We Heal Together: Recent Episodes
Cordelia
We Heal Together is a podcast for people: (1) working on loving themselves, (2) navigating codependency + shame + trauma, (3) surviving emotional abuse + physical abuse + NPD abuse + sexual abuse, or (4) simply trying to improve as a human being.
This podcast provides tools, resources (such as worksheets, connections to organizations, etc.), and books/music recommendations. Most importantly, this podcast provides a safe space for people to heal together, and it highlights stories and commons struggles people are facing.
Cordelia hosts this podcast, and she runs the Instagram page with similar content. Check out her Instagram at @codependentrecovery
A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
If you want to dig deeper into healing? -Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery -Check out: https://www.cordeliahealtogether.com/ for more details about Cordelia and other resources.
GUEST INFORMATION: ANUSHAY HOSSAIN'S BIO
Anushay Hossain is a journalist and political analyst whose work is featured on CNN, MSNBC, PBS, and more. Her writings on politics, gender, race, immigration, and being Muslim in America are published on Forbes, CNN, The Daily Beast, and Medium.
She is the author of The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill Women. She is also the host of the Spilling Chai podcast.
Anushay is the Washington Correspondent for the Daily Ittefaq where she pens a political column for the iconic Bangladeshi newspaper, providing in-depth analysis on the latest from Capitol Hill.
She guest-hosted Al-Jazeera English’s (AJE), “The Stream” from 2012-2013 and is a panelist on PBS’ feminist news-analysis program, “To The Contrary.”
Anushay completed her undergraduate studies at the University of Virginia (UVA) and has a Master’s degree from the University of Sussex. A passionate linguist, she studied Italian while living in Rome and is fluent in five languages.
Anushay is married and lives in Washington, DC with her husband and two children.
GUEST INFORMATION: ANUSHAY'S BOOK + OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH HER
- Order her book: The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill Women
- Amazon
- Bookshop
- Follow Anushay on Instagram: @anushayhossain
- Listen to her podcast: the Spilling Chai
- Follow her podcast on Instagram: @spillingchaipodcast
- Check out her website: https://anushayhossain.com/
PODCAST INFO
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORS
- Access free Google Drive materials here
- Helpful organizations
- Finding affordable therapy
- Check out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org, and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
GUEST INFORMATION: AMANDA E. WHITE, LPC'S BIO
Amanda E. White, LPC, is an author and a therapist. She is the founder and director of Therapy for Women Center, a therapy practice based in Philadelphia with therapists across the country. As someone who has recovered from the trauma, substance abuse, and an eating disorder, Amanda knows about struggle. Her widely popular Instagram @therapyforwomen offers fantastic insights as well.
GUEST INFORMATION: AMANDA'S BOOK + OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH HER
- Preorder Amanda's Book (Release Date: January 4, 2022)
- Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love
- Follow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomen
- Visit Therapy for Women Center Website
- Visit Amanda's Website
RESOURCES MENTIONED BY AMANDA IN THE EPISODE
- Reframe App
- The Luckiest Club
- Tempest
- Her book (release date of January 4, 2022)
- Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryW
RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORS
- Access free Google Drive materials here
- Helpful organizations
- Finding affordable therapy
- Check out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as well
- Post Cordelia made about being an active bystander
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org, and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
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SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World's only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
CITATIONS
- What is gossip?
- Definition
- The origins of gossip
- Evolutionary Psychology explanation
- Is gossip all bad?
- Trusted vs. not trusted
- Harmless gossiping can be good
- Societal benefits, such as holding others accountable
- Celebrity gossip can be good, too
- Other studies
- Gossip can help morale in work place
- Most of us engage in gossip, and it isn’t necessarily a bad thing
- Negative gossip about celebrities
- Dartmouth study from June 2021
- How to navigate gossiping
- Successful gossiping tips
- Evolutionary psychology perspective
- Quote about a good gossiper
- Not-so-good gossiping
- Sharing to get ahead
- Not trusted by others
- Mean-spirited gossip
- Sharing information to get back at someone
- Successful gossiping tips
- Tactics to shut down unwanted gossip territory
- Ask why you’re telling me this
RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORS
- Access free Google Drive materials here
- Helpful organizations
- Finding affordable therapy
- Check out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as well
- Post Cordelia made about being an active bystander
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
CITATIONS
- tweet about daddy issues
- Instagram post about daddy issues
- What is it?
- Joe Hemmings definition
- Urban Dictionary Definitions
- First definition
- Second definition
- Third definition
- Fourth definition
- When is it used?
- People use it to shame women & 4 examples
- Used to describe women who are needy & wounded
- What’s the issue?
- It deflects blame away from the toxic/abusive men onto the women they harm.
- Normalizing daddy issues makes women think their feelings are not valid
- Tells people we all need dads to be normal
- Tells women they’re going to seek out shitty relationships
RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORS
- Access free Google Drive materials here
- Helpful organizations
- Finding affordable therapy
- Check out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as well
- Post Cordelia made about being an active bystander
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
---
SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
CITATIONS
- What is victim blaming?
- Why do people blame victims?
- Statistics
- Sexual Assault
- Domestic violence
- Tips to support victims
- Things to say to victims of sexual assault
- Support someone who is in an abusive relationship
- Active Bystander
- **Check out post Cordelia did on Instagram re: active bystander
RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS + HELPING SURVIVORS
- Access free Google Drive materials here
- Helpful organizations
- Finding affordable therapy
- Check out the post index - Cordelia has tons of posts on today's topic as well
- Post Cordelia made about being an active bystander
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification KitGuest Information: Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD’s Bio
BIO: LINDSAY C. GIBSON, PSYD
Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature (EI) parents. She is the author of Who You Were Meant to Be, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the just-released Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. She also writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Family magazine. In the past, she has served as adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology for the College of William and Mary, as well as for Old Dominion University. Gibson lives and practices in Virginia Beach, VA.
GUEST INFORMATION: DR. GIBSON'S BOOK + OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH HER
- Buy Dr. Gibson’s new release (release date: September 1, 2021)
- Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence
- Buy Dr. Gibson’s other books
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
- Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy
- Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Finding or Rediscovering Your Life Purpose
- Dr. Gibson’s Website
- Check out her articles in Tidewater Family magazine
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification KitGuest Information: Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD’s Bio
Episode NotesPODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
---
SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
---
SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
CITATIONS
- Definition of Closure
- The origins of closure
- Gestalt
- Guy Winch Ted Talk
- Peer-Reviewed Papers About Closure
- Closure + Covid
- We can give ourselves closure
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every OTHER Monday
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
---
SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
---
SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
WORKSHEETS
- Body Neutrality Worksheets
CITATIONS
- Societal Considerations
- Medical Bias
- Harvard Article
- American Psychological Association Article
- Society
- https://www.teenvogue.com/story/standard-issues-white-supremacy-capitalism-influence-beauty
- White Wash Beauty Standards
- Medical Bias
- What is body neutrality?
