Your Life By Design: Recent Episodes
Dr. Sundardas
If you’re ready for deeply satisfying and fulfilling relationships, vital health, and a thriving business than this podcast is designed for you ! In this show you’ll discover how to best choose the direction of your life to help you grow, and thrive not just survive. Learn to live the “Life by Design” model with Dr. Sundardas as your personal guide.
The Key to Understanding Your Relationships and Life
We have this belief that all our thinking came from our intellectual perspective.
The reality is that much of our thinking is on a knee jerk reactive basis. Many of these reactions are actually emotional reactions. The first reaction or impulse is often a gut reaction mediated through the Enteric nervous system or your Gut Brain. So you are feeling it through your gut.
We have this belief that all our thinking came from our intellectual perspective. The reality is that much of our thinking is on a knee jerk reactive basis. Many of these reactions are actually emotional reactions. The first reaction or impulse is often a gut reaction mediated through the Enteric nervous system or your Gut Brain. So you are feeling it through your gut.
I was just recently interviewed by one of my retreat participants Glenn. He did my premium retreat “Success Mastery” almost 7 years ago and it totally changed his life. He is currently running his very successful coaching and mentoring organization now. Glenn decided to interview me firstly to catch up and secondly to get my sense of the COVID 19 situation. He had started to pivot his business to do more coaching online as well as do more webinars and Facebook live interviews.
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler is the relationship health doctor, she provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships and advise. Her mission is to provide insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences which transform relationships with themselves and other humans. To be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways.
Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping partners, executives, exes, and enough children of relentlessly difficult, toxic people, she calls “hijackals” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity Author of 16 books including, “Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making.” She focuses the internationally popular podcast, “Save Your Sanity, Help on Toxic Relationships” a YouTube channel for relationships’ health has reached over 360,000 views.
“We need to keep moving forward in uncertain times.”
History has taught us that all challenges, no matter the intensity, eventually pass and a new level of energy and possibility is awaiting us on the other side of these current events. We, as a global community, are seeing our interdependence with every citizen of this planet and experiencing how each individual decision can impact the collective. This is a powerful reminder that we all need to work together with communication, strategy, leadership, and shared wisdom.
We know that some people who develop COVID-19, or any other flu or virus, react mildly and experience mild symptoms, while others develop far more severe cases. This disparity is likely a direct indication of the strength of the individual’s immune system.
I went away to a beach holiday. I was looking forward to this resort area. I used to go there about 15 years ago, then life happened. Changed relationships, changed life circumstances. Sounds familiar? What I loved doing here was body boarding. The waves were just right. I kept thinking of all the years I missed doing body boarding. So for almost 15 years I did not do any body boarding. Then here I was at my familiar resort doing it again. I was so excited. I had to wait for the right wave. Otherwise nothing happened.
Dorothy’s vision “elevate and respect so that any woman can own a space, command respect and live free from fear”. She graduated in Physics and Maths. Started a career in military systems, then Telecom, Financial systems and more. As a rare woman, she led and manage the people who made it happen. Along the way she worked with many good men, learned their ways on how to build standards while respecting others. And there were those who did not distinguished themselves in the good man category.
You may have heard that comment about a ‘human bottle neck”. I was always concerned about being the limiting factor in my company. I don’t want to be the bottleneck at work (we all want that), I don’t want things stopping with me…gotta keep things moving.
The unconscious mind holds a strong power that can dictate your current perceptions of the world. Unleash and control it to design the life you wish as you clear unwanted reactions and negative charges that cloud your state of mind. Hinging on repetition, loop positive suggestions to your subconscious to redirect negativities. Furthermore, foster a better understanding of what you want in life while increasing self-confidence, courage, and conviction in moving forward.
Self-improvement is a key factor towards success in life—be it in business, career, or relationships. However, there are others who do not know if they need to improve themselves, which usually stems from low self-esteem and lack of inspiration. Overcome that through determination, self-confidence, inspiration, motivation, goal setting, and networking. Train those skills and welcome growth from within as you change the mindset towards success.
Are your unconscious programs running your life by default or are you living the life of your dreams? The unconscious mind or the emotional mind includes everything that we are not aware of and is critically defined by our childhood years. Learn how to attain conscious awareness as we break down the major components of EQ and the two things that trigger the unconscious mind. Discover the value of empathy and being open to appropriate relationships, and find out how you can switch the triggers off to be absolutely in charge of your life.
