How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything: Recent Episodes
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Real-life scenarios and practical, professional advice for adult children of immigrants on talking to our parents about stuff that’s taboo to them.
We have a special treat this week. We've launched a new investigative narrative audio series documenting the health and well being of U.S. Latinas. Paulina Velasco, the editor, joins Juleyka for a conversation about exploring delicate topics with Latinas and their families for this project, and dives into the show's themes that most resonated with her as a first-gen.
If you enjoyed this episode listen to The Myths and Gifts of Bilingualism in Babies and Why We Must Talk About Peripartum Depression, from LWC Studios' 100 Latina Birthdays.
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Carmen has decided to go through fertility preservation treatment, but feels disconcerted when loved ones aren’t as supportive as she hoped. And Milan Chavarkar, a nurse practitioner specializing in fertility care, speaks with Juleyka about what to expect during an egg retrieval, and how to prepare for the emotional and physical stress along the way.
Featured Expert: Milan Chavarkar, has been a women's health specialist for 25 years and a family nurse practitioner for 20 years. She has worked with people from all backgrounds and seen that conventional medical system has fallen short in achieving true healing. She is dedicated to helping her clients improve their health and vitality through a collaborative and integrative approach. She uses functional medicine, conventional western medicine, natural therapies, mindfulness techniques, medications, supplements, and herbal treatments to treat her patients. She firmly believes that an integrative approach is the future of healthcare. With a 25-year career in nursing, Milan Chavarkar has worked in many capacities in the health care system, nurse, nurse-practitioner, midwife, professor, and manager. Dr. Chavarkar genuinely wants to improve the health care system and is available to guide corporations and individuals as a speaker and consultant. Learn more about her work and practice here.
Milan recommends Resolve, the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, and the American College of Nurse Midwives, The National Association for Nurse Practitioners in Women's Health, as resources for anyone who wants to learn more about women's reproductive health and fertility treatments.
If you liked this show listen to Speaking About Breast Health As a Family and Telling Mamí about My IUD.
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Judith’s Iranian Jewish parents expected her to date, and ultimately marry, someone of her cultural background. But her new relationship is creating tension with her relatives--and within herself. And Samira Mehta, a religion and family politics scholar, debunks myths about interfaith marriage in the U.S. and shares strategies for making religious spaces and family traditions more inclusive.
Featured Expert:
Our expert this week is Samira K. Mehta. Samira is an Associate Professor of Women and Gender Studies and the Director of Jewish Studies at the University of Colorado Boulder. Her research and teaching focus on the intersections of religion, culture, and gender, including the politics of family life and reproduction in the United States. Her first book, Beyond Chrismukkah: The Christian-Jewish Interfaith Family in the United States (University of North Carolina Press, 2018), was a National Jewish Book Awards finalist. Mehta is currently working on two academic book projects. The first, God Bless the Pill: Sexuality and Contraception in Tri-Faith America, examines the role of Jewish, Catholic, and Protestant voices in competing moral logics of contraception, population control, and eugenics from the mid-twentieth century to the present and is under contract with the University of North Carolina Press. The second, A Mixed Multitude: A History of Jews of Color in the United States, under contract with Princeton University Press, will trace that history through much of the twentieth and twenty-first centuries. Her book of personal essays, The Racism of People Who Love You: Essays on Mixed Race Belonging, was released by Beacon Press in January 2023.
In addition to these academic book projects, Mehta serves as the primary investigator for the Henry Luce Foundation–funded collaboration Jews of Color: Histories and Futures and is working on editing scholarly and literary collections related to her research topics.She serves as a Creative Editor at the journal American Religion and co-chairs both the North American Religion Section of the American Academy of Religion and the board of eFeminist Studies in Religion. She holds degrees from Swarthmore College, Harvard University, and Emory University.
In addition to speaking at colleges and universities, Mehta frequently teaches and speaks at high schools, churches, and synagogues. You can find her on Twitter and Instagram at @samirakmehta. Learn more about her work here.
If you liked this show listen to Raised Mormon, She Left the Church Fearing for Her Safety and A Historical Would He’s Trying To Understand.
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The health and wellness of Latinas is crucial to the health and wellbeing of the U.S. economy. In 100 Latina Birthdays, an original documentary series from Peabody-nominated LWC Studios, reporters in Chicago investigate the health and lifetime outcomes of Latinas in the United States from birth to age 100. In season 1, the stories that unfold center Latinas during their perinatal journeys, childhood, adolescence, and up until age 20.
In episode 1, new parents Wendy Miralda and José Paz are navigating the first year of their daughter Jelyani’s life, in Spanish. Language is key to their connection as a family and as Hondurans living in a predominantly Mexican neighborhood in Waukegan, Illinois. The Paz family never questioned teaching their baby Spanish. But many Latinos in the U.S. grapple with the misconception that doing so could delay their child learning English, or affect their development. There’s also the stigma Latinos face when they don’t teach their children Spanish. Reporter Andrea Flores dives into the research on infant brain development that supports bilingualism, and tackles the harmful misconceptions that divide U.S. Latinos along language lines. For more information, all episodes, and transcripts visit us at 100latinabirthdays.com. Follow us on social media @100latinabirthdays.
After feeling inadequate all through childhood, 22-year old Ashley was recently diagnosed with ADHD. She's frustrated that her Mexican parents don’t seem to understand what the news means. And Diana Mercado-Marmarosh, a physician and ADHD coach, speaks with Juleyka about getting to know your neurodivergent brain, and offers advice on coming to terms with a diagnosis later in life.
If you liked this show listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Health and Explaining She's Isolated, Depressed, and Caring for a Newborn.
Featured Expert:
Our expert this week is Diana Mercado-Marmarosh, a Family Medicine Physician, ADHD-Certified Clinical Service Provider, Clinic Medical Director and Former Chief Medical Officer. She is also the founder of OverAchieve Life Coaching. Prior to discovering coaching, Diana typically had 200 charts open and a graveyard of unfinished projects. But that has changed, and now she’s on a mission to empower physicians and healthcare professionals create systems that are simple to implement with ADHD, supporting their zone of genius and reclaiming 5-10 hours per week of their personal life. Her clients learn to leave work at work. She is happily married with two pre-school-aged children and enjoys travel, painting, zumba, yoga nidra meditation, and exploring different cultures. Learn more about her work here.
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Brad does not feel comfortable speaking with his Costa Rican mom about the childhood sexual abuse he experienced. But a recent family tragedy is making him rethink the need for these difficult conversations. And Luis Resendez, a therapist who specializes in men’s mental health, speaks with Juleyka about how to be a better listener in times of crisis, and shares strategies to help us open up.
This episode discusses some difficult topics, such as self-harm, child sexual abuse, and suicide. If you decide to listen, please take care of yourself.
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If you loved this episode, listen to Giving Advice to Parents and Redefining Manhood with Papí.
Featured Expert:
Our expert this week is Luis Resendez, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, adjunct professor, and CEO and founder of Vida Emotional Wellness. He is also the author of What About Dad?: Understanding and Addressing Postpartum Depression in Men. Luis was born in San Bernardino and has lived in the Inland Empire most of his life. He graduated from both San Bernardino Valley College and Cal State San Bernardino (B.A., Criminal Justice) and began his mental health career as a residential counselor at a boy’s home in the eastern San Gabriel Valley in 2004. A year later he became the in home behavior specialist for an agency based in Los Angeles County. After obtaining my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy 2010 from Pacific Oaks College, he began full time work as a community based therapist for an intensive outpatient (Full Service Partnership) program in the Highland Park region of Los Angeles. In 2012 he returned to the eastern San Gabriel Valley to start a gardening based group therapy program for a public mental health agency in Pomona. In 2015 he passed the California state licensing exam and became a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Learn more about his private practice, Vida Emotional, here.
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Elizabeth is surprised and relieved to learn her Filipino mom is finally ready to see a therapist, but she's unsure of how to support her. And Roanne de Guia-Samuels, a psychotherapist who works with Filipino women, speaks with Juleyka about reading nonverbal cues and tuning in to communication nuances when speaking with loved ones about their mental health.
Featured Expert:
Roanne de Guia-Samuels is a licensed psychotherapist, mom of 4, and an immigrant twice in America. She has frequented at least 500 Filipino households & counting. She is the author of the Ebook: 5 Pinoy Love Languages & the creator of the presentation entitled: Filipino Core Values & Considerations in Culturally-Responsive Care presented to various organizations including the UC Davis Center for Reducing Health Disparities Team. Roanne was the lead clinician & pioneer for Solano County’s first Filipino Outreach Project for 5 years. She has been featured in the Filipino American Woman Podcast, at Apple, Inc., UC Davis Bulosan Center and NPR’s Code Switch. Roanne is a lover of Kapeng Barako (straight from Batangas) , a gardener-wanna-be & enjoys belly-laughing with her children. Learn more about her work and private practice Kalamansi Juice here.
If you loved this episode, listen to Mom Tells Her to Pray Her Depression Away and Redefining Manhood with Papí.
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To celebrate How to Talk to [High Achievers] about Anything Juleyka welcomes back its host, licensed psychotherapist Stevon Lewis, for a special episode. LWC Studios team members grab the mic to open up about their personal and professional challenges, and Stevon offers his insight and advice to help them level up.
Featured Expert:
Stevon Lewis is the host of our sister podcast LWC's How to Talk to [High Achievers] about Anything. He is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice specializing in the treatment of Impostor Syndrome. He earned his Bachelor’s of Arts degrees in Psychology and Afro-Ethnic Studies from California State University, Fullerton and a Master’s of Science degree in Counseling with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University, Long Beach. He began his therapy career in 2007 as a therapist at a community mental health agency, working with the families of adolescents involved with the juvenile justice system. Until 2019, he served as the Director of Counseling Services at Woodbury University, a small private university in Burbank, CA. He is a clinical member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) and am a Past President of the Long Beach-South Bay chapter. You can learn more about his work here.
If you loved this episode follow and subscribe to How to Talk to [High Achievers] about Anything, and listen to When Mamí Doesn't Respect Your Hustle, our 2021 episode featuring Stevon Lewis for the first time.
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After an emotional coming out to his Mexican parents, Fermanparis wishes they showed more interest in his love life and life plans. And Aida Manduley, organizer and licensed therapist, returns to the show and speaks with Juleyka about how to invite curiosity into our family relationships. They offer practical advice for helping parents understand who we really are as adults.
Featured Expert:
Aida Manduley, LICSW, is an award-winning Latinx organizer, international presenter, and trauma-focused clinician known for big earrings and building bridges. Trained as a sexuality educator, social worker, and nonprofit management professional, they’re working to make the world a more equitable place through education, therapy, and community organizing. Their perspective centers intersectionality and maximizing kindness, while retaining both a sense of humor and a sense of justice. From The New York Times to The Rainbow Times, Mx. Manduley has been interviewed by a variety of media outlets. They were even brought on for a debate on the Laura Ingraham show—a popular conservative radio program—and lived to tell the tale. Learn more about their work here.
Aida reminds us we do not have to have these difficult conversations aone and recommends the following organizations for the tools and resources they offer: PFLAG, Familia Trans Queer Liberation Movement, and Fe, Familia, Igualdad (this last one has done a lot of cool work at the intersection of Latinidad, queerness and religion) .
If you loved this episode, listen to Getting Divorced, Coming Out and Telling Mamí, and When You Don't Believe in God, But They Rally Want You To.
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The newest narrative podcast from LWC Studios is out now! “Still Paying the Price: Reparations in Real Terms” is a 14-part series exploring how reparations should be paid and to whom. This podcast is meant to be enjoyed in an order that makes the most sense for our listeners. You can begin by listening to this episode or wherever you find your podcasts–-and start your own reparations exploration.
For more information, all episodes, and transcripts visit StillPayingThePricePod.com.
Original score by Kojin Tashiro. Cover art: "Gemini" by Fitgi Saint-Louis.
This series was funded by a grant from The John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation.
When Estela gets diagnosed with bilateral breast cancer she opens up about her health and body to her adult children in ways her Mexican mother never did with her. And Laura Fejerman, a researcher studying hereditary breast cancer among Latinas, speaks with Juleyka about how to talk with older relatives about their health histories and private parts without making them uncomfortable.
Estela Casas is the author of the book A Place to Anchor: Journalism, Cancer, and Rewriting Mi Vida as a Latina on the Border.
Featured Expert:
Dr. Laura Fejerman's research focuses on the discovery and understanding of genetic and environmental factors that contribute to breast cancer risk and survival and that could be used as targets for prevention and therapy, with special interest in self-identifying Hispanic/Latina women in the US and in Latin America. Additionally, Dr. Fejerman contributes to the elimination of cancer health disparities by developing and implementing programs for cancer education, screening, and navigation in underserved communities in California. Learn more about her work community engagement work and research at the UC Davis Comprehensive Cancer Center and at The Fejerman Lab.
To find comprehensive cancer information and bilingual reources Laura recommends the National Cancer Institute, the American Cancer Society, the Susan G. Komen Foundation (breast cancer), and an organization called FORCE (for hereditary breast cancer).
If you loved this episode, listen to Telling Mamí About My IUD and When Relatives Always Comment on Your Body.
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Emilio’s Dominican mother was supportive and encouraging when he came out to her, but when he decides to speak openly with a younger relative about being gay, tensions arise between them. And Laurin Mayeno, a consultant and coach specializing in gender inclusion and justice, speaks with Juleyka about why prioritizing our needs helps us engage more productively during triggering conversations, and offers advice on how to avoid projecting our discomfort onto others.