- Lauren Sharkey Quote
- Bryan Karazsia, Ph.D. Quote
- What is body positivity?
- Where did body neutrality start?
- Quote by Miranda Park
- Questions to ask yourself
- Body neutral mantras
- Body Neutrality Worksheets
- Ted Talk by Bethany Myers
- Helpful phrases at doctor’s office
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
---
SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
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SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
POSTS CORDELIA DID ON BILL COSBY & BRUCE CASTOR
- Part One
- Part Two
CITATIONS
- Every single Court opinion from this case (on Google Drive)
- Google Map of Montgomery County, PA
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
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SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
FREE LGBTQIA+ WORKSHEETS
- Free worksheets
- NOTE: This takes you to a folder I've created on Google Drive, where I've added 17 total free worksheets I compiled. As always, you can find all sources for these worksheets in the folder on the drive called "The Citations/Sources for Compiling" -- the free worksheets contain:
- A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary Youth
- Action Tips for Allies of Non Monosexual / Bi / Pan / Fluid People
- Action Tips for Allies of Trans People
- Black + LGBTQ- Approaching Intersectional Conversations
- Continuum of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality
- Empathy and Awareness Activities for Youth
- Genderbread Person
- Ideas for Allies
- LGBTQ+ Youth
- Making a Coming Out Plan
- My Coming Out “Master Plan”
- Pronouns Chart
- Terminology
- The Safe Space Kit: Guide to Being an Ally to LGBT Students
- Trans Ally Workbook
- Trevor-Project One Sheet
- When a Friend "Comes Out"
- NOTE: This takes you to a folder I've created on Google Drive, where I've added 17 total free worksheets I compiled. As always, you can find all sources for these worksheets in the folder on the drive called "The Citations/Sources for Compiling" -- the free worksheets contain:
POSTS CORDELIA DID ON GENDER AND SEX
- Sex vs. Gender
- Examples of different genders
- Gender is a social construct
- Unpacking hateful comments
- Pronouns
CITATIONS
- Pronouns: A How-To Guide
- Youth Homelessness Stats
- A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary Youth
- Action Tips for Allies of Non Monosexual / Bi / Pan / Fluid People
- Action Tips for Allies of Trans People
- Black + LGBTQ- Approaching Intersectional Conversations
- Ideas for Allies
- The Safe Space Kit: Guide to Being an Ally to LGBT Students
- When a Friend "Comes Out"
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
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SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
FREE LGBTQIA+ WORKSHEETS
- Free worksheets
- NOTE: This takes you to a folder I've created on Google Drive, where I've added 17 total free worksheets I compiled. As always, you can find all sources for these worksheets in the folder on the drive called "The Citations/Sources for Compiling" -- the free worksheets contain:
- A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary Youth
- Action Tips for Allies of Non Monosexual / Bi / Pan / Fluid People
- Action Tips for Allies of Trans People
- Black + LGBTQ- Approaching Intersectional Conversations
- Continuum of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality
- Empathy and Awareness Activities for Youth
- Genderbread Person
- Ideas for Allies
- LGBTQ+ Youth
- Making a Coming Out Plan
- My Coming Out “Master Plan”
- Pronouns Chart
- Terminology
- The Safe Space Kit: Guide to Being an Ally to LGBT Students
- Trans Ally Workbook
- Trevor-Project One Sheet
- When a Friend "Comes Out"
- NOTE: This takes you to a folder I've created on Google Drive, where I've added 17 total free worksheets I compiled. As always, you can find all sources for these worksheets in the folder on the drive called "The Citations/Sources for Compiling" -- the free worksheets contain:
POSTS CORDELIA DID ON GENDER AND SEX
- Sex vs. Gender
- Examples of different genders
- Gender is a social construct
- Unpacking hateful comments
- Pronouns
CITATIONS
- A Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary Youth. The Trevor Project. (2021, March 26). Retrieved June 20, 2021 from https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/trevor-support-center/a-guide-to-being-an-ally-to-transgender-and-nonbinary-youth/
- Intersex information
- Statistics on number of intersex folks born in the US
- Pronouns: A How-To. (n.d.) Retrieved June 20, 2021 from https://www.diversitycenterneo.org/about-us/pronouns/
- Article I referenced about trial where attorney called women the weaker sex
- Washington Post Op Ed by Dr. Weeden
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: IRON DOGGY
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I love their hands-free leashes. You can use them for walking or running. I have two dogs, and they are awesome for taking my dogs around. These are the leashes I have for my two dogs. I bought these before I ever had a podcast or an Instagram.
- Use the code Heal10 on any links below for 10% off!
- These are the leashes I use for my dogs:
- Runner's Choice Hands-Free Dog Leash (with Belt)
- Extra Leash (w/o Belt)
- Carabiner
- Or, here is my general link as well: Click here to explore Iron Doggy website
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SPONSOR INFO: EMBARK (DOG DNA TESTING KITS)
Disclosure: Cordelia will earn a commission if you click on the link & make a purchase.
- I recently did these on my dog, and I paid for them on my own. I thought it was such a cool process, and I was so excited at the opportunity to partner with them.
- Key things to know:
- Results generally back in 2-4 weeks
- Tests more breeds than any other test, over 350 breeds, types, and varieties, and even includes wolf, coyote, and village dog ancestry - together these breeds cover over 98% of dogs in America
- Most accurate dog DNA test on the market
- The Breed + Health Test: tests for 200+ health risks
- Analyzes over 200K genetic markers
- World’s only canine DNA relative finder
- Use links below:
- Embark Breed & Health Kit - use code SPRING50 for an additional $50 off
- Embark Breed Identification Kit
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: BETTERHELP
- ALL LISTENERS OF WE HEAL TOGETHER PODCAST GET 10% OFF THEIR FIRST MONTH. SIMPLY CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP: www.betterhelp.com/cordelia
- Disclosure: This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Cordelia will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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GUEST INFORMATION: JUDY DELAWARE, OTR/LS BIO
Judy Delaware, OTR/L is an Occupational Therapist and Feeding Specialist who has been providing home-based feeding intervention within the infant-toddler population for the last 20 years via her private practice, Positive Therapeutic Beginnings LLC. She has over 39 years of experience working with infants and children in private practice, hospital settings and clinics. Judy is a mother of two and combines many years of practical parenting experience with sensory, motor, oral, and child development training using a fun, family-centered approach. She lives in Louisville, Colorado with her husband and dogs.