Are you tuning in to your dreams, intuition, and creativity? Indeed, the more we know, the more our faculty of wonder will be exercised. Dreaming is a way to boost one’s creativity while intuition is the capacity to easily recognize useful creative ideas without our conscious thought. Unleash your creative thinking as we dive into fresh ideas to get the creative juices flowing. Learn how to unlock and develop your intuition and to master the art of letting go. Furthermore, find out why you must believe in first impressions.
Are you a leader in your life? Do you motivate, inspire and educate those around you to become a better version of themselves? In reality, people are born with innate leadership qualities. However, without the right environment and exposure, they may fail to develop their full potential. Lifelong learning is essential in becoming a good leader; and you can design and hone your leadership abilities, knowledge, and skills by enrolling in leadership seminars, workshops, and conferences. Dr. Sundardas shares these things to you as you learn how to apply them to your own life.
What would you do if you are trapped in an environment that you do not want to be in? Is it possible to take inspired and motivated action to survive your present situation and live the life you always dreamed of? Things do get even more complicated when you become an adult especially when the society sees emotion as a sign of weakness. Go easy with your mental and emotional health as we dive into the ways to eradicate negative thoughts and replace it with positivity. Learn about self-hypnosis and how finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental state. At the end of the day, it all comes down to how you feel about yourself.
Building a personal brand is the one way that guarantees longevity in your business. How do you brand yourself when you’re just starting? Dr. Sundardas cover five simple tactics that you can put in place to help you enhance your personal brands. Also, take the time to learn how to leverage aspects of your personality to create the most unique presence you can by staying up to date and finding relevant information.
Are your limiting beliefs sabotaging your health and keeping you sick or hurting? In reality, you may not even know that you have these limiting beliefs in the first place and that they are also related to your health. That is why it is crucial to eliminate all those pesky limiting beliefs. Dr. Sundardas helps by shedding light on awareness, meditation, positivity and taking control of your destiny. Learn all of these not only to help you with your health but also for you to overcome limiting beliefs related to money, relationships, and other vital areas of your life.
Many people tend to forget reality when faced with struggles and challenges in life, psyching themselves out by overthinking. Humans as we are, we tend to fall into this mind game as a response to stress. Our problems seem more prominent and the world appears meaner that we feel and behave negatively. Fortunately, there are processes useful in dealing with adverse situations. Learn how these processes help in shaping our values, biases, and beliefs. In the end, what matters is realizing what’s happening now so we can take proactive steps in improving our lives.
When I’d just about given up trying to understand procrastination, I came across a theory about I’d never heard of, and it completely changed the way I think about procrastination. It made me more sympathetic towards my clients. Listen to this episode and figure out the TRUTH about procrastination.
We all aim to be successful and productive. Daily rituals can help a lot in attaining this goal. These rituals the tiny, invisible routines and collections of habits that these people do every single day to make sure that they get things done, that they don’t get interrupted, and that they can sustainably move towards their goals one day at a time. Listen to this episode and learn five hacks to have a productive day.
How do you start your day? Have you ever felt drained or burned out at the end of your day even when you haven’t exerted yourself physically? Over the past few years, research has emerged stating that the simple act of making decisions greatly affects our daily energy levels. Listen to this episode and learn how to start your day the right way so you can lighten your load, save your energy, and make each day worth living.
In order to get serious results in your life, you need to be able to focus on what really matters. In order to understand what really matters to you, you need to explore and evaluate. When you become crystal clear of what matters to you, you’ll know what works for you in hindsight. Learn how you can have that laser focus so you’ll get rid of things that are irrelevant toward your goal and be able to concentrate on achieving what you really want to achieve.
We all want to figure our life out, not only in a way where we have success but also having our desires and aspirations together with that. One great tool that can help us see the grand view of life is through a vision board. If you are feeling empowered to create your own vision board, then know how it’s easier than you may think. Simply follow the steps to prepare and execute what may be one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Listen to this episode and learn how.