Featured Expert:
Laurin Mayeno is an equity and justice consultant and children’s book author whose work is inspired by her experiences growing up mixed race (Japanese/Jewish) during the social movements of the 1960s and parenting a nonbinary queer child. She wrote "One of a Kind Like Me/Único como yo," a bilingual (Spanish/English) story about a little boy who wants to dress up as a princess. Laurin is also active in Somos Familia, an intergenerational organization she co-founded that supports families with LGBTQ+ children in the Latinx community. Her personal and professional experiences have given her a deep appreciation for the importance of responding to gender diversity, which is now a central focus of her work For over two decades, Laurin has provided coaching, consultation, and facilitation services to leaders, teams, and organizations. Prior to launching her consulting business in 1999, Laurin worked with a variety of public and non-profit organizations. She earned a Bachelors of Science in Ethnic Studies, and a Masters in Public Health, with a focus on community health education and multicultural health from UC Berkeley. She brings learnings from different perspectives to her work – including frameworks and approaches focusing on anti-racism, gender diversity/gender justice, pivoting from white supremacy culture, cultural humility, nonviolent communication, and coaching for transformation. Learn more about her work here.
Laurin recommends The Center for Nonviolent Communication as a great resource for speaking with families about gender and sexual orientation, as well as Somos Familia's bilingual guide.
If you loved this episode, listen to Coming Out to My Family and Talking to Their Parents About Being Nonbinary.
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Musician and rapper Figgy Baby, who identifies as non-binary, tries to bond with their traditional Mexican father by opening up about their intimate relationships and personal life, even when it makes both of them uncomfortable. And Jerry Tello, a therapist and community educator who works with men and boys of color, speaks with Juleyka about rethinking restrictive notions of what it means to be a man and why labels like toxic masculinity miss the full story.
Featured Expert:
Jerry Tello is an internationally recognized authority in family strengthening, therapeutic healing, cross-cultural issues, men and boys of color, racial justice, and community peace and mobilization. Over the last forty years as a noted therapist, author, performer and program developer, Mr. Tello has incorporated his real life experience, together with research-based knowledge, and indigenous, culturally-based teachings, to engage all in a reality-based healing and growth-inspiring experience. He is co-founder of the National Compadres Network and is currently Director of Training and Capacity Building. He has authored numerous articles, videos, and curricula addressing fatherhood, youth “rites of passage,” culturally-based family strengthening, and healing the healer. He is the author of Recovering Your Sacredness, A Father’s Love, a series of children’s books, co-editor of Family Violence and Men of Color, has served as a principal consultant for Scholastic Books on International Bilingual Literacy curriculum, and has published a series of motivational health and healing CDs. Jerry Tello has appeared in Time, Newsweek, Latina and Lowrider magazines. He is the recipient of numerous awards, which include the 2016 Maria Shriver’s Annual Advocate for Change award, the 2015 White House Champions of Change award, two California Governor’s Awards, the Ambassador of Peace Award presented by Rotary International, and the 2012 Presidential Crime Victims Service award, presented by President Bill Clinton and Attorney General Janet Reno.He is a father, grandfather, son, brother and relative of many. He is from a family of Mexican, Texan and Coahuiltecan roots, and was raised in the South Central/Compton areas of Los Angeles. Learn more about his work on his website.
If you loved this episode, listen to She's Fighting Inherited Gender Roles and the follow-up OG Check:-in: She Still Needs Papí, but Has to Guide Him to Help.
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Ami has dabbled around in different jobs and careers while trying to figure out her true calling. But her high-achieving Indian parents don’t get what, exactly, she’s looking for. And Samorn Selim, a career coach who works with BIPOC, women and first-gen professionals, speaks with Juleyka about how to get clarity around what we want professionally without feeling beholden to our families.
Ami Thukker is the host of Tuckered Out With Amy Thukkar, a podcast where she interviews South Asian trailblazers, leaders and experts around the world.
Featured Expert:
Samorn is a lawyer turned career coach on a mission to help us all take our careers from dread to joy. Samorn has coached more than 1,000 BIPOC, women, and first-generation professionals who are lawyers, techies, and leaders to build their dream careers. Through her companies, Samorn Selim Coaching and now Career Unicorns she has successfully worked with individuals who want to make a positive impact in the world to land dream jobs, be promoted to leadership positions, negotiate 6 figure salaries, and develop a book of business. Samorn has been a keynote speaker at Google, Autodesk, Wilson Sonsini, Paul Hastings, UC Office of the President, the National Association for Law Placement, and other organizations on hot topics including: developing your signature personal brand, managing cultural code switching, and sponsoring women of color and first generation professionals. She is a board member of the American Bar Association Career Center, and has provided pro bono career coaching to first generation college and undocumented students for the Coca Cola Scholars Foundation and the New Leaders Scholarship. She has been published in The Recorder, The Daily Journal, American Bar Association, and The Transcript (Berkeley Law's alumni magazine). Her book, "Belonging: Self Love Lessons From A Workaholic, Depressed, Insomniac Lawyer" is available on Amazon. Learn more about her work on her website.
If you loved this episode, listen to She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get it and Her Roots Inspired a Career Change, But Her Parents Don't Get It.
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To close out National Mental Health Awareness Month, we speak with Gina, an engineer who, after landing a dream job, begins to feel anxious, unhappy, and unmotivated, which puzzles her working-class Mexican parents. And Carmen Cusido, a writer and mental health advocate, speaks with Juleyka about how to support our wellbeing by cultivating a sense of belonging and connection in the workplace.
Gina Moreno writes about her career experience as a Latina and a first-gen in STEM/Tech on her website.
Featured Expert: Carmen Cusido is a longtime mental health advocate. She has written and spoken extensively about her struggle with depression and her recovery from anorexia. Her writing has appeared in Newsweek, Oprah Daily, Refinery29, Health, NBC, CNN, NPR, Next Avenue, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Cusido has also spoken about grief and loss for publications like AARP Magazine en español and TV stations like Univision 41 and PBS/NJTV. She earned a bachelor’s from Rutgers University and a master’s degree from the Columbia School of Journalism. She also has taken courses at Harvard Business School and the Yale Writers Workshop. She lives in Northern New Jersey.
If you loved this episode, listen to Needing a Self-Care Trip, But Parents Want Her Home and Shedding Inherited Stigmas about Mental Illness.
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May is National Mental Health Awareness Month, so we’re featuring stories that help us broach difficult issues with our loved ones. In this episode, Sunny’s family never acknowledged his mom’s depression or suicide attempts, and he had to learn how to face his own mental health struggles. And mental health advocate Carmen Cusido corrects misconceptions about overcoming a mental illness, and offers advice for moving through difficult emotions during a crisis.
Sunny Chang and his two sisters are creators and hosts of The Three Siblings Podcast, where they share their personal mental health journey after surviving the loss of their parents and offer hope and encouragement to people dealing with grief.
Featured Expert: Carmen Cusido is a longtime mental health advocate. She has written and spoken extensively about her struggle with depression and her recovery from anorexia. Her writing has appeared in Newsweek, Oprah Daily, Refinery29, Health, NBC, CNN, NPR, Next Avenue, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Cusido has also spoken about grief and loss for publications like AARP Magazine en español and TV stations like Univision 41 and PBS/NJTV. She earned a bachelor’s from Rutgers University and a master’s degree from the Columbia School of Journalism. She also has taken courses at Harvard Business School and the Yale Writers Workshop. She lives in Northern New Jersey.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline offers free and confidential support 24/7. Their number is 800 273 8255. You can also text, "Hello," to 741741. The help is free, confidential, and available 24/7.
If you loved this episode, listen to When a Sister Commits Suicide, Part 1 and Part 2, and Needing a Self-Care Trip, but Parents Want Her Home.
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In advance of National Mental Health Awareness Month in May, we’re featuring stories that help us talk about mental health with our immigrant families. In this episode Kayla is ready to take a bold step to manage her anxiety, but getting her protective family’s buy-in is a challenge. And writer and mental health advocate Carmen Cusido offers tips for being confident when prioritizing our wellbeing.
Featured Expert: Carmen Cusido is a longtime mental health advocate. She has written and spoken extensively about her struggle with depression and her recovery from anorexia. Her writing has appeared in Newsweek, Oprah Daily, Refinery29, Health, NBC, CNN, NPR, Next Avenue, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Cusido has also spoken about grief and loss for publications like AARP Magazine en español and TV stations like Univision 41 and PBS/NJTV. She earned a bachelor’s from Rutgers University and a master’s degree from the Columbia School of Journalism. She also has taken courses at Harvard Business School and the Yale Writers Workshop. She lives in Northern New Jersey.
If you loved this episode, listen to Convinccing Mamí My Depression is Not About Her and They Want More Family Time but You Don't.
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Facing a language barrier, Mary is trying to deepen her relationship with her Cantonese-speaking mom. And Sarah J. Shin, a scholar who studies bilingualism and heritage language education, speaks with Juleyka about expanding our vocabulary through low-stakes activities, using technology to express our feelings in our parents’ first language, and modeling for future generations.
Mary Chan hosts The Podcaster's Guide to a Visible Voice.
Featured Expert:
Sarah J. Shin is Associate Provost for Academic Affairs at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County. Dr. Shin completed her Ph.D. in linguistics at the University of Michigan and joined the UMBC education faculty in 1999. She served as co-director of the TESOL graduate program from 2003 to 2016 and has established an international reputation as a scholar in bilingualism, heritage language education, and TESOL teacher preparation. She is the author of English language teaching as a second career (Multilingual Matters, 2017), Bilingualism in schools and society (Routledge, 2018), and Developing in two languages (Multilingual Matters, 2005). She serves on the editorial boards of the Journal of Language, Identity, and Education and The International Multilingual Research Journal. Dr. Shin is the 2017-2020 UMBC Presidential Research Professor. Learn more about her work here.
If you loved this episode, listen to Mom is Upset About Her Gift (Hint: It's Not About the Gift) and She's Opening Up to Mamí for the First Time.
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While helping her Mexican parents plan for retirement, Lyanne has to be strategic to get them to open up about money. And Cindy Zuniga-Sanchez, a financial coach who works with millennial first-gens, speaks with Juleyka about initiating conversations about money with older relatives, and shares a handy retirement-planning checklist.
Lyanne is the creator of the podcast Moneda Moves.
If you loved this episode, listen to Talking to Mamí about Her Money and Mom is Pressuring Her to Buy a House.
Featured Expert:
Cindy Zuniga-Sanchez, Esq. is a money coach, speaker, and the founder of Zero-Based Budget Coaching LLC. After graduating law school in 2015 with $215,000 of debt, Cindy documented her debt payoff journey on social media, while sharing the personal finance knowledge that she was learning in a simple and relatable way. She has spoken to thousands and coached hundreds on budgeting, saving, debt payoff, investing, credit, building generational wealth, and more. She is committed to helping millennial women, particularly women of color, create a realistic money plan to achieve financial freedom. Cindy practiced law as a commercial litigation attorney at an Am Law 100 firm before diving into full-time entrepreneurship. She is a graduate of Stony Brook University and obtained her Juris Doctor degree from the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law. Learn more about her work here.
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Saadia wants to put a stop to the toxic colorism within her Pakistani family, for the sake of her daughters. And sociologist Joanna Rondilla, who studies colorism, race and beauty standards, speaks with Juleyka about how this type of prejudice is perpetuated in our intimate circles, and where to focus our energy when pushing back.
If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to to When Our Parents Don't See Their Bias, and The Mixed Privilege of Being a White Immigrant.
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Joanne L. Rondilla is an award-winning educator. She is Filipina, born in Dededo, Guam. Joanne and her family moved to the San Francisco bay area (Union City) when she was thirteen years old. She holds degrees from UC Berkeley (M.A., Ph.D.) and UC Santa Barbara (B.A.). Currently, she is an assistant professor in Sociology and Interdisciplinary Social Sciences (SISS) and Asian American Studies at San Jose State University. Her research interests include: race, gender, colorism, beauty, media representations, pop culture, and colonialism. Learn more about her work here.
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Yvette dates men from different backgrounds, but her Dominican dad worries that cultural and racial tensions may lead to heartbreak. And relationship coach Sherrae Lachhu shows us how to use our core values to advocate for ourselves and our romantic partners.
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Sherrae Lachhu is a licensed marriage and family therapist who empowers individuals to be the best versions of themselves in life, love, and business through her speaking, coaching, consulting, and therapy services. With over two decades of experience in community-based mental health, Sherrae has worked with a diverse range of clients from all walks of life. She has provided therapy to individuals, couples and families, provided supervision and mentorship to numerous coaches and clinicians, and served as a clinical director at a local mental health agency. In 2021, Sherrae made the decision to leave community-based mental health to solely focus on launching her virtual practice to support individuals, couples and businesses. As a highly regarded professional, Sherrae specializes in working with Black, interracial, and multicultural individuals and couples, and has helped many individuals, couples, and organizations to maximize their strengths and overcome their challenges. Learn more about her work here.
If you liked this show listen to When Mom Doesn't Believe in Romantic Love and Dating, But Not to Get Married, the first episode on a special series on dating and relationships.
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Cassandra’s Haitian mom urges her to turn to God to help her feel better, but she prefers therapy. And Cidna Valentin, a mental health practitioner, speaks with Juleyka about how to utilize our families’ lived experiences to build mutual understanding, and debunks myths about religion and mental health treatments.
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Cidna Valentin, Phd. is a clinical psychologist and Clinial Director and Supervisor at Let's Talk Psychological Wellness. As a clinician of diverse cultural experiences, she values culturally-relevant and integrative evidence-based practice and has flexibility in psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, and interpersonal therapeutic approaches. She has experience working with clients across the lifespan in a variety of settings, practicing most recently in global mental health/international psychology. Through the lens of social justice, she is dedicated to creating healing spaces for people of color and underserved communities. Her specialties include depression and mood disorders, Haitian mental health, migration/acculturation stress, trauma/PTSD, and Maternal mental health. Learn more about her work here.
