Small Things Often: Recent Episodes
The Gottman Institute
Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!
A fresh start can get you and your partner on the right track! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to hit the reset button and make positive changes in your relationship.
Date nights are a wonderful and important way to connect with your partner and strengthen your relationship. Think you’re too busy for one? On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you options that can fit into any schedule.
Laughter is a powerful force so use it to build your relationship! Learn how to be mindful and explore humor theories on this episode of Small Things Often.
Don’t let your friendship with your partner sizzle! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being a lover and a friend can strengthen your relationship.
Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and steps to take in order to break the pattern.
What do you do when a small decision made by your partner turns out to be a mistake? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the best way of being supportive — even when you disagreed with their decision in the first place.
Wonder what happy couples have in common? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the four things that make up the most successful relationships that can lead you and your partner to even greater happiness.
When you put words to your desire for your partner, you can experience a satisfying relationship in and out of the bedroom. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can start sensually communicating with your partner.
Do you have certain expectations for Valentine’s Day? Does your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer tips on how to make the most of this “holiday of love” — without stress or hurt feelings.
Even though it might take more of an effort, you can still have a passionate relationship with your partner while being a parent. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to prioritize intimacy and keep your connection strong.
How’s the friendship quotient in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have a conversation with your partner that will deepen your connection and strengthen your friendship.
Has passion faded from your relationship? Just not feeling it anymore? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being intentional about love-making can bring desire and passion back for you and your partner.
You don’t need to set your expectations super high or way down low to have a healthy relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why all you need is a “good enough” relationship.
It might feel counterintuitive, but stop trying to fix your partner’s feelings. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why you should empathize with your partner instead.
Has your life become so hectic, that you’ve put your relationship on the back burner — and feel like you’re drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to get back on track by sharing fondness and admiration — no matter how busy your lives have become.
Do you feel like setting goals for your relationship is too daunting? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to turn those goals into healthy habits that you and your partner can practice every day.
Feeling disconnected or ignored by your partner? If so, your Emotional Bank Account might be in bankruptcy. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to reverse that depleted account, and get your relationship back on track.
Asking for what you want may be one of the greatest gifts you can give your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out how to ask, and why it is so important for a successful relationship.
Why do couples who are friends with other healthy couples have better relationships? Because they learn from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how your friends can be one of the greatest resources of information for having a happy relationship with your partner.
Does your relationship feel stale? Is it missing some excitement? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the 4 steps that you can take to give your relationship a fresh start.
Taking a break from an argument when you’re overwhelmed with emotion is one of the most crucial relationship skills. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and when to take a break in order to get back on track with your partner.
How do you fight feelings of being alone in a relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share the antidote for loneliness — and how it will help you and your partner get back on track to connecting emotionally.
Do you know who you are as a couple? Have you ever thought about the values, beliefs and attitudes that define your couplehood? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create shared meaning by discovering the unique culture of your relationship.
What rituals of connection do you and your partner have together? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn some rituals that will help you create shared meaning, stay connected — and thrive.
Save your money and give your partner a gift from the heart. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to bring them joy with simple gestures that’ll show how much you care.
Conflicts can get extra complicated during the holiday season. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover some useful tools to handle conflicts with your partner and keep your holidays happy.
Celebrating the holidays can be tricky if you and your partner have different religious beliefs or ethnic cultures. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to talk through your differences and make a unique blend of traditions.
‘Tis the season to take the guesswork out of connecting with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, explore the ways to make better bids.
Your relationship might be taking a back seat during the holidays. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected as a couple through this hectic time of year.
Take the time to reflect on all the things you love about your partner, and then let them know in writing. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas of what kinds of things you can share with them — so they’ll know just how much they’re loved and appreciated.
Keeping a gratitude journal is great — but sharing those thoughts with your partner in a thank you note is even better. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to start a daily ritual that can transform your relationship.
Let your partner know your relationship is a priority by showing them with your actions, instead of just telling them with words. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas how to do this — and build loyalty and trust.
Every strong relationship is a result of a never-ending conversation between partners — but which ones matter the most? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out which conversations you need to have for a lifetime of love.
Seeing your partner through rose-colored glasses could benefit your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to maintain a positive perspective.
Do you and your partner share fondness and admiration? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why it should be a priority and how you can express it to each other.
It can be easy to forget to say “please” and “thank you” to your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the power of being polite and how it can affect your relationship.
Where do you and your partner shine? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover what strengths make you a #1 couple, then give yourselves a pat on the back — and celebrate your relationship.
There’s a magic ratio that could be the key to your relationship’s success. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you should be tracking what kind of interactions you’re having with your partner and how you can make those interactions more positive.
If you feel you and your partner need professional help, the way you approach them about couples therapy can make all the difference in how they respond. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have this important conversation.
Are your dates filled with friendly but superficial conversation? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to ask open-ended questions on a date for a deeper connection and more meaningful conversation.