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GUEST INFORMATION: WAYS TO CONNECT WITH FEEDING LITTLES
- Check out the Feeding Littles website
- Follow @feedinglittles on Instagram
- Follow Feeding Littles on Facebook
FEEDING LITTLES COURSES
- Check out Feeding Little’s online courses - BE SURE TO USE COUPON CODE "wehealtogether" for a discount on their e-courses
- Note: I do not receive compensation for the coupon code, but I do think it is awesome Feeding Littles is offering it to the listeners
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: BETTERHELP
- ALL LISTENERS OF WE HEAL TOGETHER PODCAST GET 10% OFF THEIR FIRST MONTH. SIMPLY CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP: www.betterhelp.com/cordelia
- Disclosure: This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Cordelia will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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GUEST INFORMATION: ERIN O CONNOR'S BIO
The Director of New York University's Early Childhood Education Program, Erin is a tenured professor and holds a Doctorate in Human Development and Psychology from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, a Masters in Teaching from Fordham University, and a Masters in School Psychology from Columbia University. Erin teaches human development and education classes to pre- and in-service teachers in New York City schools. She also co-directs a community partnership working with families and caregivers.
In addition, Erin leads a research program examining relationships with mothers and teachers and the impacts of these relationships on children's development in early and middle childhood. She also conducts randomized control trials of relationship-building interventions on the language and social development of pre-kindergarten children from low-income families and neighborhoods.
Erin has published in educational and psychology journals including the American Educational Research Journal, Journal of Educational Psychology, and Journal of Applied Psychology. Her work is supported by grants from several institutions including the Institute for Education Sciences. She is a member of the American Educational Research Association, American Psychological Association, and the Society for Research in Child Development.
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GUEST INFORMATION: WAYS TO CONNECT + FOLLOW ALONG WITH ERIN
- Check out Erin’s website
- Book a one-on-one consultation
- Check out the offerings on Erin’s website
- Follow @scientificmommy on Instagram
- Follow Scientific Mommy on Facebook
- Read more about Erin
RECOMMENDATIONS TO KEEP LEARNING ABOUT INDEPENDENT PLAY (mentioned by Erin in the episode)
- Dr. Stuart Brown's website
- Tools of the Mind website
- Books by Vivian Gussin Paley
- Bonus resource: Article on Erin's website published on May 28, 2021 - 5 Research-Backed Strategies to Encourage Independent Play
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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SPONSOR INFO: BETTER HELP
- ALL LISTENERS OF WE HEAL TOGETHER PODCAST GET 10% OFF THEIR FIRST MONTH. SIMPLY CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP: www.betterhelp.com/cordelia
- Disclosure: This podcast is sponsored by Better Help. Cordelia will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
CITATIONS
- What are trigger warnings?
- The origins of trigger warnings
- Avoidance isn't a good thing
- Studies
- Bridgland, V. M. E., & Takarangi, M. K. T. (2021). Danger! Negative memories ahead: The effect of warnings on reactions to and recall of negative memories. Memory, 29(3), 319–329. https://doi.org/10.1080/09658211.2021.1892147
- Jones, P. J., Bellet, B. W., & McNally, R. J. (2020). Helping or Harming? The Effect of Trigger Warnings on Individuals With Trauma Histories. Clinical Psychological Science, 8(5), 905–917. https://doi.org/10.1177/2167702620921341
- Sanson, M., Strange, D., & Garry, M. (2019). Trigger Warnings Are Trivially Helpful at Reducing Negative Affect, Intrusive Thoughts, and Avoidance. Clinical Psychological Science, 7(4), 778–793. https://doi.org/10.1177/2167702619827018
- Bellet, B. W., Jones, P. J., & McNally, R. J. (2018). Trigger warning: Empirical evidence ahead. Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, 61, 134–141. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jbtep.2018.07.002
- Gainsburg, I., & Earl, A. (2018). Trigger warnings as an interpersonal emotion-regulation tool: Avoidance, attention, and affect depend on beliefs. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 79, 252–263. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jesp.2018.08.006
- Here is the website that Cordelia mentioned toward end of episode: https://www.doesthedogdie.com/
Instagram Post Cordelia did on Trigger Warnings
- https://www.instagram.com/p/CO2-U2FDHSa/
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
GUEST INFORMATION: WHITNEY GOODMAN
- Follow her on Instagram: @sitwithwhit
- Whitney’s Course ($7.99): Press Pause: How To Put The Brakes On Burnout
- Sign up for her Emotions 101 Course
- Interested in other courses, worksheets, and workbooks by Whitney? Click here to access her store
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
CITATIONS
- Definition of conspiracy theory
- Increase in attention, not increase in belief
- Studies referenced:
- One study found that half of all Americans believe in at least one conspiracy theory.
- 2013 study: over a third of Americans believe that global warming is a hoax.
- 2013 study: over half of Americans believe that Lee Harvey Oswald did not act alone in the assassination of John F. Kennedy
- COVID
- A May 2020 online survey of 2,501 adults in England found that 25 percent of respondents believe unproven COVID-19 conspiracy theories.
- In October 2020…
- More than 1 in 3 Americans believe that the Chinese government engineered the coronavirus as a weapon, and another third are convinced that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has exaggerated the threat of Covid-19 to undermine President Trump.
- A handful of people set 5G telecommunications towers ablaze after reading social media posts that alleged the new technology can cause COVID-19.
- Voter/Election
- A January 2021 poll of 1,239 U.S. voters found that 77 percent of Republican respondents believe there was widespread election fraud, despite courts ruling otherwise.
- See also:
- "Attorney General William Barr said last month that the U.S. Justice Department has found no evidence of widespread voter fraud. Even Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell—a Republican ally of Trump through much of his presidency—recently called some of Trump’s voter fraud claims “sweeping conspiracy theories.”
- See also:
- A January 2021 poll of 1,239 U.S. voters found that 77 percent of Republican respondents believe there was widespread election fraud, despite courts ruling otherwise.
- Why do people believe them?
- The need for certainty & knowledge
- Conspiracy theories offer explanations that provide this connection during uncertainty. They want to know what happened.
- COVID Example
- A person's education level also can influence this..
- Confirmation Bias
- The need for control
- when feeling anxious
- when they feel powerless
- The need to feel good about themselves
- Feel unique
- They see a benefit in it
- "For example, someone may strongly prefer that a certain political candidate win an election because they think that person will keep them physically and financially safe. Other people may not want to believe climate change is real because they work or invest in the coal industry."