If you loved this episode, listen to "You're Grieving and in Pain. They Call you 'Crazy'" and "When You Don't Believe in God, And They Really Want You To".
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Hoang’s Vietnamese mother wants her to buy a house, but she’s unsure if that makes sense for her and her family at the moment. And financial planner Thao Truong speaks with Juleyka about this often symbolic purchase among immigrant families, and offers practical advice for discussing the decision with our loved ones.
Featured Expert: Thao Truong is a certified financial planner recently nationally recognized by InvestmentNews as part of their 40 Under 40 cohort. Growing up in Vietnam, Thao wanted to be a doctor. But when her mother fell into a bad business deal, she aspired to be the family’s savior. For college, she immigrated to the U.S. to learn about wealth, and realized salvation wouldn’t happen overnight. But in time, she would learn to help empower her family — and others — to better manage money and make informed decisions. As a wealth adviser in the Los Angeles area, one of her passion's is working with women, especially those going through life changes, such as divorce — something she’s gone through herself. Thao teaches women to feel more comfortable with financial topics and gain more confidence, comfort and clarity around financial and life goals. In addition to her work at Morton Wells, Thao also takes on pro bono clients. “Because this type of financial knowledge should be extended to everybody, not just people who can afford it.” Learn more about Thao's work here.
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On the last episode of our special food-and-family series Juleyka reflects on her experience around parenting and food with Claudia Serrato, a culinary anthropologist who studies how to decolonize food practices. In this inspiring conversation, Claudia shows us how to reclaim the power of the kitchen, strengthen family time by centering food, and honor our hybrid identities through what we eat.
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Claudia Serrato is an Indigenous culinary anthropologist, a public scholar, a doctoral candidate, a professor of ethnic studies, an Indigenous plant-based chef, and a food justice activist scholar. She was born and raised in Los Angeles, California predominantly on a P’urhépecha, Huasteca, and Zacateco diet. At an early age, she began to cook alongside her elders, gaining time-tested food knowledge, which she centered in her academic studies, arriving at the conclusion in 2007 that decolonizing the diet was essential to the survival of Indigenous foods and foodways. Since 2014 Claudia has been actively involved in the Native food justice and sovereignty movement. Claudia is also the co-founder of Across Our Kitchen Tables, a women of color culinary hub and event series founded in 2017 that generates and supports socially responsible food-based work by women of color. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Gender, Ethnicity, and Multicultural Studies, a Master’s in Mexican American Studies, a second Master’s in Anthropology, and is currently completing a Ph.D. in sociocultural anthropology from the University of Washington, Seattle. She is currently a teaching scholar at California Polytechnic University Pomona. Learn more about her work and research here.
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On this episode of our food-and-family series our colleague Kori opens up about her challenges in documenting beloved family recipes and getting her Caribbean relatives to share their rich culinary knowledge. And Nadege Fleurimond, restaurateur and cookbook author, speaks with Juleyka about how to understand, write down and adapt kitchen techniques when our loved ones are simply “cooking from the heart.”
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Nadege Fleurimond is an entrepreneur, speaker, author, culinary ambassador and business strategist living life in New York City. She is the author of two books. Taste of Life, part cookbook, part memoir, Taste of Life offers readers an opportunity to view their own lives through a culinary lens and appreciate the beauty of food, family, friends, and tasty pleasures. Her latest book, Haiti Uncovered, is a culinary travel coffee table cookbook that delves into the Art of Haitian Cuisine representing dishes, recipes, and cooking traditions, from all the 10 geographical Departments. Nadege is a passionate innovator who harnesses her skills and love of food to serve communities through the realms of the culinary arts and entrepreneurship. She conducts culinary tours to Haiti as a way of providing Haitians, Haitians Americans and friends of Haiti access to experience Haiti and its rich culture. Her latest food venture BunNan, is a plantain concept restaurant in NYC that shares Haitian, Caribbean and black diaspora cuisine with the rest of the world. When she’s not hosting an event, she regularly hosts cooking classes and other culinary experiences. Learn more abouther work here.
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As part of our special series on food and families, LWC Studios' managing producer Paulina shared her concerns that hosting and cooking for the holidays is taking a toll on her aging Mexican mom. And culinary educator and hospitality expert Trisha Pérez Kennealy offers practical tips for maintaining family traditions while transitioning the related responsibilities.
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Trisha Pérez Kennealy is the owner of the Inn at Hastings Park in historic Lexington, MA. A proud Puerto Rican-Jewish woman, Trisha grew up in Puerto Rico (before moving to Lexington as a teen) & spent much of her childhood with her multi-generational family sitting around the table. A graduate of Harvard College & Harvard Business School, Trisha went on to a successful finance career. While working as an investment banker in London, she realized that cooking is truly where her heart was. She earned both her Diplôme de Cuisine & Diplôme de Pâtisserie from Le Cordon Bleu and went on to open her dream hospitality concept upon returning stateside, The Inn at Hastings Park in 2014. Today, Trisha shares her passion for teaching in her role as Culinary Educator, offering cooking classes for hotel and day guests where she shares her culture through her food with her community. Learn more about her work and business here.
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On this episode of our food-and-family series our friend Manuela tells us all about how in her Colombian family food is a love language, and how guilty she feels saying “no” when she doesn’t want to eat something a loved one made. And Lisa Jimenez, a therapist specializing in body and eating related issues, returns to the show to help us manage well-intentioned food pushers.
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Lisa Jimenez is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor based in South Florida who specializes in eating disorders, mood disorders, anxiety, trauma, and family dynamics. A Miami native, Lisa graduated from the University of Miami with a Master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling. She has worked in a variety of settings including a residential eating disorder treatment center, a court-mandated outpatient substance abuse program, and outpatient services in a private practice setting. Through her clinical work and experience, Lisa has gained extensive knowledge in working with children, teens, adults, and families. Her technique blends evidence-based practices such as CBT, DBT, ACT, and psychodynamic theories. Learn more about her work here.
If you loved this episode, listen to Cooking for a Loved One with Special Dietary Needs and When Relatives Always Comment on Your Body.
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We continue our series about food and family featuring our colleagues. When LWC Studios' senior editor Jordan learned that her mother-in-law was diagnosed with Crohn's disease, she worked to quickly figure out how to offer support and what to cook. Patient advocate Mary Mukira shares advice on caregiving around the holidays by adopting a person-centered attitude and preparing inclusive meals.
If you loved this episode, listen to When Family Holiday Cooking Turns Into a Showdown and Questioning Papí’s Food Choices.
Featured Expert: Mary Mukira is the manager of grassroots advocacy at National Patient Advocate Foundation (NPAF), based in DC, and is working to organize a patient-led grassroots movement to transform our healthcare system to prioritize patient and caregiver needs and their preferred outcomes. To achieve this, Mary works closely with members of NPAF's volunteer network and collaborates with patient partners at their sister organization, Patient Advocate Foundation (PAF), to engage patients and caregivers throughout the research process. Learn more about Mary's work here. PAF and NPAF help patients and caretakers advocate for themselves and make informed, personalized health care decisions. PAF provides free case management and financial assistance to anyone with a diagnosed, chronic or debilitating condition within the United States. If you or a loved have have been diagnosed with a chronic condition, visit PAF's website for a list of financial assistance and case management resources.
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As part of a special holiday series we're bringing you stories from our team as they tackle difficult conversations around food and families. In this episode, LWC Studios' audio designer Kojin says his Japanese family loves to cook, but competition in the kitchen is cut-throat. And Mori Lemau Willhite, who runs a Japanese cooking school, offers practical advice for staying focused and non-combative when preparing a high-stakes
Featured Expert: Mori Lemau Willhite owns and operates Katsumi’s Teaching Kitchen, a catering company and cooking school in Beech Grove, Indiana. Through her teaching kitchen, Mori teaches students to cook authentic Japanese dishes, how to shop for the right ingredients and about the cultural significance of the Japanese cooking process. In addition, she offers cooking classes as team-building activities for groups and for special events. After earning her degree in Japanese education and serving in the Army, Mori moved to Indiana. She originally thought she would open a side business teaching Japanese language, but encouraged by friends, decided to open a cooking school instead. Learn more about her work on her website.
If you loved this episode, listen to Questioning Papí’s Food Choices and When Mom Body Shames you.
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This is the first episode of a special holiday series exploring tensions that arise when food and families mix, featuring the team behind LWC Studios and some of our friends. In this episode, Virginia, the show's producer, is concerned about her Peruvian father’s eating habits, and thinks everyone in her family should eat more vegetables! Registered dietitian Dalina Soto busts some myths about Latin American foods and offers advice on how to think critically about nutrition and what is truly healthy for our families.
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Dalina Soto, MA, LD, RDN is a bilingual registered dietitian and positive health advocate committed to helping clients reclaim the joy and pleasure of diet-free living. She earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Nutritional Sciences from PennState University, then went on to Immaculata University to complete her Dietetic Internship and Masters Degree in Nutrition Education. She loves nutrition because she loves food and was inspired to be on the “preventative” side of health. Dalina founded Your Latina Nutritionist because she’s passionate about building nourishing new narratives that don't include depriving ourselves of the foods we grew up eating. Learn more about her work on her website and follow her @your.latina.nutritionist. Dalina also recommends following the work and resources of these two Black dietitians she loves.
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Ody's grandmother lived with her family when she was growing up. The expectation of always putting family first created a toxic environment due to emotional abuse from her grandmother, whom she suspects may have had a mental illness. An expert on Latino cultural values breaks down the concept of familism and how it shapes the dynamics at home.
This episode originally aired on November 2, 2020.
Our expert this week is Gabriela Livas Stein, Associate Professor of Psychology at University of North Carolina in Greensboro. Learn more about her lab here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Mamí and Papí Fight, and Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue.
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Diane's Korean mother and grandmother live in New Jersey, and would like her to visit more often. But Diane has a full life in NYC, and feels guilty and torn. Hatty Lee, a marriage and family therapist who works with Asian-Americans, shares tips on how to speak with loved ones about honoring our individual and family needs.
This episode originally aired on June 7, 2021.
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Hatty J. Lee is a licensed marriage and family therapist and brainspotting practitioner based in California, with over 12 years of experience working in child and family clinics, schools, adult outpatient centers, and private practice. She is the founder and director of her private practice, Oak and Stone, and the author of The Indwell Guide that integrates visual storytelling, mental health education, and practical tools to support people to heal and thrive.
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Moving to the U.S. was hard for Michelle’s family, and it impacted how she was disciplined growing up. As a parent herself, she’s coming to terms with experiences her parents now deny. Betty Ming Liu, a life coach who specializes in childhood trauma, speaks with Juleyka about nurturing our inner child and ending the family cycle of violence.
Michelle Yang is an advocate whose writings on the intersection of Asian American identity, body image, and mental health have been featured in NBC News, CNN, InStyle, and more. Her memoir, PHOENIX GIRL: HOW A FAT ASIAN WITH BIPOLAR FOUND LOVE is forthcoming. Learn more about her work and writing on Instagram @michelleyangwriter
If you loved this episode, listen to Talking About a Brother's Emotional Abuse and You're Grieving and in Pain. They Call You "Crazy."
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Betty Ming Liu is the online Life & Work Coach for at NYU’s journalism graduate school. Her personal pronouns are she/her. Learn more about her work here. Betty also teaches journalism at NYU, where she was awarded the university’s Outstanding Teaching Award. As a life coach, she specializes in issues related to diversity, communication skills, writing, alcoholism and addiction, the immigrant experience, and, transforming childhood triggers and traumas. Before becoming a professor and life coach, Betty spent 16 years as a full-time New York City journalist and was a New York Daily News columnist who covered diversity and the immigrant experience. She is the recovering daughter of her beloved control freak Chinese immigrant parents, who raised her in New York City’s Chinatown. Betty recently moved to Los Angeles, where she and her rescue pit bull and 17-year old cat live five minutes away from her grown-up daughter.
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Yaffa's Dominican mom wanted her to marry a White American. So when she fell in love with a Dominican man, she kept the relationship and wedding secret. And marriage and family therapist Claudia Parada speaks with Juleyka about how to confront our parents' bias while sparing our romantic partners the drama.
Yaffa S. Santos is the author of the novel A Touch of Moonlight. You can learn more about her work and writing here. Our expert this week is Marriage and Family Therapist, DEI trainer Claudia Parada. Learn more about her work here If you loved this episode, listen to Telling Them I'm Moving in With Boyfriend and Telling Mom She's Also Biased. tktk
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Claudia Parada Claudia Parada is an associate marriage and family therapist, antiracism consultant and trainer, and holistic life coach, A San Francisco Bay Area native, Claudia completed my Bachelors at San Francisco State University Latinx Studies Program and a Master’s degree in Integral Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies training in humanistic approaches to therapy. She has a passion for working with people of color to re-member and reimagine the way they heal together in today’s world. Claudia uses ten years of holistic life coaching experience, six years of apprenticeship in Mesoamerican tradition, and four years of counseling training to support clients uncover their own inner wisdom around what health and healing mean for them.
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Juanita decided to write her life story and got pushback from her Mexican mom, who remembers their family life very differently. And memoirist and writing teacher Yasmín Ramírez shares strategies for reconciling different family accounts of the past, and offers advice for keeping ourselves honest when telling difficult stories.
Juanita E. Martinez is a lawyer, writer and performer. You can learn more about her work and her memoir Tales of an Inland Empire Girl here.