No matter what’s going on in your relationship lately, there’s always room for improvement. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you five tips you can put in practice today to help your relationship thrive.
If you’re struggling more than usual lately, you might want to talk to a therapist. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to find one that will fit your needs, and help you on your journey to healing.
Talking about finances with your partner can be tough, but there are ways to make it a little easier. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have productive conversations as you both work towards creating a shared financial vision.
You’ll always have distractions in your life, but there’s a way to manage them so you can be present in your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to be intentionally attentive.
You could fall in love with your partner again by just asking them some questions. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how getting curious about your partner can help you reconnect.
Have you heard that love is enough? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re debunking some relationship myths that are not only false, but potentially destructive.
Your ability to navigate feelings could have a big impact on your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to build emotional intelligence with both your partner and anyone you interact with.
When your partner experiences difficult emotions, be their Emotion Coach to help them through it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how this kind of coaching used for kids — also works for adults.
Have you recently become either a parent or a caregiver? If so, life will inevitably change. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to stay connected to your partner through the “new normal.”
Are you making time to intentionally connect with your partner? On the Season 4 premiere of Small Things Often, learn the small ways that you can prioritize your relationship.
Some conversations matter more than others in relationships. On the season 3 finale of Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 8 conversations to have with your partner for a lifetime of love.
Do you and your partner share a financial vision for your future? Have you been transparent with each other on your current financial health? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why conversations about finances can be difficult — and learn tips to make talking about money easier.
Just saying “I’m sorry” to your partner when you’ve done something wrong, isn’t always enough. On this episode of Small Things Often, you’ll learn the 3 steps of a mindful apology so you can get your relationship back on track.
Do you sometimes get offended or defensive with your partner based only on your own interpretation of their actions? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how assuming positive intent can create more trust and communication between you and your partner — and change your relationship for the better.
What box does relationship fall in? Nice, Neutral or Nasty? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what each of those boxes mean, and how your answer may impact your relationship.
You and your partner could be making inconsequential decisions that affect your relationship negatively or positively. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can look out for these “sliding door” moments so you can respond in a way that’ll set your relationship on a positive trajectory.
Do you know what heartfulness is? Find out on this episode of Small Things Often and learn how it can bring stability and happiness to your relationship.
The way you deal with conflict in your relationship can either cause a disconnect with your partner — or bring you closer together. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn two practices that can help you more successfully resolve conflicts when they arise.
The way you start and end each day with your partner can have a huge impact on your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to “bookend” your day with love and support — to strengthen your connection and build intimacy.
Drown out the noise and truly listen to your partner. When you stop the world together, your relationship can grow even stronger. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can stop your world in big and small ways.
When life gets overwhelming, it can be hard to support your partner when you’re hurting too. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can help each other when you’re both struggling with your own feelings.
Are you going through a life transition? Like a new job, an illness in the family, or financial crisis? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to weather the storm by intentionally maintaining a strong, healthy relationship with your partner.
Accepting your partner’s influence doesn’t mean saying “yes” to everything. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why it’s all about acknowledging that your partner has a valid perspective and how you can find ways to accept their influence.
How do you view your partner? The answer to this question can be the difference between a successful relationship — or one at risk. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why your perspective can change your relationship for the better.
When it comes to relationships, the grass is greener where you water it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the ways that you can invest in your relationship so you can recognize and appreciate what you have.
Has your sense of playfulness gotten lost in the busyness of daily life? If so, it’s time to make a playdate with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover six ideas to reconnect and have fun!
How much time have you actually spent with your partner lately? Have you been starting to take each other for granted? Or drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create daily rituals to turn towards each other daily, reconnect, and get your relationship back on track.
Are you and your partner taking each other for granted? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain 3 daily rituals to keep romance, affection, appreciation, and communication strong in your relationship.
Are you really listening to your partner during conflicts? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can listen mindfully so that you can move through whatever conflicts you face in your relationship.
How are your listening skills? It’s more important than you may realize. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn tips to become an “active” listener — and watch how your relationship improves and strengthens.
What’s the state of your Emotional Bank Account? Have no idea? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why your Emotional Bank Account is so important to the health of your relationship — and discover tips to get it back on track.
Are you and your partner fulfilling each other’s core needs? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why core needs aren’t negotiable and a crucial part of making your relationship thrive.
Do you know how to effectively complain? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain a 3-part formula to help you complain without criticizing.
Every day is filled with small moments when you could turn towards your partner or away from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and why these small moments can make or break a relationship.
Are you committed to making your love last? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can maintain and strengthen your emotional bonds so you can stay in love with your partner.
Feel as if you and your partner are drifting apart? Almost feel like strangers? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share an exercise that can get your relationship back on track!
Does your partner have a life dream, but you don't know how to support helping them make it a reality? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer some ideas of what you can do to help their dream come true.
