Unreasonable: Recent Episodes
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Are you so totally over hustle culture? Same. The idea that you've just gotta keep on running faster and working harder is completely broken. Who wants to live like that? Seriously! You're already working your butt off. Plus... hustle culture comes with a heaping side of impostor syndrome and burnout. Ugh - hard pass! So what's being Unreasonable got to do with it? Well it's probably not what you think. It's not about being foolish or extreme. What it is about is turning off that unsupportive, unhelpful, counter-awesome part of your brain that tells you all the reasons why you can't or won't or shouldn't. That's right. It's time to get completely Unreasonable (without reasons) why you don't deserve exactly what you want in your life and career. Because here's the thing: it is possible to have both of those things - without hustling harder! Don't believe it? Just ask your hosts. Wait...who's hostin' this thing? Well, there's three of us, actually. Paula, Brad, and Hailey - we're kind of a package deal. We're the co-founders of BothNow.com (an online personal and business development hub) and we've taught 1000s of people just like you to live Unreasonable lives. We're not theorists. We've been where you are. And our unique systems will guide you every step of the way. Whether you're ready to take your next big life or career leap, or you just wanna add a little boost to your day-to-day - we've got the tools, tricks, and shortcuts to get you there with ease. We're gonna tackle some big topics. Everything from fear to willpower to negotiation to systematizing your business in the middle of a recession. And so much more. We just have one last question for you...are you ready to get totally Unreasonable? Hit that play button and let's get started. P.S. If you've made it this far...we've got a little gift for ya. Hit subscribe, send us a screenshot at unreasonable@bothnow.com with the subject "No More Hustle" and we'll send you our guide to Goal Setting Without the Anxiety. Yup - for free.
Take a nice deep breath. Is that the first one you've taken all day? Sometimes things get so full that we barely have any literal breathing room. What else is it time to make space for in your life, your work, your home, your mind? The post EPISODE 52andlt;br /andgt;On Creating Space & Room To Breath appeared first on Both Now.
Here's what we're not gonna do this summer: busy-ness and burnout The Summer Edition. Here's what we are gonna do: seek out those Summer Moments. The ones that make time slow down, refill your cup, and just FEEL like summer. The post Episode 51.5 – ANNOUNCING SUMMER (Available For A Limited Time) appeared first on Both Now.
Just a simple yes or no. Sounds easy enough. Let's try it: Do you want this job? Can you come to this event? Will you watch my dog? Hmm...it turns out it might not be so simple after all. How can there be so much behind those two little words? The post Episode 51 – How To Stop Regretting Saying "No" & Resenting Saying "Yes" appeared first on Both Now.
You know how sometimes things just worm their way onto your to do list? Hey, it happens! So how do you make sure it's only things you choose? And what do you need to be aware of so these things don't take over? The post Episode 50 – How Busy-ness Can Sneak Back In (& What To Do About It) appeared first on Both Now.
Want out from under your to do list? Want more calm, more time for you, and less of that anxious buzzy feeling? Yeah, we thought so. So let's unwind ourselves from busy-ness and overwhelm together. The post Episode 49 – How To Not Get Trapped In Busy-ness appeared first on Both Now.
A very common answer to "how are you" is "busy." How many times has this been your answer? Busy-ness can build quickly. Suddenly you're buried by your to-do list not sure how to dig out. We've got shovels and we're here to help! The post Episode 48 – Unraveling The Busy-ness Myth appeared first on Both Now.
What's the difference between Hustle and Hustle Culture? Is hustle really all bad?! What advice would Brad give his younger self when it comes to hustle, hustle culture, and burnout? Hit that play button to find out! The post Episode 47 – Things We've Learned Along The Way [Hustle Culture Is Keeping You Stuck] appeared first on Both Now.
Nearly everyone we talk to these days is feeling some level of burnout. Which is not surprising, given the last couple years. Now the world is shifting AGAIN and it's time to look at your own burnout cycle and what to do about it. The post Episode 46 – Are You Jumping Back Into The Burnout Cycle? appeared first on Both Now.
When was the last time you said thanks...to yourself? If we had to guess, we'd say it's probably been a while. You deserve to be thanked. For all that you have been through, all that you have accomplished, and for still goin'. Let's do it together. The post Episode 45 – Hey, Thanks For That! [Guided Meditation: Thanking Your Past Self] appeared first on Both Now.
When you're feeling stuck and searching for a change, it can seem like only a Big! Exciting! Amazing! change will make an impact. But sometimes it's the little things that make all the difference. So what would you say to a little more joy, hope, and sparkle? The post Episode 44 – How To Add More Hope, Joy, & Sparkle (Back) To Your Life appeared first on Both Now.