Our expert this week is author and educator Yasmín Ramírez. Learn more about her work and her book ¡Ándale, Prieta!on her website here. If you loved this episode, listen to Finding his Mom's Lost Father and She's Trying to Close the Emotional Gap with Papí .
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After years of working toward a career as a tenure track professor, Sylvia left this path in academia under duress. And getting her Peruvian parents to understand her decision also proved challenging. And Dr. Michelle Espino Lira, who studies Latinos in higher education, speaks with Juleyka about connecting our bold acts of self-advocacy with the grit and resolve our parents modeled for us.
Our expert this week is Dr. Michelle Espino Lira, Professor of Student Affairs at the College of Education at the University of Maryland. Learn more about her work here and about her podcast Latinx Inteligentsia . If you loved this episode, listen to Taking a Break from Grad School, Then Telling Her Parents and Is Tenure the End or the Beginning (from our sibling podcast, How to Talk to [High Achievers] about Anything.
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Tony’s Vietnamese mom didn't talk much about her father, a Black American soldier who fought in the Vietnam War but whom she never really knew. So Tony decided to find him. And marriage and family therapist Thien Pham who works with adult children of Amerasians and refugees speaks with Juleyka about respecting our parents’ trauma while trying to understand our family history, and finding peace when we don’t have answers.
Our expert this week is Thien Pham, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in California. Learn more about her work here . If you loved this episode, listen to Mom is Upset About Her Gift (Hint: It’s Not About the Gift) and Should She Confront a Family Secret?
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Brenda thinks it’s time for her Mexican family to speak openly about her father’s infidelity and newly-discovered half-sister, but she's ambivalent about starting the conversation. And marriage and family therapist Gilza Fort-Martinez offers advice for creating the right context, choosing the time and place, and exercising sensitivity around family revelations.
Our expert this week is Gilza Fort-Martinez, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Florida. Learn more about her work here. here. If you loved this episode, listen to She's Trying to Close the Emotional Gap with Papí and Telling Mamí You Use Weed.
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Though she was a primary caretaker, Sandra had a hard time knowing what to say to her dad at the end of his life. And Oceana Sawyer, a death doula, speaks with Juleyka about acknowledging death with dying loved ones, and taking care of ourselves as we care for them.
Our expert this week is Oceana Sawyer, a professional End of Life Doula based in who writes and speaks on the liminal space of active dying and grief. She is currently researching and holding space in the realm of embodied grieving in a context of somatic abolitionism. Learn more about her work here. Her latest book, Life, Death, Grief, and the Possibility of Pleasure, is available online at Kizzy Books and More as well as Amazon. If you loved this episode, listen to When Papí Gets a Fatal Diagnosis and Carrying Out His End-of-Life Wishes.
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Elbert is struggling to accept how his Dominican parents' married relationship works. And Luis Resendez, a marriage and family therapist who works with Latino men, helps us understand what shapes our ideas of marriage and partnership.
Our expert this week is Luis Resendez, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in California. Learn more about his private practice, Vida Emotional, here.
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Delainy is finally putting a stop to her family's frequent criticism of her weight and looks. And Lisa Jimenez, a mental health counselor who works with first-gens struggling with negative body image, busts health myths and shares tips to build resilience and speak up for ourselves.
Delainy Faña is the creator of La Bruja's Art. Our expert this week is Lisa Jimenez, a licensed mental health counselor based in South Florida. You can learn more about her work here. She recommends this resource on intuitive eating, this book on anti-dieting, and this instagram community for resources and support. If you loved this episode, listen to When Mom Body Shames Yous and This Mom is Decolonizing Her Parenting.
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Michelle’s Mexican family never talked about sex. When she began thinking about birth control before heading to college she was on her own to make some really important decisions. And OBGYN Dr. Erica Montes offers tips for discussing family planning and avoiding misinformation about contraceptive methods.
Our expert this week is Dr. Erica Montes, an OBGYN based in Arizona. You can learn more about her work here. To learn more about IUDs and other forms of birth control, she recommends this resource. If you loved this episode, listen to Not Your Mamí's Sex Ed and Doctor's Mom Won't Listen to Medical Advice.
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Pabel’s Afro-Latino mother's advice for fitting in and being a professional feels outdated and unhelpful as he navigates racism in the tech industry. And, mindfulness coach Zee Clarke shows us how to breathe through triggering conversations about race and implicit bias at work—and with our loved ones.
Our expert this week is Zee Clarke, a breathwork and mindfulness coach. Learn more about her work including her monthly newsletter here, and about her new book, Black People Breathe, here. If you loved this episode, listen to Her Roots Inspired a Career Change but Mamí Doesn't Get It and Telling Mom She's Also Biased.
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Charu works hard to get along with her Indian mom so her children can have a relationship with their grandmother, but tensions around her parenting style remain. And therapist Salma Khan offers advice on preserving family bonds with estranged relatives while resisting the need to explain our boundaries.
Our expert this week is Salma Khan, a psychotherapist in private practice based in California. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, listen to Mom Has to Teach Grandparents to Accept Her Son's Difference and Everyone's Asking "Are Your Pregnant Yet?"
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Last year, Kristie spoke with us about the gendered expectations her dad had of her, despite her professional success. Here, she reflects on how becoming a wife, home-owner and mom-to-be is transforming their father-daughter relationship.
If you loved this episode, listen to Kristie's original episode She has a Ph.D, But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him.
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Last year, Chai told us about her mom’s efforts to find her a husband through Indian matrimonial websites. In this candid follow-up, she updates Juleyka on her dating life, and reflects on how a surprising diagnosis really helped both her and her mom understand Chai, and what she needs in a partner.
If you loved this episode, listen to Chai's original episode Arranged Marriage, No Thanks, Mom. Our four-episode series with on dating and relationships Chai's original episode inspired starts with Dating, But Not To Get Married.
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Last year Sasha talked to us about her younger sister’s suicide, and the impact her family’s unwillingness to talk about it had on her mental health. This time, she talks to Juleyka about speaking openly about her bipolar disorder, learning to say “no” as part of self-care, and using the movie Encanto to talk about her deceased sister with nieces and nephews who never met her.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline also offers 24/7 confidential support. Their number is 800-273-8255. If you loved this episode, listen to Sasha's original episode When a Sister Commits Suicide Part1, and Part 2.
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Last year, Veda explained why they chose not to discuss their queer identity with their Indian parents. Veda returns to update Juleyka on how moving back in with their parents has changed the family dynamics in surprising ways. They also reflect on their developing views on pronouns, gender fluidity, and finding allies among extended family.
If you loved this episode, listen to Veda's original episode Talking to Their Parents About Being Nonbinary.
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When we spoke last year, Vanessa had just informed her parents she was taking a leave of absence from her physician associate program. She returns to speak with Juleyka about the self- discovery she experienced while getting clarity around career choices, and the steps she took to shift her relationship with her parents during her time off.
Mariela used to be the family peacekeeper, but as she learns to acknowledge negative emotions and embrace healthy conflict, she's facing resistance from her Mexican mom. And therapist Nicole Linardi helps us understand the impact sibling order has on relationships, and offers tips for negotiating family expectations.
Our expert this week is Dr. Nicole Linardi, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Learn more about her work here. If you liked this show listen to She's Opening Up to Mamí For the First Time and Oldest Daughter Is Tired of Being Everyone's Go-to.
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As an adult, Lorilee made the decision to disclose to her Filipina mom the sexual abuse she says she endured as a child. And Mira Yusef, advocate and community organizer against gender-based violence, speaks with Juleyka about how to have hard conversations about abuse, disclosure and accountability.
Lorilee is the host of Trauma Survivor Thriver’s Podcast. You can learn more about her work here. Our expert this week is Mira Yusef, Executive Director at Monsoon Asians & Pacific Islanders in Solidarity. Learn more about her work here. The national sexual assault hotline offers confidential support for survivors of sexual abuse, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The number is 800-656-4673. That's 1-800-656-HOPE. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline also offers 24/7 confidential support. Their number is 800-273-8255. Mira recommends the work of transformative justice and disability justice educator Mia Mingus, and this cool resource from activist Mimi Kim. If you liked this show listen to How to Teach Consent in Our Families, and Not Your Mamí's Sex Ed.
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While speaking to her Korean mom about anti-Asian violence amidst the COVID-19 pandemic, Phyllis must also confront her family's prejudice. And racial justice attorney and activist Manjusha Kulkarni offers advice for talking with parents about challenging racial discrimination.
Our expert this week is Manju Kulkarni, executive director of AAPI Equity Alliance and co-founder of Stop AAPI Hate. Learn more about her work around anti-Asian violence here. If you liked this show listen to When Our Parents Don't See Their Bias and OG Check-in: Even a Pro Finds it Hard to Talk about Racism with Dad.
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When Ashley turned to therapy and medication for her depression she worried her Puerto Rican mom would feel guilty. And MarySue Heilemann, a nurse and researcher who studies transmedia and the mental well-being of Latinas, busts myths around mental health treatments and offers tips for getting our parents to accept our choices.
Our expert this week is MarySue Heilemann, PhD, RN, FAAN and Professor at the UCLA School of Nursing and Associate Director of the UCLA National Clinician Scholars Program. Learn more about her work on transmedia storytelling and mental health interventions here. MarySue recommends this cool multilingual resource to help you and loved ones understand mental health. If you liked this show listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Health and Explaining She's Isolated, Depressed, and Caring for a Newborn.
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As a high school student Terry dreamed of going away to college, but she knew her Cuban parents would never allow it. And Juleyka speaks with filmmaker and activist Denise Soler Cox about how to tackle the ongoing push and pull between Latino family expectations and our self-determination.
Terry Catasús Jennings is an award-wining children's book writer and the author of The Little House of Hope and its translation, La casita de speranza. Learn more about her work here Our expert this week is Denise Soler Cox, filmmaker, activist motivational speaker and Co-founder of Project Eñye. Learn more about her work here. If you liked this show listen to Her Roots Inspired a Career Change, but Mamí Doesn't Get It and Family Encouraged Military Service, But She Made Her Own Plans.
When Kathy left corporate America to become an energy worker, her Salvadoran mom didn't understand her choice, or why Kathy felt so drawn to it. And Cynthia Pong, a career coach, helps us break down corporate trauma and speak with our parents about finding purpose in our work.
Our expert this week is Cynthia Pong, a career coach for women of color. Learn more about her work here. Cynthia is the author of Don't Stay In Your Lane: The Career Change Guide for Women of Color. She also runs a leadership accelerator program for BIWOC and nonbinary BIPOC, learn more and apply to the next cohort here. If you liked this show listen to She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get it and She Had to Choose Her Career Over Her Parents
Bunmi is looking for a partner, but talking with her Nigerian mom about her love life is complicated. And Sherrae Lachhu, a relationship coach for BIPOC couples and individuals, speaks with Juleyka about differentiating our relationship values from our parents'.
Sherrae Lachhu is a licensed marriage and family therapist who is committed to empowering individuals to be the best versions of themselves in life, love, and business through counseling, coaching, and consulting. While her practice is equally composed of individuals and couples, the work she does with them is always centered on identity, authenticity, and empowerment. She is the founder of Love And Acceptance. Learn more about her work here. If you liked this show listen to Dating, But Not to Get Married the first episode on a special series on dating and relationships.
Amy’s Puerto Rican mom began making retirement plans around the future grandchildren Amy would give her. But Amy had to tell her she was not planning to have kids. And Psychologist Maritza Mikolich returns to the show to explain codependency and offer advice on setting boundaries when sharing personal decisions with loved ones.
Our expert, Dr. Maritza Mikolich, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a doctoral degree of psychology and a specialty in EMDR, based in California. Visit her website and learn more about her work here. If you liked this show listen to When Mamí Makes You Doubt Becoming a Mom, Part 1 and Part 2, and Everyone's Asking "Are Your Pregnant Yet?"
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Brenda wants to talk to her Mexican dad about his history with alcohol abuse and the violence it caused, but he's usually closed off about it. And Katheryn Perez, a therapist who works with first-gen and BIPOC clients, offers strategies for broaching the subject with empathy and care—for everyone involved, including ourselves.
Our expert this week is Katheryn Perez, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Learn more about her work here. Katheryn recommends Al-Anon for family members, partners, and friends worried about a loved one struggling with a drinking problem; the National Domestic Violence Hotline for anyone seeking support anywhere in the U.S, and Peace Over Violence for anyone based in California; and this great resource for finding support in your local state/county.
If you liked this show listen to When Mamí Has a Drinking Problem and When Mamí & Papí Fight.
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Nathalie says her fears around money, and her need for structure as an adult, come from how she was raised, but speaking vulnerably about it with her Dominican mom has always been hard. And Dr. Lisette Sanchez, a bilingual and bicultural psychologist helps us understand intergenerational trauma and what happens when our values conflict with our needs.
Our expert this week is Dr. Lisette Sanchez, a bilingual/bicultural licensed psychologist with a passion for working with BIPOC individuals and first-generation professionals and. She is the founder of Calathea Wellness, a virtual practice providing individual therapy, mentorship, and speaking services. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She's Trying to Close the Emotional Gap with Papí and Unable to Ask Her Parents for Emotional Support.
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In her multigenerational Cuban-American household Yasmin is expected to be the main caretaker and problem-solver for her family, and the toxic dynamics are taking a toll on her confidence, spiking her stress levels and worsening her mental health. And Raquel Carrasquillo, a therapist and life coach who works primarily with Latino clients, shows us how to put our own needs first when looking after others.