- Collective Narcissism
- Study
- Certain personality factors make people more prone to believe conspiracy theories.
- Another study
- Ideas of populism
- Conservative media consumption
- Social Connection
- Pride
- The need for certainty & knowledge
- Consequences
- Increased anxiety and negative schemas
- Society
- Capitol Hill
- "Then came January 6 and a vivid illustration of the consequences of the conspiracies the president and the right-wing conspiracy theorist had been promoting. The pro-Trump mob that ransacked the Capitol building chanted slogans like, “fight for Trump,” and were spurred on by the conspiracy theory that the 2020 election was stolen from Trump."
- Measles/refusal to vaccinate
- Diminishes trust in science
- Discourages people from participating in the social world
- Capitol Hill
- How to deal
- Quote by Joseph A. Vitrol
Bio: Dr. Nicole LePera
Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis.
As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients— and for self— she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves.
She is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands. Her first book, How to Do the Work, was released in March 2021.
The Essentials: Dr. Nicole LePera
- Order How to Do the Work
- Her Free Future Self Journal prompts
- SelfHealers Circle Waitlist
- @the.holistic.psychologist (Instagram)
- The.holistic.psychologist (Facebook)
- Subscribe to her YouTube channel here
- Check out her link tree here
ORDER THE BOOK
- How to Do the Work
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
Guest Information: Dr. Mariel Buquè
- Check out Dr. Mariel Buquè’s website here
- Join her Soul Healing Collective Membership
- Follow Dr. Mariel Buquè on Instagram (@dr.marielbuque)
- Check out her Youtube channel here
- Join her for emotional freedom sessions on Ritual
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
- When Ancestors Weep: Healing the Soul from Intergenerational Trauma by James A Houck Jr., Ph.D.
- My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
PODCAST INFO
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
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GUEST INFO: CARRIE GOLDBERG
- Buy her book: Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls by Carrie Goldberg
- Read Carrie’s bio: here
- Follow Carrie on Instagram (@cagoldberglaw) or Twitter (@cagoldberglaw)
- Interested in hiring Carrie as your attorney?
- Visit her website: www.cagoldberglaw.com
- Fill out the contact form
- Call (646) 666-8908
- Email: info@cagoldberglaw.com
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls by Carrie Goldberg
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RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS
- FAQs for US Nonconsensual Porn Victims
- FAQs for US Victims re: Online Privacy
- CCRI Crisis Helpline (844-878-2274)
- International Victim Resources (outside US)
- Without My Consent
- Carrie’s map of the US States with Revenge Porn Laws
- Helpful guides
- Carrie’s guide of how to report on social media
- Carrie’s Incident Tracking Chart
- Evidence preservation
- Copyright Registration
- How to do a DMCA Takedown
- Online Removal Guide
- Tips
- Carrie’s 5 Steps for Sextortion Victims
- Carrie’s 5 Steps if You Are Being Blackmailed
- Carrie’s 5 Steps if You Are Being Stalked
- Helpful tips for victims of revenge porn
- Online support websites for survivors
- Survivors of online harassment: Heartmob
- Survivors of nonconsensual photo sharing: Badass Army
- Need an attorney?
- Interested in hiring Carrie as your attorney?
- Visit her website: www.cagoldberglaw.com
- Fill out the contact form
- Call (646) 666-8908
- Email: info@cagoldberglaw.com
- Other options
- Cyber Civil Rights Initiative List
- Pro bono: The law firm of K&L Gates now offers pro bono legal services to victims of revenge porn through their Cyber Civil Rights Legal Project. Go to http://www.cyberrightsproject.com/ for more information and to fill out a contact form.
- Interested in hiring Carrie as your attorney?
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GUEST INFO: TODD BARATZ, LMHC
- Instagram: @yourdiagnonsense
- Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/yourdiagnonsense
- Courses: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/courses
- Want to get on the waitlist to work with Todd? Click here.
Podcast Info
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
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GUEST INFO: LAUREN FOGEL MERSY, PSYD, LP
- Ways to connect with her
- Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersy
- Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drlaurenfogelmersy
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drlaurenfogelmersy/
- Are you a Minnesota resident that would like to work with her? Click here.
- Want to check out some articles she has written or listen to other podcasts she has done? Click here
- Credentials
- Bachelor of Arts in psychology from York University in Toronto, Canada
- Master of Arts in clinical psychology from the Arizona School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University of Phoenix
- Doctor of psychology in clinical psychology from the Arizona School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University in Phoenix
- 2-year post-doctoral training in human sexuality at the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota
- Completed Level 3 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
- Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota
- Certified Sex Therapist by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)
BOOKS REFERENCED IN THE EPISODE
- Period Power: Harness Your Hormones and Get Your Cycle Working For You by Maisie Hill
- When Sex Hurts: A Woman's Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain by Andrew Goldstein MD, Caroline Pukall PhD, & Irwin Goldstein MD
SEX TOY SHOPS REFERENCED IN THE EPISODE
- Smitten Kitten
- Early to Bed
OTHER USEFUL TOOLS
- To search for a certified sex therapist in your area visit: https://www.aasect.org/
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
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GUEST INFO: DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMON
- Ways to connect with her
- Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon
- Dr. Solomon’s Website: http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/
- Take her Intimate Relationships 101 Course
- Dr. Solomon’s Intimate Relationships 101 Course
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- Dr. Solomon’s Intimate Relationships 101 Course
- Want to check out more of Dr. Solomon’s Work?
- Books by Dr. Solomon
- Dr. Solomon’s Ted Talk
- Dr. Solomon’s Psychology Today Blog
- About Dr. Solomon
- Profession
- Licensed Clinical Psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University (Licensed in the State of Illinois)
- Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University
- Degrees/Education
- Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Women’s Studies — University of Michigan
- Graduate certificate in Gender Studies from Northwestern University
- M.A. in Counseling Psychology — Northwestern University
- PhD in Counseling Psychology —Northwestern University, graduated 2001
- Writing
- Author of two books (Books by Dr. Solomon)
- Blogger for Psychology Today
- Published in peer-reviewed academic journals
- Serves as an ad hoc reviewer for leading journals like Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy (JMFT) and Family Process
- Media
- She is frequently asked to consult with the media on topics related to love, sex, and marriage including O Magazine, Oprah Winfrey Network (#OWNshow), The Today Show, CBS Early Show, The Atlantic, NPR, Huffington Post, Scientific American, New York Times, and Vogue
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
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- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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Want to learn more about Boundaries?
