“Look at all the good they’ve done.”Maybe they have. Maybe they pioneered something meaningful. Maybe they sacrificed deeply. Maybe they built ministries, nonprofits, schools, churches, or businesses that changed lives.All of that can be true.But yesterday’s faithfulness doesn’t exempt today’s behavior from scrutiny.Why? Because past fruit is not a lifetime immunity badge.Jethro corrected Moses.Nathan confronted David.Paul publicly challenged Peter.Correction wasn’t dishonor. It was stewardship.Biblical unity isn’t pretending problems don’t exist.It’s not suppressing concerns. It’s not protecting reputations more fiercely than truth. It’s not demanding predetermined agreement in the name of “keeping the peace.”Real unity makes room for questions. For humility. For truth spoken in love.The strongest leaders don’t fear accountability. They welcome it. Because accountability doesn’t diminish authority. It legitimizes it.As I discuss in this post, protecting the anointing, a process, even a structure has less to do with shielding leaders from scrutiny and more to do with protecting the integrity of what God entrusted to them in the first place.“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” — John 8:32
When someone says 'empathy', what is your initial reaction? Do you resonate with a rush, retract in hesitation, or perhaps a little bit of both? Regardless of our perspective, there's a power to behold when empathy is activated at work. In 'Part 1' of this new series, Lys and I will investigate the different types of empathy and how they can transform your work culture...
Often, when marketplace adversity hits, our human nature kicks in. In the midst of the hurricane, we struggle to make sense of our surroundings as disorientation overwhelms us. Yet, as I discuss in this pod, just because a storm may be rocking our boat, doesn't mean we abandon ship. If you can relate, here are some Biblical truths to consider...Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2025/03/23/staying-the-course-the-epitome-of-workplace-resilience/
A look at how we can refresh our faith and sustain spiritual momentum in 2025...Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2025/01/05/divine-reset-how-to-refresh-with-god-in-2025/YouTube: https://youtu.be/LRPKpkvdE5U
Why perpetual hope is key to understanding what Advent is all about...Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/12/13/awaiting-advent-the-joy-of-perpetual-hope/YouTube: https://youtu.be/9IUZmMSvEyU
Our latest series intro explores what it means to abide and invite God in our pursuits of Him. For many of us, our walks have become one-sided and compartmentalized. How do we address the places in our life where we have stalled? How do we rekindle the passion to invite God into our deepest pains and hurts? Stay tuned as we dig into these questions together in the coming months..Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/07/25/full-runnings-a-guide-on-referencing-god-part-1/YouTube: https://youtu.be/I41ksiFmExQ
Takeaways from the year's first half and a preview of the months ahead...Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/07/13/halftime-reflections-on-2024-and-the-road-ahead/YouTube: https://youtu.be/Io79NnPFVgcMusic creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
A breakdown of what a healthy, thriving, non-toxic work culture looks like...Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/06/02/rare-air-13-signs-of-a-healthy-work-culture/YouTube: https://youtu.be/HUIjIxG4Znw
A biblical approach on how to overcome a toxic work culture...Part 1: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/03/08/7-signs-of-a-toxic-workplace-part-1/Part 2: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/03/22/7-signs-of-a-toxic-workplace-part-2/YouTube: https://youtu.be/WX7jcw4Q2X4
For many of us, when we hear 'grow up', we interpret the phrase as a negative; however, when we consider the Scriptures, we find reasons why we should embrace the term to empower one another! Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2024/02/08/grow-up-a-call-for-us-in-2024-part-2/YouTube: https://youtu.be/v4aBLMQ8qSY
For many of us, when we hear 'grow up', we interpret the phrase as a negative; however, when we consider the Scriptures, we find reasons why we should embrace the term to empower one another! Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/grow-⬆️-up-a-call-for-us-in-2024-part-1YouTube: https://youtu.be/eL-0SEhhg6k
In this episode, I discuss some key necessities when strategizing new year resolutions and preview the three workplace profiles (or camps) we find ourselves in. As mentioned below, the purpose of this post is to encourage anyone considering potential changes heading into the new year as well as lay some groundwork for future content later this quarter. Stay tuned as I will breakdown these profiles in my next episode set to debut on Fryday, January 19. YouTube: https://youtu.be/RZ8keuDpdAIReset, Refresh & Renew Blog:: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/07/26/the-renew-in-you-how-to-refresh-restart-and-reset-with-god/2023 Year in Review: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2023/12/28/year-in-review-a-look-back-at-2023/Outro music creds: "Shadow of a Man" by Neulore
Part 1: https://youtu.be/8G6ohGFNQLsPart 2: https://youtu.be/sYnP19jQUywIn part 3 of our new series, 'Mourning Glory', we explore grieving through the lens of Numbers 13 and Genesis 32. Using these stories as perspective filters, we explore topics such as:1) What is our Promised Land in the context of grieving?2) What are the giants in our life and how we do conquer them? 3) Like Jacob, how do we wrestle with God the right way during our suffering? These are only a few of the questions we put under the microscope in this episode...Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
Three takeaways from the year so far and a look ahead at the coming months...YouTube: https://youtu.be/1UJxudD2wA0Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
A LOTR inspired pod on the splendor of suffering as seen through God's perspective...
Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
A NICU update featuring the physics-defying faith of Peter, the intentionality of Christ's rest, and how it translates in the face chaos...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/miracle-in-the-making-the-jubilee-journey-part-9
Why referencing God is not only the way to surrender but also the key to perceiving people...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2022/06/24/the-struggle-is-kneel-why-surrender-is-hard-at-its-core-part-1/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/-IDV570wuwU
A Matthew 8 dive into why Jesus carries our burdens and diseases as much as he cures them...
Even when Jesus was near death, He never stopped letting His life speak...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2022/04/15/master-messiah-the-final-lessons-of-jesus/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/j9ktCLdd0AM
The miracles of Jesus as seen through His daily habits and rhythms...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/WEMKVLvLxGg
A Psalm 56 look into why God tallies our tears...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2022/03/06/message-in-a-bottle-why-god-collects-our-tears/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/lA-hJUPXuf4
A new plug on a new series debuting on His Girl Fryday in the coming weeks...
Blog: www.hisgirlfryday.com/power-in-the-mud-why-jesus-used-his-spit-to-heal-part-1
After a four year hiatus, a former January staple finds its 'Part 2'; for more context, check out 'part 1' link below...
Part 1: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2018/01/26/3-ways-to-sharpen-your-sword Part 2: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2022/01/26/3-more-ways-to-sharpen-your-sword/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/2uOeXm_F5_w
Some encouragement for those at the end of their rope stuck between a rock and a hard place...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/11/09/miracle-in-the-making-the-jubilee-journey-part-6/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/MrjTfMCD7kE
Why the miracle of Juby isn't limited to her survival...
Confession starts at 13:43...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/10/24/miracle-in-the-making-the-jubilee-journey-part-5/
Lessons from the NICU including why you can't embrace weakness without dependence...
Blogs: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/09/26/miracle-in-the-making-the-jubilee-journey-part-3/
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/09/17/miracle-in-the-making-the-jubilee-journey-part-2/
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/09/04/miracle-in-the-making-the-jubilee-journey-part-1/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/Mkvixr6hCYc
A Scriptural look into how you can passionately troubleshoot tough clients as far as it be with you...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/08/05/room-to-bloom-a-soap-study-on-romans-1218-19/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/DlFEbCjK4S8
Digging deeper with strategic verses for critical workplace situations...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/07/06/eyes-wide-open-the-keys-to-watchful-prayer-part-2/
Part 1: www.hisgirlfryday.com/eyes-wide-open-the-keys-to-watchful-prayer-part-1
Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
An audio replay of our Messenger Fellowship Essentials - God Module discussion...
For more information, visit https://messengerfellowship.com.
A short guide on how to find victory against vindictive clients...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/06/20/fearless-faceoff-when-clients-become-hockey-players/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/IsNo-9YuEJU
Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
Just as God is faithful to help us discover Him, so must we be faithful to discover Him through His Spirit...
Blog: https://www.hisgirlfryday.com/lockstep-leaders-a-soap-bible-study-on-galatians-525
YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZLuODvMTI4g
Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
What it means to stay alert in prayer while on the clock...
Blog: www.hisgirlfryday.com/eyes-wide-open-the-keys-to-watchful-prayer-part-1
Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/cameron-j-fry/eyes-wide-open-the-keys-to-watchful-prayer-part-1
Music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonti (APRA)
A Scriptural dive into the call of customer service...