Our expert this week is Raquel Carrasquillo, a licensed therapist and life coach in private practice. Learn more about her lab here. Raquel recommends these two books, and two cool meditation apps. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Familism Hurts and Mom Has to Teach Grandparents to Accept Her Son's Difference .
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Kelsey and her Guatemalan dad had a distant relationship during her teenage years, but as an adult she wants to get to know him better, and strengthen their father-daughter bond. And, psychologist Gabriela Livas Stein returns to the show with strategies for deepening our relationships with our parents while navigating normative family roles.
Kelsey Milian Lopez is the author of the poetry collection The Sociology of a Miami Girl. Our expert this week is Gabriela Livas Stein, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist and Professor of Clinical Psychology within the Department of Psychology at the University of North Carolina-Greensboro. She is also the principal investigator at CAMINOS Lab. Learn more about her lab here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Familism Hurts and Still Yearning for His Father's Love.
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Abbas is a physician who cannot convince his Indian mom to get regular medical screenings. And public health professional Mary Helen O'Connor shares strategies for effective health messaging and for nudging our parents to be proactive about their health.
Abbas is a physician by training and profession, and he's also the founder of Mipsterz, an arts and culture collective for emerging Muslim creatives. Our expert this week is Mary Helen O'Connor, Director for the Center for Community Engagement at Perimeter College and oversees community engagement at the Georgia State University Prevention Research Center. Learn more about her work here.
Mary Helen recommends the following resources for speaking with parents about preventive health: GSU's Prevention Research Center has a lot of information about a variety of topics and in multiple languages, including COVID-19 resources, their Health Information Toolkit, and their Health Ambassador's Program. She also recommends this resource for providers, a quick guide to HIPAA, and information about the language line. Finally, for an example of powerful community work around health care and risk messaging, she points us to them.
If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Mamí Has a Drinking Problem and Parents’ Reason for Ignoring COVID-19 Restrictions: “We gotta live.”
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Helen's father encouraged her to study, to have ideas, to be self-reliant. But he also expects her to behave more traditionally as an Armenian woman, daughter, and future wife. And Amalya Tagakchyan, an Armenian-Americans therapist, speaks on resisting gender norms and navigating the pushback from parents.
Our expert this week is Amalya Tagakchyan, a licensed clinical social worker based in California. Learn more about her work here and here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She Has a Phd. But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him and When Feminism Is a Dirty Word.
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Irene encounters roadblocks as she tries to share her political engagement with her Mexican and Guatemalan parents. And Natalia Ortiz, a racial-justice organizer and professor of education, helps us talk with our families in concrete terms about the fight for systemic change.
You can learn more about Irene's organizing work here. Our expert this week is Natalia Ortiz, assistant professor of education at Barnard College. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to to When Our Parents Don't See Their Bias, and The Mixed Privilege of Being a White Immigrant.
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Malischa has big plans for her dream career, but her Haitian parents have a more traditional definition of success. And Dorianne St. Fleur, a career and leadership coach who works with women of color, shares a handy acronym to help us make decisions with purpose and discuss them with our loved ones.
Our expert this week is Dorianne St Fleur, a career and leadership coach who helps women of color find their dream careers. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to to When Mamí Doesn't Respect Your Hustle, and She Had to Choose Her Career over Her Parents.
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Alex is doing his best to ease tensions and make sure everyone gets along while he and his long-time girlfriend save for a house. And Omar Torres, a licensed psychotherapist, talks to us about navigating cohabitation dynamics.
Our expert this week is Omar Torres, a clinical social worker and therapist based in New York. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Them I'm Moving in With Boyfriend and When Parents Going Back 'Home' Changes Everything.
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Katherine was raised by her Ecuadorian parents to be independent, and feels that asking them for help comes at a cost. And therapist Evelyn Mejia shares ideas for maintaining firm boundaries while speaking our parents' love language.
Our expert this week is Evelyn Mejia, a first generation, bilingual and bi-cultural Licensed Marriage Family Therapist based in California. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to They Want More Family Time, but You Don't and When Mamí Wants You Close But You Need Space.
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After dropping out of college and eventually returning to school, Kelly had a hard time explaining to her Puerto Rican parents why she needed them at graduation. And Rosemary Perez, a professor of higher education, shares strategies for asking loved ones to support our career and educational goals.
Our expert this week is Rosemary (Rosie) Perez, Associate Professor in the Center for the Study of Higher and Postsecondary Education at the University of Michigan. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Taking a Break From School, Then Telling Her Parents and She Has a Ph.D, But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him.
Haidar is in a relationship. And he wants it to be long term but worries he might mess things up. Coach Varsha Mathur offers advice on how to go after what we want with intention.
Unlike a traditional coaching session, this conversation was not conducted in a confidential setting and all participants were made aware of this when recording this episode.
Varsha Mathur is a dating and relationship coach, and mediator based in Charlotte, NC. Learn more about her work with singles and couples here and set up a discovery call with her here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Dating: She Wants to Date, but Not Make the First Move and Arranged Marriage? No Thanks Mom.
As a self-described "traditional dater," Mio feels discouraged by online dating apps and a new dating culture where she feels pressured to take the initiative. Coach Varsha Mathur shows us how to connect genuinely on any platform.
Unlike a traditional coaching session, this conversation was not conducted in a confidential setting and all participants were made aware of this when recording this episode.
Varsha Mathur is a dating and relationship coach, and mediator based in Charlotte, NC. Learn more about her work with singles and couples here and set up a discovery call with her here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Wanting This, Not That and Arranged Marriage? No Thanks Mom
Felipa is trying to break a pattern in her dating life of not feeling seen or respected, but dating in her conservative hometown makes that a challenge. Coach Varsha Mathur offers strategies for discovering what we really want in a relationship, and why.
Unlike a traditional coaching session, this conversation was not conducted in a confidential setting and all participants were made aware of this when recording this episode.
Varsha Mathur is a dating and relationship coach, and mediator based in Charlotte, NC. Learn more about her work with singles and couples here and set up a discovery call with her here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to the first episode of our series, Dating, But Not to Get Married, and Arranged Marriage? No Thanks Mom
On this special series, first gens speak directly with an expert about how to navigate challenges in their love lives. Juleyka volunteered to go first and opens up about dating after divorce in a "discovery conversation" with dating and relationship coach Varsha Mathur, who shares her insight on why we should question what we want when re-entering the dating world.
Unlike a traditional coaching session, this conversation was not conducted in a confidential setting, and all participants were made aware of this when recording this episode.
Varsha Mathur is a dating and relationship coach and mediator based in Charlotte, NC. Learn more about her work with singles and couples here and set up a discovery call with her here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Arranged Marriage, No Thanks Mom and Dating While Undocumented
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Because of his progressive political views, Max feels a disconnect with his conservative Cuban-American family. And Ana Sofia Pelaez, an organizer in Miami, shares her insights on speaking with parents about contentious home countries.
Our expert this week is Ana Sofia Pelaez, Founder and Executive Director of Miami Freedom Project. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to A Historical Would He's Trying to Understand, and When Feminism is a Dirty Word.
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Alberto was excited to start his own business but had to be strategic about telling his concerned Mexican mom. And Marlene Orozco, who studies Latino entrepreneurs in the U.S., speaks with Juleyka about the challenges and opportunities entrepreneurs face, and how their families can best support them.
Our expert this week is Marlene Orozco, Associate Director of the Stanford Latino Entrepreneur Initiative at the Stanford School of Business. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Mamí Doesn't Respect Your Hustle, and She Had to Choose Her Career over Her Parents.
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When Camila changed her mind about joining the Air Force, her Colombian parents were very disillusioned. And Yasmin Navarro, a college counselor who works with first-gen students and their parents, speaks with Juleyka about exploring college and career options while managing pressures and expectations from family.
Our expert this week is College Advisor Yasmin Navarro, who works at a public school in California. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Taking a Break from School, Then Telling Her Parents, and Under Pressure from Mom to Finish, But Questioning If College Is for Her.
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After an incident of harassment, Carla began to question being in a church that wouldn't protect her. But the hardest part of walking away was talking to her Honduran parents about it. And Doralis Coriano Ortiz, a psychotherapist who helps BIPOC clients navigate adverse religious experiences shares strategies for speaking with loved ones about a crisis of faith.
Our expert this week is Doralis Coriano Ortiz, a Chicago-based bilingual psychotherapist in private practice at Live Oaks. Learn more about her work here. Doralis recommends the Reclamation Collective and the Religious Trauma Institute for anyone looking for support, resources and information about adverse religioys experiences, religious trauma, and spiritual abuse. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When You Don't Believe in God, And They Really Want You To and Abuela is Against Trick-or-Treating.
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Julie finds it hard to buy her Korean mom a gift she won't criticize. She also suspects her mom's reactions are not just about the objects. And Yin J. Li, a psychotherapist who works with clients from the Asian Diaspora, helps us identify and understand hidden family tensions so we can better address them.
Our expert this week is Yin J. Li, a Psychotherapist who offers culturally informed depth therapy for Asians and Asian-Americans. Learn more about her private practice here. Yin is also the host and creator of the podcast Asians Do Therapy. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Parents Going Back 'Home' Changes Everything and When Mom Body Shames You.
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Last year, Odalys talked to us about her Cuban grandmother’s toxic behavior and how familismo made it hard for her parents to address it. Today, she reflects on how their difficult relationship shaped her and how opening up about it on our podcast helped her begin to process it all.
If you loved this episode, listen to Odalys's (aka Ody) original episode, When Familism Hurts.
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When we met her, Louise was overwhelmed by how her Vietnamese-Chinese family relied on her for translation and administrative help. She comes back to speak candidly about creating better boundaries with her mom, sharing responsibilities with her brother, and managing her feelings around it all.
If you loved this episode, listen to Louise's original episode, How to Get Help When You're the Designated Translator.
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At the onset of the pandemic Harold was frustrated with his parents for not following COVID-19 safety guidelines. He returns to the show for a moving conversation with Juleyka about how this turbulent year impacted his relationship with his family. He also shares some good news that keeps him moving forward.
If you loved this episode, listen to Harold's original episode, Parents’ Reason for Ignoring COVID-19 Restrictions: “We gotta live.”
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Irina talked to us about being the mediator between her Cuban and Russian parents, and her more Americanized younger brother. She returns to tell us how the advice from our expert helped her, and reflects on why moving across the country altered the family dynamics.
Irina is the host and creator of Pandemic Mama podcast. If you loved this episode, listen to Irina's original episode, She's Stuck in a Family Triangle.
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Walter couldn't tell his Mexican parents about the pressures he faced in college and law school. And when he decided he needed a break before taking the bar, he faced increased self-doubt.
If you loved this episode, listen to Walter's original episode, He's the First to Go to College.
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Last year, Estefanía had a hard time speaking with her Puerto Rican dad about systemic racism and anti-blackness. She returns to the show as a licensed clinical social worker to share her insights from working through similar issues with her own first-gen clients.
If you loved this episode, listen to Estefanía's original episode, Dad Denies Systemic Racism.
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Our OGs are back! For the next few episodes, we're checking in with some of our original guests. When we spoke last year, Daniella struggled to help her parents understand her son's developmental delays. Since then, he has received an official diagnosis and is teaching the whole family how to support him best.
If you loved this episode, listen to Daniella's original episode, Mom Has to Teach Grandparents to Accept Her Son's Difference.
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After living in the U.S. for 40 years, Eddie's parents surprise him with the news that they're moving back to South Korea. And, psychologist Sarah H. Moon helps us grieve and celebrate our parents' lives and triumphs.
Eddie Kim wrote an article about his experience for MEL magazine titled "When Your Immigrant Parents Move Back Overseas, Where Is Home?" Find it here.
Our expert today is Sarah Hye Lim Moon. Sarah is a queer, Korean American, immigrant, who found her passion in working to decreasing the mental health stigma in BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ communities. She's a clinical psychologist, consultant and writer dedicated to training mental health professionals to become more skilled and thoughtful healers. Learn more about her work, here. If you liked this episode, be sure to listen to Explaining She's Isolated, Depressed, and Caring for a Newborn and When They Want More Family Time and You Don't.
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The pandemic has made Annika reconsider having children, but the pressure from her Indian relatives is intense. And sociologist Farha Ternikar breaks down cultural expectations around motherhood, and offers guidance for pushing back.
Annika Sharma is the author of Love, Chai, and Other Four Letter Words, and co-host of The Woke Desi podcast. You can learn more about her here. Our expert this week is Farha Ternikar, Associate Professor of Sociology and Director of the Gender & Women's Studies Program at Le Moyne College. She is the author of the forthcoming book Intersectionality in the Muslim South Asian-American Middle Class: Lifestyle Consumption beyond Halal and Hijab. Learn more about her work here. If you liked this episode, be sure to listen to When They Want a Wedding And Grandchildren But You're Not Ready and When Mamí Makes You Doubt Becoming a Mom.
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Conny and her 4-year-old daughter love Halloween, but since celebrating the holiday goes against the family's religious beliefs, Conny's mom strongly opposes it. And therapist Catalina Fortich is back to share tips for handling healthy conflict.
Our expert this week is Catalina Fortich, a marriage and family therapist with her own private practice based in South Florida, Safe Place Therapy. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She's Stuck in a Family Triangle and When They Want More Family Time But You Don't.
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Ana Sheila wants her traditional Mexican mom to know about her cannabis use. But the stigma around recreational drug use stops her. And Oriana Mayorga, an activist with Students for Sensible Drug Policy, shares strategies for speaking with parents about drugs with a social justice lens.
Ana Sheila is the cohost of Tamarindo Podcast.