If there’s one thing that keeps people stuck, it’s a lack of clarity. You know you want to quit your soul-sucking day job in favor of the freedom of self-employment, but you aren’t clear on the steps to take. You want to take an exotic vacation, but you aren’t sure where to go or how to make it happen. Learn how to get clarity in this episode using a vision board.
How intentional are you about your life? How much thought do you give to how you start your day? Everyone wants to start the day being productive. How you achieve that depends on the choices that you make from the time you open your eyes in the morning. Learn how you can pick the right attitude and choice each day to help you live an intentional life.
In this complex world filled with noise and distractions, we may sometimes find it impossible to achieve calmness, wellness, and productivity at its fullest. Meditation will make you more productive. It might sound strange that sitting still and doing nothing for a period of time will make you more productive, but it’s true. Dr. Sundardas walks us through the process of meditation. He enumerates its benefits such as making you more productive, energized, calm, and all good things that will surely help you get the best out of yourself.
There is power in creative imagination. How can you use this power to design and actualize your ideal life? Although there is no universal formula for success, there is a range of approaches that are well suited to a variety of temperaments and environments, some certain elements of strategy that are useful to remember and will help you. Get ready to unleash the power of your creative imagination as Dr. Sundardas guides us to find out what works for you and make that your method.
Do you know what you can do to keep you and your family safe in a toxic environment in terms of food, water, air and radiation?
We all do stupid things and mess up and go unconscious. In Buddhism, it has a name: Unskillful. It simply means you didn’t have the skills yet.
What type of game are you playing with your life? The long game or the one of immediate gratification. It’s easy to overestimate the importance of luck on success and underestimate the importance of investing in success every single day.
What kind of healthy choices will you make? Those based on Wellness Medicine or Sickness Medicine? Will you be proactive about your health or reactive?
Compared to 500 years ago, before the exponential explosion of science, technology, wealth, inventions, and access to resources granted us near mastery over our environment, enabled us to meet all our survival needs, and allowed us to enjoy a level of personal comfort and safety unprecedented in human history – are we any happier?
In Life by Design, we talk about going through a much needed eliminating unnecessary in your life. How do you get rid of the physical junk let alone the mental clutter in your head?
You get your nine hours of beauty sleep regularly every night. So why do you feel so tired? You eat all the right foods or so you think. You regularly exercise thirty minutes a day. However, you just can’t seem to get up and go.
Throughout our childhood, we are also being programmed by our caretakers and communities to fit into society. We are programmed to do what we can to gain love and acceptance. We split off, repress or disown parts of ourselves that society finds challenging or unacceptable.
Learning more about emotions, understanding what happens to you when you become emotional; learning to control yourself and your responses to emotions are your personal responsibility as an adult.
As Peter Drucker famously said, “What gets measured gets managed.” When details come to the forefront, behavior changes. Data can make people more likely to take action.
Prioritizing, planning and scheduling is the process by which you design your life. Ultimately the habits you have will determine how well you succeed.
The concept of self-renewal may be the most important idea of all when it comes to becoming more productive and successful long term. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. So unless there is a continuous and ongoing attempt at self-evaluation and self-renewal you may not even reach the finish line before dropping out of the race.
How to use Awareness and Will Power, to start a new habit that will lead to greater productivity and personal satisfaction. How to design your life to use this model for enduring success.
One of the highest-leverage ways to use Deliberate Repetition is with your Personalized Success Ritual. Discover how one of the most famous Olympians used this approach to win gold medals.
Are you aware of the hidden meaning and purpose that guides your life? As humans, we are meaning-making machines. These meanings will determine whether we experience happiness and success in our lives.
The choices that you make about what you eat and drink as a young person have a profound impact on your health, your long-term performance and your longevity. Learn about the forces arrayed against you in your quest for health, happiness and wealth.
One of the main hidden dangers that significantly impact the length and the quality of life is sleep deprivation. It’s a deadly block to a successful “Designed Life”.
Emotional money scripts will always influence our financial beliefs and behaviors and thus every aspect of our lives until we die.
Are your commitments enabling or crippling you? Learn what you can do to navigate the tapestry of prior commitments that can limit your progress.
How we handle our lives is a reaction to certain events from our early childhood. We have this emotional psychological blueprint that decides and dictates how we run our lives. It has been deeply ingrained in our subconscious and unconscious by past experiences that they determine our life destiny. Examine how your family of origin can set up many benefits or challenges throughout your life. Go deep into your personal success blueprint and out of the past conditioning that keeps you from becoming your true potential.