Blog: www.hisgirlfryday.com/you-got-this-an-encouragement-for-those-in-client-care
YouTube:https://youtu.be/GvwJBZLVToI
How Peter's rejection of Jesus was critical to the calling God had for him...
Blog: www.hisgirlfryday.com/rock-of-rages-why-peters-denial-was-a-necessary-trial
If Jesus is to be our daily bread, His Word must be daily read. Even when the days are dull, there's never a dull moment in God's presence...
Blog: www.hisgirlfryday.com/3-ways-to-engage-quiet-time-in-2021 YouTube: https://youtu.be/6G3EM4I0030
Spiritual tools of the trade as inspired by Jehoshaphat's leadership...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/02/09/pressed-but-not-crushed-a-study-on-2-chronicles-20/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/toREBtssw00
While much seems lost in strife and shame, don't give up. Remember your aim.
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/01/18/the-silver-linings-of-2021-remember-your-aim
YouTube: https://youtu.be/ctOzPGSKTbg
As 2020 mercifully ends, Lys & I reflect on the 'good, bad, and ugly' of a year worth remembering...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2021/01/03/year-in-review-a-look-back-at-2020/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ug9D-g8dkmI
A potpourri of Advent certitudes featuring Peanuts, Galatians 4 and a whole lot more...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/12/19/yuletide-certitudes-a-truth-from-charlie-brown-the-thorns-of-christmas
YouTube: https://youtu.be/pJfcYvO74ZU
If our desire is to live as Christ, we must learn to abide in Him...even at work...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/11/12/3-ways-to-be-in-christ-at-work-part-1/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/POA6zL8Ls0w
Some fresh takes on community and the 'good and bad' of proximity...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/10/11/rethinking-community-3-truths-on-what-it-is-what-its-not/
Just as God is faithful to plant His Word, we likewise must be faithful to implant it...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/10/01/can-you-dig-it-a-soap-study-on-james-119-21/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/mRz1Br8iZr4
A look at how we can contest stigmas and stereotypes while on the clock...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/08/31/3-ways-to-overcome-labeling-at-work
YouTube: https://youtu.be/0ZdFbU5i674
An intro look at the Trinity as a grid to leadership...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/08/22/faith-at-work-the-trinity-as-structure-part-1/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/rDOMGb1lgHs
If life's a beach, have a guide to survive before you arrive...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/08/08/eyes-on-the-shore-the-secret-to-surviving-lifes-riptides
YouTube: https://youtu.be/4d0Ki7dRO2Y
A look at how you can refresh the moment, restart your walk, and reset your faith in 2020...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/07/26/the-renew-in-you-how-to-refresh-restart-and-reset-with-god/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/I8MiEyWRg8Y
A look at how we're to seek God and see ourselves in 2020...
Part 2: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/07/05/4-convictions-for-2020-part-2/
Part 1: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/02/01/4-convictions-for-2020-part-1/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/IYAqVoohvyA
Serving our teams through the lens of humility...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/06/18/3-ways-to-elevate-others-at-work/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ksy95meexO0
Why Jesus chose the road not taken and what it means for us today...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/06/01/the-road-less-traveled-by/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/69KpRlxAoZM
A look at how our strength in Christ can help us embrace weakness and help those in trouble...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/05/23/wading-for-god-a-soap-study-on-romans-151-7/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/TCbEZx9w3kw
A look at five underrated Easter plots and their contemporary application...
Easter 2020 Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/04/11/a-new-thing-4-easter-insights-you-may-have-forgotten/
Pontius Pilate Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/04/25/the-water-bowl-why-pilate-washed-his-hands-of-jesus/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/9Krb8mqQ0lI
Leadership lessons from the life of Jethro...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/04/17/jethro-principles-structures-for-organized-relationship-part-1/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/OGCHQK70q0s
Fast-forward to 6:06 to skip intro/welcome and life update...
Intro/outro music creds: "Solar Ride" by Jamie Peter Fonit [APRA] - EVO268 Future Retro
A look at spiritual gifts and how they're to function at work...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/03/15/kingdom-agents-the-difference-between-gifts-functions-and-vocations-part-2
YouTube: https://youtu.be/S0twxgyse4Q
A short story about forgiveness at work...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/02/15/say-the-words-the-bridge-between-forgiveness-and-identity/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/SC46Me45hDQ
A two-part series on four convictions and what they mean for your 2020...