Our expert this week is Oriana Mayorga, who serves on the board of directors for Students for Sensible Drug Policy. Learn more about Oriana and SSD here. She recommends this list of resources and this peer education program on drug policy and drug education issues. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Mom About Using Cannabis And Being a Budtender. and Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Help.
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V. Chau is pushing back against their mother's preoccupation with their weight and eating habits. And psychologist Yuying Tsong, who studies Asian American body image, speaks with Juleyka about disordered eating within immigrant families.
Our expert this week is Yuying Tsong, a psychologist and Professor in the Department of Human Services at California State University, Fullerton. Learn more about her/their work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Mamí Has a Drinking Problem. and They Want More Family Time But You Don't.
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Gisselle wants to be a different kind of mom, but her gentle parenting choices sometimes rub up against how her Dominican parents interact with her two boys. And Leslie Priscilla, founder of Latinx Parenting, speaks with Juleyka about "Chancla Culture" and decolonizing our parenting without antagonizing those who raised us.
Our expert this week is Leslie Priscilla, founder of Latinx Parenting. Learn more about her work and the movement to end "Chancla Culture" here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Not Your Mamí's Sex Ed. and How to Teach Consent in Our Families.
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Chai is looking for chemistry, love and romance, but her Indian mother has a different idea, and feels responsible for finding her a husband. And Varsha Mathur, a dating and relationship coach, speaks with Juleyka about how to help parents understand what you want in romantic relationships.
Our expert this week is Varsha Mathur, a dating and relationship coach, and mediator based in Charlotte, NC. Learn more about her work here and set up a discovery call with her here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Dating While Undocumented and When They Want a Wedding and Grandchildren, But You're Not Ready.
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Kathy's Ecuadorian mom never talked about sex or sexuality with her. As a mom herself, Kathy is trying to do things differently with her tween daughter. And sex educator Brittany McBride shares strategies for affirming family conversations about our bodies.
Our expert this week is Brittany McBride, Associate Director of Sex Education at Advocates for Youth. An organization that advocates for honest and accessible sexual health education and services for all youth. Learn more about their work here. Brittany recommends this resource for sparking age-appropriate conversations about sex-ed with kids and teens. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to How to Teach Consent in Our Families and When Talking to Mamí about Sex Is Hard.
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Prisca grew up feeling controlled and intimidated by her older brother and distanced herself from him as an adult. But her Nicaraguan parents never saw anything wrong with the dynamic. And Diane Orozco, a psychotherapist who helps first-gens heal from trauma and abuse, speaks with Juleyka about how to navigate estranged relationships within our families.
Prisca Dorcas Mojica Rodríguez is the author of For Brown Girls with Sharp Edges and Tender Hearts: A Love Letter to Women of Color and the founder of Latina Rebels. You can learn more about Prisca here. Our expert this week is Diane Orozco, a marriage and family therapist currently in private practice at Alvarado Therapy who works with Latino clients in California. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling them I'm Moving in with My Boyfriend and When Familism Hurts.
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Elizabeth is navigating the dating world as a DACA recipient while feeling the pressure from her Mexican family to get married and settle down. And Genesis Games, a therapist specializing in helping millennial Latinos manage their romantic relationships, returns to the show to help us decide when and how much personal information to share with a potential partner.
Our expert this week is Genesis Games, a bilingual psychotherapist who helps clients in Florida and New Jersey navigate the dating world, manage relationship issues, and heal after heartbreak. Learn more about her practice, Healing Connections, here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to My Divorce, My Parents and Me and When They Want a Wedding and Grandchildren, But You're Not Ready.
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Elise separated from their Catholic upbringing after coming out, but their very religious parents keep trying to bring them back. And Meg Griffiths, a professional dialogue facilitator, speaks with Juleyka about creating trust across diverging spiritual beliefs within our families.
Our expert this week is Meg Griffiths, assistant director of programs at Essential Partners, an organization that equips people to live and work better together in community. Learn more about the work they do here and find their field guide to community dialogue design here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When They Want More Family Time, But You Don't and Coming Out to My Family.
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Years after her father's murder, and following another tragic loss, Melissa recognized she needed help. She went to therapy, but also realized she was being cast out by her Chinese-Jamaican family as a result. And, Amy Lew, a therapist specializing in trauma and mixed-raced identity, speaks with Juleyka about finding our own ways to grieve with or without our loved ones.
Our expert this week is Amy Lew, a biracial, multiethnic licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in south San Diego here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Help and She Had to Choose Her Career Over Her Parents.
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While studying to become a physician associate, Vanessa decided to take a leave of absence to avoid burning out, but greatly feared disappointing her Colombian parents. And Sunny Nakae, a medical school dean who specializes in access and equity, shares strategies for developing self-compassion while pursuing demanding academic careers.
Our expert this week is Dr. Sunny Nakae, Senior Associate Dean for Equity, Inclusion, Diversity, and Partnership, and Associate Professor of Medical Education at the California University of Science and Medicine. She is the author of Premed Prep: Advice from a Medical School Admissions Dean. Learn more about her book, here.
If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She Has a Ph.D, But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him and Under Pressure from Mom to Finish, But Questioning If College Is for Her.
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Bianca had to convince her Cuban mom that divorcing and celebrating her true identity is, ultimately, good parenting. Then, sexuality educator and social worker Aida Manduley shares strategies for helping our loved ones redefine what family and loving relationships look like.
Our expert this week is therapist, educator and activist Aida Manduley, learn more about their work here. Aida recommends a new Spanish-language publication for families about what to do when a loved one comes out, this LGBTQ positive children's book collection (with Spanish-languge editions), this biilingual resource list, this bilingual guide for addressing LGBTQ inclusion in Catholic and Protestant Latinx families and congretations, and this organization that celebrates and supports individuals with LGBTQ parents and caregivers. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Talking to Their Parents About Being Nonbinary and My Divorce, My Parents and Me.
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Rae gave birth during the COVID-19 pandemic. She developed postpartum depression while caring for her baby under lockdown, and tried to explain to her Chinese-Jamaican family what she was going through. And, psychiatrist Leena Mittal, who specializes in maternal mental health, speaks with Juleyka about normalizing this experience, which is the most common complication of pregnancy.
Our expert this week is Dr. Leena Mittal, Chief of the Division of Women’s Mental Health at Brigham and Women’s Hospital where she serves as Program Director for the Women’s Mental Health Fellowship . If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Help and When Mamí Makes You Doubt Becoming A Mom.
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Liz is excited about exploring her sexual orientation and fluidity, but thinks her more conservative Colombian mother will not be as open to the idea. And, sex educator Stephanie Campos offers us strategies to bring our loved ones along, once we're ready.
Our expert this week is Public Health Professional and Sex Educator Stephanie Campos. Stephanie is a sex educator with Sex Discussed Here! and you can learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Talking to their Parents About Being Nonbinary and Overcoming Shame to Love Who You Are.
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Nathalie’s parents moved her and her siblings to Mexico as children and back to the U.S. later on. Those decisions had huge consequences for their emotional lives, which the family is now trying to understand. And, family therapist Catalina Fortich returns to help us reshape our "dominant narratives" to reconnect with loved ones—and ourselves.
Our expert this week is Catalina Fortich, a marriage and family therapist with her own private practice based in South Florida, Safe Place Therapy. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She's Stuck in a Family Triangle and When Mamí & Papí Help Too Much,
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Carmella believes her mother's drinking is a serious concern, but getting her and her Cuban family to acknowledge it––and the impact on her mom's health––has been a challenge. And, substance-abuse specialist Liliana Calle helps us destigmatize addiction.
Our expert this week is Liliana Calle, a mental health therapist specializing in substance use disorders affiliated with Montefiore Medical Center.
SAMHSA's National Helpline, 1 (800) 662-HELP (4357), provides 24/7 information and referrals to those suffering from substance use disorder and their loved ones. Here are some helpful resources for understanding alcohol and addiction and where to find local help, and an organization that offers friends and family the opportunity to get support of their own.
If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Help and When Papí Gets a Fatal Diagnosis.
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Carmen identifies as a feminist, but the term has negative connotations for her Cuban parents. And, migration and gender scholar Berta Hernández-Truyol helps us deconstruct the label and reclaim the word feminism.
Carmen is the cohost of the Teikirisi podcast. Our expert this week is Berta Esperanza Hernández-Truyol, professor of law at the University of Florida Law School . Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She Has A Ph.D But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him, and When Mamí Wants You Close, But You Need Space.
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Nelson's Colombian mom always looked down on salespeople and scoffed at his father's business ambitions. Now an entrepreneur, he still struggles with her misperceptions. And, psychotherapist Stevon Lewis helps us talk about our ambitions with our loved ones and reconcile different definitions of success.
Our expert this week is Stevon Lewis, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice based in Inglewood, CA. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Talking to Mamí About Her Money, and She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It.
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Veda talks about deciding not to speak with their Indian parents about their gender identity. And, Sree Sinha, co-founder of the South Asian Sexual and Mental Health Alliance, helps us figure out when, if, and how to talk about identity and sexuality with loved ones.
Our expert this week is Sree Sinha, Co-founder of the South Asian Mental & Sexual Health Alliance, or SAMSHA. Learn more about her organization here, and find their podcast, Brown Taboo Project, here. Sree recommends this UN map on gender and sexuality across time and culture, and this PBS map on diverse genders. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Overcoming Shame to Love Who You Are, and Coming Out to My Family.
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Kristie just received her doctorate, a milestone that's impacting her father-daughter relationship and revealing tensions in her Mexican-American family around gender roles and expectations. And, psychologist Gabriela Livas Stein comes back to walk us through "selective acculturation" and how to align our family roles with our values.
Our expert this week is Gabriela Livas Stein, Associate Professor of Psychology at University of North Carolina in Greensboro. Learn more about her lab here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Familism Hurts, and She's Fighting Inherited Gender Roles.
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Diane's Korean mother and grandmother live in New Jersey, and would like her to visit more often. But Diane has a full life in NYC, and feels guilty and torn. Hatty Lee, a marriage and family therapist who works with Asian-Americans, shares tips on how to speak with loved ones about honoring our individual and family needs.
Our expert, Hatty Lee is a licensed, marriage and family therapist in private practice based in Los Angeles, California. Hatty co-authored a book called The Indwell Guide, an eight-step mental health guide to help people begin to recover from the past, reclaim their true self, and learn to live with purpose. Find out more about her work on her website.
Liz and her Mexican mom have always had a difficult mother-daughter relationship. Now that Liz is thinking of having children, she worries that because of her strict Catholic upbringing, and her emotionally-detached mother, she may not have become the type of parent she wants to be.
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Spiritual life coach Michelle Gomez speaks with Juleyka about what he calls the Latina Mother Wound, and shares strategies to recognize and begin to heal childhood traumas that impact mother-daughter relationships. Then, she offers advice on how to incorporate it all into conscious parenting practices.
Our expert, Michelle Gomez, is a spiritual life coach, author, and sacred space holder. You can learn more about her work on her website, where you can also download her free e-book The Latina Mother Wound, and her digital healing guide The Healing Hija Accelerator . Michelle also runs a community of sisterhood, Healed Hijas, a FB group of Latina adult daughters at different stages in their Mother Wound healing journey.
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When Oriana opened an online bookstore focused on BIPOC authors, her Venezuelan parents didn't understand why it was necessary to highlight the identity and work of writers of color. And, facilitator Liza Talusan offers advice on how to discuss anti-racism and inclusion with our parents.
You can visit Xolo Books, here. Our expert on this episode is Dr. Liza Talusan, a scholar practitioner in areas of diversity, equity, inclusion, justice, and leadership. Learn more about her work with organizations, corporations, leadership teams, schools and individuals on her website. Liza highly recommends the work and resources from Courageous Conversations, including this protocol for having conversations about race.
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When Gina was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder—the cause of her insomnia, panic attacks, and night teeth-grinding—she decided not to tell her Latino parents. Dr. Ana Ribas, an anxiety specialist, shares strategies for discussing our mental health and treatment options with our parents.
Our expert on this episode, Dr. Ana Ribas, is a clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, specializing in anxiety, OCD, and relationship issues. She is also the Assistant Clinical Director of the UCLA Adult OCD Intensive Outpatient Treatment Program. Learn more about Dr. Ana's work here.
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Ray's father passed away last year. A few years earlier Ray and his parents discussed the kind of care his dad would want at the end of his life. Professor of Law María Mercedes Pabón returns with advice on how to broach this difficult subject with loved ones.
Our expert on this episode, María Mercedes Pabón, is a professor of law at Loyola University New Orleans. Here is a good overview on living wills and advance directives, a list of forms by state (also in Spanish), and a multicultural online tool to help individuals explore their wishes and talk about them with family, friends, and medical providers.
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Fryda grew up in a Cuban-American family, and easily sees how her mother's life in Cuba influenced how she raised her. As a result, sometimes their relationship feels strained. And, Juleyka speaks with an immigration and acculturation scholar who helps us uphold boundaries with parents.
Fryda is the cohost of the Teikirisi podcast. Our expert this week is Rose Perez, Associate Professor in the School of Social Work at Fordham University. You can learn more about her work here.
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Jor grew up in a very religious Indian family. Coming out to himself and to his parents took years. And, Aruna Rao, who guides South Asian LGBTQ+ individuals and their families, helps us accept and affirm our loved ones' identities.
Jor Gonsalves is the host of Unshaming, a podcast about representation and storytelling. You can listen wherever you get your podcast. Our expert is Aruna Rao, founder of Desi Rainbow Parents, an organization that fosters understanding and acceptance among South Asian families, with the goal of affirming and celebrating LGBTQ+ individuals. Learn more about the work they do on their website, here.