- Access to free worksheets on boundaries? Click here
- Check out prior podcasts that Cordelia did on boundaries:
- Let's Talk About Boundaries: Part 1.
- Let's Talk about Boundaries: Part 2.
- Let's Talk About Setting Boundaries vs Controlling Other People.
GUEST INFO: SORAYA CHEMALY
- Ways to connect with her
- Twitter: @schemaly
- Instagram: @sorayachemaly
- Facebook: Soraya Chemaly
- Instagram for Rage Becomes Her: @ragebecomesher
- Soraya Chemaly’s Website: http://www.sorayachemaly.com/
- Rage Becomes Her
- BUY RAGE BECOMES HER
- Want to check out more of Soraya's Work?
- Check out all her books here
- Soraya's Ted Talk
- Other events Soraya has spoken at
- Other online writing that Soraya has done
- The Representation Project
- Sign up for their newsletter
- The Representation Project's website
SORAYA CHEMALY'S BIO
Soraya Chemaly is currently the Executive Director of The Representation Project. An award-winning author and activist, she writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former director and co-founder of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women’s civic and political participation.
Soraya is also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Autostraddle and NPR and has been translated into several languages. She is a contributor to multiple anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World. Her work as a writer, activist, and organizer is featured widely in media, books, and academic research.
Soraya currently serves on the national boards of the Women's Media Center, Women in Journalism, and the DC Volunteer Lawyers Project. She has also served on the boards of Women, Action and the advisory councils of the Center for Democracy and Technology, VIDA, Secular Woman, FORCE: Upsetting Rape Culture, No Bully, and Common Sense Media DC. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly has spearheaded successful campaigns challenging corporations to address online abuse, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that affect free speech.
In 2013, Soraya won the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication’s (AEJMC)'s Award for Feminist Advocacy and the Secular Woman Activism Award. In 2014, she was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow in social media, and, in 2016, the recipient of the Women’s Institute for Freedom of the Press’s Women and Media Award. In 2017, she was the co-recipient of the Newhouse Mirror Award for Best Single Feature of 2016 for an in-depth investigative report on free speech and social media, and a Wikipedia Distinguished Service Award for exemplary contributions to the advancement of public knowledge and educational content. In 2019, she was awarded the Feminist Press’ Feminist Power Award.
Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as a market development executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries. After several years in market development at the Gannett Corporation, she moved into the data tech sector at Claritas, ending her tenure there as SVP of Marketing Strategy.
Podcast Info
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- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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Podcast Info
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver
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WORKSHEETS
- Gottman Worksheets
UPCOMING GUESTS' INFORMATION
- SORAYA CHEMALY - EPISODE: FEBRUARY 15, 2021
- Twitter: @schemaly
- Instagram: @sorayachemaly
- Website: http://www.sorayachemaly.com/
- Buy her book: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya Chemaly
- DR. LAUREN FOGEL MERSY - EPISODE: MARCH 1, 2021
- Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersy
- Her Link Tree with access to other places to find her work: https://linktr.ee/drlaurenfogelmersy
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
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- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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CITATIONS FOR QUOTES FROM TODAY'S EPISODE
- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
- Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner, PhD
- The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
- The Language of Letting go by Melody Beattie
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WORKSHEETS
- Worksheets on controlling behaviors
- Worksheets on codependency
Podcast Info
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- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
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WORKSHEETS
- Worksheets on listening
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
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- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- General Overview
- The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
- What makes a good listener
- Article: the first 1-7
- Remainder that Cordelia went through from: The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
- What makes a bad listener
- The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
- Impeding listening - Article: the first 1-7
- Common roadblocks to listening
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, PhD, Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, and Jeffrey Brantley, MD
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, PhD
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WORKSHEETS
- Worksheets on listening
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
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- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- Stages of Change
- Stages of Change Second Article
- Definition of a habit
- Study On How Long It Takes to Form a Habit
- Tips to change
- Tips on change (more)
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
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WORKSHEETS
- Habit Worksheets
- Change Worksheets
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
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- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Tools to help you figure it out--
MOVIE/BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Gaslight 1944 Film (Rent or Buy on Apple)
- Gaslight 1944 Film (Wikipedia page)
- The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robert Stern
INSTAGRAM POSTS I'VE DONE ON TIPS + SIGNS
- Tools to Help You if You are Being Gaslighted
- Questions to Ask to Figure Out if You are Being Gaslighted
- 10 Things to Do if You’re Being Gaslighted
- Best Ways to Handle being Gaslighted
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RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS
- Google Drive full of resources for survivors
- Need help? Tons of organizations here
- Need a counselor? Check this PDF out
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Gaslight 1944 Film (Rent or Buy on Apple)
- Gaslight 1944 Film (Wikipedia page)
- Remake Chronicles Article
- Definition of gaslighting: Abramson, K. (2014). Turning up the lights on gaslighting. Philosophical Perspectives, 281, 1–30
- Dorpat, Theodore L. (1996). Gaslighting, the Double Whammy, Interrogation, and Other Methods of Covert Control in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis. Northvale, NJ: Jason Aronson. pp. 31–46. ISBN 978-1-56821-828-1. OCLC 34548677.
- “In order to be effective, gaslighting depends on first convincing the victim that his thinking is distorted and secondly persuading him that the victimizer's ideas are the correct and true ones.” – Page 45
- More likely to stay in abusive relationship (the hotline)
- Gaslighting Techniques
- Sarkis, Stephanie (2018). Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People – and Break Free. Da Capo Press. ISBN 978-0738284668. OCLC 1023486127 (Triangulation)
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MOVIE/BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Gaslight 1944 Film (Rent or Buy on Apple)
- Gaslight 1944 Film (Wikipedia page)
- The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robert Stern
INSTAGRAM POSTS I'VE DONE ON TIPS + SIGNS
- Tools to Help You if You are Being Gaslighted
- Questions to Ask to Figure Out if You are Being Gaslighted
- 10 Things to Do if You’re Being Gaslighted
- Best Ways to Handle being Gaslighted
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RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS
- Google Drive full of resources for survivors
- Need help? Tons of organizations here
- Need a counselor? Check this PDF out
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- The apology is not the only time to talk about [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Only apologize if you mean it
- Say it once [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Keep it short [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Don’t use it as a device to shut someone up [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD] or to get what you want
- Don't overdo or make it over the top [Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]
- Watch your body language
- Start it with I’m sorry or I apologize (Mindtools)
- Spell out the mistake (Mindtools)
- Be sincere and authentic (Mindtools)
- Don’t make excuses (Mindtools)
- Own your impact
- Say what you should have done
- Listen to the other person
- Don’t demand forgiveness
- Keep the focus on your actions—and not on the other person’s response
- Don't get caught up on who started on it or who is to blame
- State your future plans to make amends
- Do your best to not repeat the behavior
- Don’t expect things to go back to normal immediately
BONUS TIP: Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
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- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
Overview of an Apology
- Definition of Apologize (Merriam-Webster)
- Two key elements of an apology (Mind Tools)
- You cannot force an apology (Psychcentral)
- Harriet Lerner quote from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
- Motives for apology
- Four parts to an apology according to O’Hara
Types of shitty apologies
- Tactical apologies
- If apologies
- NYT Examples
- I’m sorry if
- Jets Example
- I’m sorry but
- I’m sorry you
- Déjà vu
- You know I am..
