 44. And a final conversation with a woman who has a crush on a guy at school, but it seems that both are too shy to do anything about it.
To find out more about The Love Drive, find me at www.thelovedrive.com
Ashley Miller is a psychotherapist In San Francisco, California who specializes in treating folks with addiction issues. Together we talk about the many different ways in which sex addiction can show up in your life, how it can negatively affect you and the people around you, and what steps you can take to start the recovery process.
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You can find Ashley Miller on her website and Facebook. She practices out of San Francisco, and can also do Skype sessions.
Sex Addicts Anonymous
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
Brené Brown’s TED Talk on Listening to Shame
Kristin Neff's Ted Talk on The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion
Pia Melody's book Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
Natalie Portman and Jason Schwartzman in Wes Anderson’s 12 min short film: Hotel Chevalier
This show is produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
How does the gender of the people developing technology affect how we use those technologies? What role does sexuality play in the modern workplace? How can we solve for the gender gap in specific industries? Julia Dyck is an interdisciplinary artist, feminist radio host, and likes to explore all aspects of our techno-world from the perspective of the women living in it.
Join us as we discuss gender and sexuality in the tech workplace, along with discussions on consent in early-stage dating, how to speak up in the presence of sexist speech in group settings, and more.
Show Notes:
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Find out more about Julia Dyck on her website.
Read Julia's article Siri is Not 'Genderless.'
Listen to Julia's radio show: The XX Files.
Stream and Buy Ghoultalk's new EP Wet Look.
Read my article on The Good Men Project: How Being Sex Positive Can be a Career Killer.
Shaun Galanos produces this show with the help from Gilford Street Studios.
Dr. Scott Jacobson is board certified Family Medicine doctor. He provides traditional medical care as well as functional medicine, a holistic approach using diet, stress reduction and herbs, including cannabis to manage chronic disease.
We apply the principles of functional medicine to the issue of sexual dysfunction in men.
We explore the various reasons why men experience a decrease in libido, how lowered libido can lead to erectile dysfunction, and how premature ejaculation fits into all this. You’ll learn what you can do today to improve your sex life, how to increase your testosterone naturally, and if hormone replacement therapy is right for you. We also dive into techniques for improving your sleep and decreasing your stress which are two critical factors when looking at improving one’s sex life.
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Book an appointment with Dr. Scott at Wishing Wellness Medical.
Find delicious healthy recipes on Dr. Scott's Instagram.
Get tips on leading a healthy life and find out more about function medicine on the Wishing Wellness Medical's Instagram.
Peep crazy cool Vegas art and yoga poses @vegasyoga.
Here are some products that I use to help me get a good nights rest:
AOR Ortho Sleep Capsules
Lavela - Lavender Oil Pills
Doctor's Best Suntheanine L-Theanine
This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
Laura Schaefer is a certified pelvic floor physical therapist in Montreal and has been helping women treat pelvic pain and regain their ability to enjoy sex again.
We talk about what a pelvic floor therapist does and why you should probably see one at some point in your life, what women can do to prevent painful intercourse before it happens, why the mighty Kegel isn’t as great as people make it out to be, and some self care tips for keeping your vulva happy and moisturized.
Show Notes:
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Book an appointment with Laura Schaefer at Cappinophysio or Accessmed.
Books that Laura recommends:
- Heal Pelvic Pain (Amy Stein)
- Women's Anatomy of Arousal (Sheri Winston)
- Headache in the Pelvis (David Wise and Rodney Anderson)
- I'll Show You Mine (Wretta Robertson)
Books that Shaun recommends:
- She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)
- Vagina: Revised and Updated (Naomi Wolf)
Don't listen to Gwyneth Paltrow: keep your coffee well away from your rectum
Find a PT in the USA: American Physical Therapy Association
Find a PT in Canada: Canadian Physical Therapy Association This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.
Frank Mondeose is a sacred sexuality coach. Together, we explore the practice of sharing our desires, fears, and boundaries with our partner. It's an incredibly beautiful practice and promotes sharing, understanding, and loving connection.
We also touch on asking for what you want, how to cultivate magic in the bedroom, and ways of deepening your connection to your partner. It's a beautiful conversation; you're going to love it.
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The post on my website: http://thelovedrive.com/the-spiritual-playboy/
The Love Drive: www.thelovedrive.com
Frank Mondeose: https://frankmondeose.com/
ISTA: https://www.schooloftemplearts.org/
Tea and Consent Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ
Baba Des Nichols: http://www.babadez.com/
Crystal Dawn: https://www.tantraforawakening.org/
Multi Orgasmic Male Book: https://amzn.to/2vm0GIT
Mantak Chia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mantak_Chia
This show is produced by Shaun Galanos.