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Rafe was sexually assaulted as a teen, and only began to open up to his family about it and his sexual identity as an adult. He now feels very much loved but bears the scars of the incident and the silence around it. And, Juleyka speaks with Rosalia Rivera, an abuse prevention expert who works with survivor parents, about how to teach consent and body autonomy in our families.
Our expert is Rosalia Rivera, a consent educator, abuse prevention expert, and sexual literacy advocate who works with child sexual abuse survivors who are now parents. She is the founder of Consent Parenting and the host of the About Consent podcast, and the creatrix of CONSENTwear. To learn more about her work visit her website here.
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Amalia grew up watching her Cuban mom work hard to make ends meet. As an adult, Amalia is her mom’s safety net, but talking with her about finances and planning for the future makes her very nervous. Then, Juleyka speaks with certified financial advisor Anna N’Jie-Konte about how to talk to our parents about their money.
Our expert, Anna N'Jie-Konte is the founder of Dare to Dream Financial Planning, a financial planning firm serving women of color, and she's the host of the "First-Gen Realness". podcast. Visit her website and learn more about her work here.
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Ele's parents have always been really supportive. When she and her husband lost their home during the recession, her parents took them and their kids in. Ele was grateful, but at times overwhelmed by their eagerness to help. Then, Dr. Maritza Mikolich, a family therapist, shares strategies for talking to parents about how best to really help us.
Our expert, Dr. Maritza Mikolich, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a doctoral degree of psychology and a specialty in EMDR. Learn more about her work here.
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Mental health professional Blanca Amaya, who specializes in culturally competent, trauma-informed therapy, helps us talk about suicide, depression, and mental illness with our loved ones.
Our expert, Blanca E Amaya is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who provides psychotherapy in English and Spanish. She owns her own practice, Amaya Counseling in Pasadena, California. Visit her website here.
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Meet Sasha, who grew up in an Iranian and Chilean family. Her youngest sister, Suedi, died by suicide, and her family still doesn't talk much about it. The silence makes it harder for Sasha to open up about her own mental health struggles.
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She's a friend of the show, so when musician and writer Dessa told us about her new podcast, Deeply Human, we had to invite her on. In a convo that almost got out of hand, Dessa and Juleyka talk about why she created the show, how she's the show's real-life test dummy, and why she loves "science in street clothes."
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Juleyka welcomes Dr. Eva Galvez, a family physician working primarily with immigrant communities, to get advice on how to talk with parents and loved ones about the need to get vaccinated. Dr. Galvez offers strategies for addressing concerns, building trust, and navigating barriers to access for certain populations.
Our expert this week is Dr. Eva Galvez, a board certified family physician at Virginia Garcia Memorial Health Center in Hillsboro, OR. Learn more about the health center and its work, here.
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Last summer, Tatianna and her dad were in a really bad spot, to the point she felt every conversation turned into an argument. She reflects on the strategies she’s been using and what they’ve helped her understand about her dad—and herself.
If you loved this episode, listen to Tatianna's original episode, Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue.
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Last year, TK told us how hard it was to get her parents to understand her passion for her work, and accept her career change from nursing to audio. In this episode, she shares how her family now understands, supports and celebrates her work and one another.
If you loved this episode, listen to TK's original episode, She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It.
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We check in with our first guest ever. When we spoke with Sandra, she told us she can't say no to her mother. Living through the pandemic in NYC gave her plenty of opportunities to practice.
If you loved this episode, listen to Sandra's original episode, Mom Drove into NYC Amid the COVID-19 Crisis.
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When we spoke last year, Adela told us she had a hard time understanding her dad, one-issue-voter, who supported Trump in 2016. She's pretty sure he voted for Trump again in 2020, but she is beginning to notice a shift in him.
If you loved this episode, listen to Adela's original episode, Dad Voted for Trump.
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For the next few episodes, we're checking in with some of our early guests. When we spoke last year, Merk Nguyen, podcast co-host and producer of Adultish, was struggling to be more than a dutiful daughter to her Vietnamese parents. Recently, she's had a realization about her identity, that led to a very important conversation with them.
If you loved this episode, listen to Merk's original episode, Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter.
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Growing up, Leslie saw her parents send supplies and money to relatives in the Dominican Republic, even as her family struggled financially. It bothered her, but she was afraid her parents would call her selfish if she said anything. Catalina Fortich, a licensed marriage and family therapist, helps us rethink that label.
Our expert this week is Catalina Fortich, a marriage and family therapist with her own private practice based in South Florida, Safe Place Therapy. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter and She's Stuck in a Family Triangle.
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In this special episode, on the week after the Inauguration, Juleyka speaks with political scientist Geraldo Cadava, author of The Hispanic Republican, who helps us unpack the complex political identities of Latinos in the U.S. And, he offers insight into how and why we should engage with loved ones with whom we disagree politically.
Our expert this week is Professor Geraldo Cadava from Northwestern University. You can visit his website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to A Historical Wound He's Trying to Understand and Dad Denies Systemic Racism.
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Shelsea is a college student undecided about her future, and wondering whether she wants to be in school at all. But she feels pressured by her Haitian mom to finish her degree. Then, a seasoned college counselor shares strategies for figuring out your own path and engaging your loved ones in the process.
Our expert this week is Sharon Williams, college counselor at the University of Chicago Laboratory High School. Sharon recommends the following community organizations and resources to support students along their educational journey:
Posse
Questbridge
Jack Kent Cooke Foundation
And for students in the Chicago area:
High Jump
Link Unlimited
Chicago Scholars
If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She Had to Choose Her Career Over Her Parents, and She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It.
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Bianca is passionate about cannabis. She even has a podcast about it! When she started working in the cannabis industry, she finally opened up to her mom about all of it. And, a cannabis entrepreneur and investor helps us demystify the plant, the history, the science and the myths for our loved ones.
Our expert this week is Khadijah Adams, an entrepreneur, investor and business empowerment coach who works in the cannabis industry. You can visit her website here. You can find Bianca's podcast here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to My Divorce, My Parents, And Me, and Telling Them I'm Moving In With Boyfriend.
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Stephanie would like to talk more openly abut sex, intimacy and sexuality with her mom. The two are really close, but they've never been comfortable discussing any of this. And, a sex educator offers strategies (and a cool acronym) to help us get started talking about sex with our parents.
Our expert this week is Dulce Rodriguez, a clinical social worker, and a sex educator-in-training based in Albuquerque, NM. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Coming Out to My Family, and My Divorce, My Parents, And Me.
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A few weeks ago, Juleyka was invited as a guest on 3 Clips, where podcasters talk about making their shows. We turned part of that interview into a special episode to give you a behind-the-scenes look at how we make the show.
If you loved this show, listen to our first episode ever, Mom Drove into NYC Amid the COVID-19 Crisis. You can hear Juleyka's interview in 3 Clips with Jay Acunzo here. And, visit the 3 Clips website for more meta interviews about podcasts.
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When Gloria experienced intimate partner violence in her relationship, she had a very difficult time turning to her family for help. It was particularly hard to open up to her mom, who had her own history of trauma. And, the founder of an organization that works with survivors offers strategies for breaking the cycle.
Our expert this week is Susan Rubio Rivera, founder of M.U.J.E.R. If you or a loved one need help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Visit her organization here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When's the Time to Write a Will? and Dad's Mental Illness On His Own Terms.
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Carmen’s dad learned he had pancreatic cancer earlier this year. His reaction took her by surprise, and the family dealt with the possibility of his death in different ways. Then, an occupational therapist who works with the elderly talks to Juleyka about how to care for our aging loved ones.
Our expert this week is Mariella Zuñiga, an occupational therapist and consultant with expertise in Aging in Place, engagement in successful aging and innovation in longevity. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When's the Time to Write a Will? and Dad's Mental Illness On His Own Terms.
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Monica was raised as an independent woman by her very independent Mexican mother. But she’s realizing both of them easily fall back on outmoded gender roles. And, a family therapist returns to the show to give all of us tools to self correct.
Our expert this week is Claudia Cuevas, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Mission Viejo, CA. She focuses on Latinas, men and the families who love them.You can visit her website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue, and When Helping Leaves You Feeling Bad After.
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Daniella and her husband have a young son they think might be on the autism spectrum or have developmental delays. Her parents have a hard time overcoming outdated stigmas about cognitive differences. And a pediatrician who studies healthcare in Latino communities speaks with Juleyka about how to support loved ones who are different.
Our expert this week is Dr. Katharine Zuckerman, a primary care pediatrician and an associate professor at Doernbecher Children’s Hospital and Oregon Health & Science University in Portland, Oregon. She recommends the CDC's Milestone Tracker and the Autism Self Advocacy Network as resources for parents. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Dad's Mental Illness, On His Terms, and When They Want a Wedding and Grandchildren But You Are Not Ready.
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Growing up, Jeo was never very close to his dad. As an adult, he wants to know him better, to learn about his past and have a real relationship with him. But it’s hard to get him to open up. And, an expert in adolescent development in immigrant communities helps explain the disconnect.
Our expert this week is William Perez, professor in the School of Education at Loyola Marymount University. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to At Home, Being an Adult is Testing Parental Limits, and When Helping Leaves You Feeling Bad After.
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Carlos is hyper-aware of wealth inequality and issues of access in the U.S., and is puzzled by his immigrant mother's conservative views, especially since she had to sacrifice so much for her family––and for him. And, a political science professor provides some needed context.
Our expert this week is Eduardo Gamarra, Professor of Politcal Science at Florida International University. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Dad Denies Systemic Racism, and A Historical Wound He's Trying to Understand.
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Nathalie’s mother and grandmother want her to be happy. But their idea of happiness for her includes getting married and having kids—not at all what she wants for herself. But they bring it up all the time. And a writer dispels the myths around being single, and shares her advice for handling this particular type of family pressure.
Our expert this week is writer, speaker and creative professional Acamea Deadwiler. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to My Divorce, My Parents, And Me, and Telling Them I'm Moving In With Boyfriend.
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Ody's grandmother lived with her family when she was growing up. The expectation of always putting family first created a toxic environment due to emotional abuse from her grandmother, whom she suspects may have had a mental illness. An expert on Latino cultural values breaks down the concept of familism and how it shapes the dynamics at home.
Our expert this week is Gabriela Livas Stein, Associate Professor of Psychology at University of North Carolina in Greensboro. Learn more about her lab here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Mamí and Papí Fight, and Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue.
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Rafe grew up feeling very loved, but also feeling very different. In his teen years, he began to understand he was gay, but it took a while to open up, and to talk about a traumatic experience. A licensed clinical social worker who specializes in supporting QTBIPOC clients speaks with Juleyka about how we can all show up for our loved ones.
This episode discusses troubling details, involving violence. Some listeners may find it disturbing.
Our expert this week is Alina Maria Tello-Cordon, a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker in the state of Washington, currently working on a PhD in Clinical Sexology with concentrations in Transgender Health and Kink Conscious Therapy from the International Institute of Clinical Sexology. Learn more about her practice here. Below is a list of resources Alina recommends:
RAINN is the nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
Trans Lifeline is a trans-led organization connecting trans people to community, support, and resources.
Hotline: 1-877-565-8860 Hotline
The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people under 25.
It Gets Better Project is a nonprofit organization with a mission to uplift, empower, and connect LGBTQ youth around the globe.
The National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network
This is a great resource for identifying mental health resources for Queer and Trans people of Color.
Covenant House is an LGBTQIA+ affirming youth shelter that has locations across the U.S.
The National Runaway Safeline provides advice and assistance to runaways, including resources, shelter, transportation, assistance in finding counseling, and transitioning back to home life.
1800-RUNAWAY (800-786-2929)
The True Colors Fund is working to end homelessness among LGBTQ youth, creating a world in which all young people can be their true selves. They run a database of service providers.
Trans Student Educational Resources is a youth-led organization dedicated to transforming the educational environment for trans and gender nonconforming students through advocacy and empowerment.
PFLAG provides support, information, and resources for LGBTQ+ people, their parents and families, and allies.
If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She's Stuck in a Family Triangle and When Mamí Grieves Different Than You. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Mamí and Papí Fight and My Divorce, My Parents, and Me.
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Gaby grew up with parents whose marriage was almost a fairytale: they fell in love young, got married, and stayed together happily ever after. So when her own marriage ended, she felt shame and found it really hard to talk to her parents about it. And, a marriage and family therapist offers strategies for discussing changing relationships with relatives.
Our expert this week is Genesis Games, a bilingual (English & Spanish) Cuban-American psychotherapist based in Miami helping clients in all of Florida and New Jersey. Genesis helps young adults adjust to life transitions, navigate the dating world, manage relationship issues, set boundaries with family, and develop adult friendships. She is passionate about helping individuals heal and thrive after heartbreak. Learn more about her practice here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She's Stuck in a Family Triangle and When Mamí Grieves Different Than You.
Cris Ramos Greene is the author of Embrace That Girl, a memoir about figuring out adulthood and coming to terms with her Cuban-American identity. She talks to Juleyka about breaking the news to her traditional parents that she was moving in with her boyfriend. And, a marriage and family therapist shares strategies to assert your independence without drama.
Our expert this week is Sara Stanizai, a licensed marriage and family therapist owner of Prospect Therapy here in Long Beach, California, a queer and trans affirming therapy practice with a special focus on mental health in first generation American and other bicultural communities.
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As a child, Rose witnessed an instance of domestic violence between her parents that has stayed with her over the years. And a certified traumatologist and psychotherapist who works with immigrant women talks to Juleyka about how those of us in similar circumstances can move forward and heal.