- I guess I..
- Not my apology
- Actions but no words
- Let’s make a deal
- Bringing up the other person’s crime sheet (Harriet Lerner) from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
- Martyr/Victim Playing - from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
- Demanding forgiveness
- Love you though (or miss you)
- Time passing
- Generic “for everything”
- Sarcasm: sorry!
- Passive Voice
- Famous examples
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
Podcast Info
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Human Nature
- Desert Alchemy - Reactivity
- Brain addicted to being right
- Flexible Thinking
- Definitions of emotional reactivity and emotional regulation
- Emotional Reactivity
- Lists by Lynne Namka
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
- Tips
- Prioritizing compassion & kindness
- Oxytocin
- Tips
- More tips
- What zone am I in?
- Don't Rush over Disagreements
- Gretchen Rubin on Oppositional Conversational Style
- Anything I can do to change your mind?
FREE WORKSHEETS
- Distress Tolerance Worksheets
- Emotional Regulation Worksheets
- Emotional Vocabulary Worksheets
- Interpersonal Skills Worksheets
WORKBOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
- Self-Esteem Workbook
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Working with the Parts worksheet
- Exploring your own system
Connecting to the Self & the 8 C's - IFS Glossary
- Saffiotti, L. M., Ph.D., & Dlugos, R., Ph.D. (2012). Engaging Resistance in the Service of Communal Discernment. Lecture. Retrieved November 15, 2020, from https://www.relforcon.org/sites/default/files/Transform_Wkshp-Saffiotti-TRLNA-Resistance-Handout.ppt
- IFS Powerpoint
- IFS Outline
- Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition by Jay Earley
- Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition by Richard C. Schwartz
- IFS Therapy Video
- Compass of Self-Led Activism
- IFS and EDs by Derek Scott
FREE WORKSHEETS
- Internal Family Systems Worksheets
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
- Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition by Jay Earley
- You Are the One You've Been Waiting For (Internal Family Systems) by Richard C. Schwartz
- Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition by Richard C. Schwartz
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Cambridge Dictionary Definition of Control
- Lexico Definition of Control
- History of Black Lives Matter
- George Floyd
- Breonna Taylor
- Covid19
- Trump lawsuits
- Biden wins the presidency (LOL..used Fox News just for y'all)
FREE WORKSHEETS
- Cordelia's Instagram post on Boundaries vs. Control
- Boundaries worksheets
- Personal Values worksheets
- Codependency worksheets
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Quote by Lecrae
- Definition of validation
- Definitions of internal validation & external validation
- How it shows up
- Why you may be seeking validation
- Overprotective parenting
- Tips on self-validation
- More tips on self-validation
- DBT skills on self-validation
- Banking analogy
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook
- Validate yourself
FREE WORKSHEETS
- Self-Validation worksheets
- DBT worksheets
- CBT worksheets
- Emotions worksheets
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Conformity. (n.d.). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/conformity
- Edwards, V. V. (2020, June 20). 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You. Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.scienceofpeople.com/people-pleaser/
- Ever-So-Slight Delay Improves Decision-Making Accuracy. (2014, March 07). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/ever-so-slight-delay-improves-decision-making-accuracy?utm_source=rss
- How to Stop Being a People Pleaser. (2018, April 12). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hYTPl7MkiA
- Mcleod, S. (2016). What is Conformity? Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.simplypsychology.org/conformity.html
- Tartakovsky, M., M.S. (2018, October 08). 21 Tips to Stop Being a People-Pleaser. Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/21-tips-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/
- Seltzer, L. (2008, July 27). From Parent-Pleasing to People-Pleasing (Part 3 of 3). Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200807/parent-pleasing-people-pleasing-part-3-3
- Wilding, M., LMSW. (2018, July 08). 4 Steps to Stop Seeking Approval from Others. Retrieved November 03, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/4-steps-to-stop-seeking-approval-from-others/
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Definitions: cognitive and distortion
- Cognitive processes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLCxjvrdy3M
- The Self-Esteem Workbook - Schiraldi, G. R. (2017). Recognize and Replace Self-Defeating Thoughts. The self-esteem workbook (2nd ed., pp. 46-47). Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
- Grohol, J. M., Psy.D. (2019, June 24). 15 Common Cognitive Distortions. Retrieved October 31, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-cognitive-distortions/
WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS
- Check out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive (including folders on challenging thoughts, thought records, an overview of cognitive distortions, etc.)