Note: Apologies on the sick voice; I promise I'm more upbeat than I sound in this episode. Stay tuned for 'part 2' set to debut next weekend...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/02/01/4-convictions-for-2020-part-1/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/GwOKIUwH58E
Before we set any initiative, mission statement, or resolution…before we even purpose them in our hearts…let’s get with God so He can refresh, renew, and reset our minds...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/4ARWZ3XK-NU
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2020/01/09/dont-dream-big-why-hindsight-doesnt-have-to-be-2020/
A look back on 2019 and a peak at the road ahead...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/un0uOHZ7hD8
Post: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/12/30/year-in-review-a-look-back-at-2019/
Before there could be a Cross, there had to be a manger. But before there could be a manger, there had to be a High Priest set apart for such a time as this...
https://youtu.be/oph4sBDNkvw
Time Stamps
0:00-0:55 - Intro/Welcome 0:56-12:35 - Life Update/Pod Reset 12:36-24:39 - Hebrews 4:14-16 Breakdown
The first of two birth story pods recapping Milo's arrival
Stay tuned next time when Lys and I will discuss how spouses can find rest in labor, peace in delivery, and strength amidst the chaos in between...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/AiPrNHUhcrw
How knowing our 'loved by God' identity helps us release broken relationships we can’t restore...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/lQeqjY_NMdA
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/10/06/trusting-god-with-broken-relationships/
An intro look at how intimacy, suffering, and hospitality relate...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/09/24/work-as-intimacy-scratch-notes-on-hebrews-13/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/sX9b2D6J9I4
Stay tuned next time when I'll discuss how these 'scratch notes' apply at work...
A fresh take on intimacy and what it looks like at work...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/09/10/work-as-new-creation-intended-for-intimacy-part-1
YouTube: https://youtu.be/jYlrRpXiQPI
When we work unto the Lord, it's not about the finish line, but the finish-ed line...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/08/27/work-as-freedom-hearts-of-flesh-part-2
YouTube: https://youtu.be/-jVpck4k30w
A new series on why our future is finished, not just our salvation...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/08/13/work-as-freedom-hearts-of-flesh-part-1
YouTube: https://youtu.be/qp44CIpaQZM
An encouraging word for the weary worker...
Lyrics and Editing: Cameron Fry Production: Cameron & Lyssah Fry Intro drone footage courtesy of Clark Lupton Music creds: "Chance" [Instrumental] by Chuki Beats Chuki 's Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/CHUKImusic Additional clip creds: Free HD Stock Footage 4K
Lyrics
And so it begins This dream against reality Faith far from totality A heart longing for more Than fluffed up morality Yet, still he walks This hill uninviting A reminder each day To never quit fighting Each crack on the road Each ounce of the load His daily alarm To what is still owed Head up, he steps in With grey all around He once was lost But now he is found Hate once within A tale of one sin ‘Twas once overhead Now new grace built-in And the reason is plain The death of disdain Is due to old bread Now fresh as new gain Still the bell tolls Men breathing yet dead Stir doubts in his mind The point of his tread When veil is still up And faith is repressed Why church it each week If love's not expressed In how you treat And how you care Why pick and choose Then ‘all out’ in share If what you trust’s Not how you abide The person you are Will be stuck inside A false content Don’t mean to resent But sacred meets civil Is what I consent And implore you to deem A notion deserving That’s more than a theme But heart-cry preserving A drive that says ‘yes’ I won’t only follow But die to myself And run from the hollow To love at all costs Is to hurt often Still better than praise And surrender in coffin So burst free and chance A break from the dormant The value in you Is true and important But it all points up To a place we neglect The giver of souls The cause of effect The maker of heart Perfecter of ways Consider your aim And center your days On seeking the cross To bridge the divide We bear at a cost Conserving our pride And some day We’re get there Despite all the pain Where you and me bask in The joy of his reign ‘Til then I press on The past has no meaning At least now you get The direction I’m leaning
A Genesis 2 look into why work flows out of worship, not the other way around...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/MiUmw8X3f1M
Post: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/07/13/work-as-worship-our-story-for-gods-glory/
When scars have you reelin', God keeps on healin'...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/_G28DXXqeR8
Image creds: Shutterstock
Time Stamps...