Our expert this week is Martha Vallejo, certified traumatologist and psychotherapist based in Miami, Florida. She recommends this talk as a resource to understand the longterm impact of childhood adversity in adults. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Dad's Mental Illness, On His Terms and Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter.
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We have beautiful news! Doula and childbirth educator Adriana Lozada just brought her show Birthful to Lantigua Williams & Co. And we're so happy!!!
Alternating between interviews with perinatal professionals and birth stories with new parents, Birthful is here to inform your intuition, no matter what pregnancy, birth or postpartum throw at you.
New episodes every Wednesday!
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Rita, like the rest of her family, has always been a die-hard football fan. She hid her love for a different team for years, afraid they would be upset. A professor of sports management breaks down BIRGing and CORFing in avid sports fans and what they have to do with family relationship dynamics.
Our expert this week is Michelle Harrolle , Director of the Vinik Sport & Entertainment Management Program at the University of South Florida. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue, and When Mamí Grieves Differently Than You.
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Vanessa’s mother moved from Germany to the U.S. as an adult. Vanessa, who was born in the U.S., immigrated to Canada and finds herself comparing their experiences in their adopted countries as she watches her home country from The North. Then, Juleyka speaks with a sociologist who puts citizenship and belonging into a larger context.
Our expert this week is Irene Bloemraad , Professor of Sociology at the University of California, Berkeley. Learn more about her work on interdisciplinary migration here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Dad Denies Systemic Racism and A Historical Wound He's Trying to Understand.
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As a kid, Olga loved writing and developed a passion for journalism. But her parents, immigrants from the former U.S.S.R., strongly opposed her choices, fearing the financial prospects were slim. Long-standing arguments created a rift in their relationship that grew worse over time—leading her to choose between her calling and her family. In this episode, Juleyka also speaks with a career coach about how feminist women can negotiate and find common ground with our parents.
Our expert this week is Cynthia Pong, a feminist career coach for women of color. You can visit her website here and learn about her book here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It and Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter.
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Sisters Taranjit and Bhavneet have lots of interests outside of their work in science, including their podcast, Drive with Us. But their Indian parents seem to always ask "Why are you doing this?" in ways that discourage and alienate them. Today, we're looking at what happens when more traditional ideas about work and purpose clash with a desire to venture out and try new things. A marriage and family therapist who specializes in transitions shares ways to connect.
Check out the Drive with Us podcast here. Our expert this week is Sonica Thakur, a marriage and family therapist based in San Francisco. You can visit her website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It and At Home, Being An Adult Is Testing Parental Limits.
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We produced something beautiful for Macmillan Podcasts!! Introducing Driving the Green Book, a ten-part documentary series premiering September 15. Follow award-winning BBC broadcaster Alvin Hall as he retraces many of the locations featured in the historic travel guide. From Detroit to New Orleans, Hall takes us on an immersive audio journey, collecting powerful, personal testimony about how Black Americans used the Green Book to travel with dignity during the height of segregation. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe today!
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As Jewish immigrants from the former U.S.S.R., Michael’s extended family endured a history of prosecution and genocide. But he finds that his parents lack empathy toward those seeking safety and freedom in the U.S. He's having a hard time understanding where they’re coming from. And an even harder time talking to them about it. An expert in negotiation and mediation has some advice for us all.
Our expert this week is Sara del Nido Budish, Assistant Director and Clinical Instructor at the Harvard Negotiation and Mediation Clinical Program at Harvard Law School. She co-hosts a podcast about bridging political divides, which you can find here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Dad Voted for Trump and When Mamí Grieves Different Than You.
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Irina is ready to quit being the mediator between her Russian and Cuban parents and her younger, more Americanized brother. The role has strained her relationship with all of them, and, now that she has her own family, she wants to find the best way to change this dynamic—and to let them work things out on their own. A marriage and family therapist offers insights and techniques for anyone in this dilemma.
Our expert this week is Catalina Fortich, a marriage and family therapist with her own private practice based in South Florida, Safe Place Therapy. Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter and Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue.
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When COVID-19 hit, Harold quickly reshaped his routine to protect his family. At first, his parents also followed public health guidelines, but as the pandemic extended they began to relax their precautions, even having people stay over on weekends. Harold says he has been deeply impacted by their carefree approach, especially because he fears for his infant son’s health—and theirs. Plus: a COVID-19 contact tracer joins the show to share strategies.
Our expert this week is Oscar Baez. He is a care resource coordinator with the Community Tracing Collaborative, and chairs the immigration working group that’s helping to engage immigrant communities and individuals who have tested positive with COVID-19. Oscar is a contact tracer for Partners in Health. Learm more about the organization here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Trying to Warn Mom about COVID-19 from Afar and Parents Might Be Spreading Fake News .
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TK grew up in a family of medical professionals. She followed in their footsteps and became a nurse, but had passion projects on the side. When she left nursing, her parents had a hard time understanding her new goals and the dreams she deems essential to her happiness. A career coach guides us in how to navigate career choices with skeptical loved ones.
Our expert this week is Jasmine Escalera, a Job Search and Career Strategist who works with women of color. You can visit Jasmine's website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter and He's the First to Go to College.
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Perla, a paralegal, uses her training to help her dad navigate the federal COVID-19 relief process. But, when Perla takes charge, personalities clash and roles reverse. An old father-daughter dynamic comes back, and she’s left feeling undermined. A family therapist who works with Latino clients returns to guide us in finding better ways to get through these trying moments.
Our expert this week is Claudia Cuevas, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Mission Viejo, CA. Claudia owns her own practice.
You can visit Claudia's website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out How to Get Help When You're the Designated Translator and He's the First to Go to College.
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Deepa is a political journalist who thought she had set clear and practical boundaries with her parents. But, now that she’s living with them through the COVID-19 pandemic, she finds everyone at home falling into old patterns that disrupt her work and cross boundaries. Then, we hear from a business and leadership coach who offers pointers on how to recalibrate and refocus.
Our expert on this episode is Dr. Shweta Oza, who coaches individuals and entrepreneurs helping them find joy, prosperity, success, and wholeness in their personal and professional lives.
You can visit Dr. Oza's website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out When Mamí Grieves Different Than You and Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter.
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Estefania was always close to her dad, but lately their relationship has been strained. Thanks to the Black Lives Matter demonstrations, they’ve been talking more about race and racism. It’s become clear they don’t see the issues the same way. Also, social justice doula who helps people put into practice their anti-racism gives Estefania and the rest of us the vocabulary that can lead to more honest conversations with loved ones.
Our expert on this episode is Lutze Segu, Social Justice Doula. Lutze facilitates racial justice workshops, provide strategic HR consulting for organizations, and offer feminist coaching to individuals.
You can visit Lutze's website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Parents Might Be Spreading Fake News and How to Warn Mom about COVID-19 from Afar.
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Erika’s mom has always been a huge support for Erika and her sisters. But when Erika’s grandmother passed away in the Dominican Republic amid the COVID-19 pandemic, Erika wanted to support her during this difficult time. Figuring out what her mom needed—and didn’t—turned into a delicate dance of giving and receiving, for both of them. And a grief counselor implodes some myths about grief while offering practical advice on how to best help loved ones.
Our expert on this episode is Alica Forneret, a facilitator, writer and Grief Guide . Alica creates spaces for people to explore their grief and is committed to making sure that we have more conversations about grief, death, and dying—whether at home, at work, or with strangers on the bus.
You can visit Alica's website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out When's the Time to Write a Will? and Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter.
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Louise has always helped her mom translate important documents and handle formal transactions. Recently, she helped her file for unemployment insurance during the COVID-19 pandemic — and it caused friction between them. An expert shares techniques and resources that Louise and other first-gens with this responsibility can use to alleviate the pressure and extra work that result when we want to support our parents but need help in the process.
Our expert on this episode is Saritha Farris, a licensed clinical social worker. She has a private practice and offers cognitive behavioral therapy to families, groups and individuals. Many of her clients are Latinx, and come from immigrant families.
You can visit Saritha's website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out When Helping Leaves You Feeling Bad After and When's the Time to Write a Will?
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Tatianna has always questioned authority. As a girl, she’d push back on rules, gender roles and limitations, annoying her family, and especially her dad. As an adult, her feminist ways clash with his machismo. A therapist who focuses on Latinas, men and the families who love them joins the show to help Tatiana and the rest of us find a better way.
Our expert this week is Claudia Cuevas, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Mission Viejo, CA. She focuses on Latinas, men and the families who love them.
Claudia owns her own practice. You can visit her website here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Dad Voted for Trump and Trying to Warn Mom about COVID-19 from Afar.
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Mitzi’s mom is her best friend. They talk on the phone daily and have a great relationship. But when her mom started getting sick, it was a race against the clock to make sure she had the care and legal protections she needed. Professor of Law María Mercedes Pabón offers advice on broaching the conversation and gets into the documents our parents should have in place years before they think they need them.
Our expert on this episode, María Mercedes Pabón, is a professor of law at Loyola University New Orleans. She recommends visiting elderlawanswers.com for resources to begin having conversations with your parents about their estate plans and end of life wishes.
This guide is a great start for those conversations. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Dad's Mental Illness, on His Terms and When Helping Leaves You Feeling Bad After.
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Walter’s parents encouraged him to get an education. They didn’t care where, they “just wanted to see the word university or college at the end.” But as the first to go to college, while at an Ivy League school and then law school, Walter struggled to share his experiences — triumphs or frustrations — with them. Our pro this episode talks about experiencing college with our parents at our side.
Our expert in the episode is Sol Cordova, a Licensed Professional Counselor and the owner of Mind & Sol Therapy in Austin, Texas. A first generation college graduate herself, she spends her time focusing on first generation Americans as the transition into college and the early career space.
Check out Sol's Mind & Sol Therapy If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter and How to Get Help When You're the Designated Translator.
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Kenia's dad was always the life of the party. But then he became moody and confrontational. Small disagreements would turn into big fights. There were a lot of highs and lows. Kenia worked hard to understand his diagnosis and meet him on his own terms. And a therapist teaches us how to notice if a family member is struggling with their mental health.
Our expert, Blanca E Amaya is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who provides psychotherapy in English and Spanish. She owns her own practice, Amaya Counseling in Pasadena, California.
Check out Amaya Counseling. And if you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When's the Time to Write a Will? and Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue.
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Merk's parents have always been her biggest cheerleaders. They've always encouraged her to take the life they've given her and transform it into something of her own. But since moving out on her own, she worries that she won't develop her own identity beyond the "dutiful daughter" she feels pressure to be.
Our expert, Sara Stanizai (she/her) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the owner of Prospect Therapy, an LGBTQ+ affirming therapy practice based in Long Beach, CA. A queer, first-gen American herself, one of Sara's clinical specialties is working with other first-generation, bicultural, and immigrant Americans around issues of identity, and reconciling their place within two or more cultures.
Check out Prospect Therapy here. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out He's the First to Go to College and How to Get Help When You're the Designated Translator.
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Adela loves her dad. “He’s a great husband, a great grandfather, and I just would never do anything to jeopardize the relationship,” she says. There’s just one thing: he voted for Trump because of where he stands on Israel. And now she’s wrestling with her abiding love for him and the political rift it may cause in the family.
Our expert, Victoria Defrancesco Soto, is a political scientist and the assistant dean of civic engagement at the LBJ School of Public Affairs at the University of Texas at Austin. She is also a contributor for MSNBC.
You can check out Victoria's research at her website. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Papí and I Don't Talk, We Argue and Trying to Warn Mom about COVID-19 from Afar.
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Lory lives in Paris, where COVID-19 shut down the city of lights as the pandemic ravaged Europe. Her mom lives in New York, which weeks after Paris went on lockdown would become the American epicenter. But Lori could not convince her mother to take, what she believed, were necessary precautions.
Our expert, Dr. Pam Thompson, is a psychologist, professional life coach and the author of "Surviving Mama," a book that focuses on mothers and adult daughters. She joins the podcast to break down what makes a successful mother-daughter relationship. She practices in Atlanta, Georgia. You can find out more about Dr. Thompson and her practice by visiting her website.
You can find out more about Dr. Thompson and her practice by visiting her website. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Parents Might Be Spreading Fake News and Dad Voted for Trump
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Casey’s parents both work in healthcare, but that does not always keep them from believing and sometimes sharing false information whose sources are dubious at best. A pro helps us understand the challenges inherent in this situation and work through tools to empower our loved ones.
Our expert, Michelle Ciulla Lipkin, is the director of Executive Director of the National Association for Media Literacy Education. She joins the podcast to talk about helping your family members to feel empowered in finding solid, reputable news sources and sharing the information they learn.
You can visit Michelle's organization's website, or follow them on Twitter @MediaLiteracyEd. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Dad Voted for Trump and Mom Drove into NYC Amid the COVID-19 Crisis.
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Sandra Morales’ mom made a life-threatening decision as COVID-19 escalated in New York City. Family therapist Evelyn Hernandez Brown listens in and helps us with setting boundaries, adjusting expectations, and the work that follows in the “repair” phase.
Our expert, Evelynn Hernandez-Brown, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Oakland, California. She specializes in culturally responsible therapy methods for adults. She joins the podcast to talk about better ways to communicate with a loved one when you are feeling overwhelmed and frustrated.
You can visit Evelynn's website to learn more about her practice. If you loved this episode, be sure to check out Trying to Warn Mom about COVID-19 from Afar and When Helping Leaves You Feeling Bad After.
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We're a show about family — about how to talk with the people you love when you feel like you. just. can't. Every week, I’ll talk to an adult child of immigrant parents who’s having a hard time broaching a taboo subject, feeling not heard or understood, AND ready to try something NEW. No subject is off limits. Raising children, coming out, religion... We’re going to get into it.
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