Are you itching for a change? Not sure how to start...when to start....if you're ready to start...or even how to choose WHAT to start? In this episode Paula, Brad, and Hailey each share their orientation to change and how they answer each of these questions. The post Episode 43 – Listen To This If You're Craving Change appeared first on Both Now.
What can you learn from TV and movies? It turns out: you can learn a whole lot. About what? Well for us, watching (a lot) of TV and movies has really supported our lives and businesses. Not in a "get rich from your couch" way. More in a human-connection-and-enjoying-art-way. The post Episode 42 – What TV And Movies Have Taught Us About Life And Business appeared first on Both Now.
Showing up authentically and vulnerably is a great concept. But it's also...well...vulnerable. So how do you feel safe enough to try this? And how do you begin to integrate it into your everyday life? Oh yeah - and remind me WHY I'm supposed to put myself out there like this?! The post Episode 41 – What Are They Talking About #2 [Authenticity, Vulnerability, Showing Up] appeared first on Both Now.
Generally, when the going gets tough, it feels like you've got two options: give up (totally valid!) or push through. But what if there was a third option that didn't feel like such a grind?? Enter: recommitment. An exercise that changed how we do life and business. The post Episode 40 – How Recommitment Has Repeatedly Saved Our Business & Relationships appeared first on Both Now.
Okay - who decided that goal setting (and achieving) had to be so freakin' hustle-y and anxiety inducing?! Whoever it was...we've got a bone to pick with them. So, let's start over. Let's relearn goal setting without the anxiety and hustle. The post Episode 39 – Goal Setting Without The Anxiety appeared first on Both Now.
What do cooking, empathy, and butterflies have in common? They all relate to things we learned this year! For the three of us, this has been a year of many lessons. Do you wanna hear about what we learned? Then press that play button! The post Episode 38 – 10 Things We Learned This Year appeared first on Both Now.
What if selfcare wasn't used as a means of self repair? What if you didn't have to burnout in order to "deserve" a break? What if the answer to these things wasn't being perfect, hustling harder, or achieving the most? What if the only requirement...was to be you? The post Episode 37 – A Radical Look At Self Care And Being "Enough" appeared first on Both Now.
Interested in a permanent remote position? Or are you hoping for a hybrid model going forward? Either way - it's time to tell your boss. Seriously. You've gotta decide what you're okay with as things go back to "normal." Or they'll choose for ya. And take their sweet time doing it. The post Episode 36 – Send This To Your Boss If You Never Want To Go Back To The Office appeared first on Both Now.
Wait...being positive is a bad thing?? Nope! There's nothing wrong with being optimistic. But when it's used to dismiss, avoid, and bury feelings - it doesn't help you or those around you. If you're not careful, toxic positivity can lead to shame, isolation, and inauthentic relationships. The post Episode 35 – How Toxic Positivity Is Making You Less Happy (And What To Do About It) appeared first on Both Now.
Hustle culture, imposter syndrome, and burnout walk into a bar...yuck! That is NOT a place you wanna be. Teamed up, this trio will wreak all kinds of havoc on your life, your career, and more. So let's break down what they are, how they're connected, and what to do about 'em. The post Episode 34 – What Are They Talking About #1 [Hustle Culture, Imposter Syndrome, Burnout] appeared first on Both Now.
You know that feeling when you leave a conversation thinking "ugh I just didn't say what I needed to say"? It sucks. And sometimes there isn't an opportunity to correct your mistake. Whether it's in a job interview or a tweet, our #1 tip for avoiding this feeling is to get your Key Messages straight. The post Episode 33 – Things We've Learned Along The Way [Key Messages] appeared first on Both Now.
Does it feel like your boundaries keep getting crossed? It's probably time for a boundary update. Because things have really changed. Boundaries are so essential for good communication and resilience - especially in this Post(ish)-Pandemic time we're living in. The post Episode 32 – It's Time For You To Set Some New (Post Pandemic) Boundaries appeared first on Both Now.
Managing expectations is tricky. Even when you try to go in with zero expectations, you might still be wondering if you'll meet someone else's. After a year plus of trying to guess what might be around the next corner, it's time to check in on your expectations. The post Episode 31 – Well…What Did You Expect [Managing Expectations Post-Pandemic] appeared first on Both Now.
Ah yes, transferable skills. What are those again? Like when you take something you learned from one area of your life/career and apply it in another. Yup. Sounds about right. But here's the real question: are YOU taking advantage of this major life/career hack? The post Episode 30 – How 30 Years Of Marriage And Raising Kids Boosted Our Careers appeared first on Both Now.
On a scale of 1-10, how patient are you? It might depend on the day. Or the situation. But what if you could cultivate patience? Imagine how more patience would improve your relationships, lower your stress levels, and even boost your creativity! The post Episode 29 – In Pursuit of Patience (We're Still Waiting...) appeared first on Both Now.