Have you shared your dreams for the future with your partner lately —or ever? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover why sharing individual and shared dreams is so important — and how to start a conversation about it!
Are you looking for ways to build trust in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can build bridges of trust by doing things for your partner and doing things together.
How can you show that you’re a committed partner worth trusting? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain what trust and commitment look like in a relationship.
Is your relationship lacking trust? Was it broken or never there to begin with? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the steps to take and the questions to ask so you can begin to trust your partner.
Feel something is missing in your relationship? It may be “shared meaning.” In this episode of Small Things Often, discover why and how creating shared meaning can turn things around — and help your relationship grow deeper and stronger than ever before.
Are you holding in feelings of anger or frustration with your partner that are impacting your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often we explore the State of the Union Meeting — a powerful tool to repair conflict and strengthen your relationship. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
If you’re struggling with repair attempts, visualize a tv remote control! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can rewind, fast forward, and pause during conflict so you can get your relationship back on the right track. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
It doesn’t have to be the end of the road if you and your partner disagree about important issues. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain a “sandwich” approach for talking through difficult topics so you can both be seen, heard, and accepted. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
You and your partner just had an argument… now what? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 3 steps to process the argument so you can repair it and move forward together. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Feeling stressed at the end of your day, and not knowing how to deal with it? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn rules for having a stress-reducing conversation with your partner, to help you both connect, unwind and relax. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
How’s your stress level lately? Whether you realize it or not, the way you cope with it could be affecting your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you tips on how to manage your stress in order to get back on track with your partner. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Have you ever been in the middle of an argument with your partner, and suddenly you feel as if your mind and body have been caught in a riptide? That’s physiological flooding. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to manage these overwhelming feelings — and get back on track. Visit gottman.com/LOL for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Do you know how to self-soothe when you find yourself in the middle of a heated discussion with your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re guiding you through a meditative technique so you can find peace and work through conflicts as a team. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/afterafight for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Whether you’re dealing with the pandemic — or another crisis — overwhelming emotions can impact both you and your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you some simple tips to deal with difficult times in your life to help you cope and give you a bit of peace. Visit gottman.com/LOL for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Feeling stressed? Overwhelmed? Or need a break from an argument with your partner? Self-soothe by listening to Dr. Julie Gottman’s guided relaxation exercise to calm your mind so you can find inner peace and repair your relationships.
Can you recognize your partner’s signs of flooding? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why it’s important to know when they’re overwhelmed and how you can reverse course. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Feeling a bit disconnected from your partner lately? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer meaningful questions to get you both back on track — and deepen and transform your relationship. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Feeling a disconnect in your relationship? Has the sizzle now fizzled? On today’s episode of Small Things Often, discover some simple but powerful tips to revive your connection — and fall in love all over again. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Never stop dating your partner! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to pursue each other at every stage of your relationship and keep your connection strong.
Are you biased when it comes to your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how 2 biases could be hurting your relationship and talk you through effective antidotes.
You are the company you keep, right? So surround yourself with couples that are in healthy relationships! We’ll explain how healthy couples could influence your relationship on this episode of Small Things Often.
Keeping your relationship on track, especially during stressful times, can be difficult. On today’s episode of “Small Things Often,” check out our simple but impactful tips to let your partner know that they’re valued, loved and respected.
You might be “in love” with your partner, but are you “in like” with them, too? On this episode of “Small Things Often” find out why this is so important — and discover ways to let your partner know that you “like” them.
Don’t assume that your partner knows all the ways that you love them. Sometimes, they need to hear it! On the season premiere of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how loving out loud can build a healthy relationship.
Do you share what you’ve learned from Small Things Often with your partner? If so, how do you approach them about sensitive topics? In this episode, learn the best way to speak to your partner about the insights and information you’ve learned without being accusatory or critical.
How you view your relationship can say everything about whether your relationship will succeed. So what do you say when you share the story of your relationship? We’ll help get your relationship on a positive path on this episode of Small Things Often.
When you express your feelings to your partner, how does it come across? With judgment and contempt — or compassion and understanding? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to express yourself fully — without hurting your partner — or your future happiness together.
You probably know that resting is good for you, but did you know that it’s also good for your relationship? We’ll explain on this episode of Small Things Often how taking time to relax could give your relationship a boost.
How do you cope with uncertainty? On today’s Small Things Often, we share tips on how to deal with ambiguity — and those scary, fearful, stressful feelings and thoughts of the future.
What team are YOU on? We hope it’s the same one as your partner! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn what exactly it means to be on the same team — and how it can draw you even closer to your partner as you go through life together.
Truly listening to someone doesn’t require dead silence. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re sharing the do’s and don’ts of listening out loud.
Are you making time for date night? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re sharing how you can intentionally make time for your partner and spend quality time together — no matter the circumstances!