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
Workbook + Community + Free Resources
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- http://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
- https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-boundaries-tips.pdf
- Gilbertson, T., LPC. (2016, April 08). 3 Essential Ways to Protect Your Personal Boundaries. Retrieved October 24, 2020, from http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/constructive-wallowing/201604/3-essential-ways-protect-your-personal-boundaries
WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH BOUNDARIES
- Check out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive
- Take the assessment Cordelia mentioned in the episode here
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
Workbook + Community + Free Resources
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- http://www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
- https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/healthy-boundaries-tips.pdf
- Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, & Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, PhD, Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, & Jeffrey Brantley, MD
WORKSHEETS TO HELP WITH BOUNDARIES
- Check out worksheets here that Cordelia put on Google Drive
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
Workbook + Community + Free Resources
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Want access to free resources? Click here---------
We Heal Together Zoom Book Club or We Heal Together Community Hangs - All info can be found here
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Dodes, L., M.D. (2013, August 28). Don't Stay Sober "One Day at a Time". Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-heart-addiction/201308/dont-stay-sober-one-day-time
- Ferguson, P. L., Ph.D. (1999). What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like? Retrieved October 3, 2020, from http://www.peggyferguson.com/userfiles/10846/file/NewPDFSw_CartButtons/recovery%20solutions%20for%20addicted%20families/What%20Does%20Recovery%20From%20Codependency%20Look%20Like.pdf
- Smith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addiction
- Powerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdf
- https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf
RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN
- Cordelia's Google Drive Folders with Worksheets:
- Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on Codependency: https://drive.google.com/drive/u/3/folders/1saTSJTr80Q14akn5Kq-49d8FOGg7efvL
- Access to Google Drive folder on changing your thoughts: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1c5y8L2ds_UQvojeAuwhdlPCCdkqAqlxW?usp=sharing
- Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on boundaries: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-O0w6msiqSpsomkkcUu3VmZsFcKFTz36/view?usp=sharing
- Recommended Books & Workbooks
- Codependent No More: How To Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie: order here
- Boundaries by Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud: order here
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody: order here
- Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller: order here
- Love is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships by Dr. Robert Hemfelt and Dr. Frank Minirth: order here
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- Co-Dependency. (n.d.). Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.mhanational.org/issues/co-dependency
- Codependency. (2016, July 13). Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://havenhelps.com/Post/Codependency
- Lancer, D. (n.d.). Codependency For Dummies Cheat Sheet. Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://www.dummies.com/health/mental-health/codependency-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/
- Selva, J., Bc.S. (2020, September 01). Codependency: What Are The Signs & How To Overcome It. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://positivepsychology.com/codependency-definition-signs-worksheets/
- Smith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addiction
- Powerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdf
- Family History Exercise: Henley, J. M., MSW, LCSW, CEAP, SAP. (2013, December 18). Codependency Workbook Exercise One: Family History. Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/recovery-workbook-exercise-1-012412/
- Video on Karpman Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_keU0-F43hI
- https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf
RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN
- Video on Karpman Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_keU0-F43hI
- Cordelia's Google Drive Folders with Worksheets:
- Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on Codependency: https://drive.google.com/drive/u/3/folders/1saTSJTr80Q14akn5Kq-49d8FOGg7efvL
- Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on boundaries: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-O0w6msiqSpsomkkcUu3VmZsFcKFTz36/view?usp=sharing
- Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on dysfunctional families: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/19AJtKS4rT2ghWMmUnjNZ6nq3c9KRwFh_?usp=sharing
- Recommended Books & Workbooks
- Codependent No More: How To Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie: order here
- Boundaries by Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud: order here
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody: order here
- Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller: order here
- Love is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships by Dr. Robert Hemfelt and Dr. Frank Minirth: order here
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- How To Overcome Sexual Shame (And Finally Love Sex) -. (2018, November 11). Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/how-to-overcome-sexual-shame-and-finally-love-sex/
- Nagoski, E. (2015). Come as you are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.
- Easton, D., & Hardy, J. (2017). The ethical slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other adventures. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379
- Spector, D. (2013, October 15). 11 Groundbreaking Findings That Changed How We Think About Sex. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.businessinsider.com/11-findings-that-revolutionized-our-understanding-of-sex-2013-10
- Locke, S. (2014, July 01). Sex researchers manage to study the most intimate of human experiences. Here's how. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.vox.com/2014/7/1/5858034/sex-researchers-manage-to-study-the-most-intimate-of-human
RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN
- https://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/ - Again, Cordelia's website has "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.
- Recommended Books
- The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti: https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149
- Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9
- Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98F
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5
- The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4
- Worksheets
- Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
- It helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.
- Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) -https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdf
- This could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like. It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).
- Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdf
- You can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together. Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.
- Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
General
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
Sex Education
- https://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/sex-education/how-sex-education-funded
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gender-and-schooling/201812/funding-abstinence-the-war-sex-ed
- https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/138/2/e20161348.full.pdf
- https://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/public-health-now/news/high-school-sex-ed-may-prevent-sexual-assault-college
- https://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/j.2379-3988.2010.tb00065.x
- https://www.guttmacher.org/news-release/2006/premarital-sex-nearly-universal-among-americans-and-has-been-decades
Sex Talk
- https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/
- https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/
- https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
- https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
- https://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/41/81/4181fd5b-b359-480d-8f91-6f9fffda6cb3/nationalpoll_09-14_v2_1_1.pdf
- https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/05/21/what-happens-to-our-girls-when-we-dont-talk-about-sex/
Policing Clothing
- https://www.coasthighschool.com/apps/pages/index.jsp?uREC_ID=687686&type=d&pREC_ID=1127290
- Letter by mom to Notre Dame re Leggings: https://ndsmcobserver.com/2019/03/the-legging-problem/
- https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/news/a21667/united-airlines-girl-leggings-shaming/
- https://time.com/36997/when-enforcing-school-dress-codes-turns-into-slut-shaming/
- https://jezebel.com/lets-reinvent-the-dont-be-a-slut-school-dress-code-509077807
- https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/virtue_signaling
- https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/
Orgasm Gap
- https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/orgasm-gap-why-it-exists-what-women-can-do-about-ncna983311
RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN
- https://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/ - Again, Cordelia's website has "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.
- Recommended Books
- The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti: https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149
- Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9
- Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98F
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5
- The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4
- Tips for Talking to Kids about Sex
- https://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/cd/e3/cde39a0f-0bbb-4d30-a6e1-613d3bf8d020/27_lets-talk-tv-parents-checklist_d12.pdf
- https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
- Worksheets
- Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
- It helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.
- Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) -https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdf
- This could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like. It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).
- Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdf
- You can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together. Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.
- Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
Sexual Shame
- https://familysolutionsok.com/breaking-bad-parenting-legacy-sexual-shame/
- https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2014/02/linking-sexual-shame-and-addiction/
Virginity
- The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti
- The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy
- https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/
- https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/
Slut shame
- https://feminisminindia.com/2017/04/07/slut-shaming-friend-zone-objectification/
- https://www.verywellfamily.com/the-effects-of-slut-shaming-on-teen-girls-460586
- https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/
RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN
- https://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/ - Again, Cordelia's website has "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.
- Recommended Books
- The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti: https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149
- Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9
- Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98F
- Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5
- The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4
- Instagram Post with Questions: https://www.instagram.com/p/CD_1zZ_J5iw/
- Worksheets
- Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
- It helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.
- Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) -https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdf
- This could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like. It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).
- Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdf
- You can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together. Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.
- Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE
- I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW - https://www.amazon.com/Thought-Was-Just-but-isnt-ebook/dp/B000SEHDGM (book on Amazon)
- Shame + Codependency -https://wakeuprecovery.com/the-relationship-between-shame-and-codependency/
- Brené Brown - Definition of Shame: https://brenebrown.com/definitions/
- Definition of Guilt - https://www.collinsdictionary.com/us/dictionary/english/guilt
- Brené Brown – Shame vs. Guilt - https://fs.blog/2014/10/brene-brown-guilt-shame/#:~:text=Bren%C3%A9%20Brown%20studies%20vulnerability%2C%20courage%2C%20authenticity%2C%20and%20shame.&text=Shame%20is%20a%20focus%20on,%2C%20%E2%80%9CI'm%20sorry.