How are you...really?? It can be a hard question to answer. So often we default to "Good, you?" But the truth is, that stock-answer doesn't serve either party. So, here's the real check in. It's time to get honest about where you're at. Don't worry, we'll go first. The post Episode 28 – An Honest Update appeared first on Both Now.
When's the last time you cried? Or screamed? Or laughed until it hurt? What we're really asking is...when's the last time you had a real emotional release? Today, let's talk about creating and holding space for your own emotions (and maybe others' as well). The post Episode 27 – Crying Everywhere (And The Bladder In Your Eyes) appeared first on Both Now.
How are you at bouncing back after a hard time? There have been a whole lot of emotional and mental mountains to climb lately and you're probably experiencing some level of burnout at this point. So let's talk about resiliency and how you can build it. The post Episode 26 – Things We've Learned Along The Way [Resilience] appeared first on Both Now.
Are you feeling a slow - but consistent - build up of anger? Like maybe nothing caused it directly, yet you could scream or cry at the drop of a hat. Let's talk about how to recognize, explore, and (hopefully!) release some of that sneaky sneaky anger. Oh, and maybe scream a little, too... The post Episode 25 – Hand Up If You're Feeling Kinda Angry Right Now appeared first on Both Now.
Have you ever had a haircut and your first thought when you look in the mirror is: oh no it's too short. Same. Transformation can be hard! It can also be exciting. Or scary, or tricky, or refreshing, or...you fill in the blank. But, no matter the emotion, inner and outer change often go hand-in-hand. The post Episode 24 – What's Hair Got To Do With It? [Inner & Outer Transformations] appeared first on Both Now.
Whatever life has looked like for you over the last 12 months, we think it's safe to say that we could all use a laugh. So we're changing things up a little on the latest episode on Unreasonable. Come on over to the silly side and have a laugh with us. The post Episode 23 – Life Still Sucks Radio appeared first on Both Now.
On this episode we're talking about Brad's favourite "S" word. SYSTEMS. Systems can transform your life and business. When done well, they make things simpler, calmer, and more efficient. Everything from packing a suitcase to running a multi-million dollar project. Yes, they're that versatile. The post Episode 22 – Things We've Learned Along The Way [The Power of Systems] appeared first on Both Now.
If project management sounds like a total snoozefest to you, fair enough. But nerdy or otherwise, we love project management and all that it does for our business AND OUR LIVES. For real. We'd actually go as far as to say it can be hyper-flexible, creative, and a true artform. No kidding! The post Episode 21 – What Hailey Taught Brad About Project Management appeared first on Both Now.
Sometimes, in life, we let other people's opinions throw us off. But what if there was a way to be your very own cheerleader when it came time to chase your dreams, or take the leap on something new or a little scary? What would happen if you gave yourself the trust and permission to find YOUR way? The post Episode 20 – Finding, Creating, And Coming Back To Your Authentic Self appeared first on Both Now.
Did you get back to work feeling (at least kinda) refreshed and even a bit hopeful...but now it's all starting to feel like a slog again? This year January has felt especially long. With less to look forward to and break up the routine. Nope, we're not mind readers. You're just not alone in feeling this way. The post Episode 19 – Ah Yes, The Dreaded End-Of-January-Slump. You're Not Alone! appeared first on Both Now.
If you could sum up 2020 in a word, what would it be? What word would you choose for 2021? We asked listeners to help us paint a picture of the last year and make some predictions for the year to come. The results are in drumroll and they're pretty flippin' interesting! Let's close one chapter and open another. The post Episode 18 – Later 2020…Oh Hello 2021! appeared first on Both Now.
Psst! Want the exact meeting agenda the Both Now Team used to close out 2020? Don't worry, it's not too late to use it. It's the perfect wrap-up or kick-off. Oh and it's also super flexible. You'll have no problem making it your own. Yup - business or personal, solo or with a team. The post Episode 17 – Be A Fly On The Wall Of Our Year End Meeting appeared first on Both Now.
Figuring out and following your dreams is a Big Brave Thing to do. And it's not always easy. Especially if you haven't really let yourself dream big since you were a kid. So where do you go to rediscover and find new dreams? Well to the Realm of Ultimate Possibility, of course. Follow us! The post Episode 16 – The Realm of Ultimate Possibility and Choosing Big Brave Things appeared first on Both Now.
Don't look now. The year you thought might never end is finally coming to a close. Here's your chance to take a nice deep breath and choose how you want your 2020 to end. What do you want in these last 29 days...Closure? Celebration? Over with as quickly as possible? Dealer's choice. The post Episode 15 – Only 29 Days Left?! How To End 2020 "Well" appeared first on Both Now.
Hey, are you having a tough day? A tough week? Take a deep breath. We're gonna figure this out. Wanna try a self-care meditation together? It's kinda a cross between that and a self soothing exercise. Don't worry, it's nice and simple. Sound good? Cool. Breath out and press play. The post Episode 14 – Listen To This If You're Having A Tough Day [Self Soothing Exercise] appeared first on Both Now.