0:19-2:45 - Intro/Housekeeping/Notes 2:45-14:36 - Dream Context/Testimony 14:36-19:38 - Dream Recap & Analysis 19:38-27:59 - Application & Conclusion
To be fair, ‘Isn’t It Romantic’ is a charming flick full of laugh out loud moments and clever wit; however, to say the film lacks irony would be an understatement.
Spoiler alert
For instance, when contrasting real life to rom coms, our protagonist is clear she hates happy endings because they occur whenever convenient for the plot and conceal more than they reveal. The funny thing: This is exactly what ‘Isn’t It Romantic’ does on the issue of self-love which begs the question…
Does self-love actually exist?
As I discuss in this episode, the answer can’t be addressed in a vacuum. While secular voices can only go so far in their quest not to offend, one must wonder if we, as a culture, are synonymizing love and esteem as much as we are love and tolerance…
YouTube: https://youtu.be/I91ERlvGgRM
For more HGF podcasts, click here: https://hisgirlfryday.com/podcasts
Recapping France and implications moving forward...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/tyBzEiymWis
A fresh take on how we're to approach the the voids and tests in our lives...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/05/22/proverbial-life-a-quick-guide-to-possessing-your-soul/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZNMwossfMok
"Courage, boldness, and confidence are not the same thing. We choose courage to lead in boldness to walk in confidence." ~ Cameron Fry
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/05/11/integrating-ministry-marketplace-the-temple-template-2nd-ed/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/JUxZIP-7d3w
A look at the seconds following Jesus' death and what they mean for us today...
Easter blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/04/19/rolling-stones-why-the-torn-veil-split-rocks-matter
John 13 blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/02/05/resurrected-community-a-soap-study-on-john-131-9
YouTube: https://youtu.be/Kqvq5TPyL2w
When it comes to offense, sometimes the best way to respond is like a child...
Blog: https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/03/29/3-ways-to-deal-with-discrimination-at-work/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/JPmqeywDA5Q
Photo creds: Pixabay
For those who feel like potato peelings from culture’s kitchen...
https://youtu.be/KgjOoghfa8w
How to find awe in the awful...
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/02/15/love-reminders-why-voids-are-not-to-be-avoided/
Finding our place when we misplace...
YouTube: https://youtu.be/i61x3z-6xZ4
Cover photo creds: Expedia
Before we change, sometimes we got to rearrange...
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2019/01/16/3-more-things-im-really-sorry-for/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmVd6Y79-7Q
How to put the 'intent' in 'intentional' in 20 minutes or less...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C0eQfPYcKcs
Graphic creds: paper5pc.com
In a country that prizes independence, how sweet it is we have Thanksgiving to celebrate dependence...
Why family and Commission are not mutually exclusive...
*Inspired by Francis & Lisa Chan's book, 'You and Me Forever'
A new series on marriage in light of eternity...
*Inspired by Francis & Lisa Chan's book, 'You and Me Forever'
Sometimes, our next move is starting over...
hisgirlfryday.com/2018/09/06/begin-again/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/maKCfanOCew
A look at equipping, Spirit, and community gifts and how they apply in the marketplace...
A look at how Jesus' cleansing of the temple (Matthew 21:12-17) can inspire today's vocationals...
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2016/06/15/integrating-ministry-marketplace-temple-template/
Why peace is the reasoning behind our seasoning...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUDA2YSmHhA&t=10s
A look at what in hell Jesus did between cross & tomb...
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2018/03/31/saturday-night-life/
When we share our testimony, we shift our atmosphere...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RuCGH6UrJ6o&t=3s
Time Stamps
0:20-1:03 - Welcome 1:04-1:57 - About His Girl Fryday 1:58-3:21 - His Girl Fryday History 3:22-4:41 - Prayer 4:42-5:48 - Testimony Intro 5:49-21:29 - Testimony 21:30-22:24 - Wrap Up/Closing Thoughts
Before we get right with resolution, we got to get real with absolution...
https://hisgirlfryday.com/2018/01/11/3-things-im-really-sorry-for/