- Article on shame/guilt - https://psychcentral.com/lib/shame-the-core-of-addiction-and-codependency/
- Codependency - https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/codependency
- Shame-Based Identity - https://onlinecounsellingcollege.tumblr.com/post/182966686457/understanding-a-shame-based-identity
- Shame Resilience Theory- https://positivepsychology.com/shame-resilience-theory/
- Ways to Heal: https://positivepsychology.com/resilience-activities-worksheets/#shame-resilience
RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN
- Brené Brown's Shame Exercise - (NOTE: Click on “Reading Guides” and select “ITIWJM Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough.”) - https://brenebrown.com/downloads/ -
- Example of Lists I Made Exercise - https://www.instagram.com/p/CEwe78Kp9dG/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
- Self-Compassion Exercises by Dr. Kristin Neff (8 total) - https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/
- Exercise #1: How would you treat a friend? - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-1-treat-friend/
- Exercise #2: Self-Compassion Break - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-2-self-compassion-break/
- Exercise #3: Exploring Self-Compassion Through Writing - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-3-exploring-self-compassion-writing/
- Exercise #4: Supportive Touch - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-4-supportive-touch/
- Exercise #5: Changing Your Critical Self-Talk - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-5-changing-critical-self-talk/
- Exercise #6: Self-Compassion Journal - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-6-self-compassion-journal/
- Exercise #7: Identifying What We Really Want - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-7-identifying-really-want/
- Exercise #8: Taking Care of the Caregiving - https://self-compassion.org/exercise-8-taking-care-caregiver/
- Cordelia's website's "self-healing" resources (over 20 free worksheets/tools) - https://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
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CITATIONS
1. Article referenced when I talked about Codependency https://www.mindpathcare.com/blog/codependent-behavior-what-it-is-how-to-spot-it-and-what-to-do-about-it/
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
HOW TO BREAK OUT OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS
- Heal all the parts of you (including the part of you that stayed or wanted to stay).
- Find a licensed counselor/therapist: Check out Open Path if you are in the US & money is an issue [https://openpathcollective.org/].
- Explore childhood wounds.
- Make a list of warning signs/red flags for future relationships.
- Be gentle with yourself.
- Read books to help you understand your issues better [i.e., I realized I struggle with codependency issues, so the following books helped me: “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie” & “Facing Codependence” by Pia Mellody”]
- Buy a workbook for self-esteem [i.e., I bought “the Self Esteem Workbook” by Glenn R. Schiraldi”]
- Accept help from your support system and friends.
- Focus on living in the present.
- Practice positive self-talk.
- Write out a list of dealbreakers that you will stick to in the future.
- Assess what your boundaries are [see below for examples].
- Go no contact with your ex.
- Fully acknowledge you have a pattern of being in toxic relationships.
- Explore what relationships were modeled to you as a child.
- Think about a friend or family member’s relationship that you respect. Take notes [i.e., try to find a new “model” for a healthy relationship].
- Give yourself time to heal. Do not date until you are healed.
- Form new friendships + build a social network.
- Reconnect with any family + friends that you drifted from during your toxic relationship
- Develop hobbies + interests.
- Learn how to trust your gut/intuition in relationships.
- Consider seeing a psychiatrist for underlying issues (i.e., depression).
- Go outside more + go for walks.
- Don’t be afraid to tell your story.
- Cut out people from your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
- Get some sunlight + go outside.
- Aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.
- Take care of basic hygiene (brush your teeth, take a shower, etc.).
- Get rid of any reminders of your ex.
- Accept reality + abandon the fantasy.
CORDELIA’S BOUNDARIES:
- I will not sleep with someone who calls me names.
- I will not reach out to someone who abandoned me.
- I will not take back someone who cheated.
- I will not have conversations with anyone if I feel desperate.
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
CITATIONS
1. TYPES OF ABUSE - https://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/
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WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE? - https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional-abuse-really-means/
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SIGNS OF MENTAL/EMOTIONAL ABUSE - https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse
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DEFINITION OF SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/5547/silent-treatment-abuse/
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SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/silent-treatment-covert-abuse.262/
RESOURCES TO GET HELP
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Follow @codependentrecovery on Instagram for more tips.
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https://www.thehotline.org/: Available 24/7 for chat & calls [1-800-787-3224) for women, men, and LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence. They also offer safety planning.
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https://coda.org/ - runs online support groups for people struggling with Codependency.
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www.domesticshelters.org – helps you locate shelters and resources.They also have some online support groups.
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https://openpathcollective.org/ - a great resource for finding an affordable counselor
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https://www.womenslaw.org/ - can look up laws by state
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https://translifeline.org/ - Crisis hotline surviving transgender people (1-877-565-8860)
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https://www.rainn.org/ - Available 24/7 for chats & calls [1-800-656-4673] for sexual assault survivors.
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https://1in6.org/ - Available 24/7 chat for men who are survivors of sexual assault. Also offer weekly support group online meetings
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https://hotpeachpages.net/ - For non-US residents, this site directs you to services for domestic abuse internationally.
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https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/safety-planning-covid19/ - For help with safety planning.
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https://www.loveisrespect.org/ - Supports youth and young adults in ending dating violence. The website includes planning resources, legal help, educator toolkits, and more—[Can also call 1-800-331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522].
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https://www.strongheartshelpline.org/ - StrongHearts Native Helpline is a safe domestic, dating, and sexual violence helpline for American Indians and Alaska Natives, offering culturally-appropriate support and advocacy daily from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CT. Anonymous and confidential. [1-844-762-8483]
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https://www.nwnetwork.org/ - The Northwest Network works to end abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities. It strives to support and empower all survivors through education and advocacy. [1-206-568-7777]
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https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. [1-800-273-8255]
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https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 - Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melanie Beattie [useful book for recognizing some areas that may need work & may be keeping you in the relationship]
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/1626255938/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_LcsqFbV12KY81 - The Self-Esteem Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by Glenn R. Schiraldi Ph.D. [useful workbook that helps with your self-esteem]
Podcast Info
- A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
- Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
- Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
- Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
- Want to help me make this podcast better? Take an anonymous survey here.
WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES
- Want access to free resources? Click here
- Need help finding a therapist? Click here
- Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
- Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
- Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Here is the link to the 98-page workbook. Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
- Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
- Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
- Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.