Contrary to what people think, free time does not exist. You pay for it all the time of your life. We are either using time purposefully or wasting it. How does this affect our business? It is the value of our time that makes the achievements we want. It’s time to stop overlooking what our time is actually worth and step into increasing its value. Only then will we be able to create better decisions. Discover an exercise to learn the value of time. You’ll find that in the next twelve months, you will be able to stay on track and bring intention into everything you do.
There is not much that we can do with what is already in front of us, but we can always decide what to do with the time we are given. To truly find a fulfilling life, we have to create a life design by following three critical actions: plan in three to five years chunk, plan for each task in fifteen minutes, and plan backwards from three to five years. Understand how this works in both your life and business, and learn the value of your time and become more productive as you learn the Paleto principle, taking to heart how 20% of your activities will contribute to 80% of your success and happiness.
Being productive has undeniably become a problem. We find ourselves wasting our time and getting distracted by other things. At the end of it, our problems and tasks pile up that we can’t sleep anymore. Overcome this by creating your life design. It is said that those individuals who are into life design have one thing in common. They understood precisely what they were getting into. Learn how to create your own life design to make your life a success.
Change never comes easy. There is no one-size-fits-all model. However, we can always try to pin down the things we tend to go through when we finally decide to take that step out of our old ways and into something new. The stages of change that one goes through is broken down into pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance, and sometimes relapse. While change can be scary, we can always do something about it. Learning the stages makes the journey more manageable.
Have you ever wondered why women tend to live longer than men? Dr. Sundardas puts two and two together by comparing what has been missed by the Western medicine model that the wellness medicine model has. Situating emotions at the heart of it, what differs is the pain perception between men and women. Learn about their different coping mechanisms and how it affects their health.
As the world moves in a speed that seems to be going faster than ever, what we find wanting more of is time. Evolving with the world means developing new life goals and habits. Unfortunately, the constraints with time have made it harder for us to create new habits to support the things we now want. Though we work hard, we seem to be less and less productive. Discover a groundbreaking research around time management and its three core elements: evaluate, discard, and implement.
The urgent is something we evolve and have grown to despise. It distracts and interrupts you and somehow finds a way to take priority over the things that matter in your life. It doesn’t care about your intention for meaningful progress. It doesn’t care about what you want. It’s selfish; it wants what it wants when it wants it. It’s always challenging across to you and those around you. It means that book you’ve always wanted to write doesn’t get written. It means that friend you have been meaning to call doesn’t get called. One day, you wake up asking yourself, “Why am I finding it difficult to love my spouse? Where does this extra ten or twenty kilos come from? Why am I living here or in this job? Why do I feel like something is missing?” If you can relate to all of this or any of it, you’re normal. It doesn’t have to be this way. Discover the Freedom Formula and three powerful questions to conquer the urgent and make meaningful progress to what important things you’re holding near and dear to your heart.
Most people have bigger TV screens than their vision. They never develop a vision for their life, let alone for the year. There’s a reason why only 3% to 5% of a population ever achieve any real level of freedom or fulfillment, creative, financial, or otherwise. It’s only because 3% to 5% of people ever get clear on highest leverage goals, uncover the unconscious patterns sabotaging them, and have a principle-centered system to achieve them. You don’t have to be like most people. That’s not your destiny if you decide. Grab this very special opportunity to turn this path around once and for all and discover how you can start creating the best year of your life year after year.
Why is it that some people continue to fall deeper in love with their spouse and have a powerful connection with their kids, while others find themselves growing more distant in their most important relationships? How is it that some people always seem to have an abundance of energy and living a fascinating life full of contribution and meaning? Why are some people able to quickly grow their businesses or advance their careers, while others are working hard but never really making a forward progress they know they are capable of? A lot of people find themselves drifting through life, swept up in the daily routine they never imagined living. Life can be stressful and fast. Sometimes when your business begins to succeed your personal life falls apart, and vice versa. Stop feeling overwhelmed, accomplish what matters most, and realize your potential. There is no better time than now to set the stage for your success. Discover how you can approach life and choose your destination. Learn how finding your why and true purpose and calling can make this year your best year ever.