After everything that's been lost this year, you may be quick to discount your own loss and grief because "others have it worse." But whether you've lost a loved one, your routine, your sense of security, your joy, or anything else - your grief is valid. So let's chat. No judgement, no competition. The post Episode 13 – Hey, Can We Talk About Loss and Grief (A Cathartic Commiseration) appeared first on Both Now.
Self Facilitation [self fuh-sil-i-tey-shuhn] 1. (noun) A strategy developed by Both Now that helps make being an adult just a little bit easier. 2. (verb) To assist yourself in understanding and making your dreams and desires a reality. The post Episode 12 – Things We've Learned Along The Way [Facilitating Your Own Life] appeared first on Both Now.
Everyone needs help. It's true. So then why is it so hard to ask for help? Well...that's actually a pretty long list. But here's the good news: asking for help actually makes you strong, not weak. And the more you ask for help, the easier it gets. It's not a quick journey but it WILL change your life. We dare ya to prove us wrong. The post Episode 11 – You Have To Start Asking For Help More Often (And Here's How) appeared first on Both Now.
So you've been tumbling through 2020 constantly wondering "what could possibly be next?" Like WHEN or HOW will we get through all this. Hey...you know who has the best advice about tough times? People who have been through tough times and come out the other side. The post Episode 10 – What Our Grandmothers Taught Us About Living In Uncertain Times appeared first on Both Now.
How do you support a loved one with anxiety or depression? How do you ask for support if you have a mental illness? How do you normalize getting help? Take a peek inside Hailey's mental health journey and what it taught each of us - individually AND as a work/life team. The post Episode 9 – Things We've Learned Along The Way [Anxiety] appeared first on Both Now.
Hey you. Ya you! You deserve joy. You deserve to celebrate. Yup - even with EVERYTHING that's happening in the world. No wait. Scratch that. ESPECIALLY with everything going on right now. So let's talk about intentional and unapologetic joy and celebration! The post Episode 8 – Yes, You’re Still Allowed Joy And Celebration (Even With All That’s Happening) appeared first on Both Now.
Ever feel like people aren't even listening to your feedback? Well, it could be because you're not speakin' their feedback language. Everyone reacts to feedback differently and there's lots you can do to help things go smoothly. Plus: get access to our "Are You Ready to Give Feedback" checklist! The post Episode 7 – Are They Even Listening To You? 4 Steps To GIVING Feedback Well appeared first on Both Now.
Are you bad at receiving feedback? No shame. Seriously. We're far from perfect at it...BUT we've seen such a massive difference in our relationships (personal and professional) that we'll never stop trying to improve this skill. Yup, it's an absolute game changer. The post Episode 6 – Are you Even Listening To Me? 4 Steps To RECEIVING Feedback Well appeared first on Both Now.
Oh no - you're busy again, aren't you? Wait a sec...did you choose to be busy or is it just your default setting? Where did that "default" come from? How did it start? And how do you get off this ride?! Let's explore the myth of busy-ness and how to break the cycle. The post Episode 5 – What To Do When Being Busy Becomes Your Default appeared first on Both Now.
What lessons are YOU taking from isolation into this semi-open-limbo-world we're living in? Not sure? That's okay! We're gonna walk you through how to take the "good" and leave the "bad." Bonus: you can reuse this process for ANY period of big change! The post Episode 4 – Everything is Paused, Shifted, or Broken Entirely [Lessons from Covid Isolation] appeared first on Both Now.
Let's talk about fear baby! Brad's in the hotseat and we're gonna dive into the third and final step of the process for working through fear. What's that you ask? Hit play to find out. The post Episode 3 – Why Be Afraid When You Can Be Busy [Fear Part 3] appeared first on Both Now.
Are you avoiding your fears? Short answer: probably - we all do it. Dealing with your fears can seem...scary! But it doesn't have to be. Listen to Paula as she follows step 2 of our process for working through fears. No creepy monsters. We promise. The post Episode 2 – The Perpetual Pandemic Pivot [Fear Part 2] appeared first on Both Now.
Not to scare you, but your fear is probably messing with your life right now. Even if it's not front and centre, fear can wreak havoc on all areas of your life and career. A real-time example from Hailey and a process for working through your own fears? Coming right up! The post Episode 1 – My Teeny Tiny Existential Dread [Fear Part 1] appeared first on Both Now.
Raise your hand if you're so totally over hustle culture? Us too. We're Paula, Brad, and Hailey - the cofounders of BothNow.com and we've taught 1000s of people just like you to live Unreasonable lives. What does that mean? Hit play to find out. The post Episode 0 – Time To Be Completely Unreasonable appeared first on Both Now.